Trying to make friends as an adult - Making Friends
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- Making friends as an adult can be tricky
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Mike later changed his name to Rowan, became a manager at playtech, hired a guy who looked exactly like Steve, and made his life a living hell.
I accept this
I understand everything now
every thing is NOW clear
Yup. That's 100% canon now.
Now this is canon
It's pretty sad when even the friend zone seems like an unobtainable dream.
LOL when it's something to aspire to, rather than something to fear.... 😢
Colleague-zoned... "We can always be colleagues right?
I'm the ever popular but not close to anyone.
if he asked to be romantic partners, alan would hit him with 'let's just be friends'
@@carnsolus Then clearly Rowan should have tried asking for that, then he'd have the friendship he secretly wanted. That's just basic negotiation. 😉😂
The ending of this video is actually extremely sad and depressing. Especially if you're an adult who has no friends in real life. He finally gets the courage to ask the guy if he wants to hang out/ be friends and gets shut down immediately. The worst part is they have to work with each other every day still.
All my co workers are long term best closest friends all because you work with eachother doesnt mean you cant be friends
@@princealmighty5391 From my experience people you work with pretend to be your friend so they can stab you in the back and steal your job. True story.
@@kenshinhimura9387 And then there are those who are 'friends' and get along with everyone (including other departments), sucking up to a promotion. And when they do get promoted, immediately cut ties and (try to) fire those who could threat their position.
From my experience too, sadly.
It's modern life. Most Americans don't have a single friend outside of their spouse they can confide in.
I consider myself extremely lucky to be in a committed friendship. We talk on the phone for an hour or so every 2-3 weeks. I do suspect he has another friend on the side, but it's never interfered with our friendship, so I'm not sure I can say much about it.
One of my work colleagues just randomly asked "hey, do you want to be my friend?" And 7 years later we're still friends. There is hope people, stay strong
Adults should be able to do this! Kids do this all the time, love how she just went for it!
Really? I mean this whole thing just seems kind of weird. In my experience people don't really do that. If you get on well with someone you just become friends there is no formal request.
@@simonw3858 The formal request in my experience is usually some casual request to exchange numbers like "do you mind if I text you this [screen shot, photo of a pet being silly, news article, or other fill in the blank]?"
😆✌️
@@simonw3858 Are you sure? There should be an application process and receipt of references for former friendships you've been in. After that, you'd be screened with potential interview questions such as "Sarah just threatened to post nude drunk pictures of us on social media because I ratted her out for cheating on her boyfriend last week, what do you do?"
Anything less than this and you can't be sure you're dealing with a professional friendship candidate.
“Committed friendship… we catch up every 2-3 weeks. It’s great.”
This is so true for adult friendships 😂
I wouldn't even call that a friendship.
I mean catching up every 2-3 weeks in adulthood?? That's basically living together at this point!
True... xD Everyone has to deal with their own stuff, so that's actually really not even that unfrequent in some kind of way... as long as they aren't your colleagues, too.
Man, that actually feels pretty frequent, lol. I don't understand how people find time for a bunch of friends. Between a husband, kids, pets, work, household responsibilities, etc I can't ever find the time for any friends outside of my husband.
I'm 37, and my friendships in my 30s so far have been mainly work "friendships". I understand that single friendship every-so-often type of thing, lol. This video was so painful to watch 😂😂😂
@@disconneck1363 I still talk to my best friend from high school, 23 years later! We don't talk often. Sometimes up to a few years can pass by, but we then spend hours on the phone catching up. It feels like that time never passed.
What's worse than being friend zoned?
Mike: Have you ever been colleague zoned?😢
Must be your first time around if you're calling them mike xD
@@gabek5760 lol nah I know its Rowan and Alan.
Hi! so uhhh want to be friends or something?
My name is Mike so uhhh i guess i got that going for me i guess
we obviously like the same videos on youtube thats cool right?
"I don't think we should ruin that... with friendship."
The saddest sentence I could hear in the work place :(
That would be an instant wake up call for me to leave the job at a certain moment. Good colleagues who you can even go out for a beer with are the best.
@@bastje true indeed, it is much more interesting to work with such colleagues
*sad hugs* 😢
This is akwardly relatable..... after losing lots of 'fake' friends, it gets harder and harder to find real ones when you are past 35.
I'm 31 and I can relate 100%. Wish it wasn't so
And it is strange what kind of events allow people to drop their mask and reveal the fakeness. Usually something significantly good. Misfortune seems to reinforce a mask of friendship. I don't understand that.
39 here, totally relatable. My last friend moved to another part of the country like 4 years ago, I haven't gotten any new friends since. It seems impossible. Most of my friends all live in a town 7 hours from mine.
I'll be your friend, I just need to prove your identity by your social security number possibly a bank statement. PayPal works too but I prefer a picture of the card front and back.
@@picklerick9316 😆
"I'm already in a friendship." Accurate. The good ppl are taken.
Im not lol i love friendships
The only thing they left out is telling him that he'll make a really good friend for someone, someday. There's a friend out there for him, somewhere.
actually so sad :( I just had this with a girl i really liked (in a romantic setting not friendship)
They didn't do the "it's not you, it's me" cliche
Plenty of friends in the sea.
Lol
@@MrKaurius You weren't trying to be friends with a...girl?
I'm liking that this series has established that it *doesn't* have continuity, just the office location. Gives the crew a chance to literally do any skit they want not tied down to previous skits and expand the range of their work.
How i see it there are different series one of which is unnamed but its like the real life series and not "bored"
I see as all Hamish skits as a continuity.
If it doesn't name the series, the video is usually a one-off.
Tbh, this is more heartbreaking than a romantic relationship. Having someone tell you that they can't be friends is depressing.
If it's any relief, I don't think it's anything personal. I don't date classmates or coworkers, and I rarely befriend the latter. We can be cool and all buddy-buddy, but I choose my friends based on how well we complement each other and how much I trust them. From experience, extremely few people can truly be trusted. Befriend a colleague and watch them snitch on you when you take a fake sick day to go to the beach! People are way too nosy and love to gossip about everything. I'm good on that. Often, the friends you've had since your childhood can be trusted way more, because you know they keep it all the way real. You came up the same way so your outlook on life is similar, and so on. My colleagues? For all I know they might be Russian spies trying to collect information to blackmail me or a family member with. I'm way too paranoid and privacy-conscious to just let anybody into my circle.
Yeah, growing up with psychotherapists hits like that. At some point you get told you cant be friends, theyre just doctors.
Met a guy who told me that, and I wasn't even asking.
Commonly they just dont said, cause i don ask. I mean, i see for them, it will be look like strange asking if we can be friend. Even when i ve formulated in other way, i ve just no answer. I ve purpose to a very good collegue if we can just see each other with his boyfriend (for not even make confusion) for play society game or else... And just nothing. So well. Its too late i suppose :/
@@GhostSamaritan and if you never had childhood friends?
What hope does one have after that? What if someone missed out on opportunities because they were just so afraid of the world in their youth, and truthfully still is?
My first words when trying to make friends: “So...you like...stuff?”
How about them local sports teams?
Absolutely! What kind of stuff are you into?
@@FransM89 The stuff. What about you?
hum, thats my pickup line, never works
@@KillianMajere Actually I like those stuff that have things too you know?
Never thought that there is a zone called "colleague-zoned" which is just below the "friendzone" stage.
And below them is the acquaintance-zone 🤔🙂
@@mw-hc4mi And then there's Facebook followers.......
@@ruiromao5726 Then there's stalkers...
Definitely not all of your colleagues (if you have colleagues) are actually potentially good friends as well.
Even when they pay for your coffee once in a year or you can smalltalk to them about one of your interests.
Rowan did one mistake. He should ask about being a couple 😂
Society: "The worst he can say is no!"
Rowan: "You f*cking liars..."
I can imagine plenty worse things he could say.
The worst thing she can say is no. The worst thing she can say is ew.
Her: *screenshots*
Yeah that was a deep video. Very very good tho
"haha"
"wait you are serious"
"eww, lol"
Her: *Laughs*
"I don't think we should ruin that... with friendship."
Sent me reeling!
Ouch, that hits way too close to home. It really does feel like that.
Way too close to home
@Brent Bay is spitting facts
@Brent Bay "rejection is difficult isn't it"
I reject that assertion.
Same here, friendship can be a one direction thing sometimes, super hard when you move country this year for professional reasons, really hard to find new friends
Never be afraid to be on your own. I don't have any friends but I do have my wife and most importantly I have a friend In jesus.
I'm starting to like this real life, relatable and painful series.
Yeah, really relatable and painful... xd
Yeah, really relatable and painful... xd
I don't.
HAHAHAHHA precisely
Just the palpably awkward moments that are happening in this series is amazing. I am living for this. Lol.
Guys cannot just be colleagues. One of them ALWAYS wants "more". One always wants to be friends. It's biology, mate.
It's a human thing, and no -not biology, it's sociology. 💫
There's always "colleagues with benefits". You stay colleagues, free to pursue friendships elsewhere, but you fix each others sinks and get each other coffee. You both need to be clear and honest about what you want though. Otherwise one can get too attached, want a friendship, and end up getting hurt.
@@shia_labeouf HE WILL NOT DIVIDE US
@@shia_labeouf Yea but you know no matter how clear you make yourself, eventually your COB will start to desire something more. Then you get have to do the whole "look, I'm just interested in your co-workmanship, I'm not looking for friendship" thing
@@sync4995 lmbo!!!
A few years ago, hanging out with my brother and his kids, his 4 year old walked up to another and she asked another little girl if she wanted to be friends. The other girl said yes and then they went off and played. I was like........man how easy was it as kids, we just choose to make it difficult on our adult selves.
True
I guess it is way easier as they did not learn how to backstab the other :D
Or at least you think they will so you won't let them close. That is my theory.
Nah, kids bully each other a lot. It was never easy. Rose tinted glasses etc.
when children say "let's be friends", it means "let's play now", so there's no commitment implied, it's casual, and people like being casual.
There's a person who liked me and she didn't know how easy it would be to befriend me (or at least get the chance to). So since I knew, I just started to talk about how difficult people make becoming friends nowadays with someone else near here and that people would just need to text me "hi wanna hang up". On the next day she finally texted me and I didn't even made it a topic that her behaviour was obvious and weird.
“Already in A friendship” “Catch up every 2-3 weeks”
Oof painfully relatable
Oh shit man yeah
This is the prequel to Rowan becoming a dictator at Playtech lol
Origin story revealed
Spot on. Aw but now I feel sorry for him 😑
This is why Rowan picks on Allen.
So true
OHHHH what a plot!
Rowan got colleagued instead of Friendzoned, sad.
Colleagued haha, amazing lol
I actually cried
The colleague zone does not exist
Should have asked to go out on a date so he would have gotten friendzoned
Viva la Col-League
souls crushing... i mean soul crushing.
Why are you here😂😂
Love your content by the way
Yooo never expected you to watch these guys haha
eyy
Holy fucking shit-
This is very relatable...
I'm 15 and I have no friends? This is gonna how its be?
Sadly
Is it though
Yeah.. Alan’s first mistake was going to this guys house. Don’t shit where you eat.
Turned 52 last year. Haven't had anything but acquaintances since I was 21.
This was the hardest VLDL episode I've watched for a while, the awkwardness was almost a physical force... thanks guys, now I'm crying for Mike...
Same
Yeah. So awkward. Couldn't watch it through first time I tried
This is why Rowan of Playtech hates Alan so much because he used to work at this Corporate office and got his Friendship rejected by Steve, after this he Quit, joined Playtech, met Alan who reminds him of Steve, became the Manager and now treats everyone especially Alan as Peasants because he’s afraid to open up and try to become friends with anyone ever again.
This explains so much! Lol 😂
I always thought Rowan was the way he was because he got bullied in school but this makes much more sense lmao
Steve’s getting a massive Paycut, that’s for sure
Don't think this can be correct because rowan and Allen were actually friends before joining Playtech and there are some flashbacks in which they went in to apply together
@@asassin0884 I think @Hunterpait was joking lol, most of these comments are fun and not literal bro lol
That was honestly such a stellar rejection though. Straightforward, respectful, to the point, and it drew a solid boundary line.
i love how Rowan went for a candle and at the last second "nah thats too much"
So much easier as kids.
"You like dinosaurs?"
"Yeah!"
"Wanna play dinosaurs?!"
"YEAH!!"
best friends
Everything cool until one of them beat them in a game
Yea lol 😂
@@restrom6932 when they both choose t-rex the arguments start
Who says can't still be like that.
This is usually how I bring girlfriends home overnight, but they always leave the next day. And they never wanna play with my dinosaurs:( Sometimes I feel tricked.
Getting rejected by your crush is much easier to overcome when compared to this
I done the first enough say ... no it's not.
Well basically getting rejected requires no effort
Right? Like, a crush can have any preference to base their rejection on. But this? So you just... don't think I'm cool... at all?
@@nyeowsz it requires the effort to ask,
@@ronpetersen2317 remember, they still work together and interact on a daily basis.
Besides the satirical aspect, it's painful how true this is as someone in their 30s. "Yeah, I already have a friend that I see every 2-3 weeks."
Rowan should've asked if he is interested to be in a relationship with him. That's the quickest way I know to make friends.
LoL nice play on the friend zone.
Ouch
This is the real top response.
Lmao
But what you don't recon, when they say "friends", they really mean "stay away from me, you creep". Unless they need something from you, this is when the definition changes.
My way to make new friends:
Morning, nice day for fishing aint it?
"HU HAH"
Works every time...
You forgot "HU HAH"
@@thevoid8544 Huhah, how could i forget?
If they don't get it, you don't need them as a friend 😉
Ouch... As a man who struggles to make friends, this really struck home.
Try to not be at home
Hey, hope you are doing good, it's better to have few friends that really care bout you, than to have many, but nobody's giving a shit or they just pretend.
Quality and quantity.
I hope you have a wonderful day ^^
I personally stopped trying. Over rated
I know what you mean
@@domenikkunz9798 I am so glad that nobody is giving you a shit, that is one good thing atleast.
I love how this video hits hard. Even when Mike wants a high five, Steve shuts him down with a formal hand shake. You know what? In real life it's even worse in the sense that people aren't honest. I can easily imagine many people saying - okay, we can be friends and then treating their new "friend" like trash and calling them a moron to others. In certain sense I really like this openness and honesty - "no, we can't be friends, because I actually don't care about you, you don't mean much to me". It's much better than showing fake reciprocity and trying to exploit those seeking new friendships.
Hi five? I thought he was going for a bro shake.
So true.I'd rather it end like this. I'm done of being treated as an idiot and tool. I'm just done.
i think there is difference between politeness,being rude,honesty and being miss-leaded …
I agree
Me: A friend is someone you've spend a lot of time with and connect on a very deep level with.
Some extrovert: I just met you, and now we're friends.
When you’re a kid you don’t even realise the moment you make a friend
It's cause we were more honest about things and very enthusiastic about talking to a new person. As adults we're more aware that if someone starts talking to they probably want something from you. As kids we just played together and had no idea about emotional boundaries. As adults we keep up our walls to not get hurt if that person decides to leave our lives.
Tldr: we didn't think as kids and just acted on our thoughts and as adults we think too much and don't do anything out of fear.
@@Wolf_90702 somebody's being aware of things =D
Nicely put though, I agree 100%.
An other thing as well is that the "pool of people" gets smaller as life goes on. Kindergarden/School, easy cause you're thrown together with so many random kids. Uni depends on experience, and then next is just through whatever job people get.
Some of my old friends haven't gotten any new friends in years, and I find that they're missing out on a lot honestly.
We need to be proactive though, and that's coming back to your point about thinking too much and not actively doing enough. And moving outside our circles!! Especially as the circles get smaller and smaller as we age...
I think it can be this way as an adult too. You just need to hangout outside of work. They both like PC games so they could have just played some games together or something without having to have a sit down "are we friends or not" discussion. But since it's a sketch, they do it in the most awkward way possible of course!
“I wouldn’t want to ruin that with friendship” 🤣
I love how Rowan is super proud of himself for every small "successful" interaction with Steve
Like this one here 0:34 😂😂😂
Wasn't even wearing his friendship ring so he was totally leading him on in the first place.
😂
Wait, there's a ring from friendship?
@@shichiha6138 That or a BFF necklace that fits with the other one to make a heart.
😂😂
Or friendship armbands.
Me as a 16 yr old: *talks to EVERYONE*
Me as a 33 yr old: leave me alone
Not even 33 yet but can relate.
Me: The other way around
Are you me?
exactly :D
Yes yes same here
Friends pretending to be acquaintances trying to be friends.
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I call anyone that i normally have conversation with in the internet acquaintances, not friends. Yea ;)
@@littleboss2006 I apply the same terminology to all co-workers.
@@M-S_4321 yea lol, kinda hard to trust people. Last time i easily trust people, just disappointment.
4:53 that look on Rowan’s face almost made me tear up. Some serious acting skills
Omg, this is so true and relatably awkward I gave up trying 😅
I made that same choice 32 years ago and, not a surprise, it is a self fulfilling acquaintances prophecy.
Gota colleague at my current work place... until we talked about Star Trek. Now we are frieds
Yeah same. Had 'friends' at work in every job. Got along well, some quite close. But once I left those jobs, never spoke to them again. It's different as adults, everyone has their own busy lives. Not like when your a kid and you have time to really develop the friendship. But frankly, I don't really care enough.
@@paulmccloud9395 at some point people just aren't interesting enough to make the commitment of effort, totally get you
Meh Just have a BBQ invite some established friends and family and ask the new guy. The trick is not to make it weird so it sounds like a date hahahaha
This actually hurts my feelings..... This is exactly how it is.
So they're done with Bored, and now they're doing "The Office" like skits. I love it. 😃
They're still doing Bored... the return of the Karen just dropped. It's a must watch.👍
Rowan, your acting is getting REALLY GOOD.
Always has been
He's always been a good actor.
Been has always..
Yes, his persona is often very annoying but he does it so well, mucho respesto
He is actually an actor xD
Is it weird that I feel proud of these guys for steadily improving in their acting skills?
As comedic this is, this truly hits at home. Part of UK I work from home and literally don't even get interaction with colleagues and it's more difficult than ever to make friends. You guys are awesome.
Enjoy having time to yourself. Honestly, people in Alan's situation would love peace and quiet, whereas in Rowan's position, wants to just be invited somewhere instead of enjoying the time to himself. I wrote a longer comment explaining this...
I hear you about the relentless UK lockdowns. When you're treated like a biohazard for merely standing up in a pub let alone walking over to say hi to another table.
You can ring your colleagues or Zoom, etc. Ring about a work issue then lead the conversation into something else so to build up a kinship. Surprisingly, talking about the weather can lead to conversations about other things (houses, sport,etc). I have very good social skills and have no problem talking when I have to.
@@nessuno1984 Get what you're saying - I'm a scottish lad. If I started talking about the weather they would be weirded the fuck out haha! Get what you mean though. Spark the conversation and go from there..
My wife has friends. I live vicariously through her friendships.
Tried that. The friends stay with the wife typically my man. Make your own is my recommendation
You are like my husband 😀. I myself have just a few friends, and I like sharing them. But I always try to get him to find own friends, because I think it is important to have something without your wife. I mean, what if something's happening to me? Will my friends stick to him? I guess not. So he now meets some old friends from time to time, and they grew closer again. I think, you should do the same. Just one or two friends of your own.
Omg same.
they might not be friends, they could just be other women with no one else to hang out with 😮
Rowan just got “ Colleague-Zoned “, that’s rough.
This is the most relatable rowan has ever been
Thats because its not Rowan...
ITS RODNEY!
Everyone knows you just tell someone you love them. They will always respond "I just see you as a friend." I have so many friends!
The natural cycle of life, you lose a lot of friendships over the years and it becomes harder and harder to find new meaningful connections. To all teenagers / young adults out there, enjoy your youth while you can...
I just noticed that. Must have something to do with the experiences one made. So one becomes more and more careful, picking the right ones.
It's also kind of crazy that absolutely no one tells you that.... it just hits you in your 30s. Especially if you choose different paths i.e. not marriage and kids. You become an alien.
@@BaronessStrange yeah had friends in school and now im alone =( not in my 30s but geting close 26 =( i have no idea where to meet people. in school you just got in to a group in your class but after school im like ?????????
@@BaronessStrange Well put! I remember always hearing 'enjoy youth', yet this part was indeed glossed over.
Longest 5 minutes 48 seconds of my life, this video made my heart go out to Rowan so much… then I remember he’s the manager at PlayTech in another timeline
And kids be like: Hey, my name is [enter name] you wanna play?
Other kid: yeah!
*continues to become best friends*
Am I the strange one? When i was young kids always beated each others, bullied each others, insults, jokes etc...kids are not as you old people think...years of detachment made you forget how shitty teenagers are.
Hello [enter name] can i join ?
Every time we go to the playground they make new friends
Me and my best mate became friends when I got a girl he wanted. We had a fight outside the school, Then realised we both walk the same way home which was awkward so we started talking. We literally had a fight, then walked home together. Went as far as him inviting me into his house. Met his mum, His mum already heard the news from a gossip who was a few years older than us in the same school. She literally grassed him out to his mum that he got into a fight. And then she met me 15mins later. He's a good bloke.
If we never had that scrap outside the school gates i'm sure my friend circle would be very different.
I tried that when I was like five but just got bullied by the two older kids. Since then, I've been pretty fucking anti-social.
"We should just be colleagues."
Did he just get, colleaguezoined?
If you don't ask you can't be acquaintancezoned.
The way his eye shifted to sadness really broke me.
As 35yo I absolutely relate to that. I like to believe I'm very social and empathetic. After moving to another country never would I have imagined that would be one of the most challenging things in adulthood. Ironically, it's easier to get a job than a reciprocal friendship. I think a lot of people are very disconnected nowadays and I blame that on social media since, imo, it creates this weird illusion of "being connected" to or caught up with one another.
I'm also living in another country and agree with you 100%!
same here -_-
It's not the social media. I moved before it happened and still it was close to impossible, needed to make tremendous effort, lower standards.
@@melodyoceanwind4983 definitely social media isolates people, my husband grew up in a village with barely any electricity, no phones, everyone would be outside on the side of the road, talking, chatting, eating, drinking together, but now everyone has a phone and barely anyone is outside, they are all inside on their phones. It makes my husband so sad to witness the change.
I also moved to another country bout 6y ago and altought I established roots here with an amazing wife, a baby and now job and house, the disconnection of friendship is really killing me. Making friends here has not been a great experience. Even if one friendship does stick, it's just not the same
This guy just learned that Jesus' greatest miracle was having 12 close friends in his thirties.
I guess you didn't read far enough into the Bible to know that even his disciples disowned him 3 times before the rooster crowed.
@@davidmoore5469 In the end he still had 2 left, didn't he? IIRC Paul and Mathew?
Well one of them sold him out and he got killed.
@@davidmoore5469 Then was sorry. People aren't perfect.
@@DominicEnyart I read it in Rowan's voice for some reason
It's strange watching Rowan be all nervous and unsure of himself
"I'm actually already in a friendship" Rofl. Also when he stopped him from going for the broshake, that hurt.
Damn Rowan, that’s good acting!! Felt it the awkwardness and sadness, great series guys!!
I envy our children who just run up to another child and ask " Do you want to be my friend?" and off they go.
i still do that, i go up to other adults and ask if they want to be friends and off they go....at a run🤣
@@sanssin344 im wondering how socially acceptable it would be to just sneak into a circle of people who are talking and just stand there quietly for a while and just kinda.. blending in. I actually really wish i could just be less serious and actually do that, it would be kinda funny to just pretend that i know everyone. fake it till you make it
@@nocensorship8092 I did that in highschool a couple of times. The first time they just kinda looked at me, and started talking again. But the second it was with cheerleaders, and one of them stood up to leave. Lol I don't blame her. I beat her out in becoming the captain of the team in previous years before I quit cheering.
@@nocensorship8092 It all depends on the group. I'd say most groups of friends are very cliquey and quickly recognize outsiders. So unless you have a friend in the group who introduces you, they'll probably see you as some kind of social parasite. Some groups might size you up and give you a trial run to see if you're worth letting in. While even fewer groups are either so extroverted or so chill that they don't mind strangers joining in on their Cards Against Humanity game.
I was expecting him to start crying afterwards lol
me too 😂
Like the dude on epic npc man lmao
The colleague-zone is a lie. If one of them wants friendship, then they cannot be "just colleagues". It wouldn't be a genuine colleagueship.
One of them have to quit now
The way to tell if its a true collegueship is by which greeting was used... "Hoooooarrhh there he is!" is the most acceptable colleguegian greeting. " mondays ..am i right?" , " this weather is the wrost" are also acceptable when used properly.
Noo that too close to home
I bet Allan has a whole bunch of orbiter colleagues, loaning him pens and stuff. Rowan should just move on and select someone else as coordinator for the 2nd task package of his project.
What's it mean if your colleagues got nicknames for you and you go to a bar once or twice a month to drink (pre and hopefully soon post-covid)
Once I get close to a person I just assume we're friends.
Close like on the subway?
@@Nepthu 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah it's so weird to me to ask for friendship. I never did that.
me too,but then realized sometimes its just one sided
Even worse, the so-called closeness is imaginary, but you still think this is a friendship : )
That pumkin spice scented candle, a nice choice.
From playtech ofcourse
They are ABsolutely fragrant
It's like when you have really close friends then slowly watch as they start abandoning you
It is brutal and it hurts very much
It is sad, but it happens... :(
Have you met Rowe yet? He's very friendly, because he's French.
Hahah
You mean rowan, the Black Shirt Manager?
French, friendly ? Ahahahahah
Can't find those episode - can you help please?
ruclips.net/video/XRK9WHZ43fw/видео.html
"he's great you wouldn't know him" LMAO
We make such great colleagues why ruin it with friendship 😂😂😂😂 man that’s funny
Its kinda true. Some people have so little in common that if they forced interaction, they'd quickly realize that any prolonged time together would be awkward. Unless one of them is super extroverted or likes to talk and the other doesn't mind listening.
This is why I work remote.
Being a kid: Hey, wanna hang out sometime?
Guy: Sure.
Being an adult: Hey, wanna hang out sometime?
Guy: Sorry, I'm not gay.
Me: I'm not gay either. I just want more guy friends. :(
To late, you asked already. Typecast.
More like, me: wanna hang out sometime. Guy: not unless you like smoking and doing drugs and also banging bitches
wanna hang out, chilling and watch a show on netflix xDDD
Lmao. So true and tragic..
@@aggressivesewerpipe6290 You don't just thank them for being honest and walk away? (Some people you can thank when they friendzone you)
My life as a child trying to make friends is already like adult i can't even talk to anyone without getting so nervous
Yeah, I don't even know how I've made my whole class my friends
@@Tripleblade. well thats definitly good advice and no wierd flex at all.
@@cgravis1378 oh, my bad lol
@@cgravis1378 If you really want advice from me (I which could not work at all) is to spot the similarity with the person you're trying to make friends with and start topics on that other then focusing on the differences. I dunno if ppl do this but I'd almost always focus on the difference. Hope this helps
These are so painful to watch, I love them
Holy shit that one was even more painful that the rest of wild cards
Adulthood is when you realized there are no friends. Just acquaintances and co-workers
This slaps harder than I prepared to be slapped
Wise words.
Reality check
I disagree, there are potential friends everywhere you turn
@@catlikepizzagaming8280 True..my dad be making new friends and contacts every now and then lol
"I'm already in a friendship" Lmao
Imagine friendship as tight as that lol
I don’t wanna be friends with someone don’t chuckle at the ol “beer-O’clock” joke
👍 Especially when it turned out to be 11 o'clock in the morning.
,. ,
"...do you mean in real life?" - good point. If one's job is just a grind for the money, not surprising that one tends to devalue human communications at work.
Rowan is way better than me... Because, words hardly comes out of my mouth...
You can use text-to-speech software
@@waduh09 I could use a pre-made letter or help from a friend 😂
It's Mike here. The Rowan of Playtech is in a different timeline.
Try this: Just overcome your fear from time to time and speak to people, especially if you got something positive to say, like, something they surely wanna know or a compliment. Just try it. You will probably notice that the reaction you get isn't negative at all, far from whatever you came up with in your mind about how it will go down. Maybe try to put yourself in the opposite spot: Would you be mad if somebody told me this?
You may realize over time that people in general aren't really against socializing, and many got the problem that they are afraid of doing so or simply don't know how, and that you only very rarely get a negative feedback when you tell something good or positive to a stranger. Just be friendly and respectful and you won't get into trouble at all, but you might build some wonderful new connections to people.
@@GewaltSam thanks for the advice!
"Name's Nigel we catch up every 2-3 weeks" Oof that hits too close home, enjoy your time now people, the days where you saw your friends every week 3-4 days end before you hit your 20's.
So true, I see my best friend only 3-4 times a year now.
Cries in Army
Damn.... Rowan is such a good actor I could honestly feel how awkward this was hahaha
My father once told me when I was 10:
“If you have one true friend you are very fortunate. If you have two true friends that is a very rare thing. If you have three true friends, you’re lying to yourself”
Over the decades that line comes back to me occasionally and I find it to be even truer as one gets older.
and if you have four?
@@3Clod well obviously you’re lying to yourself on the third friend so why would you think the 4th one is a friend? This comment went above ur head. Please try to think harder.
and... the fifth?
The cringe is real and relatable….he’s so awkward.
Yeah or when you meet your daily psychopath who only views you as a tool so you can never be friends.
The sadest thing is when you're past 30 you don't care about cringe, your're done with it. Takes to much effort, isn't worth using energy on cringing
@@nanach6276 how is that sad
@@declanlambert7023 Youre right! It just says ur past a certain level
@@nanach6276 Yeah, sounds like being adult ^^
I had a feeling that he was going to come back in through the door at the end, with a 6-pack, saying how he couldn't deny wanting to be friends anymore... Was kind of disappointed that didn't happen :'( .
Nah, that's not real life. A real friend tells you who they are up front. Some people just wanna be friends with others for their money...
Expectations didin't meat the reality, kind of everyday experience :D
Start paying more attention to other colleagues and make him jelaous. Then he stops takin you for granted and boom you are friends :D
cringe....
@@mkspind3l It's not even that bad dude, relax
Ew haha gross
Don't forget to give him some backhanded compliments as well.
Gaylin lliev
It is hilarious how accurate this gets as you get older.
Why this made me cry in despair?
I was joking around w/ my coworker and asked why we're not friends.. why she hates me, etc.
Now I wanna send her this but we're not close enough
I think you should send it, you even have the right name. 🤪🙃😀
Sounds kinda passive aggressive, but maybe I don't have enough info to go on.
I thought they were going to switch to an interview with Steve.
"Mike? Yeah I hate that guy."
Same
Or something like:
"Hey, I wonder if you´d like to hang out some time? Watch a game, have a few beers?"
"Uhm, help me out... What´s your name again?" ;)
"Man, all my friends are such assholes, I just wish they were more like you, ya know... you really are the best colleague I could wish for"
Alan wouldn’t want to be friends with Rowan anyway, he gets crazy when you drop his spoons.
*Playtech* spoons *
This character: Desperately trying to make friends.
Meanwhile, I do as much as I can to avoid talking to other people at work... and in general.
@Zanimations big ooof
People are overrated mate
@/ b You have to go next level, say things people don't want to hear, say unpopular opinions, stay home, don't go out, etc, etc, it will shape up eventually.
It only took Rowan 4 years to ask if he's friends with Steve? How does Rowan have soo much power?
power on what?
@@redscul129 Um... He's powerful enough to get courageous enough to wanting to be friends...? I dunno I just wrote this for the joke
Patience is power though.
*Steve
Wow, guys - that's some stellar awkward acting there. Totally nailed the reality TV vibe!
wow that was a hard one to watch. As someone that has a hard time making friends, this really hit home.
Ah fuck. One of the hardest things in life, human relationships.
Not gonna lie, this one hit hard in the feels.
I still like the introvert's way to make friends, "Do you like bread?"
I've got legs!
"I've done nothing but teleport bread for three days."
Great video. Hits the feels. So many adults have this struggle.