oh man where to begin….one time i had lost my favorite rubber ducky 😢, and then my mom tried to give me another one but she just couldn’t understand the importance of the first one…
Childhood sexual abuse, a violent rape at 12, a narcissistic husband who abandoned me homeless, a mother who gave everything to the son nothing to the daughters. I was ignored, laughed at, called names, had to grow myself into a person that one died.
When someone has an emotional breakdown in front of me it always makes me so uncomfortable because as a child I was always told that it was not appropriate to express your emotions in front of people. I usually just don't know how to respond or how to comfort them and end up feeling extremely guilty.
Thank you for sharing something so personal with us. Despite feeling uncomfortable, it sounds to me like you deeply care about the people who express themselves to you. I think being honest about how you feel with the people who share can be very helpful for you. Letting them know that you don't exactly know how to respond when people share their feelings but still telling them that you're listening will help people feel that even though you don't know how to exactly help, you're willing to lend an ear. I hope that this will give you a good start.
ik how u feel, people complaining, whining or being rlly sad or happy just makes me so uncomfortable, it just feels like weird gooey feeling and i hate it. i would get laughed at or judged by my parents for openly expressing such emotions, now see other people do it is so foreign to me.
I suffered bullying on primary school, when bullying wasn't considered a problem. The school chose to blame me for it (although I must say, sometimes it was me who started trouble), bullys never got punished. I remember I was kinda sociable and wanted to make friend when I was a little child. When at high school, I became someone defensive and lonely. Now I'm 21, at uni, and I'm extremely shy, introverted and asocial. I completely lack social skills, I really struggle to make friends, and I avoid going outside (shopping, to the bank, etc.) as much as I can. I've gone to psychologists pretty much my entire life, yet I still can't get over that. I'm trying myself to be a bit more sociable, but I find it extremely difficult. Socializing takes me lots of mental effort, so I just prefer to destinate those efforts to studying. I relate to #4 and #5 as well.
@@firerams_and_arisinglion the thing is, I think it's got to a point that it's interfering with my life, so that's why I'm trying to improve my social skills a little bit. But yeah, I'm ok being just on my own 90% of the time
Same, but I'm still a teen, and it was my old school, I've changed to a better school last year, I will be going to high school. I'm sorry to hear about you're experience, I hope you Find it more easy to be social in the future.
(I know that this was two months ago but I just wanted to make a comment if its alright) Most of these topics that was went over defiantly reminded me of some dark memories in my childhood and kinda as a teenager too. Some big topics that defiantly reminded me of some dark memories was seeing people get emotionally in front of me, it makes me uncomfortable and it sometimes kinda wants to make me cry as well. Another one is with music because whenever I listen to some certain songs, they can remind me of some times when I couldn't take it and I was really downhill. The last one I don't think is a topic, but it was a big one that happened to me during childhood and now and that is neglect. I get neglected a lot and it affected me so much that I won't ask anyone for help, I find it hard to believe that people are there for me and it makes me think feel like my parents, my friends and anybody doesn't like me or anything. And I don't know if this one counts but manipulation is defiantly something that happened to me as well and it's still happening now sadly. But seeing this video kinda help me understand some of this stuff and it kinda makes me feel comfort in a way.
I think i have emotions triggers for my family, except I can’t leave because I need to know what is happening so I can react but I want to leave and when I do it makes it worse because I just panic
One trauma that took me several years to get over was when my dad beat me 47 times in a row with a belt. I couldn't be around guys or even be touched by them without having an anxiety attack. It's been 5 years though and while the reaction is not as bad I'm still uncomfortable around middle aged guys (cause my dad is middle-aged so I guess it's like a trigger). Edit: some added info. He got arrested for it and my grandma had to bail him out. So I lived with my grandma for a year and a half for my 8th grade year and some of the summer.
0:35 - 1. Sensations 1:10 - 2. Being with people who are emotional 1:45 - 3. Reactions to certain places and people 2:27 - 4. Avoiding help, even when you need it 3:08 - 5. Avoiding conflict at all costs 4:04 - 6. The media you consume 5:06 - 7. Time & anniversaries
Me too Everytime I look at the road i nearly cry (I don't cuz I'm a maaaan-😂) no I nearly cry cuz i see the good not nice friend that i had that not threatens me everytime I see them and it's pretty not good cuz he's MY NEIGHBOR. NEIGHBOR but ye i hope your ok and ye good day to yall
I remember my dad coming home drunk fighting with everyone at home and throwing me around or even that year when he was drunk again and when I tried to distract myself, he grabbed my hair and pulled me from the bedroom into the living room.
@@Psych2go I would say it's more specific. The author deconstructs behaviour patterns and relate them to what she considers to be the 5 (curiously) main childhood wound types. It is a great read. So is your work 🙏♥️
I hate how a lot of people are invalidated with their trauma just because you have the basic necessities of life. All these people suffering and people ignore their pleas for help just because they appear to be “fine”. Trauma is viewed as being “dramatic” to many brain dead clowns I’ve encountered. Asking for help to better yourself is “selfish” to many and it’s “weak”. If only people had love they would take the time out to learn instead of choosing if to be ignorant.
That's why my trauma keeps continuing. My dad's a "good provider" and therefore a good person and *I'm* bad for being "ungrateful" to someone who has been psychologically abusing me my entire life.
Post partem jealousy rage need to be treated and I am adopted and older simply told the brat no and I get call a horrible person and treated like I am mentally disabled since I was 3 I had grandma protecting from the worst of it until she passed away the day before my 13th birthday and after that things got worse my diploma was held back for 3 years so they could put in 2 programs for people with mental disabilities I fear being put in group home for people with mental disabilities now figuring out how to move out while unemployed and can't drive and come up with a bissness of my own so I can make money behind their backs so I can save money and get a boat license and boat to live on because it mobile and cheaper than rent and mortgage I have had things taken smashed throughout or just plain handed to the brat and hit punished because the brat would hurt itself and lie even though I was inside and I am still getting called the bully because I said no and the only thing I 99%of the time did was slap the brat in the face with any I got my hands on because boundaries and the doing not okay things
I was around the age of a toddler. Like most toddlers, I was curious about things, like the washing machine my aunt was using to do laundry. I don't remember what happened because the next thing I know, my aunt was screaming at me. Her tone and words rattled me quite badly. To this day, I still can't stand it when people speak to me in a harsh and accusatory tone (while occasionally belittling me). If I hear that tone again, I'll instinctively shrink. It's quite common for my parents/relatives to use that unbearable tone if they are dissatisfied with something. To me, it's all about asserting dominance/control and reminding the younger ones that they've disappointed/angered/annoyed the former. In my family, parents also don't defend their kids against verbally abusive relatives. I used to feel guilty for hiding and avoiding some of my relatives because I was brought up to always greet my relatives properly regardless of how they treated me. It took a while but I've decided to ignore certain people to avoid terrifying my inner child.
I've got a trigger just from this. My father told me very harsh words about 2 years ago. Whenever someone's mean to me, being harsh, yelling, or accusing me of something my anxiety goes crazy and I start shaking like heck. It's not as bad as it was but I still shake in fear in those situations.
The fire in my childhood house when I was 13, my aunt dying in 2004, my dad incarcerated, my mother dying in front of me in 2009. Not having many friends growing up and going to many schools in Baltimore, Maryland. These are the sources of my trauma.
My Mother is also a Capricorn person ♑🐐 too & plus I haven't got a chance to get on with her at all. Just literally because she has been very harsh towards me & even as well by being so judgemental/manipulative towards me due, with my "high" functioning mild autism that I was actually born with in real life too indeed. But the very saddest truth is that I don't love my mom at all just literally because she does tend to provokes me, or by criticizing, & even as well by actually trying to belittle all of my dreams in a very negative & a very unhealthy ways too sweetie. Like also in fact that I wasn't not actually allowed to make messes & even by making all of those types small mistakes too as well indeed. And so that also explains why that I haven't been able to reach out my mom on the phone just literally because she has over crossed the line with me for the final of the 14 strikes in total that she has really pulled on me of this first & final time like in real life too sweetie. Like ever since when I was an 8 year old little girl like in fact about the whole incident that has happened to me like ever since when it was on October 31st which in the year of 2008 just quite literally just until like in the the month of September which was actually on the 22nd like in the year of 2022 too as well sweetie. Like did also involves by invading my personal space, & even as well by taking away all of my personal belongings that I had specifically brought with my very hard-working money too by placing in the trash without my permission repeatedly. My mom does not tend to do those types of wicked stuff like towards my two siblings which are her two other grown-up children's of course just like that she would always do that to me like pretty much too indeed . And plus I was also born as a Leo♌🦁 person too but at the exact same time that I could also be a Libra ♎⚖️ person too indeed. Like in fact that I am also a very loving, kind, caring, gentle & a very passionate human being that does not deserve to be treated that way like in fact that it is also not my obligated to sit there just to literally take that all of those types of toxic abuse/behaviors from my mother just literally because I am also just a very highly sensitive person too sweetie. And plus I am also going to be getting myself a new job & so this way that I could move out from the toxic environment away from my mother too immediately. Just literally because every child at any age does not deserve to be treated that way like in fact that she could of also approached to me like in a different type of response like that involves by helping me with organizing my bedroom properly but in a very positive ways with a lot of praises & even with a lot of encouragements like pretty much like towards too as well. But instead of actually by doing a lot of negative things towards me like that involves by yelling directly 😤😠😡😞😭😢💔 💔💔💔at me right in front of my very beautiful lovely gorgeous face & even as well by taking all of my personal belongings that I have specifically brought with my very hard-working money once again by placing them in the trash without my permission repeatedly. And plus I am also the middle born child out of my two siblings with is my older brother who is actually two years apart from me & I even do have a sister who is actually five years younger than me too also in adulthood too indeed. I am also very extremely proud of myself for staying strong 💪🏽 & very most beautiful lovely wise upbringing, mature young girl/lady for all those types of pains that I ever had to go through like pretty much my whole entire life for over the past 15 years now. Like in fact that I am also technically 23 which means that I my birthday is actually coming up pretty soon like on the 9th of August which is actually going to be this current year of 2023 just quite literally because that I was actually born in the year of 2000 too in real life too as well indeed. And plus I did found this video very interesting for me to watch today. Thank you so much for sharing this very Excellent comment to my very sweet loving kind friend. sending you a lot of prayers 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 & a very big nice warm hug from your very sweet loving kind sister friend Chaleika. 🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸
@@Cat.12345. well thank you much very for your very kind words & your support from you my very sweet loving kind friend & I really do appreciate that from you too as well indeed. And plus I really do need a hug right now 😭😢💔 to get all of things from off my system right at now at this breaking point just quite literally because my very disgraceful mother has been treating me very terribly for over the past like 15 years now. Like in fact that I really do need to get a job that does require a full payment job for a person with special needs which also means that I was actually born with mild autism too in real life too sweetie.
#7 hits me hard. As a child I was wrongly put in the ER and mental hospitals by my mother. Those terrible places gave me PTSD. I was in a mental hospital on my birthday 4 years ago and because of that I hate my birthday. My birthday was a few days ago and I’ve been more irritable and on edge than usual. I felt anger for the people who wronged me.
Are you me? Cuz as a kid I wasn't the most well behaved, had tantrums like any other kid... But somehow that got interpreted as me being developmentally disabled, ADHD, autistic, something not mentally well. I was put on meds at 5 for tantrums & never got out of the mental health arena till just a year ago when a group home that my high school I lived in set up for me forced me out with their absolutely untenable rules. Emotional neglect, wrongful treatment, birthdays ruined for a long, long time? Yeah... That's me too... I feel you m8, I feel you...
@@neetard7360 same, I have ADHD and autism and 22 other disorders but people, including my family and classmates, always said that it was behavioral issues and that it was just “my personality” I only have 2 friends but they are both loyal and understand me since they also have disorders. Not as much as me though 😅
@@neetard7360 omg. i’ve been put on meds since I was 6. Around that time i was diagnosed with ADHD but didn’t find out until a few years later. my anger issues were bad staring at 8 years old. the thing is i would only get violent at my mom’s house and school, never with my dad. my parents divorced when i was 3 and i was in joint custody. my mom’s house was a terrible environment. she didn’t understand me and when i was 11 the “experts” finally pulled their heads out of their butts and realized if i live with my dad full time, i wouldn’t get violent. i’m 15 now and i haven’t attacked anyone in years. even tho i no longer have anger issues, i’m left with anxiety, depression and PTSD.
@@idkanymore9894 My Mother is also a Capricorn person ♑🐐 too & plus I haven't got a chance to get on with her at all. Just literally because she has been very harsh towards me & even as well by being so judgemental/manipulative towards me due, with my "high" functioning mild autism that I was actually born with in real life too indeed. But the very saddest truth is that I don't love my mom at all just literally because she does tend to provokes me, or by criticizing, & even as well by actually trying to belittle all of my dreams in a very negative & a very unhealthy ways too sweetie. Like also in fact that I wasn't not actually allowed to make messes & even by making all of those types small mistakes too as well indeed. And so that also explains why that I haven't been able to reach out my mom on the phone just literally because she has over crossed the line with me for the final of the 14 strikes in total that has she really pulled on me like in real life too sweetie. Like ever since when I was an 8 year old little girl like in fact about the whole incident that has happened to me like ever since when it was on October 31st which in the year of 2008 just quite literally just until like in the the month of September which was actually on the 22nd like in the year of 2022 too as well sweetie. Like did also involves by invading my personal space, & even as well by taking away all of my personal belongings that I had specifically brought with my very hard-working money too by placing in the trash without my permission repeatedly. My mom does not tend to do those types of wicked stuff like towards my two siblings which are her two other grown-up children's of course just like that she would always do that to me like pretty much too indeed . And plus I was also born as a Leo♌🦁 person too but at the exact same time that I could also be a Libra ♎⚖️ person too indeed. Like in fact that I am also a very loving, kind, caring, gentle & a very passionate human being that does not deserve to be treated that way like in fact that it is also not my obligated to sit there just to literally take that all of those types of toxic abuse/behaviors from my mother just literally because I am also just a very highly sensitive person too sweetie. And plus I am also going to be getting myself a new job & so this way that I could move out from the toxic environment away from my mother too immediately. Just literally because every child at any age does not deserve to be treated that way like in fact that she could of also approached to me like in a different type of response like that involves by helping me with organizing my bedroom properly but in a very positive ways with a lot of praises & even with a lot of encouragements like pretty much like towards too as well. But instead of actually by doing a lot of negative things towards me like that involves by yelling directly 😤😠😡😞😭😢💔 💔💔💔at me right in front of my very beautiful lovely gorgeous face & even as well by taking all of my personal belongings that I have specifically brought with my very hard-working money once again by placing them in the trash without my permission repeatedly. And plus I am also the middle born child out of my two siblings with is my older brother who is actually two years apart from me & I even do have a sister who is actually five years younger than me too also in adulthood too as well indeed. I am also very extremely proud of myself for staying strong 💪🏽 & a very most beautiful lovely wise upbringing, mature young girl/lady for all those types of pains that I ever had to go through like pretty much my whole entire life for over the past 15 years now. Like in fact that I am also technically 23 which means that I my birthday is actually coming up pretty soon like on the 9th of August which is actually going to be this current year of 2023 just quite literally because that I was actually born in the year of 2000 too in real life too as well indeed. And plus I did found this video very interesting for me to watch today. Thank you so much for sharing this very Excellent comment to my very sweet loving kind friend. sending you a lot of prayers 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 & a very big nice warm hug from your very sweet loving kind sister friend Chaleika. 🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸
I'm torn between avoiding conflicts and ending the conflicts on my terms, sometimes. This is because sometimes, I wanted to just be left alone. But sometimes, I was being provoked to the point that I wanted to grab the other party by neck and throw the aggressor away. Have anyone ever feel something like this before?
@@lerneanlion I try to disengage from the conversation before I do or say something I regret. and then I just wrote down how I felt in that moment and it helps me calm down and understand my feelings better
3:10 This part hits hella hard…this is exactly what I do. I’ve became a lot more sensitive and easy to breakdown as a result of all the trauma I’ve had. I do exactly this, especially since I’m usually a people pleasure, or if I don’t have to talk to people since I’m introverted, I just don’t talk to people and shorten conversations. *Who else has this issue?* I know it isn’t good to assume everyone is bad but…I am too scared to take chances..
@@Aven_colonthree Thanks for saying that. Even though this world is full of so many people and it's not a surprise some are similar, I've never met or heard of people having the same issue as me. Makes you feel less alone :)
Timestamps 1). Sensations 0:35 2). Being with people that are emotional 1:10 3). Reactions to certain places and people 1:45 4). Avoiding help even when you need it 2:27 5). Avoiding conflict at all costs 3:08 6). The media you consume 4:05 7). Time and anniversaries 5:06 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
2, 4, 5, and 6 for me. These are all too relatable.. 2, I get very emotional when others are emotional. 4, I avoid asking for help.. nobody deserves to have to put up with my problems 5, I absolutely hate conflict and very often "agree" with others to avoid anger and disappointment towards me 6, when I see troubled people online, I start to feel horrible too. Sort of like 2 but instead with media.
It's important to mention about media that people sometimes cling to characters who are put thru similar trauma to their own, and that seeing them overcome can help when dealing with their own feelings. Which is why some people may have emotional reactions to seeing a character change if they'd felt connected to or empathic over them.
This video actually helped me tell my friends, therapist, and soon my teachers and parents so people know how I feel. I really like your content as it helps me relate to my 5 disorders which are listed below. (DMDD, ADHD, Autism, Depression, Anxiety.) It really makes me happy that someone like you is telling people to be who you are and to stand up for yourself and to choose the right path. It really does help. Thank You for teaching me these topics because as a teenager myself, it truly helps me learn.
When we were teenagers, my friend would get uncomfortable and frustrated whenever I cried. This triggered MY old trauma because I was always chastised, even yelled at, for being too emotional as a child when I really, *really* could not help my intense feelings. I felt a deep sense of shame about my emotional responses. It's difficult for me to function in this world. I've always struggled with the feeling of inconveniencing others whenever I tear up, even though I don't have as much control over my crying as other people do. Later, I found out that my friend had childhood trauma that revolved around the adults around her using crying as a manipulation tactic. So...yeah...we all got our stuff. I'm really glad we came to understand why we are the way we are.
When i was younger my mom used to tell me all about her trauma and the pain that her parents gave her. I felt bad for her but it also made me think that my trauma wasnt bad enough for it to be trauma. i told myself that everything that happened to me was not truama but an unfortunate situation and i should be getting over it right now. But i couldnt just get over it. It had a hold on me and wouldn't let go. It took me a longgggg time to heal from it and realize that nobodys trauma is better than others and to stop thinking that my pain was fake bc someone had it a little harder than me.
Numbers 2,4 & 5 apply to me. I recall one instance a few years ago where my friends and I were at a bar hanging out. At some point in my field of vision a few tables away is this couple having an extremely emotional discussion. At some point the woman starts crying and I remember it completely derailed the conversation I was having with my friends as her emotional distress was causing my stomach to turn with unease, my heart rate increased and my mind went blank. The couple left shortly after but it really put a damper on the evening
I've experienced lots of trauma in my life, but I deal with something pretty much everyday that I'm not too sure what it is, considering that I don't have anyone to comfortably talk to, im not gonna go ahead and say that I think it's trauma but it definitely affected me. Around 4 years years ago from when im writing this comment, I moved cities. Being my childy self at first when I heard my family was moving, I was excited. But as time passed more and more reaching to the day my family moved, I opened my eyes more to realize how saddening this would be for me. On the day we moved, I was in our car crying to stay in the beautiful city that I grew up in with people I loved. When I reached my new city, everything was gloomy. The bright sun and happiness that I was used to seeing was replaced with days of cloudiness and me feeling like nothing, but trying to be happy. And a few days after, I couldn't even celebrate my birthday without sadness since everyone I loved that I wanted to invite were hours away and would never see me again. I'd go on with how much my life degraded from that point but that's not what I'm meaning to talk about. Now for 4 years straight, every single day, almost every moment, I always get a memory or strike of nostalgia from the back of my mind. I have pretty bad eating problems and almost everything makes me sick, but the only food that I like to eat, I have to avoid because they all give me nostalgia. I can't listen to many certain songs I know and love because the reason I love them in the end is because they give me nostalgia, even songs that come out as happy, and in situations where I'm in extremely dark times and thoughts, I only play them then just to numb myself up. I can't watch certain movies or scenes because they will remind me or FULLY REPRESENT my pain, a big example is Inside Out. I would never dare to watch that movie with the life of me. And lastly, I can't go to certain places. Well ... this one's hard. Because it's hard to avoid it. Whenever I come across a setting that strikes nostalgia to me, I CAN NOT be there. Or I choose to stay there alone and consult and cry with myself. Once in a while (like once a year or something) me and my family do drive to our old city and meet up with family or for appointments. It pains me to look out the window and see my whole life that I left behind. I even specifically asked my dad to not take certain ways so I don't start tearing up. And lastly, the date. It was August 19 when I moved, so every 19th of August that flew by each year, I'd be extremely moody, have many flashbacks, and most definitely be having meltdowns, I'd also feel in a sorta depressive state for quite a few days surrounding the 19th, so it would affect me greatly. But in conclusion, this affects me so much. It made me cry to sleep so many times, triggered anxiety, stopped me from things I liked, and just punches me everyday. Ive even had thoughts of s3lf h@rm and wanting to d!e because of how much it wouldn't leave me alone. And I never have anyone to talk to because I probably seem too over dramatic. So to my younger self that said this, and I quote: "will this be like a super long vacation!? It sounds fun!! But ... I'm sure we'll come back, right?" Yes. It will be a very very long vacation, and it will be a painful one, but I'll make sure to still get through it, and finish it strong.
One trauma that still remains in my head over years ago is my dad leaving to another country for 'work', when he was actually cheating on my mum. He started this when i was born and the day my mum, sisters and i left the house, they divorced right in front of my eyes while i was packing my things. He was nearly arrested but was okay because my mum refused it. I still have to visit him every fortnight with my stepbrother in his house. Every time something reminds me of him i cant help but think of the negative things that happened in the past.
A lot of people nowadays have zero tolerance and don't care for others' past truamas... it's sad but the usual especially in the USA. Therapy isn't always the answer to everything either is medicine for traumas that happened at a very tender age of early development.
I still have trouble asking for help. Slowly learning to. Well. Not just asking for help, but expressing wants and needs. Still get tears in my eyes sometimes when I talk about my other dog Leroy. I loved him so much. We put him down October 15, 2020 at 12:27 pm. Still miss him a lot. Since then, I moved out November 1, 2022. Family has Loki the black lab. He’s a big goob, but I don’t see him much. Dad got him two days after Leroy’s passing. I get it. People grieve differently and he didn’t want to wait two weeks or longer again. Even my fiancé said that was too soon
My family doesn't allow me to go to therapy :/ my mom said "pray it will help u" and my dad say "no u're fine u're not crazy" yes my dad thinks depression means someone lost their brain or crazy
I'm 54 and 2 months into Therapy after being victimized by my conniving and vindictive mother and the realization that she's a narcissist. I'm coming to grips with the fact that I have childhood trauma that has affected my entire being, I constantly apologize for everything and anything, and I always put other people and their needs ahead of my own even when I know it's going to disrupt my life and I don't let the person know but in the rare occasions when I do they don't seem to care so I end up putting them before me because I feel their needs are more important than my own. I hate confrontation and if someone is angry and yelling it doesn't have to be towards me it still scares the shit out of me especially if it's someone with some type of authority.
Narcissistic parents, abuse, neglect, forced to make a personality as I was constantly told im a psychopath for not wanting to talk to my family even though when I do they acuse me of manipulation or say I'm wrong.. so I stopped.. Ironically, I speak 6 different languages and I have a loving girl who sees straight through my overly apologetic personality.. my point? That those who are abused have potential above most so long as they channel that pain and sadness into something more. I truly believe anyone is capable of anything. No matter the upbringing, it all comes down to will power, strength, and self awareness. Failure in life is always an option. However, giving up is not..
I just really hate how my dad is just like ''Past is past. No point crying over a spilled milk'' without showing any intention of even trying to apologize and still act like the better one of all of us... while I agree with some of the things he said, like to keep moving forward, him still raising his voice and not even changing his tone when I discuss about it make it seem like he's not showing any remorse. Sounding like hes justifying how much comfortable he is talking to me like that just because I'm his son which still bugs me a lot. All of my thoughts and my feelings are my fault according to him for just feeling that way
2,4,5 Growing up with this made me confused of how am I supposed to feel or act towards people. Asking help was never an option when I needed it the most. Avoiding arguments, conflicts, fights gavr me advantages and disadvantages in life. When you get used it, it's hard to remove that part of you.
I was mentally abused by my narcissist mother when i was 4 up until i was 12 after my mother died. I am 27 now and being an adult is so hard for me because of my childhood and being in an abusive relationship for so long which lasted from when i was 17 to 25. The guy i dated never loved me and he was so mean to me behind my back and was a very controlling guy. The relationship ended finally after so long and now i am happy with my new partner, but my past oftten triggers painful memories for me and i have no way of coping. It hurts me so bad to have been lied to, believing that my mother was a loving caring individual but in actuality she was mean and abusive to me. I was lied to my whole life which finding out the truth is so painful to take. I was brain washed by my mother, she acted nice but also mean as well which comfused the young me so much, but now as an adult i figured her out that she was nothing but a fake and selfish person.
My mom once told me my dad left us when I was 4 years old, at 17. And because of that, I feel like if I got into a relationship with a man, I'm afraid that he would leave me for good and never apologize or look back, just like my dad never did. That's why I prefer to be friends with men instead of more. Because you get hurt a lot less when you're friends only with a man.
I’m kinda losing myself and feel like I’m slipping into insanity and depression since I have a lot of stored trauma that I ignored. Now it’s starting to break through and it’s scaring me. It’s like my mask is coming off and I have no one to talk to that can help me.
My trauma was really bad to the point that when I used to go to therapy I kept lying to my therapist about problems I have but said I didn’t have them, though Im supposed to go back to therapy since I slightly opened up to my doctor and she gave me a list of places to find a therapist (I only slightly opened and had to immediately go back to therapy, it’s really bad trauma, but my mom doesn’t want to look for a place though since she thinks I’m being dramatic)
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the list o' the triggers for trauma acknowledged and otherwise:* 0:35 *1. Sensations* 1:10 *2. Emotional others* 1:45 *3. Reactions to certain situations* 2:27 *4. Avoidance of assistance* 3:08 *5. Conflict-phobía:* a. Apologizing b. Agreeing c. Accommodating 4:05 *6. Adverse social media* 5:06 *7. Time and anniversaries*
My dad was emotionally absent during my childhood and i only got to see him for a few minutes in the morning and to say goodnight. Because of this i get triggered when i hear this one song from Mozart Baby, about the dad bull that leaves the baby cow alone, i still cry whenever i hear it to this day.
Oh wow, anniversaries? Talk about hitting home! Last year, it was 40 years ago (Winter/Spring) that I was classmates with the first boy my heart had ever truly gone out to. One small act of kindness had set the tone permanently, so even after I had gotten carried away and lost any chance to have his friendship, my heart beat just for him no matter how he treated me. I was the unpopular one to begin with, and the one always being teased and verbally degraded by others. He joined in and it hurt, but negative attention was still better than none. I acted out, figuring I had nothing to lose anyway. I left that school, wearing the proverbial scarlet letter. (didn’t help that I was catching a lot of grief at home, as well) Was I _triggered_ by the realization of 40 years past, per se? I guess it just depends on how you define it. I didn't have any panic attacks, but old feelings came back and (on my own time) I've had a few emotional moments. I'm still praying to God that He places us on the same path once again, and that I may have a chance to reconcile with him. Thankfully, that "scarlet letter" fades over time, as I managed to patch things up with the one female classmate who was very kind to me, and when I had the audacity to reach out to one of the most prominent school bullies upon seeing his name in MySpace, he had apologized for how he had treated me and told of some of his trials since then. I've never been one for grudges, so I was just glad that we were able to make peace. Besides, of the people that take an express effort to forgive, none of them are classmates.
I made a mistake ,and I have never missed someone more outside of family ever. Her messy divorce,going to ground once she found a safe place (which was my hope for her) as I knew from my experiences there was more and read the tell. Miss her lots, still luv her to bits as her good side is beautiful, the dark side is terrifying. I just hope she finds the peace she is looking for. I thank this channel in answering so many things on C-PTSD😢
Number 2 is a big one for me! I was not allowed to feel sad/weak to cry to feel depressed. So whenever my wife is feeling this way I don’t knw what to say or do. On the inside I wanna say suck it up because that’s what I always heard. 😢😢
No no, you as a MAN has to suck it up. Let your wife cry and support her, she is a woman and she can't help it. You have to suppress your emotions and be strong.
When i was younger i was really close to my grandparents on my 'dads' side but when they were suddenly ripped from my life due to drug abuse i used to cry myself to sleep every night missing them it was horrrible these memories haunt me to this day from realising just how messed up they were and i was oblivious to it this really helped me know what was happening to me back then thank you
I feel like I am stuck with my triggers and abusers. I cannot leave home unless I manage to immigrate. Though what frustrats me is that there are others like me who maybe stuck with worse abuse who cannot even immigrate or travel to take a breather from their abusers. To clarify. In my country if you are female you cannot live on your own without your neighbours annoying you or pressuring you to leave. Unless you belong to a certain class or have a male family member who approves and keeps you close. So, when one of your parents if not both are narcissists and you are a female, you are trapped.
I have some of everything mentioned. Yelling or a trigger word would make me cowar and apologize (which I do alot) and in rare instances I would snap back but only when I'm stressed or under pressure. Being left behind is another trigger that I have. I use to cry and get upset "now" (ever since high school) I am watching out for people I am with, example: classmate if on a school trip or family if with family (du) and I know that ok, we're still good. If I get separated I usually find someone and stick with them until we find everyone. I noticed that when a co-worker is mad or nothing is in her favor abs she's getting frustrated. I feel my body tense, curl up. I feel scared. I go quiet (I mean I'm naturally a quiet person) , preferring to work as far away as I could trying to stay out of her way. Otherwise we're chill and I respect her being the oldest and most knowledgeable of the work place. Another example, is my manager bringing the whole "we're a family" thing it made me uncomfortable and almost pushed me away. For Christmas, she gave me stain- glass flowers that represented everyone in the department I work in. I mean they're beautiful and I love them... but the sentiment behind it made me uncomfortable. Maybe it was because I knew the trick she was trying to pull by videos or other work places showing kindness to brainwash then flipping and getting annoyed over time and I don't want that to happen again because that was the worst three years working waitress/ dishwasher and working that job made me feel like I was working to slow at my job which shows in this job doesn't help that I think I have anxiety because I drill myself when I do anything wrong and my mind will remember.
2, 4 and 5 hit home. Not only do i suck at expressing any sort of strong emotions or unheard/unpopular opinions but also I've always shied away from asking for help. I always feel like i don't deserve any help unless i have sth to offer in return. I love giving. It makes me feel validated and also creates space for me to hope that when i need help i can safely ask them without feeling undeserving.
Some songs , foods ,places and even time of year can bring back alot of different memories some good but others bad but with the help of this Chanel my councillor, friends and family I get the hard times ive also told my councillor about this Chanel in hopes it will help her other clients as well 🥰
This video popped up two days before the 27th anniversary of my dad's passing. He took his life when I was only five years old. While I would never wish tragedy on anyone, it does help a lot knowing I'm not alone in what I'm feeling.❤
Nice video I'm 16 and totally disconnected with my family, I have few friends to talk to somewhat lonely, No one believes in me and i Dream to become successful and wealthy once I'm 18 and move out I'll burn down the past forever and pursue my future dream
I can't help feeling that this should count as trauma/PTSD: Just minding your own 1-year-old business, celebrating your own birthday......ONLY TO HAVE A NEARBY BALLOON, SO GODDAMN CLOSE TO YOU, JUST FUCKING EXPLODE ON YOU. RIGHT IN YOUR FACE. For years I HATED balloons because of that bullshit. So much so that just SEEING one I would bolt the hell outta there......Took forever to "get over it." I WAS ONLY ONE.
I was visiting a friend last month and she accidentally did something that resembled one of my triggers. She hugged me for a solid 10 minutes and apologized for the rest of the night. I am so glad I found her.
I am having a toxic family,people whole do not care about mental health. I am 21 years old and now life is totally fucked up. My friends left me because i was not able to hangout due to my family. The girl i had crush on and tried my best to convince her now she is with someone else. I am now an introvert and depressed due to these feelings with no friends just me and my loneliness🙂
⚠️ trauma dump ⚠️ When I was a kid I wanted to solve my families problems and fix my siblings relationships with each other. It was a lot of responsibility and I took it all upon myself. I think I felt like if I did that I would be more worthy of love. As the oldest of four I rarely got much attention from my parents. My three younger siblings were all very controlling and if things didn’t go their way they would get angry and fight. They would have heated arguments over a goddamn piece of paper. For whatever reason I’ve always felt a lot different from them. Even when I was a little kid I was more likely to give in than cause a fight. This became a problem because I was often ignored. Maybe I hoped that if I got my siblings to stop fighting all the time I would be able to get the things I wanted every now and then instead of constantly being pushed aside because I wasn’t problematic Whatever the case, I was constantly trying to get my siblings to get along. I would try to step in and mediate their fights. Sometimes my parents would be angry with me for parenting them, saying I wasn’t in a position to do that. Other times they would get angry when I left during a fight because they wanted my help. I wanted my siblings to stop fighting so bad. I tried so hard for so long to make sure everyone was happy at all times. We were all homeschooled and the time so I was always at home with them pretty much. If we went somewhere we all went. I did enjoy playing with them and stuff. I have fond memories of those days. But constantly being on edge trying to make sure nothing would make my siblings angry was really draining. The more I did the more my parents expected me to do because it just became the norm. Their fighting upset me a lot. It really hurt me to hear two people I loved saying such god awful things to each other and not only yelling but screaming at the top of their lungs. I learned to self isolate and hide myself in my room it the bathroom because it got to the point where I just couldn’t handle it emotionally. I also adopted toxic positivity as a coping mechanism, probably because it was a counter to all the anger around me. I was hurt a lot by other’s negative emotions so I wanted to rid them both from myself and from others. I wasn’t very self aware at the time (while I am EXTREMELY self aware now) and I think it’s because I didn’t allow myself to think or feel certain things. As I got older I had more school to do and was able to use that as an excuse to escape my siblings and isolate myself. I focused really hard on being successful with school in high school. Summers were really difficult for me because I didn’t have that escape. I was so burnt out between my family and school that I had a breakdown during my senior year of high school. I thought it was just senioritis but I had another breakdown during the summer. I went on a family vacation and my dad got really mad at me and yelled at me and even spanked me once while we were there. I was 18. He had no right to do that. Mom said they were thinking of taking my car away because I couldn’t pay for it myself. She said dad was saying I was acting entitled but she knew I was struggling. Thanks for telling me that and yet doing absolutely nothing to help my situation mom. Sometimes I felt like I was the only one that actually cares to solve any of the damn family problems. I started going to college and still was burnt out as hell. I don’t spend nearly as much time with my siblings anymore because I literally don’t have the emotional energy to deal with their crap. I had another breakdown that spring, although it was of a different nature. I’d been struggling with identity for a while since I gave up my identity as a child to expend all my efforts to help my family. I started to question everything and just had a terrible breakdown. I felt like I had wasted my entire life. I practically killed myself trying to solve my families problems but I did absolutely nothing but dig myself into a hole. I was also so burnt out and unmotivated I couldn’t function. I failed my midterms because of that. Then I got back on my feet and studied really hard and was able to make up for the failed midterms. This summer I spent a lot of time to myself just not doing anything trying to feel less burnt out. I’m so miserable and bored and lonely but I always self isolate. I didn’t even acknowledge my resume until recently. I always thought I had an amazing childhood because I kept comparing it to people who were abused or abandoned or had parents who fought all the time. My parents have a really good relationship. But it’s my siblings that fought all the time. I love my family. I know they didn’t mean what they did to me. And that’s why it took me so long to acknowledge what I had been through. I’m happy to say I’m in a better place now. I’m not happy but I’m not forcing myself to act happy. I still self isolate but I’m trying my best to stop. It’s going to be difficult but I think I’m finally going the right direction
Baby’s/small children crying.people think it’s because I’m autistic and sensitive to and upset by the high pitched sound(which I am)but I am not as pained by the sensory aspect as the trauma I associate the sound with.Often a crying baby is enough to send me into a full blown panic attack.It’s been this way since I was 5 years old,I can’t even remember what triggered this response,maybe I don’t want to.and believe me,I KNOW the difference between sensory overload/pain and emotional trauma. Does anyone else get this?
I get frustrated when ppl are scared of things that clearly aren't dangerous. For example birds or cats (coz I have experience with ppl scard of these things). I think it's because I was very scared when I was little and my mom used to tell me that it was ridiculous to be scared of this and that. When I bring it up she just says she never said that but I remember it so clearly. I'm also very emotional watching series and movies, but I don't get sad. I feel happy, angry, angsty, embarassed but not sad. Except for at the end of Inside Out. I always cry my eyes out. And other moments when a child/youth have trauma (ususally involving their parents).
I need to vent... I feel like the life I'm living isn't mine but another person's. I just want to escape the chains of trauma and therapy doesn't really help me. I have physical trauma that includes being hugged when I don't want one and emotional trauma that includes being threatened and being called ugly by my first ex. Amongst other things. I just don't know if I can go on with this feeling.... But again I'm leaving everything behind if I give up. Any advice?
My problem is I experience 6 out of 7 of these triggers But I can't remember anything that could've caused the trauma I know I'm terrified of hospitals and the reason is probably because I was apparently in and out of the hospital constantly for checkups when I was young yet I can't remember any of the hospital visits
i really relate to no, 1 and 4 bc i had a certain situation that i wish not to disclose that involved a certain sound and it traumatized me... and for no. 4 its bc when i was younger my mom, if i broke smth or lost smth she wouldnt be like "its fine i'll help you look" or "its okay we all make mistakes" she would just get angry and say that i dont take care of my stuff and it rlly hurt me a lot
and also number 6 bc i watch a lot of true crime and see a lot of things abt death and it really scares me bc it reminds me that im going to lose ppl who are special to me and that im gonna lose smth special of mine aka my life
I've burst into tears before because of teachers(specifically make so far) yelling at me. I then try to hide it as my dad would always yell at me becAuse of the fact that I would cry.
3:17 So this part is talking about avoiding conflicts. I do all of the stuff they said, but I would like to point out that you may also overly involve yourself in conflict because it feels like home, especially if you were abused by your parents. This isn't everyone, but it's worth stating.
When I come across conflicts I tend to ether avoid or go overboard due to family being abusive, I also hate showing my true emotions and getting emotional due to only one family member really keeping me safe emotionally, not to mention others in this. I might need therapy.😅
I really want to heal from all of my childhood traumas that have been hunting me till this day, i tried so many things, but nothing really seemed to be helping. These a few recent days, i started to ask my parents that i need a therapist, and they ignore or say im being an overreacter. I didn't really tell them much about my trauams and some of the traumas they, of course, know but take it as nothing.
Just so you know i wach these videos every day and thay help me so much in my pathetic life this gives me so much comfort and confidence i just wanted to say a big thank you to psych2go for being like a personal therapist for me in ruff times so i just wanna say thank you so SO much ❤😊
My first childhood memory was of my dad giving me beer when i was around 3 years old. To this day I still dislike the taste of alcohol but at least i don't have a drinking problem.
Yea, whenever someone raises their voice, I just laugh and leave or get really quiet sometimes I get shaky esp if yelling straight to me. Reminds me of when my adoptive parents would yell at eachother or at me.
I have this one friend. We're very good friends and we trust eachother and so on. But he has loads of trauma, i'm not sure of what he has his trauma but from the way he acts around others and how he acts and talks to me when we're alone makes it so obvios. So a few days ago he wrote me and told me how me and my other friends have been talking sh*t about him (in my opinion we haven't said anything ghat bad about him, we have only talked about how to help him and in some cases talked about how he didn't give me the money back i loaned him) And so he was really upset. When i texted him the next day asked how he felt, he said he didn't want to talk to anyone so obviously he was still upset. And so now i don't know what to do. I really want to help him but i don't know how. Any ideas or something?
1:14 I was in like 4th grade when this kid started yelling at the person across from him and I burst into tears and I didn't know why. _That explains a lot..._
GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS MORNING, WELL IT'S TIME FOR ME TO LAY BACK DOWN SO I CAN GET UP AND GO OUT TO KEEP AWAY FROM THE MADNESS AND THE FAMILY THAT DON'T LIKE ME, PLEASE KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS, MY MOTHER TOLD ME SHE WISH THAT SHE NEVER HAD ME WELL I 💙 YOU TO FAMILY.TEE HAVE A BLESSED DAY. TEE 💯🙏💙💪
When my parents died i got adopted by my grandma but their family was crazy fighting alot and just alot of trauma my grandma and her kids would get hit by her husband and when i was 6 or 7 on fathers day he left us and i seen him as a father figure it hurt that he left and i was just a kid so i didn't understand much but now i understand alot and my family still fights i alwayed hated loud sounds and i get anxiety or scared about loud things.. I have a sister and a bother but not by blood but they were always here for me when i needed someone... A little venting mb lol
I was Sexually touched by a middle aged man while i was living with my grandma she came out of the bathroom after taking a shower and was ready for bed until she saw that her boyfriend was touching me in a way that i didnt like i was clearly uncomfortable and my arms were stretched out in an attempt to escape but his grip was strong and he tried pulling me closer while i was trying to push him away well my grandma got mad and she yelled at the guy and she kicked him out of the house and we never saw him again in my opinion she should've called the cops on his ass but she didn't now i avoid middle-aged men entirely because I'm afraid that they'll try to do the same thing that my grandma's boyfriend did all those years ago my mom recently introduced me to a friend of hers hes a middle-aged man and seeing him triggered a trauma response that i managed to hide i couldn't look him in the eyes or else i felt uncomfortable plus what made it worse was that my mom left me alone in his car while she delivered a phone to someone and payed them well she took forever and i felt uncomfortable being alone in his car when my mom finally came back and we left i felt relieved knowing that i was safe as long as i was with my mom I'm trying not to cry right now as i type this because just thinking or talking about it triggers a traumatic response
When I was younger to much emotions would be considered rude and my grandma would cause me a lot of trauma and my parents gave me a some trauma my aunt also gave me trauma and when I was younger I was sexually harassed by my neighbor that was supposed to be my best friend now I’m always scared what a best friend could do
I ahve pretty bad dreams, so when i am in yhe places that these bad dreams happen in, i suddenly act all anxious and goofy to hide that fact, also seeing programmes related can trigger it and set my heart going, but i dont want to turn the tv off because everone esle is watching it.
I always feel awkward when someone starts crying because I feel like I need to ignore it. Whenever I was younger, my brother would cry and my stepdad would tell him to "shut up before I give you a reason to cry" and if I tried to help him then Id get in trouble as well- but at the same time I want to help people, im jusy awkward
I have a few spots in town that makes me uneasy, one was a car crash, the hospital, my childhood home but that would be a lot of people as well, at the end of the year i get so depressed because my mother passed away close to the end and I can’t do Christmas anymore either, thx for letting me tell my story
I realised recently that a certain coworker last year reminded me a lot of my childhood bullies and people I struggled with. Pretty sure he triggered me a lot. after finishing the video, I fit 4 of these.
Oh finally I get it why my trauma responses are getting stronger as the summer approaches. The last one hits hard. I have a date of a car accident coming up in July 3 and just thinking about it makes my stomach sink. And I felt weird for being more on edge lately cuz apparently my brain remembers the date everything turned upside down. I thought I could never do that with my absolute crap memory. Well thanks for that, brain, I guess??
everytime my friends start to fight i feel like i am 7 again and watching my parents fighting and screaming and it makes me want to cry. this past week a friend kind of talked in a higher voice and i just started crying in front of her. like. i felt so ashamed?. like ok mom screamed at me and now i cry everytime anyone talks to me like that?. i hate when this happens because sometimes i even cant hold the feelings inside. there's anyone who knows how can i improve that? i just cant keep coming back to old memories everytime someone acts in a way that reminds me of a trauma:( this way i will never be able to live:(((
I related to all of these cause I'm currently trying to move on from a traumatic experience..though to be truthful I'm having a difficult time as the problem is currently present every where I go I just graduated few weeks ago finally escaped the physical hell but not the memories of me going through it i find it difficult to trust those whom still hang out with the people who has cause hell to me I find it difficult to look at chats due to me seeing them present, I find it difficult to look at class photos or any other social event photo cause they would appear, I find it hard to stay enthusiastic on certain days as it would be an event that is connected So far the only people I could trust are only 4 people who are aware of this person that caused me to be on edge for four years I have wasted Tears, Fears, Anger, Energy and Time and few of my relationship with other people They affect me with when they are present I flinch and my mind goes spazzam, I would be filled with Hatred and Fear Whats worse was this person at some point during our time in school made a group chat with two other people that played a big part of my trauma They planned to put me down at some point like a dog who has gone feral, to try and FIX me like some broken toy, to try and USE the most influencial person in my life against me And whats worse Was that they had dubbed me on having a Twitter Syndrome that I was the problem...I was hurt.. I just wanted to help and protect them but instead they do this behind my back and was planning along side people who hurt me and gave me a mental scar I trusted this person with my life and they do this to me Now everytime I see something that reminds me of them like a simple hairstyle, specific instrument or a specific facial resting face Triggers me to the core to the point I could not think clearly only being flooded by pain and hatred So for the duration of my school year I only stuck with the 4 people I truly trust cause I could not contain myself from crying The years of walking in eggshells the years Ive ended friendships to certain people just to please this person has finally made me snapped I don't want to feel hatred I don't want to leave a bloody messy path But I cannot help it I was hurt And I'm still hurting cause of them They remind me of my parents in rare cases, cause they were the father of our group They aren't apart of our friendgroup anymore after what they did I know this isn't a childhood trauma but Its something I had to deal with them since I was 13
What are some of your childhood trauma?
Oh honey, I have a whole dictionary of trauma
Mental and physical abuse at home not having anyone who understands so just keeping things inside
I'm not sure... Maybe because of 2020, i forgot this year and i think that's a big problem-- i'm not sure tho haha 😅
oh man where to begin….one time i had lost my favorite rubber ducky 😢, and then my mom tried to give me another one but she just couldn’t understand the importance of the first one…
Childhood sexual abuse, a violent rape at 12, a narcissistic husband who abandoned me homeless, a mother who gave everything to the son nothing to the daughters. I was ignored, laughed at, called names, had to grow myself into a person that one died.
When someone has an emotional breakdown in front of me it always makes me so uncomfortable because as a child I was always told that it was not appropriate to express your emotions in front of people. I usually just don't know how to respond or how to comfort them and end up feeling extremely guilty.
Thank you for sharing something so personal with us. Despite feeling uncomfortable, it sounds to me like you deeply care about the people who express themselves to you. I think being honest about how you feel with the people who share can be very helpful for you. Letting them know that you don't exactly know how to respond when people share their feelings but still telling them that you're listening will help people feel that even though you don't know how to exactly help, you're willing to lend an ear. I hope that this will give you a good start.
ik how u feel, people complaining, whining or being rlly sad or happy just makes me so uncomfortable, it just feels like weird gooey feeling and i hate it. i would get laughed at or judged by my parents for openly expressing such emotions, now see other people do it is so foreign to me.
@@Psych2go Thank you so much for the advice ❤
I will definitely try to be more honest about it but i'm scared that I might get judged for it
I can relate completely, it sucks.
i do the same thing and i just panic and spiral out of guilt for not reacting right
I suffered bullying on primary school, when bullying wasn't considered a problem. The school chose to blame me for it (although I must say, sometimes it was me who started trouble), bullys never got punished. I remember I was kinda sociable and wanted to make friend when I was a little child. When at high school, I became someone defensive and lonely. Now I'm 21, at uni, and I'm extremely shy, introverted and asocial. I completely lack social skills, I really struggle to make friends, and I avoid going outside (shopping, to the bank, etc.) as much as I can. I've gone to psychologists pretty much my entire life, yet I still can't get over that. I'm trying myself to be a bit more sociable, but I find it extremely difficult. Socializing takes me lots of mental effort, so I just prefer to destinate those efforts to studying.
I relate to #4 and #5 as well.
if u dont wanna socialize u dont have to, it aint a problem.
@@firerams_and_arisinglion the thing is, I think it's got to a point that it's interfering with my life, so that's why I'm trying to improve my social skills a little bit. But yeah, I'm ok being just on my own 90% of the time
Same, but I'm still a teen, and it was my old school, I've changed to a better school last year, I will be going to high school. I'm sorry to hear about you're experience, I hope you Find it more easy to be social in the future.
@@martinds38ik I’m late,but can we be internet friends?Lol.♡
(I know that this was two months ago but I just wanted to make a comment if its alright)
Most of these topics that was went over defiantly reminded me of some dark memories in my childhood and kinda as a teenager too. Some big topics that defiantly reminded me of some dark memories was seeing people get emotionally in front of me, it makes me uncomfortable and it sometimes kinda wants to make me cry as well. Another one is with music because whenever I listen to some certain songs, they can remind me of some times when I couldn't take it and I was really downhill. The last one I don't think is a topic, but it was a big one that happened to me during childhood and now and that is neglect. I get neglected a lot and it affected me so much that I won't ask anyone for help, I find it hard to believe that people are there for me and it makes me think feel like my parents, my friends and anybody doesn't like me or anything. And I don't know if this one counts but manipulation is defiantly something that happened to me as well and it's still happening now sadly. But seeing this video kinda help me understand some of this stuff and it kinda makes me feel comfort in a way.
a baby swing bed thing. my parents were fighting when my sister was crying, I was so afraid of them hurting eachother.
4. Avoiding help, even when you need
5. Avoiding conflict at all costs
felt those on a personal level. 5 hurt even deeper.
I think i have emotions triggers for my family, except I can’t leave because I need to know what is happening so I can react but I want to leave and when I do it makes it worse because I just panic
4:31 Girl why are you carrying a giant speaker around???
but how can you help someone, who doesnt want any help or never asks for (was often left alone without help in childhood)
One trauma that took me several years to get over was when my dad beat me 47 times in a row with a belt. I couldn't be around guys or even be touched by them without having an anxiety attack. It's been 5 years though and while the reaction is not as bad I'm still uncomfortable around middle aged guys (cause my dad is middle-aged so I guess it's like a trigger).
Edit: some added info. He got arrested for it and my grandma had to bail him out. So I lived with my grandma for a year and a half for my 8th grade year and some of the summer.
I’m so sorry to hear that.
I’m very sorry. I can’t ever imagine that and I’m sorry that you went through that live changing trauma.
Im so sorry to hear that. I had a dear friend tell me some of the things she endured. I cry knowing such a good person was made broken by such evil.
Omg I’m sorry to hear that
Sorry to hear you went through that, it’s horrible :-( your experience is a bit relatable to me. I was SA’d by tweens/teens and I hate that age group
0:35 - 1. Sensations
1:10 - 2. Being with people who are emotional
1:45 - 3. Reactions to certain places and people
2:27 - 4. Avoiding help, even when you need it
3:08 - 5. Avoiding conflict at all costs
4:04 - 6. The media you consume
5:06 - 7. Time & anniversaries
Thank you✨✨!!
The fact that I was about to cry over a memory I’ve had when I was a kid and this popped up… cool
Thank you for sharing your personal experience with us. Have you sought therapy regarding your childhood memory? How are you doing now?
Me too
Everytime I look at the road i nearly cry
(I don't cuz I'm a maaaan-😂) no
I nearly cry cuz i see the good not nice friend that i had that not threatens me everytime I see them and it's pretty not good cuz he's MY NEIGHBOR. NEIGHBOR
but ye i hope your ok and ye good day to yall
I remember my dad coming home drunk fighting with everyone at home and throwing me around
or even that year when he was drunk again and when I tried to distract myself, he grabbed my hair and pulled me from the bedroom into the living room.
@@CyberSZ I’m really sorry that happened :(. I hope you recover from that.
Oh no, I’ve been feeling this a lot lately but I brush it off saying I’m being dramatic 😭
The book "Origins of You" by Vienna Pharaon is a must read for whoever wants to dig into childhood trauma and family patterns 🙌
Thanks for the suggestion! Is this somewhat similar to "The Untethered Soul" by Michael Alan Singer?
@@Psych2go I would say it's more specific. The author deconstructs behaviour patterns and relate them to what she considers to be the 5 (curiously) main childhood wound types. It is a great read. So is your work 🙏♥️
I hate how a lot of people are invalidated with their trauma just because you have the basic necessities of life. All these people suffering and people ignore their pleas for help just because they appear to be “fine”. Trauma is viewed as being “dramatic” to many brain dead clowns I’ve encountered. Asking for help to better yourself is “selfish” to many and it’s “weak”. If only people had love they would take the time out to learn instead of choosing if to be ignorant.
That's why my trauma keeps continuing. My dad's a "good provider" and therefore a good person and *I'm* bad for being "ungrateful" to someone who has been psychologically abusing me my entire life.
Post partem jealousy rage need to be treated and I am adopted and older simply told the brat no and I get call a horrible person and treated like I am mentally disabled since I was 3 I had grandma protecting from the worst of it until she passed away the day before my 13th birthday and after that things got worse my diploma was held back for 3 years so they could put in 2 programs for people with mental disabilities I fear being put in group home for people with mental disabilities now figuring out how to move out while unemployed and can't drive and come up with a bissness of my own so I can make money behind their backs so I can save money and get a boat license and boat to live on because it mobile and cheaper than rent and mortgage I have had things taken smashed throughout or just plain handed to the brat and hit punished because the brat would hurt itself and lie even though I was inside and I am still getting called the bully because I said no and the only thing I 99%of the time did was slap the brat in the face with any I got my hands on because boundaries and the doing not okay things
I was around the age of a toddler. Like most toddlers, I was curious about things, like the washing machine my aunt was using to do laundry. I don't remember what happened because the next thing I know, my aunt was screaming at me. Her tone and words rattled me quite badly. To this day, I still can't stand it when people speak to me in a harsh and accusatory tone (while occasionally belittling me). If I hear that tone again, I'll instinctively shrink. It's quite common for my parents/relatives to use that unbearable tone if they are dissatisfied with something. To me, it's all about asserting dominance/control and reminding the younger ones that they've disappointed/angered/annoyed the former. In my family, parents also don't defend their kids against verbally abusive relatives. I used to feel guilty for hiding and avoiding some of my relatives because I was brought up to always greet my relatives properly regardless of how they treated me. It took a while but I've decided to ignore certain people to avoid terrifying my inner child.
This sounds like middle eastern kind of family
I've got a trigger just from this. My father told me very harsh words about 2 years ago. Whenever someone's mean to me, being harsh, yelling, or accusing me of something my anxiety goes crazy and I start shaking like heck. It's not as bad as it was but I still shake in fear in those situations.
@@tiffhasarrived smh, what's with the adults screaming and belittling the younger ones
@@janecelee1713 adults think they’re better because they’re… adults. But they’re just little egotistic freaks
This reminded me of my childhood and my teenage years as well, but the one who screamed at me is my older sister.
The fire in my childhood house when I was 13, my aunt dying in 2004, my dad incarcerated, my mother dying in front of me in 2009. Not having many friends growing up and going to many schools in Baltimore, Maryland. These are the sources of my trauma.
Jesus I Am so sorry like....so so sorry no one should ever have to go through that I really hope your doing better now
I hope you're doing better I'm so sorry
My Mother is also a Capricorn person ♑🐐 too & plus I haven't got a chance to get on with her at all. Just literally because she has been very harsh towards me & even as well by being so judgemental/manipulative towards me due, with my "high" functioning mild autism that I was actually born with in real life too indeed. But the very saddest truth is that I don't love my mom at all just literally because she does tend to provokes me, or by criticizing, & even as well by actually trying to belittle all of my dreams in a very negative & a very unhealthy ways too sweetie. Like also in fact that I wasn't not actually allowed to make messes & even by making all of those types small mistakes too as well indeed. And so that also explains why that I haven't been able to reach out my mom on the phone just literally because she has over crossed the line with me for the final of the 14 strikes in total that she has really pulled on me of this first & final time like in real life too sweetie. Like ever since when I was an 8 year old little girl like in fact about the whole incident that has happened to me like ever since when it was on October 31st which in the year of 2008 just quite literally just until like in the the month of September which was actually on the 22nd like in the year of 2022 too as well sweetie. Like did also involves by invading my personal space, & even as well by taking away all of my personal belongings that I had specifically brought with my very hard-working money too by placing in the trash without my permission repeatedly. My mom does not tend to do those types of wicked stuff like towards my two siblings which are her two other grown-up children's of course just like that she would always do that to me like pretty much too indeed . And plus I was also born as a Leo♌🦁 person too but at the exact same time that I could also be a Libra ♎⚖️ person too indeed. Like in fact that I am also a very loving, kind, caring, gentle & a very passionate human being that does not deserve to be treated that way like in fact that it is also not my obligated to sit there just to literally take that all of those types of toxic abuse/behaviors from my mother just literally because I am also just a very highly sensitive person too sweetie. And plus I am also going to be getting myself a new job & so this way that I could move out from the toxic environment away from my mother too immediately. Just literally because every child at any age does not deserve to be treated that way like in fact that she could of also approached to me like in a different type of response like that involves by helping me with organizing my bedroom properly but in a very positive ways with a lot of praises & even with a lot of encouragements like pretty much like towards too as well. But instead of actually by doing a lot of negative things towards me like that involves by yelling directly 😤😠😡😞😭😢💔 💔💔💔at me right in front of my very beautiful lovely gorgeous face & even as well by taking all of my personal belongings that I have specifically brought with my very hard-working money once again by placing them in the trash without my permission repeatedly. And plus I am also the middle born child out of my two siblings with is my older brother who is actually two years apart from me & I even do have a sister who is actually five years younger than me too also in adulthood too indeed. I am also very extremely proud of myself for staying strong 💪🏽 & very most beautiful lovely wise upbringing, mature young girl/lady for all those types of pains that I ever had to go through like pretty much my whole entire life for over the past 15 years now. Like in fact that I am also technically 23 which means that I my birthday is actually coming up pretty soon like on the 9th of August which is actually going to be this current year of 2023 just quite literally because that I was actually born in the year of 2000 too in real life too as well indeed. And plus I did found this video very interesting for me to watch today. Thank you so much for sharing this very Excellent comment to my very sweet loving kind friend. sending you a lot of prayers 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 & a very big nice warm hug from your very sweet loving kind sister friend Chaleika. 🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸
Im so so so sorry to hear that i feel very bad for you :(
@@Cat.12345. well thank you much very for your very kind words & your support from you my very sweet loving kind friend & I really do appreciate that from you too as well indeed. And plus I really do need a hug right now 😭😢💔 to get all of things from off my system right at now at this breaking point just quite literally because my very disgraceful mother has been treating me very terribly for over the past like 15 years now. Like in fact that I really do need to get a job that does require a full payment job for a person with special needs which also means that I was actually born with mild autism too in real life too sweetie.
#7 hits me hard. As a child I was wrongly put in the ER and mental hospitals by my mother. Those terrible places gave me PTSD. I was in a mental hospital on my birthday 4 years ago and because of that I hate my birthday. My birthday was a few days ago and I’ve been more irritable and on edge than usual. I felt anger for the people who wronged me.
Are you me?
Cuz as a kid I wasn't the most well behaved, had tantrums like any other kid... But somehow that got interpreted as me being developmentally disabled, ADHD, autistic, something not mentally well. I was put on meds at 5 for tantrums & never got out of the mental health arena till just a year ago when a group home that my high school I lived in set up for me forced me out with their absolutely untenable rules. Emotional neglect, wrongful treatment, birthdays ruined for a long, long time?
Yeah... That's me too... I feel you m8, I feel you...
@@neetard7360 same, I have ADHD and autism and 22 other disorders but people, including my family and classmates, always said that it was behavioral issues and that it was just “my personality”
I only have 2 friends but they are both loyal and understand me since they also have disorders. Not as much as me though 😅
@@neetard7360 omg. i’ve been put on meds since I was 6. Around that time
i was diagnosed with ADHD but didn’t find out until a few years later. my anger issues were bad staring at 8 years old. the thing is i would only get violent at my mom’s house and school, never with my dad. my parents divorced when i was 3 and i was in joint custody. my mom’s house was a terrible environment. she didn’t understand me and when i was 11 the “experts” finally pulled their heads out of their butts and realized if i live with my dad full time, i wouldn’t get violent. i’m 15 now and i haven’t attacked anyone in years. even tho i no longer have anger issues, i’m left with anxiety, depression and PTSD.
@@idkanymore9894 My Mother is also a Capricorn person ♑🐐 too & plus I haven't got a chance to get on with her at all. Just literally because she has been very harsh towards me & even as well by being so judgemental/manipulative towards me due, with my "high" functioning mild autism that I was actually born with in real life too indeed. But the very saddest truth is that I don't love my mom at all just literally because she does tend to provokes me, or by criticizing, & even as well by actually trying to belittle all of my dreams in a very negative & a very unhealthy ways too sweetie. Like also in fact that I wasn't not actually allowed to make messes & even by making all of those types small mistakes too as well indeed. And so that also explains why that I haven't been able to reach out my mom on the phone just literally because she has over crossed the line with me for the final of the 14 strikes in total that has she really pulled on me like in real life too sweetie. Like ever since when I was an 8 year old little girl like in fact about the whole incident that has happened to me like ever since when it was on October 31st which in the year of 2008 just quite literally just until like in the the month of September which was actually on the 22nd like in the year of 2022 too as well sweetie. Like did also involves by invading my personal space, & even as well by taking away all of my personal belongings that I had specifically brought with my very hard-working money too by placing in the trash without my permission repeatedly. My mom does not tend to do those types of wicked stuff like towards my two siblings which are her two other grown-up children's of course just like that she would always do that to me like pretty much too indeed . And plus I was also born as a Leo♌🦁 person too but at the exact same time that I could also be a Libra ♎⚖️ person too indeed. Like in fact that I am also a very loving, kind, caring, gentle & a very passionate human being that does not deserve to be treated that way like in fact that it is also not my obligated to sit there just to literally take that all of those types of toxic abuse/behaviors from my mother just literally because I am also just a very highly sensitive person too sweetie. And plus I am also going to be getting myself a new job & so this way that I could move out from the toxic environment away from my mother too immediately. Just literally because every child at any age does not deserve to be treated that way like in fact that she could of also approached to me like in a different type of response like that involves by helping me with organizing my bedroom properly but in a very positive ways with a lot of praises & even with a lot of encouragements like pretty much like towards too as well. But instead of actually by doing a lot of negative things towards me like that involves by yelling directly 😤😠😡😞😭😢💔 💔💔💔at me right in front of my very beautiful lovely gorgeous face & even as well by taking all of my personal belongings that I have specifically brought with my very hard-working money once again by placing them in the trash without my permission repeatedly. And plus I am also the middle born child out of my two siblings with is my older brother who is actually two years apart from me & I even do have a sister who is actually five years younger than me too also in adulthood too as well indeed. I am also very extremely proud of myself for staying strong 💪🏽 & a very most beautiful lovely wise upbringing, mature young girl/lady for all those types of pains that I ever had to go through like pretty much my whole entire life for over the past 15 years now. Like in fact that I am also technically 23 which means that I my birthday is actually coming up pretty soon like on the 9th of August which is actually going to be this current year of 2023 just quite literally because that I was actually born in the year of 2000 too in real life too as well indeed. And plus I did found this video very interesting for me to watch today. Thank you so much for sharing this very Excellent comment to my very sweet loving kind friend. sending you a lot of prayers 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 & a very big nice warm hug from your very sweet loving kind sister friend Chaleika. 🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸
what was the reason why?!?
I'm torn between avoiding conflicts and ending the conflicts on my terms, sometimes. This is because sometimes, I wanted to just be left alone. But sometimes, I was being provoked to the point that I wanted to grab the other party by neck and throw the aggressor away. Have anyone ever feel something like this before?
I have
@@raincaoimhe And what did you do to the aggressor?
I have it too
@@lizzylemon5551 And what did you do to the one who provoked you?
@@lerneanlion I try to disengage from the conversation before I do or say something I regret. and then I just wrote down how I felt in that moment and it helps me calm down and understand my feelings better
3:10 This part hits hella hard…this is exactly what I do. I’ve became a lot more sensitive and easy to breakdown as a result of all the trauma I’ve had. I do exactly this, especially since I’m usually a people pleasure, or if I don’t have to talk to people since I’m introverted, I just don’t talk to people and shorten conversations. *Who else has this issue?*
I know it isn’t good to assume everyone is bad but…I am too scared to take chances..
I relate to what you're saying. I'm also very sensitive, a people pleaser, and an introvert that has a hard time talking to people.
Real 🥲
I too, have this issue, lets try and go through this together, maybe some others here too :D
@@Aven_colonthree Thanks for saying that. Even though this world is full of so many people and it's not a surprise some are similar, I've never met or heard of people having the same issue as me. Makes you feel less alone :)
@@Obsessive_15 yea, same :>
Timestamps
1). Sensations 0:35
2). Being with people that are emotional 1:10
3). Reactions to certain places and people 1:45
4). Avoiding help even when you need it 2:27
5). Avoiding conflict at all costs 3:08
6). The media you consume 4:05
7). Time and anniversaries 5:06
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
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@@luisconde6201 thanks I guess
Thank you for adding the timestamps!
@@Psych2go not a problem happy to help
What about the rest?
2, 4, 5, and 6 for me. These are all too relatable..
2, I get very emotional when others are emotional.
4, I avoid asking for help.. nobody deserves to have to put up with my problems
5, I absolutely hate conflict and very often "agree" with others to avoid anger and disappointment towards me
6, when I see troubled people online, I start to feel horrible too. Sort of like 2 but instead with media.
It's important to mention about media that people sometimes cling to characters who are put thru similar trauma to their own, and that seeing them overcome can help when dealing with their own feelings. Which is why some people may have emotional reactions to seeing a character change if they'd felt connected to or empathic over them.
This video actually helped me tell my friends, therapist, and soon my teachers and parents so people know how I feel.
I really like your content as it helps me relate to my 5 disorders which are listed below.
(DMDD, ADHD, Autism, Depression, Anxiety.) It really makes me happy that someone like you is telling people to be who you are and to stand up for yourself and to choose the right path. It really does help. Thank You for teaching me these topics because as a teenager myself, it truly helps me learn.
Only in ohio 💀
When we were teenagers, my friend would get uncomfortable and frustrated whenever I cried. This triggered MY old trauma because I was always chastised, even yelled at, for being too emotional as a child when I really, *really* could not help my intense feelings. I felt a deep sense of shame about my emotional responses. It's difficult for me to function in this world. I've always struggled with the feeling of inconveniencing others whenever I tear up, even though I don't have as much control over my crying as other people do. Later, I found out that my friend had childhood trauma that revolved around the adults around her using crying as a manipulation tactic. So...yeah...we all got our stuff. I'm really glad we came to understand why we are the way we are.
When i was younger my mom used to tell me all about her trauma and the pain that her parents gave her. I felt bad for her but it also made me think that my trauma wasnt bad enough for it to be trauma. i told myself that everything that happened to me was not truama but an unfortunate situation and i should be getting over it right now. But i couldnt just get over it. It had a hold on me and wouldn't let go. It took me a longgggg time to heal from it and realize that nobodys trauma is better than others and to stop thinking that my pain was fake bc someone had it a little harder than me.
Hi this is helpful but can you do more ADHD ones?
Numbers 2,4 & 5 apply to me.
I recall one instance a few years ago where my friends and I were at a bar hanging out. At some point in my field of vision a few tables away is this couple having an extremely emotional discussion. At some point the woman starts crying and I remember it completely derailed the conversation I was having with my friends as her emotional distress was causing my stomach to turn with unease, my heart rate increased and my mind went blank.
The couple left shortly after but it really put a damper on the evening
I've experienced lots of trauma in my life, but I deal with something pretty much everyday that I'm not too sure what it is, considering that I don't have anyone to comfortably talk to, im not gonna go ahead and say that I think it's trauma but it definitely affected me. Around 4 years years ago from when im writing this comment, I moved cities. Being my childy self at first when I heard my family was moving, I was excited. But as time passed more and more reaching to the day my family moved, I opened my eyes more to realize how saddening this would be for me. On the day we moved, I was in our car crying to stay in the beautiful city that I grew up in with people I loved. When I reached my new city, everything was gloomy. The bright sun and happiness that I was used to seeing was replaced with days of cloudiness and me feeling like nothing, but trying to be happy. And a few days after, I couldn't even celebrate my birthday without sadness since everyone I loved that I wanted to invite were hours away and would never see me again. I'd go on with how much my life degraded from that point but that's not what I'm meaning to talk about. Now for 4 years straight, every single day, almost every moment, I always get a memory or strike of nostalgia from the back of my mind. I have pretty bad eating problems and almost everything makes me sick, but the only food that I like to eat, I have to avoid because they all give me nostalgia. I can't listen to many certain songs I know and love because the reason I love them in the end is because they give me nostalgia, even songs that come out as happy, and in situations where I'm in extremely dark times and thoughts, I only play them then just to numb myself up. I can't watch certain movies or scenes because they will remind me or FULLY REPRESENT my pain, a big example is Inside Out. I would never dare to watch that movie with the life of me. And lastly, I can't go to certain places. Well ... this one's hard. Because it's hard to avoid it. Whenever I come across a setting that strikes nostalgia to me, I CAN NOT be there. Or I choose to stay there alone and consult and cry with myself. Once in a while (like once a year or something) me and my family do drive to our old city and meet up with family or for appointments. It pains me to look out the window and see my whole life that I left behind. I even specifically asked my dad to not take certain ways so I don't start tearing up. And lastly, the date. It was August 19 when I moved, so every 19th of August that flew by each year, I'd be extremely moody, have many flashbacks, and most definitely be having meltdowns, I'd also feel in a sorta depressive state for quite a few days surrounding the 19th, so it would affect me greatly.
But in conclusion, this affects me so much. It made me cry to sleep so many times, triggered anxiety, stopped me from things I liked, and just punches me everyday. Ive even had thoughts of s3lf h@rm and wanting to d!e because of how much it wouldn't leave me alone. And I never have anyone to talk to because I probably seem too over dramatic. So to my younger self that said this, and I quote: "will this be like a super long vacation!? It sounds fun!! But ... I'm sure we'll come back, right?" Yes. It will be a very very long vacation, and it will be a painful one, but I'll make sure to still get through it, and finish it strong.
Hey, could you please do a video on what to do if you have a depressed family member?
I’ve been yelled at so much that someone raising their voice sends me into a panic (crying, panic attacks, etc.) is that normal?
For someone it is for others it is not, it depends on you honestly, but i think it's pretty normal to feel altered when someone is mad/yells at you.
One trauma that still remains in my head over years ago is my dad leaving to another country for 'work', when he was actually cheating on my mum. He started this when i was born and the day my mum, sisters and i left the house, they divorced right in front of my eyes while i was packing my things. He was nearly arrested but was okay because my mum refused it. I still have to visit him every fortnight with my stepbrother in his house. Every time something reminds me of him i cant help but think of the negative things that happened in the past.
A lot of people nowadays have zero tolerance and don't care for others' past truamas... it's sad but the usual especially in the USA.
Therapy isn't always the answer to everything either is medicine for traumas that happened at a very tender age of early development.
I still have trouble asking for help. Slowly learning to. Well. Not just asking for help, but expressing wants and needs. Still get tears in my eyes sometimes when I talk about my other dog Leroy. I loved him so much. We put him down October 15, 2020 at 12:27 pm. Still miss him a lot. Since then, I moved out November 1, 2022. Family has Loki the black lab. He’s a big goob, but I don’t see him much. Dad got him two days after Leroy’s passing. I get it. People grieve differently and he didn’t want to wait two weeks or longer again. Even my fiancé said that was too soon
My family doesn't allow me to go to therapy :/ my mom said "pray it will help u" and my dad say "no u're fine u're not crazy" yes my dad thinks depression means someone lost their brain or crazy
I'm 54 and 2 months into Therapy after being victimized by my conniving and vindictive mother and the realization that she's a narcissist. I'm coming to grips with the fact that I have childhood trauma that has affected my entire being, I constantly apologize for everything and anything, and I always put other people and their needs ahead of my own even when I know it's going to disrupt my life and I don't let the person know but in the rare occasions when I do they don't seem to care so I end up putting them before me because I feel their needs are more important than my own.
I hate confrontation and if someone is angry and yelling it doesn't have to be towards me it still scares the shit out of me especially if it's someone with some type of authority.
Narcissistic parents, abuse, neglect, forced to make a personality as I was constantly told im a psychopath for not wanting to talk to my family even though when I do they acuse me of manipulation or say I'm wrong.. so I stopped.. Ironically, I speak 6 different languages and I have a loving girl who sees straight through my overly apologetic personality.. my point? That those who are abused have potential above most so long as they channel that pain and sadness into something more. I truly believe anyone is capable of anything. No matter the upbringing, it all comes down to will power, strength, and self awareness. Failure in life is always an option. However, giving up is not..
I love the narrate's voice it's so calming and gentle🥺❤️
I just really hate how my dad is just like ''Past is past. No point crying over a spilled milk'' without showing any intention of even trying to apologize and still act like the better one of all of us... while I agree with some of the things he said, like to keep moving forward, him still raising his voice and not even changing his tone when I discuss about it make it seem like he's not showing any remorse. Sounding like hes justifying how much comfortable he is talking to me like that just because I'm his son which still bugs me a lot. All of my thoughts and my feelings are my fault according to him for just feeling that way
I think I have been ignored in my childhood so now to deal with its trauma I ignore people first and they think that i am egoist 🙂
After watching this, I realize through trauma therapy I have grown out of fear of conflict and fear of emotional outbursts.
Healing is possible!
2,4,5
Growing up with this made me confused of how am I supposed to feel or act towards people. Asking help was never an option when I needed it the most. Avoiding arguments, conflicts, fights gavr me advantages and disadvantages in life. When you get used it, it's hard to remove that part of you.
I was mentally abused by my narcissist mother when i was 4 up until i was 12 after my mother died. I am 27 now and being an adult is so hard for me because of my childhood and being in an abusive relationship for so long which lasted from when i was 17 to 25. The guy i dated never loved me and he was so mean to me behind my back and was a very controlling guy. The relationship ended finally after so long and now i am happy with my new partner, but my past oftten triggers painful memories for me and i have no way of coping. It hurts me so bad to have been lied to, believing that my mother was a loving caring individual but in actuality she was mean and abusive to me. I was lied to my whole life which finding out the truth is so painful to take. I was brain washed by my mother, she acted nice but also mean as well which comfused the young me so much, but now as an adult i figured her out that she was nothing but a fake and selfish person.
My mom once told me my dad left us when I was 4 years old, at 17. And because of that, I feel like if I got into a relationship with a man, I'm afraid that he would leave me for good and never apologize or look back, just like my dad never did. That's why I prefer to be friends with men instead of more. Because you get hurt a lot less when you're friends only with a man.
I've had a fun but bumpy childhood, so these things do come naturally. It kind of sucks, but it is what it is.
I’m kinda losing myself and feel like I’m slipping into insanity and depression since I have a lot of stored trauma that I ignored. Now it’s starting to break through and it’s scaring me. It’s like my mask is coming off and I have no one to talk to that can help me.
Turning on notifications is one of the smartest decisions I ever made. Always ready for these videos!
Welcome aboard!
My trauma was really bad to the point that when I used to go to therapy I kept lying to my therapist about problems I have but said I didn’t have them, though Im supposed to go back to therapy since I slightly opened up to my doctor and she gave me a list of places to find a therapist
(I only slightly opened and had to immediately go back to therapy, it’s really bad trauma, but my mom doesn’t want to look for a place though since she thinks I’m being dramatic)
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the list o' the triggers for trauma acknowledged and otherwise:*
0:35 *1. Sensations*
1:10 *2. Emotional others*
1:45 *3. Reactions to certain situations*
2:27 *4. Avoidance of assistance*
3:08 *5. Conflict-phobía:*
a. Apologizing
b. Agreeing
c. Accommodating
4:05 *6. Adverse social media*
5:06 *7. Time and anniversaries*
My dad was emotionally absent during my childhood and i only got to see him for a few minutes in the morning and to say goodnight. Because of this i get triggered when i hear this one song from Mozart Baby, about the dad bull that leaves the baby cow alone, i still cry whenever i hear it to this day.
Thank you so much! It’s so hard to explain to people without having a video like this!
Thank you so much for the kind words! Which part of the video was relatable to you?
@@Psych2go hmm 🤔 so much but the 1-3 and number 7 the most affect me. I didn’t know about all these triggers. People told me I was “‘imagining it and
I’m not this helps me realize they were just gaslighting
I love these videos! 😊❤
I'm so glad! What is your favorite video from our channel?
@@Psych2go any with your voice in ;)
Oh wow, anniversaries? Talk about hitting home! Last year, it was 40 years ago (Winter/Spring) that I was classmates with the first boy my heart had ever truly gone out to. One small act of kindness had set the tone permanently, so even after I had gotten carried away and lost any chance to have his friendship, my heart beat just for him no matter how he treated me. I was the unpopular one to begin with, and the one always being teased and verbally degraded by others. He joined in and it hurt, but negative attention was still better than none. I acted out, figuring I had nothing to lose anyway. I left that school, wearing the proverbial scarlet letter. (didn’t help that I was catching a lot of grief at home, as well)
Was I _triggered_ by the realization of 40 years past, per se? I guess it just depends on how you define it. I didn't have any panic attacks, but old feelings came back and (on my own time) I've had a few emotional moments. I'm still praying to God that He places us on the same path once again, and that I may have a chance to reconcile with him.
Thankfully, that "scarlet letter" fades over time, as I managed to patch things up with the one female classmate who was very kind to me, and when I had the audacity to reach out to one of the most prominent school bullies upon seeing his name in MySpace, he had apologized for how he had treated me and told of some of his trials since then. I've never been one for grudges, so I was just glad that we were able to make peace. Besides, of the people that take an express effort to forgive, none of them are classmates.
I made a mistake ,and I have never missed someone more outside of family ever. Her messy divorce,going to ground once she found a safe place (which was my hope for her) as I knew from my experiences there was more and read the tell.
Miss her lots, still luv her to bits as her good side is beautiful, the dark side is terrifying. I just hope she finds the peace she is looking for.
I thank this channel in answering so many things on C-PTSD😢
Number 2 is a big one for me! I was not allowed to feel sad/weak to cry to feel depressed. So whenever my wife is feeling this way I don’t knw what to say or do. On the inside I wanna say suck it up because that’s what I always heard. 😢😢
No no, you as a MAN has to suck it up. Let your wife cry and support her, she is a woman and she can't help it. You have to suppress your emotions and be strong.
Well, this does explain why I can't handle it when people get really angry and why I tend to avoid conflicts or asking for help.
These videos are calming me down. I’ve gotten very worked up this evening over some family drama and I just wanted to thank you ❤
When i was younger i was really close to my grandparents on my 'dads' side but when they were suddenly ripped from my life due to drug abuse i used to cry myself to sleep every night missing them it was horrrible these memories haunt me to this day from realising just how messed up they were and i was oblivious to it this really helped me know what was happening to me back then thank you
I feel like I am stuck with my triggers and abusers. I cannot leave home unless I manage to immigrate. Though what frustrats me is that there are others like me who maybe stuck with worse abuse who cannot even immigrate or travel to take a breather from their abusers. To clarify. In my country if you are female you cannot live on your own without your neighbours annoying you or pressuring you to leave. Unless you belong to a certain class or have a male family member who approves and keeps you close. So, when one of your parents if not both are narcissists and you are a female, you are trapped.
I have some of everything mentioned.
Yelling or a trigger word would make me cowar and apologize (which I do alot) and in rare instances I would snap back but only when I'm stressed or under pressure.
Being left behind is another trigger that I have. I use to cry and get upset "now" (ever since high school) I am watching out for people I am with, example: classmate if on a school trip or family if with family (du) and I know that ok, we're still good. If I get separated I usually find someone and stick with them until we find everyone.
I noticed that when a co-worker is mad or nothing is in her favor abs she's getting frustrated. I feel my body tense, curl up. I feel scared. I go quiet (I mean I'm naturally a quiet person) , preferring to work as far away as I could trying to stay out of her way. Otherwise we're chill and I respect her being the oldest and most knowledgeable of the work place.
Another example, is my manager bringing the whole "we're a family" thing it made me uncomfortable and almost pushed me away. For Christmas, she gave me stain- glass flowers that represented everyone in the department I work in. I mean they're beautiful and I love them... but the sentiment behind it made me uncomfortable. Maybe it was because I knew the trick she was trying to pull by videos or other work places showing kindness to brainwash then flipping and getting annoyed over time and I don't want that to happen again because that was the worst three years working waitress/ dishwasher and working that job made me feel like I was working to slow at my job which shows in this job doesn't help that I think I have anxiety because I drill myself when I do anything wrong and my mind will remember.
2, 4 and 5 hit home. Not only do i suck at expressing any sort of strong emotions or unheard/unpopular opinions but also I've always shied away from asking for help. I always feel like i don't deserve any help unless i have sth to offer in return. I love giving. It makes me feel validated and also creates space for me to hope that when i need help i can safely ask them without feeling undeserving.
Some songs , foods ,places and even time of year can bring back alot of different memories some good but others bad but with the help of this Chanel my councillor, friends and family I get the hard times ive also told my councillor about this Chanel in hopes it will help her other clients as well 🥰
This video popped up two days before the 27th anniversary of my dad's passing. He took his life when I was only five years old. While I would never wish tragedy on anyone, it does help a lot knowing I'm not alone in what I'm feeling.❤
Nice video I'm 16 and totally disconnected with my family, I have few friends to talk to somewhat lonely, No one believes in me and i Dream to become successful and wealthy once I'm 18 and move out I'll burn down the past forever and pursue my future dream
Same
I can't help feeling that this should count as trauma/PTSD:
Just minding your own 1-year-old business, celebrating your own birthday......ONLY TO HAVE A NEARBY BALLOON, SO GODDAMN CLOSE TO YOU, JUST FUCKING EXPLODE ON YOU. RIGHT IN YOUR FACE. For years I HATED balloons because of that bullshit. So much so that just SEEING one I would bolt the hell outta there......Took forever to "get over it." I WAS ONLY ONE.
I was visiting a friend last month and she accidentally did something that resembled one of my triggers. She hugged me for a solid 10 minutes and apologized for the rest of the night. I am so glad I found her.
I am having a toxic family,people whole do not care about mental health. I am 21 years old and now life is totally fucked up. My friends left me because i was not able to hangout due to my family. The girl i had crush on and tried my best to convince her now she is with someone else. I am now an introvert and depressed due to these feelings with no friends just me and my loneliness🙂
That sucks.i dunno how to Cheer you up
⚠️ trauma dump ⚠️
When I was a kid I wanted to solve my families problems and fix my siblings relationships with each other. It was a lot of responsibility and I took it all upon myself. I think I felt like if I did that I would be more worthy of love. As the oldest of four I rarely got much attention from my parents. My three younger siblings were all very controlling and if things didn’t go their way they would get angry and fight. They would have heated arguments over a goddamn piece of paper. For whatever reason I’ve always felt a lot different from them. Even when I was a little kid I was more likely to give in than cause a fight. This became a problem because I was often ignored. Maybe I hoped that if I got my siblings to stop fighting all the time I would be able to get the things I wanted every now and then instead of constantly being pushed aside because I wasn’t problematic
Whatever the case, I was constantly trying to get my siblings to get along. I would try to step in and mediate their fights. Sometimes my parents would be angry with me for parenting them, saying I wasn’t in a position to do that. Other times they would get angry when I left during a fight because they wanted my help.
I wanted my siblings to stop fighting so bad. I tried so hard for so long to make sure everyone was happy at all times. We were all homeschooled and the time so I was always at home with them pretty much. If we went somewhere we all went. I did enjoy playing with them and stuff. I have fond memories of those days. But constantly being on edge trying to make sure nothing would make my siblings angry was really draining. The more I did the more my parents expected me to do because it just became the norm.
Their fighting upset me a lot. It really hurt me to hear two people I loved saying such god awful things to each other and not only yelling but screaming at the top of their lungs. I learned to self isolate and hide myself in my room it the bathroom because it got to the point where I just couldn’t handle it emotionally. I also adopted toxic positivity as a coping mechanism, probably because it was a counter to all the anger around me. I was hurt a lot by other’s negative emotions so I wanted to rid them both from myself and from others. I wasn’t very self aware at the time (while I am EXTREMELY self aware now) and I think it’s because I didn’t allow myself to think or feel certain things.
As I got older I had more school to do and was able to use that as an excuse to escape my siblings and isolate myself. I focused really hard on being successful with school in high school. Summers were really difficult for me because I didn’t have that escape.
I was so burnt out between my family and school that I had a breakdown during my senior year of high school. I thought it was just senioritis but I had another breakdown during the summer. I went on a family vacation and my dad got really mad at me and yelled at me and even spanked me once while we were there. I was 18. He had no right to do that. Mom said they were thinking of taking my car away because I couldn’t pay for it myself. She said dad was saying I was acting entitled but she knew I was struggling. Thanks for telling me that and yet doing absolutely nothing to help my situation mom. Sometimes I felt like I was the only one that actually cares to solve any of the damn family problems.
I started going to college and still was burnt out as hell. I don’t spend nearly as much time with my siblings anymore because I literally don’t have the emotional energy to deal with their crap. I had another breakdown that spring, although it was of a different nature. I’d been struggling with identity for a while since I gave up my identity as a child to expend all my efforts to help my family. I started to question everything and just had a terrible breakdown. I felt like I had wasted my entire life. I practically killed myself trying to solve my families problems but I did absolutely nothing but dig myself into a hole. I was also so burnt out and unmotivated I couldn’t function. I failed my midterms because of that. Then I got back on my feet and studied really hard and was able to make up for the failed midterms.
This summer I spent a lot of time to myself just not doing anything trying to feel less burnt out. I’m so miserable and bored and lonely but I always self isolate. I didn’t even acknowledge my resume until recently. I always thought I had an amazing childhood because I kept comparing it to people who were abused or abandoned or had parents who fought all the time. My parents have a really good relationship. But it’s my siblings that fought all the time. I love my family. I know they didn’t mean what they did to me. And that’s why it took me so long to acknowledge what I had been through.
I’m happy to say I’m in a better place now. I’m not happy but I’m not forcing myself to act happy. I still self isolate but I’m trying my best to stop. It’s going to be difficult but I think I’m finally going the right direction
Im 50 and still get triggered by certain people, places, etc
Baby’s/small children crying.people think it’s because I’m autistic and sensitive to and upset by the high pitched sound(which I am)but I am not as pained by the sensory aspect as the trauma I associate the sound with.Often a crying baby is enough to send me into a full blown panic attack.It’s been this way since I was 5 years old,I can’t even remember what triggered this response,maybe I don’t want to.and believe me,I KNOW the difference between sensory overload/pain and emotional trauma.
Does anyone else get this?
I get frustrated when ppl are scared of things that clearly aren't dangerous. For example birds or cats (coz I have experience with ppl scard of these things). I think it's because I was very scared when I was little and my mom used to tell me that it was ridiculous to be scared of this and that. When I bring it up she just says she never said that but I remember it so clearly.
I'm also very emotional watching series and movies, but I don't get sad. I feel happy, angry, angsty, embarassed but not sad. Except for at the end of Inside Out. I always cry my eyes out. And other moments when a child/youth have trauma (ususally involving their parents).
I need to vent... I feel like the life I'm living isn't mine but another person's. I just want to escape the chains of trauma and therapy doesn't really help me. I have physical trauma that includes being hugged when I don't want one and emotional trauma that includes being threatened and being called ugly by my first ex. Amongst other things. I just don't know if I can go on with this feeling.... But again I'm leaving everything behind if I give up. Any advice?
My problem is
I experience 6 out of 7 of these triggers
But I can't remember anything that could've caused the trauma
I know I'm terrified of hospitals and the reason is probably because I was apparently in and out of the hospital constantly for checkups when I was young yet I can't remember any of the hospital visits
i really relate to no, 1 and 4 bc i had a certain situation that i wish not to disclose that involved a certain sound and it traumatized me... and for no. 4 its bc when i was younger my mom, if i broke smth or lost smth she wouldnt be like "its fine i'll help you look" or "its okay we all make mistakes" she would just get angry and say that i dont take care of my stuff and it rlly hurt me a lot
and also number 6 bc i watch a lot of true crime and see a lot of things abt death and it really scares me bc it reminds me that im going to lose ppl who are special to me and that im gonna lose smth special of mine aka my life
I've burst into tears before because of teachers(specifically make so far) yelling at me. I then try to hide it as my dad would always yell at me becAuse of the fact that I would cry.
Places can be triggers too. When watching this video, it made me think of Iruma from Welcome to Demon School! Iruma-kun
Brooo the fact that i got this notif while watching an omori edit
3:17 So this part is talking about avoiding conflicts. I do all of the stuff they said, but I would like to point out that you may also overly involve yourself in conflict because it feels like home, especially if you were abused by your parents. This isn't everyone, but it's worth stating.
When I come across conflicts I tend to ether avoid or go overboard due to family being abusive, I also hate showing my true emotions and getting emotional due to only one family member really keeping me safe emotionally, not to mention others in this. I might need therapy.😅
I really want to heal from all of my childhood traumas that have been hunting me till this day, i tried so many things, but nothing really seemed to be helping. These a few recent days, i started to ask my parents that i need a therapist, and they ignore or say im being an overreacter. I didn't really tell them much about my trauams and some of the traumas they, of course, know but take it as nothing.
I can relate to number 7. Today is my papa's birthday, and they died a while ago. 😢
Same thing with my mom, it's really sad honestly.
Just so you know i wach these videos every day and thay help me so much in my pathetic life this gives me so much comfort and confidence i just wanted to say a big thank you to psych2go for being like a personal therapist for me in ruff times so i just wanna say thank you so SO much ❤😊
My first childhood memory was of my dad giving me beer when i was around 3 years old. To this day I still dislike the taste of alcohol but at least i don't have a drinking problem.
Yea, whenever someone raises their voice, I just laugh and leave or get really quiet sometimes I get shaky esp if yelling straight to me. Reminds me of when my adoptive parents would yell at eachother or at me.
I have this one friend. We're very good friends and we trust eachother and so on. But he has loads of trauma, i'm not sure of what he has his trauma but from the way he acts around others and how he acts and talks to me when we're alone makes it so obvios.
So a few days ago he wrote me and told me how me and my other friends have been talking sh*t about him (in my opinion we haven't said anything ghat bad about him, we have only talked about how to help him and in some cases talked about how he didn't give me the money back i loaned him) And so he was really upset.
When i texted him the next day asked how he felt, he said he didn't want to talk to anyone so obviously he was still upset.
And so now i don't know what to do. I really want to help him but i don't know how. Any ideas or something?
1:14
I was in like 4th grade when this kid started yelling at the person across from him and I burst into tears and I didn't know why.
_That explains a lot..._
when i would get hurt and cry my mom used yell at me STOP CRYING
it still hurts when i cry 🥲
GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS MORNING, WELL IT'S TIME FOR ME TO LAY BACK DOWN SO I CAN GET UP AND GO OUT TO KEEP AWAY FROM THE MADNESS AND THE FAMILY THAT DON'T LIKE ME, PLEASE KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS, MY MOTHER TOLD ME SHE WISH THAT SHE NEVER HAD ME WELL I 💙 YOU TO FAMILY.TEE HAVE A BLESSED DAY. TEE 💯🙏💙💪
When my parents died i got adopted by my grandma but their family was crazy fighting alot and just alot of trauma my grandma and her kids would get hit by her husband and when i was 6 or 7 on fathers day he left us and i seen him as a father figure it hurt that he left and i was just a kid so i didn't understand much but now i understand alot and my family still fights i alwayed hated loud sounds and i get anxiety or scared about loud things.. I have a sister and a bother but not by blood but they were always here for me when i needed someone... A little venting mb lol
I was Sexually touched by a middle aged man while i was living with my grandma she came out of the bathroom after taking a shower and was ready for bed until she saw that her boyfriend was touching me in a way that i didnt like i was clearly uncomfortable and my arms were stretched out in an attempt to escape but his grip was strong and he tried pulling me closer while i was trying to push him away well my grandma got mad and she yelled at the guy and she kicked him out of the house and we never saw him again in my opinion she should've called the cops on his ass but she didn't now i avoid middle-aged men entirely because I'm afraid that they'll try to do the same thing that my grandma's boyfriend did all those years ago my mom recently introduced me to a friend of hers hes a middle-aged man and seeing him triggered a trauma response that i managed to hide i couldn't look him in the eyes or else i felt uncomfortable plus what made it worse was that my mom left me alone in his car while she delivered a phone to someone and payed them well she took forever and i felt uncomfortable being alone in his car when my mom finally came back and we left i felt relieved knowing that i was safe as long as i was with my mom I'm trying not to cry right now as i type this because just thinking or talking about it triggers a traumatic response
When I was younger to much emotions would be considered rude and my grandma would cause me a lot of trauma and my parents gave me a some trauma my aunt also gave me trauma and when I was younger I was sexually harassed by my neighbor that was supposed to be my best friend now I’m always scared what a best friend could do
I ahve pretty bad dreams, so when i am in yhe places that these bad dreams happen in, i suddenly act all anxious and goofy to hide that fact, also seeing programmes related can trigger it and set my heart going, but i dont want to turn the tv off because everone esle is watching it.
I always feel awkward when someone starts crying because I feel like I need to ignore it. Whenever I was younger, my brother would cry and my stepdad would tell him to "shut up before I give you a reason to cry" and if I tried to help him then Id get in trouble as well- but at the same time I want to help people, im jusy awkward
I have a few spots in town that makes me uneasy, one was a car crash, the hospital, my childhood home but that would be a lot of people as well, at the end of the year i get so depressed because my mother passed away close to the end and I can’t do Christmas anymore either, thx for letting me tell my story
Hey Psych2Go team, could you do one on how to forgive yourself (for past mistakes, “wrong” decisions etc) ? ❤️🩹🥺
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I enjoy watching your informative videos. 😊 Keep on uploading more informative videos. 👍
I realised recently that a certain coworker last year reminded me a lot of my childhood bullies and people I struggled with. Pretty sure he triggered me a lot.
after finishing the video, I fit 4 of these.
Oh finally I get it why my trauma responses are getting stronger as the summer approaches. The last one hits hard. I have a date of a car accident coming up in July 3 and just thinking about it makes my stomach sink. And I felt weird for being more on edge lately cuz apparently my brain remembers the date everything turned upside down. I thought I could never do that with my absolute crap memory. Well thanks for that, brain, I guess??
everytime my friends start to fight i feel like i am 7 again and watching my parents fighting and screaming and it makes me want to cry.
this past week a friend kind of talked in a higher voice and i just started crying in front of her. like. i felt so ashamed?. like ok mom screamed at me and now i cry everytime anyone talks to me like that?. i hate when this happens because sometimes i even cant hold the feelings inside.
there's anyone who knows how can i improve that? i just cant keep coming back to old memories everytime someone acts in a way that reminds me of a trauma:( this way i will never be able to live:(((
I related to all of these cause I'm currently trying to move on from a traumatic experience..though to be truthful I'm having a difficult time as the problem is currently present every where I go
I just graduated few weeks ago finally escaped the physical hell but not the memories of me going through it
i find it difficult to trust those whom still hang out with the people who has cause hell to me
I find it difficult to look at chats due to me seeing them present, I find it difficult to look at class photos or any other social event photo cause they would appear, I find it hard to stay enthusiastic on certain days as it would be an event that is connected
So far the only people I could trust are only 4 people who are aware of this person that caused me to be on edge for four years
I have wasted Tears, Fears, Anger, Energy and Time and few of my relationship with other people
They affect me with when they are present I flinch and my mind goes spazzam, I would be filled with Hatred and Fear
Whats worse was this person at some point during our time in school made a group chat with two other people that played a big part of my trauma
They planned to put me down at some point like a dog who has gone feral, to try and FIX me like some broken toy, to try and USE the most influencial person in my life against me
And whats worse
Was that they had dubbed me on having a Twitter Syndrome that I was the problem...I was hurt.. I just wanted to help and protect them but instead they do this behind my back and was planning along side people who hurt me and gave me a mental scar
I trusted this person with my life and they do this to me
Now everytime I see something that reminds me of them like a simple hairstyle, specific instrument or a specific facial resting face
Triggers me to the core to the point I could not think clearly only being flooded by pain and hatred
So for the duration of my school year I only stuck with the 4 people I truly trust cause I could not contain myself from crying
The years of walking in eggshells the years Ive ended friendships to certain people just to please this person has finally made me snapped
I don't want to feel hatred I don't want to leave a bloody messy path
But I cannot help it I was hurt
And I'm still hurting cause of them
They remind me of my parents in rare cases, cause they were the father of our group
They aren't apart of our friendgroup anymore after what they did
I know this isn't a childhood trauma but Its something I had to deal with them since I was 13