Dan I have been going through a divorce after 8 years of marriage and my mojo just went to 0,but after watching you it has helped me so much. My mentality now days is what's worse that can happen and when having a conversation I'll pop jokes here and there, which I would newer do and throw in some sexual ones as well and it just works. You are a god sent and thank you so much man
Another great part of gaining the skills in this video is that you can decide yourself if you want to follow through. When I was younger, I was not only afraid of being rejected, but also of ending up with a girl I wasn’t really into. However, there is nothing wrong in talking to a girl for a while and then deciding to leave it there. I use your approach techniques all the time after discovering the Modern Man, not to pick up women as I am married, but to make life more colourful for others and myself and to avoid feeling needy in my relationship.
Thank you for the encouragement and motivation talk starting at 14:30. Us guys who missed out on getting the pretty women previously really needed this. I’ve had so many chances but didn’t capitalise on it. Even as recently as in February this year I had a golden opportunity with a hot girl (a customer) I met at my workplace. We clicked the moment we made eye contact as if we’ve known each other for years! But I didn’t have the balls to ask for her number. I think about that day till today and regret every bit of it, hoping she’ll turn up in my shop again. 11 months have passed and I am still waiting….. 😩
Hey man the great thing about that is, if it happened once, its bound to happen again. You can also create those same moments and not just wait on them to happen. Best of luck to you King
I love that you are very possitive about this topic. Most coaches miss the point, for this reason they recommend toxic behaviour for men. They're only focusing on what to do, not the reason of it. You make us see the whole picture. Thank you Dan!
5'4", have minor Tourette's Syndrome, 36 and balding, havent had a rship for a decade and sex has been scarce. Been chronically ill for 2+ years. Not the greatest decade of my life. Ready to somehow RISE even tho from where I stand now I can't see it. I am so much fcking better than who I am today
Perfect, as always! I would like to elaborate on the "Follow through" part. Literally yesterday I was building the courage to message a random girl that I find really, really attractive. I decided to rewatch Dan's motivational video with the "waves of your life" and even though I was shaking in my room, even though I was thinking all the negative "what ifs", knowing that my chances were very small since attracting girls on social media is much harder than in real life situations, I forced myself to do it. Naturally, the girl didn't respond to some random guy messaging her, BUT, I was so happy and relieved that I had pushed myself one step further. So the point I would like to add is this: simply don't quit when it doesn't work out. It won't in the beginning, but, as Dan said, with each attempt, even a failed one, you'll naturally feel more confident, because you've challenged your fear. This means the next time you'll feel less anxious and take action faster. Trust this man. He knows what he's saying. And I'll buy him a Sambuca one day.
I'm a guy who had sex with women during my twenties, now I'm 30, never had a serious relationship with a girl, but sex was given to me by women probably from feeling petty on me. And most of them were at least 3-4 years older than me. However this never made me any happy except in the night during sex. I never have confidence, I don't know how to light up the spark in a pretty girl, to get her to like me, watch me with the sweet and full of curiosity eyes. I will consider buying your book, Dan, definitely. My pathetic father contributed a lot during my childhood to crush my masculinity to a complete zero level and convince me that no woman in my life will ever like me. And for those who read my comment and think I'm making this all up or making excuses, I'll gladly invite them to live just a small part of my life and then come back to talk to me/judge me.
I'm glad you're still making videos Dan! I bought 'The Flow' on audio for my birthday! Thank you for helping guys out, when I have kids I hope I have a son so I can teach him the values you've taught me.
Man this guy Dan helped me getting my girl that I chased since our breakup 3years ago back in only 2 weeks. Ps. She even been in a relationship but due to dans videos she’s with me now
Hello Dan, Could you make a video on maintaining the attraction in a living relationship ??? I feel like couples in a living relationship might lose the spark which they had a few years back and the guy whom she is living with loses all the mystery How to limit sexual attraction and affection and how much does it require ?? Thank you
I like the what if to a positive.. you didn't really go into what to say after hi, you just said keep it interesting etc.. as an anxious person and in my head. You got a basic structure and things to say after the hi? Thanks man
Hi Jason - glad you enjoyed the vid. Regarding a structure and what to say after hi: Yes. That's all included in The Flow: www.themodernman.com/blog/the-flow-ebook.html Also available in audiobook format: www.themodernman.com/blog/the-flow-on-audio.html Cheers, Dan 👍
Another factor is knowing how to handle things when the situation doesn't go your way, so it's not weird or you feel or look humilliated. If this is addressed then the negative what ifs can be reduced or eliminated.
Thank you for the informative video Dan. I know how to attract women and usually I can get what I want with them. I was just wondering, could you please make a video about how to avoid talking your way out of keeping her interested? I believe this is an area myself and a lot of guys struggle with. Kind regards, R
Thanks Dan. As I recently mentioned in the remote area I live there are so few opportunities to meet women who meet my high standards, and one day while out while stopping at a little bakery kiosk in the small village near where I live I suddenly encountered and connected across a distance with a woman who just lit up my eyes. She noticed it and smiled back at me appreciating my appreciation of her. This was a tourist season and I was afraid she was just a tourist passing through and I told her my name and asked her if she and her also pretty attractive friend if they were local. She said yes, and actually asked me to sit down with her and her friend who were eating something from the kiosk that I had just purchased something from. I was there with a woman who was just a friend who was shopping at the nearby thrift store, and was distracted and had things to do and walked away without even getting her name. I have regretted it ever since as there was something about her, not just her great looks, but she was confident and intelligent, just the kind of woman I dream about. It caught me by surprise, it had been so long since I had encountered someone like that, I didn't have the "mindset" and was not prepared for something like this. Mentally I think I had given up. Later I kicked myself for losing this opportunity for something I actually want more than almost anything. Still hope I run into her again, but I don't get into the village very often and don't see too many people when I am there. If I had only at least had the presence of mind to have gotten her name, or better yet have sat down with them. I now know I need to have the decision to follow through already made and what I am going to do and say before the occasion comes around again.
"She said yes, and actually asked me to sit down with her and her friend who were eating something from the kiosk that I had just purchased something from." It doesn't get any clearer than that. Be ready for the next opportunity. MPF Rule.
@@DanBacon_ I just posted after watching this upload, I experience a similar situation. Dan, you truly can read our minds. This are the daily “sufferings” (if you will) that us men are facing and you can truly address them to the point!
Hi Dan, I've tried to access your link to buy THE FLOW" ebook but the site wouldn't let me in, keeping writing "ACCESS DENIED" I don't really know what the problem is, maybe because of my location or what? I live in Nigeria
Hey Dan, how do I let go of the past and past mistakes so that they don't define or affect my future. I feel like my past mistakes with women and negative experiences inform my negative "what ifs". I know what I need to do, but still feel susceptible to pockets of insecurity and i find it difficult to fully move on or forgive myself. I've been going through your videos and will get The Flow, but does it help you to move on from the past? Thanks for the great videos
I can't put my finger on it but there is something about these techniques especially the one about being unpredictable and not needing to be on on best behaviour that changes the way my brain works. Always when I practice this I get better at everything in my life like my brain opens up and is sharper
Hi Dan great video I would like to know if your book is available in Amazon Kindle?..I would like to read it I need to improve in this situation, and make a couple of changes.
Hi Hector. Glad you enjoyed the video. I don't sell any of my products via Amazon or any third party. My products are available via my website only: store.themodernman.com/ Cheers, Dan
Hey Dan!, I’ve been progressively building my confidence but I still for some reason fear picking up women. I’m a good looking guy but didn’t have a man to teach me the ways. Wish I could go out and get coached with you
Hi Christopher - you should watch this video if you haven't already: ruclips.net/video/oAhCPBt0-w8/видео.html I coach guys in bars and clubs these days because I've settled down with my perfect girl. However, everything that Ben, Stu and I taught guys on weekend courses is included in Dating Power: store.themodernman.com/dating_power.html Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ hell yeah! , yeah I’ve been looking into reading that book as well as conversation starters. I’m reading the flow a second time to grasp it more. But I think what it comes down to is having the balls to go out and approach.
@@ChristopherGonzalez-kh1zx Be sure to *use* the confidence mindset on page 41 of The Flow. Always remember that it is one thing to *understand* something and another to do it. When you use the confidence mindset in everyday interactions with women, you will see that they feel attracted to you. When you have that personal evidence, you will then feel more confident to go out and approach women that you find attractive. You should also watch this if you haven't already: ruclips.net/video/rkxGI0Vwzgo/видео.html BTW: Dating Power is a video program and is not in eBook/written format. There's also an audio bonus that comes with it, where Ben, Stu and I explain many different ways we've attracted, picked up and hooked up with women. Cheers, Dan 👍
I thing as well. I bought the book before few days so I cannot speak about results, but those things he says give me naturally sense and feel just to be right skill to have and right way to go. It just does.
Hey Dan u could say that I’ve watched all ur videos thoroughly on youtube and even read a few articles on ur website. So if I’m planning to buy ur book THE FLOW will it still be helpful to me ? And if yes then how much more knowledge will I gain after reading ur book, please lemme know that in percentage like 30% or whatever it is.
Hi Zayn - good question. I have always and will always keep the information, techniques and examples in The Flow separate to what I share on RUclips and in articles on my site or anywhere else. This is so it is fair for me and for paying customers. Here are just some of the things (that I can actually reveal here in a comment) included in The Flow: • The step by step process of The Flow. • My best ever examples of what to say to start conversations. • Exclusive confidence technique that instantly attracts a woman and then maintains her attraction. • The 8 personality traits that are naturally attractive to women - explained with techniques and examples. • Ways to develop a connection. • How to initiate touch. • How to get alone with her. • How to get her phone number or get her to add you to Facebook. • What to text her right after getting her phone number. • What to text her if she doesn’t answer your phone call when you first try to call her. • How to kiss her the first time that you meet her. • How to get to sex with her on the first day or night that you meet her. • How to call her to arrange a first date. • How to kiss her on the first date. • How to have sex on the first date. • What to text or call her to arrange a second date. store.themodernman.com/the_flow.html Cheers Dan
Cheers JJ. It took a long time to get all of these supplements ready www.modernx.com/store/ for my new, additional brand ModernX, but I am back in action now. More videos on the way 👍
Your videos are extremely helpful and always on point. I had a question on how to approach a situation with your wife/girlfriend when you have done something wrong. Of course I am going to take on the responsibility and admit my faults and wrong doing.
Just over a year ago, I was hiking, got lost and came out about 3 hours later than I planned (just as it was getting dark)... Good news, I met a really cute girl who lived in the area. She was walking her dog up the trail. We had a great conversation, talked about places we've hiked and after a bit, I started back down the trail... It was about 10 minutes later I realized she was basically saying she'd like to go hiking with me and I didn't ask for her number! I blame being tired but it speaks to the Prepared element. If I'd had the proper (prepared) mindset, asking for a number would have been automatic even being completely exhausted and I'd probably have a lovely hiking partner right now.
...Well right off the bat with this video I can see what my problem is. Everywhere I've been to so far, no woman has ever looked in my direction, let alone open and showing interest 😄😅
Cheers Ralf! I would've also benefited from something like this back when I had no idea. I had to figure it myself by approaching women every weekend and testing different ways of interacting with them until I got it. Once you get it, it's then very easy and you can enjoy your choice of pretty women. Cheers, Dan 👍
Thank you Dan for the awesome content, I've been learning a ton from it. I have a question, i can most of the times get the phone number but never can get an actual date. I only text briefly to try to make the date happen. What to do in this situation?? Thanks!
Hi Dan, quick question for you. What do you think about sending an accountability letter to a LDR ex girlfriend to try and win her back? She fell out of love and she doesn't miss me anymore. I don't know what's the right approach to get her back since she's lives in another country
The only thing stopping myself from ever being confident, is the fact that i have a below average size penis from hormone imbalance from birth. I must be attractive though, as i have had soo many girls showing interested in me, but i pretend not to like them back because of fear about my size. I am 40 years old now and i just hope i don't end up with regrets that may lead to depression. Watching your videos does help make myself feel better, as it's true that how you think will effect your life, so i just got to remember that i am worthy just like everyone else in this world. 👍
Ben and Stu are doing well. Stu has so many women that he ends up canceling dates with models, because he just doesn't have time for all of them. Ben is enjoying a meaningful dating life. Ash has settled down. They are getting what they truly want with women. Cheers, Dan 👍 BTW: For anyone reading along who doesn't know who Ben, Stu and Ash are - Ben and Stu feature in most of the audio programs at The Modern Man and in the Dating Power seminar (video): store.themodernman.com/dating_power.html Ash is a friend of ours who is naturally good with women (i.e. never had to learn, he just got it naturally).
Man, I feel like I suck. There’s this girl in my school, and she looks at me a lot more than before (before I noticed her that is). And I don’t know if I should go for it if it’s interest or not. Watching this makes me think I should but I’m still unsure because we don’t see each other often. Help anyone and @Dan Bacon
Do it man! Don't expect any sort of outcome, Introduce yourself the way Dan has shown in the examples and see if you like her, If you do great, just show interest and have the MPF, and follow through... If you don't, no big deal, maybe you'll have a new friend
Practice starting conversations with girls you're less attracted to, once you get confident, talk to her. As a side note if she finds out you are actively talking to other girls she will be even more interested in you, social proof is powerful. You're welcome.
Help me please. I don't know how to communicate with you but I'm gonna use the comments. I'm in a situation with my gf where I didn't see her for 2 weeks but we kept texting each other for 2 weeks but then it's like she didn't show that high interest in me anymore and when it got time to see each other she said I can meet you but it has to be fast because I'm busy so I thought like a high value man and told her you know what than let's not meet because it seemed she came with a lot of excuses. So I used the no contact rule for a week and came back I saw a message from her that she was dessapointed and it seemed like she was hurt now I'm trying to fix things in a masculine way but it's like she texts me after 3/6 hours every time and I told her you know what let's meet and I'll explain so she can get attracted to me again but now it's clear that she ignores me what can I do to get her back ?
Time to come here for some encouragement. :D I was at a small party. Two girls were making fun of me for not dancing, I noticed another girl maybe being interested but shy. They weren't my type though. One girl wanted to drink with me (but I had to drive), later she was dancing in the middle surrounded by some guys and I couldn't get myself to go there. It's exactly the mindset that I may get to the center of attention and embarrass myself. Well, I was really tired but that's just an excuse. Chatting with someone I'm not really interested is easy, but where does it lead?
I got clouser text from my ex girlfriend. After 3 month's of no contact It's like.. Hey.. hope you are doing good..Just meant to say sorry, I mean it. You are a good soul,it's just me who can't love someone,I tried to love u,you are really a good friend (and some more txts). After she added I cared about you,maybe I still care, we can't unlove people,but I can hate someone more than I loved, If I try to be with you again I would destroy you in every possible way. Lastly she added I just gave you enough time to realise I'm not important as you thought in your life,but you deserve a closure and here it is...... Don't reply she told... What I have to do please help?
Hi Dan. Comprehensive video as usual. Small question: how about guys like me and many guys i know who are quite good with women but sometimes get frustrated by the vagueness and passiveness of women ,even if our instincts say they are interested . Thank you !
I'd say, make her feel attracted again and move it forward...i think that happens a lot to me (at work), where I create a spark at the beginning, and never do more than that...so it dies. I can make the process all over again, but maybe they gone with someone else, or already closed that window.
Accept the reality that most women are passive when it comes to pick up and dating. If a woman is too active and assertive, many guys will assume she is a slut, or couldn't be trusted in a relationship. Alternatively, a guy may feel like he has her wrapped around his little finger and doesn't need to treat her as well because she's so into him. As a result, a relationship can begin where the guy has way too much power over her and in most cases, he then doesn't put in the effort to maintain the relationship. She then ends up wasting 1-3 years on her youthful attractiveness on him. This video will also help you: ruclips.net/video/DEIqKg_isT0/видео.html Cheers, Dan
Hey Dan, ypu marriage is very inspiring to me, i got a girlfriend and consider marrying her bexause of your storie.. I have a question, are you still happily married? I hope so cuz your marriage is my role model
Yes, still happily married 😀👍 Been together 9 years now. The latest update I gave on our relationship was in this video ruclips.net/video/1WeYS9xcZeA/видео.html Here's when I got engaged www.themodernman.com/relationship/why-i-decided-to-accept-my-girlfriends-marriage-proposal.html
Cheers King Shabba! 👍 😎 Glad you enjoyed Better Than a Bad Boy. One of the most important programs I've ever made. It's the best way to prioritize women and it works for life. I am still like that to this day, even though I've been with my woman for 9 years now. BTW: I hope to hear a success story from you sometime soon. Enjoy amazing times with women in the meantime! Cheers, Dan
I'm not gonna lie. I have Asperger's and I tend to over-over think in situations like this. I usually tend to screw up even when I get the number anyway. I still feel like I make the same mistakes when I interact with women, even when I try to change. I dunno.
Hello. I’ve invested in 600 bucks I. Your products. They been tremendous help. I like the love your partner for life one because the aesthetics of the video are modern. I’m looking to get alpha male but it’s not as modern as the one I mentioned. Any plans of redoing this video???
Hi Ricky - great to hear that you enjoyed Make Her Love You For Life. That program will benefit you now and for the rest of your life. Remaining in love and having a woman respect you and treat you well for life is priceless. Regarding redoing Alpha Male Power: I may do 2.0 versions of some products in future (i.e. 10 years from now). For now, I am busy working on a brand new product about texting, which should be available by the end of 2022. Around that time, I will also be uploading a lot of new videos with free advice about attracting women via text for dates, sex and relationships. After that, I will be uploading videos about women, dating and relationships and may then begin working on an additional new product. Decades of work in front of me. Looking forward to sharing everything I know. Stay tuned! Cheers, Dan
Came to your channel after a major jealousy-induced marriage crisis that almost ended in divorce. "Get your ex back super system" saved the marriage and gave it more spark. After that I bought most of your other programs. Going from Mr. Nice to a good guy with edge has been a fulfilling journey. After the grave conflict, I promised my wife not to call or text one of my best friends and colleagues. Due to the marriage often being a long-distance relationship, my wife and my colleague never became friends. How to keep a good female friend after your woman has become crazy jealous about the friendship?
As you say in "Alpha Male Power", it is a so much better life to be living when you get rid of your insecurities. Still struggling with female jealousy though.
Congrats on getting your wife back long distance! That's fantastic news. Well done! 👍 Regarding your colleague: Just let her know that you'll need to tone down your friendship due to your wife not knowing her in person yet and therefore, feeling a bit uncomfortable with the relatiosnhip. It's fine to do that for a wife because she should be the most important person in your life. Not the most important thing (the most important thing should be your purpose, or biggest goals and ambitions). Let your wife know that you're going to keep your distance from your colleague from now on, even though it's platonic and she has nothing to worry about. You're doing it because you love and respect her and your marriage, more than a friendship with someone that is only happening because you work together. Your wife is for life. Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ Thank you for your advice ! You are right of course. There are a lot of details that make it hard in practice though. What happened was a bit like what you talk about in "Make her love you for life" when you mention giving too much priority to Ben from the Modern Man instead of your wife. My colleague is unusually bright and a great inspiration professionally meaning that interacting with her relates to my sense of purpose. But, obviously, my wife has to be number one. Yes, getting her back long distance was pretty challenging especially because of travel restrictions during Covid. Your program and your videos were immensely helpful at that time. Thank you so much! Keep up the good work!
Hi Germán - in my eBook, The Flow, which is also available as an audiobook: store.themodernman.com/the_flow.html Watch the two videos on that page for more info. Enjoy the great times ahead with women! Cheers, Dan
Why was this uploaded after I seen a pretty woman in Walmart she was older than me I'm 24. Was in Walmart and I looked at her passing by on the aisle and she actually put her phone away and stood there and looked at the shelf for 1 min straight and I stood not too far from her also looking at the shelf but I was scared to say something and she started to walk turn away
Be ready for next time. Get ready to think 'What if positives' and be prepared and know what to say and how to attract her. Follow through and get the result. You might also find this helpful: ruclips.net/video/UHmUGz3SYKo/видео.html Cheers, Dan
when i am walking past a pretty woman, i find it very hard somehow to talk to her .. often the situation is too fast and both of us keep walking along etc... am i wating too long ? so, after the smile ithere has to be a "hi" oder what ? or should i just stop walking towards her and turn around to her ? anybody any ideas ? there were many good scenarios in which i failed in the past :/
It sucks that I just lock up in the moment. Like seriously a few weeks ago I saw a reallt pretty girl just standing on the sidewalk and I know for a fact she was staring at me for a while and I felt really good about my outfit and felt like she probably likes the way I look But as I was about to walk past I just could not make eye contact, my head was just physically locked forwards and kept going and couldn't bring myself to look behind me if she was still looking. I know it's a problem in my head but god damn it's difficult to figure it out. I facepalm every few nights when it comes back into my mind I could be in a very different situation if I dared to smile and look at her and maybe gotten a similar response and then gotten the courage to talk because of that. But no I messed up again. Chances are I would've failed anyway but any chance is better than 0
Try staying longer and then moving things forward to a phone number, kiss or sex. Remember that some women don't want to make it too obvious that they like you. Reasons why: ruclips.net/video/DEIqKg_isT0/видео.html
HOW can I HEAL, FIX and WORK on this: I say that they are fears, insecurities that she caused me. I'm almost sure that's what it is, Bc before when I started with her, I was not like that, I started to become extremist and make things in my head when I saw things that she did or said that doesn't match with how she acted & told me before those those things that I began to see after some time. it's as if she had become another person...I am totally frustrated & I imagine a thousand things... what do I have do? I appreciate any advice. KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
is this a good thing to send to my ex: can you do something for me? well not for me for you can you stay safe and dont let anyone look down on you and if somebody mess with you don't do nothng i got you just tell me and im sorry i wasn't there for you don't have to say sorry cuz im sorry anyways i love you Lexxy and never forget that
Bro I always miss my opportunity with girls. 5 or 6 time in the last months. I do one step she does one step and than I go 2 steps back it's frustrating, I can't stop.
So there's this girl who's attracted to me. But, knowing each other for 5 months, I've never made a move to take things forward. Now I found out that she's been dating someone for the last few weeks. I mean, the attraction is still there when we hang out, but, she's been acting like more of a "friend" recently' so the time adds up. What should be my next move here? I'm honestly a bit lost since this isn't a regular "ex-back" or "rebound" case, despite knowing that "her guy" is not even close to being competition.
I had an opportunity with a girl to talk in gym as she was working out exactly opposite to me.But i wonder if she really working out or is she working out and trying to grab my attention.I went to do leg press after that leaving that place and after sometime i didnt' see her in the gym.She spend only half an hour in the gym and now i am like - Did she really finish the workout and left the gym or she left the gym only because I ignored her which hurt her self esteem and she left the place out of anger.
I was at the skytrain station a month ago, and one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen was waiting for a bus. I talked to her! buuut she one upped me in the entirety of the conversation 😅 I saw her gazing at the skytrain structure and I said "are you a fan of architecture? thats alot of concrete" she said that she is a structural engineer and that what we were looking at was not architecture, architecture is residential. "but it is alot of concrete" she said. then she said " oh there's my bus, byee"
Dan I don’t have much problem in gathering confidence but I feel like I’m gonna stammer in a conversation though I usually don’t or my voice will be a lil more high pitch than usual or I sometimes feel I won’t be able to keep the conversation long ( 1 - 2 mins ) enough to attract her. I would really appreciate if u could give me some mindsets that will kinda help me with this problem.
Hey Dan I've bought one of your programs and would find it interesting to see you talk about failures of clients that you've experienced and how they come back from those. For example I had something with around 4 girls the last 1-3months and one of them dumped me days after hooking up(not sex yet tho/ it all even seemed pretty good) and I dont know why, maybe I wasnt good enough at making a connection plus all this is a little new and takes some time to practice. Interested to know how long it takes for other guys to master.
It may have been that you were pushing for, or hinting at a relationship prior to her wanting it: ruclips.net/video/9lgHYHKS73s/видео.html How long it takes for you to master depends on how quickly you apply the advice. Some guys read The Flow, understand it and then don't apply the advice for months or years. Other guys read it, understand it, apply it correctly and get results right away. It all depends on how well and how quickly you begin applying the advice. For example: If someone wanted to learn how to throw a basketball and get it in the ring and a coach showed them how, but they just kept dropping the ball, rolling it on the floor or throwing it left or right, it doesn't mean that the coach didn't tell them how to do it, or that they can't do it. They simply aren't doing it right yet. You need to apply all of the advice from The Flow, rather than only using bits and pieces or skipping over things that are outside your comfort zone (i.e. the next level moves explained in The Flow). You will get consistent results when you apply the advice in order (i.e. step by step). After a bit of experience, you will be able to attract and pick up women without having to think about it and will also be able to improvise and come up with additional things that work for you. Essentially, The Flow is the framework that lets you get it in the ring. You can then add additional techniques where you see fit. Cheers, Dan
Dan you’re like the only coach i get advice from but i have not seen one person on youtube talk about this. What are you thoughts on when a girl is fed up? or when a girl says mentally she left the relationship a long time ago because you never changed according to her. Her interest and respect is practically 0. How should one approach this situation to re attracte her back? Ive been with this girl for 4 years we have a baby together and she said mentally she left me and we broke up 6 months ago she is a new relationship.
Hey Dan, So I was ready to call her and I called yesterday and then private number called her and found out I was blocked. So Idk if she has received my sms messages about unblocking facebook. I want to call her but don't know what to do next. Like sending an email or something. Can you please send me some advice, a message to send or an article on what to do next? I was considering sending a letter to her with a dog on the front. In the letter I simply say I hope she's been really well and been thinking of you. But that's it. Please respond, Cheers Alex
Call from a different number. Letters are a problem if she isn't attracted to you and you say that you've been thinking of her. I recommend that you follow the steps from the program. That is what works. Deviate from that and you'll just be guessing and will likely make mistakes.
What I teach in The Flow is never taught on RUclips. I keep it separate, otherwise it wouldn't be fair to me or to paying customers. You will never be able to learn The Flow secrets in my videos. When you use The Flow (not just read it), you will laugh how easy it is to attract and pick up women. It's so easy that it's ridiculous that men don't know this stuff. I never used to know until I figured it out by going out and approaching a lot of women. Now men can learn it from me by reading the book within hours. 100s of success stories posted in comments under my RUclips videos and here: www.themodernman.com/success/modern-man-success-stories.html Read what they say. Look at how easily they were able to do it. Some guys take longer to succeed because they just read it and don't approach and talk to women for months. Then they do and realize how easy it is when you use The Flow approach. Enjoy the great times ahead with women! Cheers, Dan
Thank you for the motivation. Since I subscribed to this channel I've learn so many things especially how to be confidence. And following ur guild line it really help me alot .I can walk to a girl now without fearing if she will reject me.but there's a girl I find interested which I like to ve a relationship with her but the issue am having is I try to ask her out for a date.but none is successful yet because she's still studying and she told me that (she think the best way is to keep chatting first) sounds like she feels insecure. Pls Dan if there's any of your videos u ve treat something like that pls link me. U re doing a wonderful job 👏 🙌
Hey Dan, another quick question. I'm going to follow option 2 and call her in the next 3 days. Just wondering if I should ask her to add me on facebook and ask for the meet up on the same call or just ask for the meet up? Don't wanna overload it 😀 Cheers, Alex
@@badzoner977 If she says no to the meetup, use Option 2 here: www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-persuade-my-ex-to-meet-up-with-me-for-coffee.html If she says no to adding you on FB, just make sure your photos are set to 'public' so she can see them without having to be your friend.
@@DanBacon_Cheers Dan, is it fine to ask for both things in the one call though? And if she says no to facebook friends at first should I say that's ok/I understand and then move on to asking to meet up? Cheers, Alex (going to call her tomorrow so if you could reply soon, I would appreciate it if possible 😀)
Me and my ex broke up I really do love her and want to hopefully marry her but she still lets her ex reach out to her Even tho I’m confident that he can’t take her from me. Because I build on her respect love & attraction for me. it still bothers me that he tries reaching out to her & she responds & he fails but I still don’t like that because it feels disrespectful to me that he does & she responds.. & because at the very beginning of our relationship she just responded to him because she saw I was talking to other girls which I stopped once I was sure she was the one for me.but that kinda ruined jus a lil bit of trust & it kinda bothers me now. That’s how I feel about the situation. I told her to block him which she didn’t want to because she said “ it’s weak “ because it shows the other person has power over ur feelings… & I think she did block him because I told her too & she’s upset at me because she said she wanted to handle it on her own & not do things she didn’t think to even do herself . & im debating if I should 1) let go & tell her to handle it on her own . ( which feels like I’m getting walked over & disrespected ) Or 2) do I talk to her and tell her how I feel about it and that it feels disrespectful to me that he does that & she somewhat entertains it as well when she can simply block and avoid all contact & also it bothers me because of what she did in the beginning & that also bothers me. Do I tell her that let her keep him blocked or ask her what she wants to do. I jus want dude to disappear and leave her alone he is annoying her & me.
@Dan bacon Hello, was wondering if you can suggest which of the material/products to go through. I am the type of guy where ladies tend to interact with from their own side and end up showing mixed signals for the whole duration of the "relationship". I do not have issues with talking to women, I always have something to say and hook them, (The flow book helped a lot with that as well), it is just that I can not go through the next stage, where you end up having romantic relationship with them. Most probably i am missing a critical timing or just end up with women that are always just friendly. Was looking into solving that issue. Thank you if you read it.
Hi Altair - be sure to use the next level techniques from The Flow. It sounds like you're stopping at Step 3. You have to go all the way, or else nothing happens. If you have been going all the way (i.e. kissing and sex) and they are then losing interest, watch this: ruclips.net/video/9lgHYHKS73s/видео.html Cheers, Dan
Maybe you need Better than A Bad Boy. You need to find your own authentic way to be, live and feel. What is your purpose, what do you stand for. 80% of woman are thinking traditionally. Find your dream, live it, and you find a woman who Like to support you in your Mission. Thats the way life goes.
Dan, am trying to post a comment to your video (200-300 words), but there is a technical problem, and the comment disappears if I write more than a few lines. I have literally spent hours trying to fix this during the last couple of times you have posted new videos. Only managed to write under "7 Things Women Don't Understand About Men". Had a question, but it was too long time after you uploaded.
Hello Dan...I want to ask you that how to respond when a girl that I like shares any of the problems that she is facing currently in her life during conversation like if she says she's a negative overthinker or shares any incident that has happened and effected her ? In overthinking case, I just told her that I understand her emotions and it is normal to feel so everyone experiences it and shared some of my thoughts regarding it...Is this approach right or what can be the exact or right way to respond ?
As we explain in The Ultimate Guide to Conversation store.themodernman.com/the_ultimate_guide_to_conversation.html the best way to talk to a woman is to vary your responses. In this case, your response was to relate to her and understand her. That's fine, but too much of it is boring for you and the woman. There are other ways to respond to make her feel attracted, happy, excited, surprised, more open, etc. Women want to feel different emotions around you, not just nice, safe emotions. Guys who are good with women make women feel different kinds of emotions, based on the way they respond and react to her. It's fun for you and the woman and results in both of you feeling sexually attracted to each other. Cheers, Dan
Honestly I think Dan gives the best dating advice of any dating coach or guru, out there.
Dan I have been going through a divorce after 8 years of marriage and my mojo just went to 0,but after watching you it has helped me so much. My mentality now days is what's worse that can happen and when having a conversation I'll pop jokes here and there, which I would newer do and throw in some sexual ones as well and it just works. You are a god sent and thank you so much man
Another great part of gaining the skills in this video is that you can decide yourself if you want to follow through. When I was younger, I was not only afraid of being rejected, but also of ending up with a girl I wasn’t really into. However, there is nothing wrong in talking to a girl for a while and then deciding to leave it there. I use your approach techniques all the time after discovering the Modern Man, not to pick up women as I am married, but to make life more colourful for others and myself and to avoid feeling needy in my relationship.
Excellent video Dan! Yes no negative thoughts or limiting beliefs! The positive mindset is EVERYTHING.
Cheers Stefan 😎👍Get the girls you want. MPF Rule. Enjoy!
Thank you for the encouragement and motivation talk starting at 14:30. Us guys who missed out on getting the pretty women previously really needed this. I’ve had so many chances but didn’t capitalise on it. Even as recently as in February this year I had a golden opportunity with a hot girl (a customer) I met at my workplace. We clicked the moment we made eye contact as if we’ve known each other for years! But I didn’t have the balls to ask for her number. I think about that day till today and regret every bit of it, hoping she’ll turn up in my shop again. 11 months have passed and I am still waiting….. 😩
I can sure relate Shoobie C.
Hey man the great thing about that is, if it happened once, its bound to happen again. You can also create those same moments and not just wait on them to happen. Best of luck to you King
I love that you are very possitive about this topic. Most coaches miss the point, for this reason they recommend toxic behaviour for men. They're only focusing on what to do, not the reason of it. You make us see the whole picture. Thank you Dan!
5'4", have minor Tourette's Syndrome, 36 and balding, havent had a rship for a decade and sex has been scarce. Been chronically ill for 2+ years. Not the greatest decade of my life. Ready to somehow RISE even tho from where I stand now I can't see it. I am so much fcking better than who I am today
Perfect, as always! I would like to elaborate on the "Follow through" part. Literally yesterday I was building the courage to message a random girl that I find really, really attractive. I decided to rewatch Dan's motivational video with the "waves of your life" and even though I was shaking in my room, even though I was thinking all the negative "what ifs", knowing that my chances were very small since attracting girls on social media is much harder than in real life situations, I forced myself to do it.
Naturally, the girl didn't respond to some random guy messaging her, BUT, I was so happy and relieved that I had pushed myself one step further. So the point I would like to add is this: simply don't quit when it doesn't work out. It won't in the beginning, but, as Dan said, with each attempt, even a failed one, you'll naturally feel more confident, because you've challenged your fear. This means the next time you'll feel less anxious and take action faster.
Trust this man. He knows what he's saying. And I'll buy him a Sambuca one day.
Mad respect bro. Congrats. I agree this guy is a legend.
I salute you bro! Thanks for putting it in words succinctly! It’s a tiny step forward but the feeling is like a giant euphoric leap onto the moon!
When in doubt, swing the bat. You gotta try. Most men are scared, but rejection is part of life!
I'm a guy who had sex with women during my twenties, now I'm 30, never had a serious relationship with a girl, but sex was given to me by women probably from feeling petty on me. And most of them were at least 3-4 years older than me. However this never made me any happy except in the night during sex. I never have confidence, I don't know how to light up the spark in a pretty girl, to get her to like me, watch me with the sweet and full of curiosity eyes. I will consider buying your book, Dan, definitely. My pathetic father contributed a lot during my childhood to crush my masculinity to a complete zero level and convince me that no woman in my life will ever like me. And for those who read my comment and think I'm making this all up or making excuses, I'll gladly invite them to live just a small part of my life and then come back to talk to me/judge me.
I really appreciate that you are helping guys to become confident at this aspect of life and in life ultimately, can't express appreciation in words.
Dan you are the man .. your videos changed my life .. Thank you .
I'm glad you're still making videos Dan! I bought 'The Flow' on audio for my birthday! Thank you for helping guys out, when I have kids I hope I have a son so I can teach him the values you've taught me.
Man this guy Dan helped me getting my girl that I chased since our breakup 3years ago back in only 2 weeks. Ps. She even been in a relationship but due to dans videos she’s with me now
Damn. Evertime I see one of his videos I feel super motivated! 😂
Hello Dan,
Could you make a video on maintaining the attraction in a living relationship ???
I feel like couples in a living relationship might lose the spark which they had a few years back
and the guy whom she is living with loses all the mystery
How to limit sexual attraction and affection and how much does it require ??
Thank you
I like the what if to a positive.. you didn't really go into what to say after hi, you just said keep it interesting etc.. as an anxious person and in my head. You got a basic structure and things to say after the hi? Thanks man
Hi Jason - glad you enjoyed the vid. Regarding a structure and what to say after hi: Yes. That's all included in The Flow: www.themodernman.com/blog/the-flow-ebook.html Also available in audiobook format: www.themodernman.com/blog/the-flow-on-audio.html Cheers, Dan 👍
Dan ,i think you have a great advices for young men...And the thing i appreciate about you is your calmness...You know what is important.
Another factor is knowing how to handle things when the situation doesn't go your way, so it's not weird or you feel or look humilliated. If this is addressed then the negative what ifs can be reduced or eliminated.
Thank you for the informative video Dan. I know how to attract women and usually I can get what I want with them. I was just wondering, could you please make a video about how to avoid talking your way out of keeping her interested? I believe this is an area myself and a lot of guys struggle with.
Kind regards,
R
Thanks Dan. As I recently mentioned in the remote area I live there are so few opportunities to meet women who meet my high standards, and one day while out while stopping at a little bakery kiosk in the small village near where I live I suddenly encountered and connected across a distance with a woman who just lit up my eyes. She noticed it and smiled back at me appreciating my appreciation of her. This was a tourist season and I was afraid she was just a tourist passing through and I told her my name and asked her if she and her also pretty attractive friend if they were local. She said yes, and actually asked me to sit down with her and her friend who were eating something from the kiosk that I had just purchased something from. I was there with a woman who was just a friend who was shopping at the nearby thrift store, and was distracted and had things to do and walked away without even getting her name. I have regretted it ever since as there was something about her, not just her great looks, but she was confident and intelligent, just the kind of woman I dream about. It caught me by surprise, it had been so long since I had encountered someone like that, I didn't have the "mindset" and was not prepared for something like this. Mentally I think I had given up. Later I kicked myself for losing this opportunity for something I actually want more than almost anything. Still hope I run into her again, but I don't get into the village very often and don't see too many people when I am there. If I had only at least had the presence of mind to have gotten her name, or better yet have sat down with them. I now know I need to have the decision to follow through already made and what I am going to do and say before the occasion comes around again.
"She said yes, and actually asked me to sit down with her and her friend who were eating something from the kiosk that I had just purchased something from." It doesn't get any clearer than that. Be ready for the next opportunity. MPF Rule.
@@DanBacon_ I just posted after watching this upload, I experience a similar situation. Dan, you truly can read our minds. This are the daily “sufferings” (if you will) that us men are facing and you can truly address them to the point!
Man i feel you. Believe me.
Hi Dan, I've tried to access your link to buy THE FLOW" ebook but the site wouldn't let me in, keeping writing "ACCESS DENIED" I don't really know what the problem is, maybe because of my location or what? I live in Nigeria
Damn, dude it's like Dan straight up knows my life and struggles just after watching 2 videos. It's like he's speaking directly to me
Think this sunk in more: What if she's the right one? Getting burned pursuing relationships, this is a welcomed thought.
Hey Dan! How do I know the difference between a woman testing my confidence in a conversation vs not being interested? Thanks
Hey Dan, how do I let go of the past and past mistakes so that they don't define or affect my future. I feel like my past mistakes with women and negative experiences inform my negative "what ifs". I know what I need to do, but still feel susceptible to pockets of insecurity and i find it difficult to fully move on or forgive myself. I've been going through your videos and will get The Flow, but does it help you to move on from the past?
Thanks for the great videos
I can't put my finger on it but there is something about these techniques especially the one about being unpredictable and not needing to be on on best behaviour that changes the way my brain works.
Always when I practice this I get better at everything in my life like my brain opens up and is sharper
Hi Dan great video I would like to know if your book is available in Amazon Kindle?..I would like to read it I need to improve in this situation, and make a couple of changes.
Hi Hector. Glad you enjoyed the video. I don't sell any of my products via Amazon or any third party. My products are available via my website only: store.themodernman.com/ Cheers, Dan
Magic Man Dan! Welcome back buddy. We needed ya.
Hey Dan!, I’ve been progressively building my confidence but I still for some reason fear picking up women. I’m a good looking guy but didn’t have a man to teach me the ways. Wish I could go out and get coached with you
Hi Christopher - you should watch this video if you haven't already: ruclips.net/video/oAhCPBt0-w8/видео.html I coach guys in bars and clubs these days because I've settled down with my perfect girl. However, everything that Ben, Stu and I taught guys on weekend courses is included in Dating Power: store.themodernman.com/dating_power.html Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ hell yeah! , yeah I’ve been looking into reading that book as well as conversation starters. I’m reading the flow a second time to grasp it more. But I think what it comes down to is having the balls to go out and approach.
@@ChristopherGonzalez-kh1zx Be sure to *use* the confidence mindset on page 41 of The Flow. Always remember that it is one thing to *understand* something and another to do it. When you use the confidence mindset in everyday interactions with women, you will see that they feel attracted to you. When you have that personal evidence, you will then feel more confident to go out and approach women that you find attractive. You should also watch this if you haven't already: ruclips.net/video/rkxGI0Vwzgo/видео.html BTW: Dating Power is a video program and is not in eBook/written format. There's also an audio bonus that comes with it, where Ben, Stu and I explain many different ways we've attracted, picked up and hooked up with women. Cheers, Dan 👍
@@DanBacon_ awesome man! I’ll be working on my confidence then. Cool I will look into the program.
The last words from the video really made me think twice about the lost opportunities and lost time.
I thing as well. I bought the book before few days so I cannot speak about results, but those things he says give me naturally sense and feel just to be right skill to have and right way to go. It just does.
Hey Dan u could say that I’ve watched all ur videos thoroughly on youtube and even read a few articles on ur website. So if I’m planning to buy ur book THE FLOW will it still be helpful to me ? And if yes then how much more knowledge will I gain after reading ur book, please lemme know that in percentage like 30% or whatever it is.
Hi Zayn - good question.
I have always and will always keep the information, techniques and examples in The Flow separate to what I share on RUclips and in articles on my site or anywhere else.
This is so it is fair for me and for paying customers.
Here are just some of the things (that I can actually reveal here in a comment) included in The Flow:
• The step by step process of The Flow.
• My best ever examples of what to say to start conversations.
• Exclusive confidence technique that instantly attracts a woman and then maintains her attraction.
• The 8 personality traits that are naturally attractive to women - explained with techniques and examples.
• Ways to develop a connection.
• How to initiate touch.
• How to get alone with her.
• How to get her phone number or get her to add you to Facebook.
• What to text her right after getting her phone number.
• What to text her if she doesn’t answer your phone call when you first try to call her.
• How to kiss her the first time that you meet her.
• How to get to sex with her on the first day or night that you meet her.
• How to call her to arrange a first date.
• How to kiss her on the first date.
• How to have sex on the first date.
• What to text or call her to arrange a second date.
store.themodernman.com/the_flow.html
Cheers
Dan
My brother, thank you for coming back, I was worried about you Dan.
Cheers JJ. It took a long time to get all of these supplements ready www.modernx.com/store/ for my new, additional brand ModernX, but I am back in action now. More videos on the way 👍
What a wonderful driving to womenese analogy - Dan's way of making it bite sized, simple and crisp.
Cheers Vijay 👍Glad you enjoyed the vid.
Thank you Dan! I’ve been going through a break up recently and have been struggling to attract women. I’m going to apply these tips soon!
Your videos are extremely helpful and always on point. I had a question on how to approach a situation with your wife/girlfriend when you have done something wrong. Of course I am going to take on the responsibility and admit my faults and wrong doing.
Just over a year ago, I was hiking, got lost and came out about 3 hours later than I planned (just as it was getting dark)... Good news, I met a really cute girl who lived in the area. She was walking her dog up the trail. We had a great conversation, talked about places we've hiked and after a bit, I started back down the trail... It was about 10 minutes later I realized she was basically saying she'd like to go hiking with me and I didn't ask for her number!
I blame being tired but it speaks to the Prepared element. If I'd had the proper (prepared) mindset, asking for a number would have been automatic even being completely exhausted and I'd probably have a lovely hiking partner right now.
...Well right off the bat with this video I can see what my problem is. Everywhere I've been to so far, no woman has ever looked in my direction, let alone open and showing interest 😄😅
I would have needed you so much when I was young.. great video Dan, you're awesome!
Cheers Ralf! I would've also benefited from something like this back when I had no idea. I had to figure it myself by approaching women every weekend and testing different ways of interacting with them until I got it. Once you get it, it's then very easy and you can enjoy your choice of pretty women. Cheers, Dan 👍
Thanks for the great advice Sir
Thank you Dan for the awesome content, I've been learning a ton from it. I have a question, i can most of the times get the phone number but never can get an actual date. I only text briefly to try to make the date happen. What to do in this situation?? Thanks!
Hi Dan, quick question for you. What do you think about sending an accountability letter to a LDR ex girlfriend to try and win her back? She fell out of love and she doesn't miss me anymore. I don't know what's the right approach to get her back since she's lives in another country
The only thing stopping myself from ever being confident, is the fact that i have a below average size penis from hormone imbalance from birth. I must be attractive though, as i have had soo many girls showing interested in me, but i pretend not to like them back because of fear about my size. I am 40 years old now and i just hope i don't end up with regrets that may lead to depression. Watching your videos does help make myself feel better, as it's true that how you think will effect your life, so i just got to remember that i am worthy just like everyone else in this world. 👍
Hey dan how is ben and stu and ash doing do you still catch up with them?
Ben and Stu are doing well. Stu has so many women that he ends up canceling dates with models, because he just doesn't have time for all of them. Ben is enjoying a meaningful dating life. Ash has settled down. They are getting what they truly want with women. Cheers, Dan 👍 BTW: For anyone reading along who doesn't know who Ben, Stu and Ash are - Ben and Stu feature in most of the audio programs at The Modern Man and in the Dating Power seminar (video): store.themodernman.com/dating_power.html Ash is a friend of ours who is naturally good with women (i.e. never had to learn, he just got it naturally).
@@DanBacon_ good to hear dan glad mr alpha male is doing good
I'm the first one watching your video as always thanks for the Video and Thank you so much for helping us guys out we love you man great video
Man, I feel like I suck. There’s this girl in my school, and she looks at me a lot more than before (before I noticed her that is). And I don’t know if I should go for it if it’s interest or not. Watching this makes me think I should but I’m still unsure because we don’t see each other often. Help anyone and @Dan Bacon
Thats how life is...
Cant be sure before trying
Do it man!
Don't expect any sort of outcome,
Introduce yourself the way Dan has shown in the examples and see if you like her,
If you do great, just show interest and have the MPF, and follow through...
If you don't, no big deal, maybe you'll have a new friend
Practice starting conversations with girls you're less attracted to, once you get confident, talk to her. As a side note if she finds out you are actively talking to other girls she will be even more interested in you, social proof is powerful. You're welcome.
Do or do not, there is no try- Yoda
I took a number from a girl today and i know...I've had her already...
Enjoyed the motivational content in the end was really inspiring. Thanks Dan 🙏.
Help me please. I don't know how to communicate with you but I'm gonna use the comments. I'm in a situation with my gf where I didn't see her for 2 weeks but we kept texting each other for 2 weeks but then it's like she didn't show that high interest in me anymore and when it got time to see each other she said I can meet you but it has to be fast because I'm busy so I thought like a high value man and told her you know what than let's not meet because it seemed she came with a lot of excuses. So I used the no contact rule for a week and came back I saw a message from her that she was dessapointed and it seemed like she was hurt now I'm trying to fix things in a masculine way but it's like she texts me after 3/6 hours every time and I told her you know what let's meet and I'll explain so she can get attracted to me again but now it's clear that she ignores me what can I do to get her back ?
Time to come here for some encouragement. :D
I was at a small party. Two girls were making fun of me for not dancing, I noticed another girl maybe being interested but shy. They weren't my type though. One girl wanted to drink with me (but I had to drive), later she was dancing in the middle surrounded by some guys and I couldn't get myself to go there. It's exactly the mindset that I may get to the center of attention and embarrass myself. Well, I was really tired but that's just an excuse. Chatting with someone I'm not really interested is easy, but where does it lead?
THE OG IS BACK AGAIN
I got clouser text from my ex girlfriend.
After 3 month's of no contact
It's like..
Hey.. hope you are doing good..Just meant to say sorry, I mean it.
You are a good soul,it's just me who can't love someone,I tried to love u,you are really a good friend (and some more txts).
After she added I cared about you,maybe I still care, we can't unlove people,but I can hate someone more than I loved,
If I try to be with you again I would destroy you in every possible way.
Lastly she added
I just gave you enough time to realise I'm not important as you thought in your life,but you deserve a closure and here it is......
Don't reply she told...
What I have to do please help?
Hi Dan. Comprehensive video as usual. Small question: how about guys like me and many guys i know who are quite good with women but sometimes get frustrated by the vagueness and passiveness of women ,even if our instincts say they are interested . Thank you !
I'd say, make her feel attracted again and move it forward...i think that happens a lot to me (at work), where I create a spark at the beginning, and never do more than that...so it dies. I can make the process all over again, but maybe they gone with someone else, or already closed that window.
Accept the reality that most women are passive when it comes to pick up and dating. If a woman is too active and assertive, many guys will assume she is a slut, or couldn't be trusted in a relationship. Alternatively, a guy may feel like he has her wrapped around his little finger and doesn't need to treat her as well because she's so into him. As a result, a relationship can begin where the guy has way too much power over her and in most cases, he then doesn't put in the effort to maintain the relationship. She then ends up wasting 1-3 years on her youthful attractiveness on him. This video will also help you: ruclips.net/video/DEIqKg_isT0/видео.html Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ Thanks for answering. Indeed ,in the beginning she doesn't know us and our good intentions . Cheers !
Hey Dan, ypu marriage is very inspiring to me, i got a girlfriend and consider marrying her bexause of your storie.. I have a question, are you still happily married? I hope so cuz your marriage is my role model
Yes, still happily married 😀👍 Been together 9 years now. The latest update I gave on our relationship was in this video ruclips.net/video/1WeYS9xcZeA/видео.html Here's when I got engaged www.themodernman.com/relationship/why-i-decided-to-accept-my-girlfriends-marriage-proposal.html
Better than a bad boy best dating book ever!
Cheers King Shabba! 👍 😎 Glad you enjoyed Better Than a Bad Boy. One of the most important programs I've ever made. It's the best way to prioritize women and it works for life. I am still like that to this day, even though I've been with my woman for 9 years now. BTW: I hope to hear a success story from you sometime soon. Enjoy amazing times with women in the meantime! Cheers, Dan
I'm not gonna lie. I have Asperger's and I tend to over-over think in situations like this. I usually tend to screw up even when I get the number anyway. I still feel like I make the same mistakes when I interact with women, even when I try to change. I dunno.
So glad to see you finnaly back u legend
Hello.
I’ve invested in 600 bucks I. Your products. They been tremendous help. I like the love your partner for life one because the aesthetics of the video are modern. I’m looking to get alpha male but it’s not as modern as the one I mentioned. Any plans of redoing this video???
Hi Ricky - great to hear that you enjoyed Make Her Love You For Life. That program will benefit you now and for the rest of your life. Remaining in love and having a woman respect you and treat you well for life is priceless. Regarding redoing Alpha Male Power: I may do 2.0 versions of some products in future (i.e. 10 years from now). For now, I am busy working on a brand new product about texting, which should be available by the end of 2022. Around that time, I will also be uploading a lot of new videos with free advice about attracting women via text for dates, sex and relationships. After that, I will be uploading videos about women, dating and relationships and may then begin working on an additional new product. Decades of work in front of me. Looking forward to sharing everything I know. Stay tuned! Cheers, Dan
Eagerly waiting for a next video @Dan
You the man, Dan. Good stuff
Cheers Alan - glad you enjoyed the vid 😎👍
a helpful reminder video, ty🙏
Came to your channel after a major jealousy-induced marriage crisis that almost ended in divorce. "Get your ex back super system" saved the marriage and gave it more spark. After that I bought most of your other programs. Going from Mr. Nice to a good guy with edge has been a fulfilling journey. After the grave conflict, I promised my wife not to call or text one of my best friends and colleagues. Due to the marriage often being a long-distance relationship, my wife and my colleague never became friends. How to keep a good female friend after your woman has become crazy jealous about the friendship?
If anyone has a solution to this problem, it will be you, Dan!
As you say in "Alpha Male Power", it is a so much better life to be living when you get rid of your insecurities. Still struggling with female jealousy though.
Congrats on getting your wife back long distance! That's fantastic news. Well done! 👍 Regarding your colleague: Just let her know that you'll need to tone down your friendship due to your wife not knowing her in person yet and therefore, feeling a bit uncomfortable with the relatiosnhip. It's fine to do that for a wife because she should be the most important person in your life. Not the most important thing (the most important thing should be your purpose, or biggest goals and ambitions). Let your wife know that you're going to keep your distance from your colleague from now on, even though it's platonic and she has nothing to worry about. You're doing it because you love and respect her and your marriage, more than a friendship with someone that is only happening because you work together. Your wife is for life. Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ Thank you for your advice ! You are right of course. There are a lot of details that make it hard in practice though. What happened was a bit like what you talk about in "Make her love you for life" when you mention giving too much priority to Ben from the Modern Man instead of your wife. My colleague is unusually bright and a great inspiration professionally meaning that interacting with her relates to my sense of purpose. But, obviously, my wife has to be number one. Yes, getting her back long distance was pretty challenging especially because of travel restrictions during Covid. Your program and your videos were immensely helpful at that time. Thank you so much! Keep up the good work!
amazing person ! , thanks for helping us a lot!
Cheers AD 👍 Glad you enjoyed the vid.
You're looking good Dan! Keep it up
Cheers Metralon 👍
This channel is very truthful
How to prepare, Dan? Where do I learn what to say for each case?
Hi Germán - in my eBook, The Flow, which is also available as an audiobook: store.themodernman.com/the_flow.html Watch the two videos on that page for more info. Enjoy the great times ahead with women! Cheers, Dan
Hey Dan, can you make a video on controlling your emotional status
Why was this uploaded after I seen a pretty woman in Walmart she was older than me I'm 24. Was in Walmart and I looked at her passing by on the aisle and she actually put her phone away and stood there and looked at the shelf for 1 min straight and I stood not too far from her also looking at the shelf but I was scared to say something and she started to walk turn away
Be ready for next time. Get ready to think 'What if positives' and be prepared and know what to say and how to attract her. Follow through and get the result. You might also find this helpful: ruclips.net/video/UHmUGz3SYKo/видео.html Cheers, Dan
when i am walking past a pretty woman, i find it very hard somehow to talk to her ..
often the situation is too fast and both of us keep walking along etc...
am i wating too long ? so, after the smile ithere has to be a "hi" oder what ?
or should i just stop walking towards her and turn around to her ?
anybody any ideas ?
there were many good scenarios in which i failed in the past :/
It sucks that I just lock up in the moment. Like seriously a few weeks ago I saw a reallt pretty girl just standing on the sidewalk and I know for a fact she was staring at me for a while and I felt really good about my outfit and felt like she probably likes the way I look
But as I was about to walk past I just could not make eye contact, my head was just physically locked forwards and kept going and couldn't bring myself to look behind me if she was still looking. I know it's a problem in my head but god damn it's difficult to figure it out. I facepalm every few nights when it comes back into my mind
I could be in a very different situation if I dared to smile and look at her and maybe gotten a similar response and then gotten the courage to talk because of that. But no I messed up again. Chances are I would've failed anyway but any chance is better than 0
This happens to me a lot when I start a conversation. I always walk away from conversation because of negative thinking...
Try staying longer and then moving things forward to a phone number, kiss or sex. Remember that some women don't want to make it too obvious that they like you. Reasons why: ruclips.net/video/DEIqKg_isT0/видео.html
@@DanBacon_ thanks 👍 mate.. will begin to try that..
God bless you 😢the end touches
HOW can I HEAL, FIX and WORK on this: I say that they are fears, insecurities that she caused me. I'm almost sure that's what it is, Bc before when I started with her, I was not like that, I started to become extremist and make things in my head when I saw things that she did or said that doesn't match with how she acted & told me before those those things that I began to see after some time. it's as if she had become another person...I am totally frustrated & I imagine a thousand things... what do I have do? I appreciate any advice. KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Great video!!
is this a good thing to send to my ex: can you do something for me? well not for me for you can you stay safe and dont let anyone look down on you and if somebody mess with you don't do nothng i got you just tell me and im sorry i wasn't there for you don't have to say sorry cuz im sorry anyways i love you Lexxy and never forget that
Bro I always miss my opportunity with girls. 5 or 6 time in the last months. I do one step she does one step and than I go 2 steps back it's frustrating, I can't stop.
So there's this girl who's attracted to me. But, knowing each other for 5 months, I've never made a move to take things forward. Now I found out that she's been dating someone for the last few weeks. I mean, the attraction is still there when we hang out, but, she's been acting like more of a "friend" recently' so the time adds up.
What should be my next move here? I'm honestly a bit lost since this isn't a regular "ex-back" or "rebound" case, despite knowing that "her guy" is not even close to being competition.
Damn Dan, another gold you are the Best
Much love Dan
Cheers V 👍
Merry Christmas Dan
I had an opportunity with a girl to talk in gym as she was working out exactly opposite to me.But i wonder if she really working out or is she working out and trying to grab my attention.I went to do leg press after that leaving that place and after sometime i didnt' see her in the gym.She spend only half an hour in the gym and now i am like - Did she really finish the workout and left the gym or she left the gym only because I ignored her which hurt her self esteem and she left the place out of anger.
please do a video on how to attract women in social media (instagram)
Hey Dan
Any chance i can have some contact info? Would like some advice on a really special case
See: www.themodernman.com/my-personal-reply-to-you.html
I was at the skytrain station a month ago, and one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen was waiting for a bus. I talked to her! buuut she one upped me in the entirety of the conversation 😅 I saw her gazing at the skytrain structure and I said "are you a fan of architecture? thats alot of concrete" she said that she is a structural engineer and that what we were looking at was not architecture, architecture is residential. "but it is alot of concrete" she said. then she said " oh there's my bus, byee"
Dan I don’t have much problem in gathering confidence but I feel like I’m gonna stammer in a conversation though I usually don’t or my voice will be a lil more high pitch than usual or I sometimes feel I won’t be able to keep the conversation long ( 1 - 2 mins ) enough to attract her. I would really appreciate if u could give me some mindsets that will kinda help me with this problem.
How should you respond to a girl when a girl shit tests you says that another man is hot. What's the best way to react to this? Thanks
Hey Dan I've bought one of your programs and would find it interesting to see you talk about failures of clients that you've experienced and how they come back from those. For example I had something with around 4 girls the last 1-3months and one of them dumped me days after hooking up(not sex yet tho/ it all even seemed pretty good) and I dont know why, maybe I wasnt good enough at making a connection plus all this is a little new and takes some time to practice.
Interested to know how long it takes for other guys to master.
It may have been that you were pushing for, or hinting at a relationship prior to her wanting it: ruclips.net/video/9lgHYHKS73s/видео.html How long it takes for you to master depends on how quickly you apply the advice. Some guys read The Flow, understand it and then don't apply the advice for months or years. Other guys read it, understand it, apply it correctly and get results right away. It all depends on how well and how quickly you begin applying the advice. For example: If someone wanted to learn how to throw a basketball and get it in the ring and a coach showed them how, but they just kept dropping the ball, rolling it on the floor or throwing it left or right, it doesn't mean that the coach didn't tell them how to do it, or that they can't do it. They simply aren't doing it right yet. You need to apply all of the advice from The Flow, rather than only using bits and pieces or skipping over things that are outside your comfort zone (i.e. the next level moves explained in The Flow). You will get consistent results when you apply the advice in order (i.e. step by step). After a bit of experience, you will be able to attract and pick up women without having to think about it and will also be able to improvise and come up with additional things that work for you. Essentially, The Flow is the framework that lets you get it in the ring. You can then add additional techniques where you see fit. Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ Thanks for the quick response!
Missed you bro
You are the best 👍👍
Dan you’re like the only coach i get advice from but i have not seen one person on youtube talk about this. What are you thoughts on when a girl is fed up? or when a girl says mentally she left the relationship a long time ago because you never changed according to her. Her interest and respect is practically 0. How should one approach this situation to re attracte her back? Ive been with this girl for 4 years we have a baby together and she said mentally she left me and we broke up 6 months ago she is a new relationship.
Hey Dan,
So I was ready to call her and I called yesterday and then private number called her and found out I was blocked. So Idk if she has received my sms messages about unblocking facebook. I want to call her but don't know what to do next. Like sending an email or something. Can you please send me some advice, a message to send or an article on what to do next?
I was considering sending a letter to her with a dog on the front. In the letter I simply say I hope she's been really well and been thinking of you. But that's it.
Please respond, Cheers Alex
Call from a different number. Letters are a problem if she isn't attracted to you and you say that you've been thinking of her. I recommend that you follow the steps from the program. That is what works. Deviate from that and you'll just be guessing and will likely make mistakes.
Is it worth to buy the ebook when i already watched many of the videos?
What I teach in The Flow is never taught on RUclips. I keep it separate, otherwise it wouldn't be fair to me or to paying customers. You will never be able to learn The Flow secrets in my videos. When you use The Flow (not just read it), you will laugh how easy it is to attract and pick up women. It's so easy that it's ridiculous that men don't know this stuff. I never used to know until I figured it out by going out and approaching a lot of women. Now men can learn it from me by reading the book within hours. 100s of success stories posted in comments under my RUclips videos and here: www.themodernman.com/success/modern-man-success-stories.html Read what they say. Look at how easily they were able to do it. Some guys take longer to succeed because they just read it and don't approach and talk to women for months. Then they do and realize how easy it is when you use The Flow approach. Enjoy the great times ahead with women! Cheers, Dan
Thank you for the motivation. Since I subscribed to this channel I've learn so many things especially how to be confidence. And following ur guild line it really help me alot .I can walk to a girl now without fearing if she will reject me.but there's a girl I find interested which I like to ve a relationship with her but the issue am having is I try to ask her out for a date.but none is successful yet because she's still studying and she told me that (she think the best way is to keep chatting first) sounds like she feels insecure. Pls Dan if there's any of your videos u ve treat something like that pls link me. U re doing a wonderful job 👏 🙌
Hey Dan, another quick question. I'm going to follow option 2 and call her in the next 3 days. Just wondering if I should ask her to add me on facebook and ask for the meet up on the same call or just ask for the meet up? Don't wanna overload it 😀 Cheers, Alex
Get her to add you to Facebook first, so she can see that you've been enjoying life since the breakup and aren't needy for her. Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ And what do I say if she says no on the call? Or isn't sure?
@@badzoner977 If she says no to the meetup, use Option 2 here: www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-persuade-my-ex-to-meet-up-with-me-for-coffee.html If she says no to adding you on FB, just make sure your photos are set to 'public' so she can see them without having to be your friend.
@@DanBacon_Cheers Dan, is it fine to ask for both things in the one call though? And if she says no to facebook friends at first should I say that's ok/I understand and then move on to asking to meet up? Cheers, Alex (going to call her tomorrow so if you could reply soon, I would appreciate it if possible 😀)
@@badzoner977 If the vibe is good between you and her on the call, then it's fine. Trust your gut instinct in the moment. Cheers, Dan
Me and my ex broke up I really do love her and want to hopefully marry her but she still lets her ex reach out to her Even tho I’m confident that he can’t take her from me. Because I build on her respect love & attraction for me. it still bothers me that he tries reaching out to her & she responds & he fails but I still don’t like that because it feels disrespectful to me that he does & she responds.. & because at the very beginning of our relationship she just responded to him because she saw I was talking to other girls which I stopped once I was sure she was the one for me.but that kinda ruined jus a lil bit of trust & it kinda bothers me now. That’s how I feel about the situation.
I told her to block him which she didn’t want to because she said “ it’s weak “ because it shows the other person has power over ur feelings… & I think she did block him because I told her too & she’s upset at me because she said she wanted to handle it on her own & not do things she didn’t think to even do herself . & im debating if I should 1) let go & tell her to handle it on her own . ( which feels like I’m getting walked over & disrespected )
Or 2) do I talk to her and tell her how I feel about it and that it feels disrespectful to me that he does that & she somewhat entertains it as well when she can simply block and avoid all contact & also it bothers me because of what she did in the beginning & that also bothers me.
Do I tell her that let her keep him blocked or ask her what she wants to do. I jus want dude to disappear and leave her alone he is annoying her & me.
4:10 that’s me. I don’t know how to start, that’s my problem
@Dan bacon Hello, was wondering if you can suggest which of the material/products to go through. I am the type of guy where ladies tend to interact with from their own side and end up showing mixed signals for the whole duration of the "relationship". I do not have issues with talking to women, I always have something to say and hook them, (The flow book helped a lot with that as well), it is just that I can not go through the next stage, where you end up having romantic relationship with them. Most probably i am missing a critical timing or just end up with women that are always just friendly. Was looking into solving that issue. Thank you if you read it.
Hi Altair - be sure to use the next level techniques from The Flow. It sounds like you're stopping at Step 3. You have to go all the way, or else nothing happens. If you have been going all the way (i.e. kissing and sex) and they are then losing interest, watch this: ruclips.net/video/9lgHYHKS73s/видео.html Cheers, Dan
Maybe you need Better than A Bad Boy. You need to find your own authentic way to be, live and feel. What is your purpose, what do you stand for. 80% of woman are thinking traditionally. Find your dream, live it, and you find a woman who Like to support you in your Mission. Thats the way life goes.
Perfect,
Love Guru 👍...
Dan, am trying to post a comment to your video (200-300 words), but there is a technical problem, and the comment disappears if I write more than a few lines. I have literally spent hours trying to fix this during the last couple of times you have posted new videos. Only managed to write under "7 Things Women Don't Understand About Men". Had a question, but it was too long time after you uploaded.
Posted as two other comments instead. It seems to work.
Hello Dan...I want to ask you that how to respond when a girl that I like shares any of the problems that she is facing currently in her life during conversation like if she says she's a negative overthinker or shares any incident that has happened and effected her ? In overthinking case, I just told her that I understand her emotions and it is normal to feel so everyone experiences it and shared some of my thoughts regarding it...Is this approach right or what can be the exact or right way to respond ?
As we explain in The Ultimate Guide to Conversation store.themodernman.com/the_ultimate_guide_to_conversation.html the best way to talk to a woman is to vary your responses. In this case, your response was to relate to her and understand her. That's fine, but too much of it is boring for you and the woman. There are other ways to respond to make her feel attracted, happy, excited, surprised, more open, etc. Women want to feel different emotions around you, not just nice, safe emotions. Guys who are good with women make women feel different kinds of emotions, based on the way they respond and react to her. It's fun for you and the woman and results in both of you feeling sexually attracted to each other. Cheers, Dan