@@giannamason9848 It's not just the men. Radical feminists do it, too. Look at the Big Mouth, fancy red bra scenes, where Jessie actually gets her mom to buy her the bra... It's so not just the men enjoying being the issue, it's also women making mountains out of mole hills.
@@giannamason9848 What's worse/weirder is they aren't doing it specifically because they're p3dos, they're doing it because they think "0ppression" begins at a young age...
Here's how i've explained it to some teenagers I know: telling young women not to post suggestive content because there are predators isn't blaming them for being attacked in the shark-infested pool, it's warning them that there are sharks before they jump in. We're working on getting rid of the sharks, and they shouldn't have been there in the first place, but they are.
i fully agree with you & this is a amazing / easily understandable analogy ! :) but ... what about this case : a 16 year old is told not to wear a crop top bc there may be creeps. should the same analogy be applied, or is the teen being overly controlled / blamed for what may happen ?
@@shaina8947 There's a huge difference between just wearing a crop top and a crop top paired with a provocative pose and half-lidded eyes staring at the camera, posted to a public instagram. I'm not talking about Just Wearing Clothes, I'm talking about exploring your sexuality in a public, online setting.
I’m 14 and get made fun of because I still collect, play with, accessorize, and dress Monster High and Ever After High dolls, I’m literally in the demographic.
Mamas I’m 26 and I still collect my Bratz, My Scene Dolls, Barbie Dolls and etc. You name it. What you do at home, That’s nobody’s business! DO YOU! 💅🏼
can't believe i'm saying this but i'll be in my 20s starting this year but still cringe with the stuff i did like 1 year ago? and I don't think it'll be ending any soon😭
@@dylankennedy4539 you do realize that has been pre existing with apps like amino, tumblr and more when I was younger online I thought the perfect age for looks and attractiveness was the age 16.
Shows like euphoria encourage this. Specifically speaking of the character kat who is an underaged sex worker. I’ve seen many fan edits praising her for what she does and it’s very concerning that this behavior is being praised. I remember feeling bad about going into high school because I had no sexual experience and I thought I was supposed because of what I seen on tv and how the high school life is represented. It’s gross that I’ve talked to people on the internet who thought this way too.
@@Waituntilyoulikemeagain on euphoria I think the ppl who praise that stuff our too young too watch it and just don't understand bcs the show is tv-ma but like idk they might do something that storyline in S2
I feel that way too. I'm slightly too young for Millenials and too old for Gen Z. I think one key difference is also the AGE at which we were able to bathe in Internet with almost no restriction. If you're around my age, that was already when i began proper adolescence. So i think we did not grow up with the Internet in the same sense Gen Z has.
as a 14-year-old, I feel so immature compared to my classmates. besides Pinterest and youtube, I don't have social media, I spend my weekends with my mum and sometimes pretend to be a mermaid when I go swimming. my SEVEN-year-old brother has TikTok and shames women, mainly my little sister and calls her fat. Whenever I call him out my parents say that he's just a kid and doesn't know what he's saying. makes me so mad.
You're not immature, don't be ashamed to be yourself because of cringe culture & this ideal that you need to be sexually liberated.. im 19 and i still play episode, and binge watch the dolan twins hahah.. you're perfectly fine, don't let the media and these people tell you otherwise!
You need better parents. A 7 year old does not need social media. He should be playing with play dough or something. I’m guessing he adopted his misogyny by watching podcasters or influencers who exploit the naivety of insecurities of young boys and sell misogyny as a solution to this. This will incredibly negatively affect him in the long run.
Can we stop bashing girls under 18 who are still acting their own age. Like I literally got bashed by girls in my grade for re-doing my room to look a Disney bedroom set from the 2000’s. They said I was too childish. Like why are y’all so pressed that my room looks like that. You’re never gonna love in it, let alone see it, so leave me alone. I’m 17 btw.
Don't pay them any attention. I'm sure they're the type that tries to keep up with the latest trend and has no sense of individuality. Adults will decorate their rooms inspired by their favorite sport teams or anime characters so... do you 😂 you'll lose yourself trying to keep up with everyone else (which I'm sure you're not) Teens can be cruel to one another and, adults aren't much better. Best advice I can give is, only befriend those who love you for you and support you..... And fuck the rest 🤣
I'm going be real with you. There alway going be someone criticizing you about your life choices and hobbies. Doesn't matter how young or old you are. People are just like that. You just stop entertaining these people as you grow older. Don't stop loving something because of someone else. Go find a community that focus Disney culture. Hell, you might make a career out something Disney related. Those same people start wishing they were you.
Teens and tweens saying “stop treating me like a kid” but the thing is, we are still kids. We don’t need to sexualise ourselves and grow up so fast. We’re just kids.
I’ll never forget this one comment I had seen of a woman telling the story of when she was wearing club clothes for her 30th birthday and somebody telling her she’s too old for a halter top and a mini skirt. She talked about how it was such a weird thing to hear because why is it more appropriate for a teenager to wear what she was wearing as a grown woman? The standard of beauty for women being youth is astoundingly disgusting
Hardcore I'm 26 and when I wanted a new pair of shorts, like a cute short pair that makes my butt look good... I went to the teens section of the store because the women's section didn't have anything like that! If you want short shorts you've gotta be a teen?? It really weirded me out that all the sexy and revealing/tight clothing isnt in the women's section it's in the teens
They don’t mean children should wear revealing clothes they mean like late teens/early 20s is when you should be wearing shit like that, after a certain age if you wear that type of stuff it just looks like you’re tryna be young.
@@iiii12345 “it just looks like you’re tryna be young” I think you proved the issue with the whole thing by that sentence alone. Did you ever think about why people say revealing clothing is for the youth, and get weirded out by “older people” wearing the same thing? It’s because youth is sexualized, especially for women, and anyone above the ages of 25-28 is seen as decrepit waste already. The beauty standards - for women especially- is pedophilic, which should never be seen as sexy. A mature body wearing revealing clothing should be considered the norm for being sexy far more than minors wearing the same thing. And you may read this reply and think I’m trying to police younger women, I’m not. The issue is a societal problem, in which “beauty” should not automatically mean “youth”. Policing ANYONE’S body won’t solve that problem the way society thinks it would. This will be a difficult issue to tackle, but not one that should be ignored.
@@marzybarx I'm not on any other social media either cuz I'm trying to avoid that kind of toxicity so I'm probably not the best judge here 😂 I feel like if I was born a few years later I would definitely be on the train of Tiktok and such
I feel like I’m too old for TikTok (I’m 32 and it’s targeted for teens) but I feel that in my 30’s I’m at my most attractive and I feel more alive and younger now than I did in my teens.
People don’t let kids be kids anymore. When I was ten I acted my age and got made fun of for being ‘baby-ish, then got more ‘mature’ interests and got called a pick me girl. There’s no way to win and i know I wasn’t the only one :/
Dude one of my friends always got picked on for having immature intreset and not knowing what certain innaporiate things meant its ridiculous because we were only in middle school.
when i was 10 i got deadass bullied by kids my age at the time for...simply acting my age. then by middle school my mindset completely changed and my personality CHANGED due to all the tourment i been through at 5th grade. update: by the time i got to middle school, i didn't had any REAL friends which caused me to be left out especially when the class is playing sports. the "friends" i had also think i was old to play roblox in 7th grade but many teenagers play it i- wtf- (i still play it at 16 and don't talk to users there anyways) after middle school i never really like talking to people anymore and became asocial :/ but however i'm glad i have friends that like the same things that i like at my new school that i've been for about 3 years update: im 17 and me and my friends still play it
My nephew wanted a spacejam back pack for school, but he was worried he'd get made fun of for it being a kids backpack. He's 9. What the fuck is happening to these kids?
As a child of 13 myself I get frowned upon for still playing with toys and stuffed animals. This shouldn't be happening. Tell your nephew to not even care
i hope u buy him a space jam back pack fuck those trendy shit having a childhood is better than none but make sure to watch guidance over him tho if he get fun at
I'm 13 and I just realized how fast my friends are growing. One of them just turned 10 and wears crop tops, does makeup, and is all in Tiktok. Another one is 13 and is practically an adult now. Someone told me I'm 13 and I act like a 10 year old. I guess having fun and being happy is too childish now.
Yes… im witnessing my 13 yo cousins already posting about their bf like they are married already and she brags about her body (having a big chest, small waist etc.) im not close to them but it is not okay to post that, i feel like they just want to fit in with the social media community. FYI, never follow or trust the internet
Girl no, they're not adults at all. Ask every grown man and woman who interacts with these girls. Just because they look older doesn't mean they have a brain well developed enough to be considered mature. My sister who's a young teen looks 22 but she behaves like she's 14 and you can TELL because no grown adult behaves in such a childish way. And there is nothing wrong with it, take ur time to enjoy youth
@@sin3358 nah there are adults who act like that. I work for one. She talks to the customers about whether or not they all think I'm pregnant or on drugs when I'm not around. I don't even work with her more than twice a month either. There are absolutely adults who never left highschool and they especially shouldn't be trusted around children.
People always hate on Jojo siwa but in my opinion she was the only influencer who encouraged kids to stay kids (edit) ITS NOW 2024 AND THIS COMMENT AGED AWFULLY feel free to hate on jojo guys 😭😭
The double sexual standard between boy and girls & men and women should be lifted, not how much we should sexualize women vs girls. And I’m not even talking about sexualizing like in clothes and makeup I’m talking about posting exclusively sexual things
They think itll lead to confidence because adult women who are sexually liberated seem confident. I wish there was more media representation of non-sexual confidence (or just confidence not based around how you look or dress).
yeah…i’m 14 and I was on the bus one day and these kids were arguing about sum stupid, then all of a sudden I heard this girl say, “You think I don’t get guys? I’m out here pulling 18 and 20 year old guys!” and in my head i’m just like…girl, that’s not a flex, YOU’RE A VICTIM-
Oh god I feel bad for her. That's so terrifying. I remember when I was in middle school and a girl bragged about her 18 year old bf and how they had sex or something. She's known to lie a lot for attention, so I hope she's lying about it, but it's still scary that she thinks that's something to brag about.
YEEESSSSS even though I’m 17 lmao my friend brags that this guy in the military he is messaging is 23 im like Gross. Even though we are an older age group from you guys it’s still not okay Lmaoo
I'm 23 and when I was 16-17 I wanted so bad to date an older guy (because my family didn't had any money so I wanted someone to buy me things) and no one of my friends told me that my mindset was wrong. I never did but I always said that I Wanted. To me, is extremely important that teenage girls start to acknowledge how bad these type of situations are and not support their friends on this mindset or want it for themselves
Young girls think this is a flex because they think it shows maturity and being a better pick, theyre made to think their “maturity” and “mature looks” are what attracts older and more “quality men” From young ages we are quietly taught having an older mans attention means you are more worthy. Ever heard “girls mature faster than boys” and “an age gap is normal bc boys mature slower” Theyre just planting these ideas within us young.
a sickening trend on tiktok was the question, "what's the oldest you've pulled?" and all these minors were saying they'd romantically engaged with 20-somethings. even more horrifying is the fact that some girls had even mentioned 30, 40 and even 50 year olds.
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
@@Zoe-sn9tb I'd argue that legality DOES equal morality as laws reflect the morals of the time and specific societies. So as per your example while today owning slaves is both illegal and mortally wrong, at that time the majority of people (slave owners and the like) saw nothing wrong with it and so the laws reflected it.
People rob, steal, murder and so much more but that's illegal too..people will do whatever they want but to stop that people need to be educated or find ways of fixng this issue, so in conclusion yes it is illegal but it still happens and it needs to stop
Labor laws probably. But still, teens do not look like that. Shows like these would be fine and nice if they were set in college, but no, it had to be a teen show.
as an 18 year old, it sucks seeing girls as young as 12, 13 years old rush their childhood. the more you reach adult age, the more you realize just how much you want to be 13 all over again.
as a 14 year old (turning 15 in january) i definitely don’t want to be 13 again lol but now i am getting older and seeing how much i changed as a person it broke my heart how much my 11 year old self tried so hard to be “less innocent” and a “hot baddie”, because that made me almost completely lose myself. this is very true. i’m still young but i sometimes imagine me saying to my 9 year old self “i’m sorry”
though at the same time i do understand why i did what i did. along with me wanting to fit in, i’m not the most hopeful when it comes to the future (i’m still not) and i was scared of adulthood so i just wanted to do everything as soon as possible
I am like that age range right now and people look at me weird for talking and laughing a lot at school. They all expect me to wear crop tops and be silent the whole class, but none of them act their age they all try to be like 16 but were not. If i laugh too hard people will stare at me weird even though im just having fun. And they call me weird for just talking but again i feel it would be so boring to just not talk at all or laugh at school.
@@marriqx I could just be speaking from experience in my own environment but it’s not uncommon to see young girls being tormented or bullied for doing things like wearing bows, dressing young, liking a specific style etc.
I’m not a girl, but yeah, I get really embarrassed when I share my drawings with people my age because it’s a character from an anime 😐 just let people like what they like
I think casting 30 year olds as teenagers has ruined people's perception of aging. I have people tell me "you're 20? But you look so young!!!!!" Uh, yeah... 20 *IS* young.
@NitroFairyWing When they say it to me, it's usually in an insulting way, such as "You look like a child, and any man's who's attracted to you must be a creep." Doesn't help that I don't wear makeup.
@@alexiscormier4059 Despite having a natural petite hourglass shape, I also get "you're shaped like a little boy/you're skin and bones" because I don't have the Instagram standard for a 'curvy' body. Even if I WAS rectangular, that's just an incredibly rude way to say it.
me at 26, having people think i'm a minor on a regular basis. My friends and I who don't wear as much makeup or wear more colorful clothing get this on a regular basis. Which is NOT me shitting on people who do the opposite and wear more fashionable clothing or a lot of makeup, but more of a sad realization that teens and even tweens are pushed so so much into looking 'older' :( and i def think you're right about it being like, adults being cast as minors. I remember shows like icarly, degrassi, zoey 101, what not. They always looked like the ages i expected them to or like my sister's and her friends ages (who are 4 years older than me). And even MY perception of what tweens and teens should look like has changed a lot because of casting adults as highschoolers
Old fart here, at over 40, and I despise the way that "living her best life" is used to describe sexy or materialistic pictures. The best life in my opinion is being truly happy no matter the goods or likes you have.
I like using it sarcastically. If someone asks how im doing on a rough day, its an exasperated, "Oh you know, livin my best life." Honestly, we all each have only one life so everyone's life is their best life
My little sister is 12, and she gets picked on by her peers for having unicorn merch and wearing frilly dresses. I recently discovered that the girls who bully her all look and dress like they are 10 years older. It's honestly terrifying to see little children have their childhoods stripped away from them. I'm 18 myself and I remember witnessing this "revolution" with my own peers. My "friends" would try to pressure me to wear crop tops and over-the-top makeup all the way back in 6th grade. Teen influencers on social media are a big factor that are responsible for this. Girls like Piper Rockelle, Elliana Walmsley, Danielle Cohn, and a few others have been influencing young girls to act much older.
Piper rockelle doesn't act older than she is, oh is it because she wears belly tops and low rise jeans? I'm pretty sure 14-15 is a normal age to be wearing that stuff. Unlike other channels alot of the time these days she doesn't say inappropriate stuff in her videos and she may be a bad person but I don't think her videos influence anyone because she's losing all her fans because of her actions. Plus, the only people who went to her concert are children and they all dressed fine..
@@maplemaple626but at the same time, yall see a 7yo wearing a crop top on social media, its the ppl who think its wrong for a 7yo to wear a crop top that r the p3do’s. 13 is a perfect time to start wearing crop tops (that dont show a lot ofc) this is exactly what she was talking abt in the video. Girls clothing is beyond s3xualized these bc of ppl like yall that criticize us. There r crop tops for younger teens not the gross shi ur thinking of
and THIS is why I HATED the fact that Jojo Siwa was bashed for acting the way she does. She was an actual good role model for kids, but everybody made fun of her. I swear, it’s like nobody even remembers when everyone bullied her constantly. When she came out, everyone started praising her name and the bullying never came back up. We want kids to be more like Jojo Siwa, but cringe culture completely butchered any innocence these kids have, and to be quite honest, we’re to blame for it. 2023 update: erm what the scallop apparently she’s defending colleen who is a groomer wow!! 😁👍 anywhizzle stop bullying kids for being kids but dont support and defend groomers!!
literally! it's always easy to jump on the hate train due to mob mentality. it just really sucks because i'm pretty young and i feel like i've grown up too fast - but i'm glad i'm educatated? but it's people who dislike kids for being kids that make us grow up so fast, or at least try to. edit: would like to add since someone replied that i wouldn't jump on the hate train unless i had similarities w/ ppl on the train? conformity is very much a thing :'))
I actually still don't like jojo for her action, being lound more than style choices. But i think bhad barbie and others from this are worst role models for kids.
Second: you can't have a sexual revolution if you not old enough to vote. And if there is someone there waiting for you to become legal, you better run sis/bro/nb dude
It's simple, if you're "too old" to be generally considered sexy, then the choice to act overtly sexual is a radical one. Aka 30 lmfao. If you are young it is not radical because being sexualized is already happening w/o your consent. I definitely had this idea wrong when I was younger wish I had it figured out then :/ just wanted approval tho.
Also that! We were talking about gender roles in class, and how women are seen as objects in especially german rap music, a guy was basically agreeing with the texts. When asked about what he thinks about that, he just said "Women can't rap", he didn't even seem to have a problem with what was being said about women. He's 14.
And then the boys get shamed as if they are completely at fault. The “men are trash” saying is so harmful to young boys. You cannot pin every sin on one gender, men and women alike need to take responsibility for their learned behaviors and actions.
@@christabellaangel8671 Who’s benefiting from sexism? It sure isn’t women. Men started it, men perpetuate it, and men teach it to boys and other men. It’s benefiting all of them. We don’t need to “take accountability” for something we did not do and that we have no part in. If “men are trash” is the worst gender-based thing you’ve seen, just wait until you see what men say about us lol.
@@haroldharold9042 yeah and any guy who sees themselves as removed from or opposed to that condescendingly sexist view of women is quick to get pegged as a simp or "white knight" by their peers, especially in toxic online movements such as mgtow
@@christabellaangel8671 This is the definition of victim blaming. If men are hurt by they patriarchy, that sucks, but ultimately it is a tool used by men to oppress women. The patriarchy isn’t some cloud of negativity that affects us for no reason, it’s for men, by men, against women. If men want it to be better they have to work on that amongst themselves, god knows they don’t listen to women’s thoughts on it. Why should women take responsibility for this? If men feel bad about mean words being said, maybe they should encourage each other to stop violently oppressing women.
bruh I just realized why as a 23 year old, I still relate to a lot of the teen fashion, trends, culture etc...IT'S BECAUSE TEENS ARE ACTING LIKE ADULTS THAT'S WHY. I thought I was just childish, but really it's the shift everything.
My sister does this at 15 once she hit 13 she stopped acting like a child. She began wearing revealing clothing you’d see a 20 year old women wear; started speaking differently. It was like a switch went off and she changed her personality. She started getting attention from older guys I’ve had to step in because she didn’t tell them her age. It’s sad to see young teens trying to act like adults when they should be enjoying it.
In the medieval era, if you lived through childhood you were ahead of the curve and were likely to live into your 50s or longer. Offa of Mercia (what we now call England) lived in the late 700s and was believed to have lived into his 60s. His wife lived even longer.
Society acts like women expire with their biological clock and its sad. No wonder younger and younger girls are starting to TRY and unfortunately succeed in attracting grown ass men.
“The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” 2 Peter 3:9 NIV ROMANS 10:9-11 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame” “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28 “For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.”” Luke 19:10 God wants us to believe in His One and Only Son, Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, who died for our sins :D When we truly believe in our hearts that Jesus is the Son of God, who died for our sins so we could have eternal life with God, we are saved from the eternal fire and have eternal life in Christ Jesus!! 💖 May God bless y’all!!!
@@pidgedidge People did not live longer in Medieval times, at least not Medieval Europe. Illiteracy was at like 80% for the adult population and they hadn't even figured out hand washing. There's no way lol
My issue is that this "liberation" always seems be exactly what the male fantasy wants, so at the end of the day the patriarchy often still finds a way to win 😞
Yes! This reminds me of something a french comedian said, it went along the lines of: "At some point men started to go: -Yeah #metoo, feminism is good, you do you, you're equal etc. -Oh okay, so we stop shaving, stop wearing make up, stop wearing high heels? -No no no. You keep doing that. Except now you're doing it *for yourself* " People are all for women's rights as long as women still do what's expected of them lmao. If you actually do what you want and it doesn't fit the range of what's "acceptable" then you're a crazy ugly ultra feminist bitch. I get called an extremist by my not even conservative parents because I don't wear bras and don't shave my body hair. *How extreeeeeeeeme*
Same. When I thought about what actually made me comfortable things like wearing bras, tight clothes (like jeans), high heels, makeup, even extensive skincare was stuff I did for other people. I’d only do hair removal in the summer to be more comfortable. But I still feel ostracised by today’s ‘beauty cultre’ and feel like the ugly/dirty feminist stereotype...even though I feel so much more comfortable with my body and best my self esteem has been since puberty
my mother always used to tell me “enjoy your youth because you have your whole life to be grown up” and shes honestly right, these young tweens/teens don’t understand that you have your whole life to be an adult, but not your whole life to be young as you are now
yeah we should be encouraged to embrace our childhood bc childhood innocence is something that you can NEVER get back. it is something that so many people miss when they lose their innocence
“if youre over 8 you shouldnt be watching bluey” always rubs me the wrong way. god forbid an 11 year old enjoy a kids show! god forbid a 14 year old enjoy kids media!!! the bluey plushies no!!!
Like it’s crazy. Until you’re 18, you’re basically a kid and even in 20s your a young young adult. I think it’s crazy that now kids can’t enjoy kid stuff. Every time I see the other middle schooler wearing those fake lashes and crop tops I feel weird because they dress like they’re finishing college. Like were all still kids
im an American and what i know of bluey is that its for adults as well as children. like the producers actually aimed for all ages. ppl just say shit dont they LOL
I will say as a guy who’s 23 I am getting a little bit eye roll-y and sick to the stomach at the bluey obsession I’m seeing coming from 20 somethings and 30 somethings. Like I just know y’all are covered in a layer of crusty dried food like a man baby huh.
@@mmeggnnit’s not. Producers for small children’s shows will ALWAYS say their show is for “all ages” because they want to harbor a place of childlike wonder and absolute acceptance that can be opened up and enjoyed occasionally in a moment of nostalgia sometimes as an adult, and to make older children less ashamed of enjoying it. Like Mr. Rogers. He would tell you his show was for all ages because Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood was a show that wanted to create a safe space and it would be kind of mean for a character like Mr Rogers to suddenly turn around and exclude adults. But we all know Mr. Rogers Neighborhood was produced for children. But more specifically in the case of Bluey they’re talking about the fact that Bluey was also made for parents to watch with their kids so they can learn together how to problem solve as a family. The demographic of the show is for preschoolers. That’s a fact. But it’s not bad if you watch it. Just don’t. Idk don’t get weird about it.
And this is why JoJo Siwa (annoying as she is) is a GREAT influence. She's what? 18? And she's a tween icon. She spreads the message of just being yourself and not caring - being silly and colourful - standing out for your energy and personality - NOT your looks.
I get that it’s your opinion, but don’t you think that calling her “annoying” feeds into the idea that acting your age is cringy? Therefore reinforcing cringe culture and how it’s affecting teen girls… I’m not mad or judging, just genuinely asking. I understand that you may not like her content, but the word annoying itself is what many of us girls heard whilst growing up and being kids. Again, I really am not mad and do want to understand where you come from. Perhaps you’re just an adult but yeah, just wanted to know…
The truth is that she's loud, hyperactive, and colourful. Children love that stuff, that's why kids toys are like that. As an adult do I find overstimulation annoying, yes. But it's not meant for me.
@@oro-oluwatoromo-thewordoft7339 no she doesn’t. She’s hyperactive and colorful, cheerful and positive, why do you think those are childish traits? And here we go again with that “she doesn’t act her age” bullshit. Grow up. There isn’t a mold for people to fit into that brands how people should act after a certain age. Especially not when that mold is designed to stop individuality in humans. Some people her age smoke and part, others read and stay inside, some do both, some don’t so none of those. Some people are into the dark academia aesthetic, others are into cottage core. Some people, believe it or not, are just joyful, energetic, and love colours. You’re brainwashed by the media into thinking that certain ages should act a certain way, so I suggest you stop thinking that everybody has to act like a character from euphoria to be a proper teenager. People like you are the reason why people feel ashamed of what they like, because you can’t be bothered to try and fix your shitty life so you go and rain on everyone else. Take that energy and work on yourself mate, and stop saying that people have to act a certain way to fit into their age group.
it's weird how when a 30-40 year old dies, people be like 'oh no, they were so young' but when they are alive and breathing they are considered old wtf T-T
I spend time with my mom I’m 14 and I feel pressured to act and look older I genuinely notice I’m treated differently and laughed at by other girls who are more older mature looking with there clothes and makeup and grown “look” im not immature looking but I definitely don’t go out of my way to cake myself up to look like an “insta baddie” I’m jus normal
I just turned 26 ('old') and the weird thing is, I am now sometimes saying 'no i can't wear such a short dress/skirt/insert whatever because i am too old for that; it is just not appropiate'. I noticed this happening with more of my friends my age. Which is fucked up. How do we think such short clothes ARE appropiate for teens but not for grown ups? I think this shows both the hypersexualised norm for teenagers and also how we get punished for ACTUAL maturity in women. Like, i am NOT old hahaha. We just can't win man...
Damn, do any of y'all got advice for a little flower bud like me, from one flower sibling to another? I could use some life advice because I'm fifteen turning sixteen and I still want to enjoy my childhood to the fullest.
@@shonaphakee776 Oooo I’ve always wanted a little sister this is my time to shine! Acne sucks but just bare with it your hormones will stabilize in three years, play a sport, pick up an instrument , do things that make you happy, work out and develop healthy eating habits now, make friends and cut off those who hurt you/make you feel bad, leave those boys alone, no you’re not “mature for your age” he’s just a creep, don’t rush sex-whenever you feel ready and it’s going to suck anyway, embrace the different phases you’re going through- whenever I feel low I look back to my kpop/mermaid era and I can’t help but laugh at how wholesome/cringe it was, and most importantly live in the moment and don’t try grow up to fast-adulthood is great but I’m always tired and I have fiiftyleven bills to pay.
@@edn2674 i agree, but i do think that it is mainly a (social) media thing though. I only recently started working a fulltime aftercollege job and there people definitely view me as very young, almost annoyingly so. So i am in this weird place where i feel as if i am not young, beautiful or 'hip' enough by society's standard anymore yet too young and unexperienced to be taken seriously professionally. I wonder how the male experience is in this sense?
My brain gets so fried trying to understand what in the scorching hell is so attractive about minor people?! Like the fact that there's people waiting for children to turn 18 is so gross. Please it makes no sense to me!
This has been a thing for a long time sadly and isn't new at all. I saw this happen back when I was a teen with men waiting just until someone turned 18 to jump on them. Almost literally. I'm glad I was in a relationship with a guy my age back then or rathe the is 6 months younger than me and we are still together at me now being almost 29 and celebrating our 12tg anniversary this December. People who prey on teenagers like that are disgusting.
It's literally that the girls have somewhat adult bodies, but are definitely more easily influenced and easily impressed. Effectively 'easy pickings'.😳🥺
No because can we really just talk about how sexualized teens movies /TVs and teen media in general is like most of us aren’t as hyper sexual as we are portrayed
exactly we have homework, chores and some of have strict parents idk who these people and why they created this stereotype of teenagers for normal teenagers who feel like they are missing out
yeah LOL i wasn't attractive enough to be that sexually active wtf. i somewhat related to when characters would like long for the nooki or act out in a sexual way, but dood when i say this is a symptom of sexual abuse i-... like none of my friends relate but everytime i hear someone relating they're like "yeah but that one time this really weird thing happened [*describes SA*]" like... oh shit using hypersexuality to cope really do be hittin' different.... craving value and attention from people who hold authority over me go burr-
I started developing way earlier than my classmates (for context, I got my first bra in THIRD GRADE), and the amount of comments I got of “You’re finally becoming a woman!” was staggering. Like…I was 8. I still couldn’t use the microwave without help. But because I started having breasts, people decided I wasn’t a kid any more and should be treated like a young adult. I even had a neighbor say I shouldn’t be obsessed with The Little Mermaid anymore because I needed to “grow up”.
Omg I’m so sorry- that is disgusting and you deserved better. Being an actively closeted transgirl for most my life I was never entirely immune to the effects of the male gaze, but since coming out I’m just consumed by it. I truly can’t imagine the psychological horror of having to navigate this as an 8 year old
If you can't say something nice without simultaneously bashing someone else, don't say the nice thing either tbh. Danielle would need some really strong support to get outside of this groomed mindset and yes, we should criticize her for actively being a part of the problem but also... How can you blame a victim of grooming for her choices? She has her whole formative years to deprogramm from. All I'm trying to say is pls don't bash a young girl for being preyed upon and giving in
@@kam-lw4ez i got confused and thought you were talking about Danielle Cohn for a moment, but then realized they got the same names Antway you're right
i feel for danielle tho bc her childhood must have been fucked up beyond belief, what w her own mother broadcasting her trauma on dr phil, having the entire internet mock her, all the abuse at turnabout... i wouldn't be surprised if she was pressured to grow up really quickly.
@@bora3859 I think it was mentioned that she was hanging out with older guys when she was still a young teenager. Thats a really messed up situation. Her parents definitely failed her.
Yeah. It's never the child's fault for being curious; it's the influence, bad examples, & sometimes predatory behavior of the people who came before them. As someone in an older generation (millennial), I'm trying to figure out how we can stop this?? Pushing for more social media regulations/education? Be a better irl example for kids? Cuss out old creeps online? Not sure, but I don't like the way things are developing and I don't want even MORE kids to lose their childhoods 😕 Social media fks with your head from a very young age
I'm 10 and I act how I like to. I still play with bubbles and play dough. It just makes me happy. I get called immature just fir doing this. I don't know Gertrude, don't you think it's pretty immature to start pouting if I don't do you homework? Oh dear, I never relised I can't play with anything at all bc it's "immature". My dearest apologies I'll allow to bring the guillotine if this happens ever again
@@solar_SG I’m 16 and thats exactly how I acted when I was 10 and everyone else my age. But now I see my 11 year old sister trying to do stupid RUclips workouts to be “thicc” like Meg thee Stallion. I never thought about that when I was 11. Yet again I started using social media at the age of 13 and she started at 9
What I’ve found many kids and teens really mean when they say “Don’t treat me like a kid” is “Please treat me with respect, like a person, and don’t demean me for acting my age”. Kids aren’t often treated like actual human beings who possess thoughts and feelings. Any thought a child expresses is dismissed and not taken seriously, and this leads to them wanting to be “treated like an adult”. Of course, this is not the only reason/problem, just something I’ve noticed.
when my 7 year old sister did the "model face" while taking a selfie, i FREAKED out on the inside, i explained to her calmly to take selfies in a "normal" fun way instead of a weird way. *without knowing she's taking pictures in a sexual appeal way, and that looked like grooming somehow* i hope children enjoy their childhood
When I was 7, I had no idea what a "selfie" was. I would just stand in random poses while someone else would take photos of me. The world really has changed a lot in the span of only 10 years, and that's pretty terrifying.
Oh the hypocrisy. This comes in hand with the poor sex education. Kids understand, understanding is not doing. But I guess society thinks it’s better for them to dress like grown ups and act like grown ups without knowing to what they are headed 🤷🏻♀️
Land of the free sure, right up until the horizontal tango enters the equation then its "everyone should wait until marriage and never speak about it casually"
@@estefyhengja "Without know where they are headed"... This hit me harder that it should. I don't like diving into things headlessly, yet that's what I exactly do most of the time without realizing. The realization of the lack of direction and thinking hit me for a while. I'm thankful for deciding to watch this video. Diving into the unknown is one thing sure, but diving into the unknown knowing there are possibility bombs in the sea is another. (No one need to read this, but if anyone does, the rest of this will be a rant and the thought process of someone that felt like they need to mature quickly and therefore will be an absolute contradiction that may or may not make any sense whatsoever. I'd like to see someone decode my thoughts for me as I'm not the best at it or maybe any tips cause I need them if I'm honest.) Just doing without understanding really makes me feel uncomfortable. I'd rather live knowing that I'm doing something stupid rather than feel like I'm smart enough to know fully about something but in reality I don't. As a minor reading this I feel like I shouldn't be here especially after watching the video. Maybe I'm just tired of people overly shielding me from these types of topics just because "oh you're too young"? I understand that they want to protect me from the harsh reality, but it feels like it would be more dangerous to just go straight into a field without knowing the existence of mines on them the moment I've "grown up". It would protect me more if I had gained at least some proper insight of these things. I've been the type to ask "why?" to people on why certain things are like that and they just avoid the question. I just don't like the feeling of being brainwashed due to my lack of knowledge and understanding about something and me just... Obeying the thought process. What if something's wrong and I'm just the next person repeating it? If there's no concrete reason other than "just because", why should I fully trust to do what someone else does? I need guidance and maybe a bit of knowledge to at least protect myself, not some just because. Alright, I get I'm too young to know this, why am I too young to know this then? Should I avoid it? Is it mostly good or bad? There's probably a fine line that I can't see right? At least a proper introduction would be nice instead of you just throwing it out there and leave me hanging on why it's like that. Even just telling me that there is a reason, but you can't say the reasoning due to this or that is good enough. At least I'm aware of the topic and when the time comes I can know more about it. I think this explains some of the thoughts that go around my head. Because I feel clueless and curious about what someone has mentioned, I want to know more about that thing. The only way to know about that thing is to be older, and so I'm excited for when you gain the right to know this or that. Because I know something, I feel like I'll know everything because that's all you know that exists, when there's something more. Getting older involves maturity a lot of times so I'll try and get mature quickly. I'll act because you feel like you need to do so because of what I know. That's probably just part of the truth though, I know there's probably a lot more behind that. This is rant is ironic though if I'm honest. The video talks about people acting like grown-ups and that they should slow down and stay like a child if they still can, yet here I am... A minor trying to know more about these types of things and feeling like they've matured even if I have a long way to go and I'm not really mature whatsoever. I need to slow down, heh. I'm not even sure if this is either a responsibility to know more about it, a necessity or whatever. I don't think it is any of those though. Maybe I'm just a knowledge-starved person after discovering these types of things exist. Maybe I'm just brainwashed by the constant push of modern society moving forward these days. I know it's not my job to know about these things after all. I'm thinking I'm just feel unsafe with everything at this rate so that's why I feel the need to mature quicker. "You're unsafe when you don't know anything" is probably one of the things I need to work on along with "I need to know everything" as the possible roots. Not a 100% sure, but it's worth a shot to see how it goes. Guess I'm a walking contradiction. I don't know any better than what I understand and that's fine. I can't just correct any of these things to a healthy extent overnight anyways especially when they've become a habit/mentality. I can't undo any of this work I've done to try and mature either, even then I'm thankful for it happening. Just glad I grew up a somewhat decent person. I'm just rambling at this point so I'll leave it here. If anyone reads it thanks it means a lot to me. I'll just sort myself out for a moment... Take care...!
Tbh I don't see the USA as a beacon of sexual liberation lol ... USA culture is really sex negative and taboo ish in comparison to my country and many neighbouring countries (in europe)
Bruh no because I’ve literally had 15 year old coworkers(the youngest you can be to work where I live) tell me about their 10+ “body count” as if it’s going to impress me or make me think of them as my age. It doesn’t do either of those, it just makes me concerned about them and worry for their safety, mental health development, and for the rest of people their age.
It’s depressing knowing that they won’t ever experience the real club penguin. There has been online re-runs but those have mainly been taken down due to the -cough cough- abundance of child predators on that…
The one good thing about musically was that being a tween was THE aesthetic. With all the unicorn, rainbows, moustache aesthetics and kid friendly musers were popular 😕
Coming from someone who had unrestricted access to the internet at a young age, and is a teenager, I can see both sides. However, I really wish my parents didn’t give me access to it as young as I was. It’s not a safe place for children or even teenagers in some cases. :/
I had unrestricted access to it as well and I was groomed multiple times by adults from ages 11-16 because I grew up in an abusive household and craved male attention. Never give children unrestricted access to the internet, NEVER. End of discussion.
@@lo4568 I had the same situation. It’s crazy how many of us experienced the same thing:( I’m 17 now and I look back on wild shit I did that was completely not okay
i’m 14, and it’s not safe for anyone under 16 imo. tiktok and snapchat should have a better ID system for where you can’t lie about ur age bc it is harmful and dangerous.
i’m 15 and the “tween” demographic is definitely dying. it was really confusing for me when i was younger because it was like a switch flipped among my friends where suddenly everything i liked was too “childish” or “cringe”. not to sound like an old person but young girls really are seeing too much too soon sometimes.
Turned 15 this month, and you put this SO eloquently and with poise!! Even over the last couple of years, the natural abstractness/gaps in development of maturity and interests through the "tween" and teen years have been obliterated by conflicting societal pressures and physical/emotional standards skyrocketing upwards. The actual stage that our minds are in often no longer matches the maze of expectations in our culture, and the various ways in which one our age can be "intelligent," "confident," or "creative" have been reduced, diminished, and matured beyond our scope. I have been told that i'm immature compared to my brother, only because I trust the passage of time and don't want to throw away my interests immediately. My apologies for the lengthy comment!!!!
Yeah people don’t even want to play roblox with me anymore they tell me it’s too childish and my brother makes fun of me for liking stuffed animals and other childish things
im 21. it happened to me too. i got bullied so bad after elementary i started self harming because i really didnt fit in with anyone. i was kinda a girly girly in kid sense when I was 10, but that changed kind of quickly ...
Yeah and we do have the right to not be sexual, nobody is forcing anybody to post 'sexual' photos of themselves on social it's a completely personal choice
I’m 15, and I find myself being judged so much when I simply just be a kid. I love fashion dolls and every time someone sees I own them I get called childish when I’m literally a child.
I hate seeing “stop treating us like children”, said by 11-14 year olds. Edit: yes I do understand the struggles of being underestimated, I’m going on 16 damn near a young adult already. But stop trying to rush it by doing alcohol or drugs, you have plenty of time to wait for that anyway. Be young, enjoy being a kid while you can, whether you’re mentally or physically mature already.
I also hate how zoomers always act like whatever their parents do or say is wrong. Emotional and physical abuse are a thing. Your mum getting mad at you because you didn’t do the chores she kindly asked you to do is another. Then they’re like “Omg my mum abuses me I cant do this shes such a terrible mum” and TELL HER THAT SHES A TERRIBLE PERSON ignoring how that can very much hurt people. They’re making everything pass off as emotional abuse because they’re too lazy to do anything and will find themselves living alone not knowing how to turn the lights on 💀 REAL emotional abuse should be talked about more
@@ccharmolypi as someone who is and knows many other teens my age who are in verbally/physically ab*sive households, as much as I don't want to gatekeep what tr*uma feels like, it gives such a bad name to actual tr*uma survivors, literally spreading misinformation about what ab*se is, using medical/psychology terms incorrectly, and makes people who actually go through these things look like they're doing it for "attention" and it sucks. It's like tumblr all over again
@@worstusernameintheworld9871 exactly. 100% agree!! U guys r so strong but get lost under the stupid fucking tiktoks about hating your mum because she got mad at you after you didnt clean your room when she kindly asked you to and was hoping for it. Like ofc parents should control themselves but they’re human too. Getting mad =/= being abusive. For example “You should’ve cleaned your room!! This is so disappointing!!” Is portrayed as the same as “I hate you so much, I wish you were never born! You’re disgusting and I couldnt be more disappointed in you!!” 😐
this ^^ i’m “mature” for my age, but it’s only because i have to be. maturity is supposed to be gained through experiences _all_ throughout your life, not desperately grabbed out of necessity in less than 14 years :/
i had a bad childhood and people around me believe im mentally 2 or 3 years ahead. yet i never post selfies, talk about my age online, etc. Maturity comes with realising whens the time for the correct things, whether your mentally older or not
This is why I appreciate movies like Turning Red, where the protagonists are just middle school girls figuring out life and trying to have fun rather than the now seemingly immediate transition from child to ‘adult’. Yeah, the were cringe, yeah, the fashion sucked, but that’s how it should be for girls that age, even if this was a movie set in 2002 rather than now. I just recently turned 17 and while I didn’t participate in a lot of stereotypical things growing up, it’s still so weird to see girls thinking they’re so mature at the age of 14. The cringey preteen phase is almost necessary imo, bc it teaches you character growth rather than this immediate jump into a more free adulthood culture without understanding why adults can have that freedom.
People shouldn’t mix actual maturity and ‘faux’ maturity (basically what the whole video was talking about) and i feel like that’s the problem with todays teens/tweens
It was so refreshing to see turning red because the kids were actually like kids, and not the 30 year old cast for a high school role doing extremely adult things in so many other shows/movies
I'm 13 right now, but when I was 10 I was desperate to grow up and look older. I hated my eyebrows because my mom never let me make them, and I was crying myself to sleep because my mother wouldn't let me buy certain clothes or do certain things. I've slightly matured now (I'm aware I'm still a kid), and thankful my mom didn't let me grow up too fast. I guess I'm still jealous of the kids who got to do the things I never could, but I know I have plenty of time. I'd rather enjoy my childhood now.
I grew up in a slightly different time, but I had a similar experience to you. Now as a young adult, I don't feel like I missed out on any important experiences & I'm glad I was able to make those choices when I was more mature & had a better sense of style anyway! I hope you'll feel the same💜
Yes definitely do not grow up too fast. Youth is a blessing and innocence is a beautiful thing! When I was a teen I learned quickly that dressing fashionably and wearing makeup did not make my peers notice me or treat me better. It is all about your confidence and self love.
As a young person, it’s so hard to wear anything without being sexualised. When i wear something that shows more skin I’m told that it’s inappropriate. For example, my school was having a no uniform day and i wanted to wear a dress that shows my shoulders (this was partially because my friend had been made to wear her jacket all day the previous day because her shoulders were showing despite it being like 25 degrees c) and when i tell my mum she tells me i can’t because it would be too ‘sexy’. But then when i try wearing baggier clothes in a period of time where i had been VERY insecure about my body, i was told that i was a ‘prude’ or a ‘Billie Eilish wannabe’ by my friends and family. Honestly i don’t understand society’s stupid ideals anymore
it’s like no matter what we do or wear, somebody’s going to criticise it! it’s so infuriating - I had a similar situation recently as well, a teacher said girls shouldn’t show their shoulders because it’s not acceptable in a ‘workplace environment’ (I’m still in school) and I asked what if a guy showed his shoulders and the teacher gave me no reply.
Yes!! My (19) 13 year old cousin wears full face of make up and mini dresses and it just boggles my mind how she wears stuff like that at such a young age but when I was 13 I was wearing my little pony shirts
@@veronicasecret1251 There is nothing wrong with make-up and experimenting and being creative. It's the fact that she looks completely different and way older than her actual age. There is nothing wrong with a little eye shadow and mascara, its the fact that she looks way different with it on. As for the mini dresses, a 13 year old (imo) shouldn't be wearing reveling clothes. It ties in this the make up as well and the whole idea of trying to appear older than you actually are. You can wear dresses and look cute but not to look older or pretend to be mature.
@@living_free_and_in_the_wild I feel like I really can’t understand what you’re trying to say. Any sort of makeup is going to alter how you look, it’s made and used to enhance features. I think opinions vary when talking about “revealing” clothes because it all depends on what different people consider “revealing” so I can’t disagree with you there although I will say, the way you see someone doesn’t mean that’s what they are it’s a p.o.v. I really want to address the last thing you said only having to wear dresses to look “cute”, why must a tween appear cute to you to be able to wear a dress? From the mini dresses i’ve seen they seem age appropriate with maybe shorts or something underneath. Dresses have always been a little kid/early tween oriented anyway.
all these children agreeing with you in the comments breaks my heart and has actually made me get teary eyed. enjoy your youth babes I’m turning 20 soon and i already miss being 15-17. It’s very important to detox often from social media and instead indulge in external interests like crafts, reading, meditation, spending time with friends and family etc. you’re all beautiful and perfect just the way you are try your very best to reject peer pressure into being someone you aren’t. you are kids, embrace it.
Yeah I agree and I'm 16. I actually got so overwhelmed by social media that I ended up deleting all of it from my phone. I only use my phone to text people or play games nowadays. My mental health has improved since then. It's so important to remember to touch grass outside often.
For everyone who needs to hear this: YOU DON'T NEED TO STARVE, NOR BE SEXUAL AT A YOUNG AGE TO GAIN VALIDATION. YOU CAN FIND HAPPINESS AND LIBERATION IN OTHER WAYS. DON'T CHANGE WHO YOU ARE BECAUSE EVERYONE JUDGES YOU, BECAUSE THEY'RE JUST AS INSECURE AS YOU! *Yells it louder for the people in the back*
The over sexualization of teens is one of the biggest reasons girls have depression and anxiety at such young ages. There is nothing liberating about it. I blame Hollywood and the music industry for putting this kind of crap into peoples minds.
Also I blame tiktok... it has gotten worse in the past couple of years. So many girls on tiktok doing "sexy" dances bc they want to fit in and predators preying upon these girls.also I agree with you 100%
it legit gives me mental breakdowns sometimes. I used to cut myself bc I hated existing as a teen girl. I was so sick and tired of creepy men online that it made me suicidal. wish I was joking.
@@juliwitham7343 yes! tiktok is so harmful to the youth, regardless of how 'entertaining' the trope of it might seem. It made me & so much of my friends become toxic people even though we are only in our early teens.
I'm 14 and my chest has been developing more recently. My mother REFUSES to stop taking about it, how I'm lucky and that she's jealous. I have told her it's weird and even other people in my family have because she'll talk about in front of anyone in family. :(
Thats not good, you need to have a serious conversation with your mother. Sometimes parents aren’t mature either and they will argue/talk about stupid things. It is okay to call them out whenever this happens
Please sit her down and explain that it makes you uncomfortable and it’s inappropriate for her to comment on your body. Regardless of if she’s your mother or not, she does not get to sexualise your body regardless of how jealous she is.
I understand you. One time in my life, I wanted to get a Binder. However, because I'm a minor and I can only get in on online shops, I decided against it. My mother kept talking about how "my chest is big" which made me very, very uncomfortable to the point when I genuinely started crying (though, in her eyes, I was acting like a weirdo) I absolutely hate how my body looks like and I wish my gender would be just nothing. I only wear hoodies because I know my mom will be talking about my body
@@KouiuoI feel ya, kiddo. I was there too. It does get better, and if you can buy KT tape ( type of fitness tape ) there are ways to /safely/ bind with that. hope you’re okay.
There is a family I know and their 12 Y/O son walks around with a Lego sword and has imaginary sword fights and their 11y/o daughter is confident and happy and loves to dress up however she wants their 9y/o son still flosses and sings old songs and has a fortnite backpack. I love seeing these kids happy and living their best lives untainted/unbothered by social media and how people think they should act/dress. They're not worried about being cool or trendy their just happy kids who still look and act like kids. Seeing them really gives me hope and inspiration
@Hania Nayla bro WHAT. that is how kids get kidnapped. Where are you from where you’re encouraging people not only to leave their kids outside but also to actively ignore them
@Hania Nayla I don't even want my little sister going outside in our yard by herself. If you look at your local sex offender registry you'll be shocked and horrified
@@ZenitsuKunn that’s true. I didn’t use much social media and stopped playing with barbies and toys in general at 13 but that’s apparently weird now for that age. 17 and still don’t social media much I thought ppl were over exaggerating that kids are acting grown now until I went to my brothers middle school.
I feel like the hardest thing for teens isn’t comparing themselves to adults they see on Instagram, but it’s comparing themselves to other teens that have more ideal features/figures. Seeing someone on TikTok that is close to, if not the same age as you getting praised for there looks is hard to watch. Most tweens/teens in modern day have TikTok and the app follows a pretty strict beauty algorithm that is hard to escape. 13 year olds feeling the need to sexually liberate themselves are mostly the outcome of seeing these people being praised and having the urge for that validation
Just don't use tik tok haha, I think they'll get more valuable time if they use that time to improve themselves with skills instead of "racing" with other people for something really useless.
I didn’t actively use Instagram until I was 16 (because I got my first smartphone then) hahahaha. Didn’t save me from a lot of weird stuff on the internet but I can only imagine how it would have impacted me if I started earlier
I'm 19 at the moment a 03' baby and even at this age I still feel like a child sometimes, I'm so concerned about this topic. My 13 year old cousin looks my age, tbh I'm a bit worried about her as social media standards have a big impact on teenage girls. When I was her age, I kept watching Disney Channel and reading fantasy books, unlike her, who is only on tiktok and instagram 24/7, its so sad because social media don't allow them to be kids anymore and live their stages correctly. The new generations are doomed, more depressed and anxious because of the trends.
She sounds like a lot of girls at my school. I'm 13 entering 8th grade and so many girls are on tiktok and Instagram usually sexualizing themselves and I see older boys and some men comment on their posts 🤢 I worry for these girls. Im more like how you were at 13 and I'm good with that
@@Iamthelizardqueenddaddy I’m also 13 in 8th grade already. Yesterday I literally heard two girls telling two other boys that VAPING is actually not THAT bad. They don’t do it, but that’s what they think of it i guess. I mean what the hell? No idea what made them think that but alright. Also, some of them are dating (or have dated) already. Some girl in my class asked me how it’s going with the boys last time😐😐 I don’t care about boys or anything like that. I’m 13. I want to talk about stuff I actually enjoy. They would just make fun of me for it tho. I don’t really have any friends either and I feel like they don’t care about me at all even if they’re kind to me lol. I can just tell by the way the look at me or the way the talk to me😕
a lot of people seem to have a wrong view of what teenagers actually like. most teenagers look up to what they see on tiktok or pinterest, instagram influencers aren’t really popular with us nor do we look up to them as much. a lot of the reason why teenagers dress so “suggestively” is because of the association with having a childhood and being “cringe”. many kids are shamed for playing with “pop its” or other childish things which is why they feel the need to act older.
Yeah when I was in middle school, many popular girls were those who look older and act older while me and my friends were despised for acting like how middle schoolers do
Same with TV shows. I get that having adult actors makes filming easier and it's less costly, but not the best for representation. Entertaining, sure, but def not accurate
God that comment about how if you’re not being sexualised it can feel like you’re not pretty enough for it... ouch Like when the 97% stat came out, I can’t even begin to explain how awful I felt, and then guilt compounded it because 97% of women have been sexually harassed, why am I upset that I *haven’t* been? I think it’s also complicated because I’m autistic and don’t necessarily follow trends or social expectations, and then feel bad about that cos I’m not performing femininity right, plus I’m asexual so I really don’t ever want to have sex or anything even close... but why aren’t men sexualising me, I must be ugly. Not to mention they stereotype/assumption that ppl are asexual cos no one would have them. There’s so many compounding factors but it all adds up to me feeling ugly and inadequate and it sucks
Agreed. There is sadly a correlation between not feeling pretty and not being harassed. If you haven’t been harassed then you’re not pretty. Ugh. But this point is so spot on. I wish there was a way to teach young girls about untangling this ideal.
Ohhhh this comment hits so hard for me. I'd like to say I've mostly gotten over this but... okay I got catcalled for the first time ever literally hours ago and it felt horrible but now I also feel like I'm part of this special shared experience? I hate these thoughts. Anyway, thanks for your comment
@@PxssumPrxnce THIS! Honestly, I never cared to be pretty. I always aimed to not call the attention of anyone. If you're too pretty you get catcalled and harassed. If you're deemed unattractive, you still get attention. It's not to say that women of all looks don't get unwanted attention. I just aimed at never getting any. Fortunately, I don't feel like I missed out on "femininity" or enjoying my life because of it. I occasionally dress up maybe 3-4 times a year for events or a warm summer day, but I'm hyper aware of looks I get and how I'm perceived. I just dislike the attention. I've also never felt unattractive because of my lack of harassment due to my more "masculine" dress. If anything, I've felt very lucky.
i'm 22. i didn't start getting male attention until i transferred to my current university. i cannot IMAGINE getting the attention i now get on dating apps and in general as a CHILD. i am so glad i got to really be a kid.
@@tigrispanthera5496that’s how I used to talk man. Ur not ugly I promise. Don’t focus on stuff like that. Growing into a good person is more important
I am 14, almost 15, and I feel so immature compared to classmates. I still like cartoons, play with toys, and go to places with my parents. It’s upsetting not being able to express my likes and interests with other teens my age because of the media sexualizing us so much. I don’t want to watch shows of kids my age doing drugs, or being a part of a gang. I want to be able to hang out with classmates and friends and have the same likes without it having to be so adult-like.
@Hania Nayla I meant like lots of shows now show children having sex, doing drugs, or talking about topics like that. I am aware of some children do do stuff like that.
im 19 and can relate. at the end of highschool I started feeling left out because all everyone my age wanted to do was smoke and drink instead of bonding over actual interests. i have recently deleted tiktok and hardly use social media and indulge in the things I enjoy like reading and playing the sims it just sucks that I no one to talk about it with. i recently got made fun of because some kids from my college found my old youtube channel where I made doll videos.
I'm 23 and i still love cartoons. I don't wanna watch shows about sex and drugs. They're just boring and shallow. Do what you like. You need not comform to whatever they say is trending. And if they don't like you because of this. TRUST ME they are not worth it. But btw. Once you stop feeling ashamed of this and you're comfortable and comfident, people around you will like you for it It's hard at first but please don't give in
@@draculaissus6120 Same, I feel you!! I also recently deleted almost all of my social media and changed to a flip phone for some time. I hated how big of an impact it had for me and I’m 21 - I can’t imagine how 12/13 year old feel like and they probably don’t know a way out of it cause they are literally captured in this online world. What I realized is, while being 21 and afraid of growing up I’m going back to my younger years and relive all the things I didn’t do cause I was chained to my phone or other peers thought it was uncool - I also played with dolls with friends when I was ‘still’ 12 (which is a fairly normal age to still play with dolls). I started rollerskating again or playing card games with my parents or started collecting Monster High dolls. Don’t let anybody tell you how to live your life. I feel like we’re missing out so much on how to actual live our life with social media always in front of us and judging everything we do. We don’t need to know what’s going on with everybody anytime. If we want to meet up with someone we can call or give a quick text but I hate the way social media dictated our every move. Sorry for the rant, but I just felt seen! :)
im literally about to turn 19 in 3 days and i still watch mlp, i still have everything pink, i still draw cute animals and still occasionally pretend to be a mermaid when i swim. being a kid is awesome, being an adult sucks
My younger cousin (14) told me she lost her virginity at 13 and didn't stop sleeping around with a kid from her school for several months. She said she "was having a self confidence issue/personality crisis" and had sex because she "thought it would fix" her. She says she'll stop sexualizing herself, but wears the tightest clothes and shortest skirts because she feels like she needs to in order to feel pretty. We need to have more media encouraging kids to BE kids. It's disgusting children her age and younger need to do these kinds of things. Adding on, we need to stop calling girls my age (16) women. It feels like I'm being aged up too quickly. I had a 42 year old man start flirting with me and told my mom (who was right next to me) that she needed to "watch out" and "protect me from all those guys" who want to have me. I wasn't wearing anything revealing, either. It was a long sleeved white sweater and jeans. I still had braces at the time. I hate everything about today's society.
@@puppydogs68 She said it was at school behind a classroom. She told her parents not that long ago, are still doing a really shitty parenting job (both sets of parents, bio parents got divorced and remarried. How can double the amount of parents raise a kid and still fail?). Literally a few weeks ago I had to convince my cousin to break it off with a boy who lived down the street from her
i was at target with my boyfriend the other day, im 24 and i was looking at the swimsuits. Some younger girls came by looking at the same swimsuit and one of them kept going “omg i want to go to miami so bad id love to be flown out” and i was blown. the other girl looked at her and said “yeah miami is cool but you’re literally 14” I knew a girl who became a dancer at 18 then flew to miami with a 50+ year old man because she thought she was getting “flown out” and she literally thought he wouldnt do anything. When they got to the hotel he pretended that he accidentally only booked one room, when she flipped out he left, leaving her alone. She barely had money, a nice uber driver set her up with a different hotel and helped her set up a flight home and get in contact with her parents. It couldve turned out so wrong. It scares me that minors are thinking this is okay, because theyre looking up to influencers who are putting up a front and hiding the reality of their situation. you only see the glitz and glamour bits
I wish posts made by influencers came with more warnings and messages like how they are obliged by Instagram's terms and conditions to mention whether their post is sponsored. So many people want to be influencers and live their lives without realizing that most of what they post is fake and most of the products, clothes, bags, shoes, etc. they have are just sponsored, gifted or even rented. Not to mention normalizing the "sugar baby" lifestyle. I don't mean that there is anything abnormal with people who choose (or are forced due to circumstances) to get into sex work, I will never judge someone who is honest about what they do and do what they can to stay afloat and/or to provide to their families. The problem is that I've seen so many sugar babies go on talk shows and social media platforms promoting what they do as just a "simple, easy" way to make money. They leave out the fact that sexual favors are done in exchange for their money and lifestyle and so young girls will grow up looking up to them and thinking that they could do the same thing because all those "sugar daddies" want is just good companionship when, in fact, it's darker than that.
@@floraflowers Also another problem i notice is that “influencers” gets to go to different places most of them drop out of hs/college. Young ppl do not know that trips are expensive… You can’t earn a lot of money at a young age unless your parents are wealthy or you have a social media account with 1M subscribers etc. They really don’t look deeper to the subject and some often think doing trips must be easy or fun
There really needs to be a push towards educating younger people about the reality of human trafficking. People seem to want to ignore it because its ugly but social media has completely changed the human trafficking landscape so its much more likely that anyone can get caught up
there’s literally a whole ‘nsfw’ side of twitter for minors like why is that so normalised?? people are posting posts of themselves or engaging sexually online but i dont think they realise how vulnerable they’re actually making themselves
Instagram Twitter and tiktok are all cesspits on 90% of their platforms and it's horribly monitored and the algorithm they made that is supposed to "solve" issues doesn't work for shit.
I get teased by my friends for being flat-chested and 5’1”. I’m 12. It’s more of a puberty thing rather than a sexual thing. But the real question is, why am I being picked on for not looking like Kim K as a tween?
Im 11 but I look like im 13 but it makes sense i am tall and dress nicely but my dressing style is like this because yes , i eat heathly etc . And my first period happend when im just 10. ye bye oh I forgot that im born in 2011
hey girly, its may be because since older girls on social media are the sort of girls your friends may want to look like and idolise. so they probably think thats what they should look like. since you probably aren’t influenced by these girls, which you shouldn’t be considering how much older they are and spending your younger years how you should be, they probably think that you’re not as “cool” or whatever. but in reality you are perfectly normal. but this could not be the reason. either way, if your friends pick on you for your looks they probably are not very good friends and you should consider surrounding yourself with kinder people. i hope this helped :)
I'm almost fifteen and ever since I started being aware of boys when I was like 8, I started thinking boys and MEN were thinking a specific way about me. Which is not only disgusting, but it's left me with a really big fear of the way males perceive me and a constant awareness of who could be attracted to me at any moment. Not only has this worsened my already bad social anxiety, but it's created a hatred of myself that sometimes feels insurmountable. I adore all the videos you mentioned that also talked about this subject, and I really feel this as a younger-teen
I suggested watching videos or reading about the male gaze if you haven’t already. Learning about the patriarchy and how it effects young women/girls has empowered me so much when I was a teen❤️
As someone who was pursued by a "friend" that was twice my age, since I was 13, I know exactly what you're talking about... The fear of men is understandable in this kind of situation, and I promise there's nothing wrong with you. The fear of men usually gets better, the more you learn about the male gaze, and meet other people in life. I really reccomend talking to an adult you trust about this (I had no one like that, but there are many other ways to get help, like in my case crisis hot lines for minors), it helps a bunch, and helps to recover from the trauma🧡 important thing to realize is that as fu*ked up as our world is sometimes, there are good people too, and I promise you it will get better. You're a cool cookie, I believe in you! (sorry for my english, it's not my first language😅)
I remember in middle school many years ago. Boys bashing all the things young girls liked back then that were trending (Justin Bieber, One Direction, Twilight Saga etc..) and now being and adult I see that many girls do in fact skip that tween phase. I think a bit of that bashing of girls innocence has affected how many girls have grown up. Girls now seem to go straight to wanting to please men and/or look and feel sexual. The way women are portrayed in modern media and movies have definitely not helped.
lol the making fun of those girls was just fun 😭 dont take it so deep. I'm a girl and I was also making fun of those girls and they just ignored the haters
@@sol7476 it may have been fun to you but extremely damaging to others. You can't invalidate someone's feelings by saying "don't take it so deep." People who pick on others always have this mindset that it was just jokes but if roles were reversed it'd be a different story. it ain't no fun when the rabbit got the gun
as an aroace teenager, I tend to stay away from social media because if I don't, society would rub it in my face that the only way to be pretty is to be "sexy" or "hot". I don't want to be sexualised but I still want to look beautiful, and, according to social media, it's impossible.
You do very well and remember, when you grow up, you can become as much sexy or mature as you want for the rest of your life. Enjoy your childhood now and don't get affected from the pressure.
Same here (I'm an aro/ace teen too)! We just want to dress in our favourite styles but get judged by others because of how social media has presented being 'beautiful/handsome' if you don't fit into the neat boxes they've drawn for you to be seen as pretty you'll be labelled as 'unfashionable' or 'ugly'. I only have social media for following friends, finding funny videos and trying on filters. I hate how wanting to look pretty is also seen as wanting to be sexual by mostly older people but also other teenagers.
Aroace adult who didn't use social media in high school. I promise you and your mental health will be better without it. I had to watch as different apps wrecked my classmates and little sister's mental health.
As a 14 year old with friends on both sides of the scale (t-shirts with mermaids vs. ones that say “fuck you”) I think it’s really interesting when I see pictures from the early 2000’s of kids my age. I completely agree with everything you said, and I also think things like makeup tutorials are involved, they might not be directly targeted at us, but we’re watching them and all of a sudden things like black eyeliner which would earlier seem foreign are accessible. I personally, have gotten into cottage core/vintage style. I feel like I’ve managed to dress in a stylish but age-appropriate way that makes me feel confident, and it’s clothes that were really made for my age group, because they were made before social media. I just wanted to add my two cents as an actual 14 year old. I loved the video
The ONLY thing that prevented me from sexualizing myself too early was having an incredibly loving and supportive family at home. I knew my worth as I was loved at home, aka by the people that mattered most, and my mother and sister were role models who also would prevent me from growing up too quickly while my father was loving and providing. I know this isn’t everyone’s case but I think this factor is just ONE of the millions of reasons that a healthy home environment is so necessary for a child to become a healthy adult. It makes me realize how incredibly grateful I should be & am and how incredibly lucky I am.
Yup! Now, I ended up sheltering myself a little too much affecting my social life and didn’t start dating into my 20s. But I remember the few parties I went to in high school and just watching everyone whining and grinding on each other, and feeling like “how are they so comfortable with doing this?” lol, even i front of adults sometimes. My peers treated me like a baby but I never succumbed to peer pressure.
yes, i totally agree! even family income plays a role, i’ve noticed. girls with lower economic resources are more likely to be preyed upon as they’re more vulnerable, and thus more likely to become sexual early on
@@marif2993 100% and adding to that, a two parent household is almost always better off financially than a single parent household, which further emphasizes the need for stable family environment for any child
@@marif2993 Good point. They don't usually have the opportunity enough to have as much guidance let alone education from parents who are not as available. I grew up in a single household basically step dad was always at work and my mother was forced to grow up early so couldn't provide us porper guidance in our pre teens. As a result we thought it was normal to sexualize ourselves outside of the household at such a young age. Its something we had to relearn on our own. It made me realize I put myself in really uncomfortable situations when I was younger.
The word "cringy" wasn't used when I was a tween in 2010, but all the sudden my "friends" tried to sneak teen magazines into camp and talk about "Jonas Brothers" and "Dr. Who" being SO HOT, and everyone around me was wearing eyeliner and pushing me out of rooms and their little circles for "still being a kid" because I didn't want to wear makeup and swoon over Dr. Who (who cares?), I just wanted to play pretend outside They would make fun of me in a passive aggressively "nice" way for not having facebook or watching their TV shows
@@iiii12345 I was about 11... the funny thing is that almost everyone involved was wearing silly bands but wishing they had the means to either dress full emo, or dress like a female celebrity These girls many google image searches for outfits that definitely wouldn't suit an 11 year old, but were like "I wish I had an outfit like Selena Gomez has in this picture..." I didn't know much about pop culture, I just played Minecraft Alpha and then went outside dug up worms in the back yard and made mud bricks on the patio. I didn't watch TV, so I was always out of the loop and confused
It’s heartbreaking seeing girls sexualized to a point they ended up at 12-17 years old looking and acting sexual to be mature. Such a shame they won’t let these girls be kids again. It’s already messed up that some of those minors want to date adults without realizing the horrible truth. Cherish your childhood, don’t toss it away to be more mature it will destroy your mindset.
There is a problem with girls sexualizing themselves falling for older predators, but not boys with older women😂. It's funny because for boys and men they can be tricked by older women and consent with them...
"cherish your childhood" how am I supposed to cherish it? I can't think of anything to possibly do while I'm still a kid, but my childhood ends in 3 months so there's not enough time anyway
@@iiCounted-op5jx get offline for a while, pick up things you can enjoy in person like drawing or writing, id say my "childhood" ended at about 14, and before even then i thought it was over. it isn't, trust me. just treasure moments and don't try to change yourself for anyone
This helped me realize something huge for myself. I'm 25 now, but I wanted to be an adult since I was 8 years old. Why? Because I wanted to be respected and have autonomy over myself. Wow.
Same I couldn’t wait to have my own place and be able to maintain myself . Also I wanted money so I could buy what I wanted because as as child I couldn’t really get certain toys or stuff because we were low on money 😅
right? I think most of the kids don't like being called kids and stuff like that not bc they necessarily want to grow up, but bc when you're a kid you're can be treated really bad by adults, like I lost count of how many time I heard "you're a kid, you can't want anything, you just do what people tell you" whenever I said I didn't want to do something, so I unconsciously started to associate being respected, heard and not looked down on to being and adult and I think a lot of kids feel like that too (I'm 16 btw)
I was about to say that. I felt a lot less when I was a kid and felt like I needed to grow up to be respected. People need to learn that kids should still be respected. How the hell will they know how to act around others if they're not?
I admire Jojo for really sticking to her style and being a positive role model for children. I have a niece heading toward her tween years and I’m so happy she has someone like Jojo to look up to!! I wish she had more appropriate people to watch!
Why does the choice of cloth someone decides to put on their body make them a positive or a negative role model? And why do you think it's any of your business what other people do with their own bodies?
@@Zoe-sn9tb it’s not so much the clothes for me cause I’m all for wearing whatever you want. I’m more focused on the persons actions.. I wouldn’t want my nieces to see someone like Bhad Bhabie with her “dgaf I do what I want” attitude when she was a child, and who also normalized doing adult things as a minor. I mostly just want kids to be kids. The pressure of having to grow up as quickly as possible is toooo real for younger generations growing up now.
@@Zoe-sn9tb Jojo was a child acting like a child. Not growing up too fast and embracing her style despite people telling her to ‘grow up’ - telling a child to ‘grow up’. It’s funny bc if she did act ‘grown’ she’d be criticized for that and told to ‘act her age’.
I turned 18 like two weeks ago and just knowing that there's entire platforms dedicated to "barely legal teen" sexual content sends a shiver up my spine at random moments
Peer pressure is also a thing. I'm 14 and my friends are all super mature and look older than they are. I feel like a 10 year old playing with my dolls and plushies ://
DUDE I CAN RELATE SO MUCHHH I’m currently 13 but I see so many of my peers and even their younger siblings telling me “wow ur so innocent it’s adorable” like ummm
I always got told this. The last time I got told this was 9th grade. Now that you mentioned it I’m like yeah I should’ve been the way I am bc I was super young 😐
@@omelettexmoa2995 some kids in my class would make fun of me for liking mlp and monster high in 2nd grade, like what the hell else was i supposed to be watching/playing with?!
Tiktok makes me feel like a boomer at 17, i don’t understand anything that happens there. Its controversial to say “middle schoolers shouldnt be wearing corsets and pleaser heels and garters”
19, and there are times I almost forget that I myself am a part of Gen Z because of how disconnected I feel from others in my generation, it makes a little sad actually...
@@pisstakecentral It's a fandom thing. Referencing a game character. Please refrain from commenting on things you don't actually know about, thank you, Mister Piss.
@@uax4567 I think they're both, as if it's better to look 18 and older at 13 like what... Just be a kid, pretty much anyone now is younger than me (I'm 17 now) and I'd tell them to not give into the pressure and go follow their passions because being a child doesn't last forever. These past few years haven't been the best for me and now I'm literally a year away from being an adult and I'm not ready for that responsibility.
@@uax4567 no lol they’re being pressured to sexualize themselves by society. A child cannot make the conscious choice to sexualize themselves and understand the consequences that come with that (people harassing them) because if they could they wouldn’t do it.
I’m 11 about to be 12 in November and I still play with dolls… I’m a loser bro 😭 I still watch Monster High and some girl tried to make me feel bad about it- WHAT ABOUT IT?!
Honey you are not a loser, you are a CHILD. I'm pushing 30 and one of the things I like most in the world are toys! I love looking through toy websites or listings on eBay and seeing how they are designed. I find them so cute and fun to look at, touch and play with. You should never, ever be shamed for doing what you love, especially "child" things when you are a child; putting age restrictions on things (except ofc adult matters that are not safe for kids, like sexualization) is a cruel social invention. I know it's rough out there, the world is full of bullies and the internet amplifies it. But never give up on your freedom, your childhood and the joy of doing what you love. It is your life!
I literally still own the dolls after 6 years. The hell you saying your too old for it and a Loser come on! That's like a flex saying I still own Monster High dolls.
What are you talking about your not a loser your so cool for that ! I love those same things too it’s amazing just keep doing what you love I don’t have a problem.
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You need to try tamales dulces though, they will change your world.
Maybe we're all just hungry and need some tamales
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Kids can’t be sexually liberated because they aren’t sexually oppressed but media makes kids feel as if they are and it’s gross
Well, the media does have predators in it and predators like jeffrey Epstein are trying to normalize it
This is an amazing quote
@@giannamason9848 It's not just the men. Radical feminists do it, too. Look at the Big Mouth, fancy red bra scenes, where Jessie actually gets her mom to buy her the bra... It's so not just the men enjoying being the issue, it's also women making mountains out of mole hills.
@@antithoughtpolice7497 yes, exactly there’s women predators
@@giannamason9848 What's worse/weirder is they aren't doing it specifically because they're p3dos, they're doing it because they think "0ppression" begins at a young age...
Here's how i've explained it to some teenagers I know: telling young women not to post suggestive content because there are predators isn't blaming them for being attacked in the shark-infested pool, it's warning them that there are sharks before they jump in. We're working on getting rid of the sharks, and they shouldn't have been there in the first place, but they are.
that's a great way of putting it
@@SpidermanUndercover don't tell your sister not to wear certain clothes, warn her that people will be shitty to her if she does
@@snem9381 well yea that’s what I meant. Worded it wrong I guess.
i fully agree with you & this is a amazing / easily understandable analogy ! :)
but ... what about this case : a 16 year old is told not to wear a crop top bc there may be creeps.
should the same analogy be applied, or is the teen being overly controlled / blamed for what may happen ?
@@shaina8947 There's a huge difference between just wearing a crop top and a crop top paired with a provocative pose and half-lidded eyes staring at the camera, posted to a public instagram. I'm not talking about Just Wearing Clothes, I'm talking about exploring your sexuality in a public, online setting.
I’m 14 and get made fun of because I still collect, play with, accessorize, and dress Monster High and Ever After High dolls, I’m literally in the demographic.
Girl it’s okayyyy . The rest of them are miserable and unhappy . do you babes
I love monster high and ever after high dolls. I was forced to store some away to make room :( and I'm sad they canceled eah
@@Iamthelizardqueenddaddy Girl I still play with them and I’m about to turn 17 😂. I treasure the little parts about my childhood .
Mamas I’m 26 and I still collect my Bratz, My Scene Dolls, Barbie Dolls and etc. You name it. What you do at home, That’s nobody’s business! DO YOU! 💅🏼
Y’all I’m doing great I literally have doll account on TikTok with almost 5k followers, I’m living the dream
Glad that I had a 'cringe phase' in my life like a normal child.
I’m still going through the cringe phase💪
can't believe i'm saying this but i'll be in my 20s starting this year but still cringe with the stuff i did like 1 year ago? and I don't think it'll be ending any soon😭
@@benmemon same
Yesss!!! Everyone one is cringe at 12-17. If you don't, there is something wrong with you. Lmao
In the normal way
So glad that i was cringe and wwird in a good/better way
Society makes it seem like that 12-17 is the peak age of attractiveness and that 20/30 is already old LIKE WTF- 😭
No society doesnt think that, nobody thinks that outside of TikTok.
Like you get the age of majority, the majority of people, are above the age of 21 right?
@@dylankennedy4539 you do realize that has been pre existing with apps like amino, tumblr and more when I was younger online I thought the perfect age for looks and attractiveness was the age 16.
@@dylankennedy4539 thats not what the age of majority means but yes
@@dylankennedy4539 exactly
someone PLS tell young girls that being confident and breaking down societal expectations =/= being sexual at a young age
The media has to stop pushing that lie in TV shows, movies and music I feel that is where most of it comes from.
Shows like euphoria encourage this. Specifically speaking of the character kat who is an underaged sex worker. I’ve seen many fan edits praising her for what she does and it’s very concerning that this behavior is being praised. I remember feeling bad about going into high school because I had no sexual experience and I thought I was supposed because of what I seen on tv and how the high school life is represented. It’s gross that I’ve talked to people on the internet who thought this way too.
@@Waituntilyoulikemeagain i completely agree with you, im actually planning on making a whole video talking about it
Wish someone had told me this when I was a teenager :/
@@Waituntilyoulikemeagain on euphoria I think the ppl who praise that stuff our too young too watch it and just don't understand bcs the show is tv-ma but like idk they might do something that storyline in S2
the split between early gen z and late gen z is so significant that they're both like their own generations imo.
Hell yeah
Im glad its not just me
I feel that way too. I'm slightly too young for Millenials and too old for Gen Z. I think one key difference is also the AGE at which we were able to bathe in Internet with almost no restriction. If you're around my age, that was already when i began proper adolescence. So i think we did not grow up with the Internet in the same sense Gen Z has.
100% late gen z are extremely different
Exactly, I feel so separated from the teens of today.
as a 14-year-old, I feel so immature compared to my classmates. besides Pinterest and youtube, I don't have social media, I spend my weekends with my mum and sometimes pretend to be a mermaid when I go swimming. my SEVEN-year-old brother has TikTok and shames women, mainly my little sister and calls her fat. Whenever I call him out my parents say that he's just a kid and doesn't know what he's saying. makes me so mad.
a SEVEN YEAR OLD shaming women??? omg what is happening to this generation :(
You're not immature, don't be ashamed to be yourself because of cringe culture & this ideal that you need to be sexually liberated.. im 19 and i still play episode, and binge watch the dolan twins hahah.. you're perfectly fine, don't let the media and these people tell you otherwise!
you are not immature, you are normal for your age. Its your classmates who are abnormal
@@oncewithtwice lmfao and parents dont do.. anything?? X_X
You need better parents. A 7 year old does not need social media. He should be playing with play dough or something. I’m guessing he adopted his misogyny by watching podcasters or influencers who exploit the naivety of insecurities of young boys and sell misogyny as a solution to this. This will incredibly negatively affect him in the long run.
Can we stop bashing girls under 18 who are still acting their own age. Like I literally got bashed by girls in my grade for re-doing my room to look a Disney bedroom set from the 2000’s. They said I was too childish. Like why are y’all so pressed that my room looks like that. You’re never gonna love in it, let alone see it, so leave me alone. I’m 17 btw.
Don't pay them any attention. I'm sure they're the type that tries to keep up with the latest trend and has no sense of individuality. Adults will decorate their rooms inspired by their favorite sport teams or anime characters so... do you 😂 you'll lose yourself trying to keep up with everyone else (which I'm sure you're not) Teens can be cruel to one another and, adults aren't much better. Best advice I can give is, only befriend those who love you for you and support you..... And fuck the rest 🤣
Wait that’s so cute tho… the Disney room
I'm going be real with you. There alway going be someone criticizing you about your life choices and hobbies. Doesn't matter how young or old you are. People are just like that. You just stop entertaining these people as you grow older. Don't stop loving something because of someone else. Go find a community that focus Disney culture. Hell, you might make a career out something Disney related. Those same people start wishing they were you.
YES!! Jojo siwa is a very good example of this.
Same like i’m 13 and kids my grade tell me to “grow up” because i still like to play with toys and watch childish cartoons . like we are still kids 😐
Teens and tweens saying “stop treating me like a kid” but the thing is, we are still kids. We don’t need to sexualise ourselves and grow up so fast. We’re just kids.
but then the getting treated like child is sexualised by others, then not is also sexualised, it’s like we can never win.
Exactly, they shouldn't be treated as babies or adults. They should be treated as their actual age, which is the age of a kid.
Excpecally tweens, they're extremely immature and lack understanding.
Ikr we have so much to learn were still dumb
I agree in this aspect. I would say that it's right to say 'stop treating me like a kid' when you're being babied or demeaned by an ageist person.
“I’m just sexually liberated” no baby you’re being taken advantage of…
😵😵😵
Speak on it
You need a microphone because people can't hear you.
Yep, very much so
THIS
I’ll never forget this one comment I had seen of a woman telling the story of when she was wearing club clothes for her 30th birthday and somebody telling her she’s too old for a halter top and a mini skirt. She talked about how it was such a weird thing to hear because why is it more appropriate for a teenager to wear what she was wearing as a grown woman? The standard of beauty for women being youth is astoundingly disgusting
SUCH A GOOD POINT!
We should talk more about this.
It makes more sense to showcase your body as a mature woman
Hardcore I'm 26 and when I wanted a new pair of shorts, like a cute short pair that makes my butt look good... I went to the teens section of the store because the women's section didn't have anything like that! If you want short shorts you've gotta be a teen?? It really weirded me out that all the sexy and revealing/tight clothing isnt in the women's section it's in the teens
They don’t mean children should wear revealing clothes they mean like late teens/early 20s is when you should be wearing shit like that, after a certain age if you wear that type of stuff it just looks like you’re tryna be young.
@@iiii12345 “it just looks like you’re tryna be young”
I think you proved the issue with the whole thing by that sentence alone. Did you ever think about why people say revealing clothing is for the youth, and get weirded out by “older people” wearing the same thing? It’s because youth is sexualized, especially for women, and anyone above the ages of 25-28 is seen as decrepit waste already. The beauty standards - for women especially- is pedophilic, which should never be seen as sexy. A mature body wearing revealing clothing should be considered the norm for being sexy far more than minors wearing the same thing.
And you may read this reply and think I’m trying to police younger women, I’m not. The issue is a societal problem, in which “beauty” should not automatically mean “youth”. Policing ANYONE’S body won’t solve that problem the way society thinks it would. This will be a difficult issue to tackle, but not one that should be ignored.
The idea tiktok has promoted that 22 year olds are OLD is so toxic. We shouldn't be made to feel like we peaked in attractiveness at 16-19 years old
I'm 19 and I've never been on TikTok, but that's super shocking to hear.
@@Capybaragee well, good to know it's isolated to tiktok then
@@marzybarx I'm not on any other social media either cuz I'm trying to avoid that kind of toxicity so I'm probably not the best judge here 😂 I feel like if I was born a few years later I would definitely be on the train of Tiktok and such
I feel like I’m too old for TikTok (I’m 32 and it’s targeted for teens) but I feel that in my 30’s I’m at my most attractive and I feel more alive and younger now than I did in my teens.
I'm 16 and I feel like Im in the ugliest stage of my life. Like how do you not get eye bags when staying up till 2 am?
People don’t let kids be kids anymore. When I was ten I acted my age and got made fun of for being ‘baby-ish, then got more ‘mature’ interests and got called a pick me girl. There’s no way to win and i know I wasn’t the only one :/
Dude one of my friends always got picked on for having immature intreset and not knowing what certain innaporiate things meant its ridiculous because we were only in middle school.
i relate but im in highschool
when i was 10 i got deadass bullied by kids my age at the time for...simply acting my age. then by middle school my mindset completely changed and my personality CHANGED due to all the tourment i been through at 5th grade.
update: by the time i got to middle school, i didn't had any REAL friends which caused me to be left out especially when the class is playing sports. the "friends" i had also think i was old to play roblox in 7th grade but many teenagers play it i- wtf- (i still play it at 16 and don't talk to users there anyways)
after middle school i never really like talking to people anymore and became asocial :/ but however i'm glad i have friends that like the same things that i like at my new school that i've been for about 3 years
update: im 17 and me and my friends still play it
Yes
Everyone loves to put girls in " personallity boxes" and make fun of everything around young girls. I hate it.
My nephew wanted a spacejam back pack for school, but he was worried he'd get made fun of for it being a kids backpack. He's 9.
What the fuck is happening to these kids?
As a child of 13 myself I get frowned upon for still playing with toys and stuffed animals. This shouldn't be happening. Tell your nephew to not even care
i hope u buy him a space jam back pack fuck those trendy shit having a childhood is better than none but make sure to watch guidance over him tho if he get fun at
@@Moonxsta trendy stuff for young young children shouldn't even be what they are interested in
This is what happens when people start dressing their kids like mini adults for likes on social media. 😣
My brother is 8 and he thought he would get made fun of because he had a Star Wars backpack /:
I'm 13 and I just realized how fast my friends are growing. One of them just turned 10 and wears crop tops, does makeup, and is all in Tiktok. Another one is 13 and is practically an adult now. Someone told me I'm 13 and I act like a 10 year old. I guess having fun and being happy is too childish now.
Yes… im witnessing my 13 yo cousins already posting about their bf like they are married already and she brags about her body (having a big chest, small waist etc.) im not close to them but it is not okay to post that, i feel like they just want to fit in with the social media community. FYI, never follow or trust the internet
me too, im also 13 and is honestly kind of tiring always being the ''boring friend'' just because I don't want to grow fast
Tiktok is indoctrinating these people I swear
Girl no, they're not adults at all. Ask every grown man and woman who interacts with these girls. Just because they look older doesn't mean they have a brain well developed enough to be considered mature. My sister who's a young teen looks 22 but she behaves like she's 14 and you can TELL because no grown adult behaves in such a childish way. And there is nothing wrong with it, take ur time to enjoy youth
@@sin3358 nah there are adults who act like that.
I work for one.
She talks to the customers about whether or not they all think I'm pregnant or on drugs when I'm not around.
I don't even work with her more than twice a month either.
There are absolutely adults who never left highschool and they especially shouldn't be trusted around children.
People always hate on Jojo siwa but in my opinion she was the only influencer who encouraged kids to stay kids
(edit) ITS NOW 2024 AND THIS COMMENT AGED AWFULLY feel free to hate on jojo guys 😭😭
not rlly lol imo
@@hydrofrolicwildflower3393 good point lemme change the thing to say it's just my opinion
You can't sell "necessities" to children that their parents aren't already buying.
Love your name
jojo is a national treasure
They call it " sexual liberation". This is not sexual liberation. You are 14.
The double sexual standard between boy and girls & men and women should be lifted, not how much we should sexualize women vs girls. And I’m not even talking about sexualizing like in clothes and makeup I’m talking about posting exclusively sexual things
There's a great material at Madison Brown's channel about it
@@agatahyra4949 I saw that! This was her title and I loved it.
Pedophiles are pushing this shit
They think itll lead to confidence because adult women who are sexually liberated seem confident. I wish there was more media representation of non-sexual confidence (or just confidence not based around how you look or dress).
yeah…i’m 14 and I was on the bus one day and these kids were arguing about sum stupid, then all of a sudden I heard this girl say, “You think I don’t get guys? I’m out here pulling 18 and 20 year old guys!” and in my head i’m just like…girl, that’s not a flex, YOU’RE A VICTIM-
You have a good head on your shoulders and good for you for recognizing how messed up that situation is
Oh god I feel bad for her. That's so terrifying.
I remember when I was in middle school and a girl bragged about her 18 year old bf and how they had sex or something. She's known to lie a lot for attention, so I hope she's lying about it, but it's still scary that she thinks that's something to brag about.
YEEESSSSS even though I’m 17 lmao my friend brags that this guy in the military he is messaging is 23 im like
Gross.
Even though we are an older age group from you guys it’s still not okay Lmaoo
I'm 23 and when I was 16-17 I wanted so bad to date an older guy (because my family didn't had any money so I wanted someone to buy me things) and no one of my friends told me that my mindset was wrong. I never did but I always said that I Wanted.
To me, is extremely important that teenage girls start to acknowledge how bad these type of situations are and not support their friends on this mindset or want it for themselves
Young girls think this is a flex because they think it shows maturity and being a better pick, theyre made to think their “maturity” and “mature looks” are what attracts older and more “quality men”
From young ages we are quietly taught having an older mans attention means you are more worthy. Ever heard “girls mature faster than boys” and “an age gap is normal bc boys mature slower”
Theyre just planting these ideas within us young.
a sickening trend on tiktok was the question, "what's the oldest you've pulled?" and all these minors were saying they'd romantically engaged with 20-somethings. even more horrifying is the fact that some girls had even mentioned 30, 40 and even 50 year olds.
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Damn this world really ending 😢 That’s sad
you cannot be sexually liberated if you are a minor, that is illegal.
lol its crazy bc they want to grow up so bada but when they are 25+ they would wish to be young again
@@Zoe-sn9tb I'd argue that legality DOES equal morality as laws reflect the morals of the time and specific societies. So as per your example while today owning slaves is both illegal and mortally wrong, at that time the majority of people (slave owners and the like) saw nothing wrong with it and so the laws reflected it.
@@anunknownperson4018 u talk like 25 isn't young 💀
Then wait for them until they turn 18 to fuck their life's up becuase they want to 'live it'
People rob, steal, murder and so much more but that's illegal too..people will do whatever they want but to stop that people need to be educated or find ways of fixng this issue, so in conclusion yes it is illegal but it still happens and it needs to stop
My grandpa would say “Parents
should not trust someone just because they're a relative” and I live by that.
What does this have to do with the video? /gen
@@gustavus0013 grooming/abuse
@@gustavus0013 the uncle timmy thing at 17:58
so true
@@Arifumii same💀💀💀
i think shows like euphoria set such unrealistic portrayals and standards for young girls… and also why are grown adults playing teenagers??
It is quite disturbing.
Labor laws probably. But still, teens do not look like that. Shows like these would be fine and nice if they were set in college, but no, it had to be a teen show.
Yes!!! Set the shows in college!!!
fr !!
@@Shanspeare literally! in most cases it makes no difference whatsoever 😭😭
as an 18 year old, it sucks seeing girls as young as 12, 13 years old rush their childhood. the more you reach adult age, the more you realize just how much you want to be 13 all over again.
Meeee. I miss being 10 years old
as a 14 year old (turning 15 in january) i definitely don’t want to be 13 again lol but now i am getting older and seeing how much i changed as a person it broke my heart how much my 11 year old self tried so hard to be “less innocent” and a “hot baddie”, because that made me almost completely lose myself. this is very true. i’m still young but i sometimes imagine me saying to my 9 year old self “i’m sorry”
@@meme-ih1wbme too
though at the same time i do understand why i did what i did. along with me wanting to fit in, i’m not the most hopeful when it comes to the future (i’m still not) and i was scared of adulthood so i just wanted to do everything as soon as possible
I am like that age range right now and people look at me weird for talking and laughing a lot at school. They all expect me to wear crop tops and be silent the whole class, but none of them act their age they all try to be like 16 but were not. If i laugh too hard people will stare at me weird even though im just having fun. And they call me weird for just talking but again i feel it would be so boring to just not talk at all or laugh at school.
I miss when everything wasn’t seen as “embarrassing” and when young girls could just be young girls without being criticized for being themselves
Before tiktok
@@tonyq854 basically
lol when was that ever the case
@@marriqx I could just be speaking from experience in my own environment but it’s not uncommon to see young girls being tormented or bullied for doing things like wearing bows, dressing young, liking a specific style etc.
I’m not a girl, but yeah, I get really embarrassed when I share my drawings with people my age because it’s a character from an anime 😐 just let people like what they like
I think casting 30 year olds as teenagers has ruined people's perception of aging.
I have people tell me "you're 20? But you look so young!!!!!"
Uh, yeah...
20 *IS* young.
@NitroFairyWing
When they say it to me, it's usually in an insulting way, such as "You look like a child, and any man's who's attracted to you must be a creep."
Doesn't help that I don't wear makeup.
I didn’t even think of this until you said it but good point!
@@alexiscormier4059
Despite having a natural petite hourglass shape, I also get "you're shaped like a little boy/you're skin and bones" because I don't have the Instagram standard for a 'curvy' body.
Even if I WAS rectangular, that's just an incredibly rude way to say it.
This is so true!!!
me at 26, having people think i'm a minor on a regular basis. My friends and I who don't wear as much makeup or wear more colorful clothing get this on a regular basis. Which is NOT me shitting on people who do the opposite and wear more fashionable clothing or a lot of makeup, but more of a sad realization that teens and even tweens are pushed so so much into looking 'older' :( and i def think you're right about it being like, adults being cast as minors. I remember shows like icarly, degrassi, zoey 101, what not. They always looked like the ages i expected them to or like my sister's and her friends ages (who are 4 years older than me). And even MY perception of what tweens and teens should look like has changed a lot because of casting adults as highschoolers
Old fart here, at over 40, and I despise the way that "living her best life" is used to describe sexy or materialistic pictures. The best life in my opinion is being truly happy no matter the goods or likes you have.
I like that view!
Yeah living my best life is watching kids cartoons
those were the kinds of videos that would depress me the most as a poor and typically unattractive teen
Living my best life looks like a nice quiet vacation with those old, comfy PJs after working hard.
I like using it sarcastically. If someone asks how im doing on a rough day, its an exasperated, "Oh you know, livin my best life." Honestly, we all each have only one life so everyone's life is their best life
My little sister is 12, and she gets picked on by her peers for having unicorn merch and wearing frilly dresses. I recently discovered that the girls who bully her all look and dress like they are 10 years older. It's honestly terrifying to see little children have their childhoods stripped away from them. I'm 18 myself and I remember witnessing this "revolution" with my own peers. My "friends" would try to pressure me to wear crop tops and over-the-top makeup all the way back in 6th grade.
Teen influencers on social media are a big factor that are responsible for this. Girls like Piper Rockelle, Elliana Walmsley, Danielle Cohn, and a few others have been influencing young girls to act much older.
Wait is wearing crop tops bad as a teen?
@@gustavus0013 In my opinion, kinda yes. I mean I guess wearing one at the age of 16 isn't too bad, but at 13, it is wrong in my eyes.
Piper rockelle doesn't act older than she is, oh is it because she wears belly tops and low rise jeans? I'm pretty sure 14-15 is a normal age to be wearing that stuff. Unlike other channels alot of the time these days she doesn't say inappropriate stuff in her videos and she may be a bad person but I don't think her videos influence anyone because she's losing all her fans because of her actions. Plus, the only people who went to her concert are children and they all dressed fine..
@@maplemaple626 wearing crop-tops at 13 is not bad?? This video is about sexualisation and you’re sexualising crop tops?
@@maplemaple626but at the same time, yall see a 7yo wearing a crop top on social media, its the ppl who think its wrong for a 7yo to wear a crop top that r the p3do’s. 13 is a perfect time to start wearing crop tops (that dont show a lot ofc) this is exactly what she was talking abt in the video. Girls clothing is beyond s3xualized these bc of ppl like yall that criticize us. There r crop tops for younger teens not the gross shi ur thinking of
and THIS is why I HATED the fact that Jojo Siwa was bashed for acting the way she does. She was an actual good role model for kids, but everybody made fun of her. I swear, it’s like nobody even remembers when everyone bullied her constantly. When she came out, everyone started praising her name and the bullying never came back up. We want kids to be more like Jojo Siwa, but cringe culture completely butchered any innocence these kids have, and to be quite honest, we’re to blame for it.
2023 update: erm what the scallop apparently she’s defending colleen who is a groomer wow!! 😁👍 anywhizzle stop bullying kids for being kids but dont support and defend groomers!!
And it was people at LEAST twice her age bashing her for being a kid and acting like one. The creepyness is deep
Exactly
I actually used to bully her on social media, she once turned off comments on her insta and I was mad.
I feel so ashamed. I'm sorry.
literally! it's always easy to jump on the hate train due to mob mentality. it just really sucks because i'm pretty young and i feel like i've grown up too fast - but i'm glad i'm educatated? but it's people who dislike kids for being kids that make us grow up so fast, or at least try to.
edit: would like to add since someone replied that i wouldn't jump on the hate train unless i had similarities w/ ppl on the train? conformity is very much a thing :'))
I actually still don't like jojo for her action, being lound more than style choices. But i think bhad barbie and others from this are worst role models for kids.
Second: you can't have a sexual revolution if you not old enough to vote. And if there is someone there waiting for you to become legal, you better run sis/bro/nb dude
I agree with you
It's simple, if you're "too old" to be generally considered sexy, then the choice to act overtly sexual is a radical one. Aka 30 lmfao. If you are young it is not radical because being sexualized is already happening w/o your consent. I definitely had this idea wrong when I was younger wish I had it figured out then :/ just wanted approval tho.
@@klaratehcoolcat preaching to the choir 😩
@Adafih well said!
The sexual revolution and it consequences have been a disaster for the human race
The other bad part to mention is that this also affects young boys, making them think at an early age that this is how they're supposed to view women
Also that! We were talking about gender roles in class, and how women are seen as objects in especially german rap music, a guy was basically agreeing with the texts. When asked about what he thinks about that, he just said "Women can't rap", he didn't even seem to have a problem with what was being said about women.
He's 14.
And then the boys get shamed as if they are completely at fault.
The “men are trash” saying is so harmful to young boys.
You cannot pin every sin on one gender, men and women alike need to take responsibility for their learned behaviors and actions.
@@christabellaangel8671 Who’s benefiting from sexism? It sure isn’t women. Men started it, men perpetuate it, and men teach it to boys and other men. It’s benefiting all of them. We don’t need to “take accountability” for something we did not do and that we have no part in. If “men are trash” is the worst gender-based thing you’ve seen, just wait until you see what men say about us lol.
@@haroldharold9042 yeah and any guy who sees themselves as removed from or opposed to that condescendingly sexist view of women is quick to get pegged as a simp or "white knight" by their peers, especially in toxic online movements such as mgtow
@@christabellaangel8671 This is the definition of victim blaming. If men are hurt by they patriarchy, that sucks, but ultimately it is a tool used by men to oppress women. The patriarchy isn’t some cloud of negativity that affects us for no reason, it’s for men, by men, against women. If men want it to be better they have to work on that amongst themselves, god knows they don’t listen to women’s thoughts on it. Why should women take responsibility for this? If men feel bad about mean words being said, maybe they should encourage each other to stop violently oppressing women.
bruh I just realized why as a 23 year old, I still relate to a lot of the teen fashion, trends, culture etc...IT'S BECAUSE TEENS ARE ACTING LIKE ADULTS THAT'S WHY.
I thought I was just childish, but really it's the shift everything.
Exactly!!! I've worn a cropped shirt with a skirt to go out and people actually thought I was a teen because of what I wore and here I am like??????
My sister does this at 15 once she hit 13 she stopped acting like a child. She began wearing revealing clothing you’d see a 20 year old women wear; started speaking differently. It was like a switch went off and she changed her personality. She started getting attention from older guys I’ve had to step in because she didn’t tell them her age. It’s sad to see young teens trying to act like adults when they should be enjoying it.
Acting like adults in what sense though?
@@gustavus0013 they want to appear as a “20 yo” when in reality most of them are immature. They shouldn’t act like that bc it is not okay
@@gustavus0013 young teens are trying to appear older specifically girls because that’s what they see on social media a lot
"People view a woman hitting 30 as 'too old'"
We're going back to the medieval times, when 30 was, you know, the life expectancy
Well people lived longer but with all the child deaths back then it averaged to 30
In the medieval era, if you lived through childhood you were ahead of the curve and were likely to live into your 50s or longer.
Offa of Mercia (what we now call England) lived in the late 700s and was believed to have lived into his 60s. His wife lived even longer.
Society acts like women expire with their biological clock and its sad. No wonder younger and younger girls are starting to TRY and unfortunately succeed in attracting grown ass men.
“The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.”
2 Peter 3:9 NIV
ROMANS 10:9-11 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame”
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
“For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.””
Luke 19:10
God wants us to believe in His One and Only Son, Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, who died for our sins :D When we truly believe in our hearts that Jesus is the Son of God, who died for our sins so we could have eternal life with God, we are saved from the eternal fire and have eternal life in Christ Jesus!! 💖 May God bless y’all!!!
@@pidgedidge People did not live longer in Medieval times, at least not Medieval Europe. Illiteracy was at like 80% for the adult population and they hadn't even figured out hand washing. There's no way lol
My issue is that this "liberation" always seems be exactly what the male fantasy wants, so at the end of the day the patriarchy often still finds a way to win 😞
Yes! This reminds me of something a french comedian said, it went along the lines of:
"At some point men started to go:
-Yeah #metoo, feminism is good, you do you, you're equal etc.
-Oh okay, so we stop shaving, stop wearing make up, stop wearing high heels?
-No no no. You keep doing that. Except now you're doing it *for yourself* "
People are all for women's rights as long as women still do what's expected of them lmao. If you actually do what you want and it doesn't fit the range of what's "acceptable" then you're a crazy ugly ultra feminist bitch.
I get called an extremist by my not even conservative parents because I don't wear bras and don't shave my body hair. *How extreeeeeeeeme*
Same. When I thought about what actually made me comfortable things like wearing bras, tight clothes (like jeans), high heels, makeup, even extensive skincare was stuff I did for other people. I’d only do hair removal in the summer to be more comfortable. But I still feel ostracised by today’s ‘beauty cultre’ and feel like the ugly/dirty feminist stereotype...even though I feel so much more comfortable with my body and best my self esteem has been since puberty
for real tho. i read somewhere that "if your liberation doesnt upset your oppressor, it means you are not liberated at all." that hits hard
@@athaya2992 damn it
if men weren't in charge i think we'd see a lot more body hair on women...that would be liberating af cuz i'm tired of shaving
my mother always used to tell me “enjoy your youth because you have your whole life to be grown up” and shes honestly right, these young tweens/teens don’t understand that you have your whole life to be an adult, but not your whole life to be young as you are now
yeah we should be encouraged to embrace our childhood bc childhood innocence is something that you can NEVER get back. it is something that so many people miss when they lose their innocence
Yeah and as soon you turn 18 they expect the most of you..
Being young is so short term.than you have decades to make adult decisions.when there in there 30s they’ll be wishing they were young again
Ayy we have the same name...and honestly I agree
Yes enjoy your childhood because it goes by so fast. You can do all that other stuff when you grown... you're not missing out on anything.
“if youre over 8 you shouldnt be watching bluey” always rubs me the wrong way. god forbid an 11 year old enjoy a kids show! god forbid a 14 year old enjoy kids media!!! the bluey plushies no!!!
Like it’s crazy. Until you’re 18, you’re basically a kid and even in 20s your a young young adult. I think it’s crazy that now kids can’t enjoy kid stuff. Every time I see the other middle schooler wearing those fake lashes and crop tops I feel weird because they dress like they’re finishing college. Like were all still kids
im an American and what i know of bluey is that its for adults as well as children. like the producers actually aimed for all ages. ppl just say shit dont they LOL
I will say as a guy who’s 23 I am getting a little bit eye roll-y and sick to the stomach at the bluey obsession I’m seeing coming from 20 somethings and 30 somethings. Like I just know y’all are covered in a layer of crusty dried food like a man baby huh.
@@mmeggnnit’s not. Producers for small children’s shows will ALWAYS say their show is for “all ages” because they want to harbor a place of childlike wonder and absolute acceptance that can be opened up and enjoyed occasionally in a moment of nostalgia sometimes as an adult, and to make older children less ashamed of enjoying it. Like Mr. Rogers. He would tell you his show was for all ages because Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood was a show that wanted to create a safe space and it would be kind of mean for a character like Mr Rogers to suddenly turn around and exclude adults. But we all know Mr. Rogers Neighborhood was produced for children. But more specifically in the case of Bluey they’re talking about the fact that Bluey was also made for parents to watch with their kids so they can learn together how to problem solve as a family. The demographic of the show is for preschoolers. That’s a fact. But it’s not bad if you watch it. Just don’t. Idk don’t get weird about it.
I’m 16 and I love watching bluey it’s fun and there’s nothing wrong even if your 30+ and enjoy watching bluey is ok
Yeah, when I was 11, I was told to stop wearing a nightdress because it made my stepdad “uncomfortable” 😬
That's not right. Sounds like mom needs to ditch your step-dad.
@@ah5721 yeah probably. I don’t stay at his house anymore tho, and they’ve not got any plans to move in so I’m good with that
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Have you talked about this to your mom? Does she know?
@@garancebarbier7381 oh yeah she knows. I stopped sleeping over at his house as often. I think that’s all she could really do tho 🥲
Um ew???The hell is wrong with him???
And this is why JoJo Siwa (annoying as she is) is a GREAT influence. She's what? 18? And she's a tween icon. She spreads the message of just being yourself and not caring - being silly and colourful - standing out for your energy and personality - NOT your looks.
I get that it’s your opinion, but don’t you think that calling her “annoying” feeds into the idea that acting your age is cringy? Therefore reinforcing cringe culture and how it’s affecting teen girls… I’m not mad or judging, just genuinely asking. I understand that you may not like her content, but the word annoying itself is what many of us girls heard whilst growing up and being kids. Again, I really am not mad and do want to understand where you come from. Perhaps you’re just an adult but yeah, just wanted to know…
The truth is that she's loud, hyperactive, and colourful. Children love that stuff, that's why kids toys are like that. As an adult do I find overstimulation annoying, yes. But it's not meant for me.
@@lostboy587 she does not act her age. She acts like a child (toddler)
@@oro-oluwatoromo-thewordoft7339 no she doesn’t. She’s hyperactive and colorful, cheerful and positive, why do you think those are childish traits? And here we go again with that “she doesn’t act her age” bullshit. Grow up. There isn’t a mold for people to fit into that brands how people should act after a certain age. Especially not when that mold is designed to stop individuality in humans. Some people her age smoke and part, others read and stay inside, some do both, some don’t so none of those. Some people are into the dark academia aesthetic, others are into cottage core. Some people, believe it or not, are just joyful, energetic, and love colours. You’re brainwashed by the media into thinking that certain ages should act a certain way, so I suggest you stop thinking that everybody has to act like a character from euphoria to be a proper teenager. People like you are the reason why people feel ashamed of what they like, because you can’t be bothered to try and fix your shitty life so you go and rain on everyone else. Take that energy and work on yourself mate, and stop saying that people have to act a certain way to fit into their age group.
Lost Boy It’s official, I finally met someone WHO PREACHES WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO SAY FOR YEARS THANKYOU!!
it's weird how when a 30-40 year old dies, people be like 'oh no, they were so young' but when they are alive and breathing they are considered old wtf T-T
Well because they were “young” for dying. It’s not that weird :7
its relative
70 is old, 30 ain't old
@@serenitysubs933 everyone has a different definition of ‘old’z
because its not that old
im 16 and some classmates made fun of me for spending time with my mom saying i don't have a life 💀
Bro don’t listen to them-they probably scroll mindlessly in TikTok all day.
@@ceres.77 they re so stupid
they're gonna be crying when their momma dies bro💀 THEY ARE mad weird
I spend time with my mom I’m 14 and I feel pressured to act and look older I genuinely notice I’m treated differently and laughed at by other girls who are more older mature looking with there clothes and makeup and grown “look” im not immature looking but I definitely don’t go out of my way to cake myself up to look like an “insta baddie” I’m jus normal
girl i’m seventeen and i love going out with my mom 🤝
I just turned 26 ('old') and the weird thing is, I am now sometimes saying 'no i can't wear such a short dress/skirt/insert whatever because i am too old for that; it is just not appropiate'. I noticed this happening with more of my friends my age. Which is fucked up. How do we think such short clothes ARE appropiate for teens but not for grown ups? I think this shows both the hypersexualised norm for teenagers and also how we get punished for ACTUAL maturity in women. Like, i am NOT old hahaha. We just can't win man...
Omg same and I’m 22 😭
Damn, do any of y'all got advice for a little flower bud like me, from one flower sibling to another? I could use some life advice because I'm fifteen turning sixteen and I still want to enjoy my childhood to the fullest.
@@shonaphakee776 Oooo I’ve always wanted a little sister this is my time to shine! Acne sucks but just bare with it your hormones will stabilize in three years, play a sport, pick up an instrument , do things that make you happy, work out and develop healthy eating habits now, make friends and cut off those who hurt you/make you feel bad, leave those boys alone, no you’re not “mature for your age” he’s just a creep, don’t rush sex-whenever you feel ready and it’s going to suck anyway, embrace the different phases you’re going through- whenever I feel low I look back to my kpop/mermaid era and I can’t help but laugh at how wholesome/cringe it was, and most importantly live in the moment and don’t try grow up to fast-adulthood is great but I’m always tired and I have fiiftyleven bills to pay.
@@Giraffe27 Aww, thank you so much for everything! I really needed this!
@@edn2674 i agree, but i do think that it is mainly a (social) media thing though. I only recently started working a fulltime aftercollege job and there people definitely view me as very young, almost annoyingly so. So i am in this weird place where i feel as if i am not young, beautiful or 'hip' enough by society's standard anymore yet too young and unexperienced to be taken seriously professionally. I wonder how the male experience is in this sense?
My brain gets so fried trying to understand what in the scorching hell is so attractive about minor people?! Like the fact that there's people waiting for children to turn 18 is so gross. Please it makes no sense to me!
You’re not someone who finds kids attractive, that’s why it doesn’t make sense. Be happy about that.
I think it has something to do with how children are easily manipulated and how we look up to adults
This has been a thing for a long time sadly and isn't new at all.
I saw this happen back when I was a teen with men waiting just until someone turned 18 to jump on them. Almost literally. I'm glad I was in a relationship with a guy my age back then or rathe the is 6 months younger than me and we are still together at me now being almost 29 and celebrating our 12tg anniversary this December.
People who prey on teenagers like that are disgusting.
It's literally that the girls have somewhat adult bodies, but are definitely more easily influenced and easily impressed. Effectively 'easy pickings'.😳🥺
@@ea7109 they don’t though.
No because can we really just talk about how sexualized teens movies /TVs and teen media in general is like most of us aren’t as hyper sexual as we are portrayed
Bingo. This. Not everyone is living a hyper sexual teenage life. Some of us were regular degular teens.
exactly we have homework, chores and some of have strict parents idk who these people and why they created this stereotype of teenagers for normal teenagers who feel like they are missing out
most likely if the actor is now a 20+ yr old adult playing a teen
@@valart3946 Doesn’t make it less weird
yeah LOL i wasn't attractive enough to be that sexually active wtf. i somewhat related to when characters would like long for the nooki or act out in a sexual way, but dood when i say this is a symptom of sexual abuse i-...
like none of my friends relate but everytime i hear someone relating they're like "yeah but that one time this really weird thing happened [*describes SA*]" like... oh shit using hypersexuality to cope really do be hittin' different.... craving value and attention from people who hold authority over me go burr-
I started developing way earlier than my classmates (for context, I got my first bra in THIRD GRADE), and the amount of comments I got of “You’re finally becoming a woman!” was staggering. Like…I was 8. I still couldn’t use the microwave without help. But because I started having breasts, people decided I wasn’t a kid any more and should be treated like a young adult. I even had a neighbor say I shouldn’t be obsessed with The Little Mermaid anymore because I needed to “grow up”.
This pedo culture needs to end
Sick
That’s honestly disgustingly rude
Omg I’m so sorry- that is disgusting and you deserved better. Being an actively closeted transgirl for most my life I was never entirely immune to the effects of the male gaze, but since coming out I’m just consumed by it. I truly can’t imagine the psychological horror of having to navigate this as an 8 year old
You deserve better like a man like me
It’s so ironic how Jojo Siwa is seen as a child even though she is more mature than Bhad Bhabie will ever be.
Agreed
If you can't say something nice without simultaneously bashing someone else, don't say the nice thing either tbh. Danielle would need some really strong support to get outside of this groomed mindset and yes, we should criticize her for actively being a part of the problem but also... How can you blame a victim of grooming for her choices? She has her whole formative years to deprogramm from. All I'm trying to say is pls don't bash a young girl for being preyed upon and giving in
@@kam-lw4ez i got confused and thought you were talking about Danielle Cohn for a moment, but then realized they got the same names
Antway you're right
i feel for danielle tho bc her childhood must have been fucked up beyond belief, what w her own mother broadcasting her trauma on dr phil, having the entire internet mock her, all the abuse at turnabout... i wouldn't be surprised if she was pressured to grow up really quickly.
@@bora3859 I think it was mentioned that she was hanging out with older guys when she was still a young teenager. Thats a really messed up situation. Her parents definitely failed her.
YES! Kids are not growing up faster for themselves, they are doing this to appeal to the older generations!
Yeah. It's never the child's fault for being curious; it's the influence, bad examples, & sometimes predatory behavior of the people who came before them. As someone in an older generation (millennial), I'm trying to figure out how we can stop this?? Pushing for more social media regulations/education? Be a better irl example for kids? Cuss out old creeps online?
Not sure, but I don't like the way things are developing and I don't want even MORE kids to lose their childhoods 😕 Social media fks with your head from a very young age
I'm 10 and I act how I like to. I still play with bubbles and play dough. It just makes me happy. I get called immature just fir doing this.
I don't know Gertrude, don't you think it's pretty immature to start pouting if I don't do you homework?
Oh dear, I never relised I can't play with anything at all bc it's "immature". My dearest apologies I'll allow to bring the guillotine if this happens ever again
@@solar_SG I’m 16 and thats exactly how I acted when I was 10 and everyone else my age. But now I see my 11 year old sister trying to do stupid RUclips workouts to be “thicc” like Meg thee Stallion. I never thought about that when I was 11. Yet again I started using social media at the age of 13 and she started at 9
@@Fatima-hl2qg Wow, that's kind off exactly like my classmates rn. They also only talk about but which I honestly don't get
@@Fatima-hl2qg "Thicc" for whom lmaooo? For herself??? Hope she grows out of that soon.
What I’ve found many kids and teens really mean when they say “Don’t treat me like a kid” is “Please treat me with respect, like a person, and don’t demean me for acting my age”. Kids aren’t often treated like actual human beings who possess thoughts and feelings. Any thought a child expresses is dismissed and not taken seriously, and this leads to them wanting to be “treated like an adult”. Of course, this is not the only reason/problem, just something I’ve noticed.
This.
@@lacrisgarlegit
I’ve always thought of it as meaning allowing them certain privileges and responsibilities.
Exactly
accurate.
when my 7 year old sister did the "model face" while taking a selfie, i FREAKED out on the inside, i explained to her calmly to take selfies in a "normal" fun way instead of a weird way. *without knowing she's taking pictures in a sexual appeal way, and that looked like grooming somehow* i hope children enjoy their childhood
have you told your parents about her behaviour? that’s really scary and it should be addressed as soon as possible
what's the model face?
What’s a model face?
@@Alxie_e like uk the hot looking pose where you dont smile and open your mouth slightly to make that siren pose
When I was 7, I had no idea what a "selfie" was. I would just stand in random poses while someone else would take photos of me. The world really has changed a lot in the span of only 10 years, and that's pretty terrifying.
it's funny how America is like the beacon of sexual liberation and yet you can't even say the word sex without fear of demonetization
Oh the hypocrisy. This comes in hand with the poor sex education. Kids understand, understanding is not doing. But I guess society thinks it’s better for them to dress like grown ups and act like grown ups without knowing to what they are headed 🤷🏻♀️
Land of the free sure, right up until the horizontal tango enters the equation then its "everyone should wait until marriage and never speak about it casually"
@@estefyhengja "Without know where they are headed"... This hit me harder that it should. I don't like diving into things headlessly, yet that's what I exactly do most of the time without realizing. The realization of the lack of direction and thinking hit me for a while. I'm thankful for deciding to watch this video. Diving into the unknown is one thing sure, but diving into the unknown knowing there are possibility bombs in the sea is another.
(No one need to read this, but if anyone does, the rest of this will be a rant and the thought process of someone that felt like they need to mature quickly and therefore will be an absolute contradiction that may or may not make any sense whatsoever. I'd like to see someone decode my thoughts for me as I'm not the best at it or maybe any tips cause I need them if I'm honest.)
Just doing without understanding really makes me feel uncomfortable. I'd rather live knowing that I'm doing something stupid rather than feel like I'm smart enough to know fully about something but in reality I don't.
As a minor reading this I feel like I shouldn't be here especially after watching the video. Maybe I'm just tired of people overly shielding me from these types of topics just because "oh you're too young"? I understand that they want to protect me from the harsh reality, but it feels like it would be more dangerous to just go straight into a field without knowing the existence of mines on them the moment I've "grown up". It would protect me more if I had gained at least some proper insight of these things.
I've been the type to ask "why?" to people on why certain things are like that and they just avoid the question. I just don't like the feeling of being brainwashed due to my lack of knowledge and understanding about something and me just... Obeying the thought process. What if something's wrong and I'm just the next person repeating it? If there's no concrete reason other than "just because", why should I fully trust to do what someone else does? I need guidance and maybe a bit of knowledge to at least protect myself, not some just because.
Alright, I get I'm too young to know this, why am I too young to know this then? Should I avoid it? Is it mostly good or bad? There's probably a fine line that I can't see right? At least a proper introduction would be nice instead of you just throwing it out there and leave me hanging on why it's like that. Even just telling me that there is a reason, but you can't say the reasoning due to this or that is good enough. At least I'm aware of the topic and when the time comes I can know more about it.
I think this explains some of the thoughts that go around my head. Because I feel clueless and curious about what someone has mentioned, I want to know more about that thing. The only way to know about that thing is to be older, and so I'm excited for when you gain the right to know this or that. Because I know something, I feel like I'll know everything because that's all you know that exists, when there's something more. Getting older involves maturity a lot of times so I'll try and get mature quickly. I'll act because you feel like you need to do so because of what I know. That's probably just part of the truth though, I know there's probably a lot more behind that.
This is rant is ironic though if I'm honest. The video talks about people acting like grown-ups and that they should slow down and stay like a child if they still can, yet here I am... A minor trying to know more about these types of things and feeling like they've matured even if I have a long way to go and I'm not really mature whatsoever. I need to slow down, heh.
I'm not even sure if this is either a responsibility to know more about it, a necessity or whatever. I don't think it is any of those though. Maybe I'm just a knowledge-starved person after discovering these types of things exist. Maybe I'm just brainwashed by the constant push of modern society moving forward these days. I know it's not my job to know about these things after all. I'm thinking I'm just feel unsafe with everything at this rate so that's why I feel the need to mature quicker. "You're unsafe when you don't know anything" is probably one of the things I need to work on along with "I need to know everything" as the possible roots. Not a 100% sure, but it's worth a shot to see how it goes.
Guess I'm a walking contradiction. I don't know any better than what I understand and that's fine. I can't just correct any of these things to a healthy extent overnight anyways especially when they've become a habit/mentality. I can't undo any of this work I've done to try and mature either, even then I'm thankful for it happening. Just glad I grew up a somewhat decent person.
I'm just rambling at this point so I'll leave it here. If anyone reads it thanks it means a lot to me. I'll just sort myself out for a moment... Take care...!
Tbh I don't see the USA as a beacon of sexual liberation lol ... USA culture is really sex negative and taboo ish in comparison to my country and many neighbouring countries (in europe)
It’s what happens when your country demonizes sex ed but is run by absolute creeps
Bruh no because I’ve literally had 15 year old coworkers(the youngest you can be to work where I live) tell me about their 10+ “body count” as if it’s going to impress me or make me think of them as my age. It doesn’t do either of those, it just makes me concerned about them and worry for their safety, mental health development, and for the rest of people their age.
What does body count mean?
That’s fuckrd
@@studypurposes4658 How many people they've had sex with.
14 is the youngest for me
@@studypurposes4658 the amount of people you slept with
wow it’s really depressing knowing some of these children will never go through a hardcore club penguin phase :(
It’s depressing knowing that they won’t ever experience the real club penguin. There has been online re-runs but those have mainly been taken down due to the -cough cough- abundance of child predators on that…
This makes me want to play that again😢
I remember trying so hard to catch the big red fish :'))
and they wont go through a creepypasta phase :(
I just got my Neopets account back :)
The one good thing about musically was that being a tween was THE aesthetic. With all the unicorn, rainbows, moustache aesthetics and kid friendly musers were popular 😕
i know right
Coming from someone who had unrestricted access to the internet at a young age, and is a teenager, I can see both sides. However, I really wish my parents didn’t give me access to it as young as I was. It’s not a safe place for children or even teenagers in some cases. :/
Same
I had unrestricted access to it as well and I was groomed multiple times by adults from ages 11-16 because I grew up in an abusive household and craved male attention. Never give children unrestricted access to the internet, NEVER. End of discussion.
Im the same and tramaized by the things I stumble on
@@lo4568 I had the same situation. It’s crazy how many of us experienced the same thing:( I’m 17 now and I look back on wild shit I did that was completely not okay
i’m 14, and it’s not safe for anyone under 16 imo. tiktok and snapchat should have a better ID system for where you can’t lie about ur age bc it is harmful and dangerous.
i’m 15 and the “tween” demographic is definitely dying. it was really confusing for me when i was younger because it was like a switch flipped among my friends where suddenly everything i liked was too “childish” or “cringe”. not to sound like an old person but young girls really are seeing too much too soon sometimes.
Turned 15 this month, and you put this SO eloquently and with poise!! Even over the last couple of years, the natural abstractness/gaps in development of maturity and interests through the "tween" and teen years have been obliterated by conflicting societal pressures and physical/emotional standards skyrocketing upwards. The actual stage that our minds are in often no longer matches the maze of expectations in our culture, and the various ways in which one our age can be "intelligent," "confident," or "creative" have been reduced, diminished, and matured beyond our scope. I have been told that i'm immature compared to my brother, only because I trust the passage of time and don't want to throw away my interests immediately. My apologies for the lengthy comment!!!!
Yep, 5th grade, normal, 6th, a huge difference, 7th, larger difference
Yeah people don’t even want to play roblox with me anymore they tell me it’s too childish and my brother makes fun of me for liking stuffed animals and other childish things
just because you and your friends grew out of that phase, doesn't mean it's not happening with other kids anymore
im 21. it happened to me too. i got bullied so bad after elementary i started self harming because i really didnt fit in with anyone. i was kinda a girly girly in kid sense when I was 10, but that changed kind of quickly ...
Sexual liberation means having the right to NOT be sexual as well.
Never thought of it this way
Exactly
PREACH
Yesssss!!!
Yeah and we do have the right to not be sexual, nobody is forcing anybody to post 'sexual' photos of themselves on social it's a completely personal choice
I’m 15, and I find myself being judged so much when I simply just be a kid. I love fashion dolls and every time someone sees I own them I get called childish when I’m literally a child.
You’re not alone. I still liked Bratz dolls when I was 13.
The people who call teens children are desperate to be young again...
That is why I believe they say that, they are jealous...
Producers need to stop casting these 25 year olds to be playing 16 year olds. That’s something I never understood.
Oh my god yes this is huge
Kids watch shows like Riverdale and identify with the characters/actors because the story is about them.
Its labor laws. Minors are very limited in what they can do on set
@@danceteacherrlb They could at least make the actors look younger and act age appropriate.
@@danceteacherrlb Probably also so that they can show soft core corn of them onscreen and sexualise characters :/
I hate seeing “stop treating us like children”, said by 11-14 year olds.
Edit: yes I do understand the struggles of being underestimated, I’m going on 16 damn near a young adult already. But stop trying to rush it by doing alcohol or drugs, you have plenty of time to wait for that anyway. Be young, enjoy being a kid while you can, whether you’re mentally or physically mature already.
right LMAO like …pls stfu, you are a child. 😭
I also hate how zoomers always act like whatever their parents do or say is wrong. Emotional and physical abuse are a thing. Your mum getting mad at you because you didn’t do the chores she kindly asked you to do is another. Then they’re like “Omg my mum abuses me I cant do this shes such a terrible mum” and TELL HER THAT SHES A TERRIBLE PERSON ignoring how that can very much hurt people. They’re making everything pass off as emotional abuse because they’re too lazy to do anything and will find themselves living alone not knowing how to turn the lights on 💀 REAL emotional abuse should be talked about more
lmao the fact that they can't tell that they're still children is literally proof that they're still kids
@@ccharmolypi as someone who is and knows many other teens my age who are in verbally/physically ab*sive households, as much as I don't want to gatekeep what tr*uma feels like, it gives such a bad name to actual tr*uma survivors, literally spreading misinformation about what ab*se is, using medical/psychology terms incorrectly, and makes people who actually go through these things look like they're doing it for "attention" and it sucks. It's like tumblr all over again
@@worstusernameintheworld9871 exactly. 100% agree!! U guys r so strong but get lost under the stupid fucking tiktoks about hating your mum because she got mad at you after you didnt clean your room when she kindly asked you to and was hoping for it. Like ofc parents should control themselves but they’re human too. Getting mad =/= being abusive. For example “You should’ve cleaned your room!! This is so disappointing!!” Is portrayed as the same as “I hate you so much, I wish you were never born! You’re disgusting and I couldnt be more disappointed in you!!” 😐
Honestly, a lot of people who are "mature" have just be traumatized at a young age or have been dealing with issues since they were young.
this ^^ i’m “mature” for my age, but it’s only because i have to be. maturity is supposed to be gained through experiences _all_ throughout your life, not desperately grabbed out of necessity in less than 14 years :/
yes like thanks for saying im mature for my age but i wish o wasnt lol even if it would change who i am i wouldn't be as traumatized as i got to be
@@Yuki-vy4uh same lol I’m 22. And no one believes. That’s why I’m trying to be smaller in my body and do baby face kind of makeup so I look like 22.
i had a bad childhood and people around me believe im mentally 2 or 3 years ahead. yet i never post selfies, talk about my age online, etc. Maturity comes with realising whens the time for the correct things, whether your mentally older or not
@@chaloevibes4355 you dont have to.You are enough just the way you are.They think you are not 22?Well,their problem.
Dang, I’m 17 and in Gen Z and I thought we were still reminiscing about Monster High and Ever After High? Guess not anymore...
well i am. monster high is a cinematic masterpiece
EVER AFTER HIGH 🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾
We are
I fucking loved that whole franchise
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This is why I appreciate movies like Turning Red, where the protagonists are just middle school girls figuring out life and trying to have fun rather than the now seemingly immediate transition from child to ‘adult’. Yeah, the were cringe, yeah, the fashion sucked, but that’s how it should be for girls that age, even if this was a movie set in 2002 rather than now. I just recently turned 17 and while I didn’t participate in a lot of stereotypical things growing up, it’s still so weird to see girls thinking they’re so mature at the age of 14. The cringey preteen phase is almost necessary imo, bc it teaches you character growth rather than this immediate jump into a more free adulthood culture without understanding why adults can have that freedom.
idk abt you but Miriam and Abby's fits were amazing
and amen!!
People shouldn’t mix actual maturity and ‘faux’ maturity (basically what the whole video was talking about) and i feel like that’s the problem with todays teens/tweens
It was so refreshing to see turning red because the kids were actually like kids, and not the 30 year old cast for a high school role doing extremely adult things in so many other shows/movies
its very telling that turning red got shit on for being "cringe" before the movie even released.
I'm 13 right now, but when I was 10 I was desperate to grow up and look older. I hated my eyebrows because my mom never let me make them, and I was crying myself to sleep because my mother wouldn't let me buy certain clothes or do certain things. I've slightly matured now (I'm aware I'm still a kid), and thankful my mom didn't let me grow up too fast. I guess I'm still jealous of the kids who got to do the things I never could, but I know I have plenty of time. I'd rather enjoy my childhood now.
You definitely have plenty of time!! You’re doing great 💜💜
Absolutely! Childhood is one of the shortest parts of your life.
same !!
I grew up in a slightly different time, but I had a similar experience to you. Now as a young adult, I don't feel like I missed out on any important experiences & I'm glad I was able to make those choices when I was more mature & had a better sense of style anyway! I hope you'll feel the same💜
Yes definitely do not grow up too fast. Youth is a blessing and innocence is a beautiful thing! When I was a teen I learned quickly that dressing fashionably and wearing makeup did not make my peers notice me or treat me better. It is all about your confidence and self love.
As a young person, it’s so hard to wear anything without being sexualised. When i wear something that shows more skin I’m told that it’s inappropriate. For example, my school was having a no uniform day and i wanted to wear a dress that shows my shoulders (this was partially because my friend had been made to wear her jacket all day the previous day because her shoulders were showing despite it being like 25 degrees c) and when i tell my mum she tells me i can’t because it would be too ‘sexy’. But then when i try wearing baggier clothes in a period of time where i had been VERY insecure about my body, i was told that i was a ‘prude’ or a ‘Billie Eilish wannabe’ by my friends and family. Honestly i don’t understand society’s stupid ideals anymore
I think the people who find it inappropriate to show shoulders are the people who are turned on by ut
i think people hate teen girls ngl
it’s like no matter what we do or wear, somebody’s going to criticise it! it’s so infuriating - I had a similar situation recently as well, a teacher said girls shouldn’t show their shoulders because it’s not acceptable in a ‘workplace environment’ (I’m still in school) and I asked what if a guy showed his shoulders and the teacher gave me no reply.
@@afiyazubair2106 pretty much lol
@@screamingbanshee1282 right
Me (19) and my 12 year old cousin were wearing the same exact outfit the other day 🤦♀️it definitely concerned me
Yes!! My (19) 13 year old cousin wears full face of make up and mini dresses and it just boggles my mind how she wears stuff like that at such a young age but when I was 13 I was wearing my little pony shirts
@@living_free_and_in_the_wild I don't know if you know but kids experimenting with makeup isn't anything bad but what's wrong with mini dresses?
@@veronicasecret1251 There is nothing wrong with make-up and experimenting and being creative. It's the fact that she looks completely different and way older than her actual age. There is nothing wrong with a little eye shadow and mascara, its the fact that she looks way different with it on. As for the mini dresses, a 13 year old (imo) shouldn't be wearing reveling clothes. It ties in this the make up as well and the whole idea of trying to appear older than you actually are. You can wear dresses and look cute but not to look older or pretend to be mature.
@@living_free_and_in_the_wild I feel like I really can’t understand what you’re trying to say. Any sort of makeup is going to alter how you look, it’s made and used to enhance features. I think opinions vary when talking about “revealing” clothes because it all depends on what different people consider “revealing” so I can’t disagree with you there although I will say, the way you see someone doesn’t mean that’s what they are it’s a p.o.v. I really want to address the last thing you said only having to wear dresses to look “cute”, why must a tween appear cute to you to be able to wear a dress? From the mini dresses i’ve seen they seem age appropriate with maybe shorts or something underneath. Dresses have always been a little kid/early tween oriented anyway.
@@living_free_and_in_the_wild wtf
all these children agreeing with you in the comments breaks my heart and has actually made me get teary eyed. enjoy your youth babes I’m turning 20 soon and i already miss being 15-17. It’s very important to detox often from social media and instead indulge in external interests like crafts, reading, meditation, spending time with friends and family etc. you’re all beautiful and perfect just the way you are try your very best to reject peer pressure into being someone you aren’t. you are kids, embrace it.
Say it louder for the kids at the back.
yeah im defidently not enjoying my youth i fucking hate it here
Yeah I agree and I'm 16. I actually got so overwhelmed by social media that I ended up deleting all of it from my phone. I only use my phone to text people or play games nowadays. My mental health has improved since then. It's so important to remember to touch grass outside often.
I’m turning 23 next week and I already miss being 17 🥲🥲
Its even worse when you hit your mid 20s
For everyone who needs to hear this: YOU DON'T NEED TO STARVE, NOR BE SEXUAL AT A YOUNG AGE TO GAIN VALIDATION. YOU CAN FIND HAPPINESS AND LIBERATION IN OTHER WAYS. DON'T CHANGE WHO YOU ARE BECAUSE EVERYONE JUDGES YOU, BECAUSE THEY'RE JUST AS INSECURE AS YOU! *Yells it louder for the people in the back*
📍 this damn comment
Yell it through a megaphone pls😔👌
Or at any age for that matter!
📢🔊🎤📣📣
I wish I saw this comment when I was younger. I was groomed so many times
The over sexualization of teens is one of the biggest reasons girls have depression and anxiety at such young ages. There is nothing liberating about it. I blame Hollywood and the music industry for putting this kind of crap into peoples minds.
Also I blame tiktok... it has gotten worse in the past couple of years. So many girls on tiktok doing "sexy" dances bc they want to fit in and predators preying upon these girls.also I agree with you 100%
it legit gives me mental breakdowns sometimes. I used to cut myself bc I hated existing as a teen girl. I was so sick and tired of creepy men online that it made me suicidal. wish I was joking.
@@juliwitham7343 yes! tiktok is so harmful to the youth, regardless of how 'entertaining' the trope of it might seem. It made me & so much of my friends become toxic people even though we are only in our early teens.
AND THE FUCKING FEMINISTS
@@ENAMI313 for real, this was a problem in the early 2000s before the internet was widespread but everyone wants to point fingers outside of feminism
I'm 14 and my chest has been developing more recently. My mother REFUSES to stop taking about it, how I'm lucky and that she's jealous. I have told her it's weird and even other people in my family have because she'll talk about in front of anyone in family. :(
Thats not good, you need to have a serious conversation with your mother. Sometimes parents aren’t mature either and they will argue/talk about stupid things. It is okay to call them out whenever this happens
Please sit her down and explain that it makes you uncomfortable and it’s inappropriate for her to comment on your body. Regardless of if she’s your mother or not, she does not get to sexualise your body regardless of how jealous she is.
I understand you. One time in my life, I wanted to get a Binder. However, because I'm a minor and I can only get in on online shops, I decided against it. My mother kept talking about how "my chest is big" which made me very, very uncomfortable to the point when I genuinely started crying (though, in her eyes, I was acting like a weirdo)
I absolutely hate how my body looks like and I wish my gender would be just nothing. I only wear hoodies because I know my mom will be talking about my body
@@KouiuoI feel ya, kiddo. I was there too. It does get better, and if you can buy KT tape ( type of fitness tape ) there are ways to /safely/ bind with that. hope you’re okay.
@Kouiuo My mom never talked about my chest or anything, but i also hate my chest. I wish i was born genderless or something
There is a family I know and their 12 Y/O son walks around with a Lego sword and has imaginary sword fights and their 11y/o daughter is confident and happy and loves to dress up however she wants their 9y/o son still flosses and sings old songs and has a fortnite backpack. I love seeing these kids happy and living their best lives untainted/unbothered by social media and how people think they should act/dress. They're not worried about being cool or trendy their just happy kids who still look and act like kids. Seeing them really gives me hope and inspiration
@Hania Nayla bro WHAT. that is how kids get kidnapped. Where are you from where you’re encouraging people not only to leave their kids outside but also to actively ignore them
@Hania Nayla not everyone’s area is as safe as yours
@Hania Nayla I don't even want my little sister going outside in our yard by herself. If you look at your local sex offender registry you'll be shocked and horrified
those kids are probably not exposed to social media as much then
@@ZenitsuKunn that’s true. I didn’t use much social media and stopped playing with barbies and toys in general at 13 but that’s apparently weird now for that age. 17 and still don’t social media much I thought ppl were over exaggerating that kids are acting grown now until I went to my brothers middle school.
I feel like the hardest thing for teens isn’t comparing themselves to adults they see on Instagram, but it’s comparing themselves to other teens that have more ideal features/figures. Seeing someone on TikTok that is close to, if not the same age as you getting praised for there looks is hard to watch. Most tweens/teens in modern day have TikTok and the app follows a pretty strict beauty algorithm that is hard to escape. 13 year olds feeling the need to sexually liberate themselves are mostly the outcome of seeing these people being praised and having the urge for that validation
tiktok ruined the fashion industry with a new trend every week and the trends aren’t just clothes it’s body standards and more
Just don't use tik tok haha, I think they'll get more valuable time if they use that time to improve themselves with skills instead of "racing" with other people for something really useless.
This is the truest thing I've ever seen in my life. You just described me
EXACTLY!!!!!!! THIS IS HOW I FEEL
YES
I’m 18 and even I’m confused by how old these kids look… I was mad back then but I’m glad so wasn’t allowed to use ig when I was a pre-teen
Same. I didnt have a phone until I was 14.
I didn’t actively use Instagram until I was 16 (because I got my first smartphone then) hahahaha. Didn’t save me from a lot of weird stuff on the internet but I can only imagine how it would have impacted me if I started earlier
same I still look 15
Dang I’m 14 and people have mistaken me for an adult a lot.I think it’s just has to do with genetics or time itself maybe🤷🏾
@@Almond.stars666 same but it's because I'm very tall. Even when i was 8 people thought that i was 18!!! Kinda weird but ok
I'm 19 at the moment a 03' baby and even at this age I still feel like a child sometimes, I'm so concerned about this topic. My 13 year old cousin looks my age, tbh I'm a bit worried about her as social media standards have a big impact on teenage girls. When I was her age, I kept watching Disney Channel and reading fantasy books, unlike her, who is only on tiktok and instagram 24/7, its so sad because social media don't allow them to be kids anymore and live their stages correctly. The new generations are doomed, more depressed and anxious because of the trends.
She sounds like a lot of girls at my school. I'm 13 entering 8th grade and so many girls are on tiktok and Instagram usually sexualizing themselves and I see older boys and some men comment on their posts 🤢 I worry for these girls. Im more like how you were at 13 and I'm good with that
@@Iamthelizardqueenddaddy I’m also 13 in 8th grade already. Yesterday I literally heard two girls telling two other boys that VAPING is actually not THAT bad. They don’t do it, but that’s what they think of it i guess. I mean what the hell? No idea what made them think that but alright. Also, some of them are dating (or have dated) already. Some girl in my class asked me how it’s going with the boys last time😐😐 I don’t care about boys or anything like that. I’m 13. I want to talk about stuff I actually enjoy. They would just make fun of me for it tho. I don’t really have any friends either and I feel like they don’t care about me at all even if they’re kind to me lol. I can just tell by the way the look at me or the way the talk to me😕
I'm sorry to say, I'm 28...I still feel 14 most days...I'm almost 30!
these 12 year olds saying things like "i'm a woman, treat me like a adult!!" While i'm 18 and i sometimes feel like my MLP phase never ended 💀
MLP is bussin
WE LOVE THAT.
I’m 15 and this is me with monster high, I still love watching all the movies. And I still like watching the songs from mlp.
I'm going to be 26 next month and I still love mlp, so 🤷🏼♀️
@@Diiazy don’t misuse aave
a lot of people seem to have a wrong view of what teenagers actually like. most teenagers look up to what they see on tiktok or pinterest, instagram influencers aren’t really popular with us nor do we look up to them as much. a lot of the reason why teenagers dress so “suggestively” is because of the association with having a childhood and being “cringe”. many kids are shamed for playing with “pop its” or other childish things which is why they feel the need to act older.
Same thing with anime and manga. These mangaka don't understand what youth is about,the objectification of kids in anime and manga is disgusting.
Yeah when I was in middle school, many popular girls were those who look older and act older while me and my friends were despised for acting like how middle schoolers do
@@ArcaniaSkypirateDen9516 Yeah, I honestly can't get into a lot of animes for that
Pop its are literally an anti-stress toy that originally was made for adhd and autism
Same with TV shows. I get that having adult actors makes filming easier and it's less costly, but not the best for representation. Entertaining, sure, but def not accurate
God that comment about how if you’re not being sexualised it can feel like you’re not pretty enough for it... ouch
Like when the 97% stat came out, I can’t even begin to explain how awful I felt, and then guilt compounded it because 97% of women have been sexually harassed, why am I upset that I *haven’t* been? I think it’s also complicated because I’m autistic and don’t necessarily follow trends or social expectations, and then feel bad about that cos I’m not performing femininity right, plus I’m asexual so I really don’t ever want to have sex or anything even close... but why aren’t men sexualising me, I must be ugly. Not to mention they stereotype/assumption that ppl are asexual cos no one would have them. There’s so many compounding factors but it all adds up to me feeling ugly and inadequate and it sucks
Agreed. There is sadly a correlation between not feeling pretty and not being harassed. If you haven’t been harassed then you’re not pretty. Ugh. But this point is so spot on. I wish there was a way to teach young girls about untangling this ideal.
I’m in the exact same boat but I’m not asexual
Ohhhh this comment hits so hard for me. I'd like to say I've mostly gotten over this but... okay I got catcalled for the first time ever literally hours ago and it felt horrible but now I also feel like I'm part of this special shared experience? I hate these thoughts. Anyway, thanks for your comment
Ok but same like the thought "wow im glad im too ugly to be harassed" would cross my mind so often
@@PxssumPrxnce THIS!
Honestly, I never cared to be pretty. I always aimed to not call the attention of anyone. If you're too pretty you get catcalled and harassed. If you're deemed unattractive, you still get attention. It's not to say that women of all looks don't get unwanted attention. I just aimed at never getting any.
Fortunately, I don't feel like I missed out on "femininity" or enjoying my life because of it. I occasionally dress up maybe 3-4 times a year for events or a warm summer day, but I'm hyper aware of looks I get and how I'm perceived. I just dislike the attention.
I've also never felt unattractive because of my lack of harassment due to my more "masculine" dress. If anything, I've felt very lucky.
i'm 22. i didn't start getting male attention until i transferred to my current university. i cannot IMAGINE getting the attention i now get on dating apps and in general as a CHILD. i am so glad i got to really be a kid.
i’m glad i’m getting to be a kid 😂 but it’s only cause i’m ugly LMFAO
OMORI FAN!!
@@tigrispanthera5496that’s how I used to talk man. Ur not ugly I promise. Don’t focus on stuff like that. Growing into a good person is more important
I am 14, almost 15, and I feel so immature compared to classmates. I still like cartoons, play with toys, and go to places with my parents. It’s upsetting not being able to express my likes and interests with other teens my age because of the media sexualizing us so much. I don’t want to watch shows of kids my age doing drugs, or being a part of a gang. I want to be able to hang out with classmates and friends and have the same likes without it having to be so adult-like.
Same, and I'm 21. Those type shows honestly makes me depressed. I just want to the cuphead show.
@Hania Nayla I meant like lots of shows now show children having sex, doing drugs, or talking about topics like that. I am aware of some children do do stuff like that.
im 19 and can relate. at the end of highschool I started feeling left out because all everyone my age wanted to do was smoke and drink instead of bonding over actual interests. i have recently deleted tiktok and hardly use social media and indulge in the things I enjoy like reading and playing the sims it just sucks that I no one to talk about it with. i recently got made fun of because some kids from my college found my old youtube channel where I made doll videos.
I'm 23 and i still love cartoons. I don't wanna watch shows about sex and drugs. They're just boring and shallow. Do what you like. You need not comform to whatever they say is trending. And if they don't like you because of this. TRUST ME they are not worth it.
But btw. Once you stop feeling ashamed of this and you're comfortable and comfident, people around you will like you for it
It's hard at first but please don't give in
@@draculaissus6120 Same, I feel you!! I also recently deleted almost all of my social media and changed to a flip phone for some time. I hated how big of an impact it had for me and I’m 21 - I can’t imagine how 12/13 year old feel like and they probably don’t know a way out of it cause they are literally captured in this online world.
What I realized is, while being 21 and afraid of growing up I’m going back to my younger years and relive all the things I didn’t do cause I was chained to my phone or other peers thought it was uncool - I also played with dolls with friends when I was ‘still’ 12 (which is a fairly normal age to still play with dolls).
I started rollerskating again or playing card games with my parents or started collecting Monster High dolls.
Don’t let anybody tell you how to live your life. I feel like we’re missing out so much on how to actual live our life with social media always in front of us and judging everything we do. We don’t need to know what’s going on with everybody anytime. If we want to meet up with someone we can call or give a quick text but I hate the way social media dictated our every move.
Sorry for the rant, but I just felt seen! :)
im literally about to turn 19 in 3 days and i still watch mlp, i still have everything pink, i still draw cute animals and still occasionally pretend to be a mermaid when i swim. being a kid is awesome, being an adult sucks
You're my role model. Im 13 and I honestly hope growing up like this..
@@mahtabn.b5230 THIS comment made me tear up... Please please like what you want to, especially if it's "kid" stuff
That's not being a kid. That's just a stereotype of a kid.
No matter how old I get mlp will forever be in my heart
Awe same, im 18 n I’m not gonna stop loving that shit
My younger cousin (14) told me she lost her virginity at 13 and didn't stop sleeping around with a kid from her school for several months. She said she "was having a self confidence issue/personality crisis" and had sex because she "thought it would fix" her. She says she'll stop sexualizing herself, but wears the tightest clothes and shortest skirts because she feels like she needs to in order to feel pretty. We need to have more media encouraging kids to BE kids. It's disgusting children her age and younger need to do these kinds of things.
Adding on, we need to stop calling girls my age (16) women. It feels like I'm being aged up too quickly. I had a 42 year old man start flirting with me and told my mom (who was right next to me) that she needed to "watch out" and "protect me from all those guys" who want to have me. I wasn't wearing anything revealing, either. It was a long sleeved white sweater and jeans. I still had braces at the time. I hate everything about today's society.
At 13?! How did nobody find out?! Wtf are your cousin’s parents doing?! Society is de-evolving holy shit
@@puppydogs68 She said it was at school behind a classroom. She told her parents not that long ago, are still doing a really shitty parenting job (both sets of parents, bio parents got divorced and remarried. How can double the amount of parents raise a kid and still fail?). Literally a few weeks ago I had to convince my cousin to break it off with a boy who lived down the street from her
Broo I f ing hate when people my age (15 but it started 14) call girls women it is just soo disgusting like wtf
@@magi5842 Same. People should only call a girl a "woman" if they're 25 or older. That seems reasonable.
Disagree. You're a woman, legally, when you turn 18. We aren't going to fix this crap by infantilizing the actual adults.
I just wish these teens could experience the James brown “bumped ends” hair style. That is all. 😂
We gotta bring it back
The way that humbled us 🤧😅
This!!😂 It was definitely a humbling experience
No foreal 😂😂. Bumping my future kids ends just cause 😂😂🤦🏾♀️.
I did and I'm 15💀
i was at target with my boyfriend the other day, im 24 and i was looking at the swimsuits. Some younger girls came by looking at the same swimsuit and one of them kept going “omg i want to go to miami so bad id love to be flown out” and i was blown. the other girl looked at her and said “yeah miami is cool but you’re literally 14” I knew a girl who became a dancer at 18 then flew to miami with a 50+ year old man because she thought she was getting “flown out” and she literally thought he wouldnt do anything. When they got to the hotel he pretended that he accidentally only booked one room, when she flipped out he left, leaving her alone. She barely had money, a nice uber driver set her up with a different hotel and helped her set up a flight home and get in contact with her parents. It couldve turned out so wrong. It scares me that minors are thinking this is okay, because theyre looking up to influencers who are putting up a front and hiding the reality of their situation. you only see the glitz and glamour bits
I wish posts made by influencers came with more warnings and messages like how they are obliged by Instagram's terms and conditions to mention whether their post is sponsored. So many people want to be influencers and live their lives without realizing that most of what they post is fake and most of the products, clothes, bags, shoes, etc. they have are just sponsored, gifted or even rented. Not to mention normalizing the "sugar baby" lifestyle. I don't mean that there is anything abnormal with people who choose (or are forced due to circumstances) to get into sex work, I will never judge someone who is honest about what they do and do what they can to stay afloat and/or to provide to their families. The problem is that I've seen so many sugar babies go on talk shows and social media platforms promoting what they do as just a "simple, easy" way to make money. They leave out the fact that sexual favors are done in exchange for their money and lifestyle and so young girls will grow up looking up to them and thinking that they could do the same thing because all those "sugar daddies" want is just good companionship when, in fact, it's darker than that.
@@floraflowers Also another problem i notice is that “influencers” gets to go to different places most of them drop out of hs/college. Young ppl do not know that trips are expensive… You can’t earn a lot of money at a young age unless your parents are wealthy or you have a social media account with 1M subscribers etc. They really don’t look deeper to the subject and some often think doing trips must be easy or fun
There really needs to be a push towards educating younger people about the reality of human trafficking. People seem to want to ignore it because its ugly but social media has completely changed the human trafficking landscape so its much more likely that anyone can get caught up
most girls who are getting flown out are doing it in return for s*x. They are escorts.
oh my god?
there’s literally a whole ‘nsfw’ side of twitter for minors like why is that so normalised?? people are posting posts of themselves or engaging sexually online but i dont think they realise how vulnerable they’re actually making themselves
Instagram Twitter and tiktok are all cesspits on 90% of their platforms and it's horribly monitored and the algorithm they made that is supposed to "solve" issues doesn't work for shit.
Wait WHAT??
@@j0auts i knew about MAPs but AAMs?! wtffffff
@@Matty002 yup .. so disturbing
Twitter should literally be disposed of. Not a single good thing has come from twitter
I get teased by my friends for being flat-chested and 5’1”. I’m 12. It’s more of a puberty thing rather than a sexual thing. But the real question is, why am I being picked on for not looking like Kim K as a tween?
in 7th grade a boy told me i had small tits. who would have guessed a CHILD doesn’t have the body of an adult
I’m 11 and my friends told me that I’m “the flattest person here” when they all wear extra bra pads.. like what did you expect I was born in 2012💀
You THINK it’s a puberty thing and not a “sexual” thing….
Im 11 but I look like im 13 but it makes sense i am tall and dress nicely but my dressing style is like this because yes , i eat heathly etc . And my first period happend when im just 10. ye bye oh I forgot that im born in 2011
hey girly, its may be because since older girls on social media are the sort of girls your friends may want to look like and idolise. so they probably think thats what they should look like. since you probably aren’t influenced by these girls, which you shouldn’t be considering how much older they are and spending your younger years how you should be, they probably think that you’re not as “cool” or whatever. but in reality you are perfectly normal. but this could not be the reason. either way, if your friends pick on you for your looks they probably are not very good friends and you should consider surrounding yourself with kinder people. i hope this helped :)
as a fellow end of the "technologically advanced human centipede" i am FLOORED by this video... peak content
Literally watching ur video rn and the CONTENT!!! Chefs kiss
Hi
I'm almost fifteen and ever since I started being aware of boys when I was like 8, I started thinking boys and MEN were thinking a specific way about me. Which is not only disgusting, but it's left me with a really big fear of the way males perceive me and a constant awareness of who could be attracted to me at any moment. Not only has this worsened my already bad social anxiety, but it's created a hatred of myself that sometimes feels insurmountable. I adore all the videos you mentioned that also talked about this subject, and I really feel this as a younger-teen
Same here. And it stops you from seeking friendships with boys because you think they wouldn’t be interested
I suggested watching videos or reading about the male gaze if you haven’t already. Learning about the patriarchy and how it effects young women/girls has empowered me so much when I was a teen❤️
I like the RUclips channel “the take” they talk a lot about social media !
Holy shit, you just perfectly described the exact way I feel
As someone who was pursued by a "friend" that was twice my age, since I was 13, I know exactly what you're talking about... The fear of men is understandable in this kind of situation, and I promise there's nothing wrong with you. The fear of men usually gets better, the more you learn about the male gaze, and meet other people in life. I really reccomend talking to an adult you trust about this (I had no one like that, but there are many other ways to get help, like in my case crisis hot lines for minors), it helps a bunch, and helps to recover from the trauma🧡 important thing to realize is that as fu*ked up as our world is sometimes, there are good people too, and I promise you it will get better. You're a cool cookie, I believe in you!
(sorry for my english, it's not my first language😅)
I remember in middle school many years ago. Boys bashing all the things young girls liked back then that were trending (Justin Bieber, One Direction, Twilight Saga etc..) and now being and adult I see that many girls do in fact skip that tween phase. I think a bit of that bashing of girls innocence has affected how many girls have grown up. Girls now seem to go straight to wanting to please men and/or look and feel sexual. The way women are portrayed in modern media and movies have definitely not helped.
it's happening with kpop
lol the making fun of those girls was just fun 😭 dont take it so deep. I'm a girl and I was also making fun of those girls and they just ignored the haters
@@sol7476 it may have been fun to you but extremely damaging to others. You can't invalidate someone's feelings by saying "don't take it so deep." People who pick on others always have this mindset that it was just jokes but if roles were reversed it'd be a different story. it ain't no fun when the rabbit got the gun
@@ryna222 I was physically bullied and verbally bullied etc for many years, trust me it really isnt deep saying 1D is cringe when it is LMAO
@@sol7476 *to you* . you don’t get to invalidate someone’s feelings because you’ve been bullied or bc you’re a girl like what- 💀
as an aroace teenager, I tend to stay away from social media because if I don't, society would rub it in my face that the only way to be pretty is to be "sexy" or "hot".
I don't want to be sexualised but I still want to look beautiful, and, according to social media, it's impossible.
You do very well and remember, when you grow up, you can become as much sexy or mature as you want for the rest of your life.
Enjoy your childhood now and don't get affected from the pressure.
Same here (I'm an aro/ace teen too)! We just want to dress in our favourite styles but get judged by others because of how social media has presented being 'beautiful/handsome' if you don't fit into the neat boxes they've drawn for you to be seen as pretty you'll be labelled as 'unfashionable' or 'ugly'. I only have social media for following friends, finding funny videos and trying on filters. I hate how wanting to look pretty is also seen as wanting to be sexual by mostly older people but also other teenagers.
Yea
Aroace adult who didn't use social media in high school. I promise you and your mental health will be better without it. I had to watch as different apps wrecked my classmates and little sister's mental health.
Did the same exact thing except it's because i was so anxious with people in general.
As a 14 year old with friends on both sides of the scale (t-shirts with mermaids vs. ones that say “fuck you”)
I think it’s really interesting when I see pictures from the early 2000’s of kids my age.
I completely agree with everything you said, and I also think things like makeup tutorials are involved, they might not be directly targeted at us, but we’re watching them and all of a sudden things like black eyeliner which would earlier seem foreign are accessible.
I personally, have gotten into cottage core/vintage style. I feel like I’ve managed to dress in a stylish but age-appropriate way that makes me feel confident, and it’s clothes that were really made for my age group, because they were made before social media. I just wanted to add my two cents as an actual 14 year old. I loved the video
YES Vintage is my style I just know it, this trendy fashion isnt for me
Vintage fashion is the best! I particularly like those 1950 halter tops and rompers
i looove the mod style from 1960’s! and i completely agree, sometimes i even knit my own clothes since its super fun
as another 14 year old i completely agree
@@PrettyyAngell same! I think 70s fashion is more trending now but i prefer 50s and 60s fashion
The ONLY thing that prevented me from sexualizing myself too early was having an incredibly loving and supportive family at home. I knew my worth as I was loved at home, aka by the people that mattered most, and my mother and sister were role models who also would prevent me from growing up too quickly while my father was loving and providing. I know this isn’t everyone’s case but I think this factor is just ONE of the millions of reasons that a healthy home environment is so necessary for a child to become a healthy adult. It makes me realize how incredibly grateful I should be & am and how incredibly lucky I am.
Yup! Now, I ended up sheltering myself a little too much affecting my social life and didn’t start dating into my 20s. But I remember the few parties I went to in high school and just watching everyone whining and grinding on each other, and feeling like “how are they so comfortable with doing this?” lol, even i front of adults sometimes. My peers treated me like a baby but I never succumbed to peer pressure.
yes, i totally agree! even family income plays a role, i’ve noticed. girls with lower economic resources are more likely to be preyed upon as they’re more vulnerable, and thus more likely to become sexual early on
@@marif2993 100% and adding to that, a two parent household is almost always better off financially than a single parent household, which further emphasizes the need for stable family environment for any child
@@marif2993 Good point. They don't usually have the opportunity enough to have as much guidance let alone education from parents who are not as available. I grew up in a single household basically step dad was always at work and my mother was forced to grow up early so couldn't provide us porper guidance in our pre teens. As a result we thought it was normal to sexualize ourselves outside of the household at such a young age. Its something we had to relearn on our own. It made me realize I put myself in really uncomfortable situations when I was younger.
I grew up in a extremely conservative household that did not let me show skin at all so I learned to hide things better as I got older
Remember when kids aren’t afraid to be “cringy”?
What happened to those times?
bc they didn’t get bullied for it
The word "cringy" wasn't used when I was a tween in 2010, but all the sudden my "friends" tried to sneak teen magazines into camp and talk about "Jonas Brothers" and "Dr. Who" being SO HOT, and everyone around me was wearing eyeliner and pushing me out of rooms and their little circles for "still being a kid" because I didn't want to wear makeup and swoon over Dr. Who (who cares?), I just wanted to play pretend outside
They would make fun of me in a passive aggressively "nice" way for not having facebook or watching their TV shows
People bullied them
@@grain9640 how old were you ?
@@iiii12345 I was about 11... the funny thing is that almost everyone involved was wearing silly bands but wishing they had the means to either dress full emo, or dress like a female celebrity
These girls many google image searches for outfits that definitely wouldn't suit an 11 year old, but were like "I wish I had an outfit like Selena Gomez has in this picture..."
I didn't know much about pop culture, I just played Minecraft Alpha and then went outside dug up worms in the back yard and made mud bricks on the patio. I didn't watch TV, so I was always out of the loop and confused
It’s heartbreaking seeing girls sexualized to a point they ended up at 12-17 years old looking and acting sexual to be mature. Such a shame they won’t let these girls be kids again. It’s already messed up that some of those minors want to date adults without realizing the horrible truth. Cherish your childhood, don’t toss it away to be more mature it will destroy your mindset.
12-17 don’t have childhood teenagehood cause their older and mature
There is a problem with girls sexualizing themselves falling for older predators, but not boys with older women😂.
It's funny because for boys and men they can be tricked by older women and consent with them...
"cherish your childhood" how am I supposed to cherish it? I can't think of anything to possibly do while I'm still a kid, but my childhood ends in 3 months so there's not enough time anyway
@@iiCounted-op5jx get offline for a while, pick up things you can enjoy in person like drawing or writing, id say my "childhood" ended at about 14, and before even then i thought it was over. it isn't, trust me. just treasure moments and don't try to change yourself for anyone
This helped me realize something huge for myself. I'm 25 now, but I wanted to be an adult since I was 8 years old. Why? Because I wanted to be respected and have autonomy over myself. Wow.
Same I couldn’t wait to have my own place and be able to maintain myself . Also I wanted money so I could buy what I wanted because as as child I couldn’t really get certain toys or stuff because we were low on money 😅
oh wow, now that I think about it, it’s kinda how I feel as well 😳
right? I think most of the kids don't like being called kids and stuff like that not bc they necessarily want to grow up, but bc when you're a kid you're can be treated really bad by adults, like I lost count of how many time I heard "you're a kid, you can't want anything, you just do what people tell you" whenever I said I didn't want to do something, so I unconsciously started to associate being respected, heard and not looked down on to being and adult and I think a lot of kids feel like that too (I'm 16 btw)
Andddd then you realize that women don’t have autonomy no matter how old you are. I’m with you 😢 same age and same experience
I was about to say that. I felt a lot less when I was a kid and felt like I needed to grow up to be respected. People need to learn that kids should still be respected. How the hell will they know how to act around others if they're not?
I admire Jojo for really sticking to her style and being a positive role model for children. I have a niece heading toward her tween years and I’m so happy she has someone like Jojo to look up to!! I wish she had more appropriate people to watch!
tbh i heard that Jojo was having a hard time can anyone explain?
Why does the choice of cloth someone decides to put on their body make them a positive or a negative role model? And why do you think it's any of your business what other people do with their own bodies?
@@Zoe-sn9tb it’s not so much the clothes for me cause I’m all for wearing whatever you want. I’m more focused on the persons actions.. I wouldn’t want my nieces to see someone like Bhad Bhabie with her “dgaf I do what I want” attitude when she was a child, and who also normalized doing adult things as a minor. I mostly just want kids to be kids. The pressure of having to grow up as quickly as possible is toooo real for younger generations growing up now.
@@Zoe-sn9tb Jojo was a child acting like a child. Not growing up too fast and embracing her style despite people telling her to ‘grow up’ - telling a child to ‘grow up’. It’s funny bc if she did act ‘grown’ she’d be criticized for that and told to ‘act her age’.
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I turn 18 in a few weeks and honestly it is terrifying thinking that someone my age is starting an onlyfans...
For real!! I think many girls do it for a sense of “support”, “attention”, etc.
I turned 18 like two weeks ago and just knowing that there's entire platforms dedicated to "barely legal teen" sexual content sends a shiver up my spine at random moments
I'm turning 18 next year, I'm terrified.
Stay mad. Some people pay their bills with it
@@foggycraw6758 to me, needing to do it for shelter and survival is entirely different from doing it just to do it.
Peer pressure is also a thing. I'm 14 and my friends are all super mature and look older than they are. I feel like a 10 year old playing with my dolls and plushies ://
enjoy your childhood while you can
i love playing with my plushies bro. I'm 14 too. They sometimes get annoying because I'm running out of space on my bed.
Your friends are not mature
Who else was always told by other kids “wow you seem so innocent” literally from 9-14 like????was I not supposed to be
A girl in my class asked if I was “pure” and I was frankly so confused because we are 14 🤨 miss girl do you have something to tell the class
i remember saying i liked the magic school bus in second grade and someone said that the magic school bus is for babies 🤠 THE MAGIC SCHOOL BUS?!?!!?!?
DUDE I CAN RELATE SO MUCHHH I’m currently 13 but I see so many of my peers and even their younger siblings telling me “wow ur so innocent it’s adorable” like ummm
I always got told this. The last time I got told this was 9th grade. Now that you mentioned it I’m like yeah I should’ve been the way I am bc I was super young 😐
@@omelettexmoa2995 some kids in my class would make fun of me for liking mlp and monster high in 2nd grade, like what the hell else was i supposed to be watching/playing with?!
Tiktok makes me feel like a boomer at 17, i don’t understand anything that happens there. Its controversial to say “middle schoolers shouldnt be wearing corsets and pleaser heels and garters”
same and im 17 too
19, and there are times I almost forget that I myself am a part of Gen Z because of how disconnected I feel from others in my generation, it makes a little sad actually...
I haven’t seen corsets used in a sexual context yet, only for historical cosplay, but I do agree that they shouldn’t be wearing garters and heels.
@@pisstakecentral It's a fandom thing. Referencing a game character. Please refrain from commenting on things you don't actually know about, thank you, Mister Piss.
@@pisstakecentral its a fictional character, not the actual satan lmao
I feel so bad for the girls who are being sexualized and don't even realize how bad it is for them
yeah, but I cringe and say "yikes" at videos like 0:35.
They're not sexualized, they're sexualizing themselves
@@sasha8445 same!!
@@uax4567 I think they're both, as if it's better to look 18 and older at 13 like what... Just be a kid, pretty much anyone now is younger than me (I'm 17 now) and I'd tell them to not give into the pressure and go follow their passions because being a child doesn't last forever. These past few years haven't been the best for me and now I'm literally a year away from being an adult and I'm not ready for that responsibility.
@@uax4567 no lol they’re being pressured to sexualize themselves by society. A child cannot make the conscious choice to sexualize themselves and understand the consequences that come with that (people harassing them) because if they could they wouldn’t do it.
I’m 11 about to be 12 in November and I still play with dolls… I’m a loser bro 😭 I still watch Monster High and some girl tried to make me feel bad about it- WHAT ABOUT IT?!
I did that too at that age lol, don't feel ashamed or embarrassed! It's so worth it.
but the thing is, you aren't a loser. you're a kid doing kid things, which is how its supposed to be.
Honey you are not a loser, you are a CHILD. I'm pushing 30 and one of the things I like most in the world are toys! I love looking through toy websites or listings on eBay and seeing how they are designed. I find them so cute and fun to look at, touch and play with. You should never, ever be shamed for doing what you love, especially "child" things when you are a child; putting age restrictions on things (except ofc adult matters that are not safe for kids, like sexualization) is a cruel social invention. I know it's rough out there, the world is full of bullies and the internet amplifies it. But never give up on your freedom, your childhood and the joy of doing what you love. It is your life!
I literally still own the dolls after 6 years. The hell you saying your too old for it and a Loser come on! That's like a flex saying I still own Monster High dolls.
What are you talking about your not a loser your so cool for that ! I love those same things too it’s amazing just keep doing what you love I don’t have a problem.