10 Questions Every Girl Should Ask Before Getting Married _ || Smile With Prachi

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  • Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024

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  • @SuperWowstyle
    @SuperWowstyle 4 года назад +116

    How to convince your parents for intercaste marriages - ruclips.net/video/9RHE772KVCU/видео.html

    • @karanagarwaal1716
      @karanagarwaal1716 4 года назад +3

      I think its more of a balance game rather expectation for both

    • @SurajInd89
      @SurajInd89 3 года назад +8

      Why would someone want to have intercaste marriages? In Indian context, marriage involves alliance between two families and this cannot happen with intercaste marriages. There are gonna be problems. Marry within the caste, within the religion.

    • @dhavalkumar-deliveredwithl3745
      @dhavalkumar-deliveredwithl3745 2 года назад

      Have Prachi been into Rodies audition ever? I have seen a video in which girl looks like prachi and her name is also Prachi. Is she the one in the rodies?

    • @harsham9488
      @harsham9488 Год назад +1

      @@SurajInd89 Please stop encouraging caste system.

    • @SurajInd89
      @SurajInd89 Год назад

      @@harsham9488 What do you mean by caste system? Only the inequalities among different castes need to be erased. Not the castes themselves. Intercaste marriages break our history, our cultural origin.

  • @prakashtiwari8003
    @prakashtiwari8003 4 года назад +762

    Be practical rather being mama's boy or papa ki pari. Respect everyone because both spouse and parents are very important in life.

    • @miliaurora1038
      @miliaurora1038 4 года назад +8

      That's subjective and upto the individuals what They want to do.

    • @mrperfectionist6859
      @mrperfectionist6859 4 года назад +3

      @@miliaurora1038 no

    • @miliaurora1038
      @miliaurora1038 4 года назад +8

      @@mrperfectionist6859 What no?? It's people' choice what they want to be like... it's none of anyone else's business.

    • @mrperfectionist6859
      @mrperfectionist6859 4 года назад +4

      @@miliaurora1038 yes both are important in life and proper balance is needed...
      What hand sanitizer brand do you use?

    • @miliaurora1038
      @miliaurora1038 4 года назад

      @@mrperfectionist6859 That's subjective

  • @ishj134
    @ishj134 3 года назад +519

    Couldn't find all the point listed together, so here you go. Hope it helps. Also, thanks Prachi for the awesome video.
    1. Your partner's parents 2:06
    2. Extent of being influenced by others 4:27
    3. How you both handle finances 6:08
    4. Family planning goals 8:22
    5. Basics of family chores 10:02
    6. Each others past 12:14
    7. Fight topics and conflict resolution 14:16
    8. Future goals 16:43
    9. Communication and companionship feels 18:31
    10. Understanding expectations 19:58

    • @pinkykaur8760
      @pinkykaur8760 3 года назад +7

      Thank you for putting all this together 😊

    • @ishj134
      @ishj134 3 года назад +1

      @@pinkykaur8760 you are welcome 😊

    • @raisunnisakhan5622
      @raisunnisakhan5622 3 года назад +1

      Thank you 😇 @Ish J

    • @ishj134
      @ishj134 3 года назад +1

      @@raisunnisakhan5622 my pleasure 🙂

    • @mukundmurali3720
      @mukundmurali3720 3 года назад +2

      @prachi pin this to top

  • @ektagupta5120
    @ektagupta5120 3 года назад +439

    In arrange marriages, boyys family boast a lot about their finances but after marriage, you get to know the real scenario.

    • @pranjalparmar2504
      @pranjalparmar2504 3 года назад +24

      That is a harsh reality
      But nowadays I have seen a lot of people who are not like that
      They understand in transparency from both sides & It's really good

    • @lifeofvishal1136
      @lifeofvishal1136 3 года назад +56

      Hahaha I think you are one of them ..feel sorry for you but every female parents looking for only financial status of boys family😜😂

    • @ad8128
      @ad8128 3 года назад +60

      Tight slap to the parents of the girls. Who instead of understanding the feelings of their daughter push her to marry some stranger of their own religion, caste, sub-caste, ..etc and also agree to give dowry and luxuries to those worthless beggars. 😠
      I am a boy but I can understand what girls in India have to go through, sacrificing everything for the ego of their parents.😔

    • @subham99vlog
      @subham99vlog 3 года назад +17

      @@ad8128 bro we r progressing in a positive way but sad part is that our pwrents or societies r not able to get out from such backdated trapped stereotypical thoughts!!

    • @saikikusuo7361
      @saikikusuo7361 3 года назад +2

      @@ad8128 why bring religion to it?

  • @RakshandaMeshram
    @RakshandaMeshram 4 года назад +747

    Before listening you, I thought that I am wrong about adopting a child rather than give a birth... But now I am 100% sure... Coz I thinks exactly the same, that bcoz of this population, polution, I don't want to give birth to another child. Isase achha to me adopt karu or us bachhe ki life achhi banau ❤️

  • @diyabhattacharjee6610
    @diyabhattacharjee6610 4 года назад +70

    after listening to you i am always moved in a good way. My all insecurities are gone and you inspired me to walk off a toxic relationship.♥️

  • @samtula5946
    @samtula5946 3 года назад +311

    Basically just don’t get married 😆

    • @kinjaljani2431
      @kinjaljani2431 3 года назад +22

      But not getting married will not be type of incomplete life or type of lonliness after a certain age

    • @samtula5946
      @samtula5946 3 года назад +23

      @@trigcat3107 if you’re such a woman hater then don’t marry a woman..my comment wasn’t in regards to women but both men and women and the complications that arise with both families expectations.. and your own needs. Women have been sacrificing for years.. their lifestyle and what not to meet the demands of men and their families while men were free to do whatever they want.. you should be born as a woman in your next life to see all the freedoms that get taken away..

    • @kavishap6136
      @kavishap6136 3 года назад +7

      I'll not say you are wrong it's all upon you. If your parents are ok with your decision that's absolutely ok. Coz ik some girls who are happy unmarried and handing their life and parents peacefully and are well settled. I think people should not force anyone to get married :)

    • @aastha277
      @aastha277 3 года назад +7

      @@samtula5946 Even if born as women, the ultimate sufferer is the WOMAN only.

    • @thenameisfaiz
      @thenameisfaiz 3 года назад

      Right

  • @HealthnutChefbyRiddhi
    @HealthnutChefbyRiddhi 3 года назад +68

    I wish I had seen this video before getting married!
    My piece of advice- the boy will become like his parents post marriage, so focus all your energy on the parents. Even when the boy acts independent, he will be a reflection of his parents. All of a sudden, family traditions become important for guys post marriage.
    And India men do not want to equally share household chores. It's never gonna happen.

    • @archanabansal5261
      @archanabansal5261 3 года назад +4

      Wow, you are not intelligent at all

    • @rashuharshu
      @rashuharshu 3 года назад +3

      @@archanabansal5261 Why do you say so? Its her observation.

    • @anilgowdam112
      @anilgowdam112 3 года назад

      @@rashuharshu it's his observation

    • @praveerrajput207
      @praveerrajput207 2 года назад +1

      @@archanabansal5261 like ur husband is ur slave ?? That's why

    • @SrutiDavis
      @SrutiDavis 2 года назад +1

      @Healthnut Chef, You're very correct. This was my experience too.

  • @paruloberai
    @paruloberai 4 года назад +166

    Another point I feel is very important is knowing the medical history of each other and getting a blood test.. Know family history as well..

    • @paruloberai
      @paruloberai 4 года назад +7

      @മെரக் गुप्ता hey. Not sure but I think if you are comfortable with the guy you can always propose..it's not like you want him to go through. You are yourself undergoing so probably it's fair for both the people. And if two people are matured, you don't need to involve families in discussing this. It's better to be safe than sorry I guess.

    • @paruloberai
      @paruloberai 4 года назад +2

      @മെரக் गुप्ताyeah I think so. And if there are any issues also one can take precautions.

    • @sarojnegi3351
      @sarojnegi3351 4 года назад +1

      Why? Can you please elaborate on that?

    • @rubyshine8926
      @rubyshine8926 4 года назад +16

      Ya I agree with you. It's so fuckin scary what if someone have no idea that their partner have STDs.

    • @sakshigupta1684
      @sakshigupta1684 4 года назад +7

      @@sarojnegi3351in order to be aware if the person isnt suffering from some disease esp one thats been hereditary in their family for generations....for safety of child

  • @poojabhatt3675
    @poojabhatt3675 4 года назад +205

    This is not just a video. It is a gift to humanity. Thank you will be an understatement for this, honestly. I just wish, hope and pray that it reaches as many unmarried people as possible (ideally, all the unmarried people). Share this video as much as you can guys. This is pure gold!

    • @shefalisabrina7679
      @shefalisabrina7679 4 года назад +2

      yes...a true gift

    • @ratnesh4727
      @ratnesh4727 3 года назад

      @@shefalisabrina7679
      Apne miya se poochhna
      Ki wo bachha nahi chahte kya

    • @ratnesh4727
      @ratnesh4727 3 года назад

      Itna excited hone ki jarurat nahi hai
      10 saal baad sabke 4 bachhe honge
      Kyuki aaj ki saas bhi kabhi ese hi khayaal rakhti thi😂😂😂😂

  • @omkarmohapatra8078
    @omkarmohapatra8078 4 года назад +159

    You put things in a very good manner,but one point I want to add here is that before marriage all girls should spend some time with the boy's family in order to know each other and same logic applies for boys and both the parents for a healthy relationship. I agree to the fact that there would be differences between couples and families but there should be mutual respect between families & couple and instead of proving who is right or wrong,they should find what is wrong and solve them. :-)

    • @veenakt4627
      @veenakt4627 4 года назад +8

      Yes thatz true but everyone should have the mindset to find the issue and solve them...

  • @meenakshishrivasan3834
    @meenakshishrivasan3834 3 года назад +17

    Saving this video for my daughter because it's very late for me bearing a mama's boy from last 4 year.

    • @gohan12991
      @gohan12991 2 года назад

      Mama's boy? Does he not love you?

  • @priyabharati5865
    @priyabharati5865 4 года назад +669

    She looks like Radhika Apte..

    • @ankadatta1636
      @ankadatta1636 4 года назад +3

      What about her thoughts?

    • @pankajk3686
      @pankajk3686 4 года назад +9

      She thoughts like arnav goswamii

    • @satyanveshi1939
      @satyanveshi1939 4 года назад +7

      Only diff she is 100 times more smart over all in terms of maturity and logical thinking

    • @ririraman7
      @ririraman7 4 года назад

      i was about to write this

    • @mallikarjunhagargi7830
      @mallikarjunhagargi7830 4 года назад

      Radhika Apte watching: when did I make this video 🤔

  • @Pos546
    @Pos546 4 года назад +69

    Everything looks rosy during dating ..then all hell breaks loose when they start living under one roof.. If no Compramise & adjustments , it's gonna be doomed...Both irritate each other..Both will be good , sometimes situation ruins the relationship..

    • @surujkuar7121
      @surujkuar7121 3 года назад +2

      I agree with you....can anyone ever read the depth of a boy and his family.
      In the beginning everything is a bed of roses.....the movie starts once you are married. Than you see the consequence

    • @shivamkh9903
      @shivamkh9903 3 года назад

      100 percent true👌👌

    • @bhadwamuhammad979
      @bhadwamuhammad979 Год назад

      Never marry a used product

  • @46aditighatge51
    @46aditighatge51 4 года назад +318

    I am saving this video for my future fiancee 😂😂😂😂 i hope i remember about this video then 😭

  • @vedhanath4308
    @vedhanath4308 4 года назад +147

    Prachi.. my wedding is on coming Jan 31 and I must say, this video was most needed. You have no idea how easy you have made things for us.. thank you ♥️

    • @swapnakrish1517
      @swapnakrish1517 4 года назад +4

      Vedha Nath congratulations n good luck 👍🏽

    • @vedhanath4308
      @vedhanath4308 4 года назад

      @@swapnakrish1517 thank you so much dear ♥️

    • @mounikavarma1176
      @mounikavarma1176 4 года назад +1

      Congratulations for a new beginning dear❤️

    • @friendshiprocks8673
      @friendshiprocks8673 3 года назад

      I am reading ur comment after almost 1 year.congratulations for ur marriage. How r u and how ur married life is going on???

    • @ananyaagar
      @ananyaagar 3 года назад

      Meri bhi 31 jan ko hui thii last year.... But i m not happy

  • @apekshasatpute1347
    @apekshasatpute1347 2 года назад +9

    In middle class families we do not have an option of not cooking, adopting child, doing chores etc 🙄🙄🙄

  • @TruptiaurKirankiDuniya
    @TruptiaurKirankiDuniya 4 года назад +141

    The guy's parents whom I dated for marriage expected me to not pay emi for my parents..there we broke

    • @Bonanza889
      @Bonanza889 3 года назад

      Did u divorce him..I mean he didn't support u na

    • @shauru771
      @shauru771 3 года назад +22

      The hypocrisy of Indian parents between there own daughter and daughter in law is disheartening

    • @artbeat33
      @artbeat33 3 года назад +3

      Wise decision 👍🏼

    • @veda8780
      @veda8780 3 года назад +2

      Well done 👍

    • @PriyaSingh-oy2gc
      @PriyaSingh-oy2gc 3 года назад +2

      You go girl💗

  • @saranibhattacharya2849
    @saranibhattacharya2849 4 года назад +523

    I am so happy women are finally opening up about not wanting to have kids biologically. I also dont intend to have kids but it's very hard to find any Indian guy who doesn't want kids.

    • @crazylogic413
      @crazylogic413 4 года назад +4

      Well said

    • @anamikajha6729
      @anamikajha6729 4 года назад +3

      Exactly

    • @nidhipatel5168
      @nidhipatel5168 4 года назад +3

      So true, girl .

    • @anamikajha6729
      @anamikajha6729 4 года назад +51

      it's like we owe them a kid ,as if we somehow r obliged to carry foward their legacy.They fail to take into a/c "the right to our body".It's something thats implied when clearly we do have a choice.

    • @grace-vm5gm
      @grace-vm5gm 4 года назад +32

      I also don't want to have kids but luckily my boyfriend doesn't want them too.

  • @chandankapoor9283
    @chandankapoor9283 3 года назад +17

    one point i also want to share i.e. temperament,
    reacting on other's(spouse or in-laws) action is normal but overreacting is always bad and will eventually can destroy your married life.

    • @marriagealliance.company-m2197
      @marriagealliance.company-m2197 3 года назад +2

      It's good to understand Responses or Style of response in angry mood . Some strong minded folks have responses which are difficult for spouse to handle and it can ruin the entire day or even few days to recover . The tone,words, outburst of energy or even the sound frequency ...

  • @rachelmcclain5367
    @rachelmcclain5367 4 года назад +20

    To me, I always wanted to both adopt and have biological. Just be open to both. If it is too hard to adopt or too hard to get pregnant, that's fine. Make sure communication is there

  • @superarc8398
    @superarc8398 3 года назад +26

    My mom and dad is the perfect example of perfect couple , even after 26 years , yes there is financial and family problem troughout the year , what matters is only respect

  • @jaysrivastava6925
    @jaysrivastava6925 3 года назад +24

    I will add 1 and i think the most important thing to understand about your partner.
    DON'T ASSUME THINGS.
    Don't expect your partner to do and know things about you without you telling him/her first. Don't expect.

  • @smitadutta9970
    @smitadutta9970 4 года назад +28

    Your talks mean a lot❤️❤️❤️ I wish this video was available in hindi too so we could share it with our parents too... 🙂

  • @Khalifa1592
    @Khalifa1592 4 года назад +57

    Sis you are dropping some real gems here. Thank you so much.

  • @priyankagupta4170
    @priyankagupta4170 4 года назад +36

    Most needed and important video for the kind of girl like me who is going to get married and in search of life partner..
    I completely agree your opinion
    Thank you Prachi di..

  • @sandymsb6935
    @sandymsb6935 4 года назад +41

    Marrying the entire family 😂 holy cow !

  • @ShinjineeDas
    @ShinjineeDas 4 года назад +15

    Thankgod I'm watching this now and marriage is not on the cards right now.

  • @harshbrahm5
    @harshbrahm5 4 года назад +15

    Best content on this topic. I would recommend everyone to watch this before getting married.

  • @shajimathews2270
    @shajimathews2270 3 года назад +31

    True behavior of spouse is seen only in conflicts and hard times

  • @ayesharashid03
    @ayesharashid03 4 года назад +7

    This felt like an older sister that I never had telling me all the things I need to know before marrying someone.
    Thank you so much and may God bless you! ❤

    • @jakesky3155
      @jakesky3155 4 года назад

      Ur one look can cure erectile dysfunction !! U know that?

    • @jakesky3155
      @jakesky3155 4 года назад

      U probably marry Ur cousin anyway lol

  • @handsome_hunk_DeV
    @handsome_hunk_DeV 4 года назад +340

    I was thinking of adopting a kid rather than bringing one into this world

    • @gurramswapna734
      @gurramswapna734 4 года назад +14

      Sab aysa hi soche tho akir adopt karne ke liye be kahase ayega 🤔

    • @manjushapuli7974
      @manjushapuli7974 4 года назад +4

      Thinking just like me 😊

    • @nishayong6884
      @nishayong6884 4 года назад +11

      @Joseph D T okay so adopting a child is selfish kutta billi hai kya bache

    • @madhurigowda5782
      @madhurigowda5782 4 года назад +4

      Gud decision..

    • @srilathaasampally4601
      @srilathaasampally4601 4 года назад +8

      Even still now.. m stuck with this topic... Not getting a understanding or accepting partner... Bcz maximum wants their own child... Don't know when vl they change their thoughts.... 😥😥

  • @drfaiqa544
    @drfaiqa544 4 года назад +46

    Prachi many desi girls and boys are not even allowed to talk to each other before marriage in arrange marriages..how do we know all these things about them😯😯😯 btw love from Pakistan

    • @itsmeunicorn6113
      @itsmeunicorn6113 4 года назад

      Too bad lol

    • @subhasreemattigunta3828
      @subhasreemattigunta3828 4 года назад +6

      Good question.. Here lies the practical problem.. Convince the parents until tjey accept.
      Girls need to stay strong for the sake of their own future.

    • @deepalil1085
      @deepalil1085 3 года назад

      Not even on phone?

    • @babeyouare849
      @babeyouare849 3 года назад

      @@deepalil1085 yes. Not even on phone.
      You'll meet him/her directly in marriage hall.

    • @babeyouare849
      @babeyouare849 3 года назад +1

      @@trigcat3107 lol
      Everything is going wrong

  • @zrmalluexplorer5538
    @zrmalluexplorer5538 4 года назад +143

    Some mother in-law doesn't allow her son's to take out his wife. It's really a sad part of life😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔

    • @khushwindersingh2208
      @khushwindersingh2208 3 года назад +20

      Then they shouldnt marry their son

    • @zrmalluexplorer5538
      @zrmalluexplorer5538 3 года назад +8

      @@khushwindersingh2208 after marrying they will come to know 🙂

    • @khushwindersingh2208
      @khushwindersingh2208 3 года назад +1

      Styleluxe Henna - RamZi Khan hainji hindi mein bta do mujhe ni smjh aaya kya kaha aapne

    • @DIVINE16.
      @DIVINE16. 3 года назад +2

      True ✋Experienced

    • @sahithayelamanchili2709
      @sahithayelamanchili2709 3 года назад +5

      @@zrmalluexplorer5538 Yeah! My ex- mother in-law would sulk whenever my husband used to take me out or on holiday. She used to come a lot between us.
      I decided to end the marriage when this ex-husband asked her to sit on our bed in the master bedroom.
      I was just lying around and browsing something. He was working on his laptop and lying around too.
      I took great offence because the master bedroom is a personal space.

  • @velammalaishwarya2947
    @velammalaishwarya2947 4 года назад +24

    Had I seen you(this video) before my marriage probably my life would have been different!! :p

  • @princekr1427
    @princekr1427 4 года назад +80

    for girls: ask ur mother..about her choice for dauggter in law. and be that one
    for boys: ask ur mother about what type of boys will be best for her daughter. be that one

    • @ni3070
      @ni3070 3 года назад +1

      Won't work if Mom is too open minded, can't expect that from everyone

    • @marriagealliance.company-m2197
      @marriagealliance.company-m2197 3 года назад +1

      @@karthi368 She won't , she knows the old you !

    • @anujab6163
      @anujab6163 3 года назад +3

      The world is not that ideal my friend. Your mother and other's mother won't think alike.

    • @sarveshmusicalzone1907
      @sarveshmusicalzone1907 3 года назад +2

      @@trigcat3107 I am just reading the comments section and shocked to see some girls don't even want to be a mother. These types of girls on one day can even say to his husband that we don't want your parents too send them to an old-age home. Bharosa nhi inka kuch😂

    • @Bonanza889
      @Bonanza889 3 года назад

      @@trigcat3107 omg listen to u atm machines???r u even aware that lot of girls r earng more than guys

  • @paruloberai
    @paruloberai 4 года назад +104

    Mam what you mentioned is all true. However this level of understanding about the other person can only happen in either love marriage or you have a long courtship after getting engaged probably.. and after that if you discover something like this it's very hard to break ties once families are involved.. specially in arranged marriage, where you would max get few months to probably know each other.. would be useful if you can make video sharing your thoughts given these scenarios.

  • @suchitrapathak7391
    @suchitrapathak7391 4 года назад +7

    Thanks Prachi i can say this is ur one of ur videos ... There were lots of confusions since m 25 and single ... I met many boys but not able to synchronise with anyone .. i was thinking that there was problem in me but now i gain confidence 😊 thanks Prachi ,, we girls love u and always give credit to u

  • @shaikhvakila6765
    @shaikhvakila6765 3 года назад +4

    Prachi di , M engaged n m marrying frm my choice bt his mother n father are not alive . My papa met there relatives and he is satisfy. M frm mumbai and his frm banglore . His is nice well manner and working guy , no bad habits i know him since 2 or 3 yr nd i told my parents i convince my parnts for him . It was so difficlt to convince them bt finally they are ready in two week m getting married ..In sha Allah

    • @mahrukh12
      @mahrukh12 Год назад

      I hope you are fine♥💖

  • @kumkumchouhan4299
    @kumkumchouhan4299 3 года назад +3

    i would want to add one thing to this list. and that is pets.. some women are so afraid of dogs and majority of men have made it a life goal to own a dog. they in some cases are so blinded that they cant believe that a person can get afraid of dogs....... this is really important to be spoken about

  • @jenniselvia
    @jenniselvia 4 года назад +6

    I loved every single line you conveyed in this video...! 🥰🥰🥰Really must for every girl before marriage..! Yur communicating everything so clearlyy..! Yur beauty with brain.. 👍🏻👍🏻

  • @banipriya
    @banipriya 4 года назад +18

    Hi , Ma'am perfect video... wonderful video...Truee compatibility and happiness matters much more...But HOPE is what we can only ponder about...🤓🙊😍🤞🤩

  • @homestuffsvas4305
    @homestuffsvas4305 3 года назад +7

    I have experienced most of all the things she is saying I have been married for a year now

  • @globotechsolutions811
    @globotechsolutions811 4 года назад +8

    Definitely one of the most relevant n genuine advice given by anyone on RUclips....... Very true.... N very true.....super like to ur video... thanks for making this video......

  • @preetimatoppo9904
    @preetimatoppo9904 4 года назад +10

    Right stuff I was searching before getting married. Thanks Prachi

  • @nilamlalwani6327
    @nilamlalwani6327 4 года назад +4

    Hi Prachi...
    You helped a lot to understand what one should know before getting married

  • @udhaykoul7271
    @udhaykoul7271 2 года назад +5

    Past does matter because. Because we now know that past can effect future relationship

  • @ramyared40
    @ramyared40 Год назад

    One of the best videos I have watched in YT about Marriage
    Balanced view
    Neither a Feminist nor a Male chauvinist
    No scaring of Biological or Zoological clock
    Well drafted
    On to the point
    Clear and concise
    Both Men and Women should watch this

  • @manjuraut3434
    @manjuraut3434 4 года назад +10

    You and your husband is very lucky....found the best match..❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @SAnand-fk4gl
    @SAnand-fk4gl 3 года назад +7

    Prachi: I find your views on such topics to be balanced and mature. I know you must be aware but have some questions for you. I would appreciate if you can answer them (I mean your thoughts). The purpose is just for my own knowledge especially as you have balanced thoughts on such topics:
    1. Your questions are for mature people who understand what the real meaning of marriage is (two mature like-minded individuals sharing their lives and achieving goals and facing challenges together). There are many people who get married because their parents want them to get married. They are not mature enough to know why people get married. They treat it as an item checked off their list (I am not talking about teenage brides or grooms here. I know close to 30 year olds who are clueless). How do we even educate such people on such issues?
    2. In many arranged marriages it would be a taboo or a cardinal sin to ask about past relationships. All hell breaks loose if the couple escalate this to their parents (which is a dumb thing to do) but people do it anyway. How do we even educate people that when you talk to a prospective bride/groom, even if you don't like what he/she says, it's between the two of you and don't make it a public issue. Also many parents are inquisitive and would like to know exactly what went on. Even in such cases we know what parents can react to and we can censor those aspects. How do we educate people on these aspects?
    3. Kids and sex??? Forget it !! Sex is the biggest bad word in our country. Could you throw some light on how to approach this talk given many people are shy to even think about this topic (forget talking)
    4. A lot of Indian men and women are brought up trained that even talking to someone of the opposite gender is a no no. We might think it is changing now but I see a vast majority still clueless about not knowing how to even have a conversation with someone of the opposite gender (relationship is till a long way to go). Infact any educational video from someone like you would go a long way. There are colleges in India where students are fined for interacting with someone of their opposite gender and the management takes pride in it (after all they are "saving Indian culture") and some parents feel kids are safe in that environment !!! Forget relationships, such people won't even know how to work with colleagues of the opposite gender at work!!!
    Would appreciate if you can make some videos related to these in whatever way you think is appropriate (if you feel these are worthwhile topics). Thank you for reading

  • @sg3918
    @sg3918 4 года назад +9

    make sure you are happy in yourself before getting married and live a life of very low expectations. don't marry to search for happiness. low expectation doesn't mean you are lazy but you expect nothing to very little from other people including your partner. that way you are happy with pretty much anything positive no matter how small that comes your way. You just keep working on yourself. i found my personal happiness by reading the Upanishads. I needed to understand the meaning of life and being here because only then could all my activities in day to day life give me purpose and make me happy. IF i get married, the only thing that could upset it now is if i choose poorly, somebody who has not truly figured their state of mind out.

  • @subhasreemattigunta3828
    @subhasreemattigunta3828 4 года назад +76

    My boyfriend is mama's boy.. Bt somehow i could find more similarities between me and her... Rather than he and his mother! This is Intresting, but have to see how this gonna work...
    Im gonna marry him in few months.
    Wish me!

  • @saregama9839
    @saregama9839 4 года назад +32

    Your eyes are so beautiful and expressive❤ And the things you say are so practical. Keep up the good work, Prachi dee.

  • @srishti3834
    @srishti3834 4 года назад +11

    Very informative video prachi, this is amazing. The topics you chose were so exact that i have seem these issues in my family so often.thanks for the wisdom prachi🎈♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️😘

  • @ravishingtwinkle3811
    @ravishingtwinkle3811 4 года назад +32

    Sometimes past can be known better to understand the mentality of a person . It really helps coz sometimes agreeing to marry is not all like knowing a person.

    • @sumandhabolkar2819
      @sumandhabolkar2819 4 года назад +1

      True. I don't know why people are shamed into not asking partner's past.

    • @adityasrivastava02
      @adityasrivastava02 4 года назад +3

      @@sumandhabolkar2819 no one is a saint in this world of hypocrisy.Everyone portray themselves so genuine ,no one gonna tell upto which extent he/she was indulged into sort of scandalous events.

  • @Plams5
    @Plams5 6 дней назад

    Amazing video, great job in preching equality and understanding between the partners...

  • @saishreesaishree1795
    @saishreesaishree1795 4 года назад +8

    Do u think is it possible to sort out all these things before getting married(especially arrange marriage)?? If i discuss all this things with my future life partner, at one point he may feel frustated for discussing so many future things.. We can discuss few things like his/her likes and dislikes, financial things...apart from that, i feel we cannot sort out everything before marriage...May b it is possible in love marriages

  • @rishikagupta4189
    @rishikagupta4189 4 года назад +6

    After listening to you I realized how similar we both think @prachi....Till now when you give suggestions to others it feels like if I was in your place, I will be saying the exactly the same things....
    Lots of love and hugs ❣️

  • @surujkuar7121
    @surujkuar7121 3 года назад +5

    Thanks for the educational eye opening tips. My marriage life is a hell. Everything opposite the tips you have given. Only if I was of this generation than I would follow up with your tips to have a happy marriage life.
    Even though to gain something ....anyone can go to any extent.....later you see the true colours.

  • @jplaylist
    @jplaylist 3 года назад +1

    Great 10 points, all the more important to think upon, discuss openly if it’s an arranged marriage. I would add discussion on religious beliefs; more so if it’s an inter religion marriage. The boy and the girl might not pay much attention to it. Believe me, quite a number of issues can surface around adapting to culture, food and practices. Also there need to be discussion on habits pointing to smoking, drinking etc. if it’s a love marriage they would certainly be aware to a great extent. On the other hand if it’s an arranged marriage, then it can be an unpleasant surprise to either the boy or the girl. Discussing around extra curricular activities would be appropriate too. After marriage, for example the boys parents may be against the girl giving public dance (Bharatnatyam, Khatak......) performances.

  • @passion_artista
    @passion_artista 4 года назад +43

    What if you don't want to marry at all ... But have to ... Just because your family said so .... And you have no choice.

    • @saadiasajjad20
      @saadiasajjad20 3 года назад +1

      Don’t do it

    • @acnymbacnymb2178
      @acnymbacnymb2178 3 года назад +7

      I am in a similar kind of situation.Earlier I hated even to think about getting married because married life comes with so much responsibilities but now I am 29 I think life will be boring after sometimes but you shouldn't get married unless you can't imagine spending next 50-60 years with that person(personality)

    • @akshaysawant3201
      @akshaysawant3201 3 года назад +4

      If you earn good amount of money then this types of questions will not come in your mind

    • @akshaysawant3201
      @akshaysawant3201 3 года назад +1

      Jaab waqt se phelle he pyaar hoo jatta hai 3-4 baar taab humare dimag mein essa khayal atta hai
      I don't want to marry

    • @khaoslord6578
      @khaoslord6578 3 года назад

      @@trigcat3107 enjoy with ur cats

  • @kirijakirija531
    @kirijakirija531 4 года назад +11

    I'm exactly like u in many ways Prachi♥️♥️ We r so similar in mindseta nd thought process

  • @urmilakumari641
    @urmilakumari641 4 года назад +23

    Your speaking skill is great.

  • @bhardwajsourabh4
    @bhardwajsourabh4 Год назад

    Very well said mam.. i would need to refer this video quite a few times before getting married.. good observation!

  • @1984Karthika
    @1984Karthika 4 года назад +1

    Well Said Prachi. I appreciate you speaking up on this topic.Most Guys really don't consider these aspects significant.Parents think, once married they will adjust themselves, but it might lead to adverse situations too.

  • @annmary2261
    @annmary2261 4 года назад +11

    Brilliant. Every girl nd boy must watch this before marriage.

  • @mdalthaf7422
    @mdalthaf7422 3 года назад +10

    Every husband needs 1,her wife was known cooking 2,her wife graduate 3. Her wife was polite 4, her wife was beautiful 🤣🤣🤣 that all are needs for boys 👏👏👏👏

    • @nirmalk4416
      @nirmalk4416 Год назад

      And wife is virgin

    • @surd3909
      @surd3909 Год назад +2

      Absolutely not- it’s 2023 girls are NOT expected to cook, these days men cook as well, also everybody is beautiful, thirdly if someone is not a graduate that doesn’t mean they are stupid.

  • @rafelsuha8710
    @rafelsuha8710 4 года назад +10

    Thnku di ...mri shadi to jbrjsti ki ja rh h...Im asking my dad to gv me time but he says now its over ....u have completed graduation..now it's tym to become a wife
    N if ur husband allows...
    Thn u can do job othrws not..
    Im a btech engineer...but this happens in my fmly..
    Why can't I take decisions on my own?
    Im frustrated just want to run away 😭

    • @shreyagarg883
      @shreyagarg883 4 года назад

      are you fine now?

    • @prachijasrotia900
      @prachijasrotia900 4 года назад

      Kya yr mtlb abhi bhe bache hai ki permission lene pdhe 😶 bs yehe reh jata hai baad mai jaabh taak permission na milhe taabh taak bs sapne he lete raho......Plz stand for yourself .

    • @ashwanipawar4312
      @ashwanipawar4312 4 года назад +3

      What the fuck...I don't understand that we all are living in 21st century and but still we are fighting for our rights...ye ho kya raha h...same situation with me also..I m not ready for marriage right now bt my family pressuring me to get married bcz according to them ab meri age ho gyi hain...fir baad m ladke nhi milenge ...ladke reject karenge jb age nikl jayegi to ..I just hate marriage...

    • @anjumitagi9442
      @anjumitagi9442 4 года назад

      Everything happens for a reason. Trust God

    • @artisticminds4337
      @artisticminds4337 3 года назад

      You will have to put your foot down and tell your dad that its your life and you will take decisions accordingly and not the other way around... other wise dont call it a forced marriage if you can not fight for what you want in life.
      Its like you either are a boss of your own life or you let someone else decide your life. Remember you are the architect of your life

  • @ruchikumari7989
    @ruchikumari7989 4 года назад +10

    This is one of your best vlogs with such valued content.

  • @ramkrishna6213
    @ramkrishna6213 4 года назад +5

    Really liked your thought about having kids and giving more importance to adopting children than bringing new ones to the world.👍

  • @sandhyadesulu7980
    @sandhyadesulu7980 4 года назад +19

    How to ask this question directly?? Rude nahi ho jaiga? I want to ask all these Questions without being rude

    • @TheSoulfulPalette
      @TheSoulfulPalette 3 года назад +8

      Sandhya just ask them. And mention that you want to want understand him and don't mean to offend him. And if he doesn't take it well, he might not be the best person for you in future also. You have complete right to know the person you'll be spending your life with.

    • @sandhyadesulu7980
      @sandhyadesulu7980 3 года назад +2

      @@TheSoulfulPalette sahi bole di. Thank you so much

    • @vishalgugnani2136
      @vishalgugnani2136 3 года назад

      Yes you can ask your question and the thing going in your mind as it is important for both men and women at the time of their first meeting

    • @archanabansal5261
      @archanabansal5261 3 года назад +4

      Ask and expect to be asked the same questions. Jitna rudely AAP puchoge ya rudely usey lagega, itna rudely wo puchega to tumhe pata lag jayega tumne theek tareeke se puch ya rudely. Simple

    • @sandhyadesulu7980
      @sandhyadesulu7980 3 года назад

      @@archanabansal5261 okay di

  • @suchitrapathak7391
    @suchitrapathak7391 4 года назад +4

    Thanks Prachi i also wanna work and don't like cooking on daily to daily basis .. i was worried .. but now i wanna marry as per my thinking i thought it was not possible ... But now i will marry according to my thinking synchronisation... It is really helpful.. i am 25 and unmarried and everyone is giving me advice that u will not a perfect partner until and unless u will compromise with ur thinking.. but now m feeling more confident

    • @SmileWithPrachi
      @SmileWithPrachi  4 года назад +7

      Fair enough. But do learn basic cooking as a life skill. It's essential, though of course you don't have to cook daily if you don't want :)
      do keep in mind that a little compromise always helps a relationship become stronger and happier. Don't have to change yourself for someone, but small compromises are healthy.
      Both men and women should be willing to compromise a bit sometimes. :)

    • @suchitrapathak7391
      @suchitrapathak7391 4 года назад

      @@SmileWithPrachi i understood whats ur point and thanks u have replied

    • @suchitrapathak7391
      @suchitrapathak7391 4 года назад

      @@SmileWithPrachi thank u so much understood what u meant to say ... And thanks for replying me :) love u lot

  • @chhayasharma7399
    @chhayasharma7399 4 года назад +13

    We talked for 3 months. 2 months before Roka and for one month after Roka. Untill I was confused about whether I should say "yes" to this rishta or not, he was so much into convincing me for this Rishta but once done, we started fighting and thn he said I don't want to marry you 😂 I mean wow 😂😂😂

  • @Bostonite1985
    @Bostonite1985 3 года назад +4

    Husband (to wife) : How did the shopping go today? Did you get what you wanted?
    Wife : You know what happened. On my way to shopping my mum called. She said blah blah blah. Then my sister called. She said blah blah blah. Then I called my friend. We spoke about blah blah blah
    Husband: 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
    Wife: Why do you look so angry?
    Husband : I asked you a simple question. Did you buy what you wanted?
    Wife : If you don't have the patience to listen to everything I say, just don't ask me any questions...OK?😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
    Husband : I am going to make a RUclips video about 10 Questions every man should ask before getting married.

  • @s_sanjh
    @s_sanjh 3 года назад +3

    I just saw her video for the first time and honestly, Prachi is so beautiful ❤

  • @priharahj5515
    @priharahj5515 4 года назад +9

    I hv all liberty to meet to spend time with the guy bt still i am not sure 🤣 still its scary.... hats off to ppl who do it the parents way

  • @coloursoflife862
    @coloursoflife862 4 года назад +17

    Very good content prachi di.
    Going to get married soon nd today after watching this video,
    I'm sure I want him.

  • @utkarshsingh3228
    @utkarshsingh3228 4 года назад +42

    Maybe Mamma's boy are not that good according to some but those daddy's princess are also very disappointing and frustrating. Most of them are irresponsible, careless, extremely demanding, dominating and most importantly they need pampering like all the time.

    • @SmileWithPrachi
      @SmileWithPrachi  4 года назад +20

      I agree, a lot of girls use the 'daddy's princess' card to proudly justify some very wrong behaviour. Guys should be wary of such girls too.

    • @jiyart6598
      @jiyart6598 4 года назад +1

      Yes you are totally, 100 percent right.

    • @chetnasharma9269
      @chetnasharma9269 4 года назад

      Yup

  • @Grea76
    @Grea76 3 года назад +4

    Hello Prachi. Nice videos. I would like you to share your experience and learning on after marriage life so that youngsters as well as those struggling in their marriage can work it out on their own rather than seek divorce or interference from outsiders including parents (some times). Hope to hear from you. Thank you 😊

  • @buntyskb
    @buntyskb 3 года назад +1

    It is very important for both boy and girl to get comfortable with each other and know each other before tying the knot in case of arranged marriage. parents need to understand how important this is.

    • @bonnypal3641
      @bonnypal3641 3 года назад

      Dude the arranged marriage scenario is pretty much messed up !!!

  • @howcomeihavesubs
    @howcomeihavesubs 3 года назад +1

    I stumbled across this video and have no relation to the situation in this video yet I'm watching it because idk why I really like your voice and the way you talk

  • @sukrititekam8724
    @sukrititekam8724 4 года назад +10

    I didn't talked much to my husband before marriage, hardly 3-4 times only.. we only chatted on whatsapp and our marriage is typical arranged marriage. And one more thing, boys do promised u to support u, ur dreams and all bt after marriage things change sometimes. It happened with me a bit.

    • @supercoolaks
      @supercoolaks 4 года назад

      A bit?

    • @sukrititekam8724
      @sukrititekam8724 4 года назад

      @@supercoolaks han mtlb they do support on somethings like I could be a ESE officer if I had studied much harder but I ended up an Engg. in state govt. so he supports me,encourages me to keep studying and my hobby is dancing,if my parents would have allowed me earlier to choose my passion of dancing as a career then I would have tried going dance classes but aisa hua nhi to before marriage jb maine apne partner se ye baat kahi thi to he supported he,he said aapko dance cls join krna h to kr skti ho aao,koi issue nhi h but shadi k baad it seems like he doesn't respect these things. He doesn't respect people who dance or who chose to be choreographer. Now he said that I cannot grow the economy of my country by dancing, we should work hard😄😄

    • @archanabansal5261
      @archanabansal5261 3 года назад +3

      @@sukrititekam8724 the thing is compromise. If you do job and your classes come in clash with the timings, ofcourse he is gonna be worried, other reasons could be low money to afford dance class or maybe dance classes will leave you so tired that you both won't spend time. If you can make him realise that dance classes won't affect negatively to him, I don't see why he won't agree. Also, men also want to do a lot of things like you said, but do you see your hsuband doing something like that? That maybe because he is saving up or money is tight now. Have a proper talk with him instead of asking strangers on internet. He is the person who you are going to hopefully spend your life. Talk to him

    • @sukrititekam8724
      @sukrititekam8724 3 года назад +1

      @@archanabansal5261 yup. We both are trying to understand and respect each other and our priorities. ☺️ I hope things get better and best with time for both of us.

  • @indranilDey227
    @indranilDey227 3 года назад +8

    This is the reason Why Arranged marriages are extremely tough to happen now a days...!!!! The Best Suggestion-: “Marry the person whom you love very simple”. Arranged marriages don’t really work, it is just like to adjust and the whole life goes into it.

  • @AntiJihadi
    @AntiJihadi 4 года назад +5

    Best solution...
    DONOT GET MARRIED....
    Its an institution where a boy is judged by his bank balance and the girl is judged on her appearances....
    Be mumma's boy or papa ki pari, if that makes you happy....
    It will also help India reduce its population...

    • @anirbanmukherjee489
      @anirbanmukherjee489 4 года назад +2

      Sir now this is one of the best comments I have found in this comment section so far!! Great thought same as mine 👌👌👍👍

  • @sbpriyanka8607
    @sbpriyanka8607 4 года назад +1

    You r absolutely right di ..but the prblm is evrything they agree before marriage and literally they got change after marriage!! Helpless yaar🙂

  • @SubhraSubhadarsini
    @SubhraSubhadarsini 4 года назад +4

    The family goals wala thing is important. But what if both the partners don't want but family is forcing, mostly because they think the couple needs to have kids before the woman ages. It's so annoying for the woman when the family puts so much of pressure.

    • @abhishekbasiwal8179
      @abhishekbasiwal8179 4 года назад

      Subhra Subhadarsini
      Family ke kuch reasons honge. health issue jyada aate hai age badhne ke sath. isliye force kar rahe honge. but woman ho to responsibility to woman ko hi leni hogi bache ko paida karne ki. ye to natural hai na isme kya problem hai kisi ko?

    • @SmileWithPrachi
      @SmileWithPrachi  4 года назад +3

      It's the woman's body - she has every right to decide if she wants to get pregnahr. and a very very personal choice. It's also a big decision for a couple. Nobody has the right to force them. Even parents.
      Put your foot down and say that the decision is final.
      ( If they do want to have children much later, talk to a doctor though to understand the possible pregnancy issues that may come up with age.)

    • @SubhraSubhadarsini
      @SubhraSubhadarsini 4 года назад

      @@SmileWithPrachi thanks ☺

  • @shashanks8690
    @shashanks8690 4 года назад +3

    Prachi mam!! Really Well balanced explanation👏👏.. would definitely come back to check out this video in future when my time comes😃

  • @keerthiMalipeddi
    @keerthiMalipeddi 3 года назад +2

    Nice video to watch before marriage ...you explained it very well..👍

  • @sahelibanik545
    @sahelibanik545 4 года назад +14

    Prachi di I have been in a relationship for the last 7 years.and my boyfriend loves me very much ...but our relationship in my house will not accept it because my boyfriend is height short and we are the same age .. because of that they don't accept him ...but I can't decide what to do now but I can't leave him because he really loves me and also I don't want to hurt my parents . prachi di plz help me..😭

    • @shainazshanashana4101
      @shainazshanashana4101 4 года назад +4

      Try to convence ur parents by saying ur feelings...☺️

    • @mamillasreelekha2084
      @mamillasreelekha2084 4 года назад +3

      Height doesn't matter....convince parents and before that make sure are you comfortable with him

  • @ikkkudishalini121
    @ikkkudishalini121 4 года назад +9

    I don’t know what to say .. BUT I guess everything Falls into place when ‘YOU’ really want to marry someone... Love allows you to be Flexible, giving and Warm when it comes to be with someone.. And marrying in a Joint Family, adoring them , Respecting the parents is a Bliss and a Beautiful Blessing from a God ... Your choices or beliefs takes a backseat not entirely but yes to some extent because then you’re part of a Happy Family who are tied together 😊

  • @pratikshabaral
    @pratikshabaral 4 года назад +11

    Wish I had watched this before getting married

    • @saregama9839
      @saregama9839 4 года назад +8

      But now that you are already married, I'd suggest you to make the best of your relationship. I dont know the details, sister, but I'd say acceptance, love and communication are the keys to a happy marriage. I wish you luck and happiness in your conjugal life❤

  • @narayantawade557
    @narayantawade557 2 года назад +1

    youngster needs to understand how to take partner as a friend who will live with you together throughout life with mutual benefits if a girl/boy refuse your proposal for love you must understand what deficiency you had or where you lacked rather can criticizing your partner that they said no

  • @mady_aquarius
    @mady_aquarius 3 года назад

    Super that was quite handy..as m single and often ponder on what are the dynamics of happy marriages

  • @trishiachakraborty24
    @trishiachakraborty24 4 года назад +5

    Do more of these series Prachi di... we need to gather more wisdom on Marriage. I think it is a least discussed topic...

  • @aditierpconsultancy7124
    @aditierpconsultancy7124 4 года назад +48

    wish i had this info. 15years back.

  • @shubha987
    @shubha987 8 месяцев назад

    This video is a gem. One of my younger friend is getting married, shared this video.
    Thank you Prachi for this video ❤❤❤

  • @vaishnavipatil1277
    @vaishnavipatil1277 3 года назад

    U have got an amazing understanding about everything that u have spoken . It gave me wisdom in my thoughts . Thank you PRACHI

  • @sahithayelamanchili2709
    @sahithayelamanchili2709 3 года назад +6

    I am glad that you are saying it out in the open that you do not like cooking. I don't understand why Indian society cannot accept people as they are.
    For the longest time, I've had problems with my own mother and aunt about this topic.
    I was more focused on self-development, work, fun etc while buying food from the outside.
    I was in UK at the time but my mum still used to pressurise me to cook my own food.
    I was working a demanding job and had no time to do so. Even to this day, she goes "You are a woman. You should cook! "

    • @gohan12991
      @gohan12991 2 года назад

      Because cooking is indeed needed. What will your kids eat? Outside food? Your husband and kids will become sick due to that.

  • @ushasharma3956
    @ushasharma3956 4 года назад +15

    Completely helpful for me to get some ideas..

  • @soumyadeepbarik5711
    @soumyadeepbarik5711 3 года назад +2

    Mam I would disagree on your point about past matters , I think both of the couples should clarify & discuss deeply about their past , so that they can wind up & understand themselves demands& feeling truly, if virginity matters , then they can broke up at an initial state , that issue can not be longed & get more bitter leads to a tragical end.