That's patriarchy for you! They put all the responsibility on women for the deeds they are part of! Until the recently, children born out of wedlock had no rights in the West. In Asia they are given to the West for adoption. It's just dreadful!
That is not true, and surely everyone knows that is false, right? Tell me, isn't it true that rapists are extremely stigmatized, esp if they were known in this case? Is this a "lie for a good cause" or something? I'm obviously not justifying it, just pointing out that it is a lie that looks good and wise.
Her step-father is such a kind, understanding and loving man, especially considering that he is a war veteran. He loves her more than her own mother. God bless him.
Her mother loves her, did you not hear her say she thought it would be better (for the child) if she gave her up for adoption. She felt guilty and selfish for wanting to keep her.
He didn't endured the rape. It's really hard to be raped, but to raise the kid out of it!?. It's understandable that she had some issues. If you were raped, maybe you'd understand why it was hard for that woman instead of judging her.
Not true. Both her parents truly love her, thank goodness. It's always lovely to see a man love a child that is not his biological child. He faced a difficult time marrying her mother and making this loving family. But for her mother she had a very difficult life for years before she met him. And of course she was raped and traumatised, she really didn't know if she did the right thing keeping her child in such a hostile society. The truth might have been hidden if she had been adopted and her life would not have had the stigma. But her mother did bring her up even with the bad memories and hardship they faced, you can see she is so proud of her daughter. I am glad for both women that she married such a loving man as their lives were not easy and he has the softness, understanding and faith in them that they were being denied. Having said that he obviously feels that Ajna and her mother complete his life. What a terrible war and what terrible repercussions for so many people.
@@myrtle1234 the foul attitudes led to the civil war so it's not that surprising that the attitude is still present, I'm not condoning the attitude just pointing out the historical starting point. I don't think the war resolved anything in fact it probably makes the division more entrenched.
"I finally had someone I could take care of, she gave my life MEANING, I took her to school,..." Now that's a significant statement. A man with fiber, he stuck to his guts.
@@thenativist6330 Lastly Child? Well, I sure hope that you never have one. And what does Man mean? Yourself? Would you really put yourself before your own Child?
Nusret, you will forever be in our hearts. You are an amazing human being and an example to the world of what a MAN should be like. My deepest respect and love to you.
THAT IS WHAT SOLDIERS DO, KILL THE ENEMY; "COLATERAL DAMAGE" AND RAPE WOMEN THEN SHOOT THEM. DO YOU KNOW WHAT HAPEN TO FEMINES IN GERMANY, AFTER IT WAS DESTROYED IN 1945?
Militarised rape is one of the most disgusting crimes, the fact this was in the 90s is gross, although it does still happen in other countries even now buy the scale of this was shocking. I find it so hard to fathom how rape continues to be a stigma, that a society judges and miss treats survivors instead of embracing them. We are quite a vile species.
People blame victims as it would frighten them to except something like that could happen to them too. They rationalise it as 'I'm a normal person, it cant happen to me'.
We are indeed a vile society! These children are 100% blameless as are their mothers. Why must people be so hateful towards those who are different in some way? We are all god’s creatures & deserve, at the very least, respect and understanding. I salute these children who are now trying to change how their societies view their particular situation. They have no reason to be made to feel shame for a crime against their mothers. Life is too short, people. There is no time for hatred and judgements against others. Simply no time for all that negativity! God bless you all. xx
Blame the victim to enable continued rape without consequence for the rapists.. Humans really possess scant redeeming qualities. Bless this man who adopted Ina...and her traumatized mother. I hope they all find much peace and live.
If a Bosnian child reads this, remember it's not your mother or your fault. You were born in a difficult time. Love your mother, she chose to keep you. You were born for a reason - make something of your life. Just remember somewhere in the world someone is keeping you in their prayers.
I have a friend whose first child was the result of a previous, short lived, relationship. Her husband met her, they got married, and he raised the child as his own and then together they had several more. He never treated this child any differently, they were all a family together. She grumbles about her husband sometimes but I always think to myself that he is a good man anyway. To do that, that takes real love and strength.
They are not arrested ? So sorry for what happened to Bosnia . I hate those criminals. I want to send my deepest sympathies for that tragedy. Love from Azerbaijan.
@@Alpine1996 You are right. Also this is not only matter of Bosnians. All the world, all the women should demand justice. What happened there was an insult for the name of woman
I'm a Bosnian, and I did a summer program in Višegrad few years ago. It was about transitional justice and we got to hear personal stories. We met up with prominent figures in the city: a man for each nationality. They did not agree upon anything about the war, except for one thing. They talked about a woman that was seeking for justice publicly for being raped, because nobody was ever convicted. Višegrad still has a hotel that has kept furniture on which women were raped, and were held prisoners in the hotel. When we asked about more information regarding that, they kept avoding the topic saying how "everybody was murdered at some point" and "everybody has suffered, and now these women talk about these sensitive issues in public, which can only cause more problems". I found it interesting how they liked to brag about and discuss everything, but when it came to women, they preferred to keep silent or say such demeaning and underwhelming things. It's heartbreaking, really, to be a person that has met two women that survived concentration camps- the women that can't have children today anymore because of the torture they survived. And they never sued anybody. Just like the majority of women. Honor is a big thing in the Balkans still, and for a woman to admit she was raped... many of them don't even tell their husbands, families... it's shameful and people are more afraid of what others will say.
Wow. That’s crazy. The men only sympathized with how the war affected them, but not their own women. Damn. 😒 They spoke freely about their own losses, but the women’s trauma was just an inconvenient burden? That tells me a lot about their own morality regarding sexual abuse, during war time or otherwise.
@Ei Dirst My people are matriarchal. Rape was traditionally punished by handing the rapist over to his victim and her female relatives. His death was neither quick nor painless. One thing was for certain - he never raped anyone again.
Could you please tell me where this camps are located? Its easy to tell stories. I know a lot more stories about increased prices, like for example a liter milk Sold for 50-300 German Mark in those territories, so the prostitution thing was a real issue
I'm here to comment on the father...wow!!! My own father has never accepted me coz I'm a girl. And this MAN , THIS ANGEL loves this girl with no boundaries... WOW WOW
your father is missing out on a wonderful daughter. Youre beautiful and by your comment i can tell you’re kind and compassionate with a good heart. No father can ask for more.
Ajna’s dad isn’t her biological father, but he gave her what she needed in life. I cried when he said that raising her gave meaning to his life. 😭 God bless him!!
I've been to Bosnia twice, and whoever I met was a nice human being. This is an amazing documentary that reminds us how dignity and character look like. Much respect from Istanbul, to all the victims of the unjust war.
Wow I have watched a lot of these DW documentaries but this has to be one of the best. What an inspiration Ajna is, but also her stepfather Nusret. See how proud he looked on the day she graduated? That showed who her true father really is. Thanks for bringing this story to the world DW.
It’s the same story world over,women who are abused ,violated and raped are blamed for the same ,like they allowed it or had power to defend it and refused to do so.The narrative MUST change through proper intervention by adopting a multi sectoral approach.
Aina’s father is an exceptional human being. My step dad met my mom when she was 21 and I was 6, he was a monster that took every opportunity to belittle and marginalize me in public. Bless this man for the good he has done for both mother and daughter!
It remembers me of Kurdish women who were victims of sexual assault by ISIS. It broke my heart,💔the only thing is we love our girls when they escape from isis their families open their hearts and homes for them We see them as our heroes 🧡
Rape is the most barbaric of human actions. Children born of rape & their mothers need to be respected & honoured for the suffering they have to go through not face any stigma. Thank you for such an informative documentary.
I was moved to tears 😭 by the adoptive dads, Nusret and Muharrrem.. what big hearts they have, such HUMANITY ❤️❤️❤️ you could even tell from the pictures with little Alen, there is so much ❤️
Grown man here , reduced to tears. It is appalling enough that men fight wars over women's bodies. The women victims are then ostracized and humiliated for rest of their lives. This is heartbreaking. On the other hand, there is salvation and hope in seeing men like Nusret stepping up and caring for Ajna and her mother. Use of rape as a weapon of war needs to be abolished once for all.
Sorry to say it never will The first target in all CONFLICT is the canal of life,some culture will never accept her back in the clan(Yazidi) Rape is the most humiliating & vile encounter for centuries,this manly gesture of conquer will be use as act of defiance & ownership .whole village in france was rape & b*** NANKING to tip of africa Beastly nature of man May we change 🇨🇦🖤
Discusting how victims of rape are treated. People should be ashamed, very ashamed of how different rapists and victims are treated. Society has to stop hating women and the best thing to do is by women supporting women.
Ajna, veliki pozdrav za tebe i celu tvoju porodicu iz Srbije. Mladi hrabri ljudi kao ti stvaraju novu realnost na ovim prostorima, vi ste budućnost i lepota koju svi treba da podržimo. Želim ti sve najbolje!
Your intention is good, but heaven or hell aren't based on our good deeds but whether or not we believe in Jesus Christ. Vaša je namjera dobra, ali nebo ili pakao se ne temelje na našim dobrim djelima, već vjerujemo li u Isusa Krista ili ne. Ваша намера је добра, али небо или пакао се не заснивају на нашим добрим делима, већ да ли верујемо у Исуса Христа или не.
@@Alpha-xt6ow Well, someone who really believes in Jesus won't do this things. 1 John 4:20 If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? Or 1 Timothy 5:8 But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.
Btw there is a success story regarding this now! They have managed to pass the law that doesn't require specifically father's name in formulars, you can write the name of any of your parents. Thank you Ajna, Alen and other brave people who keep fighting for better future.
What's crazy is that many of the rape victims already know exactly who raped them - their full names, where they live. Sometimes victims have seen them walking around in the shops etc because it was often perpetrated by other villagers they knew before - their own neighbours that turned against them at the start of the war, who now walk around freely and sleep peacefully at night without any remorse for what they did to these people. It's chilling.
I wonder who are these people who have disliked this video 🤔 This was a tremendous story of so many brave beings , hats off to you all , I love you all
Most people use the like/dislike buttons to teach the algorithm do they want a certain type of video to see again or not, I personally rarely use either button but that's more or less its purpose
What a wonderful man this adoptive dad. This girl does or did feel her mother's lack of attachment. We need WORLD PEACE! War has caused a lot of problems but WAR has never solved one problem yet.
Jesus spoke of wars. Peace will come when He returns and crushes His enemies. Satan does not rest with his evil plans. Men's heart are evil. Only Jesus brings peace.
when you make money out of war its really easy to promote it :) , emotions aside, if you personally don't kill anyone bud make money out of killing millions, you can sleep well at night. That's how our brain function, for many its just so abstract.
@Timefliesbye my friend don't be to rush to pass that, the Balkan wars have a history going back to the Ottoman's times. For them that was nothing but a continuation of what had already been started the only difference being only the weapons had changed
Balkan wars prior to ww1 did heal and countries like sebia vs bulgaria dont have a wish to fight. I think these ex yugoslav wars keep happening because of every side thinking they can get more then they have now in terms of land. Honestly its hard to understsnd. Sjebani smo buraz lol
The worst messed up part is that Islam has a big foot in Europe cause of Islam in Bosnia that should not be there to begin with. Ottomans were evil to bring it. Jesus loves the people but hates the Allah/Satan worship and Will crush it. Flee Islam while there is time.
@@danasmith1197 you basically trolling without any particular knowledge about faith.you gave to learn and research and that you might be able to stress any topic about history or gaith in generally!there in no bad religion,the people which traslate it are deviant.what if i tell you that chatolic church use to slain people with the other beliefs for almost 500 years in europe? what if i tell you that first crusade ended up in slain and robbery of constantinople?
That psychological transfer of guilt happens all to quickly. My dad was pretty known at the police and not in a good way and that deflected down unto me also. And i live in a 1st world country
Not only rapes,it 's ridiculous that even in molest cases, the victims are accused of inviting the perpetrators to commit the acts because of the way the victims were dressed. @))':($"#)##🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
The purest form of love that my people have even after the war makes me proud to call myself a BOSNIAN!! The unbreakable spirit of Bosnians is a thing to be admired of, and that huge beating heart that beats inside of our chests will never get tainted with hate! Proud and strong!! People deserve to put their heads down before people like Ajna and Alen. Much love and words of hope and patience that your voice will one day be heard!!!
"Ajna studied at the academy for a year and by the end of it was able to speak openly with her classmates about her past" - Respect for educational environments and mentors who are able to foster this kind of psychological and emotional safety ❤️
Support for Ajna and Alen from Croatia! It's sad that war criminals regardless of their nationality, are not prosecuted and shamed for crimes they have done, but their victims are! It's redicolous!!
Our society (and I mean all societies in ex-Yugoslavia) are sick to its core. But that is the legacy of hatred that leads to genocide, ethnic clensing and rape...
The sad part is that our goverment would probably stand behind that "soldier" and it is the government we elect over and over again...I feel guilty and ashamed for this...Moments like this make me ashamed of my nationality
@@janjetina138 Which warcrimes did commit BiH????? Dont dare to compare croatian and serbian r4apists and murderers with brave bosniak freedom fighters
@@marijajuresic2157 Well single mothers gived you life. Not all children had normal life. What do you expect? Be born again is good for your soul. Be thankful to your mother you are here.
What wonderful, loving fathers. They look so very proud of their children. Well done to both children for taking up the cause in support of these blameless victims…you are amazing!
This is very precious documentary. People who rape and people who mock persons born from that deed should be severely punished financially and physically.
Beautiful heart-wrenching film, I wish the children, their family, and their mothers all the best. the women were put in impossible situations. it is sad to see the result of war, ethnonationalism, and demagoguery. thanks to DW for distributing the film, but I wish it had included a closed caption for those who are hard of hearing (as it stands they have to rely on google's auto-generated CC. p.s. I hope someone deletes the bigoted comments
Misha Bear I was thinking the same thing. Also, couldn’t her Mom just put a name on the birth certificate, to avoid all this hurt and gross invasion of privacy 😒
We are Muslim you should put your father name not your stepfather or another man. just your biological father and if you raise a child that is not yours when he or she grows up you should tell him the truth about where they are come from.
Eina's step father is absolutely beautiful. You can tell he loves her like his own, what a really lovely man. Obviously her mother is still working through her issues. The young nurse's adopted father was lovely also. It makes me mad beyond measure as to why these beautiful children and women are blamed for this atrocious act that was perpetrated upon them in a time of war. I know it's a cultural thing, but everything evolves, Eina's step father did after all. There should be no shame in these people's lives except in the dirty, stinking pig of ....thing that raped the mothers in the first place. Where is theri shame in all of this? Where is there punishment? Oh no, it's the women's fault for standing there being a woman in war times. Yep. This is happening now, as we speak in other countries.
I am from Bosnia and was born just before the war. I am a little torn about this documentary because it paints a picture of Bosnian people as a whole ( society at large ) discriminating against these children. There are people that would discriminate and others who would want to help ( like those wonderfull men ). I don't know any Bosnian people who would treat them badly because of the situation they were born into. Having said that the way things are set up legally- that sounds incredibly painful and problematic. Unforunately these things take time to change and at least half the population is still traumatized from the war. These things sometimes take generations to heal. I wish both of them all the best, and hope they remember that there are fellow Bosnians who do support them.
Man is a sick breed Callous,heinous is the way Are you not happy You could not Ever dig that low to violate anyone In two second we kill & maimed without regards to victim of non consideration an life goes on I watch video in HD I call red shirt girl Most petite little girls on knees with tears of life pouring out 6 massive men with guns behind her Calmly another walk over take her ARM cut it off below elbow She still in kneelin position,eyes pop open with shock & her stare is how can you do this Then the next below elbow comes off Mental shock of no feeling comes thru her whole body Then above Elbow comes off & tears roll off my face (I'm crying again) i close my eyes When i open up She was folded like chinese laundry Cartel in mexico Mankind is savage,how do you sleep at nite The whole COUNTRY of impunity.mexico city 1 % rape is fully investigated 🇨🇦🖤🇨🇦
Thank you for sharing this documentary. These issues are also in most or every Asian country...sri lankan women were raped by the Indian army when they went through the tamil tiger wars in 1980's and no one has spoken or looked after these woemn or kids. Kosovand suffered from this war in Bosnia as well along with the rest....my heart and soul goes out to each and every woman in this path ....its not called shame..its Bravery and you have overcome the people who tried to put you to shame!
This is heartrending! And, unbelievable what these children are STILL going through. Where’s compassion, love and understanding? I truly hope they get the right people around them to strengthen their worth and preciousness. Sending good wishes and positivism from Scotland 🏴 Bless you ALL sincerely, brothers and sisters of the global family! 🙏♥️🌍🕊🕊🕊🕊♥️♥️
This video is so important. 1st such video I've seen which tells about rights of these children who suffer discrimination for no mistake of theirs... Thank you for making documentary on this topic.. With Love, from 🇮🇳
Oh what a great man, husband and father! His tearful words about how the life without his step daughter would be MEANINGLESS were so touching! I also understand the mother's words and plight, as well as the daughter's s. They all have their own devastating perception of events and their feelings are 100% valid. Great video!
Thank you for making such an important documentary. My heart goes out to all the victims. Please keep on making such documentaries. Good luck to all people working to help the victims.
i live in america but was born in sarajevo and immigrated in 1998 during the war. incredible documentary. i know so little about my country. really hope that the victims get the exposure and light they need on this issue to get some sort of positive outcome from it.
I am Macedonian and I am really sorry to hear this things. For the first story I cannot believe that the mother is still thinking that it was better to leave her daughter after all this time and her stepfather loves her so much so heartbreaking. I am happy that she will be safe with her stepfather. And for the another children 👶 I am happy that they are with lovely families and safe now …
I remember this time in history the Bosnia crisis, it shook me as a young Canadian woman to know that Bosnian woman were devastated by rape in a war they did not ask for. And now their precious children are left to suffer. Shame on the Bosnian government for not stepping up, hunting down and bringing to justice the paracitical men that committed these war crimes.
I hope these children find a loving partner and spouses to have a good life with. This is so sad. Bosnian government should be more understanding of these children. These children are war victims
It was so lovely to see the father in the white shirt care so deeply about his family and the love he has and wants to give. I am sure it has helped her mom so much. xx
Respect for these mothers who chose to give life despite the tragical circumstances These children are alive today, that is the most important point, everything else can be repaired and healed
Invisible children? I see beautiful humans who digging inside their past like they will live 1000 years, you are survives and I am proud on your mothers and you all, you are not invisible, you are the most beautiful humans, you are live and have future, be strong stay strong, you are amazing Han beings
Anja and all the other children born of the war tragedy are gifts to the world. Anja and the guy featured in this documentary are working to make Bosnia a better place for ALL victims of war. She is an inspiration.
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I applaud the father for being this loving and accepting of a child who needed it the most.
That was some of the most wholesome masculinity I've ever seen.
That's a real man
His gentleness, strength and decency were so beautiful.
It shows that we can heal grief with love
He is an angel 👼.
It is crazy that victims are stigmatized , not the rapists.
bc most of them are hiding in the hills of Serbia protected under the Serbian gov.
It's going on Asian countries still now
That's patriarchy for you! They put all the responsibility on women for the deeds they are part of! Until the recently, children born out of wedlock had no rights in the West. In Asia they are given to the West for adoption. It's just dreadful!
@@sanafizasana4351 Nope , not in most of asia
That is not true, and surely everyone knows that is false, right?
Tell me, isn't it true that rapists are extremely stigmatized, esp if they were known in this case?
Is this a "lie for a good cause" or something?
I'm obviously not justifying it, just pointing out that it is a lie that looks good and wise.
Hats off to stepfathers and adoptive families!
Liudmila Brilliantova true.
For they are the true fathers
God bless the father of that young lady. God bless these people in Jesus name Amen
@@ljkljk4694 Bosnians are muslim
100% agree. Angels in human form.
"As far as I am concerned, a life without Ajna would be meaningless". What a wonderful human being.
I legit started crying when he said that. He is the exemplar for how all fathers should be but sadly too many aren't.
Brought me to tears...wonderful man,wonderful human.💕
They always find a sucker that works his ass of for them.
respect for Ajna’s father. A real gentleman
100% agreed
he is a real man, strong, loving , hard working, and honest.
A man with a great hart
thecogneuroscientist truly
Eclipse 6344 right.
When the step dad says life would be meaningless without his adoptive daughter… that had me cry so badly. What a man , what a dad
Being a great loving and supportive father takes so much more than DNA.
❤️🥲
The step dad embraced the true values of fatherhood.
Her step-father is such a kind, understanding and loving man, especially considering that he is a war veteran. He loves her more than her own mother. God bless him.
Indeed, Jesus bless him
Her mother loves her, did you not hear her say she thought it would be better (for the child) if she gave her up for adoption. She felt guilty and selfish for wanting to keep her.
He didn't endured the rape. It's really hard to be raped, but to raise the kid out of it!?. It's understandable that she had some issues. If you were raped, maybe you'd understand why it was hard for that woman instead of judging her.
Not true. Both her parents truly love her, thank goodness. It's always lovely to see a man love a child that is not his biological child. He faced a difficult time marrying her mother and making this loving family. But for her mother she had a very difficult life for years before she met him. And of course she was raped and traumatised, she really didn't know if she did the right thing keeping her child in such a hostile society. The truth might have been hidden if she had been adopted and her life would not have had the stigma. But her mother did bring her up even with the bad memories and hardship they faced, you can see she is so proud of her daughter. I am glad for both women that she married such a loving man as their lives were not easy and he has the softness, understanding and faith in them that they were being denied. Having said that he obviously feels that Ajna and her mother complete his life. What a terrible war and what terrible repercussions for so many people.
WAR VETERAN A? . . .
When Muharem, Alen's adopted father cried, i could feel his soft heart which is full of love and humanity. Bless you.
Agree such a beautiful man.
He is such a good man, God bless him.
Real man
No one is commenting on the foul attitude of their Bosnian peers against these kids. Their neighbors feel free to abuse these kids and their moms.
@@myrtle1234 the foul attitudes led to the civil war so it's not that surprising that the attitude is still present, I'm not condoning the attitude just pointing out the historical starting point. I don't think the war resolved anything in fact it probably makes the division more entrenched.
"I finally had someone I could take care of, she gave my life MEANING, I took her to school,..." Now that's a significant statement. A man with fiber, he stuck to his guts.
He said, that without her, my life would be meaningless.
@@lorraine9242 if that’s the case, he needs to seriously reconsider his priorities.
@@thenativist6330 "priorities"
Purpose has the highest priority
@@jaigracejjoy God has the highest priority, then country, then man, then woman, and lastly child.
@@thenativist6330 Lastly Child? Well, I sure hope that you never have one. And what does Man mean? Yourself? Would you really put yourself before your own Child?
Nusret, you will forever be in our hearts. You are an amazing human being and an example to the world of what a MAN should be like. My deepest respect and love to you.
Intelligent Dating I agree!!!
@@arnelabih1845
Hi, I am from Hong Kong
Respect to Nusret, wonderful man.
Nusret ❤️
THAT IS WHAT SOLDIERS DO, KILL THE ENEMY; "COLATERAL DAMAGE" AND RAPE WOMEN THEN SHOOT THEM.
DO YOU KNOW WHAT HAPEN TO FEMINES IN GERMANY, AFTER IT WAS DESTROYED IN 1945?
Shameful are the villagers and other society members who resent the victims and tolerate the perpetrators.
@s b not education but a change of heart.
@printmedia14 Islam is Allah/Satan worship.
@@danasmith1197 Sounds you don't know much about the conflict in ex-Jugoslavia
Shut up Dana smith those attitudes are exactly why all this mess happend in the 90s
@printmedia14 what are you smoking?! Get away with your Islam lies.
Militarised rape is one of the most disgusting crimes, the fact this was in the 90s is gross, although it does still happen in other countries even now buy the scale of this was shocking. I find it so hard to fathom how rape continues to be a stigma, that a society judges and miss treats survivors instead of embracing them. We are quite a vile species.
People blame victims as it would frighten them to except something like that could happen to them too. They rationalise it as 'I'm a normal person, it cant happen to me'.
UN refuse to categorise this as a war crime 🤬😡🤬😡🤬😡🤬😡
We are indeed a vile society! These children are 100% blameless as are their mothers. Why must people be so hateful towards those who are different in some way? We are all god’s creatures & deserve, at the very least, respect and understanding. I salute these children who are now trying to change how their societies view their particular situation. They have no reason to be made to feel shame for a crime against their mothers. Life is too short, people. There is no time for hatred and judgements against others. Simply no time for all that negativity! God bless you all. xx
Blame the victim to enable continued rape without consequence for the rapists..
Humans really possess scant redeeming qualities.
Bless this man who adopted Ina...and her traumatized mother.
I hope they all find much peace and live.
Yes I agree. I am disturbed that some American soldiers are guilty of such crimes, while in Iraq and Afghanistan very disturbing 😳
If a Bosnian child reads this, remember it's not your mother or your fault. You were born in a difficult time. Love your mother, she chose to keep you. You were born for a reason - make something of your life. Just remember somewhere in the world someone is keeping you in their prayers.
The stepfathers and adoptive parents are admirable. This gives me hope about humanity
I have a friend whose first child was the result of a previous, short lived, relationship. Her husband met her, they got married, and he raised the child as his own and then together they had several more. He never treated this child any differently, they were all a family together. She grumbles about her husband sometimes but I always think to myself that he is a good man anyway. To do that, that takes real love and strength.
And those rapists are still walking among us in our cities and villiges across the ex-Yu region...
They are not arrested ? So sorry for what happened to Bosnia . I hate those criminals. I want to send my deepest sympathies for that tragedy. Love from Azerbaijan.
Exactly!! Very well said, thank you! If they want us to move on then acknowledge the atrocities of war we had to put up with and live through!
@@Alpine1996 You are right. Also this is not only matter of Bosnians. All the world, all the women should demand justice. What happened there was an insult for the name of woman
@@Seadet_s_channel theres a serbian song called ''my dad is a war criminal''
and also i am a croat but half bosnian and serbs have done alot worse.
AMONG US
SUS
I'm a Bosnian, and I did a summer program in Višegrad few years ago. It was about transitional justice and we got to hear personal stories. We met up with prominent figures in the city: a man for each nationality. They did not agree upon anything about the war, except for one thing. They talked about a woman that was seeking for justice publicly for being raped, because nobody was ever convicted. Višegrad still has a hotel that has kept furniture on which women were raped, and were held prisoners in the hotel. When we asked about more information regarding that, they kept avoding the topic saying how "everybody was murdered at some point" and "everybody has suffered, and now these women talk about these sensitive issues in public, which can only cause more problems". I found it interesting how they liked to brag about and discuss everything, but when it came to women, they preferred to keep silent or say such demeaning and underwhelming things.
It's heartbreaking, really, to be a person that has met two women that survived concentration camps- the women that can't have children today anymore because of the torture they survived. And they never sued anybody. Just like the majority of women. Honor is a big thing in the Balkans still, and for a woman to admit she was raped... many of them don't even tell their husbands, families... it's shameful and people are more afraid of what others will say.
Wow. That’s crazy. The men only sympathized with how the war affected them, but not their own women. Damn. 😒 They spoke freely about their own losses, but the women’s trauma was just an inconvenient burden? That tells me a lot about their own morality regarding sexual abuse, during war time or otherwise.
@Ei Dirst what the fuck are you going on about
@Ei Dirst My people are matriarchal. Rape was traditionally punished by handing the rapist over to his victim and her female relatives. His death was neither quick nor painless. One thing was for certain - he never raped anyone again.
@@allisonshaw9341 who are your people?
Could you please tell me where this camps are located? Its easy to tell stories. I know a lot more stories about increased prices, like for example a liter milk Sold for 50-300 German Mark in those territories, so the prostitution thing was a real issue
I'm here to comment on the father...wow!!! My own father has never accepted me coz I'm a girl. And this MAN , THIS ANGEL loves this girl with no boundaries... WOW WOW
I am sorry to hear that your father has such a closed heart. My heart goes out to you ❤️ you are brave and a wonderful soul ✨
@@voyance4elle She is beautiful, too!
your father is missing out on a wonderful daughter. Youre beautiful and by your comment i can tell you’re kind and compassionate with a good heart. No father can ask for more.
I'm so sorry to hear about your terrible experience with your father but, know this, you are loved and never forget that.
Don't let him win. Be successful and happy. Girl Power!
The father is the man! He stepped in when mom was broken from
The trauma, what a man! Respect
Ajna’s dad isn’t her biological father, but he gave her what she needed in life. I cried when he said that raising her gave meaning to his life. 😭 God bless him!!
I've been to Bosnia twice, and whoever I met was a nice human being. This is an amazing documentary that reminds us how dignity and character look like. Much respect from Istanbul, to all the victims of the unjust war.
Was soo touched when I heard the step father say she gave their lives meaning. What an absolute gent hats off to this great man.
Wow I have watched a lot of these DW documentaries but this has to be one of the best. What an inspiration Ajna is, but also her stepfather Nusret. See how proud he looked on the day she graduated? That showed who her true father really is. Thanks for bringing this story to the world DW.
Thank you for watching and the positive feedback :)
It’s the same story world over,women who are abused ,violated and raped are blamed for the same ,like they allowed it or had power to defend it and refused to do so.The narrative MUST change through proper intervention by adopting a multi sectoral approach.
The multi sectoral approach won't work. What's needed is change in religious books
The unconditional love on Ajda's stepfather's face made me cry. He looks so proud. God Bless him with good health!
Aina’s father is an exceptional human being. My step dad met my mom when she was 21 and I was 6, he was a monster that took every opportunity to belittle and marginalize me in public. Bless this man for the good he has done for both mother and daughter!
It remembers me of Kurdish women who were victims of sexual assault by ISIS. It broke my heart,💔the only thing is we love our girls when they escape from isis their families open their hearts and homes for them We see them as our heroes 🧡
And that’s how it should be!👏🏻💕
I was also thinking about them it is super painful
Rape is the most barbaric of human actions. Children born of rape & their mothers need to be respected & honoured for the suffering they have to go through not face any stigma. Thank you for such an informative documentary.
Yes. The victims and the children that came from the rape deserve so much support. It’s not their fault. They don’t deserve the stigma
Agreed. No person has control over the circumstances in which they were born. Judging them for it is cruel.
The stepfather is an angel. What a wonderful example of love!
I am from Bosnia and this documentary is sooo well done..I mean woww..(respekt za sve "heroje" u ovom videu i ljude slicne sudbine)
May Allah bless you
I was moved to tears 😭 by the adoptive dads, Nusret and Muharrrem.. what big hearts they have, such HUMANITY ❤️❤️❤️ you could even tell from the pictures with little Alen, there is so much ❤️
Hallo mein Schatz . Wie geht‘s Gut?
Grown man here , reduced to tears. It is appalling enough that men fight wars over women's bodies. The women victims are then ostracized and humiliated for rest of their lives. This is heartbreaking. On the other hand, there is salvation and hope in seeing men like Nusret stepping up and caring for Ajna and her mother. Use of rape as a weapon of war needs to be abolished once for all.
Too bad it isnt. Rape has always been implemented as a weapon of war towards females of the opposing side and always will.
Sorry to say it never will
The first target in all CONFLICT is the canal of life,some culture will never accept her back in the clan(Yazidi) Rape is the most humiliating & vile encounter for centuries,this manly gesture of conquer will be use as act of defiance & ownership .whole village in france was rape & b***
NANKING to tip of africa
Beastly nature of man
May we change 🇨🇦🖤
When the majority of men despise those who rape far more than these victims were despised,
when there are consequence, war rape may stop.
Boi your tears ain’t gonna help these people. Man up boi, maaaan uuuup!
@@niqerfaguettranykyke have you ever been in war? Of course you haven’t. Stfu
Discusting how victims of rape are treated. People should be ashamed, very ashamed of how different rapists and victims are treated. Society has to stop hating women and the best thing to do is by women supporting women.
Ajna, veliki pozdrav za tebe i celu tvoju porodicu iz Srbije. Mladi hrabri ljudi kao ti stvaraju novu realnost na ovim prostorima, vi ste budućnost i lepota koju svi treba da podržimo. Želim ti sve najbolje!
Those are some top tier dads. Great humans
This guy Nusret will go to heaven because he is from there
Great comment!!!❤✌
Your intention is good, but heaven or hell aren't based on our good deeds but whether or not we believe in Jesus Christ.
Vaša je namjera dobra, ali nebo ili pakao se ne temelje na našim dobrim djelima, već vjerujemo li u Isusa Krista ili ne.
Ваша намера је добра, али небо или пакао се не заснивају на нашим добрим делима, већ да ли верујемо у Исуса Христа или не.
RomanianMadLad so I can kill, rape and steal but if I believe in Jesus I will still go to heaven? Do you really find this logical and above all fair?
@@Alpha-xt6ow Well, someone who really believes in Jesus won't do this things. 1 John 4:20 If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?
Or 1 Timothy 5:8 But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.
Guess what Mr.Religious christian...?Muslims believe that you're wrong!!!
Btw there is a success story regarding this now! They have managed to pass the law that doesn't require specifically father's name in formulars, you can write the name of any of your parents. Thank you Ajna, Alen and other brave people who keep fighting for better future.
Well done you brave people. May you find peace and have happy and fulfilling lives.
Poklon!
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should enforce mandatory DNA testing for all veterans of this war.
And get the rapists identified to tell what happened and name as many of the other perps as possible.
@@bgggsht Rather have them pay for their victims for the rest of their lives
What's crazy is that many of the rape victims already know exactly who raped them - their full names, where they live. Sometimes victims have seen them walking around in the shops etc because it was often perpetrated by other villagers they knew before - their own neighbours that turned against them at the start of the war, who now walk around freely and sleep peacefully at night without any remorse for what they did to these people. It's chilling.
@@dollynina8992 horrible...
@@dollynina8992 they were too scared to point their fingers at the rapists. This shit infuriates me!!
I wonder who are these people who have disliked this video 🤔
This was a tremendous story of so many brave beings , hats off to you all , I love you all
same those who did those atrocities during the war or their children.
Most people use the like/dislike buttons to teach the algorithm do they want a certain type of video to see again or not, I personally rarely use either button but that's more or less its purpose
Cinematography
Their real fathers from serbia and croatia
Salty Serbs
These are two of the most amazing fathers I have ever heard of. Bless them.
Ajna, you must fight on. You must continue to talk about this. DW, thank you for making this documentary. Samo naprijed i samo jako.
What a wonderful man this adoptive dad. This girl does or did feel her mother's lack of attachment. We need WORLD PEACE! War has caused a lot of problems but WAR has never solved one problem yet.
we will have world peace: when there is only one human left alive in the world
Jesus spoke of wars.
Peace will come when He returns and crushes His enemies.
Satan does not rest with his evil plans.
Men's heart are evil.
Only Jesus brings peace.
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@@danasmith1197 Ye well we saw how he brought peace in the nineties didn`t we? Together with other Orthodox and Islamic religious figures.
The world needs more men like Ajna's and Alan's adopted fathers.
The messed up part, their are people still advocating for wars. The wounds of war never heal, they just fester
when you make money out of war its really easy to promote it :) , emotions aside, if you personally don't kill anyone bud make money out of killing millions, you can sleep well at night. That's how our brain function, for many its just so abstract.
@Timefliesbye my friend don't be to rush to pass that, the Balkan wars have a history going back to the Ottoman's times. For them that was nothing but a continuation of what had already been started the only difference being only the weapons had changed
Balkan wars prior to ww1 did heal and countries like sebia vs bulgaria dont have a wish to fight. I think these ex yugoslav wars keep happening because of every side thinking they can get more then they have now in terms of land. Honestly its hard to understsnd. Sjebani smo buraz lol
The worst messed up part is that Islam has a big foot in Europe cause of Islam in Bosnia that should not be there to begin with. Ottomans were evil to bring it.
Jesus loves the people but hates the Allah/Satan worship and Will crush it.
Flee Islam while there is time.
@@danasmith1197 you basically trolling without any particular knowledge about faith.you gave to learn and research and that you might be able to stress any topic about history or gaith in generally!there in no bad religion,the people which traslate it are deviant.what if i tell you that chatolic church use to slain people with the other beliefs for almost 500 years in europe? what if i tell you that first crusade ended up in slain and robbery of constantinople?
"The son is not at fault for the sins of the father."
Why does this even need to be explained?
Bc society is full of hatred and ignorance
That psychological transfer of guilt happens all to quickly. My dad was pretty known at the police and not in a good way and that deflected down unto me also. And i live in a 1st world country
@@Remy.-exact same here
“Rape is the only crime in which the victim becomes the accused”
Not only rapes,it 's ridiculous that even in molest cases, the victims are accused of inviting the perpetrators to commit the acts because of the way the victims were dressed. @))':($"#)##🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Ireland has recently passed a law that allows accused abusers to question their victims in court... Insane!!
Because it happens to a woman and perpetrators are men.
@@thatsthejobbb8587
Why would they do that? What??
This world is fucked up with injustices. With trashes
I wish these young people the best.
The purest form of love that my people have even after the war makes me proud to call myself a BOSNIAN!! The unbreakable spirit of Bosnians is a thing to be admired of, and that huge beating heart that beats inside of our chests will never get tainted with hate! Proud and strong!! People deserve to put their heads down before people like Ajna and Alen. Much love and words of hope and patience that your voice will one day be heard!!!
The perpetrators are tolerated and given shelter but the victims suffer.
Ajna looks like her step father. And he truly loves her like his own daughter. Amazing! Not every step parent can love a child that's not his/her own.
"Ajna studied at the academy for a year and by the end of it was able to speak openly with her classmates about her past" - Respect for educational environments and mentors who are able to foster this kind of psychological and emotional safety ❤️
Bosnian American here, My heart breaks watching this. im a 95 baby. i dont know what happened but i was there
😯
Were you adopted by an American family?
@@flopunkt3665 escaped with refugee tickets
@@636emir oh ok
Did you ever go there as an adult?
@@flopunkt3665 i still visit every other year
There should not be stigmatization, only compassion to these women and their children who already had their share of sadness.
Poor children.
Are you Lithuanian?
@@dmkuchins6646 yeah. U?
Nusret is wholesome, loving man! A gentleman and a real hero.
The stepfather is a caring man. He should be lauded for caring for Anja and her mother.
The fathers love for his adopted daughter is so strong you can feel it when he speaks of her. What a treasure. ❤
Such an emotional documentary. Im rooting for you anja! The step dads featured were such good hearted fathers.
Nice bangs
Ooooh kitty you lookin' super fine 😍
The former soldier needed the child and mother as they need him. Together they live on to find their own little happiness in life.
Support for Ajna and Alen from Croatia! It's sad that war criminals regardless of their nationality, are not prosecuted and shamed for crimes they have done, but their victims are! It's redicolous!!
Our society (and I mean all societies in ex-Yugoslavia) are sick to its core. But that is the legacy of hatred that leads to genocide, ethnic clensing and rape...
Tako i muslimani
The sad part is that our goverment would probably stand behind that "soldier" and it is the government we elect over and over again...I feel guilty and ashamed for this...Moments like this make me ashamed of my nationality
@@croatiazg2581 same goes to serbia and BiH... they still hide their war criminals. They should all be punished.
@@janjetina138 Which warcrimes did commit BiH????? Dont dare to compare croatian and serbian r4apists and murderers with brave bosniak freedom fighters
You know Ajna, it doesnt matter how you came to this world. It matters how you live on it
Theses victims should be compensated, like the comfort women!
Yeah sure
U paying
@@vantastroganoff4370 the ones who are responsible.. they should have to.. why would I have to
@@vantastroganoff4370 what is wrong with you?
@@marijajuresic2157
Well single mothers
gived you life.
Not all children had normal life. What do you expect?
Be born again is good for your soul. Be thankful to your mother you are here.
What wonderful, loving fathers. They look so very proud of their children. Well done to both children for taking up the cause in support of these blameless victims…you are amazing!
This is very precious documentary. People who rape and people who mock persons born from that deed should be severely punished financially and physically.
All of those conceived of war rape deserve love, respect and acceptance from all of the community.
I always shed tears whenever am watching such videos. Humanity is better when we stand with one another!
Sending love to my Bosnian brothers and sisters who faced all this trauma
I am a man, but I have to say that Ainas father, I think the spelling is Nusrat(?) is just amazing, that is a really good person right there.
Nusret
Yeah it's Ajna and Nusret
I am Serbian, and all i can say is congratulations to all this kids, they succeeded in life.
Beautiful heart-wrenching film, I wish the children, their family, and their mothers all the best. the women were put in impossible situations. it is sad to see the result of war, ethnonationalism, and demagoguery. thanks to DW for distributing the film, but I wish it had included a closed caption for those who are hard of hearing (as it stands they have to rely on google's auto-generated CC.
p.s. I hope someone deletes the bigoted comments
Protect Ajna's father at all costs 😭💖 what a good soul!
Ajna's step father is a real gentlemen. Salut!
cant the father adopt ajna and amend the birth certificate, "life would be meaningless without her" - beautiful loving father
Misha Bear I was thinking the same thing. Also, couldn’t her Mom just put a name on the birth certificate, to avoid all this hurt and gross invasion of privacy 😒
@@ratedr9672 The father has to sign
Salmo Ali Oh, I see.
He is a Muslim and Muslims are not permitted to adopt.
We are Muslim you should put your father name not your stepfather or another man. just your biological father and if you raise a child that is not yours when he or she grows up you should tell him the truth about where they are come from.
Eina's step father is absolutely beautiful. You can tell he loves her like his own, what a really lovely man. Obviously her mother is still working through her issues. The young nurse's adopted father was lovely also. It makes me mad beyond measure as to why these beautiful children and women are blamed for this atrocious act that was perpetrated upon them in a time of war. I know it's a cultural thing, but everything evolves, Eina's step father did after all. There should be no shame in these people's lives except in the dirty, stinking pig of ....thing that raped the mothers in the first place. Where is theri shame in all of this? Where is there punishment? Oh no, it's the women's fault for standing there being a woman in war times. Yep. This is happening now, as we speak in other countries.
Well said!
Yes precisely, it's happening in Ethiopia right now at the same scale
I grew up as a foster child back in the 60s and 70s in the US. People treated me in the same way! In fact this is a world wide problem!
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@@smeagole Thanks for the love!!!
@@fredrika27 u wellcome darling ❤ I love child ❤ If u ask me I take care for all like mine ❤❤❤❤ I do not und people who behave diffrent way ❤
@@smeagole hi
I'm sorry to hear that I hope everything is great now
I am from Bosnia and was born just before the war. I am a little torn about this documentary because it paints a picture of Bosnian people as a whole ( society at large ) discriminating against these children. There are people that would discriminate and others who would want to help ( like those wonderfull men ). I don't know any Bosnian people who would treat them badly because of the situation they were born into. Having said that the way things are set up legally- that sounds incredibly painful and problematic. Unforunately these things take time to change and at least half the population is still traumatized from the war. These things sometimes take generations to heal. I wish both of them all the best, and hope they remember that there are fellow Bosnians who do support them.
Human have proven over and over, they are the worst thing ever walked on this planet.
But, as this documentary also shows, there is still some hope for humanity. Not much, but there is a beacon of hope.
At the same time there are people like nusret.
Man is a sick breed
Callous,heinous is the way
Are you not happy
You could not
Ever dig that low to violate anyone
In two second we kill & maimed without regards to victim of non consideration an life goes on
I watch video in HD
I call red shirt girl
Most petite little girls on knees with tears of life pouring out
6 massive men with guns behind her
Calmly another walk over take her ARM cut it off below elbow
She still in kneelin position,eyes pop open with shock & her stare is how can you do this
Then the next below elbow comes off
Mental shock of no feeling comes thru her whole body
Then above Elbow comes off & tears roll off my face (I'm crying again) i close my eyes
When i open up
She was folded like chinese laundry
Cartel in mexico
Mankind is savage,how do you sleep at nite
The whole COUNTRY of impunity.mexico city 1 % rape is fully investigated
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@@85naqwi unfortunately there just aren't enough people like him to redeem this race.
Ina is incredible, confident, strong and determined, so much respect and support from Scotland.
Thank you for sharing this documentary. These issues are also in most or every Asian country...sri lankan women were raped by the Indian army when they went through the tamil tiger wars in 1980's and no one has spoken or looked after these woemn or kids.
Kosovand suffered from this war in Bosnia as well along with the rest....my heart and soul goes out to each and every woman in this path ....its not called shame..its Bravery and you have overcome the people who tried to put you to shame!
This is heartrending! And, unbelievable what these children are STILL going through. Where’s compassion, love and understanding? I truly hope they get the right people around them to strengthen their worth and preciousness. Sending good wishes and positivism from Scotland 🏴 Bless you ALL sincerely, brothers and sisters of the global family! 🙏♥️🌍🕊🕊🕊🕊♥️♥️
This video is so important. 1st such video I've seen which tells about rights of these children who suffer discrimination for no mistake of theirs... Thank you for making documentary on this topic..
With Love, from 🇮🇳
The man Nusrat is so kind
@I C 😊❤
Oh what a great man, husband and father! His tearful words about how the life without his step daughter would be MEANINGLESS were so touching! I also understand the mother's words and plight, as well as the daughter's s. They all have their own devastating perception of events and their feelings are 100% valid. Great video!
Absolutely disgusting the way they are treated. This bring shame to their country.
Thank you for making such an important documentary. My heart goes out to all the victims. Please keep on making such documentaries. Good luck to all people working to help the victims.
i live in america but was born in sarajevo and immigrated in 1998 during the war. incredible documentary. i know so little about my country. really hope that the victims get the exposure and light they need on this issue to get some sort of positive outcome from it.
I am Macedonian and I am really sorry to hear this things.
For the first story I cannot believe that the mother is still thinking that it was better to leave her daughter after all this time and her stepfather loves her so much so heartbreaking.
I am happy that she will be safe with her stepfather.
And for the another children 👶 I am happy that they are with lovely families and safe now …
I remember this time in history the Bosnia crisis, it shook me as a young Canadian woman to know that Bosnian woman were devastated by rape in a war they did not ask for. And now their precious children are left to suffer. Shame on the Bosnian government for not stepping up, hunting down and bringing to justice the paracitical men that committed these war crimes.
I hope these children find a loving partner and spouses to have a good life with. This is so sad. Bosnian government should be more understanding of these children. These children are war victims
A salute plus 👍 for these children and people who made this documentary.
It was so lovely to see the father in the white shirt care so deeply about his family and the love he has and wants to give. I am sure it has helped her mom so much. xx
Children of shame is quite a remarkable documentary! I truly did appreciate it so much. Thanks a lot for sharing! Keep it up!
Respect for these mothers who chose to give life despite the tragical circumstances
These children are alive today, that is the most important point, everything else can be repaired and healed
7:13 He says that life without Ajna would be meaningless. Bravo! As any real father!
Invisible children? I see beautiful humans who digging inside their past like they will live 1000 years, you are survives and I am proud on your mothers and you all, you are not invisible, you are the most beautiful humans, you are live and have future, be strong stay strong, you are amazing Han beings
Shout out to all the adoptive and step parents. Being the parent figures that kids need. ❤️👍🏿
Ajna's stepfather, the father in fact, has all my respect as a human being. Takes a big heart to do what he did. Love the guy! 👏
Those fathers that stepped up are amazing. Many everyday ppl don't realize how much power they have to make change.
When the doctor started crying I cried 😭
Anja and all the other children born of the war tragedy are gifts to the world. Anja and the guy featured in this documentary are working to make Bosnia a better place for ALL victims of war. She is an inspiration.
Sometimes I dont blame people who wish they were never born
great respect for Nusrat and Muharrm, they are truly the real men.