What INTJ females actually need in a partner: - Someone to listen to their great yet complex ideas and theories - Someone who respects their boundaries and opinions - Someone who hates arguing bc when you argue with an INTJ you're either stupid, wrong or simply both - Someone who likes silence and doesn't make situations awkward - Someone who's open minded and ready to deal with our "just do what I say" nature - Someone who fits with our high standards and expectations. *Basically nobody* Thank you for your time. Have a nice day .-.
Actually, it's more like, "I know I'm right about this. I can't tell you *right now* why I'm right; but if you give me 24 hours, I promise to have a 12 page research paper with 25 scholarly sources proving to you that I'm right about this."
As an INTJ female, sometimes I wonder how can I be in a relationship It seems so... exhausting and complex? But, at the same times, I kinda want to be in one...
Read some comments about INTJs having trust issues. That's unfair to our Ni factors. INTJs are the kind of people who trust you after alot of consideration, because whoever enters our life, must be worth the time, effort and space. But if you break our trust once, we will distance ourselves completely. It's like, inputting a linear equation in a calculator, and it gives you the wrong answer. You won't ever trust the calculator again. you will double check all answers yourself, with a separate calculator. INTJs are loyal, but pragmatic. And therefore find it hard to forgive or forget. Sincerely, an INTJ female.
Lol you can't compare people to calculators coz people change. So if someone were to betray you and they are still their old self, then yeah you can't trust em. But if someone truly changes and commits to that, then it's almost as if they're different ppl
@@M1911Original People who cheat usually won't change, because they lack empathy and don't think that they did anything wrong. Of course there can be exceptions. Of course you could also think that "this person" is different for some irrational reason.
Because we're trying to decide if you are worth our time and energy. Being a highly introverted INTJ it take a lot out of energy be sociable at all. Also we feel so much more deeply than any of the feeling types that it is just easier to not care what other people think or do, which is also why it takes so long. Because we need to trust you. You cannot hurt and INTJ, you insult them, they don't care, you insult your family they give you a verbal beat down about why you're wrong, but if they trust you and care you can do some serious detrimental damage.
t m I believe you. As human beings we all have the ability to feel. Being a thinking type just means that you prefer to rationalize things rather than feel them. Feeling types prefer to base their inner world, thoughts and actions on emotions. Feeling types are more sensitive according to what I’ve read. That doesn’t mean that thinking types cannot feel as deeply, but often aren’t comfortable with doing so. We are all capable of feeling very deep and intimate emotions:)
The "INTJs is the most attractive when they are not trying to be attractive" makes me realize why my bf told me he liked my "dark, lack of sleep, always depressed" undereyes
I love how most of the comments in this video's comment section are well-written and grammatically correct, thereby indicating language proficiency. I am an INTJ female by the way.
My sister was watching me text a few hours ago, and she commented on my proper punctuation. I never realized before that I punctuate my texts like they’re class essays.
@@stillsmallvoice4785, the secret to dating an INTJ girl is to never doubt us, and NEVER make a bet with us, We'll only bet when we already know we are 100% right! 😂 Otherwise we are very low maintenance, self sufficient, and as drama free as you're going to get!
@@maryvallas772 INTP guy here, with INTJ woman - check, check, check, and check. We're great together, and she is (almost) always right. Of course, this makes for fun devil's advocate games (for me)... just to get that INTJ stare and watch her eyes start burning
INTJ and married for 12 yrs. My husband says the quality he likes best about my personality is my bluntness. He never has to play the guessing game with me. If he wants to know something I will answer him directly, and if I want something I just tell him. There's none of that "if you truly loved me, you would intuitively know what I want ... blah blah blah" nonsense.
If you don't mind my asking, what type is he? I could sure use being with someone who didn't put me down for everything I am. It gets a wee bit tiring.
For INFJs. Pros of INTJs: -Independent. -Capable. -Reasonable. -Intuitive/don't follow a hive mentality (INFJs share this trait) -Confident. -Calm even when enraged. -Will use all their brainpower to make you as successful/happy as possible (optimizing). -People of actions, not words (this is something an INFJ can appreciate). -Will be glad to sit around and discuss conspiracy theories with you. -Relationship get more intimate with age (they will be comfortable with "I love you" and other forms of traditional affection) -Romance with an INTJ is very deep and cerebral versus vapid/physical. -Mature INTJs are incredible partners and companions, usually well rounded with a lot of skill and ambition. Cons: -Pessimistic. -Do the INFJ "door slam," but in a casual manner, because it's just considered optimizing. -Arrogant. -Need a lot of personal space. -Critical. If they think you are going to fail at something, they won't sugar coat/lie about it, and that can be difficult for F types that need a lot of reassurance. -Often have compulsive tendencies. -Apathy can be socially taboo. e.g. ESFP: "I brought home four puppies!! Isn't that amazing??" INTJ: "No. They will drain your resources and trash your house." ESFP: "Omg. I got engaged" INTJ: "...Do you want to be engaged?" -Terrible improvisers, unless it's an emergency situation. -Immature INTJs are really turbulent/unstable and not good in relationships. Source: INTJ female
"Immature INTJs are really turbulent/unstable and not good in relationships." are they turbulent because they're scared of their emotions??? I mean what do you guys feel when you're in love? Do you just compartmentalize it?
@@EmpressTarotGabbyTurner Yes. I think it's a matter of being overwhelmed, or even "over stimulated" from their emotions. Especially when it comes to love. INTJs don't fall in love with people easily. But when they do at a young age, they don't know how to come to terms with it and just end up becoming unhinged or even obsessive. When INTJs mature however, their approach to emotion is like night and day.
I'm an INTJ female and these all check out for me, expect one. I'm not that apathetic. I think that's the case, because I grew up around feelers, so I learned to have more tact in general.
@@EmpressTarotGabbyTurner for me as an INTJ female I love being in love and I hate being in love. It is true that I ignore a lot of people because they are not interesting. So when I find that person that I love it's also a combination of intrigue and a desire to solve the puzzle of learning who that person is on the deepest level possible. At first I might not acknowledge the emotional component and just the cerebal one, but when I start to get a bit obsessive then I have to acknowledge some level of fondness. That's when things really get frustrating because I don't navigate in Emotion well and logic just doesn't work in the emotional Realm. So whereas I can list the top 10 reasons why a person should be in a relationship with me, that doesn't Translate the warmth that I'm actually feeling. I guess the trick is in getting the other person to realize that if I'm taking the time to think and analyze that is my way of saying I love you because I don't give up that brain space for just anybody. So this is where I think an INFJ would get me because they feel the same way about their time and their brain space.
I’d say that’s pretty accurate; I’m an INFJ girl with an INTJ guy. Their lack of feeling is probably what affects things the most. As an INFJ, it’s hard to understand how someone could not be aware of the other persons feelings, and how saying things like in your example could hurt them.
I'm a INTJ-t female and I absolutely agreed, when you said that I want to "solve" a man, when I'm in love. But NOT, because I consider him a problem but because I want to thoroughly understand him. It's about being interested in the other. I must agree though, I have been misunderstood my entire life: if I'm interested, people feel scanned and intimidated, if I'm not interested but feel neutral, people think I'm arrogant. But I'm just not used to fake being interested to be nice. I would consider this lying
INFJ male and I can say the same. The main difference between INFJs and INTJs when it comes to relationships is that both look at the other person as a case study, but while the INTJ is more focused on systematic dissection of the person, the INFJ focuses more on understanding their inner world
True. it's painful. Intjs don't like to argue unless they are sure or it's needed. Intjs are extremely loyal and picky. solving the problems instead of merely just showing empathy for the people they care about is how they show love they would sacrifice their precious time and energy finding solutions.p. Unfortunately people think it's cold and arrogant. Intj s are more focused on solving the problem instead of showing others are wrong, people feel offended because an intj can easily see what's wrong in the picture like a sixth sense. An intj is brutally honest and naturally efficient in action and in thinking hence others might say she's insensitive or tactless
How would this not be lying? Also, fake smiling uses muscles. I don't want to have to engage my smile muscles all the time just because you need reassurance. I actively do this in work meetings just because not doing so makes it worse. Sigh. Wish I didn't have to. -INTJ woman
@@PermaPen Hahaha Sounds fun! I know several very extroverted narcissists that are fun to poke. My favorite is the "shutdown and change the subject" when they are trying to be funny. I have a coworker like that who I will suddenly pull the old "Oh, btw!" and turn to the person next to me and ask a completely unrelated question when the narcissist is trying to ham up a punchline. They wait for an opening looking looking shocked for a few seconds and if you give them a space to say something they'll try to start up the joke again and you can turn and continue your question. They positively melt in disbelief and fury. Ha! Good times.
My boyfriend tells me my personality makes the perfect girlfriend, but he wishes I would stop thinking I was right all the time. What he doesn't know is, I actually am right all the time. #INTJ
If he can not appreciate, accept and surrender to the fact an INTJ is right all the time, you should send him far far away. Actually, you probably already did it. By the way, what a swell voice do you have.
Awww! What an adorably naive person he is to assume that he has somehow found an equally valid but different opinion when he clearly hasn't obsessively looked through all of the existing data and painstakingly formed the perfect explanation based on that facts. I'm married to an INFP and she often thinks she's right as well with no sustainable argument for why. So cute! #AnotherINTJ
Can be exhausting sometimes to explain your visions to people who clearly just don't want to see it... Like most of the time I'm like.. okay you've got a brain it has a super power called thinking... When are you gonna use that??? Huh?
As a solid INTJ female, I can add that we are as just as sure about something being right as we are about something being wrong. This video is very right.
This can also be added onto the part that says "I'm right, I just can't tell you _why_ I'm right". Because you know something's probably wrong, but don't know exactly _what's_ wrong
@@KitsuneFyora That's a result of them figuring something out, and cataloguing their conclusion in their brain, and throwing the research materials that allowed them to arrive at that conclusion away. So whenever the topic appears, they proudly present the conclusion, but don't have the research leading up to it. I suspect that's how an INTJ brain works, roughly speaking.
It's not easy being an INTJ... not because of who we are, but because society wants us to conform to the general opinion and norms of the majority. People just don't get us, especially the way we think or the kind of lifestyle we choose. But the good thing is, we don't care if people like us or not and to those who do, they stick around because we are the most loyal friend and companion (we don't engage in gossip either because we find it too vapid). Anyway, thanks for this great video. You somehow described my life.
But what is gossip? Is that different than knowing everybody's truth? Cuz my intj sister *knows everybody's truth*. And if she speaks that truth is it gossip?
If you wrote that in an INTJ valentine's Day card they would absolutely love it. Intj women prefer to be complimented on their abilities rather than their looks
Absolutely. Admire my intelligence, this is what is most important to me, my intellect. My intelligence is my pride. I am very smart but yet not as much as I would like. I experienced my limit with Topology, a branch of mathematics. I struggled with that, anything else was easy peasy, but not topology. 😟 I hated the feeling!
THIS. When I go on a date with a new guy and he immediately calls me beautiful, I’m out. Mentally, I do not care any more. But if he takes the time to talk to me and then tells me I’m smart or clever or funny… ok, tell me more 😂
"INTJ girlfriend" 🤔 sounds like an abstract concept. Being an INTJ is the reason why we are single in real life.😒 Edit: Didn't expect 500+ likes tbh. These comments are making me lmao.😂
I'm an INTJ female and I started dating my husband because, on paper, we were a perfect match. The emotion came later. Luckily, he's INTP, so this worked well for him. He pursued me. I ran. We got to know each other. I decided to love him. We now have a very passionate relationship and have been together happily for fourteen years. So yeah, we can be cold and calculating and strategic, but we have emotions too. Mine mostly show up while watching movies, reading a book or in intimate, non-public moments. By show up, I mean, get expressed. They're always present. My mom and best friend are INFJs, and sometimes their expression of emotion can be exhausting, but that's okay too. :)
INTJ Female here, well I just wanna say, deformed potato is what i really thought, but what came out of my mouth will probably be "yeah the baby looks fine"
I have been working my entire life to have that kind of restraint. I probably would not say potato. I would either hope to God you aren't specifically talking to me, so I can walk away as if the question never touched me OR use a word that still suggests not cute like "INTERESTING".
@@Kharizmah Most new parents are so deluded about the "cuteness" of their newborn that you can say just about anything and all they hear is "he's adorable". Win-win.
They can sound bossy. But intjs just.... Have their own way of talking. For example, im counting on you= i love you I value your opinion=they rarely value anyones opinion I like....= no matter how much of a back handed compliment it sounds roll with it. Intjs will ALWAYS find a way it could have been better Another thing i noticed is that intjs are freaking adorable with their terrible Se lmao. They come off as super smart, super structured, and only to make these silly little mistakes. My intj friends will lose stuff right in front of their faces, is always hurting themselves from accidents, and will get so caught up on certain details that their environment seems to fade away Another final side note ive observed is that intjs talk to themselves. A lot. And they can actually get VERY silly while confortable. Im lucky to have known them. Seriously those guys are freaking geniuses
Brandon Williams you nailed it! Especially the “silly little mistakes” part. We’re so convinced that we’re right, we’ll skip little steps because we’re trying to finish faster
Yep, completely caught up in our thoughts. I will literally walk right into a wall and just keep going with out missing a step. I didn't even notice I walked into it! Hahaha
I am an INTJ and a girl. I can mostly relate to those tendencies except for the fact that I'm not a "girlfriend". Never to anyone since birth. It's hard for us to fall in love or date. We get attracted to people with an intellect equal to or more than ours but we'd never make the first move unless we're sure we can actually imagine ourselves spending the rest of our lives with that person. When someone confesses, it takes just a short time for us to deduce if there's a chance to date the guy or if further interaction with him will only be annoying. We're usually correct and it's hard to explain why because before we make decisions, we've thought out most (if not all) of the options and weighed out their pros and cons. We're still open-minded though... only if you make sense. We'll only tolerate your nonsense if you're a cat. Also, we are often capable and independent so we don't feel the "need" for a partner but the idea of romance also fascinates us. Most of us are single because our standards are high and yes, we are intimidating. Good luck finding an INTJ girlfriend who'd budge. Hahaha.
Spot on lol, even when I was younger and growing up I never understood why and how people focus so much on dating. I just never understood it, I never was looking for a partner even when I was fascinated by the idea of romance. I've had a partner before but even after we end up breaking up, yeah I did feel heart broken but after I recovered I still didn't have the feel the need to be with someone. I tried explaining this to someone before but they just didn't understand me and thought they were "losing brain cells" smh silly little infp
I am an INTP, and I have a friend that is an INTJ female and honestly she is absolutely fascinating. Trying to understand her mind is alot of fun, definitely not a boring type of personality. Lol Best conversations ever.
I feel bad to say, that A girl finally got pregnant to prove her family (really her dad) that she’s mature. She’s never had her own place; she quits a job as soon as it gets annoying. 🤷♀️ She had this whole scenario how everything worked out. And laughy jollied about the respect she would get about it. She’s Caribbean. I told her no. she got upset? Because she thinks I’m so nice and I could agree with her. She’s seeing the backlash she’s getting from her family. She only wanted the baby not the man. I told her so though she was being willingly naïve. As an INTJ, I recognize I lack seeing what people are really saying when they say something. Was there something I was missing?
@@mrjohniet1 no. i love the girl. for 2 years i tried convincing her not to do it. it happened now. what can i do? i want to say give the baby to a family as she and the dad are attractive people. she's not answering my phone calls. she wouldn't listen to me the first time when i told her not to get pregnant, i don't know about now. and i can't help her now as i'm a single mom.
As an INTJ, I'm surprised no one has mentioned one of the greatest tech gifts ever bestowed upon us, the screenshot as we definitely keep the receipts/evidence for future debate, though we don't really engage in debate so much as we inform.
Omg. Hahaha also showing convo screenshots to your group chat about THAT officemate that you always laugh at coz its been *years* and they haven't got a clue how to do their job.
I'm an INTJ, and I dated an INFJ woman for a while. Didn't work out in the end. Met an INTJ woman, and it was like I was FINALLY being understood. She is amazing. It's like looking into a mirror.
INTJ woman here. And yes, the same here. When I met my INTJ man, I thought, finally, I've come home! Was with an INTP before that, it was a decent relationship, but could never truly be myself.
By mirror, do you mean a smashed mirror which reflects about 1000 shards which manifest varying elements of *your* disfunctional personality, like a kaleidoscope of pain?
Connor Parks really? 🙂 I've always wanted to know what it would be like INTJ to INTJ. Even though with the same personality I watched somewhere that female and male same personalities differ in the way the brain data moves around. (They scanned the brains of volunteers while each person was doing specific tasks). It's really interesting. The one talk I watched was of an ENFP male and female.
"falls in love with a fantasy": every INFJ I've ever met. 😄 As an INTJ female, I'd take a hard pass on the intj gf meme personally. I think for those of us who were raised by Fs or just found some level of growth or maturity, we are completely capable of developing a filter to situations like... telling someone their baby looks like a potato. Of course that's stupid. Also we know we're right and we've done the homework to prove it, not whatever that meme said. The interesting thing I've found in my own life is that a lot of men can form very quick attachments to me because I don't have a problem sharing information with them (but the feelers mistake that for an emotional sharing sometimes I think and can feel let down later on). Emotions are harder but they're not completely absent. We just process them internally **unless we're in a stress grip** then we basically function like ESFPs. 😬 An INTJ in a stress grip is one of the most self-destructive things ever.
Most accurate comment, in my opinion. I have noticed this pattern of my own behavior. I have always thought I was very emotional and had no problem sharing my feelings with others, because I talk non-stop. And that made me think I was an infj for the longest time. But after I went on a self-discovery journey, I realized that I am Te-Fi and not Fe-Ti. And here's a thing I noticed : I have no problem sharing my "feelings" when they have been sorted through. It seems like when I'm experiencing a type of feeling, I shut off, I don't talk, I want to be alone, but when I have delt with it, then I have no problem talking about it. A lot. I mean, I share with people some really intimate details of my life, but I don't care, it's just information. Especially when this information could help someone sort their feelings out or a problem, or avoid my own mistakes.
"I will solve you" is our best compliment for any human being. It means you're actually fascinating enough to be understood completely and uniquely as a real person with acknowledged agency rather than be assigned a number in our predictive model of the universe. We don't spend this processing time for just anybody.
Grok is the best term for this I've come across but I recommend reading Stranger In A Strange Land by Heinlein rather than looking the definition up on an online dictionary. And yes, it should be taken as an honour.
INTJ married to INTJ = perfection. Never having to worry about someone getting offended about telling them how things really are, because hubby will understand and sympathise with always being disliked for being honest.
@@afrinakhanam4696 oh no, it’s not like that. You get to actually talk to this person and they will LISTEN. And not get offended by your honesty. And i won’t. It’s so precious and rare.
@@nimityaka I have encountered 3 INTJs so far. Same issue, conflicts. It's something like only one Lion can become the king of the forest, not 2 lions.
I can't relate to this "I'm always right" stuff as all the others here do at all. I'm very open to new ideas, points of views, criticism, etc. to improve my knowledge (from intj)
When it comes to theoretical/academic stuff I'm always open to new ideas. If it's something that has to do with intuition tho... Nope, I'm right. Always.
Intj Mom explains to me that she told her friend, when comforting her on the recent loss of her husband: "It's better that he's dead. He doesn't have to experience this terror world.". Intj Son to intj Mom: Please don't ever become a funeral director. Your coffinside manner is severe. Truthful, but severe.
Me too! Though 99 times out of a hundred the person pursuing me has no idea how incompatible we are. But I do. Those rare instances I'm interested I will do the chasing, please and thank you.
I am an INTJ and my boyfriend fell for me when i was looking disgusted at my new classmates. The part with being attractive when not trying to be attractive was correct at my case.
INTJ male here and i never really had a real relationship until I met this INFJ girl who made me feel welcome, she listened, she empathized, she held my hands for the first time and I never really held anyone's hand before and I felt safe and understood. Damnit is this what falling in love feels like? I don't want all these feelings cuz I know it will hurt me.
I am an INTJ female. My INFP husband constantly tells me that he is in love with me and I am an angel. He compares me to Hinata, Naruto’s wife. So I don’t think having a romantic relationship with an INTJ female is necessarily an intimidating factor. The way I act with my husband, is not the way I act with anyone else in my life. For me, my man and my relationship with him is something I protect. I analyze everything, find out what he loves and how he reacts, then adjust accordingly to make his dreams a reality. It’s a very loving, passionate and peaceful relationship. In my world of work and duty, my husband is my own happiness.
@@H0lolo I believe most INTJ’s feel to be more intelligent than their significant other. None the less, the INTJ will devote every to their spouse and servicing them, in the dream to accomplish the ideal spouse to them.
As an INTJ woman I finally cracked the code by dating an INTP man. Our communication is brutally honest and straight to the point. We both enjoy dark humor and lots of alone time. I get to plan out everything way ahead of time and he happily goes along with it. It's perfect.
Do you mean alone time as a couple or individually. Also i am infp male and i am very attracted towards intj girls but I am not so smart and i probably wouldn't be able to meet her standards🥲 i really want to though i just don't know how to ? So i have been talking to this intj girl for months she even called me a grear friend she even opened up with her emotions listened to mine and gave me solutions to my problems
@@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon I have another shirt that says Don't ever mistake my silence for ignorance, my calmness for acceptance, or my kindness for weakness.
I'm an INTJ female married to my partner of 16 years, who is an ENFP male. We've had our moments, for sure, and he drives me nuts sometimes, but our personalities really complement each other well. He was a full-time single father when we met, and I respected him for that. He told me he was actually quite intimidated by me, at first, but very drawn to me. He thinks I'm the best thing ever. He can understand my emotions when I'm having a hard time expressing them. We talk a lot about the future together. I chose to marry him because he loves me for who I am, he has integrity, and he values commitment. We're an unusual pairing, the two of us, but it works.
INTJ here. As a girlfriend , we do take our time to get to know the person but once we like you, we slowly open up. I can be silly and affectionate , and bluntly honest. Very black and white. I guess Some guys can’t handle it without feeling too sensitive ? I dont Know. You know what’s a mystery? Guys are!
My boyfriend is an INFJ and I'm an INTJ. I've told him multiple times that he truly is my unicorn. Aside from INFJs being the rarest of the MBTI types he's the only person I'vr ever met who instinctually just gets me and knows how to care for me. We are insanely in tune with each other and often answer the question before the other even asks it even though they were just thinking it. This is quite possibly the match made in heaven of all matches🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
I sent my ENTP boyfriend when he tried to first ask me out, a spreadsheet of things I wasn't going to tolerate from previous relationships. INTJ women are the same as men when it comes to being upfront with communication, which because of most social expectations of women in relationships is to be the coy one, doesn't mesh with us. We're blunt, straightforward, and do not tolerate or understand the unnecessary script of romantic banter. It just seems a waste of time to us (it just is, ok). Boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years, so as blunt and weird as my 'spreadsheet' was, maybe it worked. He still often says I'm eccentric, can be cold in my approach, but appreciates it when it comes to hard truths since I don't mince words. Another factor might be because he's the type that will spend hours mentally sparring or shooting ideas back and forth with me, we both have a drive and appreciation for accomplishment in some manner and that is what helps.
I'm INTJ having long distance relationship with ENFP. Every phonecall be like Him: (does the 90% of talking) Me: (answer with short response) But I love him. It's just how I am.
@@ploopybear I tell young women, especially if the subject is doctors who don’t listen, to use their tears. I consider tears to be a tool in my box and I use them sparingly. They work well.
One of my close friends was an INTJ female. I told her she was a good friend to me. She replied "We aren't friends but I can see why you would think so." This was after several years of knowing them. I finally had to stop being friends as I would often end up crying after spending time with them.
Haha this is brilliant Frank! I'm an INTJ who has an incredibly deep, loving, affectionate and successful relationship with my INFJ boyfriend. It works so well! A lot of our communication is non verbal and for our types, that is important and makes us feel comfortable around each other when we are silent and focused on other things.
Same! I’m an INTJ dating an INFJ and he’s amazing. Our weird sense of humor just clique and he can take a nap or read next to me while I also do my own thing without a problem. But he would occasionally give me random kisses to make me feel like he’s not ignoring me. What I love the most as an INTJ dating an INFJ softy is that he still gets freak out with my death stare. Hahahaha But it means nothing though! I’m just listening to him speak or I’m thinking about snacks to eat. Conclusion: INTJ and INFJ - great combo. I’ve noticed a bunch of people here are also commenting how they’re in an INTJ/INFJ relationship too! Yay for us!
I’m an INFJ and my SO of almost 10 years is an INTJ. it’s a great relationship and we’re still each other’s favorite person after all these years. Dunno how it’ll work if the genders switch though as us INFJs can be “emotionally needy” from time to time and they are so still emotionally *snuggles grumpily on demand*. That line “I’m sorry you got hurt because you’re wrong” is so true! And no, they won’t disappear unless they don’t really like you :D
Frank James, thank you for making your videos! As silly as it may sound, I have actually been able to realize that a lot of the things I've felt insecure, not normal, or have been told to change are actually just a part of my personality and there is nothing wrong with me. Thanks to you and the comments, I know now that I'm not alone in the ways I think about and desires/standards I have in life. It's good to know that there are people who can see past the intimidation factor and can appreciate us for who we are. Thank you INFJ and thank you comment section for allowing me to relate and accept/love myself for who I am! 😄🥰
INTJ's benefit from INFJ's slightly better social acumen. INFJ's benefit from INTJ's intelligence and organization skills. I had a best friend at work who was an INTJ (gay man). He rubbed some people the wrong way because INTJ's can come across as arrogant (and they don't understand why others don't do every stupid thing the exact same way they do) and I think it held him back a little bit in that context. When he was looking for a job he didn't want to put a summary at the top because he felt like it was the interviewer's job to read his resume and figure it out. I explained to him that most people only scan a resume initially, so a strong summary statement was a concession he needed to make to human nature if he wanted anyone to actually not throw his resume in the trash. He did ultimately take my advice. He has a really good job now. So, INFJ-INTJ is very symbiotic, and if you can find an INTJ whose T is not quite so high as my friend's you'll probably get along really well.
My mind can definitely be changed by facts. Also I don’t have anxiety except around social interaction and expectations both of which I avoid and therefore rarely have. I like to be right, but if I am wrong and you are right I immediately adopt the “right” point of view so as to be as right as possible at all times. It gives me no pleasure to pretend I’m right if I’m not
Gave a thought to what may seem so intimidating about me - an INTJ female. I seem sweet but when confronted with a problem of someone else, I try to solve it and that's not the reaction people expect or want. But I am not going to just sigh and say it all sucks - why bother sharing a problem with someone if you do not want to be confronted with (although often uncomfortable) solution that often requires some kind of personal growth / change on your side? Yep, I think I can startle people and make them think I was this snake the entire time, seeming smiley (yes, I smile, I do not have the infamous INTJ death stare) and then BOOM brutally honest. Sorry for my mediocre English. P.S. Enjoyed the video!
I’m an INTJ with ENFP partner. He can do whatever he wants except “upsetting me”. I found him as a homeless guy with no car and now he’s working in construction regularly with his own car. I totally fixed him.
My brother is an INTJ and his wife is INFJ and they are really happy. On paper it might not sound that cool, but when you're with an INTJ it feels like you're with a more practical and better organized version of yourself, whose jokes you get, and who gets your jokes. It's a good vibe.
Totally agree. It's also comforting knowing that you can always explore an abstract topic in conversation to it's furthest logical end, and your INTJ loved one won't be bored or annoyed... as long as it's a topic he/she is interested in in the first place :)
Side note - I've totally rambled off on tangents my IxTJ friend wasn't following. They're always very kind in listening, but we have a good laugh at the end when they have no response, and I realize I just took an Ne-crack addicted romp off in weird direction, and they didn't follow. On the contrary, they're very good at grounding and focusing, which is wonderful.
Hello I'm INFJ female. I'm in love with my INTJ boyfriend for 7 years. He is the best man i have. Very understanding and caring. Such a lovely person. I want to be with him forever.
Well, shit. I'm an INFJ guy and my crush is an INTJ. This is so accurate at how she is. *Disappears for 3 months*, in the feels. *Didn't respond because she didn't want to*, mine didn't respond for 2 weeks and one day. Eventually told me that she doesn't have time for dates. She is literally the perfect girl that I have in my head, like you spoke about in "INFJ: 10 reasons you're still single", we seek that perfect person, I found her, but I'll never be perfect in her eyes and it breaks my heart... I forced myself to get over her during this quarantine, I did and this video made me think about her again, back to square one. Loving your content though, keep it up.
Am INTJ and ma sis who is INFJ says the same thing , she always told me are u ignoring me and am like dude no, I need to be alone I love u but I need time
I am an INTJ female and I LOVED this! I laughed the entire presentation. I have my eye on an INFJ male so here's hoping we make that connection! I've already made a list of the Top 10 reasons he needs me in his life. 😶
@@arturkvieira INFJ males make themselves miserable! He doesn't need me to add to that. Remember, we INTJ ladies optimize our relationships. So it stands to reason that I would want to offset his misery. Oh, wait! You were trying to insult me just now? I guess you missed that part with the "can't hate me half as much as I don't care."
INFJ here Been talking to a INTJ girl for the past 2 months and I gotta be honest, my friends keep pushing me to ask her out, but now that I have learned a thing or two about INTJ personality I am glad for not trying to ask her out. My feelings have saved me again, but I actually can't wait for the day when we finally open to each other and start hanging out, if it works out of course!
I'm INFJ male with a INTJ girlfriend. Definitely a unicorn but had nothing but positive results,even when she's up in her head or reading/researching,it gives my INFJ self the space I need. Seems to work out ok for the last 2.5 years. My ex was an ENTJ. Got more and more unbearable over the years until I slammed the door on her in all ways of my life.
[INTJ] I'm glad you were intimidated to do this, that's what we're going for lol (jk, but not really) In my experience, INFJ guys are the ones I've gotten along with the best tbh. 3 of my co-workers are INFJs and they're probably the only ones whose company I enjoy. Admittedly I've never been romantically involved with an INFJ before, so I suppose your opinion is universal xD Also just thought I'd give my two cents here: 1. Optimizing the relationship is definitely a biggie. If there are inefficiencies in the relationship, they need to be dealt with. I don't have time in my busy schedule of reading, gaming and planning every day of my life indefinitely to be worrying about all the ways the relationship is lacking 2. I don't think I'm intimidating ngl, but perhaps the RBF makes it seem that way? Why exactly do people find us intimidating lol 3. Sorry that we ignore people for 9 days. We're busy planning what we're gonna have for dinner in 3 years gosh 4. For the most part these were pretty accurate, but my mom is an INFJ and she was pretty adamant about teaching me to filter comments like 'your baby is ugly' lol. I don't share my emotions publicly but I do deal with them in my own, comfortable space. Complete lack of emotional release is an immature way of dealing with problems, and INTJs who blatantly refuse to do anything but internalise those emotions are sure to hit a pitfall. P.S. That Wednesday Adams meme is now my life
So where’s our “anxiety is the root of desire” FJ merch?? 😂 I have a good friend who’s an INTJ that mistyped as an INFJ for a long time. She’s awesome. If she’s any indication of what the average INTJ is like, they’re good people to know, and actually more caring than I think people typically give them credit for.
They are an interesting type. I find they have a deep well of emotions, but are generally uncomfortable showing them much. They don't think its logical to do so much of the time. I also find istjs like this too. My dad feels quite deeply but seldom shows it. Unless he let's it really build up. I sent him something yesterday and was shocked when he told me it made him cry. I think a lot of times both intjs and istjs have a lot of emotions but are not really sure what to do with them because they are so results driven and they feel emotion gets in the way of that. But I could listen to an intj go on for hours and I tend to be totally fascinated with their mind.
@@melbeth79 I'm an intj (male), I think the thing about our emotions is that they're often taxing on our energy to sort through and also it's honestly scary to let others know how you feel lol. If you know the intj well they can open up and be honest but most of the time it's just uncomfortable no matter how well you know the person to open up. Mostly fear of getting hurt since we tend to ignore our emotions, it ends up in a room like a hoarders house just all crammed in there right to the ceiling. I've known this for a long time and we love self improvement, but it would seem there are just some feelings too big and difficult to really share in a satisfying way with others.
@@arturkvieira INTJs? Like...all of them? That seems a bit harsh. My INTJ friend is one of the most caring, passionate people I know. Hopefully you meet an INTJ like her someday!
INTJ's just come off as assholes we have a no nonsense approach to everything including dating. I had to give my INFJ wife an ultimatum because she liked to play games, games I had no time for nor did she unbeknownst to her.
as an INTJ Female before getting into a relationship: over analyzes all the possible outcomes, concludes that I can handle any situational or permanent consequences both negative and positive that might result from the relationship, literally conducts a proper SWOT analysis, questions like "what are we trying to achieve by engaging in this relationship?" or "what if he's a one flat note full of small talk" pop up, in conclusion relationships are just really tasking. such an accurate take in the video, love from Dubai x
I am an INTJ and quite old but I have yet to make a blueprint of the trajectory of my life. However, from the time that I was very young I knew very well the things or events that I did not want to occur in my life such as marriage and children and that I did want a professional career. I also went through a number of possible careers before I became an igneous petrologist, although I ultimately had to retrain in remote sensing and coastal oceanography once I realized that the chances of ever getting an academic job as an igneous petrologist were vanishingly small in the US.
INTJ female here. My relationship with my boyfriend who is INFJ works out Extremely well for both of us. Ni and Ne functions keep us on same page for a ton of things. We also enjoy 10 hr conversations and 10 hr silence. I learned how to apologize and he learned how to stop explaining himself. BTW our orientation are both bi/non binary so INTJ sis in comments go find ya self INFJ partners!
As an INTJ woman. Relationships are an exhausting burden that restrict freedom and cause you to take time out of your day to worry about another person, which is completely ridiculous and a waste of my time.
Enfp here! My husband and best friend that is a female are both intj’s and I looooovvvvveeee their grumpy, straight forward ,intelligent moralistic butts.
My husband is an intj. This info is the very typical stereotype for intjs (it’s similar to what I find online too) but they have so much more to them! Idk if it’s the way he was raised... but he’s only those things mentioned when he’s really upset lol. Then he can be “cold” and “sarcastic” etc... he’s otherwise very sweet and intelligent and hard working and funny! I can write so much more but I’ll leave it at that. I know this video was meant for laughs and it really was great! Keep it up FJ 😆
"INTJ in love. I will solve you." LMAO!!! "INTJ female. It's like finding a unicorn. A really intimidating one." Also, LMAO!!! These people are too funny and correct. XD "Don't ask her what she thinks if you don't want to hear it." THANK YOU! Not even kidding, it took me until COLLEGE to realize when someone asks you, "How are you?" they don't actually want to know! I feel like that is so rude! "Fine, I'll apologize. I'm sorry your feelings got hurt because you were wrong." Yeah....I'm dealing with this at work. One co-worker in particular dislikes me because she thinks I'm a know-it-all bitch. I soooooo want to tell her, "Then stop being wrong." I'm just going to stay single forever. It's easier that way. Maybe that's why there are so few of us in the world. We never pass on our genes. XD
The amount of times I've been told I'm stuck up or don't know how to let other people be right. And it's like, it's not that I don't know /how/ it's that you just /aren't/. And don't even get me started on people asking questions and not wanting an honest answer. Why would you ask me if I think your outfit is cute and you don't want to hear what I actually think? I thought you wanted my true opinion, maybe even some advice if you were concerned about how it looked and how to make it better.
@@beeboop1672 You don't LET people be right. They are either right or they aren't. I don't give participation awards. I helped a co-worker I didn't particularly like to move into my apartment complex. She and I have VERY little in common. She showed me her pink shower curtain with a fuzzy poodle on it. She very proudly asked me what I thought about it and my response was, "It's ok...I guess..." She got all mad I didn't fawn over her silly curtain. I'm not a girly girl and I'm not going to pretend I care. She should know that about me after working together five freaking years.
My deepest wish as an INTJ is that people follows my advice because I'm always right. And when they don't follow it, and everything goes wrong, telling "told you so" is exhausting. Also, I see a lot of INTJ-INFJ couples over there. Do you recomend it? I've just been with a ENFP (known as perfect match)
Maybe work on becoming more convincing at getting your point across?As an INTP, this has really made a world of difference. My INTJ could def benefit from working on that as well
That was dope (and about 90% accurate)! I am far snugglier than this implies and I am not down with abandonment at all (men tend to abandon me though, perhaps it is because I am a scary unicorn who thinks too much). I even have dark hair, wide set dark eyes and glasses like the girl in the thumbnail pic, lol. I could be a Two Type Timmy girl, which would make this not apply 100% as well. Nice and amusing work, either way FJ! Oh, my vote for next is ESTP!
INTJ here...tested many times with official MBTI test, by employers. I was laughing to tears! 😂 The books is a totally accurate meme. Although, it should probably include internet researching. It isn't that we want to always BE right for our ego. It is that we work really hard at not being wrong for the sake of our integrity. There is a difference. 😏 I'm almost compelled to explain all of those other ones, but it would probably only make me appear even worse the worst of those weaknesses. 😬
who will be next??
Intp!! They're the best!
ESTP. Although I think an INTJ gf would be the best choice for you.
INFP
INFP:)
INFP! :)
INTJ SO: I don't want to control you but if you would have just done what I said, we wouldn't be in this mess.
Rachel P
Wow! You know me! Lol
That is too close to my every day life lol
*Exactly*
Exactly.
yup pretty much, everything.
INTJ female squad where u at?!!!?
Furious Angel me i hate it
@@dontaskgabbie yeah kinda sucks...hard to find a guy who doesn't annoy me etc
Hai gurl
Here!
🙋
What INTJ females actually need in a partner:
- Someone to listen to their great yet complex ideas and theories
- Someone who respects their boundaries and opinions
- Someone who hates arguing bc when you argue with an INTJ you're either stupid, wrong or simply both
- Someone who likes silence and doesn't make situations awkward
- Someone who's open minded and ready to deal with our "just do what I say" nature
- Someone who fits with our high standards and expectations. *Basically nobody*
Thank you for your time. Have a nice day .-.
Why life is soo hard for us 😭
100% correct.
So an INTP?
@@nightshade8538 maybe :/ they surely have a lot of personal problems they need to work on though (I'm just kidding)
@@cherirosabella1553 Perhaps an INFJ?
Actually, it's more like, "I know I'm right about this. I can't tell you *right now* why I'm right; but if you give me 24 hours, I promise to have a 12 page research paper with 25 scholarly sources proving to you that I'm right about this."
So accurate!!
I actually got into an argument at work a few years ago and came back two days later with 3 sources cited.😂
Me when my christian parents told me evolution wasn't real
Yes
@fivezero5 good on you?
As an INTJ female, sometimes I wonder how can I be in a relationship It seems so... exhausting and complex? But, at the same times, I kinda want to be in one...
Right? It is just too much of a pain but you also want to do it.
Same
My husband is an isfp. Its a nightmare. Its like i married my mother in law...
I completely understand! It’s so much work to be with another person, but you also crave intimacy and a deep connection.
@@oliviamorris3213 agreed. Thank god for the dog!
Read some comments about INTJs having trust issues. That's unfair to our Ni factors.
INTJs are the kind of people who trust you after alot of consideration, because whoever enters our life, must be worth the time, effort and space. But if you break our trust once, we will distance ourselves completely. It's like, inputting a linear equation in a calculator, and it gives you the wrong answer. You won't ever trust the calculator again. you will double check all answers yourself, with a separate calculator.
INTJs are loyal, but pragmatic. And therefore find it hard to forgive or forget.
Sincerely, an INTJ female.
Lol you can't compare people to calculators coz people change. So if someone were to betray you and they are still their old self, then yeah you can't trust em. But if someone truly changes and commits to that, then it's almost as if they're different ppl
@@M1911Original i still won't trust them:)
@@M1911Original People who cheat usually won't change, because they lack empathy and don't think that they did anything wrong. Of course there can be exceptions. Of course you could also think that "this person" is different for some irrational reason.
The not trusting is really true for me. I’m not good at reading people.
As a fellow intj I Sincerely concur.
I've noticed that INTJ's are unusually reserved. They seem to take quite a long period of time before warming up to people.
Because we're trying to decide if you are worth our time and energy. Being a highly introverted INTJ it take a lot out of energy be sociable at all. Also we feel so much more deeply than any of the feeling types that it is just easier to not care what other people think or do, which is also why it takes so long. Because we need to trust you. You cannot hurt and INTJ, you insult them, they don't care, you insult your family they give you a verbal beat down about why you're wrong, but if they trust you and care you can do some serious detrimental damage.
If we ever do warm up to you, that means you're a chosen one. Don't *ever* ruin that...
CC Phelps
INTJs feel much more deeply than feeling types? I don’t think that’s true...
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I believe you.
As human beings we all have the ability to feel. Being a thinking type just means that you prefer to rationalize things rather than feel them. Feeling types prefer to base their inner world, thoughts and actions on emotions.
Feeling types are more sensitive according to what I’ve read. That doesn’t mean that thinking types cannot feel as deeply, but often aren’t comfortable with doing so.
We are all capable of feeling very deep and intimate emotions:)
True, but when we do warm up you are going to see a whole other side that will surprise you. Patience is a virtue.
"well you're right" INTJ: "i know."
Resisting saying this regularly is one of the hardest parts about being an INTJ in a relationship.
Phillip Stai I relate
"see? if you would just listen"
This is just what I say every time. 🦧
Why the fuck you are so hard to find in public?
The "INTJs is the most attractive when they are not trying to be attractive" makes me realize why my bf told me he liked my "dark, lack of sleep, always depressed" undereyes
😂😂😂
Wait wtf? I literally told this to my ex before we started dating and she was INTJ as well. I'm INFJ
My ex (who's now my friend) recently told me he liked my sleep-deprived appearance when I once complained about it. I still don't get him.
As an intj I have the same fuckn eyes
I love how most of the comments in this video's comment section are well-written and grammatically correct, thereby indicating language proficiency.
I am an INTJ female by the way.
Ah yes, I love being surrounded by intellectuals.
@@리시나몬 Indeed.
My sister was watching me text a few hours ago, and she commented on my proper punctuation. I never realized before that I punctuate my texts like they’re class essays.
leen haidar same, I would be ranting in a fit of rage but still getting grammar and spelling right lol
There is no excuse for sloppiness.
INTJ here, you nailed it! My fiance bought me the perfect t-shirt. It says:
"I would agree with you but then we'd both be wrong." 🤣
Mary Vallas INTJ here as well. I have a sign that says the exact same thing on my dresser
@@stillsmallvoice4785, the secret to dating an INTJ girl is to never doubt us, and NEVER make a bet with us, We'll only bet when we already know we are 100% right! 😂 Otherwise we are very low maintenance, self sufficient, and as drama free as you're going to get!
I need one of those
@@maryvallas772 INTP guy here, with INTJ woman - check, check, check, and check. We're great together, and she is (almost) always right.
Of course, this makes for fun devil's advocate games (for me)... just to get that INTJ stare and watch her eyes start burning
I want one. Where did he get it?
INTJ and married for 12 yrs. My husband says the quality he likes best about my personality is my bluntness. He never has to play the guessing game with me. If he wants to know something I will answer him directly, and if I want something I just tell him. There's none of that "if you truly loved me, you would intuitively know what I want ... blah blah blah" nonsense.
If you don't mind my asking, what type is he?
I could sure use being with someone who didn't put me down for everything I am. It gets a wee bit tiring.
@@burnyizland He's an INTP.
@@Mrs.Silversmith Thank you for the tip!
@@burnyizland Yeah, don't go for that. It will kill your spirit.
@@msherry5 Yeah, the INFP I'm with already took care of that.
Nothing needs to be next. No one can upstage the INTJ girlfriend.
Very unorignal
@@marwankarim4676 no one cares
...except an INTJ boyfriend...
@@derpsquad1o142 lol INTJ woman here, with INTJ boyfriend. I hold my own, but he gets real close. Hahaha Only man that could.
True story. 😜🤣
For INFJs.
Pros of INTJs:
-Independent.
-Capable.
-Reasonable.
-Intuitive/don't follow a hive mentality (INFJs share this trait)
-Confident.
-Calm even when enraged.
-Will use all their brainpower to make you as successful/happy as possible (optimizing).
-People of actions, not words (this is something an INFJ can appreciate).
-Will be glad to sit around and discuss conspiracy theories with you.
-Relationship get more intimate with age (they will be comfortable with "I love you" and other forms of traditional affection)
-Romance with an INTJ is very deep and cerebral versus vapid/physical.
-Mature INTJs are incredible partners and companions, usually well rounded with a lot of skill and ambition.
Cons:
-Pessimistic.
-Do the INFJ "door slam," but in a casual manner, because it's just considered optimizing.
-Arrogant.
-Need a lot of personal space.
-Critical. If they think you are going to fail at something, they won't sugar coat/lie about it, and that can be difficult for F types that need a lot of reassurance.
-Often have compulsive tendencies.
-Apathy can be socially taboo. e.g.
ESFP: "I brought home four puppies!! Isn't that amazing??" INTJ: "No. They will drain your resources and trash your house."
ESFP: "Omg. I got engaged" INTJ: "...Do you want to be engaged?"
-Terrible improvisers, unless it's an emergency situation.
-Immature INTJs are really turbulent/unstable and not good in relationships.
Source: INTJ female
"Immature INTJs are really turbulent/unstable and not good in relationships." are they turbulent because they're scared of their emotions??? I mean what do you guys feel when you're in love? Do you just compartmentalize it?
@@EmpressTarotGabbyTurner Yes. I think it's a matter of being overwhelmed, or even "over stimulated" from their emotions.
Especially when it comes to love. INTJs don't fall in love with people easily. But when they do at a young age, they don't know how to come to terms with it and just end up becoming unhinged or even obsessive.
When INTJs mature however, their approach to emotion is like night and day.
I'm an INTJ female and these all check out for me, expect one. I'm not that apathetic. I think that's the case, because I grew up around feelers, so I learned to have more tact in general.
@@EmpressTarotGabbyTurner for me as an INTJ female I love being in love and I hate being in love. It is true that I ignore a lot of people because they are not interesting. So when I find that person that I love it's also a combination of intrigue and a desire to solve the puzzle of learning who that person is on the deepest level possible. At first I might not acknowledge the emotional component and just the cerebal one, but when I start to get a bit obsessive then I have to acknowledge some level of fondness. That's when things really get frustrating because I don't navigate in Emotion well and logic just doesn't work in the emotional Realm. So whereas I can list the top 10 reasons why a person should be in a relationship with me, that doesn't Translate the warmth that I'm actually feeling. I guess the trick is in getting the other person to realize that if I'm taking the time to think and analyze that is my way of saying I love you because I don't give up that brain space for just anybody. So this is where I think an INFJ would get me because they feel the same way about their time and their brain space.
I’d say that’s pretty accurate; I’m an INFJ girl with an INTJ guy.
Their lack of feeling is probably what affects things the most. As an INFJ, it’s hard to understand how someone could not be aware of the other persons feelings, and how saying things like in your example could hurt them.
I'm a INTJ-t female and I absolutely agreed, when you said that I want to "solve" a man, when I'm in love. But NOT, because I consider him a problem but because I want to thoroughly understand him. It's about being interested in the other. I must agree though, I have been misunderstood my entire life: if I'm interested, people feel scanned and intimidated, if I'm not interested but feel neutral, people think I'm arrogant. But I'm just not used to fake being interested to be nice. I would consider this lying
I completely agree with you. As an INTJ-T, I experienced the same thing.
INFJ male and I can say the same. The main difference between INFJs and INTJs when it comes to relationships is that both look at the other person as a case study, but while the INTJ is more focused on systematic dissection of the person, the INFJ focuses more on understanding their inner world
Here, here! Another INTJ-T female here!
True. it's painful. Intjs don't like to argue unless they are sure or it's needed. Intjs are extremely loyal and picky. solving the problems instead of merely just showing empathy for the people they care about is how they show love they would sacrifice their precious time and energy finding solutions.p. Unfortunately people think it's cold and arrogant. Intj s are more focused on solving the problem instead of showing others are wrong, people feel offended because an intj can easily see what's wrong in the picture like a sixth sense. An intj is brutally honest and naturally efficient in action and in thinking hence others might say she's insensitive or tactless
How would this not be lying? Also, fake smiling uses muscles. I don't want to have to engage my smile muscles all the time just because you need reassurance. I actively do this in work meetings just because not doing so makes it worse. Sigh. Wish I didn't have to. -INTJ woman
I’m an INTJ. I can’t stress enough that if I don’t care. I don’t care. 😂
I know right? and then people keep insisting you do care and your mad, I'm like no, I said what I said!!
Have you ever told a raging narcissist trying to manipulate you that you don't care? That's fun.
@@PermaPen Hahaha Sounds fun! I know several very extroverted narcissists that are fun to poke. My favorite is the "shutdown and change the subject" when they are trying to be funny. I have a coworker like that who I will suddenly pull the old "Oh, btw!" and turn to the person next to me and ask a completely unrelated question when the narcissist is trying to ham up a punchline. They wait for an opening looking looking shocked for a few seconds and if you give them a space to say something they'll try to start up the joke again and you can turn and continue your question. They positively melt in disbelief and fury. Ha! Good times.
And if I do... either I truly care or I'm just pretending out of social courtesy 😂😂
@@PermaPen
Oh, my isn't it.
My boyfriend tells me my personality makes the perfect girlfriend, but he wishes I would stop thinking I was right all the time.
What he doesn't know is, I actually am right all the time.
#INTJ
If he can not appreciate, accept and surrender to the fact an INTJ is right all the time, you should send him far far away. Actually, you probably already did it.
By the way, what a swell voice do you have.
Awww! What an adorably naive person he is to assume that he has somehow found an equally valid but different opinion when he clearly hasn't obsessively looked through all of the existing data and painstakingly formed the perfect explanation based on that facts. I'm married to an INFP and she often thinks she's right as well with no sustainable argument for why. So cute! #AnotherINTJ
Can be exhausting sometimes to explain your visions to people who clearly just don't want to see it... Like most of the time I'm like.. okay you've got a brain it has a super power called thinking... When are you gonna use that??? Huh?
@@phillipstai7204 Me, an INTP: Orly now? ',:-)
@@MyouKyuubi Sorry, did I forget to emote my sarcasm again? Whoops! ;) #JustForgetfulINTJThings
"I will solve you" - yes. "Optimising the relationship" - yes.
Amanda North right!?
Oh how true.
well, as an intj, relationships are not my u know, besides, I HATE INDIRECT (jUST SAY WHAT U THINK GEEZ)
Indeed🗿
I laughed so hard 😂😂
As a solid INTJ female, I can add that we are as just as sure about something being right as we are about something being wrong.
This video is very right.
This can also be added onto the part that says "I'm right, I just can't tell you _why_ I'm right". Because you know something's probably wrong, but don't know exactly _what's_ wrong
@@KitsuneFyora That's a result of them figuring something out, and cataloguing their conclusion in their brain, and throwing the research materials that allowed them to arrive at that conclusion away.
So whenever the topic appears, they proudly present the conclusion, but don't have the research leading up to it.
I suspect that's how an INTJ brain works, roughly speaking.
Wrong
It's not easy being an INTJ... not because of who we are, but because society wants us to conform to the general opinion and norms of the majority. People just don't get us, especially the way we think or the kind of lifestyle we choose. But the good thing is, we don't care if people like us or not and to those who do, they stick around because we are the most loyal friend and companion (we don't engage in gossip either because we find it too vapid).
Anyway, thanks for this great video. You somehow described my life.
You guys need the confidence in this kind of collective consciousness, tbh, I get it.
Sad but true.. 👌🏻
please marry me INTJ female!
as an INFJ
I suggest you to
ignore community
unless it's an emergency.
But what is gossip? Is that different than knowing everybody's truth? Cuz my intj sister *knows everybody's truth*. And if she speaks that truth is it gossip?
If you wrote that in an INTJ valentine's Day card they would absolutely love it. Intj women prefer to be complimented on their abilities rather than their looks
EXACTLY
Absolutely. My husband once told a co-worker of his that I was very capable. It was the best compliment!
Absolutely. Admire my intelligence, this is what is most important to me, my intellect. My intelligence is my pride. I am very smart but yet not as much as I would like. I experienced my limit with Topology, a branch of mathematics. I struggled with that, anything else was easy peasy, but not topology. 😟 I hated the feeling!
🎯🎯🎯
THIS. When I go on a date with a new guy and he immediately calls me beautiful, I’m out. Mentally, I do not care any more. But if he takes the time to talk to me and then tells me I’m smart or clever or funny… ok, tell me more 😂
"INTJ girlfriend" 🤔 sounds like an abstract concept. Being an INTJ is the reason why we are single in real life.😒
Edit: Didn't expect 500+ likes tbh. These comments are making me lmao.😂
i was writing exactly same words,should i pay you for copy right or what???
I’m single for 31 yr now and I’m 31 😂😂😂
Trueeeee !!!!
Lol.
It's true tho
Lol, true 😆
I'm an INTJ female and I started dating my husband because, on paper, we were a perfect match. The emotion came later. Luckily, he's INTP, so this worked well for him. He pursued me. I ran. We got to know each other. I decided to love him. We now have a very passionate relationship and have been together happily for fourteen years. So yeah, we can be cold and calculating and strategic, but we have emotions too. Mine mostly show up while watching movies, reading a book or in intimate, non-public moments. By show up, I mean, get expressed. They're always present. My mom and best friend are INFJs, and sometimes their expression of emotion can be exhausting, but that's okay too. :)
SaravanjaSteele wow me and my bf also started dating like this
My best friend is INTP. Great match, very equal standing.
Love this x.
"Tendency to belive they're always right"
We don't BELIVE we're always right, we KNOW we're always right people just can't deal with it
U tell 'em gurl 😎
All I see is facts🤣
INTP, INTJ, ENTP and ENTJ: the four horsemen of right
@@brickmotion6637 you sure about ENTP? lol
@@ploopybear no, I'm not sure.
INTJ Female here, well I just wanna say, deformed potato is what i really thought, but what came out of my mouth will probably be
"yeah the baby looks fine"
All babies look hideous. I try to avoid seeing them until they are at least a year old.
wrinkled dirty radish to me
LMAO AJSHAKSHAJS SO ACCURATE
I have been working my entire life to have that kind of restraint. I probably would not say potato. I would either hope to God you aren't specifically talking to me, so I can walk away as if the question never touched me OR use a word that still suggests not cute like "INTERESTING".
@@Kharizmah Most new parents are so deluded about the "cuteness" of their newborn that you can say just about anything and all they hear is "he's adorable". Win-win.
They can sound bossy. But intjs just.... Have their own way of talking.
For example, im counting on you= i love you
I value your opinion=they rarely value anyones opinion
I like....= no matter how much of a back handed compliment it sounds roll with it. Intjs will ALWAYS find a way it could have been better
Another thing i noticed is that intjs are freaking adorable with their terrible Se lmao. They come off as super smart, super structured, and only to make these silly little mistakes.
My intj friends will lose stuff right in front of their faces, is always hurting themselves from accidents, and will get so caught up on certain details that their environment seems to fade away
Another final side note ive observed is that intjs talk to themselves. A lot. And they can actually get VERY silly while confortable. Im lucky to have known them. Seriously those guys are freaking geniuses
The silly mistake part got me. XD It's my most redeeming quality from what I'm told.
So true!
Brandon Williams you nailed it! Especially the “silly little mistakes” part. We’re so convinced that we’re right, we’ll skip little steps because we’re trying to finish faster
Yep, completely caught up in our thoughts. I will literally walk right into a wall and just keep going with out missing a step. I didn't even notice I walked into it! Hahaha
I'm an INTJ who feels as if she's being silly ALL THE TIME. I'm a totally serious silly person.
I am an INTJ and a girl. I can mostly relate to those tendencies except for the fact that I'm not a "girlfriend". Never to anyone since birth. It's hard for us to fall in love or date. We get attracted to people with an intellect equal to or more than ours but we'd never make the first move unless we're sure we can actually imagine ourselves spending the rest of our lives with that person. When someone confesses, it takes just a short time for us to deduce if there's a chance to date the guy or if further interaction with him will only be annoying. We're usually correct and it's hard to explain why because before we make decisions, we've thought out most (if not all) of the options and weighed out their pros and cons. We're still open-minded though... only if you make sense. We'll only tolerate your nonsense if you're a cat. Also, we are often capable and independent so we don't feel the "need" for a partner but the idea of romance also fascinates us. Most of us are single because our standards are high and yes, we are intimidating.
Good luck finding an INTJ girlfriend who'd budge. Hahaha.
Spot on lol, even when I was younger and growing up I never understood why and how people focus so much on dating. I just never understood it, I never was looking for a partner even when I was fascinated by the idea of romance. I've had a partner before but even after we end up breaking up, yeah I did feel heart broken but after I recovered I still didn't have the feel the need to be with someone. I tried explaining this to someone before but they just didn't understand me and thought they were "losing brain cells" smh silly little infp
i do tolerate my cats nonsense only😂
Oof, that hit me in the reality
This is very accurate
Totally right
I am an INTP, and I have a friend that is an INTJ female and honestly she is absolutely fascinating. Trying to understand her mind is alot of fun, definitely not a boring type of personality. Lol Best conversations ever.
aw I knew one but we didn't talk enough
Bruh us and INTP's make the best friends like we can relate to certain stuff it's refreshing
I broke your 169 likes
@@A45-r8s i agree. And she is my literal best friend lol
INTJ + INTP = BFF (always the best combination)
"I told you so," is my battle anthem.
Mine is "really i am NOT psychic...you are just predictable"
Oh my word, I have the same anthems, but I use them on rotation.
I feel bad to say, that
A girl finally got pregnant to prove her family (really her dad) that she’s mature.
She’s never had her own place; she quits a job as soon as it gets annoying. 🤷♀️
She had this whole scenario how everything worked out. And laughy jollied about the respect she would get about it.
She’s Caribbean.
I told her no.
she got upset? Because she thinks I’m so nice and I could agree with her.
She’s seeing the backlash she’s getting from her family.
She only wanted the baby not the man.
I told her so though she was being willingly naïve.
As an INTJ, I recognize I lack seeing what people are really saying when they say something. Was there something I was missing?
that's so toxic..yes you feel better about yourself, but what about the other person...
@@mrjohniet1 no. i love the girl. for 2 years i tried convincing her not to do it.
it happened now. what can i do? i want to say give the baby to a family as she and the dad are attractive people. she's not answering my phone calls.
she wouldn't listen to me the first time when i told her not to get pregnant, i don't know about now. and i can't help her now as i'm a single mom.
As an INTJ, I'm surprised no one has mentioned one of the greatest tech gifts ever bestowed upon us, the screenshot as we definitely keep the receipts/evidence for future debate, though we don't really engage in debate so much as we inform.
I have over 5000 screenshots.
Your comment made me laugh so hard
Facts ,ma'am this is facts
Yeah... That's relate to me
Omg. Hahaha also showing convo screenshots to your group chat about THAT officemate that you always laugh at coz its been *years* and they haven't got a clue how to do their job.
Yes!!
I'm an INTJ, and I dated an INFJ woman for a while. Didn't work out in the end.
Met an INTJ woman, and it was like I was FINALLY being understood. She is amazing. It's like looking into a mirror.
I’m glad to hear, I have not really noticed any INTJ females and it sucks
INTJ woman here. And yes, the same here. When I met my INTJ man, I thought, finally, I've come home! Was with an INTP before that, it was a decent relationship, but could never truly be myself.
By mirror, do you mean a smashed mirror which reflects about 1000 shards which manifest varying elements of *your* disfunctional personality, like a kaleidoscope of pain?
Kalem St.Louis come thru bb *wink wonk*
Connor Parks really? 🙂 I've always wanted to know what it would be like INTJ to INTJ. Even though with the same personality I watched somewhere that female and male same personalities differ in the way the brain data moves around. (They scanned the brains of volunteers while each person was doing specific tasks). It's really interesting. The one talk I watched was of an ENFP male and female.
"falls in love with a fantasy": every INFJ I've ever met. 😄
As an INTJ female, I'd take a hard pass on the intj gf meme personally. I think for those of us who were raised by Fs or just found some level of growth or maturity, we are completely capable of developing a filter to situations like... telling someone their baby looks like a potato. Of course that's stupid. Also we know we're right and we've done the homework to prove it, not whatever that meme said. The interesting thing I've found in my own life is that a lot of men can form very quick attachments to me because I don't have a problem sharing information with them (but the feelers mistake that for an emotional sharing sometimes I think and can feel let down later on). Emotions are harder but they're not completely absent. We just process them internally **unless we're in a stress grip** then we basically function like ESFPs. 😬 An INTJ in a stress grip is one of the most self-destructive things ever.
thearyeh77 That’s the most accurate thing I’ve ever heard all year ;-;
Yep. All this
Most accurate comment, in my opinion.
I have noticed this pattern of my own behavior. I have always thought I was very emotional and had no problem sharing my feelings with others, because I talk non-stop. And that made me think I was an infj for the longest time. But after I went on a self-discovery journey, I realized that I am Te-Fi and not Fe-Ti. And here's a thing I noticed : I have no problem sharing my "feelings" when they have been sorted through. It seems like when I'm experiencing a type of feeling, I shut off, I don't talk, I want to be alone, but when I have delt with it, then I have no problem talking about it. A lot. I mean, I share with people some really intimate details of my life, but I don't care, it's just information. Especially when this information could help someone sort their feelings out or a problem, or avoid my own mistakes.
thearyeh77 - "As an INTJ female, I'd take a hard pass on the intj gf meme personally."......AND everything else you said...YES!
@@KD-ld1py probably the only 2 accurate comments here.
"I will solve you" is our best compliment for any human being. It means you're actually fascinating enough to be understood completely and uniquely as a real person with acknowledged agency rather than be assigned a number in our predictive model of the universe. We don't spend this processing time for just anybody.
Grok is the best term for this I've come across but I recommend reading Stranger In A Strange Land by Heinlein rather than looking the definition up on an online dictionary. And yes, it should be taken as an honour.
Right like a good math problem
INTJ married to INTJ = perfection. Never having to worry about someone getting offended about telling them how things really are, because hubby will understand and sympathise with always being disliked for being honest.
I envy you. Its really hard to find a partner.
Really? I was thinking then there would be a competition who is the best and who can control the other!
@@afrinakhanam4696 oh no, it’s not like that. You get to actually talk to this person and they will LISTEN. And not get offended by your honesty. And i won’t. It’s so precious and rare.
@@nimityaka I have encountered 3 INTJs so far. Same issue, conflicts. It's something like only one Lion can become the king of the forest, not 2 lions.
@@nimityaka Good for you. I tried, never worked for me.
INTJ in a nutshell-
"Intellectual tsundere"
I was thinking the same thing.
Jajajajaja Its pretty true XD
hahaha true!
true-
Naaah player,that would be xSTJ females not INTJ females cuz INTJ females are kamidere witch are those who have god complex.
As INTJ, the sentence "I will solve you" is the most romantic I have ever heard to be told to a partner tbh
I can't relate to this "I'm always right" stuff as all the others here do at all. I'm very open to new ideas, points of views, criticism, etc. to improve my knowledge (from intj)
If it's reasonable
I respect others opinions if they are logical.
I agree.
When it comes to theoretical/academic stuff I'm always open to new ideas. If it's something that has to do with intuition tho... Nope, I'm right. Always.
Exactly!
There’s a INTJ at my job and I’m oddly attracted to her. It’s weird. Because she literally doesn’t say anything at all.
how do you know she's an intj? sus
@@misa9079 exactly, probably just INTP. A INTJ will sooner or later say soemthing very INTJ and make soemone cry....just follow teh trail of tears.
@@HisameArtwork lmao yes intjs are actually more talkative than most people think, intp are the really quiet ones.
Well did u talk to her? Its been 2 years...
Silence is very mysterious.
Intj Mom explains to me that she told her friend, when comforting her on the recent loss of her husband: "It's better that he's dead. He doesn't have to experience this terror world.".
Intj Son to intj Mom: Please don't ever become a funeral director. Your coffinside manner is severe. Truthful, but severe.
Listen here, I'm never trying to attract anyone. I want you to go away.
Me too! Though 99 times out of a hundred the person pursuing me has no idea how incompatible we are. But I do. Those rare instances I'm interested I will do the chasing, please and thank you.
I am an INTJ and my boyfriend fell for me when i was looking disgusted at my new classmates. The part with being attractive when not trying to be attractive was correct at my case.
INTJ male here and i never really had a real relationship until I met this INFJ girl who made me feel welcome, she listened, she empathized, she held my hands for the first time and I never really held anyone's hand before and I felt safe and understood. Damnit is this what falling in love feels like? I don't want all these feelings cuz I know it will hurt me.
Just go learn what is necessary to have a healthy relationship.
Welcome to our world~ from female INFJ
INFJ female here and I'm married to an INTJ male. We've been married for 14 years now and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I am an INTJ, and a female.
I'm so flattered by this video, you have no idea.
Glad your happy
I am an INTJ female. My INFP husband constantly tells me that he is in love with me and I am an angel. He compares me to Hinata, Naruto’s wife. So I don’t think having a romantic relationship with an INTJ female is necessarily an intimidating factor.
The way I act with my husband, is not the way I act with anyone else in my life. For me, my man and my relationship with him is something I protect. I analyze everything, find out what he loves and how he reacts, then adjust accordingly to make his dreams a reality. It’s a very loving, passionate and peaceful relationship. In my world of work and duty, my husband is my own happiness.
Beautiful! Thank you!
I agree. I can be very tough and blunt with others but I treat my husband best I can because he is the chosen one. He won’t get away!
Is he as intelligent as you or is it ok to be less intelligent for a bf to date an intj girl
@@H0lolo I believe most INTJ’s feel to be more intelligent than their significant other. None the less, the INTJ will devote every to their spouse and servicing them, in the dream to accomplish the ideal spouse to them.
As an INTJ woman I finally cracked the code by dating an INTP man. Our communication is brutally honest and straight to the point. We both enjoy dark humor and lots of alone time. I get to plan out everything way ahead of time and he happily goes along with it. It's perfect.
Do you mean alone time as a couple or individually. Also i am infp male and i am very attracted towards intj girls but I am not so smart and i probably wouldn't be able to meet her standards🥲 i really want to though i just don't know how to ? So i have been talking to this intj girl for months she even called me a grear friend she even opened up with her emotions listened to mine and gave me solutions to my problems
I saw a shirt at the store that said " Sorry for being late I just didn't want to come". This relates so much to me.
I have a shirt that says that.
@@shad3revo111 I like shirts with true or relatable words on it.
@@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon
I have another shirt that says
Don't ever mistake my silence for ignorance, my calmness for acceptance, or my kindness for weakness.
@@shad3revo111 Love that.👍
I usually arrived 30 minutes early to debate to myself if I should just go back home or stay and wait
Lolz. My husband is an INTJ, been together 10 years. This video was spot on. He's my arch nemesis... I'd be bored otherwise. Best partner hands down!
Bwahah! Yes! I have an intj husband as well! You are so right! The arch nemisis comment is so great. Lol.
@@chrisweil3751 HAHAHA! 😆 It just fits! Captures the nuance!
@@arturkvieira Well now EVERYONE knows you are a rude unpleasant person, with an ugly heart 😒 troll...
What are you yourself?
I want one to be my partner .... I think
I'm an INTJ female married to my partner of 16 years, who is an ENFP male. We've had our moments, for sure, and he drives me nuts sometimes, but our personalities really complement each other well. He was a full-time single father when we met, and I respected him for that. He told me he was actually quite intimidated by me, at first, but very drawn to me. He thinks I'm the best thing ever. He can understand my emotions when I'm having a hard time expressing them. We talk a lot about the future together. I chose to marry him because he loves me for who I am, he has integrity, and he values commitment. We're an unusual pairing, the two of us, but it works.
Pretty accurate (I'm an INTJ). Although, I am willing to whip out a PowerPoint anywhere, anytime, if I think I am right. :)
@MsBizzyGurl LOL that hurt me haha I do that alot lately
INTJ here. As a girlfriend , we do take our time to get to know the person but once we like you, we slowly open up. I can be silly and affectionate , and bluntly honest. Very black and white. I guess Some guys can’t handle it without feeling too sensitive ? I dont Know.
You know what’s a mystery? Guys are!
LOL, so true, Kimberly. The illogical creatures they are!
INTJ men are freaking great. They are direct and blunt, none of the mental gymnastics required.
Margaret Dent I wouldn’t say men are the only illogical creatures, I’d say most humans that aren’t close to INTJ are usually quite illogical
Once you break that wall. That's when fun part begins.
@@uglytuco3079 Kool Aid man agrees!
Everything is so true except the hug part, for me, I love hugs, that's just shows how much I care for my close friends without needing to talk
My boyfriend: "let's compromise..."
Me (INTJ): "No, because I am right and you are wrong, nothing to compromise here"
I’m an INTJ female. And these are about 89% correct lolzzz
Lolzzz? Like you're laughing and sleeping?
@@tutankhamen5080 I laughed so hard, I fell asleep, like a true INTJ lol
I'm an INTJ male, a que hora pasas por el pan bb?
@@analucialagos5390 and here I am replying 2 months later like a true INTP
@@tutankhamen5080 Those are rookie numbers, you gotta bump those numbers up - INTP here
My boyfriend is an INFJ and I'm an INTJ. I've told him multiple times that he truly is my unicorn. Aside from INFJs being the rarest of the MBTI types he's the only person I'vr ever met who instinctually just gets me and knows how to care for me. We are insanely in tune with each other and often answer the question before the other even asks it even though they were just thinking it. This is quite possibly the match made in heaven of all matches🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
i gotta say u sound too nice and aware to be an intj respectfully, u sure u not insf?
I sent my ENTP boyfriend when he tried to first ask me out, a spreadsheet of things I wasn't going to tolerate from previous relationships. INTJ women are the same as men when it comes to being upfront with communication, which because of most social expectations of women in relationships is to be the coy one, doesn't mesh with us. We're blunt, straightforward, and do not tolerate or understand the unnecessary script of romantic banter. It just seems a waste of time to us (it just is, ok).
Boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years, so as blunt and weird as my 'spreadsheet' was, maybe it worked. He still often says I'm eccentric, can be cold in my approach, but appreciates it when it comes to hard truths since I don't mince words. Another factor might be because he's the type that will spend hours mentally sparring or shooting ideas back and forth with me, we both have a drive and appreciation for accomplishment in some manner and that is what helps.
I'm INTJ having long distance relationship with ENFP. Every phonecall be like
Him: (does the 90% of talking)
Me: (answer with short response)
But I love him. It's just how I am.
Fascinating. So this is why people tell me I’m intimidating. I love that. Totally good with being intimidating.
Me too, i also love being intimidating
acting/being vulnerable is even more powerful though
@@ignarmackadingdongjr6590 ppl will not be against you and trust you, especially those who like power
@@ignarmackadingdongjr6590 maybe
@@ploopybear I tell young women, especially if the subject is doctors who don’t listen, to use their tears. I consider tears to be a tool in my box and I use them sparingly. They work well.
One of my close friends was an INTJ female. I told her she was a good friend to me. She replied "We aren't friends but I can see why you would think so." This was after several years of knowing them. I finally had to stop being friends as I would often end up crying after spending time with them.
Haha this is brilliant Frank! I'm an INTJ who has an incredibly deep, loving, affectionate and successful relationship with my INFJ boyfriend. It works so well! A lot of our communication is non verbal and for our types, that is important and makes us feel comfortable around each other when we are silent and focused on other things.
What is your secret?!? How did you get him to go out with you?!?
Awesome!
Can you ask your bf if he finds you slightly intimidating? A he mentioned this in the video I gotta say it's a bit of a necessity in a partner lol.
Same! I’m an INTJ dating an INFJ and he’s amazing. Our weird sense of humor just clique and he can take a nap or read next to me while I also do my own thing without a problem. But he would occasionally give me random kisses to make me feel like he’s not ignoring me. What I love the most as an INTJ dating an INFJ softy is that he still gets freak out with my death stare. Hahahaha
But it means nothing though! I’m just listening to him speak or I’m thinking about snacks to eat.
Conclusion: INTJ and INFJ - great combo.
I’ve noticed a bunch of people here are also commenting how they’re in an INTJ/INFJ relationship too! Yay for us!
It's a really great attribute :)
"I know that I'm right, I just can't tell you why I'm right..."
This INTJ girl can tell you EXACTLY why I am right, presented in bullet form, lol
interviewer: what would you say your strengths and weaknesses are?
me: you mean... wacknesses. *smirks into imaginary camera*
Ahhhhhh. Jim?
I smirked before I read smirked. And that made me smirk again. :)
😄👍 thats awesomme
😂😂
BAH HAH HAH HAH HAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(Can we be friends???)
I’m an INFJ and my SO of almost 10 years is an INTJ. it’s a great relationship and we’re still each other’s favorite person after all these years. Dunno how it’ll work if the genders switch though as us INFJs can be “emotionally needy” from time to time and they are so still emotionally *snuggles grumpily on demand*. That line “I’m sorry you got hurt because you’re wrong” is so true! And no, they won’t disappear unless they don’t really like you :D
Are you male or female?
did you have to make the first move? I guess they must love you if they let you hug them. lol.
Empress Tarot by Gabby Turner hahaha actually I kinda did! But only after he awkwardly confessed his feelings for me first.
Jerusalem Basurto-Soto wondering why would any guy put Wednesday Addams as their avatar 🤔
Maybe just not have expectations out of people purely due to the circumstances of their birth.
Frank James, thank you for making your videos! As silly as it may sound, I have actually been able to realize that a lot of the things I've felt insecure, not normal, or have been told to change are actually just a part of my personality and there is nothing wrong with me. Thanks to you and the comments, I know now that I'm not alone in the ways I think about and desires/standards I have in life. It's good to know that there are people who can see past the intimidation factor and can appreciate us for who we are. Thank you INFJ and thank you comment section for allowing me to relate and accept/love myself for who I am! 😄🥰
INTJ's benefit from INFJ's slightly better social acumen. INFJ's benefit from INTJ's intelligence and organization skills. I had a best friend at work who was an INTJ (gay man). He rubbed some people the wrong way because INTJ's can come across as arrogant (and they don't understand why others don't do every stupid thing the exact same way they do) and I think it held him back a little bit in that context. When he was looking for a job he didn't want to put a summary at the top because he felt like it was the interviewer's job to read his resume and figure it out. I explained to him that most people only scan a resume initially, so a strong summary statement was a concession he needed to make to human nature if he wanted anyone to actually not throw his resume in the trash. He did ultimately take my advice. He has a really good job now. So, INFJ-INTJ is very symbiotic, and if you can find an INTJ whose T is not quite so high as my friend's you'll probably get along really well.
My mind can definitely be changed by facts. Also I don’t have anxiety except around social interaction and expectations both of which I avoid and therefore rarely have. I like to be right, but if I am wrong and you are right I immediately adopt the “right” point of view so as to be as right as possible at all times. It gives me no pleasure to pretend I’m right if I’m not
This exactly
Gave a thought to what may seem so intimidating about me - an INTJ female. I seem sweet but when confronted with a problem of someone else, I try to solve it and that's not the reaction people expect or want. But I am not going to just sigh and say it all sucks - why bother sharing a problem with someone if you do not want to be confronted with (although often uncomfortable) solution that often requires some kind of personal growth / change on your side? Yep, I think I can startle people and make them think I was this snake the entire time, seeming smiley (yes, I smile, I do not have the infamous INTJ death stare) and then BOOM brutally honest. Sorry for my mediocre English. P.S. Enjoyed the video!
I’m an INTJ with ENFP partner. He can do whatever he wants except “upsetting me”. I found him as a homeless guy with no car and now he’s working in construction regularly with his own car. I totally fixed him.
I want to do this
I identify. My homeless guy went to college and got a master's degree with my encouragement. I got bored and found someone else.
My brother is an INTJ and his wife is INFJ and they are really happy. On paper it might not sound that cool, but when you're with an INTJ it feels like you're with a more practical and better organized version of yourself, whose jokes you get, and who gets your jokes. It's a good vibe.
Totally agree. It's also comforting knowing that you can always explore an abstract topic in conversation to it's furthest logical end, and your INTJ loved one won't be bored or annoyed... as long as it's a topic he/she is interested in in the first place :)
Side note - I've totally rambled off on tangents my IxTJ friend wasn't following. They're always very kind in listening, but we have a good laugh at the end when they have no response, and I realize I just took an Ne-crack addicted romp off in weird direction, and they didn't follow. On the contrary, they're very good at grounding and focusing, which is wonderful.
100% true about improving everything and optimizing relationships...never stops
Hello I'm INFJ female. I'm in love with my INTJ boyfriend for 7 years. He is the best man i have. Very understanding and caring. Such a lovely person. I want to be with him forever.
Well, shit. I'm an INFJ guy and my crush is an INTJ. This is so accurate at how she is. *Disappears for 3 months*, in the feels. *Didn't respond because she didn't want to*, mine didn't respond for 2 weeks and one day. Eventually told me that she doesn't have time for dates. She is literally the perfect girl that I have in my head, like you spoke about in "INFJ: 10 reasons you're still single", we seek that perfect person, I found her, but I'll never be perfect in her eyes and it breaks my heart... I forced myself to get over her during this quarantine, I did and this video made me think about her again, back to square one. Loving your content though, keep it up.
“I will solve you” does not imply you are a problem which need to be solved, but a question that need to be answered.
My sister is INTJ and she forgets to reply to my text sometimes for weeks at a time.
I'm INTJ, and have a lot of complains from my sis bcs i almost never look at my messages
Am INTJ and ma sis who is INFJ says the same thing , she always told me are u ignoring me and am like dude no, I need to be alone I love u but I need time
You sound like something my sister would say lol I’m INTJ and she’s ENFJ.
I am an INTJ female and I LOVED this! I laughed the entire presentation. I have my eye on an INFJ male so here's hoping we make that connection! I've already made a list of the Top 10 reasons he needs me in his life. 😶
@@arturkvieira INFJ males make themselves miserable! He doesn't need me to add to that. Remember, we INTJ ladies optimize our relationships. So it stands to reason that I would want to offset his misery. Oh, wait! You were trying to insult me just now? I guess you missed that part with the "can't hate me half as much as I don't care."
@@jamilaperry4205 hahaha, weee ^^
INFJ here
Been talking to a INTJ girl for the past 2 months and I gotta be honest, my friends keep pushing me to ask her out, but now that I have learned a thing or two about INTJ personality I am glad for not trying to ask her out. My feelings have saved me again, but I actually can't wait for the day when we finally open to each other and start hanging out, if it works out of course!
@@dragutintheslav-veliki790 It didn't work out, right?
"I will solve you... because you're just a problem" Let's just leave it at that. That's hilarious
I'm INFJ male with a INTJ girlfriend. Definitely a unicorn but had nothing but positive results,even when she's up in her head or reading/researching,it gives my INFJ self the space I need. Seems to work out ok for the last 2.5 years. My ex was an ENTJ. Got more and more unbearable over the years until I slammed the door on her in all ways of my life.
The "I'm soooo INTJ" is a sarcastic meme, mimicking the "I'm so not the other girls" meme.
Memeology is clearly a science.
I think I got a friend in you🧐...
Neither we would just say “hi” 😭
[INTJ] I'm glad you were intimidated to do this, that's what we're going for lol (jk, but not really)
In my experience, INFJ guys are the ones I've gotten along with the best tbh. 3 of my co-workers are INFJs and they're probably the only ones whose company I enjoy. Admittedly I've never been romantically involved with an INFJ before, so I suppose your opinion is universal xD
Also just thought I'd give my two cents here:
1. Optimizing the relationship is definitely a biggie. If there are inefficiencies in the relationship, they need to be dealt with. I don't have time in my busy schedule of reading, gaming and planning every day of my life indefinitely to be worrying about all the ways the relationship is lacking
2. I don't think I'm intimidating ngl, but perhaps the RBF makes it seem that way? Why exactly do people find us intimidating lol
3. Sorry that we ignore people for 9 days. We're busy planning what we're gonna have for dinner in 3 years gosh
4. For the most part these were pretty accurate, but my mom is an INFJ and she was pretty adamant about teaching me to filter comments like 'your baby is ugly' lol. I don't share my emotions publicly but I do deal with them in my own, comfortable space. Complete lack of emotional release is an immature way of dealing with problems, and INTJs who blatantly refuse to do anything but internalise those emotions are sure to hit a pitfall.
P.S. That Wednesday Adams meme is now my life
So where’s our “anxiety is the root of desire” FJ merch?? 😂
I have a good friend who’s an INTJ that mistyped as an INFJ for a long time. She’s awesome. If she’s any indication of what the average INTJ is like, they’re good people to know, and actually more caring than I think people typically give them credit for.
They are an interesting type. I find they have a deep well of emotions, but are generally uncomfortable showing them much. They don't think its logical to do so much of the time. I also find istjs like this too. My dad feels quite deeply but seldom shows it. Unless he let's it really build up. I sent him something yesterday and was shocked when he told me it made him cry. I think a lot of times both intjs and istjs have a lot of emotions but are not really sure what to do with them because they are so results driven and they feel emotion gets in the way of that. But I could listen to an intj go on for hours and I tend to be totally fascinated with their mind.
@@melbeth79 I'm an intj (male), I think the thing about our emotions is that they're often taxing on our energy to sort through and also it's honestly scary to let others know how you feel lol. If you know the intj well they can open up and be honest but most of the time it's just uncomfortable no matter how well you know the person to open up. Mostly fear of getting hurt since we tend to ignore our emotions, it ends up in a room like a hoarders house just all crammed in there right to the ceiling. I've known this for a long time and we love self improvement, but it would seem there are just some feelings too big and difficult to really share in a satisfying way with others.
@@jetjazz05 I sounds like an accurate way of explaining it, Jesse. The hoarder analogy was good.
@@arturkvieira INTJs? Like...all of them? That seems a bit harsh. My INTJ friend is one of the most caring, passionate people I know. Hopefully you meet an INTJ like her someday!
INTJ's just come off as assholes we have a no nonsense approach to everything including dating. I had to give my INFJ wife an ultimatum because she liked to play games, games I had no time for nor did she unbeknownst to her.
as an INTJ Female before getting into a relationship: over analyzes all the possible outcomes, concludes that I can handle any situational or permanent consequences both negative and positive that might result from the relationship, literally conducts a proper SWOT analysis, questions like "what are we trying to achieve by engaging in this relationship?" or "what if he's a one flat note full of small talk" pop up, in conclusion relationships are just really tasking. such an accurate take in the video, love from Dubai x
INTJ: disappears in 3 months
Me (intj): but i dont come back? lol
Disappears FOR 3 months.
HAHA I’m an INTJ and I made a blueprint of the trajectory of my life when I was like 7
I am an INTJ and quite old but I have yet to make a blueprint of the trajectory of my life. However, from the time that I was very young I knew very well the things or events that I did not want to occur in my life such as marriage and children and that I did want a professional career. I also went through a number of possible careers before I became an igneous petrologist, although I ultimately had to retrain in remote sensing and coastal oceanography once I realized that the chances of ever getting an academic job as an igneous petrologist were vanishingly small in the US.
My girlfriend is an INTJ and I’m a INFJ and we function really well together
INTJ female here. My relationship with my boyfriend who is INFJ works out Extremely well for both of us. Ni and Ne functions keep us on same page for a ton of things. We also enjoy 10 hr conversations and 10 hr silence. I learned how to apologize and he learned how to stop explaining himself. BTW our orientation are both bi/non binary so INTJ sis in comments go find ya self INFJ partners!
Your enthusiasm or lack there of keeps me on #teamENTPs
I am an INTJ and my boyfriend of 3 years is a ENFP and it’s a good mix.. 10/10 recommend
I tried this at a point in my life. I felt like his was emotinally vomiting on me daily!
It works when you're both on the same page...otherwise, it could be highly emotionally draining for you. Space and self care is key!
Linda Reaux yes! I can’t totally see where that can happen! We are pretty similar on an emotional level I’m just a lil more cold n logical 😂
As an INTJ woman. Relationships are an exhausting burden that restrict freedom and cause you to take time out of your day to worry about another person, which is completely ridiculous and a waste of my time.
Spot on. I've never found anyone who wasn't a burden.
I'm an INTJ and this made me laugh so hard it made my side ache. 😂
Enfp here! My husband and best friend that is a female are both intj’s and I looooovvvvveeee their grumpy, straight forward ,intelligent moralistic butts.
My husband is an intj. This info is the very typical stereotype for intjs (it’s similar to what I find online too) but they have so much more to them! Idk if it’s the way he was raised... but he’s only those things mentioned when he’s really upset lol. Then he can be “cold” and “sarcastic” etc... he’s otherwise very sweet and intelligent and hard working and funny!
I can write so much more but I’ll leave it at that. I know this video was meant for laughs and it really was great! Keep it up FJ 😆
Your comment was very nice and you wrote about INTJ real and deep secrets :)
"INTJ in love. I will solve you." LMAO!!!
"INTJ female. It's like finding a unicorn. A really intimidating one." Also, LMAO!!! These people are too funny and correct. XD
"Don't ask her what she thinks if you don't want to hear it." THANK YOU! Not even kidding, it took me until COLLEGE to realize when someone asks you, "How are you?" they don't actually want to know! I feel like that is so rude!
"Fine, I'll apologize. I'm sorry your feelings got hurt because you were wrong." Yeah....I'm dealing with this at work. One co-worker in particular dislikes me because she thinks I'm a know-it-all bitch. I soooooo want to tell her, "Then stop being wrong."
I'm just going to stay single forever. It's easier that way. Maybe that's why there are so few of us in the world. We never pass on our genes. XD
The amount of times I've been told I'm stuck up or don't know how to let other people be right. And it's like, it's not that I don't know /how/ it's that you just /aren't/.
And don't even get me started on people asking questions and not wanting an honest answer. Why would you ask me if I think your outfit is cute and you don't want to hear what I actually think? I thought you wanted my true opinion, maybe even some advice if you were concerned about how it looked and how to make it better.
@@beeboop1672 You don't LET people be right. They are either right or they aren't. I don't give participation awards.
I helped a co-worker I didn't particularly like to move into my apartment complex. She and I have VERY little in common. She showed me her pink shower curtain with a fuzzy poodle on it. She very proudly asked me what I thought about it and my response was, "It's ok...I guess..." She got all mad I didn't fawn over her silly curtain. I'm not a girly girl and I'm not going to pretend I care. She should know that about me after working together five freaking years.
I cant breathe dude😂😂😂😂😂 thats was all correct u got me
Omg so sorry you sound insufferable
I've stated straight up telling ppl that I'm happy they exist. It gets to the honest truth of the pleasantries without using imprecise language.
I'm an INTJ female and married an INFJ male and the conversations we have are so meaningful! I wouldn't make it with an Extrovert.
My deepest wish as an INTJ is that people follows my advice because I'm always right. And when they don't follow it, and everything goes wrong, telling "told you so" is exhausting.
Also, I see a lot of INTJ-INFJ couples over there. Do you recomend it? I've just been with a ENFP (known as perfect match)
How was ur relation with enfp person?
Maybe work on becoming more convincing at getting your point across?As an INTP, this has really made a world of difference. My INTJ could def benefit from working on that as well
That was dope (and about 90% accurate)! I am far snugglier than this implies and I am not down with abandonment at all (men tend to abandon me though, perhaps it is because I am a scary unicorn who thinks too much). I even have dark hair, wide set dark eyes and glasses like the girl in the thumbnail pic, lol.
I could be a Two Type Timmy girl, which would make this not apply 100% as well. Nice and amusing work, either way FJ!
Oh, my vote for next is ESTP!
Took the test today and me & my boyfriend are INTJ!! No wonder I felt like all my life no one understood me better than him.
I have a coffee mug that my friend bought for me that says, "if everyone agreed with me, they'd all be right. " 😂
#truth
I always wanted to be like other personalities, turns out im a unicorn wanting to be a dog smh
"fall in love with the fantasy, not the real thing" well that describes my love life...
INTJ here...tested many times with official MBTI test, by employers.
I was laughing to tears! 😂
The books is a totally accurate meme. Although, it should probably include internet researching.
It isn't that we want to always BE right for our ego. It is that we work really hard at not being wrong for the sake of our integrity. There is a difference. 😏
I'm almost compelled to explain all of those other ones, but it would probably only make me appear even worse the worst of those weaknesses. 😬