One of the best tips I can give people who are insecure is go CONSUME DIVERSE ART! Growing up I loved all things art and history and seeing beautiful plus size women of the Renaisance, Greek statues with small boobs, modern photography with androgynous models be celebrated in the halls of galleries and museums made me realise that beauty is in everyone. If you are exposed to beautiful art with diverse people over time through exposure you start seeing other people and yourself as a work of art created by a unique set of genetics. As an artist myself now I am fascinated by quirky unique features, which is why I'm so sad seeing people getting procedures to look like a boring ideal of beauty. Boring because everyone looks the same not because there's anything inherently bad about it. I'm all for individuality and unique beauty. Love everything you guys are doing 💕💕💕
I 100% relate to the "wait until your 18" scenario. As a teenager all I ever wanted to do was dye my hair bright red. My mom didn't let me. When I became an adult, I only dyed the under part of my hair because I was terrified of ruining my curly hair with bleach. Now I'm 30 and have *never* dyed all my hair and love my natural hair color and will probably never dye my hair even when it goes grey 🧓
Yea I’m glad I never dyed my hair either. Seems like too much money, time, and effort to manage dyed hair- not worth it imo. I’d rather it healthy. There’s also prolly like temporary dye that kids could use instead of damaging their hair so early on.
I love this video. I work as an imaging technologist in the hospital and I can tell you that we scan an uncomfortable amount of botched cosmetic procedures. Most of the time we start the scan and see the abnormality of the tissue and then have to go back in and question the patient until they disclose the truth about this or that injection. Also your face and and skull continues to change and grow as you age. Your body is a fantastically smart and complex system that adapts to that forever changing shape. If you get a nose job in your 20s or 30s your face will in time grow to make it highly disproportionate in a decade or two unless you commit to getting it redone. Its why I laugh at those “what updated face surgery did they do” videos because they often forget to attribute our changing face shapes and fat distribution as we age. I also struggled with insecurity about my chubby cheeks all throughout my adolescence and early adulthood but now that I’m over 30 my “baby fat” is what has helped me looking way more youthful compared to my peers. I’m a huge advocate of not disturbing our natural bodies unless absolutely necessary. I am in awe when I image people day in and day out how much our body adapts to our unique natural makeup and how much goes wrong when we disrupt it (in sometimes necessary ways) with surgery or intervention.
This episode started from very surface-level (literally) to taking such a deep, beautiful turn when you guys brought up the things that really matter - the values that come from within 🙏🏼😭 blessed to have a channel like this on the internet!
Love how down to earth, honest and open you both are! You both are truly inspirational to the youth and younger generations who are held back or even depress by their insecurities. I’m glad to hear you both haven’t had any procedures done and embracing your natural beauty and developing self confidence! I love it and I’m in my early 40’s and still could relate to this deep topic!
I had a surgery done for my gummy smile. The gum were shaved off to make my teeth appear longer and less gummy. However, it's been 3 years now, my mom said my gum grow back to its original. I could do it again to shave it back. But no. Going through the process made me realize how conscious I was about my smile and appearance but people around me did not see the difference. My bf at that time did not notice that my teeth were longer. Mentally, I think my teeth are now longer and not so bad looking
I’m glad as an East Asian I don’t need to jump into this bandwagon. Gollum’s hollow cheek isn’t part of our beauty standard we love our plump youthful cheeks
I am in my 50s so my beauty concerns are different than the average 20/30 year old viewer, but I have never thought about getting plastic surgery on my face. I have thinner lips now than I did when I was younger and have some wrinkles on my forehead, but even the idea of getting filler or botox makes me uncomfortable because I have a needle fear myself. The only procedure I have ever seriously thought about having done is a IPL Photofacial, mostly because I grew up in the 70s and 80s and sunscreen was NOT a thing back then so I have sun damage. I have bought some home use skin care gadgets to try out, like I got a red light LED facial mask 2 years ago- I don't count using them as "procedures" exactly, they are a step above just skincare though.
I think the best beauty advice I've heard was just to look less in the mirror. And waiting is so key! Wait until you're 18, 21, 25 see if you still want THAT thing. Because unless it improves your quality of life (like how braces make your teeth look straighter but they also improve your bite and make it easier to clean), an unnecessary procedure is not gonna make you happier. There's so many things, like even Botox for TMJ where it should be a last resort. There's so many noninvasive therapies to try first.
Totally agree! Don’t stare at your mirror all day, get out and enjoy life! But I also regret no getting braces when I was younger haha. Have an open bite and things are expensive now that I’m in my 20s🥹
Every podcast feels relatable...thank you... it's like I am listening to my bestie... giving me life advice, helping to understand life better, teaching me to accept everything ... harmonize with it... ❤️
Thank you for this video! I could totally relate when you ladies were talking about Aisan beauty standards and how blunt or even mean people are to you. I've gotten so many comments about my weight, but I just don't care anymore. And like RuPaul says "If you don't pay my bills, I pay you no mind." Moreover, my doctor says I'm healthy. I love when people smile :) People's kindness is what I gravitate towards to for sure. And you ladies' cuteness😘
I wish we were more confident in our own skin, our own self. I don’t want to look like anyone else. I want to look like me. We are all so beautiful and unique. I wish that was embraced more. Love, acceptance and beauty all start from and gone from within. ❤
I definitely agree with all your points! I feel uncomfortable voicing this because people take it the wrong way. By all means, do what empowers you. But we shouldn’t give into trends or peer pressure. Even the fact that studies are saying girls are dressing up at a younger age due to the media shoved down their throats. Beauty perceptions have always been warped. This trend is just making it worse. Obviously, it’s a different story when you’re getting work done for medical issues.
You two are so beautiful thankyou for taking the time to put this video together. I think like all trends cosmetic surgeons make money from people buying into them, knowing that eventually the trend will change, that person will come back in order to have it reversed or updated into the next new thing. Ultimately they target your insecurities and keep you as a customer. Obviously this isnt always the case and I know that it can be life changing for some to have cosmetic treatments and more power to you. But as someone who has struggled with my mental health all my life I find myself feeling preyed on by advertisment and have fallen victim to having procedures done and then being permanently disfigured leaving me feeling truley worst. I think there needs to be more laws and legislation around these sorts of treatments being plastered all over social media. It really makes me worry for young women growing up feeling this sort of pressure and honestly at times I feel like it is almost a tool to keep women from reaching our full potential by keeping us constantly focusing our energy on how we look.
I never knew the things they shared about the Korean communities and families, which is why I love watching Ro and Fel! Even though some of what their saying happens with other communities too it is sad to hear that forces you to get thick skin because you can never please your mother 😢
Love this episode! I️ have wanted to get bucal fat removal since whenever I️ first learned about it, but never did because I️ simply can’t afford it right now. I️ appreciate all the points you brought up about different stages in life and how what we don’t love now, our bodies will need in the future. Or even what people have done when they’re young, have come to regret. It changed my perspective and I️ feel so empowered to love myself as I️ am right now. Thank you.
I'm 23 and had never seriously considered any kind of cosmetic procedure until this year. I've had plenty of insecurities throughout my life but I've never felt so tempted to get a fix, especially the ones that are often advertised as temporary and affordable on tt and yt. I think it's also very interesting to see the role instagram has had in making these clinics easily researchable and accessible. I think most ppl used to assume cs was expensive but now that it's so easy to check prices it's like "oh i make that much in one paycheck... I can fix this big insecurity with just one paycheck"
Love that you're talking about these things. I'm in a time in my life that I'm contemplating getting botox but super scared of what it might do to me (physically and mentally). I'm 37 now and my frown lines (11s) are really deep and gets deeper by time because I frown alot, concentrating or not. And so it's becoming an insecurity now especially after going to a party looking alot older than my husband who's just months younger. I mean I get it, nobody really cares and nobody isn't looking but sometimes, I really do care and it makes me feel so insecure. What a beautiful yet complex idea it is to age gracefully, isn't it?
@@ByKristyLin Will try this, thanks so much! Honestly, I'm more scared of it being a gateway to other procedures rather than just this one time so yeah, I agree.
Great points as usual💕 I feel like these days you get almost shamed if you're openly insecure about something about yourself. It's so messed up. Like you're not allowed to say I don't like my nose and rather pretend to be overly confident and love your nose and take all the selfies (and photoshop them after😭). It's a dead giveaway bc then you're actually exposing yourself being insecure. I know our brains are "trainable" and what we think is indeed what we become. I still believe it is more healthy to be vulnerable and honest about your insecurities especially with your closest people. I quite dislike all them fake people faking everything all over the place, especially online. That's why I decided to comment ✌️🥳😁 Love youuuu!!
I think another factor is a lot of people want to live vicariously through others we deem as perfect so when you find out that they’re insecure about something it shatters something within that person. It’s just too common on social media because then people feel the only source of validation is from someone online and not from ourselves. I truly think this is an overlooked thing
Thank you so much for this video, it came to me in the perfect time. I never was pro surgery or Botox or suffering in general to “fix” anything I don’t like about my face or body, but I in a group of people that just talk about that and I was starting to question myself if I should be doing at least a Botox. And no! I don’t, I just need to care care more of my skin, diet and exercise and be happy! Thank you beauties! ❤ love your videos!
Thank you for making a video about an important topic. I feel that the pressures of how we should look are at an all time high. This is especially true for the younger people. I just don’t know how people have the money to do all these procedures. It’s expensive as it is to go to school and to pay off medical expenses when you get sick and list goes on of other expenses. The propaganda on tv and internet are telling us to love ourselves but then they also tell us we need to think of changing ourselves. Confusing!
this may sounds ridiculous but growing up I never feel insecure. I never care about my looks? it's not like I do not take care of my appearance, but it just not my priority. my priority was to be a smart girl. I am more insecure about my intelligence than looks 😂 how strange? maybe bcos i once told that I was stupid so that's kinda trigger me. so i want to prove I can be smart ya know. I never being told as ugly whatsoever. except that I always tall in a girl group. they don't wanna be friends with me bcos I am taller than average girl. but now kinda affect me since I follow kpop. I don't listen to girl group just bcos i like boy group more and their concept. sometimes I wish i have their beauty but it gets tosic when you keep consume kpop content. so i have to be careful and reduce whenever I can. so yeah that's my anecdote on beauty 😃
I am huge follower of you and your ideology as such. But this video took it to next level! I am so glad you guys made this video and put it out there for people to realise a different perspective. You guys touched very sensitive important topics and things that I have major issues about. And I have the insecurity that I am thinking because I entered my 30s and talking like the previous generation. But the truth is the alarming rate of change in the younger generation needs a bit of a check (or not, who am I to say!). Ofcourse there is that line where we give others their freedom to express themselves but also a general sense of concern towards that kind of behavior!
It's so hard for me to watch Gary for some reason. I do watch Lorry Hill and it was kinda mind-blowing the first couple times. Like stuff that I really thought was just aging and working out that might not be just that. And the sad part is that a lot of these people are so naturally beautiful, work was really so unnecessary.
I am using a moisturizer with retinyl palmitate, it is so gentle, I love it and it also has niacinamide, hyaluronic acid, ceramides and hydrolyzed collagen, but since collagen has large molecules, it won't penetrate the skin, maybe it will block other actives to penetrate the skin too. Is it true? or other actives can still penetrate? All I need is the benefits from retinyl palmitate, niacinamide, hyaluronic acid, and ceramides. I am afraid the collagen will block their penetration?
Mine.. i got minor accident during my college years and now, my left nostril cant breath.looks like there's some muscle/fat blocking or doing it..but i dont have the means. Plus now im in my 30s. I got diabetes. I loose too much weight esp my face. My eyes sunken. Dark undereyes etc. I loose fats on hips as well. My skin dried, my hair starts falling. Sagging skin after havkng 2kids...
We may not have sabertooth tigers but we do legit have the cloud of nuclear war possibility hanging over all of us lol Also the other thing that keeps me from being obsessive about anti-aging stuff is seeing soooo many older people that spend so much energy on it and they don't necessarily look good, they just look done.
You are so mature Girls 🤍♡🎐 There are so many things that I want to tell You, but I summarised it with just this one sentence. You really are two big sisters that I can look up to for me & I love You so so much 🤍🤍 So thank You again & again and always take care. Mwaa 🌬🤍🤍
How do you deal with being ugly? I try to distance myself and not paying attention to how I look, but it does affect my confidence. I’ve tried make up and hair and clothes, but I just don’t look good. Thank you.
Hmm I personally don’t think I’m attractive either (flat face, really asymmetrical features, long chin, no strong face structure, open bite, etc) nor do I have good fashion sense or a sought after body. And yes I do feel insecure sometimes, but honestly I think you just have to be patient and learn to love/accept yourself. Sometimes you just gotta say fuck it and rock with what you have. Growing up, I’ve just never compared myself with others, at least visually and physically. I think all my friends are prettier than me, but I don’t think any less of myself because of that. No one has ever called me pretty or ugly. I’ve learned that no one actually gives a fuck about you, in the most respectful way lol. Strangers glance at you for 2 seconds and go on with their day. Your friends and coworkers obviously don’t/shouldn’t care if you’re conventionally pretty or not. Also you probably aren’t as ‘ugly’ as you think you are. Maybe it’s because of what you see on social media? Or the beauty standards in your country. If that’s the case, I suggest to just limit social media usage. Or steer away from beauty influencers. Recognize that beauty is subjective. Everyone is unique. You have one body and you should cherish it. Also look at beauty standards in different countries, from the past and history. You’ll find that standards change so frequently, and basically every single year nowadays. Everything is a trend and some cycle back, so don’t bother with chasing those. I think the key to solving this confidence issue is to first identify what is causing you to not be confident. Is it what I mentioned above? 2) body issues? 3) Don’t know how to style yourself? Some of these are relatively easy or non invasive fixes. 2) if you have a bigger body, try to cut out junk food and snacks, and workout. It can simply be x amount of steps per day or you can try lifting weights. Good for your health as well. 3) if you have money, go to professional hair/fashion stylists or makeup artists. If not (me), learn what type of body shape you have and look up online what types of clothes/colors look good for that specific body type. There are countless RUclips videos that help with this, and which is why RUclips is my fav social media platform. The most informative and least toxic imo. Even better if you are able to find someone with similar looks or body as you. And even easier, ask tips from your friends! Maybe you know someone whose really into fashion/makeup. Ask them to help you out and treat them to a meal or something. More often than not, those types of people will gladly be happy to help someone using their expertise. You’ll gain new knowledge and a friend :) Lastly Idk how old you are, but i feel like the older you get, the more confidence you will have in yourself and less you care about how others see you. Teenage years are def rougher as you’re still growing and going thru puberty, hormones, all that. Another suggestion is to maybe focus more on your hobbies? Or on something where you are more confident in- whether it be painting, cooking, etc. I think that confidence in your abilities will eventually make you confident about yourself overall, even visually. Good luck with this process and wish you the best!
Btw first step in being confident, don’t call yourself ugly😉 I never say that about myself, I just say that im not really pretty or that I’m average, if need be but rarely comes up in any convo lol.
I got Botox twice for my gummy smile. Tbh it didn’t work and now my smile is a little crooked lol. Maybe there’s still a little in there that’ll wear off in time. It’ll be a year in June. I also get laser hair removal but that’s it.
I don't understand how the "average joe" affords these procedures. I can barely afford essential health procedures/medications/treatments let alone more cosmetic ones
It made me so sad to hear Rowena say she wants a white persons nose. I guess I’m considered mostly white lol I’m about 1/4 Korean but the majority of my features don’t show it. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched you guys and admired your features and beauty and wished I looked more like you both. So the last part really hit home with me!
Hiii! Yes - we already have all the episodes up on Spotify and Apple Podcasts! Spotify: bwth.in/itswithinspotify Apple Podcast: bwth.in/itswithinapple Hope this helps! 🥰
One of the best tips I can give people who are insecure is go CONSUME DIVERSE ART! Growing up I loved all things art and history and seeing beautiful plus size women of the Renaisance, Greek statues with small boobs, modern photography with androgynous models be celebrated in the halls of galleries and museums made me realise that beauty is in everyone. If you are exposed to beautiful art with diverse people over time through exposure you start seeing other people and yourself as a work of art created by a unique set of genetics. As an artist myself now I am fascinated by quirky unique features, which is why I'm so sad seeing people getting procedures to look like a boring ideal of beauty. Boring because everyone looks the same not because there's anything inherently bad about it. I'm all for individuality and unique beauty. Love everything you guys are doing 💕💕💕
I 100% relate to the "wait until your 18" scenario. As a teenager all I ever wanted to do was dye my hair bright red. My mom didn't let me. When I became an adult, I only dyed the under part of my hair because I was terrified of ruining my curly hair with bleach. Now I'm 30 and have *never* dyed all my hair and love my natural hair color and will probably never dye my hair even when it goes grey 🧓
right, like some people say "it's just hair" but haircare can suck up so much time and money if you lean into the obsession.
@Kristy Lin also, if you don't like it you will have to wait a LONG time until you grow out that dyed hair ☹️
Yea I’m glad I never dyed my hair either. Seems like too much money, time, and effort to manage dyed hair- not worth it imo. I’d rather it healthy. There’s also prolly like temporary dye that kids could use instead of damaging their hair so early on.
As a 32 Asian European (who will not get anything done!), I REALLY appreciate you two!!!! Will always support you!!
I love this video. I work as an imaging technologist in the hospital and I can tell you that we scan an uncomfortable amount of botched cosmetic procedures. Most of the time we start the scan and see the abnormality of the tissue and then have to go back in and question the patient until they disclose the truth about this or that injection. Also your face and and skull continues to change and grow as you age. Your body is a fantastically smart and complex system that adapts to that forever changing shape. If you get a nose job in your 20s or 30s your face will in time grow to make it highly disproportionate in a decade or two unless you commit to getting it redone. Its why I laugh at those “what updated face surgery did they do” videos because they often forget to attribute our changing face shapes and fat distribution as we age. I also struggled with insecurity about my chubby cheeks all throughout my adolescence and early adulthood but now that I’m over 30 my “baby fat” is what has helped me looking way more youthful compared to my peers. I’m a huge advocate of not disturbing our natural bodies unless absolutely necessary. I am in awe when I image people day in and day out how much our body adapts to our unique natural makeup and how much goes wrong when we disrupt it (in sometimes necessary ways) with surgery or intervention.
You guys always seem so on point with things. I feel like this entire conversation is something I've had with my own friends lately.
The sister energy is everything.
This episode started from very surface-level (literally) to taking such a deep, beautiful turn when you guys brought up the things that really matter - the values that come from within 🙏🏼😭 blessed to have a channel like this on the internet!
Love how down to earth, honest and open you both are! You both are truly inspirational to the youth and younger generations who are held back or even depress by their insecurities. I’m glad to hear you both haven’t had any procedures done and embracing your natural beauty and developing self confidence! I love it and I’m in my early 40’s and still could relate to this deep topic!
I had a surgery done for my gummy smile. The gum were shaved off to make my teeth appear longer and less gummy. However, it's been 3 years now, my mom said my gum grow back to its original. I could do it again to shave it back. But no. Going through the process made me realize how conscious I was about my smile and appearance but people around me did not see the difference. My bf at that time did not notice that my teeth were longer. Mentally, I think my teeth are now longer and not so bad looking
Happy you learned to be more comfortable with ur body and smile! Also gums are important! Ur future will thank you lol
I’m glad as an East Asian I don’t need to jump into this bandwagon. Gollum’s hollow cheek isn’t part of our beauty standard we love our plump youthful cheeks
I am in my 50s so my beauty concerns are different than the average 20/30 year old viewer, but I have never thought about getting plastic surgery on my face. I have thinner lips now than I did when I was younger and have some wrinkles on my forehead, but even the idea of getting filler or botox makes me uncomfortable because I have a needle fear myself. The only procedure I have ever seriously thought about having done is a IPL Photofacial, mostly because I grew up in the 70s and 80s and sunscreen was NOT a thing back then so I have sun damage. I have bought some home use skin care gadgets to try out, like I got a red light LED facial mask 2 years ago- I don't count using them as "procedures" exactly, they are a step above just skincare though.
I think the best beauty advice I've heard was just to look less in the mirror.
And waiting is so key! Wait until you're 18, 21, 25 see if you still want THAT thing. Because unless it improves your quality of life (like how braces make your teeth look straighter but they also improve your bite and make it easier to clean), an unnecessary procedure is not gonna make you happier.
There's so many things, like even Botox for TMJ where it should be a last resort. There's so many noninvasive therapies to try first.
PS scan improve your quality of life even if it’s not medically necessary but the probs are the uncertain outcomes and associated risks 😢
Totally agree! Don’t stare at your mirror all day, get out and enjoy life! But I also regret no getting braces when I was younger haha. Have an open bite and things are expensive now that I’m in my 20s🥹
Every podcast feels relatable...thank you... it's like I am listening to my bestie... giving me life advice, helping to understand life better, teaching me to accept everything ... harmonize with it... ❤️
Thank you for this video! I could totally relate when you ladies were talking about Aisan beauty standards and how blunt or even mean people are to you. I've gotten so many comments about my weight, but I just don't care anymore. And like RuPaul says "If you don't pay my bills, I pay you no mind." Moreover, my doctor says I'm healthy. I love when people smile :) People's kindness is what I gravitate towards to for sure. And you ladies' cuteness😘
I wish we were more confident in our own skin, our own self. I don’t want to look like anyone else. I want to look like me. We are all so beautiful and unique. I wish that was embraced more. Love, acceptance and beauty all start from and gone from within. ❤
I definitely agree with all your points! I feel uncomfortable voicing this because people take it the wrong way. By all means, do what empowers you. But we shouldn’t give into trends or peer pressure. Even the fact that studies are saying girls are dressing up at a younger age due to the media shoved down their throats. Beauty perceptions have always been warped. This trend is just making it worse. Obviously, it’s a different story when you’re getting work done for medical issues.
That buccal fat is gonna save us in our older age- forever baby face :)
I loved this episode! 💛 Personally with how “trendy” plastic surgery has become it has felt almost dystopian 😭
You two are so beautiful thankyou for taking the time to put this video together. I think like all trends cosmetic surgeons make money from people buying into them, knowing that eventually the trend will change, that person will come back in order to have it reversed or updated into the next new thing. Ultimately they target your insecurities and keep you as a customer.
Obviously this isnt always the case and I know that it can be life changing for some to have cosmetic treatments and more power to you. But as someone who has struggled with my mental health all my life I find myself feeling preyed on by advertisment and have fallen victim to having procedures done and then being permanently disfigured leaving me feeling truley worst. I think there needs to be more laws and legislation around these sorts of treatments being plastered all over social media. It really makes me worry for young women growing up feeling this sort of pressure and honestly at times I feel like it is almost a tool to keep women from reaching our full potential by keeping us constantly focusing our energy on how we look.
I never knew the things they shared about the Korean communities and families, which is why I love watching Ro and Fel! Even though some of what their saying happens with other communities too it is sad to hear that forces you to get thick skin because you can never please your mother 😢
Love this episode! I️ have wanted to get bucal fat removal since whenever I️ first learned about it, but never did because I️ simply can’t afford it right now. I️ appreciate all the points you brought up about different stages in life and how what we don’t love now, our bodies will need in the future. Or even what people have done when they’re young, have come to regret. It changed my perspective and I️ feel so empowered to love myself as I️ am right now. Thank you.
I love this episode. I definitely see myself thinking the same through your conversation. Looking forwards to more episodes 💕
The silence in the beginning after the question was asked. Great video as always!
Agree! Thanks for great episode and sharing your hearts, no matter trends!
I'm 23 and had never seriously considered any kind of cosmetic procedure until this year. I've had plenty of insecurities throughout my life but I've never felt so tempted to get a fix, especially the ones that are often advertised as temporary and affordable on tt and yt. I think it's also very interesting to see the role instagram has had in making these clinics easily researchable and accessible. I think most ppl used to assume cs was expensive but now that it's so easy to check prices it's like "oh i make that much in one paycheck... I can fix this big insecurity with just one paycheck"
Love that you're talking about these things. I'm in a time in my life that I'm contemplating getting botox but super scared of what it might do to me (physically and mentally). I'm 37 now and my frown lines (11s) are really deep and gets deeper by time because I frown alot, concentrating or not. And so it's becoming an insecurity now especially after going to a party looking alot older than my husband who's just months younger. I mean I get it, nobody really cares and nobody isn't looking but sometimes, I really do care and it makes me feel so insecure. What a beautiful yet complex idea it is to age gracefully, isn't it?
I would try facial massage and acupuncture first! It has both health and cosmetic benefits, versus Botox might do more harm than good.
@@ByKristyLin Will try this, thanks so much! Honestly, I'm more scared of it being a gateway to other procedures rather than just this one time so yeah, I agree.
Great points as usual💕 I feel like these days you get almost shamed if you're openly insecure about something about yourself. It's so messed up. Like you're not allowed to say I don't like my nose and rather pretend to be overly confident and love your nose and take all the selfies (and photoshop them after😭). It's a dead giveaway bc then you're actually exposing yourself being insecure.
I know our brains are "trainable" and what we think is indeed what we become. I still believe it is more healthy to be vulnerable and honest about your insecurities especially with your closest people. I quite dislike all them fake people faking everything all over the place, especially online.
That's why I decided to comment ✌️🥳😁 Love youuuu!!
I think another factor is a lot of people want to live vicariously through others we deem as perfect so when you find out that they’re insecure about something it shatters something within that person. It’s just too common on social media because then people feel the only source of validation is from someone online and not from ourselves. I truly think this is an overlooked thing
I hate the buccal fat trend so much, i've seen it everywhere all over social media!
My skincare sisters! I love it! Such a heavy topic , but so necessary. I wish you guys were around when l was growing up.
Thank you so much for this video, it came to me in the perfect time. I never was pro surgery or Botox or suffering in general to “fix” anything I don’t like about my face or body, but I in a group of people that just talk about that and I was starting to question myself if I should be doing at least a Botox. And no! I don’t, I just need to care care more of my skin, diet and exercise and be happy! Thank you beauties! ❤ love your videos!
Thank you for making a video about an important topic. I feel that the pressures of how we should look are at an all time high. This is especially true for the younger people. I just don’t know how people have the money to do all these procedures. It’s expensive as it is to go to school and to pay off medical expenses when you get sick and list goes on of other expenses. The propaganda on tv and internet are telling us to love ourselves but then they also tell us we need to think of changing ourselves. Confusing!
this may sounds ridiculous but growing up I never feel insecure. I never care about my looks? it's not like I do not take care of my appearance, but it just not my priority. my priority was to be a smart girl. I am more insecure about my intelligence than looks 😂 how strange? maybe bcos i once told that I was stupid so that's kinda trigger me. so i want to prove I can be smart ya know. I never being told as ugly whatsoever. except that I always tall in a girl group. they don't wanna be friends with me bcos I am taller than average girl. but now kinda affect me since I follow kpop. I don't listen to girl group just bcos i like boy group more and their concept. sometimes I wish i have their beauty but it gets tosic when you keep consume kpop content. so i have to be careful and reduce whenever I can. so yeah that's my anecdote on beauty 😃
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this video needs to get viral.
I am huge follower of you and your ideology as such. But this video took it to next level! I am so glad you guys made this video and put it out there for people to realise a different perspective. You guys touched very sensitive important topics and things that I have major issues about. And I have the insecurity that I am thinking because I entered my 30s and talking like the previous generation. But the truth is the alarming rate of change in the younger generation needs a bit of a check (or not, who am I to say!). Ofcourse there is that line where we give others their freedom to express themselves but also a general sense of concern towards that kind of behavior!
Y’all are so cool-love this format, I feel like I’m hanging out with fraaandz!
I love this podcast. Every point that you talked about is very realistic.
It's so hard for me to watch Gary for some reason. I do watch Lorry Hill and it was kinda mind-blowing the first couple times. Like stuff that I really thought was just aging and working out that might not be just that. And the sad part is that a lot of these people are so naturally beautiful, work was really so unnecessary.
This video is so inspiring feels like i am hugged. Goodthing I was lead to this. Feeling stress lately.
I am using a moisturizer with retinyl palmitate, it is so gentle, I love it and it also has niacinamide, hyaluronic acid, ceramides and hydrolyzed collagen, but since collagen has large molecules, it won't penetrate the skin, maybe it will block other actives to penetrate the skin too. Is it true? or other actives can still penetrate? All I need is the benefits from retinyl palmitate, niacinamide, hyaluronic acid, and ceramides. I am afraid the collagen will block their penetration?
Mine.. i got minor accident during my college years and now, my left nostril cant breath.looks like there's some muscle/fat blocking or doing it..but i dont have the means. Plus now im in my 30s. I got diabetes. I loose too much weight esp my face. My eyes sunken. Dark undereyes etc. I loose fats on hips as well. My skin dried, my hair starts falling. Sagging skin after havkng 2kids...
can y’all do an updated pimple patch review? there’s so many!!!
Thank you for spreading a positive message ❤
We may not have sabertooth tigers but we do legit have the cloud of nuclear war possibility hanging over all of us lol
Also the other thing that keeps me from being obsessive about anti-aging stuff is seeing soooo many older people that spend so much energy on it and they don't necessarily look good, they just look done.
You are so mature Girls 🤍♡🎐
There are so many things that I want to tell You, but I summarised it with just this one sentence.
You really are two big sisters that I can look up to for me & I love You so so much 🤍🤍
So thank You again & again and always take care.
Mwaa 🌬🤍🤍
Great talk. Also, where are your sweaters from? They're so pretty!
I needed this video. Thank you
You hit the Topic 😊. You impressed me as always (although I'm already 45 :-))) )Thank you both for great Podcast. 😘
How do you deal with being ugly? I try to distance myself and not paying attention to how I look, but it does affect my confidence. I’ve tried make up and hair and clothes, but I just don’t look good. Thank you.
Hmm I personally don’t think I’m attractive either (flat face, really asymmetrical features, long chin, no strong face structure, open bite, etc) nor do I have good fashion sense or a sought after body. And yes I do feel insecure sometimes, but honestly I think you just have to be patient and learn to love/accept yourself. Sometimes you just gotta say fuck it and rock with what you have.
Growing up, I’ve just never compared myself with others, at least visually and physically. I think all my friends are prettier than me, but I don’t think any less of myself because of that. No one has ever called me pretty or ugly. I’ve learned that no one actually gives a fuck about you, in the most respectful way lol. Strangers glance at you for 2 seconds and go on with their day. Your friends and coworkers obviously don’t/shouldn’t care if you’re conventionally pretty or not.
Also you probably aren’t as ‘ugly’ as you think you are. Maybe it’s because of what you see on social media? Or the beauty standards in your country. If that’s the case, I suggest to just limit social media usage. Or steer away from beauty influencers. Recognize that beauty is subjective. Everyone is unique. You have one body and you should cherish it. Also look at beauty standards in different countries, from the past and history. You’ll find that standards change so frequently, and basically every single year nowadays. Everything is a trend and some cycle back, so don’t bother with chasing those.
I think the key to solving this confidence issue is to first identify what is causing you to not be confident. Is it what I mentioned above? 2) body issues? 3) Don’t know how to style yourself? Some of these are relatively easy or non invasive fixes.
2) if you have a bigger body, try to cut out junk food and snacks, and workout. It can simply be x amount of steps per day or you can try lifting weights. Good for your health as well.
3) if you have money, go to professional hair/fashion stylists or makeup artists. If not (me), learn what type of body shape you have and look up online what types of clothes/colors look good for that specific body type. There are countless RUclips videos that help with this, and which is why RUclips is my fav social media platform. The most informative and least toxic imo. Even better if you are able to find someone with similar looks or body as you. And even easier, ask tips from your friends! Maybe you know someone whose really into fashion/makeup. Ask them to help you out and treat them to a meal or something. More often than not, those types of people will gladly be happy to help someone using their expertise. You’ll gain new knowledge and a friend :)
Lastly Idk how old you are, but i feel like the older you get, the more confidence you will have in yourself and less you care about how others see you. Teenage years are def rougher as you’re still growing and going thru puberty, hormones, all that. Another suggestion is to maybe focus more on your hobbies? Or on something where you are more confident in- whether it be painting, cooking, etc. I think that confidence in your abilities will eventually make you confident about yourself overall, even visually.
Good luck with this process and wish you the best!
Btw first step in being confident, don’t call yourself ugly😉 I never say that about myself, I just say that im not really pretty or that I’m average, if need be but rarely comes up in any convo lol.
AND get rid of any toxic people in your life😌 if it’s someone related to you or you can’t get rid of, ignore them and close your eyes and ears🙃
love this espisode so much and all the good tips!! 🥰
I got Botox twice for my gummy smile. Tbh it didn’t work and now my smile is a little crooked lol. Maybe there’s still a little in there that’ll wear off in time. It’ll be a year in June. I also get laser hair removal but that’s it.
This was very needed thx
Love this video ❤
You ladies are beautiful just the way you are 💕
❤️❤️ Eastern European culture also has ‘words of critique’ 😃💯
Fungal acne plz
Great great video content ❤❤❤❤ you both are amazing 🥰
Wow I use to wish I had a round face , I always felt less of A girl/woman because of my high cheeks /strong face 😔
I heard this trend actually is caused by a side effect from a weight loss drug all the celebs are using.
The lip injections trend is the worst to me. Most women just look like they have been punched in the mouth. It’s not a good look imo.
I would say wait until your 35!
I don't understand how the "average joe" affords these procedures. I can barely afford essential health procedures/medications/treatments let alone more cosmetic ones
It's normalized and no longer shameful to do -Jack
Im still a teenager
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Instant subscribe! Thanks for this beautiful podcast
*huuuugs* aww welcome!! So excited to be on this journey with you - Fel xx
It made me so sad to hear Rowena say she wants a white persons nose. I guess I’m considered mostly white lol I’m about 1/4 Korean but the majority of my features don’t show it. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched you guys and admired your features and beauty and wished I looked more like you both. So the last part really hit home with me!
Are you guys able to put these podcasts on Spotify🥹
Hiii! Yes - we already have all the episodes up on Spotify and Apple Podcasts!
Spotify: bwth.in/itswithinspotify
Apple Podcast: bwth.in/itswithinapple
Hope this helps! 🥰