Elijah I just have to tell you that I’m so glad you are back on RUclips! I watched your videos very often when I was younger and really struggling with my mental health. I still, to this day, go back to some of them when it’s difficult. I read the butterfly letters when I feel alone. You really impacted my life in such an amazing way, even if we are just strangers on the internet. I hope you’re doing well! Thank you!
I need advice with my younger autistic sister. I love her dearly, but she doesn't seem to understand that if she wants people to consider her feelings, she needs to be considerate of theirs. Trying to say this in the most respectful way possible... I spend all week on my DND sessions, adding things, enhancing things, adding new mechanics, trying to do everything possible for my players to have a good time. She hasn't been role-playing the last two sessions because she has been taking notes. I thought I cleared it up last week when I agreed to just talk slower while she's taking notes. I guess not though because we had the same thing happen again. She's more worried about her boyfriend knowing every detail of the adventure (because he's not in the campaign, and can't be due to distance), including how much gold everyone leaves at a statue for offerings, what color things are, and what every NPC says and does. She's not really thinking about the group and how the other players feel when they have to wait and be sucked out of the gameplay. When I told her this, she didn't seem to care. When I brought up that I spend actual time on my sessions for her to enjoy the game, and it hurts my feelings when she doesn't participate in the work I put in, she told me she was apathetic. She isn't just your average "I say things bluntly, and my intentions are not to hurt you." She is just straight up rude when it comes to people and their feelings. She was very sheltered, doesn't have friends, and our parents have let her use autism as an excuse for everything. She still lives with them. She is more high functioning than our parents believe she is, and she never used to be so cruel about others. When I say she's cruel, I mean we've been in the presence of my friend with a kid, and the kid was about to grab the eraser and pop it into his mouth. The kid was right in front of her and she watched him do it, and she would have let him had I not ran across the room to stop him. I said "sis, why were you just watching? I really could have choked and possibly died." And she looked at me directly and said "I don't care. I hate kids." Instead of blowing my damn top, I asked her about it later and told her it was unacceptable. She just didn't care. I realize that's a lot to read, and it's not much to go off of, but she never used to be like this. She never used to be so cruel. I don't understand, but I want to. I try hard to understand. I am constantly reading up about autism. On the functionality scale of it were 1-10, she would be a solid 7. Any advice would be awesome. I just want to know how to explain to her that the things she says is just not acceptable, no matter who you are. Her intentions are not to just express herself, they are to use autism as an excuse for not working on her behavior. She's not trying to understand people as much as we all try to understand her. We do a lot to accommodate her, and she just doesn't seem to appreciate it. Maybe she does, and I'm just an asshole. I just want help with this one. Maybe I am misunderstanding and I just need guidance. Please don't sensor yourself to me, and know I won't take anything the wrong way. If you could just help me understand how to communicate with her, that's all I have ever wanted.
She gets her feelings hurt easily, but acts like she doesn't care as well. I really could go on, and I don't mean to. I am just trying to give substance so I can receive help.
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Elijah I just have to tell you that I’m so glad you are back on RUclips! I watched your videos very often when I was younger and really struggling with my mental health. I still, to this day, go back to some of them when it’s difficult. I read the butterfly letters when I feel alone. You really impacted my life in such an amazing way, even if we are just strangers on the internet. I hope you’re doing well! Thank you!
This is the best explanation I've ever heard. Best wishes always and happy 2020.
Thank you so much! I've spent a lot of time thinking about it, I'm glad it actually made sense haha
Dude it’s been forever since I’ve gotta you’re vids in my subscription section it’s great to see your vids again
This is so beautiful. I stand behind you all the way and agree with you completely! Keep up the great work, I hope you have an amazing 2020! :)
Thanks Allison, that means a lot to me :)
Mother of god. I used to watch your videos like 7 years ago. You're amazing
How are you doing right now? Just checking on you 💕
Nice explanation good job im watching here to support thanks
this really hits home
I need advice with my younger autistic sister. I love her dearly, but she doesn't seem to understand that if she wants people to consider her feelings, she needs to be considerate of theirs. Trying to say this in the most respectful way possible... I spend all week on my DND sessions, adding things, enhancing things, adding new mechanics, trying to do everything possible for my players to have a good time. She hasn't been role-playing the last two sessions because she has been taking notes. I thought I cleared it up last week when I agreed to just talk slower while she's taking notes. I guess not though because we had the same thing happen again. She's more worried about her boyfriend knowing every detail of the adventure (because he's not in the campaign, and can't be due to distance), including how much gold everyone leaves at a statue for offerings, what color things are, and what every NPC says and does. She's not really thinking about the group and how the other players feel when they have to wait and be sucked out of the gameplay. When I told her this, she didn't seem to care. When I brought up that I spend actual time on my sessions for her to enjoy the game, and it hurts my feelings when she doesn't participate in the work I put in, she told me she was apathetic. She isn't just your average "I say things bluntly, and my intentions are not to hurt you." She is just straight up rude when it comes to people and their feelings. She was very sheltered, doesn't have friends, and our parents have let her use autism as an excuse for everything. She still lives with them. She is more high functioning than our parents believe she is, and she never used to be so cruel about others. When I say she's cruel, I mean we've been in the presence of my friend with a kid, and the kid was about to grab the eraser and pop it into his mouth. The kid was right in front of her and she watched him do it, and she would have let him had I not ran across the room to stop him. I said "sis, why were you just watching? I really could have choked and possibly died." And she looked at me directly and said "I don't care. I hate kids." Instead of blowing my damn top, I asked her about it later and told her it was unacceptable. She just didn't care.
I realize that's a lot to read, and it's not much to go off of, but she never used to be like this. She never used to be so cruel. I don't understand, but I want to. I try hard to understand. I am constantly reading up about autism. On the functionality scale of it were 1-10, she would be a solid 7. Any advice would be awesome. I just want to know how to explain to her that the things she says is just not acceptable, no matter who you are. Her intentions are not to just express herself, they are to use autism as an excuse for not working on her behavior. She's not trying to understand people as much as we all try to understand her. We do a lot to accommodate her, and she just doesn't seem to appreciate it. Maybe she does, and I'm just an asshole. I just want help with this one. Maybe I am misunderstanding and I just need guidance.
Please don't sensor yourself to me, and know I won't take anything the wrong way. If you could just help me understand how to communicate with her, that's all I have ever wanted.
She gets her feelings hurt easily, but acts like she doesn't care as well. I really could go on, and I don't mean to. I am just trying to give substance so I can receive help.
I really like your videos you seem really sweet
You are such a beautiful guy :D
where dem sticks at