At age 23 there was a man I had been friends with for 3 years who asked me to marry him. I had zero physical attraction for him. He was a nice guy, had very good Christian character and even the same call that I did on his life but I rejected the proposal. I feel I made the right decision because I don't think it would have been fair to marry him. To this day I am still single and that was a long time ago but it's okay.
I know something, God is true, God is love, God is peace. If you have prayed and you are still not attracted to this person and there is no peace within you, just let him go, he belongs to someone else, and you will surely get another good man. It's unfair to be in a relationship where the feeling is not mutual
Luckily for me, physical attraction is at the bottom of my list. My dating history is testament to that as I don’t have a type physically! My dating requirements are very simplistic especially as I mature and I like that. Character and traits are what matter everything else is secondary.
I never liked my Kingdom spouse though I knew him from high school when I saw him years later I couldn't recognize him as he was in a car accident that left him wheelchair bound as I dreamt of him after our encounter God telling me his my k.s I was like what never"Me dating a person on a wheelchair Lord ay😳!! But God continued confirming through random people aswell we eventually dated I couldn't explain why we were together lol Lord did he love me and pray for me and believed in my calling more than I did at the time.I would cry out to God to make me fall Inlove it took months I couldn't even kiss him but today I have a supernatural love for him and his the hottest man I've ever seen honestly my man is good looking I was just consumed by the worldly standards of what I wanted and how a man should look..Just like Busi I was into screw screw boi's growing up 😅I felt he was a bit ghetto for me🤣😂Sorry I couldn't summarize this..
Hey. Thank you for sharing. I’m in the same situation you were in. Like, exactly the same. Mans covers me in love and prayer and pushes me into what God has called me for. Did you end up falling in love with him before or after you got married? I’ve been praying for God to make me fall in love w him and open up my heart to him but I’m still wrestling w my flesh and spirit.
@@cynthiaturya744 Same here. And he is an attractive man. Just not to my liking. I’ve been praying that GOD makes me more attracted to him if he is my KS😩
Thank you for this video. I am so glad to see that I am not the only who has struggled with this before. It’s really difficult cause you see that the person is a great guy and you just are not physically attracted to them and sometimes you wish you would just find a way to switch on the attraction button 😂somehow but I am learning to be more patient and believe that God won’t want me to be with someone I tolerate. Forever is such a long time for that.
I finally met my kingdom spouse, I absolutely did not have attraction, but after a while when we were courting I started getting attracted to him. I had no attraction whatsoever & I even told him I actually don't want to be involved yet because I was still trying to search his genuineness for God, our union & still trying to figure out if I'd end up being attracted but gratefully here I am, a year later totally attracted.
This is nice to hear. Question..are you attracted to his physical look as in the things he can’t necessarily change? Or is it more so a strong emotional connection to where you overlook or ignore the physical look ?
@@kaylabennett3149 honestly I think us getting to bond really changed the way I looked at him. It's not that he was not eye catching he was and he still is eye catching but for the preferences that I had back then he wouldn't be someone I chose. when we started to bond his physical features became attractive, like I started to like his smile, I started to like his dimples, you know etc. Lol. Like I started paying more attention to the things I didn't pay attention to and found that those were the things that made him unique & handsome. At this point I think my standards could have possible gotten in the way.
Thank you so much for this video. Ya neh the battle ya Physical attraction VS good character is very real, ka mo ke height issue for some of us who are tall😄, I Pray that God brings that well balanced man honestly... Looks do matter to me but they are obviously not on the top of the list but they count...
I know someone who when the Lord told her who her husband was she actually cried because she wasnt attracted to him , when he finally asked her if they could date and that he has feelings for her she told him she didnt but shell work on it. What helped her was she started praying for him thats how she fell in love with Him. Theyve been married for 5 years, 3 kids and she always says He has consistently been A gift to her. For anyone in this position pray about it the Lord will turn your heart to be attracted to Him. ❤❤❤
All I can say is that "the Lord will do exceedingly, abundantly, above all that we could ever ask of think". I personally wrote down a list of things I wanted in my kingdom spouse and trust me when I say that, the man came exactly like that. When I mean every single detail I prayed about, the Lord answered about him. Also, marriage is not based on the feeling of love but rather a decision you need to make every day.. So there is a difference between love and attraction coz I can love you and not be attracted to you.. (if you get what I'm saying) 😅 But then I also feel like, if you are not attracted from the very start then hhm it might not end well.. coz trust me you might end uo cheating in future, so attraction is important. But the good thing is that attraction can be built over time, you can Google so many things these days that can make you fall in love with someone easily 😅
I totally agree❤it’s not the all in all, but it matters that He/ she is attractive to you! A friend of mine once said if we say the physical does not matter then we are also saying our faith in Christ does not matter! Because our Faith is also based on the resurrection of Christ (which was physical) If Jesus was still dead, we wouldn’t be calling ourselves believers/ his followers! Although we are not saved by works, but definitely our faith does include works (which are physical) 😊I hope this makes sense! 😅And lastly, even through out scripture there are certain people who would be described in detail so we get the full picture of their attractiveness, e,g David. 1 Samuel 16:12 “David was "glowing with health and had a fine appearance and handsome features" Yes the looks are not the basis, but it is a part of the whole pizza😂 “looks”draw you to the person, character keeps you with the person ❤
Physical attraction matters to me just like everything else. Im the type that won't look at things just because they/ it doesn't look pleasant. So a lifetime partner is a must look good. However I know that God knows me well enough to bring someone who He knows is perfect for me.
This is to timely. I’d been fighting and struggling with this and decided to text my purpose friendship really about this and she sent me this video and I’m in awe of the intentionality of the Lord for putting this my way at such a time like this. God is still in the business of speaking you guys! My story is a little different because there’s 2 seemingly kingdom men pursuing me and I’m not attracted to them like that. But I want to put a stamp to this video and come back with my testimony! Thank you WOG for being used of God like this. I honor you
Thanks for the advice. Was now thinking I'm too picky. Or too self absorbed. Lord..lead me. You know me Modimo 😊. You know me and what best fits me. Please..lead me Jesus. Thanks❤
Hey sis, you always have answers to my questions concerning relationships but God knows my heart and He knows the kind of husband i have prayed for since forever, he knows i would love a godly man that is handsome as well, I won't lie, that's what I've always prayed for,and there should be chemistry too. This is the desire of my heart.
Sometimes God blinds or shuts down the physical attraction so that we can establish solid friendships, for however long He wishes, and once He activates those physical attractions, it will make sense why it happened that way. And it could also be that it's not yet time for y'all to meet.
What if we already met and dated? Do you mean like it’s not time to date? Bc I was thinking. Maybe GOD wants us to soley focus on him and his purpose for him then he will bring us back together and I’ll finally be attracted when the moment is right😩
Also when persons say kingdom spouse if your choosing the man or if your allowing god to pick for you that is not fhe same thing . The guy can be a kingdom man but you are making the choice that is different from leaving up to God picking for you it is not the same thing .
Reality check . Your kingdom spouse might not be what you want . Some persons get what they ask for and some persons don't . I would encourage persons to be open minded when it come on fo this so you are not disappointed if fhe person is not exactly what you want or wanted at all .
We are so used to "movie's love" (love at first sight)😅 but true love is a process and his kindness and special things God put on his character will make you see him as the most handsome man in the universe 😊 Every GOOD and SPECIAL GIFT comes from ABOVE/ James 1
Yes,so true what your Saying . As we tend to put physical attraction and chemistry first. As spiritual beings, we need to take it to the Lord, and he will confirm and lead you to where he wants u to be,only if you let him.😉
I would rather spend my life alone than ever be with a man who I’m not attracted to. Whether he is on the same holy path or not. Even as I sit wit him in church, I see all the other handsome men and I prefer them instead. Good character really means nothing to me.
Yoh that's deep thanks for sharing sis.. If I can just say sis.. Looks change, sometimes unfortunately someone can get into an accident of some sort and that can change their appearance or they just grow and become different so hmm I respect your comment but I'd encourage you not to make the looks a primary thing because they change. Character develops and that's what you end up falling in love with even if initially were attracted to the persons looks...
Thank you sis🙏💜 I have a question? Is it possible that your kingdom spouse be someone who doesn't believe in God or maybe He does but not really putting much effort into it or He's just living his life, not attending church. Or simply the guy is not Saved?
Yes but ensure you are hearing from God about this and he confirms . An is not thinking or feelings. In cases like this god usually will use you to draw the person to him.
Attraction- I am attracted to character & personality but I justb do not want to be with a white man. I know there are men of God who are white but it's not for me and I have asked the Lord to help my heart not that's my one thing, I don't want a white man.
It happens with me when it comes to our christian sisters i just dont find them attractive they cannot dress up and look proper i suppose that why many of them are approached by brothers.
@@gordenmg4966 that's good you wont make it in marriage if looks a sooooooooo important to you, is not an issue to desire someone you will be attracted to but one its primary, then you not ready.
'When I see the man... I just want to say glory' 😂😂😂
Yessssess😂😂😂🤣🤣
🤭🤭🤭🤭Hallelujah
Godly Character and physical attraction is both important to me.
Yep thank you for sharing
At age 23 there was a man I had been friends with for 3 years who asked me to marry him. I had zero physical attraction for him. He was a nice guy, had very good Christian character and even the same call that I did on his life but I rejected the proposal. I feel I made the right decision because I don't think it would have been fair to marry him. To this day I am still single and that was a long time ago but it's okay.
It was OK. If he wanted to wait and you guys be friends, he could have done that as well. Till you get yourself together.
I know something, God is true, God is love, God is peace. If you have prayed and you are still not attracted to this person and there is no peace within you, just let him go, he belongs to someone else, and you will surely get another good man.
It's unfair to be in a relationship where the feeling is not mutual
Do true sis! Amen
Luckily for me, physical attraction is at the bottom of my list. My dating history is testament to that as I don’t have a type physically! My dating requirements are very simplistic especially as I mature and I like that. Character and traits are what matter everything else is secondary.
I never liked my Kingdom spouse though I knew him from high school when I saw him years later I couldn't recognize him as he was in a car accident that left him wheelchair bound as I dreamt of him after our encounter God telling me his my k.s I was like what never"Me dating a person on a wheelchair Lord ay😳!! But God continued confirming through random people aswell we eventually dated I couldn't explain why we were together lol Lord did he love me and pray for me and believed in my calling more than I did at the time.I would cry out to God to make me fall Inlove it took months I couldn't even kiss him but today I have a supernatural love for him and his the hottest man I've ever seen honestly my man is good looking I was just consumed by the worldly standards of what I wanted and how a man should look..Just like Busi I was into screw screw boi's growing up 😅I felt he was a bit ghetto for me🤣😂Sorry I couldn't summarize this..
Hey. Thank you for sharing. I’m in the same situation you were in. Like, exactly the same. Mans covers me in love and prayer and pushes me into what God has called me for. Did you end up falling in love with him before or after you got married? I’ve been praying for God to make me fall in love w him and open up my heart to him but I’m still wrestling w my flesh and spirit.
@@cynthiaturya744 Same here. And he is an attractive man. Just not to my liking. I’ve been praying that GOD makes me more attracted to him if he is my KS😩
We are all playing in the same movie😅
Thank you for this video. I am so glad to see that I am not the only who has struggled with this before. It’s really difficult cause you see that the person is a great guy and you just are not physically attracted to them and sometimes you wish you would just find a way to switch on the attraction button 😂somehow but I am learning to be more patient and believe that God won’t want me to be with someone I tolerate. Forever is such a long time for that.
True that ❤️
I finally met my kingdom spouse, I absolutely did not have attraction, but after a while when we were courting I started getting attracted to him. I had no attraction whatsoever & I even told him I actually don't want to be involved yet because I was still trying to search his genuineness for God, our union & still trying to figure out if I'd end up being attracted but gratefully here I am, a year later totally attracted.
This is nice to hear. Question..are you attracted to his physical look as in the things he can’t necessarily change? Or is it more so a strong emotional connection to where you overlook or ignore the physical look ?
@@kaylabennett3149 honestly I think us getting to bond really changed the way I looked at him. It's not that he was not eye catching he was and he still is eye catching but for the preferences that I had back then he wouldn't be someone I chose. when we started to bond his physical features became attractive, like I started to like his smile, I started to like his dimples, you know etc. Lol. Like I started paying more attention to the things I didn't pay attention to and found that those were the things that made him unique & handsome. At this point I think my standards could have possible gotten in the way.
Thank you so much for this video. Ya neh the battle ya Physical attraction VS good character is very real, ka mo ke height issue for some of us who are tall😄, I Pray that God brings that well balanced man honestly... Looks do matter to me but they are obviously not on the top of the list but they count...
I know someone who when the Lord told her who her husband was she actually cried because she wasnt attracted to him , when he finally asked her if they could date and that he has feelings for her she told him she didnt but shell work on it. What helped her was she started praying for him thats how she fell in love with Him.
Theyve been married for 5 years, 3 kids and she always says He has consistently been A gift to her. For anyone in this position pray about it the Lord will turn your heart to be attracted to Him. ❤❤❤
Shu!!! Wow thanks for sharing ❤️
All I can say is that "the Lord will do exceedingly, abundantly, above all that we could ever ask of think".
I personally wrote down a list of things I wanted in my kingdom spouse and trust me when I say that, the man came exactly like that. When I mean every single detail I prayed about, the Lord answered about him.
Also, marriage is not based on the feeling of love but rather a decision you need to make every day.. So there is a difference between love and attraction coz I can love you and not be attracted to you.. (if you get what I'm saying) 😅
But then I also feel like, if you are not attracted from the very start then hhm it might not end well.. coz trust me you might end uo cheating in future, so attraction is important. But the good thing is that attraction can be built over time, you can Google so many things these days that can make you fall in love with someone easily 😅
Me personally. Physically appears means nothing. Stability. Loyalty. Trust. Faithfulness. Love u Sis stay blessed.
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I totally agree❤it’s not the all in all, but it matters that He/ she is attractive to you! A friend of mine once said if we say the physical does not matter then we are also saying our faith in Christ does not matter! Because our Faith is also based on the resurrection of Christ (which was physical) If Jesus was still dead, we wouldn’t be calling ourselves believers/ his followers! Although we are not saved by works, but definitely our faith does include works (which are physical) 😊I hope this makes sense! 😅And lastly, even through out scripture there are certain people who would be described in detail so we get the full picture of their attractiveness, e,g David. 1 Samuel 16:12 “David was "glowing with health and had a fine appearance and handsome features"
Yes the looks are not the basis, but it is a part of the whole pizza😂 “looks”draw you to the person, character keeps you with the person ❤
So well put! Thank you for your input I love it!!!!! I agree 100%
Well said ppl should stop downplaying the importance of physical attraction. It plays a huge part in a marriage
Physical attraction matters to me just like everything else. Im the type that won't look at things just because they/ it doesn't look pleasant. So a lifetime partner is a must look good. However I know that God knows me well enough to bring someone who He knows is perfect for me.
This is to timely. I’d been fighting and struggling with this and decided to text my purpose friendship really about this and she sent me this video and I’m in awe of the intentionality of the Lord for putting this my way at such a time like this. God is still in the business of speaking you guys!
My story is a little different because there’s 2 seemingly kingdom men pursuing me and I’m not attracted to them like that.
But I want to put a stamp to this video and come back with my testimony!
Thank you WOG for being used of God like this. I honor you
Bless you sis ❤️
So happy for the growth of this channel
Side note your hair looks amazing. Thank you for the video
Oh thank you!
Thanks for the advice. Was now thinking I'm too picky. Or too self absorbed. Lord..lead me. You know me Modimo 😊. You know me and what best fits me. Please..lead me Jesus. Thanks❤
So true sis.. He knows you sis. Well
Hey sis, you always have answers to my questions concerning relationships but God knows my heart and He knows the kind of husband i have prayed for since forever, he knows i would love a godly man that is handsome as well, I won't lie, that's what I've always prayed for,and there should be chemistry too. This is the desire of my heart.
Thank you I was struggling with this.
Would love Busisiwe x RorisangT collab😭😭😭❤️❤️ top tier these two🤞🏽🤞🏽
Yessss please 🔥🤣
Sometimes God blinds or shuts down the physical attraction so that we can establish solid friendships, for however long He wishes, and once He activates those physical attractions, it will make sense why it happened that way.
And it could also be that it's not yet time for y'all to meet.
True!
What if we already met and dated? Do you mean like it’s not time to date? Bc I was thinking. Maybe GOD wants us to soley focus on him and his purpose for him then he will bring us back together and I’ll finally be attracted when the moment is right😩
I cannot thank you enough for this. Bless u sister… because for me attraction has been my main problem.
Shu thank you sis!
So glad l subscribed to this channel💯, Thank you for this🥺
Welcome!!🎉 Bless yous sis
You look so beautiful woman of God… God bless your life
“God, you know what I like”
Also when persons say kingdom spouse if your choosing the man or if your allowing god to pick for you that is not fhe same thing . The guy can be a kingdom man but you are making the choice that is different from leaving up to God picking for you it is not the same thing .
Reality check . Your kingdom spouse might not be what you want . Some persons get what they ask for and some persons don't . I would encourage persons to be open minded when it come on fo this so you are not disappointed if fhe person is not exactly what you want or wanted at all .
Very true
We are so used to "movie's love" (love at first sight)😅 but true love is a process and his kindness and special things God put on his character will make you see him as the most handsome man in the universe 😊 Every GOOD and SPECIAL GIFT comes from ABOVE/ James 1
Amen lol so true i expected it be a love at first sight kinda love but God was like no child thats not your story...
😂🤣
So true! Thank you for sharing
Yes,so true what your Saying . As we tend to put physical attraction and chemistry first. As spiritual beings, we need to take it to the Lord, and he will confirm and lead you to where he wants u to be,only if you let him.😉
Ameni!!!
I would rather spend my life alone than ever be with a man who I’m not attracted to. Whether he is on the same holy path or not. Even as I sit wit him in church, I see all the other handsome men and I prefer them instead. Good character really means nothing to me.
Yoh that's deep thanks for sharing sis.. If I can just say sis.. Looks change, sometimes unfortunately someone can get into an accident of some sort and that can change their appearance or they just grow and become different so hmm I respect your comment but I'd encourage you not to make the looks a primary thing because they change. Character develops and that's what you end up falling in love with even if initially were attracted to the persons looks...
Exactly, you have to haclve some type of attraction
This video serves as confirmation to me😊 thank you sisi 😘
I'm so glad!
Still waiting on the video where you tell us what was happening in your husband’s life when you were praying before your engagement
Thank you for this video Lady.
God bless you richly Ma for these inspiring words.
Thanks for watching❤
Love this ❤
I just want to say glory😂😂😂...you is me honey😅😊
Notification gang. Love from Namibia 🇳🇦 ❤️
Hey!!!!! Thank you
Hi my beautiful Mrs 😍. I pray you see this and give me an answer. I really need to talk to you one on one 🙏🙏
Thank you sis🙏💜
I have a question?
Is it possible that your kingdom spouse be someone who doesn't believe in God or maybe He does but not really putting much effort into it or He's just living his life, not attending church. Or simply the guy is not Saved?
Thank you for your question. I will answer it in my next video
Yes but ensure you are hearing from God about this and he confirms . An is not thinking or feelings. In cases like this god usually will use you to draw the person to him.
This! 🙌🏾
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Hi my beautiful woman of God. I pray you see this message because I really need to talk to you one on one 🙏
Hey sis.. Send me an email
@@maboocie Ok thanks so much ❤️❤️. How can i? What's your email address ma?
Attraction- I am attracted to character & personality but I justb do not want to be with a white man. I know there are men of God who are white but it's not for me and I have asked the Lord to help my heart not that's my one thing, I don't want a white man.
Yes, amen
It happens with me when it comes to our christian sisters i just dont find them attractive they cannot dress up and look proper i suppose that why many of them are approached by brothers.
Hmmm..
@@maboocie 😂😂😂 that why we hardly get married as brothers.
@@gordenmg4966 that's good you wont make it in marriage if looks a sooooooooo important to you, is not an issue to desire someone you will be attracted to but one its primary, then you not ready.
❤
Jesus ke ya go gopela😂😂😂
Yes🤣
Woooo
, 😂😂🤣😂🤣 I wonder what you thinking
Christians looks matter to me😢
Lol that's okay
I just want to say glory😂😂😂...you is me honey😅😊
I just want to say glory😂😂😂...you is me honey😅😊
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