The tendency for this issue is to see it in a negative, shame-inducing light. If you’re able to change your perspective to see it as an opportunity to live life with the dignity and respect that Dr. Trish is talking about, you will dramatically change your results. We all deserve to treat ourselves with respect, and not experience the inner shame and turmoil of addiction.
So in summary: 1st Step (3:05) : Start building self-awareness. 2nd Step (3:32) : Transition from seeing body parts to a whole person instead. 3rd Step (5:23) : Establish eye contact. 4th Step (5:40) : If dopamine flow starts, give yourself ONE LONG breath. 5th Step (6:32) : Bring yourself down to reality. 6th Step (7:12) : Stay vigilant on the life that you are creating. 7th Step (8:29) : Stay OFF the slippery slope (the danger zone). 8th Step (9:42) : Get into a group (externalise and talk about it). 9th Step (10:42) : Stay 100% COMMITTED. 10th Step(11:20) : Get a coach. AWESOME video, thank you so MUCH Dr. Trish !!
imagine all this for a thing like this, technology has screwed our lives in many forms, it enriched us with information but it screwed pour psychology, its the age of psychological illness
1 Corinthians 6:18✝️ "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body."
@@jasonwilliams8321 There's a difference between lusting and being genuinely attracted and engaging with them, which leads to being together and having kids. This video is purely about our sexual addiction and lust when we see someone only in a sexual light.
@@chrismccaffrey8256 I agree with you you. What I take issue with is the stupidity of the statement made by Billy Graham which aims to throw a guilt trip on every one dealing with our natural God given gift of sexual attraction. Historically in its teachings the church has always tried to divorce marriage from the sexual attraction aspect. There are some people who can start out with little to no attraction to someone and develop it over time. To others like myself it is an on or off switch. It’s either there or it’s not. Part of the problem is that the church is never quite clear on just what lust actually constitutes. When Christ said that when a man looks upon a woman lustfully he has already committed adulatory in his heart, taken literally would implicate every man whoever walked the face of the earth in that at some point in our relationships we will be considering them as future sexual partners.
Your a blessing and have Christ centered beliefs without naming him .. thank you for helping men & woman that have been hijacked by their own carnal nature or demon influences.. ‼️🔥🔥🙏🏽
Ppl don't understand the demons that we can get unknowingly from our partners.. they could have demons from there old partners or like me I was being cheated on and I'm sure I was getting demon transfer from her and whoever she was cheating with...
It's not just porn either it's media in general society teaches lust even to children... The jezebel spirit is real and I see these little girls wearing clothes that they most certainly should not be wearing... We are partially accountable for the thoughts we provoke and thoughts are powerful this is one of the biggest issues with society
Lust takes practice so in the same way since you have been practicing for so long it's second nature we can also practice saying no to those thoughts.... Practice makes perfect I was addicted to heroin for many years and went to lust for that same feeling only to find that it was as if not more toxic then the heroin... But like heroin it takes time and trial and error to quite because we are all different and we all need to do things the way we need to do them that suits us
A BIG thank you for this video ! Lusting was once a big problem for me for years. Fortunately that is not exactly the case right now. Basically now I'm able to look away, but my mind kinda struggles to do so even after minutes. I hope that these tips help me get over this hurdle and get more in purpose with my life.
You’re welcome. I’m very glad to be able to help you. I’m glad that you have had success in overcoming list and are moving forward. The tips will help you. Rock them out.
@@DrTrishLeighShe said list heeehewwww😂. Me too, I wanna overcome list.. My lust for you babee will never die eawwwwwwwww. Looking all sexy on da internet. You drive me crazy wit Dem purdy lips.. I ain't said nuthin illegal right. I isn't breaking no laws. Just telling yuz how I feel... Bein open an honest... An babee I izz feeliiiinnnn uuuuu❤❤❤😘😘😘
I've experienced both lusting and just noticing women. And let me tell you. Just noticing them is way better. Way better way to live. You have more control over yourself and they have no control over you.
Right on bro - I gave away my power to women for so many years, allowed myself to become seduced so many times. I have a wife now and want to use my power to improve our lives instead.
Just recently discovered your channel! I’m very grateful I did . I am 61 and have had a problem with lusting since my teenage years ! It’s an addiction I realize now how it has controlled my life. I never acted out on it but mentally it controlled me . As a Christian , the shame sometimes was overwhelming. After listening to a few of your videos , I realized even after all this time , it can be defeated . I have prayed for these chains that bind be broken and allow me to be set free! My Lord has done that and I’m thankful. I just want to thank you for helping me to see how harmful and detrimental it is to a person. It changed me, I wasn’t the person I knew I should be, I wasn’t the person people thought I was . That’s over , It’s still a struggle from time to time , but I want to see women as another human being going thru life just like myself. A persons thought life is very powerful! Thank you so much!
Tenha a certeza de que Deus o ama muito. Sou cristão, mais propriamente sou Testemunha de Jeová, e sei que Jeová o ama muito. Apenas pelo fato de admitir essa circunstância da sua vida. Deus é muito maior do que os nossos corações e sabe todas as coisas. De certa forma, você, com a sua experiência, fez-me lembrar o que o apóstolo Paulo escreveu e ficou registado na Bíblia para nossa aprendizagem. Romanos 7:14-25
Met a couple some time ago and the situation made it extremely crazy triggering. Did all the first five steps and they worked! Also broke it down with a close friend(#8). Its a huge step to see that you do not automatically have to be victimized by lust, it can be controlled. Staying off that slippery slope aint easy for me though. I can remember some downblouse incidents from years ago, right back to age 13. Scary stuff. Great discussion Dr. Trish👍👍💗💗💗
Thank you for this video! I just finished day 8 on my no fap journey but the last few days were horrible with lusting after every woman I saw! I was going to give these tips a try because I have been more of a luster/fantasizer than needing to watch porn but this afternoon I began my flatline. I will definitely keep this video in mind as I want to keep those dopamine levels down at a natural level. I had no idea how badly this lifestyle was keeping me from the lifestyle I want. It's a little depressing that I have wasted 40 years on this but I know I won't be wasting anymore!
I have some knowledge, but have used a tragedy to allow myself to fall weak when it comes to lust, anger and other negative spiritual states. While I might feel justified, only I lose. Thank you for bringing an energy of love and true desire to guide and see people recover, even if it does not mean more clients for yourself.
Thanks for this! I need this very much! I used to relapsed because of lustful thoughts. I can let go porn but lustful thoughts is what I struggle the most. At first, why I keep relapsing until I realized it’s because of the things I’ve been thinking about and how I look at other people. I’ll remember this tips! My journey will continue with a better weapon against this nasty habit.
I too struggle with this. I'm not really sure how to fill up all the time that I spent thinking of those things. Not really sure what else to think about.
@sololegit Remember the whole reason why you took up this journey. Remember we have to make up for all those things that we missed due to PMO. Remember that these habits and thoughts are the things that held you back from your dreams, from being the best version of yourself. And man, there's nothing better than actually connecting with another person, it's far powerful than lust or sex.
Well done. If a person truly wants to stop lusting, these steps are excellent to follow. Helps also to have faith in God. Call on the Holy Spirit for guidance and strength. As a man, it’s hard not to look and I catch myself still wandering but…the steps help to pull you back quickly, I have learned a lot but still not there 100% yet.
Hi Trish. I really appreciate your dedication for helping people like me to quit Pornografy from my life. One more time, Thank You so much and God bless all your life long!!!
Your hitting exactly more my issue than porn. I got rid of any type of porn 20 years ago. This has still been my battle and I know it all stems from being sexually abused all of my teenage years. He rewired my brain from a normal teenager to a sex addict. This is exactly the advice I need to hear and apply and I’m going to. It is a process, one day at a time, even down to one situation at a time. Every time you turn away is a little victory. I live in the north where it’s cold half the year and everyone is wearing more clothes. The tough time is summer. I live just blocks from one of the Great Lakes and like to walk down and try to enjoy it when weather is nice. But that is when women are wearing the least clothing. My goal is to still go there and test myself to see if I pass. If I struggle, then I guess I never go to the beach again. This really sucks, I hate this battle. But at the same time I’m determined to beat it because I do want to be a person of integrity. Thank you so much again Dr. for this life changing video 😢
Wow! You just described me to a T. Scary. Been this way since I was a kid looking up the kindergarten teachers dress. Was able to kick drug and alcohol addictions but never this. 63 now and still fighting it but never winning for long.
Yeah so, 1. I am very self aware, 2. it isn't just body parts but the entire person that gets to me, 3. eye contact does help if it's someone you must talk to, 4, 5. breathing and grounding yourself helps if you can also get away from the person, 6. integrity is easier said than done when it comes to this, 7. staying off the slippery slope is why I used to walk around college campus with my head down all the time and why I don't go out except to buy things I can't buy online. Eventually I'll have the freedom to live alone out in the middle of nowhere without this danger, 8. maybe an online text only group could help if I could find one, 9. meh, 10. sounds like a bad idea to pay for something I'm not motivated enough to want to fix in the first place, even if I get to use text only. Easier to get nowhere by being depressed on the internet binging "educational" youtube vids and vent with comments that are toxic enough that no one should bother reading them.
Thanks Dr Trish. I have struggled with lust and porn for many years and feel the shame as being a Christian. Your videos are helpful. This is my first day of trying to be rid of it
Make the even better switch to a home gym! Then it’s just you and your fiancé! I have a home gym and it’s great, I don’t have any(booty) to look at but my wife and she doesn’t get stared at by anyone( but me) lol
Now 70 comments. This video really hit home after work today. With all the comments I think you have found a topic that needs more discussion. Thanks for your work! Here is an example of normal noticing you...I can tell you like the color blue and your blouse looks really good. You kind of camouflage into your room, ha. Your hair, the floor, the road in painting, and the ground under the dancing chicken nuggets almost match the tan stripe in blouse, too. Hmm, I'm seeing nuggets in paintings, better go eat now. Thanks for your videos again. I think you are helping a lot of us.
Those are trees my friend… But I definitely see how the hungry brain could see chicken nuggets 😜. That’s a lot of wonderful noticing. I know, I thought that shirt was cool because it matched my office. You are right this topic needs more diving into.
The brain lights up, Dr. Trish, as the "one ring (the dopamine circle) to bind them all" of Sauron. Frodo feels anxiety with the ring in his pocket as he goes through the world towards Mordor to get rid of it in Mount Doom. So that is when he looks at it to get consolation and that is when Saurons eye spots him. The ring lights up in his eye, in his brain and in Saurons eye. When i feel a worldly lusttrigger, i go "oh, oh, the ring lights up" in three places at least. I remember the whole symbolic of the ring narrative, and it puts me on the alert, towards my brain/flesh, towards the world that triggers, towards "Sauron" who searches me out now. Most helpful narrative to live in. The ring lights up IN the brain....😂 This was some very helpful real good advice, dear doctor. May deer always greet you.
I am posting here randomly so because it looks like a good video. Simply put I hated it and after years of MH treatment I stopped due to my chemical addiction. I now stop also cause I'm older and more mature. Wow this is a good video.
@@ilustradorel-javi5566 Jesus is real brotha he died on cross for your sins and he is willing to forgive u and let u live forever if u trust in him and repent 💯🙏if u don’t believe me just seek him your self u will find out he is real he broke my porn addiction and he can do the same for you
Hi, it is me again. I start watching your channel and you are very professional about it. I guess im looking for a tough talking clergymen who will condemn provocative, individuals who keep sex as part of their arsenal.
I've already watched a lot of your videos. And I'd like to say thanks for your support. However, I noticed those funny trees. I don't know why I consider them funny, yet they are for me. I often wonder if those trees have some connection with a porn addiction, lust, masturbation, or brain. Have they?
Thank you Dr. Leigh. I’m in a 90 day group program with a mentor. Your tips are so profound and new to my world. I am learning so much about myself in my own lust, porn and masturbation addictions.
Only way u can stop lusting and sex addiction by praying and stay in the word of God ask the holy spirit for spiritual strength to overcome this lustful addiction.
Dr Trish! I have been constantly getting this ad from someone called pinnicalofman. Who has very unrealistic and hard to believe claims about quitting porn threw something called the HCT method. Have you seen him before? Are his claims false?
I have heard of him and we are going to be speaking soon about exactly what you are talking about here. He has invited me to record a video with him. So stay tuned. Unfortunately there is no magic formula to get over this stuff quickly. It takes a plan, discipline, and time to rewire your brain.
I think in order to break those habits, you have to, first of all, get DEAD SERIOUS about stopping them. In order to get there, you have to have a realization that this type of reality really hurts you in multiple ways and basically not partially but 100 percent detracts from the life that you want. Any addiction is a self-feeding mechanism, where patterns and even actual neuro connections have been established so without a painful withdrawal, there is no cure. I am talking about sexual addiction here. You have to establish a purpose and goals probably even before quitting; otherwise, it's easy to slide right back into it. Make an effort of developing new interests or stick with the search for interests rather than devolving into bad habits. It's a struggle in the beginning but it should get easier as you slowly change into a different person.
I think in order to break those habits, you have to, first of all, get DEAD SERI... No just dead. You can't stop what makes you a man. Or just a human. She should change her name to Chastity Belt.
this video is great! Only thing missing is how much lust happens online with tinder, instagram and parasocial relationships with celebrities or influencers
Hello, I'm in Nigeria and I need help, please I'm finding it hard to buy the 90 days program because the card we use in Nigeria doesn't support buying from the internet like that.please I want to connect with you,I help
Know what? i failed in Class 10th exams (2006) i went into severe anxiety, SEVERE MIGRAINE, depression, social anxiety, shame, etc etc etc, AND MY PARENTS DIDN'T EVEN THOUGHT TO CONSULT A PSYCHIATRIST, then I started watching PORN which made my mood better (That's what dr trish said, dopamine release to make mood better), resulted in severe anxiety, and OCD, AND INTRUSIVE Thoughts, and guess what STILL PARENTS WERE JUST LIVING THEIR OWN LIVES... MY EDUCATION RUINED, MY CAREER RUINED, HEALTH RUINED.... ETC Rest i myself fought against PORN addiction, and still fighting (I am winning) Thanks Dr trish leigh, your vids motivate us all (Guys save yourself from DEMON PORN)
I am sorry about all your struggles. What are you talk about here is family dysfunction. As the mom of lots of kids I know how difficult it can be to help them through their stuff, but at the same time I never stop trying. I’m sorry your parents couldn’t do that for you. But… I am so glad that you were able to overcome it and are on your way back to rocking out your best life. Thanks for contributing here. I really appreciate it. I’m glad to be able to help you myself. 🙏🏻
The commercials/ ads that have popped up while watching this video have the absolute opposite purpose. Telling men how to flirt and be virile for younger women. Not that those things don't have their purpose within the correct boundaries, but the ads are obviously made to appeal to men's lust.
It can also be sports cars and sports bikes that incite lust... there is a reason why they are often bright red Corvettes and flaming red Ferraris... very difficult to resist coveting after
Dr. You are explaining these complex modern problems in such an amazing and simple way. I am in the early stages of my spiritual journey and your content help’s me stay to focused. Thanks 🙏
Doc your videos helps a lot..I wish i met u in person when i was a kid...I Had been a completely different person ..Really Thank You so much for making these videos You are really helping me in my journey ...And Good Luck for the NGO program doc you are going to change many lives..Best wishes 😊
Dr. Trish I just wanted to let you know you’ve really helped me to get out my must destructible behavior that is my porn addiction and I’m in 4 months in semen retention. I’m now learning to overcome lust and this video helps a lot. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Dr Trish So what is the syllabus ir curriculum of your videos to follow in order to bring about desired result? There are so many I dont know where to start or what order they go in. Please advise.
There is no order here on RUclips. But if you would like a program that takes you through from start to finish I have three levels on my website. You can check them out at the link below. drtrishleigh.com/pbr-programs/
Absolutely… Lust vs Freedom.. I chose freedom… I’ll leave guilt, shame and self loathing for stronger men… I’m free… The biggest stumbling block was the one I didn’t want to let go of…. What a revelation this has been… great work Dr. thank you 🙏🏼 Stay out of strip clubs…. If you hang out at a barbershop 💈 long enough you’re gonna get a haircut…
Especially in summer my " Downblouse " weakness is continually put to the test. I try to focus above the shoulder & not capitulate to my lustful desire. I try ...
I don’t look at a woman if she is not wearing modest, the moment I notice her I just look away and never allow myself to look and trying to avoid interacting with her if possible, it requires time to be used to it but it feels good to challenge yourself like this
Incredible as I was just missing this last puzzle of leaving PMO habbit. I didn't know the word, and so I couldn't find any more information if that this behaviour affected me. I see from myself that if, after going out, I'm able to not lust, I feel a lot better like it would affect me in an identical way as watching porn.
I was shown porn at 10 and have struggled with this ever since thankfully I'm mostly just working on the visual hang time now, please pray for me to stay on the right path.
It seems all of these help videos are targeted toward men using pornography. I’m a man struggling with a woman who’s using “audio-porn” along with a discreet vibrator almost at a constant pace, day and night. It has altered her personality and actions in unspeakable ways yet if I even mention it, she goes completely off the wall? How does a man deal with a woman porn/masturbation addict? She has classic ptsd/OCD symptoms yet vehemently denies any of it?
Thanks Dr Trish, not bragging but I don't believe I have an issue with porn or have had but currently I am in a sexless marriage and listening to a lot of your material is really helping with coping strategies etc, keep it up! Maure cara
Just my opinion, but when I lust after a woman, I'm just fooling myself. Would that woman care about me? Would she actually have sex with me no strings attached? Would I even enjoy her personality during sex? Do I only want mechanistic sex or do I want love and companionship? So, the lust is a form of mental torment that ultimately leads nowhere. That's just my personal experience.
Thank you Dr Trish for your videos of very good advice and information. God bless you. The hyjacker is the dirty rotten devil and his fallen angels demons. They love to capitalize and take advantage of people's tradgeties and misfortunes in life . By the grace and help of God and people like Dr Trish and Pure Life Ministries we can totally overcome and press onto total victory deliverance and freedom from sinful negative addictions and bad habits like Pornography masterbation adultery fornication and other things as well. We have to continually discipline our minds on clean pure possitive thoughts and attitudes. We can achieve our dreams and goals. Holding onto the promises of God and good advice from People like Dr Trish and others.
The tendency for this issue is to see it in a negative, shame-inducing light. If you’re able to change your perspective to see it as an opportunity to live life with the dignity and respect that Dr. Trish is talking about, you will dramatically change your results. We all deserve to treat ourselves with respect, and not experience the inner shame and turmoil of addiction.
So in summary:
1st Step (3:05) : Start building self-awareness.
2nd Step (3:32) : Transition from seeing body parts to a whole person instead.
3rd Step (5:23) : Establish eye contact.
4th Step (5:40) : If dopamine flow starts, give yourself ONE LONG breath.
5th Step (6:32) : Bring yourself down to reality.
6th Step (7:12) : Stay vigilant on the life that you are creating.
7th Step (8:29) : Stay OFF the slippery slope (the danger zone).
8th Step (9:42) : Get into a group (externalise and talk about it).
9th Step (10:42) : Stay 100% COMMITTED.
10th Step(11:20) : Get a coach.
AWESOME video, thank you so MUCH Dr. Trish !!
Thanks for the short summary!
imagine all this for a thing like this, technology has screwed our lives in many forms, it enriched us with information but it screwed pour psychology, its the age of psychological illness
This human brain really appreciates seeing the info visually mapped like that, so thanks chump!
powerful tips
Thank you for the short summary good human. ☺️ @Mauro pavel
1 Corinthians 6:18✝️
"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body."
Yes, be a successful monk and avoid women completely, castrating yourself if possible.
religious mumbo jumbo.
Lusting vs noticing … Billy Graham once said “the first look is not lust; it’s the second look that is lust.”
Thank heavens for that second look. Otherwise none of us would be here.
That's a great way of thinking about it.
@@jasonwilliams8321 sadly, I hope all humans just stop reproduction
@@jasonwilliams8321 There's a difference between lusting and being genuinely attracted and engaging with them, which leads to being together and having kids. This video is purely about our sexual addiction and lust when we see someone only in a sexual light.
@@chrismccaffrey8256 I agree with you you. What I take issue with is the stupidity of the statement made by Billy Graham which aims to throw a guilt trip on every one dealing with our natural God given gift of sexual attraction. Historically in its teachings the church has always tried to divorce marriage from the sexual attraction aspect. There are some people who can start out with little to no attraction to someone and develop it over time. To others like myself it is an on or off switch. It’s either there or it’s not. Part of the problem is that the church is never quite clear on just what lust actually constitutes. When Christ said that when a man looks upon a woman lustfully he has already committed adulatory in his heart, taken literally would implicate every man whoever walked the face of the earth in that at some point in our relationships we will be considering them as future sexual partners.
Your a blessing and have Christ centered beliefs without naming him .. thank you for helping men & woman that have been hijacked by their own carnal nature or demon influences.. ‼️🔥🔥🙏🏽
You’re welcome. I try to stay tapped into spirit if you know what I mean.
Not only Christ but all religion preaches morality, discipline as its core
Love from a Hindu
Ppl don't understand the demons that we can get unknowingly from our partners.. they could have demons from there old partners or like me I was being cheated on and I'm sure I was getting demon transfer from her and whoever she was cheating with...
It's not just porn either it's media in general society teaches lust even to children... The jezebel spirit is real and I see these little girls wearing clothes that they most certainly should not be wearing... We are partially accountable for the thoughts we provoke and thoughts are powerful this is one of the biggest issues with society
Lust takes practice so in the same way since you have been practicing for so long it's second nature we can also practice saying no to those thoughts.... Practice makes perfect I was addicted to heroin for many years and went to lust for that same feeling only to find that it was as if not more toxic then the heroin... But like heroin it takes time and trial and error to quite because we are all different and we all need to do things the way we need to do them that suits us
Avoid drugs and alcohol
and other addictions as well !
Except Psychedelics.. those help break addiction
@@redjonnyboy00 How so?
@@bobcat24 look it up
If you can't avoid those stuffs then you can't quit porn,coz all these addiction are inter related.
thank you Trish! I really appreciate the tough efforts you undertake for the community. My best wishes to you. Keep striving, keep smiling.
How's your English so good?
@@abhishekpatra7954 A little practice and a lot of privilege :)
A BIG thank you for this video ! Lusting was once a big problem for me for years. Fortunately that is not exactly the case right now. Basically now I'm able to look away, but my mind kinda struggles to do so even after minutes. I hope that these tips help me get over this hurdle and get more in purpose with my life.
You’re welcome. I’m very glad to be able to help you. I’m glad that you have had success in overcoming list and are moving forward. The tips will help you. Rock them out.
@@DrTrishLeighShe said list heeehewwww😂. Me too, I wanna overcome list.. My lust for you babee will never die eawwwwwwwww. Looking all sexy on da internet. You drive me crazy wit Dem purdy lips.. I ain't said nuthin illegal right. I isn't breaking no laws. Just telling yuz how I feel... Bein open an honest... An babee I izz feeliiiinnnn uuuuu❤❤❤😘😘😘
You found how to serve others. You are blissed.
I've experienced both lusting and just noticing women. And let me tell you. Just noticing them is way better. Way better way to live. You have more control over yourself and they have no control over you.
Indeed !
Right on bro - I gave away my power to women for so many years, allowed myself to become seduced so many times. I have a wife now and want to use my power to improve our lives instead.
@tmbrtn7107 congrats hope the marriage lasts till the wheels fall off
Just recently discovered your channel! I’m very grateful I did . I am 61 and have had a problem with lusting since my teenage years ! It’s an addiction I realize now how it has controlled my life. I never acted out on it but mentally it controlled me . As a Christian , the shame sometimes was overwhelming. After listening to a few of your videos , I realized even after all this time , it can be defeated . I have prayed for these chains that bind be broken and allow me to be set free! My Lord has done that and I’m thankful. I just want to thank you for helping me to see how harmful and detrimental it is to a person. It changed me, I wasn’t the person I knew I should be, I wasn’t the person people thought I was . That’s over , It’s still a struggle from time to time , but I want to see women as another human being going thru life just like myself. A persons thought life is very powerful! Thank you so much!
Tenha a certeza de que Deus o ama muito. Sou cristão, mais propriamente sou Testemunha de Jeová, e sei que Jeová o ama muito. Apenas pelo fato de admitir essa circunstância da sua vida. Deus é muito maior do que os nossos corações e sabe todas as coisas. De certa forma, você, com a sua experiência, fez-me lembrar o que o apóstolo Paulo escreveu e ficou registado na Bíblia para nossa aprendizagem.
Romanos 7:14-25
Amen!!
Met a couple some time ago and the situation made it extremely crazy triggering. Did all the first five steps and they worked! Also broke it down with a close friend(#8). Its a huge step to see that you do not automatically have to be victimized by lust, it can be controlled. Staying off that slippery slope aint easy for me though. I can remember some downblouse incidents from years ago, right back to age 13. Scary stuff.
Great discussion Dr. Trish👍👍💗💗💗
This is one of the most fascinating channel on RUclips. Thank you for sharing these professional insights!!
🙏🙏🙏
I really wish I had seen this 5 years back when I was 19... Would have led to to continue to love someone more better
I will probably thank you many times again, but you have helped me so much, I can't express how grateful I am to you dr.
Lust is indeed primary the cause, where it all started.
Day 111. I don't remember what pornography is anymore. 😉
Any tips
Congratulations
wow...!!! You are the man!
Today Im on Day 89
WE GOT THIS GUYS!
@@David-sq6ep if I can do 30 days I will be a hero
@@andahtheo4237 YOU CAN MY MAN! I used to relapse every 3 days. After a year. I'm on my way.
Thank you for this video! I just finished day 8 on my no fap journey but the last few days were horrible with lusting after every woman I saw! I was going to give these tips a try because I have been more of a luster/fantasizer than needing to watch porn but this afternoon I began my flatline. I will definitely keep this video in mind as I want to keep those dopamine levels down at a natural level. I had no idea how badly this lifestyle was keeping me from the lifestyle I want. It's a little depressing that I have wasted 40 years on this but I know I won't be wasting anymore!
One important thing to remember is lust is not love. Lust says make ME happy. Love says I want to make YOU happy.
I have some knowledge, but have used a tragedy to allow myself to fall weak when it comes to lust, anger and other negative spiritual states. While I might feel justified, only I lose. Thank you for bringing an energy of love and true desire to guide and see people recover, even if it does not mean more clients for yourself.
There is beautiful insight into this comment. I just made a video about this topic that will be out soon today. Look for it… It might help you.
@@DrTrishLeigh thank you Dr Trish, in just a few days your videos have helped a lot. I will look out for it.
Thanks for the advice I will definitely put your advice into action cause I struggle with porn addiction
Hi friend. It will help. 🙌❤️🩹🙅♀️
Thanks for this! I need this very much! I used to relapsed because of lustful thoughts. I can let go porn but lustful thoughts is what I struggle the most. At first, why I keep relapsing until I realized it’s because of the things I’ve been thinking about and how I look at other people. I’ll remember this tips! My journey will continue with a better weapon against this nasty habit.
I too struggle with this. I'm not really sure how to fill up all the time that I spent thinking of those things. Not really sure what else to think about.
@@sololegit I recommend watching Jordan Peterson's Bible lectures series. Very thought-provoking, life-changing, and therapeutic.
@sololegit Remember the whole reason why you took up this journey. Remember we have to make up for all those things that we missed due to PMO. Remember that these habits and thoughts are the things that held you back from your dreams, from being the best version of yourself. And man, there's nothing better than actually connecting with another person, it's far powerful than lust or sex.
Well done. If a person truly wants to stop lusting, these steps are excellent to follow. Helps also to have faith in God. Call on the Holy Spirit for guidance and strength. As a man, it’s hard not to look and I catch myself still wandering but…the steps help to pull you back quickly, I have learned a lot but still not there 100% yet.
Great videos! Thank you Dr. Trish!
Hi Trish. I really appreciate your dedication for helping people like me to quit Pornografy from my life. One more time, Thank You so much and God bless all your life long!!!
Your "matter of fact" approach makes me always return.
I'm really thankful for your solid counsel
Thanks for this Dr. Trish!
Great tips. Thanks for the reminder!
Your hitting exactly more my issue than porn. I got rid of any type of porn 20 years ago. This has still been my battle and I know it all stems from being sexually abused all of my teenage years. He rewired my brain from a normal teenager to a sex addict. This is exactly the advice I need to hear and apply and I’m going to. It is a process, one day at a time, even down to one situation at a time. Every time you turn away is a little victory. I live in the north where it’s cold half the year and everyone is wearing more clothes. The tough time is summer. I live just blocks from one of the Great Lakes and like to walk down and try to enjoy it when weather is nice. But that is when women are wearing the least clothing. My goal is to still go there and test myself to see if I pass. If I struggle, then I guess I never go to the beach again. This really sucks, I hate this battle. But at the same time I’m determined to beat it because I do want to be a person of integrity. Thank you so much again Dr. for this life changing video
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Good luck brother in Islam we are told to lower our gaze as men, that alone can fix it all
porn addiction ≠ lust 🤦
Why not say, 'hi sister', and then respect for her is established.
Wow! You just described me to a T. Scary. Been this way since I was a kid looking up the kindergarten teachers dress. Was able to kick drug and alcohol addictions but never this. 63 now and still fighting it but never winning for long.
This is one of the root problems. Impulse control
Internet is another root
True
Am recovering from porn addiction
Yes impulse control. But thats it. Control your impulses but there is nothing wrong with getting an impulse.
Thank you, your videos are a huge assistance on this journey
I really learned a lot about my self with this video. Thank you so very much.
God bless you.
Yeah so,
1. I am very self aware,
2. it isn't just body parts but the entire person that gets to me,
3. eye contact does help if it's someone you must talk to,
4, 5. breathing and grounding yourself helps if you can also get away from the person,
6. integrity is easier said than done when it comes to this,
7. staying off the slippery slope is why I used to walk around college campus with my head down all the time and why I don't go out except to buy things I can't buy online. Eventually I'll have the freedom to live alone out in the middle of nowhere without this danger,
8. maybe an online text only group could help if I could find one,
9. meh,
10. sounds like a bad idea to pay for something I'm not motivated enough to want to fix in the first place, even if I get to use text only. Easier to get nowhere by being depressed on the internet binging "educational" youtube vids and vent with comments that are toxic enough that no one should bother reading them.
Thanks Dr Trish. I have struggled with lust and porn for many years and feel the shame as being a Christian. Your videos are helpful. This is my first day of trying to be rid of it
Bless you brother. The struggle is real, but so is the solution 😀.
My fiance and I go to a small box gym instead of the big box gyms that the show-offs go to. This has helped avoid lust.
Wow, amen, wise shift!
Make the even better switch to a home gym! Then it’s just you and your fiancé! I have a home gym and it’s great, I don’t have any(booty) to look at but my wife and she doesn’t get stared at by anyone( but me) lol
@@Jacobtaylor1775 First I need a sufficiently sized home to do that.
@@Jacobtaylor1775 AMEEEEEEEN Jacob. Enjoy each other to the fullest. I pray the best romantic quality marriage for you two 🏋♀️👫😁
@@zeal4god402 Thanks! I appreciate that! Thank God for His grace!
You are amazing Dr Trish!!! Thank you!! 😍
Huge Respect for the impact your making in the world. We've been waiting for you.
Great vid.
Thanks Dr. Trish
You’re welcome, my friend. 🙌🙅♀️
Great Great Video!! ❤️
Now 70 comments. This video really hit home after work today. With all the comments I think you have found a topic that needs more discussion. Thanks for your work!
Here is an example of normal noticing you...I can tell you like the color blue and your blouse looks really good. You kind of camouflage into your room, ha. Your hair, the floor, the road in painting, and the ground under the dancing chicken nuggets almost match the tan stripe in blouse, too.
Hmm, I'm seeing nuggets in paintings, better go eat now.
Thanks for your videos again. I think you are helping a lot of us.
Those are trees my friend… But I definitely see how the hungry brain could see chicken nuggets 😜.
That’s a lot of wonderful noticing. I know, I thought that shirt was cool because it matched my office.
You are right this topic needs more diving into.
The brain lights up, Dr. Trish, as the "one ring (the dopamine circle) to bind them all" of Sauron. Frodo feels anxiety with the ring in his pocket as he goes through the world towards Mordor to get rid of it in Mount Doom. So that is when he looks at it to get consolation and that is when Saurons eye spots him. The ring lights up in his eye, in his brain and in Saurons eye. When i feel a worldly lusttrigger, i go "oh, oh, the ring lights up" in three places at least. I remember the whole symbolic of the ring narrative, and it puts me on the alert, towards my brain/flesh, towards the world that triggers, towards "Sauron" who searches me out now. Most helpful narrative to live in. The ring lights up IN the brain....😂 This was some very helpful real good advice, dear doctor. May deer always greet you.
I am posting here randomly so because it looks like a good video. Simply put I hated it and after years of MH treatment I stopped due to my chemical addiction. I now stop also cause I'm older and more mature. Wow this is a good video.
A great video on lust Dr Trish. I keep away from the beach,as girls bathers are so brief
Jesus can give us the strength to overcome lust 💯🙌
Amen
Old age works too. Lol.
really, the doctor "liked" this comment? This is a huge red flag for me. Encouraging "Jesus" as a self-awareness and self-control method is fuckt up.
@@ilustradorel-javi5566 Jesus is real brotha he died on cross for your sins and he is willing to forgive u and let u live forever if u trust in him and repent 💯🙏if u don’t believe me just seek him your self u will find out he is real he broke my porn addiction and he can do the same for you
@@Bsalazar9877 I'll seek him if you seek the word of Darwing!
Great video! ❤️
9:43 - i was told by Dr Robert Glover to talk about my shame in a group setting.
What groups do you guys recommend?
I go to a group called Celebrate Recovery. I got my 4 month no porn chip yesterday. It’s a Christian group and it’s been great.
Atheist groups.
Don’t listen to that muppet!
Your videos have helped my tremendously.
Hi, it is me again. I start watching your channel and you are very professional about it. I guess im looking for a tough talking clergymen who will condemn provocative, individuals who keep sex as part of their arsenal.
I come here to quit porn addiction.
And what I got?
An addiction to this channel:)
Yes! Welcome to the journey 💪
Very well said thank you
I've already watched a lot of your videos. And I'd like to say thanks for your support. However, I noticed those funny trees. I don't know why I consider them funny, yet they are for me. I often wonder if those trees have some connection with a porn addiction, lust, masturbation, or brain. Have they?
Thank you Dr. Leigh. I’m in a 90 day group program with a mentor. Your tips are so profound and new to my world. I am learning so much about myself in my own lust, porn and masturbation addictions.
After doing 6+ years in prison… it’s so hard not to lust after an attractive woman, but I strive every day. 😅
Only way u can stop lusting and sex addiction by praying and stay in the word of God ask the holy spirit for spiritual strength to overcome this lustful addiction.
Thank you; you have amazing insight! 🎉
I wish Dr. Trish was my personal coach.
Dr Trish! I have been constantly getting this ad from someone called pinnicalofman. Who has very unrealistic and hard to believe claims about quitting porn threw something called the HCT method. Have you seen him before? Are his claims false?
I have heard of him and we are going to be speaking soon about exactly what you are talking about here. He has invited me to record a video with him. So stay tuned.
Unfortunately there is no magic formula to get over this stuff quickly. It takes a plan, discipline, and time to rewire your brain.
I think in order to break those habits, you have to, first of all, get DEAD SERIOUS about stopping them. In order to get there, you have to have a realization that this type of reality really hurts you in multiple ways and basically not partially but 100 percent detracts from the life that you want. Any addiction is a self-feeding mechanism, where patterns and even actual neuro connections have been established so without a painful withdrawal, there is no cure. I am talking about sexual addiction here. You have to establish a purpose and goals probably even before quitting; otherwise, it's easy to slide right back into it. Make an effort of developing new interests or stick with the search for interests rather than devolving into bad habits. It's a struggle in the beginning but it should get easier as you slowly change into a different person.
Love it. You are sooooo right. Thanks for the comment.
I think in order to break those habits, you have to, first of all, get DEAD SERI... No just dead. You can't stop what makes you a man. Or just a human. She should change her name to Chastity Belt.
People can "change into different people"? Sounds like perception altering reality and social engineering. That's sociopath stuff.
this video is great! Only thing missing is how much lust happens online with tinder, instagram and parasocial relationships with celebrities or influencers
Cultivating self control yields many fruits...
How is this video free? Thanks Doc
I am here to help.
@@DrTrishLeigh Love from Trinidad 🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹
Thanks Dr. Trish!
Whatever you are saying is absolutely true 💯
Wow. Thank you so much. Lovely lady.
Thanks for doing the good work of sharing these tools with us, in the community of recovering people from these horrible conditions. ❤️🩹
1st step is to look away from something that is lustful
Hello, I'm in Nigeria and I need help, please I'm finding it hard to buy the 90 days program because the card we use in Nigeria doesn't support buying from the internet like that.please I want to connect with you,I help
As a Christian I'm gonna quit porn today
Know what? i failed in Class 10th exams (2006) i went into severe anxiety, SEVERE MIGRAINE, depression, social anxiety, shame, etc etc etc, AND MY PARENTS DIDN'T EVEN THOUGHT TO CONSULT A PSYCHIATRIST, then I started watching PORN which made my mood better (That's what dr trish said, dopamine release to make mood better), resulted in severe anxiety, and OCD, AND INTRUSIVE Thoughts, and guess what STILL PARENTS WERE JUST LIVING THEIR OWN LIVES... MY EDUCATION RUINED,
MY CAREER RUINED, HEALTH RUINED.... ETC
Rest i myself fought against PORN addiction, and still fighting (I am winning)
Thanks Dr trish leigh, your vids motivate us all
(Guys save yourself from DEMON PORN)
I am sorry about all your struggles. What are you talk about here is family dysfunction. As the mom of lots of kids I know how difficult it can be to help them through their stuff, but at the same time I never stop trying. I’m sorry your parents couldn’t do that for you.
But… I am so glad that you were able to overcome it and are on your way back to rocking out your best life. Thanks for contributing here. I really appreciate it. I’m glad to be able to help you myself. 🙏🏻
@@DrTrishLeigh thank you so much doctor
Thank you Dr Trish Leigh
The commercials/ ads that have popped up while watching this video have the absolute opposite purpose. Telling men how to flirt and be virile for younger women. Not that those things don't have their purpose within the correct boundaries, but the ads are obviously made to appeal to men's lust.
It can also be sports cars and sports bikes that incite lust... there is a reason why they are often bright red Corvettes and flaming red Ferraris... very difficult to resist coveting after
Dr. You are explaining these complex modern problems in such an amazing and simple way. I am in the early stages of my spiritual journey and your content help’s me stay to focused. Thanks 🙏
Doc your videos helps a lot..I wish i met u in person when i was a kid...I Had been a completely different person ..Really Thank You so much for making these videos You are really helping me in my journey ...And Good Luck for the NGO program doc you are going to change many lives..Best wishes 😊
Dr. Trish I just wanted to let you know you’ve really helped me to get out my must destructible behavior that is my porn addiction and I’m in 4 months in semen retention. I’m now learning to overcome lust and this video helps a lot. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You're telling people it's unhealthy to masturbate more than twice a week. No medical doctor would say this.
What program will help overcome it completely?
Dr Trish
So what is the syllabus ir curriculum of your videos to follow in order to bring about desired result? There are so many I dont know where to start or what order they go in. Please advise.
There is no order here on RUclips. But if you would like a program that takes you through from start to finish I have three levels on my website. You can check them out at the link below.
drtrishleigh.com/pbr-programs/
Absolutely… Lust vs Freedom.. I chose freedom… I’ll leave guilt, shame and self loathing for stronger men… I’m free… The biggest stumbling block was the one I didn’t want to let go of…. What a revelation this has been… great work Dr. thank you 🙏🏼
Stay out of strip clubs…. If you hang out at a barbershop 💈 long enough you’re gonna get a haircut…
Meditation also helps
Especially in summer my " Downblouse " weakness is continually put to the test. I try to focus above the shoulder & not capitulate to my lustful desire. I try ...
Don't let the Booba control you, control it!
I don’t look at a woman if she is not wearing modest, the moment I notice her I just look away and never allow myself to look and trying to avoid interacting with her if possible, it requires time to be used to it but it feels good to challenge yourself like this
Incredible as I was just missing this last puzzle of leaving PMO habbit. I didn't know the word, and so I couldn't find any more information if that this behaviour affected me. I see from myself that if, after going out, I'm able to not lust, I feel a lot better like it would affect me in an identical way as watching porn.
That's exactly what I thought. Lusting induces PMO and vice-versa. So underestmated, but so important.
Same here
Is lusting/fantasizing over someone ure with also a bad thing?
Dr. You are totally legit
Thanks!
Do you charge being a coach.. if not would you mind to help.
I was shown porn at 10 and have struggled with this ever since thankfully I'm mostly just working on the visual hang time now, please pray for me to stay on the right path.
Sometimes I feel betrayed by the saying that "Relationships are made in Heaven". When can i be able to find the girl of my life?? I'm already 29.
It seems all of these help videos are targeted toward men using pornography. I’m a man struggling with a woman who’s using “audio-porn” along with a discreet vibrator almost at a constant pace, day and night. It has altered her personality and actions in unspeakable ways yet if I even mention it, she goes completely off the wall? How does a man deal with a woman porn/masturbation addict? She has classic ptsd/OCD symptoms yet vehemently denies any of it?
What you are saying is for me as a disabled man is wrong to lust after something ill never have?
Lust not so much a problem but getting distracted is or even wanting to be distracted is a problem for many men.
Agreed. Especially in today’s day and age.
Thanks Dr Trish, not bragging but I don't believe I have an issue with porn or have had but currently I am in a sexless marriage and listening to a lot of your material is really helping with coping strategies etc, keep it up! Maure cara
But it is completely normal, why should we stop it?
Just my opinion, but when I lust after a woman, I'm just fooling myself. Would that woman care about me? Would she actually have sex with me no strings attached? Would I even enjoy her personality during sex? Do I only want mechanistic sex or do I want love and companionship? So, the lust is a form of mental torment that ultimately leads nowhere. That's just my personal experience.
something to play with on taking 1 or 2 conscious breaths, inhale fully to a 4 count, hold for 7 counts, exhale for 8 counts.
Love your content! You're saving lives Dr Trish
Could you write the various points underneath the video for study next time? This will assist your subscribers to learn better! Thanks and good work!
Thank you Dr Trish for your videos of very good advice and information. God bless you. The hyjacker is the dirty rotten devil and his fallen angels demons. They love to capitalize and take advantage of people's tradgeties and misfortunes in life . By the grace and help of God and people like Dr Trish and Pure Life Ministries we can totally overcome and press onto total victory deliverance and freedom from sinful negative addictions and bad habits like Pornography masterbation adultery fornication and other things as well. We have to continually discipline our minds on clean pure possitive thoughts and attitudes. We can achieve our dreams and goals. Holding onto the promises of God and good advice from People like Dr Trish and others.
I do eye contact and move on. It's great
You have my admiration for addressing the elephant in the room
How would you relate all of this to what Jesus says in Matt. 5:27-28?
我真的很感谢你，让我大彻大悟，让我了解到了色情的危害，thanks