I can’t tell you how moving it is for me to read your comments, I want to ‘❤’ every one of them. Thank you for listening to my story and supporting me, I hope this video helps a lot of people.
Thank you for being so honest and reasonable. Those qualities are unfortunately in short supply. There are so many big problems in the world, it's absurd how obsessed people are with who loves who, and how nasty they can be about it. The only way that can begin to change is if people stand up and speak out.
As a western degenerate, I'm proud to have you. I'm straight but it takes bravery to come out as gay. As a straight person I've never had to deal with the fear you've felt. I think you should be proud to come out despite what bigots and fascists will say and threaten you with. All the best.
Wow, it's kind of amazing how similar my experience was to a young rural Russian woman. The confusion about having crushes on another guy, but thinking it was just wanting friendship, the waiting to find the right girl for me, or thinking I just had to learn to like girls growing up. Being homophobic as a kid until I finally admitted to myself that I was bi, then later admitted I really only liked guys. The loneliness and connecting with someone to have to face the fact that they're straight and could never love you the same way you love them. All that stuff is why I cannot understand how anyone would say being queer is a choice. No one would CHOOSE to go against their natural feelings and urges just to be different or "woke" or whatever nonsense they make up to demonize others. Thanks for making this video. Always nice to hear anyone that you can relate to on some level. ❤
Russia isn't a bastion of tradition values, it's really far from them. Saudi Arabia, Iran and other examples a real traditional values, and I guess, Russia will shift to their side more, as demographic crisis and low birthrates will push Russia to revive religion and traditional family values to increase birthrates
@@mrobocop1666 wtf?! In Iran they have temporary marriage that is like for 3 days to cover up for their secret hookup culture. Rich iranians have 0rgies where everything goes...traditional 😆😆😆😆
Its hard to explain. Lets just say its not a Choice. Or better - You are not the one who makes that choice. The technology o changing natural based feelings is quite complex. And its just the way worlds need you to be. Without giving you free of choice. Especially if you are young. I have studied a lot in social oriented programs and did learn a lot on how homosexuals, transsexuals and others are developed. There is powerful studies on that. Though its non-public.
Спасибо большое, Наташа! Я лесбиянка в Америке, где изучаю русский язык и культуру в моем университете. I can only imagine what it must've been like to grow up in that environment. I am so moved by your courage in sharing your story.
I actually like how you just casually mentioned your queerness in earlier videos, but I also appreciate this cultural and personal video essay that goes far beyond the classic coming out video. You're a gem. 💎
Yes, I noticed that and was pleased that it was something mentioned in passing. I like that approach. As a gay man, it is hard for us to understand that lesbianism is not just about sexual orientation but also politics about patriarchy. My lesbian friends have thankfully opened my eyes about it
@@EthanLomas Oh Friend, Its not Just about Patriarchy. Its about scientific research on how to make you feel that exact way. And development of progressive society its not what you decide for yourself (though it still seems that way) Its what is decided for you- and you just accept. If you feel that being gay is part of you- then someone choose that for you long time ago. But you are still too young to understand all that.
@@juancarlosv5136, Better to be a heathen gay than a Christian, Islamic, Buddhist, Jainist, Satanist, Luciferian, Freemason, Scientologist, Gnostic, Zoroastrian, Pantheist, Sikh, Vegan, Communist or Nazist hetero.
Exactly, I'm a straight, 58-year-old man from the USA (California), and I think Natasha's coming out is a good, brave, and wonderful thing... strong support from the evil "West"
I am a Swedish trans woman who is pansexual and aromantic myself. I am lucky I am Swedish and didn't have to grow up in a country where being myself is illegal, that would be scary.
I'm a trans-man from the Nordics too, but I grew up in China due to my parent's work. Back then the common conception was that LGBT was just mental illness as the Chinese aren't religious either. But my experience also wasn't that Chinese people weren't that homophobic to strangers, they mainly didn't want it in "their family" but wouldn't care or concern themselves with what other people did. These days Chinese laws on LGBT are actually more progressive than Russia, as there's no law banning people's self-expression, and trans people have access to medical transition too.
Soon you'll likely find yourself in a Sharia law country where trans won't be recognised at all, your actions will be punished severely as same-sex sexual activity and/or immoral debauchery
@@AK-jm1sc The Chinese are extremely pragmatic. The CCP realizes that opposing homosexuality is a losing battle because it is genetic and roughly 10% of the population will always be homosexual. The CCP is most interested in having a compliant and socially harmonious society and laws against homosexuality would inevitably lead to disharmony.
I am in my early 60s and I would be so very proud to have you as a daughter or granddaughter. I didn't find out till after he had died, but my father was gay and it absolutely breaks my heart that he couldn't feel free to come out and be his true self. I would have supported him all the way. He was an American and became a lawyer, a conservative profession, in days when it was not possible in the US to be openly gay and in a profession like that. His best friend in law school came out as gay and was immediately fired from his law firm and ended up being a hair dresser - one of the only professions where it was OK in those days. My father went to work for the government in a position that let him have his entire career be overseas (I think he just wanted to escape his background), so I grew up mostly in Asia and Central America, but we were constantly traveling to Europe, Estonia and Russia, as my mother was Estonian and my father was obsessed with Russian culture and history (taught it at university after he retired from law). I also did my graduate studies in Slavic Lit. and lived in Russia for several periods of time before I married. I know well how homophobic the culture is. Horrible!! Very glad you got out. I also totally relate to how you feel about having children and your reasons - I knew from a very, very early age that having children was not my path. My husband is fine with that and we have very happily had only fur children (cats and dogs). It's been ideal. It's not critical to have children and too many people have them just out of a sense that that is what everyone is supposed to do. Not! I love children, but my heart is totally full with my life as it is and with our extremely beloved fur kids. Anyway, I have great hopes some wonderful young woman will see this video and contact you - whoever you end up with will be quite lucky. And I hope you are able to find a profession that will make you happy and soon be able to live in a country that is open and accepting of all.
Thank you for sharing your story. When people don't want to have children, others always assume we hate children. It's just so stup*d! I like children and I loved to work as a teacher. But, motherhood is simply not for me.
I live in Russia, I'm aroace and non-binary. I don't face a lot of xenophobia since for most people I pass as a cis man (because, well, I'm amab), but I came out to my parents and some irl friends, and it was pretty okay. The only thing that really frustrates me is the fact that in Russian we cannot use singular they/them pronouns, it just doesn't work. So 80% of my time I mostly play VRChat and talk with people from Western countries, because even though my parents and friends support me (or rather, they don’t judge me for being who I am), they don't actually understand what it means to be non-binary (agender, in my case), because... how would they know? I'm most likely the only openly queer person they know, and if they are cis and straight, then they most likely will not going to look for any information on this topic. So yeah, being queer is always hard, but it's even harder to be queer and live in Russia at the same time. I wanna move soon but for now I'm just 17 y.o. and I want to wait until at least 18, because I don't really have a lot of money or other resources I can't leave without. To be honest, I know that I'm not in a very bad position, and a lot of queer people face way more problems living in xenophobic countries, while I live in the most decent city in Russia and I've never faced any problems because of being queer, even though I have some queer (mostly aroace, trans and non-binary) and furry stickers on my car (which I cant't use on the roads yet because we can't get a license until we're 18 here) and electric scooters (I have four of them because building custom e-scooters is my hobby lol). I don't know why I even wrote this, but I wanted to speak out. Stay safe everyone.
As an Irish person, I must say I've always had a fondness for the Russian furry community. All the videos I've seen of cons you guys have up there just have such an earnest and lovely vibe. I was thinking about going to one of them before the invasion happened, but it looks like that won't be happening now. I hope the Russian furry community is doing ok. I know a lot of artists have had a tough time getting paid.
Hey! I am also nb an from Russia. It's always nice to know there are people like me here (the struggle with they/them is very real). And you seem like a genuinely cool person, too)
As a straight man from USA, I also APPLAUD your bravery. I have watched your videos from the beginning. You have a talent of communicating your insecurities and anxieties. Thank you for allowing us a window into your life!
Kinda ironic that they ask how you can be lesbian without ever being with a man once, but how can he know he is straight if he has never been with a man once?... that logic makes no sense.
Thank you for your courage, Natasha! Talking to thousands of strangers about this could not have been easy. As a german transfem person, I just want to share some love with you, and please know, that there will always be people like us. And we, the LGBTQ+ Community, support each other wherever we can. In my city we recently opened a queer Group for russian speaking people, and it has been really heart-warming to see how lovely some can be, once they know they are safe where they are. There was even a wedding between two of the group, and the pictures were just soo cute! You got this, I wish you the best of luck, you have a beautiful soul
As a Russian bi man of the similar age, I can say it was very endearing to randomly find this channel and this video in my RUclips feed. Thank you for being strong and open about your sexuality ❤ Especially now, our younger compatriots are definitely in need of images of queer bloggers to associate with! Also, it is great that people from other countries can see Russian queer community directly and know about our struggles
Believe me they do see you. But also does the traditional system of Russia. Which absolutely anti-liberal. Its just that it hasn't yet developed enough to treat you as a third class citizen. They can develop in to real oppressive system with anti-gay agenda. like easily.
Oh believe me. They do see it. But.. Russian Government does too.. So if they decide one day that there need to be purge in the society.. Nobody would be able to stop them. And if they need be able to force traditional values on queer men and women they would do just that.
wow. did not expect such a vulnerable video. well you are always vulnerable but this was especially personal. gay guy here from New Mexico. you curate such unique and thoughtful content.
@@michaelhoudecki3657ah you mean the content in the bible, yep, that is really ridiculous that they allow access to this rather ruthless literature in libraries 😂
Молодец ты! Мы с женой так гордимся тобой, Наташа. Спасибо, что поделилась всем этим и с нами и с миром. Ты, как всегда, невероятно смела и сильна, и мы надеемся, что со временем и с твоей семьей станет легче, если ты так хочешь. Всего теье самого самого наилучшего во всем!
Thank you Natasha. This will help people have a better understanding of what it’s like being gay in Russia or elsewhere. Growing up in Russia in the 90s ‘gay’ was pretty much a derogatory term. But then you grow up and realize that the world is bigger and more complicated than you could have ever imagined. Everyone is different and it’s great. I’ve had a friend for 10 years only to recently discover he’s a bi. Did that change anything? Not at all. Whatever rocks your boat as they say 😊
@@suedove2416 sadly so. There was a short period when things were slightly looking up though, 2004-2013 probably . That’s when Russia was experiencing an unprecedented economic growth. And was too busy to hate.😊
@@suedove2416 Its different culture. In protection of Natural Traditional Views. And destroying everything that is not. It goes as long as its history.
Cannibals will be cannibals, Bullies will be bullies, alcoholics will be alcoholics, moochers will be moochers, untrustworthy will rationalize the same again, etc.... What range of personalities makes a successful long lived society?
@@rustyyb8450 For one, not comparing a consentual relationship between adults to alcoholism, bullying, cannibalism and so on. I'd say that's a good start personality wise.
спасибо, что ты поделилась своей историей! ты безумно смелая и очень горжусь тобой, то что ты выложила это уже дает надежду многим❤️❤️❤️ я как би из россии даже не могу сказать об этом своим друзьям без страха быть отвергнутой, что говорить про родителей, поэтому я очень рада, что больше и больше наших ребят готовы рассказать о себе, больше информации- меньше стигмы спасибо тебе большое и продолжай в том же духе!❤️
Друзьям, которые умеют принимать жизнь разной - сказать стоит. Родителям.. зависит от того не причинят ли они тебе вреда. А вот просто люядм на улице, работадателю или учителям.. наверное не стоит. Они часть той системы, которая все силы приложит чтобы исключить вас из общества. Что поверь мне, не очень хорошая ситуация для взросления. Держи в тайне от всех, кроме тех, кому точно доверяешь.
Please never be embarressed for being who you are. Thank you so very much for sharing this very personal aspect of your life. You are an amazing young person. Always be proad of who you are.
Man i have to say Natasha has balls to put smthg so private online to the whole Net. I'm happy for you Natasha nothing is wrong with this and we dont live in the medival age anymore.
She’s a woman and does not need balls at all. I know you meant it as a compliment so no hard feelings. It’s just a stupid expression in my humble opinion 😉
As a straight woman from the degenerate west, I’m proud of you for having the bravery to speak your truth online to thousands of people. Saying you’re lesbian doesn’t mean you’re “promoting” it to children. Wtf. It’s not Covid. Live your life and be free and happy and love whoever you want. Wtf are morals. I hate that term. It’s like the word normal. What’s normal for me isn’t normal for someone else. Fuck the morals of others. Be you and be happy. Sending you tons of love my friend
@@DavidSteiner-dt6zsI think you may be conflating ethics with morals. Morals are the product of culture and mores which is also the Latin basis of the word itself. Morals change over time whereas ethics are philosophical tenets.
Children have access to RUclips. So it does promoting if she mentions why she likes being Lesbian and what Benefits are of being one. Its exactly promotion. But.. In this special case its more about private story.
I remember the first time I noticed you identify as one of us (LGBT) and I thought it was cool how you just kinda casually dropped it into your video and moved on. I just love you Natasha, you are the best!
@@martinsv9183Religious indoctrination such as Christian nationalism and Islamist are serious issues that ACTUALLY happen. Nobody is forcing kids to be gay like they are forcing people to be Christian
@@Tom-vk6ijIt's also not okay to tell your kids who they can and can't prefer to be attracted to either because that only ends up making them hate you in the end.
@natasha, I'm so sorry to hear about the troubles you've had with your family. My sister came out (in the US) in her 30s. Despite this, our aunt, who we were always close to, didn't come out for years. Even when she invited my sister to the retirement community she lived at which was for lesbians only, she still was so nervous and scared. My sister told us how she still wouldn't say that she was a lesbian, she still called her partner of over 40 years her "roommate" and she died never having opened up much, even to my sister. I can't imagine how much different things would have been if she were allowed to live freely. I want to see the world change so that everyone can be free to be who they are and not need to hide. I know I'm just one of your many followers but I'm very proud of you and sending love from the US!
@@ronaniogreyzone3518 why does the world have to stay traditional? You can keep traditions alive in your family and/or community without it having to harm others. When a government mandates and polices culture it's only ever detrimental. That's not hyperbole either. It damages the ability of that society to grow, adapt, innovate, and evolve. It damages it economically, culturally, educationally, and it harms vulnerable people, i.e. the people that help societies adapt and survive. The Amish in the US are a society dedicated to what they see as strict traditions. Some of these are really healthy, however some are incredibly harmful. More and more young people leave because they want freedom of expression, there is also a lot of abuse that isn't addressed, and their isolation from "the English" has caused a number of genetic disorders to flourish. I've got nothing against them as a group but if their ways were imposed on the entirety of the the US (where I live) by the federal government I would have big problems with it. Again, I see nothing wrong with individual Amish people. However the "traditions" they're preserving often lead to serious abuse. They're known to abuse animals, overworking horses at too early of an age, over-breeding and inbreeding dogs in puppy mills. Additionally, their "traditional" patriarchal society hides sexual and other types of abuses to the detriment of a great many of their community members. The US as a whole, being in many ways obsessed with conservative values, already has loads of similar issues with institutional abuse and structural protections for abusers. Thankfully it's not being promoted by (the entire) government (though one party would like it to be). Whereas Russia, under Putin, has taken on a structure similar to what American conservatives would like - promoting "traditional values" which are not heartfelt and only used as a means of control. What I'm saying, (in probably too many words), is that it's not really a dilemma. For example, people are free to pray in schools in the US, but forcing everyone to pray, that's hugely problematic. It doesn't reinforce said traditional values, it only creates a climate of fear and repression. So, in that, there is no dilemma. Be as trad as you want, just don't try to force others to do the same. Cheers!
@@WDOphotography Such a along sentence, or better monologue. I need few more chapters of that story If you please. Because nature itself is traditional, if you find that nature develops in a progressive way -let me know. Okay.
@@ronaniogreyzone3518 what??? Nature isn't traditional or progressive. It's nature. Stop trying to apply humanistic terms to the natural world. Nature is chaotic and what works continues to do so while what doesn't falls away. There isn't anything inherently political about that. Everything else can be viewed politically but nature is the one thing that really can't be.
Im Russian, who has also immigrated unfortunately due to the war. I'm straight. Shame on the people who make you feel uncomfortable for being who you are. I can't stand people who think that sexuality matters at all. You are who you are without or with being Lesbian, and all 370k (and more of us) love you and your content nonetheless. These people are what is driving our proud nation into the ground and our culture along with it. Они даже твоего внимания не заслуживают, Наташа. И от всего сердца вы потрясающий ютубер! Keep doing what you do.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 господи, соевые. А теперь открой и почитай решение суда оон от 31.01.2024, образовывайся. Там черным по белому заявлено, что рф не страна агрессор. А потом приходи и ной про «из-за войны». Спасибо скажи демократам в сша, педофилам в германии, нацистам в верхушке у прибалтов, фашистам и петлюровцам, шухевчиепочитателям из украины.
Its good that Straight Russian Citizens accept the diversity surrounding them. We are proud of you. But have to say.. Its not about love.. no no no. Not about sexuality. Its only about demography. USA doesn't care of how many families are built, too may states. But in Russia - well its all about forcing women to get engaged and to give birth to as much children as they can. Its all integrated deeply in to Governments and Social Roots.
As a homossexual man, you re beautiful and I I wish you find your girl and be happy (forever if possible)! Don't pay attention to the comments from malicious, ignorant people who don't have a life and who are heterosexuals who come here to speak only with their heteronormative vision and which doesn't matter at all! Don't care and move on with your happy and complete life! Lots of strength my young lady!
The only 'traditional values' I can think of when it comes to Russia is bullying, paternalizing and oppressing. And what goes for personal relationships also works for international.
@@HaleG9imagine the problems and sizes of complexes when US will soon become former superpower, Latin American cartel shithole due to demography changes and fall of values, morals and discipline
@cottonrabbit1685 Russia should be compared to the far-out and mostly frigid planet Pluto, in land size; the city of Hong Kong in wealth; Guangdong Province of China and the City of New York in GDP.
I'm a gay gay from the UK and I've had a lot of trouble with people hating me since being a little kid. I've always been feminine and this caused other kids to call me yes you guessed it "gay". Seems like they knew I was gay before I did 😂. As I got older as a teenager I liked wearing make up sometimes, loved styling my female friends hair, and sometimes I wore female clothing, again I got hassle from people, mostly from strangers. People are more tolerant here now compared to back then 20+ years ago. And so I'm 39 now and I'm still interested in all things "bright and beautiful". It's who I am, I feel I was born this way and I make no apology for this. But I couldn't imagine living in Russia, it must be even worse for LGBT people.
@@hivetech4903 I think the only time when that will happen is when misogyny is truly eradicated because that is the root the problem, women are looked down upon on and so are feminine men too. People see it as bad thing and not to be respected or taken seriously unfortunately. Masculinity is seen as far more superior.
@@The1n0nIy1 Thank you for identifying misogyny as the root of the problem... many people don't, and I think that's why the LGBTQ rights discourse can be so toxic at times 😢💓
Speaking as a queer Canadian, who only identified as such myself in recent years (~10 yrs ago?), I am delighted to hear that you are out of Russia and can live your authentic self now. I'm not going to split hairs, I definitely had a more supportive upbringing than you, it seems, chock full of that 'western corruption'. I was born in the 1970's and my parents were pot smoking hippies. I grew up during the Cold War, when even over here, there was lots of propaganda being spread by the government (as in the Soviet Union), thank goodness there was no internet then? It has recently been revealed that there are Russian state-backed media outlets over here as well, and wouldn't you know it, they are supporting the politicians who demonize LGBTQ people. Also, I grew up with a very atypical life for 1980's North America. As in, I was raised to believe all people are worthy of love, love is love, and not to judge others. Society was still (fairly?) bigoted back then, and thus many in my generation (Gen X) didn't even realize about ourselves until later in life. But at least, in 2024, we can live in the open here without fearing government/police/societal persecution (at least not legal persecution...) I now identify as 2S/demi/pan; and I consider myself blessed to have had several LGBTQ friends when I was a young adult in the 1990's, when it was still 'taboo' here. I didn't care (as a neurodivergent, I never cared for societal norms, and am as shy and reserved as you are), and I found the supportive nature of these friends and others in the LGBTQ community very refreshing. Keep on keepin on, keep being your authentic self Natasha, you are free now! :)
Exactly! A place ( ruzzia is no country!) where hate is the highest good on everydays TV shows could not make any claimes on "traditional values", that's pure nonsense! Values are in conjunction with humanity, not thinkable without each other. What the kleptographic mafia gang in the kremlin is doing to it's people and the world is beyond insanity! And this insanity lasts for centuries, only interrupted from short moments of hope (Gorbi!). Optimism for change in ruzzia, building up a modern, open and humanitarian society is nearly fiction! It will last many decades, needs brave women and men and a very long breath, to finally have a chance! I'm not the only one who think, ruzzia will and must fall apart to turn in a other, better direction! Hope dies at latest!
The Soviets killed all religions in Russia. It’s only natural that there will be a swing to Religion and traditions after the collapse of communism. Something had to fill the void….
Love to look at your video. I feel sorry for you being lonely, I have been lonely myself for most of my life (I'm 73 now) so I know what it feels like. In my old age I found a woman who I have been together with for ten years now. I know that you will find love, because you are such a fine person, so don't despair.
hilariously funny and stupid at the same time...but, i'll answer the question: our existence is not due to God. it is due to aliens...and so, there's going to be a middle ground, where genes are not variable, but duplicated...
It takes courage to make a video like this. You're always an inspiration, Natasha. I'm a (maybe not 100% but for all intents and purposes) straight man from the other Georgia in the USA. There's a lot about your life experience that's unfamiliar to me, but I definitely know what social anxiety feels like. And I also do the thing where I endlessly review all of my social interactions and cringe at my mistakes over and over again for years. Not fun!
Hi Natasha, Well done for making what must have been a difficult video. It is not so long since the UK as a nation, had similar views towards homosexuality, as Russia (and any number of other backward facing countries) still impose today. It will take a generation or two to be rid of the bigoted society - assuming the current regime is ousted in the next few years. It is only in the last 25 years that homosexual people have been allowed to serve in the UK military. I wish you all the best of luck in finding someone who deserves you. Whoever ends up being your wife, will be a lucky girl, because you are a wonderful person. Jim, South-West England. PS: I loved your line about Russia having so many 'same-sex' relationships - "Mother & Grandmother"... Brilliant x.
I appreciate how candid you are about loneliness, anxiety, and being lesbian. I can relate to each of these, and I often find myself spiraling in negativity before I fall asleep. To hear that someone else is also feeling these things is somehow a little bit comforting. ❤❤❤
Regardless of where you were born, what your faith is, what your gender is/preference is; you are who you are. There is no right or wrong way to live your life. The only one that counts is how you live your life. If you are honest with yourself and live the life that makes you happy, then I am very happy for you. So, enjoy life to the fullest, Natasha.
Keep on doing what you are doing! I am a man and was in my mid-fifties before I met my wife. You are right - be active, exercise, walk, hike, ride bikes, go to the library, book clubs, cofee houses, walk in parks, go to art museums, galleries, take art classes, learn to play a musical instrument... be comfortable in your own skin. Loneliness sucks but, being in a relationship that doesn't work is worse! Thank-you, for being brave and sharing your story! from the USA!
Thank you! People recounting these very personal stories are so encouraging to us all. Life has so many twists and turns, yet is, I suppose, to be lived as fully as possible.
I never comment on RUclips videos but I want to say that I admire your bravery on so many levels, including being out and open in this one. You are an amazing human.
I wouldn't call those 'traditional values' call them barbaric values.. Traditional values should be reserved for things like: chivalry, gallantry , sense of responsibility, diligence , etc
So you call everything that is nature developed a Barbaric Values.. I see only bad knowledge on your side. Yes, everyone can be bisexual. Its part of nature. And NO - if everyone would be bisexual - we would die out. As Boy+ Boy = doesn't equal kids, Girl+Girl = doesn't equal kids. To have cellular fusion you need two unique groups of chromosomes, only then if genetics accepts your offering Girl+Boy Can have kids. And in our days.. even then them might not.
Наташа, спасибо! Я лесбиянка, причем феминная, поэтому если ничего не "афишировать", то никто бы просто не знал, жила бы тише воды, ниже травы. Очень многое мне отозвалось - про гомофобию в прошлом, bi phase, ожидание отношений с девушками в "лучшее время" и чувство одиночества и alienation из-за сложности найти отношения, пока все вокруг перевстречались (это у меня все еще на месте). Только молчать я устала, так проживать свою жизнь я не намерена, настолько много литературы о том, что гомосексуальность - это норма, что я просто теряла время на самобичевание и резко решила это прекратить. Я переехала в Швецию пару лет назад и стало НАСТОЛЬКО легче жить. Я представить не могла, что смогу вот так свободно говорить об этом вообще с кем угодно - от коллег и однокурсников до новых друзей. И всем вообще все равно. У меня даже круг друзей стал полностью состоящий из квир персон самых разных видов, это моя максимально естественная среда. Иногда какая-то перемена локации меняет всю твою жизнь с ног на голову из-за людей вокруг с другим менталитетом. Меня просто порадовало, что есть еще один человек, чем-то похожий на меня, и говорящий о своей ориентации напрямую. Дефолтная гетеронормативность и стереотипное мышление о том, что все вокруг - гетеро (особенно женщины), пошла сегодня на все четыре стороны, в очередной раз. Любви тебе и удачи со специфичными родственниками и соседями (у нас всех они имеются и они не имеют никакого права портить нам жизнь)! 🩷
Thank you for sharing your story, too. ❤ We LGBTQIA must stick together, no matter how dire the consequences of dictatorship can be. One day, we will see change. And hopefully for the better. I pray for all the innocent people in Russia that didn’t ask for this chaos, and didn’t deserve to be ostracised. ❤
Это ненадолго, демография в Швеции меняется так быстро, что скоро у вас будет эмират, и римско-германское право заменено шариатским, по которому за однополые сексуальные отношения и просто секс вне брака будет следовать жёсткое уголовное наказание.
Honest, brave and articulately stated. Thank you for sharing your perspective on these issues in the region with us, as well as your own story as it pertains to such. You seem like a lovely person Natasha, and I'm sure you'll find somebody special because of that.
Dear Natasha, thank you for sharing your life's story. When you talked about loneliness, I felt the need to tell you a little about my life. I had my first girlfriend when I was 16 and have been in a relationship ever since, always shared my life with someone, never had it to my self. I was married and got divorced a few years ago. After that, I thought my life would be hell because of loneliness. But no, I finally had my life to myself. For the very first time, my life belonged to me and to me alone! I changed so much and started exploring who I am and what "material I am made of". My life exploded in a very positive way. Relationships can easily suffocate your freedom to explore your self.
As a queer person that has watched your videos since more than 3 year, thank you sooo much for this video! 🏳🌈 I picked up your queerness pretty fast already 3 years ago, (visiting gay club in russia, randomly showing rainbowcolered stuff and queer books ), and it made it you just even more relatable❤ Even tho I lived my whole life in western europe, the stuff about your family/mother and about dating is very similar to my experiences but I was never able to put it so good to words like you did, thank you for that! One thing to add: For me tinder and bubble feel very toxic, I had better experiences with queer focused dating apps ( example "her", no idea what apps are used much in georgia), but even there online dating feels toxic. I think it's a sentiment that a lot of queer people (especially in oppressive societies) share 💔
This is one of your best videos. Those of us who have followed you for a while have seen you share how you move through the various stages of your life and find joys and also deal with its problems. I am glad that in the end you were able to talk with such apparent ease and maturity, about this while making it clear how much it has cost. This is the real you, and I think a lot of us are here for the authentic you: appealing, open/approachable, unassuming, a little vulnerable, but also immensely wise, a great sensitivity and resourceful. This film, with its highlights and lows showed all that and more. Thanks. I think quite a lot of us had already worked it out already a long time before you left Russia and accepted it as part of the whole picture. And that's why hearing your own perspective on it and what issues it involves for you, was really interesting and worthy of our respect. I loved the necklace.
I remember when Natasha visited some hill near Kabarovsk with a friend that it clicked for me: her weird sense of humour, her butch attitude, definitely not completely straight or cis.
I appreciate that you made this video. Always, always, always love yourself for the person you are. You're clearly a person of authenticity and great compassion. Watching your videos, I've always admired your strength of character.
Your story is heartbreaking on so many levels. You are perfect just the way you are. I am so glad you are able to now live your life as you are and without abuse. You are strong and brave, and a role model to so many. Sharing your story is so important, there are many queer youth out there who need you to.
Natasha, I can't tell you how much I admire your authenticity and courage. When I watch your videos, I feel like I'm having a fascinating conversation with a friend whose life experiences give me an insight into a part of the world that is very different from my own. You are beautiful and smart, and you WILL find the woman of your dreams. Hopefully in the near future! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Much love from Aotearoa (New Zealand)
I’m so proud of you Natasha! I remember I was also so worried about never finding someone special when I was your age. As soon as you stop focusing on finding love and just focus on finding and loving yourself, the right person will find you. I promise! You have a great heart and a unique perspective and the world needs more people like you! Пока пока 👋🏻
It's so powerful to hear you candidly discuss your insecurities and challenges, because it can give so much hope to others. If someone as intelligent, thoughtful, and beautiful as you are can deal with loneliness and difficult finding the right partner, it helps so many others realize their similar struggles are not because they don't deserve it. It's so easy when you're alone to feel like it must be because you're not good looking enough or charming enough to magically draw someone to you. But there are so many other factors involved that are beyond your control.
@Natasha : Don't feel bad about now having children. It pays off. My wife and I decided not to have them and live our lives to the fullest instead. We are close to retirement age. As working class youth we barely had means to survive, pay housing etc. Not having kids made things easier, and we managed to have fun with each other and our friends, led a good life and finally get a small house and good jobs. It's not "seflish" not to have kids. You can't be selfish towards persons that do not exist.
So the wonderful experience of life that your parents gave to you , you deny to your as yet unborn. This is the absolute height of narcism and selfishness. It is a pity you were ever born.
Who will take care of you? At some point there will be only one of you and when the last one gets too old or gets sick there is a problem. It is always nice to pass on your experiences to your kids and have the memories pass on. In a way we live after death in the hearts of our kids something of the family passes on. Those who can not have their own kids should adopt a child into a loving home.
@@maxheadroom1506most people in Western societies end up in a nursing home, should they be fortunate enough to avoid premature death through disease and survive to ripe old age. You will be looked after the same there, whether you have children or not. As a gay man now in his 60's, it was a source of regret to me that I didn't have children when I was younger, but where I live, that wouldn't have been an viable choice for me when I was at the appropriate age. The world forgets that Western countries were once as homophobic as Russia is now and it really isn't that long ago in the great scheme of things. In the 1980's, the UK passed under Margaret Thatcher, a law known as section 28, prohibiting the "promotion of homosexuality. " Teachers couldn't discuss it in the class with teenage students, even if several of them may have already identified as gay. Nor could they self identify as gay at work, and men and women were hounded out of the army with a "dishonourable discharge" if found to have engaged in homosexuality. At my age, I'm not too worried about the fact I had no kids, and when straight friends describe the hassles their kids are creating for them, I often hug my dog and say "I'm so glad I only had puppies."😂
@@seandoherty925 kids will respect your wishes and you would not feel alone. As far as problems with kids well you just hear the bad things there are a lot of ups raising a good person.
Dear Natasha, I have been following you for so long and understand your sense of realism, which you can explain in great detail. I recognized much of that as a child to adulthood, while I come from the Netherlands. The only difference is that I am now 68, father of two lovely daughters and grandfather of 5 grandchildren. An educational tap, as it is often called, was standard in the late fifties and early sixties. Even a teacher once smashed a one-meter ruler on my head. I have the feeling that the development through Russian propaganda resembles this fifties and sixties in the Netherlands. The dumber you keep a people, the more you can control them. However, they forget that it is precisely these lies in their propaganda that ultimately make a people realize that something is wrong. And that raising children becomes a lot easier without this educational tap and ultimately results in adult children who like to visit their parents. You cannot simply erase a past, that is something that will continue to trigger and remind you of your life. What you can do is accept what your past has been and cherish the (positive) lessons from it for yourself for the rest of your life. That you finally dare to come out that you are a lesbian, is courageous and nothing more than a logical consequence of development. And you have mentioned this several times. That your mother through indoctrination of Russian authorities is bad, but has nothing to do with the pure reality, that you are a daughter of hers. She carried you for 9 months and raised you, to the conscious woman that you are now. If we no longer influence our children, with rules made by policy makers, our children will become social and loving people, who respect others and spread peace. Because we will live purely untouched, much more from our intuition. And that is not one of struggle and prejudice. At this moment you are still too much rationalizing different thoughts. Try to reduce that, more fixation on the positive developments in yourself. You have to move forward Natasha, have confidence and accept life in the moment. Do not be too fixated in your search for a relationship. Because I know that there is a woman who is waiting for you and where you will become happier. If you can create peace, then a meeting with a real click is much easier to become aware of. I will continue to follow you, on your way to tomorrow. I think you are fantastic as a person, woman and friend.
Thank you Natasha for sharing your perspective on such a sensitive and personal subject! I support and can relate to you in so many ways despite our life paths are wildly different
I have been following you since pretty much the beginning of your journey. I have very much enjoyed all your posts and have found you so engaging. Please ignore the naysayers and critics. You are courageous, smart, and delightfully humble. Keep up the good work!
This was so cathartic to watch, thanks for sharing all this Natasha! I found your thoughts on lonliness so relatable, like of course I need to be happy without a partner first, and a relationship won't make me happy per se, but that's not very accessible advice if you're chonically lonely and depressed. My experience hits a lot of the same highlights actually: the rhumination, not wanting to go to bars, the miserable experience of trying to use dating apps if you're not someone who naturally gets tons of engagement. I can't use do it anymore, using those apps makes me so sad and hostile towards people. I think (I hope) that I can have the same solution, just *do something*. I think I just have to pursue the social things I'm passionate about IRL and hope I meet something who cares about the same things I do. But it really lifted my spirits to hear about some of your personal life and see you've felt the same way, so thank you! 💙
You are such a beautiful woman with many delicate features. you may have broken the heart of many men by that statement from the beginning, for sure, but it doesn't matter because love must not have boundaries. I wish you luck in eveything, from Romania!
come to the netherlands and we can be socially awkward together! Thank you for being so open about everything. Sorry to hear about your parents. Virtual hug from a lesbian follower
Natasha, your courage is inspiring. Despite the risks, you continue to be true to yourself, and that takes immense strength. Remember that you are part of a global community, connected by shared experiences and a shared vision of a more inclusive world. Thank you so much for sharing. You are valid, cared about, and deserving of happiness.
I read a piece of writing that struck a note to me written by a well regarded writer. He said that straight people usually react to someone being gay by imagining them having sex and finding it weird and unappealing - even gross. He said, imagining your parents having sex is very similar and to be avoided by many. What is the difference? Gay people love each other and parents do too. Why do we focus only on having gay sex, and worse, thinking children would be turned gay by gay sex? You are wonderful Natasha! You will find the right woman at the right time for you and she will feel safe and loving. She will be very fortunate to find you. And she will need to earn your trust. Love from straight old american lady. You're precious!
You are so brave! I admire you for this, people who dislike you and who you are, they are missled...it is sad to see progress not going faster, and reversing in some places! Spread love, not hate! ❤❤🩹
I remember watching a TV show called "Не родись красивой". The top designed character there called "Милко" was gay. The viewers enjoyed him, he stole every scene he was in. A lovely charismatic stylish gay man on TV and russians were loving it!
As if it was any different in the west a few decades ago. The main problem today is how obsessed the LGBT community has become with their own sexuality! I don't know how many political campaigns were already run around this topic instead of bigger world issues like starvation, lack of shelter and medical care. Even in the ancient Rome there was homosexuality, but it didn't make it to the headlines. I think weaponizing sexuality the western way is going down the same road as the US dollar. There will be a fast-growing countermovement almost anywhere in the world. Mark my words.
@@net4seven there are likely people around you that you have no idea are part of the LGBTQ community, precisely because they aren't 'obsessed' with their sexuality. If anything, the people obsessed with the sexuality of LGBTQ people are those that are trying to deny them the right to love who they want.
Hi Natasha! I wanted to send you a message of support. First, I want to say how much I appreciate your efforts to share insights about Russia, your home region, and your experiences as a Russian living abroad. Your videos are incredibly interesting and provide a unique perspective that many of us truly value. I identify as bisexual and, being over 60 years of age, I've been fortunate to live a relatively inconspicuous life due to my more masculine demeanor. I've learned that you are the best judge of who you are, and I completely agree with that sentiment. However, I would also encourage you to keep an open mind as perspectives can change with time and experience. For me, love transcends gender, and I find myself attracted to people based on who they are, not their genitals. Russia, like many Baltic and Slavic regions, has deep-rooted misogynistic attitudes that can be incredibly stifling. It's good that you left Russia, and I believe you might find more acceptance and freedom in a Western country like the UK, USA, or Canada. Your bravery and openness are inspiring, and I hope you continue to find success and happiness in your journey. Keep making those wonderful videos, and thank you for sharing your story with the world.
Thank you for sharing with us. I know the courage it takes to do that. The heart wants what the heart wants. Where you're born means nothing as far as that goes. More power to you!
this doesn't work for homosexual people like me, for me a person's biological sex is extremely important because I'm not bisexual and I don't feel any attraction to male people. Accept that not all people are bisexual and homosexuals and heterosexuals also exist .
Good for you Natasha and we love you even more after this program - I am a 74 years heterosexual male and had 2 sons ( one unfortunately passed away after having had Covid at the age of 44) , a big loss. Our family have always had an open mind with regards to sexuality . I am from a country where people were, and a lot still are , very conservative and judgemental but fortunately things have changed (for most but not all). You always seemed quite a serious person and a bit of an introvert but because you were yourself , I liked your videos as opposed to some who are more interested in themselves and make videos , unlike yourself, to get subscribers using things they think people like and not being honest. Best wishes and stay who you are .
Natasha ... You are awesome. I appreciate your openness and honesty. I'm a 75 year old bisexual American. It wasn't easy in my youth. Straight people are not affected by the existence of non-straight people. Non-trans people are not affected by the existence of trans people. They choose to make the existence of others an issue. ☀️ Please keep being you. You are one of my favorite people.
It's been so interesting watching the way you and your channel have grown over the past two years or so. You're incredibly inspirational...and informative. And thanks for finding post-event rumination-knew I had it, never knew it had a name.
Even in the United States I had a hard time coming out in 2007 to my family. My family were very religious I was kicked out of my home and they did not support me and my education. Things here have only really changed positively in the last 10 to 15 years and it happened very quickly. I feel a lot of sympathy and solidarity with you sending lots of love from the United States 🌈
In a world so full of hate, if you can find genuine love in someone, regardless of sex, embrace it! Run with it as far as you can, and then some! This is coming from a 65 yo straight male in the US. I wish you all of the happiness that you deserve.
I just found your channel with your video about the situation with RUclips in Russia, and now this is the second video of yours I've seen. I appreciate your candor, it means the world to me to learn more about how daily life is in other parts of the world. Thank you for sharing your human experience and bringing the world closer together. 🌈
This took a lot of courage for you. This will just make you stronger. Don't forget people online get off on trolling. Some people you just shouldn't listen to. The rest of us fully support you!
Dear Natasha, you are such a brave girl! Everything on you is completely ok and normal, even when most of the ruzzians think otherwise! I find it very important, that you speak out about your personal story! Do never listen to people, who talk bad about you, we all have such experiences! It is sad, that many people has barriers in their head! Not only in ruzzia, everywhere. You've traveled in different countries and made the experience of cultural difference. In every country are living some good people, some societies are more open minded than others and you surely find a place where your life is good. Friends are important, but most important is the people you are living with. Keep your mood up, life is good even on rainy days! I send you a hug and a part of my optimism, i have a lot! Greetings from germany, a country with a lot of beautyfull people, open minded, well informed and mostly not reachable for bad propaganda!
Наташа, you are such an amazing, strong and intelligent woman who deserves nothing but happiness. I have been a fan of your channel for years. I originally came across your channel because I was interested in Russian culture and vlogs but your videos are so much more than informative, they are inspiring! Much love from London!!
Natasha, you are providing a huge service to a lot of young people out there who need to hear stories like yours. Not taking into account that you are Russian, which most certainly adds a layer of complexity to your story, yours is a human story. Congratulations on getting to the point in your life in which you can speak your truth. Cheers to you in your pursuit of happiness.
So much intense emotions in this video! Please disregard people who can’t understand “to live and let live”. It’s easy to hate, it’s easy to laugh, but it takes guts to be gentle and kind.
I greatly admire the high priority you place on honesty, integrity, and logic. You make a great reporter for the world. Carry on and know many are grateful for your work.
I am proud of your courage to speak out like this! I grew up in Georgia but moved to the United States as a teenager, and I’d never call my childhood country as a tolerant country outside the traditional norms. My family almost flipped out when I divorced. But I was raised in a small town with a small mind mentality. Hang in there and continue to improve your mental health because regardless of who you like intimately, you yourself has to be strong in order to attack a right partner in life. That part of relationships equation is true for all humans. I wish you luck in Georgia! I wish this video had Georgian subtitles because I am sure there are plenty of Georgian girls that could benefit from hearing your story. Stay strong!
I can't stress enough how much hanging out with friends helps in dating. Screw the apps! Meeting someone through friends is the best, because there is no awkward expectation AND the people you meet are "pre-screened" by the people you already like!
I can’t tell you how moving it is for me to read your comments, I want to ‘❤’ every one of them. Thank you for listening to my story and supporting me, I hope this video helps a lot of people.
Thank you for being so honest and reasonable. Those qualities are unfortunately in short supply. There are so many big problems in the world, it's absurd how obsessed people are with who loves who, and how nasty they can be about it. The only way that can begin to change is if people stand up and speak out.
Natasha 💕🪽🦄🌈
As a western degenerate, I'm proud to have you. I'm straight but it takes bravery to come out as gay. As a straight person I've never had to deal with the fear you've felt. I think you should be proud to come out despite what bigots and fascists will say and threaten you with. All the best.
@NatashasAdventures hi,how are you?
If being something = promoting something, Natasha is promoting intelligence, kindness, rationality, humor and empathy. Cheers to you!
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Also: courage!
I cannot upvote this enough.
Her country is saving the world and she doesn't think so so nothing you said is true
@@chriscalderin6677 No, her country is destroying lives, both of her own citizens and outside.
Wow, it's kind of amazing how similar my experience was to a young rural Russian woman. The confusion about having crushes on another guy, but thinking it was just wanting friendship, the waiting to find the right girl for me, or thinking I just had to learn to like girls growing up.
Being homophobic as a kid until I finally admitted to myself that I was bi, then later admitted I really only liked guys.
The loneliness and connecting with someone to have to face the fact that they're straight and could never love you the same way you love them.
All that stuff is why I cannot understand how anyone would say being queer is a choice. No one would CHOOSE to go against their natural feelings and urges just to be different or "woke" or whatever nonsense they make up to demonize others.
Thanks for making this video. Always nice to hear anyone that you can relate to on some level. ❤
Russia isn't a bastion of tradition values, it's really far from them.
Saudi Arabia, Iran and other examples a real traditional values, and I guess, Russia will shift to their side more, as demographic crisis and low birthrates will push Russia to revive religion and traditional family values to increase birthrates
If its a Choice, ask them if they could be Gay if they want to. They wont answer honestly, or reflective, but they will be triggered, and thats fun.
@@mrobocop1666 wtf?! In Iran they have temporary marriage that is like for 3 days to cover up for their secret hookup culture. Rich iranians have 0rgies where everything goes...traditional 😆😆😆😆
Its hard to explain. Lets just say its not a Choice. Or better - You are not the one who makes that choice.
The technology o changing natural based feelings is quite complex. And its just the way worlds need you to be. Without giving you free of choice. Especially if you are young. I have studied a lot in social oriented programs and did learn a lot on how homosexuals, transsexuals and others are developed. There is powerful studies on that. Though its non-public.
@@mrobocop1666 Saudi Arabia and Iran are also having demographic crises.
Спасибо большое, Наташа! Я лесбиянка в Америке, где изучаю русский язык и культуру в моем университете. I can only imagine what it must've been like to grow up in that environment. I am so moved by your courage in sharing your story.
I actually like how you just casually mentioned your queerness in earlier videos, but I also appreciate this cultural and personal video essay that goes far beyond the classic coming out video. You're a gem. 💎
May I copy/paste this ;-)
Is she bisexual?
@@hubertheiser Its all a copy pasta notion as these types are most prone to social contagion.
Yes, I noticed that and was pleased that it was something mentioned in passing. I like that approach. As a gay man, it is hard for us to understand that lesbianism is not just about sexual orientation but also politics about patriarchy. My lesbian friends have thankfully opened my eyes about it
@@EthanLomas Oh Friend, Its not Just about Patriarchy. Its about scientific research on how to make you feel that exact way. And development of progressive society its not what you decide for yourself (though it still seems that way) Its what is decided for you- and you just accept. If you feel that being gay is part of you- then someone choose that for you long time ago. But you are still too young to understand all that.
Dear Natasha, as a straight 73-year-old man I support you in every way. You are a smart and courageous person.
Great comment!
@@juancarlosv5136, Better to be a heathen gay than a Christian, Islamic, Buddhist, Jainist, Satanist, Luciferian, Freemason, Scientologist, Gnostic, Zoroastrian, Pantheist, Sikh, Vegan, Communist or Nazist hetero.
Exactly, I'm a straight, 58-year-old man from the USA (California), and I think Natasha's coming out is a good, brave, and wonderful thing... strong support from the evil "West"
@@actingkeithThis is cuckery.
I am a Swedish trans woman who is pansexual and aromantic myself. I am lucky I am Swedish and didn't have to grow up in a country where being myself is illegal, that would be scary.
I'm a trans-man from the Nordics too, but I grew up in China due to my parent's work. Back then the common conception was that LGBT was just mental illness as the Chinese aren't religious either. But my experience also wasn't that Chinese people weren't that homophobic to strangers, they mainly didn't want it in "their family" but wouldn't care or concern themselves with what other people did. These days Chinese laws on LGBT are actually more progressive than Russia, as there's no law banning people's self-expression, and trans people have access to medical transition too.
😀😀😁😁😂😂🤣🤣
Soon you'll likely find yourself in a Sharia law country where trans won't be recognised at all, your actions will be punished severely as same-sex sexual activity and/or immoral debauchery
@@AK-jm1sc The Chinese are extremely pragmatic. The CCP realizes that opposing homosexuality is a losing battle because it is genetic and roughly 10% of the population will always be homosexual. The CCP is most interested in having a compliant and socially harmonious society and laws against homosexuality would inevitably lead to disharmony.
What is the opinion from the Swedish muslim community? Do you feel any danger coming in the future?
"How can you be a lesbian if you've never tried men?" I've personally never had to go to bed with another man to know that I'm attracted to women lol.
Agreed. It's a weird argument.
Plenty of virgins know who they are attracted to. If a teen boy has never slept with a girl should we say he does not know that he wants to? 😅
Be who you are and enjoy your life
Quite a strange answer.
As a man I have never done it with a man.
But I'm sure I'm not gay.
Or have you tried it?
People can be so stupid. It is so easy to apply that question to yourself to realize it is nonsense.
I am in my early 60s and I would be so very proud to have you as a daughter or granddaughter. I didn't find out till after he had died, but my father was gay and it absolutely breaks my heart that he couldn't feel free to come out and be his true self. I would have supported him all the way. He was an American and became a lawyer, a conservative profession, in days when it was not possible in the US to be openly gay and in a profession like that. His best friend in law school came out as gay and was immediately fired from his law firm and ended up being a hair dresser - one of the only professions where it was OK in those days. My father went to work for the government in a position that let him have his entire career be overseas (I think he just wanted to escape his background), so I grew up mostly in Asia and Central America, but we were constantly traveling to Europe, Estonia and Russia, as my mother was Estonian and my father was obsessed with Russian culture and history (taught it at university after he retired from law). I also did my graduate studies in Slavic Lit. and lived in Russia for several periods of time before I married. I know well how homophobic the culture is. Horrible!! Very glad you got out. I also totally relate to how you feel about having children and your reasons - I knew from a very, very early age that having children was not my path. My husband is fine with that and we have very happily had only fur children (cats and dogs). It's been ideal. It's not critical to have children and too many people have them just out of a sense that that is what everyone is supposed to do. Not! I love children, but my heart is totally full with my life as it is and with our extremely beloved fur kids. Anyway, I have great hopes some wonderful young woman will see this video and contact you - whoever you end up with will be quite lucky. And I hope you are able to find a profession that will make you happy and soon be able to live in a country that is open and accepting of all.
love your story
Thank you for sharing your story. When people don't want to have children, others always assume we hate children. It's just so stup*d! I like children and I loved to work as a teacher. But, motherhood is simply not for me.
I live in Russia, I'm aroace and non-binary. I don't face a lot of xenophobia since for most people I pass as a cis man (because, well, I'm amab), but I came out to my parents and some irl friends, and it was pretty okay. The only thing that really frustrates me is the fact that in Russian we cannot use singular they/them pronouns, it just doesn't work. So 80% of my time I mostly play VRChat and talk with people from Western countries, because even though my parents and friends support me (or rather, they don’t judge me for being who I am), they don't actually understand what it means to be non-binary (agender, in my case), because... how would they know? I'm most likely the only openly queer person they know, and if they are cis and straight, then they most likely will not going to look for any information on this topic. So yeah, being queer is always hard, but it's even harder to be queer and live in Russia at the same time. I wanna move soon but for now I'm just 17 y.o. and I want to wait until at least 18, because I don't really have a lot of money or other resources I can't leave without.
To be honest, I know that I'm not in a very bad position, and a lot of queer people face way more problems living in xenophobic countries, while I live in the most decent city in Russia and I've never faced any problems because of being queer, even though I have some queer (mostly aroace, trans and non-binary) and furry stickers on my car (which I cant't use on the roads yet because we can't get a license until we're 18 here) and electric scooters (I have four of them because building custom e-scooters is my hobby lol).
I don't know why I even wrote this, but I wanted to speak out. Stay safe everyone.
As an Irish person, I must say I've always had a fondness for the Russian furry community. All the videos I've seen of cons you guys have up there just have such an earnest and lovely vibe. I was thinking about going to one of them before the invasion happened, but it looks like that won't be happening now. I hope the Russian furry community is doing ok. I know a lot of artists have had a tough time getting paid.
Hey! I am also nb an from Russia. It's always nice to know there are people like me here (the struggle with they/them is very real). And you seem like a genuinely cool person, too)
russia ha become german 3thr reich
please go hide somewhere safe. Conscription will not care.
Sometimes you just need to speak out. Its good that you did.
As a straight man from western europe, I APPLAUD your bravery. Keep your chin up and be proud!
As a straight man from USA, I also APPLAUD your bravery. I have watched your videos from the beginning. You have a talent of communicating your insecurities and anxieties. Thank you for allowing us a window into your life!
@@jerseyjunior As a straight man from eastern europe I think you two would try to have the s. e. x. with her if you'd be stuck with her on an island.
Hang in there Natasha and please be careful over there.
Be gone man
Get reel
Kinda ironic that they ask how you can be lesbian without ever being with a man once, but how can he know he is straight if he has never been with a man once?... that logic makes no sense.
Your candidness and honesty are courageous and raw and real and inspiring. You deserve nothing but happiness in your life. I hope you find it.
Thank you for your courage, Natasha! Talking to thousands of strangers about this could not have been easy. As a german transfem person, I just want to share some love with you, and please know, that there will always be people like us. And we, the LGBTQ+ Community, support each other wherever we can.
In my city we recently opened a queer Group for russian speaking people, and it has been really heart-warming to see how lovely some can be, once they know they are safe where they are. There was even a wedding between two of the group, and the pictures were just soo cute!
You got this, I wish you the best of luck, you have a beautiful soul
❤ awesome! Trans dude here, all the best to your project! It’s so important. A lot of trans people have so little support…
As a Russian bi man of the similar age, I can say it was very endearing to randomly find this channel and this video in my RUclips feed. Thank you for being strong and open about your sexuality ❤
Especially now, our younger compatriots are definitely in need of images of queer bloggers to associate with! Also, it is great that people from other countries can see Russian queer community directly and know about our struggles
Believe me they do see you. But also does the traditional system of Russia. Which absolutely anti-liberal. Its just that it hasn't yet developed enough to treat you as a third class citizen. They can develop in to real oppressive system with anti-gay agenda. like easily.
Oh believe me. They do see it. But.. Russian Government does too.. So if they decide one day that there need to be purge in the society.. Nobody would be able to stop them. And if they need be able to force traditional values on queer men and women they would do just that.
wow. did not expect such a vulnerable video. well you are always vulnerable but this was especially personal. gay guy here from New Mexico. you curate such unique and thoughtful content.
It baffles me that people feel so strongly about other’s sexual orientation… I’m glad you have the courage to talk about it
Yes to the point they promote it to 5 year olds in libraries, it's so strange
This is the bit that gets me. I've never seen Natasha comment on her sexuality before and I've never even thought of it. Why would I care?
@@michaelhoudecki3657I mean they pretty much promote everything minor thing. Parents, siblings, family.
@@michaelhoudecki3657ah you mean the content in the bible, yep, that is really ridiculous that they allow access to this rather ruthless literature in libraries 😂
@@marcd6897 Yep, allll thosee bibles, EXACTLY!
Молодец ты! Мы с женой так гордимся тобой, Наташа. Спасибо, что поделилась всем этим и с нами и с миром. Ты, как всегда, невероятно смела и сильна, и мы надеемся, что со временем и с твоей семьей станет легче, если ты так хочешь. Всего теье самого самого наилучшего во всем!
Thank you Natasha. This will help people have a better understanding of what it’s like being gay in Russia or elsewhere. Growing up in Russia in the 90s ‘gay’ was pretty much a derogatory term. But then you grow up and realize that the world is bigger and more complicated than you could have ever imagined. Everyone is different and it’s great. I’ve had a friend for 10 years only to recently discover he’s a bi. Did that change anything? Not at all. Whatever rocks your boat as they say 😊
"gay" (and "trans" and even 'lgbt" too) is still a derogatory term in russia. I don't think it ever stopped being one
@@suedove2416 sadly so. There was a short period when things were slightly looking up though, 2004-2013 probably . That’s when Russia was experiencing an unprecedented economic growth. And was too busy to hate.😊
@RussianPlus I was in school during that period, and the homophobia among my classmates was still rampant 😔
Shut up@@Monaco666-o1o
@@suedove2416 Its different culture. In protection of Natural Traditional Views. And destroying everything that is not. It goes as long as its history.
You be whoever you are Natasha and make no excuses or apologize to anyone ever about it. If they can't accept you for who you are, screw em.'
Natasha is finding and will find a lot of genuine love from people around her :)
Бог сжёг Содом и Гоммору
They might not be her type 😂
Sorry, I couldn't resist 🤣
Cannibals will be cannibals, Bullies will be bullies, alcoholics will be alcoholics, moochers will be moochers, untrustworthy will rationalize the same again, etc.... What range of personalities makes a successful long lived society?
@@rustyyb8450 For one, not comparing a consentual relationship between adults to alcoholism, bullying, cannibalism and so on. I'd say that's a good start personality wise.
спасибо, что ты поделилась своей историей! ты безумно смелая и очень горжусь тобой, то что ты выложила это уже дает надежду многим❤️❤️❤️
я как би из россии даже не могу сказать об этом своим друзьям без страха быть отвергнутой, что говорить про родителей, поэтому я очень рада, что больше и больше наших ребят готовы рассказать о себе, больше информации- меньше стигмы
спасибо тебе большое и продолжай в том же духе!❤️
Damn - be safe and feel hugged 🥺🥺
Друзьям, которые умеют принимать жизнь разной - сказать стоит. Родителям.. зависит от того не причинят ли они тебе вреда. А вот просто люядм на улице, работадателю или учителям.. наверное не стоит. Они часть той системы, которая все силы приложит чтобы исключить вас из общества. Что поверь мне, не очень хорошая ситуация для взросления. Держи в тайне от всех, кроме тех, кому точно доверяешь.
You're awesome! Much love and support to you from Boston!
Please never be embarressed for being who you are. Thank you so very much for sharing this very personal aspect of your life. You are an amazing young person. Always be proad of who you are.
This video is very important. Representation matters so much. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Man i have to say Natasha has balls to put smthg so private online to the whole Net. I'm happy for you Natasha nothing is wrong with this and we dont live in the medival age anymore.
That's what it needs: The proper free mindset and some kind of balls to protect it.
She’s a woman and does not need balls at all. I know you meant it as a compliment so no hard feelings. It’s just a stupid expression in my humble opinion 😉
Setting a real sympathetic example to everyone: Speak up for what is right.
It's not balls, it's stupidity.
@@danthemansmail stupid is when you awake in ruZZia being carted to the front and your democracy is gone.
As a straight woman from the degenerate west, I’m proud of you for having the bravery to speak your truth online to thousands of people. Saying you’re lesbian doesn’t mean you’re “promoting” it to children. Wtf. It’s not Covid. Live your life and be free and happy and love whoever you want. Wtf are morals. I hate that term. It’s like the word normal. What’s normal for me isn’t normal for someone else. Fuck the morals of others. Be you and be happy. Sending you tons of love my friend
Fuck the degenerative morals of yours
No, to hell with your degenerative morals.
Degenerate West? Girl you can go to Russia any time you want. Go on, get moving.
@@DavidSteiner-dt6zsI think you may be conflating ethics with morals. Morals are the product of culture and mores which is also the Latin basis of the word itself. Morals change over time whereas ethics are philosophical tenets.
Children have access to RUclips. So it does promoting if she mentions why she likes being Lesbian and what Benefits are of being one. Its exactly promotion. But.. In this special case its more about private story.
I am absolutely obsessed with how genuine you are and how you talked about the flaws of your younger self.
I remember the first time I noticed you identify as one of us (LGBT) and I thought it was cool how you just kinda casually dropped it into your video and moved on. I just love you Natasha, you are the best!
Me too. I kind of thought to myself I knew she was too good to be a straight woman lol
People should just let other people live their lives as they choose, its nobody elses business but the consenting adults involved.
Yes as long as they are not running around in the streets or schools pushing it on others like in west.
@@martinsv9183 thats not happening
the key is...consenting ADULTS
@@martinsv9183Religious indoctrination such as Christian nationalism and Islamist are serious issues that ACTUALLY happen. Nobody is forcing kids to be gay like they are forcing people to be Christian
@@Tom-vk6ijIt's also not okay to tell your kids who they can and can't prefer to be attracted to either because that only ends up making them hate you in the end.
@natasha, I'm so sorry to hear about the troubles you've had with your family. My sister came out (in the US) in her 30s. Despite this, our aunt, who we were always close to, didn't come out for years. Even when she invited my sister to the retirement community she lived at which was for lesbians only, she still was so nervous and scared. My sister told us how she still wouldn't say that she was a lesbian, she still called her partner of over 40 years her "roommate" and she died never having opened up much, even to my sister. I can't imagine how much different things would have been if she were allowed to live freely. I want to see the world change so that everyone can be free to be who they are and not need to hide. I know I'm just one of your many followers but I'm very proud of you and sending love from the US!
World should change no doubt. But it also has to stay traditional. Which is the biggest dilemma.
@@ronaniogreyzone3518 why does the world have to stay traditional? You can keep traditions alive in your family and/or community without it having to harm others. When a government mandates and polices culture it's only ever detrimental. That's not hyperbole either. It damages the ability of that society to grow, adapt, innovate, and evolve. It damages it economically, culturally, educationally, and it harms vulnerable people, i.e. the people that help societies adapt and survive.
The Amish in the US are a society dedicated to what they see as strict traditions. Some of these are really healthy, however some are incredibly harmful. More and more young people leave because they want freedom of expression, there is also a lot of abuse that isn't addressed, and their isolation from "the English" has caused a number of genetic disorders to flourish. I've got nothing against them as a group but if their ways were imposed on the entirety of the the US (where I live) by the federal government I would have big problems with it.
Again, I see nothing wrong with individual Amish people. However the "traditions" they're preserving often lead to serious abuse. They're known to abuse animals, overworking horses at too early of an age, over-breeding and inbreeding dogs in puppy mills. Additionally, their "traditional" patriarchal society hides sexual and other types of abuses to the detriment of a great many of their community members.
The US as a whole, being in many ways obsessed with conservative values, already has loads of similar issues with institutional abuse and structural protections for abusers. Thankfully it's not being promoted by (the entire) government (though one party would like it to be). Whereas Russia, under Putin, has taken on a structure similar to what American conservatives would like - promoting "traditional values" which are not heartfelt and only used as a means of control.
What I'm saying, (in probably too many words), is that it's not really a dilemma. For example, people are free to pray in schools in the US, but forcing everyone to pray, that's hugely problematic. It doesn't reinforce said traditional values, it only creates a climate of fear and repression. So, in that, there is no dilemma. Be as trad as you want, just don't try to force others to do the same. Cheers!
@@WDOphotography Such a along sentence, or better monologue. I need few more chapters of that story If you please. Because nature itself is traditional, if you find that nature develops in a progressive way -let me know. Okay.
@@ronaniogreyzone3518 what??? Nature isn't traditional or progressive. It's nature. Stop trying to apply humanistic terms to the natural world. Nature is chaotic and what works continues to do so while what doesn't falls away. There isn't anything inherently political about that. Everything else can be viewed politically but nature is the one thing that really can't be.
Such an honest, informative, and touching video
Im Russian, who has also immigrated unfortunately due to the war. I'm straight. Shame on the people who make you feel uncomfortable for being who you are. I can't stand people who think that sexuality matters at all. You are who you are without or with being Lesbian, and all 370k (and more of us) love you and your content nonetheless. These people are what is driving our proud nation into the ground and our culture along with it.
Они даже твоего внимания не заслуживают, Наташа. И от всего сердца вы потрясающий ютубер! Keep doing what you do.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 господи, соевые. А теперь открой и почитай решение суда оон от 31.01.2024, образовывайся. Там черным по белому заявлено, что рф не страна агрессор. А потом приходи и ной про «из-за войны». Спасибо скажи демократам в сша, педофилам в германии, нацистам в верхушке у прибалтов, фашистам и петлюровцам, шухевчиепочитателям из украины.
Its good that Straight Russian Citizens accept the diversity surrounding them. We are proud of you.
But have to say.. Its not about love.. no no no. Not about sexuality. Its only about demography.
USA doesn't care of how many families are built, too may states. But in Russia - well its all about forcing women to get engaged and to give birth to as much children as they can. Its all integrated deeply in to Governments and Social Roots.
As a homossexual man, you re beautiful and I I wish you find your girl and be happy (forever if possible)! Don't pay attention to the comments from malicious, ignorant people who don't have a life and who are heterosexuals who come here to speak only with their heteronormative vision and which doesn't matter at all! Don't care and move on with your happy and complete life! Lots of strength my young lady!
The only 'traditional values' I can think of when it comes to Russia is bullying, paternalizing and oppressing. And what goes for personal relationships also works for international.
@cottonrabbit1685 Not a superpower.
LOL
@@bestopinion9257 indeed... more like a fallen superpower. And that is a big part of the problem.
@@HaleG9imagine the problems and sizes of complexes when US will soon become former superpower, Latin American cartel shithole due to demography changes and fall of values, morals and discipline
@cottonrabbit1685
Russia should be compared to the far-out and mostly frigid planet Pluto, in land size; the city of Hong Kong in wealth; Guangdong Province of China and the City of New York in GDP.
I'm a gay gay from the UK and I've had a lot of trouble with people hating me since being a little kid. I've always been feminine and this caused other kids to call me yes you guessed it "gay". Seems like they knew I was gay before I did 😂. As I got older as a teenager I liked wearing make up sometimes, loved styling my female friends hair, and sometimes I wore female clothing, again I got hassle from people, mostly from strangers. People are more tolerant here now compared to back then 20+ years ago. And so I'm 39 now and I'm still interested in all things "bright and beautiful". It's who I am, I feel I was born this way and I make no apology for this. But I couldn't imagine living in Russia, it must be even worse for LGBT people.
If more people like you had political power the world would probably be a much nicer place 🙂
@@hivetech4903 I think the only time when that will happen is when misogyny is truly eradicated because that is the root the problem, women are looked down upon on and so are feminine men too. People see it as bad thing and not to be respected or taken seriously unfortunately. Masculinity is seen as far more superior.
Actually, I think the UK has become much more intolerant in the past 10 years.
@@The1n0nIy1 I agree with you that the root of homophobia is misogyny.
@@The1n0nIy1 Thank you for identifying misogyny as the root of the problem... many people don't, and I think that's why the LGBTQ rights discourse can be so toxic at times 😢💓
Speaking as a queer Canadian, who only identified as such myself in recent years (~10 yrs ago?), I am delighted to hear that you are out of Russia and can live your authentic self now. I'm not going to split hairs, I definitely had a more supportive upbringing than you, it seems, chock full of that 'western corruption'. I was born in the 1970's and my parents were pot smoking hippies.
I grew up during the Cold War, when even over here, there was lots of propaganda being spread by the government (as in the Soviet Union), thank goodness there was no internet then?
It has recently been revealed that there are Russian state-backed media outlets over here as well, and wouldn't you know it, they are supporting the politicians who demonize LGBTQ people. Also, I grew up with a very atypical life for 1980's North America.
As in, I was raised to believe all people are worthy of love, love is love, and not to judge others. Society was still (fairly?) bigoted back then, and thus many in my generation (Gen X) didn't even realize about ourselves until later in life. But at least, in 2024, we can live in the open here without fearing government/police/societal persecution (at least not legal persecution...)
I now identify as 2S/demi/pan; and I consider myself blessed to have had several LGBTQ friends when I was a young adult in the 1990's, when it was still 'taboo' here. I didn't care (as a neurodivergent, I never cared for societal norms, and am as shy and reserved as you are), and I found the supportive nature of these friends and others in the LGBTQ community very refreshing.
Keep on keepin on, keep being your authentic self Natasha, you are free now! :)
Who are those politicians that demonise lgbt people? You know very well that is a lie.
Anyone who actually believes that Russia is some kind of bastion of traditional values seriously needs their head examined.
Apparently they think high cases of HIV and excessive violence against women due to the legalization of domestic violence is "traditional."
Exactly! A place ( ruzzia is no country!) where hate is the highest good on everydays TV shows could not make any claimes on "traditional values", that's pure nonsense!
Values are in conjunction with humanity, not thinkable without each other. What the kleptographic mafia gang in the kremlin is doing to it's people and the world is beyond insanity! And this insanity lasts for centuries, only interrupted from short moments of hope (Gorbi!). Optimism for change in ruzzia, building up a modern, open and humanitarian society is nearly fiction! It will last many decades, needs brave women and men and a very long breath, to finally have a chance!
I'm not the only one who think, ruzzia will and must fall apart to turn in a other, better direction!
Hope dies at latest!
It's one of the countries with the most orphanages out there. That's not how a healthy country should be.
The Soviets killed all religions in Russia. It’s only natural that there will be a swing to Religion and traditions after the collapse of communism.
Something had to fill the void….
@@flopunkt3665 Russia is also one of the worst countries for the spread of HIV, the number of divorces, and suicides among teens.
Natasha, you’re awesome! I hope your mother relearns how to love you again. Acceptance is key to love and peace. (Hugs from the USA).
Love to look at your video. I feel sorry for you being lonely, I have been lonely myself for most of my life (I'm 73 now) so I know what it feels like. In my old age I found a woman who I have been together with for ten years now. I know that you will find love, because you are such a fine person, so don't despair.
1:03 To that dude I would have immediately replied: "how do you know you are not gay if you have never tried a relationship with a man?"😂
hilariously funny and stupid at the same time...but, i'll answer the question: our existence is not due to God. it is due to aliens...and so, there's going to be a middle ground, where genes are not variable, but duplicated...
Just tell him that Natasha is an American drag artist in character and he'll go away happy.
Far-right wingers are generally incapable of critical thinking.
Exactly what I was thinking too! Haha
@@ABrit-bt6ce She's Russian How is she American? does she have American citizenship?
It takes courage to make a video like this. You're always an inspiration, Natasha.
I'm a (maybe not 100% but for all intents and purposes) straight man from the other Georgia in the USA. There's a lot about your life experience that's unfamiliar to me, but I definitely know what social anxiety feels like. And I also do the thing where I endlessly review all of my social interactions and cringe at my mistakes over and over again for years. Not fun!
Hi Natasha, Well done for making what must have been a difficult video. It is not so long since the UK as a nation, had similar views towards homosexuality, as Russia (and any number of other backward facing countries) still impose today.
It will take a generation or two to be rid of the bigoted society - assuming the current regime is ousted in the next few years. It is only in the last 25 years that homosexual people have been allowed to serve in the UK military.
I wish you all the best of luck in finding someone who deserves you. Whoever ends up being your wife, will be a lucky girl, because you are a wonderful person.
Jim, South-West England.
PS: I loved your line about Russia having so many 'same-sex' relationships - "Mother & Grandmother"...
Brilliant x.
I appreciate how candid you are about loneliness, anxiety, and being lesbian. I can relate to each of these, and I often find myself spiraling in negativity before I fall asleep. To hear that someone else is also feeling these things is somehow a little bit comforting. ❤❤❤
Regardless of where you were born, what your faith is, what your gender is/preference is; you are who you are.
There is no right or wrong way to live your life. The only one that counts is how you live your life.
If you are honest with yourself and live the life that makes you happy, then I am very happy for you.
So, enjoy life to the fullest, Natasha.
As a gay welcome to our community your loved 🏳️🌈. I'm one of your subscribers from the United States ❤. Great job coming out.
She didn't come out in this video. She's mentioned it in a number of other videos. It's just that this video was focused on it.
Thanks for being so open and honest with your perspective and beliefs. It’s very refreshing and nice to hear on RUclips.
Keep on doing what you are doing! I am a man and was in my mid-fifties before I met my wife. You are right - be active, exercise, walk, hike, ride bikes, go to the library, book clubs, cofee houses, walk in parks, go to art museums, galleries, take art classes, learn to play a musical instrument... be comfortable in your own skin. Loneliness sucks but, being in a relationship that doesn't work is worse! Thank-you, for being brave and sharing your story! from the USA!
Thank you! People recounting these very personal stories are so encouraging to us all. Life has so many twists and turns, yet is, I suppose, to be lived as fully as possible.
I never comment on RUclips videos but I want to say that I admire your bravery on so many levels, including being out and open in this one. You are an amazing human.
I wouldn't call those 'traditional values' call them barbaric values..
Traditional values should be reserved for things like: chivalry, gallantry , sense of responsibility, diligence , etc
They are traditional because they are enduring. These rainbow notions will last a generation or two before they remove themselves from the system.
@@muhcharonaWhy do you think that?
@@muhcharona The "rainbow notions" have been there as long as written history goes back. You can not remove them, only force to hide.
@@muhcharona Nah, us gays have been around since ancient Greek times, and we're not going away anytime soon.
So you call everything that is nature developed a Barbaric Values..
I see only bad knowledge on your side. Yes, everyone can be bisexual. Its part of nature. And NO - if everyone would be bisexual - we would die out. As Boy+ Boy = doesn't equal kids, Girl+Girl = doesn't equal kids. To have cellular fusion you need two unique groups of chromosomes, only then if genetics accepts your offering Girl+Boy Can have kids. And in our days.. even then them might not.
Наташа, спасибо! Я лесбиянка, причем феминная, поэтому если ничего не "афишировать", то никто бы просто не знал, жила бы тише воды, ниже травы. Очень многое мне отозвалось - про гомофобию в прошлом, bi phase, ожидание отношений с девушками в "лучшее время" и чувство одиночества и alienation из-за сложности найти отношения, пока все вокруг перевстречались (это у меня все еще на месте).
Только молчать я устала, так проживать свою жизнь я не намерена, настолько много литературы о том, что гомосексуальность - это норма, что я просто теряла время на самобичевание и резко решила это прекратить. Я переехала в Швецию пару лет назад и стало НАСТОЛЬКО легче жить. Я представить не могла, что смогу вот так свободно говорить об этом вообще с кем угодно - от коллег и однокурсников до новых друзей. И всем вообще все равно. У меня даже круг друзей стал полностью состоящий из квир персон самых разных видов, это моя максимально естественная среда. Иногда какая-то перемена локации меняет всю твою жизнь с ног на голову из-за людей вокруг с другим менталитетом.
Меня просто порадовало, что есть еще один человек, чем-то похожий на меня, и говорящий о своей ориентации напрямую. Дефолтная гетеронормативность и стереотипное мышление о том, что все вокруг - гетеро (особенно женщины), пошла сегодня на все четыре стороны, в очередной раз. Любви тебе и удачи со специфичными родственниками и соседями (у нас всех они имеются и они не имеют никакого права портить нам жизнь)! 🩷
Thank you for sharing your story, too. ❤
We LGBTQIA must stick together, no matter how dire the consequences of dictatorship can be.
One day, we will see change. And hopefully for the better. I pray for all the innocent people in Russia that didn’t ask for this chaos, and didn’t deserve to be ostracised. ❤
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Правильно сделала. Всё к тому идёт, что русские, как их предшественники 80 лет назад, геев будут в концлагеря сажать.
Invent wonder drugs for LGBTQ to make them non-LGBTQ at intolerant societies!
Это ненадолго, демография в Швеции меняется так быстро, что скоро у вас будет эмират, и римско-германское право заменено шариатским, по которому за однополые сексуальные отношения и просто секс вне брака будет следовать жёсткое уголовное наказание.
Regardless, we all love natasha ❤❤❤
Hi. Yes we do.
Good job for being honest with yourself and others. You will be happy which is most important
Honest, brave and articulately stated. Thank you for sharing your perspective on these issues in the region with us, as well as your own story as it pertains to such. You seem like a lovely person Natasha, and I'm sure you'll find somebody special because of that.
It takes a lot of courage to share such a personal story, I hope it helps other marginalized people feel more comfortable just being themselves.
Dear Natasha, thank you for sharing your life's story. When you talked about loneliness, I felt the need to tell you a little about my life. I had my first girlfriend when I was 16 and have been in a relationship ever since, always shared my life with someone, never had it to my self. I was married and got divorced a few years ago. After that, I thought my life would be hell because of loneliness. But no, I finally had my life to myself. For the very first time, my life belonged to me and to me alone! I changed so much and started exploring who I am and what "material I am made of". My life exploded in a very positive way. Relationships can easily suffocate your freedom to explore your self.
As a queer person that has watched your videos since more than 3 year, thank you sooo much for this video! 🏳🌈
I picked up your queerness pretty fast already 3 years ago, (visiting gay club in russia, randomly showing rainbowcolered stuff and queer books ), and it made it you just even more relatable❤
Even tho I lived my whole life in western europe, the stuff about your family/mother and about dating is very similar to my experiences but I was never able to put it so good to words like you did, thank you for that!
One thing to add: For me tinder and bubble feel very toxic, I had better experiences with queer focused dating apps ( example "her", no idea what apps are used much in georgia), but even there online dating feels toxic. I think it's a sentiment that a lot of queer people (especially in oppressive societies) share 💔
This is one of your best videos. Those of us who have followed you for a while have seen you share how you move through the various stages of your life and find joys and also deal with its problems. I am glad that in the end you were able to talk with such apparent ease and maturity, about this while making it clear how much it has cost. This is the real you, and I think a lot of us are here for the authentic you: appealing, open/approachable, unassuming, a little vulnerable, but also immensely wise, a great sensitivity and resourceful. This film, with its highlights and lows showed all that and more. Thanks.
I think quite a lot of us had already worked it out already a long time before you left Russia and accepted it as part of the whole picture. And that's why hearing your own perspective on it and what issues it involves for you, was really interesting and worthy of our respect.
I loved the necklace.
I remember when Natasha visited some hill near Kabarovsk with a friend that it clicked for me: her weird sense of humour, her butch attitude, definitely not completely straight or cis.
I appreciate that you made this video. Always, always, always love yourself for the person you are. You're clearly a person of authenticity and great compassion. Watching your videos, I've always admired your strength of character.
Your story is heartbreaking on so many levels. You are perfect just the way you are. I am so glad you are able to now live your life as you are and without abuse. You are strong and brave, and a role model to so many. Sharing your story is so important, there are many queer youth out there who need you to.
Good for you Natasha, I really admire your openness on this topic. Very brave.
Natasha, I can't tell you how much I admire your authenticity and courage. When I watch your videos, I feel like I'm having a fascinating conversation with a friend whose life experiences give me an insight into a part of the world that is very different from my own. You are beautiful and smart, and you WILL find the woman of your dreams. Hopefully in the near future! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Much love from Aotearoa (New Zealand)
You are so loved, thank you for sharing. I wish you a life full of love and healing for all the hurt you experienced in the past ♡ You deserve it!
I’m so proud of you Natasha! I remember I was also so worried about never finding someone special when I was your age. As soon as you stop focusing on finding love and just focus on finding and loving yourself, the right person will find you. I promise! You have a great heart and a unique perspective and the world needs more people like you! Пока пока 👋🏻
It's so powerful to hear you candidly discuss your insecurities and challenges, because it can give so much hope to others. If someone as intelligent, thoughtful, and beautiful as you are can deal with loneliness and difficult finding the right partner, it helps so many others realize their similar struggles are not because they don't deserve it. It's so easy when you're alone to feel like it must be because you're not good looking enough or charming enough to magically draw someone to you. But there are so many other factors involved that are beyond your control.
@Natasha : Don't feel bad about now having children. It pays off. My wife and I decided not to have them and live our lives to the fullest instead. We are close to retirement age. As working class youth we barely had means to survive, pay housing etc. Not having kids made things easier, and we managed to have fun with each other and our friends, led a good life and finally get a small house and good jobs.
It's not "seflish" not to have kids. You can't be selfish towards persons that do not exist.
So the wonderful experience of life that your parents gave to you , you deny to your as yet unborn. This is the absolute height of narcism and selfishness. It is a pity you were ever born.
Who will take care of you? At some point there will be only one of you and when the last one gets too old or gets sick there is a problem. It is always nice to pass on your experiences to your kids and have the memories pass on. In a way we live after death in the hearts of our kids something of the family passes on. Those who can not have their own kids should adopt a child into a loving home.
@@maxheadroom1506most people in Western societies end up in a nursing home, should they be fortunate enough to avoid premature death through disease and survive to ripe old age. You will be looked after the same there, whether you have children or not.
As a gay man now in his 60's, it was a source of regret to me that I didn't have children when I was younger, but where I live, that wouldn't have been an viable choice for me when I was at the appropriate age. The world forgets that Western countries were once as homophobic as Russia is now and it really isn't that long ago in the great scheme of things. In the 1980's, the UK passed under Margaret Thatcher, a law known as section 28, prohibiting the "promotion of homosexuality. " Teachers couldn't discuss it in the class with teenage students, even if several of them may have already identified as gay. Nor could they self identify as gay at work, and men and women were hounded out of the army with a "dishonourable discharge" if found to have engaged in homosexuality.
At my age, I'm not too worried about the fact I had no kids, and when straight friends describe the hassles their kids are creating for them, I often hug my dog and say "I'm so glad I only had puppies."😂
@@seandoherty925 kids will respect your wishes and you would not feel alone. As far as problems with kids well you just hear the bad things there are a lot of ups raising a good person.
@@maxheadroom1506 and good persons come in all shapes and sizes, some of whom may be gay.
I'm impressed by your ability to deal with the life you were dealt. I think you've handle it well, and thats something to be proud of.
Dear Natasha, I have been following you for so long and understand your sense of realism, which you can explain in great detail. I recognized much of that as a child to adulthood, while I come from the Netherlands. The only difference is that I am now 68, father of two lovely daughters and grandfather of 5 grandchildren. An educational tap, as it is often called, was standard in the late fifties and early sixties. Even a teacher once smashed a one-meter ruler on my head. I have the feeling that the development through Russian propaganda resembles this fifties and sixties in the Netherlands. The dumber you keep a people, the more you can control them. However, they forget that it is precisely these lies in their propaganda that ultimately make a people realize that something is wrong. And that raising children becomes a lot easier without this educational tap and ultimately results in adult children who like to visit their parents.
You cannot simply erase a past, that is something that will continue to trigger and remind you of your life. What you can do is accept what your past has been and cherish the (positive) lessons from it for yourself for the rest of your life. That you finally dare to come out that you are a lesbian, is courageous and nothing more than a logical consequence of development. And you have mentioned this several times. That your mother through indoctrination of Russian authorities is bad, but has nothing to do with the pure reality, that you are a daughter of hers. She carried you for 9 months and raised you, to the conscious woman that you are now.
If we no longer influence our children, with rules made by policy makers, our children will become social and loving people, who respect others and spread peace. Because we will live purely untouched, much more from our intuition. And that is not one of struggle and prejudice.
At this moment you are still too much rationalizing different thoughts. Try to reduce that, more fixation on the positive developments in yourself. You have to move forward Natasha, have confidence and accept life in the moment. Do not be too fixated in your search for a relationship. Because I know that there is a woman who is waiting for you and where you will become happier. If you can create peace, then a meeting with a real click is much easier to become aware of. I will continue to follow you, on your way to tomorrow. I think you are fantastic as a person, woman and friend.
Thank you Natasha for sharing your perspective on such a sensitive and personal subject! I support and can relate to you in so many ways despite our life paths are wildly different
I have been following you since pretty much the beginning of your journey. I have very much enjoyed all your posts and have found you so engaging. Please ignore the naysayers and critics. You are courageous, smart, and delightfully humble. Keep up the good work!
This was so cathartic to watch, thanks for sharing all this Natasha! I found your thoughts on lonliness so relatable, like of course I need to be happy without a partner first, and a relationship won't make me happy per se, but that's not very accessible advice if you're chonically lonely and depressed. My experience hits a lot of the same highlights actually: the rhumination, not wanting to go to bars, the miserable experience of trying to use dating apps if you're not someone who naturally gets tons of engagement. I can't use do it anymore, using those apps makes me so sad and hostile towards people. I think (I hope) that I can have the same solution, just *do something*. I think I just have to pursue the social things I'm passionate about IRL and hope I meet something who cares about the same things I do. But it really lifted my spirits to hear about some of your personal life and see you've felt the same way, so thank you! 💙
You are such a beautiful woman with many delicate features. you may have broken the heart of many men by that statement from the beginning, for sure, but it doesn't matter because love must not have boundaries.
I wish you luck in eveything, from Romania!
You are an amazing woman Natasha! Stay true to yourself, no-one should be told who they can love. I have so much respect for you!
You are so articulate! Thank you for telling your story and I hope by sharing it it will help you and others. Go, Natasha!
come to the netherlands and we can be socially awkward together! Thank you for being so open about everything. Sorry to hear about your parents. Virtual hug from a lesbian follower
Natasha, your courage is inspiring. Despite the risks, you continue to be true to yourself, and that takes immense strength. Remember that you are part of a global community, connected by shared experiences and a shared vision of a more inclusive world. Thank you so much for sharing. You are valid, cared about, and deserving of happiness.
I read a piece of writing that struck a note to me written by a well regarded writer. He said that straight people usually react to someone being gay by imagining them having sex and finding it weird and unappealing - even gross. He said, imagining your parents having sex is very similar and to be avoided by many. What is the difference? Gay people love each other and parents do too. Why do we focus only on having gay sex, and worse, thinking children would be turned gay by gay sex?
You are wonderful Natasha! You will find the right woman at the right time for you and she will feel safe and loving. She will be very fortunate to find you. And she will need to earn your trust. Love from straight old american lady. You're precious!
You are so brave! I admire you for this, people who dislike you and who you are, they are missled...it is sad to see progress not going faster, and reversing in some places! Spread love, not hate! ❤❤🩹
I remember watching a TV show called "Не родись красивой". The top designed character there called "Милко" was gay. The viewers enjoyed him, he stole every scene he was in. A lovely charismatic stylish gay man on TV and russians were loving it!
He was just a unique in his roleplay. Just above the traditional drama. That is why many find him special for that cast.
Some people are so obsessed with other people's sexuality it's just sad. Also sorry to hear that you parents did beat you :/
As if it was any different in the west a few decades ago. The main problem today is how obsessed the LGBT community has become with their own sexuality! I don't know how many political campaigns were already run around this topic instead of bigger world issues like starvation, lack of shelter and medical care. Even in the ancient Rome there was homosexuality, but it didn't make it to the headlines. I think weaponizing sexuality the western way is going down the same road as the US dollar. There will be a fast-growing countermovement almost anywhere in the world. Mark my words.
@@net4seven And all this affects your own life how exactly?
@@Afura33 In the last couple of months? I've been aimed more than once for being straight (hetero) as if I was fair game! How 'bout you?
@@net4seven I got attacked by a hetero person a couple of months ago, are all heteros bad people now?
@@net4seven there are likely people around you that you have no idea are part of the LGBTQ community, precisely because they aren't 'obsessed' with their sexuality. If anything, the people obsessed with the sexuality of LGBTQ people are those that are trying to deny them the right to love who they want.
Hi Natasha! I wanted to send you a message of support. First, I want to say how much I appreciate your efforts to share insights about Russia, your home region, and your experiences as a Russian living abroad. Your videos are incredibly interesting and provide a unique perspective that many of us truly value. I identify as bisexual and, being over 60 years of age, I've been fortunate to live a relatively inconspicuous life due to my more masculine demeanor. I've learned that you are the best judge of who you are, and I completely agree with that sentiment. However, I would also encourage you to keep an open mind as perspectives can change with time and experience. For me, love transcends gender, and I find myself attracted to people based on who they are, not their genitals. Russia, like many Baltic and Slavic regions, has deep-rooted misogynistic attitudes that can be incredibly stifling. It's good that you left Russia, and I believe you might find more acceptance and freedom in a Western country like the UK, USA, or Canada. Your bravery and openness are inspiring, and I hope you continue to find success and happiness in your journey. Keep making those wonderful videos, and thank you for sharing your story with the world.
Thank you for sharing with us. I know the courage it takes to do that. The heart wants what the heart wants. Where you're born means nothing as far as that goes. More power to you!
Ideally, each person should be able to fall in love with another person, without thinking about what gender that person is.
yeah we are gay not bisexuals
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You can be with whomever you want but i disagree being without thinking that is nonsense.
this doesn't work for homosexual people like me, for me a person's biological sex is extremely important because I'm not bisexual and I don't feel any attraction to male people. Accept that not all people are bisexual and homosexuals and heterosexuals also exist .
Good for you Natasha and we love you even more after this program - I am a 74 years heterosexual male and had 2 sons ( one unfortunately passed away after having had Covid at the age of 44) , a big loss. Our family have always had an open mind with regards to sexuality . I am from a country where people were, and a lot still are , very conservative and judgemental but fortunately things have changed (for most but not all). You always seemed quite a serious person and a bit of an introvert but because you were yourself , I liked your videos as opposed to some who are more interested in themselves and make videos , unlike yourself, to get subscribers using things they think people like and not being honest.
Best wishes and stay who you are .
My brother passed away earlier this year at the age of 44. Covid was a factor.
as a bisexual teen in Georgia, thank you for making this video
Natasha ... You are awesome. I appreciate your openness and honesty. I'm a 75 year old bisexual American. It wasn't easy in my youth. Straight people are not affected by the existence of non-straight people. Non-trans people are not affected by the existence of trans people. They choose to make the existence of others an issue. ☀️ Please keep being you. You are one of my favorite people.
Just be happy being who you are, you are awesome!!! X
It's been so interesting watching the way you and your channel have grown over the past two years or so. You're incredibly inspirational...and informative. And thanks for finding post-event rumination-knew I had it, never knew it had a name.
My country 🇺🇲 is an Olympian-level athlete at post-event rumination. 😊
What is important is that you are a good person, and that is something that is easy to see. Be who you are!
Big Hugs from Germany. Think of you and hope you're safe
Even in the United States I had a hard time coming out in 2007 to my family. My family were very religious I was kicked out of my home and they did not support me and my education. Things here have only really changed positively in the last 10 to 15 years and it happened very quickly. I feel a lot of sympathy and solidarity with you sending lots of love from the United States 🌈
In a world so full of hate, if you can find genuine love in someone, regardless of sex, embrace it! Run with it as far as you can, and then some! This is coming from a 65 yo straight male in the US. I wish you all of the happiness that you deserve.
Good to see you. I was thinking about how I hadn't seen a new video from you in awhile. Glad you are doing well, and F the haters! Be safe, too!
I just found your channel with your video about the situation with RUclips in Russia, and now this is the second video of yours I've seen. I appreciate your candor, it means the world to me to learn more about how daily life is in other parts of the world. Thank you for sharing your human experience and bringing the world closer together. 🌈
This took a lot of courage for you. This will just make you stronger. Don't forget people online get off on trolling. Some people you just shouldn't listen to. The rest of us fully support you!
Dear Natasha,
you are such a brave girl! Everything on you is completely ok and normal, even when most of the ruzzians think otherwise! I find it very important, that you speak out about your personal story! Do never listen to people, who talk bad about you, we all have such experiences! It is sad, that many people has barriers in their head! Not only in ruzzia, everywhere. You've traveled in different countries and made the experience of cultural difference. In every country are living some good people, some societies are more open minded than others and you surely find a place where your life is good. Friends are important, but most important is the people you are living with. Keep your mood up, life is good even on rainy days! I send you a hug and a part of my optimism, i have a lot!
Greetings from germany, a country with a lot of beautyfull people, open minded, well informed and mostly not reachable for bad propaganda!
Наташа, you are such an amazing, strong and intelligent woman who deserves nothing but happiness. I have been a fan of your channel for years. I originally came across your channel because I was interested in Russian culture and vlogs but your videos are so much more than informative, they are inspiring! Much love from London!!
Natasha, you are providing a huge service to a lot of young people out there who need to hear stories like yours. Not taking into account that you are Russian, which most certainly adds a layer of complexity to your story, yours is a human story. Congratulations on getting to the point in your life in which you can speak your truth. Cheers to you in your pursuit of happiness.
So much intense emotions in this video! Please disregard people who can’t understand “to live and let live”. It’s easy to hate, it’s easy to laugh, but it takes guts to be gentle and kind.
I greatly admire the high priority you place on honesty, integrity, and logic. You make a great reporter for the world. Carry on and know many are grateful for your work.
I am proud of your courage to speak out like this! I grew up in Georgia but moved to the United States as a teenager, and I’d never call my childhood country as a tolerant country outside the traditional norms. My family almost flipped out when I divorced. But I was raised in a small town with a small mind mentality. Hang in there and continue to improve your mental health because regardless of who you like intimately, you yourself has to be strong in order to attack a right partner in life. That part of relationships equation is true for all humans. I wish you luck in Georgia! I wish this video had Georgian subtitles because I am sure there are plenty of Georgian girls that could benefit from hearing your story. Stay strong!
I can't stress enough how much hanging out with friends helps in dating. Screw the apps! Meeting someone through friends is the best, because there is no awkward expectation AND the people you meet are "pre-screened" by the people you already like!