As the oldest of 4 sons raised by a single mom, I never had many clothes. Now I collect clothing. I tend to be very plain and practical. I do not have an issue donating clothes, I am just having an issue with finding the right fit and color. There can be some underlying behaviors when it come to keeping clothes.
My daughters baby clothes and my hockey jersey I never wear...take pictures it helps to let go, a USB stick takes up a lot less room than a tote of clothes
Clothes I used to wear or buy when I started to work. I bought them with my first incomes and it felt great! I was also thinner then 😂 I'll try to do Project 33!!
This is the one area where I have never struggled, if it fits and is comfortable, I wear it and I don't have special occasion clothes, I look the same no matter where I go. Yep, I am the one that shows up at a wedding in the same dress she wore to work the other day.😁
I have a thing for coats. I inherited this from my grandmother who also had a thing for coats...lol!! I still have less than 10 though....so I don't consider it a "problem" yet. I recycle all of my clothes to the thrift store I buy them from. My overall clothes situation is MINIMAL compared to most women...that is for sure!! I have a VERY SMALL CLOSET, so I can't even be a CLOTHES HORSE if I WANTED TO! LOL!
Here's a tip. My son died in 2017 and I'd been holding on to his clothes. Recently, I washed them, put them in a box and decided to ask the first homeless person I saw, who locked the same size, if he wanted them. He had 1 leg and was in a wheelchair. I asked where could drop them off. He was part of a program through a local healthcare facility that used a hotel to house a lot of people with mental illness. I took the clothes there and immediately became surrounded by people who also needed clothes. But, wash the clothes and put them in a box and in the car so they're ready to go to someone when you see they're in need.
I donated my wedding gown to a lady who created 3 or 4 burial outfits for stillborn children and it means the world to me knowing I was able to bless families in their time of deepest heartache.
I'm so proud of my teen daughter. She decluttered her room and we will be donating 3 bags of clothes. She has cleared empty shelves now and said that her room feels calmer. She read a whole book that day in one sitting!
Wear whatever you like..but keep in mind- other people have to see you. After my brother died I stayed at my sis-in-laws & I was wearing a lot of grey & it was depressing her. So I started wearing lighter, brighter colors to help cheer her up a bit. I actually started feeling better also. Sometimes we can try to get outside of ourselves.
As a minimalist with a mostly black-based wardrobe, I wear colors in accessories and various tops. I carried my entire black-based wardrobe in a backpack on an Alaska cruise that had two "formal" nights. I wore an all black outfit with a colorful gauzy open tunic over skinny jeans and a tank top. With bolder makeup and jewelry, it was a festive, formal look. Worn the next day with no makeup and a plaid flannel shirt, I hiked to see the glacier. I wore the same black ankle boots for both activities. When I got home, I wore the same outfit to work with my dark plum colored tailored jacket and an interesting printed scarf in many colors. I went to happy hour after work and left the jacket in my car while using the colorful scarf as a headband. The simple black tank top has subtle metallic threads that make it look dressy in low lighting and sporty in the sunshine. Everything is packable, washable, and easily dryable. I wouldn't want to depress anyone, but I still want to be me and take the unnecessary clutter out of my life. There can be balance.
@@GeckoHiker So many people wear all black these days, they look like they're going to/have been to a funeral. All black clothing is very depressing to look at 🤨
@@GeckoHiker It can be... ie a nice black evening dress or dinner suit for a man for formal occasions. But any other time is just plain wrong in my view.
@@c.marmion8430 I'm wearing black ponte pants, black ankle boots, a grey pin-striped top with metallic accents, and a black knit tunic length sweater right now. It sets off my shiny black pixie cut and understated purple eyeliner. The tiny amethyst earrings really pop, too. I went from work to happy hour to an evening hike without changing anything. The adolescents I work with call me Goth-Granny. 😉
I love clothes, I collect them it’s my form of self expression. You will pry my clothing from my cold dead hands. When they have holes I still wear them. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. I will be one of those wildly dressed old ladies. And no man should be telling any woman what to do with their clothing. It’s like telling a lion how to eat with a fork. Aspirational dressing needs to be addressed though, either rise up to the confidence level of the clothing you purchased because you only live once and bought it because you want to project the image that garment conveys or accept you are really a simple person and stop buying them. I am turning 50 and I realize at 40 I got lazy and comfortable when I found my second wind in perimenopause and rediscovered my self expression I know my 50s are going to be a really fun decade of looking fabulous and NOT giving AF about what image I project-fancy pants or not. I live once and I’m going to look fly.
If she still uses and loves the clothes she has, but they stress her out (maybe her closet is too full or whatever), then she can always put seasonal clothes out of sight when not in use. I put mine in a vacuum bag under the bed, during the off-season. Just to give my closet a bit of breathing room, and to keep the seasonal items from getting dusty in the closet. So if she still finds joy in having that spring coat, maybe having it available seasonally but not in her face everyday is a happy medium. But if she would find just as much joy in wearing her 'Fall' coat in the spring, then the spring coat should be donated.
I live in Kentucky. My “winter” and all my seasonal clothing stays out. We have 30 degree evenings and 80 degree days. Lol. But I used to live up north and I did use those vacuum bags to store off season clothes 😊
Best purchases ever the vacuum seal big storage bags and collapsible storage bins that slide right under the beds. We also purchased 2 huge shelving units for our basement that fit the big storage bins. Switch out your seasonal wardrobes then free up more room in your closets and won’t feel like you need to throw stuff out.
To Jessica…… I hear something different in what you are saying. “Mountain of Laundry”. How often do you do laundry a week? Are you saving it for once a week? If you have access to a washer and dryer in your home…. Maybe consider washing all your scrubs on Sunday and all your sweats on say Wednesday to break it up so it isn’t a Mountain and the flow is more easily manageable. It sounds like all of your clothes are needed and worthy of keeping. Just overwhelming in the process of washing them. I understand full loads. Dishes, clothes, etc…. But I also understand peace in routines to keep chaos under control.
I still have the shorts I was wearing the day I met my (ex and only) husband in 1984. I look at them in awe because they are so tiny, and they also trigger a happy memory of a very special day. Marriage didn't work out, but I have three great children from it. I'm not sure I can ever get rid of them.
Joshua's comments about coercion really resonated with me. My ex-husband told me soon after our divorce that what he missed most about me was buying clothes for me. Very weird! I would come home from seeing my family back east alone and he would have set out new clothes all over the bed for me to try on and wear. He pushed limits on "appropriateness" in many ways and to see how I dress now as a 54 year old and twenty years plus post divorce, no one would guess that version of me was even possible. Many of the clothes were disturbing, but I wore a good portion of them in public to "make him happy." So much happier now dressing myself without someone else trying to manipulate and control me. It is creepy to me now in retrospect.
@@idid138 I know of women who did this because the guys wanted to wear stained or inappropriate clothing to events. Then they “hate photos, I always look XYZ.” Yeah, you did. (not just in the photos). I’m glad their girlfriends cleaned them up a bit. They just didn’t know.
If these clothes are absolutely useful and you love them, you can do seasonal capsule. Eg. During summer, select the useful clothes that you will happily wear, and then put away the rest. Reflect and repeat the process just before Autumn.
I recently lost weight so needed new clothes. I am still hanging on to the larger stuff just because I might need them… I sometimes lament about items I got rid of. So far I am mostly shopping second hand. Weight loss can sometimes be difficult to sustain.
In this situation I keep items that are special but get rid of anything easily replaceable. I try not to buy new things not too tight fitting invade a bit more weight creeps on. Hope this helps. Don't cling on to lots of larger clothes as it's easy to just let yourself grow back 😂
I can relate, but now over three years since I lost those pounds and went from a L/XL to a S/M - I’ve finally let go of virtually everything. That massive flannel nightie remains a comfy item - and since I live alone, I cling to it with joy, I’m happy!
I've lost weight 3 times. First 2 from working out. 3rd from going vegan. This time I'll never gain it back. I no longer think of animals and their secretions as food. Easiest weight I ever loss. Feel like I didn't even try. But after the first time I got rid if clothes and regretted it.
It can get tough with clothes when you get pregnant. I was losing weight, gave away my maternity stuff and then I got pregnant again. Friends and family have been giving me baby things and maternity clothes, but now I am storing the clothes I want to wear after I’m done with pregnancy. And it feels cluttered, but I know it’s a season and once the opportunity of pregnancy is over, then I feel I can finally declutter and be done!
OK, I"m going to go against the grain here, and I am a huge fan of project 333. If you're wearing a red sweater, every day, for a year, people have noticed. They may have been polite and not said anything, but they noticed. Whether it matters or not, or whether we think it matters to them more than it does is the key to the story, but I'm not buying, 'hey, nobody said a thing'. Oh yeah, it was noticed. But to the person who made that experiment work for a year, it just didn't matter. Was she happy? All good then.
Agreed. My husband is a true minimalist, and he had the same problem with owning one pair of jeans and it getting holes in the crotch as they guy talks about in this podcast. His friends joke that he only wears checked shirts, and that’s because he’s been wearing the same checked shirts for years. 😂 I’ve learned a lot of valuable lessons from him, but, people absolutely notice that he wears the same clothes on repeat. The thing is, my husband couldn’t care less! So, he’s still happy as a clam! :-)
Ugh same! Got thyroid cancer - gained some weight, then lost some - having a health condition like this can make it difficult, especially if you don't know how your condition/disease may progress and in turn affect your weight or metabolism
Im 32 and just now understand. It made me gross when my mom kept some of my baby clothes with dust and the smell yuck. I have twins and I get rid of their old stuff immediately I hate hoarding it did make me sad but pictures do help and the thought of another baby can use these clothes
I feel good wearing all of my jackets & coats… clothing is an art of expression to me. I hate having the same look. I have a lot of clothes because I love variety but I think am going to get rid of the repetition.
I have a large cedar chest full of vintage Harris Tweed coats (complete with leather gloves and scarves to match). I collected them twenty years ago. Don’t even know if they will fit me anymore. Haven’t even opened that chest in two or three years. It’s a treasure someone will find after I die I’m thinking. I need professional help.🫤
@@tlc8925 right now I’m dealing with the winter to summer change. It was 38 degrees F last week….today it’s 83. Need to sort and edit my linens and store my woolies. I am not a minimalist.
Oh goodness, I REALLY needed to hear this podcast! I've been struggling w/ years of clothing build up. I've stopped shopping as much due to that but I still have years of things I'm hanging onto for either sentimental reasons or just the what if I want to wear this sometime, or what if I lose the weight, or for variety. I do love variety but can't stand clutter! I will be implementing all of your suggestions...thank you!!! Also recycling is VERY important to me! I will be either donating or giving to an organization that recycles fabrics, they have those now.
What about those who save smaller sized clothing because maybe I will loose the weight and fit into them? That is totally me. Over the years she weight has crept up and now I own many sizes 😢
Love this. But why have these guys chosen black? I do not own a single piece of black clothing and I’m lighter and happier than when everything I owned followed gray or black scheme.
Did I miss something. In her question i didn’t hear anything implying force. It sounds like he bought her a gift that she doesn’t particularly like and she doesn’t want to hurt his feelings by not wearing it. It’s not the fist time a partner has bought their loved on e a gift that missed mark. I find it interesting that people int he comments are saying she needs to leave him. My husband has bought me a gift or two that were beautiful but just not my style. Wanting to make him happy by wearing the dress is not coercion or force. And when I have told my husband that I didn’t feel comfortable in the clothing he is the first to tell me to change and that my comfort and joy are his priority. I feel like the minimalist are jumping to some pretty heavy conclusions. I think she would get better results if she just talked to her boyfriend. It can be hard to tell someone you love that you don’t like a gift he bought you but sometimes it has to be done for your peace and theirs.
Every couple of months I go through my closet and donate a few items but then I go shopping for cute new pieces since I lost 30lbs, I just love new clothes....and so the cycle continues....
I used to do what you do...get rid of something immediately if I put it on and I hated it. But then i realized that women's hormones change the body so frequently, that I needed to be a bit more patient because it's a little tricker dressing the body during different times of the month. Just a thought to add to this conversation about a minimalist wardrobe!
Thanks for saying that preferrences are ok. I'm autistic and I hate going out for dinner, social environments and stuffy clothes. I'm always stigmatised by family for not joining in/wearing jogging bottoms. I have noticed that they don't make any effort to join in with my activities so I have come to the conclusion that I don't want to be a trophy. I'm not doing that stuff anymore unless I authentically have a desire to do it. To be honest, this isn't even a preference for me because if I get sensory distressed it damages my mental health. There is a quote Elyse Meyers uses,' if I'm too much then go get less'. In my case I want to do less for my health, so 'if my doing less is too much for you, go do your too much elsewhere'!
I like rotating clothes, so I usually keep more than I should. I did stop buying purses though, because I have some expensive ones and I see no need to buy anymore.
I learned early on to never buy clothes for my partners. Unless they love hoodies....the it's all about the right size. You will almost always be wrong about size and style.
“It’s always okay to let go of someone who is trying to coerce you because coercion is not consent. But also, convincing, persuading, manipulating - those things aren’t consent either - that’s unloving.”
One of the reasons I opted to divorce was due to his unrelenting hoard. He wasn’t willing to compromise and literally every room was over run with THINGS. I literally lost my sanity.
A friend of mine is a pilot and he has a great saying which they use in flying which I apply to clothing (new purchases or stuff I already own) "If there's doubt, there's no doubt"
I have a lot of clothes. Most second hand. The ones on the racks I want to keep for now, and I am cyclic: I might not wear one thing for a year, but then it become my favourite thing again... So these are my second priority. But I got lots of "still good enough for at home" clothing in drawers. Those I need to attack first. "Aspirational clothing" is a great term! I definetely have about 5 of those. Waiting for an event I can wear them too. I need to just wear them! And I am attached to it all. But when I moved from a house to 2 BR I got ridd of 10 IKEA bags of stuff. I will try to wear things out and not buy new stuff unless I LOVE it and let go of 3. That's been helpful: for every clothing in I get rid of 3. I will never be a minimalist and clothes are my passion, but the techniques are still helpful. I want to use AND express myself through clothing. I think I need to aim for a middle road between minimalis and maximalism.
I sent mine to an organization that does this. I dont think it feels creepy to the people receiving them-their hearts are broken and I would think that just knowing that somebody cared about their pain would provide a sense of comfort, love to the grieving couple/parent.....That was my intent when I donated mine and I hope that is what was felt. Love comes in many forms. It all depends on your perspective.
I love this. I been outsider most of my life. I do wear what I want. I do art so I tend to think out of the box. T-shirt and jeans or sweats and sneakers is my thing. I do get occasional nice shirt for certain occasions. I like that u found inspiration anywhere.Key when doing my art.Thanks from Hatboro Pa.
❤ What a fun episode. I released 5 small bins of “stuff” today. I donated it to a stranger doing some work in our community 😂. I feel so good today for reducing items in my kitchen, closet & bathroom. It’s taking some time to make these adjustments (about 3 years) and I’m happy to say I just noticed tiny holes in two of my favorite shirts 😂 I wear for work…progress.
You can get clips or cinch it tools to make clothes more form fitting, has helped me to keep clothes I need instead of letting go and buying more clothes.
I am a stylist but I consider myself a minimal enough stylist, I allow myself to have 4 duplicates (slightly different versions, like white pants but different styles and cuts) of the same item, like trousers, jackets, as I use them for work all the time and they serve the purpose. And I own some other items that are my personal wardrobe. I tried to use super minimal wardrobe consisting of just one item per category, and create content as a stylist but that didnt work for me, content was too repetitive and boring and people were not interested.
Great podcast ; thanks; the only annoyance is to hear a woman giggling in the background at various points when we don't see her; please bring her into view when she laughs or remove those laugh sounds of hers
I am not a clothes hoarder (dont like shopping unless i need a specific item) but recently finished decluttering my closet that still had items from highschool (nothing wrong with that in general but it was time). I decided instead of the 90day/6mo rule i keep clothes for 2 seasons. We have very hot summers and moderately cold (multiple snow/ice days) winters, so i will keep seasonal items for either 2 winters or 2 summers. The reason is that sometimes i still like & want an item but dont have occation to wear it, if that happens 2yrs in a row the item has to go. The rest of my "3 season"/ "all year" clothes get weeded out about every 6mos. The problem is i then need to go replace items lol
I can really relate to "golden handcuffs" in terms of expensive clothing (good though from T.K. 5:33 ): They feel nice, skin touch is superior, it looks amazing, but in truth it limits my freedom of doing things. I have to think where I sit and walk (not to damage expensive cloth), when they get dirty I need to take extra care washing them, if I damage them I feel sad (because they worth lots of money and I can not afford to buy new one easily to replace the damage one) and so on.
I just turned all my hangers around. Once I wear it & still like it I will put it back in the closet with the hanger the proper way. 3 months is my goal. The clothing whose hangers remain facing forward are going to find a new home. The amount of clothing I am blessed with is overwhelming to me. Wish me displine!
That’s a great way to actually see what you wear. I did it but in a yearly trial. For instance. I have a dress I wear to funerals. I don’t go to funnels every 2-3 weeks. Maybe 1-2 a year. And that goes with fancier shoes and hand bags. I keep 2-3 of those and they only get used 2-3 times a year but I’m not going to get rid of them to save 2 inches of hanging space in my closet. 🤷🏼♀️
"You don't "love" me unless you compromise your values and preferences" sounds like narcissism and gaslighting in a relationship that isn't compatible.
With the red dress, I liked the idea of compromise, with making certain he understands that you don't feel comfortable, so you won't be wearing it often Example, my husband LOVES this one perfume that I was never crazy about. He never pushes me to wear it, though I own it. On certain special occasions where I really want to be emotionally closer to him, I wear it.
Technically we're all attached to clothes (or they're attached to us) unless we're nudists. But I did feel that TK guy had a lot of wisdom to add to the conversation
I REALLY loved the idea of selecting 33 pieces of clothing, accessories and other items and box up the rest for 30 days. This is the only thing that I think is going to work for my very stubborn addiction to my stuff. Thank you! Been struggling for YEARS on this. Love the idea! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
If a man i am dating buys me a dress. I will wear it!! To make him smile and improve the relationship between us. I would also show him what I like. It only takes one compliment for a women to realize she looks good in it. I donated to a homeless shelter to give clothes to people who need them.
For me I always get caught with the sunk cost fallacy concept. I remember how much something cost me to buy, and this stops me donating it on to someone who might use it.
Ideas for the red dress...Wear a black sweater over the top (so it looks like a skirt) and tall black boots. Try a long black cardigan, black opaque tights and short boots. Try adding a lot of your black to it and see how that feels. Try it as a person willing to try new ideas. But in the end, if it just feels too different and awkward, then tell him thanks, you tried, it's not working for you.
Loved myself with shopping trips. Not in any relationship with a significant other. Size has been up and down. Trendy style and patterns draw my attention in and I dont have a completed outfit w/o my multiple clothing articles
Well, I guess I don’t have to do the 33 project because that’s probably all I have all totaled. So I do live in Minnesota, so I do have some seasonal clothing. Being a fan of thrift stores , high-end ones in particular. I do have to constantly weed out stuff as I bring home. The red dress thing, maybe he’s outgrown her wardrobe and would appreciate her in a dress…something different maybe more fem
I’m in the process of a total downsize as I prepare to sell my house. Widowed for only a year and a half, I’m deep in the process of going from losing to leaving the life I led for over 30 years. Because we knew he was going to die, I ‘d already packed up and separated out the clothes and items that would leave when he did…even though he was bedridden for a long time, I couldn’t bring myself to donate his suits (which he wore when he’d been healthy) or dress shirts, but in the week after he died, my children were totally able to take those pre-packed items away - so I didn’t need to go through his stuff. The problem now is finding his written notes, the traces of his life which are functionally meaningless, but reflect the very fact of who he was. Those parts hurt and so I mourn, toss, and save a bit too. Because I’m writing these rules of the heart. The one thing I’ve really come to appreciate is the concept of Swedish Death Cleaning. It is a gift we can give to our heirs, because picking up that hairbrush with a few hairs clinging will break the heart all over again.
You are really going through a lot. Dealing with grief and preparing for a move. That's a lot. I hope you have people helping you. Take it easy on yourself. ❤
For New England weather, it might make sense to put a winter coat and ski gear away in the spring, but the weather is pretty much set on random from March to October - we need layers all those months. The caller said she has a mountain of laundry to do every week. I suspect she's washing clothes after every single time she wears them. Unless her scrubs get actually dirty at work, she could probably wear them twice between washings, so that would reduce how much laundry to do and how many sets of scrubs she has to have in her drawer/closet. To reduce visual stress and avoid buying new ones, she could keep the extras in a suitcase or otherwise stored out of sight until the ones in rotation get worn out. Also, during mud season, pants can be protected by wearing leg gaiters.
You can't be invisible in a red dress-- you have to be bold and stand out. It's hard to get used to wearing red when you've shied away from it in the past. It's a big deal! I understand. I bet the dress looks great on you, but you're uncomfortable in it.
I never wore red for such a long time. I think it had to do with that scene in "Gone with the Wind", and I was trying to cling to my virtue when everyone else was trashing theirs (college). However, I got a job at a large retailer merchandising dept. and I bought this red dress at such a discount. It was so flowy, and I felt beautiful in it. It complimented my skin tone very well. From then on, I was over my red phobia. I regularly do a red/pink wash now. Not afraid of the roja anymore!
I just moved into a caravan, thank goodness it's outside my parents house because I'm storing a shelf of my winter sweaters, coats etc that I would not be able to fit in here if not. But i like all my black sweaters.. haha also i don't have money to replace things so I won't buy anymore for a couple years because I have plenty to last 😬
My husband bought me a fancy shirt that I struggle to wear. (It’s the material) But he was so proud of himself when he got it for me, that I still have it. He’s the kind of guy who will not remember something unless it’s important to him, and he asks me to wear it on dates. And I do.
@@muchadoaboutkovu Thats what love is about-sacrificing, giving and taking ;) I think about all the things my husband does for me every day to let me know Im loved, and so the least I can do is wear an item he loves to see me in, regardless of how I feel about it. 27 years together and still making sacrifices for each other :)
@@amiblack8294 Wearing something you would rather not, does not show love. Having the support to be happy with my choices and the adoration that comes from it is love. There is no sacrifice. Common respect is giving. And when both people do that it will be 100 happy years.
What clothes do you have trouble letting go of?
As the oldest of 4 sons raised by a single mom, I never had many clothes. Now I collect clothing. I tend to be very plain and practical. I do not have an issue donating clothes, I am just having an issue with finding the right fit and color. There can be some underlying behaviors when it come to keeping clothes.
My daughters baby clothes and my hockey jersey I never wear...take pictures it helps to let go, a USB stick takes up a lot less room than a tote of clothes
Clothes I used to wear or buy when I started to work. I bought them with my first incomes and it felt great! I was also thinner then 😂
I'll try to do Project 33!!
This is the one area where I have never struggled, if it fits and is comfortable, I wear it and I don't have special occasion clothes, I look the same no matter where I go. Yep, I am the one that shows up at a wedding in the same dress she wore to work the other day.😁
I have a thing for coats. I inherited this from my grandmother who also had a thing for coats...lol!! I still have less than 10 though....so I don't consider it a "problem" yet. I recycle all of my clothes to the thrift store I buy them from. My overall clothes situation is MINIMAL compared to most women...that is for sure!! I have a VERY SMALL CLOSET, so I can't even be a CLOTHES HORSE if I WANTED TO! LOL!
Here's a tip.
My son died in 2017 and I'd been holding on to his clothes. Recently, I washed them, put them in a box and decided to ask the first homeless person I saw, who locked the same size, if he wanted them. He had 1 leg and was in a wheelchair. I asked where could drop them off. He was part of a program through a local healthcare facility that used a hotel to house a lot of people with mental illness. I took the clothes there and immediately became surrounded by people who also needed clothes.
But, wash the clothes and put them in a box and in the car so they're ready to go to someone when you see they're in need.
I donated my wedding gown to a lady who created 3 or 4 burial outfits for stillborn children and it means the world to me knowing I was able to bless families in their time of deepest heartache.
Do you have a link? I'd like to do the same but I'm from the UK
I'm so proud of my teen daughter. She decluttered her room and we will be donating 3 bags of clothes.
She has cleared empty shelves now and said that her room feels calmer. She read a whole book that day in one sitting!
Maybe....... Maybe I will declutter one room in my house...........
Damn that’s incredible !
Why don't you sell the clothes and make some money
TK has been the absolute best addition!!!!
Yes, he has a lovely voice!
He has amazing insight.
I thoroughly enjoy his input.
@@archereaster611😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Most definitely. He is a great addition to the podcast.
TK has amazing wisdom, and a beautiful voice.
Wear whatever you like..but keep in mind- other people have to see you. After my brother died I stayed at my sis-in-laws & I was wearing a lot of grey & it was depressing her. So I started wearing lighter, brighter colors to help cheer her up a bit. I actually started feeling better also. Sometimes we can try to get outside of ourselves.
As a minimalist with a mostly black-based wardrobe, I wear colors in accessories and various tops. I carried my entire black-based wardrobe in a backpack on an Alaska cruise that had two "formal" nights.
I wore an all black outfit with a colorful gauzy open tunic over skinny jeans and a tank top. With bolder makeup and jewelry, it was a festive, formal look. Worn the next day with no makeup and a plaid flannel shirt, I hiked to see the glacier. I wore the same black ankle boots for both activities.
When I got home, I wore the same outfit to work with my dark plum colored tailored jacket and an interesting printed scarf in many colors. I went to happy hour after work and left the jacket in my car while using the colorful scarf as a headband. The simple black tank top has subtle metallic threads that make it look dressy in low lighting and sporty in the sunshine. Everything is packable, washable, and easily dryable. I wouldn't want to depress anyone, but I still want to be me and take the unnecessary clutter out of my life. There can be balance.
@@GeckoHiker So many people wear all black these days, they look like they're going to/have been to a funeral.
All black clothing is very depressing to look at 🤨
@@c.marmion8430 I think black clothing is elegant. Of course, splashes of color against a black background are fun.
@@GeckoHiker It can be... ie a nice black evening dress or dinner suit for a man for formal occasions. But any other time is just plain wrong in my view.
@@c.marmion8430 I'm wearing black ponte pants, black ankle boots, a grey pin-striped top with metallic accents, and a black knit tunic length sweater right now. It sets off my shiny black pixie cut and understated purple eyeliner. The tiny amethyst earrings really pop, too. I went from work to happy hour to an evening hike without changing anything. The adolescents I work with call me Goth-Granny. 😉
I love clothes, I collect them it’s my form of self expression. You will pry my clothing from my cold dead hands. When they have holes I still wear them. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. I will be one of those wildly dressed old ladies.
And no man should be telling any woman what to do with their clothing. It’s like telling a lion how to eat with a fork.
Aspirational dressing needs to be addressed though, either rise up to the confidence level of the clothing you purchased because you only live once and bought it because you want to project the image that garment conveys or accept you are really a simple person and stop buying them.
I am turning 50 and I realize at 40 I got lazy and comfortable when I found my second wind in perimenopause and rediscovered my self expression I know my 50s are going to be a really fun decade of looking fabulous and NOT giving AF about what image I project-fancy pants or not. I live once and I’m going to look fly.
I hear you loud and clear. My clothing is my artistic expression. When it comes to clothes I will never be a minimalist.
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Absolutely agree!!
I agree. I have lots of clothes. These guys are just boring. Guys can wear jeans & a t shirt every day & be ok with it. Well not me ! 😅
Red Hat lady coming right up I see! ❤️
If she still uses and loves the clothes she has, but they stress her out (maybe her closet is too full or whatever), then she can always put seasonal clothes out of sight when not in use. I put mine in a vacuum bag under the bed, during the off-season. Just to give my closet a bit of breathing room, and to keep the seasonal items from getting dusty in the closet.
So if she still finds joy in having that spring coat, maybe having it available seasonally but not in her face everyday is a happy medium. But if she would find just as much joy in wearing her 'Fall' coat in the spring, then the spring coat should be donated.
Agree, I do this.
I live in Kentucky. My “winter” and all my seasonal clothing stays out. We have 30 degree evenings and 80 degree days. Lol. But I used to live up north and I did use those vacuum bags to store off season clothes 😊
Best purchases ever the vacuum seal big storage bags and collapsible storage bins that slide right under the beds. We also purchased 2 huge shelving units for our basement that fit the big storage bins. Switch out your seasonal wardrobes then free up more room in your closets and won’t feel like you need to throw stuff out.
Yes, I find that my eyes get tired of seeing my patterned clothes sometimes, so I store them away so I can appreciate them more the next season
I love your podcast but the woman who is laughing so loudly is a bit annoying.
My sister helped me go through my clothes once using the “when was the last time you wore this?” method. Found in December I had no sweaters.
Funny!
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That is my fear😂😂😂. Nice sister ! She needs to come to my house! I own way way too much clothing. I need the help.
Maybe went a little overboard.🙂
Hahaha! She sounds like my sis😂
To Jessica……
I hear something different in what you are saying. “Mountain of Laundry”.
How often do you do laundry a week? Are you saving it for once a week?
If you have access to a washer and dryer in your home…. Maybe consider washing all your scrubs on Sunday and all your sweats on say Wednesday to break it up so it isn’t a Mountain and the flow is more easily manageable. It sounds like all of your clothes are needed and worthy of keeping. Just overwhelming in the process of washing them.
I understand full loads. Dishes, clothes, etc….
But I also understand peace in routines to keep chaos under control.
I still have the shorts I was wearing the day I met my (ex and only) husband in 1984. I look at them in awe because they are so tiny, and they also trigger a happy memory of a very special day. Marriage didn't work out, but I have three great children from it. I'm not sure I can ever get rid of them.
Joshua's comments about coercion really resonated with me. My ex-husband told me soon after our divorce that what he missed most about me was buying clothes for me. Very weird! I would come home from seeing my family back east alone and he would have set out new clothes all over the bed for me to try on and wear. He pushed limits on "appropriateness" in many ways and to see how I dress now as a 54 year old and twenty years plus post divorce, no one would guess that version of me was even possible. Many of the clothes were disturbing, but I wore a good portion of them in public to "make him happy." So much happier now dressing myself without someone else trying to manipulate and control me. It is creepy to me now in retrospect.
Women do this to their men all the time. Maybe not scanty clothes but, yeah still.
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@@idid138 I know of women who did this because the guys wanted to wear stained or inappropriate clothing to events. Then they “hate photos, I always look XYZ.” Yeah, you did. (not just in the photos). I’m glad their girlfriends cleaned them up a bit. They just didn’t know.
If these clothes are absolutely useful and you love them, you can do seasonal capsule. Eg. During summer, select the useful clothes that you will happily wear, and then put away the rest. Reflect and repeat the process just before Autumn.
I recently lost weight so needed new clothes. I am still hanging on to the larger stuff just because I might need them… I sometimes lament about items I got rid of.
So far I am mostly shopping second hand. Weight loss can sometimes be difficult to sustain.
In this situation I keep items that are special but get rid of anything easily replaceable. I try not to buy new things not too tight fitting invade a bit more weight creeps on. Hope this helps. Don't cling on to lots of larger clothes as it's easy to just let yourself grow back 😂
I had a box labeled
Fat Chance Skinny Clothes.
Now I have boxes of make a quilt, refashion, or save for somebody someday!
couldn't you just resize them?
I can relate, but now over three years since I lost those pounds and went from a L/XL to a S/M - I’ve finally let go of virtually everything. That massive flannel nightie remains a comfy item - and since I live alone, I cling to it with joy, I’m happy!
I've lost weight 3 times. First 2 from working out. 3rd from going vegan. This time I'll never gain it back. I no longer think of animals and their secretions as food. Easiest weight I ever loss. Feel like I didn't even try.
But after the first time I got rid if clothes and regretted it.
Why is there annoying laughter in the background? Cannot watch this with that cackling.
It can get tough with clothes when you get pregnant. I was losing weight, gave away my maternity stuff and then I got pregnant again. Friends and family have been giving me baby things and maternity clothes, but now I am storing the clothes I want to wear after I’m done with pregnancy. And it feels cluttered, but I know it’s a season and once the opportunity of pregnancy is over, then I feel I can finally declutter and be done!
I love that you refer to pregnancy as an opportunity.
Most relevant show ever for someone who has a full wardrobe in multiple sizes for multiple seasons....
OK, I"m going to go against the grain here, and I am a huge fan of project 333. If you're wearing a red sweater, every day, for a year, people have noticed. They may have been polite and not said anything, but they noticed. Whether it matters or not, or whether we think it matters to them more than it does is the key to the story, but I'm not buying, 'hey, nobody said a thing'. Oh yeah, it was noticed. But to the person who made that experiment work for a year, it just didn't matter. Was she happy? All good then.
Agreed. My husband is a true minimalist, and he had the same problem with owning one pair of jeans and it getting holes in the crotch as they guy talks about in this podcast. His friends joke that he only wears checked shirts, and that’s because he’s been wearing the same checked shirts for years. 😂 I’ve learned a lot of valuable lessons from him, but, people absolutely notice that he wears the same clothes on repeat. The thing is, my husband couldn’t care less! So, he’s still happy as a clam! :-)
I hate gaining and losing weight over the years, I cnt afford to get rid of my different sized clothes that I might fit again in a few months..
Ugh same! Got thyroid cancer - gained some weight, then lost some - having a health condition like this can make it difficult, especially if you don't know how your condition/disease may progress and in turn affect your weight or metabolism
Where I live I have 4 seasons. I can't just hvea few things.
Im 32 and just now understand. It made me gross when my mom kept some of my baby clothes with dust and the smell yuck. I have twins and I get rid of their old stuff immediately I hate hoarding it did make me sad but pictures do help and the thought of another baby can use these clothes
My husband learned very early in our relationship not to comment on my clothes or hair. We have been married for 31 years. 😂
Love it
Since losing weight , I now fit into all of my clothes , it is so awesome to be able to wear Everything!
Gawd that would be AWESOME
I feel good wearing all of my jackets & coats… clothing is an art of expression to me. I hate having the same look. I have a lot of clothes because I love variety but I think am going to get rid of the repetition.
I have a large cedar chest full of vintage Harris Tweed coats (complete with leather gloves and scarves to match). I collected them twenty years ago. Don’t even know if they will fit me anymore. Haven’t even opened that chest in two or three years. It’s a treasure someone will find after I die I’m thinking. I need professional help.🫤
@@marylhere 😳 sounds wonderful yet stressful. consider opening it... & maybe you'll be inspired from there.
@@tlc8925 right now I’m dealing with the winter to summer change. It was 38 degrees F last week….today it’s 83. Need to sort and edit my linens and store my woolies. I am not a minimalist.
Same
TK’s thoughts at minute 16:30 is everything 🙏🏻
Her laugh is so forced.
Oh goodness, I REALLY needed to hear this podcast! I've been struggling w/ years of clothing build up. I've stopped shopping as much due to that but I still have years of things I'm hanging onto for either sentimental reasons or just the what if I want to wear this sometime, or what if I lose the weight, or for variety. I do love variety but can't stand clutter! I will be implementing all of your suggestions...thank you!!! Also recycling is VERY important to me! I will be either donating or giving to an organization that recycles fabrics, they have those now.
What about those who save smaller sized clothing because maybe I will loose the weight and fit into them? That is totally me. Over the years she weight has crept up and now I own many sizes 😢
This is interesting...but as an artist i NEED all my stuff to make art....🎉
Yes!!! Me too! It's kinda frustrating.
Can't believe TK got cut off before his Maxim! He should never be abbreviated, except in his name. LOL
I've been getting rid of furniture etc.,, it feels great! Like removing my bra at bedtime lol.
Love this. But why have these guys chosen black? I do not own a single piece of black clothing and I’m lighter and happier than when everything I owned followed gray or black scheme.
Did I miss something. In her question i didn’t hear anything implying force. It sounds like he bought her a gift that she doesn’t particularly like and she doesn’t want to hurt his feelings by not wearing it. It’s not the fist time a partner has bought their loved on e a gift that missed mark. I find it interesting that people int he comments are saying she needs to leave him. My husband has bought me a gift or two that were beautiful but just not my style. Wanting to make him happy by wearing the dress is not coercion or force. And when I have told my husband that I didn’t feel comfortable in the clothing he is the first to tell me to change and that my comfort and joy are his priority. I feel like the minimalist are jumping to some pretty heavy conclusions. I think she would get better results if she just talked to her boyfriend. It can be hard to tell someone you love that you don’t like a gift he bought you but sometimes it has to be done for your peace and theirs.
Every couple of months I go through my closet and donate a few items but then I go shopping for cute new pieces since I lost 30lbs, I just love new clothes....and so the cycle continues....
I used to do what you do...get rid of something immediately if I put it on and I hated it. But then i realized that women's hormones change the body so frequently, that I needed to be a bit more patient because it's a little tricker dressing the body during different times of the month. Just a thought to add to this conversation about a minimalist wardrobe!
That woman's laughter is getting on my nerves after 10 min
Thanks for saying that preferrences are ok. I'm autistic and I hate going out for dinner, social environments and stuffy clothes. I'm always stigmatised by family for not joining in/wearing jogging bottoms. I have noticed that they don't make any effort to join in with my activities so I have come to the conclusion that I don't want to be a trophy. I'm not doing that stuff anymore unless I authentically have a desire to do it. To be honest, this isn't even a preference for me because if I get sensory distressed it damages my mental health. There is a quote Elyse Meyers uses,' if I'm too much then go get less'. In my case I want to do less for my health, so 'if my doing less is too much for you, go do your too much elsewhere'!
I like rotating clothes, so I usually keep more than I should. I did stop buying purses though, because I have some expensive ones and I see no need to buy anymore.
Ithink clothing is a huge issue for hoarding especially w women .
Id like to see more clothing minimalism inspo / content.
I learned early on to never buy clothes for my partners. Unless they love hoodies....the it's all about the right size. You will almost always be wrong about size and style.
“It’s always okay to let go of someone who is trying to coerce you because coercion is not consent. But also, convincing, persuading, manipulating - those things aren’t consent either - that’s unloving.”
Getting a nice pic of yourself in the red dress for him might be enough?
One of the reasons I opted to divorce was due to his unrelenting hoard. He wasn’t willing to compromise and literally every room was over run with THINGS. I literally lost my sanity.
I have a INSANE amount of clothes; easily enough clothing to clothe 25 women. 😰
A friend of mine is a pilot and he has a great saying which they use in flying which I apply to clothing (new purchases or stuff I already own)
"If there's doubt, there's no doubt"
I like that. The Minimal Mom has a similar phrasing:"If it's not a definite 'yes', it's a 'no'!" G Ire
I have a lot of clothes. Most second hand. The ones on the racks I want to keep for now, and I am cyclic: I might not wear one thing for a year, but then it become my favourite thing again... So these are my second priority. But I got lots of "still good enough for at home" clothing in drawers. Those I need to attack first. "Aspirational clothing" is a great term! I definetely have about 5 of those. Waiting for an event I can wear them too. I need to just wear them!
And I am attached to it all. But when I moved from a house to 2 BR I got ridd of 10 IKEA bags of stuff. I will try to wear things out and not buy new stuff unless I LOVE it and let go of 3. That's been helpful: for every clothing in I get rid of 3.
I will never be a minimalist and clothes are my passion, but the techniques are still helpful.
I want to use AND express myself through clothing. I think I need to aim for a middle road between minimalis and maximalism.
Wedding dresses repurposed to burial gowns sounds like a kind thing to do but a little creepy
I sent mine to an organization that does this. I dont think it feels creepy to the people receiving them-their hearts are broken and I would think that just knowing that somebody cared about their pain would provide a sense of comfort, love to the grieving couple/parent.....That was my intent when I donated mine and I hope that is what was felt. Love comes in many forms. It all depends on your perspective.
I love this. I been outsider most of my life. I do wear what I want. I do art so I tend to think out of the box. T-shirt and jeans or sweats and sneakers is my thing. I do get occasional nice shirt for certain occasions. I like that u found inspiration anywhere.Key when doing my art.Thanks from Hatboro Pa.
Wearing one pair of jeans every day is just plain gross
Just because people don't point out that you always wear the same clothes doesn't mean that they don't notice and/or that it looks good.
Do laundry more often.
❤ What a fun episode. I released 5 small bins of “stuff” today. I donated it to a stranger doing some work in our community 😂. I feel so good today for reducing items in my kitchen, closet & bathroom. It’s taking some time to make these adjustments (about 3 years) and I’m happy to say I just noticed tiny holes in two of my favorite shirts 😂 I wear for work…progress.
You can get clips or cinch it tools to make clothes more form fitting, has helped me to keep clothes I need instead of letting go and buying more clothes.
I am a stylist but I consider myself a minimal enough stylist, I allow myself to have 4 duplicates (slightly different versions, like white pants but different styles and cuts) of the same item, like trousers, jackets, as I use them for work all the time and they serve the purpose. And I own some other items that are my personal wardrobe.
I tried to use super minimal wardrobe consisting of just one item per category, and create content as a stylist but that didnt work for me, content was too repetitive and boring and people were not interested.
She should give him a shirt that he would hate and see how he likes being asked to wear it. 🙄
Great podcast ; thanks; the only annoyance is to hear a woman giggling in the background at various points when we don't see her; please bring her into view when she laughs or remove those laugh sounds of hers
Yesss!!! Let that friend (or spouse…) GO! 👏
I’ll never let someone tell me what to wear again. 🥰
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Spontaneous combustion - yes. Or I like to ask myself "if I was moving house, would this be worth packing to take with me?"
I am not a clothes hoarder (dont like shopping unless i need a specific item) but recently finished decluttering my closet that still had items from highschool (nothing wrong with that in general but it was time).
I decided instead of the 90day/6mo rule i keep clothes for 2 seasons. We have very hot summers and moderately cold (multiple snow/ice days) winters, so i will keep seasonal items for either 2 winters or 2 summers. The reason is that sometimes i still like & want an item but dont have occation to wear it, if that happens 2yrs in a row the item has to go. The rest of my "3 season"/ "all year" clothes get weeded out about every 6mos. The problem is i then need to go replace items lol
My ex had a chart for his pants and shirts so he would not wear same thing close together. Like rotating days for blue, black and khaki pants.
Interesting that each of you are wearing black shirts. Not judging, just observing.
I can really relate to "golden handcuffs" in terms of expensive clothing (good though from T.K. 5:33 ):
They feel nice, skin touch is superior, it looks amazing, but in truth it limits my freedom of doing things. I have to think where I sit and walk (not to damage expensive cloth), when they get dirty I need to take extra care washing them, if I damage them I feel sad (because they worth lots of money and I can not afford to buy new one easily to replace the damage one) and so on.
Love the caring direct but kind approach of the new presenter. Bless
If you like the dress , wear it. If you don't... don't! ❤❤❤❤
I just turned all my hangers around. Once I wear it & still like it I will put it back in the closet with the hanger the proper way. 3 months is my goal. The clothing whose hangers remain facing forward are going to find a new home. The amount of clothing I am blessed with is overwhelming to me. Wish me displine!
That’s a great way to actually see what you wear. I did it but in a yearly trial. For instance. I have a dress I wear to funerals. I don’t go to funnels every 2-3 weeks. Maybe 1-2 a year. And that goes with fancier shoes and hand bags. I keep 2-3 of those and they only get used 2-3 times a year but I’m not going to get rid of them to save 2 inches of hanging space in my closet. 🤷🏼♀️
"You don't "love" me unless you compromise your values and preferences" sounds like narcissism and gaslighting in a relationship that isn't compatible.
With the red dress, I liked the idea of compromise, with making certain he understands that you don't feel comfortable, so you won't be wearing it often
Example, my husband LOVES this one perfume that I was never crazy about. He never pushes me to wear it, though I own it. On certain special occasions where I really want to be emotionally closer to him, I wear it.
Interesting they start with consumers throw away pounds, and then talk about ditching clothes that are useful.
Technically we're all attached to clothes (or they're attached to us) unless we're nudists.
But I did feel that TK guy had a lot of wisdom to add to the conversation
You guys are Still killin it!! Love ur podcasts. Thanks ❤
I REALLY loved the idea of selecting 33 pieces of clothing, accessories and other items and box up the rest for 30 days. This is the only thing that I think is going to work for my very stubborn addiction to my stuff. Thank you! Been struggling for YEARS on this. Love the idea! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Would like to know how you get on. 😊
I am basically forced to reduce my wardrobe since moving into Rv due to high rent.
I often give things one last chance…any discomfort or flaw…out
If a man i am dating buys me a dress. I will wear it!! To make him smile and improve the relationship between us. I would also show him what I like. It only takes one compliment for a women to realize she looks good in it. I donated to a homeless shelter to give clothes to people who need them.
Just have one black leather jacket. Enough to take you through centuries
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For me I always get caught with the sunk cost fallacy concept. I remember how much something cost me to buy, and this stops me donating it on to someone who might use it.
Ideas for the red dress...Wear a black sweater over the top (so it looks like a skirt) and tall black boots. Try a long black cardigan, black opaque tights and short boots. Try adding a lot of your black to it and see how that feels. Try it as a person willing to try new ideas. But in the end, if it just feels too different and awkward, then tell him thanks, you tried, it's not working for you.
Where can I find the brands of clothes that you guys are wearing?
“Style isn’t as much about how much you own, as much as it’s about how much you own it.” (*mic drop*) I love this! Thanks T.K.!!
Well said😊
First time listening to you guys! It was great and It will be great to meet the woman laughing in the background. She’s hilarious 🤣
Loved myself with shopping trips. Not in any relationship with a significant other. Size has been up and down. Trendy style and patterns draw my attention in and I dont have a completed outfit w/o my multiple clothing articles
Well, I guess I don’t have to do the 33 project because that’s probably all I have all totaled. So I do live in Minnesota, so I do have some seasonal clothing. Being a fan of thrift stores , high-end ones in particular. I do have to constantly weed out stuff as I bring home. The red dress thing, maybe he’s outgrown her wardrobe and would appreciate her in a dress…something different maybe more fem
I’m in the process of a total downsize as I prepare to sell my house. Widowed for only a year and a half, I’m deep in the process of going from losing to leaving the life I led for over 30 years. Because we knew he was going to die, I ‘d already packed up and separated out the clothes and items that would leave when he did…even though he was bedridden for a long time, I couldn’t bring myself to donate his suits (which he wore when he’d been healthy) or dress shirts, but in the week after he died, my children were totally able to take those pre-packed items away - so I didn’t need to go through his stuff. The problem now is finding his written notes, the traces of his life which are functionally meaningless, but reflect the very fact of who he was. Those parts hurt and so I mourn, toss, and save a bit too. Because I’m writing these rules of the heart.
The one thing I’ve really come to appreciate is the concept of Swedish Death Cleaning. It is a gift we can give to our heirs, because picking up that hairbrush with a few hairs clinging will break the heart all over again.
You are really going through a lot. Dealing with grief and preparing for a move. That's a lot. I hope you have people helping you. Take it easy on yourself. ❤
Scrubs for sure you need a lot of - wash everyday because of Germs!!!
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For New England weather, it might make sense to put a winter coat and ski gear away in the spring, but the weather is pretty much set on random from March to October - we need layers all those months. The caller said she has a mountain of laundry to do every week. I suspect she's washing clothes after every single time she wears them. Unless her scrubs get actually dirty at work, she could probably wear them twice between washings, so that would reduce how much laundry to do and how many sets of scrubs she has to have in her drawer/closet. To reduce visual stress and avoid buying new ones, she could keep the extras in a suitcase or otherwise stored out of sight until the ones in rotation get worn out. Also, during mud season, pants can be protected by wearing leg gaiters.
I just put my snow shovel away….in Rochester NY.
Yeah but sometimes you can absolutely love things you never guessed you'd like until you try it on yourself.
You can't be invisible in a red dress-- you have to be bold and stand out. It's hard to get used to wearing red when you've shied away from it in the past. It's a big deal! I understand. I bet the dress looks great on you, but you're uncomfortable in it.
Or she just doesn’t like it.
I never wore red for such a long time. I think it had to do with that scene in "Gone with the Wind", and I was trying to cling to my virtue when everyone else was trashing theirs (college). However, I got a job at a large retailer merchandising dept. and I bought this red dress at such a discount. It was so flowy, and I felt beautiful in it. It complimented my skin tone very well. From then on, I was over my red phobia. I regularly do a red/pink wash now. Not afraid of the roja anymore!
I have 15 jackets and love everyone of them
Dear VanFleena ; you're not a teen anymore.....
I just moved into a caravan, thank goodness it's outside my parents house because I'm storing a shelf of my winter sweaters, coats etc that I would not be able to fit in here if not. But i like all my black sweaters.. haha also i don't have money to replace things so I won't buy anymore for a couple years because I have plenty to last 😬
“Oh my stars” -Malabama, about Becks looking like the Hamburglar, so funny!
Hey, it is OK to have what serves a purpose. End of story. Let's not exaggerate.
Absolutely should she not have to wear the dress to appease her boyfriend, even for five minutes.
My husband bought me a fancy shirt that I struggle to wear. (It’s the material) But he was so proud of himself when he got it for me, that I still have it. He’s the kind of guy who will not remember something unless it’s important to him, and he asks me to wear it on dates. And I do.
@@muchadoaboutkovu Thats what love is about-sacrificing, giving and taking ;) I think about all the things my husband does for me every day to let me know Im loved, and so the least I can do is wear an item he loves to see me in, regardless of how I feel about it. 27 years together and still making sacrifices for each other :)
@@amiblack8294 Wearing something you would rather not, does not show love. Having the support to be happy with my choices and the adoration that comes from it is love. There is no sacrifice. Common respect is giving. And when both people do that it will be 100 happy years.
Why not with "Rule Book" to "Tool Book"?
TK’s thoughts at minute 16:30 is everything . TK has been the absolute best addition!!!!.
Had no clue y’all were in montana
"we were born perfect" this is nonsense.
You guys saved my life and changed it forever . THANK YOU!❤