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  • @DianaOldfield
    @DianaOldfield Год назад +241

    Girl MJ, you knew it deep in your heart that Tom wasn't deeply and madly in love with you but you still believed that he probably will eventually. The lack of loving in his body language with you throws the biggest clue. I myself had delusions with a wrong guy, he said to me 'I thought we were just killing time' and that was when I ran away! Fast! I felt ashamed of myself for not listening intently to my gut and my heart. I took on a solo backpacking to heal and focused in my career, put solid bricks to protect my wall (my heart) then a man came. He followed me abroad and did every possible way to make me feel loved and wanted. Married with him now for 10 years and loving him more and more each year. The heartaches were so worth it because it led me to my husband. I hope you find your full healing MJ.

    • @cryptotrader2779
      @cryptotrader2779 Год назад +32

      100% agree. Tom never really looked too bothered about MJ. Best to let people like that go, not waste either persons time or their emotional energy, and move on.

    • @scorpio_butuan
      @scorpio_butuan Год назад +15

      True, because if the man interested to his girlfriend, of course He will propose marriage.

    • @ernestbaddger9617
      @ernestbaddger9617 Год назад +1

      He's A Damn Idiot, Next Time, Meljean, Come On Over To The Dark Side of The Force, We Black Men Love Hard, No Matter,

    • @johnbev2
      @johnbev2 Год назад +22

      I total agree, Tom was not the right man for you. You deserve much more than he could give you.

    • @Lexy-O
      @Lexy-O Год назад +15

      Don’t settle for that again and you will find a man that truly loves you in time. Best wishes

  • @saviadangwa8719
    @saviadangwa8719 Год назад +5

    Misleading title. You're back home cozy in bed. You've moved on a bit or a lot since you're able to talk about the past with smiles. And with a friend's support who somewhat gave you the will to talk about this topic.

  • @frankelliott8205
    @frankelliott8205 Год назад +14

    Breakups are hard to deal with. Things will get better over time for both you and Tom. I'm sad to hear that you both went your separate ways. I will suggest to the both of you to take all of the time you need to heal. there is no need to rush things and both of you are still young. Enjoying life. I wish the best for you and Tom both.

  • @msbukidnon6553
    @msbukidnon6553 Год назад +10

    You're not alone Meljean. I, myself are on the same process of healing and self-love. First, I've thought that this could be really hard as I'm not even know how to start to love myself. Not until I realize that self love is choosing myself more than anyone else. All the things that I thought I can't do such as eating alone, travel alone, sleep alone in a hotel room, do things alone, I finally did it and never been so happy. During this process, I learn things about myself like what do I want, what do I need, and what's the best for me. I was never been in love with myself until today. So this time, we should choose ourselves, fill our inner child desires, make time for ourselves, be kind to our selves so we could be complete and whole again. We got this! Laban ra jud ta diring dapita!

  • @TRICK-OR-TREAT236
    @TRICK-OR-TREAT236 Год назад +5

    🌴🌴< < < TOM SEEMS SO MUCH HAPPIER NOW. HE HATED IT THERE. > > > 🌴🌴

  • @SimplelifeinthPhilippines
    @SimplelifeinthPhilippines Год назад +3

    Thanks for sharing your personal life story ms.jean. everything well be better more in the future.

  • @77203
    @77203 Год назад +7

    Who cares, you are one of billions of people. Not that important.

  • @yvonnebondoc8707
    @yvonnebondoc8707 Год назад +11

    You deserved a good man…a much better one.Tom is not a family oriented like you, Tom dont want commitment.
    you are a very responsible loving woman that deserved more better. Were always here to supporr you. Stay happy, blessed & safe.

    • @dm-uc5vk
      @dm-uc5vk Месяц назад

      Tom is a good man, you have no clue about anything. Clown.

    • @Highclasshillbilly
      @Highclasshillbilly 24 дня назад

      Tom upgraded - BiG-Time...

  • @rosemaryfordham1778
    @rosemaryfordham1778 Год назад +10

    Hello Meljean, enjoy your family, enjoy your life. You are a beautiful young successful woman.❤❤

  • @joangarcia6836
    @joangarcia6836 Год назад +4

    Feeling ko dahil na din yan sa mga comments na ang daming cnasabi about tom na wla nmn talaga tau alam sa totoong nangyayari. Hoping na maging okay din ang lahat. Hoping for the best for both of you

  • @abritishexpatinthephilippines
    @abritishexpatinthephilippines Год назад +7

    A very brave young women, the journey continues....new dreams begin♥️♥️

  • @juanitamuertigue5650
    @juanitamuertigue5650 Год назад +3

    I already since that things did not work when you go home alone after your last trip together.Its really difficult to be in a relationship with other nationality when we are stiil younger.Ive been tbere too so i understand it.

  • @frankellis9627
    @frankellis9627 Год назад +5

    I think you and Tom just caught each other at the wrong time. He's still young and wants to travel and quite frankly he isn't done playing the field 🤨

  • @ryno6101
    @ryno6101 Год назад +10

    Life is the same in every country with relationships, some make it some don’t, you’re a survivor. ❤ great content

  • @sony120wx2
    @sony120wx2 Год назад +6

    His loss in All honnesty, you Are a beautiful individual and an amazing woman ❤️....if I was in toms shoes I'd never let you go 💕

  • @isagoldfield7393
    @isagoldfield7393 Год назад +15

    Someone out there is for you MJ & you deserve the best because you’re the BEST🌼💜🌸

  • @tomgerryinphilippines8817
    @tomgerryinphilippines8817 Год назад +3

    Sorry to hear wishing you both best in future

  • @susancan2939
    @susancan2939 Год назад +2

    You will find a better or just the right man for you MJ in the end. As Filipinas we are very religious, you just need to pray for the right one and you will find the right one. Give time to heal and continue praying for the right man. The Rosary prayer is a very good prayer, just an FYI.

  • @keithjeffers6214
    @keithjeffers6214 Год назад +18

    I won't say anything bad about Tom but I knew from the beginning that he didn't value you as highly as you deserve. I know he had reasons for going home, but he couldn't have done that if he loved you as much as you deserve. I'm so happy that you are mature enough to realise that this is a huge step forward for you. Have faith, you will find the RIGHT person and so will our friend, Tom. I pray you both find happiness.

  • @edwinkirkland8856
    @edwinkirkland8856 Год назад +2

    Prayers MJ

  • @melsalvacion4808
    @melsalvacion4808 Год назад +6

    I think you deserve someone better. God bless

  • @virginiaguerrero4536
    @virginiaguerrero4536 7 месяцев назад +2

    Live gos on, great memories with Tom. Enjoy life is too short.❤

  • @gladysfernandez4375
    @gladysfernandez4375 Год назад +4

    WOW I AM SO HAPPY SPECIAL
    FOR U SMART LADY
    GOD KEEP BLESSING AND UR
    NEW CARRIER ,AMEN

  • @Beapick
    @Beapick Год назад +1

    Everything's happen for a reason. God bless

  • @aliciadetuya7230
    @aliciadetuya7230 Год назад +3

    May be Lord God have good plan for you MJ .God bless you always Amen 💖🙏🙏🙏

  • @EdwardNY8
    @EdwardNY8 Год назад +11

    You know, most of the time it happens for the better. Me being a male foreigner here in the Philippines went through the same and at first it hurts but you start to realize with time it's ok and move on right. The next one will be even more amazing. Obviously if it didn't work it wasn't meant to be. Keep on smiling and always be happy.

  • @alanevancuylenburg9170
    @alanevancuylenburg9170 Год назад +3

    Your a very sensible girl wish u all the very best in life

  • @ayencapena1489
    @ayencapena1489 Год назад +2

    God bless u MJ.. U are a good person and surely u will find the right one for u.. 😍

  • @josephinesmith2011
    @josephinesmith2011 Год назад +26

    A little woman with the biggest heart!!
    You have a much wonderful life ahead M J...
    you really do.
    May the creator continue to guide and protect you always and forever.
    Much love MJ.

  • @aliciadetuya7230
    @aliciadetuya7230 Год назад +1

    Congrats MJ I'm happy that your happy now thank yo ou so much lord God Amen 💖🙏🙏🙏

  • @WorldAfterCovid19TV
    @WorldAfterCovid19TV Год назад +4

    No worries MJ...the world is belong to us...more blessing ahead of you! Stay safe and stay blessed!

  • @raymondking1793
    @raymondking1793 Год назад +2

    Good Luck and GOD BLESS YOU 😇🙏😇

  • @TheWaterman2011
    @TheWaterman2011 Год назад +9

    Hate to say it, but I saw it coming. You will be fine/Keep your head up.

  • @charlesanderson6986
    @charlesanderson6986 Год назад +2

    Stay strong time the best healer of heart ache.

  • @TheTinnman
    @TheTinnman Год назад +11

    Hugs dear lady. You are loved and admired. Be well!

  • @alanschrader1999
    @alanschrader1999 Год назад +2

    Thanks MJ for being open and sharing. I hope your healing comes in time.

  • @hughpowell3383
    @hughpowell3383 Год назад +5

    M.J. You are the most positive person you need someone who will take care of you. Someone who not so young. Anyhow, take care 🙂

  • @eanleeparkin7004
    @eanleeparkin7004 Год назад +5

    MJ time to focus on yourself and do what you love.

  • @PaleRider54
    @PaleRider54 Год назад +28

    It's Tom's loss, not yours. A better man with different life goals will come along and recognize the treasure you truly are and will give you the place in his life you're deserving of. ❤ U.

    • @Highclasshillbilly
      @Highclasshillbilly 24 дня назад +2

      Tom's loss? Have you seen his new REAL woman? Get serious....

  • @aliciadetuya7230
    @aliciadetuya7230 Год назад +1

    I know you MJ your a very strong women

  • @wilfredocordova8994
    @wilfredocordova8994 Год назад +4

    I understand. Something happened to me many moons ago like you were just going through. The good thing a few years later, I found the right person, and we have been married for 40 years. Things happen for a good reason. Trust in God he has a plan for u.

  • @ElviraSongalla
    @ElviraSongalla Год назад +1

    Jean exactly healing process is slowly but surely my wish both are like butterfly fly high Prayers most Powerful tool to recover remembered you set him free you too makes your life opened wide soon or to soon God will send you up a right man for you Good luck ❤

  • @gloofisearch
    @gloofisearch Год назад +3

    MJ, sorry to hear that. Stay strong, live goes on. Wish you all the best.

  • @asuncionafurong9399
    @asuncionafurong9399 Год назад +2

    God bless you Mj.

  • @lavonnebean8815
    @lavonnebean8815 Год назад +37

    Although it isn’t our business. But this is good news. You deserve so much better. You’re an amazing and beautiful person. Take time for yourself. God has a plan for you.

    • @ZOKUUUUUU
      @ZOKUUUUUU Год назад +5

      absolutely agree 100%!

  • @bluesysaxman
    @bluesysaxman Год назад +2

    Sorry to hear this.

  • @cathyvuelta1585
    @cathyvuelta1585 Год назад +4

    Its for the best for u to broke wt him he is not ready yet for any responsibilities n of course your still very young one day u will find a better guy in ur life....

  • @dennisharte23
    @dennisharte23 Год назад +6

    Very nice explanation. I was sure it was over but it was not my place to ask. For quite some time I felt it would not last. I did not feel that Tom was up for Province life. After i saw the vid of you two going for a shower at the well, I knew it would not last. Haha
    Sorry it did not work out. If I was younger I would come to help you along. Haha
    Keep up the good vids. I always look forward to seeing your bubbly nature.

  • @H...9346
    @H...9346 Год назад +5

    Look at it as part of self growth and experience of love.
    You are young and beautiful
    May god bless you and keep you safe 💞🇮🇪

  • @donnieprice8246
    @donnieprice8246 Год назад +2

    yes love you thank you for sharing MJ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @jennyavelino5672
    @jennyavelino5672 Год назад +3

    Bata kapa Mel marami kapang makilalang lalaki sa mundong ito:) ako 36 first time kong nag ka boyfriend sa tanang buhay ko at finally nag meet na kami last year :) pray ka lang gali na mahanap mo yung totoong tao para sayo:)

  • @patrickcoyne1046
    @patrickcoyne1046 Год назад +1

    Wish you all the best. Charming lady.

  • @ahlee09
    @ahlee09 Год назад +27

    I'm sorry you and Tom didn't work out.. but it is what it is, will continue to watch both of you guys because you guys are both amazing people.. Wish you nothing but the best 😊💖

    • @danielroydrawe
      @danielroydrawe Год назад +6

      I absolutely hate that stupid expression it is what it is. What a poor excuse for selfish and bad choices and behavior.

    • @ahlee09
      @ahlee09 Год назад +6

      ​@Daniel Drawe go tell someone who cares! All you comment is hate and negative things, why are you still here watching her vlogs if you don't like her

  • @WISERandHAPPIER
    @WISERandHAPPIER 11 месяцев назад +2

    It was obvious that it would not work out. Tom loves to travel and you are both very young.

  • @marygracebaquiran4389
    @marygracebaquiran4389 Год назад +3

    God will provide you the right man for you in Gods time OK take it easy Meljean.

  • @Scottishpinoy
    @Scottishpinoy Год назад +1

    you are still young..life must go on xx

  • @user-dw8wl9zx4j
    @user-dw8wl9zx4j Год назад +10

    Jean its a good thing that you surpass on things that you have been processed. I notice when the last time you left Tom in the hotel and return to Cebu. Just be happy am here for you to support on things you need to do. Take care always on your travel and endeavor your hard work. Focus on your moto and goal in life. 😇

  • @richardshupe1737
    @richardshupe1737 Год назад +2

    no one is surprised about Tom leaving...and no one cares..go look in the mirror and see who you really are?????

  • @michaelrenard2074
    @michaelrenard2074 Год назад +2

    Oh my god mj I'm sorry it didn't work out you 2 were good together enjoyed your travels together and food sarap hehe you're young NJ enjoy life and travel ok keep doing videos ok take care 💕💕💕😘

  • @robertdauer4723
    @robertdauer4723 Год назад +4

    Yeah, I’ve always enjoyed your blog. I’m sorry things didn’t work out but I hope that things will be better for both of you things go on.

  • @ruicosta3715
    @ruicosta3715 Год назад +2

    Good luck to u, all the best, love ure videos.

  • @beckyumphrey2626
    @beckyumphrey2626 Год назад +36

    Thank you MJ. You have a wonderful life ahead of you and are truly blessed with a great family.

  • @meleciarendon2587
    @meleciarendon2587 Год назад +2

    I was ready to cry 😢 with u ..but u didn't .. better things come for u.🙏 ..

  • @deetl
    @deetl Год назад +3

    CONGRATS, MJ - another milestone! 135K!

  • @SDted
    @SDted Год назад +2

    MJ, smile sweetie smile!!!!! Well gorgeous, where are ya taking us now?? Going to love it wherever it is!!!

  • @larry2513
    @larry2513 Год назад +5

    Greetings from Laguna Beach , California. When the right person enters into your life you’ll know. You seem to be a very nice person. Enjoy life , family , friends life is way too short.

  • @elvisparisella5301
    @elvisparisella5301 Год назад +1

    Positive hugs 🤗

  • @ricksivley7047
    @ricksivley7047 Год назад +6

    Thank you Meljean for sharing this but as far as I'm concerned, you never really needed to. It's your personal life and you oh no one an explanation. I'm glad you're traveling and enjoying yourself. You are always the star of the channel and I will continue to watch and support yours.
    🙏 For your continued success and well-being

  • @robertking5766
    @robertking5766 Год назад +2

    Mj every thing has a reason your in pain now it's natural and you are hurting but as time goes by it's going to be the best thing that ever happened to you God's protecting you good luck in life

  • @mikegggg222
    @mikegggg222 Год назад +10

    God bless you and your family and friends

  • @ukmountainbikecyclingnetwo3402
    @ukmountainbikecyclingnetwo3402 Год назад +2

    Mj I'm so sorry to hear about your brake up but there will be some that will make you happy again some day along way . Your so gorgeous hunny so don't stop believing ok .. hugs and kisses andy from uk

  • @johnyarbrough207
    @johnyarbrough207 Год назад +4

    i am a person that believes what happens is ment to be, when one door closes anouther opens hang in there it all works out for the best

  • @codykoanui5768
    @codykoanui5768 Год назад +1

    MJ you are an amazing woman and I'm sorry to hear about your troubles.

  • @jamunapatil3340
    @jamunapatil3340 Год назад +5

    BEHIND THAT BRAVE BEAUTIFUL SMILE, THERE IS AN ELEMENT OF HURT, BUT YOUR LIFE WILL BLOSSOM LIKE NO BODY'S BUSINESS, WISH U ABUNDANCE HAPPINESS N LOVE, GOD BLESS U MOMENT TO MOMENT, TAKE CARE, STAY BLISSFUL ❤️🙌

  • @Carnaza
    @Carnaza Год назад +1

    Wishing you all of the best, dear. You will bounce back and find something even greater, a true love match. You are such a high quality filipina with so much intelligence and kindness. 🙏🙏

  • @timshunamon6185
    @timshunamon6185 Год назад +3

    Stay strong!! You will find love when the time is right

  • @milcmaster
    @milcmaster Год назад +1

    Sorry to hear that, I think social media has a lot to do with breakups, its gives people a false sense of security...I just hope things work out for the best.

  • @merene51
    @merene51 Год назад +3

    Wishing you both the best in life dear MJ, you are beautiful smart sweet ladies ..God bless and stay safe always hugs 🙏🤗❤️🌹🌹🌹

  • @glennhiggins5425
    @glennhiggins5425 Год назад +2

    Such is life, you too hope remind friend Mj, personal I don't believe you need to explain your relationship relationship fall out with Tom.
    I wish you, like Tom the best in life.
    Take care Mj.

  • @richardcaldwell5313
    @richardcaldwell5313 Год назад +4

    Breaking up as a couple is not always about hate, some relationships just are not ment to be. His goals and yours do not align, it's very simple to understand. I do hope you do not build those walls to high, after all life is short and living it alone is not what people are ment to do.

  • @glasserallen
    @glasserallen Год назад +1

    I absolutely knew it was just a matter of time and I called around 4 to 6 months ago when he came back to visit and was helping you put the tablecloth on the table at your house he seemed very distant a lot of us said he seemed very disinterested something just didn't seem right about him so unfortunately I knew it was just a matter of time but it's nice to hear you're doing well and you still say good things about him shows your quite a good person.

  • @smithy2734
    @smithy2734 Год назад +3

    Heartbreaks are always tough! Everyone's had that one guy who doesn't know it's his loss, not yours. Just remember, your beautiful inside and out, and you're worth it! As the saying say, when one door closes, another opens! Expect that new door to reveal even greater wonders and glories and surprise.
    Take care and God Bless Always!

  • @nicovanderhulst1741
    @nicovanderhulst1741 10 месяцев назад +1

    🥰i love your free spirit and it will be oke

  • @elizabethmuller4604
    @elizabethmuller4604 Год назад +10

    MJ Tom probably didn't like living in the Philippines anymore but I knew that breakup was a long time coming because too many family members were involved in your relationship. It seems like you and Tom never really had a lot of privacy because family members were always walking in and out of your house all the time. Tom as a foreigner I am sure was not used to that type of life and it seems to you are a family person. MJ that's a good thing and I can see you have a good heart and wants the best for your family but if ever you are in a relationship with a foreigner again please please don't have so many people always walking in and out all the time because the relationship won't last and you would be heartbroken again. MJ this is good advice I am giving you I am not coming from a bad place and I feel for you. With time you will heal and find love again. If it's God will that you and Tom be together again try and have more privacy in your relationship or even go live in Ireland or some foreign country if you want to. MJ May God heal your heart and bless you with true love again.

    • @valmir144
      @valmir144 Год назад +2

      Wow! Finally someone talking about some of the reasons that may have led Tom to break up. Everyone seems to be taking sides with MJ. It takes two to tango so...

    • @paulruano1903
      @paulruano1903 Месяц назад

      That is a VERY important factor that would annoy 90%+ of westerners.
      Close family relationships is one thing. Which is something that most westerners sadly do not have much of anymore.
      So even that takes some effort to get used to (but great when eventually adapt).
      But having family and friends coming and going into your home constantly... THAT is a factor that almost no foreign men would be ok with in the long run.
      Especially new couples... want privacy. Not constantly visits.

  • @jacobmathew6135
    @jacobmathew6135 Год назад +1

    Prayers are with you one step at a time.

  • @trintex44
    @trintex44 Год назад +48

    The only thing I ask of you MJ is always keep smiling and never ever lose that beautiful spirit you have🙂 Stay Blessed 🙂

  • @shifter5150
    @shifter5150 Год назад +2

    Thank you for sharing

  • @Neal_only1
    @Neal_only1 Год назад +3

    It is a good idea to stay friends and let things proceed on in life for yourselves as i still feel like your both my friends also

  • @THEPAPASMURFTHEOG
    @THEPAPASMURFTHEOG Год назад +1

    i know the feeling, but god will give you the right one for you! enjoy life, and do what makes you happy my friend. much love from manhattan nyc!

  • @williamwarren9109
    @williamwarren9109 Год назад +11

    That is the reason I always be telling every woman and girl to watch out for the man you pick because when they are through getting what they want then they move on to the next one

  • @mariakonusi7281
    @mariakonusi7281 Год назад +2

    Humble person like yourself MJ God will bless you with a caring and loving person, You have a strong belief in God so he will bring a right Guy for you dear. Trust in the Lord dear.
    Right Guy will come at the right time.
    Bless you dear.
    Sending love from Auckland Nz. Take care 💖💖💖💖

  • @timg5463
    @timg5463 Год назад +23

    I have followed you off and on for a few years. I would think, what a lucky guy. I have enjoyed solo travel. There is so much future in front of you. You are just beginning to bloom. You have so many things going for you. I will only say, take your time. Be discerning in what you share about private matters. You owe your audience thanks for helping you to become successful. I am impressed with what you have accomplished. You break so many stereotypes people have about Filipinas and reinforce the most positive stereotypes. You will do well. Always remember that men have one main motive so be discerning. I would bet that in the future he will look back and wonder what if, with a heavy sigh. You are the winner. Best wishes to you from a wise old fox.

  • @1stMrSoundguy
    @1stMrSoundguy Год назад +1

    Remember life is full of learning in all aspects live love and enjoy your life its your life ❤

  • @jetPower1960
    @jetPower1960 Год назад +3

    Thank you for your honesty.

  • @JakeTheSnake500
    @JakeTheSnake500 Год назад +1

    When you're ready to start dating again, there is going to be a long line of potential suitors. Good luck!

  • @roselim1870
    @roselim1870 Год назад +3

    Move on MJ good for you. Enjoy your travelling by seeing different places and wish you best of luck dear.

  • @onknight
    @onknight Год назад +2

    I'm sorry it did not work ..

  • @lifediaries9496
    @lifediaries9496 Год назад +3

    We feel it 🥺

  • @buddylewis2743
    @buddylewis2743 Год назад +1

    I think everybody here has gone through a breakup. It's not a big deal. We all move on eventually. Then we use the lessons learned in the next relationship. Good luck with your new life and keep looking forward.

  • @TashieJ.
    @TashieJ. Год назад +3

    Napresure si Tom noon kasi sa tuwing may upload sila both sa bahay ni Mj, commentors are saying "WHY DON'T YOU PROPOSE TO MJ" and other phrases na mag asawa na sana sila ..blablablabla..which is , hindi pa ready yung isa sa ganun plan.. nasense ko na yon last year pa na baka nga kumalas ung boy dahil sa mga comments lagi na ganun.then ayun na nga😅. dedma nalang, kasi ung tipuhan ni Tom , ayaw pa talaga magsettle. Sana ate Mj, makahanap ka na ng truelove po pero don't rush.. just enjoy life lang.Silent viewer mopo ako.Ngayon lang ako nagcomment po..hehehe