FRENCH MEN DECODED: From dating a French man to married to a French Man - things I've noticed! 🇫🇷
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Ahh the elusive FRENCH MAN! Dating French me is quite the experience, but then try being married to a Frenchman! I know that there's a lot of curiosity around French relationships, how to date in France, French men, how to woo a french man... And while there's a lot of content out there on how to date a French man or the dating in France rules (aka you're exclusive right away...), what about the next step? When you live with a French man? When you're married to a Frenchman? When you start to notice those funny little habits, traits and behaviours?
So, once the dust settles after dating a French guy for a while, what does it look like to enter into a committed relationship with a French man?
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Being french myself, I definitely recognize the way I behave here and I guess I can give you a little bit of personal perspective on that.
First, the french society is sensible about wealth inequality and we tend to avoid public symbolic displays of wealth discrepancy. It is OK to wear expensive jewellery among people who can afford it but you just don't rub it on the face of everyone in the public space, it's not socially accepted. So, even among closest friends and relatives and even within the couple, we don't extravagantly show off. We tend to choose meaningful gifts over expansive gifts. The message here is that we care about our relationship and memories together but we don't try to put ourselves above or buy affection in any way.
We tend to be brutally honest with the people we care about : honesty above ease of mind. I have no problem telling a stranger he is doing great without believing a word but I would feel like a terrible liar doing the same to a person I care about. The idea is that I don't want to put a friend is a bubble of fake validation that stops him from trying harder and becoming the best version of himself. I believe that, as long as it is really constructive and reciprocal, is more about us sharing tips, improving ourselves together and becoming a better community than an actual critic. I can see how it can be taken the wrong way and be annoying.
In France, we are told from an early age that history and politic are meaningful and that we have to make the effort to be informed and capable citizens. Politics is a common topic of discussion and sharing about it strengthens our sense of community, even if we disagree.
I don't really know why we tend to state the obvious that much. I can only say that weather and food are usually considered safe icebreakers to start a conversation. So when a french person talks about the weather, the expectation is probably not just to have a whole conversation about the weather.
The display of emotions by french men is definitely a social gender role thing taught through boys education. I believe it is slowly evolving into better acceptation but when I was a kid, it was really not ok for a boy to display too much emotions. Men here are expected to stay composed at most times and only display emotions at extreme moments. I'm a grown up and I don't believe I've seen my dad cry more than twice.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I find my French Fella often is blunt with me, sometimes to the point of being hurtful. However, I do find when I am straight with him, he suddenly gets very sensitive and withdraws. Do you find that French people take criticism or straight talk from their loved ones very well? And do you appreciate it when people are blunt with you? I am asking genuinely out of curiosity, not as an insult to you. Thanks.
@@lindsaymunroe2641 Well, first of all, l guess I have to clarify that a constructive critic has to check two boxes : avoid shifting the person goal and make it clear where or how to put the effort. Now if you're already there, well, I suppose I would tell the guy to man up and take the critic gracefully but you do what you're comfortable with.
In the end, the point is not to trash anyone, the point is that without a challenging argument, the crowd is dumber than the individual but with it, the crowd can build better solutions than anyone individually.
I agree it's a narrow line you can only find using empathy and the choice of words can be critical.
I take pride from being considered trustworthy enough so people around me feel confident to be honest with me. The worst would be to trust someone judgement and then realize it was all a lie to make me feel better.
Also, brutal honesty doesn't take away the compliments, it makes those more meaningful.
Now, don't apologize for challenging my point, from my point of view, you're doing it the right way. :D
@@lindsaymunroe2641 May I add ... most of the time, the tone you use is as much important than what you say. French ears are sensible to the tone ;-)
I’ve NEVER seen my dad cry. Never. Not when i got hit by a car, not when my parents separated. Angry ? Sometimes. Cry ? Never. Guess that happened. But gosh that had to be rare…
@@lindsaymunroe2641 Tough topic. French aren’t sensitive to the same topics as Anglo cultures. And there is place for individuals in there. Generally speaking, if you are years into your relationship, if your SO is avoidant then don’t be confrontational. Calmly put out your feelings. If its a more fusional relationship you can turn up the heat, but that doesn’t seem to be the case.
As a massive generality many, many french guys are a bit avoidant, and won’t like massive dramas. They’ll feel more opened to carefully thought-out arguments. But all that is very general ;)
About how we "Say it how it is", we wouldn't be "Français" without being "Franc" :p
Lol. 😂
Joli!
Mais il faut équilibrer avec le fameux "tourne ta langue sept fois dans ta bouche avant de parler" afin de retenir certains élans dommageables.
I’d sometimes prefer a beautiful lie than an ugly truth !!!
@@exvaleureuxrenard6072 NON !! tourne 7 fois ta langue dans MA bouche ....
Nice 😂
I’ve found that French men are very gentlemanly. They really know how to treat a lady (or man)!
My French boyfriend is very specific about the foods that he buys. I find that of French people in general, the quality of the food here is just so much better. The other day at the market i wanted to buy a zucchini and he was surprised and all like "it's not in season!". But look, there are zucchini's literally right there! Let's buy one! He is incredibly thoughtful about his food and enjoys telling me the journey of the block of cheese he got from his mom sort of thing. Although on the contrary and fortunately for me, he doesn't judge and will actually join me in eating chips and chocolate bars. Since lockdown started we like to netflix and junkfood. 2020 amirite!?
Food in season is friendlier to the planet ! (And also tastier). Buying in season is a way to push shops to sell only on season food and decrease the transport and energy used to create out of season food. (Same goes with buing local). So let's be badasses and save the planet by buying zucchini when it's zucchini time 😎😎😎
@@luluunnomdefamilleaupifcar5170 It is especially friendlier for your HEALTH. As all the vegetables and fruits you eat prepare you to face the following season and catch less infections, flues, viruses...
@@luluunnomdefamilleaupifcar5170 Pardon, ce n'est pas le sujet, mais j'ai passé 5 minutes à me taper des barres à cause de ton pseudo 🤣🤣 Merci 🙏
@@luluunnomdefamilleaupifcar5170 In season food is def tastier no doubt. These were local veg though they were grown in a greenhouse in the region. i was at a local market not a shop. I've def learned a lot about food shopping from the french, but not buying a greenhouse zucchini is not going to save the planet. It's about making balanced and responsible decisions as a lifestyle. Any regular person is going to have some imported products in their kitchens. Try living in Northern Canada and not buying any imported foods during winter, lol.
I can relate hahahahahha
I’m French, and if I want to eat some candy, chips or something like that, I have to hide from my husband 🤭. and several days later I receive a message : « are you serious ?! You ate all chips ? I don't want to hear you complaining that you are sick anymore... » 😅😭
Sorry if my english is approximate 😵...
I really love this video 🥰❤️
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I dated a Dane for almost two years, a lot of this stuff is very similar especially about healthy eating, politics, frankness and not being fussy about occasions or big gestures.
I feel like in general the educated Europeans (wealthier countries) don't make a big deal since they know it's all marketing.
@@mariasoto1837 I think it has more to do with culture. Tbh I think it also a Protestant / Catholic country thing. I’m from Ireland which though no longer religious at all, one of richest and most educated per capita in the world but it’s a Catholic base culture and Denmark is Protestant and a lot of things are similar to the Protestant Minority thropes and obviously like the British ones.
@@sams3015 sorry but I'm British and there's no comparison with the French on this level.We tend to do all we can to avoid conflict or offending anyone. When interacting with people, we show enthusiasm, share our experiences, ask questions, we are not fussy and get excited about things. But maybe that's cos I'm from the North and Catholic! lol
Yes and no. Scandinavians are very emphatic and sensitive to other people’s feelings. Studies have been made about this. Danish men wouldn’t have a problem with your eating. Maybe if you have gained a lot - like 15 kg or more. Other than that most of them are pretty laid back. But, sure, some of them can be neurotic. I would say a lot of the traits mentioned in the video, if you see them in a Danish man, he’s more to the neurotic side.
This video could have been titled "Dating a french person" haha (i'm a french girl and I act in my love relationship litteraly like your husband 😊)
I was about to write the same thing 😅 I thought it would be more "relationship" oriented than "french habits" like the diamond ring thing
The soap thing made me laugh. I said the same thing recently 😂 For me, it's like, if you do it, do it right, unless don't. I already ate something with a spoon that fizzed on my tongue....dry soap .... 🤢
@@NotEvenFrenchif it may ruins a meal, of course it is a major concern :-P
@@NotEvenFrench La solution ? Un lave-vaisselle ! Mon meilleur ami dans la cuisine.
@@charline7956 Yes, why on earth would you like to leave soap suds on plates? They are chemicals that could potentially blend with your food and find their way into your stomach. When people shower, don't they rinse off shampoo and soap from their body? Is it an Anglo-Saxon thing? Never heard of any Swedish people not rinsing their plates. But I do remember a Scottish friend expressing his disgust at English people not rinsing their plates. :))
So your saying never ask a Frenchman if your pants make you look fat unless you are prepared to hear yes. 😆
french : it's my favourite movie
others: what do you love so much about it ?
french: calm down.
THAT HAIR COLOR, LOOKS AMAZING ON YOU! :).
I'm French, and I confirm the nagging. French are basically experts in everyday life somehow.
I don't do much around relatives or husband because everybody has their strong opinion about how to do things.
I'm like "well, I either do it my way, or you do it yourself." So, I don't do much ahah.
We also need a "things you have to know about New-Zealander women" video. We need it quickly. :-D
@@NotEvenFrench Thank you
Your hair color looks great, Ms Rosie!
I think French people like to enjoy the moment. So you're gonna say facts, but because you like it. The famous : "on n'est pas bien là ? Les plaisirs simples de la vie ! "
The engagement ring thing is more of a European cultural thing. I've only ever seen big engagement rings on American women. I live in the UK and I've never seen those big rings on anyone. It would honestly be seen as tacky.
Agree. I remember from my time in Germany 30 years ago that an engagement ring was a non event. Just usually a small charming stone (like birth stone) on an unassuming band. But honestly, if the woman would like that kind of ring, no matter where you’re from, the guy should be on board and supportive, especially for “mixed marriages” (different nationalities)!
Discussing politics was also big in Germany too.
And a waste of money.
I was just gonna say the same thing. I've never seen any crazy big rings in Europe, just in American series.
No it's not (tacky). Your aristocracy wears those sorts of massive rings. Wear what you wish to wear. Just don't wear them in the tube or on a beach or walking solo down a street. They have a place....to wow people. That's why they are made and bought.
@@brucemarsico6 AGREE!
I've been with my Frenchman for 3 years now and yes, all true haha Though on many things I'm like him so I don't notice it that much (I'm similar about healthy eating, love chatting about politics, philosophy or general facts, etc). One very true thing that made me laugh is their obsession with doing things in certain ways. I've definitely noticed with chopping, washing dishes, etc.
He told me that at the beginning of the relationship he was trying to keep the complaining (about politics or everything else, you know, it's their national sport) and critics low to not scare me off apparently 😂😂
And they are very thoughtful with gifts and pay a lot of attention to what would make their partners happy, which I think it's very sweet.
My South African wife showed me your video, thanks a lot now I feel like a bossy monster 🙈😂
Oh the telling me how to do something, like styling my hair, washing my hands, HOW TO FOLD A TOWEL so it fits better in the wardrobe drives me up the wall. I love my guy, but after looking after a household of 4 (divorced now) I would rather spend my time perfecting a painting than folding laundry meticulously. makes me crazy and feels like I can't do anything right. lol
Love your videos! Always on point and accurate. And this hair color suits you perfectly!
I’m not a guy but that’s exactly how I was when I was dating an American guy, it’s so on point!
simple ring, discussion instead of proposal , simple jewellery, facts, orientation, right way, how to eat, brutally honest, politics, no hype about holidays or movies...so true for my French husband
"Because I HAVE limits!" LoL Dead
I think it is totally normal to read signs in a museum, so I’m not sure that is a French thing. I do think the bande-dessinée reading is cute too! My French boyfriend gets very emotional during movies but will later deny it. Like we watched Coco together and he was way more emotional than I was. I had to stop to get him some tissues. :)
Rosie! It's nice to see you again!
With regards to the politics thing, I think it's a European thing in general. I dated a guy from the UK and all he spoke about was history and politics. (almost lost my mind since as a South African we don't really like talking about history and politics. It's such a sensitive topic for us. LOL)
This makes so much sense! When I was in San Francisco there was a group of people speaking French and they were communicating about every stop on the shuttle to the airport. I just thought about my stop and just checked out until I got there. I was wondering if they were confused about their stop because they were talking about it so much but their conversation always ended with repeating their destination.
Right?! You just think "okay, so I need to start paying attention/gather my things after ___stop because the stop after that is mine".
I would say, you know you're dating a french man if you don't celebrate Valentine's day but do celebrate the Beaujolais nouveau !
And you just proven you have no taste in wine... Sorry, I'm French and a woman.
No way.. disgusting stuff most years.
If he celebrates the Beaujolais nouveau, find a new French boyfriend, cause that shit is disgusting.
Yes we are more eager to go for that kind of foody tradirions, that's right.
Beaujolais nouveau is our junk food, you can indulge once a year...
Hey, I just wanted to drop a message on here to say hello and thanks for still making your content. I have recently decided to start making some podcast on french culture too. I was the one who made that facebook group 'married to a french man' which I left as soon as I found out we were getting divorced. I don't talk about my relationship online anymore. But I am still talking about french culture. I agree with everything you say about the differences with french men and being married etc. It is quite different to men from other cultures... I'm so happy to be a single gal again. It's a new lease of life. Divorce is amazing lol. Keep going with your channel, you're great. X
me: named ana luiza
everytime rosie would say ana luisa: omg she's talking about me!!!! wait--
Belle vidéo, beau travail. Fort intéressante et amusante. Elle m'a permis, néanmoins, de comprendre plus de choses sur les "cultur shocks". Ce qui rend les couples ou les regroupements interculturels très remarquables. Merci pour ces instants de partage.
Vivement la prochaine.
PS : Si j'écris en français, c'est pour ceux qui veulent en profiter. Free stuff guys !
I'm a french girl and I also correspond to all of this ^^ So it's not juste french men, but french in general ;)
I love that I too am naturally like the French in many ways without even knowing. I correct my partner, I am vegan (eat healty), not very enthusiastic about many things but have an interest in art and international culture. I also hate the consumeristic mindset around holidays and I personally don't like flashy clothes or jewelry. Although since I am Aussie all my friends are from around the world.
Being Asian, I find it so funny that French quirks are the same as a lot of these points are things my parents or I do! 😄
Anyway, love the colour Rosie! It looks amazing on you! ❤
I'm a French man and used to date an English girl a while ago. I've made those mistakes patronising her about food or the right and wrong things to do. I regret it now because it doesn't really matter after all. Mais c'est la vie 🤷🏼♂️
When you were talking about the "geolocalisation" thing... I've never noticed it because it's so normal for me but... Yeah, we french people do that a lot ! ^^
My dad does this all the time on hikes and I love stuff and fiding stuff from high places. Literally today i was at the top of a tower in my university and we were pointing some stuff out through the window as we ate our lunch "here the pantheon", "oh isn't that Sorbonne Lettre?", etc...
Geolocalisation, creating a mental map is rather a masculine thing, scientifically speaking, enhanced by the fact of been a Parisian, by nature having to constantly rely on (public transportation, road traffic, cycle paths, carsharing) maps.
I feel like this is also very pan-European. I'm married to a Serb and all this also applies to my husband!
Love your video! I have news for you, my husband is Italiano and he’s just like what you described! Hugs from Prescott Arizona ❤️
Lovely hair and shirt, very chic :)
I was married to a French for 12 years and I must say that I share the same observations as you. Being obsessed about facts brought back memories where my French husband would enter into a huge debate with his 80 year-old aunt on the ingredients in aioli. This went on for awhile until one of them fetched a worn-out thick Larousse to seal the debate. This normally happened during meal time and I loved it because there was interesting conversations, arguments, learning and the fact that they preferred to check the Larousse than googling on the phones.
Politics - yeesssss! My French husband took such an interest in Malaysian (I am Malaysian) politics when he moved here so much so that he would come along to election campaign speeches with me, never mind if he didn't understand the local language fully.
Do you not notice how they love a good argument as well? I don't mean snarky spiteful argument over personal issue but about politics. social issues, food, etc.
Before I forget, they also seem self-sufficient; i.e. My late husband, his brother and male French friends can bake, cook, clean, sew, etc. Apparently their moms taught them how to bake yoghurt cakes when they were as young as nine years old.
Anyway, I love these traits (if you can call them that). :)
Yeees a video on sunday 🥰
Didn't know we were living together! Yet you know me so well! ;-) Signed: a French man!
I love the little impersonations she does 😂 like at 16:49
I know it, LMAO
Oui, c'était pas mal..... I ABSOLUTELY love it! So, So true. Thanks.
Thank you for a new video ! Greetings from Perú ❤️
I am of the opinion that if someone doesn't like the way I do something, I am happy to have them do it themselves. Lol
I'm dating a French Man ( 4years) and she IS SPEAKING ALL FACTS
And do u think the relationship becomes too dry and serious ?❤
I now understand you are back in New Zealand. I am Scotto-Armenian or Ameno-Scottish, living in France, Paris, my place of birth. I have long wondered what exactly makes the Anglos and the French so different. You have answered my questions. Thank you! Hugs, Anouche.
Thank you for another super interesting episode.
I’m planning to move to France in a couple of years & was thinking I’ll probably end up dating a French man but now, I’m wondering if we’d get a long! I’m so the opposite of most of what you just mentioned! 😂🤦🏻♀️🙏🏻
Well you never know because moving abroad means that you will change yourself a little bit and not all French people are the same. And I will add that loving debates means generally that we are curious and willing to learn new things. So being different can be a good thing!
Good luck with your plans! 😊
Yes, you would. Everything is a case by case basis. Personally, I find French guys to be very charming.
@@morganel8208 very true! And maybe we could both pick up the positives from each other. Thank you 😊
@@NotEvenFrench haha! True! boredom is the worst .... to be honest I can’t wait for my life in France. Brexit is not going to make it easy though! but I’ll be eating my occasional chips and chocolate whether he likes it or not! 😁🤣🤣🤣
@@TreenaBeena I do find them charming and gentlemen but I’ve never gone out with one. Still looking forward to it after your comments 😄🙌🏻😎
Ha ha 2 1/2 years into my relationship with my Frenchman, I never clicked on a video so fast. I've realized the ring thing, so I actually sent him a detailed email about what I want long before I actually expected to get it, so that I can still be surprised. I don't know when we'll be engaged, but at least I know he'll know what kind of ring I want. 🤣😁
This was soooo good hahahh👌😂
I'm not french but I'm Belgian (french grandma, Congolese grandad) and I definitely do the critiquing thing with everything and also food. I live in Scotland and my partner hates it. I really try to stop doing it but it's like it's ingrained into me.
Also very blunt and she tells me all the time to tone it down because I could be offensive.
Honestly all these things apply to me, apparently I'm a Frenchman 😂.
8:10 : Dear, this ability is a mandatory survival tool in the parisian subway !
Parisian commuters hate with a devilish passion three kinds of people : those who block the way on a heavily trafficked interchange corridor while looking for their way on a wall map, those who block the way on a travelator by standing next to each other instead of leaving the left-most part of it for commuters on a hurry, and loud-speaking (sorry, americans and australians, you're in !) people on a train.
It couldn't hurt if they could learn and wait until other people are done getting off the metro, though 😅
Same in NYC on the subway
Every single one 😅😂🤭 thank you! Only a few weeks in as well. So crazy!
Thank you. Your comments are very valueable and helpful.
Phew so releaved to hear your perspective. I genuinely thought my French boyfriend was weird and a little eccentric. I've experienced everything you've mentioned. Bravo 🤩
Cool, you posted this video on my birthday! XD
Thank you for this video
Omg ! I'm French and I HATE my mum (among others) telling me how, when, where to do things! All my life it has been like this and still now ! For EVERY single things ! For the record.. I am 30s 😆
This is so oppressing and annoying indeed.
But unfortunately I know that I do it too sometimes, or at least more than id like to. Thanks conditioning 😒
Oh and also if you talk about new project to French persons they will generally pick up all the problems and difficulties you may have to make it happen ... SO annoying and enthusiasm killer 😪
Seriously??? OMG. That sounds so difficult. I don’t think I could adjust to that 🤷🏼♂️
But isn’t that every mother all through the ages??
As a French woman I find this quite toxic. It was a relief people weren't this way when I travelled around in the world.
I also think French people are quite the perfectionists. When it comes to the arts for exemple they want you to be born genius. There is not this sense of learning the skill and growth. They also don't consider much middle range level of artistry but only the best ones🤷♀️ in general I find this elitist... And overall, French people are not much into personal growth and working on themselves the way you may do with a bullet journal for exemple or through reading self growth books. I find those to be big downsides in French culture (among all the charming and lovely stuff like the food :D)
i am ptrparing to move to patis and live with a frenchman. i love your videos. i have notided many traits you talk about. i an rellky looking forward to being in france, your videos have made me realize i am more french than i knew. i feel like i will be moving to a much more comfortable place than i am in america
Many of the attributes you have mentioned my Slovenian father possesses; primarily that there is a right way and a wrong way to carry out a task (and the subsequent need to continually point out faults), and also an infatuation with people’s weight.
I myself am half Australian and half Slovenian, so I have both sides for perspective (even though my father has lived most of his life in Australia, he was raised by two Slovenian parents). So, perhaps it’s a continental Europe thing, rather than a purely French attribute.(maybe)
yep you're right, most of the things she speak about in this video, or in videos about france in general, can be applied to europe. Even if people are all different and she's only speaking about one person (her husband), the cultural aspect is european.
Gotta love that transition from "reading bandes dessinées is like being young" to "he's skeptical of commercial holidays / no jumping up and down"
Who's the child again ? 😁
Oh fair point !
I was more focused on the holiday part than the excitement.
And I wish I could sprinkle a little bit of that in my daily life - I'm kind of a downer... even for a French ^^'
Salut, Absolutley true!! I am french, I agree and I act that way. I like to talk about facts, situate myself, a little bit of politic, read news, love culture... There is a way to do things right, we can be low key with our emotions and we are always concerned about our slim and healthy eating habits as we have always been reminded and we will mention it around us! That's who we are🤣
as I am part french I have to point out that this statement valerie made is also correct. Though I cannot attest to my eating habits, I can entirely agree to doing things the right way and that facts are important. I personally think it's more of the "perfectionist" gene in the french DNA strand. Always trying to make things in the best and finest possible way, rather than in the biggest or most expensive way.
I'm a French man leaving in Arizona, and recognize myself very well here. Not enthusiastic, even "méfiant" (suspicious ?) about the commercial holidays for sure 😂. Understanding what happens in the world, reading the news every day during hours. And a bit nagging too 🙄. Interestingly my wife, even though French, had a passion for English culture in general, and makes me feel like she was English (or American or new zealander) in a previous life... Lot of interest for commercial stuffs and no interest for what happens in the world 😂. So, probably what I like in your videos is also what I learn about English-culture women. Thanks
It's true, we don't do enthusiasm in France. With the possible exception of sports, it's not really done to engage in displays of joy, and definitely not over something like holidays--if we're being expected to be joyful about something, we'll take it as an attempt to manipulate our emotions, and we don't like that. As a culture we're pretty jaded.
@@NotEvenFrench Ah, a fair question. I guess it depends on the individuals--some can genuinely get enthusiastic but may be unwilling to express it because it's seen as corny, others prefer to react to things on an intellectual rather than an emotional level. You might want to ask more people for an accurate answer.
@@shatterquartz but what goes on inside your head? Do you look forward to things? think "oh I can't wait" ? It seems like you don't think "happiness" "joy" "excitement"
@@lynnesookdawar3979 Yes, we definitely do, we just avoid showing it too much. Annoyance, now that's something your average French person will express in public at the drop of a hat :D
Terrific video, as usual! Happily, the RUclips algorithm is showing me your videos again. :-) (FYI, I've been a subscriber for quite a while... at least a year before you became "Madame".)
I could listen to you for hours love your voice and accent
The more i learn about French culture the more i think i would fit in!😂 I love a good fact based debate, good cheese, food, details, i love learning & museums, reading, I am from the Midwest (USA) and i find that i am typically more formal and “overly” friendly compared to even people in the US! etc.😂😍🤩
You should take the plunge. I have in my stock a second hand but in perfect condition well maintained with low millage. 😅
Joëlle Grâce, you have à french name.
@@JeanPierreDelaitre-gv6mq Yes I do!🥰 It was because of my french ancestry and the Joel in the Bible! I always loved my name because of that! If I had been a boy the plan was for me to be named Joel.
Oh boy! I need to find me a French man! It all sounds so comparable with me 😂😂 especially the part where they don’t get excited about holidays lol
I lived with my french mother in law during the first lockdown and she always commented on obvious facts as you said about the wind and such... and I really didn't know how to respond. Also, yeah, one of my exes in France was really naggy as well... even with telling me the best way to chop carrots...
(3rd attempt to drop a comment on the comics thing, this time I remove the 2 Wikipedi@ links I have included, hoping that it goes through....) Hi! About the 'Bandes Dessinées', it's true that it covers broader themes than comics in Anglo-Saxons countries and it's definitely not only for kids as you noticed it... French consider it as the 9th Art and we celebrate it during the annual 'Angoulême International Comics Festival'.
It's only during the 70's that comics are accepted in the French culture, very conservative at this time. And we recognize that the origin of modern European comics roots in Belgium.
I'm following your channel since a few weeks and it's a pity that it's now in a time when you're back in NZ. I'm a Parisian from the 20th district but not by birth (I'm from Alsace but has moved in many regions) as you may know that most Parisians are 🇫🇷 'Parisien de cœur' (🇺🇲 'Parisian at heart', meaning that they are born elsewhere but have adopted and love the city).
Your French imitations are on point :D
OMG YES! Geo-localising!
OMG YES! The right way to do something - it makes me nuts LOL
YUP I hear you re Politics. My way round that is getting him to teach me all about them and keeping me updated.
Scepticism in SO many areas!
Omg sooo true! I was a bit disapponted with my engagement ring from my now french husband. Even ended up buying another one. That was one of my biggest regrets in life buying another one because i know my husband got sad about it and didnt really understand why. My point was it's like he did not really put any effort or didnt save up for a better ring. But now looking at french couples/ married couple rings and seeing they just have the simplest alliances not even an engagement ring and they are very happy about it. But i realized that the most effort he made was proposing to me on top of the eiffel tower. Trop cliché but it was my first time there and he made it extra special. Your videos are so relatable.
You just described my ex boyfriend to a T. Also, they like little pleasures, such as buying a little figurine and thinking it's the best find in the world. And generally being lovely about finding secret and understated pleasures, and being into details. My ex had green tea air freshener in the bathroom and it smelled amazing! They also get strangely upset under their breath and grumbly when something is not done "right."
I’m not a man and not French by nationality, but I sure do have a lot on common with them! I love those things...always remarking where I’ve been and where I’m going and soaking in as much info as I can. I am 1/4 French....I think it shows...it’s come up on others of your videos too of the temperament of the French.
Which follows would I said for quite a while about French and German men is that they are not exceptionally manly, as understood in the Anglo world. In Germany, the woman usually asks the man out.
@@slidenapps like and agree, except I hope you saw where I said I am not a man... lol.
As an enthusiastic American, I think being married to a French man would drive me crazy. ;-)
Salut Rosie!
I'm Australian and been with a Frenchman for 8 years so it feels like we've had some similar experiences :)
My partner sometimes takes the opposite side of what I'm saying just to hear my full opinion about a topic. For me the 'debating' culture felt like disagreement or arguing (not something I was used to growing up in Australia) but I grew to understand that's part of their education system to never take anything without truly understanding it and seeing all dimensions of a topic. They are definetly seekers of knowledge like you said
Only part that they differed on was that my partner really loves Halloween because it's the one time a year you get to "disguise" :p
@@NotEvenFrench haha, true ! I have to admit this is also totally me. I guess we love debating, and try to embrace complexity of things whereas anglo-saxon cultures are maybe more instinctive, but at the end of the day we have to take up a final position.
My boyfriend does this as well, we're Swedish. I've found that men in general in my life do this, I've never had that experience with a woman. Would you say though that this is common also with French women? 😊
@@hannahthufvesson Yes definitely a French thing ! (as well as as all the other points Rosie talks about). I'm a French woman who's been with an Australian for 13 years and I'm still accused of wanting to cause trouble when I just want to have a good debate 😂 We've only lived in Australia together and even though he got to spend many holidays in France, without the language he never got close to understanding that it's not just me, it's got to do with where I come from. (but not solely I guess because my dad comes from Asia, but he's exactly as described still !)
@@nariphondeth6423 Thank you so much for answering! That is So interesting! I had a relationship with a German guy a few years back and he said the same thing about their culture. It's not the same here in Sweden. It's so incredibly interesting all the small ways cultures differ from one another! ☺️
Thx for your videos, enjoy them a lot. Your analysis is so accurate, but sometimes ambarrassing, I must admit. 😅 avec bienveillance je pense
Your candor is appreciated,
I was married to a French man for 18 years.
I'm married to a German man now.
That would really piss him off, even though I didn't do it for that reason at all."
His mom was 8 years old during the invasion of German soldiers into her country, and the bombing of her school, which most people online won't even believe just bc it's "not on Wikipedia."
His mom is French but was living in Denmark when the bombing happened. She has family from Alsace who weren't too thrilled with Germans then.
I can see him wondering why I would "replace: him with a German man, but I didn't do this on purpose. And German men are even harder to understand than French men.
Interesting! I'm French and I never realised these things even though I live abroad. I thought everyone was like that 😂 every thing is quite true though
My British boyfriend is also trying to hide when he wants to eat crisps, chips and instant ramen
Yes that's what I thought too until I realised that people were just tolerating me as a French in Australia 😂Good luck !
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I've been married to Frenchman for over 15 years and at first I've just kind gotten used to unsolicited advice, never being happy about something always debating about everything even simple yes and no questions. But then I've changed my career, studied all kinds of different therapies around the world. That changed me profoundly because I could see how negativity and constant critique for better never being happy impacted mental and physical health of my patients and I've got so pissed at my husband. So basically I told him all this ends now and whole reeducation started. Now it goes like that: If you are not happy with something do it yourself and don't make philosophical thesis out of that.
If you want to teach me something new do it in 1-3 sentences max.
This is yes or no question.
I can debate politics for hours or any other societal issues. Learn about things around me constantly and point that out its fine. I also know what is good for my body as a nutritionist but try to tell me what to eat when really angry ( and not wanting to do meditation, reiki, hypnosis or visualization for once) or being hormonal and you will see how that goes for you.
Finally through my learning process about all these therapies and hearing me talk about my patients my husband changed a lot after couple of years. And seeing how stress negativity worry and constant nagging never just smiling creates negative circle pattern and impact his health - sleep, digestion, muscle pain etc. he changed his way of thinking. Also corrects himself a lot now . I'm not Anglo-saxon but there is something to say about positive mind. 😀 I've also seen up close state of psychiatry and psychology in France and result is not pretty. 9 out of 10 GP's prescribing antidepressants and benzodiazepines without being trained. That is psychiatrist job. Seeing how therapists, psychiatrists etc work differently in other countries I've lived since then I was shocked how better and more efficient they are. We as french are so convinced that our healthcare system is the best. Same applies for mental health professionals which is absolutely not a case in reality. Not planning to go back to France again unless it's for holidays. He does not wish to go back either after 7 years abroad. 😂 I would divorce now if I not only had nagging person at home but everywhere else. 😂 Now it's more balanced. I love french to pieces but in moderation these days.
He is a Hero ! :P
I’m a product of French parents, and yes they do have a way of doing things....it’s the “look!”
LOL the plugging is smart, but not subtle LOL
Oh, very good video!!!! I always thaught my French boy friend for 13 years was like that. But it seems there is a whole army out there not knowing how to celebrate holidays, critizising eating (and drinking!) habits, not caring about gifts or engagement rings, and telling me under a romantic full moon exactly where the airport is, and the next town, the highway etc etc........
Oh, and he will tell me not too much butter on the brioche (for the figure), and we discuss politics a lot. Me actually more than him.
Holy snap! I knew my husband is French obviously lol but I didn’t know everything about him was actually quite French 🤣 but hey, he has some things that oh my gosh, I absolutely love and no one else had ever done for me in the way he has. My father in law is same, same great things and same annoying things I guess 😂. My husband is mega thoughtful, in bed and outside of it as well 🤣 if that is also a French attribute than we don’t have much to complain 🥰
My husband loved to show his love with flashy jewellery which I absolutely hated. We learnt each other’s love languages and modified to suit. My wedding ring is a plain platinum ring and I barely wear it. I don’t wear much jewellery.
My husband is a mix of Filipino/Spanish/English/Scottish. He grew up in Australia. Feel he is a real mix of culture.
Wow my husband has a little bit French. Facts driven, loves to critique and does things a certain way.
Im the German background. I feel like I’m the food critic like the French. My husband feels I’m shaming him about the food.
Soo interesting.
I've never set foot in France, but this video describes me perfectly.
I do get at odds with my French fiancé (engaged for four years… it’s also a French guy trait maybe) about the criticism of small daily things. I’m Asian and have cooked since young.. he told me the better way to make fried rice by cutting the ingredients a certain way.. it can be annoying.
As a Belarusian girl can say that you shouldn't expect them to act or to do any actions to show they are interested in you. And be ready there will be a lot of words spoken and a small amount done. For those who wants serious relationship bear it in mind.
Как тогда понять истинные чувства? Мы мало переписываемся, я даю возможность себя проявить, но он проявляется лишь при встречах - и это всегда идеально ❤😅
Too funny--- I have been with a Dutchman for 17 years now and I could say each of these things about him...LOL! Especially being pedantic (omg...cheese slicing techniques!!) and attitude to junk/comfort food...facts, orientation, museums LOL.
I dated a Serb guy and he was so similar to this
I'd say the expensive thing in a French marriage is not the ring but the marriage in itself, it is usally a big expensive celebration. Probably because it's only between you, your family and your friends. Havig a huge and expensive ring would be considered as flashy and (i'm not sure of the word) even "rough"
I love your shirt ! Where is it from?
It's funny, we have the "right and wrong way to do something" thing in common with japanese culture. Maybe is it inherited in both cases from cultures with very old tradional crafts and field labour, something that has to do with "la mémoire de la main". Thousands of elders did the thing you try to do before you, you don't have necessarily to copy them but they should at least inspire you.
It also comes from the fact we have been taught to be efficient/lazy: do the math problems once is enough... Same goes for cleaning the house. If someone has to redo after you, what's the point?
@@joannets3835 That's so true! I always think why not doing it the right way so that you avoid some more work resulting from using the wrong way. Like hanging a towel properly so that it dries well and you won't have to change it every 2 days. 😅
I almost never do things like others do even if they show me.
I m not "anti conformist" but "non conformist" (I don t know if thoses words exist in english). I mean ,I am not able to do things like others. I always do my propre way and it works.
As a French person when I hear “jewelry needs” I cringe 😬. The nagging on way to cut veggies so on point 🤣🤣
So true!
I think the nagging frenchman one woman also do it (and I am guilty of it) but I feel like it comes from our education your family teaches you how to cook, clean etc... and keep a house all nice and tidy. When I go abroad I am surprised by how in some countries -I've noticed it particularly in US-Australia- kids just never got to learn this so they start living independently but don't know how to cook, clean etc.. so they just try out whatever and you DO need to learn some of this otherwise results aren't great. But even among french couples there are a lot of nagging from both side about what's the proper way to do this or that.
Hi Rosie. I love the holidays too we celebrate everything hard dating a foreigner
Haha❤ 😂 you really are selling it. I’ve been married to an American for 33 years.