134. Why They Won't Forgive

For parents unwillingly estranged from an adult child, it can seem as though forgiveness is the brass ring. If they can attain forgiveness, reconnection will be secured and the nightmare of unwanted estrangement will end.
But is that true?
In this interesting episode, Tina challenges the notion of adult children’s unwillingness to forgive - likening forgiveness to an orchid that won’t bloom.
In cases where forgiveness is still needed, she talks about the conditions required for forgiveness, and what parents can do to create the ones they control.
And finally, she reminds parents that you may already be forgiven, even if reconciliation hasn’t happened yet.
EPISODE LINKS:
When You Can’t Forgive (Psychology Today)
Episode 122: Language Matters