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I love your accent, I need it as an app on my phone that delivers bad news cause it's so calming! I remember going to a conference once and they got 20 of us round in a circle to share ideas of how a certain idea could be improved. There was a girl using a BSL interpreter to communicate and the general lack of awareness from most of the group (although I'm sure they didn't mean it) was bothering me. It was one of those conversations where one person would stop talking and then somebody would immediately jump on their point as soon as they stopped speaking and the combo of not knowing when to speak and trying to pay attention to her interpreter basically meant that this girl wasn't really getting a chance to say anything. At one point I managed to make an opening for her ("Is there anything you'd like to add?") but it made me appreciate how difficult that situation must be when trying to get involved.
I'm sorry to ask this , i really loved the video but it was hard to decide on the phone thing. Was she being sarcastic? Does she like or hate when someone shows her the screen of the phone instead of repeating ? Thank you!
I feel like a convo between the two of us in any public place would be a comedic disaster 😂😂😂 With my autism, I get overwhelmed easily, can't separate background noise from conversations I'm in, and can get really spacey (it's actually a mild dissociation to "protect" myself). This also leads to me starting and not finishing sentences, suddenly forgetting I'm being spoken to, and completely losing track of a conversation 😬 I feel like our spouses would just be sitting there like "what are they even doing?! Do THEY even know?!" 😂
Elizabeth Bulfer my problem would be that I have basically no facial expressions for someone who can't hear the words to work from. I do use AAC sometimes though and I mean it makes me harder to eavesdrop on so it's not all bad
Omg the vaguely agreeing nod, I feel you! My adhd makes it so my brain sometimes just stops processing words and I completely lose track of the conversation or I have to ask someone for a third time to repeat what they've said and after a while, you just stop asking and hope you can catch on quickly. The vaguely agreeing nod can be 'you don't say!' 'ah yes' 'continue' or 'wow i totally agree' it's the best. I learned it from the lovely people I assisted in a nursing home, they were my rolemodel in pretending to know what the flip is going on
Tyrell Haines Its amazing how many people who can hear themselves do not sound as pleasant as her. If she can practice as she mentioned in her video so can we. Definitely an inspiration.
Thank you for this video. My mother is about 85% deaf in one ear, completely deaf in the other and has been since she was a small child and I feel like I'm the only only that truly gets how to help her. I want to send this to my brother...
Thank you, Jessica, this is very helpful. Glad to know a notebook or cellphone might ease communication. Eye contact and heightened facial expression are good ideas. Can't believe some people 'test' your hearing by covering their lips - so rude.
marsha831 I type things on my phone a lot when I talk to people with hearing problems. Mostly because I tend to lack mouth movement or facial expressions and they don't get what I said. I thought it would be rude but most of them actually like that I do that.
I'm HoH and the absolute most frustrating thing is when someone is talking and they turn their head away from you. A couple weeks ago my bestie did that to me and I told her I missed what she said. She actually said to me, "I never realized how bad your hearing actually is until that happened." I said, "yeah, I've been telling you that for years."
I love your videos! Growing up in had a friend (sarah) who was deaf and I got a basic sign language book and it was a great bonding experience with Sarah and she taught me games like writing a word on each other's back with our finger and guessing what the other wrote just by what we felt. I really learned a lot from her. I was in a sport with her and as we got older she moved away and life went on. Wish we had kept in touch. You are doing a great job educating people on what the world is like for you and how most of all you just want to be included. I hate that you get the some of the responses you do. But keep up the good work and I wish you and your wife all the best!!!!
Hi! It is certainly harder to lip-read people that don't have English as their first language, but practice is important. i.e my friend Clara is Spanish and now I can lip-read her quite alright! x
And can you lip-read english speakers, but those who use a different version of it? Like, could you lip-read an american for example? Just asking out of curiosity, i hope it's not rude or anything? ;)
Idk about all of our slang, which is constantly changing and i can barely keep up with it, but as for casual speaking we are typically the same minus a few colloquialisms.
I learned a bunch of these from my American Sign Language class! It's nice to hear it from a deaf person. My teacher clarified that when communicating with deaf people, emphasized facial expressions are encouraged to fully show the person's sentences, since communication is more than using words. Non-manual gestures complete the person's perspective on a concept.
Learning key signs and the alphabet goes a long way! I'm hearing but I'm learning ASL and I used to attend a deaf club where hearing people could go to practice with HOH and deaf people and knowing basics signs/the alphabet was a saving grace. (Also now, I'm learning BSL because of you!! 💙)
I am so glad that I have found your videos! I work for for an American air line called Southwest Airlines. I have had the opportunity to get to know some wonderful people over the past 19 years. One of them was a young gentleman who was deaf and whenever his flight was delayed, he would teach me key signs that would help him while he waited for his plane. Ive always wanted to take American Sign Language since, but like you my body revolted on me and I was diagnosed with an auto immune disease called Myasthenia Gravis. A lot like your disorders, my brain doesn't communicate with my nerves properly and it affects my body in a lot of different ways like complete muscle weakness which can last for various amounts of time. You really do give me a lot of inspiration to do more things like learn the ASL. Thanks for all the videos that you make that help the hearing people try to not make complete asses out of ourselves when we try and hold a conversation with someone who is deaf!
The one year I took ASL was so enlightening to me. I still know a handful of signs and it taught me to be expressive when speaking, and to speak clearly with my mouth. It's crazy how you don't even consider those things until it's pointed out to you.
Jessica: Please can we meet somewhere with really good lighting? Me: looks around my insanely messy room guiltily, because the only functioning light is my bedside lamp, and it has bad lighting even when the light does work Also me: Yup.
I’ve been on crutches an in a wheelchair, and people loved to take a crutch away, and say “can you walk?” Or even better, move my wheelchair like I was just a piece of furniture. Thank you for using that comparison, it really helped me to understand what dead people go through daily.
the last one is really one of my pet peeves. people are now focus more on electronics or their phone when you are having conversation with them. I always feel like 50% of the time guessing if they are really listening and sometimes I'm sure of it because they will switch topics and talk to someone else while you are speaking, interrupting you and I just stop talking about that topic and switch to my daily mode of just shutting up and leaving them to talk. Thank you for posting the vids. I don't know a lot of deaf people but I do see them in public and I'm always interested on how they make sure to face each other and focus to communicate which is lacking with the hearing community. On unrelated topic, your hair is beautiful.
Also I'd like to say I love that you sign along in your videos. I've been wanting to learn BSL for so long and binge watching your channel has gotten me further than anything else so far!
I work in the food service industry and ugh, I understand that most people aren't aware of the common sense or etiquette they should or shouldn't do around someone who's deaf or hoh, but this is seriously so helpful, so I'm gonna share it and lowkey hope my coworkers see it and understand.
Omg I love her so much. So much sass and class and her fashion sense is amazing. Thank god I found one of her videos. Don’t know what I’d do without her sass
I binge-watched most of your newer videos, and I am amazed! I absolutely like your content, and I like learning about your experiences! Thank you a lot! I honestly don't look at sub counts and view counts often, this was the first video where I noticed it. It is strange that you are making such good content in such a good quality, and only a few thousand are interested.
My (Semi)deaf friend just send me this and I'm glad to learn! Except... I talk so fast, quiet and unexpressive that even a lot of people of regular hearing don't understand me, rip
hi this video resonated so much with me! i was born with profound hearing loss in my right ear (so im not completely deaf in two ears) and i know my life is much easier than those who are but i still feel that some people in my life always forget about this part of my life or make it of lesser importance. i have friends who brush it aside and get annoyed with me when i can’t hear what they are saying or ask them to repeat their previous sentence. i don’t know anyone who is either partially deaf or fully deaf so this video was really meaningful to me. thank you :)
Oh my goodness! I think you just opened a lot of people's eyes and minds with this. I think it's very cool how you know what you want whether you are disabled or not. And I think it's awesome how you are not afraid to tell all the scaredy-cats out there how's it's done. Good for you!
#1 reminds me of what my mom calls "smile and nod." Where you have no idea what is being said but you don't want to interrupt what is being said for whatever reason.
This is awesome - thank you! I'm currently learning Sign Language with People in Action (Leeds, UK) and learning about Deaf culture, and how to communicate with Deaf, deaf and HoH people is a massive thing! I'm also autistic, with chronic fatigue (4-years, and still no official diagnosis) and have suspected EDS (first appointment with rheumatology next week), so can really empathise with a few aspects of your life, and I love learning about the other aspects. I'm also supremely jealous of your self confidence, style and passion - all of which shine through on your videos (even when you do get anxiety, etc., you rarely let it stop you). Thank you for being unapologetically you!
Use clear distinct words for things, especially if it's basic. Simple example: talking about toddlers: It drove me nuts when my sister in law taught her baby "Mama" and "Papa" then "ba-ba" for bottle and "papas" for snacks and "bambam" for her hammer toy. Was the kid asking for her mother, her father, a bottle, her toy, or a snack? Take a guess, spin the wheel, only 4 out of 5 chances to be wrong.
What did you expect them to teach a person who is just learning how to speak for the first time? I get that you’re deaf but that was a baby. Baby needs beats deaf person needs.
brainman67 because babies are just learning how to make words with their mush mouths and vocal cords and this is easier than trying to get them to say more distinctive letters like the letter R in mother and father. I can tell neither of you have children. 🤦♀️
You look GORGEOUS!!!! Also, I feel like a lot of these are just generally good rules for having respectful conversations with anyone. Actively listening, looking at someone, not making a joke out of people's disabilities? Why is this not just common courtesy?
I suffer from anxiety and me and my therapist only clocked recently that a lot of it is down to me being deaf because I'm not in control 🙄 just something i thought I'd share 😊
i momentarily experienced going partly unable to hear (half-deaf, basically) due to an ear infection as a child, so whilst my sister and i were studying, i couldn't hear a gosh darn thing and i merely felt my voice as vibrations in my throat and ears. quite an enlightening experience, that was.
I'm shocked she is able to speak as clear as she can because it would be so hard to speak and never hear what your saying. Most deaf people I have heard talk have slurred speech but Jessica, your speech is flawless!
i know a bit of ASL like basics like “thank you” “please” “sorry” “hi” and of course “stupid” it helps when we’re shopping and one of the workers is deaf one time i signed thanks to a deaf man that helped my brother find something and he had the biggest smile
I say things in the wrong tone too and offend others without realizing it, but it's because I grew up in two different cultures. I also love some good gossip once in a while, haha. I think you should make a video of some of these wrong tone incidences you've had in the past!
Oh yes, another ”favourite” bit of hearing culture -expressionless hearie face! I’m trying to learn how to express myself properly in my sign language and in deaf social settings, due to living far too long in exclusively hearing culture, but I notice how much more expressive deaf people are. Using the whole upper body to express something makes it easier to understand. Hearies are so visually inexpressive, in most cases.
This is really good for other people who have friends who are deaf or who work with them I've started my BSL level 1 and both teachers are deaf so these tips are going to be really helpful for when I'm communicating with them and any deaf people I meet xxx
Great video Jessica. All I will add is that if people do some of the ruder points then I'm not sure I'd call them friends... I can't believe someone would actually cover their mouth for example and ask if you can hear them now! I suppose they're they same people who would take the mickey out of someone who stutters. 😕
The worst is when some asshat just stand there silently moving their lips but never saying a real word then ask "so what did I just say". It doesn't work like that.
I am so happy I found you!!! 😢😭 I am Hard of Hearing, and I didn't notice I had been slowly loosing my hearing until 3 years after graduating highschool. Your videos speak to me on a level I've never been able to relate to someone. So many of your list items are things I do to my hearing friends and it can be so frustrating feeling isolated from the conversation and your friends. Keep doing what you're doing, your videos give me hope I can learn to cope with my continuous hearing loss. I've been so scared that I will continue to loose hearing until it's gone, but you make me think I may really be able to open up and cope with it despite it.
Thank you this helped me! I sometimes get deaf customers in my store and I sometimes have some difficulties getting my message across, but I think some of these tips will improve that! 😃 And on another note, I think you are absolutely hilarious and I just binged a bunch of you videos, and you and your wife are soooo cute 🙈 Much love from The Netherlands 🏳️🌈
This is so incredibly useful! I especially appreciated the bit about it not being rude to pull out your phone and communicate that way if necessary. I might be hesitant to do that, afraid of offending someone, so it was good to know that you consider it perfectly fine. Also, I hadn't been aware that International Week of the Deaf was approaching, so thank you for drawing attention to it!
Jessica, I know this is one of your older videos, but I am just getting caught up on your channel and this one came up at a very opportune time for me. I do not have hearing difficulties myself, but I have always been interested in learning sign language (although I live in Canada, so we would learn ASL and not BSL) and I finally had my first class yesterday. Our teacher is deaf and he started the class just signing (no speaking) so we just all had to try and pick up on things as best we could and move along with him. I don't think I have ever been in a situation where I was so immersed in a language/conversation of which I knew nothing and it was so eye opening. I have a more fulsome appreciation for what it might be like to be a deaf person among hearing people. (Or even what it may be like for those around me for whom English is a second language.) I also fully understood what you have said in a couple of your other videos - it's really exhausting not fully understanding what's going on and what is being said to you. It's like you are constantly trying to solve a puzzle. Rewarding (because I am learning something new,) but so exhausting. I only wish I had done this sooner! Thank you as always for sharing your journey through life with your disabilities. You are a treasure and I appreciate you!
I love that the sign of facebook is literaly circling around your face with your fingers and make a book with your hands. Some signs aren't looking like what they mean but some do. I'm not deaf, just interested in sign language etc. And I just noticed. And I think you are an inspiration! Oh and sorry for my terrible grammer!
She wasn't being sarcastic. I asure you, after you repeat the same thing 3 times and we can't understand, we will be very relieved if you write it diwn on your phine or on paper instead! But some might take offense if you do that from the beginning -writing it down- without letting us try to have a fluid conversation by speaking orally first. We make a great effort to try to have orsl conversations, that's why.
The last one is so true! Sometimes when I'm talking to my friends or partner and they start using their phone mid conversation, I feel as if my presence is not worth their time and energy to focus on so I just stop talking at that point.
I saw a woman with children in a car park near a wood. There were various painted rocks/pebbles hidden in the woods. I went over and started telling her about the rocks and realised she was wearing aids. The tip in this video came in so handy. We were able to communicate well. That's felt good.
Hi Jessica! I just thought I'd share a bit of funny story with you :) I'm half Italian and I live in Denmark with my "half-deaf" husband (he's completely deaf on one side). I was watching one of your videos at somewhat low volume and the hubby walked by without his hearing aid: "is she Italian? She's gesticulating almost as much as your Italian stepmum." "No, honey, that's actually sign language..." - I chuckled :) Thank you so much for all of your videos, you're such a beautiful and inspiring person!
Thank you!!! I shared to Facebook. I work with hard of hearing and deaf people. Signing is a language I am still learning. Your information helps tons. Have a great day 😃
Slowly going blind here and YES! Can we PLEASE meet somewhere with good lighting!?! I’m learning ASL and I can’t seem to get people to understand that I CANT SEE WHAT YOU’RESIGNING. 😠
Omg, I absolutely adore you! You have helped me so much being new to this language, thank you a million times! All of your videos are so helpful and informative!
Thank you again and AGAIN for your unconditional love and belief in love! Your heart and soul shine beyond any disability. I LOVE YOUR DARK HUMOR, SARCASM AND FREEDOM WITH YOUR CREATIVE ARTISTIC EXPRESSION!!! YOU ARE A NATURAL BRILLIANCE DISPITE YOUR SEVERE ILLNESSES!!! LOVE YOU!!!!!!♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡ THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!♡♡♡♡
I'm sooo happy that you're talking on how it is for you. I can hear, but studying for becoming a teacher for hearing impaired children - also learning sign language for that purpose - and there are a few almost deaf persons studying with me and some of them are getting offended sooooo fast, if you're not getting what they want. I can't understand a lot of things just by imagination, because how often do you imagine buying cafe in a cafeteria or buying a new dishwasher - so I just can't understand what problems can occure to a deaf person in such situations - and if, can I get it right? So I'm always happy getting more information - even it's just personal for that individual person - about what it means to be deaf. Thank you! You look gorgeous!
Starting at 6:15.... Speaking from experience this for me is one of the most difficult parts of being in relationships with hard of hearing or deaf partners. When you are hearing, you really rely on other hearing people’s tone of voice to fully decide how you react to what they just said. For example, sarcasm, rudeness, happiness, frustration, just to name a few. A lot of disagreements between hearing and their hard of hearing or deaf partner, stem from one person not being able to understand the context of what you said because they do not hear your tone of voice and inflection. While the other person misunderstand’s the hard of hearing or deaf partner’s intended meaning to something because they often lack typical tone of voice changes that match what they mean. I hope I explained this in a way that makes sense. Even if I remind myself that what they hear from me may not be correct, and what I hear from them may not be correct, my natural instinct is still to respond to just what I HEAR. 🙈
Saturday in Norwegian is lørdag which means washing day or bath day, and it comes from old norse which heavily influenced old english. Language is so interesting!
i love that you’re signing and i just...agh you’re my favorite youtuber because im partially deaf and i don’t sign well and it helps to watch you do this also i’m bi and you’re a huge role model for me and THANK YOU FOR BEING AMAZING YOU GODDESS
I'm hard of hearing - or hearing impaired I guess it's called in my area. I haven't mastered sign language, but by the time I became aware of the problem I was already lip reading. Your points on lighting, facial expression, and simply the face turned directly at the listener really hit home. Nothing is more frustrating than when someone turns their face away while speaking or you can't see the speaker's face clearly.
This is a fantastic video! I have a friend who is deaf and I'm not super close to her, but it's really nice to know a few tips for making sure she feels included and can understand what I'm saying.
Thank you for doing this video. Your style of presenting is brilliant, it's very informative and I can relate to everything you have said. It also inspired me to do my own version "things my hearing friends should know", so thank you Jessica!
I am not deaf, but I am learning sign language. I've been learning for over a year. And I'm really hoping that by this summer, I can sign with other people. I love your videos so much! But the only problem (for me) is that since I'm American, I don't know BSL 😂 but that won't stop me. Thanks for making these videos!!!
I LOVE your videos. They are funny, entertaining, and informative. I do that nodding thing too, people in Tennessee have thick southern accents and sometimes it's not worth asking over and over "what".
The holding your hand over your mouth thing made me realise that I've been lip reading with videos for a long time. I used to not hear properly until I was six, I had a piece of extra flesh in my Eustachian tube and that prevented me from hearing, speaking and eating properly. After my surgery, I started hearing better and I thought I had stopped lip reading but turns out I've been doing it unconsciously 😅
Really true -I wish I could turn my hearing on and off as I please. Without my tinnitus and sensitivity to sounds. I could really use a break from the hearing world sometimes and my kid’s and my sign language skills would improve greatly if I were deaf part-time. At the same time, you get so much extra information from sounds in a society built with hearing-centric solutions but without equal access to the same information in visual solutions. Sure, as someone with less than perfect hearing, you get bits and pieces of information, but something is better than nothing...
I’m glad that texting/writing is an option too. I’d love to learn any sign language but I’ve noticed that after I finished chemotherapy and steroids (even years later - finished at the end of 2012), if I’m using my fingers/hands, sometimes they’ll seize up. I uh probably should bring that up with at least one of my doctors. But um money. So yeah, I’m glad that text is okay.
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Gosh you make my deafness funny than you , keep doing what you're doing you are fab🙉
You look so elegant
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Your sass makes this video! I never thought to give facial expressions to my voice to express my tone or attitude. Very informative wonderful video!
There you go, glad to help :)
I'm the exact opposite, my face never shuts up. Faces are fun... gurning (pulling faces) while talking is the best.
You should be a voice actor or like one of those people who read books for like audible your voice is incredible
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I love your 4:26 "Tell me more". It is so deliciously conspiratorial.
I love your accent, I need it as an app on my phone that delivers bad news cause it's so calming!
I remember going to a conference once and they got 20 of us round in a circle to share ideas of how a certain idea could be improved. There was a girl using a BSL interpreter to communicate and the general lack of awareness from most of the group (although I'm sure they didn't mean it) was bothering me.
It was one of those conversations where one person would stop talking and then somebody would immediately jump on their point as soon as they stopped speaking and the combo of not knowing when to speak and trying to pay attention to her interpreter basically meant that this girl wasn't really getting a chance to say anything. At one point I managed to make an opening for her ("Is there anything you'd like to add?") but it made me appreciate how difficult that situation must be when trying to get involved.
Kate's Adventures OMG when you said BSL I thought you were talking about Breed Specific Legislation for a second 🤣🤣🤣
Kate's Adventures I didnt understand anything you were saying.
I'm sorry to ask this , i really loved the video but it was hard to decide on the phone thing. Was she being sarcastic? Does she like or hate when someone shows her the screen of the phone instead of repeating ? Thank you!
Your Highness MSP Then you're not very good at understanding.
Elizabeth D What do you mean? I'm talking to the person who is saying they don't understand anything they're saying
I feel like a convo between the two of us in any public place would be a comedic disaster 😂😂😂 With my autism, I get overwhelmed easily, can't separate background noise from conversations I'm in, and can get really spacey (it's actually a mild dissociation to "protect" myself). This also leads to me starting and not finishing sentences, suddenly forgetting I'm being spoken to, and completely losing track of a conversation 😬 I feel like our spouses would just be sitting there like "what are they even doing?! Do THEY even know?!" 😂
I'm really happy to know writing down what we're trying to say isn't offensive! I've wondered about that...
Elizabeth Bulfer my problem would be that I have basically no facial expressions for someone who can't hear the words to work from. I do use AAC sometimes though and I mean it makes me harder to eavesdrop on so it's not all bad
Omg the vaguely agreeing nod, I feel you! My adhd makes it so my brain sometimes just stops processing words and I completely lose track of the conversation or I have to ask someone for a third time to repeat what they've said and after a while, you just stop asking and hope you can catch on quickly. The vaguely agreeing nod can be 'you don't say!' 'ah yes' 'continue' or 'wow i totally agree' it's the best. I learned it from the lovely people I assisted in a nursing home, they were my rolemodel in pretending to know what the flip is going on
Your voice is so down darn calming I love it
Tyrell Haines Its amazing how many people who can hear themselves do not sound as pleasant as her. If she can practice as she mentioned in her video so can we. Definitely an inspiration.
I have the opposite problem, I make passive-agressive commentaries and my voice makes it sound like a compliment or something
Thank you for this video! As a spouse of a deaf person this covers a lot of what I am constantly telling other people about my hubby.
Hi Elizabeth, it is a constant struggle, but your husband is lucky to have you :)
Thank you for this video. My mother is about 85% deaf in one ear, completely deaf in the other and has been since she was a small child and I feel like I'm the only only that truly gets how to help her. I want to send this to my brother...
She has the most beautiful elegant classy tone of voice I've ever heard.
Thank you, Jessica, this is very helpful. Glad to know a notebook or cellphone might ease communication. Eye contact and heightened facial expression are good ideas. Can't believe some people 'test' your hearing by covering their lips - so rude.
I'm hard of hearing and I got that a lot when i was a kid. rip :x
marsha831 I type things on my phone a lot when I talk to people with hearing problems. Mostly because I tend to lack mouth movement or facial expressions and they don't get what I said. I thought it would be rude but most of them actually like that I do that.
I'm HoH and the absolute most frustrating thing is when someone is talking and they turn their head away from you. A couple weeks ago my bestie did that to me and I told her I missed what she said. She actually said to me, "I never realized how bad your hearing actually is until that happened." I said, "yeah, I've been telling you that for years."
I only intentionally cover my mouth when talking when it’s something personal or private & I don’t want others reading my lips.
I love your videos! Growing up in had a friend (sarah) who was deaf and I got a basic sign language book and it was a great bonding experience with Sarah and she taught me games like writing a word on each other's back with our finger and guessing what the other wrote just by what we felt. I really learned a lot from her. I was in a sport with her and as we got older she moved away and life went on. Wish we had kept in touch. You are doing a great job educating people on what the world is like for you and how most of all you just want to be included. I hate that you get the some of the responses you do. But keep up the good work and I wish you and your wife all the best!!!!
Hi dear, do you find it harder to lip-read foreigners, who don't usually talk English?
Hi! It is certainly harder to lip-read people that don't have English as their first language, but practice is important. i.e my friend Clara is Spanish and now I can lip-read her quite alright! x
And can you lip-read english speakers, but those who use a different version of it? Like, could you lip-read an american for example? Just asking out of curiosity, i hope it's not rude or anything? ;)
Idk about all of our slang, which is constantly changing and i can barely keep up with it, but as for casual speaking we are typically the same minus a few colloquialisms.
Minja Mäkinen Hei, oletko suomalainen? Nimesi kuulostaa siltä😄 Hi, are you Finnish? Becuase your name sounds like that😆
Yup
I just love listening to her voice...so clear...hell she speaks better than I do
I learned a bunch of these from my American Sign Language class! It's nice to hear it from a deaf person. My teacher clarified that when communicating with deaf people, emphasized facial expressions are encouraged to fully show the person's sentences, since communication is more than using words. Non-manual gestures complete the person's perspective on a concept.
The way she talks is so calming
I can’t imagine being not being able not to singing tune, it’s such a vital part of me. But it’s cool that you don’t care and you just enjoy yourself.
Learning key signs and the alphabet goes a long way! I'm hearing but I'm learning ASL and I used to attend a deaf club where hearing people could go to practice with HOH and deaf people and knowing basics signs/the alphabet was a saving grace.
(Also now, I'm learning BSL because of you!! 💙)
Where are you? I’m trying to figure out how to learn ASL but have no one to learn with. I’m in southeast TX.
Can someone tell me how can a beautiful person like her exist
I am so glad that I have found your videos! I work for for an American air line called Southwest Airlines. I have had the opportunity to get to know some wonderful people over the past 19 years. One of them was a young gentleman who was deaf and whenever his flight was delayed, he would teach me key signs that would help him while he waited for his plane. Ive always wanted to take American Sign Language since, but like you my body revolted on me and I was diagnosed with an auto immune disease called Myasthenia Gravis. A lot like your disorders, my brain doesn't communicate with my nerves properly and it affects my body in a lot of different ways like complete muscle weakness which can last for various amounts of time. You really do give me a lot of inspiration to do more things like learn the ASL. Thanks for all the videos that you make that help the hearing people try to not make complete asses out of ourselves when we try and hold a conversation with someone who is deaf!
The one year I took ASL was so enlightening to me. I still know a handful of signs and it taught me to be expressive when speaking, and to speak clearly with my mouth. It's crazy how you don't even consider those things until it's pointed out to you.
Jessica: Please can we meet somewhere with really good lighting?
Me: looks around my insanely messy room guiltily, because the only functioning light is my bedside lamp, and it has bad lighting even when the light does work
Also me: Yup.
I’ve been on crutches an in a wheelchair, and people loved to take a crutch away, and say “can you walk?” Or even better, move my wheelchair like I was just a piece of furniture. Thank you for using that comparison, it really helped me to understand what dead people go through daily.
the last one is really one of my pet peeves. people are now focus more on electronics or their phone when you are having conversation with them. I always feel like 50% of the time guessing if they are really listening and sometimes I'm sure of it because they will switch topics and talk to someone else while you are speaking, interrupting you and I just stop talking about that topic and switch to my daily mode of just shutting up and leaving them to talk. Thank you for posting the vids. I don't know a lot of deaf people but I do see them in public and I'm always interested on how they make sure to face each other and focus to communicate which is lacking with the hearing community. On unrelated topic, your hair is beautiful.
I never realised how beautiful sign language is until Jessica. I've learned a lot from her.
Also I'd like to say I love that you sign along in your videos. I've been wanting to learn BSL for so long and binge watching your channel has gotten me further than anything else so far!
Yay! So glad!
GAIA H it's really helpful isn't it! I can understand and it's helping me learn SSE quicker
I work in the food service industry and ugh, I understand that most people aren't aware of the common sense or etiquette they should or shouldn't do around someone who's deaf or hoh, but this is seriously so helpful, so I'm gonna share it and lowkey hope my coworkers see it and understand.
Omg I love her so much. So much sass and class and her fashion sense is amazing. Thank god I found one of her videos. Don’t know what I’d do without her sass
I binge-watched most of your newer videos, and I am amazed! I absolutely like your content, and I like learning about your experiences! Thank you a lot!
I honestly don't look at sub counts and view counts often, this was the first video where I noticed it. It is strange that you are making such good content in such a good quality, and only a few thousand are interested.
I love how she also does sign language on her videos. So, deaf people could understand her without the captions blocking the video
help me please deaf people can’t understand her signing, trust me. And there’re subtitles anyway.
You are TRULY a light in this world! So glad I found you! Besos from the Dominican Republic! 🇩🇴
As a hearing person I’m really thankful for this video - very educational!
My (Semi)deaf friend just send me this and I'm glad to learn!
Except... I talk so fast, quiet and unexpressive that even a lot of people of regular hearing don't understand me, rip
hi this video resonated so much with me! i was born with profound hearing loss in my right ear (so im not completely deaf in two ears) and i know my life is much easier than those who are but i still feel that some people in my life always forget about this part of my life or make it of lesser importance. i have friends who brush it aside and get annoyed with me when i can’t hear what they are saying or ask them to repeat their previous sentence. i don’t know anyone who is either partially deaf or fully deaf so this video was really meaningful to me. thank you :)
Oh my goodness! I think you just opened a lot of people's eyes and minds with this. I think it's very cool how you know what you want whether you are disabled or not. And I think it's awesome how you are not afraid to tell all the scaredy-cats out there how's it's done. Good for you!
#1 reminds me of what my mom calls "smile and nod." Where you have no idea what is being said but you don't want to interrupt what is being said for whatever reason.
This is awesome - thank you!
I'm currently learning Sign Language with People in Action (Leeds, UK) and learning about Deaf culture, and how to communicate with Deaf, deaf and HoH people is a massive thing! I'm also autistic, with chronic fatigue (4-years, and still no official diagnosis) and have suspected EDS (first appointment with rheumatology next week), so can really empathise with a few aspects of your life, and I love learning about the other aspects. I'm also supremely jealous of your self confidence, style and passion - all of which shine through on your videos (even when you do get anxiety, etc., you rarely let it stop you).
Thank you for being unapologetically you!
my 5yr old has the same charmingly perfect confidence as you, i feel you both have a similar Whimsical polite personality.
I'm gonna follow you, because I'm going deaf with my tinnitus. You give me hope.
Use clear distinct words for things, especially if it's basic. Simple example: talking about toddlers: It drove me nuts when my sister in law taught her baby "Mama" and "Papa" then "ba-ba" for bottle and "papas" for snacks and "bambam" for her hammer toy. Was the kid asking for her mother, her father, a bottle, her toy, or a snack? Take a guess, spin the wheel, only 4 out of 5 chances to be wrong.
Christine Cameron why do people do things like these it makes the child slower
Oh noooooo
What did you expect them to teach a person who is just learning how to speak for the first time? I get that you’re deaf but that was a baby. Baby needs beats deaf person needs.
brainman67 because babies are just learning how to make words with their mush mouths and vocal cords and this is easier than trying to get them to say more distinctive letters like the letter R in mother and father. I can tell neither of you have children. 🤦♀️
You look GORGEOUS!!!!
Also, I feel like a lot of these are just generally good rules for having respectful conversations with anyone. Actively listening, looking at someone, not making a joke out of people's disabilities? Why is this not just common courtesy?
I’d get anxiety if I couldn’t hear myself
I suffer from anxiety and me and my therapist only clocked recently that a lot of it is down to me being deaf because I'm not in control 🙄 just something i thought I'd share 😊
i momentarily experienced going partly unable to hear (half-deaf, basically) due to an ear infection as a child, so whilst my sister and i were studying, i couldn't hear a gosh darn thing and i merely felt my voice as vibrations in my throat and ears. quite an enlightening experience, that was.
E m same for me except my anxiety and depression both came from my profound deafness I couldn’t even hear my therapist so that was fun
E m thank you for sharing :)
Darcy hinton how are you feeling now?
I'm shocked she is able to speak as clear as she can because it would be so hard to speak and never hear what your saying. Most deaf people I have heard talk have slurred speech but Jessica, your speech is flawless!
i know a bit of ASL like basics like “thank you” “please” “sorry” “hi” and of course “stupid” it helps when we’re shopping and one of the workers is deaf one time i signed thanks to a deaf man that helped my brother find something and he had the biggest smile
I cant hold a smile every time I watch your videos.
I say things in the wrong tone too and offend others without realizing it, but it's because I grew up in two different cultures. I also love some good gossip once in a while, haha. I think you should make a video of some of these wrong tone incidences you've had in the past!
Oh yes, another ”favourite” bit of hearing culture -expressionless hearie face! I’m trying to learn how to express myself properly in my sign language and in deaf social settings, due to living far too long in exclusively hearing culture, but I notice how much more expressive deaf people are. Using the whole upper body to express something makes it easier to understand. Hearies are so visually inexpressive, in most cases.
This is really good for other people who have friends who are deaf or who work with them I've started my BSL level 1 and both teachers are deaf so these tips are going to be really helpful for when I'm communicating with them and any deaf people I meet xxx
That is great news, hope you find the tips helpful in your class x
I love her hair and outfit and makeup she's awesome
Yes!!
Jessica Read yess
She is so beautiful like her skin, and teeth are white. She looks soft. She reminds me of like old school.
Great video Jessica. All I will add is that if people do some of the ruder points then I'm not sure I'd call them friends... I can't believe someone would actually cover their mouth for example and ask if you can hear them now! I suppose they're they same people who would take the mickey out of someone who stutters. 😕
Nah real friends don't do the ruder points...
The worst is when some asshat just stand there silently moving their lips but never saying a real word then ask "so what did I just say". It doesn't work like that.
I am so happy I found you!!! 😢😭 I am Hard of Hearing, and I didn't notice I had been slowly loosing my hearing until 3 years after graduating highschool. Your videos speak to me on a level I've never been able to relate to someone. So many of your list items are things I do to my hearing friends and it can be so frustrating feeling isolated from the conversation and your friends. Keep doing what you're doing, your videos give me hope I can learn to cope with my continuous hearing loss. I've been so scared that I will continue to loose hearing until it's gone, but you make me think I may really be able to open up and cope with it despite it.
Thank you this helped me! I sometimes get deaf customers in my store and I sometimes have some difficulties getting my message across, but I think some of these tips will improve that! 😃 And on another note, I think you are absolutely hilarious and I just binged a bunch of you videos, and you and your wife are soooo cute 🙈
Much love from The Netherlands 🏳️🌈
Watching Her channel makes me even more open minded and considerate to others. Please do continue make more videos!
I loooove this and wish I even had ONE PERSON in my life who understood.
This is so incredibly useful! I especially appreciated the bit about it not being rude to pull out your phone and communicate that way if necessary. I might be hesitant to do that, afraid of offending someone, so it was good to know that you consider it perfectly fine. Also, I hadn't been aware that International Week of the Deaf was approaching, so thank you for drawing attention to it!
This might come off weird but I literally watch you too adore you beautiful self.... No disrespect I swear
I just wanna give her a big hug because she is so pretty! :) no creepiness intended...
Jessica, I know this is one of your older videos, but I am just getting caught up on your channel and this one came up at a very opportune time for me.
I do not have hearing difficulties myself, but I have always been interested in learning sign language (although I live in Canada, so we would learn ASL and not BSL) and I finally had my first class yesterday. Our teacher is deaf and he started the class just signing (no speaking) so we just all had to try and pick up on things as best we could and move along with him. I don't think I have ever been in a situation where I was so immersed in a language/conversation of which I knew nothing and it was so eye opening. I have a more fulsome appreciation for what it might be like to be a deaf person among hearing people. (Or even what it may be like for those around me for whom English is a second language.)
I also fully understood what you have said in a couple of your other videos - it's really exhausting not fully understanding what's going on and what is being said to you. It's like you are constantly trying to solve a puzzle. Rewarding (because I am learning something new,) but so exhausting. I only wish I had done this sooner!
Thank you as always for sharing your journey through life with your disabilities. You are a treasure and I appreciate you!
She’s so prettyyy
I love that the sign of facebook is literaly circling around your face with your fingers and make a book with your hands. Some signs aren't looking like what they mean but some do. I'm not deaf, just interested in sign language etc. And I just noticed.
And I think you are an inspiration! Oh and sorry for my terrible grammer!
You have a perfect English voice. Yeah, I am an American but I lived in England for two years.
Typical brit problem; I can't tell when you're being sarcastic! "Feel free to use your phone (you arse), yes please!".
Wait she was being sarcastic, I and can’t tell when she is being sarcastic
She was being genuine
I think it's because of the tone thing she explains later on the video. She sounds sarcastic without meaning too
She wasn't being sarcastic. I asure you, after you repeat the same thing 3 times and we can't understand, we will be very relieved if you write it diwn on your phine or on paper instead! But some might take offense if you do that from the beginning -writing it down- without letting us try to have a fluid conversation by speaking orally first. We make a great effort to try to have orsl conversations, that's why.
The last one is so true! Sometimes when I'm talking to my friends or partner and they start using their phone mid conversation, I feel as if my presence is not worth their time and energy to focus on so I just stop talking at that point.
YOU ARE GORGEOUSSSS! Perfect 50’s look! Omg you’re perfect!
I sign ASL so watching you sign in a different language is fascinating
I saw a woman with children in a car park near a wood. There were various painted rocks/pebbles hidden in the woods. I went over and started telling her about the rocks and realised she was wearing aids. The tip in this video came in so handy. We were able to communicate well. That's felt good.
From this video I learned 5 signs already!! 👏👏👏
12345👏👏
And oh! toilet as well😊😉
Hi Jessica!
I just thought I'd share a bit of funny story with you :)
I'm half Italian and I live in Denmark with my "half-deaf" husband (he's completely deaf on one side). I was watching one of your videos at somewhat low volume and the hubby walked by without his hearing aid: "is she Italian? She's gesticulating almost as much as your Italian stepmum."
"No, honey, that's actually sign language..." - I chuckled :)
Thank you so much for all of your videos, you're such a beautiful and inspiring person!
Thank you!!! I shared to Facebook. I work with hard of hearing and deaf people. Signing is a language I am still learning. Your information helps tons. Have a great day 😃
This is super helpful. I have a cousin who has hearing loss and it's nice to know how to help her be more comfortable.
I love your style. My favorite era of clothing😀😀
Slowly going blind here and YES! Can we PLEASE meet somewhere with good lighting!?! I’m learning ASL and I can’t seem to get people to understand that I CANT SEE WHAT YOU’RESIGNING. 😠
Omg, I absolutely adore you! You have helped me so much being new to this language, thank you a million times! All of your videos are so helpful and informative!
Thank you again and AGAIN for your unconditional love and belief in love! Your heart and soul shine beyond any disability.
I LOVE YOUR DARK HUMOR, SARCASM AND FREEDOM WITH YOUR CREATIVE ARTISTIC EXPRESSION!!!
YOU ARE A NATURAL BRILLIANCE DISPITE YOUR SEVERE ILLNESSES!!!
LOVE YOU!!!!!!♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!♡♡♡♡
I'm sooo happy that you're talking on how it is for you. I can hear, but studying for becoming a teacher for hearing impaired children - also learning sign language for that purpose - and there are a few almost deaf persons studying with me and some of them are getting offended sooooo fast, if you're not getting what they want. I can't understand a lot of things just by imagination, because how often do you imagine buying cafe in a cafeteria or buying a new dishwasher - so I just can't understand what problems can occure to a deaf person in such situations - and if, can I get it right?
So I'm always happy getting more information - even it's just personal for that individual person - about what it means to be deaf. Thank you! You look gorgeous!
Starting at 6:15.... Speaking from experience this for me is one of the most difficult parts of being in relationships with hard of hearing or deaf partners. When you are hearing, you really rely on other hearing people’s tone of voice to fully decide how you react to what they just said. For example, sarcasm, rudeness, happiness, frustration, just to name a few.
A lot of disagreements between hearing and their hard of hearing or deaf partner, stem from one person not being able to understand the context of what you said because they do not hear your tone of voice and inflection. While the other person misunderstand’s the hard of hearing or deaf partner’s intended meaning to something because they often lack typical tone of voice changes that match what they mean. I hope I explained this in a way that makes sense.
Even if I remind myself that what they hear from me may not be correct, and what I hear from them may not be correct, my natural instinct is still to respond to just what I HEAR. 🙈
Saturday in Norwegian is lørdag which means washing day or bath day, and it comes from old norse which heavily influenced old english. Language is so interesting!
i love that you’re signing and i just...agh you’re my favorite youtuber because im partially deaf and i don’t sign well and it helps to watch you do this also i’m bi and you’re a huge role model for me and THANK YOU FOR BEING AMAZING YOU GODDESS
I'm hard of hearing - or hearing impaired I guess it's called in my area. I haven't mastered sign language, but by the time I became aware of the problem I was already lip reading. Your points on lighting, facial expression, and simply the face turned directly at the listener really hit home. Nothing is more frustrating than when someone turns their face away while speaking or you can't see the speaker's face clearly.
This is a fantastic video! I have a friend who is deaf and I'm not super close to her, but it's really nice to know a few tips for making sure she feels included and can understand what I'm saying.
My best friends whole family is deaf/hard of hearing. Your videos help me a lot!
Thank you for doing this video. Your style of presenting is brilliant, it's very informative and I can relate to everything you have said. It also inspired me to do my own version "things my hearing friends should know", so thank you Jessica!
I love her fashion
I am not deaf, but I am learning sign language. I've been learning for over a year. And I'm really hoping that by this summer, I can sign with other people. I love your videos so much! But the only problem (for me) is that since I'm American, I don't know BSL 😂 but that won't stop me. Thanks for making these videos!!!
I LOVE your videos. They are funny, entertaining, and informative. I do that nodding thing too, people in Tennessee have thick southern accents and sometimes it's not worth asking over and over "what".
Finally!! someone who understands!!!
The holding your hand over your mouth thing made me realise that I've been lip reading with videos for a long time. I used to not hear properly until I was six, I had a piece of extra flesh in my Eustachian tube and that prevented me from hearing, speaking and eating properly. After my surgery, I started hearing better and I thought I had stopped lip reading but turns out I've been doing it unconsciously 😅
You can’t hear so I have to let u know this ur voice is beautiful
She looks so adorable
So pretty! Her voice is so soothing!
I've started learning basic sign language because of you! I am fully hearing but you have strongly inspired me!
I just absolutely love your attitude
Really true -I wish I could turn my hearing on and off as I please. Without my tinnitus and sensitivity to sounds. I could really use a break from the hearing world sometimes and my kid’s and my sign language skills would improve greatly if I were deaf part-time. At the same time, you get so much extra information from sounds in a society built with hearing-centric solutions but without equal access to the same information in visual solutions. Sure, as someone with less than perfect hearing, you get bits and pieces of information, but something is better than nothing...
"mainly I just don't care" iconic :D
As someone who has learned ASL, it's absolutely fascinating watching the difference in signs of BSL.
same with me and NZSL (seriously though, why is ASL so different to BSL, AusLan and NZSL???)
Piper Shields New Zealand sign language?
she’s actually using SSE! it has a different sentence structure than ASL & BSL-she just explained that in a recent video.
I’m glad that texting/writing is an option too. I’d love to learn any sign language but I’ve noticed that after I finished chemotherapy and steroids (even years later - finished at the end of 2012), if I’m using my fingers/hands, sometimes they’ll seize up. I uh probably should bring that up with at least one of my doctors. But um money. So yeah, I’m glad that text is okay.