At the age of 56, I am not going into another relationship, as this video highlights, yes I'd rather be by myself now & medicated & working. I've identified I only attract men who want Mothering & are not self assured who they are either. Its exhausting & triggering for me so I'm not putting myself through it anymore, getting old & tired & need my energy for me. Thankfully I have a good network of friends, but never have I heard a professional with such insight into our mental health. Great vid ladies.
“If there is ever a resource to promote recovery - it is from your channel”- from the mouth of Dr. Lois Choi-Karin - you guys are killing it. Keep up the good work.
It’s so funny! That’s what I do. I clean houses and it is perfect for me. I have ten clients now and started to do gardening as well. On the journey! It’s a journey!
i can't tell you how much i needed this you literally saved me from getting so confused while i was diagnosed a month ago cuz my family kinda withdrew and i feel so alone right now and i don't have that support right now but you were that for me so thank you so much
So interesting and encouraging as it's such a stigmatised disorder. I have BPD and am 24 but unfortunately mine is still very problematic and I'm still not in recovery but am currently doing DBT group therapy and I have hope that one day I can improve and live without it impacting my life so much.
A fantastic conversation! I admire your work and Dr. Choi-Kain's, you've all been really important in helping me feel connected to other people in the most challenging 21 months of my life. I have to say, I frequently struggle around the idea of the merits of work and community, and felt that even while listening. Sometimes it all feels like a distraction from the reality of not having the connections I want. I guess, though, an immediate answer to that doubt is that stabilisation is a good way to have healthier relationships the people you care about. It's hard to enjoy people's presence as much as you want to and feel mentally present when you're very symptomatic. But I think more importantly difficulty of BPD recovery feels being drawn to the zero sum game of "if I'm focusing on self regulation I'm letting go and saying these things don't matter." Focusing on recovery and stabilisation not only allows you to prioritise other people, but also to reduce the sense of need and to actually enjoy being yourself as well. BPD definitely pushes me towards that false scarcity mindset, whereas actually there's abundant possibility in various directions.
GPM stands for general psychiatric management, or good psychiatric management. Here is an overview from McLean Hospital: www.mcleanhospital.org/essential/gpm
This is so helpful to me. Ty! I recently started working again but I’m not doing well mentally bc of it. It’s made me feel very defeated. But now I’m realizing that I need to do something that’s less pressure.
I'm thankful my BPD is in remission/not presenting but resources like this help me keep it that way! I work in recovery housing (currently the mentor for a men's addiction recovery house) and it's been an experience so far! I've also seen so many men come through with so much similarity to my own past struggles who will likely not be diagnosed BPD since 'substance use disorder' seems to be a catch all and stopping point. So glad I found this cannel and can't wait to hear more!
So happy to see your videos.. please tell me how can I person with bpd respond to a genocide that is happening in Gaza...as with people Who have bpd have a lot of empathy .
My suggestion would be to stay away from the news, especially b/c they know that bad news sells, so they are bound to get you in a bad mindset. That being said the UN just came out and reduced the amount of deaths in Gaza by half - it seems that Hamas was exaggerating the number - and most of the deaths were terrorists. Unfortunately when Hamas uses children and women as shields there will sadly always be collateral damage.
At the age of 56, I am not going into another relationship, as this video highlights, yes I'd rather be by myself now & medicated & working. I've identified I only attract men who want Mothering & are not self assured who they are either. Its exhausting & triggering for me so I'm not putting myself through it anymore, getting old & tired & need my energy for me. Thankfully I have a good network of friends, but never have I heard a professional with such insight into our mental health. Great vid ladies.
“If there is ever a resource to promote recovery - it is from your channel”- from the mouth of Dr. Lois Choi-Karin - you guys are killing it. Keep up the good work.
Amazing interview, so informative and yet incredibly empathetic. Thank you so much!
You’re so welcome!
Great Video! Thanks
I love Dr. Choi Kane! I’ve listened to many of her lectures.
It’s so funny! That’s what I do. I clean houses and it is perfect for me. I have ten clients now and started to do gardening as well.
On the journey! It’s a journey!
Always excited when y’all pop up in my feed!
This is my favorite F episode ever!
i can't tell you how much i needed this you literally saved me from getting so confused while i was diagnosed a month ago cuz my family kinda withdrew and i feel so alone right now and i don't have that support right now but you were that for me so thank you so much
So interesting and encouraging as it's such a stigmatised disorder. I have BPD and am 24 but unfortunately mine is still very problematic and I'm still not in recovery but am currently doing DBT group therapy and I have hope that one day I can improve and live without it impacting my life so much.
A fantastic conversation! I admire your work and Dr. Choi-Kain's, you've all been really important in helping me feel connected to other people in the most challenging 21 months of my life.
I have to say, I frequently struggle around the idea of the merits of work and community, and felt that even while listening. Sometimes it all feels like a distraction from the reality of not having the connections I want. I guess, though, an immediate answer to that doubt is that stabilisation is a good way to have healthier relationships the people you care about. It's hard to enjoy people's presence as much as you want to and feel mentally present when you're very symptomatic.
But I think more importantly difficulty of BPD recovery feels being drawn to the zero sum game of "if I'm focusing on self regulation I'm letting go and saying these things don't matter." Focusing on recovery and stabilisation not only allows you to prioritise other people, but also to reduce the sense of need and to actually enjoy being yourself as well. BPD definitely pushes me towards that false scarcity mindset, whereas actually there's abundant possibility in various directions.
What is GPM and how can people having trouble finding treatment learn more about it?
GPM stands for general psychiatric management, or good psychiatric management. Here is an overview from McLean Hospital:
www.mcleanhospital.org/essential/gpm
This is so helpful to me. Ty! I recently started working again but I’m not doing well mentally bc of it. It’s made me feel very defeated. But now I’m realizing that I need to do something that’s less pressure.
Love these and they definitely deserve more views!
I'm thankful my BPD is in remission/not presenting but resources like this help me keep it that way! I work in recovery housing (currently the mentor for a men's addiction recovery house) and it's been an experience so far! I've also seen so many men come through with so much similarity to my own past struggles who will likely not be diagnosed BPD since 'substance use disorder' seems to be a catch all and stopping point. So glad I found this cannel and can't wait to hear more!
I don't know about recovery part as I am happy on my meds and stay at home all day is my happy place
This was an excellent discussion and I learned a lot
So happy to see your videos.. please tell me how can I person with bpd respond to a genocide that is happening in Gaza...as with people Who have bpd have a lot of empathy .
My suggestion would be to stay away from the news, especially b/c they know that bad news sells, so they are bound to get you in a bad mindset. That being said the UN just came out and reduced the amount of deaths in Gaza by half - it seems that Hamas was exaggerating the number - and most of the deaths were terrorists. Unfortunately when Hamas uses children and women as shields there will sadly always be collateral damage.
I need help.finding a therapist in n.j
Struggling ..any info pl..be appreciated ty
There is a great DBT program at Trinitas in Elizabeth
I need help finding a therapist in my area,tomsriver N.J
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But it is also just harder to find a job when you are older
Do you know if Dr. Choi-Kane has lived experience with BPD?
So how to children of untreated BPD parents? And their sociopathic games..
The neverending games, you either become a fighter, a submitter or go no contact and have ctpsd