My family fostered ro adopt when I was in my late teens. We chose a closed adoption with the older of my siblings. About 6 months after everything was finalized we were at Burger King and one of their other family members were there. This family member ran home and picked up bio mom and brought her to the restaurant. There was a few minutes of very scary confrontation. A lot of "Lets me see my babies. You stole them from me." The kids got really upset and where crying hysterically. Mom ran off when we threatened to call the police. It messed everyone up for a while. I'm so glad this worked out okay for you
Yeah I have heard things like this happening! And it is still a fear of mine. We are days away from our adoption being finalized and we have a good relationship with one of the boys’ bio parents… so if we see them around town it would be no biggie. But the other one… hasn’t seen or spoken to his parents in over 2 years and they are court ordered no contact with him. But they live in my area and I’m also afraid of how an accidental encounter would wind up. Thanks for sharing with me! I’m glad your story didn’t end up worse than it was. ❤️
I just wanted to say, I was a foster child as a kid. If you need any advice, I survived the life, raised three sons... still, I have trauma from the system. I maybe able to help, how it feels, for the children... remember, that the reason you have the child, is due to the actions of those that visit them. It's scary, when you go back home, you are a foriner, deserter, you lose your place. It's really hard for kiddos. The parents normally, have strategies to harm the traitor, the child. So, it's super scary. Thanks for helping.. you are a blessing
Are you saying some birth parents view their child as a "traitor" for being placed with a foster family? The child has absolutely no say in the matter. It's typically the birth parent's fault that his/her child was removed from him/her. I guess that dysfunctional, illogical kind of thinking might go with why these parents have their children removed from them for the child's safety. So sorry you went through trauma.
That must have been so scary for you! But I can also empathize with grandmom. It must have been so hard to have children that you love just vanish into the foster care system. Foster care is the best place for children to be when being with family isn't safe, but ultimately I'm glad you were able to reassure her and that the children got to have loving family members in their lives in the longterm. Scary experience for you but it sounds like a happy ending overall for the kids :)
It was! It worked out well for the kids and honestly, it was scary because I just didn’t know what to expect, but grandmom actually ended up being awesome!
That poor lady. She probably just needed a friend and an ear that day. She probably felt a little relieved or a lot relieved that the kids were ok and being taken care of. If she’s ALREADY raising more of her grandchildren I’m sure she’s going through enough no matter how much she loves them or being able to care for them. How hard it must be knowing she can’t care for the others for whatever reason, maybe bc she already had others which would make you feel guilt that you shouldn’t bc you shouldn’t be raising ANY of them 🤷🏻♀️ugh. So sad and there’s so many more stories like this
I’m a nurse and I always have family members calling or approaching me asking for information about patients. They even do the whole “ I just want to know if they are ok. Can you answer yes or no?”. It can be heartbreaking, but ultimately I have to stick to my guns and say I am not allowed to disclose anything. I know this video is old and you’re more experienced now but you need to protect yourself and the kids. Imagine if foster dad was lurking around behind grandma and decided to follow you? Even if they didn’t, she knows you live in that area so they could come back the next day to stalk the area looking for your car. I’m glad everything turned out alright. I love your videos.
Just wanted to add. Wic is for pregnant mothers and children under 6. It provides specific food items in designated allotments per month that is used through a debit type card. It is for low income families and some states do not allow foster families to use it
That’s terrifying what if she had heard that then followed you or had someone else follow you to see exactly where the boys were staying! I’m glad it worked out but I totally get why you were uncomfortable! I like the story time style videos!
Man, what an experience! So thankful it worked out OK! Sounds like instead of getting your feet wet that day, you dove straight into the deep end! Reminds me of the day I got my driver's license - I had to drive home in the dark, during a pouring rain and down a winding road! This was also my first day of college! I'll never forget that drive home though! So glad those little boys had yall, even if was just for a few days and thankful they had a kinship and grandma to go to in the end! :)
Margaret Thym oooof I HATE driving in rain at night!!! So scary. But YES, it was like diving straight off a waterfall without having any swimming lessons 😂
That would be a scary situation, I’m not a grandma but I couldn’t imagine how hard it was for grandma but yeah things could of turned out bad I’m glad it didn’t and I’m glad things hopefully ended on a good note ❤️😊
I am very surprised they dont address that in training. They really ought to I'm sure it happens a lot. If it was my family that had been removed I would want to know they are OK too. It must be soooo stressful on all sides
My husband and I are a gay couple here in Fayetteville. North Carolina. who have been married going on nine years and we wanted children for so long and we finally just submitted an application to become foster parents we’re not done with all the paperwork yet and classes are coming up soon. We are joining the program to help kids that are in need for temporary placement while we work on developing up our own skills and contemplate future adoption, but for now we are just helping kids that need it. I love your videos. I love your transparency and your outlook on the program is really helpful. We’re very nervous but we are very excited as well. Thank you for making these videos and it’s very helpful that you are in North Carolina as well. Do you have a beautiful heart and though I don’t know you I am grateful for you 🫶🏼
Absolutely! The social worker called the grandmother and discussed it with her, she wasn’t aware it was not ok. And like I said, it ended up being fine, she was lovely. But it gets sticky with privacy and confidentiality etc.
Glad the situation worked out well for the foster parents as well as the children. I do have a question if anyone knows the answer. Why would the bio father want to keep an appointment with WIC to obtain food, stamps, etc. for children he no longer had in his custody? Perhaps their is a legit reason, but I'm not understanding it. Thanks to anyone who can shed some light on this. The only thing I can think of is dad wanted to see his kids or, after the appointment is finished, the goods and items are given to the foster family since they have the physical placement of the children and the service is available to them for fostering?
Beth CoopHo it is a legitimate fear! But honestly, more birth parents are “safe” and okay to deal with than not! I have only heard of ONE scary incident that happened to a local foster mom, that really did seem like she could be in danger. But usually, the birth families really aren’t a threat to the foster families! And we actually have been able to form pretty decent bonds with the birth families for all our kiddos!
@@Thebypassbabe A family member if mine serves as a CASA in PG County MD...she says the bio fayher and the Foster mom are in a relationship...not good...not good at all...
@@michellehood3345 I don’t know how that’s even allowed... I can’t imagine that being a good situation. I’m sure those children would be removed from the foster family in my county if the foster parent got in a relationship with bio parent. Way too much sticky situations happening there
It is a scary idea! But honestly, the more you work with bio parents, the more you will know that, they often are just people like me and you. They just have had some unfortunate circumstances in their lives and they need help. It is pretty rare that bio families pose a real threat to you as the foster family, and in those cases, the social worker should have some suggestions on navigation of the relationship. I honestly haven’t had any bio families that truly scared me. We have been lucky that we have had pretty good relationships! And honestly the only bio family for a case we had that TRULY scared me, were not allowed to have contact with us or the child anyway. So, we were no contact and I never met them. But really it’s not at scary as you’d think. They are real people with stories of their own, and they are usually going through a tough time. So it’s important to have compassion for them and respect that they are (and will always be) the biological parents of that child. As long as you show them compassion and respect and show them that you just want to take the best care of their child that you can, they usually will be perfectly pleasant with you! ❤️
Look this woman could have followed you home or something. This could have gone really wrong. Glad it worked out...these children went back to a family member.
The state does try to place kids with kinship first. But there are lots of reasons kinship won’t work… they have to agree, they have to pass background checks, CPS checks and a home study.
@@Thebypassbabesometimes family is too black or too poor....The state steals the children of poor people and minorities to punish the parents for being too poor and/or too colored......
All the things that are a shock, all that I do and would be fine with, yet we probably can't get approved. Admitting you don't know how to do any of that And they let you keep taking kids in? And it seems obvious to me that it can be dangerous. The kids have been potentially taken with police involvement. People have had their kids taken! I mean, it seems pretty simple to me.
I'm stopping at 5 mins to comment. I understand that I am different even in this IT age, but I learned over 40 years ago, there is no "call this number, they will do xxx". If my case worker were to say that I would take the number, and ask them to hold for a moment and then add the other party to the conference call..............Just so we all know. There is no speaking for the other person. No one at CPS knows what to expect at WIC. They know what is stated in their presence only. I'm also that wack job that asks you to confirm my emailed notes 3-4 times during the call. I still have an inspection from 2018 where I noted what I was told, knowing it was improbable, with the inspector, and he just decided he can't win while I am updating to him what he is telling me is permitted and what cannot occur, so he never showed up. I am exceptionally familiar with "This call is being recorded.", "I am sending you my notes on what I understand you just told me." Simple and easy.
Child protective service was wrong one this they should have never had you meeting at the WIC office without a social worker being near or Eva anybody showing up they put you in a position like this
Yes… there is a lot behind why they couldn’t go to the aunt’s house in the first place that I can’t disclose. But it worked out quickly. So we only had them 6 days and then they were able to get back to some family!
Don't you think it's imperative that you should.have been prepared for this encounter?... the fact that you haven't been educated on that. My abuser, would have beaten ppl... if he thought he could get away with it... you should make them teach that... as a foster parent, you have rights too
I am sure you’re a great person and just being a foster parent out of love but I do think the children’s family members should be considered before being placed in foster care so fast.
Oh absolutely! And usually in my county, family is always given priority. Unfortunately there are circumstances where family either does not want to take the kids, or will not qualify as a safe stable home. But yes! Kinship always takes priority!
I tried to be the kinship guardian before, but unfortunately, I lived out of state. Since the agency felt there was a good chance of reunification, I was turned down. In the long run though, they were reunified.
Sometimes there are reasons why family is not considered. No child should be abused and then given to a family member that will them put them back in the same situation around the same abuser. So, family doesn't always come first.
valuable lesson maybe dont talk specific about children in your care in a public place.. Maybe ask to talk to supervisor not three workers in the office all with separate job descriptions and task.. very unsafe. for children and your self
Jennie Smythe well since all three staff members were directly involved in the child’s care during the WIC visit, it is ok to discuss their case. Plus again, there were no non-staff members there. I also did not discuss the reasons the children came in to foster care with them, as that would not have been pertinent to the care those people were providing. In training classes, they cannot possibly tell you how to handle every situation you will encounter as a foster parent, and since it’s uncommon for family members to turn up at appointments unannounced, they did not teach us about that. But again, I spoke to social services after the event and they were satisfied with how I handled it. Thanks for your opinion though 💁🏼♀️
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What in the world.. You should know all the rules. This is really concerning to me that children were placed with you without you knowing the guidelines.. This is not how stuff works.
I'm more sad that grandma's aren't even allowed to ask about their grandchildren. It's not the grandma's fault. The entire family shouldn't be punished because of the behavior of others. All that lady wanted was to know the babies were ok. Grandma wasn't convicted of anything. I find that incredibly sad honestly.
Guidelines don't cover every possible situation, you can know the guidelines but run into things that don't fit into them in a way that is easy to navigate, especially when ambushed. Someone new to the system can't be expected to know how to handle every situation perfectly. Even experienced foster parents have new situations that arise that don't have clear answers.
Have you ever seen the rule books? The one I've seen is hundreds of pages long, and even that probably doesn't cover every possible scenario. Foster parents aren't required to be computers who have full knowledge of every rule in existence.
@@kristingallo2158That can't be allowed the same reason you can't give any information about patients in the ER. You can't know who they are, what they are up to, etc etc etc. The focus has to be the children's safety, not the extended family
My family fostered ro adopt when I was in my late teens. We chose a closed adoption with the older of my siblings. About 6 months after everything was finalized we were at Burger King and one of their other family members were there. This family member ran home and picked up bio mom and brought her to the restaurant. There was a few minutes of very scary confrontation. A lot of "Lets me see my babies. You stole them from me." The kids got really upset and where crying hysterically. Mom ran off when we threatened to call the police. It messed everyone up for a while. I'm so glad this worked out okay for you
Yeah I have heard things like this happening! And it is still a fear of mine. We are days away from our adoption being finalized and we have a good relationship with one of the boys’ bio parents… so if we see them around town it would be no biggie. But the other one… hasn’t seen or spoken to his parents in over 2 years and they are court ordered no contact with him. But they live in my area and I’m also afraid of how an accidental encounter would wind up.
Thanks for sharing with me! I’m glad your story didn’t end up worse than it was. ❤️
Grandmother's are very important, gives the child a broader sense of security. Removed children have a need for that security
I just wanted to say, I was a foster child as a kid. If you need any advice, I survived the life, raised three sons... still, I have trauma from the system. I maybe able to help, how it feels, for the children... remember, that the reason you have the child, is due to the actions of those that visit them. It's scary, when you go back home, you are a foriner, deserter, you lose your place. It's really hard for kiddos. The parents normally, have strategies to harm the traitor, the child. So, it's super scary. Thanks for helping.. you are a blessing
❤️❤️❤️ thank you for being here! Former foster youth can help teach us foster parents so much! I appreciate you!
Are you saying some birth parents view their child as a "traitor" for being placed with a foster family? The child has absolutely no say in the matter. It's typically the birth parent's fault that his/her child was removed from him/her. I guess that dysfunctional, illogical kind of thinking might go with why these parents have their children removed from them for the child's safety. So sorry you went through trauma.
That must have been so scary for you! But I can also empathize with grandmom. It must have been so hard to have children that you love just vanish into the foster care system. Foster care is the best place for children to be when being with family isn't safe, but ultimately I'm glad you were able to reassure her and that the children got to have loving family members in their lives in the longterm. Scary experience for you but it sounds like a happy ending overall for the kids :)
It was! It worked out well for the kids and honestly, it was scary because I just didn’t know what to expect, but grandmom actually ended up being awesome!
That poor lady. She probably just needed a friend and an ear that day. She probably felt a little relieved or a lot relieved that the kids were ok and being taken care of. If she’s ALREADY raising more of her grandchildren I’m sure she’s going through enough no matter how much she loves them or being able to care for them. How hard it must be knowing she can’t care for the others for whatever reason, maybe bc she already had others which would make you feel guilt that you shouldn’t bc you shouldn’t be raising ANY of them 🤷🏻♀️ugh. So sad and there’s so many more stories like this
you handled that situation with tact, kindness and diplomacy - well done to you
I’m a nurse and I always have family members calling or approaching me asking for information about patients. They even do the whole “ I just want to know if they are ok. Can you answer yes or no?”. It can be heartbreaking, but ultimately I have to stick to my guns and say I am not allowed to disclose anything.
I know this video is old and you’re more experienced now but you need to protect yourself and the kids. Imagine if foster dad was lurking around behind grandma and decided to follow you? Even if they didn’t, she knows you live in that area so they could come back the next day to stalk the area looking for your car.
I’m glad everything turned out alright. I love your videos.
Just wanted to add. Wic is for pregnant mothers and children under 6. It provides specific food items in designated allotments per month that is used through a debit type card. It is for low income families and some states do not allow foster families to use it
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That’s terrifying what if she had heard that then followed you or had someone else follow you to see exactly where the boys were staying! I’m glad it worked out but I totally get why you were uncomfortable! I like the story time style videos!
That was a tough situation, glad that it all worked out well.
Trial by fire, for sure! Thanks for sharing your story.
Man, what an experience! So thankful it worked out OK! Sounds like instead of getting your feet wet that day, you dove straight into the deep end! Reminds me of the day I got my driver's license - I had to drive home in the dark, during a pouring rain and down a winding road! This was also my first day of college! I'll never forget that drive home though!
So glad those little boys had yall, even if was just for a few days and thankful they had a kinship and grandma to go to in the end! :)
Margaret Thym oooof I HATE driving in rain at night!!! So scary. But YES, it was like diving straight off a waterfall without having any swimming lessons 😂
Wow! You handled that so well! My gosh, I'm not yet a foster parent (hope to be on day) but I just could not fathom the awkwardness haha....
That would be a scary situation, I’m not a grandma but I couldn’t imagine how hard it was for grandma but yeah things could of turned out bad I’m glad it didn’t and I’m glad things hopefully ended on a good note ❤️😊
My grandma would def do that if I was in that situation as a kid
I am very surprised they dont address that in training. They really ought to I'm sure it happens a lot. If it was my family that had been removed I would want to know they are OK too. It must be soooo stressful on all sides
It is! I have heard some states that offer free diapering and feed courses. But we don’t have the resources for that in my county
You're videos are really helpful. We are excited to start fostering to adopt. We are also terrified. Thank you for this, it is very informative.
I couldn't even imagine! That could have gone either way. They don't teach everything in classes especially random circumstances like this.
Foster Fam in the moment, I was terrified! But THANKFULLY she ended up being very nice 😂
Just subscribed to your channel! Foster mama here! Love it ❤
Welcome to the family!!!
God Bless you. I pray He has more people like you. 🙏🏾🥰
My husband and I are a gay couple here in Fayetteville. North Carolina. who have been married going on nine years and we wanted children for so long and we finally just submitted an application to become foster parents we’re not done with all the paperwork yet and classes are coming up soon. We are joining the program to help kids that are in need for temporary placement while we work on developing up our own skills and contemplate future adoption, but for now we are just helping kids that need it. I love your videos. I love your transparency and your outlook on the program is really helpful. We’re very nervous but we are very excited as well. Thank you for making these videos and it’s very helpful that you are in North Carolina as well. Do you have a beautiful heart and though I don’t know you I am grateful for you 🫶🏼
If you didn't know what was okay or not, a family member who has never been in that situation would probably also have no idea what was okay.
Absolutely! The social worker called the grandmother and discussed it with her, she wasn’t aware it was not ok. And like I said, it ended up being fine, she was lovely. But it gets sticky with privacy and confidentiality etc.
God gave you the gut feeling to go without those boys!!
Wow that scares me, being confronted by parents that a child was removed from, you handled it but I don’t know that I could, scarey
It scared the crap out of me at the time. But thankfully she was really nice 😂
Glad the situation worked out well for the foster parents as well as the children. I do have a question if anyone knows the answer. Why would the bio father want to keep an appointment with WIC to obtain food, stamps, etc. for children he no longer had in his custody? Perhaps their is a legit reason, but I'm not understanding it. Thanks to anyone who can shed some light on this. The only thing I can think of is dad wanted to see his kids or, after the appointment is finished, the goods and items are given to the foster family since they have the physical placement of the children and the service is available to them for fostering?
omg i would have freaked! i actually just asked my Soc wrker about being stalked im a lil nervous!
Beth CoopHo it is a legitimate fear! But honestly, more birth parents are “safe” and okay to deal with than not! I have only heard of ONE scary incident that happened to a local foster mom, that really did seem like she could be in danger. But usually, the birth families really aren’t a threat to the foster families! And we actually have been able to form pretty decent bonds with the birth families for all our kiddos!
@@Thebypassbabe A family member if mine serves as a CASA in PG County MD...she says the bio fayher and the Foster mom are in a relationship...not good...not good at all...
@@michellehood3345 I don’t know how that’s even allowed... I can’t imagine that being a good situation. I’m sure those children would be removed from the foster family in my county if the foster parent got in a relationship with bio parent. Way too much sticky situations happening there
I would have pooped my pants being faced with that question. Holy crud.
Whoa, yea that could have gone very wrong. Glad everything worked out.
I would be sure not to let the grandmother see where I was parked. This scenario doesn’t sound so far-fetched, it should be discussed in training.
❤❤❤What? Why is she making such a bug deal out of this???❤❤❤
Most of the time, that outsider, that wants to interject, is part of the problem. Just spying on the kids
This is my biggest fear...we have a shared parenting model here in DC...I don’t like the idea of it...should it be a deal breaker?
It is a scary idea! But honestly, the more you work with bio parents, the more you will know that, they often are just people like me and you. They just have had some unfortunate circumstances in their lives and they need help. It is pretty rare that bio families pose a real threat to you as the foster family, and in those cases, the social worker should have some suggestions on navigation of the relationship. I honestly haven’t had any bio families that truly scared me. We have been lucky that we have had pretty good relationships! And honestly the only bio family for a case we had that TRULY scared me, were not allowed to have contact with us or the child anyway. So, we were no contact and I never met them. But really it’s not at scary as you’d think. They are real people with stories of their own, and they are usually going through a tough time. So it’s important to have compassion for them and respect that they are (and will always be) the biological parents of that child. As long as you show them compassion and respect and show them that you just want to take the best care of their child that you can, they usually will be perfectly pleasant with you! ❤️
@@Thebypassbabe thank you so much for taking the time...that was very kind of you and this really eased my anxiety...
@@michellehood3345 oh good! I’m so glad to help provide a little reassurance!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Look this woman could have followed you home or something. This could have gone really wrong. Glad it worked out...these children went back to a family member.
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Why those kids are not taken to family members' homes first?
The state does try to place kids with kinship first. But there are lots of reasons kinship won’t work… they have to agree, they have to pass background checks, CPS checks and a home study.
@@Thebypassbabesometimes family is too black or too poor....The state steals the children of poor people and minorities to punish the parents for being too poor and/or too colored......
All the things that are a shock, all that I do and would be fine with, yet we probably can't get approved. Admitting you don't know how to do any of that And they let you keep taking kids in? And it seems obvious to me that it can be dangerous. The kids have been potentially taken with police involvement. People have had their kids taken! I mean, it seems pretty simple to me.
I'm stopping at 5 mins to comment. I understand that I am different even in this IT age, but I learned over 40 years ago, there is no "call this number, they will do xxx". If my case worker were to say that I would take the number, and ask them to hold for a moment and then add the other party to the conference call..............Just so we all know. There is no speaking for the other person. No one at CPS knows what to expect at WIC. They know what is stated in their presence only. I'm also that wack job that asks you to confirm my emailed notes 3-4 times during the call. I still have an inspection from 2018 where I noted what I was told, knowing it was improbable, with the inspector, and he just decided he can't win while I am updating to him what he is telling me is permitted and what cannot occur, so he never showed up. I am exceptionally familiar with "This call is being recorded.", "I am sending you my notes on what I understand you just told me." Simple and easy.
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Grandma could have followed you home
Or tried to snatch the kids if they were with her.
Child protective service was wrong one this they should have never had you meeting at the WIC office without a social worker being near or Eva anybody showing up they put you in a position like this
Wow, so they left anyway, to aunts house? Why did they even have you take them to begin with?? Sad
Yes… there is a lot behind why they couldn’t go to the aunt’s house in the first place that I can’t disclose. But it worked out quickly. So we only had them 6 days and then they were able to get back to some family!
Don't you think it's imperative that you should.have been prepared for this encounter?... the fact that you haven't been educated on that. My abuser, would have beaten ppl... if he thought he could get away with it... you should make them teach that... as a foster parent, you have rights too
I am sure you’re a great person and just being a foster parent out of love but I do think the children’s family members should be considered before being placed in foster care so fast.
Oh absolutely! And usually in my county, family is always given priority. Unfortunately there are circumstances where family either does not want to take the kids, or will not qualify as a safe stable home. But yes! Kinship always takes priority!
I tried to be the kinship guardian before, but unfortunately, I lived out of state. Since the agency felt there was a good chance of reunification, I was turned down. In the long run though, they were reunified.
Sometimes there are reasons why family is not considered. No child should be abused and then given to a family member that will them put them back in the same situation around the same abuser. So, family doesn't always come first.
valuable lesson maybe dont talk specific about children in your care in a public place.. Maybe ask to talk to supervisor not three workers in the office all with separate job descriptions and task.. very unsafe. for children and your self
ask to meet supervisor or person in charge in a one on one setting..
Jennie Smythe well since all three staff members were directly involved in the child’s care during the WIC visit, it is ok to discuss their case. Plus again, there were no non-staff members there. I also did not discuss the reasons the children came in to foster care with them, as that would not have been pertinent to the care those people were providing.
In training classes, they cannot possibly tell you how to handle every situation you will encounter as a foster parent, and since it’s uncommon for family members to turn up at appointments unannounced, they did not teach us about that.
But again, I spoke to social services after the event and they were satisfied with how I handled it.
Thanks for your opinion though 💁🏼♀️
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OMG lady can you Talk!
What in the world.. You should know all the rules. This is really concerning to me that children were placed with you without you knowing the guidelines.. This is not how stuff works.
I'm more sad that grandma's aren't even allowed to ask about their grandchildren. It's not the grandma's fault. The entire family shouldn't be punished because of the behavior of others. All that lady wanted was to know the babies were ok. Grandma wasn't convicted of anything. I find that incredibly sad honestly.
Guidelines don't cover every possible situation, you can know the guidelines but run into things that don't fit into them in a way that is easy to navigate, especially when ambushed. Someone new to the system can't be expected to know how to handle every situation perfectly. Even experienced foster parents have new situations that arise that don't have clear answers.
Have you ever seen the rule books? The one I've seen is hundreds of pages long, and even that probably doesn't cover every possible scenario. Foster parents aren't required to be computers who have full knowledge of every rule in existence.
@@kristingallo2158That can't be allowed the same reason you can't give any information about patients in the ER. You can't know who they are, what they are up to, etc etc etc. The focus has to be the children's safety, not the extended family
@@elliesouza717 Right because a concerned ill grandma clearly is less trustworthy than the government .