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It’s so true!!! I was so nice!!!! Then I dumped him (I didn’t expect to dump him it just happened out of the blue) it was like deep down out of self respect I needed to. He for sure didn’t think I would. He told me that there has never been a woman who has caused him so much pain. I was surprised because he always acts so tough and he’s such a player. I didn’t expect this but it needed to happen. I slayed him. I slayed the player.
Video summary: 1) 3:10 the good boss effect find something to critisize then return to being nice 2) 7:11 create insecurities through your insinuations if he's skinny, praise a guy who's big if he's middle-class, praise a guy who's rich 3) 9:34 the preemptive breakup breakup with them, block them from social media, find a way to still meet them and act as if everything is fine
You won't behave like this forever, after bond is created and you marry him, basically when he shows he truly deserves you, you open up to him, you should behave this way when things get cold/take for granted.
Number 2 works. This guy I was hanging out with never used to open the car door for me, wtf. I started talking about other guys I know who are ‘so sweet’ and who ‘do gentlemenly things’ etc etc and all of a sudden he was opening all doors for me.
Ha ha same thing happened to me on first bumble date..i said how American guys open doors for girls and how Indian guys dont do it..and the guy was like ya we dont do that..was a lil annoyed and then I was surprised when he opened the door for me when we were going back 😄
I do a lot of this stuff naturally and I will be honest, I am so secure within myself that if I noticed a guy even attempting to try these on me... I would not fall for it. LOL
Yes , I have a dude that has done all this shit to me. I was wondering why it seems so hard for me to stop messing with him. It’s because he has made me attached with these tactics. I’m in total shock you nailed it!!
Woah, an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind. The best revenge is moving on & becoming better and happier period no matter what you should want the best for you ex or else your equal to blame.
I used to be a good girl with an open heart. After some heartbreaks I noticed that I became cold to men. Now it's difficult for me to open up and like some duy in a deeply level. I feel now my fellings are superficial. What's strange is that guys have been falling for me and chasing me way more. I became a narcisist without even noticing I was becoming one... Nowadays I Just hang with guys when I can take advantage of them. Im aways thinking about me First, but this was caused by a heartbroken I had for a Guy :((
This is like creating trauma bonding and or manipulative tactics. It’s really about having self respect and knowing your value as a woman. Set standards
Same. No games and unintentional. I’m sweet, but I stand my ground and point things out as needed. They always come back, but I choose to keep moving forward.
@@faezehes6938 I'm genuinely a nice person, but I am not to be fucked with, so I will call bs out. If the behavior is corrected I am sweet as pie. If not I will cut them off. I don't purposely point out inadequacies but I let men know what I do want or when I see something in someone that I like but he lacks.
This is ALL true...its also borderline abusive as he said. But that psychological trauma bond does make men (and women) obsessed. Becuase they're always trying to meet your standards by getting that initial approval you gave. That approval which released the initial hit of dopamine. The obsession is them chasing the high
Alex I only go for your advices when it comes to relationships you really helped me grow into a better version of myself and how to put myself first . I am forever grateful for you. It would be a pleasure to meet you one day I’m a big fan.
I just want the nightclubs to open up again so I can wear my shiny clothes and dance around in the crowd with a shiny smile on my face. That's my love story. Amen and hallelujah!
1. Be a good B0$$: be nice but sometimes directly criticize them for their character/ appearance 2. Create insecurities through hints of admiration for others having things he doesn't 3. Break it up yet shake it up with confusing kindness like a borderliner when bumping into him
I accidentally did this with my husband when we met. I sincerely didn’t like him. He said he didn’t like Army girls, so I said I don’t date short men. Then he started chasing me and said some mean shit about my attitude towards the Army. I cut him off and told him he could call me LT instead of my first name. But as soon as I started loving him when we got married, he started treating me like shit. So these tactics do work, but you have to keep it up. You can never surrender and be yourself towards that man.
Treating men like shit in the beginning makes them resentful and more apt to try to take you down. If they are immature they will continue to pursue a woman who doesn’t like them just to prove she can be conquered. This is why games only work in the short term.
This is soooooo true. I teach horse riding and I’m so tough with my students. Some days I’d say I’m quite a bitch. I can go from 0 to 100 real quick and I don’t take shit. But the moment I praise them I see how their face lights up they are so delighted with the validation they crave and they love me and respect me so much. I’ve noticed when I put more effort in to be nice and sweet then they don’t respect me or my time. And isn’t it true when we look back at school- we didn’t respect the teacher that was trying to be our friend. We respected the tough one that did their job well
Criticism creates only criticism. Manipulation causes hatred. At the moment I discovered my beloved manipulating with me I lost all my love and respect for him for good. Nothing could turn it back!
This is why this world is in a sad state, because of all of the manipulation. The work of Satan, The mental confusion he causes. The True God is not of confusion. Self love is The Greatest love of all. The Devil is the one who plays on the mind. Pray Pray Pray Pray!!!!!!!!!
Ok..this 💩 really does work!! I used these tactics on my crush at work...showed him I was the sweet girl!! Called I'm out on his stuff and he never apologizes to ppl..but he do with me!! I showed him that I like him..being sweet to him for a few months then told him it will never work out because hes selfish and rude and friend zone that ass!!🤣😂 and I also started ghosting him at work for two months..now he chasing me..bring me flowers to work and buying me lunch now I can't shake his ass off !! Real talk
Being nice has nothing to do with attracting Narcs. Narcissistic people don’t go after emotionally stable people they go for needy emotionally unstable daddy issues or broken people.
i think the content creator is emotionally unintelligent tbh. so thats the kind of stuff you're going to attract. i only use his videos to learn how people play dumb games. if you want to learn how to attract a high quality man, then go to the videos of a high quality man telling you how to attract men like him. make sense?
@@Supported32320 Even intelligent people play games too unintentionally... This is life and people are looking for that spark no matter what it is,that's how the human mind works so whether you like it or not you must play or you'll get dumped.
so as a conclusion to years watching you , women have to be totally herself and have to perfect balance between comforting and intimidating to get to the sick world of love hahaha ,, well it works like a charm, and your video when you said the sentence *you're not that lovable* ans *be willing to walk away* changed my entier life, i can't thank you enough Dale :D
It worked well.. unbelievable. Been following your teaching since last year. Learnt alot from Alex. It's a risk but it works. depend on your client gotta use different strategy
That was so entertaining and so true. I've never thought about it, but I do that naturally, not as a form of manipulation. I am kind, giving and thoughtful, but I will give criticism as easily as I give compliments. It makes sense. They don't know if they are coming or going. You keep them off tilter. I look at it as balance. Both positive and negative feedback are essential in a healthy relationship. Balance is important not only in relationships, but life as well. It's no wonder I've had lots of men fall in love with me and over15 marriage proposals. Sadly I've never found a man who measures up. And, I only go for good, kind, high quality men. But, I have yet to find the male version of me.
The thing is this should be natural responses from someone who's expressing boundaries. So set boundaries ladies and follow through. I don't think manipulative methods are okay, it shows that you're insecure and don't have boundaries and don't believe your enough.
When my ex did this break up on me and then act like nothing happened, I literally did not even care anymore, he fell so low in my eyes, actually, he did all these things to me and I totally cut him off, in the end he cried. So this works on certain type of people, not the smart ones with dignity who had manipulative people all their lives..
“Give him the finishing Blow” 🥳💯👌🏽1st class! I’ve seen so many of my friends get men to marry them by manipulation. It’s just not me.. I so wish I could!! I Need to learn... I’m gonna practice on the players...
I’ve done all three of these... as I was finishing up our break up text. 🥴 I said many things that I didn’t like and he said “ I never saw it like that...I’m sorry” tells me that I’m an amazing women. And still watches all my social media?!
Good to know I’ve been doing all along! It does work I just didn’t know I was doing it until this video 😂 20 plus years married 😝 it still happens he calls it bipolar lmao I call it RESPECT ✊
I started watching him when he was uploading his first videos with a cute Afro 😩😂 and then lost a tooth. Your videos saved me from lots of heartbreaks♥️ thank you Alex!!!
Playing games and being genuinely interested in a person can not go together. Playing these hurtful manipulations will backfire big time as it might get you the person you wanted short term but in the long run you will be the one that is played and dumped because this person did not choose you consciously for who you are but because of the mind and heart fuck you gave them. For all of you tempted to use these ‘tricks’ I suggest you start reading up on what true love is and remember karma is just around the corner. Sending love.
It’s really sad that we have to resort to playing mind games to make people fall in love with you. I feel like if you’re genuinely a good person don’t entertain and play games with anyone who doesn’t care about you. Just let them go or don’t force the connection with your expectations. Learn how to enjoy people for the experience and for what it is. If it’s meant for you if will be for you.
I totally agree with you. This is so not me. I'm a good woman. I'm not interested in playing games. Why? Yet here we are. Because I really like this guy now I have to be a bitch to get him to chase me? I guess once i've got him where I want him I can then be nice? I think if you are basically a good person this is just counter intuitive.
@@MindfulAttraction2.0 ....You deserve to have at least a million subscribers bcuz you help people to toughen-up instead of being unnecessarily vulnerable or weak to a point where they're crushed by a break-up & then try to kill themselves. There are actually cases where people get that sad or depressed.. so.. you are actually saving lives.!!! Truth. So..hope this boosts your self-esteem & ego and you keep offering these strategies to toughen people to survive love, etc.!!! Don't worry- i'm not using your tecniques to flatter you..😂😂.. i genuinely view you as a hero bcuz your intentions are to 'help'..and you do!!!👍💯
Prince wrote a song Something in the Water that’s a perfect example of this. The whole song is him mad and whaling about the woman, but still wants her.
He jus needs to like u a little bit n then these tactics can take him to being obsessed with you. Obviously, if the dude really likes u n is showing it, a girl doesnt need to play any of these games
Please I hope the title does justice I need him for life he is the love of my life I did use the hot and cold method,,,,, watched your channel from the beginning heart ♥
I insinuated that it was way too soon to meet his mum... He video called the family (the same day!) and introduced me to them without my knowledge and there they were and there we were- haha- worked a charm!
Im so sad the pain of staying is worse than leaving. Did everything I can I loved him more than anyone. Times I thought he loved me and thinking it meant of the great potential of how great it would be. What it would grow into in those moments. I miss him every every day but I'm realizing I didn't matter one bit. Thanks for vid. Tired of being this sad.
Big Yella Nice girls should NOT do this .If you keep a man by doing this he is emotionally unhealthy .No healthy person will put up with emotional abuse.Do you want an unhealthy relationship where you have to play games to keep someone?. Or do you be yourself and eventually you will find a healthy relationship.If they don’t want you because you are normal then THEY aren’t normal. Like attracts like.Law of attraction
Hope life works that way. My ex bf now my husband pursue me hard at first but as soon as I give in, found out on his messenger that he’s still flirting with other girls and exes. You don’t know what your man is doing tbh even if u guys are already in a relationship. He even asked me after I give in why I was too easy. 🤷🏼♀️ They’re complicated creatures. I also had a bf who totally pulled away as soon as he felt like I’m falling hard.. I was upfront about my feelings and say straight up to him that I love him and all that jazz.. I learned that you can’t be that open to a guy early on coz most of the time they’re testing you how you’ll react. You see even if a guy isn’t attractive he’ll still be able to make you fall for him as long as he pursue hard. You’ll just find urself falling for that guy. They can manipulate us through words. I went through hell first before I settled down.
Check back in 15 years to see how many of those men have cheated on their wives (you may not even know, or the manipulative wife either) or are already divorced. Manipulating a person into marriage NEVER ends well.
I just found you today & it looks like I'm grabbing my Bustelo & stay a Lil' while.. Nice to be here, it's refreshing to see someone so down to earth who ain't afraid to keep it Real.. Thank you!
This only works on emotionally unhealthy people who are either narcissists themselves or codependents.A healthy person will pick up on someone’s games and manipulation and leave .This is teaching someone how to act like a narcissist.I do not recommend .If you want healthy relationships you don’t play games.Most importantly a healthy individual will NOT want you if you do this.Example - The telling the skinny guy you are dating about the fit people at the gym.A healthy person will pick up on the fact that you are intentionally trying to hurt them Then guess what a few more times you pull these kind of games “ red flags” the guy / girl you are toying with leaves you and rightfully so! You only lose the good ones by doing this.If you want an unhealthy relationship by all means do this it will work if the person is not healthy.If you don’t play games and the person leaves it is because they are unhealthy and are addicted to the pain which is an unhealthy persons perception of “ love” and they can’t stand normal because they never had normal and most likely grew up in a toxic household. OR they were healthy but it just wasn’t meant to be.You will know if a person is healthy or not weather they play/ played games with YOU it is that simple (Or maybe they just listened to some bad advice on a RUclips video.)Ask yourself do I want a healthy or unhealthy relationship then choose wisely
This is trauma bonding. Your victim is obsessed with the high they got from your initial validation/ interest, they don't truly love YOU. Basically this is a sad substitute for love for a sad type of person. That hole inside of you will always stare right back. 😘
I love that I've instinctively been doing this to this guy for a year. I have been through it all so my instinct is really sharp. I always watch your videos hoping I haven't left anything out🤣but it's that I intuitively do it I don't realize I'm doing it til I watch a video. Yea I would break up with him he would always panic and show his true colors. He's such a rookie but he tries to pretend otherwise but I'm that 1😊 I actually think he's gonna propose to me this valentines weekend😉
I did all these things even without stumbling upon your channel or getting dating advice. It makes sense, in the course of getting into a relationship, you have to be vulnerable and show your shadow side at the right time in order to set standards or boundaries, because truth prevails overtime...you aren't toxic...just natural. Maybe you should rename your channel to Natural Chemistry or something else...laws of human nature....😊
That of the pain seems legit. I hurt my current date saying he didn't meet my standards, and that, whether he believed it or not, someone else did meet them in my recent past, and that my standards weren't all that high or difficult, sort of. And he blocked me for 24hs all of a sudden, but when he unblocked me and we actually got to talk it's like relationship evolved straight away from exclusive sex to full blown "I love you" kind of relationship. And all that because we both had sort of pain to deal with, which in turn made us realize we feel for each other more than we would had cared to acknowledge to ourselves, let alone the other person. Update; ... two months later and still going strong.
It's not him , it's his ego If you really hurt his ego he will do everything it takes to get you back , but the intention won't be necessary good beware he may dump you right after cheat on you ...abuse you in extreme cases everyone has its own way of revenge If you got a man to block you took it too far You have to be more subtil and play the contrast well stroke /slap ..stroke/ slap ..repeat If you feel resent from him ..It's over get to the next one baby ,it takes some practice tbh we all screwed up at some point
I was so evil towards a guy on the second date. I mean I was a standoffish mess. After that date he called me about 10 times and I missed all of the calls. I returned his calls the next day and about a month later he was my guy. He was the best man I have ever dated.
Once again you brought me back from messing another relationship up we are intelligent woman and can use districton. Balance it out thank you for talking me off the edge of chasing
I have been heart broken for some time , I will not use this information but I understand a lot now. I understand . I see and I feel better thank you for the video .
All the things you describe here are things that any high value person would do. You call out the bad behaviour, say what you will and won't accept and be willing to walk away if you don't get what you want. But be careful, if you do any of these things and it is not authentic then it won't work. It will be seen as games. It is not psychological abuse if the intention is good and it comes from a place of sincerity.
Wow! I used two of these methods without realizing it. I acted all nice then I criticized him harshly. I switched it up back to a nice gal. We ended our interactions and then I bump into him accidentally.
I hurted my bf so badly it was not my intention, he forgave me I honestly felt so stupid hurting him. somehow he treats me so good he treats me like his wife he is obsessed with me Also i respect him way more because he forgave me the hurt I caused he overcame that and I never would think my man is weak. He is my all and I am his all
@@Inateacupfullofgold I haven’t seen my mom since i was 8, she passed away when I was 14, now I’m 20. My heart is heavy 😞😢 I need loving nurturing motherly love ... 😭 i has to live with my father I met him when I was 8 at a hotel lobby, where the police found me and mom at. I was separated from my mom at 8, taken to my dad 😥😣 my dad and me are both two strangers in the house when I was 8, still the same nothing has changed he remarried with a 30 years younger woman who she was at that time my English teacher who came home... 😥😣 my heart is void
I have listened to most relationship coaches in here but so far you are the funniest and as you say the one that gives most "fucked up" advice... hahaha. Thanks
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Does this 3 things work on ex? Obviously not the premptive break up. We broke up over that
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It’s so true!!! I was so nice!!!! Then I dumped him (I didn’t expect to dump him it just happened out of the blue) it was like deep down out of self respect I needed to. He for sure didn’t think I would. He told me that there has never been a woman who has caused him so much pain. I was surprised because he always acts so tough and he’s such a player. I didn’t expect this but it needed to happen. I slayed him. I slayed the player.
Shame
Yes queen!
No you didn’t lol
🤣🤣 she slayed the player. Yes ma'am. 👏👏👏👏
Go, you!!!!! Me, too after 7.4 years...
He was Devastated. Said he thought I'd never go.
Hes STILL pursuing me, begging me ..3 months later.
Lol
Every thing you've said, my brothers taught me when I was 13. I have 4 brothers.
Did we ask?
Same
Video summary:
1) 3:10 the good boss effect
find something to critisize then return to being nice
2) 7:11 create insecurities through your insinuations
if he's skinny, praise a guy who's big
if he's middle-class, praise a guy who's rich
3) 9:34 the preemptive breakup
breakup with them, block them from social media, find a way to still meet them and act as if everything is fine
How to have a successful toxic relationship 101 😂
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Mindful Attraction 2.0 lmao 😂 it’s okay I do this stuff without realizing it 😂
Lol right. Hey..might as well be winning ❤
You won't behave like this forever, after bond is created and you marry him, basically when he shows he truly deserves you, you open up to him, you should behave this way when things get cold/take for granted.
Its all about reciprocity
Number 2 works. This guy I was hanging out with never used to open the car door for me, wtf. I started talking about other guys I know who are ‘so sweet’ and who ‘do gentlemenly things’ etc etc and all of a sudden he was opening all doors for me.
Ha ha same thing happened to me on first bumble date..i said how American guys open doors for girls and how Indian guys dont do it..and the guy was like ya we dont do that..was a lil annoyed and then I was surprised when he opened the door for me when we were going back 😄
*To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow - this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.*
I do a lot of this stuff naturally and I will be honest, I am so secure within myself that if I noticed a guy even attempting to try these on me... I would not fall for it. LOL
Dude!🤣🤣Same here.I always it call it out on the guys-which allows me to weirdly do it to them.
@@Loveddeeply626 Teach me, dude.
Lee Steal be at ease,be present.Let it seem like you’re falling for the trickery-give room
@@Loveddeeply626 I don't understand, too nice I suppose.
i just had a guy try it on me. He was mad and stopped talking me cuz he saw i wasn’t falling for it
Yes , I have a dude that has done all this shit to me. I was wondering why it seems so hard for me to stop messing with him. It’s because he has made me attached with these tactics. I’m in total shock you nailed it!!
Woah, an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind. The best revenge is moving on & becoming better and happier period no matter what you should want the best for you ex or else your equal to blame.
That's what I think to he doesn't deserve you if he playing this kinda game with you...
I used to be a good girl with an open heart. After some heartbreaks I noticed that I became cold to men. Now it's difficult for me to open up and like some duy in a deeply level. I feel now my fellings are superficial. What's strange is that guys have been falling for me and chasing me way more. I became a narcisist without even noticing I was becoming one...
Nowadays I Just hang with guys when I can take advantage of them. Im aways thinking about me First, but this was caused by a heartbroken I had for a Guy :((
This is totally normal, you became jaded. Feeling the same way too
I am in the same boat sister
Word, sister. 👍🏻
Good
I feel the same way
This is like creating trauma bonding and or manipulative tactics. It’s really about having self respect and knowing your value as a woman. Set standards
This explains why all my ex's are obsessed. I've unintentionally done all of these.🤦♀️
can youuu explain plz
Same. No games and unintentional. I’m sweet, but I stand my ground and point things out as needed. They always come back, but I choose to keep moving forward.
@@faezehes6938 I'm genuinely a nice person, but I am not to be fucked with, so I will call bs out. If the behavior is corrected I am sweet as pie. If not I will cut them off. I don't purposely point out inadequacies but I let men know what I do want or when I see something in someone that I like but he lacks.
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This is ALL true...its also borderline abusive as he said. But that psychological trauma bond does make men (and women) obsessed. Becuase they're always trying to meet your standards by getting that initial approval you gave. That approval which released the initial hit of dopamine. The obsession is them chasing the high
“Don’t make me feel insecure I’ll close the channel” 😆😭😂 LORDDD
Alex I only go for your advices when it comes to relationships you really helped me grow into a better version of myself and how to put myself first . I am forever grateful for you. It would be a pleasure to meet you one day I’m a big fan.
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Yup! This is true at the same time sad. People dont appreciate people who are good to them.
Literally
I just want the nightclubs to open up again so I can wear my shiny clothes and dance around in the crowd with a shiny smile on my face. That's my love story. Amen and hallelujah!
hahahahaha me 2 you are my soulmate friend
Lol
I love you my sister
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Mine to girl! Dance dance dance dance
1. Be a good B0$$: be nice but sometimes directly criticize them for their character/ appearance
2. Create insecurities through hints of admiration for others having things he doesn't
3. Break it up yet shake it up with confusing kindness like a borderliner when bumping into him
4. mission failed, just wanted to add this so you know that if it was that easy everyone would be already doing it
Dam you smart lady you have you own channel..🥸🤓
I accidentally did this with my husband when we met. I sincerely didn’t like him. He said he didn’t like Army girls, so I said I don’t date short men. Then he started chasing me and said some mean shit about my attitude towards the Army. I cut him off and told him he could call me LT instead of my first name. But as soon as I started loving him when we got married, he started treating me like shit. So these tactics do work, but you have to keep it up. You can never surrender and be yourself towards that man.
Same boo
Jesus this sounds exhausting
@@oeu3669 yah man...
@@oeu3669 I know right, and I don't even know where to start from 🤷
Treating men like shit in the beginning makes them resentful and more apt to try to take you down. If they are immature they will continue to pursue a woman who doesn’t like them just to prove she can be conquered. This is why games only work in the short term.
I'm a nice girl but out of dissatisfaction I already did these 3 subconsciously. He ain't letting me go. Loooool
Just realized my friend does this to me. Time to learn
Same here ..for years
I become mean to a man when I genuinely don't want him and want to push him away. Well, that's when they become obsessed. I can't win. I guess. lmao
This is soooooo true. I teach horse riding and I’m so tough with my students. Some days I’d say I’m quite a bitch. I can go from 0 to 100 real quick and I don’t take shit. But the moment I praise them I see how their face lights up they are so delighted with the validation they crave and they love me and respect me so much. I’ve noticed when I put more effort in to be nice and sweet then they don’t respect me or my time. And isn’t it true when we look back at school- we didn’t respect the teacher that was trying to be our friend. We respected the tough one that did their job well
I respected all of my teachers
Criticism creates only criticism. Manipulation causes hatred. At the moment I discovered my beloved manipulating with me I lost all my love and respect for him for good. Nothing could turn it back!
This is why this world is in a sad state, because of all of the manipulation. The work of Satan, The mental confusion he causes. The True God is not of confusion. Self love is The Greatest love of all. The Devil is the one who plays on the mind. Pray Pray Pray Pray!!!!!!!!!
Agreed
but thats the key is that you discovered it thats what turns you off but if it goes unnoticed it works
Damn so I’m low key manipulative without even noticing....shit I thought I was a nice girl
We all did😁😁
Same
Same!! LOL
Me too! Lol 😃😃
I love how u threat us with closing the channel 😂😂😂 it cracked me up.
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Ok..this 💩 really does work!!
I used these tactics on my crush at work...showed him I was the sweet girl!! Called I'm out on his stuff and he never apologizes to ppl..but he do with me!! I showed him that I like him..being sweet to him for a few months then told him it will never work out because hes selfish and rude and friend zone that ass!!🤣😂 and I also started ghosting him at work for two months..now he chasing me..bring me flowers to work and buying me lunch now I can't shake his ass off !! Real talk
Wow sweetest thing I've heard, God bless you 🙏🏻
Yes these have worked on me... I’m too much of a “good girl” and I attract narcissists
Same! 🙄 at least we see what is really going on now 😁
Same. 7 years of that, I left.
He's begging me, now ..
Lol
On your knees bee yotch... there's a new sheriff in town ...
Being nice has nothing to do with attracting Narcs. Narcissistic people don’t go after emotionally stable people they go for needy emotionally unstable daddy issues or broken people.
all of these tactics are narcissists behaviors though.
Talk about it. All this shit he's preaching has been done to me. And I always come off as the weak one.
OMG my ex husband does this to me, and I divorced him, because I was suffering from the abuse, I don't longer remember who I am, he is a narcissist.
You will recover from this! Did you go no contact?
Does this strategy work on High Value men? I feel like this would attract emotionally unintelligent boys 🤔
It works!
@@GloriaMGK how??
i think the content creator is emotionally unintelligent tbh. so thats the kind of stuff you're going to attract.
i only use his videos to learn how people play dumb games.
if you want to learn how to attract a high quality man, then go to the videos of a high quality man telling you how to attract men like him. make sense?
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@@Supported32320 Even intelligent people play games too unintentionally... This is life and people are looking for that spark no matter what it is,that's how the human mind works so whether you like it or not you must play or you'll get dumped.
so as a conclusion to years watching you , women have to be totally herself and have to perfect balance between comforting and intimidating to get to the sick world of love hahaha ,, well it works like a charm, and your video when you said the sentence *you're not that lovable* ans *be willing to walk away* changed my entier life, i can't thank you enough Dale :D
PERFECT EXAMPLE of how keeping it real goes wrong
It worked well.. unbelievable. Been following your teaching since last year. Learnt alot from Alex. It's a risk but it works. depend on your client gotta use different strategy
Omg 😂😂😂
That was so entertaining and so true. I've never thought about it, but I do that naturally, not as a form of manipulation. I am kind, giving and thoughtful, but I will give criticism as easily as I give compliments. It makes sense. They don't know if they are coming or going. You keep them off tilter. I look at it as balance. Both positive and negative feedback are essential in a healthy relationship. Balance is important not only in relationships, but life as well.
It's no wonder I've had lots of men fall in love with me and over15 marriage proposals. Sadly I've never found a man who measures up. And, I only go for good, kind, high quality men. But, I have yet to find the male version of me.
Wow good story
The thing is this should be natural responses from someone who's expressing boundaries. So set boundaries ladies and follow through. I don't think manipulative methods are okay, it shows that you're insecure and don't have boundaries and don't believe your enough.
When my ex did this break up on me and then act like nothing happened, I literally did not even care anymore, he fell so low in my eyes, actually, he did all these things to me and I totally cut him off, in the end he cried. So this works on certain type of people, not the smart ones with dignity who had manipulative people all their lives..
Mens minds work differently
How long did this situation last? As I am going through something similar :(
Games are not love
“Give him the finishing Blow” 🥳💯👌🏽1st class! I’ve seen so many of my friends get men to marry them by manipulation. It’s just not me.. I so wish I could!! I Need to learn... I’m gonna practice on the players...
I’ve done all three of these... as I was finishing up our break up text. 🥴 I said many things that I didn’t like and he said “ I never saw it like that...I’m sorry” tells me that I’m an amazing women. And still watches all my social media?!
When u r nice u protect his ego, when u hurt him u hurt his ego. U are doing him a favor by hurting his ego it is an impediment to his enlightenment.
Well said.
That ego is something else, needs to go.
Good to know I’ve been doing all along! It does work I just didn’t know I was doing it until this video 😂 20 plus years married 😝 it still happens he calls it bipolar lmao I call it RESPECT ✊
I started watching him when he was uploading his first videos with a cute Afro 😩😂 and then lost a tooth. Your videos saved me from lots of heartbreaks♥️ thank you Alex!!!
Playing games and being genuinely interested in a person can not go together. Playing these hurtful manipulations will backfire big time as it might get you the person you wanted short term but in the long run you will be the one that is played and dumped because this person did not choose you consciously for who you are but because of the mind and heart fuck you gave them. For all of you tempted to use these ‘tricks’ I suggest you start reading up on what true love is and remember karma is just around the corner. Sending love.
It’s really sad that we have to resort to playing mind games to make people fall in love with you. I feel like if you’re genuinely a good person don’t entertain and play games with anyone who doesn’t care about you. Just let them go or don’t force the connection with your expectations. Learn how to enjoy people for the experience and for what it is. If it’s meant for you if will be for you.
I do totally agree with this as well .... Bc I am good person
Thank you!
Needed this thanks
Agree. Play games and you’ll always be playing them but should stand up for yourself
I totally agree with you. This is so not me. I'm a good woman. I'm not interested in playing games. Why? Yet here we are. Because I really like this guy now I have to be a bitch to get him to chase me? I guess once i've got him where I want him I can then be nice? I think if you are basically a good person this is just counter intuitive.
3 years and counting? This channel has never been removed Dalexis...
Let's go!;
@@MindfulAttraction2.0 ....You deserve to have at least a million subscribers bcuz you help people to toughen-up instead of being unnecessarily vulnerable or weak to a point where they're crushed by a break-up & then try to kill themselves. There are actually cases where people get that sad or depressed.. so.. you are actually saving lives.!!! Truth. So..hope this boosts your self-esteem & ego and you keep offering these strategies to toughen people to survive love, etc.!!!
Don't worry- i'm not using your tecniques to flatter you..😂😂.. i genuinely view you as a hero bcuz your intentions are to 'help'..and you do!!!👍💯
Prince wrote a song Something in the Water that’s a perfect example of this. The whole song is him mad and whaling about the woman, but still wants her.
Funny you should say this because I was just thinking Strange Relationship by Prince talks about narcissistic people🤓
Oh my goodness. Yes. U are so right.
If he don't like you
All this crap not going work
True
He jus needs to like u a little bit n then these tactics can take him to being obsessed with you. Obviously, if the dude really likes u n is showing it, a girl doesnt need to play any of these games
Finally a sane person
Real talk..
He could be using you!
This man is hilarious… but so right! 😂 sadness gone when I watch your videos, empowering!
I love the way he says about being careful while using it. He is the best!😊😊💕💞 Practical advice explained simply always. You're awesome...😅🤞🏻
Please I hope the title does justice I need him for life he is the love of my life
I did use the hot and cold method,,,,, watched your channel from the beginning heart ♥
I insinuated that it was way too soon to meet his mum... He video called the family (the same day!) and introduced me to them without my knowledge and there they were and there we were- haha- worked a charm!
So basically cause the victim to trauma bond to you lol I swear this is a “how to be a narcissist” channel. But I love it lol 😂
Lol
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I use it to identify the patron if used against me.... not working so far
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Lol 😂 my thought exactly
I'm a seasoned vet because of you. I had a rough time but I'm on the track
Im so sad the pain of staying is worse than leaving. Did everything I can I loved him more than anyone. Times I thought he loved me and thinking it meant of the great potential of how great it would be. What it would grow into in those moments. I miss him every every day but I'm realizing I didn't matter one bit. Thanks for vid. Tired of being this sad.
Already doing it...stepped into my power, 🦁 about time! Your videos, always make me smile.
Im a nice girl, you give me hope. Dude, you rock. Keep'em coming.
Big Yella Nice girls should NOT do this .If you keep a man by doing this he is emotionally unhealthy .No healthy person will put up with emotional abuse.Do you want an unhealthy relationship where you have to play games to keep someone?. Or do you be yourself and eventually you will find a healthy relationship.If they don’t want you because you are normal then THEY aren’t normal. Like attracts like.Law of attraction
Star 97% of people are not emotionally healthy 😂
this is fcuked up
& i cannot wait to utilize it.
I will never manipulate or beg for love.
That's fucked up,man.
That's not love.
That's a trauma bond!
No.thank.you.
All peoplz have trauma everybody is sick
It is true, when you ignore they come after you, I have experienced it, it is something energetic. works with all relationships
We are all adults. Let’s cut the chase and be upfront about what you want.
It doesn’t work . Not everybody is honest . Than you get played...
Communication is the issue nobody wants to talk
Hope life works that way. My ex bf now my husband pursue me hard at first but as soon as I give in, found out on his messenger that he’s still flirting with other girls and exes. You don’t know what your man is doing tbh even if u guys are already in a relationship. He even asked me after I give in why I was too easy. 🤷🏼♀️ They’re complicated creatures. I also had a bf who totally pulled away as soon as he felt like I’m falling hard.. I was upfront about my feelings and say straight up to him that I love him and all that jazz.. I learned that you can’t be that open to a guy early on coz most of the time they’re testing you how you’ll react. You see even if a guy isn’t attractive he’ll still be able to make you fall for him as long as he pursue hard. You’ll just find urself falling for that guy. They can manipulate us through words. I went through hell first before I settled down.
@@DallasJayCook that’s too much game playing going on.
@@Rhugheswiesel that’s why you don’t allow no one to play you.
How are these guys ever going to learn unless its done to them..this is all a teaching lesson ..helps them..
“Give him the finishing Blow” 1st class! I’ve seen so many of my friends get men to marry them by manipulation. It’s just not me.. I so wish I could
Check back in 15 years to see how many of those men have cheated on their wives (you may not even know, or the manipulative wife either) or are already divorced. Manipulating a person into marriage NEVER ends well.
The break up technique worked for me. The guy didn’t look weirded out at all! He’s texting me more then ever.
I was totally already doing this and I didn’t even know
I just found you today & it looks like I'm grabbing my Bustelo & stay a Lil' while.. Nice to be here, it's refreshing to see someone so down to earth who ain't afraid to keep it Real.. Thank you!
This only works on emotionally unhealthy people who are either narcissists themselves or codependents.A healthy person will pick up on someone’s games and manipulation and leave .This is teaching someone how to act like a narcissist.I do not recommend .If you want healthy relationships you don’t play games.Most importantly a healthy individual will NOT want you if you do this.Example - The telling the skinny guy you are dating about the fit people at the gym.A healthy person will pick up on the fact that you are intentionally trying to hurt them Then guess what a few more times you pull these kind of games “ red flags” the guy / girl you are toying with leaves you and rightfully so! You only lose the good ones by doing this.If you want an unhealthy relationship by all means do this it will work if the person is not healthy.If you don’t play games and the person leaves it is because they are unhealthy and are addicted to the pain which is an unhealthy persons perception of “ love” and they can’t stand normal because they never had normal and most likely grew up in a toxic household. OR they were healthy but it just wasn’t meant to be.You will know if a person is healthy or not weather they play/ played games with YOU it is that simple (Or maybe they just listened to some bad advice on a RUclips video.)Ask yourself do I want a healthy or unhealthy relationship then choose wisely
It's a good tactic for getting rid of narcissists.
Facts heavy on the narcissist part and I think the ppl on here co-signing for him are the covert narcs
i did all these unknowingly. im evil lol. but he's in love. i never tell him i love him back though.
Your apartment is sooo cozy and cool looking!
I naturally did this 1 day ago. The Criticism and he completely stop doing it. Nothing too harsh but it worked. I had no idea there was a tatic
This is trauma bonding. Your victim is obsessed with the high they got from your initial validation/ interest, they don't truly love YOU. Basically this is a sad substitute for love for a sad type of person. That hole inside of you will always stare right back. 😘
eh well🤷🏽♀️
They love that
I can think of the exact guy who did that to me I'm so mad listening to this and happy at the same time
I love that I've instinctively been doing this to this guy for a year. I have been through it all so my instinct is really sharp. I always watch your videos hoping I haven't left anything out🤣but it's that I intuitively do it I don't realize I'm doing it til I watch a video. Yea I would break up with him he would always panic and show his true colors. He's such a rookie but he tries to pretend otherwise but I'm that 1😊 I actually think he's gonna propose to me this valentines weekend😉
U got ur proposal ?
@@riririri655 hell no. Got pregnant😑baby boy is 6 months now and still no proposal. I'm honest
Lmaoooo I’m crying at the “Alexians” I know you just winged that name & I love it! You’re so authentic 😭😂
I did all these things even without stumbling upon your channel or getting dating advice. It makes sense, in the course of getting into a relationship, you have to be vulnerable and show your shadow side at the right time in order to set standards or boundaries, because truth prevails overtime...you aren't toxic...just natural. Maybe you should rename your channel to Natural Chemistry or something else...laws of human nature....😊
My second day waking up and just looking forward to listen to your videos !
That of the pain seems legit. I hurt my current date saying he didn't meet my standards, and that, whether he believed it or not, someone else did meet them in my recent past, and that my standards weren't all that high or difficult, sort of. And he blocked me for 24hs all of a sudden, but when he unblocked me and we actually got to talk it's like relationship evolved straight away from exclusive sex to full blown "I love you" kind of relationship. And all that because we both had sort of pain to deal with, which in turn made us realize we feel for each other more than we would had cared to acknowledge to ourselves, let alone the other person. Update; ... two months later and still going strong.
Omg I just watched the beginning and already love it 😈
I’ve done all this, I fully hurt his ego, he blocked me on social media, now 7 weeks later he’s came up on my WhatsApp 🤔😂👌🏻
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Mindful Attraction 2.0 it’s a good sign isn’t it?
and you got nowhere in the end. Manipulating people don't work
It's not him , it's his ego
If you really hurt his ego he will do everything it takes to get you back , but the intention won't be necessary good beware
he may dump you right after cheat on you ...abuse you in extreme cases
everyone has its own way of revenge
If you got a man to block you took it too far
You have to be more subtil and play the contrast well stroke /slap ..stroke/ slap ..repeat
If you feel resent from him ..It's over get to the next one baby ,it takes some practice tbh we all screwed up at some point
Amerokee being nice for no reason sure, being yourself with standards and confidence does work. Watch psychology in seattle and you will thank me
Men remember never do this to women, this will prevent her from falling in love. Women are different from men.
It’s not real love 💔
This hot/cold behaviour creates
an addiction
You think love lasts? Stay in your fantasy
This is one of your best videos. Omg. I cannot believe it. Amazing. Thank you.
Holy shit no wonder why I always fall in love with my bosses !! 🤣
I was so evil towards a guy on the second date. I mean I was a standoffish mess. After that date he called me about 10 times and I missed all of the calls. I returned his calls the next day and about a month later he was my guy. He was the best man I have ever dated.
Are you still with him?
Thankx to Dalexis. Im mean asf. I swear i did these methods and it works like a charm.
It does
Once again you brought me back from messing another relationship up we are intelligent woman and can use districton. Balance it out thank you for talking me off the edge of chasing
I’ve used the breakup tactic with intention of really leaving.
I have been heart broken for some time , I will not use this information but I understand a lot now. I understand . I see and I feel better thank you for the video .
I didn’t realize I’m doing all this unconsciously 😂
I gave him the finishing blow today.
I know he was falling in love but needed that push. It was so fucking hard but I did it.
All the things you describe here are things that any high value person would do. You call out the bad behaviour, say what you will and won't accept and be willing to walk away if you don't get what you want. But be careful, if you do any of these things and it is not authentic then it won't work. It will be seen as games. It is not psychological abuse if the intention is good and it comes from a place of sincerity.
Wow! I used two of these methods without realizing it. I acted all nice then I criticized him harshly. I switched it up back to a nice gal. We ended our interactions and then I bump into him accidentally.
After you criticised him harshly , did he come back?
You SIR SWEAR TOO MUCH you need to listen to me and stop YOU HANDSOME MAN YES YOU
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". .and then you make him some rice & beans." 😂
I love this!!!!
7 years of a narc manipulating me like this ..
Watch out, babe
I have the upper hand now!!
PS. I also dgaf
I hurted my bf so badly it was not my intention, he forgave me I honestly felt so stupid hurting him. somehow he treats me so good he treats me like his wife he is obsessed with me Also i respect him way more because he forgave me the hurt I caused he overcame that and I never would think my man is weak. He is my all and I am his all
Where r u from?
@@isabellalora6533 the netherlands and how about you honey?
@@Inateacupfullofgold Turkey, Istanbul :’) I feel very lonely :( from time to time I cry secretly :’( especially at nights in bed
@@isabellalora6533 send me your number so we can call! optum
@@Inateacupfullofgold I haven’t seen my mom since i was 8, she passed away when I was 14, now I’m 20. My heart is heavy 😞😢 I need loving nurturing motherly love ... 😭 i has to live with my father I met him when I was 8 at a hotel lobby, where the police found me and mom at. I was separated from my mom at 8, taken to my dad 😥😣 my dad and me are both two strangers in the house when I was 8, still the same nothing has changed he remarried with a 30 years younger woman who she was at that time my English teacher who came home... 😥😣 my heart is void
Omg my friend want me to call him master...I needed this channel
I have listened to most relationship coaches in here but so far you are the funniest and as you say the one that gives most "fucked up" advice... hahaha. Thanks
I think you are awesome I came to you w the intion of hurting my ex bc I'm a scorpio but now you've taught how to succeed wo him
I'm a nice girl but unconciously I might have done a few of those to a dude or two🥺
Love the warning. Reflects my scorpio mood