I just turned 31, no kids & not married. The amount of people that ask me why am not yet married is making me depressed. Even my mom is being pressured by the aunties and fears that something is wrong with me😢 when I tell you, the african community can be ruthless
I’m sorry about this. You need to ignore. I know it’s easier said than done. I’m 32 and I’m so grateful that I don’t get that from my immediate family. I’ve had aunties say ridiculous things, but my family stands up for me all the time. Focus on your purpose. The marriage will definitely come.
@PatriciaPatrick lighting matters. I had a 700d, which is a T5i but my lighting was bad and I used the lens that came with it. Prime lenses are best to achieve good quality.
Love is not enough to sustain marriage, my older brother said this to me when I was about deciding my partner among my suitors. I really didn’t read meaning to it but now that I’m inside the marriage I now understand, all thanks to my brother
Motherhood is humbling!!! I tell myself that I am a super human because, I have been doing it with my son since birth. Both mum and mum in-law are late so I carried my cross❤❤
I have great respect for mommies who don’t have mommies to help them during early Motherhood & have been holding it down themselves every single day🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️👑
I love the consistency of the Holy Spirit. Lately, I've just been prophesying to my life, That my career shall not manifest half-baked, neither will my marriage, or my anything at all. God does not love Lukewarm, and neither will He give Lukewarm. Thanks for sharing Dear. Blessings
When you talked about single mom’s, I instantly broke down. The recognition was so genuine and heartfelt 💗 May God help us all in our journeys of womanhood and motherhood 💖🙏
As someone that just gave birth four months ago, the advices in this video are really valid. Motherhood is a such a journey yoooo nobody prepared me but I lovvve it
The calmness in your tone is what I need in my life. You said love is not enough. Well that’s because people think love is just a feeling from nowhere. So many things make me develop that love. As long as I like you and then love you, that’s everything. I love you because of so many reasons , and that’s all I need. So love for me is everything. I won’t live a man who does not adore and respect me, does not support my life’s dreams, is not intelligent, does not know, fear and love Jehovah God who is my father, has very wrong financial and moral values, is not playful and friendly, does not teach me and is not open to teaching, etc. There’s no way my heart can be yearning for you when you don’t have all these. No way! So if I love you, it means it’s not just a feeling from nowhere. And that will be enough for me. And until I get these in a man and develop that great feeling too, I’ll choose to remain single. I rather be alone and lonely than be married and lonely if you get what I mean. I need a companion and that’s the first and foremost reason behind my desire to get married. Not to have children alone. I need someone to go through this short life with. I believe he’s outside there in the world looking for me too. And until we meet, I’m not interested and can’t be pressured. Just to add, some men will claim they are all these but on first meeting he asks you to come to his house. That’s the new trend for Nigerian young men. No matter the amount of all these qualities you have, if you display that very annoying attitude to me, you can go to hell with all these qualities. But guess what, the one who truly adores me would want to take me out on a date and get to know me before talking about ‘let’s see at my place’ Till next time I’ll comment, stay kind, refuse to be pressured , stay rich❤
One thing with Kelechi you'll get quality in everything, from content to advice and she's absolutely the best. This was straight-up facts and impactful. It's how you balance motherhood and career for me. You're da best and really inspiring ❤❤❤ true God doesn't give you what you can't handle, let God take the lead. Thanks for this refreshing video Kelechi ❤❤❤
Agreed. However. age USUALLY comes with maturity because Age comes with experience and experience usually comes with maturity. However, that is not always the case like you pointed out
Thank you for this video! I'm so glad I discovered it. Really appreciate that you didn't glamorize motherhood and marriage. As someone who is in the 30s and in the early stages of dating, these milestones can feel completely out of reach. I met someone that could actually be a serious partner and now I see with a whole set of challenges I didn't even consider (money, time commitment, children, location, extended family, etc.) I love what you said about not praying for what someone else has. That's a fantastic point! My coupled friends feel envy over my single life and sometimes I feel sad that I don't have a committed partner yet. That's truly the wrong way to view our circumstances and I see that now! There were so many other great points & reflections in this video. I appreciate you. You are a very wise, rational woman. Congratulations and best of luck on your beautiful journey!
I’m learning about the ‘what you think you want isn’t always what you need’. I don’t know about where I am now because it really feels like I’ve taken a LOT of bad steps or wrong paths. I sometimes feel stunted and now I’m just allowing myself to be carried wherever because now I am just tired. Nothing I had wanted to achieve has been achieved. That’s the truth and it has been the hardest thing for me to digest. I talk to God often and honestly. He knows I am trying. That’s all I have.
This piece is so refreshing and relatable. I also wasn't ready to be married but at 24 I met my husband and we got married in less than four months. I am so praying and letting God do His thing.
@@kelechimgbemena Nne you replied me. I am so excited. Yes and I am married to someone from your town. So I am your wife. You look so beautiful and you inspire me!
@@misselle1430 it's wasn't like I didn't want marriage, I love the idea of marriage but it wasn't in my thoughts. God has his way, sometime we don't need to be ready, we need to be discerning. Thank you for asking, I love it.
“He’s not a basic God, so why should you be basic”? 😂 I meannnnnnn Preach sister!!!!! I definyenjoyed this vlog and my eyes are open for the ones after this ❤🎉
Very important information. I’m still not married at a marriage much older age than you 😅. And I’ve realized it’s for a purpose, yes maturity is not about age. I realized my friends who are first borns got married early and that’s fine, they could handle it at an earlier age coz they’ve known responsibility since they were young. Hope I’m ready for marriage now. ❤
Thank you so much for this Kelechi. God bless you. As a very young married lady with a young marriage of just one year. I can tell that this Truth should be what is taught to partners before they become a couple. People get so carried away watching what is publicised on the internet that they lose the unique blessing God has put into their own marriages. My young marriage is not on the screen and my am I having the best of them with my man. Dear people, people will make you want to marry the internet-friendly marriage, what is that? Let’s match in looks, opinions etc which matter! Yes they do but are they priority?? Some marriages are meant to complete or compensate. What really matters is what God said to YOU! about YOUR marriage. Hear it and guard it jealously Fam above social trends. God bless our marriages and future for sister interested in marriage. God bless you so much for this Kelechi ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this. I like when you Said I should pray for my own part, for my own purpose to be actualized. Also the part when you said God doesn’t give you what you can’t handle. Thank you so much, this brought a lot of clarity.❤
Thank God i watched it to the end. All i can say is thank you for sharing genuie tips on relationships marriage and life . Kelechi you are the real mvp. Godbless you lovely family.
Thankyou so much Kelechi. This video really helped me reflect on my life so far. Especially at the part where you said dont pray for what is not yours 🙏🏾 Thankyou ❤
New subscriber! Hey x Thanks for this video. I definitely needed to hear this especially as I'm in my early 20s and been seeing many weddings and hearing about marriages. Not that I've been 'pressured' but indirectly and lightly I've been feeling it somehow whether it's in the form of a joke or just situations around. This info was very much great and a blessing and also encouraging as you spoke about life too
I usually tell people around me that knowing what I know now,if I had married at 24 the marriage would have crashed. At 24 I wasnt mature at all. I felt I knew everything but i didnt know jack!!! Now i am 30 and i still ask my self,are you ready ni? Once my mind answers... I'll just hiss and think about building my self better to be a better person.
Lol you're such a mom, I love it 😊😅 Absolutely on point with all the points made, having kids will really test your marriage. Great conversation P.S watching this while putting my 1 year old to sleep Love & Light to you
Another big issue with marriage is that people dont enjoy each other and their homes before having kids. Especially kids back to back. Take the time to enjoy andearn each other before having kids.
I just turned 31, no kids & not married. The amount of people that ask me why am not yet married is making me depressed. Even my mom is being pressured by the aunties and fears that something is wrong with me😢 when I tell you, the african community can be ruthless
Hmmmm
Ignore
Chase your purpose sis
Africans are quick to pressure women into marriage & this forces women to marry in a hurry to men they should never even have looked at.
Sis, I’m in the same exact boat as you!
I’m sorry about this. You need to ignore. I know it’s easier said than done.
I’m 32 and I’m so grateful that I don’t get that from my immediate family.
I’ve had aunties say ridiculous things, but my family stands up for me all the time.
Focus on your purpose. The marriage will definitely come.
Let’s not act like we’re not noticing the quality of this video
Kelechi is really killing it while still handling motherhood
Haha!... nicee!!.. i actually filmed this video with my old camera, the canon t6i.. good to know it still looks good!.. thank you..
@@kelechimgbemenai think it's the best in terms of quality among your recent videos.
@@kelechimgbemena what was your lighting set up because I use the same camera and I don’t get that😃
@PatriciaPatrick lighting matters.
I had a 700d, which is a T5i but my lighting was bad and I used the lens that came with it. Prime lenses are best to achieve good quality.
@@kelechimgbemena definitely wanna know more about the microphone 🎤 😍
“Love is not enough to sustain marriage” my dad always reminded me of this and I’m glad I know this at age 20. 😇
There’s a lot of things that aren’t enough for marriage not just love lotta reasons why marriages fail that’s life
Your video + audio quality is always on point ❤ hello little princess
Love how you support others @sisiyemmieTV
Can we take a moment to appreciate how gorgeous our niece is? God bless her tons and your family Kelechi 🤍🤍🤍
Yeah,our niece is absolutely gorgeous 🥰
Love is not enough to sustain marriage, my older brother said this to me when I was about deciding my partner among my suitors. I really didn’t read meaning to it but now that I’m inside the marriage I now understand, all thanks to my brother
Motherhood is humbling!!! I tell myself that I am a super human because, I have been doing it with my son since birth. Both mum and mum in-law are late so I carried my cross❤❤
I have great respect for mommies who don’t have mommies to help them during early Motherhood & have been holding it down themselves every single day🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️👑
Let’s have more conversations. This was insightful.
“What you see online is just a small percent of what goes on behind. No one’s life is perfect.”
" He is not a mediocre God, so why would you think basic" ...the entire video is so beautiful and chill😍😍
I love the consistency of the Holy Spirit. Lately, I've just been prophesying to my life, That my career shall not manifest half-baked, neither will my marriage, or my anything at all. God does not love Lukewarm, and neither will He give Lukewarm. Thanks for sharing Dear. Blessings
I love that "God does not love Lukewarm, and neither will he give Lukewarm". Preach!! 🔥🔥
I’ve always heard African and Nigerian mothers are the BEST grandparents ever. Even though I’m American inspire to be the me
When you talked about single mom’s, I instantly broke down. The recognition was so genuine and heartfelt 💗
May God help us all in our journeys of womanhood and motherhood 💖🙏
As someone that just gave birth four months ago, the advices in this video are really valid. Motherhood is a such a journey yoooo nobody prepared me but I lovvve it
The calmness in your tone is what I need in my life. You said love is not enough. Well that’s because people think love is just a feeling from nowhere. So many things make me develop that love. As long as I like you and then love you, that’s everything. I love you because of so many reasons , and that’s all I need. So love for me is everything. I won’t live a man who does not adore and respect me, does not support my life’s dreams, is not intelligent, does not know, fear and love Jehovah God who is my father, has very wrong financial and moral values, is not playful and friendly, does not teach me and is not open to teaching, etc. There’s no way my heart can be yearning for you when you don’t have all these. No way! So if I love you, it means it’s not just a feeling from nowhere. And that will be enough for me.
And until I get these in a man and develop that great feeling too, I’ll choose to remain single. I rather be alone and lonely than be married and lonely if you get what I mean. I need a companion and that’s the first and foremost reason behind my desire to get married. Not to have children alone. I need someone to go through this short life with. I believe he’s outside there in the world looking for me too. And until we meet, I’m not interested and can’t be pressured.
Just to add, some men will claim they are all these but on first meeting he asks you to come to his house. That’s the new trend for Nigerian young men. No matter the amount of all these qualities you have, if you display that very annoying attitude to me, you can go to hell with all these qualities. But guess what, the one who truly adores me would want to take me out on a date and get to know me before talking about ‘let’s see at my place’
Till next time I’ll comment, stay kind, refuse to be pressured , stay rich❤
I love what you said about wishing for the lives that others are living. What others can handle is different from what God has ordained for you
Kelechi this type of content suits you and I love to see more of this from you. Love it!
True, the importance of having a loving family can not be over emphasized💯 l. You and baby look are looking great!🥰
Yes! Thank you!..much appreciated
From the thumbnail to video quality to editing to your look, everything is just super stunning!
Do not pray for what is not yours... Wow.. this was beautiful, your baby is adorable too❤️
One thing with Kelechi you'll get quality in everything, from content to advice and she's absolutely the best. This was straight-up facts and impactful. It's how you balance motherhood and career for me. You're da best and really inspiring ❤❤❤ true God doesn't give you what you can't handle, let God take the lead. Thanks for this refreshing video Kelechi ❤❤❤
Maturity is a thing of mindset, age and maturity are totally different… this is the word🙌🏽
Agreed. However. age USUALLY comes with maturity because Age comes with experience and experience usually comes with maturity. However, that is not always the case like you pointed out
“Do not pray for what is not yours” Preach
I don't know how I stumbled on this video but I really really really needed it. Thank you so much for sharing
Thank you for this video! I'm so glad I discovered it. Really appreciate that you didn't glamorize motherhood and marriage. As someone who is in the 30s and in the early stages of dating, these milestones can feel completely out of reach. I met someone that could actually be a serious partner and now I see with a whole set of challenges I didn't even consider (money, time commitment, children, location, extended family, etc.) I love what you said about not praying for what someone else has. That's a fantastic point!
My coupled friends feel envy over my single life and sometimes I feel sad that I don't have a committed partner yet. That's truly the wrong way to view our circumstances and I see that now! There were so many other great points & reflections in this video. I appreciate you. You are a very wise, rational woman. Congratulations and best of luck on your beautiful journey!
This is so beautiful, I love how peaceful and calm this video is, I am so scared of this transformation but i trust God
Your daughter looks like an angel sent from God ❤️🕊️
Love the part with the baby its fun❤,the part about loving your in-laws is perfectly said.
I’m learning about the ‘what you think you want isn’t always what you need’.
I don’t know about where I am now because it really feels like I’ve taken a LOT of bad steps or wrong paths. I sometimes feel stunted and now I’m just allowing myself to be carried wherever because now I am just tired. Nothing I had wanted to achieve has been achieved. That’s the truth and it has been the hardest thing for me to digest. I talk to God often and honestly. He knows I am trying. That’s all I have.
My eyes were just glued to that cute little princess🥰 she’s so adorable.. first tine here btw and I’ve learnt a lot
You're glowing with so much wisdom and finesse 😊❤❤❤
Wow, thank you
"Do Not Pray For What Is Not Your's"
Felt that, & had to put it up on status 😊
Always seek God's Will!
Your words hit deep. I'm at work and trying to hold myself from crying. Thank you for the encouraging words
This piece is so refreshing and relatable. I also wasn't ready to be married but at 24 I met my husband and we got married in less than four months. I am so praying and letting God do His thing.
4 Months!!.. wow!.. amazing!.. wish you all the best and peace!!..xo
@@kelechimgbemena Nne you replied me. I am so excited. Yes and I am married to someone from your town. So I am your wife. You look so beautiful and you inspire me!
I’m sure you went with the marriage cos you saw major Values in him. It’s not by how long Nne❤, Grace in your marriage ❤️
Am curious if he wanted marriage abd you didn't, why didn't you have a longer courtship to make sure you were ready ??
@@misselle1430 it's wasn't like I didn't want marriage, I love the idea of marriage but it wasn't in my thoughts. God has his way, sometime we don't need to be ready, we need to be discerning. Thank you for asking, I love it.
“He’s not a basic God, so why should you be basic”? 😂 I meannnnnnn Preach sister!!!!! I definyenjoyed this vlog and my eyes are open for the ones after this ❤🎉
Can we talk about how cute this weave is!!. beautiful video!!. your baby girl is so beautiful.
Very important information. I’m still not married at a marriage much older age than you 😅. And I’ve realized it’s for a purpose, yes maturity is not about age. I realized my friends who are first borns got married early and that’s fine, they could handle it at an earlier age coz they’ve known responsibility since they were young. Hope I’m ready for marriage now. ❤
This is so refreshing to watch. The editing is top notch.
Been waiting for this version of kelechi to have this conversation with us😭
Honest Conversations (Vulnerability Really) is the kind of content we need
Thank you Kelechi, I don't know but I feel like this video lifted up my spirit😊
Am loving this new intro and how u have it… and yes it’s a 360 channel…and YES DO NOT PRAY FOR WHAT IS NOT YOURS???thanks for this content
This video is definitely welcome, love this.
Thank you!!..appreciate!
That Peace is something we underestimate its needed in every area and i pray we all get it
I love how realistic this video is. Thank you for laying facts on the table. Kayla's so cute🥰
Our pleasure!..thank you soo much for watching!!
Thank you so much for this Kelechi. God bless you. As a very young married lady with a young marriage of just one year. I can tell that this Truth should be what is taught to partners before they become a couple. People get so carried away watching what is publicised on the internet that they lose the unique blessing God has put into their own marriages. My young marriage is not on the screen and my am I having the best of them with my man.
Dear people, people will make you want to marry the internet-friendly marriage, what is that? Let’s match in looks, opinions etc which matter! Yes they do but are they priority??
Some marriages are meant to complete or compensate. What really matters is what God said to YOU! about YOUR marriage. Hear it and guard it jealously Fam above social trends.
God bless our marriages and future for sister interested in marriage.
God bless you so much for this Kelechi ❤
There has been a tremendous difference and it's so funny how sometimes you don't notice when or how your prayers are answered.
Comparison they say is a thief of joy.
Thanks for the video.
Well said!
One more thing??? Wig dets please because that wig is beautiful 😍😍😍
Thank you so much for sharing this.
I like when you Said I should pray for my own part, for my own purpose to be actualized.
Also the part when you said God doesn’t give you what you can’t handle.
Thank you so much, this brought a lot of clarity.❤
I always ask God to help me stay in alignment with the will God has for my life because his plan is better than anything I can imagine for myself
I loved everything about this video…You’re killing it even in motherhood 🔥🔥
Enjoyed this video and love the fact you put God at the centre of your discussion🤍
Woooooooow!!! The quality, the eloquence, the beauty!! The cuteness 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Life is Individualistic. Avoid The Error of Generalization. Thank you Prof. Mrs. God Bless you Princess
You’re so beautiful. Idk how you do it with 2 babies! You’re amazing!
Honest conversation ✅️
Quality✅️✅️
Good one 👍❤️❤️
Am I the only person seeing Gabrielle Union in this look?! Amazing content btw!
I love the mood set , it keep you hooked and grounded. I love it. Do more please 🤍
You got it!...will do... thank youu!!..
Beautifully said and loving this glow on you
You dropped ALOT of Gems in this video❤
Thank God i watched it to the end. All i can say is thank you for sharing genuie tips on relationships marriage and life . Kelechi you are the real mvp. Godbless you lovely family.
Both you and your daughter are beautiful. She is such a cutie. Blessings ❤
Thankyou so much Kelechi. This video really helped me reflect on my life so far. Especially at the part where you said dont pray for what is not yours 🙏🏾
Thankyou ❤
Girl God's definition of love is everything for any human relationship.
Let's find out what it's
I love how natural this video is. Kudos mama!
I always love your vlogs but this video is just simply the best, it is packed.Thank you very much.
Love this video. Learnt a lot! Can we please get details on the hair. It’s so lovely!! ❤
New subscriber! Hey x
Thanks for this video. I definitely needed to hear this especially as I'm in my early 20s and been seeing many weddings and hearing about marriages.
Not that I've been 'pressured' but indirectly and lightly I've been feeling it somehow whether it's in the form of a joke or just situations around.
This info was very much great and a blessing and also encouraging as you spoke about life too
This is really encouraging, thank you!
Kelechi's voice has changed❤ Love you girl
See beauty
Everything is giving
Thanks for sharing
Love is not everything and not enough
Notification genggggg😻🤩🥳💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 Look at our babyyyyyyy🥹😍🤭❤️☺️🥰
I usually tell people around me that knowing what I know now,if I had married at 24 the marriage would have crashed. At 24 I wasnt mature at all. I felt I knew everything but i didnt know jack!!! Now i am 30 and i still ask my self,are you ready ni? Once my mind answers... I'll just hiss and think about building my self better to be a better person.
Ur daughter is so pretty ❤️
thank youuu!!
Lol you're such a mom, I love it 😊😅
Absolutely on point with all the points made, having kids will really test your marriage. Great conversation
P.S watching this while putting my 1 year old to sleep
Love & Light to you
Another big issue with marriage is that people dont enjoy each other and their homes before having kids. Especially kids back to back. Take the time to enjoy andearn each other before having kids.
I just love how cool and calm this was,can you please do more of this KC😊
Thank you so much❤️
God bless you for your transparency 🎊🎊
May God give you the strength and grace to take care of your family 🙏🏾🙏🏾
The quality of this video is amazing! Crisp and clear 🔥 you and your baby are so beautiful 😍 and great advice. Thanks for sharing ❤
15:04 the past 5 years have been truly incredible,definitely not what I had in mind or had planned
Wow
omg your baby is so cute xx
This video is so therapeutic.
Thanks Kelly❤️
The baby is turning out to be soooo beautiful 🥺❤️❤️
That part,getting into a family that treats you like their own… 💯
Sis! Pleeease link me up with this wig, this is probably not the place to ask, but, goodness- I'm sold on it 😍
Firstttttt offf your face card >>>> never never declined then that hair on you my goodness 😍
This is so refreshing Kelechy🎉❤️
By just watching the intro! I got so interested thank you for sharing your honesty in this video🤍🤍🥂
I love this message!❤❤❤it is giving me some sense of redirection.God has a plan for us all but we just need to let home do his thing
You look even more gorgeous as a mum Kelechi ❤, thanks for keeping it real
Wauw thank you so much for this video. Realest, transparant and honest video I have seen in times. Thank you dear Kelechi and I am a new subscriber❤🙏
God bless you 🙏🙏❤
You are talking from within and I can feel it 😊
Yeah you got it ❤
You’re so inspiring K watching you brings me peace and inner joy my spirit just connects ❤❤🇨🇲
ohh woow!!.. this is deep and i appreciate !!!.. happy it brings you peace!!,,xo
Thanks for the kind words to us single moms 🥰
See my Kay baby😍. So quiet and beautiful 😍.
This video came very timely for me. Thank you Mama Kay ❤. God will keep strengthening you baby.
Love is the pillar.
I really needed to hear this. The biggest mistake in life is mostly as a result of comparison. Thanks so much for this lovely video
You're contents are always killing it. Thank you!