@ I learned this when I was a child, unfortunately, which is why this confuses me so much. I know we all have different lives, and different lived experiences. That subsequently makes us all different in so many ways. But for so many of us to grow up this way, or worse, to see this as if it’s something to glorify?! Idk it drives me nuts. My mom had my brother at 15, which stunted her growth mentally and emotionally. SO, I understand where this girl is coming from HOWEVER, she is old enough to know better. Just like my mom was. Lack of education is a big problem, and it starts at home. The emotional and mental maturity of a parent is so important but it’s just not talked about enough in places where it would count
@PeytonFaith911 they definitely don't. Im very fortunate, and have an amazing set of parents, who have helped me more than I can ever pay back. I never expected them to though, not once. I felt like such a failure, getting help from my mom at 24. I can't even imagine the feeling of her helping me now that I'm almost 34 and have my own kids.
@@thegrimlooper girl it’s a learnt behavior, and I mean it both ways, to be lazy and stunted and be okay with it, or to acknowledge stunted growth, to try to reverse it and change your life for the better and possibly your children’s life as well! And she looks like she would rather live off gov that could be some mental illness like bipolar disorder, but I do think helping yourself before even attempting to help others is the way to go the route, it’s quicker because it’s personal, you know it already because it’s you, duh! But those who try to fix men or fix friends issues when they clearly are not good, it’s almost offensive to hear. I think this lady has that issue, wants to fix another man’s family, wants to fix their issues so they can reciprocate and the kicker is, those type of people will suck suck suck suck the life out of you and bring you down to their level and make you okay with the standard without helping you, but internally saying if he’s okay with it then I should be, i had already helped fix his issues. It’s so scary and so easy as woman sometimes but once you know that behavior is silly, life is so much easier
Look, I'm a low-income grandmother raising 5 grandchildren in a 2 bedroom apartment. I don't have a bed. They have beds. I don't have a bed. I have sacrificed my room my own space. My privacy for theirs. She and that man are disgusting for putting themselves above their small children.
I’m so glad you feel loving them gives you purpose - a child who is loved and put first in difficult circumstances like that really notice it. I’m sure they love you very much. I have given up my bedroom for my sons so they can have a room each - I don’t even see it as giving anything up! I couldn’t see the point of our big lounge being empty every night while my teenage sons who needed their own space were crammed together into one room - I’ve got a day bed in the lounge that looks like a sofa during the day.
@tinygold772 it is not a total sacrifice but as an elderly adult and a person who never had privacy since I was fostered my entire life, it did create a sacrifice of my privacy. I am okay with it for their sake to prevent the state from traumatizing my blood anymore. I was abused through 17 homes and ran away from state care at 14 to finish my education. Most run to the streets but I ran to a job and school.
@tinygold772 drugs and alcohol took her from bachelor degree nursing and took dad from licensed journeyman. Domestic violence turned them into mud. Dad committed 4th attempt on my daughter's life along with 2 of their 5 girls. He is looking at 30 yrs sentence and my daughter is just gone. She is in rehab as I write this but it is the 3rd time and until she finds more reasons than excuses she will not be able to return.
“Don’t mom shame” should only apply to women who are genuinely doing their best for their children and making decisions based on their perception on what is good for them. It should NOT apply to women like this. This women should be shamed every day that she puts herself before her children
Exactly, girls will support girls if they deserve it. This woman is using her kids for fame and money. They prioritize their wants before their children's needs.
Yes. I agree 💯 I often see moms being shamed over tiny things that are really just differences in parenting styles and not actually bad. But then on the other side I see people defending someone like this woman when there is obvious severe neglect.
There is a mom I follow that is low income. She shows recipes you can make with the foods you buy on WIC (a government food assistance programs for mothers and children). You can be low income. You can try to make money on social media. You can do that without exploiting your children.
I was evicted last year when on maternity leave with my second son. I lost my job in August. My oldest son is autistic with ARFID. His therapist said to record him eating or put selfie cam on so he can eat to help him. (When he was 4) he's six now. I have soooo much content i could use to "bring awareness" to this life as a parent with these struggles or my child's struggles. But I CANT. I cant.. The thought of men jacking off to my son eating a hotdogs makes me ILL. Id rather be poor
God and I’m the parent that would cry watching it because my child threw up at 1 1/2 years old and never ate normal again. He eats hotdogs, ramen, cheese it’s and goldfish, some chips, yeah that’s it. I need help but I live rural Michigan and there’s only online help, I do not learn like that, I will not, I just need anything to help my almost four year old.
I screenshotted this and I’m going to look into this, you’ve helped at least one mama, I’m so sorry you went through that hard time while lil one was just born! That sounds like hell, you’re so strong and I’m so happy I saw this comment you have no idea truly.
I love this. I too have many hours of content about my son with behavioral issues and the tips and tricks but I too cannot for the life of me do that to my kid for the same reasons you've stated love love love this
A grown person knows exactly why some folks are liking this content of children eating hot dogs or wearing skimpy clothing 🤢🤢🤢 I would rather sleep under a bridge than make content like this.
I’ll say this again: I’m a single mom of an autistic child. I receive zero support from her father, I’ve been forced to work from home because of her needs, and I struggle everyday. But my daughter and I live in a safe and clean home, I hustle everyday doing everything I can to make the money we need…except exploit online!!! I haven’t dated in 9 years, I don’t have new clothes, but my daughter has absolutely everything she needs. Women like this make me so angry. Get wrecked!!!
Major kudos to you. Thank you for being a responsible, loving parent to your child!! Not the easiest route, but it sounds like you’re doing the best you can for your boy on a daily basis. TY for sharing your story here & hopefully motivating others in similar positions!
Same here❤, my kids come first, I go without so they can have and won't for nothing, and they have additional needs, but they are clean, healthy, and loved , and most of all they are happy and thriving ❤❤
You are amazing !! I do respite for moms with kids with autism (sorry I have terrible grammar , I mean families )and I don’t have kids myself but I see these STRONG mothers that just get a 2 hr nap while I’m there !! I’m sorry there lack of support for families ❤❤ did you see the Lilly Allen think about feet photo making more then her music omg me and my friends laught at this would never … sigh what as the world come too ugh keep hustlin Everything eventually works out ❤❤
Now this sounds like a mother who put her children first , your daughter is very lucky to have you💕...the woman in this video should be taking notes ! the audacity of her to say she puts her children first while serving them up on a silver platter, daily, to possible weirdos online 🤦♀️
The more heartbreaking thing is that once that baby is here, Those kids with NO privacy already…. Are gonna be soooo miserable with lack of sleep and I can’t even fathom the toll it is already taking on them
I didn't even think about that originally but that is so tru:( a newborn is going to keep those other kids up all night in the time that it is CRITICAL for them to get sleep
Cringggggging hearing about the lice for MONTHS. My sisters and I used to get it all the time as kids from summer camp and every time my mom would sit there for HOURS going through three heads with super curly hair in order to make sure we were good. It was horrible to sit through.
Ugh I remember I had a friend when I was a kid that always had lice and her mom wouldn't do anything!! And I always got it from her so then my mom would have to buy 2 boxes of the shampoo medicine and treat us both! And her mom would be like oh wow I had no idea...like don't you see your kid scratching her head?!
@@kristens8718oh my gosh! Thank goodness your Mom cared enough to buy treatments for both you and your friend. I feel so angry for your childhood friend who couldn’t do anything to help herself and lice infestations and her Mom seemingly “oblivious”. Bless your Mom!
My sons school was bad for it. I had a 2-3 year battle with it because he would get it, I would do all the process to get rid of it and then he would go back to school and would get it again. It made me so mad that there were parents that didn't care to get their lice dealt with, would send the kids to school and they kept giving it to others. It was a nightmare that never ended until he started at a different school and we never had the problem again.
Imagine how hard it was growing up as the “poor kid” in school, and then everyone in town finds out they can watch you on the internet too. My kids don’t even have social media and have already been made fun of on social media. I can’t imagine being one of these kids whose parents put them out there like they do!
Never thought of this , certain kids were made fun of at my school but would be even worse if people knew what your house was like and that you don’t have a bed room poor children
It was hard. It was even harder because both of my parents were drug addicts and drug dealers and I was constantly put into danger. My mom never did laundry. I wore the same jeans for a year straight without washing them. The ONLY time I ever got my clothes washed was when I would go to my dad’s (grandparents) house for the summer. Or if my aunt who was also a drug addict but functional and middle class did them. People would make fun of me constantly and because I’m naturally thin they would tease me and say that I am so poor and so hungry I would eat food off the floor. And I did because I wanted friends. Come to learn 30 years later I was undiagnosed autistic and I eventually developed BPD due to my childhood and upbringing. It’s so sad when I think about it as an adult. I could never put my kids in the position to be molested by your drug addict “friends” or never hug or kiss them or play with them tell them I love them. It’s so sad. My mom is better now, unfortunately my dad never got better and overdosed in 2015. I’m proud to say after being born addicted to heroin, on opiods 19 years and methadone for 12 years I am sober. Completely sober.
the dad has a ps5 and a queen bed…and kids are sleeping on the kitchen floor on 2 inch foam piece…and shes having another kid. absolutely heartbreaking
Yup. That happens a LOT. Now imagine going through this and your life being showcased on the internet for more people to see what you struggle with... as a teenager I'd be mortified. Any age where they can understand the impact really. None of these children are teenagers yet I believe, but they will be...
As a young parent in a relationship with the father of my children, I truly believe it’s not that hard to prevent pregnancy. I don’t understand how she’s continued to make the same mistake without making a change. It’s completely selfish and I’m disgusted by her
Same! I had my son at 18. Been with his father for 18 years. But never felt like we were financially stable enough to have more and been on birth control. She thrives on government assistance and food stamps 🙄
It’s true. And if you don’t want to go on birth control, then use natural fertility method. Your cycle is off? Then be EXTRA CAUTIOUS. People like this are just lazy.
@@emma2370Yes, and often it’s available for free with Medicaid or other coverage (plus doctor appointments to obtain said bc is often free with Medicaid)…Planned parenthood also has options & the Now pill now available otc in USA. I don’t understand how any of these (+ many more avenues) can possibly be more expensive than raising a whole new child?!
My friends co worker is a single mother with two daughters. They lost most of their belongings due to hurricane Millton here in Florida and had to move out of where they were living. She found an apartment for them to move into but she had no furniture and her absolute first priority was finding beds for her kids!! She was in every Facebook group looking for a way to get help getting beds. Some awesome people were able to help her out and her and her girls all have a bed with new bedding that she didn’t have to pay for. She wouldn’t worry about replacing anything else until she made sure her daughters would have a bed. The fact that she is just fine with all those kids on the floor as a permanent thing is just neglect and laziness.
HOLD the phone!!!!! She has little girls by previous relationships and he has a SON by previous relationship and they leave them in the same room to sleep????? OH HELLO NO!!!!!!!!!!
Step siblings or not, you should never let the opposite sex sleep together. Kids get curious. That curiosity can turn into something more. Or if any of them have ever been in a situation without the parents knowing, the kids can then act it out on the others, not knowing that it's bad. "Its just a game".
I used to think you were mean, but I’ve watched you a lot this year and finally see everything you point out and now agree with the dad challenge podcast 100%. I am converted and don’t even watch the family channels I used to and now don’t miss a video from the DCP, thanks for trying to make the world a safer place for these kids ❤ also I really just appreciate your morals and values, in this day and age we need more of this out there!
I’m so glad you gave DCP another chance. Josh’s message is so important and his humor always makes the videos fun to watch. His son, Tyson, does amazing editing and graphics. The members and chat are funny and very supportive. I’m so glad you are part of the DCP Crew. 💕💐
So many people mistake honestly for someone being mean. He is BRUTALLY honest. And sometimes I wonder if he would judge me lol but he is never wrong! And then I think about my life and where I have come from and how far I've come in my recovery and the choices I make every day and I think he would be proud. I think he'd be grateful to see someone who hasn't always lived a great life change their life and once I had a child I was in a much better place and in a place that my husband and I were actually able to provide for our child. I think he'd congratulate me on all my successes and my efforts to continue to better our lives and make sure our son has everything he could ever need and want. He is unbelievably real and I appreciate him so much for it! He says what everyone else on the internet is too afraid to say! I seriously appreciate him and his love for children and his want to protect the children of this world! Ugh I found him about 2 months ago and I find his content so refreshing!!! Love his brutal honesty lol
My 4 sisters and I were kids sleeping on the kitchen floors of my mom’s friends house while they had house parties and smoked weed in the kitchen. These are the memories that never leave my mind
I grew up in a family of 10. Slept in a room with 4 siblings even shared a bed for a few years but at least we were in our own room and that was in a regular sized house. We had 2 bunk beds in the room to fit 4 kids. It worked and we were happy
SMH.....We also only have a 1 bedroom....but guess what? Our 16 yr old uses it...we are on a air mattress on the living room floor cuz we gave the futon bed to our child as well as the bedroom. Its not a big room but atleast he has his own space.
If she is renting an apartment, she would have to report all dwellers, kids included. And nobody reported her for having everyone being there in only a 1 bedroom?
So I just looked at her Amazon GriftList and she put a bunk bed on the wishlist alongside a F***ing ring light!! Meanwhile she has a damn flat screen & PS5.
The audacity that people have to have amazon wishlists without doing anything and everything to get the stuff they need/want for themselves is INSANE to me.
Some people don't deserve children or pets. Apparently she is neglecting both. Ringworm is easily treatable. Or that is what I have heard , none of my kitties have ever had it.
Story Time! Barely pre internet, my 21 year old self just moved to my fiance's city two weeks before our wedding. And staying alone in our new place until the ceremony, I couldn't wait until after the honeymoon and got a kitten from the shelter. Two days before the wedding we boarded kitty at the vet because we were leaving on our honeymoon early the morning after the reception. The Vet looked kitty over and informed us kitty had ringworm and after looking at the rash that had just sprung up on future DH's arm said he caught it for sure, and I likely just wasn't symptomatic yet. Then it exploded all over me. Including my face. For wedding pictures. We also got to spend our wedding night and honeymoon dabbing ringworm antifungal and cortisone creams on each other. 😄 But we never regretted getting our first sweet girl cat.
Same . I lost all of my furniture helping family out (they brought bedbugs 🤮) and I had to get rid of everything and practically restart. I never slept on a bed or couch when my kids were on the floor. They'd be up before me. Thankfully we no longer have to, but this will never make sense to me.
Sooooo many people have offered solutions and have even offered to help. She 10000% wants to live like this. I’m so happy that you’re bringing attention to this without sugar coating it because it’s just gross! Someone also said that they were bought and given bunk beds but those are nowhere to be seen. There’s no way these kids are thriving in this environment. Just another example of the system failing.
The bunkbeds are little and they still in the kitchen 😑she dont care about those children she only cares about being famous on the internet she been trying for years and its working now people are watching sadly
I grew up in poverty and it’s not something I’d put online. I had no friends because “my house wasn’t safe” and I smelt of cigarettes so badly they thought I was smoking. It got to the point I would only go to school and I spent the rest of my time cleaning the house so maybe someday, my friends could come over. It never got better until I moved out.
I watched one of her video last night and she said I don’t care what people think because we care about our kids. If they did the kids would the only bedroom and would have beds rather than them having the bedroom and a ps5, absolutely disgraceful!!!
My best friend grew up like this. She had two sisters and a single mom. They lived in a 3 bed section 8 apartment. Her mom could’ve had a room but she still slept in the living room so all 3 kids didn’t have to be crammed into 1 room.
Totally agree. Unless they somehow managed to get the PS5 & large flat screen TV for free… doubtful. And also like you said, why don’t the children have the larger room?? I have to wonder how much cleaning, laundry, etc. the older children are actually responsible for doing there for themselves and their helpless younger siblings? If it looks that rough & she posts it on the internet, imagine what it is like when she DOESN’T post herself cleaning and making dinners, etc… I do shudder to think how those kids are really living day to day.
There is no excuse for your kid not having a bed. In my area of Ohio there a charity that will deliver beds and mattresses to you if you need one, They even give adults beds.
100% this. There are so many non profits that provide for children. Beds, clothes, good, etc. There's no reason in this day and age you can't provide at least the bare necessities for your kids. Single low income mom for 3 here and I've never had trouble getting help for my kids if I needed it.
🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 YESSSS!!! I was hoping you would cover this nonsense! All of my flabbers were gasted when I saw stuff on them yesterday. It's unbelievable to me. I grew up with a single mom, often struggling. We were 3 kids and my mom in a 2 bedroom slum house in the ghettos of East Texas, I as a female child had one room, my 2 brothers had a bunk bed in the other room and my mom slept in the living room. WE WERE NOT, AS CHILDREN, IN THE ROOM WITH THE FRONT DOOR!
You know what's crazy is that when I was growing up my sister's and I were sleeping on a pull out couch in the living room and my parents and grandparents had the rooms. I honestly never knew it wasn't normal
HOW DOES SHE GET MEN? I don’t have kids, work full time, am a productive member of society, love cleaning and cooking and I can’t even get a damn date!
The quality of men she has is not what you want. If you have high standards for yourself you want a man who will match that and help you instead of dragging you down. Unfortunately it can take time to find that kind of complimentary person.
I feel the same way a lot. How does she get men and kids and I don’t? Then I remind myself it’s easy to get a low quality man when you’re a low quality woman. Sadly those are the people reproducing.
I know of several counties in state who build beds for kids and gift them for free along with the mattress and bedding. Yes there is a wait list at times but there is a way
Yes!! There is no excuse to not have a bed for your child!! There’s so many ways to get assistance for this. Also I know money can be tight but you can get a decent bed off Amazon for not very expensive especially kids sized ones. Meaning you could save up for one if it was important to you!! Aka not spend money on video games and other things that arent necessary until basic needs like your children having a clean comfortable place to sleep are met!!!
I remember growing up and during tax season or whenever my neighbors' get child support I would watch them get brand new cars, the nicest clothes, drugs, etc but I would hear the kids complain cause there wouldnt be enough food, how it wasnt fair they didnt get nee clothes and shoes (their clothes would be so old and battered sometimes), school related things are being bought, etc. It would be sad. Sometimes those sames kids would be bullying others to get what they need cause they feel that have to. Im glad my mother was never like that she always made sure the bills etc would be paid for months in advance, money put away for emergency, got us what we needed and sometimes what we want like some toys and games, etc.
Exactly what you said. I see posts on Facebook groups from people/single moms who ask for anything people can spare and they get tons of responses. Even the people who don't have anything will offer advice/links to local help/ food banks, government programs, etc. etc.
Buy/Sell/Trade groups in rich neighborhood groups are the best EVER I can't even tell you how many things I've gotten for FREE that are super high quality or even brand new if I can pick them up just because they couldn't be bothered to take them somewhere.
My grandma had to stop helping at the local food bank because of the unfairness she saw for some of the kids. One little girl was barely being few, a toddler in a pram, yet her mum had fancy jewellery, dyed hair, the latest iPhone. And my grandma just couldn’t understand why she was so happily indulging in self care when her kid was stick thin and getting food only from food banks. And she saw stuff like that so often she just couldn’t stand it, hated giving those people food and money only for them to sell it or spend it on materialistic things rather than their kids.
Same been single for 17 years, my youngest is now 20. First time in my life I have "free time" my time is my own. I don't know what to do with myself sometimes...lol
I think the answer is in the question. It’s probably ‘because’ they’re struggling. Financial struggle creates struggles in all aspects of their lives & minds and they could be desperate to feel good & the unconditional love of a pet or baby is too tempting to refuse. They’re likely not raised or educated enough to know better or even just feeling too down to even care. I realize sometimes ppl are just selfish & have more babies to get gov’t money but I’d be surprised if there’s not always a bit more to it than ‘just’ that. It seems to be cyclical in my area, with young ppl doing what their parents did before them & so on. Unfortunately. I get so worked up by ppl not giving kids & animals their best possible life that I have to try and think of it from this perspective. For my sanity.
She has a video of her scooping cat litter, and the comments are of course warning her of the dangers, and she replies with "look how many views I'm getting though." Sad. So so sad.
She even got an attitude with the doctor when he told her to keep her kids outta the cats litter box, and she said "Oh, I guess I gotta tell my cat to not💩"
Thank you for bringing awareness to this! As you stated during the recording, there are many community groups and social organizations that provide furniture and beds. Where I live right outside of Boston, there are more free groups on Facebook than I can count. All you’d have to do is write a post with your situation and talking about it, and most likely someone would be willing to drop a bed off to you within a few days. I also know that in Massachusetts, where I live, Medicaid can provide beds for children in need. Sometimes the bunkbeds if there are multiple children. There are always many resources. If this woman is capable enough of filming and editing/uploading this TikTok, then she is capable of scouring the Internet and making some phone calls to find the resources that her children need and deserve.
I just learned of this family last night. I’m disgusted. They should give the kids the room and put bunk beds in the room and put the kids in there. CPS should get involved.
Ugggh this makes me sooo mad!! Like get off social media, get a job and ask for assistance from the government if she needs too. CPS is definitely going to get involved if she doesn't stop exploiting how she lives.
That's what I don't understand. Single, low income mom of 3 here. There are a ton of non profits around me that I've gone to for help. Beds, food, clothes for the kids, basic furniture. They're 100% out there. You have to seek them out, apply and qualify so it does require some effort. But you can't tell me there aren't places in her area she could go to for assistance. No excuse to have her kids in those conditions.
I also grew up poor. My mom did her very best!! We didn’t qualify for any welfare programs because she was smart enough to not have more kids. I had a bed, I had a clean house, I had two loving parents, she MADE IT WORK. I’m sure it was hard with my dad being an alcoholic, and at one point she said stop or we’re leaving. It’s hard, but it isn’t impossible to be a good mother. You give up everything for your kids, so they can have a decent life. We woke up at 4:30 every morning to drive my dad to work because we only had one car. The grocery budget for the week was $40. Being a parent means sacrifice! You give everything you have to make sure your kids are taken care of.
OMG josh this video really touched my heart. I actually was crying through most if it, I could truly feel your pain as you talked about your childhood I'm truly sorry you had to go through that, hugs to you , my heart breaks for those children it's a sad situation that their in thank you for bringing this to life and all the videos you do keep up the good work!!❤
Why is she not on Section 8 with the appropriate amount of bedrooms? Geez, some people need to learn about BIRTH CONTROL if they are able pay for them.
I grew up with animal hoarders. My mother didn’t even want to pay for my school lunch. However, she always had cigarettes and pet food. I still have trauma from that crap. I feel enraged for these kids. I want to add that my parents stole money I fundraised for band. Spent the money on Christmas without asking me. Bought a 700 purebred cat six years later when the house was overran with cats.
As someone who grew up low income in Sudbury, Ont during the 1990s. The one thing my mother (even with a shitty relationship) made sure we had clean beds, clothes and food on the table... This is absolutely making me sad for the kids 😭...
Dang this is triggering me too. When my mom was dying when I was 9/10 I had to stay with my aunt and uncle and had to sleep on mats in the living room. We had to fold them every morning and it was like I didn’t have a place of my own. It was so hard. 😢
I have one three year old and there's no way in hell that i would ever be okay with him not having his own room!! Because we cant afford any more kids, I'm getting my tubes removed that thankfully is being 100% paid for. This is so sad.
I love you. These people need to be exposed and you are doing it. God bless you for what you are doing. Keep doing what you are doing. We appreciate you.
We always come back to the fundamental issue- these kids cannot consent to having their image (and all these private moments) broadcast to the world. How humiliating.
And that’s why he doesn’t want a tax collecting job cause he knows he owes thousands in back child support. Just poor choices in every direction proving he’s a pathetic excuse of a dad.
I have two toddlers. I work a part time job that I can work full time hours when we have the childcare my husband works a full time and part time job. We live in an acceptable 3 bedroom home that we do rent unfortunately don’t own yet. My kids are always fed,clean, loved, with their own bedrooms. And I still went to gyno wanting to get my tubes tied because we can’t afford another kid. I can’t imagine this. It’s horrifically sad for those babies. This makes my stomach hurt
Grew up with a single mom that had me and my oldest sister at 19 and 20. Had another at 24 and her last at 28. We always had a bed to sleep on. My mom always figured out how to keep our clothes clean and feed us. may not have always been the healthiest food and she was absolutely not the best mother in many ways, but we were okay and for that I will always be grateful. There was one time we had to share a bed with her in a motel after some shit when down (just me her and my oldest sister had to do that) but she worked towards getting us somewhere normal to live so we didn’t have to keep living that way. Something like that should be temporary not somewhere you live for years not working towards anything better and continuing to grow your family.
Josh, like you I'm in Ontario. I'm a former social worker & know for a fact there are resources out there! Both Ontario Works & Children's Aid would 100% help get this family what they need before even thinking of taking them from her. The problem is people refuse to work with OW & cas. They feel attacked, and buck.
Agree with everything you said on this video including care for animals! It’s time that the internet stops encouraging laziness and child exploitation for cash. I’m sick of it.
These poor kids 😢 how can you have a PS5 and no beds for the kids? I work my butt off for my teens to have their own bedrooms and my youngest share. It is so exspensive but I will not have my 17yo son share a room with my 15yo daughter or having a 17yo, 12yo and 10yo share a room. Once kids get older they need more privacy. I go without so that my kids can have the things they need, far from everything they want but they still have a good quality of life. And having more kids is a big no no for me since I became a single mom. I do’nt want to be the mom that as kids by more than one father and I could not give my kids the time they need with another baby. I do’nt understand this mentality 🤷🏼♀️
is this woman for real. she ought to be ashamed of herself. my mom had money enough to get me and my sisters our own beds, and we always had freshly cleaned sheets and clothes. its not that hard to do that!
I completely understand where you are coming from. I work with a community in my city. The amount of scamming to get more money for parents to party, smoke, you name it instead of taking care of the kids is astronomical. I am serving free breakfast, lunch, and sending kids home with food so they have supper. It's absolutely heartbreaking. Not to mention as the weather gets colder asking for donations so I can get these kids winter coats, ski pants, boots and the rest. These parents choose not to do for their kids, cause they know the community will step up. So frustrating.
Those poor kids should not have to live like this. Right now my family of 4 lives in a two-bedroom apartment, we just bought our first home, but it's being renovated, so we gave each of the kids their room for privacy and space and I sleep on an air-up mattress that I take down in the mornings. It's not great, but it's temporary and I know they need the rooms more. I couldn't imagine taking a room and making my child sleep on the living room floor. Some people do not deserve kids
Growing up, we lived in a two bedroom shitty run-down trailer, with a single mom who was an alcoholic. We didn't have much but my mom did sleep in a the living room and my sister and I got the bedrooms. This is just plain sad and the fact that she's gaining subs and MONEY from it but shows no effort to do better is gross!
I dunno if she is in the states? Unfortunately CPS is a joke. We don’t have any foster parents, often times the foster homes are not better. Though her children life is sad and this isn’t a life. Furthermore she could buy bunk beds and mattress for all kids to have a bed for less than the PS5. Also, can we say mandatory birth control? I think it should be illegal when you cannot and refuse to provide. Life happens yes, but this is a choice. It’s sad. Unfortunately we give these people platforms. We make it look acceptable.
CPS has received multiple reports, I can't believe the mother thought filming this for the world was a good idea... it's only a matter of time before she gets that knock...
Sorry. Cps is worse than what these kids are living. Everyone should stop with the cps. These kids aren't being abused. Maybe not as clean as i am..but definitely not abused!!!
It's the same in the UK..But it's not enforced. Someone I knew lived in a run down, stinking caravan on the beach with her 3 kids. They were taken into care but it wasn't because of that. Because she had been given a 3 bed house by that point.
That seems in possible. My house is only three bedrooms so I wouldn’t be able to have three children? Growing up I had my own room and my brothers had to share. It was also a three bedroom house.
Glad you always bring up the point of people getting pets that can’t afford them. My $100 shelter dog cost us thousands and thousands of dollars in surgeries. I’d love to have another, but we’ve chosen to foster instead because we realize we can’t afford a second.
All of a sudden when being a young mom was no longer trendy, let's pretend to be a boy or as someone else said a they. Hope she knows the only ones who call themselves they in the Bible are demons. She needs help not Yt.
Im a single mum to a kiddo with special needs. Things can be seriously tough sometimes as i have nobody for support but I'd rather die than see my child go without. His bed wasnt broken but had damp and mould on it (it was very old), he had a new bed built and in his room two days later. Most of my clothes have holes in and dont fit well, but he has a whole wardrobe full of clean, unstained and looked after clothes. My room has damp and mould and is tiny, his room is big, dry and has spaces for all of his toys and is decorated with things he loves. That is what it is to put your kid's first, and you don't need to put them online to do it.
The welfare doesn’t bother me But she definitely does not need anymore children I agree with you 100 💯 percent and I usually don’t ❤ everything you said is correct
Cant wait to see you break this down. Saw someone speaking about them on tictoc. But always need you to dig your claws in. Cant wait to see your view on this. Keep it up Josh.
Where is CPS? she needs to be called on. The school is a mandate reporter I'm in Syracuse NY and I'm sure it's like that jn all states. Anyone knows the address or the city and state should make a call for the kids sake.
I live in the UK and here you can only have 2 people per room and only couples and kids under the age of 12 can share a room (unless they are of the same gender then they can share till 21 years of age). This woman’s situation would definitely be considered overcrowding and if council found out, they’d be made to leave due to it being a major fire hazard.
Josh, I don’t remember how I stumbled upon your channel. I probably found you on Reddit one day and was like “this guy is pretty cool.” Anyway, I’m here for the stark but also the life lessons. I’m 29. No kids. Great career. But as I’m slowly approaching my 30s I’m realizing what’s important where I stand with my morals. To keep this short, you’re an inspiration man! I can’t wait for Thanksgiving snark! 😮
The Jenkins lady posted a video of her baby eating a sausage half asleep.. it had over 100 saves when I saw it. Disgusting and she hand picked the cover photo for the video too.
I was a single mom of 5 ( due to divorce and no help from him) I worked a job during school hours a work from home job at night and doordash as well as sold craft stuff I own my home (5 bedroom) my kids always has nice clothes ect never knew my struggles or sacrifices until they were of age (older 3) friends akays though we had lots of money from the look of our home and their belongings not true I just was good a prioritizing my responsibilities it is hard but doable I ran on 3 to 4 hours a sleep a night but my kids had all their needs met plus and now I have 3 wonderful adult children shooting for their dreams and to teens following in line this makes me so sad to see
Hello from Australia been watching for like 2 years. Started from jesssfam videos where she was arguing with the teen girls. Love your channel oftne watch while cooking dinnee doing dishes or at night
The first mistake is expecting others to save you. It is not others responsibility to save your family.
Exactly!!! Your own blood doesn't even have to save you !!
Exactly normal people learn that at 18 but she probably had kids at 14 or some shit 😂
@ I learned this when I was a child, unfortunately, which is why this confuses me so much. I know we all have different lives, and different lived experiences. That subsequently makes us all different in so many ways. But for so many of us to grow up this way, or worse, to see this as if it’s something to glorify?! Idk it drives me nuts. My mom had my brother at 15, which stunted her growth mentally and emotionally. SO, I understand where this girl is coming from HOWEVER, she is old enough to know better. Just like my mom was. Lack of education is a big problem, and it starts at home. The emotional and mental maturity of a parent is so important but it’s just not talked about enough in places where it would count
@PeytonFaith911 they definitely don't. Im very fortunate, and have an amazing set of parents, who have helped me more than I can ever pay back. I never expected them to though, not once. I felt like such a failure, getting help from my mom at 24. I can't even imagine the feeling of her helping me now that I'm almost 34 and have my own kids.
@@thegrimlooper girl it’s a learnt behavior, and I mean it both ways, to be lazy and stunted and be okay with it, or to acknowledge stunted growth, to try to reverse it and change your life for the better and possibly your children’s life as well! And she looks like she would rather live off gov that could be some mental illness like bipolar disorder, but I do think helping yourself before even attempting to help others is the way to go the route, it’s quicker because it’s personal, you know it already because it’s you, duh! But those who try to fix men or fix friends issues when they clearly are not good, it’s almost offensive to hear. I think this lady has that issue, wants to fix another man’s family, wants to fix their issues so they can reciprocate and the kicker is, those type of people will suck suck suck suck the life out of you and bring you down to their level and make you okay with the standard without helping you, but internally saying if he’s okay with it then I should be, i had already helped fix his issues. It’s so scary and so easy as woman sometimes but once you know that behavior is silly, life is so much easier
Look, I'm a low-income grandmother raising 5 grandchildren in a 2 bedroom apartment. I don't have a bed. They have beds. I don't have a bed. I have sacrificed my room my own space. My privacy for theirs.
She and that man are disgusting for putting themselves above their small children.
@ThemeliciousMelissa I feel they saved me, they gave me purpose and placement back in life.
I’m so glad you feel loving them gives you purpose - a child who is loved and put first in difficult circumstances like that really notice it. I’m sure they love you very much. I have given up my bedroom for my sons so they can have a room each - I don’t even see it as giving anything up! I couldn’t see the point of our big lounge being empty every night while my teenage sons who needed their own space were crammed together into one room - I’ve got a day bed in the lounge that looks like a sofa during the day.
@tinygold772 it is not a total sacrifice but as an elderly adult and a person who never had privacy since I was fostered my entire life, it did create a sacrifice of my privacy.
I am okay with it for their sake to prevent the state from traumatizing my blood anymore.
I was abused through 17 homes and ran away from state care at 14 to finish my education.
Most run to the streets but I ran to a job and school.
@@All5AJz out of interest why are your children not helping raise their children?
@tinygold772 drugs and alcohol took her from bachelor degree nursing and took dad from licensed journeyman.
Domestic violence turned them into mud.
Dad committed 4th attempt on my daughter's life along with 2 of their 5 girls.
He is looking at 30 yrs sentence and my daughter is just gone.
She is in rehab as I write this but it is the 3rd time and until she finds more reasons than excuses she will not be able to return.
“Don’t mom shame” should only apply to women who are genuinely doing their best for their children and making decisions based on their perception on what is good for them. It should NOT apply to women like this. This women should be shamed every day that she puts herself before her children
Exactly, girls will support girls if they deserve it. This woman is using her kids for fame and money. They prioritize their wants before their children's needs.
Exactly, sometimes shame is the appropriate feeling for the behaviors.
Yes. I agree 💯
I often see moms being shamed over tiny things that are really just differences in parenting styles and not actually bad.
But then on the other side I see people defending someone like this woman when there is obvious severe neglect.
There is a mom I follow that is low income. She shows recipes you can make with the foods you buy on WIC (a government food assistance programs for mothers and children). You can be low income. You can try to make money on social media. You can do that without exploiting your children.
Yes I've seen her! Such a great idea for content that actually helps families!
What is her name. I would like to check her out.
yes what is that creator's name please? I would also like to check her out...
Can you share her name please x
Yes! I've seen her and her content is herself! she's funny
I was evicted last year when on maternity leave with my second son. I lost my job in August. My oldest son is autistic with ARFID. His therapist said to record him eating or put selfie cam on so he can eat to help him. (When he was 4) he's six now. I have soooo much content i could use to "bring awareness" to this life as a parent with these struggles or my child's struggles.
But I CANT.
I cant..
The thought of men jacking off to my son eating a hotdogs makes me ILL.
Id rather be poor
God and I’m the parent that would cry watching it because my child threw up at 1 1/2 years old and never ate normal again. He eats hotdogs, ramen, cheese it’s and goldfish, some chips, yeah that’s it. I need help but I live rural Michigan and there’s only online help, I do not learn like that, I will not, I just need anything to help my almost four year old.
I screenshotted this and I’m going to look into this, you’ve helped at least one mama, I’m so sorry you went through that hard time while lil one was just born! That sounds like hell, you’re so strong and I’m so happy I saw this comment you have no idea truly.
Thank you for being a good mom.
I love this. I too have many hours of content about my son with behavioral issues and the tips and tricks but I too cannot for the life of me do that to my kid for the same reasons you've stated love love love this
A grown person knows exactly why some folks are liking this content of children eating hot dogs or wearing skimpy clothing 🤢🤢🤢 I would rather sleep under a bridge than make content like this.
I’ll say this again: I’m a single mom of an autistic child. I receive zero support from her father, I’ve been forced to work from home because of her needs, and I struggle everyday. But my daughter and I live in a safe and clean home, I hustle everyday doing everything I can to make the money we need…except exploit online!!! I haven’t dated in 9 years, I don’t have new clothes, but my daughter has absolutely everything she needs. Women like this make me so angry. Get wrecked!!!
Major kudos to you. Thank you for being a responsible, loving parent to your child!! Not the easiest route, but it sounds like you’re doing the best you can for your boy on a daily basis. TY for sharing your story here & hopefully motivating others in similar positions!
Same here❤, my kids come first, I go without so they can have and won't for nothing, and they have additional needs, but they are clean, healthy, and loved , and most of all they are happy and thriving ❤❤
YOU ARE A TRUE SUPERHERO❤ I don't even have to see you to know that you are beautiful 🥰
You are amazing !! I do respite for moms with kids with autism (sorry I have terrible grammar , I mean families )and I don’t have kids myself but I see these STRONG mothers that just get a 2 hr nap while I’m there !! I’m sorry there lack of support for families ❤❤ did you see the Lilly Allen think about feet photo making more then her music omg me and my friends laught at this would never … sigh what as the world come too ugh keep hustlin
Everything eventually works out ❤❤
Now this sounds like a mother who put her children first , your daughter is very lucky to have you💕...the woman in this video should be taking notes ! the audacity of her to say she puts her children first while serving them up on a silver platter, daily, to possible weirdos online 🤦♀️
The more heartbreaking thing is that once that baby is here, Those kids with NO privacy already…. Are gonna be soooo miserable with lack of sleep and I can’t even fathom the toll it is already taking on them
I didn't even think about that originally but that is so tru:( a newborn is going to keep those other kids up all night in the time that it is CRITICAL for them to get sleep
Cringggggging hearing about the lice for MONTHS. My sisters and I used to get it all the time as kids from summer camp and every time my mom would sit there for HOURS going through three heads with super curly hair in order to make sure we were good. It was horrible to sit through.
Ugh I remember I had a friend when I was a kid that always had lice and her mom wouldn't do anything!! And I always got it from her so then my mom would have to buy 2 boxes of the shampoo medicine and treat us both! And her mom would be like oh wow I had no idea...like don't you see your kid scratching her head?!
@@kristens8718oh my gosh! Thank goodness your Mom cared enough to buy treatments for both you and your friend. I feel so angry for your childhood friend who couldn’t do anything to help herself and lice infestations and her Mom seemingly “oblivious”. Bless your Mom!
My sons school was bad for it. I had a 2-3 year battle with it because he would get it, I would do all the process to get rid of it and then he would go back to school and would get it again. It made me so mad that there were parents that didn't care to get their lice dealt with, would send the kids to school and they kept giving it to others. It was a nightmare that never ended until he started at a different school and we never had the problem again.
My two sons got lice and I got rid of it in a week
Why aren’t the kids in the bedroom with bunks and the parents in the living room on a pull out sofa or even an IKEA futon? Those poor children.
Her viewers bought them beds. Smh
Imagine how hard it was growing up as the “poor kid” in school, and then everyone in town finds out they can watch you on the internet too. My kids don’t even have social media and have already been made fun of on social media. I can’t imagine being one of these kids whose parents put them out there like they do!
Never thought of this , certain kids were made fun of at my school but would be even worse if people knew what your house was like and that you don’t have a bed room poor children
It was hard. It was even harder because both of my parents were drug addicts and drug dealers and I was constantly put into danger. My mom never did laundry. I wore the same jeans for a year straight without washing them. The ONLY time I ever got my clothes washed was when I would go to my dad’s (grandparents) house for the summer. Or if my aunt who was also a drug addict but functional and middle class did them. People would make fun of me constantly and because I’m naturally thin they would tease me and say that I am so poor and so hungry I would eat food off the floor. And I did because I wanted friends. Come to learn 30 years later I was undiagnosed autistic and I eventually developed BPD due to my childhood and upbringing. It’s so sad when I think about it as an adult. I could never put my kids in the position to be molested by your drug addict “friends” or never hug or kiss them or play with them tell them I love them. It’s so sad. My mom is better now, unfortunately my dad never got better and overdosed in 2015. I’m proud to say after being born addicted to heroin, on opiods 19 years and methadone for 12 years I am sober. Completely sober.
That's a good point. I didn't think about that.
the dad has a ps5 and a queen bed…and kids are sleeping on the kitchen floor on 2 inch foam piece…and shes having another kid. absolutely heartbreaking
Please use condoms! Why are you two reproducing if you can't provide for the kids you already have? You're right Emily. It is heartbreaking.
Teenagers are ruthless. I was hated by kids for being poor and not having brand-name clothing, etc.
They can’t even invite their friends home for a sleepover…
@TheSamjane4 I don't allow my kids to sleep over any place and this is one big reason why.
Yup. That happens a LOT. Now imagine going through this and your life being showcased on the internet for more people to see what you struggle with... as a teenager I'd be mortified. Any age where they can understand the impact really. None of these children are teenagers yet I believe, but they will be...
As a young parent in a relationship with the father of my children, I truly believe it’s not that hard to prevent pregnancy. I don’t understand how she’s continued to make the same mistake without making a change. It’s completely selfish and I’m disgusted by her
Same! I had my son at 18. Been with his father for 18 years. But never felt like we were financially stable enough to have more and been on birth control. She thrives on government assistance and food stamps 🙄
It is not hard to prevent getting pregnant. This isn’t controversial. Most birth control methods are 99% effective.
It’s true. And if you don’t want to go on birth control, then use natural fertility method. Your cycle is off? Then be EXTRA CAUTIOUS. People like this are just lazy.
@@emma2370Yes, and often it’s available for free with Medicaid or other coverage (plus doctor appointments to obtain said bc is often free with Medicaid)…Planned parenthood also has options & the Now pill now available otc in USA. I don’t understand how any of these (+ many more avenues) can possibly be more expensive than raising a whole new child?!
I believe they both have a breeding fetish, or producing fetish content a lot of others have suspected it. They don’t want to prevent it.
My friends co worker is a single mother with two daughters. They lost most of their belongings due to hurricane Millton here in Florida and had to move out of where they were living. She found an apartment for them to move into but she had no furniture and her absolute first priority was finding beds for her kids!! She was in every Facebook group looking for a way to get help getting beds. Some awesome people were able to help her out and her and her girls all have a bed with new bedding that she didn’t have to pay for. She wouldn’t worry about replacing anything else until she made sure her daughters would have a bed. The fact that she is just fine with all those kids on the floor as a permanent thing is just neglect and laziness.
Right. People on my local buy nothing group are always giving away mattresses. There are resources if you look for them.
@@TheSamjane4 yup. It’s a matter of making it a priority which this woman clearly just doesn’t put her kids having a bed high on the priority list.
Their health insurance might be able to get them a referral to a furniture bank!!!
A toxic mom is just as bad as an absent father.
HOLD the phone!!!!! She has little girls by previous relationships and he has a SON by previous relationship and they leave them in the same room to sleep????? OH HELLO NO!!!!!!!!!!
I was literally just thinking this…
Agreed!!!!!!!
That’s exactly what I was thinking.
That’s not even legal after a certain age. They have to be in separate rooms.
Step siblings or not, you should never let the opposite sex sleep together. Kids get curious. That curiosity can turn into something more. Or if any of them have ever been in a situation without the parents knowing, the kids can then act it out on the others, not knowing that it's bad. "Its just a game".
I used to think you were mean, but I’ve watched you a lot this year and finally see everything you point out and now agree with the dad challenge podcast 100%. I am converted and don’t even watch the family channels I used to and now don’t miss a video from the DCP, thanks for trying to make the world a safer place for these kids ❤ also I really just appreciate your morals and values, in this day and age we need more of this out there!
I’m so glad you gave DCP another chance. Josh’s message is so important and his humor always makes the videos fun to watch. His son, Tyson, does amazing editing and graphics. The members and chat are funny and very supportive. I’m so glad you are part of the DCP Crew. 💕💐
I can understand why you watched them. They try pretty hard to seem good families. I mean, some try hard this lady is just... 😐.
So many people mistake honestly for someone being mean. He is BRUTALLY honest. And sometimes I wonder if he would judge me lol but he is never wrong! And then I think about my life and where I have come from and how far I've come in my recovery and the choices I make every day and I think he would be proud. I think he'd be grateful to see someone who hasn't always lived a great life change their life and once I had a child I was in a much better place and in a place that my husband and I were actually able to provide for our child. I think he'd congratulate me on all my successes and my efforts to continue to better our lives and make sure our son has everything he could ever need and want. He is unbelievably real and I appreciate him so much for it! He says what everyone else on the internet is too afraid to say! I seriously appreciate him and his love for children and his want to protect the children of this world! Ugh I found him about 2 months ago and I find his content so refreshing!!! Love his brutal honesty lol
My 4 sisters and I were kids sleeping on the kitchen floors of my mom’s friends house while they had house parties and smoked weed in the kitchen. These are the memories that never leave my mind
I grew up in a family of 10. Slept in a room with 4 siblings even shared a bed for a few years but at least we were in our own room and that was in a regular sized house. We had 2 bunk beds in the room to fit 4 kids. It worked and we were happy
I grew up in low income housing. My mom worked her butt off to give my brother and I a better life.
SMH.....We also only have a 1 bedroom....but guess what? Our 16 yr old uses it...we are on a air mattress on the living room floor cuz we gave the futon bed to our child as well as the bedroom. Its not a big room but atleast he has his own space.
👏👍👏👏👏👍👍👍👍 Making Sacrifices like you've done is what makes you a good parent. Ur son will be better for it. 💯💯
You’re doing great!❤
You gotta do what you gotta do. 💯
If she is renting an apartment, she would have to report all dwellers, kids included. And nobody reported her for having everyone being there in only a 1 bedroom?
So I just looked at her Amazon GriftList and she put a bunk bed on the wishlist alongside a F***ing ring light!! Meanwhile she has a damn flat screen & PS5.
The audacity that people have to have amazon wishlists without doing anything and everything to get the stuff they need/want for themselves is INSANE to me.
Yesss
She should buy them out of her tik tok earnings asap. Disgraceful.
And the items have been purchased 🤦♀️
She apparently sent back the bunk bed!
Dollars to donuts that the cats’ “skin infection” is ringworm and everyone in that house has ringworm too.
My first thought too.
Some people don't deserve children or pets. Apparently she is neglecting both. Ringworm is easily treatable. Or that is what I have heard , none of my kitties have ever had it.
Or mange which in humans us scabies!!
Story Time! Barely pre internet, my 21 year old self just moved to my fiance's city two weeks before our wedding. And staying alone in our new place until the ceremony, I couldn't wait until after the honeymoon and got a kitten from the shelter.
Two days before the wedding we boarded kitty at the vet because we were leaving on our honeymoon early the morning after the reception. The Vet looked kitty over and informed us kitty had ringworm and after looking at the rash that had just sprung up on future DH's arm said he caught it for sure, and I likely just wasn't symptomatic yet. Then it exploded all over me. Including my face. For wedding pictures. We also got to spend our wedding night and honeymoon dabbing ringworm antifungal and cortisone creams on each other. 😄 But we never regretted getting our first sweet girl cat.
That was my thought!
Id sleep on the floor before I ever put my kids on the floor on a mattress 🤦🏻♀️
Same . I lost all of my furniture helping family out (they brought bedbugs 🤮) and I had to get rid of everything and practically restart. I never slept on a bed or couch when my kids were on the floor. They'd be up before me. Thankfully we no longer have to, but this will never make sense to me.
Sooooo many people have offered solutions and have even offered to help. She 10000% wants to live like this. I’m so happy that you’re bringing attention to this without sugar coating it because it’s just gross! Someone also said that they were bought and given bunk beds but those are nowhere to be seen. There’s no way these kids are thriving in this environment. Just another example of the system failing.
She wants the kids to look deprived so people will give them things. They probably so,d the beds to get their PS5
The bunkbeds are little and they still in the kitchen 😑she dont care about those children she only cares about being famous on the internet she been trying for years and its working now people are watching sadly
I grew up in poverty and it’s not something I’d put online. I had no friends because “my house wasn’t safe” and I smelt of cigarettes so badly they thought I was smoking. It got to the point I would only go to school and I spent the rest of my time cleaning the house so maybe someday, my friends could come over. It never got better until I moved out.
Thank you for sharing so unapologetically. I agree with you completely. This woman absolutely should not have those kids.
I watched one of her video last night and she said I don’t care what people think because we care about our kids. If they did the kids would the only bedroom and would have beds rather than them having the bedroom and a ps5, absolutely disgraceful!!!
My best friend grew up like this. She had two sisters and a single mom. They lived in a 3 bed section 8 apartment. Her mom could’ve had a room but she still slept in the living room so all 3 kids didn’t have to be crammed into 1 room.
Totally agree. Unless they somehow managed to get the PS5 & large flat screen TV for free… doubtful. And also like you said, why don’t the children have the larger room?? I have to wonder how much cleaning, laundry, etc. the older children are actually responsible for doing there for themselves and their helpless younger siblings? If it looks that rough & she posts it on the internet, imagine what it is like when she DOESN’T post herself cleaning and making dinners, etc… I do shudder to think how those kids are really living day to day.
Absolutely! 💯%
There is no excuse for your kid not having a bed. In my area of Ohio there a charity that will deliver beds and mattresses to you if you need one, They even give adults beds.
They do that here in NC . They deliver beds and you also get a comforter , bed sheets and a pillow
100% this. There are so many non profits that provide for children. Beds, clothes, good, etc. There's no reason in this day and age you can't provide at least the bare necessities for your kids. Single low income mom for 3 here and I've never had trouble getting help for my kids if I needed it.
🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 YESSSS!!! I was hoping you would cover this nonsense!
All of my flabbers were gasted when I saw stuff on them yesterday. It's unbelievable to me. I grew up with a single mom, often struggling. We were 3 kids and my mom in a 2 bedroom slum house in the ghettos of East Texas, I as a female child had one room, my 2 brothers had a bunk bed in the other room and my mom slept in the living room. WE WERE NOT, AS CHILDREN, IN THE ROOM WITH THE FRONT DOOR!
I don’t even like putting my kids in the rooms that have windows that face the front of the house 😅
@@erikabigham3818omg SAME 🤣 my sons window is the one in the backyard. And our fence is 8ft vinyl panel privacy fence 😅
You know what's crazy is that when I was growing up my sister's and I were sleeping on a pull out couch in the living room and my parents and grandparents had the rooms. I honestly never knew it wasn't normal
HOW DOES SHE GET MEN? I don’t have kids, work full time, am a productive member of society, love cleaning and cooking and I can’t even get a damn date!
In the same way, the women in my 600 pounds life get girl/boy friends
You and her are probably not fishing in the same sea… she seems to be fishing from a shallow, algee infested puddle.
The quality of men she has is not what you want. If you have high standards for yourself you want a man who will match that and help you instead of dragging you down. Unfortunately it can take time to find that kind of complimentary person.
It is easy to get a man with kids who doesn’t want to work. You don’t want a guy like that. It is difficult to find quality partners.
I feel the same way a lot. How does she get men and kids and I don’t? Then I remind myself it’s easy to get a low quality man when you’re a low quality woman. Sadly those are the people reproducing.
I know of several counties in state who build beds for kids and gift them for free along with the mattress and bedding. Yes there is a wait list at times but there is a way
Yes!! There is no excuse to not have a bed for your child!! There’s so many ways to get assistance for this. Also I know money can be tight but you can get a decent bed off Amazon for not very expensive especially kids sized ones. Meaning you could save up for one if it was important to you!! Aka not spend money on video games and other things that arent necessary until basic needs like your children having a clean comfortable place to sleep are met!!!
These kids will see several men coming in and out of their lives. So sad, they deserve better.
I remember growing up and during tax season or whenever my neighbors' get child support I would watch them get brand new cars, the nicest clothes, drugs, etc but I would hear the kids complain cause there wouldnt be enough food, how it wasnt fair they didnt get nee clothes and shoes (their clothes would be so old and battered sometimes), school related things are being bought, etc. It would be sad.
Sometimes those sames kids would be bullying others to get what they need cause they feel that have to.
Im glad my mother was never like that she always made sure the bills etc would be paid for months in advance, money put away for emergency, got us what we needed and sometimes what we want like some toys and games, etc.
Exactly what you said. I see posts on Facebook groups from people/single moms who ask for anything people can spare and they get tons of responses. Even the people who don't have anything will offer advice/links to local help/ food banks, government programs, etc. etc.
Buy/Sell/Trade groups in rich neighborhood groups are the best EVER I can't even tell you how many things I've gotten for FREE that are super high quality or even brand new if I can pick them up just because they couldn't be bothered to take them somewhere.
@@TheAbigailDee Yup. The "buy nothing" groups too. I will happily give away things that might be use to someone.
My grandma had to stop helping at the local food bank because of the unfairness she saw for some of the kids. One little girl was barely being few, a toddler in a pram, yet her mum had fancy jewellery, dyed hair, the latest iPhone. And my grandma just couldn’t understand why she was so happily indulging in self care when her kid was stick thin and getting food only from food banks. And she saw stuff like that so often she just couldn’t stand it, hated giving those people food and money only for them to sell it or spend it on materialistic things rather than their kids.
Was a single mum ,kids were 1 &3.. till my kids were late teens.
They come first.Always. i went without, they never did xx
Same been single for 17 years, my youngest is now 20. First time in my life I have "free time" my time is my own. I don't know what to do with myself sometimes...lol
My question is how does she keep getting pregnant with her kids right there?? No privacy at all..
Super good point. I think the BF has a car, like Josh mentioned? Oyyy
Those types of people don’t tend to care about if their kids can hear them or not. Probably wait till the kids are ‘asleep’ then do their thing.
Well obviously she chooses the under 30 seconds dudes lol
The parents have their own room with a bed
That's why she keeps the bedroom for herself... Even the baby is going in the lounge apparently because the room is their private space.
Maybe I’m an A hole for saying this but why is it always the people struggling the most feel the need to have the burden of pets?
Kids and pets!
Thank you!!!
Yeah, I love cats and dogs and I'd rather have them than kids but if I have a kid, I'd rather buy boxes of diapers and clothes than adopt a cat
Not a A hole for saying something that makes complete sense. I wonder the same thing too.
I think the answer is in the question. It’s probably ‘because’ they’re struggling. Financial struggle creates struggles in all aspects of their lives & minds and they could be desperate to feel good & the unconditional love of a pet or baby is too tempting to refuse. They’re likely not raised or educated enough to know better or even just feeling too down to even care. I realize sometimes ppl are just selfish & have more babies to get gov’t money but I’d be surprised if there’s not always a bit more to it than ‘just’ that. It seems to be cyclical in my area, with young ppl doing what their parents did before them & so on. Unfortunately. I get so worked up by ppl not giving kids & animals their best possible life that I have to try and think of it from this perspective. For my sanity.
I'm so glad u are covering this . I saw a video on her yesterday and my mind was blown . Absolutely ridiculous!!
She has a video of her scooping cat litter, and the comments are of course warning her of the dangers, and she replies with "look how many views I'm getting though." Sad. So so sad.
She even got an attitude with the doctor when he told her to keep her kids outta the cats litter box, and she said "Oh, I guess I gotta tell my cat to not💩"
Thank you for bringing awareness to this! As you stated during the recording, there are many community groups and social organizations that provide furniture and beds. Where I live right outside of Boston, there are more free groups on Facebook than I can count. All you’d have to do is write a post with your situation and talking about it, and most likely someone would be willing to drop a bed off to you within a few days. I also know that in Massachusetts, where I live, Medicaid can provide beds for children in need. Sometimes the bunkbeds if there are multiple children. There are always many resources. If this woman is capable enough of filming and editing/uploading this TikTok, then she is capable of scouring the Internet and making some phone calls to find the resources that her children need and deserve.
YES THANK U FOR COVERING THEM 🙌🏻 They are so selfish it’s insane!
I just learned of this family last night. I’m disgusted. They should give the kids the room and put bunk beds in the room and put the kids in there. CPS should get involved.
Love a fired up Josh first thing in the morning.
Ugggh this makes me sooo mad!! Like get off social media, get a job and ask for assistance from the government if she needs too. CPS is definitely going to get involved if she doesn't stop exploiting how she lives.
That's what I don't understand. Single, low income mom of 3 here. There are a ton of non profits around me that I've gone to for help. Beds, food, clothes for the kids, basic furniture. They're 100% out there. You have to seek them out, apply and qualify so it does require some effort. But you can't tell me there aren't places in her area she could go to for assistance. No excuse to have her kids in those conditions.
The thought is he doesn't want a job with W2's because he has a son who is older who he owes tons of child support on. Piece of work
I also grew up poor. My mom did her very best!! We didn’t qualify for any welfare programs because she was smart enough to not have more kids. I had a bed, I had a clean house, I had two loving parents, she MADE IT WORK. I’m sure it was hard with my dad being an alcoholic, and at one point she said stop or we’re leaving. It’s hard, but it isn’t impossible to be a good mother. You give up everything for your kids, so they can have a decent life. We woke up at 4:30 every morning to drive my dad to work because we only had one car. The grocery budget for the week was $40. Being a parent means sacrifice! You give everything you have to make sure your kids are taken care of.
OMG josh this video really touched my heart. I actually was crying through most if it, I could truly feel your pain as you talked about your childhood I'm truly sorry you had to go through that, hugs to you , my heart breaks for those children it's a sad situation that their in thank you for bringing this to life and all the videos you do keep up the good work!!❤
You need to watch his 3/4 part life story series. It's emotional. You'll laugh and cry ❤
Why is she not on Section 8 with the appropriate amount of bedrooms? Geez, some people need to learn about BIRTH CONTROL if they are able pay for them.
She's almost certainly eligible for Medicaid, which covers birth control at 100%
I don't understand the housing either
I grew up with animal hoarders. My mother didn’t even want to pay for my school lunch. However, she always had cigarettes and pet food. I still have trauma from that crap. I feel enraged for these kids. I want to add that my parents stole money I fundraised for band. Spent the money on Christmas without asking me. Bought a 700 purebred cat six years later when the house was overran with cats.
As someone who grew up low income in Sudbury, Ont during the 1990s. The one thing my mother (even with a shitty relationship) made sure we had clean beds, clothes and food on the table... This is absolutely making me sad for the kids 😭...
Dang this is triggering me too. When my mom was dying when I was 9/10 I had to stay with my aunt and uncle and had to sleep on mats in the living room. We had to fold them every morning and it was like I didn’t have a place of my own. It was so hard. 😢
🫶🏻Hugs. This hurt my Mom heart.
So sorry. This made me tear up.
And who needs 12 kids that's ridiculous unacceptable
And she has the gall to say people are “hating” on her 😂
I have one three year old and there's no way in hell that i would ever be okay with him not having his own room!! Because we cant afford any more kids, I'm getting my tubes removed that thankfully is being 100% paid for. This is so sad.
Why is it always the questionable ones who exponentially reproduce???? 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Because they don't care.
Ask that question to Indians.
I love you. These people need to be exposed and you are doing it. God bless you for what you are doing. Keep doing what you are doing. We appreciate you.
We always come back to the fundamental issue- these kids cannot consent to having their image (and all these private moments) broadcast to the world.
How humiliating.
I live in the uk on benefits due to bad health but my kids and animals have always come first every single time x
The mom of one of his children just came out saying he abandoned the child at 2. Insane.
And that’s why he doesn’t want a tax collecting job cause he knows he owes thousands in back child support. Just poor choices in every direction proving he’s a pathetic excuse of a dad.
This was the best video. Gained so much respect for you for speaking up about this Josh. More videos like this please.
I have two toddlers. I work a part time job that I can work full time hours when we have the childcare my husband works a full time and part time job. We live in an acceptable 3 bedroom home that we do rent unfortunately don’t own yet. My kids are always fed,clean, loved, with their own bedrooms. And I still went to gyno wanting to get my tubes tied because we can’t afford another kid. I can’t imagine this. It’s horrifically sad for those babies. This makes my stomach hurt
Grew up with a single mom that had me and my oldest sister at 19 and 20. Had another at 24 and her last at 28. We always had a bed to sleep on. My mom always figured out how to keep our clothes clean and feed us. may not have always been the healthiest food and she was absolutely not the best mother in many ways, but we were okay and for that I will always be grateful. There was one time we had to share a bed with her in a motel after some shit when down (just me her and my oldest sister had to do that) but she worked towards getting us somewhere normal to live so we didn’t have to keep living that way. Something like that should be temporary not somewhere you live for years not working towards anything better and continuing to grow your family.
Josh, like you I'm in Ontario. I'm a former social worker & know for a fact there are resources out there! Both Ontario Works & Children's Aid would 100% help get this family what they need before even thinking of taking them from her. The problem is people refuse to work with OW & cas. They feel attacked, and buck.
Don't put yourself down Josh... you're BRILLIANT at youtube snark...
Agree with everything you said on this video including care for animals! It’s time that the internet stops encouraging laziness and child exploitation for cash. I’m sick of it.
These poor kids 😢 how can you have a PS5 and no beds for the kids? I work my butt off for my teens to have their own bedrooms and my youngest share. It is so exspensive but I will not have my 17yo son share a room with my 15yo daughter or having a 17yo, 12yo and 10yo share a room. Once kids get older they need more privacy. I go without so that my kids can have the things they need, far from everything they want but they still have a good quality of life. And having more kids is a big no no for me since I became a single mom. I do’nt want to be the mom that as kids by more than one father and I could not give my kids the time they need with another baby. I do’nt understand this mentality 🤷🏼♀️
Thank you for covering this family.
This is disgusting! They both should be working full time! She needs to stop having children that she can't afford! Infuriating.
is this woman for real. she ought to be ashamed of herself. my mom had money enough to get me and my sisters our own beds, and we always had freshly cleaned sheets and clothes. its not that hard to do that!
Shame doesnt exist in
social☢️media culture
I completely understand where you are coming from. I work with a community in my city. The amount of scamming to get more money for parents to party, smoke, you name it instead of taking care of the kids is astronomical. I am serving free breakfast, lunch, and sending kids home with food so they have supper. It's absolutely heartbreaking. Not to mention as the weather gets colder asking for donations so I can get these kids winter coats, ski pants, boots and the rest. These parents choose not to do for their kids, cause they know the community will step up. So frustrating.
Those poor kids should not have to live like this. Right now my family of 4 lives in a two-bedroom apartment, we just bought our first home, but it's being renovated, so we gave each of the kids their room for privacy and space and I sleep on an air-up mattress that I take down in the mornings. It's not great, but it's temporary and I know they need the rooms more. I couldn't imagine taking a room and making my child sleep on the living room floor. Some people do not deserve kids
Thanks for keeping it real & speaking the truth! Yes,... Some of us experienced messed up childhoods, we see the red flags
Poverty is NOT a moral failing ffs. Also thrift stores exist! Garage sales exist.
So glad you are covering her, get ready for the rabbit hole because it goes deep! It’s a wild ride, and a very sad one for the kids.
In my state it is illegal to have that many ppl in one house/apartment/townhouse with just one bedroom and one bathroom. And it should be
Growing up, we lived in a two bedroom shitty run-down trailer, with a single mom who was an alcoholic. We didn't have much but my mom did sleep in a the living room and my sister and I got the bedrooms. This is just plain sad and the fact that she's gaining subs and MONEY from it but shows no effort to do better is gross!
I dunno if she is in the states? Unfortunately CPS is a joke. We don’t have any foster parents, often times the foster homes are not better.
Though her children life is sad and this isn’t a life. Furthermore she could buy bunk beds and mattress for all kids to have a bed for less than the PS5. Also, can we say mandatory birth control? I think it should be illegal when you cannot and refuse to provide. Life happens yes, but this is a choice.
It’s sad. Unfortunately we give these people platforms. We make it look acceptable.
Im SOO GLAD youre covering this lady she is the chief of bad decision making she sucks 💯💯💯 horrible mother and i feel SO bad for her kids
Its funny cause she’s like “help me go viral so I can make money and keep popping out babies” 😂😂😂
In my state, kids have to have their own beds. CPS needs to investigate this family.
CPS has received multiple reports, I can't believe the mother thought filming this for the world was a good idea... it's only a matter of time before she gets that knock...
In my state, if you get rental assistance, they have to have separate rooms for boys and girls too.
Sorry. Cps is worse than what these kids are living. Everyone should stop with the cps. These kids aren't being abused. Maybe not as clean as i am..but definitely not abused!!!
@@NikB331Did you defend Ruby Franke too? You have no idea what abuse means if you think they aren't being abused.
In Michigan each child (depending on age) has to have a bedroom & bed!! Wtf is up with their state?!
Yess! It’s the same in Iowa too!! Landlords will NOT allow a person to rent a 1 bedroom with that many people living there!!
If she is from Oregon, it's only 2 heartbeats per room and 1 per livingroom.
They live in Portland, Or which allows You to do whatever You want
It's the same in the UK..But it's not enforced.
Someone I knew lived in a run down, stinking caravan on the beach with her 3 kids. They were taken into care but it wasn't because of that. Because she had been given a 3 bed house by that point.
That seems in possible. My house is only three bedrooms so I wouldn’t be able to have three children? Growing up I had my own room and my brothers had to share. It was also a three bedroom house.
Glad you always bring up the point of people getting pets that can’t afford them. My $100 shelter dog cost us thousands and thousands of dollars in surgeries. I’d love to have another, but we’ve chosen to foster instead because we realize we can’t afford a second.
Josh, you should do a video on Cam&Fam she’s now in a throuple and people
are pretty sure she moved in with her boyfriends.
What?!!! 👀👀👀👀
All of a sudden when being a young mom was no longer trendy, let's pretend to be a boy or as someone else said a they. Hope she knows the only ones who call themselves they in the Bible are demons. She needs help not Yt.
That poor girl is so lost 😢
@@jaymie-leeJust because you don't understand pronouns (3rd grade English) doesn't mean it's wrong
Im a single mum to a kiddo with special needs. Things can be seriously tough sometimes as i have nobody for support but I'd rather die than see my child go without. His bed wasnt broken but had damp and mould on it (it was very old), he had a new bed built and in his room two days later. Most of my clothes have holes in and dont fit well, but he has a whole wardrobe full of clean, unstained and looked after clothes. My room has damp and mould and is tiny, his room is big, dry and has spaces for all of his toys and is decorated with things he loves. That is what it is to put your kid's first, and you don't need to put them online to do it.
You are doing a great job putting your kid first! ❤
The welfare doesn’t bother me
But she definitely does not need anymore children
I agree with you 100 💯 percent and I usually don’t
❤ everything you said is correct
Omg I have been WAITING for you to cover this!
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Hey from Scotland 🏴
Same here! Edmonton ❤
Albertan here, too! 👋
Cant wait to see you break this down. Saw someone speaking about them on tictoc. But always need you to dig your claws in. Cant wait to see your view on this. Keep it up Josh.
Where is CPS? she needs to be called on. The school is a mandate reporter I'm in Syracuse NY and I'm sure it's like that jn all states. Anyone knows the address or the city and state should make a call for the kids sake.
No words but DCP ur 1000 % right on every word spoken.
I live in the UK and here you can only have 2 people per room and only couples and kids under the age of 12 can share a room (unless they are of the same gender then they can share till 21 years of age). This woman’s situation would definitely be considered overcrowding and if council found out, they’d be made to leave due to it being a major fire hazard.
Absolutely 💯
Good morning from Maine 😍
If she has this many subscribers, she's not broke. Shame on any parent who does this
Josh, I don’t remember how I stumbled upon your channel. I probably found you on Reddit one day and was like “this guy is pretty cool.” Anyway, I’m here for the stark but also the life lessons. I’m 29. No kids. Great career. But as I’m slowly approaching my 30s I’m realizing what’s important where I stand with my morals. To keep this short, you’re an inspiration man! I can’t wait for Thanksgiving snark! 😮
The Jenkins lady posted a video of her baby eating a sausage half asleep.. it had over 100 saves when I saw it. Disgusting and she hand picked the cover photo for the video too.
Um, what in the actual hell? That's ped0 behavior AND super fkn unsafe. Disgusting.
I was a single mom of 5 ( due to divorce and no help from him) I worked a job during school hours a work from home job at night and doordash as well as sold craft stuff I own my home (5 bedroom) my kids always has nice clothes ect never knew my struggles or sacrifices until they were of age (older 3) friends akays though we had lots of money from the look of our home and their belongings not true I just was good a prioritizing my responsibilities it is hard but doable I ran on 3 to 4 hours a sleep a night but my kids had all their needs met plus and now I have 3 wonderful adult children shooting for their dreams and to teens following in line this makes me so sad to see
Hello from Australia been watching for like 2 years. Started from jesssfam videos where she was arguing with the teen girls.
Love your channel oftne watch while cooking dinnee doing dishes or at night
Thank you for being the voice of Reason!