There Is Always a Plan B
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- One of the greatest sources of anxiety and despair is the feeling that there can only be one answer to major problems we face: one ideal job, one ideal lover, one ideal way of life... But we should consider the extent to which there is always, just below the surface, a Plan B available. Flexing our mental Plan B muscle hugely expands our sense of safety and spontaneity.
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“We grow up - inevitably - with a strong attachment to a plan A, that is, an idea of how our lives will go and what we need to do to achieve our particular set of well-defined goals. For example, we’ll do four years of law school, then move out west, buy a house and start a family. Or, we’ll go to medical school for 7 years, then go to another country and train in our speciality of interest and hope to retire by fifty. Or we’ll get married and raise two children with an emphasis on the outdoors and doing good in the world…”
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Plan A: Joe Bidden 2020 😎
Plan B: Kamala Harris 2020 👍
Plan C: Anyone But Trump 2020! 🙄
Living plan C.
This resonates right now - middle of working on a career change and have my parents as well as my kids counting on me to pull it off - no pressure...
Can you please do a francis bacon episode. There's not anything good about him on RUclips. You could be the first. He's so underated.
@@JK_JK_JK_JK bernie aint bad
You never know what disasters and unhappiness your 'bad luck' has saved you from
You got that right. Theres a reason why it didn't work out.
Can u elaborate, bro?
@@podcastel-milinial704 yeah like the guy who got fired from his job cleaning toilets in the world trade center on September 10. he was probably upset the day before lol
@@psilocybemusashi Fancy getting sacked from a job cleaning toilets! What on earth must the lucky guy have been doing?! Be fabulous to find out what his Plan B was in the end. lol
Go back 600 million years, kill a rare and tiny fish-like creature, and we would not be here to discuss the role of contingency in our lives.
Plan B almost always turns out to be better than plan A because you have more experience and knowledge when you formulate it. And also better execution skills.
I hope you're right.
@@edemont333 do it.
Plan B is never as good as the original plan and all subsequent plans are proportionally worse. A is A, everything else is a compromise.
@@cl759 eh I could've wanted to be in the NBA like I originally thought then I tore my meniscus still have tendonitis and went through depression but I learned so much through that and will find a job that actually suits what my mind wants not just my body
Mindprovement - Self Esteem & Influence Channel You May be right
When I start thinking, "Why me?", I start to think (sometimes with difficulty), "Why not me?". It helps me to reign in the ego.
Instead "Why me." Think, "Try me."
Why anybody? It's all down to a random set of chances in the end. Be kind and compassionate to yourself always, Keith. We all have an ego but it's only the damaged ones that need tending to.
Yep this is great!
Like, who would you suggest this happen to?
@@rainbowjules Any ego, strong or weak, ill or healthy, can cause trouble for its "owner".
@@DanDeLeoninthefield Ego: a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
I don't wish to crush my self-esteem any more than you do, I'm sure.
Fantastic site this though isn't it, and thank you for the discussion.
*Nothing is more important in life than LIFE itself*
If you failed at something, or didn't get the job you wanted, or couldn't get into the university of your choice - KNOW this.
There is always another way. Life isn't that serious, a peace of mind is what you need.
Peace with each plan is the best advice.
Yes, couldn't agree more
Easier said than done. When everything you try to improve your life makes things worse, what do you do?
@@ChrisPage68 it means your not doing it right , try changing your mindset first, then proceed to take action
Facfs
It’s hard to plan too much in advance. Life is wild. And if you only stick to yours plans you will miss too many opportunities.
*Stay flexible and ready* 👍
Well said!
Sometimes you just need to be reminded with these basic stuff in today's crazy world.
Thanks *School of Life*
It's not only plan A, plan B.. Life is a journey through whole Alphabet! :)
So true, I am currently on plan D 😂😂
@@hadeel641 ayo im on after the alphabet its wild out here, keep going kings, your life is yours to take
Wow! This video really came to me a crucial time in my life! I recently lost vision in my right eye, I was pursuing a career as a professional snowboarder! The Beijing Olympic in 2022 was my goal, Plan A. I’ve been having a hard time accepting this shift but I’m confident that I will make my Plan B amazing! And plan C even better if need be! Thank you for these videos! 🙏❤️
Everyone has a plan 'til they get punched in the mouth
-Mike Tyson
Chamanika Sumani haha funny cause it’s true.
How metaphorically and literally right. Smart quote. ♥️
in the face!
*Bitten in the ear.
I love that phrase.
For some of us, we never had control of our own destinies. And for us, we're on plan Ds, Es, and Fs. My life didn't turn out the way I wanted it to. My circumstances kept me from fulfilling my pursuit of happiness, I was trapped in a prison without walls.
Amen! Some people think it's so easy.
@@ChrisPage68 some people lived a charmed life and have no clue.
Basically, improvise, adapt (and I cant stress this enough), overcome
I was an architect and I thought that that was my dream job until I worked in a corporate world. I realised that there were a lot of project management and meetings to cope with and I disliked it. Now my next move is to become a web and game developer and live in a motorhome full time. Sometimes a plan B is even greater when we gain some life experiences and know ourselves better.
This is the way plan be should happen, not that you had plan a fail or blocked, that you choose to switch.
This is a missing persective from both the video and others commenters.
Yeah, the corporate world often sucks pleasure out of our passions by creating jobs with mundane tasks and only t hff e few getting opportunities for more.
I‘m currently between Plan B and C.
Plan Z. A-Y didn't work.
Out of all the days, this vid dropped today...
Thank you I needed this
Yup! I always always try to have a plan b. Plan A is never enough no matter how good it is!
*you always have to be able to adapt, circumstances change plans change* 💪
As a 176 year old man, this couldn't have come at a better time. It's not too late to be the person I want to be!!!
176? Where is your book for sale?
176 at that age the power of compound interest may make your plans easy, that's how the vampires do it.
Jordan Green
bless
This could be either sarcasm or a typo.
2:31
" they can't divorce their parents"
why did I laugh so hard to that?
My life has had so many directional shifts, I could write a book about it. After 31 years, I don’t have any clue where my life is headed. I’ve even stopped thinking up ideas for the future. I do my job, I sleep, repeat.
Funny that, same age, same routine ^^
20 minutes ago I was in the shower and thought to myself "there is always a plan B" exactly the way it's phrased here and the first video on my youtube recommend is this video. SCHOOL OF LIFE HOW???
i was making hard boiled eggs yesterday and i sat down to watch youtube while the water boiled and the first video recommendation was "how to make perfect hard-boiled eggs"! WTF!...
...So I watched it while my eggs boiled and I learned absolutely nothing! Thanks youtube!
I'm going to eat one now!
they also have a video called why we have our best thoughts in the shower lol
I needed this. I got into my dream school, planned on never having children and getting my phd, then I got pregnant and I'm working on my bachelor's with my baby. Sometimes life doesn't go your way but it is so much better than you could have imagined.
I really resonate with this. I normally have a plan B, C, D and E. There are so many variables in life, you need to learn to flow along with it.
Does this channel have psychic ability to read people's mind?
Amazing animation and an even more amazing wisdom
Thank you so much for this, I am into the storm of figuring out what I want in life and where to go from here. I have spent my young years in dental school only to realize as time went by that I hate this profession. Now I am faced with confusion and low confidence in myself. But your videos : this one and the one about leaving school have really helped me to realize that life doesn't end when things don't go the way you planned first.
This is exactly what I need right now. Thank you. ♥️
To cope with things not going your way you have to work on being more patient.
“Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind.”
- David G.Allen
Life is what happens while youre busy making other plans. Life is a gift and meant to be lived and not planned. As most have experienced plans dont usually work out. Tomorrow is not guaranteed
John Lennon Type beat
I had A, couldnt finish university, had B in another country, C onboard of ships, D back home with no degree, nothing worked and Im tired of trying, my hope is lost... I keep praying for a serious un illness or a fatal stroke just to put an end to my misery... no strenght left... I dont leave the house anymore... I want to die... Please, God, take me, finish this already!
School of life the name says it all
I needed this video so bad. Thank you so much for giving me an explanation of what is possible making me feel so confused and dissapointed. I went through a rough childhood and now, being an adult able to make choices for myself, wasn't working out as I wanted. I guess I just need to trust more in myself.
How does this channel always know what I need to hear before I do? This is so comforting - thank you
I'm in the middle of having to formulate a plan B while middle aged. It really, really, really fucking sucks to have to start over (in almost every possible way) so this bit of motivation definitely helps.
*There will always be an option if you look for one* 🙏
All quotes that has the praying hands emoji are cancer
Not always.
@@ChrisPage68 true, sometimes they are AIDS
Depression can come about when we don't see a positive future for our lives. That's why I believe it's crucial to *daily visualize* how you would like your life to look like. It's a great way to program your mind to think positively and hopefully cure depression or anxiety.
That won't cure Depression. Seeing a doctor will help.
I am living my plan B and it's better than my plan A by leaps and bounds. It's funny how you can't imagine how much better your life could be after things go wrong
Life’s journey will always point you in the right direction, even if there are a bunch of detours in the road 💯💯💯
True , the skill is how we find the signs to the right direction!
clinical minatology yes agreed!!!
Well said my lady
Nonsense.
That implies there's one "right direction" or destiny that we must follow. I think it's more likely there isn't and that there are many possible valid and fulilling routes through life
I never had a plan A as a child. Maybe surviving. If my life plan changes every week it doesn't bother me. I'm probably at plan Z now, and none of the plans I've missed seemed very good at all.
You're not alone in that.
You guys have _plans_ for how your life will play out ?!
Why is your voice the best anxiety coping mechanism that I have ever stumbled upon?
I viewed my life as a road.
My goals lie on this road.
Sometimes i can walk this road.
Sometimes I have to make a detour.
My goals are somewhat abstract.
And I archive one goal per time.
This makes life more easy.
Your "goals" just got run over by Life.
But once you go off plan A, you cannot stop trying new things because they just get better!
So many people are asking me for this type of life advice.
And as a person who experienced ABC, and D plans of life, I feel that people are just afraid to even try plan B.
Just speaking strictly from my own experience.
Once I went to the next plan C, I was just that much wiser.
I now have lived through plans A + B.
So I take the lessons from trials before, and apply the solutions to the next plan.
And trust me, it never goes according to the plan ANYWAYS. lol
The only thing I trust myself with is that I will TRY my best at the given situation.
If you are being careful now, I DON'T think you do anything foolish.
I don’t plan at all. I have goals, but none too specific.
Exactly at the right moment!
My plan C is not working out but my plan D is going in a more and more interesting direction!
2:24 This bit right here, this exactly, was why i really looked forward to becoming an adult as a kid and never really bought into "things are only going to get worse when you get older" that i would hear from my parents and from teachers all the time. I'm 24 and i still don't regret it, and i probably won't on my 30's or 40's either when i look back from where i started.
Adulthood is only "being a sad boring slob working a soul-sucking job" if you let it be.
I just stopped having plans since they rarely work out anyway. Saves me the trouble of being disappointed and if something does work out, I'm pleasantly surprised!
I'm currently living my plan B and although i'm not feeling as happy as I would like to be, I'm already planning C because in the end what really matters is your happiness.
This is so crucial. I've spent the last several years grappling with exactly this. Some of the descriptions and examples in this were so spot-on they made me feel like crying. Easier said than done, but pretty much all the advice in this video rings true. Plan B is a work in progress.
Now on Plan Z/TJ1135-b44/77b.
Because plans will always fail, one way or another. But we keep making them because we think we can overcome the obstacles. We never will.
There´s always MILLIONS of opportunities ahead of us. Love this channel!
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As a Kid infact i always said "everything will somehow still go on" (it sounded better in german lol) but somehow in my adulthood i sometimes lost this view, completly forgot it. Just a small Memory brought to light from you Video.
Wird schon schief gehen 😎🤣
Before Renaissance, humans mostly accepted the way of life as fate. Then came Renaissance telling us humans can design their fate. That they're fully capable of planning and executing the way they want it. Well both are two extremes. Now this is the era of synthesis of both the concepts. Fate plays it's role irrespective of how well we plan and how well we execute. We should be rational enough to understand success is just one of the outcomes despite honest efforts. We should be easy enough to adapt to not just plan-B but plan-N.
This is such a timely suggestion for me. A career I have nurtured for indeed over a decade did got away from me. And I had to start over. Haven’t found any success yet..but I will find it eventually. I have always noticed that I get what I wish for in the long run.
As someone who is on somewhere around plan G, trust me, I am glad that plans A through F did not work out. Stay resilient. Happiness is more likely to be found in the places where you never would have bothered to look to begin with.
I had to have a plan B when 7 years ago my world fell apart and I had a mental breakdown . Plan B has been the best thing for me
i’m going to watch this once an hour for the next year to remind myself that this is true
So much easier said than done, but yes, there is a lot to be said for trusting that we have enough creativity to cope and adapt when the time comes
Just graduated high school a month ago and was planning to take a business course in my dream university but the universe took a left and didn't made me pass. I'm now about to enter a community college, took an education course and let's see what will life throws at me. Never really dreamed of becoming a teacher so I'm still not sure if I'll make a good use of my course- but after everything that happened, I realized that knowing the fact that I still don't truly know what to do with my life, choosing to be emotionally and socially flexible is a must. Even though I never imagined being here in the spot that I am now, I hope that things will naturally make sense in the future 🙏🏻
I started a new life 5x. I am only in my late 30's. Honestly I am exhausted of so much planning. (Plan A, B, C, D, E)
You are about where I was at 30. In perspective you are doing well.
What's so unusual about that? I was aware of the need for plan B from childhood. By the time I was eight years old, we had moved house seven times. I saw my father lose jobs and find better ones more times than I could count. The difference between victim and victor is the ability to think on one's feet.
Many times society will prevent us from achieving what we want, in those moments we shouldn't throw ourselves against it, strong of our reasons, that would be a waste of time. Rather, it is necessary to ask ourselves: if the current drags me, how can I swim inside it? Without throwing ourselves down, with patience and optimism, we will able to get a fantastic result.
No we won't. We'll drown.
Your content is and always has been refreshing, motivating and yet super realistic 💚. I really do appreciate your work, so keep it up, you don't know, you might be the reason someone is giving up the idea of giving up 💜
We grew up learning to think in dichotomy, black or white perspective. In that all things are simply either good or bad, right or wrong, black or white etc... We live life a little bit and realize that life isn't black or white, simply, but comes in different shades and hues.. That many a times its not even possible to know which color it is ! ,,,,, May we not give up when "all" options are gone.. Look around, check again....
I have an extremely important job interview tomorrow for my dream position, and it may be the make-or-break moment for this career path that I've spent years working towards. I'm not sure if I'll get the job, but I feel a lot better after watching this. This is exactly what I needed to hear exactly when I needed to hear it.
Your videos help me soo much! Please don't ever stop making them! You're one of my favourites channels on RUclips!🥰❤
Thank you School of Life for creating this video. I am going through a precisely same situation in my life where Plan A is coming crashing down and I am realizing the need to kickstart Plan B. Thank you for giving me hope through this video. :)
There are people that get frustrated or unattracted by those who are calm , happy and relaxed and know that there is always a plan b . For example , my girlfriend broken up with me because i was always too calm even on very stressful situations , she said that i'm not perseverant and i'm moving all the work to the next day which means that i will fail in life. My point is , there are people (some are calling them lazy or dumb , maybe myself included) who need more time to finish or to succeed somewhere in life , so don't get burned out by this people , don't change your way of living just because one person is calling you lazy and hesitant , change your way of living if only you feel that you need to change something . The only person that you can trust is you , so let others go
Thanks for reminding me of my PLan B muscle. Thank you for calling it a muscle to begin with.
I fail on a daily basis. I have way too many plans. One plan fails I instantly go to another plan. Then it fails then another. Then when the time is right I come back to all these again to check if they still work out and most of the times they do. So just give things time. Don’t clinge to it and everything is gonna turn out to be very good. If something is taken away from you, be thankful because universe is preparing a better thing for you that is meant for you and you only.
The comfort that these videos can give is so touching
We are so blessed to have access to these videos 🙂
Thank you so much for this. As a person with chronic anxiety and depression those videos help a lot.
This came in handy. You guys speak to my heart. ♥️
This applies to me so much as I am quitting my job. I wanted to take a step back and figure out what I want in life. I need to reassess somethings and a break would help me refocus.
1 year since I started my business and some things aren't working out as I planned. To make things worse, I just loaned from a bank few months before as additional capital. I'm still thinking of my plan B as of the moment, this video came to me at the perfect moment.
this is one of the most beautiful videos I've watched in a while
I know its sad but I really don't have a plan, I just don't know what am I supposed to do.
I think back and I should have gone with a very loose outline. LOL
Don't give up! Everyone is here to do something meaningfull 😁
Just do the things you really want to do. You get one life....might as well do what you want with it :)
Just realize that if something you do is meaningful to only one it is still a meaningful life.
There’s a saying in my culture:
You’ll cross the bridge when you come to it.
With Plan A, B, C or D
19 years old, university was my plan a. When I left I felt like my family would hate me for it. I went back home and am now in community college. I can safely say that this plan b has done more to help me grow my knowledge of the real world than university ever did.
My nice middle class parents created plan A for me. It "worked" through high school and college, then influences -- for which I am very grateful-- diverted me and freed me to a plan B life for which I have been very grateful for 50 years. YAY!!
One of the most difficult aspects of my life right now is trying to recreate the feeling of passion for something new, my own "plan B". My true passion wasn't sustainable and I had to quit pursuing it. Knowing that there was something I was excited to wake up and do everyday and now it's gone is the worst feeling I've ever experienced. That's the definition of passion. Find that one hobby and go after it. Life's not that simple. The one thing you love can be ripped from you at any moment if you indulge too much. Be careful, people. Remember that nothing is truly guaranteed.
Weird Ive never had any particular dreams or goals growing up
It all starts when someone asks you what you want to be when you grow up; otherwise, we wouldn't even plan to grow up, just live.
I feel like thats just what I do, living, doing what I need to do to get by the day.
There is a great amount of trust involved in living that way. Few people are able to trust to that extent.
@@MKCarol-ms7lg That's life if you grew up like me, a Disabled person. You're told so often you can't do whatever you want, you don't know what you can do.
@@MKCarol-ms7lg No trust involved. You just exist.
It's sad, but I think the only way I can get out of my narcisstic, self-harming behaviour is through watching School of Life... No one else can bring such good Information that I feel touched and realise that life is still liveable. Stay strong!
Omg.. I really needed this video this week. So important. Thank you 😭
Laudable input. Alain de Botton can measurably benefit from slowing down his tempo, varying his tone, and even pausing for effect. A tone-rich narration with vocal variation hooks the listener.
Right now I'm at my Plan G, and I'm not given up!!
this is exactly what i need. i had plans to solo travel this summer but it eventually fails because of the pandemic but i need to remember that it's ok
If there is aPlan A that I have too much attachment to or want too much and might not get, I create an even more attractive plan B, so I am not disappointed if I don’t achieve my Plan A. Eg- if I don’t get the great job or pay rise etc, then I start to work on a great vacation plan that I end up wanting as much as the original plan A, so that even if I don’t achieve plan A, my plan B brings happy anticipation rather than disappointment.
I had never thought about how the fact we can't really develop plan b's in childhood really affects the hopelessness we feel as adults at the prospect of a failed plan a!! Thank you for this video. I really needed it right now.
*_If plan A doesn't work then life will make a plan B for you_*
Life?
Plan B is what happens while you are trying to fix plan A.
Nice
Life?
YES!!! this video comes at the perfect time and describes so affectionately the experiences and situations I find myself in the midst of currently. thank you and hurray for plan bs!
This was profoundly helpful
I think everyone should see this video.
Very comforting!!! ❤
Well said sir! I’m on plan B now. Your comment about less vanity and fear struck a nerve with me.
Planning is our feeble attempt to control Life and circumstance. Learn to live in the moment, its the only certainty you have.
Planning could be your "plan b," S C.
@@coreycox2345 I get it, why People plan. However, one day you realise all you have is the here and now. For some that epiphany comes right at the very end... sadly.
@@sierracharlie7293 Today is the day!
School of life is my plan B
I would like to add that it's not always bad things that get in the way of our plan A. Sometimes good things happen to us and we don't accept them into our lives because they do not fit our plan A. It's always important to keep yourself open to the unexpected.
This channel has been crucial to helping me keep a healthy perspective and get through my late 20's. Thank you so much for this wisdom.
What a timely message...on to the next plan!!!
Keep steppin' no matter what happens. And do not attach yourself to nothing and no one. It prevents you from suffering.
The problem is when we focus and get attached to one certain strategy of meeting our need(s), while in reality there are a lot of possible ways we can meet them. Important thing is: stay centered in your needs and not in a specific strategy to meet them and you'll be fine whatever life throws at you :)