Ssssooooooooo.....many videos about narcissism and the dark personalities talk about "triangulation". This is the FIRST video I've heard about the actual triangle....the triangulation effectively comes from I think....the Kaupman drama triangle
The Karpman Drama Triangle is really interesting! And being aware of it helps you to identify manipulation that is happening in the situation. Concepts like this should be more talked about when talking about narcissistic abuse and manipulation.
The woman being interviewed really understands the struggle. Thank goodness we have access to this knowledge these days. Hopefully awareness of narcissism can help us recover more quickly.
Yes she does. Lucianne had a narcissistic mother. She talks about her personal story about dealing with a narcissistic mother in this episode: unfilteredd.net/podcast-episode-2-with-lucianne-gerrard/
Lucianne is awesome! You can learn more about her here: unfilteredd.net/qualified-professionals/lucianne-gerrard-registered-counsellor-mbacp-specializing-in-narcissistic-abuse/
Its coming up to a year since my toxic ex finished with me, I've been trying to understand why I was so devastated especially as she treated me so poorly and obviously didn't care. I know I have very low self esteem, but like I said coming up a year, I still think of her too much and actually miss her too even though I'm aware now of how inconsiderate and heartless she was. I dont want to be thinking of her all this time. Thanks always for your videos.
Hey John. Thank you so much for always commenting on our videos. Please send us an email elijah@unfilteredd.net because we have a private community that we would love you to be a part of. There are many survivors of abuse and mental health professionals inside the community that would be happy to answer all of your questions
@@themysticmuse youre right. Was hoping to feel better than I am one year on, but I guess it'll take as long as it needs. I'm better than I was anyway.
This is BRILLIANT 🎉! My narcissistic mother tried point number 2 on me and I’m not in contact with her at all anymore. She was in her early 70’s and was losing her “looks” so her narcissism was getting worse and I’d finally had enough. I stopped feeding into her dramas so she came rushing to my door with her beautiful dog that she’d tried to kill (feeding it strong antidepressants) half dead screaming at me to help her take the pup to the vet (she was supposedly going to kill herself after the pup died ). That made me pull away from her even more (🙏 the pup survived). Then last year she attempted suicide by overdosing twice ( both times I spoke to her she blatantly told me this was all my fault as I wouldn’t talk to her anymore 😮 ) she ended up on dialysis the second time - it was touch and go but she survived……….. I wish she hadn’t 😔
Unfortunately, this is quite common. Narcissists cannot control aging, even though they would want to control that as well. We have an article that maybe resonates with you: unfilteredd.net/do-narcissists-get-worse-as-they-get-older/ We hope that her comments and attempts to blame you for her internal pain and struggles didn't affect you. We are only responsible for ourselves and it is not our job to fix these people. We cannot fix them.
Thank you for your kind words💐 I’ve always been anxious but after what she’s done I’ve been diagnosed with CPTSD so have to pay a psychiatrist ($280 an hour, but at least here in Australia we get $120 back) to help with medication and I see a psychologist (we get up to 15 sessions a year for free). I also suffered a burst brain 🧠 aneurysm then a second aneurysm 5 years later. Both required a craniotomy and the most she said was that it’s always worse for the parent! That’s why I’ve HAD to go no contact because she kept blaming me for her suicide attempts and I learnt from her specialists that she’ll never change, she’s even told me she won’t. I mentioned paying for a psychiatrist because she suggested (via my daughter, flippantly that I should go through the public mental health team so I don’t have to pay. This shows exactly how self focused they are. She gets access to much better facilities for free as we have special places/wards designated to the over 65’s that are like hotels, whereas if you’re under 65 and don’t pay for privacy health insurance our mental health system is in “crisis “ and I’d not be considered sick enough to even have access to the public hospital psychiatric ward unless I try and kill myself and end up in hospital or have illness that require in hospital stays to medicate myself so I’m not a risk to others🤷🏽♀️. She has no idea about anything in this world that doesn’t involve her. I know deep down it wasn’t my fault- but unfortunately in life there are things you can’t un see and things you can’t un hear 😢. Thanks again for you kindness and understanding 😌.
Oh wow, thank you for sharing all that. "She has no idea about anything in this world that doesn’t involve her." -> This is one of the most accurate ways that we have ever heard someone describe narcissism. You nailed it in this one. You have been through more than a lot but there is strength and kindness in you that stems from your words. Thank you for commenting because we know that people read these comments and need to hear others' stories to stay committed to their own personal journeys. All the best to you 💜
@@unfilteredd Thank you for saying that🥰 I wanted to “vent “ my story but am glad my description could help someone clarify, in a few short words what a narcissist is. Sometimes a few words can put things into perspective and just make someone on the receiving end of a narcissistic relationship “click “ and realise they have to either set firm boundaries or go no contact. Here’s a narcissistic prayer I read you and your viewers might like: That didn’t happen. And if it did, it wasn’t that bad. And if it was, that’s not a big deal. And if it is, that’s not my fault. And if it was, I didn’t mean it. And if I did, YOU DESERVED IT!!!
When losing a loved one or going through a surgery, one often needs extra support and having a narcissist in one's life during difficult times makes things so much harder. We hope that you are doing great and that you are able to live a safe and happy life, surrounded by safe and loving people.
Ignore, ignore, ignore.
Cut cut. Snip snip.
The sooner the better.
Yes ✂✂✂
These were very good points . I’ll come back to them time to time again in my emotionally detaching process.
Sending you strength on your process, this stuff isn't easy.
Ssssooooooooo.....many videos about narcissism and the dark personalities talk about "triangulation". This is the FIRST video I've heard about the actual triangle....the triangulation effectively comes from I think....the Kaupman drama triangle
The Karpman Drama Triangle is really interesting! And being aware of it helps you to identify manipulation that is happening in the situation. Concepts like this should be more talked about when talking about narcissistic abuse and manipulation.
The woman being interviewed really understands the struggle. Thank goodness we have access to this knowledge these days. Hopefully awareness of narcissism can help us recover more quickly.
Yes she does. Lucianne had a narcissistic mother. She talks about her personal story about dealing with a narcissistic mother in this episode: unfilteredd.net/podcast-episode-2-with-lucianne-gerrard/
this councellor is great!!
Lucianne is awesome! You can learn more about her here: unfilteredd.net/qualified-professionals/lucianne-gerrard-registered-counsellor-mbacp-specializing-in-narcissistic-abuse/
Really good video~thank you 💕
We are glad that you liked it! :)
Its coming up to a year since my toxic ex finished with me, I've been trying to understand why I was so devastated especially as she treated me so poorly and obviously didn't care. I know I have very low self esteem, but like I said coming up a year, I still think of her too much and actually miss her too even though I'm aware now of how inconsiderate and heartless she was. I dont want to be thinking of her all this time. Thanks always for your videos.
Hey John. Thank you so much for always commenting on our videos. Please send us an email elijah@unfilteredd.net because we have a private community that we would love you to be a part of. There are many survivors of abuse and mental health professionals inside the community that would be happy to answer all of your questions
@@unfilteredd thank you once again for your kind words and helpful videos, I always appreciate them.
Trauma bond.
@@themysticmuse youre right. Was hoping to feel better than I am one year on, but I guess it'll take as long as it needs. I'm better than I was anyway.
Thank you, so Good!
Thank you for the feedback!
I love this explanation, so true!
Glad it was helpful!
They choose the time that you feel weak or sick to start manipulating or “hooking”
If we are self-aware and know when we are the most vulnerable, we are better able to protect ourselves even during our weakest moments.
Great vid.💥
#narcfree2023
Thank you for the feedback! And sending you strength to healthier and safer 2023 ✨
@@unfilteredd God bless you, and backatcha! 🥰😁🤭😘
This is BRILLIANT 🎉! My narcissistic mother tried point number 2 on me and I’m not in contact with her at all anymore.
She was in her early 70’s and was losing her “looks” so her narcissism was getting worse and I’d finally had enough.
I stopped feeding into her dramas so she came rushing to my door with her beautiful dog that she’d tried to kill (feeding it strong antidepressants) half dead screaming at me to help her take the pup to the vet (she was supposedly going to kill herself after the pup died ). That made me pull away from her even more (🙏 the pup survived).
Then last year she attempted suicide by overdosing twice ( both times I spoke to her she blatantly told me this was all my fault as I wouldn’t talk to her anymore 😮 ) she ended up on dialysis the second time - it was touch and go but she survived……….. I wish she hadn’t 😔
Unfortunately, this is quite common. Narcissists cannot control aging, even though they would want to control that as well. We have an article that maybe resonates with you: unfilteredd.net/do-narcissists-get-worse-as-they-get-older/
We hope that her comments and attempts to blame you for her internal pain and struggles didn't affect you. We are only responsible for ourselves and it is not our job to fix these people. We cannot fix them.
Thank you for your kind words💐
I’ve always been anxious but after what she’s done I’ve been diagnosed with CPTSD so have to pay a psychiatrist ($280 an hour, but at least here in Australia we get $120 back) to help with medication and I see a psychologist (we get up to 15 sessions a year for free).
I also suffered a burst brain 🧠 aneurysm then a second aneurysm 5 years later. Both required a craniotomy and the most she said was that it’s always worse for the parent!
That’s why I’ve HAD to go no contact because she kept blaming me for her suicide attempts and I learnt from her specialists that she’ll never change, she’s even told me she won’t.
I mentioned paying for a psychiatrist because she suggested (via my daughter, flippantly that I should go through the public mental health team so I don’t have to pay. This shows exactly how self focused they are. She gets access to much better facilities for free as we have special places/wards designated to the over 65’s that are like hotels, whereas if you’re under 65 and don’t pay for privacy health insurance our mental health system is in “crisis “ and I’d not be considered sick enough to even have access to the public hospital psychiatric ward unless I try and kill myself and end up in hospital or have illness that require in hospital stays to medicate myself so I’m not a risk to others🤷🏽♀️.
She has no idea about anything in this world that doesn’t involve her.
I know deep down it wasn’t my fault- but unfortunately in life there are things you can’t un see and things you can’t un hear 😢.
Thanks again for you kindness and understanding 😌.
Oh wow, thank you for sharing all that.
"She has no idea about anything in this world that doesn’t involve her." -> This is one of the most accurate ways that we have ever heard someone describe narcissism. You nailed it in this one.
You have been through more than a lot but there is strength and kindness in you that stems from your words. Thank you for commenting because we know that people read these comments and need to hear others' stories to stay committed to their own personal journeys.
All the best to you 💜
@@unfilteredd Thank you for saying that🥰 I wanted to “vent “ my story but am glad my description could help someone clarify, in a few short words what a narcissist is. Sometimes a few words can put things into perspective and just make someone on the receiving end of a narcissistic relationship “click “ and realise they have to either set firm boundaries or go no contact.
Here’s a narcissistic prayer I read you and your viewers might like:
That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did, YOU DESERVED IT!!!
I found that detaching and observing is key! Exactly.....like watching monkeys.
Yes! It helps you to see things more clearly.
When they dont tekst back and the next time they ask something..do it back
When I lost my brother I met my crook,gigolo, narcissist husband! When I had breast surgery I met my second buddy narcissist, crook etc
. No more!
When losing a loved one or going through a surgery, one often needs extra support and having a narcissist in one's life during difficult times makes things so much harder.
We hope that you are doing great and that you are able to live a safe and happy life, surrounded by safe and loving people.
Wow