How to Stop Waking Up in the Middle of the Night- 6 Ways to Beat Insomnia Without Medication

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  • Опубликовано: 16 июн 2024
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    Terminal insomnia, aka sleep maintenance insomnia, aka early morning waking, aka I wake up at 3 am and can’t get back to sleep and it’s driving me crazy! is a pretty common experience for many people.
    When you wake up in the middle of the night and can't fall back to sleep, it's aggravating.
    Maybe your mind starts racing, maybe you worry about everything you need to do, or not, but you just can’t fall back asleep. At least not until it’s almost time to get up, and then you’re tired, cranky, and don’t function as well as you’d like.
    But then the real problem with insomnia is the next night, when it starts happening over and over and over again, and you’re just soooo tired and then you start to get stressed out and angry about your inability to sleep and that makes things worse, because when you wake up and see that it’s 3am you get mad and that makes it even harder to sleep.
    As the researchers say...this is common but aggravating...Insomnia is the worst! If you’re here you’re probably desperate for sleep, you haven’t slept well for a long time, and you're cranky, irritable, depressed.
    I feel you.
    I’ve struggled with insomnia off and on, and I come by it honestly. My dad is almost always up from 2-4am and so is my baby...there’s a genetic aspect to this, and this early morning waking is also closely linked to depression- as a cause of depression or as a symptom of depression. But don’t worry your little head. There’s also a lot you can do about it.
    In this video we’ll talk about six non-medication strategies you can use to defeat insomnia and get better at sleeping through the night.
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Комментарии • 1,9 тыс.

  • @geraldstone2204
    @geraldstone2204 Год назад +954

    I’ve been fighting this “waking at 3am” thang for several years. My depression got really bad after my son’s death and now I’m really struggling and feel like giving up. I’m male, mid 60’s, and friendless. I’m happily married and I’m really thankful for that. But, I’m really barely hanging on , just wanted to vent, thanks for reading my comment, I wish you well…

    • @jacquelinezr
      @jacquelinezr Год назад +54

      Have you thought of seeing a counselor? Especially for the grief over losing your son? My cousin went through the same thing and a grief counselor really helped. She also joined a grief support group that helped tremendously.

    • @bsimpson505
      @bsimpson505 Год назад +51

      I am so sorry for your loss.

    • @maiskitty
      @maiskitty Год назад +78

      This may sound trite, but hear me out - group therapy. Feels super awkward and cheesy in the beginning, but you get the much needed social interaction and meet people who understand because they're dealing with similar hurts. Solid friendships usually develop out of these groups. There are groups for parents who've lost a child.
      I'm so sorry. I hope you find support.

    • @jennw6809
      @jennw6809 Год назад +40

      Interestingly, traditional Chinese medicine associates the time from 3-5AM with grief.

    • @mary-janechambers3596
      @mary-janechambers3596 Год назад +25

      I’m so sorry about your loss. You are not alone, many have struggled as you have. Take heart my friend and know that the Lord cares for you and grieves with you. If you call on the Lord he is “A very present help in trouble” Psalm 46:1 If you only knew how much he loves you.

  • @killerpussy84
    @killerpussy84 2 года назад +926

    I don't have problems falling asleep again, but I wake up *so many times* that I don't feel rested in the morning.
    Thank you so much for this!

    • @laughteraddict1003
      @laughteraddict1003 2 года назад +67

      That's my problem too

    • @mstyles2667
      @mstyles2667 2 года назад +28

      @@laughteraddict1003 Me too....it sucks.

    • @paulafante9114
      @paulafante9114 2 года назад +19

      You may need a sleep study..I did I now have a cpap..Good Luck.

    • @rkeller8141
      @rkeller8141 2 года назад +17

      Doctor prescribed a sleep study and diagnosed with sleep apnea. cPap machine on its way but delayed due to the shipping problems. Aging rapidly without sleeping, maybe it will slow down if I sleep beyond 2 hour periods? REM is probably non-existent with me. Aging is problematic, and suspect it might be a partner of death, but hoping the cPap will bring restful and curative sleep. Exhausted with exhaustion.

    • @eivilh151
      @eivilh151 2 года назад +2

      Same

  • @wrcoles
    @wrcoles Год назад +57

    I’m literally watching this at 5am and I’ve been on RUclips for 2 hours. This RUclips algorithm is a incredible.

  • @glencullen6390
    @glencullen6390 3 месяца назад +33

    I gave up coffee and work at lowering cortisol levels with diet and meditation. Insomnia is almost a thing of the past and I dealt with it for 30yrs.

  • @katwilliams5573
    @katwilliams5573 2 года назад +2466

    "If you're not asleep within 10 minutes get out of bed"...I have never fallen asleep within 10 minutes in my life :')

    •  2 года назад +64

      Ever!

    • @kerryschotten8516
      @kerryschotten8516 2 года назад +30

      Me toooooo!!!

    • @konnichiwow3139
      @konnichiwow3139 2 года назад +28

      That's me aswell

    • @subs4794
      @subs4794 2 года назад +194

      This suggestion is ridiculous. Takes me 10 mins just to start relaxing and feeling cozy under the blankets...

    • @madebymarco
      @madebymarco 2 года назад +36

      Try having kids

  • @europeanguy8773
    @europeanguy8773 2 года назад +782

    I used to sleep so peacefully for a full 8 hours and had as much energy as a human can possibly have. Then something bad in my life happened, I developed some form of PTSD and mild depression and now I fall asleep just fine, but I always wake up around 4 in the morning and can't fall asleep. It just sucks to think that I used to sleep so well, that sometimes I would wake up to pee around 3-4 then would back to bed and have that feeling of happiness and coziness and just fall back asleep instantly - those days are long gone :(. At least I'm not alone in this.

    • @MZFiVETW000H
      @MZFiVETW000H 2 года назад +54

      Sameeeee I use to sleep so cozy and comfortable never had an issue. Then BAM.. PTSD/depression 🤦🏻‍♀️ I have trouble getting to sleep: once in a while I’ll wake up at random times stay up until I fall asleep again. The feeling really sucks and just adds anxiety to night time... you are not alone 💜

    • @mstyles2667
      @mstyles2667 2 года назад +29

      @@MZFiVETW000H The anxiety it adds to this already awful condition can be so overwhelming. I wish you a good nights rest.

    • @marleyhill34
      @marleyhill34 2 года назад +47

      Same. Trauma destroyed how I sleep.

    • @Maxcat22
      @Maxcat22 2 года назад +7

      @@marleyhill34 same

    • @instantpug7036
      @instantpug7036 2 года назад +36

      saaaaame :((( I could never fall asleep properly but once I was gone I was gone. Since my mother got sick and then died… no more proper sleep for five years. I‘m going nuts.

  • @doe8151
    @doe8151 2 года назад +25

    I just love that the books are arranged according to their color. 💆🏻‍♀️😄

  • @LoveAlwaysAlwaysLove
    @LoveAlwaysAlwaysLove 2 года назад +26

    I now say, when I often awaken anywhere from 3am to 4am in the morning. " Thank you God for waking me up and holding my hand, allowing me to go back to sleep, better rested than ever!" I heard this from another and it's really helped. If the word 'God' isn't for you, choose another word like 'Love'. Whatever is bigger than you✨✌✨

  • @dogsoldiersc
    @dogsoldiersc 2 года назад +536

    I had no idea this phenomenon had a name. I literally wake up at 3am most nights and have a lot of trouble falling back asleep. Thank you!

  • @chadsyboy
    @chadsyboy 2 года назад +16

    This lady is so likable

  • @grumblekin
    @grumblekin Год назад +513

    After I got into my 40s, I started waking around 3AM and was having a hard time falling back asleep. I started going into work around 445 to 5AM so I could rest a little before work started.
    I have found that anxiety and worry are at their worst around 2-3AM (I can often wake to an increased or palpable heart rate which makes me nervous) but the seeds start around 6pm the day before. I have found the following things help:
    1. Do NOT wear yellow or blue light-blocking glasses anytime before 1pm. You need bright light in the morning to reset your pineal gland...keep your windows OPEN in the morning!!
    2. NO violent, intense, or scary movies/games/books/music after 6pm. Video games need to be stopped around 7pm. Even if they don't scare you, your brain might clamp onto the theme and give you a nice horror movie dream around 2AM which could wake you up in a state of anxiety. Garbage in/garbage out, so to speak.
    3. Anything you eat after 6pm will be churning and squishing around while you sleep. Big meals in the evening will make you wake up at 2 to 4am. Alcohol will also make your sleep shallow ALL night and you could wake up several times each night.
    4. Sugar anytime after 6pm will unbalance your blood sugar during the night and you'll wake up to pee.
    5. No blue light after 7pm. I wear yellow-lensed glasses for this purpose so I can do normal activities
    6. Keep the room slightly cold even if it costs you money to cool it.
    7. Naps during the day can disrupt your sleep rhythm if they are long (more than 20 minutes). Try your best not to nap after 5pm.
    8. You CANNOT stay awake more than 16 to 18 hours without your body releasing a shot of adrenaline to wake yourself up. You will know this happens when you get your second wind around 8 to 9pm and suddenly can't sleep until after midnight. You need to be asleep before that happens!
    9. If you have anxiety, it's almost required to journal and engage in calming activities about an hour before bed. I often find myself getting sleepy over than hour when the Tibetan bell video is going and I am writing down my problems for tomorrow so I don't need to mess with them in my head that night.
    10. Take your shower an hour or more before bed...if you shower immediately before bed, the increased heart rate (your heart beats faster when the skin warms in order to pump blood to cool) can be disconcerting for people with anxiety.
    11. Create a mantra only for sleep and do a tense and relax for all muscles before bed while lying down. A good mantra is something positive but simple that reminds you of good things, like "fluffy clouds at sunset". If you are religious, pray in the shower so you can recount and confess upsetting things THERE without doing it in bed. A religious mantra might also be useful for you immediately before bed. When the words stop making sense, you will know you are drifting off.
    12. Your muscles will shiver a little before bed as they prep themselves for sleep. If you are exhausted and your chest, legs or other parts feel like they are shivering, it means your body is going to sleep before your brain....tell yourself it's good...the body is taking GOOD care of itself and your brain should do the same.
    It's best to think of sleep as a regeneration super power. I used to fight it as a child because I didn't want to miss anything (fun shows, games, etc.) but now I really think of it as my bio-regeneration...this DOES help you reorganize your priorities to keep sleep at the top of the list.

    • @lindasummerville4431
      @lindasummerville4431 Год назад +14

      Thank you for this!! All excellent advise 👍

    • @vid9191
      @vid9191 Год назад +11

      Great tips. Thanks.

    • @claudiahansen4938
      @claudiahansen4938 Год назад +12

      Great post!

    • @gr8dvd
      @gr8dvd Год назад +16

      All great tips, a few new to me…. #8 especially enlightening "get your second wind around 8 to 9pm and suddenly can't sleep until after midnight. You need to be asleep before that happens!" TY!!!

    • @YeshuaKingMessiah
      @YeshuaKingMessiah Год назад +5

      U feel my pain, insomnia-sister

  • @kendallevans4079
    @kendallevans4079 Год назад +13

    I'm 65 and long for the days when I would crash and be dead to the world until 8 hours later. These 3 things have helped'
    I gave up alcohol. Even if I drank 6-7 hours before bedtime, I found it still affected my sleep.
    Stopped eating late. Nothing 4 hours before bedtime.
    Increased cardio exercise (treadmill, stair stepper) just a little more. Helps to "wear me out".
    Doubt I ever get back to sleeping like a 23 year old. With BPH I have to pee at least once in the night.
    But these did help.

  • @leahreed7984
    @leahreed7984 2 года назад +24

    I feel like she’s having a personal conversation with me and is personally teaching me. The way she talks is just so down-to-earth and natural

  • @frouketea
    @frouketea Год назад +14

    I've had insomnia for many years, it started when I had severe health problems and never got over it. Been to many experts (sleep neurology department of the hospital) and nothing helped me. This made my life miserable, I was so tired and could not plan anything as the sleep deprivation controlled my life. Because I was so desperate I started looking for a different view at my problems and gave acupuncture a go. I just thought why not! Went in with no expectations whatsoever and to be honest it completely solved my insomnia!
    Before people say that it's a case of placebo let me tell you it's not. Because not even the heaviest sleep medication solved my problem ( and I thought that it would help me!). So maybe this might help someone out here, I feel your pain and I hope you get better!

    • @alexandravivero1259
      @alexandravivero1259 4 месяца назад +1

      Did it solve it permanently or temporarily? Or did you have to keep going back for more sessions here and there?

    • @frouketea
      @frouketea 4 месяца назад

      @@alexandravivero1259 I do go back but only if needed. Especially when I'm in periods of high stress it's useful to go back, at least for me. And I use Chinese herbs via my acupuncturist . (she doesn't sell those but gets me a an order by a company). Those herbs keep my sleep in check. I stopped for a while ans my sleep got worse!

  • @anibabikian
    @anibabikian 7 месяцев назад +4

    I am a Registered nurse who started work at 5 am. Queen of anxiety....Had to wake up every hour to check the time to make sure I am not late for the patients. Back home at 1800 and same thing for 3 days a week.Turned into a habit where I had the same pattern on days that I didn't work.
    Retired 8 months ago and I continue doing the same thing.
    I workout hard at the gym and walk 90 minutes a day and keep myself busy and active.
    I do not feel physically tired... But it manifests in increasing my BP to extreme levels even with medication.
    It's pretty tough to break habits of 35 years.
    Thank you for the video ! It's awesome.

  • @loristegner3272
    @loristegner3272 2 года назад +2

    Thank you Emma. I cannot imagine the subscribers or non subscribers who may challenge you over subjects. Ugh! You do a wonderful job and you present yourself as an extremely approachable human being who will listen. Thank you for your videos and your kindness. 🙏🏻❤️💃🏻✌🏻🦋

  • @jdkincaide
    @jdkincaide 2 года назад +23

    This was incredibly helpful! I have worked through some of this with a sleep pathologist before, but there are still things I have not yet tried. Thanks for sharing with us.

  • @iome9283
    @iome9283 2 года назад +22

    Oh my God I needed this. I've been waking up at 1,3,5 am for the past month. I am going CRAAAAAAAAAAZY

    • @leebennett1821
      @leebennett1821 2 года назад +4

      Me too it's maddening 🤬🤬🤬🤬

    • @mimirose5909
      @mimirose5909 2 года назад +5

      Too much stress for all of us in this CRAZY WORLD!

    • @donnabolt5847
      @donnabolt5847 2 года назад +2

      You sound like me 😭

    • @omonaijaj
      @omonaijaj 21 день назад

      MEE TOOO ITS MADDENING

  • @Mashkoor110
    @Mashkoor110 2 года назад +1

    Thank you! I used your suggestion and slept through the night. Only woke once, put on a painting video and dozed off again. Really grateful 🙏

  • @angelh8262
    @angelh8262 Год назад +1

    What a beautiful Soul you are 💛 I’m so glad I found your channel. You are helping me so much. I don’t remember a time in my life when I didn’t suffer from early abuse, anxiety, low self esteem and in adulthood chronic stress and insomnia. I’m now desperately trying to recover from gastritis and insomnia. Your videos are the best therapy thank you so much I’m taking all your advice on board. I’m moving house in one week, taking a 24 hour flight ( praying I will be well enough ) and buying house on my return to the UK - I need to get well and with your help I know I will, God Bless you 🙏

  • @angeliemandu2848
    @angeliemandu2848 2 года назад +9

    Thank you for the tips as someone who has anxiety and recovering from injury this helps so much.

  • @michaelthau1007
    @michaelthau1007 2 года назад +21

    I totally have this problem. Im 52 and this started 2 years ago. Go to bed 1045pm wake between 3am-4am. Tried everything, im so exhausted. Have to wake up 6am.
    Beyond frustrated
    God Bless All
    Michael

    • @Ncstefanie
      @Ncstefanie 2 года назад

      Try this tapping technique i SWEAR it works! (Start at 5 minute mark thats where he explains it) ruclips.net/video/A5dE25ANU0k/видео.html

  • @michelec3741
    @michelec3741 2 года назад +1

    What a wise and generous woman. Thank you! Very comprehensive and succinct. Learning a lot and feeling that I am fine. We all have struggles. Kind hearts share for the greater good. Again thank you.

  • @1012chart
    @1012chart 2 года назад +3

    Thanks so much... I've really been struggling recently. It's great to hear you address it

  • @rebeccajones9757
    @rebeccajones9757 2 года назад +17

    I appreciate this so much! This happens to me a lot and my friends don't understand. It feels like everyone else wants to sleep in, and I wish I could. The time change makes it seem worse. I have been waking at 4am all week.

  • @kathrynjoseph3331
    @kathrynjoseph3331 2 года назад +25

    It is 2:50am and this video was recommended to me. Been waking up at 2:30 or 3 every night for a few weeks. Can’t believe your timing!! Thank you!

    • @mayaliya200
      @mayaliya200 Год назад

      I drink milk and put on boring talk on RUclips. That seems to get me back to sleep.

  • @robbret
    @robbret 2 года назад +1

    I've never been into these kind of videos, but the way yoy deliver them is SO engaging. Love it.

  • @amygoff4127
    @amygoff4127 2 года назад +18

    I'm glad I found you ❤ I actually learned this in your video about panic attacks that the more we try to make it stop the worse it get and I use that technique last night when my insomnia kicked in and it worked, I almost started to get upset and angry but I stopped my self and chose to push those thoughts aside. It had been 3 days since I had sleep but because I didn't make a big deal out of it I was able to go to sleep for 7 and a half hours!!! That's good I only can sleep 6 on the nights I can sleep, most times it's 4 hours at night 3 to 4 in the day, that's how it's been for a year anyway and I think it's messing with my brain. So I had a good night sleep and I give you some of that credit. Thank you.

  • @boncoin3861
    @boncoin3861 2 года назад +6

    Me watching this at 4am after waking up because of a nightmare. I feel relieved even though I understand I should be watching this until later in the morning. Thank for the video!

  • @rhondamcloughlin3773
    @rhondamcloughlin3773 2 года назад +11

    Your thoughts, recommendations and science improve me and my life. Thank you.

  • @rosiebudd2460
    @rosiebudd2460 2 года назад +3

    Thanks for the help. Some will work for some, some may not. But I appreciate you taking time to give some of us some help. Thank you 😊

  • @betsyblack15
    @betsyblack15 Год назад +4

    What a fabulous video! Thorough and compassionate!

  • @ronbotex
    @ronbotex 2 года назад +4

    Very helpful. I'm 71 and find myself waking up much earlier than I want to and yes it's frustrating. Thanks for the tips..

  • @kirage_maas
    @kirage_maas 8 месяцев назад +6

    Wow. It is so much easier and more validating to listen about sleep from a woman who is around my age...and I appreciate the acknowledgement of genetic factors. I have struggled with insomnia since I was in my mid-30s, as did both of my parents and my dear maternal grandmother. And 23&me confirmed it for me too. I continually come back to, yes, good sleep hygiene etc, but largely, acceptance!

  • @JohnP9999
    @JohnP9999 Год назад +5

    Really excellent advice. I've read many books and articles on sleep problems, and this video condenses some of the best information available IMO, into a short, upbeat and articulate presentation. No hesitation in hitting the Subscribe button!

  • @jessicaferreira324
    @jessicaferreira324 2 года назад +5

    OMG I have this since I was a child and never thought it could be a "disorder". I always thought it is just how I am when I am going for stressful or important moments. Thank you for this video!

  • @luvyou-baby
    @luvyou-baby 2 года назад +14

    tips: vitamin b1, bach flower (white chestnut), ces device oasis pro (it creates/slows down the brain wave to what program u choose , e.g alpha, , theta, delta, sub-delta (met). 100hz is great for shuting off the overthinking and especially obsessive thoughts. it’s expensive but worth it.
    camomile tea also helps, reiki for insomnia videos, ASMR Video.
    acupuncture might probably work by rebalancing the body

  • @Blessednesting
    @Blessednesting 2 года назад +120

    I’ve dealt with this for probably 20 years and am only 38. I’ve found over the past year or so that if I start reading the Bible I fall back asleep sooner.

    • @laughteraddict1003
      @laughteraddict1003 2 года назад +15

      Thou shalt return to slumber sayeth the Lord

    • @allenwalker1379
      @allenwalker1379 2 года назад +9

      And The Lords Prayer, which of course is in the Bible.

    • @scarebear83
      @scarebear83 2 года назад +10

      I have troubles getting to sleep. I've noticed reading the Bible helps at times.

    • @liveonce2102
      @liveonce2102 2 года назад +13

      Is that because its so boring? 😂 so and so begat so and so. Lol

    • @allenwalker1379
      @allenwalker1379 2 года назад +21

      John 14:27 (ESV): Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.

  • @adorablecats9891
    @adorablecats9891 2 года назад +1

    Love your posts Emma. Always so helpful.

  • @johnluis1845
    @johnluis1845 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for your tricks, I loved all of them . I can tell that you make these videos to help others and you don't do it only for the views. I very much appreciate it. Greetings from Argentina.

  • @heyguidance
    @heyguidance 2 года назад +14

    The worst! I've been struggling with this lately! Thanks for the tips!!!

  • @mario121989
    @mario121989 2 года назад +4

    Thank you so much. I hope you elaborate on this topic in the future. Great channel, great content. Really appreciate. Regards from Poland 😊

  • @victoriadescalso6580
    @victoriadescalso6580 10 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you so much also for sharing your issues, too. Appreciate your videos going through your busy life. Sweet dreams & Blessings ❤😴🕊🌙

  • @estelle4389
    @estelle4389 Год назад +7

    I have struggled with this my whole life. I am 57 years old a recovered alcoholic and still suffering from depression. I can still remember as a child in Zimbabwe climbing out the window at midnight and playing outside in the dark until sunrise. The fact that there was a threat of terrorists and the jackals that did not stop me. It is now 3.07 am and I am on my phone. I have always enjoyed lots of exercise and read to calm myself. I have a condition called Kallmanns syndrome where I don't produce hormones and estrogen so i have been on hormone replacement since sixteen. If I have four hours solid sleep it's a miracle. By four am I've had enough and get up and have a walk. By ten am I'm exhausted. 😔🇿🇦

  • @aliceewrwr9484
    @aliceewrwr9484 2 года назад +31

    I listen to familiar audiobooks - ones I know by heart, almost. Over the years, I have trained myself to fall asleep to them, and if (when) I wake up in the night, I find that if I do not turn it back on, I am awake a lot longer. Put it on, I'm back to sleep in minutes.

    • @billswifejo
      @billswifejo 2 года назад +1

      I must have listened to Good Omens as an audiobook at least 300 times in the last year!

    • @kerrynight3271
      @kerrynight3271 2 года назад +3

      Audiobooks have probably saved my life. And yes, they help you fall back asleep in the middle of the night.

    • @janetnewbill291
      @janetnewbill291 2 года назад +1

      I listen to audio to !! I have the little house books I listen every night. Some nights like last night didn't help!!

    • @jeannefoster5594
      @jeannefoster5594 2 года назад +1

      Gonna try this! Thanks

    • @jordana99
      @jordana99 2 месяца назад

      I listen to sleep and meditation music and keep it on all night too.

  • @Sundayschoolnetwork
    @Sundayschoolnetwork 2 года назад +24

    I use that early morning waking to pray for loved ones...and think on Psalm 23 while deep breathing.

    • @mymentorjane6705
      @mymentorjane6705 2 года назад +9

      That’s so good! Another thing I do is start naming my blessings. I thank God for…my comfy bed, how warm and safe I am, how much my husband loves me, my family …by the time I name about a dozen I’ve drifted off!

    • @gybx4094
      @gybx4094 2 года назад +7

      That is a good thing to do. I start reciting portions of the Bible and liturgy and thinking of positive things.
      Sometimes it causes me to return to sleep.

  • @rogerclark7418
    @rogerclark7418 Год назад +1

    Oh my gosh, she's easy to listen to. I like her style of enlightenment. This is very informative. I'll watch it again, and look others she has done.

  • @Edifieth
    @Edifieth Год назад +1

    Thank you for smiling, it made me feel more comfortable.

  • @smcb2202
    @smcb2202 2 года назад +6

    I literally woke up at 3 and found this video… thank you so much! I’m so happy I found your channel! -Lindsay in Ontario Canada

    • @elinannestad5320
      @elinannestad5320 2 года назад +1

      for me it was 4.35am.... yt must be spying on us

  • @paintingzoneart4026
    @paintingzoneart4026 2 года назад +14

    I also wake at 3am. Watching your very useful video has made me realise this is a habit that I can break if I want to, and I will try some of the routines you suggest. Thanks again Emma.

  • @kimmetzner6408
    @kimmetzner6408 Год назад +6

    I love your videos! I’m a true skeptic usually, but your down to earth approach helps me lower my guard and take notice of your very helpful advice! Thank you so much for making these videos available. I have suffered with anxiety and depression for the past 16 years. I am always looking for resources to help myself, help myself:) and your videos are so helpful. ❤

  • @peb475
    @peb475 2 года назад +5

    Thank you so much for this video.. For the last 1-2 years I wake up every 1 or 2 hours throughout the night.. Its exhausting and Im starting to go crazy.. This started from nowhere.. I hope I can fix it and get back to sleeping for 7 hours straight..

  • @patrickwalsh2361
    @patrickwalsh2361 2 года назад +4

    Helpful advice! Thanks Emma.

  • @cutiepiebb
    @cutiepiebb 2 года назад +24

    Love your color-coordinated books 😊

  • @linda__4587
    @linda__4587 Год назад

    Thank you and thanks for sharing your day in another video. It really helped.

  • @HughLlewellyn
    @HughLlewellyn 2 года назад +3

    Your color-coded books in the background made me smile. I arranged my books once in an analagous color scheme (greens to blues to purples) for a photo project for a Color Theory class in college. I noticed them right away. haha
    Getting to sleep quickly is pretty easy for me. I wind down at night by dimming my computer screen and lights, drinking tart cherry juice (natural source of melatonin), watching ASMR back massage videos, and that usually knocks me out in minutes. I also play ambient sound recordings that help drown out my noisy neighborhood sounds with white noise.
    I'm a life long night owl, so I tend to start winding down sometime around 2-3 AM. My neighborhood starts getting really noisy around 7AM. I tend to sleep in 4-5 hour shifts, then WIDE AWAKE for a couple hours. If I'm lucky, I can get back to sleep for an hour or two again. But much of the time, I can't and four hours is all I get. This was really difficult with a work schedule before the pandemic cost me my job. It's easier now that I don't have to go to work on a schedule anymore. But man. I feel exhausted most of the time during the day. At night I wake right up. It's really frustrating. I'm working on many of the suggestions you gave. Hoping for the best.
    Thank you for the video. :)

  • @ktrmeadow
    @ktrmeadow 2 года назад +10

    Loved the sleepy and wakey time. Excellent content as always!

  • @pamelasmithson4303
    @pamelasmithson4303 2 года назад +122

    Thank you, this was very helpful! BTW, I love how your books are color coordinated in the bookcase. That’s very soothing to the eye and calming to the brain.

    • @rdoodoo2021
      @rdoodoo2021 2 года назад +8

      To me, it looks too perfect and I want to mess it up just a little!!

    • @wr6594
      @wr6594 2 года назад +11

      I agree. It is so soothing to look at!

    • @kimberly21
      @kimberly21 2 года назад +5

      I noticed and thought the same! 😊

  • @hezroncalucag2866
    @hezroncalucag2866 2 года назад

    Thank you very much, I've been waking up in the middle of the night for the last 2 weeks

  • @fd4340
    @fd4340 Год назад +69

    10 minutes to fall asleep? My whole life I would be happy if I fell asleep within an hour......still that way and I'm now 68

    • @kaostribe
      @kaostribe Год назад +3

      Hope you're doing good my frend. Pray for you🙏🙏🙏

  • @brandymcgouirk3223
    @brandymcgouirk3223 2 года назад +22

    I’m menopausal and have started waking up every hour and a half to two hours throughout the night. And often can’t get back to sleep after 3:30am. I listened to a meditation on the Headspace app that suggested counting backwards from 10,000. I almost never get past 9,980 before I’m back to sleep. Works like a charm….mostly…

    • @dsfv100
      @dsfv100 2 года назад

      Thank you for your advice. I am starting peri menapause too

    • @Cloudiihoshii
      @Cloudiihoshii 3 месяца назад

      Idk what i have but i always suddenly wake up in the middle of the night staring from like a few weeks ago, and it’s troubling me, although i slept earlier and i csn still fall back asleep but it just annoys me bc it makes me always have weird dreams

  • @nadinedurand9964
    @nadinedurand9964 2 года назад +38

    Thank you Emma for all the helpful and insightful videos you make. You have been such a great help to me. I am a missionary in Japan, which is not a very easy mission field. However, your videos have helped me a lot to grow in my skills of managing my emotions and anxiety. May the Lord bless you dear Emma.

  • @jaimemagic1
    @jaimemagic1 2 года назад +1

    I truly appreciate your expertise and your personal way of explaining these issues that effect our lives. Your videos are so well done!!

  • @Off-the-btn-path
    @Off-the-btn-path 5 месяцев назад +2

    This has been my life for years and years . I hate it.. Great video thank you ❤

  • @thomwhitehead8761
    @thomwhitehead8761 Год назад +4

    Such a great presentation which addresses nearly all of my sleep issues. Thanks for all the tips and tricks. Now the only problem is undoing years and years of habits which conspire to get me awake at 3AM. 🙃

    • @fladave99
      @fladave99 9 месяцев назад

      I wake up at 3 also. Here is what i do that works EVERY time. HYPERVENTELATING
      Yes, breath as fast and as hard as you can for 100 breaths. Wait 15 minutes. Try till you go to sleep. I have NEVER had to go over 3 times.
      Unfortunately, you will probably wake up your partner.

  • @arqe4853
    @arqe4853 2 года назад +47

    Thanks so much for this! Timely video, I was struggling with this the past week! Frustrating how whenever I fall asleep, I always wake up 1 hour afterwards. It caused me so much anxiety, I’m on mild sleeping pills now but I wanted to know how to adjust without them. Thanks a lot Emma, you’re such a lifesaver! :’)

    • @sarthakmehrishi7687
      @sarthakmehrishi7687 2 года назад +1

      Did you get a hold of it?
      Any suggestions or me?
      I just can't sleep!

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад +4

      @@sarthakmehrishi7687 How are you now? For better sleep reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Keep life simple by avoiding negative social media, stop comparing your life with others and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and relaxes the mind. . To relax and for better sleep sit on a chair or lie down especially before sleep, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath anywhere-anytime -outdoors or indoors--even if you wake up mid-night. Make this a daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

    • @sarthakmehrishi7687
      @sarthakmehrishi7687 2 года назад +2

      @@shyaaammeneen63 I'm fine, and thanks a lot for concerning about a nobody.
      But mark my word, remember my name, I'm gonna be the best leader to ever exist in the history of mankind.

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад +2

      @@sarthakmehrishi7687 Be motivated. If you have problem of stress or overthinking keep my msg in mind. Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. Anywhere-anytime it can be done. The best part is nobody comes to know that you are doing the breath observing practice as there is no deep breathing or sound. Best wishes. Sr. Counsellor.

    • @qxpn9220
      @qxpn9220 Год назад +1

      @@shyaaammeneen63 very good comment as for i was struggling very bad due to my mental breath. Mark my words This will very much help me become the strongest swordsmen to man kind

  • @DYNABIKE1
    @DYNABIKE1 10 месяцев назад

    I'm in to the 10 hour thunderstorm videos played in My bedroom which is totally dark. That rain sound just shuts Me down and off. Loving it.

  • @bobcat409
    @bobcat409 4 месяца назад

    Excellent advice across the board. Thank you.

  • @chichestermaritime8174
    @chichestermaritime8174 2 года назад +3

    Thank you so much for this as my GP just doesn't get it. I fall asleep in front of the TV and am wide awake at 4am. Often I wake up at 1am so take something to get me to relax and I have the radio on all night, low volume, not exciting and speech only. I guess I will have to learn to continue living with it. It's only been 40 years!

  • @loverrlee
    @loverrlee 2 года назад +16

    I always imagined my ancestors were the night watch crew. It felt validating for you to bring this up! I’ve had sleep problems since I could remember. I’ll try some of these things. Thanks for the video. 💗

    • @2adamast
      @2adamast Год назад +1

      In medieval time people had two sleeps, monks for example stood up for the first pray by 2 am.

    • @eva3679
      @eva3679 7 месяцев назад +1

      All these are great ways but sometimes you need low. Dose melatonin and thc gummies

  • @jeffrey5703
    @jeffrey5703 Год назад

    Thank you for posting this! I'll give some of your tips a try.

  • @chillycheeks5318
    @chillycheeks5318 Год назад +1

    You are a real star Emma. I really appreciate your clear, informative and well produced videos. Extremely helpful. Thanks

  • @hepgeoff
    @hepgeoff 2 года назад +13

    Great tips, thanks! Melatonin works great for me, as long as I don't use it too frequently. I notice I have more sleep problems when I don't exercise during the day.

  • @Liesl_Cigarboxguitar
    @Liesl_Cigarboxguitar 2 года назад +26

    Thanks for the early morning 5 am tips. If I'm awake at that time I tend to launch myself into vigorous house work or something like that. I have also started to dim the lights in the evening, and reading at night rather than watching videos 🙂

    • @lindathornton3626
      @lindathornton3626 11 месяцев назад

      If u r doing housework at 2 a.m. when do u go back to bed to be able to get out of bed by 7:30-8?

  • @Jen0714
    @Jen0714 Год назад

    This is a great educational video. I've never had any med prof actually tell me how 'cranky and flat out angry' this crap they call 'insomnia' can make one. It certainly does me and that makes it all the worse. This is the only social media I do so I would love to have the link you mentioned on light therapy. Again, thanks for another great video!

  • @AmyWinehouse.914
    @AmyWinehouse.914 Год назад +1

    Wow this upload is amazing - there I was 3AM wide awake and after 2mins in I was fast asleep.

  • @carolinechapman8984
    @carolinechapman8984 2 года назад +5

    Emma, thankyou for another informative video and your generosity in posting them. I'm wondering if you know whether it's problematic that I don't remember any dreams!? I seem to have been dreamless for many years although suspect this is unlikely. Also I tend to get only 5 - 6 hours sleep and often wake early (around 5) regardless of bedtime. Then I start to feel hot and anxious but as we recently retired and don't need to get up early any more it's a real nuisance! Any advice would be appreciated. Thankyou again.

  • @99zanne
    @99zanne Год назад +4

    I have no issue falling asleep but I get the 2 or 3 or 4 am wakies, and have for years. I have found an archeology or physics or universe lecture/video on RUclips will usually put me back out. It has to be interesting enough to hold my mind so it can’t think about worries or work, but not so interesting that I want to focus and pay attention to detail. I also don’t watch the thing, I just listen to it. I’m getting much better at drifting back off to sleep, by laying in my favorite sleep position while the lecture occupies my mind. I often wake up at the alarm with no memory of having fallen asleep that second time. TFS. Also, I would stand watch with u; I’m a lark, too!

  • @RiaanEloff
    @RiaanEloff Год назад +2

    Thanks for this. Valuable tricks. Much appreciated

  • @Deba7777
    @Deba7777 Год назад

    Watched again, lots of great info, thank you!

  • @JessicaRode
    @JessicaRode 2 года назад +6

    The fact your books are color coded makes me love you even more 😂

  • @TakeCareRihanna
    @TakeCareRihanna 2 года назад +7

    My sleeping pattern was fairly good until the pandemic hit and everyone was stuck at home for months. Because i didn't have a routine anymore, i kept falling asleep at different times everyday and waking up in the middle of the night. It got me so agitated! But doing the small things like reading a book in bed, dimming the lights, no screens before bed, and everything else in this vid helps! I still have days where i wake up randomly but it takes time re-training the brain to get a full 7-9 hours of sleep.

  • @luzye
    @luzye Год назад

    I'm grateful for all you do! Greetings from Southern California ☀️ 💕

  • @lilturtle7631
    @lilturtle7631 7 месяцев назад +2

    I have terminal insomnia, its really bad. This is extremely helpful and im going to practice ur techniques.
    Thank you

  • @jayumble8390
    @jayumble8390 2 года назад +53

    I used to worry about not getting enough sleep, and I still do to a certain degree, but in general it doesn't get me depressed or as upset as I used to get. Many nights my mind just goes and goes and goes (last night was an example of this even though some serious sleep medicine), so I just enjoy being in bed and relaxing. Btw, one of my problems is that when I am in bed at night, I love to think about things...all kinds of things...so this doesn't help, but I love to think while I'm trying to go to sleep, which is kind of funny, but I do. I've learned to stay positive and I know that the next night I will more than likely sleep well, so I don't worry about it-- in the past though, I must admit that I'd worry about this in a major way. It is amazing what a positive attitude will do for you. So when I do get a good night's sleep, I am grateful...when I don't, I just relax and count on the next night...like I mentioned earlier, I most likely will sleep well. If not, I know for certain that on the third night I will sleep! I think the biggest piece of advice on this is to be happy and positive when you don't get that great nights sleep...when you are tired enough, you will sleep.

    • @anybodyoutthere3208
      @anybodyoutthere3208 2 года назад +6

      Wow I’m the same way...goes and goes and goes
      And I do the same....just happy to be in my comfy bed and at least laying down relaxing
      The positive twist is a great idea!

    • @SerenaKaos
      @SerenaKaos 2 года назад +5

      thank you for this comment, i am in a journey for a constant positivity view in life, and I also love to think about things when in bed, so this resonated with me a LOT. and it helped me as well

    • @steelearmstrong9616
      @steelearmstrong9616 Год назад +1

      Good message. Sleep well mate

    • @mariaarambulo2653
      @mariaarambulo2653 4 месяца назад +1

      Same here. I've been in the same journey as yours. Positivity and prayers the key. Let's just enjoy every sleep (very light, light or deep sleep) we can get each night ❤ Sending hugs.

  • @mostguitarswins
    @mostguitarswins Год назад +4

    This is a helpful video, thanks. Getting up and doing something else is an important strategy. I often go into another room and meditate for awhile. That's sometimes enough to enable me to get back to sleep, but regardless it makes me feel better. For me stress is really the main factor. Angst can loom large in the middle of the night, so it's important to come to terms with things and not take problems to bed.

  • @cherryliang5117
    @cherryliang5117 2 года назад +1

    what a great channel. Glad to see subscribers increase

  • @RonaldBeirouti
    @RonaldBeirouti Год назад +10

    Waking up in the middle of the night and not being able to fall back to sleep has been my nightmare for several years. Younger, I used to be able to handle it, but now that I have other medical challenges and am older, it had become impossible to get enough energy to get through the day.
    I have found a sleep specialist at a local hospital, a psychologist and researcher specializing in sleep and CBT-I. I consulted with her for several months in order to find a solution. And I can't believe that I now sleep well most nights without meds (I had tried meds before and it was a big mistake). My custom solution is the following. Obviously all the sleep hygiene stuff discussed in the video: no screens, sleep at the same time, temperature, etc. Now, when I wake up around 2 to 4 am, I do my regular routine: bathroom, water, get back to bed and listen to an audio book for a bit, about 30 minutes until I feel sleepy. While I'm listening, I don't lay on my pillow so it cools. Then I get back to sleep. I also put an eye mask in preparation for the early sunlight.
    I remember the simple comment my therapist told me: "you can't make yourself fall asleep, you just get comfy and relax and don't think of sleep". My trick is focusing on my breathing as I had learned in a mindfulness workshop. At first it's hard, but as you succeed more and more you gain confidence and it becomes more and more automatic.

    • @cmc8176
      @cmc8176 Год назад

      This is true: "you can't make yourself fall asleep; you just get comfy and relax and don't think of sleep." Please, follow the advice of your therapist. You got your money's worth. Also, see ruclips.net/video/uavx4hxQuHE/видео.html

    • @daphneburgess8642
      @daphneburgess8642 12 дней назад

      Helpful comment, thank you

  • @jimatsydney
    @jimatsydney Год назад +18

    Thanks for the info. I struggled with waking up each night at 3 am and couldn’t get back to sleep. I though it was mainly a stress issue but found a physiological hack that works for me. I found that if I strip off and lay on top of the covers for 30minutes and let my body temperature get really cold, then jump back under the covers, as my body is warming up again I fall peacefully back to sleep. I think it might have something to do with blood sugar levels. It seems the body uses it’s available glucose to get warm again, thus making me tired. Not sure. Hope this helps others struggling with this.

    • @pattyallen5313
      @pattyallen5313 Год назад +2

      Am so happy to hear your suggestion of unwrapping and letting your body get really cold and then getting back under the warm, cozy covers just sounds like it will help me to drift off to sleep quickly . I'm going to try it ! THANKS SO MUCH for sharing this !!!

    • @joannaedwards6325
      @joannaedwards6325 Год назад +3

      Yup. Being a bit chilled is my remedy for better sleep. No heater or oven after 7 p.m.
      Windows open 1/2 hour before lying down and no more pajama tops or socks.= better sleep 4 me
      p.s. sleepy videos ( audio only ) by JASON STEPHENSON 👌

  • @sadistickitten
    @sadistickitten Год назад +5

    Thank you, I knew since taking beta blockers that it's been effecting my sleep! But I am doing all of your suggestions (watched both of those videos) to help me sleep better at night - journal dump/anxiety journal, plan my worries during the day, block out light, turn off lights, etc. I will now work on getting more light in the afternoon when I wake up at 3 or 4am I'll get more light at 3 & 4pm instead. Yes hormones totally make it harder to sleep at night especially around my period & being in my 40s too. Let's hope we all get the sleep we deserve!

  • @estradasp
    @estradasp Год назад +2

    ASMR helps me fall asleep but not necessarily stay asleep all night. Boss Ross is the man ☺️

  • @desireeross9651
    @desireeross9651 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you. Just what I need. I’m so over not sleeping

  • @kristiemichalski5152
    @kristiemichalski5152 2 года назад +25

    A weighted blanket helps me too but they get hot

  • @kbmblizz1940
    @kbmblizz1940 Год назад +6

    Thanks, I'm saving this to watch when I wake up later tonight. 😂

  • @MSmithNYC
    @MSmithNYC Год назад

    Why did RUclips recommend this video for me? Well the algorithm worked. Thanks for the video, I needed this!

  • @anthonymolloy9953
    @anthonymolloy9953 Год назад +66

    It's 3am.. and I'm watching this

    • @adoptedscot
      @adoptedscot Год назад +3

      Me too😂

    • @malditesta
      @malditesta Год назад +2

      Hope you're doing better now :)
      I've had an awful sleepless week, but I managed to sleep more than my usual 3 hours last night
      Feels so good 😊

    • @carolsummers8734
      @carolsummers8734 Год назад +1

      I have nights I never sleep and come across videos like this one.

    • @kaostribe
      @kaostribe Год назад +2

      Hope you well my frend. 🙏🙏🙏

    • @jej_0027
      @jej_0027 Год назад +1

      I have insomnia too...I do notice if I don't eat well or hydrate throughout the day , especially dinner . I wake up at 3am. What also helps me is sunlight in the morning and before it gets dark. (Walking at sunset)
      What 100% affect my sleep is blue light / long use of cell 📲 especially at night.

  • @mytinyketolife6797
    @mytinyketolife6797 2 года назад +4

    I’ve embraced it and actually enjoy it. I’ve always gotten out of bed as soon as I wake up. Sometimes my day starts at 2 am and ends at 7 pm I’m the opposite of a night owl

  • @nadiaharris258
    @nadiaharris258 Год назад

    Thank you so much you don't know how much I needed this ❤❤❤❤😊😊😊

  • @sarahmiller5632
    @sarahmiller5632 Год назад

    You are so pragmatic and helpful. Thank you.

  • @TheresaTV1
    @TheresaTV1 Год назад +3

    Benzo’s and Benadryl. And an SSRI for anxiety, and I removed the clock from my nightstand. That’s how I got over it. Complex PTSD sucks, but it’s easier to get through life if I can sleep well. Thankfully, my doctor is very understanding, but I’m stuck with the Xanax and antidepressant for the rest of my life or I’ll go through withdrawal. I wish I could have overcome it without medication, but after my son passed away there was no way I could survive without the prescriptions. I wish everyone the best of luck with overcoming this issue.