Thank heavens that you were able to discover her true nature at an early stage in your relationship. It’s going to save you heartbreak, abuse and possibly loss of life years from misery.
First off, it’s ridiculous to use periods as an excuse for shtty behavior. Maybe she was doing it as a joke, but it was the second time, and she knows how OP reacts, so I think she did it just to mess with him. Secondly, I think OP needs therapy. He went through a lot and needs to heal and realize his worth before dating again.
Babe, her plans changed so she thought she would come up with a BS excuse and stay there. As for you childhood/ life You think you don’t deserve love but you do. This is not your fault, none of it. Your mother is a F’ed up person. You are going to have to release the anger and guilt you feel for something that isn’t your responsibility/ fault. Please seek help soon. Good luck to you
Yeah that was my immediate thought too, given that she was on her phone that entire time. She had plans to go see someone, then it fell through, and she acted like it was just a silly game.
Mate...please try to get therapy. This is the sort of shitty behaviour that no one should ever be forced to endure by their significant other. Your girlfriend or Ex at least is a manipulative, childish evil example of what some women do to men that they trivialize. These types are the reason why Good women are tarred with the same brush, the same that ruthlessly exploit any and all resources to hurt you. The children that you have with this sort of person is just another avenue for them to use as an attack vector. Please understand that you are not some toy to be used for someone else's amusement. Your feelings are valid despite what you have been told is the cultural norm for men. She is love-bombing you and gaslighting you. Someone who truly loves you would never, ever do something this horrid to them. This is sort of behaviour that Abusers used to trick their victims into believing. Cut off contact and do not engage. If you have no choice but to deal with her, make sure that a trusted friend is with you. Try to surround yourself with people who love and support you. Your friends genuinely care for you no matter what you think you deserve. And you truly deserve better. These feelings that you are experiencing are sadly the norm for those who have undergone similar instances in their life. But with time, patience and therapy, you can make it. There are a lot of people who stand by this statement. Please do not think that you are lesser for not being able to handle this on your own. Trauma is not something that anyone can just shrug off despite the casual disdain others will judge you by. You are not a weak person. But you need help. And that is not a weakness. Seriously! Thoughts, prayers and good will towards you, friend.
OP Clearly has issues and shouldn't be with somebody, who's going to use those issues as some sort of game or experiment. There's always a chance these two can get together, but it sounds like they're both kind of immature, and they both have a lot of baggage.
I hate the period excuse for terrible behavior, if you can work through it when at your job, then you can do it for SO it’s not that hard. I can understand being a bit moody but this is bad, and if your period does it figure it out and fix it
Sometimes you need to break-up, not because you don't love them anymore but because you *need* to love yourself more and distance yourself from a possibly emotionally/psychologically harmful relationship. She seems to crave drama so creates it to satiate some internal need and she expects you to put up with her lame excuses like 'I'm on my period', which is complete BS and misogynistic. OP is completely right that if he *did* get back with her with no actual effort to do better on her part, he'd be enabling that kind of behaviour and making it seem like it's ok when it's not. She'd probably only escalate it from there, this is the 2nd time in a 6 month relationship she's pulled this kind of crap *and* has done it to other people so it's definitely her that is the problem, and if she doesn't think so or doesn't want to address it, why should you have to stick around and put up with it?
if you are on your period and you can tolerate your boss who you don't 'like and your coworkers surely the person you care about you don't hurt their feelings as much
I see poor Op with a multitude of mental issues, and a girlfriend with what I can only describe as having a sadistic urge to play with a person's emotions. In the long run he will be better off keeping away from her.
So this all started when she took out her anger at OP because she was upset at the comments of random nobodies on her Instagram? Talk about bullshit priorities. She may not like it, but it was her vanity and narcissism that brought all of this on. She was looking for validation in all the wrong places, and this is the result.
See, this is why CPS needs better funding, and why we need to build mental institutions. It's kinda expensive, but it's gonna pay off with saved people's work (taxes)
Seriously. No one uses that as a joke. Its like saying "we are on break". The second they say that or what she said to you, that's it. you are done. She can wait out side. Mate, go to gym, find some men to talk to and stop crying in front of her.
Thank heavens that you were able to discover her true nature at an early stage in your relationship. It’s going to save you heartbreak, abuse and possibly loss of life years from misery.
First off, it’s ridiculous to use periods as an excuse for shtty behavior. Maybe she was doing it as a joke, but it was the second time, and she knows how OP reacts, so I think she did it just to mess with him. Secondly, I think OP needs therapy. He went through a lot and needs to heal and realize his worth before dating again.
Yup, this. And she has done the same thing to other people too, not just to OP. She's abusive.
Oh God damn that is not misogyny. Not everything is misogyny.
White male existing is so by default this is in some way welcome to the new society.
Babe, her plans changed so she thought she would come up with a BS excuse and stay there. As for you childhood/ life You think you don’t deserve love but you do. This is not your fault, none of it. Your mother is a F’ed up person. You are going to have to release the anger and guilt you feel for something that isn’t your responsibility/ fault. Please seek help soon. Good luck to you
Yeah that was my immediate thought too, given that she was on her phone that entire time. She had plans to go see someone, then it fell through, and she acted like it was just a silly game.
Mate...please try to get therapy. This is the sort of shitty behaviour that no one should ever be forced to endure by their significant other. Your girlfriend or Ex at least is a manipulative, childish evil example of what some women do to men that they trivialize. These types are the reason why Good women are tarred with the same brush, the same that ruthlessly exploit any and all resources to hurt you. The children that you have with this sort of person is just another avenue for them to use as an attack vector.
Please understand that you are not some toy to be used for someone else's amusement. Your feelings are valid despite what you have been told is the cultural norm for men. She is love-bombing you and gaslighting you. Someone who truly loves you would never, ever do something this horrid to them. This is sort of behaviour that Abusers used to trick their victims into believing.
Cut off contact and do not engage. If you have no choice but to deal with her, make sure that a trusted friend is with you. Try to surround yourself with people who love and support you. Your friends genuinely care for you no matter what you think you deserve. And you truly deserve better. These feelings that you are experiencing are sadly the norm for those who have undergone similar instances in their life. But with time, patience and therapy, you can make it.
There are a lot of people who stand by this statement. Please do not think that you are lesser for not being able to handle this on your own. Trauma is not something that anyone can just shrug off despite the casual disdain others will judge you by. You are not a weak person.
But you need help. And that is not a weakness. Seriously!
Thoughts, prayers and good will towards you, friend.
OP Clearly has issues and shouldn't be with somebody, who's going to use those issues as some sort of game or experiment. There's always a chance these two can get together, but it sounds like they're both kind of immature, and they both have a lot of baggage.
I hate the period excuse for terrible behavior, if you can work through it when at your job, then you can do it for SO it’s not that hard. I can understand being a bit moody but this is bad, and if your period does it figure it out and fix it
Psychos everywhere.
Sometimes you need to break-up, not because you don't love them anymore but because you *need* to love yourself more and distance yourself from a possibly emotionally/psychologically harmful relationship. She seems to crave drama so creates it to satiate some internal need and she expects you to put up with her lame excuses like 'I'm on my period', which is complete BS and misogynistic. OP is completely right that if he *did* get back with her with no actual effort to do better on her part, he'd be enabling that kind of behaviour and making it seem like it's ok when it's not. She'd probably only escalate it from there, this is the 2nd time in a 6 month relationship she's pulled this kind of crap *and* has done it to other people so it's definitely her that is the problem, and if she doesn't think so or doesn't want to address it, why should you have to stick around and put up with it?
They have been a couple for six months and already living together?
if you are on your period and you can tolerate your boss who you don't 'like and your coworkers surely the person you care about you don't hurt their feelings as much
I see poor Op with a multitude of mental issues, and a girlfriend with what I can only describe as having a sadistic urge to play with a person's emotions. In the long run he will be better off keeping away from her.
She’s a psycho!!! Run from her!!! Stay single men!!!
So this all started when she took out her anger at OP because she was upset at the comments of random nobodies on her Instagram? Talk about bullshit priorities. She may not like it, but it was her vanity and narcissism that brought all of this on. She was looking for validation in all the wrong places, and this is the result.
See, this is why CPS needs better funding, and why we need to build mental institutions.
It's kinda expensive, but it's gonna pay off with saved people's work (taxes)
Adhd is a curse 😔
Seriously. No one uses that as a joke. Its like saying "we are on break". The second they say that or what she said to you, that's it. you are done. She can wait out side. Mate, go to gym, find some men to talk to and stop crying in front of her.