I like to follow the policy of “silent cringe” You can find something cringe, but you just keep it to yourself and move on as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. I also remind myself of how cringey i was as a kid, but how happy it made me back then.
Same. You can be a weirdo, just don't do it in public or around people who don't want to see it. Thats what bugs me about furries. I like most of the things they like, but hate how out in the open they are about it. Makes life harder for the few of us that actually want to look normal.
I got bullied when I was in elementary school because I was smart. I got bullied in middle school because I was a queer. Now I get bullied in high school because I’m smart and queer! Bullying doesn’t need to be brought back, it’s still here, kids are just better at not getting caught doing it.
Not really, they are just bullying the right folk nowadays. It used to be if you ere gay you got hit, no you get hit if you are Conservative and open your mouth to breathe. Its a good thing. Just wish we applied more "force" to adult Conservatives. I find its hard to play video games when your player home in Minecraft is on fire.
hang in there, these experiences instantly become memories and will seem so far away as soon as you are free ❤ pls consider talking to someone you trust about the situation too if it is not already being addressed. sending love.
Stay strong babe. If it makes you feel better, being smart and queer automatically makes you ten times more interesting then those bitches ever will be ❤
As someone who almost commited suicide due to bullying, this movement is 100% made by the people who just sit around in class and pick the side of whoever happens to be funnier/cooler/their friend/etc., regardless if they're the victim or not
My take : Got bullied > Tried to stand up on my own feet > Became a stronger person than a nerd I was. Some times bullying actually fixes things. And considering how messed up the society is now, bullying is necessary to behave them.
@@niight3516there's better ways than making people feel like they need to kill themselves; growing up did a hell of alot more for me than getting pushed down the stairs in middleschool
that logic is so flawed, I truly don't understand it whatsoever. Bullying the vast majority of the times will only make peoples problems worse. As someone who was bullied, I was extremely closed off until I left high school. And it was only after I left the place of where I was bullied so often I was able to build up the courage to begin working out and improve on myself. Society is not ''messed up''. The only messed up part about it is that we accept bullies. We need to let kids be who they are without making them want to take their own lives for being who they are.@@niight3516
Tbh, the mere idea of "Bring back bullying" is extremely childish. Like you arent macho or cool for wanting to bully people. You're an annoying child who refuses to grow up
Chances are you bullied people as a kid and now that you're an adult and people expect you to ACT LIKE ONE- You're pissy and want to be able to bully people again. Like a child.
It's way worse than childish when you think about where the argument is actually coming from and who they're usually responding to. I'd call it pretty degenerate in the rawest meaning of it.
@morgan2338 Mostly they just don't want to admit bullying is, in fact, a form of abuse. If the types of things bullies do were done to kids by their parents, friends, or partners, it would be abusive. Why not if it was from classmates? It has similar affects. Sorry about soap boxing there I got excited that someone actually understands the implications of bullying (aka harassment but because it's kids we're gonna give it a cutesy name)
The craziest part is that "bullying" is disingenuous word anyway cause "bullying" has a lighter connotation to it. In the adult world, it isn't called bullying its called harassment. It's like Darrel you're 45 why are you trying to bring "bullying" back?
and it’s ridiculous cus bullying never really went away. these people are the ones who were bullies before, still are and will continue to be, because now they turn it into some big joke they think that’s a good excuse to be an asshole
You can tell a subgroup of people saying this haven't been to a school since the 2000s. It's like boomers telling young people in the workforce to "just work hard."
I mean, we've passed "don't beat your kids" being controversial already. Don't be surprised if people try to say that beating your wife is moral sometime soon.
@@anothercub6958 so called “alpha males” are already hopping on that bandwagon. telling young boys that, “it’s okay to beat your wife! she needs to be put in her place!” people like andrew tate (who has tons of impressionable fans) subscribe to this idea and it’s honestly so sad to watch
I know this quote has been said a million times, but it still applies here: "Social Media has made yall way too comfortable with disrespecting people and not getting punched in the face for it." - Mike Tyson.
but i am the BLOBBIEST and the GREYEST out of all the grey blobs! you're clearly not as blobby and grey as me! anyone remember that fairly odd parents episode?
I used to be one of those people that thought bullying was good for “character building”. I got bullied as a kid and was trying to rationalize it to myself; basically I just had a lot of internalized victim-blaming that I had to grapple with for a while. But anyway, no, getting bullied doesn’t make you better or stronger, YOU make YOURSELF stronger, not because of the bullies, but in spite of them.
Yeah, that's also interesting because hearing your story makes me feel as though Louis definitely could have been a bit more respectful and understanding when addressing this viewpoit. The thing is, abuse is cyclical, as someone who has been bullied may eventually become the bully themself, or at least may end up believing that others deserve to be treated the same way they were if they don't fit in. They may think that they deserved to have been bullied because they were "cringe" and may therefore have this mindset that everyone has to fit in with the crowd. To justify this fallacious mindset, they may also look within themselves and recognize how the bullying they experienced caused them to grow as a person. It isn't necessarily true that people with harmful mindsets such as this are "stupid" as Louis puts it, but rather, it they may just be that they are misguided due to their own life experiences. Its sort of like internalized homophobia: If a gay person is told over and over that being gay is wrong and abnormal, then eventually some part of them may start to believe it, even if their conscious mind disagrees with that sentiment. Thus, they may supress that side of themself because society tells them that it'll be easier for them to just "be straight" even though it really isn't that simple. Idk, it's just a thought I had.
Bullying is also not the only way to become "stronger", just one of the options that are guaranteed to give you trauma without any guaranteed benefits. I was bullied for having good grades and wearing glasses and I remained just as shy as before, it just made me feel alienated from other people on top of it. What actually helped me gain confidence and experience in being in a social setting was fun experiences with friends in high school (where I wasn't bullied anymore because it was a pretty good school), my ex boyfriend gently encouraging/pushing me to do stuff like be the one who orders for us on dates, plus all the new things I had to do by myself anyway as I grew up. Self-improvement is not easy, but it does not have to be traumatic and we don't need bullying.
“Bring back bullying” is also pretty ableist. The “weird” kid is often the kid who’s neurodiverse who’s already having a hard time but bulling just makes it way worse.
@@garynaccarato4606exactly. They just want to be able to say homophobic, ableist, racist, and bigoted things without consequences. That's why these are the same people who complain about shit being "woke" or "politically correct". It's the same old recycled boomer shit of someone's racist uncle complaining about political correctness because he can't say slurs anymore without pushback.
@@bakemyheart2240i got bullied for being bisexual, and while on the one hand, it toughened me up to those comments, on the other hand, i would never wish the experience i had on others
@@bakemyheart2240i got bullied for being trans and almost jumped, and i still face ridicule online and it literally drove me to the point of su*cide. don’t encourage this, it hasn’t made me stronger, all it has done is made me more angry, defensive, and hateful towards others.
@@SWINDLESSCOTCHhello sibling. I got bullied for same things. Was assaulted with a bat outside of school. Had to start fighting for my own it was insanity that I was never defended by adults. Hope you're doing well 💗
People want to bring back bullying until they’re the ones getting bullied. The guy who made the bring back bullying with the friends font is 100% gonna get ridiculed online because its cringe as hell.
@@mrpickles-hb6zx As a target of bullying for being queer and autistic, I do think a lot of bullying is bad. If you would feel comfortable sharing your experiences being bullied so I can see your perspective on things, but only knowing mine and my friends experiences, I do think bullying, as a concept, is bad.
"Bring back bullying" is either said by people who were never bullied in the first place and want to make people feel bad about things they're most likely already being bullied about, or by people who were bullied themselves and say that it made them stronger so "everyone must suffer because I did" no. We're here to make it easier for younger generations. You should be grateful that bullying is getting more "rare" even though kids are mostly just getting better at hiding it. This whole movement is stupid idk
I agree, as an "ex-bully" I can also say, this movement will certainly backfire as bullying works when it's against a common enemy. The people saying this usually have no friends and will soon remember how much it sucks
well put. i was abused my whole life and feel like it has made me incredibly strong but i wish it on no one and support efforts to abolish cruel treatment of people, esp children.
@@McKenzieCollins-kv3sd Definitely agree with that one, at least in some schools. I was lucky enough to grow up going to a school where the bullying wasn't tolerated, hopefully you're doing well tho? Or at least dealing with it. So sorry you've had that kind of experience
I don't like the easy edge-less safe world you people are creating. Its like a padded cell. Sure you won't be dead, but you'll wish you were. Thats the reason so many people kill themselves today. Life has lost all meaning. You get it for free, have your hand held the entire time, and are steered away from anything dangerous that might possibly excite you. Hardly anyone struggles to live, but almost everyone struggles to find a reason to live. You think people 200 years ago had this problem? No, they were too busy trying not to die. Fighting, killing, taking whatever they could to keep themselves alive. That gave life value.
Being bullied at a young age had made me a very anxious person. None of what I was put through really made me “tougher” it just made me fearful of other people and developed a strong sense of self loathing.
@@Sparket Same, I'm only NOW just finding the courage to live for myself, and I'm nearly 24. I only just recently started working through a perfectionist mindset (a result of bullying) and started allowing myself to do actitivites that I'm bad at but ultimately find fun (skateboarding, juggling, makeup, etc). I'm having loads of fun and feel regret at missing out on experimenting in my youth due to the shame that bullying had instilled in me.
Being bullied as a a kid has helped me become jaded at the age of 25. My mother said that she talks to the woman who used to bully me as a girl and she says that she’s a nice person now and my fight response set in so I left the room. It truly hurt me when I heard that.
@@Sparket same, everytime I went to do a hobby eg art I thought “will I get bullied if I draw this” or do an action “will I get bullied if I do this.” Or even speak “will I get bullied if I talk about this.” I was so petrified of being bullied that I stripped away my personality and my emotions to the point where I don’t even know who I am anymore? Am I like this because it’s how I am or am I like this because of social constructs? I’ve masked to a point where I was a stranger to myself. Eventually I just stopped trying, only drew the most cliche, only did the most “normal things”, never spoke which made me extremely lonely, I became well, A NPC. All because I didn’t want to be bullied, again. I am only now just starting to be myself after so many years, of fear and hating myself. What made it worst is that I’m autistic and it only contributed to the hardship of life, my interests and patterns were hidden away by a wall that I am only now starting to tear down, I am becoming more free and happy, but every brick that gets taken down is difficult, those thoughts still remain. “Will I get bullied if I be myself?” Is a question nobody should have to ask themselves.
Really shows how good your life is if you thought for even a SECOND that bullying has gone away. If anything, it's gotten worse with the inclusion of social media. People who want to "bring back bullying" are way too comfortable
@@cloudycolacorp Lmao, I'm glad you understand that was a joke. If anyone gives you a hard time about not being straight, just remember they have no thoughts of their own and are only parroting what they're being taught so it's nothing against you personally. It doesn't make it right however.
I grew up in a town where the documentary “Bully” was filmed… I also remember several instances of teens in my school unaliving because of bullying. So for people to say bring it back are literally so miserable and soulless that they can’t stand to see people being comfortable with who they are
@@Tjnovakart Not all the time. It just depends on how you phrase your comment. I've mentioned suicide and people killing themselves without issue... for the most part! Just don't repost the same comment, especially if you use those words, after deleting the original comment due to a typo or a missing word. *That's* when you really get censored! 😅
Got bullied in a way that left me with trauma. I’ve been on the floor crying over a pat on the back because of how my body reacts to physical contact now. All because some idiot kids decided to physically and S*xually harass me.
After years of therapy, I’m fine. I’m just trying to say that bullying is traumatizing and anyone who is advocating for it is basically saying that they want to traumatize people
I got s*xually assaulted in highschool bad. No teachers or higher up did anything about it even though they were told multiple times, so 2 guy friends took care of him for me, then the teacher tried to get me in trouble for hitting him. He never touched another girl again though
@lindseymorgan7386 I’m so sorry that happened to you. Good on your guy friends for beating him up and good on you for staying strong. I hope you’re doing well
Bring back bullying? Where'd it go? Just because you are tall, and they kicked you out of school because you are too old now when they never wanted you there from the get go, and you can no longer "bully" people (because most forms of bullying are real criminal offenses that are jailable crimes that you can be tried and possibly even sued for), that doesn't mean that bullying ever went away.
Making rude remarks,being a jerk and hurting peoples feelings unlike doing anything physical is still pretty much legal in many situations even though depending on exactly how somebody goes about doing that stuff it could still be classified as harassment and it could be classified as disorderly conduct.
@@arcaderdudeand stepping over the line between bullying and actual crimes like assault, sexual assault, property damage, and other forms of violence.
@@arcaderdudewhich is also unlikely since its pretty easy to just write something on a social media slamming a person whilst you hide within a crowd of hundreds who are just as anonymous as you are
because i was bullied, i did end up losing a lot of weight from being obese to relatively small. but because i was bullied, i grew a horrible relationship with my body and hated doing any activities i loved for most of my teen life. its like a “good thing may happen, but at what cost?” situation when it comes to bullying
@@mrpickles-hb6zx "Bullying is natural!!" Yeah it's natural! That means every single kid deserves to go through it! Who cares that bullying can lead to suicide am I right?
It does definitely hurt LBGTQ people but in relation to all the other potentially negative implications and outcomes the homophobia and the ways in which it hurts LBGTQ people just so happens to be the very small tip of a very very huge iceberg.
Don’t know abt you but a big factor of bullying in 2024 is being in the lgbtq. But like many people said before you won’t understand until you’re witnessing it all the time or going through it.
guys, op meant its not ONLY lgbtq. it can go for racism and ableism too as a couple examples, they didnt say it didnt happen to lgbtq or theres a contest..
@@dorishakitty229 Seems like my point went way over your head my dude. It’s cool, I went and got it back to show you again. See, the homophobia piece of this iceberg is here, directly in front of you, right, everyone sees that, but my point here was bullying sucks for anyone who is bullied. In other words… bullying is bad.
"Bring back bullying" is so funny to me because, not sure about y'all but it's completely backfired in my school at least. There's a kid at my school who tries to bully gay kids etc but the problem is he doesn't understand bullying, bullying only works when its against someone no one likes, and ironically this causes everyone to laugh at the people who are pushing it.
@@mrpickles-hb6zx Its not A situation bullying works in its THE situation it works in. No one likes him, so there's no push back. It's a fundamental part of this that the 'bring back bullying' mfs dont understand. They think they can bully people they don't like but that just backfires every time.
Those who say things like "bring back bullying," are the most pathetic and least intelligent among us. They are people who don't understand how anything works. Politics, the news, everything is too complicated for them. So they come up with this.
I was bullied when I was younger because of a speech impediment and it was awful. The only good thing that came out of it was it gave me tough skin but if I had a child I wouldn't want them having that pain just for the sake of character development, it's the worst
Same. I was also bullied for my speech impediment at school and they make fun of me. I become feel insecure of my voice and I was nervous. I struggled to speak clearly. I talk too fast and my English is difficult to understand. I was a slow thinker and I cannot think critically. But now. I am talking to people. I keep my speech slow and steady so people can understand me. It helps my social skills build up and get better. I may talk fast but I just need to be speak slowly and clearly. No rush is needed.
If you have tough skin, it's not BECAUSE you were bullied. You're strong despite it, not because of it. Pushing the idea that getting bullied makes you stronger or helps you grow thick skin is a harmful message, even if you don't intend it, because it allows less people to stop bullying, and it gives bullies an excuse to keep bullying you even more. I had a friend who bullied everyone around him and then excused the behavior by saying that he was "preparing everyone for the real world". Him saying racist things to me, humiliating me in public, and sexually harassing me just made me even more of a spineless coward than I already was, thinking that if I expressed how I feel, I'm "overly sensitive", and ironically, I think he made me feel even more insecure and overly sensitive. You know what did make me stronger though? Surrounding myself with better people.
i don’t think that these people who want to bring back bullying realize that the people they bully act/dress how they do is because they were bullied 90% of the time, and to show others who were bullied “hey we have a similar experience, if u wanna be friends i won’t bully u!!” it’s really stupid and never went away
I’m a freshman in highschool. My last year of middle school was hell because of bullying. I would get home and cry. I am autistic, and used to carry a plush around as a comfort item. It went missing and there was a rumor that it got stolen. I got taunted even more for that. It made sense to me, as they’ve stolen stuff in the past. I watched myself become an extremely angry, bitter, and anxious person. To this day I struggle with low esteem, being territorial over property, and trouble socializing. To say bullying is dead is stupid.
I used to carry a plush with me from my favourite video game all the way up until 15 (my mum thought it was weird that I still did that). Anyway I'm so sorry that those people did that to you, it must be horrible knowing the reasons why you react the way you do now, but you couldn't do anything about it to stop it from happening then. You get an internet hug ⊂(´･◡･⊂ )∘˚˳°
Love bullying people who do something I find weird or bad because them looking bad makes me look good and that’s all I want, I want to looks good and to stand out and get whatever shallow praise and empty fleeting respect I can get. I can’t stand having something I don’t like even remotely be in my presence, my image that u show to eyes that will never see it must always be perfect and thus I am never wrong. My thoughts are faultless and differences between me and others cannot be tolerated. If I see a weakness in you I must have at it, manipulate it into becoming something that encompasses your life while I walk off, laughing on the outside but on the inside I’m as empty as i was before. My heart craves meaning but the void of eternity wraps around it , reminding me of the true inconsequentialness of my existence. NO. I must fight back no matter the cost. Others pain must be a life force for me, filling me like a well with water. But the bottomless well cannot ever be filled, no matter how much you try. I could pour in all lakes, rivers and seas. I could tear down the clouds from the sky and throw them down into the depths but it would be to no avail. In the end the only way to make the well have function, have purpose, is to fix it. Add a true bottom to the well, seal it up and make it sturdy so it won’t cave in like it had previously. This would take work however. Effort to see what needed to be fixed, see what I had broken. Effort I don’t have. No. Instead I pour in more, the well never getting fuller while everything else get emptier. The fish cannot breath. The people cannot drink. The rain cannot fall and now all is empty. Just like the well. Just like m-
@@BubblegumStudiosOfficial It's inspiration that refuses to come during the day when you actually want it and instead comes at 3 or 4 a.m. and you end up writing something hella weird. Happened to me multiple times.
I was bullied because of my autism, but being bullied made me fight back and develop anti social behaviors which led to more bullying. My friends told me to ignore those people and I started to do so, sometimes it worked sometimes it didn’t. Then I started dressing “weird”. By that point the hostility went away I just stuck out. Bullying made me worse, then compassion made me better. And bullying also made me weirder, these people hated me when I dressed “normal” so what’s the point of trying to fit in, doing what I like makes me happy.
It's really annoying when pepole say bring back bullying. Alot of kids off themselves because of the bullying. So pepole want kids to make other kids feel like life isn't worth it? That's fucked up. It's so stupid for adults to want this kind of behavior to continue. Love your content man, can't wiat for the next video
Exactly! People I know that were bullied often socially isolated themselves and so did I. It gets worse and worse to the point a child isn't really living anymore, just existing. I hope the people aren't qware of that and are just stupid, but they should get aware of it.
The whole "bring bullying back" trend triggers me so deeply. Because i remember getting bullied in school every fucking day, and every day i felt more and more depressed to the point that taking my own life felt like bliss, i felt it was the only way out since one i wasn't allowed to change schools due to my parents financial issues, and second because the principal of the school was very manipulative and didn't care about the bullying that occured. Now im 22 almost 23 and i STILL haven't gone over it as you can clearly tell, my entire childhood had to come to a halt i couldn't live out my childhood properly, because i had to grow up fast and protect myself from the outside world. I still have to live with the trauma, and i still have to deal with many mental issues. I also recently noticed (recent as 2022) that im autistic and that explained A LOT why i was such an easy target, it all makes sense to me, but it also makes me sad because if i wasn't neurodivergent i wouldn't have to suffer like i did. Do NOT bring bullying back, it's literally abuse both mental and physical depending on what kind of bullying people are going through. And it will destroy someone mentally completely or even make someone take their own life. It is not funny, and it certainly won't make you a good person.
as someone who's autistic and went through similar experiences just for acting "cringe" I think this entire movement is ableist in a way. Cringe culture is ableist and this is kind of a similar thing to that. Inflicting years of trauma, permanent mental scars, and frequent psychologist visits isn't a worthy punishment to someone for wearing a cat tail when they were 16 or something.
I hope you can find hope and peace, enough of it that you can live happy. Of course the mental scars will never go away. Luckily I got out of that enviroment after about 2 years bit I feel you. A really bad part for me was that at some point the slightest bullying would make me so anxious and embarrased that I would cry so much, which only made it worse and worse because that was even more embarrasing.
Bullying is just a nicer word for abuse. Lets be honest. Call it what it is. They dont deserve to have nicer words for what should be considered abuse. Abusers dont get to water down the language that refers to their abuse. The same way I wouldn't call someone hitting their wife "punishment". Thats abuse. When you rephrase it as bring back abuse because these people inconvenience me. You start to relaize how insidious what theyre saying is. They want to abuse people for what? Wearing dog collars or cat ears? Doing things? Just existing? Peer abuse never went away. It just changed form. Lets be honest.
This has been obvious to me, and has infuriated me since about 4th grade(either end of 4th or beginning of 5th, cant quite remember). Worst part is whenever i have voiced this people always claimed i was being "too extreme" with the idea of it. But im not being extreme, im just not coddling abusers. Its abuse, i never felt any more safe with abusers from school than i did with the abuser at home.
I have always thought this on such a real level, what I hate so deeply is how schools excuse bullying like 'oh they're having a hard time at home.' so??? That doesn't give them excuse to abuse me because I like men?
4:50 I want to clear up a misconception here. *99% of people who wear tails in public have it on a keychain clip attached to one of their belt loops.* The trend of wearing animal tails on your pants was actually started by alt kids back in the late 2000s-early 2010s as a fashion subculture. That's why you'll see people wear 'em clipped to the side or front of their pants rather then the back. It's a fashion choice, just like the collars, and it's recently come back into fashion because of tiktok accelerating the trend cycle.
YES, this! I wear a fox tail on my belt loop, it fucking sucks that people sexualize it because I literally just like having a sensory object clipped onto my pants, it's comforting and I like vulture culture, so pelts and animal bones are pretty up my alley, and why wouldn't I bring something I enjoy and doesnt harm anyone in public? (and lets be real, its fun to look like you have a tail.)
Yep! The "trend" originally came from therians and otherkin, and as one of them, I will occasionally wear one (not a plug just to be clear), and it's kind of became a part of the culture. :)
@@piixelonline That's roughly what I remember but I believe that the trend actually started in the late 2000s with emo subcultures like Teen Werewolves, and it was then picked up by the therian community!
AS a person whos into that kinda thing, YOU DONT WEAR THEM IN PUBLIC! that would be forcing your kinks onto others without there consent, witch is uh... bad.
@@mrpickles-hb6zx Google defines bullying as seeking to harm someone percived as vulnerable. With that defenision in mind, what do you think is a "good reason" to bully someone.
As a former bully, I bullied from a place of personal pain. I took because I had little. I hurt because I was hurting. I insulted because I was miserable. I thought that by forcing people to be "normal" I could somehow be "normal" myself. Years of therapy led me to great improvements. Apologies and restorative actions to my victims gave me the personal forgiveness I desperately wanted. Sorry.
As a person that's been bullied since kindergarten (due to most likely undiagnosed neurodivergency.) All it has done is made me suicidal and feel worthless, yet i dont change at all.. this mindset is weird.
Yeah it’s perhaps more of a case of the healing process creating strength. I’ve become more self-reflective which has allowed me to understand myself better. But that was only because I managed to escape the sadness that comes with being bullied and be myself again
@@anothercub6958 yeah and lead to in my case becoming even more bad at communicating with people. Made my autism more bad and my bipolar disorder ti be even more bad as well
What started as bullying lead to genuine assault for me. What these people don't realize that is bullying is also a stepping stone that allows people to do more violent things (or at least in me and my friend's experience). I started with getting bullied, it lead to be being physical and sexually assaulted by those same people.
At first it's bullying, then it's pranks, then one prank goes too far and somebody ends up either dead, assaulted, or in jail. The people promoting bringing bullying back either forgot about the escalation of bullying or are okay with it anyway.
Bullying literally gave me a ptsd diagnosis that will affect me physically and mentally for the entirety of my life. Like, I cannot comprehend rallying around and supporting the idea of being unkind to others for fun.
@DEADGUY666 how about physical/mental abuse? Because thats what bullying is. Instilling fear of an outcome everythime you see this person, usually at the same place. I have PTSD. Ive never gone to war but ive still had flashbacks and panic attacks because of certain events, things that built up trauma over many years. I was living in constant fear.
@DEADGUY666 physical abuse, stalking, more than those two tho but i don’t think you’re actually going to change in your set beliefs so i’m not gonna try
Was bullied in elementary school for being the astranged farm kid, usually seen as dirty or not fitting in with the suburban kids who all lived in the same neighborhood on top of having a dad who was just as insensitive twoards me, and ended up taking it out on others in Middle School with my own harsh behavior; it is not something I ever want to go back to, I can't imagine how anyone could ever live comfortably constantly stroking their inflated ego and general lack of intamacy with people.
Omg WHY DID YOU ASSUME IT WAS A PLUG??? I wore those lil clip on tails as a furry in high school (a child, obviously not sexual) and fought on the front lines defending myself. The tiktok literally just said "racoon tail".
Getting bullied taught me to stand up for myself, i would always let people be so awful to me. Not anymore. But that doesn't change the fact it gave me immense amount of trauma and severe anxiety that ive been trying to overcome for a few years now. Makes me so upset that people say to bring it back
Yeah, I think it's generally dishonest to say bullying only builds character because it creates trauma and insecurities too. You can't have the development without the trauma
@@KingYou2002 It's also dishonest to imply that bullying ITSELF is the catalyst for growth, when oftentimes it's the healing that happens AFTER that is the source of growth for many. People don't "get better" (whether that meant standing up for oneself, being more assertive, or becoming physically strong) because of their bullying. There are more people who learn from their experiences after having been bullied to become better than there are people who make that change in themselves in response to the bullying while they were still being bullied.
It's great that bullying made you stronger, but for me it was the exact opposite. I'm neurodivergent, I was bullied for it and I had no way of defending myself or standing up to my bullies because my social skills were about as good as you can imagine for a child with autism and ADHD. I didn't get stronger, I became suicidal. I had no support system. When I left middle school and went to high school, I became the biggest asshole known to man in order to avoid being bullied again. I hit my friends and insulted them constantly. I did horrible things that I still regret. I hurt people that were important to me, again and again. Bullying broke me and made me into a monster. It took me years to recover from that state, to feel safe enough to be human again. Bullying doesn't make you stronger. Healing makes you stronger but is it worth it? Is it worth being broken just for the sake of maybe glueing yourself back together, hoping that you're somehow better now than you were then? I still have trust issues and I feel like everyone is judging me all the time, even strangers. There are parts of me that will never recover from the experience of being bullied. I'm glad that for you it wasn't that way, but for some people there are ZERO benefits to bring bullied. ZERO.
I’m in high school and I was undiagnosed with autism as the ‘weird girl’.. I can guarantee that bullying has never ‘gone away’… all it has ever done for me is for me at the age of 10 to seek validation on the internet… and insist I was “one of the good ones” and think I was so cool because I bullied kids on roblox.. so, not great
Man I’m in high school right now and have been locked out of the lockers just bc I’m “one of them queers.” Bullying never went away, if anything people just stopped noticing it.
FOR REAL. People think they're edge lords by saying ''bring back bullying, because it changes you'' *flexes muscles* LIKE BRO.... NAH.. It just makes things WORSE for others. EDIT: I've been bullied before. It changed me mentally but not physically like all those muscular men are saying.
It also encourages the shitty behavior of the bullies, which seems like a counter-acting negative character development to the victims' supposed positive character development they can gain from being bullied. It'd probably be a net negative since one person can have more than one person bullying them.
I really believe that people who say bring back bullying are just trash people who want to trash on others and feel superior to other people because its makes them feel “stronger”
Funny how most of these TikTokers whining about how we should bring back bullying are like basically adults, highschool graduates wanting to “bring back bullying” against actual children…it’s like they’re getting off on the power they have/want to have over these kids which is just insane
@@cabinfever5730 Yeah, wasn’t at all my intention to frame it that way so sorry if it was weird😭😭looking back at this comment I realize I probably should’ve used different word choice
@@sjn101 Nonsense... it is worth considering the REASON, behind why these people exert their power over others, because it's not always going to be just because they think they're weird.
As an autistic, physically disabled person, I didn't want to "toughen up" to be able to pretend I could keep up with everyone else. I just wanted to be educated as thoroughly as I could be, and I wanted to be allowed to not have to break myself or to let myself be broken, constantly, just so I could live up to the heavy expectations that were put on me. I think my love for sociology might have put me in a similar mindset to what I current have, even if I didn't have to go through all of the social and systematic discrimination and/or the harsh living situations. I just might not have had to unlearn as much information as I currently have to
A couple months ago I went to school with cat ears as a social experiment just to see how severely I'd get bullied.i was used to getting bullied as I have been for basically my entire life.i just wanted to see my schoolmates reaction to them seemingly being correct in asuming i wasa furry. Over the 10 days I got threatened 3 times,told to KMS 5 times and,13 different people make animal noises or to the mocking anime mannerisms.
@@Mental_Abortion im sorry but in all seriousness should someone get threatened just for wearing cat ears? to be told to delete themselves because theyre wearing a damn headband? theres worse things someone could do but nooo lets threaten someone for being "mildly cringe", such a W
I used to be so outspoken until the 2nd grade. Like I was too afraid of showing others my interest and the only people I could turn to were my art teachers
My friend/undercover bully used to say bring back bullying last year, I laughed along thinking it was a joke but honestly now that I think about it she probably wasn’t joking (we aren’t friends anymore)
yeah im slowly starting to realize that some of the people i call "friends" are really just bullies who get away with it because theyre popular. im starting to be more vocal about it but they just laugh it off and tell me to chill lmao. i hate the thought that i could be considered a mean person just because of the people i surround myself with.
I got bullied a decent amount in my childhood. I’m a part of the LGBTQ+ community, i’m alt, and i used to be trans. Bullying ruined my mental state at times so the fact that people want to make it worse than it already is??? That’s crazy
“Bring back bullying” says the person who was already a bully and peaked in high school and now misses it because real life is not high school and nobody is gonna put up with their infantile bullsh!t.
“Bring back bullying!!” Ohhhh!! So what I’m hearing is the only way you made friends in high school was by picking on people so other assholes thought you were cool and now you’re 40 and have had one too many people online tell you that making fun of an emo teenager makes you look even sadder, right?
this is a disgusting movement, as someone who is in the 7th grade and has already attempted multiple times because of bullying, shit is still here. it’s worse even. i can’t tell you the things people say to me for having epilepsy, let alone the things they say to me for finally getting of my sh habit.
Just graduated high school less than a year ago. Bullying certifainly did not go away. Its just changed a lot. Many kids all across the U.S atleast off themselves because of bullying. To hell with "bring back bullying"
It should be telling that a number of people in the replies of the comments say that bullying makes you toughen up or can give you thick skin. In fact, in never was. It's the trauma talking, saying you should be ten times more aware of criticism and the people around you. Also, bullying never goes away. The "thrown insult in front of your face" bullying has transformed into "passive aggressive comments on socmed".
Not to mention: destruction of property, sxual remarks, physically putting their hands on you [like grabbing your shoulder/hands, running their hands along you like you're some petting zoo animal], humiliation, and the List can and will go further, additionally, intentionally stalking a victim and making several different accounts to continue the bullying when blocked,
I remember I almost committed suicide many times because of bullying (not to mention I was SA by one of my bullies) Bullying is horrible and I would never understand why anyone would wanna "bring back" bullying
I brought my keychain fox tail to school once as a back pack decoration because I'm a big renaissance fair kid and these middle school kids LITERALLY ASKED ME TO MY FACE 'is that a plug?' AND 'omg you're a furry!' LIKE, NO??? WHO TAUGHT YOU THIS anyways i told them otherwise. this girl shoves a chair into my knees and i kicked her so technically is stood up for myself :)
4:28 as a furry and a therian, this annoys me. Just let people wear whatever accessories they wanna wear. Like why do people even care (Also 99% of furry tails are attached to belts)
i just want to mention the tail thing, most of them, at least from my knowledge, are not the inappropriate thing. Most of them are on hooks similar to the ones on keychains, you just hook them onto the rim of your pants or through the belt loop.
People bully me every day, and that doesn’t make me stop doing what I love. If anything that makes me do it more so that way I can annoy them. They’re obviously bullying me to try to get me to stop right?
Cope. You keep reassuring yourself it's to "annoy" them, but the constant verbal abuse and ridicule from your peers is slowly eating away at your soul and you know it. Your mask is slipping...
@@FemboyKaiSaku I know I’m not talking about all bullies I’m just talking about the people who bully me personally. Have you heard of the bullying in Korea? They’re crazy! They burned a girl with an iron that’s not bullying that I or anyone can just ignore and keep doing what we wanna do. Don’t worry, I’m not completely ignorant. At least I’m trying not to be.
I grew up in an abusive home environment and the bullying that I experienced at school made it 100% worse for me. I was hospitalized numerous times for attempting to commit suicide and I almost went into juvenile detention for trying to defend myself when they tried to assault me (ofc the assaulter got away with it). It left me with a lot of trauma and PTSD. I pray that they never get bullied.
I was bullied so bad that I almost killed myself, I was fucking 12 I SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN TRYING O KILL MYSLEF, this whole fucking idea makes me so goddamn pissed. Thank you for talking about this.
Ended up being pulled out of school and my mom has been homeschooling me since 4th grade. I went back for freshman year but I got a literal concussion from bullying and had to be pulled back out of the american school system.
I was bullied from second grade to the time I left elementary school and entered middle school, I was called fat, called ugly, a crybaby, "teacher's pet", and my ideas would be put down just because it was me who said it. All my parents said was "suck it up." 💀 How tf are people genuinely thinking bullying isn't a bad thing
I’m literally a normal person and got bullied throughout my life, let’s not enforce it during a time where mental illnesses and sexuality are more recognised, yeah? Yeah.
As someone who was bullied since summer term year 4 of primary, I can say that bullying is not something to bring back. It got me to a point where I was bashing my head of the wall of a bathroom stall and on one occasion, telling someone to off themselves. It is not a fun experience.
i was bullied a couple years ago, Im quite young so I was in fourth-fifth grade at the time. I was the weird kid, (with reason tbh I was cringe) and once I was FOLLOWED BY 25-30 PEOPLE DURING LUNCH for a couple meters. Guess what the people watching us did. *NOTHING!* They said I was 'talented' and so it was normal they were CHASING ME CHANTING MY NAME WHILE I WAS ON THE VERGE OF TEARS. (They wanted me to sing, as I *[used to]* sing loudly (and badly) and so since i was so upfront about my likings kids decided to just pick on me, by asking me to sing outdated songs and snicker behind their hands at my naiveness)
Hey, quick comment from someone who wears tails as a fashion statement: 99% OF TAILS YOU SEE PEOPLE WEARING ARE *NOT* PLUGS, FOR CHRIST'S SAKE!! THEY ARE CLIP-ON!!! THEY GO ON YOUR BELT LOOP!!!!!! FOR EVERY ONE PLUG TAIL THERE ARE PROBABLY A HUNDRED CLIP-ONS, DO NOT ASSUME THE WORST OF SOMEONE WHEN YOU SEE THEM WEARING A TAIL!! I'm sick of this, can you tell? 😭
I got bullied when i was around 5 till 7 y/o, i would be beaten almost everyday, even the teacher bullied me,i had many suicidal thoughts when i was 5 y/o, the worst is when i told my mother about that (i was 8 and had already left that school) she ignored me and said "why didn't you tell me before?" I was devastated, please don't encourage bullying anymore it sucks and sometimes people commit suicide because of it
Bullying is not fun. I experienced a lot of it back in my high school years I was picked on a lot because I was a special needs student. I almost took my own life several times because of the continuous bullying. As someone who's been bullied and recovered from it for ten years it's not a good idea to bring back bullying. Not only it can be traumatizing for some people but it can ruin a lot of people's mental health.
I made a TikTok about "bRiNg bAcK BuLlYiNg" but I didn't really get into enough detail. People just say it whenever anyone doesn't conform to their standard of "normal" - if someone is alternative or looks or acts different in any way. Even if someone has a difference that they can't control, like being LGBT or neurodivergent. People have this idea that "bullying" keeps society under control by keeping people "normal", when all it really does is traumatise people into hiding parts of themselves. Even if some of these people do claim to have been bullied, I doubt that they've experienced anything more than occasional mild name-calling or mutual fighting. The term "bullying" is just so misunderstood and infantilised. It's so much more than kids picking on each other sometimes. Bullying is harassment; it's abuse and it is traumatising. Which is why I prefer to call it what it is. But God forbid *they* call it what it is. Nobody's likely to stay popular if they say "bring back harassment" or "bring back abuse". And then they frame it as just a joke, claiming that we're the sensitive SJWs who can't take a joke (which is gaslighting, by the way). Also, bullying never even went away. People are just starting to accept each other more in wider society. Also, I talk a lot when I'm angry about something.
Thank you. Bullying is abuse. Bullying is harassment. It’s probably not the most extreme form of either, but it still is those things. People say “bullying” instead of “harassment” because Teachers and society in general has convinced people that bullying is something as simple as making fun of someone’s shoes once.
with the tail thing: do y’all not know about clip on or tie on tails? yeah there’s weirdos that wear plugs outside but most of the time, someone is wearing a clip on or a tie on tail
I like to follow the policy of “silent cringe” You can find something cringe, but you just keep it to yourself and move on as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. I also remind myself of how cringey i was as a kid, but how happy it made me back then.
exactly, everyone's entitled to some cringe, it's how we learn 😅
Definitely agree with you on that one, we all have a right to be cringe lol
Weird stares say enough, nodoby will know you better than yourself, so it's up to you to ignore them or not.
Same. You can be a weirdo, just don't do it in public or around people who don't want to see it. Thats what bugs me about furries. I like most of the things they like, but hate how out in the open they are about it. Makes life harder for the few of us that actually want to look normal.
@@uppishcub1617 are you saying you don't want to see furries in public because it makes you cringe?
I got bullied when I was in elementary school because I was smart. I got bullied in middle school because I was a queer. Now I get bullied in high school because I’m smart and queer! Bullying doesn’t need to be brought back, it’s still here, kids are just better at not getting caught doing it.
same stay strong😢
Not really, they are just bullying the right folk nowadays. It used to be if you ere gay you got hit, no you get hit if you are Conservative and open your mouth to breathe. Its a good thing. Just wish we applied more "force" to adult Conservatives. I find its hard to play video games when your player home in Minecraft is on fire.
hang in there, these experiences instantly become memories and will seem so far away as soon as you are free ❤ pls consider talking to someone you trust about the situation too if it is not already being addressed. sending love.
Not gonna lie, the school letting people drop out in high school was a great idea because all the bullies just dropped out of my school.
Stay strong babe. If it makes you feel better, being smart and queer automatically makes you ten times more interesting then those bitches ever will be ❤
As someone who almost commited suicide due to bullying, this movement is 100% made by the people who just sit around in class and pick the side of whoever happens to be funnier/cooler/their friend/etc., regardless if they're the victim or not
Absolutely, that's why it sucks so bad
all I’m saying is that if you’re going to end your life because someone called you a name a few times, it might be natural selection
My take : Got bullied > Tried to stand up on my own feet > Became a stronger person than a nerd I was.
Some times bullying actually fixes things. And considering how messed up the society is now, bullying is necessary to behave them.
@@niight3516there's better ways than making people feel like they need to kill themselves; growing up did a hell of alot more for me than getting pushed down the stairs in middleschool
that logic is so flawed, I truly don't understand it whatsoever. Bullying the vast majority of the times will only make peoples problems worse. As someone who was bullied, I was extremely closed off until I left high school. And it was only after I left the place of where I was bullied so often I was able to build up the courage to begin working out and improve on myself.
Society is not ''messed up''. The only messed up part about it is that we accept bullies. We need to let kids be who they are without making them want to take their own lives for being who they are.@@niight3516
I feel like for those who say bring back bullying we should team up and let them experience what it feels like
FUCK YEA
I was bullied because I was a weird ass kid made me much less weird it should be a part of society
Everyone that I have ever heard say "bring back bullying" immediately starts crying when they get bullied
I love being weird and I wouldn’t trade it for the world!
@@TheChosenOne0420ah yea the unique and quirky bits of you got Beaten out of you, metaphorically or otherwise. You don’t see the issue?
Tbh, the mere idea of "Bring back bullying" is extremely childish.
Like you arent macho or cool for wanting to bully people. You're an annoying child who refuses to grow up
Chances are you bullied people as a kid and now that you're an adult and people expect you to ACT LIKE ONE- You're pissy and want to be able to bully people again.
Like a child.
It's way worse than childish when you think about where the argument is actually coming from and who they're usually responding to. I'd call it pretty degenerate in the rawest meaning of it.
@morgan2338 Mostly they just don't want to admit bullying is, in fact, a form of abuse. If the types of things bullies do were done to kids by their parents, friends, or partners, it would be abusive. Why not if it was from classmates? It has similar affects.
Sorry about soap boxing there I got excited that someone actually understands the implications of bullying (aka harassment but because it's kids we're gonna give it a cutesy name)
The craziest part is that "bullying" is disingenuous word anyway cause "bullying" has a lighter connotation to it. In the adult world, it isn't called bullying its called harassment.
It's like Darrel you're 45 why are you trying to bring "bullying" back?
and it’s ridiculous cus bullying never really went away. these people are the ones who were bullies before, still are and will continue to be, because now they turn it into some big joke they think that’s a good excuse to be an asshole
It’s such a privilege think bullying went away
You can tell a subgroup of people saying this haven't been to a school since the 2000s. It's like boomers telling young people in the workforce to "just work hard."
@@BrocksJellyFilledDoughnuts I’m not though? I’m just saying people who think bullying doesn’t exist probably have never been around bullies.
@@Catsaretoogoodtobetrue Idk what you're defending but I was agreeing with you bro.
@@BrocksJellyFilledDoughnuts ohhhhhhhh
@@BrocksJellyFilledDoughnuts sorry I thought u were saying I was invalidating those people
never thought id see the day where saying “bullying is bad” becomes controversial
god i totally agree
I mean, we've passed "don't beat your kids" being controversial already.
Don't be surprised if people try to say that beating your wife is moral sometime soon.
@@anothercub6958 so called “alpha males” are already hopping on that bandwagon. telling young boys that, “it’s okay to beat your wife! she needs to be put in her place!” people like andrew tate (who has tons of impressionable fans) subscribe to this idea and it’s honestly so sad to watch
@@anothercub6958
Oh, do i have news for you 😂
Not all bullying is bad
I know this quote has been said a million times, but it still applies here:
"Social Media has made yall way too comfortable with disrespecting people and not getting punched in the face for it." - Mike Tyson.
Words to live by
Yeah it's easy to say vile things when there are no repercussions
dude bullying is so dumb. I legit got bullied for being brown IN INDIA WHICH IS FILLED WITH BROWN PEOPLE.
So did you hand them a mirror or..? Perhaps a color blindness test? 💀
@@UncleSamsoniteLover69 no they were the fair ones so i cant really say anything for that :
@ville__ being straight = choice
@@3lillth_666 colorism at its finest (worst)
but i am the BLOBBIEST and the GREYEST out of all the grey blobs! you're clearly not as blobby and grey as me!
anyone remember that fairly odd parents episode?
I used to be one of those people that thought bullying was good for “character building”. I got bullied as a kid and was trying to rationalize it to myself; basically I just had a lot of internalized victim-blaming that I had to grapple with for a while. But anyway, no, getting bullied doesn’t make you better or stronger, YOU make YOURSELF stronger, not because of the bullies, but in spite of them.
well said!!! totally agree
Yeah, that's also interesting because hearing your story makes me feel as though Louis definitely could have been a bit more respectful and understanding when addressing this viewpoit. The thing is, abuse is cyclical, as someone who has been bullied may eventually become the bully themself, or at least may end up believing that others deserve to be treated the same way they were if they don't fit in. They may think that they deserved to have been bullied because they were "cringe" and may therefore have this mindset that everyone has to fit in with the crowd. To justify this fallacious mindset, they may also look within themselves and recognize how the bullying they experienced caused them to grow as a person. It isn't necessarily true that people with harmful mindsets such as this are "stupid" as Louis puts it, but rather, it they may just be that they are misguided due to their own life experiences. Its sort of like internalized homophobia: If a gay person is told over and over that being gay is wrong and abnormal, then eventually some part of them may start to believe it, even if their conscious mind disagrees with that sentiment. Thus, they may supress that side of themself because society tells them that it'll be easier for them to just "be straight" even though it really isn't that simple. Idk, it's just a thought I had.
same. i still occasionally struggle with thinking that i must’ve did something to deserve it
Bullying is also not the only way to become "stronger", just one of the options that are guaranteed to give you trauma without any guaranteed benefits. I was bullied for having good grades and wearing glasses and I remained just as shy as before, it just made me feel alienated from other people on top of it. What actually helped me gain confidence and experience in being in a social setting was fun experiences with friends in high school (where I wasn't bullied anymore because it was a pretty good school), my ex boyfriend gently encouraging/pushing me to do stuff like be the one who orders for us on dates, plus all the new things I had to do by myself anyway as I grew up. Self-improvement is not easy, but it does not have to be traumatic and we don't need bullying.
@ville__That doesnt make any sense
“Bring back bullying” is also pretty ableist. The “weird” kid is often the kid who’s neurodiverse who’s already having a hard time but bulling just makes it way worse.
It's just simply homophobic,ableist and racist.As well as just simply being bigoted and just generally a bad idea in a large number of ways.
It's just simply homophobic,ableist and racist.As well as just simply being bigoted and just generally a bad idea in a large number of ways.
@@garynaccarato4606exactly. They just want to be able to say homophobic, ableist, racist, and bigoted things without consequences. That's why these are the same people who complain about shit being "woke" or "politically correct". It's the same old recycled boomer shit of someone's racist uncle complaining about political correctness because he can't say slurs anymore without pushback.
I can see why you would get bullied.
@@hokoriadventures.6745 aren’t you a bundle of joy 🥰
"Bring back bullying!" - someone who has clearly never been bullied
@@bakemyheart2240 no, you don't encourage suffering
@@bakemyheart2240i got bullied for being bisexual, and while on the one hand, it toughened me up to those comments, on the other hand, i would never wish the experience i had on others
@@bakemyheart2240i got bullied for being trans and almost jumped, and i still face ridicule online and it literally drove me to the point of su*cide. don’t encourage this, it hasn’t made me stronger, all it has done is made me more angry, defensive, and hateful towards others.
@bakemyheart2240 no it didn't. Being less empathetic isn't being tough.
@@SWINDLESSCOTCHhello sibling. I got bullied for same things. Was assaulted with a bat outside of school. Had to start fighting for my own it was insanity that I was never defended by adults. Hope you're doing well 💗
People want to bring back bullying until they’re the ones getting bullied. The guy who made the bring back bullying with the friends font is 100% gonna get ridiculed online because its cringe as hell.
then hes gonna get all mad about "keyboard warriors"
It's normal to be bullied everyone gets it unless you're sheltered, honestly you people are insane for thinking bullying is all bad
@@mrpickles-hb6zx As a target of bullying for being queer and autistic, I do think a lot of bullying is bad. If you would feel comfortable sharing your experiences being bullied so I can see your perspective on things, but only knowing mine and my friends experiences, I do think bullying, as a concept, is bad.
there is a difference between helicopter parents and neglectful parents, and the latter allows bullying to keep going@@mrpickles-hb6zx
@@mrpickles-hb6zx alright then, your stupid-ass can be the first lamb if you think so
"Bring back bullying" is either said by people who were never bullied in the first place and want to make people feel bad about things they're most likely already being bullied about, or by people who were bullied themselves and say that it made them stronger so "everyone must suffer because I did" no. We're here to make it easier for younger generations. You should be grateful that bullying is getting more "rare" even though kids are mostly just getting better at hiding it. This whole movement is stupid idk
I agree, as an "ex-bully" I can also say, this movement will certainly backfire as bullying works when it's against a common enemy. The people saying this usually have no friends and will soon remember how much it sucks
well put. i was abused my whole life and feel like it has made me incredibly strong but i wish it on no one and support efforts to abolish cruel treatment of people, esp children.
plus the kids aren’t even hiding it. schools and other people just don’t care
@@McKenzieCollins-kv3sd Definitely agree with that one, at least in some schools. I was lucky enough to grow up going to a school where the bullying wasn't tolerated, hopefully you're doing well tho? Or at least dealing with it. So sorry you've had that kind of experience
I don't like the easy edge-less safe world you people are creating. Its like a padded cell. Sure you won't be dead, but you'll wish you were.
Thats the reason so many people kill themselves today. Life has lost all meaning. You get it for free, have your hand held the entire time, and are steered away from anything dangerous that might possibly excite you. Hardly anyone struggles to live, but almost everyone struggles to find a reason to live.
You think people 200 years ago had this problem? No, they were too busy trying not to die. Fighting, killing, taking whatever they could to keep themselves alive. That gave life value.
Being bullied at a young age had made me a very anxious person. None of what I was put through really made me “tougher” it just made me fearful of other people and developed a strong sense of self loathing.
Same here.
I can’t do any hobbies I want to do and had an interest in because of bullying, woohoo!
@@Sparket Same, I'm only NOW just finding the courage to live for myself, and I'm nearly 24.
I only just recently started working through a perfectionist mindset (a result of bullying) and started allowing myself to do actitivites that I'm bad at but ultimately find fun (skateboarding, juggling, makeup, etc). I'm having loads of fun and feel regret at missing out on experimenting in my youth due to the shame that bullying had instilled in me.
Being bullied as a a kid has helped me become jaded at the age of 25. My mother said that she talks to the woman who used to bully me as a girl and she says that she’s a nice person now and my fight response set in so I left the room. It truly hurt me when I heard that.
@@Sparket same, everytime I went to do a hobby eg art I thought “will I get bullied if I draw this” or do an action “will I get bullied if I do this.” Or even speak “will I get bullied if I talk about this.” I was so petrified of being bullied that I stripped away my personality and my emotions to the point where I don’t even know who I am anymore? Am I like this because it’s how I am or am I like this because of social constructs? I’ve masked to a point where I was a stranger to myself.
Eventually I just stopped trying, only drew the most cliche, only did the most “normal things”, never spoke which made me extremely lonely, I became well, A NPC. All because I didn’t want to be bullied, again.
I am only now just starting to be myself after so many years, of fear and hating myself. What made it worst is that I’m autistic and it only contributed to the hardship of life, my interests and patterns were hidden away by a wall that I am only now starting to tear down, I am becoming more free and happy, but every brick that gets taken down is difficult, those thoughts still remain.
“Will I get bullied if I be myself?” Is a question nobody should have to ask themselves.
Really shows how good your life is if you thought for even a SECOND that bullying has gone away. If anything, it's gotten worse with the inclusion of social media. People who want to "bring back bullying" are way too comfortable
Agreed. It's worse than ever now honestly because of the way the bullying has changed. It's so psychological now and online.
me: makes a funny comment on a random video
every transphobe in a 12 mile radius, seeing blood-red: now is my time
Ikr it's do bad rn
@ville__so how long do u plan to spam this under every comment?
honestly, a lot of things we see on the internet aren’t bullying anymore, they’re straight up harassment and bigotry.
Bullying really didn’t make me any straighter
Should've invested in a back brace.
@@nooneneedstoknowmyname ayyy
@@cloudycolacorp Lmao, I'm glad you understand that was a joke.
If anyone gives you a hard time about not being straight, just remember they have no thoughts of their own and are only parroting what they're being taught so it's nothing against you personally.
It doesn't make it right however.
Same😂
Honestly it just gave me a shame kink.
I grew up in a town where the documentary “Bully” was filmed… I also remember several instances of teens in my school unaliving because of bullying. So for people to say bring it back are literally so miserable and soulless that they can’t stand to see people being comfortable with who they are
Why are you saying “unaliving” in a comment, you won’t get demonetized lmao
@@FilthyTea RUclips blocks comments with certain words
@@Tjnovakart oh damn, really? That’s dumb but it is what it is I guess
@@Tjnovakart Not all the time. It just depends on how you phrase your comment. I've mentioned suicide and people killing themselves without issue... for the most part! Just don't repost the same comment, especially if you use those words, after deleting the original comment due to a typo or a missing word. *That's* when you really get censored! 😅
This is why I don’t share my intrests with people. Multiple kids in the fanbase I’m in were bullied to the point of suicide. I’m so fucking scared.
Got bullied in a way that left me with trauma. I’ve been on the floor crying over a pat on the back because of how my body reacts to physical contact now. All because some idiot kids decided to physically and S*xually harass me.
Thank you for sharing, I'm sure it's not very pleasant to exist with such things
Holy fuck, how are you doing now?
After years of therapy, I’m fine. I’m just trying to say that bullying is traumatizing and anyone who is advocating for it is basically saying that they want to traumatize people
I got s*xually assaulted in highschool bad. No teachers or higher up did anything about it even though they were told multiple times, so 2 guy friends took care of him for me, then the teacher tried to get me in trouble for hitting him. He never touched another girl again though
@lindseymorgan7386 I’m so sorry that happened to you. Good on your guy friends for beating him up and good on you for staying strong. I hope you’re doing well
imagine being so coddled in life that you genuinely think bullying has gone away
Bring back bullying? Where'd it go? Just because you are tall, and they kicked you out of school because you are too old now when they never wanted you there from the get go, and you can no longer "bully" people (because most forms of bullying are real criminal offenses that are jailable crimes that you can be tried and possibly even sued for), that doesn't mean that bullying ever went away.
Making rude remarks,being a jerk and hurting peoples feelings unlike doing anything physical is still pretty much legal in many situations even though depending on exactly how somebody goes about doing that stuff it could still be classified as harassment and it could be classified as disorderly conduct.
@garynaccarato4606 yeah if u get into legal trouble over "bullying" its typically called harassment
@@arcaderdudeand stepping over the line between bullying and actual crimes like assault, sexual assault, property damage, and other forms of violence.
@@arcaderdudewhich is also unlikely since its pretty easy to just write something on a social media slamming a person whilst you hide within a crowd of hundreds who are just as anonymous as you are
@@anothercub6958 sometimes i forget most people's experience with bullying didn't involve laws being broken
because i was bullied, i did end up losing a lot of weight from being obese to relatively small. but because i was bullied, i grew a horrible relationship with my body and hated doing any activities i loved for most of my teen life.
its like a “good thing may happen, but at what cost?” situation when it comes to bullying
Balance is key.... but dysphoria cannot be fixed so easily, I wish you all the best
@@interro588 erm it’s actually dysmorphia ☝️🤓
@@Totallynotredtail dysmorphia
"Bring back bullying!" bro, you're gonna be one of the first ones to get bullied.
Especially as he loves Friends. A show for women. Not very Alpha.
@@facthunt2facthunt245 And a very boring show as well.
Well said Mr 4chan anon
Being sexist and rude then saying bullying is bad? Hypocrisy, bullying is natural
@@mrpickles-hb6zx "Bullying is natural!!" Yeah it's natural! That means every single kid deserves to go through it! Who cares that bullying can lead to suicide am I right?
“Bullying isn’t that bad”-someone who was the bully
Or someone who was bullied and manipulated to think It was good for them
It’s not really specifically homophobic, it’s just… generally bad.
It does definitely hurt LBGTQ people but in relation to all the other potentially negative implications and outcomes the homophobia and the ways in which it hurts LBGTQ people just so happens to be the very small tip of a very very huge iceberg.
Don’t know abt you but a big factor of bullying in 2024 is being in the lgbtq. But like many people said before you won’t understand until you’re witnessing it all the time or going through it.
guys, op meant its not ONLY lgbtq. it can go for racism and ableism too as a couple examples, they didnt say it didnt happen to lgbtq or theres a contest..
@@dorishakitty229 Seems like my point went way over your head my dude. It’s cool, I went and got it back to show you again. See, the homophobia piece of this iceberg is here, directly in front of you, right, everyone sees that, but my point here was bullying sucks for anyone who is bullied.
In other words… bullying is bad.
@@garynaccarato4606 it doesnt hurt every lgbtq person tho so it isnt rlly effective much
"Bring back bullying" is so funny to me because, not sure about y'all but it's completely backfired in my school at least. There's a kid at my school who tries to bully gay kids etc but the problem is he doesn't understand bullying, bullying only works when its against someone no one likes, and ironically this causes everyone to laugh at the people who are pushing it.
No reason to harass people for being gay, see that kid ur talking about? That's the kind of situation bullying works in
@@mrpickles-hb6zx Its not A situation bullying works in its THE situation it works in. No one likes him, so there's no push back. It's a fundamental part of this that the 'bring back bullying' mfs dont understand. They think they can bully people they don't like but that just backfires every time.
Those who say things like "bring back bullying," are the most pathetic and least intelligent among us. They are people who don't understand how anything works. Politics, the news, everything is too complicated for them. So they come up with this.
AMONG US
@@TosmatoSoup SUS
most pathetic and least intelligent out of all among usses
I was bullied when I was younger because of a speech impediment and it was awful. The only good thing that came out of it was it gave me tough skin but if I had a child I wouldn't want them having that pain just for the sake of character development, it's the worst
Same. I was also bullied for my speech impediment at school and they make fun of me. I become feel insecure of my voice and I was nervous. I struggled to speak clearly. I talk too fast and my English is difficult to understand. I was a slow thinker and I cannot think critically.
But now. I am talking to people. I keep my speech slow and steady so people can understand me. It helps my social skills build up and get better. I may talk fast but I just need to be speak slowly and clearly. No rush is needed.
If you have tough skin, it's not BECAUSE you were bullied. You're strong despite it, not because of it. Pushing the idea that getting bullied makes you stronger or helps you grow thick skin is a harmful message, even if you don't intend it, because it allows less people to stop bullying, and it gives bullies an excuse to keep bullying you even more.
I had a friend who bullied everyone around him and then excused the behavior by saying that he was "preparing everyone for the real world". Him saying racist things to me, humiliating me in public, and sexually harassing me just made me even more of a spineless coward than I already was, thinking that if I expressed how I feel, I'm "overly sensitive", and ironically, I think he made me feel even more insecure and overly sensitive. You know what did make me stronger though? Surrounding myself with better people.
i don’t think that these people who want to bring back bullying realize that the people they bully act/dress how they do is because they were bullied 90% of the time, and to show others who were bullied “hey we have a similar experience, if u wanna be friends i won’t bully u!!” it’s really stupid and never went away
I think their movement is just "I want to be mean to people online without any backlash"
I’m a freshman in highschool. My last year of middle school was hell because of bullying. I would get home and cry. I am autistic, and used to carry a plush around as a comfort item. It went missing and there was a rumor that it got stolen. I got taunted even more for that. It made sense to me, as they’ve stolen stuff in the past. I watched myself become an extremely angry, bitter, and anxious person. To this day I struggle with low esteem, being territorial over property, and trouble socializing. To say bullying is dead is stupid.
Fuck man I'd love to bring a plush to school. Anyone that does that is cool as hell in my opinion
I used to carry a plush with me from my favourite video game all the way up until 15 (my mum thought it was weird that I still did that).
Anyway I'm so sorry that those people did that to you, it must be horrible knowing the reasons why you react the way you do now, but you couldn't do anything about it to stop it from happening then.
You get an internet hug ⊂(´･◡･⊂ )∘˚˳°
I'm so sorry that haopened to you and I hope you will finally get to have good prople in your world. You didn't deserve that. Kids can be so mean...
Love bullying people who do something I find weird or bad because them looking bad makes me look good and that’s all I want, I want to looks good and to stand out and get whatever shallow praise and empty fleeting respect I can get. I can’t stand having something I don’t like even remotely be in my presence, my image that u show to eyes that will never see it must always be perfect and thus I am never wrong. My thoughts are faultless and differences between me and others cannot be tolerated. If I see a weakness in you I must have at it, manipulate it into becoming something that encompasses your life while I walk off, laughing on the outside but on the inside I’m as empty as i was before. My heart craves meaning but the void of eternity wraps around it , reminding me of the true inconsequentialness of my existence. NO. I must fight back no matter the cost. Others pain must be a life force for me, filling me like a well with water. But the bottomless well cannot ever be filled, no matter how much you try. I could pour in all lakes, rivers and seas. I could tear down the clouds from the sky and throw them down into the depths but it would be to no avail. In the end the only way to make the well have function, have purpose, is to fix it. Add a true bottom to the well, seal it up and make it sturdy so it won’t cave in like it had previously. This would take work however. Effort to see what needed to be fixed, see what I had broken. Effort I don’t have. No. Instead I pour in more, the well never getting fuller while everything else get emptier. The fish cannot breath. The people cannot drink. The rain cannot fall and now all is empty. Just like the well. Just like m-
You ever do slam poetry? Because…. damn!
Sorry to bother you but um... did you help with writing Baldur's Gate 3?
Sorry lol I wrote this when I was half asleep at like 3am the other night lmao idk what I was on
@@BubblegumStudiosOfficial It's inspiration that refuses to come during the day when you actually want it and instead comes at 3 or 4 a.m. and you end up writing something hella weird. Happened to me multiple times.
@@lobianienjoyer lmao
I was bullied because of my autism, but being bullied made me fight back and develop anti social behaviors which led to more bullying. My friends told me to ignore those people and I started to do so, sometimes it worked sometimes it didn’t. Then I started dressing “weird”. By that point the hostility went away I just stuck out. Bullying made me worse, then compassion made me better. And bullying also made me weirder, these people hated me when I dressed “normal” so what’s the point of trying to fit in, doing what I like makes me happy.
It's really annoying when pepole say bring back bullying. Alot of kids off themselves because of the bullying. So pepole want kids to make other kids feel like life isn't worth it? That's fucked up. It's so stupid for adults to want this kind of behavior to continue.
Love your content man, can't wiat for the next video
Exactly! People I know that were bullied often socially isolated themselves and so did I. It gets worse and worse to the point a child isn't really living anymore, just existing. I hope the people aren't qware of that and are just stupid, but they should get aware of it.
The whole "bring bullying back" trend triggers me so deeply. Because i remember getting bullied in school every fucking day, and every day i felt more and more depressed to the point that taking my own life felt like bliss, i felt it was the only way out since one i wasn't allowed to change schools due to my parents financial issues, and second because the principal of the school was very manipulative and didn't care about the bullying that occured.
Now im 22 almost 23 and i STILL haven't gone over it as you can clearly tell, my entire childhood had to come to a halt i couldn't live out my childhood properly, because i had to grow up fast and protect myself from the outside world. I still have to live with the trauma, and i still have to deal with many mental issues. I also recently noticed (recent as 2022) that im autistic and that explained A LOT why i was such an easy target, it all makes sense to me, but it also makes me sad because if i wasn't neurodivergent i wouldn't have to suffer like i did.
Do NOT bring bullying back, it's literally abuse both mental and physical depending on what kind of bullying people are going through. And it will destroy someone mentally completely or even make someone take their own life. It is not funny, and it certainly won't make you a good person.
as someone who's autistic and went through similar experiences just for acting "cringe" I think this entire movement is ableist in a way. Cringe culture is ableist and this is kind of a similar thing to that. Inflicting years of trauma, permanent mental scars, and frequent psychologist visits isn't a worthy punishment to someone for wearing a cat tail when they were 16 or something.
I hope you can find hope and peace, enough of it that you can live happy. Of course the mental scars will never go away. Luckily I got out of that enviroment after about 2 years bit I feel you.
A really bad part for me was that at some point the slightest bullying would make me so anxious and embarrased that I would cry so much, which only made it worse and worse because that was even more embarrasing.
Bullying is just a nicer word for abuse. Lets be honest. Call it what it is. They dont deserve to have nicer words for what should be considered abuse. Abusers dont get to water down the language that refers to their abuse. The same way I wouldn't call someone hitting their wife "punishment". Thats abuse. When you rephrase it as bring back abuse because these people inconvenience me. You start to relaize how insidious what theyre saying is. They want to abuse people for what? Wearing dog collars or cat ears? Doing things? Just existing? Peer abuse never went away. It just changed form. Lets be honest.
never thought about it in this way but so true
This has been obvious to me, and has infuriated me since about 4th grade(either end of 4th or beginning of 5th, cant quite remember). Worst part is whenever i have voiced this people always claimed i was being "too extreme" with the idea of it. But im not being extreme, im just not coddling abusers. Its abuse, i never felt any more safe with abusers from school than i did with the abuser at home.
I wish I could like a comment more than once
What's worse is they expect u to sit down and take it and not fight back if ur lgbt or black
I have always thought this on such a real level, what I hate so deeply is how schools excuse bullying like 'oh they're having a hard time at home.' so??? That doesn't give them excuse to abuse me because I like men?
4:50 I want to clear up a misconception here. *99% of people who wear tails in public have it on a keychain clip attached to one of their belt loops.* The trend of wearing animal tails on your pants was actually started by alt kids back in the late 2000s-early 2010s as a fashion subculture. That's why you'll see people wear 'em clipped to the side or front of their pants rather then the back. It's a fashion choice, just like the collars, and it's recently come back into fashion because of tiktok accelerating the trend cycle.
YES, this! I wear a fox tail on my belt loop, it fucking sucks that people sexualize it because I literally just like having a sensory object clipped onto my pants, it's comforting and I like vulture culture, so pelts and animal bones are pretty up my alley, and why wouldn't I bring something I enjoy and doesnt harm anyone in public?
(and lets be real, its fun to look like you have a tail.)
Yep! The "trend" originally came from therians and otherkin, and as one of them, I will occasionally wear one (not a plug just to be clear), and it's kind of became a part of the culture. :)
@@piixelonline That's roughly what I remember but I believe that the trend actually started in the late 2000s with emo subcultures like Teen Werewolves, and it was then picked up by the therian community!
I was like 10 when I had one of the tail keychains, which was a million years ago. People turn the most innocent stuff into sexualized bullshit
AS a person whos into that kinda thing, YOU DONT WEAR THEM IN PUBLIC!
that would be forcing your kinks onto others without there consent, witch is uh... bad.
Honestly, bullying is kinda cringe
Kinda?
true and factual.
Only if its for no good reason
@@mrpickles-hb6zx Google defines bullying as seeking to harm someone percived as vulnerable. With that defenision in mind, what do you think is a "good reason" to bully someone.
there is no good reason for bullying.@@mrpickles-hb6zx
As a former bully, I bullied from a place of personal pain. I took because I had little. I hurt because I was hurting. I insulted because I was miserable.
I thought that by forcing people to be "normal" I could somehow be "normal" myself.
Years of therapy led me to great improvements. Apologies and restorative actions to my victims gave me the personal forgiveness I desperately wanted.
Sorry.
@DEADGUY666 that and more.
As a person that's been bullied since kindergarten (due to most likely undiagnosed neurodivergency.) All it has done is made me suicidal and feel worthless, yet i dont change at all.. this mindset is weird.
as someone who almost offed themself because of bullying, no. do not. never bring that shit back.
Fr, I also got bullied and I’m so sorry that you had to endure that
Crazy how people want to bring up a suicidal statistic back up again
My guy bullying doesn’t make you stronger it’s always an inherent negative
Yeah it’s perhaps more of a case of the healing process creating strength. I’ve become more self-reflective which has allowed me to understand myself better. But that was only because I managed to escape the sadness that comes with being bullied and be myself again
@BlueOrBee Agreed! ( off topic, luv ur pfp! )
Yeah. It's unecessary harm and trauma to the victim, and actively encouraging the shitty behavior of the bully. It's a disservice to both parties.
@@meep1033 thank ya personal headcanon for the character
@@anothercub6958 yeah and lead to in my case becoming even more bad at communicating with people. Made my autism more bad and my bipolar disorder ti be even more bad as well
What started as bullying lead to genuine assault for me. What these people don't realize that is bullying is also a stepping stone that allows people to do more violent things (or at least in me and my friend's experience). I started with getting bullied, it lead to be being physical and sexually assaulted by those same people.
At first it's bullying, then it's pranks, then one prank goes too far and somebody ends up either dead, assaulted, or in jail.
The people promoting bringing bullying back either forgot about the escalation of bullying or are okay with it anyway.
Bullying literally gave me a ptsd diagnosis that will affect me physically and mentally for the entirety of my life. Like, I cannot comprehend rallying around and supporting the idea of being unkind to others for fun.
@DEADGUY666you don't need to go to war to have PTSD, very shallow minded way of going about things
@DEADGUY666if their bullying caused ptsd, then it was definitely more than just name calling. kinda stupid to assume that
@DEADGUY666 how about physical/mental abuse? Because thats what bullying is. Instilling fear of an outcome everythime you see this person, usually at the same place.
I have PTSD. Ive never gone to war but ive still had flashbacks and panic attacks because of certain events, things that built up trauma over many years. I was living in constant fear.
@DEADGUY666 physical abuse, stalking, more than those two tho but i don’t think you’re actually going to change in your set beliefs so i’m not gonna try
Was bullied in elementary school for being the astranged farm kid, usually seen as dirty or not fitting in with the suburban kids who all lived in the same neighborhood on top of having a dad who was just as insensitive twoards me, and ended up taking it out on others in Middle School with my own harsh behavior; it is not something I ever want to go back to, I can't imagine how anyone could ever live comfortably constantly stroking their inflated ego and general lack of intamacy with people.
It's frustrating because the people condifently claiming we need to bring back bullying would 100% get bullied themselves.
As they should
It’s also pretty ableist lol.
Thisss
It sucks for everyone.
yes.
Omg WHY DID YOU ASSUME IT WAS A PLUG??? I wore those lil clip on tails as a furry in high school (a child, obviously not sexual) and fought on the front lines defending myself. The tiktok literally just said "racoon tail".
Gotta assume the worst these days when it comes to people like this
@@Louis_McClung how is wearing a racoon tail inherently sexual? it's literally just a tail dude
good faith is where you assume the best of the argument, in this case assuming the anger is directed at only the most extreme
@@starfieldgames5976 no no no, I'm assuming that someone would only have a problem with it IF it was, why would anyone mind a normal accessory
@@ItsKierancraft oh yeah exactly that, well said!!!
Getting bullied taught me to stand up for myself, i would always let people be so awful to me. Not anymore.
But that doesn't change the fact it gave me immense amount of trauma and severe anxiety that ive been trying to overcome for a few years now. Makes me so upset that people say to bring it back
Yeah, I think it's generally dishonest to say bullying only builds character because it creates trauma and insecurities too. You can't have the development without the trauma
@@KingYou2002 It's also dishonest to imply that bullying ITSELF is the catalyst for growth, when oftentimes it's the healing that happens AFTER that is the source of growth for many.
People don't "get better" (whether that meant standing up for oneself, being more assertive, or becoming physically strong) because of their bullying. There are more people who learn from their experiences after having been bullied to become better than there are people who make that change in themselves in response to the bullying while they were still being bullied.
It's great that bullying made you stronger, but for me it was the exact opposite. I'm neurodivergent, I was bullied for it and I had no way of defending myself or standing up to my bullies because my social skills were about as good as you can imagine for a child with autism and ADHD. I didn't get stronger, I became suicidal. I had no support system. When I left middle school and went to high school, I became the biggest asshole known to man in order to avoid being bullied again. I hit my friends and insulted them constantly. I did horrible things that I still regret. I hurt people that were important to me, again and again. Bullying broke me and made me into a monster. It took me years to recover from that state, to feel safe enough to be human again. Bullying doesn't make you stronger. Healing makes you stronger but is it worth it? Is it worth being broken just for the sake of maybe glueing yourself back together, hoping that you're somehow better now than you were then? I still have trust issues and I feel like everyone is judging me all the time, even strangers. There are parts of me that will never recover from the experience of being bullied. I'm glad that for you it wasn't that way, but for some people there are ZERO benefits to bring bullied. ZERO.
Used to be bullied for being bi, being fat, having gay parents and more.
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@@Mental_Abortion Wow, you're so cool and your name isn't cringe at all 🙄
That sucks bro. You good now or no?
@@GokuBlackRose978no. But I’m gonna be getting help soon hopefully.
@@Bully_Biscuit that’s good, have a good day/night
To be fair his suggestion of jumping off a Ferris wheel does sound preferable to watching Friends!
The show isn't for Alphas. I guess someone forgot to tell him it's for women.
Anything harmful to my body sounds better than sitting through an episode of friends
I’m in high school and I was undiagnosed with autism as the ‘weird girl’.. I can guarantee that bullying has never ‘gone away’… all it has ever done for me is for me at the age of 10 to seek validation on the internet… and insist I was “one of the good ones” and think I was so cool because I bullied kids on roblox.. so, not great
Bullying didn't even toughen me up, it just turned me into a different type of burden in society lmao
Man I’m in high school right now and have been locked out of the lockers just bc I’m “one of them queers.” Bullying never went away, if anything people just stopped noticing it.
FOR REAL. People think they're edge lords by saying ''bring back bullying, because it changes you'' *flexes muscles* LIKE BRO.... NAH.. It just makes things WORSE for others. EDIT: I've been bullied before. It changed me mentally but not physically like all those muscular men are saying.
It also encourages the shitty behavior of the bullies, which seems like a counter-acting negative character development to the victims' supposed positive character development they can gain from being bullied.
It'd probably be a net negative since one person can have more than one person bullying them.
I really believe that people who say bring back bullying are just trash people who want to trash on others and feel superior to other people because its makes them feel “stronger”
It's going to become a "leopards eating people's faces" moment where the person who started the movement is going to be a victim of said movement
Which is really funny considering that the Leopard Eating People's Faces movement is already backfiring on transphobes that endorse it
“Bring back bullying”
…
Shit didn’t know it left
Like damn nvm ig
Funny how most of these TikTokers whining about how we should bring back bullying are like basically adults, highschool graduates wanting to “bring back bullying” against actual children…it’s like they’re getting off on the power they have/want to have over these kids which is just insane
When you phrase it like that it reaaaallly does make it sound like they're pedophiles.
@@cabinfever5730 Yeah, wasn’t at all my intention to frame it that way so sorry if it was weird😭😭looking back at this comment I realize I probably should’ve used different word choice
@@sjn101 Nonsense... it is worth considering the REASON, behind why these people exert their power over others, because it's not always going to be just because they think they're weird.
As an autistic, physically disabled person, I didn't want to "toughen up" to be able to pretend I could keep up with everyone else. I just wanted to be educated as thoroughly as I could be, and I wanted to be allowed to not have to break myself or to let myself be broken, constantly, just so I could live up to the heavy expectations that were put on me. I think my love for sociology might have put me in a similar mindset to what I current have, even if I didn't have to go through all of the social and systematic discrimination and/or the harsh living situations. I just might not have had to unlearn as much information as I currently have to
A couple months ago I went to school with cat ears as a social experiment just to see how severely I'd get bullied.i was used to getting bullied as I have been for basically my entire life.i just wanted to see my schoolmates reaction to them seemingly being correct in asuming i wasa furry.
Over the 10 days I got threatened 3 times,told to KMS 5 times and,13 different people make animal noises or to the mocking anime mannerisms.
this is actually extremely interesting and sounds like an amazing science experiment/essay i would read lmao.
W classmates
your sooooo funny and original@@Mental_Abortion
@@MondayTurtle 😥
@@Mental_Abortion im sorry but in all seriousness should someone get threatened just for wearing cat ears? to be told to delete themselves because theyre wearing a damn headband? theres worse things someone could do but nooo lets threaten someone for being "mildly cringe", such a W
Bullying didn’t go anywhere
I was bullied from preschool to highschool and now I'm basically a shut in because I cant feel comfortable around anyone outside in the real world
I used to be so outspoken until the 2nd grade. Like I was too afraid of showing others my interest and the only people I could turn to were my art teachers
My friend/undercover bully used to say bring back bullying last year, I laughed along thinking it was a joke but honestly now that I think about it she probably wasn’t joking (we aren’t friends anymore)
yeah im slowly starting to realize that some of the people i call "friends" are really just bullies who get away with it because theyre popular. im starting to be more vocal about it but they just laugh it off and tell me to chill lmao. i hate the thought that i could be considered a mean person just because of the people i surround myself with.
I got bullied a decent amount in my childhood. I’m a part of the LGBTQ+ community, i’m alt, and i used to be trans. Bullying ruined my mental state at times so the fact that people want to make it worse than it already is??? That’s crazy
“Bring back bullying” says the person who was already a bully and peaked in high school and now misses it because real life is not high school and nobody is gonna put up with their infantile bullsh!t.
“Bring back bullying!!”
Ohhhh!! So what I’m hearing is the only way you made friends in high school was by picking on people so other assholes thought you were cool and now you’re 40 and have had one too many people online tell you that making fun of an emo teenager makes you look even sadder, right?
this is a disgusting movement, as someone who is in the 7th grade and has already attempted multiple times because of bullying, shit is still here. it’s worse even. i can’t tell you the things people say to me for having epilepsy, let alone the things they say to me for finally getting of my sh habit.
I don't know what bullying they're talking about but bullying has never gone away.
Just graduated high school less than a year ago. Bullying certifainly did not go away. Its just changed a lot. Many kids all across the U.S atleast off themselves because of bullying. To hell with "bring back bullying"
"Bring back bullying" It never left and now it kills kids sooo, yikes.
It should be telling that a number of people in the replies of the comments say that bullying makes you toughen up or can give you thick skin. In fact, in never was. It's the trauma talking, saying you should be ten times more aware of criticism and the people around you. Also, bullying never goes away. The "thrown insult in front of your face" bullying has transformed into "passive aggressive comments on socmed".
It does. But that's not the only way.
Not to mention: destruction of property, sxual remarks, physically putting their hands on you [like grabbing your shoulder/hands, running their hands along you like you're some petting zoo animal], humiliation, and the List can and will go further, additionally, intentionally stalking a victim and making several different accounts to continue the bullying when blocked,
4:30 as someone who wears these things as a non sexual thing, I'd like to say most of us don't do it for those reasons and we don't use plugs
I’m glad I’ve found a few comments about this! I would have lost my mind if I didn’t 😭
I remember I almost committed suicide many times because of bullying (not to mention I was SA by one of my bullies)
Bullying is horrible and I would never understand why anyone would wanna "bring back" bullying
I brought my keychain fox tail to school once as a back pack decoration because I'm a big renaissance fair kid and these middle school kids LITERALLY ASKED ME TO MY FACE 'is that a plug?' AND 'omg you're a furry!' LIKE, NO??? WHO TAUGHT YOU THIS anyways i told them otherwise. this girl shoves a chair into my knees and i kicked her so technically is stood up for myself :)
I plan on getting a tail and I'm scared of *exactly* this happening 😅
How about "bring back letting people live their fucking lives!"
4:28 as a furry and a therian, this annoys me. Just let people wear whatever accessories they wanna wear. Like why do people even care
(Also 99% of furry tails are attached to belts)
bullying broke me, I spent my entire childhood seeking the power of violence to protect myself, and now I have it. I have it, and nothing else.
“bring back bullying” i just got bullied so hard that i had to go online
i just want to mention the tail thing, most of them, at least from my knowledge, are not the inappropriate thing. Most of them are on hooks similar to the ones on keychains, you just hook them onto the rim of your pants or through the belt loop.
Especially considering most of the people who wear them are minors
Yup. Just that weird 1 percent...
This mindset is RIFE on instagram comments. It’s awful
The Instagram comment section is where all the worst people go istg 😭
I seen way too much racism in that shitshow of an app. It’s crazy
It's actually such an insane take to think bullying went away
People bully me every day, and that doesn’t make me stop doing what I love. If anything that makes me do it more so that way I can annoy them. They’re obviously bullying me to try to get me to stop right?
Cope. You keep reassuring yourself it's to "annoy" them, but the constant verbal abuse and ridicule from your peers is slowly eating away at your soul and you know it. Your mask is slipping...
If you're getting bullied to the point of wanting to take your own life, its not exactly easy to just keep having fun
@@FemboyKaiSaku I know I’m not talking about all bullies I’m just talking about the people who bully me personally. Have you heard of the bullying in Korea? They’re crazy! They burned a girl with an iron that’s not bullying that I or anyone can just ignore and keep doing what we wanna do. Don’t worry, I’m not completely ignorant. At least I’m trying not to be.
I grew up in an abusive home environment and the bullying that I experienced at school made it 100% worse for me. I was hospitalized numerous times for attempting to commit suicide and I almost went into juvenile detention for trying to defend myself when they tried to assault me (ofc the assaulter got away with it). It left me with a lot of trauma and PTSD. I pray that they never get bullied.
very sorry that happened to you. mao mao represent.
I was bullied so bad that I almost killed myself, I was fucking 12 I SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN TRYING O KILL MYSLEF, this whole fucking idea makes me so goddamn pissed. Thank you for talking about this.
Ended up being pulled out of school and my mom has been homeschooling me since 4th grade.
I went back for freshman year but I got a literal concussion from bullying and had to be pulled back out of the american school system.
My 7th grade social studies teacher shared a video on why we should bring back bull, and i was baffled. This was like 6 years ago too
If any of my friends say "bring back bullying" they're instantly blocked
As somebody who was bullied, people who try to ‘bring it back’ have clearly never been ;-;
I have and I think the movement is good
@@It_PHOENIXwhy 😭😭 bullying was so shitty
"Bullying made me a better person"- Person who is repressing an immense amount of sadness
I was bullied from second grade to the time I left elementary school and entered middle school, I was called fat, called ugly, a crybaby, "teacher's pet", and my ideas would be put down just because it was me who said it. All my parents said was "suck it up." 💀
How tf are people genuinely thinking bullying isn't a bad thing
I’m literally a normal person and got bullied throughout my life, let’s not enforce it during a time where mental illnesses and sexuality are more recognised, yeah? Yeah.
As someone who was bullied since summer term year 4 of primary, I can say that bullying is not something to bring back. It got me to a point where I was bashing my head of the wall of a bathroom stall and on one occasion, telling someone to off themselves. It is not a fun experience.
i was bullied a couple years ago, Im quite young so I was in fourth-fifth grade at the time. I was the weird kid, (with reason tbh I was cringe) and once I was FOLLOWED BY 25-30 PEOPLE DURING LUNCH for a couple meters. Guess what the people watching us did. *NOTHING!* They said I was 'talented' and so it was normal they were CHASING ME CHANTING MY NAME WHILE I WAS ON THE VERGE OF TEARS. (They wanted me to sing, as I *[used to]* sing loudly (and badly) and so since i was so upfront about my likings kids decided to just pick on me, by asking me to sing outdated songs and snicker behind their hands at my naiveness)
Hey, quick comment from someone who wears tails as a fashion statement: 99% OF TAILS YOU SEE PEOPLE WEARING ARE *NOT* PLUGS, FOR CHRIST'S SAKE!! THEY ARE CLIP-ON!!! THEY GO ON YOUR BELT LOOP!!!!!! FOR EVERY ONE PLUG TAIL THERE ARE PROBABLY A HUNDRED CLIP-ONS, DO NOT ASSUME THE WORST OF SOMEONE WHEN YOU SEE THEM WEARING A TAIL!! I'm sick of this, can you tell? 😭
They obvi know that, they just like saying otherwise
I got bullied when i was around 5 till 7 y/o, i would be beaten almost everyday, even the teacher bullied me,i had many suicidal thoughts when i was 5 y/o, the worst is when i told my mother about that (i was 8 and had already left that school) she ignored me and said "why didn't you tell me before?" I was devastated, please don't encourage bullying anymore it sucks and sometimes people commit suicide because of it
Bullying is not fun. I experienced a lot of it back in my high school years I was picked on a lot because I was a special needs student. I almost took my own life several times because of the continuous bullying. As someone who's been bullied and recovered from it for ten years it's not a good idea to bring back bullying. Not only it can be traumatizing for some people but it can ruin a lot of people's mental health.
someone made a joke about bringing back bullying and i didn’t know it was a genuine thing 💀
bullies clearly started this… not a good sign
I made a TikTok about "bRiNg bAcK BuLlYiNg" but I didn't really get into enough detail. People just say it whenever anyone doesn't conform to their standard of "normal" - if someone is alternative or looks or acts different in any way. Even if someone has a difference that they can't control, like being LGBT or neurodivergent. People have this idea that "bullying" keeps society under control by keeping people "normal", when all it really does is traumatise people into hiding parts of themselves. Even if some of these people do claim to have been bullied, I doubt that they've experienced anything more than occasional mild name-calling or mutual fighting. The term "bullying" is just so misunderstood and infantilised. It's so much more than kids picking on each other sometimes. Bullying is harassment; it's abuse and it is traumatising. Which is why I prefer to call it what it is. But God forbid *they* call it what it is. Nobody's likely to stay popular if they say "bring back harassment" or "bring back abuse". And then they frame it as just a joke, claiming that we're the sensitive SJWs who can't take a joke (which is gaslighting, by the way). Also, bullying never even went away. People are just starting to accept each other more in wider society. Also, I talk a lot when I'm angry about something.
Thank you. Bullying is abuse. Bullying is harassment.
It’s probably not the most extreme form of either, but it still is those things.
People say “bullying” instead of “harassment” because Teachers and society in general has convinced people that bullying is something as simple as making fun of someone’s shoes once.
Making people hiding their socially unacceptable traits and behaviors is the entire point of bullying, even if does not make them normal, regard.
with the tail thing: do y’all not know about clip on or tie on tails? yeah there’s weirdos that wear plugs outside but most of the time, someone is wearing a clip on or a tie on tail
Exactly!
Iwas bullied for being undiagnosed autistic in school. Im 21F and was only diagnosed last year. It explains so much.