luckily I have escaped, I have stopped using my phone 24/7 rather I only use my phone for an hour every day. However when im at school it bothers me when I try to talk to my friends and they are barely even listening because of their phones. Its also sad how some people just cant live without technology. As I was walking down the stairs at my school I took a few moments to look at my everyone around me and oh god, there were so much heads looking down at a screen. In my case I just want to talk to someone and have them actually pay me their attention rather than giving 50% of their attention; You are right, we area society of addicts and it honestly sucks that people just cant get off of technology.
I’m a young person. And lately I’ve decided to limit my phone use more and focus more on my surroundings. I noticed the same, everyone glued to their phone like a zombie.
@@joso7228 That’s different. I use RUclips for old movies and tv shows I like and for entertainment and for knowledge, history. My screen name is fake so no one knows the real me and I don’t post pics or anything about my private life on it. To me it’s really no different than Netflix.
It all changed around 2008. All in all I really prefer the 90s and the early 00s. But I doubt society will be able to go back to that incredible mindset we had! Internet was great too.
Even adults who are in their mid 40s to mid 50s that recently got the hang of using a smartphone, are busy with spending time with their "smartphones" Adults that grew up without technology and have changed their "button style phones" to their first smartphones have slowly become more antisocial, less attentive towards "family affairs" and started developing "going sleep late and disbanding early rise routine" behaviours! Adults in their late 40s in present time, are the last link to the "pre internet" lifestyle era. But I don't blame them, when their grandparents are glued to device screens (every available moment), their children busy with their own family, those adults feel isolated and with technology leaving out no prisoners..... They too have become addictive!
@Endless Nameless But then again at least some of us are beginning to realize the effects of social media, yes I know we are on a platform right now, but the fact we are discussing the harmful use of it is really good. I've begun to stop and look around just to see how glued we are to this fantasy world.
@Endless Nameless Exactly! I think RUclips is a very good platform, not only for being informative but also the potential to solve world issues. Reddit/RUclips is where you will find very intelligent people, not the attention seekers. Me personally I gather information or listen to music and discuss things I'm interested in, which I think is very healthy.
@Endless Nameless For sure, I think that if those kinds of toxic social media never existed, the world would be a much happier place. And thank you very much my friend, it was a pleasure to chat.
Spot on! It was around 2008. That was also the time the internet was able to be used on smart phones and that’s what really killed it for all of us. When you had to log onto your big pc at home it was fun and you made an effort with things online. Now it’s on phones everything is just the same. Life is extremely boring compared to growing up in the 80s and 90s. I find life so weird and empty now. It’s like I’m living but not really living.
and fostered the most fertile environment that ever existed for the rise and rise of the narcissist, who of course are totally lacking in any ability to feel empathy
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You have to go outside and talk to people make new friends. Because a lot people won’t admit they use it for boredom or loneliness. And a lot of the information on the internet is false.
ActuaIIy, the absoIute worst part about it is that you feeI that you’re constantIy being watched when you’re outside and can *bareIy* get away with anything
@@voiceofreason2691 Especially if someone got mad at you, like a parent, friend, or partner and you feel all guilty or attacked. Or if your brain brings up cringy memories of things you've done or said in the past, or other random thoughts that are weird, kinda bizarre and maybe gross. It just feels like everybody's watching you, looking at you with shame or what not, even though they aren't. Heck there may not even be anybody outside. I guess its worse for people with an "imaginary audience", which is a real phycological phenomenon.
Man, I feel sorry for kids being raised on social media. Being in middle school, high school, and always comparing yourself to other people was tough back then. Today, there's no escape from it because of social media. It's constant. And god, the freedom of being able to go to a show and not feel compelled to film it. Of not worrying about missed calls, texts, of just being able to disconnect. Those days are gone forever
It's a terrifying thought that for many kids their online identities hold more weight than their in-person identities within their social circles. We're in new territory. But the negative effects already being observed are already having major implications for modern human interaction. It will likely get worse before people 'en masse' start to wise up and change their digital hygiene to set healthy boundaries for themselves.
I don’t know man, I have really been thinking about ditching my iPhone and going back to a flip phone. Just because time has a way of changing things that doesn’t mean that we have to change with it. I really wish that I could get back all of the time that I wasted on social media trying to connect with people WHO NEVER CARED ABOUT ME.
@@jt3409 Often times, the ones who care the most are the ones who choose to be right there with you. And even better, it's way more fun to interact with them in person than online anyways. Bonus of making the downgrade to an old school flip phone. Physical keys 🤣
Yeah, friends nowadays don't even knock on doors or even call to let em know anymore. They text it or throw that all together and meet in online lobbies nowadays. Physical interaction is disappearing with every passing age
Yeah I’m in high school without social media and it’s weird to see how many conversations are based off what’s going on in social media. When people talk about it it’s like I can’t say anything. All the sports teams I’m on have social media group chats that I’m not on which people talk on and I feel like I’m missing out on something I don’t even want. These companies make it very hard to stay away and I’m worried for my generation.
I’m 20 now and feel so out of touch with my generation cause I don’t use social media anymore (except RUclips) and don’t go with the trends but I am much happier without it and has def cured my depression. God bless all of you and stay safe
Being born in 1999, anyone within my age range will understand the before and after effect of technology and what it has done to us. We can still solve the problem, it's up to us to make the change and fix the errors
Right? People use to actually believe in love and want to make it work. Men were more gentlemen-like and women knew their roles well. Now everything has gone to crap.
I did 8 years without any form of social media, I re-joined in 2020 and for the past 2 years it has utterly controlled my life! I physically felt addicted and could spend hours scrolling and watching stupid videos. It’s given me self hatred about the way I look and feelings I’m not good enough. I became obsessed with taking photos of everything. I mean seriously even cups of coffee! What the heck! My sleep has suffered! I’ve felt low in mood… I’ve DELETED the lot of it again & I will not ever go back on it again. It’s dangerous and I’m done with it.
Yeah well 8 years of not using social media is unhealthy too. Because that is too long to not use social media. Like you could've live in a cave like off the grid and never use it would also be unhealthy too. But I will always use social media because I can always watch The Ultimate Fighter on here forever and that will be great.
Lol cups of coffee is one of the most pictured objects in social media, you really got me LMAO bc your 8 year off them sounds pretty authentic. Im glad to say last time I took a coffee a picture was in 2018.
Go for your goals. There really isn't much competition because everyone's worried about their digital identity instead of reality. That leaves people with awareness like me and you with an advantage.
That’s an interest perspective. I agree but I’d say I was discriminated against in my job because I was seen as one who wasn’t embracing new technology’. Kind of funny because it was me who pioneered a lot of it in my workplace.
My line of thinking too. The world is now 90% re***ded, that's my "competition" and i'm cool with that, i'll go at 20% effort and that'll still be better than most peoples' 100%.
The problem with being present with the people around you is that, even if you try, those people will still be on their phones every 2 minutes. Then you become bored and/or uncomfortable and what do you do, go for your phone. I honestly have no idea how the world will start twisting this around.
Very well put. This is a sad truth right here, and I've had that exact same experience as well. You decide to metaphorically "disconnect from the matrix" while you're at lunch with your friends. Only to realize how lonely it is since everyone else is still "plugged in." I'm not sure exactly how the problem will turn on its head. But just like how social media platforms only work once they hit a critical mass of users - I also think more people will choose to disengage from the massive amount of time they spend on their digital life, and then re-engage with the people around them once more and more people begin to do it as well. I guess you could see it as, reaching critical mass for the social media platform that is Real Life 🤣 Although one tip I've found helpful with my own friends. If we're going out for dinner or spending some time hanging out. Trying to set the precedent beforehand that everyone should try to avoid their phones and be present for the people around them really does seem to make a difference in the short term.
Yes 😔 It's so frustrating trying to do anything with friends, anymore. I've had game nights where it was someone's turn and they're zoned out on their phone, not even paying attention. Or we're trying to watch a show and they're on tiktok instead. What has happened??
@@JordanDrewVideos You forgot the part where you get labelled a social-pariah and ostracized from the group for daring to say they should be doing the activity THAT THEY SHOWED UP FOR instead of just playing hearthstone and other psychologically manipulative gatcha-games the entire time instead.
@@thewingedpotato6463 my ex was so absolutely addicted to her phone to the point where I actually had to tell her if it didn't change we wouldn't work out. Sure enough we didn't.. and that is one of the reasons why
I’m so thankful my entire childhood was without computers, Internet etc.. we had our friends and lots of outdoor activities.. exploring the world around us made me ready for adulthood.
Me too. Ran wild in the countryside making dens and hideouts, playing with whatever I found and using my imagination. My life now is full of hobbies and practical interests, making and mending things. I have a zero social media presence and am as happy as I've ever been. 🇬🇧
The youth of today will be ready for a different kind of adult-hood. Don't get stuck in thinking there's only one way to be brought up. Just a generation before yours and there were different measures to readiness for adulthood and if you follow that trajectory back to caveman times then your youth would have been viewed as severely inadequate.
@@coffee-lp8iv That's a good point - I grew up without social media as well, and I remember that people had similar complaints and worries about the technological addictions people had back then as they do today, albeit it was expressed differently for the technology of it's time (television and older video games were the vice of choice for kids and adults while I was growing up, and video games at the time were one of many things that was scapegoated to blame for how most troubled kids behaved, same with what happened with comicbooks and rock-and-roll). I have family that grew up during the heights of The Counter-Culture Movements, the Civil Rights Movements, and the Cold War Era, and they were also big time-periods of technological advances and great changes to social climates where Gretest Generation families worried about how their Baby Boomer kids would be raised into adulthood too (same with how generations before them felt as well).
I really hate social media, I don't like taking time from the real world in order to use it nor I like seeing other people's mindless posts. I just use it to learn new things or watch content creators.
I completely agree. I think that approaching it from that perspective of learning new things, or finding content from other creators, helps strike that balance really well - because then it at least provides a net benefit. That's what I've reduced to using it for as well.
@John J Keaveney Hey John, thanks for stopping by! I think that the end of the video agrees with your contention here. Social media is just a new challenge that has both its positives right along with it's negatives. No need to lose hope in humanity at all. Social media likely won't be the end of the world, but there definitely will be ways that we will adapt our society to minimize the negative impacts that we're uncovering as the technologies develop and integrate more and more into our lives. Glad you have hope friend! Thanks again for watching and swinging by the comments.
I was born in the 90s and I'm so thankful that my entire life up until I was about 15/16 was social media free. I truly had a wonderful and fun childhood without any of this garbage. Once Instagram came out (I remember being through the middle of high school) it was a game changer. Everything started changing - heck even Facebook! It all sucks now. I can't have a conversation with basically anyone without them having to check their phone for something. It's so frustrating how our online presence is more important than our in person presence. That how we look online matters more than how we look in person. That everything someone does they have to share it to prove how amazing their life is. What happened to staying present? What happened to just enjoying life with the people you love and not caring to impress everyone you dislike? I made a pact with myself this year, as I turn 25, that I'm done sharing my life on social media. It's exhausting.
I can relate I'm 27 and I tell you life in the early-mid 00s I was in elementary and middle school around this time people overall was so much more active carefree and social and had a very full filling life before I enter high school since high school around 2009-2010 I noticed major changes each year since social media especially Facebook and smartphones really starting to took over for the worse and people got more and more antisocial and weirder each year. I'm at a point right now I wish the internet was like the 90s only use it at home that's it and I wish smartphones never existed and social media especially Facebook Twitter Instagram TikTok etc.... It ruining social interaction forever I'm done with the internet social media 🌎 I'm soooooooooooo sick of it at this point everything feels soooooooooooo dead and dull to the extreme now.
Me and my friends literally grew up and the river and the beach. We met up with friends constantly and they all wanted to be outside swimming, conversating making bonds, partying. Rip those days.
The horrible thing about this is that, as much as you want to do things differently, you'll find yourself isolated from others. For example, I've tried to reduce the use of my phone while at home with my family, esp during meals, but I'm the only idiot sitting there looking at nothing, because the people around me are glued to their phones and as soon as a meal is over, they go back to their rooms to keep being glued to the phone. I can get very boring, so I go back to the phone. It's horrible to be isolated while being surrounded by people.
Thats the biggest problem so many people feel alone because instead of people spending their time thinking of others and wanting a stronger connection with them. Its easier to just stay glued to your phone and let those connections dwindle and die. "The only things worse than being alone, is being around people that make you feel alone" ~ Robin Williams
@Keanucharlesreeves58 I have been guilty in the past, but now I try to disconnect as much as possible, I no longer take my phone everywhere with me, and switch off when I am in the company of people who's time I value... I do of course expect the same in return.
Thats how I felt in the army in Korea. It was like I wanted to be out there interacting with people but everyone was on their phone. Would text people in the same room!
i know that feeling! i was on a guided tour of the shakespeare's globe theatre when the tour guide let us all into the venue and told us we could just look around. i was the only one there without a smartphone, so i watched as EVERY OTHER person in my tour group whipped out their phone and spent the next 5 or so minutes looking at the venue through a phone screen! (& i know that if i HAD owned a smartphone, i would've been one of those screen-gazers.) it's crazy how society conditions us to become addicts!
I live in Puerto Rico and during hurricane Maria when the power went out for 2 months and there was no internet, society starting to feel a lot better. People who you haven't seen in years started to come around, we read books, played board games, TALKED, laughed together, listen to the radio, etc! Everything was feeling how it was before social media.
I really like this comment for quite a few reasons. First, because you found the positive in an otherwise extremely challenging situation. (That's a fantastic character trait to have by the way!) And secondly, it shows a real example just how extreme of a situation it takes for people en masse to "snap out of it" and realize what they've been missing out on right around them. I hope it helped to bring your community closer together ever since.
@@CommonKnowledge42 Thank you! That is really nice of you to say that. I forgot to mention that I slept more because there wasn't any electricity or internet, another plus. Yes, I always try to look for the positive in every situation. 😊❤
@@bori80 I have a suspicion that eliminating all electronic devices (and I suppose artificial light as well) would likely fix also all of my sleep issues 🤣
I got my first smartphone when I was in 6th grade and it all went downhill from there ever since. People of all ages today seem to become more and more dependent on the internet and social media that it’s actually crazy...I think things really started to change around 2008 when social media started to take a huge rise. Watching older movies or tv shows gives me a bit of a sense of what society was like. Back then people just seemed to be more authentic or happy in general. Everything was so much more genuine and I wish we could live like those times without all of this overwhelming toxic information from social media causing people to change so much
I really do hope it’s just a transition period, that we have something new and powerful that we don’t know how to balance its use and effect on our daily existence. Now that’s optimistic thinking… With current trends it’s hard to foresee that being the case. but we can hope for the best right?? I think these comments prove that people are starting to come around to the idea that healthy balance is super important. That for sure gives me some hope for the future!
Indeed,those were the days,"the down to earth days",,,,,,where most'f the things had a smell of soil🌾🥜🥥🌽🥜🌾🥥,simplicity,originality,creativity,strong emotional bonds 'nd productivities,,,,,, which is missing now!!!!!🌹🌹🌹🌹🌻🌻🌻🌻😢💚💚💚💚💚🕯️🔔🕯️
@@CommonKnowledge42 whatever makes money is what will be done. The corporations took over everything and restructured society. It's always been profits over people, but they have a lot more power now.
I am 61 years old and I have noticed over the years people being more anti social with one another in close proximity yet they are on their iPhones endlessly following the latest trends or communicating with online friends from across the country and the globe. Nobody notices anyone and everybody is looking at their screens.
The very fact that I went searching for a video like this demonstrates that there are people who are overwhelmed and almost disgusted with what's happening to society because of social media. I was raised in the 80s and I will tell you that I was much happier and more fulfilled before technology and social media entered the platform. For all of the very reasons this video explains. It's extremely difficult when you know both sides of the equation. You know what it was like before social media and you know what it's like with social media and it actually causes depression for my generation because we see how sad and unrealistic life has become. I actually feel sorry for Millennials and people that are younger than I am because this is their reality and they have never known a time when it wasn't like this. I honestly think that social media and AI will be the end of society as we know it. We are human beings and we need other human beings or we would have not been created to be with them. Social media and Technology were created to bring the world together and to bring some sort of unity to the planet and it has done the very thing that it was created to do. We have never been more unhappy and divided as a country and as a planet. It is extremely sad
100% agree with everything said here. There is no proper place for serious conversation anymore. The fact that I have to force some people to make simple responses on what should be common sense is baffling. And whoever I try a conversation, even a casual conversation on the internet that just talks about things like emojis, I get talked down to.
80's kid checking in. Can relate. The problem for me is the lack of accountability for the tech software engineers. A couple of days ago I put it down to young idiot engineers who grew up (unlike us) not knowing what quality / quality of life is, then blessing us with their 'knowledge' as far as recommendation algorithms go. Now i'm almost convinced that the young 'uns are only partly to blame, it's probably more like engineers of any age, but they're all as unwilling to risk their inflated salaries by saying something about the ethics of what it is they've done to society. I see FB and Google engineers talking in videos and genuinely wonder how they sleep at night, because not one of them has the balls to risk their position and drop the hammer on the company they're working for. And re: AI, "We have neolithic emotions, archaic institutions and Godlike technology", so I think we're in for an awesome ride, all things considered!
Yeah it's getting old. Actually was old a while ago. It has hit critical mass I think. It is also the reason why tons of women who are not 9s/10s think that they are. Online attention from a lot of thirsty guys.
@@nahmastay3300 it's too easy to spread BS info. With photoshop, voice changing programs, ect... You can take a picture of anyone and make it look like they were doing something completely different.
I’m 19, I hate when I hang out with friends and we’re trying to play games together and then they just stop playing and get on their phones. Or I’ll be talking to them and they just get on their phones while I’m talking to them. At least I put down my phone when people are talking to me or when I’m playing a game with someone, it’s like no one has manners anymore
There's a brilliant world to be explored filled with unique and endlessly complex people surrounding us at any given moment in life. Yet so often people choose to be consumed by a six inch box instead. I feel for ya. It's immediately lonely when you make the decision to set down the phone and be more present with the people around you. You begin to realize how disengaged most people are with the people right there in front of them, feeding the dopamine release by being present with their online identity instead. However... I'm starting to see that choosing to be present, instead of constantly attached to your phone while you're around people, can be almost like a superpower. You'll develop a better ability to interact with others in person, you'll resonate with their dialog better, and you'll share richer interactions. (Even if briefly while they interrupt the flow of conversation to resort to their habit of checking their phone) People you interact with will notice a quality about you that's different, they may not be able to put a finger on what that is, but they'll enjoy being around you more because of it. And who knows, maybe when you tell them it's because you'd rather be present with the people around you, not checking your phone every few minutes, they might just start doing the same. Wish you luck being a young adult in this interesting shift in culture and communication. Do things differently and be better than the status quo. Guarantee you'll be successful in everything you do.
@@sarcastic2731 Everyone is unique. Sometimes they just forget that truth... and unfortunately slowly turn themselves into everyone else because it's more comfortable.
@@CommonKnowledge42 Sorry,but I do not think so. While it is hard to deny the possibility of someone is unique,chances are low. How much truly outstanding people were in history? I doubt there will be at least 10000 of them or even 1000. But even if we do not take only these,but people who are just different,I still think they make ~15-10% of population.
Yeah I don’t find life to be that interesting as a whole in this social media digital age. It’s like everything caters towards technology and social media wayyy too much! It takes away from so many aspects of a persons life like their communication skills, their attention span, and most importantly their time. It’s like we live in a programmed world where everybody just wants to be the same, look the same, sound the same and do the same things and I blame social media for that. That’s why music/television/entertainment is so lackluster these days. Society has lost so much and these days are only defined by popularity, looks, and truly nothing that’s worth anything. Ugh I want it to all go away.
I am 6 years without social media. Used to bem addict on Reading book since kid. Used to have people telling me I was super smart. Then I got addicted to RUclips and became an addict on documentaries etc .. became deeply depressed.. went rock bottom.. this year trying to recover but is so hard
To be honest, where I go, I feel alienated from all the people I've met. From my work, when I return home, and when I travel, people are so glued to their phones they just swipe their fingers to check on Social Media news feeds, and I'm the only one who's very much focused on the present. Seeing how social media takes over the lives of many people nowadays just makes me feel very dissapointed
Born in 96, been on fb for 6 years. Just deleted it about a month ago and never looked back. Started reading actual books. Facebook had become so consuming of my life and I could feel it controlling the way I feel and the mood I was in. Had to take back control of my life.
It's amazing the difference in perspective once you make the switch from social media to reality having the larger percentage of your attention. I can completely relate.
one thing ive realized is how much stuff like: twitter, facebook, snapchat, tiktok, instagram, truly doesn't matter. if you just take a step back even for a short moment (about a week) you start to see how much social media really doesn't pop up in the real world. it's not important and it destroys lives.
I’m a 93 baby. Just turned 29. I’ve had Facebook since about 2009 I think. I removed my account at the start of the new year and I feel so much better. I had tiktok for a while but found myself addicted and spending hours scrolling through. It was scary!
Born in 85. I remember the rise of internet and social media. Social media is ruining my kids. If they dont have a charge on thier phones then the world is over. RUclips is my only social media
I was born in 87, im 100% with u. We watched our world get distracted, have shorter attention spans, narcissistic "influencers" making millions, and cringey woke politics. The internet used to be a gold mine, now its a weapon of critical proportions
Although I am 17, but same with me sir, I always learn some technology on RUclips. I downloaded FB and Insta also, but those gave me an Impostor Syndrome.
Born around the same time, and got my 1st phone when I was 20. The charge on those Motorola phones lasted for days. And there wasnt social media on them. And Tobey was Spider-Man. Good times.
Before Social Media, people were happy to go to each other's houses, play board games, go to the park, beach, picnics, or mall, go watch movies, or rent a DVD and have movie nights at home, and of course we had game nights, Friday was usually pizza night, go for sleepover at each others houses, play video games together instead of by yourself in your bedroom, and just do more outdoor activities. Nowadays, I don't see kids playing at the park, I see very little people doing outdoor activities, everyone's face is planted on their phone, people rarely go to each other's houses, no one even knows who their neighbors are, no one plays those board games anymore, everyone is watching TikTok shorts or some Instagram shorts instead of watching a Movie together with family, there is no sense of community, culture, or shared values, everyone is lonely, sad, and miserable. I really don't know where Humanity is going, we are living in a digital world, and with Metaverse, Virtual Reality Headsets, TikTok/Instagram/RUclips shorts, etc., people find their real life unbearable and everyone wants to escape to the digital world. This is basically 1984, A Brave New World, and Fahrenheit 451 novels all combined within a single Society.
Sadly, this very accurately describes what I've observed around my neighborhood and park as well, and it's so friggin' depressing. Everyone is pretty much isolated from one another and in their own world. Hardly any kids go outside anymore or go to the park. When I go to the park, it's nowhere near as crowded or busy like it always was when we first moved into the area. There is also absolutely NO sense of community or culture where I'm at, either. That sense of community is probably what I miss most of all from the pre social media days. I don't know where Humanity is going either, but so far, it seems to be going straight to hell.
Yeah people were happy to do all those things if you were popular and had friends. If you were a loser and no one wanted anything to do with you. Good luck being invited to others house, good luck finding people to play board games with or go to the park with. Some people in the 90s were as alone as kids are today and they had no choice in the matter!. But back then they were the minority. Kids like me. Now it feels like far more kids are alone.
internet and smartphone culture is only half the problem! what people aren't talking about is WHY most kids prefer to stay inside and be on their phone instead of playing outside. look at the design of most suburban communities in the USA, how car dependent they are, how few businesses, shops, and restaurants are within a 15 min walk from any household. of course kids who live in those neighborhoods prefer to stay inside! there's nowhere they can play except a comparatively small backyard, the streets are just for cars, and if they want to go to a friend's house, they'll probably have to get an adult to drive them. meanwhile i did not mind not having wifi at all while traveling in the UK (except at paddington station) b/c everywhere i went, there were businesses & cultural amenities within walking distance. it's truly amazing the difference between london and my hometown, b/c at home, if the wifi were to go out, i'd be losing my mind!
@@fernthaisetthawatkul5569 You absolutely made a good point. American Cities are not designed with communities in mind. And everyone definitely needs a car in outside the East coast.
I totally agree… it is a cultural cancer in America. Every time I hear that someone is a “social media influencer” all I hear is someone saying they sit at the cool-kid table in the lunch room of a mental institution.
I was born in ‘71.. My childhood was in the 80s, and I became an adult in the 1990’s I am extremely grateful I had the childhood I did. I feel bad for kids today. Face down, looking at a screen 24/7. Desperate for approval, desperate for that ‘like’ with whatever they are doing…
I'm 25, and I am very thankful that I grew up playing outside and going out with friends. It wasn't until I was 13 that I got my first phone, but back then we weren't constantly using our phones like that. We still cared more about being in the moment. That is gone now.
I start teaching college chemistry in 1990. It was a joy. We had small classes so that I could interact with the students, even joke around. When they came to my office for additional help, we would have conversations about their future plans, my cats (I am a cat lady) and a broad list of topics. As the years went on, I found that both of these were decreasing. Students were more and more detached from the goings on in the classroom and they contributed less and less during our office time. Near my retirement, I felt like I was interviewing students that came to my office rather than having two way conversations. It was truly sad and I longed for the "good old days."
Having social anxiety, I like using my phone as a crutch in social situations, but when I’m with friends I see it as downright rude. If I’m with someone I want to be present. I’ll never understand those groups of people who go out to eat and sit at the table on their phones
I was always the one, who was so desperate looking for social interaction, but I always felt so lonely because I missed out on a lot of things. Society is breaking apart!
I know this video was made 2 years ago, but I'm sure more and more people are realizing now that social media is just getting worse. From fake news, censorship, users being very disrespectful to others and most of all, the amount of negativity. We all have choices and there will be a number who may disagree, but I feel so much better mentally having deleted all my social media apps. (Tic tok is the worst). Information overload is not healthy, and I'm choosing to ignore what's happening in the world around me thats negative, and only worried about my family and what's happening in my backyard.
I remember when there were only 4 TV stations at most. There were no 24 hour stations. Real news was reported. Opinion pieces were not common place. We played board games and card games with our family members and neighbors. We helped each other. We had a real community where common decency was common place. I miss those days.
That's awesome! A few years ago I removed the apps for all of my social media platforms from my phone to break "the scrolling habit" and to make it more difficult and out of the way to access. It worked pretty well, now I only check each platform once in a blue moon, or if I actually need to contact someone.
I miss simpler times. When I was growing up we were way more at peace than I realized. The more technology and social media grows the more angrier people are getting the more disconnected socially and the more politics and other ideologies are intertwining in our decision making. It is a cancer. Technology has helped in so many ways but it is also destroying our children and causing a wake of destruction culturally
Agree 💯 I seen it myself to over the years especially when I enter high school around 2009-2010 I seen and observe over the years when social media and smartphones really started to take over of so many people lives for the worse. I miss elementary and middle school days in the early-mid 00s when it wasn't too much technology yet and it was balance of internet and a social life like now.
It's really interesting how social media accelerated those problems, when during the beginning it was thought that being more 'instantly connected with others' would have the opposite effect. Makes me wonder if that means there is a better way in the future, or if it's just human nature and this was the inevitable result.
Ehhhh, not really. Everyone has always been offended over stupid shit since even before the internet. Remember when white people would constantly loose their shit over a black person sitting down on the “wrong” bus seat, or going to the “wrong” places in public during the segregation era? Remember when middle aged religious parents would through a stupid fucking tantrum over everything being “satanic” ranging from Pokémon during the 90s, to pretty much almost every major music genre that wasn’t country/Christian? Remember the satanic panic of the 80s? Yeah. Remember when people lost their shit over dnd back in the 70s for being “satanic” as well? Jesus, I could keep going on but all I’m saying is that nothing hasn’t exactly changed when it comes to what people are offended by. Fuck, just a few months ago people were memeing all over guys like carl tuckerson for being offended over a dumb green m&m design change that was just a ploy to shy the attention away from the fact that the company uses child labor to make their chocolate. People have always been stupid and highly offended. The internet is just making that a LOT more obvious than ever before.
Blame Twitter and the whole "Woke" movement. Comedy isn't even the same anymore because of this. My mother grew up with the famous "sticks and stones" saying. This generation? We can't even have games like dodgeball in our schools anymore because someone claimed it encourages bullying. And you have people quitting their jobs in the food service because customers became extremely difficult to work with. 🙄
PIXEL THE ALIEN have you ever worked in fast food? I mean I've worked plenty of places and I'm 20 just starting to work in the job I'm getting my degree in. At some point you get fed up. Making barely minimum wage and getting yelled at for chicken nuggets and fries not being warm. I get your other points but people shouldn't be shamed for quitting a job just because people want processed, greasy foods.
I’m still very young, but I know how many kids my age are slaves to social media. It’s scary, so many people in my school’s hallways are always doing TikTok dances or singing trending songs that’ll be considered “cringy” in a only few weeks. I used to have TikTok, I deleted it due to it lowering my attention span and taking up hours of my time each day. I’m much happier now than before with the only social media platforms I use RUclips and Pinterest. The sad part is the majority of people addicted to it will either believe that it’s not a problem or they know but don’t care. I remember a couple of years ago when everyone I knew wasn’t always like this. I miss it.
It's like when online, no one sees you as a real person anymore. I miss talking on the phone with those you met. I miss making real, come to my house for dinner type of friends. I think of all the years the internet has been around, all the 10's of 1000's of posts I've made on various sites, out of all of that, not a single friend (One, we met over a forum and became good phone friends for years, but we never met in person). Interaction online has become dehumanizing, we're simply reduced to a 'post' or a 'comment', and nothing more or less.
Yes. I've noticed this for a while now. RUclips comments section is about all the social media I do. I haven't had Facebook in years. Used snap for a bit and got rid of that a while ago as well.
I as many others on here find this trend sad. I was born in the early 90's and also remember days of genuine connection. I studied the effects in my young 20's, and as a result I stayed away from social media as much as possible. This led to a somewhat lonesome life after i finished university and everyone moved away. Many of my older friends saw my lack of social media pressence as an attempt to distance myself, when in reality it was a longing for more genuin connection. Many times i would go to a party with old friends, and I pretty much new all about their lifes. Yes I still used facebook, as a way to keep in touch. But I knew who peoples girlfriends were, what they did professionally, what hobbies they pursued, and so there was no need to ask my old buddies from my hometown: hey hows the love life going? Hopefully a trend will start that will take us on a different path.
Same same... People thinks that I don't want them and I am hiding while in reality I knew the harsh effect of social media before they know it, now they don't talk to me on phone, and only interaction possible is in person but no one have time it just become like old age society for me, I don't use whatsapp cos even text massage interaction is not real, we as a human race becoming worse and worse everything become materialistic and show off and very low value toward inner peace and real life
When I got rid it of in lockdown it changed me. So much time wasted on it. Live your life and love it. Be present. You feel better. And practice mindfulness
I wish I grew up in those days, I actually HATE the new technology, everyone seems so informal in the manner of conversation it’s actually depressing to see
I’m an opioid addict in recovery and I can safely say they way I feel bound to my phone feels identical to being addicted to drugs maybe even worse I can live a life without drugs but I can’t imagine a life without my phone
I think social media it's a double-edge sword. If you use it to learn new things about the world or your career they can be helpful and powerful. However, most people just feed their ego and narcissim in these platforms. I think it has done more harm than good tbh, but that's my opinion. I'm really curious where the world will go to in the next few decades. I always thought that sharing pictures on social media would be the equivalent of inviting hundreds of people to take a peek at your bedroom and private life, but you can't see who actually came and is watching. Definately not my thing.
@Tremayne Umbles I don't mind at all, go ahead! :) would like to read that project of yours, feel free to send me a DM once you're done with it. Best wishes
Finally, someone who’s not just “PHONE BAD, BOOK AND JESUS GOOD” and that’s it. There’s plenty of pros and cons to almost everything, and the internet is no exception.
I know the feeling. I find myself slipping back into the habit all the time and have to make a conscious effort to cut back to stay present in the moment. The hard part is that is when you begin to notice how everyone else is trapped in their own little "phone world" too.
Apart from calling and messaging i pretty much only use my smartphone for RUclips, Netflix, eBay and Spotify. I got rid of my other social media apps (only message on RUclips) A couple of days without all that social media noise really goes a long way. Nothing wrong with smartphones, it's an amazing invention but there must be a balance of things.
I’m glad this is being addressed. I have seen too many instances of friends and relatives being together physically, but not mentally because of this addiction. I also believe that it has made some people ruder than they otherwise would be. It also interferes with some friendships if that friend, like many others, just cannot put down their gadget. I have a hard time not taking their impaired attention span personally, because my first thought is, “does she think I’m boring her or something?” I’m so tempted to just grab these things out of some people’s hands and say, “I’m talking to you!”, but I know the usual response will be something about how they’re really good at multitasking.
15 year old here. I was basically in school trying to talk to some friends. When I tried they just pushed me away and started being on their phones. Eventually I gave up and went on mine too. Social media really has ruined everything…
I was walking around the mall the other day and everyone was dressed the same. I mean I know we wear what’s in trend but literally everyone looked like influencer brand wearing wannabes. Everyone literally was wearing the same thing it freaked me
That's how I feel when I go to downtown Ann Arbor. In the summer, all the men have on some name brand tee shirt and shorts, and all the women wear shorts and a white crop top. All neutral colors or baby pink or blue. It's freaky.
Everyone wears the same facial makeup as well. They all watch the same youtube tutorials, highlight/contour the same areas, so their facial bone structures end up looking identical. I noticed it about 6 years ago and it freaked me out. I can't unsee it.
it feels so weird when your friends/coworkers/neighbors look at you like YOU'RE the weirdo b/c you didn't get that reference they made to some tiktok trend! as if it's not normal to NOT have some silly app where you're not really going to see anything of substance!
Not in cape may county nj and many other small-medium republican towns unless you go during “shoobie” tourist season also one of the happiest places I’ve lived in
Even if you try to quit social media, literally every other person around you is also addicted to their phones, and eventually you end up relapsing as well. It has become impossible to escape digital distraction in this world. All of my classes are online, my study material is online, my entertainment is online, so I spend almost all my day on my phone. I can't help it. Only taking classes and studying takes up at least 8 hours. The first 12 years of my life were without social media and any form of serious technology. Those were the golden years.
I went to a park yesterday to flim trains. Nobody was on their phones. I had my phone for the only purpose of filming trains. It was so nice, everyone looked so happy. It was beautiful.
Addiction kills awareness. It s all gone too far.... like a terminal disease, all you can do is manage the symptoms. As a male, I grieve the loss of Women to the mirror of their phones.
I was born in 1983 and I'm in your boat. I feel historically, mine and your generation will be such a special case because we physically know what life was like before digital and technical advancements. I truly miss those Friday nights going to get a pizza, swinging by blockbuster and renting one movie and one VideoGame then going home in time to watch TGIF with my parents until Hugh downes and Babers Walters ruined my family fun time with 20/20. Then Saturday morning cartoons til 11, and after that building treehouses and playing ball with the neighbors and cousins, no cell phones or social media..... Man, memories
I miss the time when kids played with toys and went to the park to play. Social media companies need to be held responsible for what they're doing to society. When a teenager commits suicide because of something that happened to their digital identity, we should charge the board of directors of the offending platform with manslaughter and confiscate the company's profits. It should not be legal to make billions from a drug that destroys people's lives, but that's exactly what social media is doing to our youth. Thanks for the excellent video! I'm seeing more and more people waking up to this reality, hopefully we can actually do something about it as a society.
That argument is too far fetched though. It's just like saying Police officers should be charged with murder if someone commits murder in the locality.
@@asresalim6145 no, its like saying that a police officer who murders is a murderer. All social media sites have algorithms that prioritize divisive and harmful content above all else for the sake of profit. the algo is the gun
It would be tough to make any changes, the people in control of social media companies have gotten rich off of it and politicians are reluctant to make any law changes that would impact them. Something's gotta give one way or another, though. Social media has everyone angry at each other and it feels like society's starting to fall apart.
I deleted Facebook and twitter for good a few weeks ago and I also noticed I had to take distance from the news because they sometimes have the same impact on me ! So I watch the news once every 2 weeks and I have RUclips remaining+ Instagram for my business (I follow 7 people) ! It feels better. Social Media were totally different before but as you say in your great video, many people feel it has gone out of control !
I had to do the same thing with news as well. They fall under the same category of intentionally competing for your attention and they frame their headlines and articles in the way that will be most likely to get you to click, usually by eliciting a negative emotion. I ended up allocating a day or so a week that I use catch up on everything that happened the week prior, and try to do so in an objective way that sees through the headline's "clickbait" nature.
Social media is frustrating me. People take for granted for what is going outside. I posted a video inviting people to attend activities and events. People just ignore. Life was much better before social media. People communicated with each other and did real interactions. People are addictively struck in the digital world. I do not want to constantly to share stories digitally. I want people to have real conversations and engagements outside social media world.
I'm so glad that people recognise the dangers of social media and society's over dependence on it. It's crazy, because at my university, one of my lecturers encouraged us to 'think critically', and only ended up discrediting research which raises concerns about the negative effects of mobile phones and social media - his view seemed very swayed, and in denial of the negative effects of phones and social media.
I'm happy that a lot of us are aware of this problem, and deciding to overcome it is something to get used to, but what really scares me is what the future has for us... I hear from people around me how they're raising their children before they even have their first birthday with an ipad in front of their face, and it really worries me that the next generation won't be able to differentiate what's reality and what's not. It's gonna be a new problem we'll have to face in the future.
Remember when the internet was like the wild west? Those days were fun. But now I find myself asking is it possible to get physically sick of memes? Either way time to disconnect from these apps and reconnect to a simpler time.
Ah, those were the times. It felt like an exciting new frontier to explore - even though we had to listen to a robot scream at us every time we fired up the dial-up connection 😂
The problem now is wifi, internet, social media, as a whole is a HUGE drug. If we want to go back to a simpler time we have to come down and have withdrawals as a society. And if that actually does happen, it will be a very dark time for all. The damage is already done
Oh, yes, the memes. They're so played out and repetitive. Why do they all seem to have the same characters like the sideways-facing blonde bearded guy?
The concept of spending 4 or 5 HOURS (an afternoon) LISTENING to an elderly person relate things from their life 60 or 70 years ago (or even longer!) and before cassette recorders (sadly) or video cameras (even sadder) is something I almost cry about. I had 80, 90 and even 100 year-old lucid relatives that told me stories about them growing up, and about THEIR GRANDPARENTS that may have lived with them in THEIR old age!!! I had a vision of MY family back over 150 years as PEOPLE with quirks and personalities and tastes in food, and illness and deaths of children and hardships that brought tears to my eyes. It was MUCH better than watching U-toobs and I don't do fakebook or stuff on a phone. BTW, now I'M an old person-a child of the 50's-a boomer.
I'm never going to use Twitter, Facebook, or any other social media site, and I'm planning to delete my Instagram soon. I'm perfectly happy with just RUclips.
Taking a trip down Twitter is enough to be depressed and lose hope to the point of never wanting to socialize with another human being again. Someone saves a life, people will be mad Someone does anything good, people will be mad Someone dies, people will make memes out it All in all you don’t really see people with this type of behavior in person but online it’s like you’ve entered hell for free
I'm currently 14 and I've never actively used any social media (besides youtube) and because of it I'm shamed and isolated by my peers. I've now learned to not care about others opinion of me and rather focus on improving myself and reaching my own goals.
As a 2000 born, I approve of your video. Back when social media weren't a thing, I mainly grew up on toys, television and computer only, great memories shall be unforgettable. Notice today's change.
I went out to dinner last night with a friend that I didn’t see for 7 years. At times she was in her phone. I had to stop the conversation to see if she was listening. I’m like damn, I could see if I was with my 23 year old son. (Full grown mature people behaving like children) I definitely will address this with her. I think it’s foolishness🤷🏾♀️
Happened to me too! I couldn't believe it. She was in her phone the whole dinner. I give up, even dropped her as a friend after that. I find difficulty connecting with people now, even Boomers addicted to Facebook now.
Honestly it isn’t worth it. People when being corrected, they will say, “it’s a norm now.” Or, they just don’t give a rats ass. You haven’t seen this person for seven years? Make it another 7 years. See if it helps. Cheers.
I was born in the year of 2002, I am diagnosed with Autism spectrum disorder, my childhood wasn't that great feel like I wasted much of my childhood, I was very shy, had no friends, but it felt different when I was younger at elementary school when there was no social media there was so many kids playing in recess enjoying in elementary and people all used to talk to one another and make jokes, but me just confused, quiet, and shy and dumb. When I first got my phone I was young and 11-12 that time games all from google play and youtube destroyed my whole late teens to be able to socialize, make friends, or talk to people during school. It felt like hell for me just a life like of depressed/anxiety.Recently got bullied at 7th grade, and 9th grade too. It wasnt that fun because I had no idea the phone was damaging my social life the entire time! And me look dumb. ALL because of those freakin apps!.I was slow. I didn't feel like talking to anyone because I don't trust no one I finally woke up and during 11th grade high school at realized that social media is my cure of what I am experiencing from being myself who I really am. Then what pisses me off is that almost every class that I went to people always use their phones and only up to 3 people including me participate to talk about what teacher is teaching us. I find it very disturbing to all the people in the class not trying to socialize to each other. Which makes it extremely hard for me to make some friends because it looks depressing and I don't want to be first one to go and start a conversation with a buddy beside me and the rest just silent using their phones, completing their work, them sleeping of their desks, and others just want to be alone listening to music. Now when covid hit during my senior year all the classes that I took online, seems off, like people don't really want to meet another, know each other, and it was super boring like all of them would just not talk or make jokes, just teachers calling them out, teaching them. Finally when I was done at high school I was happy that Im done becuase I wanted to get away from there with my diploma. I'm already going to college, hopefully I make good friends but it won't be easy. I'm challenging myself that I must rebuild my life of what I missed out before I get super old, regreting not doing things that makes me happy and enjoy life instead of the damm phone and games, get to know new people becuase I wasted on the drug social media and games when I could have been playing with other kids and interacting with them sadly it never happened. It wont be easy for me to get to know the person if people are going to be on their glued phones or whatever I experienced from high school, now that I have all the social media out of the way expect RUclips and whatsapp. I knew that college is my time to shine when I go there and improve what I've got that I missed out on 💪.I dont know whats happening to this generation with social media has ruined my childhood and my apserger condition and my teenage years and I don't want to know how the rest of the generation kids future is going to be when I get very old soon or have kids I'd be scared becuase soon they are all going to be not socializing, or playing outdoor activities as it was before
ik this is from a year ago but it’s so heartbreaking to read. i really hope you’re doing better too, i have my regrets as well and you aren’t alone. i hope you’re okay
I didn’t buy my first cellphone/smartphone until I was in my mid 40s. Social media is poison, I live happily without garbage such as Twitter, Facebook and etc…
I primarily use my phone when I'm on the toilet, searching for something I need to know, or browsing for something interesting or educational on RUclips. When I go out for a walk, go to a public place, or to hangout with friends I always have my phone away so I can enjoy life and the scenery. I always feel like the only one though because everyone else is either sitting there or walking while glued to their phone.
Great video. I can relate to this a lot. I miss the early 00s... the vibes were just different :( hopefully we can have wholesome vibes again in the world.
@@EAT1999 Glad I'm not alone in that observation. We can only hope that online culture is cyclical and we'll one day come full circle to the frontier feeling of online communities. Perhaps there is some promise in Web 3... Depending on the path it takes in its many potential branches of potential. There are definitely paths leading to making the issue far worse instead of better.
For me everything changed when I went to high school. In middle school we were never allowed on our phone and my peers seemed more aware and happy. Now every time I look around I see Al least half of my classmates on their phones, even when the teacher is lecturing.I think the saddest part of all of this is my teachers don’t care because they rather have a bunch of brain dead,non verbal kids than rowdy ones
@@DSN262 I mean I explained it pretty pretty simple but here you go When babies cry their parents give them phone/ipad. And not like this When babies cry, let them still cry.
Seeing how the world has changed in the last 2 decades, and in which direction society is rapidly going to, I'm progressively more and more happy I'm not immortal.
I was born in 2002 india, so I spent most of my childhood without ADDICTIVE social media. Back in my teens, I used Facebook to only play games, and that too with friends (miscrits if anyone remembers). Also, the world used to be a lot less competitive and people were actually good by heart. There was also no flexing culture and people were quite social as well. There was also a perfect balance between being religious and open-minded. It was peak humanity. These days everyone is self-centred, main reason being social media, and this is the leading cause of unhappiness
Great video, the problem for the new generation is that they grew up carrying a phone. They don't have a measure of comparison meaning they just don't know how better the relationships were before the social media. It is not natural to have your phone always with you as if it were an extension of your body.
Thanks for the compliment! 😊 I really am curious to see how the behavioral research pans out on the upcoming generations who've always had a smartphone from ages as young as elementary school. I think what the negative effects could be are pretty well estimated - but the optimist in me hopes for a scenario where growing up with it could force them to discover the need for self-regulation. Since doing so could actually be seen as giving you an advantage for success in other areas of your life over the long-run. I know most people would disagree with that scenario ever happening... But I can still hope for the best even if it never ends up happening, haha.
This was one of my favorite videos I've watched in along time thanks for making this. hopefully in a year this has millions of views. The world would be a better place if so
One thing I noticed is that being an apprentice is no longer an option in life. People don't learn from each other anymore- they go online where there is no interaction with others. I am very knowledgeable about many things but no one tries to pick my brain - they go online instead which is what everybody is doing because it requires no personal social skills to extract information and only requires you to be technically inclined. People will soon forget how to get along with each other because of their lack of societal experiences.
Not only has it changed the friendships we build in the real world, but it has also made people lose their humanity. All I see is people trying to find faults on others and bring each other down. Sometimes when I keep going back on my phone several times a day I just wish I could grab it and throw it out the window.
As someone who never uses even a mobile phone I can relate to this. I look round me and everyone is addicted. People can't talk to another while waiting 3 minutes for their coffee. Kids babysat by a tablet. I believe most addicts, which are most people, have no idea just how vast and harmful this is on both individual and societal levels. My family and friends think I am a luddite and get frustrated with me. They don't seem to see what I do. The symptoms are scary. Technology is now controlling the masses rather than the masses using technology selectively. As an addiction that will be too much for many to even care with an attempt to regain control.
In a way, I feel like a hypocrite watching this fron my phone and posting a comment. Yet this is very true, i always wondered why videos with such informative content have the least views???
Imagine how much more of a hypocrite I feel like being the one who made the video for a social media platform! Haha Thanks so much for the kind words! The channel is new, so hopefully down the road the views will come so long as the content is good :)
Likely because many people don't like to hear the truth. They want instant dopamine hits, versus any truth that would require them to adjust their lives...
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I remember only playing video games on my PC on discs and my mothers old SNES, no phone, no social media, watching good 90s 00s cartoons on TV. And now? Always on the phone, worried about posting on social media, staying inside way more, only playing games and watching shows on my Xbox its kinda crazy to think life would be this different within a decade or two
I know I'm more extreme than most but I believe the downfall and complete crash of society in the near future will be mostly to blame on the internet. Make no mistake. The internet will do more harm than good.
I don't believe that the internet in general is a bad thing. Only that the big tech companies are making it so addictive and "innovate" to improve the internet to the point that real life interactions aren't as fulfilling and interesting. It's how fast food restuarants (or just any commercialized industry) add in extra substances to make people more addicted to their products. Call me a radical, but modern internet is just a symptom or consequence of a neoliberal capitalist society, and will continue to plague us until it is eradicated from our status quo.
@@mark38699 Most people can’t moderate the internet. That’s the issue. It’s no different from a smoker addicted to cigarettes and an alcoholic addicted to alcohol.
I’ve been that one different kid. I strayed away from social media and didn’t care about being popular. I have more of a connection to animals and nature because of the path I choose. I don’t regret it.
We living in a social media world everyone wants to be liked commented on, fuelling egos to the point too concerned about the opinions of others, anxiety to the point people compare themselves too much to others. People don’t believe in themselves get depression to the point get put on some sort of medication feel hopeless then have no belief it’s scary what media has done to people. If you want my advice quit media and live life. You find most people on media ain’t living healthy or honesty and those who are ain’t on media are living with more mental peace and more honesty.
I use to have a Facebook account, but one day I just had enough. I was absolutely fed up of receiving notifications on the most meaningless cr@p from my so-called 'friends'. Usually it was either someone back stabbing someone else, or it was what they had to eat that day. Nearly 10 years free of that nonsense, and I can honestly say I don't miss anyone on there. Fuck em.
First time I realized how obsessed with phones people around me were was in 7th grade when I broke mine and had to use a button phone, I had to tell all my friends to put their phones in the middle of the table when we went to a cafe, cause otherwise no one talked to each other. I’m grateful to have grown up in the early 00s cause although technology & social media was used, I still got to live a fairly technology free childhood. Nowadays, I gotta say I do have issues with overusing my phone, but I am as present as possible when interacting with people in real life. Also, I’ll definitely do my best to raise my future children with as little technology involvement as possible.
Thanks. I am basically a loner with no mobile phone who preferred relative freedom to marriage. About 10 years ago, and then particularly in the past 5 years, the smartphone had taken over so much that if I ever did want a partner, I would feel I was part of a threesome, and definitely number three! it would freak me out to listen to my wife always talking to someone else, especially at home.
Yes, "be fully present with the people that you're with" ! Nothing worse than being sat opposite an almost catatonic person playing with their mobile phone.
Something is gained and lost with every change in society. I've severely cut back on social media because I realized the bulk of it isn't actually "real", It's full of bots, people making fake or empty gestures, hypocrisy, etc. However I did find some great friends and communities through it. I've enriched my life and skills through DIY tutorials, markets, etc. Sure there's things I miss about the old days, and things I sometimes wonder about from times I never seen. It's up to us to say "when", using our conscious mind. We only have so much time, use it as best you can.
Born in 1985, I've seen first hand and still remember very well life before social media. I miss it like crazy! I never did like Facebook, even in 2010 when my mom got sucked into it by other family members. However, I didn't really notice the negative impact social media has truly had on society until the last few years or so, especially since my dad passed away. Because we were so close and neither one of us were much into that stuff, we just kind of did our own thing and was like "whatever" to those glued to their phones. Now with him gone, I've really noticed how so many people seem so uninterested in one another and basically ignore each other, and just how hard it is to make friends now because of it. And every time you ask someone to do a simple favor for you, they either treat you like a possible axe murderer or just go "look it up online/do it online, it's easier." A lot of people just give off a phony/shallow vibe these days in general, too. I'm so grateful to have grown up back when society was still more "normal" and people actually seemed to care for and respect each other a lot more than they do today. Unfortunately, I kind of took it for granted then, and since I was a quiet and awkward kid then, I didn't fully take advantage of when it was easier to make friends. I've missed the 90's and early 00's for well over a decade now, but this social media and the awful affect it's had on people, in general, makes me long for those days now more than ever!
People are not even all that connected. They probably do not interact with anyone online and just learn about things or be entertained. I used to socialize online, but it became harder over time, although I did gain social skills out of it. I just noticed that nobody would take my time seriously. Most people are just treating it as an amusement so that those who rely on it for social activity are more helpless. They actually do focus on their offline friends more than anything and those who have no offline friends or otherwise social network have no traction. RUclips may be the easiest place to get my voice heard in comments, but it is also the least likely for anyone to care about another person through because of lacking interactive features without videos.
What’s interesting is that for me before the pandemic I took a job as a fundraiser, so I intentionally had the responsibility of going door-to-door and talking with people. Having a routine and talking with others seemed to get rid of that fear I had of approaching others even if they were on their phone. People just need to practice mindfulness and intentionality when taking with others.
I feel you as far as being caught between two eras. Growing up I heard about manually filling out job applications. Then I turned 18 and got told everything was online. This applies to many things in my life lol.
Gosh, thank you ! Many vids like this tell me to uninstall, never look back. but this unpractical thing of having it on a PC is just the right contrast, where you spend your time much more freely.
That's how I've found balance as well. When I'm using my PC, it's much easier to allocate a 'healthy' amount of time to social media. Where if it's on my phone, conveniently accessible at all times, it quickly becomes a problem. Breaking some of that habit of having it at your fingertips from you phone at any moment, sometimes is all it takes to create a healthier relationship between your online life and offline life. Thanks for your comment 🙂
I miss when there was little to no social media. Back in the early 2000s things just seemed more vibrate & it seems like there was just more interaction overall back then.
Im an 80s teen I learned by playing with freinds hanging out testing limits clubbing and dancing in person. I think in my time we had an organic knowledge of being alive while today its all inorganic community guidelines whatever the web says kind of living. This is why everything is dead and low energy because technology has already robbed humanity
I like so much to live in real life. Social media never convinced me at all. I feel alive when i talk to people personally. I if could, anyone would have social media. Nowaday we are getting very antisocial and superficial, that is so sad, anyway.
Im 14, and im proud to say i don’t have social media (I use RUclips though) but yeah. Its genuinely soo sad seeing everyone in my class becoming slowly crazy and addicted to social media. I don’t care if my clothing style is 2000s stuff that everyone thinks is ugly. But anyway i feel soo guilty for being born in the year i was. I get soo jealous seeing older people talk about how great the 70-2000s were and i just feel soo sad and left out i wish i was born earlier so i can brag about how i grew up before social medie/phones
Good for you. I'm also happy that you don't care what others think of your clothing. I've never been on social media, but from what I hear, it's full of people picking on others for their appearance, how they dress, etc. Keep being yourself.
Hi. Remember that most people just follow the crowd. Very few think for themselves. Congratulations for doing so yourself. About your clothing style: ""Every generation laughs at the old fashions, but follows religiously the new." - Henry David Thoreau (mid-1800s) I am a senior and even if I was 14 again I would not participate in all that small-screen stuff. I do like RUclips and love computer technology, including encoding. Ask any of your classmates if they know about the alternative to PDF called DjVu. It is usually a more efficient format that PDF, and has been around for about 25 years, but almost no one uses it. Why? Because most people just follow the crowd, and the crowd has probably never asked the simple question: Is there an alternative to PDF?. There was a guy on a skateboard ahead of me on the road, maybe your age, and he had to pull over to answer his phone. Thanks for your input
We have become a society of addicts. I hate when I go out in public and everyone is on their phones. It's disturbing.
Correct!!!!!
Tomato.
luckily I have escaped, I have stopped using my phone 24/7 rather I only use my phone for an hour every day. However when im at school it bothers me when I try to talk to my friends and they are barely even listening because of their phones. Its also sad how some people just cant live without technology. As I was walking down the stairs at my school I took a few moments to look at my everyone around me and oh god, there were so much heads looking down at a screen. In my case I just want to talk to someone and have them actually pay me their attention rather than giving 50% of their attention; You are right, we area society of addicts and it honestly sucks that people just cant get off of technology.
Eh,I say it is good in some way. You do not to deal with assholes or someone you do not like,you can just dive in the internet.
I’m a young person. And lately I’ve decided to limit my phone use more and focus more on my surroundings. I noticed the same, everyone glued to their phone like a zombie.
I deleted all social media years ago and will never go back. It’s absolute mindless, narcissistic garbage.
how often do you watch RUclips?
@@joso7228 That’s different. I use RUclips for old movies and tv shows I like and for entertainment and for knowledge, history. My screen name is fake so no one knows the real me and I don’t post pics or anything about my private life on it. To me it’s really no different than Netflix.
And yet here you are, on social media
@@dutchman063 You obviously didn’t my reply to joso7228 above.
You are on social media.
It all changed around 2008. All in all I really prefer the 90s and the early 00s. But I doubt society will be able to go back to that incredible mindset we had! Internet was great too.
Even adults who are in their mid 40s to mid 50s that recently got the hang of using a smartphone, are busy with spending time with their "smartphones"
Adults that grew up without technology and have changed their "button style phones" to their first smartphones have slowly become more antisocial, less attentive towards "family affairs" and started developing "going sleep late and disbanding early rise routine" behaviours!
Adults in their late 40s in present time, are the last link to the "pre internet" lifestyle era. But I don't blame them, when their grandparents are glued to device screens (every available moment), their children busy with their own family, those adults feel isolated and with technology leaving out no prisoners..... They too have become addictive!
@Endless Nameless But then again at least some of us are beginning to realize the effects of social media, yes I know we are on a platform right now, but the fact we are discussing the harmful use of it is really good. I've begun to stop and look around just to see how glued we are to this fantasy world.
@Endless Nameless Exactly! I think RUclips is a very good platform, not only for being informative but also the potential to solve world issues. Reddit/RUclips is where you will find very intelligent people, not the attention seekers. Me personally I gather information or listen to music and discuss things I'm interested in, which I think is very healthy.
@Endless Nameless For sure, I think that if those kinds of toxic social media never existed, the world would be a much happier place. And thank you very much my friend, it was a pleasure to chat.
Spot on! It was around 2008. That was also the time the internet was able to be used on smart phones and that’s what really killed it for all of us. When you had to log onto your big pc at home it was fun and you made an effort with things online. Now it’s on phones everything is just the same. Life is extremely boring compared to growing up in the 80s and 90s. I find life so weird and empty now. It’s like I’m living but not really living.
I'm afraid it has destroyed our sense of empathy which is one of the best components about a human being
and fostered the most fertile environment that ever existed for the rise and rise of the narcissist, who of course are totally lacking in any ability to feel empathy
Ooh my kids minds will be destroyed ohhhn SHUT UP
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The worst part about social media addiction is that you know that it is bad and that you need to stop, but you almost mentally can't stop.
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I struggle with using my phone less too, it’s very hard to break the addiction of technology. It is very troubling too.
You have to go outside and talk to people make new friends. Because a lot people won’t admit they use it for boredom or loneliness. And a lot of the information on the internet is false.
ActuaIIy, the absoIute worst part about it is that you feeI that you’re constantIy being watched when you’re outside and can *bareIy* get away with anything
@@voiceofreason2691 Especially if someone got mad at you, like a parent, friend, or partner and you feel all guilty or attacked. Or if your brain brings up cringy memories of things you've done or said in the past, or other random thoughts that are weird, kinda bizarre and maybe gross. It just feels like everybody's watching you, looking at you with shame or what not, even though they aren't. Heck there may not even be anybody outside. I guess its worse for people with an "imaginary audience", which is a real phycological phenomenon.
Man, I feel sorry for kids being raised on social media. Being in middle school, high school, and always comparing yourself to other people was tough back then. Today, there's no escape from it because of social media. It's constant.
And god, the freedom of being able to go to a show and not feel compelled to film it. Of not worrying about missed calls, texts, of just being able to disconnect. Those days are gone forever
It's a terrifying thought that for many kids their online identities hold more weight than their in-person identities within their social circles.
We're in new territory. But the negative effects already being observed are already having major implications for modern human interaction. It will likely get worse before people 'en masse' start to wise up and change their digital hygiene to set healthy boundaries for themselves.
I don’t know man, I have really been thinking about ditching my iPhone and going back to a flip phone. Just because time has a way of changing things that doesn’t mean that we have to change with it. I really wish that I could get back all of the time that I wasted on social media trying to connect with people WHO NEVER CARED ABOUT ME.
@@jt3409 Often times, the ones who care the most are the ones who choose to be right there with you. And even better, it's way more fun to interact with them in person than online anyways.
Bonus of making the downgrade to an old school flip phone. Physical keys 🤣
Yeah, friends nowadays don't even knock on doors or even call to let em know anymore. They text it or throw that all together and meet in online lobbies nowadays. Physical interaction is disappearing with every passing age
Yeah I’m in high school without social media and it’s weird to see how many conversations are based off what’s going on in social media. When people talk about it it’s like I can’t say anything. All the sports teams I’m on have social media group chats that I’m not on which people talk on and I feel like I’m missing out on something I don’t even want. These companies make it very hard to stay away and I’m worried for my generation.
I’m 20 now and feel so out of touch with my generation cause I don’t use social media anymore (except RUclips) and don’t go with the trends but I am much happier without it and has def cured my depression. God bless all of you and stay safe
@Boone's Real Eyes thanks I am wish I could have been born in my parents era
Aww, that's amazing! I'm 20 as well, and it feels so good without social media because I don't feel disconnected anymore :)
@@nicatine that’s awesome just be yourself don’t follow all these dumb trends and pointless shit lol
@@AfternoonDaydream8809 Yeah thanks, I won't lol 😆
Stay blessed and take care!!!!!
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I remember the world before social media. It was so much better than it is now!!
Even only Facebook times were really good. Now, lots of stupid thing. IG, stories, etc.
Being born in 1999, anyone within my age range will understand the before and after effect of technology and what it has done to us. We can still solve the problem, it's up to us to make the change and fix the errors
Right? People use to actually believe in love and want to make it work. Men were more gentlemen-like and women knew their roles well. Now everything has gone to crap.
@@Trisof88 what do you mean women knew their roles....🤦🏽♂️
@@jermen5137 Staying in their femininity and offering nurturing, peace and companionship
I did 8 years without any form of social media, I re-joined in 2020 and for the past 2 years it has utterly controlled my life! I physically felt addicted and could spend hours scrolling and watching stupid videos. It’s given me self hatred about the way I look and feelings I’m not good enough. I became obsessed with taking photos of everything. I mean seriously even cups of coffee! What the heck! My sleep has suffered! I’ve felt low in mood… I’ve DELETED the lot of it again & I will not ever go back on it again. It’s dangerous and I’m done with it.
Good for you. Get healthy. They are not.
Welcome back to the real world. I'm happy to know there's one more of us in the world now.
Best of luck
Yeah well 8 years of not using social media is unhealthy too. Because that is too long to not use social media. Like you could've live in a cave like off the grid and never use it would also be unhealthy too. But I will always use social media because I can always watch The Ultimate Fighter on here forever and that will be great.
@@thefighter5182 I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not.
Lol cups of coffee is one of the most pictured objects in social media, you really got me LMAO bc your 8 year off them sounds pretty authentic. Im glad to say last time I took a coffee a picture was in 2018.
Go for your goals. There really isn't much competition because everyone's worried about their digital identity instead of reality. That leaves people with awareness like me and you with an advantage.
I also have same mindset brthr come let's taught few ppl think like that
That’s an interest perspective. I agree but I’d say I was discriminated against in my job because I was seen as one who wasn’t embracing new technology’. Kind of funny because it was me who pioneered a lot of it in my workplace.
Not quite. And if so, well the quality of competition cheapens the process. What you are, associate with, and where you come from matters.
My line of thinking too. The world is now 90% re***ded, that's my "competition" and i'm cool with that, i'll go at 20% effort and that'll still be better than most peoples' 100%.
The problem with being present with the people around you is that, even if you try, those people will still be on their phones every 2 minutes. Then you become bored and/or uncomfortable and what do you do, go for your phone. I honestly have no idea how the world will start twisting this around.
Very well put. This is a sad truth right here, and I've had that exact same experience as well. You decide to metaphorically "disconnect from the matrix" while you're at lunch with your friends. Only to realize how lonely it is since everyone else is still "plugged in."
I'm not sure exactly how the problem will turn on its head. But just like how social media platforms only work once they hit a critical mass of users - I also think more people will choose to disengage from the massive amount of time they spend on their digital life, and then re-engage with the people around them once more and more people begin to do it as well.
I guess you could see it as, reaching critical mass for the social media platform that is Real Life 🤣
Although one tip I've found helpful with my own friends. If we're going out for dinner or spending some time hanging out. Trying to set the precedent beforehand that everyone should try to avoid their phones and be present for the people around them really does seem to make a difference in the short term.
Yes 😔 It's so frustrating trying to do anything with friends, anymore. I've had game nights where it was someone's turn and they're zoned out on their phone, not even paying attention. Or we're trying to watch a show and they're on tiktok instead. What has happened??
@@JordanDrewVideos You forgot the part where you get labelled a social-pariah and ostracized from the group for daring to say they should be doing the activity THAT THEY SHOWED UP FOR instead of just playing hearthstone and other psychologically manipulative gatcha-games the entire time instead.
@@thewingedpotato6463 my ex was so absolutely addicted to her phone to the point where I actually had to tell her if it didn't change we wouldn't work out. Sure enough we didn't.. and that is one of the reasons why
Sometimes, it’s difficult to even be physically around people in the first place because of how busy everyone is all the time.
I’m so thankful my entire childhood was without computers, Internet etc.. we had our friends and lots of outdoor activities.. exploring the world around us made me ready for adulthood.
Same!
Me too. Ran wild in the countryside making dens and hideouts, playing with whatever I found and using my imagination.
My life now is full of hobbies and practical interests, making and mending things. I have a zero social media presence and am as happy as I've ever been.
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The youth of today will be ready for a different kind of adult-hood. Don't get stuck in thinking there's only one way to be brought up. Just a generation before yours and there were different measures to readiness for adulthood and if you follow that trajectory back to caveman times then your youth would have been viewed as severely inadequate.
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That's a good point - I grew up without social media as well, and I remember that people had similar complaints and worries about the technological addictions people had back then as they do today, albeit it was expressed differently for the technology of it's time (television and older video games were the vice of choice for kids and adults while I was growing up, and video games at the time were one of many things that was scapegoated to blame for how most troubled kids behaved, same with what happened with comicbooks and rock-and-roll).
I have family that grew up during the heights of The Counter-Culture Movements, the Civil Rights Movements, and the Cold War Era, and they were also big time-periods of technological advances and great changes to social climates where Gretest Generation families worried about how their Baby Boomer kids would be raised into adulthood too (same with how generations before them felt as well).
I really hate social media, I don't like taking time from the real world in order to use it nor I like seeing other people's mindless posts. I just use it to learn new things or watch content creators.
I completely agree. I think that approaching it from that perspective of learning new things, or finding content from other creators, helps strike that balance really well - because then it at least provides a net benefit. That's what I've reduced to using it for as well.
@John J Keaveney Hey John, thanks for stopping by! I think that the end of the video agrees with your contention here. Social media is just a new challenge that has both its positives right along with it's negatives. No need to lose hope in humanity at all.
Social media likely won't be the end of the world, but there definitely will be ways that we will adapt our society to minimize the negative impacts that we're uncovering as the technologies develop and integrate more and more into our lives.
Glad you have hope friend! Thanks again for watching and swinging by the comments.
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@StyrofoamPosse Why?
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I was born in the 90s and I'm so thankful that my entire life up until I was about 15/16 was social media free. I truly had a wonderful and fun childhood without any of this garbage. Once Instagram came out (I remember being through the middle of high school) it was a game changer. Everything started changing - heck even Facebook! It all sucks now. I can't have a conversation with basically anyone without them having to check their phone for something. It's so frustrating how our online presence is more important than our in person presence. That how we look online matters more than how we look in person. That everything someone does they have to share it to prove how amazing their life is. What happened to staying present? What happened to just enjoying life with the people you love and not caring to impress everyone you dislike? I made a pact with myself this year, as I turn 25, that I'm done sharing my life on social media. It's exhausting.
I can relate I'm 27 and I tell you life in the early-mid 00s I was in elementary and middle school around this time people overall was so much more active carefree and social and had a very full filling life before I enter high school since high school around 2009-2010 I noticed major changes each year since social media especially Facebook and smartphones really starting to took over for the worse and people got more and more antisocial and weirder each year. I'm at a point right now I wish the internet was like the 90s only use it at home that's it and I wish smartphones never existed and social media especially Facebook Twitter Instagram TikTok etc.... It ruining social interaction forever I'm done with the internet social media 🌎 I'm soooooooooooo sick of it at this point everything feels soooooooooooo dead and dull to the extreme now.
Me and my friends literally grew up and the river and the beach.
We met up with friends constantly and they all wanted to be outside swimming, conversating making bonds, partying.
Rip those days.
The horrible thing about this is that, as much as you want to do things differently, you'll find yourself isolated from others. For example, I've tried to reduce the use of my phone while at home with my family, esp during meals, but I'm the only idiot sitting there looking at nothing, because the people around me are glued to their phones and as soon as a meal is over, they go back to their rooms to keep being glued to the phone. I can get very boring, so I go back to the phone. It's horrible to be isolated while being surrounded by people.
Thats the biggest problem so many people feel alone because instead of people spending their time thinking of others and wanting a stronger connection with them.
Its easier to just stay glued to your phone and let those connections dwindle and die.
"The only things worse than being alone, is being around people that make you feel alone" ~ Robin Williams
It seems as if you need an understanding of memes or maybe watch a specific show to make friends. At least that's my POV.
@Keanucharlesreeves58 I have been guilty in the past, but now I try to disconnect as much as possible, I no longer take my phone everywhere with me, and switch off when I am in the company of people who's time I value... I do of course expect the same in return.
Thats how I felt in the army in Korea. It was like I wanted to be out there interacting with people but everyone was on their phone. Would text people in the same room!
i know that feeling! i was on a guided tour of the shakespeare's globe theatre when the tour guide let us all into the venue and told us we could just look around. i was the only one there without a smartphone, so i watched as EVERY OTHER person in my tour group whipped out their phone and spent the next 5 or so minutes looking at the venue through a phone screen! (& i know that if i HAD owned a smartphone, i would've been one of those screen-gazers.) it's crazy how society conditions us to become addicts!
I live in Puerto Rico and during hurricane Maria when the power went out for 2 months and there was no internet, society starting to feel a lot better. People who you haven't seen in years started to come around, we read books, played board games, TALKED, laughed together, listen to the radio, etc! Everything was feeling how it was before social media.
I really like this comment for quite a few reasons. First, because you found the positive in an otherwise extremely challenging situation. (That's a fantastic character trait to have by the way!)
And secondly, it shows a real example just how extreme of a situation it takes for people en masse to "snap out of it" and realize what they've been missing out on right around them. I hope it helped to bring your community closer together ever since.
@@CommonKnowledge42 Thank you! That is really nice of you to say that. I forgot to mention that I slept more because there wasn't any electricity or internet, another plus. Yes, I always try to look for the positive in every situation. 😊❤
@@bori80 I have a suspicion that eliminating all electronic devices (and I suppose artificial light as well) would likely fix also all of my sleep issues 🤣
@@CommonKnowledge42 😂😂😂
@@CommonKnowledge42 mine too!
I got my first smartphone when I was in 6th grade and it all went downhill from there ever since. People of all ages today seem to become more and more dependent on the internet and social media that it’s actually crazy...I think things really started to change around 2008 when social media started to take a huge rise. Watching older movies or tv shows gives me a bit of a sense of what society was like. Back then people just seemed to be more authentic or happy in general. Everything was so much more genuine and I wish we could live like those times without all of this overwhelming toxic information from social media causing people to change so much
I really do hope it’s just a transition period, that we have something new and powerful that we don’t know how to balance its use and effect on our daily existence.
Now that’s optimistic thinking… With current trends it’s hard to foresee that being the case. but we can hope for the best right??
I think these comments prove that people are starting to come around to the idea that healthy balance is super important. That for sure gives me some hope for the future!
Indeed,those were the days,"the down to earth days",,,,,,where most'f the things had a smell of soil🌾🥜🥥🌽🥜🌾🥥,simplicity,originality,creativity,strong emotional bonds 'nd productivities,,,,,, which is missing now!!!!!🌹🌹🌹🌹🌻🌻🌻🌻😢💚💚💚💚💚🕯️🔔🕯️
@@CommonKnowledge42 whatever makes money is what will be done. The corporations took over everything and restructured society. It's always been profits over people, but they have a lot more power now.
Kinda suspect the ability to change yourself so quickly will develop into a survival instinct as society continues
Films are not the way to see how society was some time ago.
I feel so weird man, i go out for a walk , without my phone all i see is everybody on their phones like zombies
It feels like a very "red pill or blue pill" decision every time you leave your phone completely behind for a while.
I am 61 years old and I have noticed over the years people being more anti social with one another in close proximity yet they are on their iPhones endlessly following the latest trends or communicating with online friends from across the country and the globe. Nobody notices anyone and everybody is looking at their screens.
I love going for a walk after work without phone, it’s great.
I have to use phone all day for work.
This is true I once was trying to make conversation with this person and the whole time they were on their phone so I just gave up lol
Im 14 and I go out for walks to, for me mostly to take the stress out and I felt happier going outside
The very fact that I went searching for a video like this demonstrates that there are people who are overwhelmed and almost disgusted with what's happening to society because of social media. I was raised in the 80s and I will tell you that I was much happier and more fulfilled before technology and social media entered the platform. For all of the very reasons this video explains. It's extremely difficult when you know both sides of the equation. You know what it was like before social media and you know what it's like with social media and it actually causes depression for my generation because we see how sad and unrealistic life has become. I actually feel sorry for Millennials and people that are younger than I am because this is their reality and they have never known a time when it wasn't like this. I honestly think that social media and AI will be the end of society as we know it. We are human beings and we need other human beings or we would have not been created to be with them. Social media and Technology were created to bring the world together and to bring some sort of unity to the planet and it has done the very thing that it was created to do. We have never been more unhappy and divided as a country and as a planet. It is extremely sad
100% agree with everything said here.
There is no proper place for serious conversation anymore.
The fact that I have to force some people to make simple responses on what should be common sense is baffling.
And whoever I try a conversation, even a casual conversation on the internet that just talks about things like emojis, I get talked down to.
80's kid checking in. Can relate. The problem for me is the lack of accountability for the tech software engineers. A couple of days ago I put it down to young idiot engineers who grew up (unlike us) not knowing what quality / quality of life is, then blessing us with their 'knowledge' as far as recommendation algorithms go. Now i'm almost convinced that the young 'uns are only partly to blame, it's probably more like engineers of any age, but they're all as unwilling to risk their inflated salaries by saying something about the ethics of what it is they've done to society. I see FB and Google engineers talking in videos and genuinely wonder how they sleep at night, because not one of them has the balls to risk their position and drop the hammer on the company they're working for. And re: AI, "We have neolithic emotions, archaic institutions and Godlike technology", so I think we're in for an awesome ride, all things considered!
Great points. And the AI thing that’s coming. It’s just beginning.
I was born in 85. I feel the same way you did. There is a big difference between life before and after social media. I can feel both.
Social media just needs to end, period.
Yeah it's getting old. Actually was old a while ago. It has hit critical mass I think. It is also the reason why tons of women who are not 9s/10s think that they are. Online attention from a lot of thirsty guys.
I wish more people were willing to end social media
Social media is tearing us apart as a nation also
It’s even bigger than that I’m starting to see. The people of the world are turning so hard against one another it’s sickening
Yep if it wasn't for these corporate assholes.....
Ikr? Its heartbreaking 💔
@@nahmastay3300 it's too easy to spread BS info. With photoshop, voice changing programs, ect... You can take a picture of anyone and make it look like they were doing something completely different.
@Luigina Trotta You a part of the problem, fucking toilet sponge. People like you are why division becomes worse.
I’m 19, I hate when I hang out with friends and we’re trying to play games together and then they just stop playing and get on their phones. Or I’ll be talking to them and they just get on their phones while I’m talking to them. At least I put down my phone when people are talking to me or when I’m playing a game with someone, it’s like no one has manners anymore
There's a brilliant world to be explored filled with unique and endlessly complex people surrounding us at any given moment in life. Yet so often people choose to be consumed by a six inch box instead.
I feel for ya. It's immediately lonely when you make the decision to set down the phone and be more present with the people around you. You begin to realize how disengaged most people are with the people right there in front of them, feeding the dopamine release by being present with their online identity instead.
However... I'm starting to see that choosing to be present, instead of constantly attached to your phone while you're around people, can be almost like a superpower. You'll develop a better ability to interact with others in person, you'll resonate with their dialog better, and you'll share richer interactions. (Even if briefly while they interrupt the flow of conversation to resort to their habit of checking their phone)
People you interact with will notice a quality about you that's different, they may not be able to put a finger on what that is, but they'll enjoy being around you more because of it. And who knows, maybe when you tell them it's because you'd rather be present with the people around you, not checking your phone every few minutes, they might just start doing the same.
Wish you luck being a young adult in this interesting shift in culture and communication. Do things differently and be better than the status quo. Guarantee you'll be successful in everything you do.
@@CommonKnowledge42 Thanks for the long reply, it’s not often that uploading even answer comments at all. Keep making videos, love your channel!
@@CommonKnowledge42 About complex people. There are really not much unique humans out there.
@@sarcastic2731 Everyone is unique. Sometimes they just forget that truth... and unfortunately slowly turn themselves into everyone else because it's more comfortable.
@@CommonKnowledge42 Sorry,but I do not think so. While it is hard to deny the possibility of someone is unique,chances are low. How much truly outstanding people were in history? I doubt there will be at least 10000 of them or even 1000. But even if we do not take only these,but people who are just different,I still think they make ~15-10% of population.
Yeah I don’t find life to be that interesting as a whole in this social media digital age. It’s like everything caters towards technology and social media wayyy too much! It takes away from so many aspects of a persons life like their communication skills, their attention span, and most importantly their time. It’s like we live in a programmed world where everybody just wants to be the same, look the same, sound the same and do the same things and I blame social media for that. That’s why music/television/entertainment is so lackluster these days. Society has lost so much and these days are only defined by popularity, looks, and truly nothing that’s worth anything. Ugh I want it to all go away.
Exactly how I feelll
@Tremayne Umbles wow! Of course you can. I’m glad you found it and can put it to use. I’d like to know how that goes.
"These days"
It was always this way,from ancient times to now. Nothing new.
The world has always been like that. Like this.
To be fair: it’s always been like this.. heavily
I am 6 years without social media. Used to bem addict on Reading book since kid. Used to have people telling me I was super smart. Then I got addicted to RUclips and became an addict on documentaries etc .. became deeply depressed.. went rock bottom.. this year trying to recover but is so hard
To be honest, where I go, I feel alienated from all the people I've met. From my work, when I return home, and when I travel, people are so glued to their phones they just swipe their fingers to check on Social Media news feeds, and I'm the only one who's very much focused on the present. Seeing how social media takes over the lives of many people nowadays just makes me feel very dissapointed
Born in 96, been on fb for 6 years. Just deleted it about a month ago and never looked back. Started reading actual books. Facebook had become so consuming of my life and I could feel it controlling the way I feel and the mood I was in. Had to take back control of my life.
It's amazing the difference in perspective once you make the switch from social media to reality having the larger percentage of your attention. I can completely relate.
one thing ive realized is how much stuff like: twitter, facebook, snapchat, tiktok, instagram, truly doesn't matter. if you just take a step back even for a short moment (about a week) you start to see how much social media really doesn't pop up in the real world. it's not important and it destroys lives.
Born 96 as well
Well done
I’m a 93 baby. Just turned 29. I’ve had Facebook since about 2009 I think. I removed my account at the start of the new year and I feel so much better. I had tiktok for a while but found myself addicted and spending hours scrolling through. It was scary!
Born in 85. I remember the rise of internet and social media. Social media is ruining my kids. If they dont have a charge on thier phones then the world is over. RUclips is my only social media
I was born in 87, im 100% with u. We watched our world get distracted, have shorter attention spans, narcissistic "influencers" making millions, and cringey woke politics. The internet used to be a gold mine, now its a weapon of critical proportions
@@DEV3N87 preach
80s kid here too. God we had it so good
Although I am 17, but same with me sir, I always learn some technology on RUclips. I downloaded FB and Insta also, but those gave me an Impostor Syndrome.
Born around the same time, and got my 1st phone when I was 20. The charge on those Motorola phones lasted for days. And there wasnt social media on them. And Tobey was Spider-Man. Good times.
Before Social Media, people were happy to go to each other's houses, play board games, go to the park, beach, picnics, or mall, go watch movies, or rent a DVD and have movie nights at home, and of course we had game nights, Friday was usually pizza night, go for sleepover at each others houses, play video games together instead of by yourself in your bedroom, and just do more outdoor activities.
Nowadays, I don't see kids playing at the park, I see very little people doing outdoor activities, everyone's face is planted on their phone, people rarely go to each other's houses, no one even knows who their neighbors are, no one plays those board games anymore, everyone is watching TikTok shorts or some Instagram shorts instead of watching a Movie together with family, there is no sense of community, culture, or shared values, everyone is lonely, sad, and miserable.
I really don't know where Humanity is going, we are living in a digital world, and with Metaverse, Virtual Reality Headsets, TikTok/Instagram/RUclips shorts, etc., people find their real life unbearable and everyone wants to escape to the digital world.
This is basically 1984, A Brave New World, and Fahrenheit 451 novels all combined within a single Society.
Sadly, this very accurately describes what I've observed around my neighborhood and park as well, and it's so friggin' depressing. Everyone is pretty much isolated from one another and in their own world. Hardly any kids go outside anymore or go to the park. When I go to the park, it's nowhere near as crowded or busy like it always was when we first moved into the area. There is also absolutely NO sense of community or culture where I'm at, either. That sense of community is probably what I miss most of all from the pre social media days. I don't know where Humanity is going either, but so far, it seems to be going straight to hell.
@@jscountrygirl85_326 I don't see many people in the library anymore either
Yeah people were happy to do all those things if you were popular and had friends.
If you were a loser and no one wanted anything to do with you. Good luck being invited to others house, good luck finding people to play board games with or go to the park with. Some people in the 90s were as alone as kids are today and they had no choice in the matter!. But back then they were the minority. Kids like me. Now it feels like far more kids are alone.
internet and smartphone culture is only half the problem! what people aren't talking about is WHY most kids prefer to stay inside and be on their phone instead of playing outside. look at the design of most suburban communities in the USA, how car dependent they are, how few businesses, shops, and restaurants are within a 15 min walk from any household. of course kids who live in those neighborhoods prefer to stay inside! there's nowhere they can play except a comparatively small backyard, the streets are just for cars, and if they want to go to a friend's house, they'll probably have to get an adult to drive them. meanwhile i did not mind not having wifi at all while traveling in the UK (except at paddington station) b/c everywhere i went, there were businesses & cultural amenities within walking distance. it's truly amazing the difference between london and my hometown, b/c at home, if the wifi were to go out, i'd be losing my mind!
@@fernthaisetthawatkul5569 You absolutely made a good point.
American Cities are not designed with communities in mind. And everyone definitely needs a car in outside the East coast.
I totally agree… it is a cultural cancer in America. Every time I hear that someone is a “social media influencer” all I hear is someone saying they sit at the cool-kid table in the lunch room of a mental institution.
I was born in ‘71.. My childhood was in the 80s, and I became an adult in the 1990’s
I am extremely grateful I had the childhood I did. I feel bad for kids today. Face down, looking at a screen 24/7. Desperate for approval, desperate for that ‘like’ with whatever they are doing…
As a 90’s Kid, I feel lucky to have played outside, before experiencing the technology dominates every aspects of life.
Man I wish I grew up then aswell, it truly saddens me about society today
@@benten9135 it was fun and boring but, it was real.
@@Meatwad787 yep, about as real as it gets compared to now
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I also grew in the 90s and I didn't have all this technology. I am so glad I was born in that decade.
I'm 25, and I am very thankful that I grew up playing outside and going out with friends. It wasn't until I was 13 that I got my first phone, but back then we weren't constantly using our phones like that. We still cared more about being in the moment. That is gone now.
Exactly it definitely got worse and worse each year since social media and smartphones really started to take over completely of our lives.
I think I need to take a break from social media. Truly. I hate what it changed me into. I need to stop that.
you'll be better
Same with me to
Social media is definitely not the only thing,that's destroying society
as humans,we were always destroying one another,way before the internet.
Can you give us some examples of how humans are destroying the world besides social media present and past?
Also, people talk to one another on social media in a way they’d never to someone’s face.
"People becamed too comfortable with talking to each other like shit on the internet, and not getting punched in the face for it."
- Mike Tyson.
I start teaching college chemistry in 1990. It was a joy. We had small classes so that I could interact with the students, even joke around. When they came to my office for additional help, we would have conversations about their future plans, my cats (I am a cat lady) and a broad list of topics. As the years went on, I found that both of these were decreasing. Students were more and more detached from the goings on in the classroom and they contributed less and less during our office time. Near my retirement, I felt like I was interviewing students that came to my office rather than having two way conversations. It was truly sad and I longed for the "good old days."
There was internet in the early 90's, but that was mostly for computer nerds interested in the tech, normal people for the most part did not use it.
@@waynecaissie1167 Really?
Having social anxiety, I like using my phone as a crutch in social situations, but when I’m with friends I see it as downright rude. If I’m with someone I want to be present. I’ll never understand those groups of people who go out to eat and sit at the table on their phones
They just want the photos for their narcissistic feed.
I was always the one, who was so desperate looking for social interaction, but I always felt so lonely because I missed out on a lot of things. Society is breaking apart!
I know this video was made 2 years ago, but I'm sure more and more people are realizing now that social media is just getting worse. From fake news, censorship, users being very disrespectful to others and most of all, the amount of negativity. We all have choices and there will be a number who may disagree, but I feel so much better mentally having deleted all my social media apps. (Tic tok is the worst). Information overload is not healthy, and I'm choosing to ignore what's happening in the world around me thats negative, and only worried about my family and what's happening in my backyard.
I remember when there were only 4 TV stations at most. There were no 24 hour stations. Real news was reported. Opinion pieces were not common place. We played board games and card games with our family members and neighbors. We helped each other. We had a real community where common decency was common place. I miss those days.
Born in 91! I can relate!!! I deleted my IG and FB last year and I haven’t looked back! I do use Reddit Pinterest and RUclips still. 🤷🏻♀️
That's awesome! A few years ago I removed the apps for all of my social media platforms from my phone to break "the scrolling habit" and to make it more difficult and out of the way to access. It worked pretty well, now I only check each platform once in a blue moon, or if I actually need to contact someone.
Reddit, pinterest, and yt are still social media and it takes up all your time. Get rid of em
But keep yt actually. Yt helped me learn A LOT!
RUclips gets a pass because you would've never seen this video.
Set a timer on how much yt you can watch a day. Its just as addictive
I miss simpler times. When I was growing up we were way more at peace than I realized. The more technology and social media grows the more angrier people are getting the more disconnected socially and the more politics and other ideologies are intertwining in our decision making. It is a cancer. Technology has helped in so many ways but it is also destroying our children and causing a wake of destruction culturally
Agree 💯 I seen it myself to over the years especially when I enter high school around 2009-2010 I seen and observe over the years when social media and smartphones really started to take over of so many people lives for the worse. I miss elementary and middle school days in the early-mid 00s when it wasn't too much technology yet and it was balance of internet and a social life like now.
Yup, even some of the greatest inventions in human history have side effects and social media is one of them.
Society was so much better without social media, people are too sensitive these days everything is considered offensive now
It's really interesting how social media accelerated those problems, when during the beginning it was thought that being more 'instantly connected with others' would have the opposite effect.
Makes me wonder if that means there is a better way in the future, or if it's just human nature and this was the inevitable result.
Ehhhh, not really. Everyone has always been offended over stupid shit since even before the internet. Remember when white people would constantly loose their shit over a black person sitting down on the “wrong” bus seat, or going to the “wrong” places in public during the segregation era?
Remember when middle aged religious parents would through a stupid fucking tantrum over everything being “satanic” ranging from Pokémon during the 90s, to pretty much almost every major music genre that wasn’t country/Christian? Remember the satanic panic of the 80s? Yeah.
Remember when people lost their shit over dnd back in the 70s for being “satanic” as well? Jesus, I could keep going on but all I’m saying is that nothing hasn’t exactly changed when it comes to what people are offended by. Fuck, just a few months ago people were memeing all over guys like carl tuckerson for being offended over a dumb green m&m design change that was just a ploy to shy the attention away from the fact that the company uses child labor to make their chocolate.
People have always been stupid and highly offended. The internet is just making that a LOT more obvious than ever before.
Blame Twitter and the whole "Woke" movement. Comedy isn't even the same anymore because of this. My mother grew up with the famous "sticks and stones" saying. This generation? We can't even have games like dodgeball in our schools anymore because someone claimed it encourages bullying. And you have people quitting their jobs in the food service because customers became extremely difficult to work with. 🙄
PIXEL THE ALIEN have you ever worked in fast food? I mean I've worked plenty of places and I'm 20 just starting to work in the job I'm getting my degree in. At some point you get fed up. Making barely minimum wage and getting yelled at for chicken nuggets and fries not being warm. I get your other points but people shouldn't be shamed for quitting a job just because people want processed, greasy foods.
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I’m still very young, but I know how many kids my age are slaves to social media. It’s scary, so many people in my school’s hallways are always doing TikTok dances or singing trending songs that’ll be considered “cringy” in a only few weeks. I used to have TikTok, I deleted it due to it lowering my attention span and taking up hours of my time each day. I’m much happier now than before with the only social media platforms I use RUclips and Pinterest. The sad part is the majority of people addicted to it will either believe that it’s not a problem or they know but don’t care. I remember a couple of years ago when everyone I knew wasn’t always like this. I miss it.
It's like when online, no one sees you as a real person anymore.
I miss talking on the phone with those you met.
I miss making real, come to my house for dinner type of friends.
I think of all the years the internet has been around, all the 10's of 1000's of posts I've made on various sites, out of all of that, not a single friend (One, we met over a forum and became good phone friends for years, but we never met in person).
Interaction online has become dehumanizing, we're simply reduced to a 'post' or a 'comment', and nothing more or less.
Yes. I've noticed this for a while now. RUclips comments section is about all the social media I do. I haven't had Facebook in years. Used snap for a bit and got rid of that a while ago as well.
I as many others on here find this trend sad. I was born in the early 90's and also remember days of genuine connection. I studied the effects in my young 20's, and as a result I stayed away from social media as much as possible. This led to a somewhat lonesome life after i finished university and everyone moved away. Many of my older friends saw my lack of social media pressence as an attempt to distance myself, when in reality it was a longing for more genuin connection.
Many times i would go to a party with old friends, and I pretty much new all about their lifes. Yes I still used facebook, as a way to keep in touch. But I knew who peoples girlfriends were, what they did professionally, what hobbies they pursued, and so there was no need to ask my old buddies from my hometown: hey hows the love life going?
Hopefully a trend will start that will take us on a different path.
Same same... People thinks that I don't want them and I am hiding while in reality I knew the harsh effect of social media before they know it, now they don't talk to me on phone, and only interaction possible is in person but no one have time it just become like old age society for me, I don't use whatsapp cos even text massage interaction is not real, we as a human race becoming worse and worse everything become materialistic and show off and very low value toward inner peace and real life
When I got rid it of in lockdown it changed me. So much time wasted on it. Live your life and love it. Be present. You feel better. And practice mindfulness
I wish I grew up in those days, I actually HATE the new technology, everyone seems so informal in the manner of conversation it’s actually depressing to see
I feel like its also ruining tv and cinema, because producers listen to vieweres too much. Now films are designs, not art
I agree on that too. Because people leak spoilers for those movies and shows and it’s really annoying.
I’m an opioid addict in recovery and I can safely say they way I feel bound to my phone feels identical to being addicted to drugs maybe even worse I can live a life without drugs but I can’t imagine a life without my phone
I think social media it's a double-edge sword. If you use it to learn new things about the world or your career they can be helpful and powerful. However, most people just feed their ego and narcissim in these platforms. I think it has done more harm than good tbh, but that's my opinion. I'm really curious where the world will go to in the next few decades.
I always thought that sharing pictures on social media would be the equivalent of inviting hundreds of people to take a peek at your bedroom and private life, but you can't see who actually came and is watching. Definately not my thing.
I honestly just use social media for movie facts and politics humor
I complete agree.
Then how to use social media to improve our lives?
@Tremayne Umbles I don't mind at all, go ahead! :) would like to read that project of yours, feel free to send me a DM once you're done with it. Best wishes
Finally, someone who’s not just “PHONE BAD, BOOK AND JESUS GOOD” and that’s it. There’s plenty of pros and cons to almost everything, and the internet is no exception.
I've been catching myself on my phone longer and longer... It's depressing.
I know the feeling. I find myself slipping back into the habit all the time and have to make a conscious effort to cut back to stay present in the moment.
The hard part is that is when you begin to notice how everyone else is trapped in their own little "phone world" too.
Apart from calling and messaging i pretty much only use my smartphone for RUclips, Netflix, eBay and Spotify. I got rid of my other social media apps (only message on RUclips) A couple of days without all that social media noise really goes a long way. Nothing wrong with smartphones, it's an amazing invention but there must be a balance of things.
I’m glad this is being addressed. I have seen too many instances of friends and relatives being together physically, but not mentally because of this addiction.
I also believe that it has made some people ruder than they otherwise would be.
It also interferes with some friendships if that friend, like many others, just cannot put down their gadget. I have a hard time not taking their impaired attention span personally, because my first thought is, “does she think I’m boring her or something?” I’m so tempted to just grab these things out of some people’s hands and say, “I’m talking to you!”, but I know the usual response will be something about how they’re really good at multitasking.
15 year old here. I was basically in school trying to talk to some friends. When I tried they just pushed me away and started being on their phones. Eventually I gave up and went on mine too. Social media really has ruined everything…
Just my opinion people 14 and 15 shouldnt have a phone. 17-30 is a resonable age
@@jonathanwilliams365 nah
@@josiahademiluyi4677 Just my opiniion but you do you
I was walking around the mall the other day and everyone was dressed the same. I mean I know we wear what’s in trend but literally everyone looked like influencer brand wearing wannabes. Everyone literally was wearing the same thing it freaked me
That's just fashion trends. Every era has them
That's how I feel when I go to downtown Ann Arbor. In the summer, all the men have on some name brand tee shirt and shorts, and all the women wear shorts and a white crop top. All neutral colors or baby pink or blue. It's freaky.
Everyone wears the same facial makeup as well. They all watch the same youtube tutorials, highlight/contour the same areas, so their facial bone structures end up looking identical. I noticed it about 6 years ago and it freaked me out. I can't unsee it.
it feels so weird when your friends/coworkers/neighbors look at you like YOU'RE the weirdo b/c you didn't get that reference they made to some tiktok trend! as if it's not normal to NOT have some silly app where you're not really going to see anything of substance!
Not in cape may county nj and many other small-medium republican towns unless you go during “shoobie” tourist season also one of the happiest places I’ve lived in
Even if you try to quit social media, literally every other person around you is also addicted to their phones, and eventually you end up relapsing as well. It has become impossible to escape digital distraction in this world. All of my classes are online, my study material is online, my entertainment is online, so I spend almost all my day on my phone. I can't help it. Only taking classes and studying takes up at least 8 hours. The first 12 years of my life were without social media and any form of serious technology. Those were the golden years.
It all comes down to…….we do what we WANT to do!
Take responsibility for yourself
I went to a park yesterday to flim trains. Nobody was on their phones. I had my phone for the only purpose of filming trains. It was so nice, everyone looked so happy. It was beautiful.
Addiction kills awareness. It s all gone too far.... like a terminal disease, all you can do is manage the symptoms.
As a male, I grieve the loss of Women to the mirror of their phones.
I was born in 1983 and I'm in your boat. I feel historically, mine and your generation will be such a special case because we physically know what life was like before digital and technical advancements. I truly miss those Friday nights going to get a pizza, swinging by blockbuster and renting one movie and one VideoGame then going home in time to watch TGIF with my parents until Hugh downes and Babers Walters ruined my family fun time with 20/20. Then Saturday morning cartoons til 11, and after that building treehouses and playing ball with the neighbors and cousins, no cell phones or social media..... Man, memories
I miss the time when kids played with toys and went to the park to play. Social media companies need to be held responsible for what they're doing to society. When a teenager commits suicide because of something that happened to their digital identity, we should charge the board of directors of the offending platform with manslaughter and confiscate the company's profits. It should not be legal to make billions from a drug that destroys people's lives, but that's exactly what social media is doing to our youth.
Thanks for the excellent video! I'm seeing more and more people waking up to this reality, hopefully we can actually do something about it as a society.
That argument is too far fetched though.
It's just like saying Police officers should be charged with murder if someone commits murder in the locality.
@@asresalim6145 no, its like saying that a police officer who murders is a murderer. All social media sites have algorithms that prioritize divisive and harmful content above all else for the sake of profit. the algo is the gun
Thankfully, I come from an island of fish and game. Many kids here still play at parks
It would be tough to make any changes, the people in control of social media companies have gotten rich off of it and politicians are reluctant to make any law changes that would impact them. Something's gotta give one way or another, though. Social media has everyone angry at each other and it feels like society's starting to fall apart.
Just imagine the poor people who get bullied on social media. Without it, they wouldn't have that problem.
I deleted Facebook and twitter for good a few weeks ago and I also noticed I had to take distance from the news because they sometimes have the same impact on me ! So I watch the news once every 2 weeks and I have RUclips remaining+ Instagram for my business (I follow 7 people) ! It feels better. Social Media were totally different before but as you say in your great video, many people feel it has gone out of control !
I had to do the same thing with news as well. They fall under the same category of intentionally competing for your attention and they frame their headlines and articles in the way that will be most likely to get you to click, usually by eliciting a negative emotion.
I ended up allocating a day or so a week that I use catch up on everything that happened the week prior, and try to do so in an objective way that sees through the headline's "clickbait" nature.
Social media is frustrating me. People take for granted for what is going outside. I posted a video inviting people to attend activities and events. People just ignore. Life was much better before social media. People communicated with each other and did real interactions. People are addictively struck in the digital world. I do not want to constantly to share stories digitally. I want people to have real conversations and engagements outside social media world.
Yn facts
Social media is the trend to controlling people
Social media is literally like the meta verse
Perhaps you are right. Everybody is getting brain washed no? How sad
I'm so glad that people recognise the dangers of social media and society's over dependence on it. It's crazy, because at my university, one of my lecturers encouraged us to 'think critically', and only ended up discrediting research which raises concerns about the negative effects of mobile phones and social media - his view seemed very swayed, and in denial of the negative effects of phones and social media.
I'm happy that a lot of us are aware of this problem, and deciding to overcome it is something to get used to, but what really scares me is what the future has for us... I hear from people around me how they're raising their children before they even have their first birthday with an ipad in front of their face, and it really worries me that the next generation won't be able to differentiate what's reality and what's not. It's gonna be a new problem we'll have to face in the future.
Remember when the internet was like the wild west? Those days were fun. But now I find myself asking is it possible to get physically sick of memes? Either way time to disconnect from these apps and reconnect to a simpler time.
Ah, those were the times. It felt like an exciting new frontier to explore - even though we had to listen to a robot scream at us every time we fired up the dial-up connection 😂
The problem now is wifi, internet, social media, as a whole is a HUGE drug. If we want to go back to a simpler time we have to come down and have withdrawals as a society. And if that actually does happen, it will be a very dark time for all. The damage is already done
@@DEV3N87 wow 😞
I'm afraid you're gonna be heading in a lonely Island!
Oh, yes, the memes. They're so played out and repetitive. Why do they all seem to have the same characters like the sideways-facing blonde bearded guy?
The concept of spending 4 or 5 HOURS (an afternoon) LISTENING to an elderly person relate things from their life 60 or 70 years ago (or even longer!) and before cassette recorders (sadly) or video cameras (even sadder) is something I almost cry about. I had 80, 90 and even 100 year-old lucid relatives that told me stories about them growing up, and about THEIR GRANDPARENTS that may have lived with them in THEIR old age!!! I had a vision of MY family back over 150 years as PEOPLE with quirks and personalities and tastes in food, and illness and deaths of children and hardships that brought tears to my eyes. It was MUCH better than watching U-toobs and I don't do fakebook or stuff on a phone. BTW, now I'M an old person-a child of the 50's-a boomer.
I'm never going to use Twitter, Facebook, or any other social media site, and I'm planning to delete my Instagram soon. I'm perfectly happy with just RUclips.
Taking a trip down Twitter is enough to be depressed and lose hope to the point of never wanting to socialize with another human being again.
Someone saves a life, people will be mad
Someone does anything good, people will be mad
Someone dies, people will make memes out it
All in all you don’t really see people with this type of behavior in person but online it’s like you’ve entered hell for free
I'm currently 14 and I've never actively used any social media (besides youtube) and because of it I'm shamed and isolated by my peers. I've now learned to not care about others opinion of me and rather focus on improving myself and reaching my own goals.
luckyyy
As a 2000 born, I approve of your video. Back when social media weren't a thing, I mainly grew up on toys, television and computer only, great memories shall be unforgettable. Notice today's change.
I went out to dinner last night with a friend that I didn’t see for 7 years.
At times she was in her phone. I had to stop the conversation to see if she was listening. I’m like damn, I could see if I was with my 23 year old son.
(Full grown mature people behaving like children)
I definitely will address this with her. I think it’s foolishness🤷🏾♀️
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Happened to me too! I couldn't believe it. She was in her phone the whole dinner. I give up, even dropped her as a friend after that. I find difficulty connecting with people now, even Boomers addicted to Facebook now.
Honestly it isn’t worth it. People when being corrected, they will say, “it’s a norm now.” Or, they just don’t give a rats ass. You haven’t seen this person for seven years? Make it another 7 years. See if it helps. Cheers.
@Julie Lourdes social media is the reason why people attention span are shorter now aswell
@@SuMMeRFLi5not this Boomer thank you very much
I was born in the year of 2002, I am diagnosed with Autism spectrum disorder, my childhood wasn't that great feel like I wasted much of my childhood, I was very shy, had no friends, but it felt different when I was younger at elementary school when there was no social media there was so many kids playing in recess enjoying in elementary and people all used to talk to one another and make jokes, but me just confused, quiet, and shy and dumb. When I first got my phone I was young and 11-12 that time games all from google play and youtube destroyed my whole late teens to be able to socialize, make friends, or talk to people during school. It felt like hell for me just a life like of depressed/anxiety.Recently got bullied at 7th grade, and 9th grade too. It wasnt that fun because I had no idea the phone was damaging my social life the entire time! And me look dumb. ALL because of those freakin apps!.I was slow. I didn't feel like talking to anyone because I don't trust no one I finally woke up and during 11th grade high school at realized that social media is my cure of what I am experiencing from being myself who I really am. Then what pisses me off is that almost every class that I went to people always use their phones and only up to 3 people including me participate to talk about what teacher is teaching us. I find it very disturbing to all the people in the class not trying to socialize to each other. Which makes it extremely hard for me to make some friends because it looks depressing and I don't want to be first one to go and start a conversation with a buddy beside me and the rest just silent using their phones, completing their work, them sleeping of their desks, and others just want to be alone listening to music. Now when covid hit during my senior year all the classes that I took online, seems off, like people don't really want to meet another, know each other, and it was super boring like all of them would just not talk or make jokes, just teachers calling them out, teaching them. Finally when I was done at high school I was happy that Im done becuase I wanted to get away from there with my diploma. I'm already going to college, hopefully I make good friends but it won't be easy. I'm challenging myself that I must rebuild my life of what I missed out before I get super old, regreting not doing things that makes me happy and enjoy life instead of the damm phone and games, get to know new people becuase I wasted on the drug social media and games when I could have been playing with other kids and interacting with them sadly it never happened. It wont be easy for me to get to know the person if people are going to be on their glued phones or whatever I experienced from high school, now that I have all the social media out of the way expect RUclips and whatsapp. I knew that college is my time to shine when I go there and improve what I've got that I missed out on 💪.I dont know whats happening to this generation with social media has ruined my childhood and my apserger condition and my teenage years and I don't want to know how the rest of the generation kids future is going to be when I get very old soon or have kids I'd be scared becuase soon they are all going to be not socializing, or playing outdoor activities as it was before
ik this is from a year ago but it’s so heartbreaking to read. i really hope you’re doing better too, i have my regrets as well and you aren’t alone. i hope you’re okay
I didn’t buy my first cellphone/smartphone until I was in my mid 40s. Social media is poison, I live happily without garbage such as Twitter, Facebook and etc…
I primarily use my phone when I'm on the toilet, searching for something I need to know, or browsing for something interesting or educational on RUclips.
When I go out for a walk, go to a public place, or to hangout with friends I always have my phone away so I can enjoy life and the scenery. I always feel like the only one though because everyone else is either sitting there or walking while glued to their phone.
Great video. I can relate to this a lot. I miss the early 00s... the vibes were just different :( hopefully we can have wholesome vibes again in the world.
I agree, it's strange how it's hard to describe how it "felt" different, but it's absolutely true for me as well!
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@@CommonKnowledge42 this!!!! Couldn’t agree more
@@EAT1999 Glad I'm not alone in that observation. We can only hope that online culture is cyclical and we'll one day come full circle to the frontier feeling of online communities.
Perhaps there is some promise in Web 3... Depending on the path it takes in its many potential branches of potential. There are definitely paths leading to making the issue far worse instead of better.
@@CommonKnowledge42 it'll take the path of making the most money for corporations. You can tune out though!
For me everything changed when I went to high school. In middle school we were never allowed on our phone and my peers seemed more aware and happy. Now every time I look around I see Al least half of my classmates on their phones, even when the teacher is lecturing.I think the saddest part of all of this is my teachers don’t care because they rather have a bunch of brain dead,non verbal kids than rowdy ones
I think teachers just realise that if their pupils use phones during the lesson,nothing will stop them.
The reason many children uses phone is pretty simple, baby cry, give phone. Not baby cry, let cry.
@@mrk3357 English?
@@DSN262 I mean I explained it pretty pretty simple but here you go
When babies cry their parents give them phone/ipad.
And not like this
When babies cry, let them still cry.
Seeing how the world has changed in the last 2 decades, and in which direction society is rapidly going to, I'm progressively more and more happy I'm not immortal.
I was born in 2002 india, so I spent most of my childhood without ADDICTIVE social media. Back in my teens, I used Facebook to only play games, and that too with friends (miscrits if anyone remembers). Also, the world used to be a lot less competitive and people were actually good by heart. There was also no flexing culture and people were quite social as well. There was also a perfect balance between being religious and open-minded. It was peak humanity. These days everyone is self-centred, main reason being social media, and this is the leading cause of unhappiness
I'm sure your older generations once said your generation was degenerated. It's always been like this
Great video, the problem for the new generation is that they grew up carrying a phone. They don't have a measure of comparison meaning they just don't know how better the relationships were before the social media. It is not natural to have your phone always with you as if it were an extension of your body.
Thanks for the compliment! 😊 I really am curious to see how the behavioral research pans out on the upcoming generations who've always had a smartphone from ages as young as elementary school. I think what the negative effects could be are pretty well estimated - but the optimist in me hopes for a scenario where growing up with it could force them to discover the need for self-regulation. Since doing so could actually be seen as giving you an advantage for success in other areas of your life over the long-run. I know most people would disagree with that scenario ever happening... But I can still hope for the best even if it never ends up happening, haha.
This was one of my favorite videos I've watched in along time thanks for making this. hopefully in a year this has millions of views. The world would be a better place if so
Thanks so much for the kind words Zach, I really appreciate it! Your positivity is also what's helping make that world a better place too.
One thing I noticed is that being an apprentice is no longer an option in life. People don't learn from each other anymore- they go online where there is no interaction with others. I am very knowledgeable about many things but no one tries to pick my brain - they go online instead which is what everybody is doing because it requires no personal social skills to extract information and only requires you to be technically inclined. People will soon forget how to get along with each other because of their lack of societal experiences.
Brilliant observation. I will be thinking on these things.
Not only has it changed the friendships we build in the real world, but it has also made people lose their humanity. All I see is people trying to find faults on others and bring each other down. Sometimes when I keep going back on my phone several times a day I just wish I could grab it and throw it out the window.
As someone who never uses even a mobile phone I can relate to this. I look round me and everyone is addicted. People can't talk to another while waiting 3 minutes for their coffee. Kids babysat by a tablet. I believe most addicts, which are most people, have no idea just how vast and harmful this is on both individual and societal levels. My family and friends think I am a luddite and get frustrated with me. They don't seem to see what I do. The symptoms are scary. Technology is now controlling the masses rather than the masses using technology selectively. As an addiction that will be too much for many to even care with an attempt to regain control.
In a way, I feel like a hypocrite watching this fron my phone and posting a comment. Yet this is very true, i always wondered why videos with such informative content have the least views???
Imagine how much more of a hypocrite I feel like being the one who made the video for a social media platform! Haha
Thanks so much for the kind words! The channel is new, so hopefully down the road the views will come so long as the content is good :)
@@CommonKnowledge42 I sure hope so dude. Glad you're spreading the awareness. Hope this reaches out to more people.
Likely because many people don't like to hear the truth. They want instant dopamine hits, versus any truth that would require them to adjust their lives...
@@angeltravelstheworld HUGE facts dude.
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I remember only playing video games on my PC on discs and my mothers old SNES, no phone, no social media, watching good 90s 00s cartoons on TV. And now? Always on the phone, worried about posting on social media, staying inside way more, only playing games and watching shows on my Xbox its kinda crazy to think life would be this different within a decade or two
Fact time's was so fun before the internet
I know I'm more extreme than most but I believe the downfall and complete crash of society in the near future will be mostly to blame on the internet. Make no mistake. The internet will do more harm than good.
my sentiments exactly
I don't believe that the internet in general is a bad thing. Only that the big tech companies are making it so addictive and "innovate" to improve the internet to the point that real life interactions aren't as fulfilling and interesting. It's how fast food restuarants (or just any commercialized industry) add in extra substances to make people more addicted to their products. Call me a radical, but modern internet is just a symptom or consequence of a neoliberal capitalist society, and will continue to plague us until it is eradicated from our status quo.
Depends on how you use it, just like the video said
@@mark38699 Most people can’t moderate the internet. That’s the issue. It’s no different from a smoker addicted to cigarettes and an alcoholic addicted to alcohol.
I’ve been that one different kid. I strayed away from social media and didn’t care about being popular. I have more of a connection to animals and nature because of the path I choose. I don’t regret it.
We living in a social media world everyone wants to be liked commented on, fuelling egos to the point too concerned about the opinions of others, anxiety to the point people compare themselves too much to others. People don’t believe in themselves get depression to the point get put on some sort of medication feel hopeless then have no belief it’s scary what media has done to people. If you want my advice quit media and live life. You find most people on media ain’t living healthy or honesty and those who are ain’t on media are living with more mental peace and more honesty.
I use to have a Facebook account, but one day I just had enough. I was absolutely fed up of receiving notifications on the most meaningless cr@p from my so-called 'friends'. Usually it was either someone back stabbing someone else, or it was what they had to eat that day. Nearly 10 years free of that nonsense, and I can honestly say I don't miss anyone on there. Fuck em.
First time I realized how obsessed with phones people around me were was in 7th grade when I broke mine and had to use a button phone, I had to tell all my friends to put their phones in the middle of the table when we went to a cafe, cause otherwise no one talked to each other. I’m grateful to have grown up in the early 00s cause although technology & social media was used, I still got to live a fairly technology free childhood. Nowadays, I gotta say I do have issues with overusing my phone, but I am as present as possible when interacting with people in real life. Also, I’ll definitely do my best to raise my future children with as little technology involvement as possible.
Thanks. I am basically a loner with no mobile phone who preferred relative freedom to marriage. About 10 years ago, and then particularly in the past 5 years, the smartphone had taken over so much that if I ever did want a partner, I would feel I was part of a threesome, and definitely number three! it would freak me out to listen to my wife always talking to someone else, especially at home.
Yes, "be fully present with the people that you're with" ! Nothing worse than being sat opposite an almost catatonic person playing with their mobile phone.
Something is gained and lost with every change in society. I've severely cut back on social media because I realized the bulk of it isn't actually "real", It's full of bots, people making fake or empty gestures, hypocrisy, etc. However I did find some great friends and communities through it. I've enriched my life and skills through DIY tutorials, markets, etc. Sure there's things I miss about the old days, and things I sometimes wonder about from times I never seen. It's up to us to say "when", using our conscious mind. We only have so much time, use it as best you can.
Born in 1985, I've seen first hand and still remember very well life before social media. I miss it like crazy! I never did like Facebook, even in 2010 when my mom got sucked into it by other family members. However, I didn't really notice the negative impact social media has truly had on society until the last few years or so, especially since my dad passed away. Because we were so close and neither one of us were much into that stuff, we just kind of did our own thing and was like "whatever" to those glued to their phones. Now with him gone, I've really noticed how so many people seem so uninterested in one another and basically ignore each other, and just how hard it is to make friends now because of it. And every time you ask someone to do a simple favor for you, they either treat you like a possible axe murderer or just go "look it up online/do it online, it's easier." A lot of people just give off a phony/shallow vibe these days in general, too. I'm so grateful to have grown up back when society was still more "normal" and people actually seemed to care for and respect each other a lot more than they do today. Unfortunately, I kind of took it for granted then, and since I was a quiet and awkward kid then, I didn't fully take advantage of when it was easier to make friends. I've missed the 90's and early 00's for well over a decade now, but this social media and the awful affect it's had on people, in general, makes me long for those days now more than ever!
I relate to your sentiment very much.
Well said.
People are not even all that connected. They probably do not interact with anyone online and just learn about things or be entertained. I used to socialize online, but it became harder over time, although I did gain social skills out of it. I just noticed that nobody would take my time seriously. Most people are just treating it as an amusement so that those who rely on it for social activity are more helpless. They actually do focus on their offline friends more than anything and those who have no offline friends or otherwise social network have no traction. RUclips may be the easiest place to get my voice heard in comments, but it is also the least likely for anyone to care about another person through because of lacking interactive features without videos.
What’s interesting is that for me before the pandemic I took a job as a fundraiser, so I intentionally had the responsibility of going door-to-door and talking with people. Having a routine and talking with others seemed to get rid of that fear I had of approaching others even if they were on their phone. People just need to practice mindfulness and intentionality when taking with others.
I feel you as far as being caught between two eras. Growing up I heard about manually filling out job applications. Then I turned 18 and got told everything was online. This applies to many things in my life lol.
Gosh, thank you ! Many vids like this tell me to uninstall, never look back. but this unpractical thing of having it on a PC is just the right contrast, where you spend your time much more freely.
That's how I've found balance as well. When I'm using my PC, it's much easier to allocate a 'healthy' amount of time to social media. Where if it's on my phone, conveniently accessible at all times, it quickly becomes a problem. Breaking some of that habit of having it at your fingertips from you phone at any moment, sometimes is all it takes to create a healthier relationship between your online life and offline life. Thanks for your comment 🙂
I miss when there was little to no social media. Back in the early 2000s things just seemed more vibrate & it seems like there was just more interaction overall back then.
Im an 80s teen I learned by playing with freinds hanging out testing limits clubbing and dancing in person. I think in my time we had an organic knowledge of being alive while today its all inorganic community guidelines whatever the web says kind of living. This is why everything is dead and low energy because technology has already robbed humanity
I like so much to live in real life. Social media never convinced me at all. I feel alive when i talk to people personally. I if could, anyone would have social media. Nowaday we are getting very antisocial and superficial, that is so sad, anyway.
Im 14, and im proud to say i don’t have social media (I use RUclips though) but yeah. Its genuinely soo sad seeing everyone in my class becoming slowly crazy and addicted to social media. I don’t care if my clothing style is 2000s stuff that everyone thinks is ugly. But anyway i feel soo guilty for being born in the year i was. I get soo jealous seeing older people talk about how great the 70-2000s were and i just feel soo sad and left out i wish i was born earlier so i can brag about how i grew up before social medie/phones
Good for you. I'm also happy that you don't care what others think of your clothing. I've never been on social media, but from what I hear, it's full of people picking on others for their appearance, how they dress, etc.
Keep being yourself.
Hi. Remember that most people just follow the crowd. Very few think for themselves. Congratulations for doing so yourself. About your clothing style: ""Every generation laughs at the old fashions, but follows religiously the new." - Henry David Thoreau (mid-1800s) I am a senior and even if I was 14 again I would not participate in all that small-screen stuff. I do like RUclips and love computer technology, including encoding. Ask any of your classmates if they know about the alternative to PDF called DjVu. It is usually a more efficient format that PDF, and has been around for about 25 years, but almost no one uses it. Why? Because most people just follow the crowd, and the crowd has probably never asked the simple question: Is there an alternative to PDF?. There was a guy on a skateboard ahead of me on the road, maybe your age, and he had to pull over to answer his phone. Thanks for your input