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Don’t rip ppl off , stop acting like u know stuff ; when your dressed, look like a hobo and charging weak ppl for absurd amounts of money! You should be ashamed of yourself!
Guys, I’m saying this for myself, and you as the viewer, do not let this video turn into another epiphany high. This guy is giving advice that most people would pay thousands of dollars for through therapy and personal trainers. Act like you spent $1000 to watch this video, pay attention to it. Stop watching self improvement that you won’t improve you, watch a video and then apply it immediately. Good luck.
Going back to instagram and 20 seconds later you'll forget that you've watched this video, neither the advice given in it. Please take this persons comment seriously because you exactly know what they're about. Insanity is to hope for change by doing something over and over again without changing something. If you're not able to do something besides beeing on the phone, at least grab a copy of alan watts 'become what you are' and change your life by spending 10$
I watched this video a couple months ago and applied only 1-2 things in my life and it changed everything for me. I'm eternally grateful. Ima come back to this every year
The more I study trauma, the more I discover it creates our entire being, albeit on a completely subconscious level. Recognizing what parts of you, you do authentically or on auto pilot is key to starting your journey to self healing. Your ego is not your authentic self, your ego is a trauma response.
To everyone watching - this is basically his paid social skills course boiled down into an hour and a half. Crazy value for a free video on RUclips. Watch and learn!! Something they tell you on these free tour events is - imagine you paid $10,000 for this information, how would you treat it then?
Literally, this comment is true. I spent $4,000-$6,000 on three separate coaches alone and did work for a long time… I testify that this information his is providing is gold. ❤
Not everyone is willing to talk about their past scandal yet Julien is here talking about it, sharing what he learned from it and dissecting it into a lesson that everyone can learn from. God bless you Julien.
Wrote this for myself, sharing here as cheat sheet to take action. How to identify what's running you 1. Ask questions like: “What is success to you”? for core beliefs 2. Ask shadow questions: 1. Why am I not good enough? 2. Why am I unlovable? 3. Why will I always be alone? 4. What am I hiding? 5. Why is success scary? 6. Why is life so hard? 3. Keep asking “why” on every answer and going deeper 4. Ask yourself what character of a movie are you - what are the pros and cons of that character? 5. Look at recurring patterns. What core beliefs could be behind these? 6. Catch it when you are triggered - what caused the triggering - feel it 7. Action - Trigger - Release - Repeat | Do stuff that triggers you. Be with the feeling and sensation and surrender to it. Accept if fully and surrender, let go 8. Guided meditations 9. Family - being with family will trigger you, use it and let go Thanks for the amazing content :)
feeling sucks.. but its alright too. i notice that when i run away from feeling bad, i became a jaded person, angry, bitter, and ungrateful. by opening up, and putting my heart up front, i became more peaceful, sometimes hurt, but blessed. I once heard someone said if there is one part of a human that if it is good, everything else becomes good, and that is heart.
I got the best example; imagine your toilet is clogged (with traumas, core beliefs, and self sabotage), then life flushes with a sensation, and the toilet starts to fill up, to the point it start going all out on the floor, you start slipping, making you fall, hitting stuff, hurting yourself, doing deep breaths won't fix things, everything is still going out. What do you need to do to fix it? Get ready and unclog it, it's not easy, it's going to be unpleasent you are going to hate it, but once it finally gets unclog, once you let go, and the sensations starts to flow, everything feels better, of course you still need to clean the floor, but now there're no more sensations going out
This is absolute gold!! I went through a breakup a month ago and through the relationship my whole self esteem that I worked so hard for vanished. And I asked myself why, but now I see I've always approached the situation wrong. I still based my self worth on other people's opinions, I just got better at fitting in and gaslighting myself into thinking people like me even when they don't. Maybe now I can finally heal :) Thank you so much❤
Thanks brother. One of the most value packed self help two hours I've consumed. And I've consumed years of content. Biggest takeaway for me, go towards it inside rather than this relentless pursuit to escape from it via self help. We end up like junkies looking for a the next fix. Sobering to realise I've still got a lot of work to do, thanks for all you share and the reframe. Respect 🙏
I showed up to school one day and a teacher told me I shouldn't be there, I was confused and decided to leave and get a friend to pick me up, a few moments later I received several threatening texts, turns out someone had made up a rumour that I sexual assaulted them, so I went into hiding for several years, your videos are helping me let go of my past, thank you.
If these things are happening to you, and you haven't done anything wrong, I am very sorry but you shouldn't just sit with your hands still. You should sue their asses for defamation or slander. Get some money, hire a lawyer, find the name of that person and don't contact them again. Just let the lawyer do the work. Defend yourself and don't allow anybody to walk all over you like that. If some bitch out there is making wild claims against your name, they should pay for it. I hear stories like that all the time, some people even went to prison with just false claims. I would assume you live in the West. Civilization has completely fallen over there. This is completely unacceptable and the worst thing is that people do nothing about it. What kind of message does this give? If all these wrong doings are happening and people just remain apathetic and do nothing then they will keep happening to the point of collapse... That's why society is going backwards, because bullies are not being dealt with. Bullies just belittle people because they are weak themselves. The only way for the bad guys to win in this world is when the good guys do nothing. That bitch is now going to do that again to some other guy and it may get serious... If you haven't done anything wrong then you should defend yourself. She must back herself up with evidence(footage, witnesses). You can't just walk around disrespecting people like that, making false claims without justifying anything. Defend yourself. If this is the society you live in where nobody listens to your side of the story and they just rush to label you as predator without any proof, then I truly pity you. You should get out, yesterday... If this was happening to a loved one, would you do nothing? Imagine that you become a father, would you allow that to happen to your son? Doing nothing has consequences as well.
@dragongrenade false sa claims are not all that common at all. You just have been listening to manosphere garbage for too long and it's skewed your perspective with a false narrative. You are not immune to propaganda.
I went to prison for 4 months for something that never happened, soon as i got out,back on the street highly visible and busking,keep your head high fella.
Go to court. Sue for defamation and seek damages for mental anguish. If you are truly innocent, then you have the right to destroy them for attempting to destroy you. ALL allegations should be brought to court. If they are simply thrown and never see court then they are little more than an attempted assassination and should be treated as an attempt on your life. People self-end from allegations. It ABSOLUTELY is an attempt on your life and you have the right and the DUTY to defend yourself. Find out who it is, and sue their entire genetic line back to the stone age. Today its you. Tomorrow it's someone who has a lot more to lose and will end things a lot messier than they went into it. Not fighting back is simply not an option. You only make yourself an easy target. And they're demonic with it too... If this doesn't get you, they'll wait until you have something actually worth taking and then "allege" again.
1:36:00 Stop. You just stop. You watch what’s coming up but remove your desire to change it. Then you just stay in this space and watch the pain eventually dissolve It takes a lot of bravery but you don’t really have a choice anyways. Healing requires letting go. Be prepared for failures and just keep going.
Hey man, never heard of you before a couple of videos ago, but damn your content seems to be what other coaches hide in premium gold programs. As a matter of fact this is the case. Now with all of this information the other coaches seem like plastic content against this just because of your commitment to helping people. I would like more videos on chronic problems with disciplin. I have felt my whole life like I walked against a force and now and then I can cope, but I get back to almost no routine with the things I really want to achieve and I am in dire need to move forward now. If you hear me on that Id appreciate content on this a ton. Keep on going man. You seem to have survived a living hell (you caused yourself) and turned all around. That is mad inspiration.
Start feeling again and wanting to feel again. Start connecting with your heart again, feeling it again. You will get everything to let go of what you need to let go of automatically. No need for introspection and shadow question’s. You will feel the feeling staying in it and completely letting it be. And in the process you will get the info. You will understand deeply what is going on without even thinking consciously about it. It will come as a strange thought like: „i hate myself“ or „im so scared of that or this“. And you focus entirely on feelings and feel them all out. Be completely with them. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But its starting a new life for you. I dont think it is bad to do introspection and shadow questions. I just don’t think it is absolutely necessary. Big thank you Julien for bringing this long video up. Much love from Germany
The part with the self help videos reminds me of 'tutorial hell' in something like programming, where you just keep watching tutorial videos instead of getting out there and try to code and build projects; where you do the REAL learning.
Well, you can always view those self-help videos as "introduction material" that prepare you for upcoming experiences you haven't yet got to taste, or as "guides"/tools to help you navigate and integrate the experiences you are going through at the moment in an healthier way (releasing, instead of resisting and and storing them as trauma along their corresponding triggers).
Julien, thank you, you led me the Letting Go technique and it has absolutely transformed my life. I do it all the time and I am so happy. My social anxiety has gone and my confidence is soaring. It has genuinely solved all my problems. Thank you. I am eternally grateful
Notes to self 16:20 “the quality of your life has much less to do with what you add to it and more to do with what you remove from it” … it's the foundation 57:43 … you could write down: health, wealth, relationships.
i love you man, the "asking why" question technique is so useful too, i catch myself many times just sliding over onto saying "i don't know" instead of like really analyzing it, my brain is basically on autopilot to ignore all my problems or to shut them down, thanks to this i've been more aware of it, thanks for putting this out
Thank you so much. This is what really matters. This should be priority for everyone wanting success including me ❤️❤️ this is the most important video for me that I’ve watch from you. Thank you again from Sweden
@@dmt7674 I just see the value in his content and want to give back a lil bit 😊 I love the truth, dont like lies at all, and it feels like Julien is one of few that dare to even tell the truth
After watching this, I have felt so many things inside of me unlock. The stubbornness and refusing to change side of me. Thank you Julien for designing and sticking to these improvements. It’s magical.
I love you man, it is incredible that you have the honesty and courage to highlight the “tutorial hell” of the self-help genre. I have listened to soooo many people from different areas of self help genre but your content is probably the only one I find includes critical thinking. And also, I kinda feel like you probably have a laugh or two watching David Goggins videos when he is saying that he is not affected by people but does stuff all the time to record and get external validation.
That's some weird projection? I don't think David Goggins is necessarily just trying to get exterbal validation, nor do I think he is trying to get it from social media 😂
This one was one of your best videos i have ever watched. No psychologist nor book guy that doesn't love it the way you do can give such insights into these concepts, not from the "Theoretical" perspective but from the POV of someone that has lived, experienced, and eventually transcended all those shortcomings. This should be taught at schools to say the least.
You just keep hitting me in the forehead with sledgehammer after sledgehammer of realization. Truly grateful for turning me in the right direction. One of my favorite sayings- "You cannot reach your destination if you begin your journey facing the wrong direction". I feel like you just turned me, finally, after so long in the right direction. Thank you.
As a binger of self-help material for 20 years (brief moments of coping) I only just now stumbled upon Julien the other day at my weakest hour. Thank you Julien for saving my life.
Boy, I've been doing this coaching for roughly the same amount of time - I mean, my inner journey has been supreme. I love the way you so beautifully describe some of the concepts used in shadow work/coaching. I'm glad I came across your channel.
I feel like this is one of your best Videos. I think it really gets to the point of how to let go. And it's not really letting go. It's going through... I took many notes! Well done,thank you! 😢
What's really interesting is not too long ago I heard something similar, and the solution given was to create an alter ego, completely separate from your current identity. I did this sort of meditation on my own where I disconnected from me and everything I perceived as my identity, and things have just started to happen around me. I've made decisions that benefit me but I would have otherwise not made. I am actually succeeding and not holding myself back what so ever, it has honestly saved me. Think Tyler Durden from fight club. Without killing my identity I just put it to the side and created another me that has no context and no past or previous preconceptions of how the world works and what I should and shouldn't do I just let him do his thing. Kinda wild how well it's worked for me actually.
I watched the full video, my top takeaway from it is that now time has come to pleasure myself. No seriously, I just found your channel recently and I am so 100% sure that listening to you and applying the techniques is going to change my life for the better, thank you. Greetings from a cow village in Switzerland.
It's amazing how you provide a robust mix of self disclosure, deep psychological, cognitive, and philosophical insights in a very easy and therapeutic manner. Just an unusual mix of life coaching, therapy, and life advice
The amount and quality of information displayed here should be taught in every High School/University course, as a subject named "Emotionology". It would for sure allow for youngsters that hadn't had the chance of having contact with psychology, to get introduced about self-knowledge and perhaps self-healing and improving.
Julien @ 1:30 minutes you talked about feeling it and facing it. In my earlier comment . You find the root cause of it. You go into it and face it you delete the folder . I have had this experience which is the unknown 🤔 For some the emotions is like to the breaking a dam 💔 😪 thee emotions are exploding bring in your consciousness awareness and riding it out! Deletes it from your mind no longer has anymore energy or baggage or chains to lock you up. It is empty. Be Happy Julien is also pointing out even though it's empty. You can fill it with new stuff ! This is why you keep being aware and asking those questions. Doing the work within yourself. I guess I'm commenting to help myself as well ! Thx
Few things I hear here are I learnt by myself the hard way, it helped a lot. There are many things he gave a lot of thought and experience too. Genuine stuff. Keep it up, the interviews are eye opening.
Oh man!! Really love how you've released this in one single video. It helped a lot in connecting the dots and understanding the concept with depth. Love your presenting skills and the person you've become. Much love and gratitude to you 🌼
Wow, i was always wondering why you never mention what happened in 2014! Thanks for bringing that up, being so honest and describing your journey! Extremely inspiring!
Julien. I have watched you progress rapidly over the past year in your ability to teach. Absolutely incredible video here. I cannot believe you are putting this out for free. I'm half way through and this is one of the best self help videos I've ever seen. Incredible work my friend. I hope one day to meet you (even though I feel like I already have) For anyone who needs help watch this and take all of this to heart.
Thank you for decoding a lot of the language that we hear constantly but whose meaning change or get a bit lost. This really bridges a lot of the gaps.
Great video, you hit every single point. So many questions I had were answered and the fact that this information is free and available to anyone. Thank you so much for such a knowledgeable video
Thank you Julien❤I really appreciate your good intentions. I have no wise words or promises that I am now moving my ass. I hope that I can get back to you one day as a product of your work and help.
Depression is your best friend!....🤔 Depression is banging on your door, throwing rocks threw your windows, cutting off the water and electricity. It gets worse and worse until you fling open the door and screem WHAT!!!!??? Its you. Trying your best to tell you your house is on fire and you have to get out now before its too late. You will be homeless but you have you now. Now its walking down the street, the immediate danger is gone but the world is now open. The house is gone and you still cry because of relief not of grief.
I was a living zombie because of this invisible prison and I never had any thoughts of my own and no gut feeling. But watching this video on acid and going through it like a meditation it feels like I could heal. Be myself for the very first time. I hate myself because of all those things that were taught to me. How I am not good enough. That I shouldn't think because I get shut down by my parents. That I shouldn't aspire anything or try to do good because it will lead to bad things. So if I can just breathe through it and try to survive those bad feelings and things and just put my mind through it. I won’t need anything to cope. Thank you so much Julien.
Book recommendations on the mindfulness method: Emotional Resilience - David Viscott The Six Pillars of Self Esteem - Nathaniel Branden Man and His Symbols - Carl Jung
Incredible courage Julien - really the work you’ve done on yourself to turn things around nothing short of incredible! TY again for all your teachings and yes I’ve begun applying all your techniques which for me, have been life changing. At the age of 50 nobody ever told me to question if I might be living a complete lie about myself - really you’ve helped me turn my perspective into a new paradigm… 🎉.
I am so grateful for this content which had been put up here for free. I mean this was such an eye opener u pointed out exactly wht im going thru and the anxiety i get from trying to make life perfect at every step. You're a real one man thank you so much julien . Huge respect❤
excellent and honest advice Julien. i’ve been actively working on myself the past decade +. daily strength/cardio workouts, hydration, clean diet, regular sleep, gratitude, and God. plus, everything you stated re core identity, core beliefs, and past trauma. ❤
You're a brilliant man Julien. Helped me screw a few relationships up many moons ago, then recently i came across the new you, I didn't have any faith at first just watched out of curiosity but this is the best self help content I've come across and your transformation has gave me refreshed hope for mine.
I'm currently on 35 minutes of the video. I knew the story of the "most hated man" and it felt so wrong. I could imagine this was a terrible misunderstanding and how painful must have been for you. Similar story happened to the great film director Lars von Trier when he said one word too much (being overhonest and sort of innocent person inside, surprisingly) and he got banned from Cannes and simply couldn't understand how he managed to upset people so much. I felt for him and for you too but I must say I admire your teachings twice as much since I heard that. Tony de Mello, zen masters, Tyler Durden (outfits! :) ) somehow mixed in one person - and when I watch yoir videos and try to implement your healing ways to my life I always feel heard and understood and yes, called out but you make a whole process so safe. Marvellous work, keep going, we need you. 🎉 thanks.
Thank you Julien. I cried some and “dared” to meet an old friend and felt a lot more relaxed. Thank you so much for the wonderful work!You look really whole 🎉
After watching this video carefully and studying it, and resolving many of my psychological knots over a few days, I suddenly felt physical exhaustion at the same time I felt an inner liberation. It was a strange feeling, as if I had the flu, and today is my first day. Also, the tension I used to feel in my head has completely disappeared. Today is my first day after this. My body is very tired, but I am happy and joyful about life, and there’s nothing internally bothering me."
By watching your videos, I not only learned a lot of things but also by seeing that you have put such a long video with so much important learning of yours for FREE, I learned how much helping people is important, cause I feel that you are helping me, and this makes me want to pay back and help you in the future if we have encountered each other. Thanks for your kindness. I wish you the best.
Julian, for all the knowledge, guidance and advice. Although I align with a lot of things you discuss, along with helping others break through their obstacles. I have achieved great success with health, physique, finance, career and hobbies. Admittedly, as strong as I might appear, there are some deep rooted things of my past that no one else knows of that hinder me from specific things. The use of analogies and thorough discussion toward success is excellent. I still need to work on a lot myself and will continue to help others with such knowledge. Thank you sir!
You are amazing, Julien. This is the answer I’ve been looking for all of my life. I couldn’t even find this answer in religion to be honest with you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, for simply and courageously being authentically you.
What free time man…I get what he is saying. Honestly when I watch self help I feel like shit after and try it for a a couple weeks in real life. Honestly, my mental and relationships have improved. Self confidence through the roof thanks to not just Julien but a few individuals on here. The conditioning virus took 6 months to get out and I still do work on others that I have found.
The term "Epiphany High" has given me an epiphany high. I might be able to use that to give someone else an epiphany high, aka Dopamine Rush. But yeah, it's a good one, because i'm often guilty of consuming self improvement content instead of of going to sleep to be the best at work the next day. It's midnight and I'm on vacation in Miami, guess i should go to sleep to have a more pleasant day tomorrow, peace.
Hey Julien, this video made me discover something. So, my goal is to start a business. I've procrastinated for 6 months, and I still do that. Without discipline and motivation, I find it hard to stay on top of my daily tasks. I doubt myself a lot and often find excuses. Following the trail of "whys," I found this: For me, success = stress. It involves a lot of responsibility, and I need to put myself out there. Why is that bad? - Because I feel weak, and I believe that only hardworking people can achieve success. That's why I don't feel deserving of it. Now, please tell me, what should I do? Should I accept the fact that I might be weak? What do you recommend?
If you always do what you've always done, then you will surely always get what you have always gotten. Meaning if you don't do anything nothing will change. So just make a change and do it. What is there to lose if you don't?
Thank you for this video that ties many of your teachings together. I have been diligently taking notes from each of your videos, and taking consistent action. This video helped me fill up the gaps in what I didn't understand about letting go and breaking of the invisible prison. After you discussed 'Files versus Folders', I realised that I wouldn't need to keep letting go of every single fear that triggers me, but instead aim to let go of the underlying fear/s that encompasses other fears beneath it. Looking forward to more! 🙏God bless.
I love Julien's videos usually and even take notes but am I the only one that felt like the beginning is just a therapy session with an audience for Julien? I love you my man. I'm glad you're recovering from the traumatic events in your life just like the rest of us! ❤
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” - Carl Jung Become a trigger chaser and thank the messengers. Focus on the message. Thinking FUELS the trigger, feeling HEALS the trigger. Action- Trigger- Release- Repeat. Allow yourself to truly feel it. To release it, you have to feel it. Remove the numbness and let it back up. Let it take over and let go. Re-sensitization over De-sensitization. 1. Become aware of what you want to let go of. Become aware of what's out of your awareness. 2. Allow yourself to experience it fully. 3. Let it come up and let it out. Mindfulness is focusng on all the negative and letting go of it. Realize presence rather than chasing presence. Ego= effort. You must become aware of what you want to let go of. Sensations (located in body) come before emotion/ labels. Feel = letting go. You're not getting rid of anything. You're letting go of attachment to this version of you and resistance to being what is unacceptable. No attachment, no aversion. Feel. Be. Letting go- stop doing. stop stuffing down. Not analyzing or judging. Being with it. Feeling it. Openness and feeling. Keep bringing it back to the sensations. You are free 🌟
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Julien, do you still go around pushing women's faces into your crotchety?
Don’t rip ppl off , stop acting like u know stuff ; when your dressed, look like a hobo and charging weak ppl for absurd amounts of money! You should be ashamed of yourself!
that you rock!
Not a damn thing
Guys, I’m saying this for myself, and you as the viewer, do not let this video turn into another epiphany high. This guy is giving advice that most people would pay thousands of dollars for through therapy and personal trainers. Act like you spent $1000 to watch this video, pay attention to it. Stop watching self improvement that you won’t improve you, watch a video and then apply it immediately. Good luck.
Going back to instagram and 20 seconds later you'll forget that you've watched this video, neither the advice given in it.
Please take this persons comment seriously because you exactly know what they're about.
Insanity is to hope for change by doing something over and over again without changing something.
If you're not able to do something besides beeing on the phone, at least grab a copy of alan watts 'become what you are' and change your life by spending 10$
So true. My trauma therapist says the same thing. She says it's like people who watch a an exercise video but never do the exercise.
im gonna rewatch it. its still sticks with me no matter how much i ignore it.
This video is a spark. Go get some damn firewood (do work) before the spark goes out. Make your fire burn bright. You got this, brothers.
Healthy Gamer is also very good but when applied and not ignored.
I watched this video a couple months ago and applied only 1-2 things in my life and it changed everything for me.
I'm eternally grateful. Ima come back to this every year
Nice! How are you now, did you improve more?
What did you apply? And how did it change?
The more I study trauma, the more I discover it creates our entire being, albeit on a completely subconscious level. Recognizing what parts of you, you do authentically or on auto pilot is key to starting your journey to self healing. Your ego is not your authentic self, your ego is a trauma response.
Great stuff
Hiiiii I know you. I have seen your comments on the nameless narcissist's channel. idk just wanted to tell you that 😅
@@farmcottage5404 I try to help both the narcissist and their victims. Both suffer from unhealed trauma...
@@fingsandstuff yesss. Your comments are actually really informative. :)
what a insight. Love that last bit. And how the core beliefs and identity are built around trauma.
To everyone watching - this is basically his paid social skills course boiled down into an hour and a half. Crazy value for a free video on RUclips. Watch and learn!! Something they tell you on these free tour events is - imagine you paid $10,000 for this information, how would you treat it then?
The Skin in the Game!!!!
Preciate it
Literally, this comment is true. I spent $4,000-$6,000 on three separate coaches alone and did work for a long time… I testify that this information his is providing is gold. ❤
Not everyone is willing to talk about their past scandal yet Julien is here talking about it, sharing what he learned from it and dissecting it into a lesson that everyone can learn from. God bless you Julien.
Wrote this for myself, sharing here as cheat sheet to take action.
How to identify what's running you
1. Ask questions like: “What is success to you”? for core beliefs
2. Ask shadow questions:
1. Why am I not good enough?
2. Why am I unlovable?
3. Why will I always be alone?
4. What am I hiding?
5. Why is success scary?
6. Why is life so hard?
3. Keep asking “why” on every answer and going deeper
4. Ask yourself what character of a movie are you - what are the pros and cons of that character?
5. Look at recurring patterns. What core beliefs could be behind these?
6. Catch it when you are triggered - what caused the triggering - feel it
7. Action - Trigger - Release - Repeat | Do stuff that triggers you. Be with the feeling and sensation and surrender to it. Accept if fully and surrender, let go
8. Guided meditations
9. Family - being with family will trigger you, use it and let go
Thanks for the amazing content :)
Thanks man! Cutting and pasting into my notes
Thanks for the amazing notes 👍👍👍
Thanks👏👏👍🏻
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Thank u so much for the summary
Thank you soo much Julien for putting such good and lengthy contents for free, i can't explain how much respect i have for you ❤️❤️🔥🔥
You're so welcome! Enjoy! 🙌
@@JulienHimselfnah Fr it should be illegal spreading so much lessons
This video just snapped me out of a horrible depression. Clearly the voice of love.
@@JulienHimselfthank you Julian 🇳🇬❤❤
@@highdesertbikerits done the same to me its amazing
feeling sucks.. but its alright too. i notice that when i run away from feeling bad, i became a jaded person, angry, bitter, and ungrateful. by opening up, and putting my heart up front, i became more peaceful, sometimes hurt, but blessed. I once heard someone said if there is one part of a human that if it is good, everything else becomes good, and that is heart.
I got the best example; imagine your toilet is clogged (with traumas, core beliefs, and self sabotage), then life flushes with a sensation, and the toilet starts to fill up, to the point it start going all out on the floor, you start slipping, making you fall, hitting stuff, hurting yourself, doing deep breaths won't fix things, everything is still going out. What do you need to do to fix it? Get ready and unclog it, it's not easy, it's going to be unpleasent you are going to hate it, but once it finally gets unclog, once you let go, and the sensations starts to flow, everything feels better, of course you still need to clean the floor, but now there're no more sensations going out
Hi, this is the drugs calling, please stop hitting us so hard.
This is absolute gold!! I went through a breakup a month ago and through the relationship my whole self esteem that I worked so hard for vanished. And I asked myself why, but now I see I've always approached the situation wrong. I still based my self worth on other people's opinions, I just got better at fitting in and gaslighting myself into thinking people like me even when they don't. Maybe now I can finally heal :) Thank you so much❤
Thanks brother. One of the most value packed self help two hours I've consumed. And I've consumed years of content. Biggest takeaway for me, go towards it inside rather than this relentless pursuit to escape from it via self help. We end up like junkies looking for a the next fix. Sobering to realise I've still got a lot of work to do, thanks for all you share and the reframe. Respect 🙏
I showed up to school one day and a teacher told me I shouldn't be there, I was confused and decided to leave and get a friend to pick me up, a few moments later I received several threatening texts, turns out someone had made up a rumour that I sexual assaulted them, so I went into hiding for several years, your videos are helping me let go of my past, thank you.
stay strong champ
If these things are happening to you, and you haven't done anything wrong, I am very sorry but you shouldn't just sit with your hands still. You should sue their asses for defamation or slander. Get some money, hire a lawyer, find the name of that person and don't contact them again. Just let the lawyer do the work. Defend yourself and don't allow anybody to walk all over you like that. If some bitch out there is making wild claims against your name, they should pay for it.
I hear stories like that all the time, some people even went to prison with just false claims. I would assume you live in the West. Civilization has completely fallen over there.
This is completely unacceptable and the worst thing is that people do nothing about it. What kind of message does this give? If all these wrong doings are happening and people just remain apathetic and do nothing then they will keep happening to the point of collapse...
That's why society is going backwards, because bullies are not being dealt with. Bullies just belittle people because they are weak themselves.
The only way for the bad guys to win in this world is when the good guys do nothing.
That bitch is now going to do that again to some other guy and it may get serious...
If you haven't done anything wrong then you should defend yourself. She must back herself up with evidence(footage, witnesses). You can't just walk around disrespecting people like that, making false claims without justifying anything. Defend yourself. If this is the society you live in where nobody listens to your side of the story and they just rush to label you as predator without any proof, then I truly pity you. You should get out, yesterday...
If this was happening to a loved one, would you do nothing? Imagine that you become a father, would you allow that to happen to your son?
Doing nothing has consequences as well.
@dragongrenade false sa claims are not all that common at all. You just have been listening to manosphere garbage for too long and it's skewed your perspective with a false narrative. You are not immune to propaganda.
I went to prison for 4 months for something that never happened, soon as i got out,back on the street highly visible and busking,keep your head high fella.
Go to court. Sue for defamation and seek damages for mental anguish. If you are truly innocent, then you have the right to destroy them for attempting to destroy you. ALL allegations should be brought to court. If they are simply thrown and never see court then they are little more than an attempted assassination and should be treated as an attempt on your life. People self-end from allegations. It ABSOLUTELY is an attempt on your life and you have the right and the DUTY to defend yourself.
Find out who it is, and sue their entire genetic line back to the stone age. Today its you. Tomorrow it's someone who has a lot more to lose and will end things a lot messier than they went into it. Not fighting back is simply not an option. You only make yourself an easy target. And they're demonic with it too... If this doesn't get you, they'll wait until you have something actually worth taking and then "allege" again.
1:36:00
Stop. You just stop. You watch what’s coming up but remove your desire to change it. Then you just stay in this space and watch the pain eventually dissolve
It takes a lot of bravery but you don’t really have a choice anyways. Healing requires letting go.
Be prepared for failures and just keep going.
Hey man, never heard of you before a couple of videos ago, but damn your content seems to be what other coaches hide in premium gold programs. As a matter of fact this is the case. Now with all of this information the other coaches seem like plastic content against this just because of your commitment to helping people. I would like more videos on chronic problems with disciplin. I have felt my whole life like I walked against a force and now and then I can cope, but I get back to almost no routine with the things I really want to achieve and I am in dire need to move forward now. If you hear me on that Id appreciate content on this a ton. Keep on going man. You seem to have survived a living hell (you caused yourself) and turned all around. That is mad inspiration.
Start feeling again and wanting to feel again. Start connecting with your heart again, feeling it again. You will get everything to let go of what you need to let go of automatically. No need for introspection and shadow question’s. You will feel the feeling staying in it and completely letting it be. And in the process you will get the info. You will understand deeply what is going on without even thinking consciously about it. It will come as a strange thought like: „i hate myself“ or „im so scared of that or this“. And you focus entirely on feelings and feel them all out. Be completely with them. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But its starting a new life for you. I dont think it is bad to do introspection and shadow questions. I just don’t think it is absolutely necessary. Big thank you Julien for bringing this long video up. Much love from Germany
The part with the self help videos reminds me of 'tutorial hell' in something like programming, where you just keep watching tutorial videos instead of getting out there and try to code and build projects; where you do the REAL learning.
Yes! I like that saying "tutorial hell" - Very true!
I was thinking the same thing
Well, you can always view those self-help videos as "introduction material" that prepare you for upcoming experiences you haven't yet got to taste, or as "guides"/tools to help you navigate and integrate the experiences you are going through at the moment in an healthier way (releasing, instead of resisting and and storing them as trauma along their corresponding triggers).
Ever since my therapist introduced me to your videos, my life has changed. This was a masterclass - THANK YOU!
May I know who and where you got your therapist??
Lmao you have a based therapist
Bro is indisputably, objectively special. He may say whatever he wants but I have no doubt he is a true beacon of mental guidance.
Julien, thank you, you led me the Letting Go technique and it has absolutely transformed my life. I do it all the time and I am so happy. My social anxiety has gone and my confidence is soaring. It has genuinely solved all my problems. Thank you. I am eternally grateful
Amazing to hear! Congrats on your progress!!
Notes to self
16:20 “the quality of your life has much less to do with what you add to it and more to do with what you remove from it” … it's the foundation
57:43 … you could write down: health, wealth, relationships.
i love you man, the "asking why" question technique is so useful too, i catch myself many times just sliding over onto saying "i don't know" instead of like really analyzing it, my brain is basically on autopilot to ignore all my problems or to shut them down, thanks to this i've been more aware of it, thanks for putting this out
You are doing God's work. Thank you for your service, Julien.
Thank you so much. This is what really matters. This should be priority for everyone wanting success including me ❤️❤️ this is the most important video for me that I’ve watch from you. Thank you again from Sweden
I’ve seen your user more than I usually do on this platform it’s so weird
@@dmt7674 I just see the value in his content and want to give back a lil bit 😊 I love the truth, dont like lies at all, and it feels like Julien is one of few that dare to even tell the truth
@@dmt7674everything happens for a reason ❤
After watching this, I have felt so many things inside of me unlock. The stubbornness and refusing to change side of me. Thank you Julien for designing and sticking to these improvements. It’s magical.
I love you man, it is incredible that you have the honesty and courage to highlight the “tutorial hell” of the self-help genre. I have listened to soooo many people from different areas of self help genre but your content is probably the only one I find includes critical thinking. And also, I kinda feel like you probably have a laugh or two watching David Goggins videos when he is saying that he is not affected by people but does stuff all the time to record and get external validation.
That's some weird projection? I don't think David Goggins is necessarily just trying to get exterbal validation, nor do I think he is trying to get it from social media 😂
This is one epiphany moment too many for me, Julien. Absolute gold! If I don't work on myself after watching this, I will never pardon myself.
This one was one of your best videos i have ever watched. No psychologist nor book guy that doesn't love it the way you do can give such insights into these concepts, not from the "Theoretical" perspective but from the POV of someone that has lived, experienced, and eventually transcended all those shortcomings. This should be taught at schools to say the least.
Bro it's seriously one of the best video you have watched ? 80% of motivational video is shit.
i agree yes bro! u get the dewpth ehre and the art of letting go!
Hey, Julien Is it possible to upload these excellent videos in future in 60fps mode? Its smoother for eyes✌🏻😎
This guy is phenomenal
You just keep hitting me in the forehead with sledgehammer after sledgehammer of realization. Truly grateful for turning me in the right direction. One of my favorite sayings- "You cannot reach your destination if you begin your journey facing the wrong direction". I feel like you just turned me, finally, after so long in the right direction. Thank you.
As a binger of self-help material for 20 years (brief moments of coping) I only just now stumbled upon Julien the other day at my weakest hour. Thank you Julien for saving my life.
Boy, I've been doing this coaching for roughly the same amount of time - I mean, my inner journey has been supreme. I love the way you so beautifully describe some of the concepts used in shadow work/coaching. I'm glad I came across your channel.
I feel like this is one of your best Videos.
I think it really gets to the point of how to let go. And it's not really letting go. It's going through... I took many notes! Well done,thank you! 😢
What's really interesting is not too long ago I heard something similar, and the solution given was to create an alter ego, completely separate from your current identity. I did this sort of meditation on my own where I disconnected from me and everything I perceived as my identity, and things have just started to happen around me. I've made decisions that benefit me but I would have otherwise not made. I am actually succeeding and not holding myself back what so ever, it has honestly saved me. Think Tyler Durden from fight club. Without killing my identity I just put it to the side and created another me that has no context and no past or previous preconceptions of how the world works and what I should and shouldn't do I just let him do his thing. Kinda wild how well it's worked for me actually.
How did you create alter personality ?
Yes how?
I watched the full video, my top takeaway from it is that now time has come to pleasure myself. No seriously, I just found your channel recently and I am so 100% sure that listening to you and applying the techniques is going to change my life for the better, thank you. Greetings from a cow village in Switzerland.
Me: I’m hungry
New thinking: why
Me: I feel like I’m not good enough
Me: I’m doing my best ( avoids eating )
Thanks Julien
It's amazing how you provide a robust mix of self disclosure, deep psychological, cognitive, and philosophical insights in a very easy and therapeutic manner. Just an unusual mix of life coaching, therapy, and life advice
The amount and quality of information displayed here should be taught in every High School/University course, as a subject named "Emotionology". It would for sure allow for youngsters that hadn't had the chance of having contact with psychology, to get introduced about self-knowledge and perhaps self-healing and improving.
I love how clearly you break it down and weave in relatable stories
I cant believe how much value you share for free. Thank you, Julien!
Thanks!
Real MVP right here
@@MrsSoulRaspberryMate this guy is the bomb
@@Lovetheworkband oh haha I thought you were talking about yourself! I thought damn hé really be learning this shit fast haha
@@MrsSoulRaspberryMate lol
This would definitely be the most valuable video I 've ever watched. Thank u so so much.
Julien
@ 1:30 minutes you talked about feeling it and facing it.
In my earlier comment . You find the root cause of it.
You go into it and face it you delete the folder .
I have had this experience which is the unknown 🤔
For some the emotions is like to the breaking a dam 💔 😪 thee emotions are exploding bring in your consciousness awareness and riding it out!
Deletes it from your mind no longer has anymore energy or baggage or chains to lock you up. It is empty.
Be Happy
Julien is also pointing out even though it's empty. You can fill it with new stuff !
This is why you keep being aware and asking those questions.
Doing the work within yourself.
I guess
I'm commenting to help myself as well !
Thx
Few things I hear here are I learnt by myself the hard way, it helped a lot.
There are many things he gave a lot of thought and experience too.
Genuine stuff.
Keep it up, the interviews are eye opening.
Oh man!! Really love how you've released this in one single video. It helped a lot in connecting the dots and understanding the concept with depth. Love your presenting skills and the person you've become. Much love and gratitude to you 🌼
This is the best summary of all your teachings and the letting go technique yet!
Thank you! Been working on this "manifesto" for quite some time... 🙏
The amount of value in this video is out of proportion 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Wow, i was always wondering why you never mention what happened in 2014! Thanks for bringing that up, being so honest and describing your journey! Extremely inspiring!
What happens in 2014 stays in 2014 😄
Julien. I have watched you progress rapidly over the past year in your ability to teach. Absolutely incredible video here. I cannot believe you are putting this out for free. I'm half way through and this is one of the best self help videos I've ever seen. Incredible work my friend. I hope one day to meet you (even though I feel like I already have) For anyone who needs help watch this and take all of this to heart.
When a person is generous like he is, it’s the Divine working.
Protect this man at all costs, real light worker! ❤️
Thank you for decoding a lot of the language that we hear constantly but whose meaning change or get a bit lost. This really bridges a lot of the gaps.
Brilliant and so well explained, grounded fresh perspective to put into action, thank you
This explanation makes 100% sense.....very well articulated. 👌🏻 🎯
Oh man, everything you say is so on point! I recognized my crazy patterns clearly through your words! Thank you so much for sharing! ❤
This is very precious, Julien. Thank you!
Great video, you hit every single point. So many questions I had were answered and the fact that this information is free and available to anyone. Thank you so much for such a knowledgeable video
Thanks Julien, biggest takeaway, thinking fuels it, feeling heals it! great content
Wow thats a great take
Thank you Julien❤I really appreciate your good intentions. I have no wise words or promises that I am now moving my ass. I hope that I can get back to you one day as a product of your work and help.
Depression is your best friend!....🤔
Depression is banging on your door, throwing rocks threw your windows, cutting off the water and electricity. It gets worse and worse until you fling open the door and screem WHAT!!!!???
Its you. Trying your best to tell you your house is on fire and you have to get out now before its too late. You will be homeless but you have you now. Now its walking down the street, the immediate danger is gone but the world is now open. The house is gone and you still cry because of relief not of grief.
Thanks for this ❤
I was a living zombie because of this invisible prison and I never had any thoughts of my own and no gut feeling. But watching this video on acid and going through it like a meditation it feels like I could heal. Be myself for the very first time. I hate myself because of all those things that were taught to me. How I am not good enough. That I shouldn't think because I get shut down by my parents. That I shouldn't aspire anything or try to do good because it will lead to bad things. So if I can just breathe through it and try to survive those bad feelings and things and just put my mind through it. I won’t need anything to cope.
Thank you so much Julien.
Book recommendations on the mindfulness method:
Emotional Resilience - David Viscott
The Six Pillars of Self Esteem - Nathaniel Branden
Man and His Symbols - Carl Jung
Incredible courage Julien - really the work you’ve done on yourself to turn things around nothing short of incredible! TY again for all your teachings and yes I’ve begun applying all your techniques which for me, have been life changing. At the age of 50 nobody ever told me to question if I might be living a complete lie about myself - really you’ve helped me turn my perspective into a new paradigm… 🎉.
I am so grateful for this content which had been put up here for free. I mean this was such an eye opener u pointed out exactly wht im going thru and the anxiety i get from trying to make life perfect at every step. You're a real one man thank you so much julien . Huge respect❤
excellent and honest advice Julien. i’ve been actively working on myself the past decade +. daily strength/cardio workouts, hydration, clean diet, regular sleep, gratitude, and God. plus, everything you stated re core identity, core beliefs, and past trauma. ❤
Thank you Julien for your content! ❤❤❤
You're a brilliant man Julien. Helped me screw a few relationships up many moons ago, then recently i came across the new you, I didn't have any faith at first just watched out of curiosity but this is the best self help content I've come across and your transformation has gave me refreshed hope for mine.
You might just be the help and guidance I need to recover. Thank you for giving this video for free, I appreciate every second of it.
I'm currently on 35 minutes of the video. I knew the story of the "most hated man" and it felt so wrong. I could imagine this was a terrible misunderstanding and how painful must have been for you. Similar story happened to the great film director Lars von Trier when he said one word too much (being overhonest and sort of innocent person inside, surprisingly) and he got banned from Cannes and simply couldn't understand how he managed to upset people so much. I felt for him and for you too but I must say I admire your teachings twice as much since I heard that. Tony de Mello, zen masters, Tyler Durden (outfits! :) ) somehow mixed in one person - and when I watch yoir videos and try to implement your healing ways to my life I always feel heard and understood and yes, called out but you make a whole process so safe. Marvellous work, keep going, we need you. 🎉 thanks.
Im going thru the hell right now, you who know you know, stay strong💫💪
Hey! Just wanted to say thank you, I feel like this is what I've been searching for my entire life. This is the work that needs to be done.
Julien, thank you❤ words can't describe how you change our lives
This is pure Gold🙏🏻I took some notes to implement this work. Thank you!🙏🏻❤️
Thank you Julien. I cried some and “dared” to meet an old friend and felt a lot more relaxed. Thank you so much for the wonderful work!You look really whole 🎉
After watching this video carefully and studying it, and resolving many of my psychological knots over a few days, I suddenly felt physical exhaustion at the same time I felt an inner liberation. It was a strange feeling, as if I had the flu, and today is my first day.
Also, the tension I used to feel in my head has completely disappeared.
Today is my first day after this. My body is very tired, but I am happy and joyful about life, and there’s nothing internally bothering me."
By watching your videos, I not only learned a lot of things but also by seeing that you have put such a long video with so much important learning of yours for FREE, I learned how much helping people is important, cause I feel that you are helping me, and this makes me want to pay back and help you in the future if we have encountered each other. Thanks for your kindness. I wish you the best.
I feel so called out, haha.. I binge watch all those self-improvement videos and I wondered why.. This video is truly gold
Julian, for all the knowledge, guidance and advice. Although I align with a lot of things you discuss, along with helping others break through their obstacles.
I have achieved great success with health, physique, finance, career and hobbies. Admittedly, as strong as I might appear, there are some deep rooted things of my past that no one else knows of that hinder me from specific things. The use of analogies and thorough discussion toward success is excellent. I still need to work on a lot myself and will continue to help others with such knowledge. Thank you sir!
This whole speech / keynote was incredible. So much valuable information. Amazing!
Thank you Julien. I think this information and content is worth thousands of dollars.
Thank you Julien for this speak ! Your work help me and other people to get over our problems. 😁🤗
You are amazing, Julien. This is the answer I’ve been looking for all of my life. I couldn’t even find this answer in religion to be honest with you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, for simply and courageously being authentically you.
This video is GOLD, thank you Julian!
What free time man…I get what he is saying. Honestly when I watch self help I feel like shit after and try it for a a couple weeks in real life. Honestly, my mental and relationships have improved. Self confidence through the roof thanks to not just Julien but a few individuals on here. The conditioning virus took 6 months to get out and I still do work on others that I have found.
The term "Epiphany High" has given me an epiphany high. I might be able to use that to give someone else an epiphany high, aka Dopamine Rush. But yeah, it's a good one, because i'm often guilty of consuming self improvement content instead of of going to sleep to be the best at work the next day. It's midnight and I'm on vacation in Miami, guess i should go to sleep to have a more pleasant day tomorrow, peace.
I really wish i found tou when i self sabotaged my great relationship, but like my trauma and triggers i need to let go ❤ you are amazing
Hey Julien, this video made me discover something.
So, my goal is to start a business. I've procrastinated for 6 months, and I still do that. Without discipline and motivation, I find it hard to stay on top of my daily tasks. I doubt myself a lot and often find excuses.
Following the trail of "whys," I found this:
For me, success = stress. It involves a lot of responsibility, and I need to put myself out there.
Why is that bad? - Because I feel weak, and I believe that only hardworking people can achieve success.
That's why I don't feel deserving of it.
Now, please tell me, what should I do? Should I accept the fact that I might be weak? What do you recommend?
If you always do what you've always done, then you will surely always get what you have always gotten. Meaning if you don't do anything nothing will change. So just make a change and do it. What is there to lose if you don't?
@@Shamefulroleplay!
Thank you for this video that ties many of your teachings together.
I have been diligently taking notes from each of your videos, and taking consistent action.
This video helped me fill up the gaps in what I didn't understand about letting go and breaking of the invisible prison.
After you discussed 'Files versus Folders', I realised that I wouldn't need to keep letting go of every single fear that triggers me, but instead aim to let go of the underlying fear/s that encompasses other fears beneath it.
Looking forward to more! 🙏God bless.
perfect timing needed this sm , thank you Julien!!
You’re welcome! 🙌
This is fire!!! Been needing something in this perspective!! Just like I liked learning from your videos back in 2016 nice and lengthy
I love Julien's videos usually and even take notes but am I the only one that felt like the beginning is just a therapy session with an audience for Julien? I love you my man. I'm glad you're recovering from the traumatic events in your life just like the rest of us! ❤
Fuck ya...Great stuff. "quality of life has more to do with what you remove from it rather than add" simple brilliance. Damn.
video struck a chord in the first 20minutes and i zoned out and talked some stuff over with myself. Thank you! Imma watch the rest fs
Hopefully I have watched my last Julien video. Much gratitude for your work! Thank you 🙏🏽
I teach others what you do! Love your stuff, has helped me alot.
Thank you Julian for your content. Thank you so much!
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” - Carl Jung
Become a trigger chaser and thank the messengers. Focus on the message. Thinking FUELS the trigger, feeling HEALS the trigger. Action- Trigger- Release- Repeat. Allow yourself to truly feel it. To release it, you have to feel it. Remove the numbness and let it back up. Let it take over and let go. Re-sensitization over De-sensitization.
1. Become aware of what you want to let go of. Become aware of what's out of your awareness.
2. Allow yourself to experience it fully.
3. Let it come up and let it out.
Mindfulness is focusng on all the negative and letting go of it. Realize presence rather than chasing presence. Ego= effort.
You must become aware of what you want to let go of. Sensations (located in body) come before emotion/ labels. Feel = letting go. You're not getting rid of anything. You're letting go of attachment to this version of you and resistance to being what is unacceptable. No attachment, no aversion. Feel. Be. Letting go- stop doing. stop stuffing down. Not analyzing or judging. Being with it. Feeling it. Openness and feeling. Keep bringing it back to the sensations. You are free 🌟
Hey Julien, you are appreciated brother, thank you
This content beats other content I have seen similar to this! This is gold
Love this ! I feel like i am at all the steps
Brace yourself for the rest of the video... It does DEEP!