Women like men who are firm and authoritative. That doesn’t necessarily mean bad boys. Maybe broken and mentally unstable women do but for normal women, they prefer men who can lead.
Women dont like bad boys, confused women do. Women like a man who knows what he wants and can lead and has a vision for his life which includes family. Women who lack maturity and are confused for whatever reason see certain traits in the 'bad boy' that speak masculine but more often than not he lacks what it takes to be the man who should provide, protect and preside over a family. Jazak Allah khair for Sheikh Uthman talking about the realities of women. Alhamdulillah he mentioned the role the sahabiyaat played. Some brothers are insecure that a woman can protect herself or her family when indeed she is an asset if she can do so and doesn’t need to be 'manly' to do it. That kind of skill requires that a woman has training to be able to step up if necessary. Someone can have training but in a real life situation flop because they lack the mindset to be able to step up. I believe that the hijab and not compromising it aids a sister in having the do or die mindset when it comes to self defence. She will do whatever necessary to protect her chastity especially in a mans absence. The example that Sheikh Uthmam gave shows the reality that men wont always be around to protect us.
The unfortunate reality is that most people of both gender lack maturity at the start of searching for a spouse. As a result they unconsciously prioritise traits that are not vital. We know both genders mature and look for better as they age, but the reality that most people can see with their won eyes every days is the younger men chase hot women and younger women chase bad boys and most people get married whist they have this mentality.
@@zakirchoudhury9206- you don't know what you are talking about. You are making sweeping statements but you don't know anything about female nature, hypergamy, solipsism, monkey branching, the wall, etc. You don't know what qualities makes an alpha or sigma male.
Niqabi diaries - but what qualities do Muslim women bring to the table?. Afterall, Muslim women are no different from western women. You all want a high value man.
Im that guy. Came from poor family and get better education by schoolarship from gov cause im driven and smart. I told you bro, isn't as simple as you think I have proper job with good salary and yet still cant get women who want to be my wife. You know why?? I still have parent and lil sister who must i finansially support to. Why?? Yess because ulama still put burden responsibilities of providing family on men even thoo nowadays women has equal right to a man My parent have some loan from bank to finance my elder sister education (thanks to feminism), yet after graduation and get (also) proper job. She don't contribute anything to family financial matter, i mean at least pay her own educational debt tf But me who don't burden my parent with any debt must contribute to provide my family financialy And i am not alone fyi. Most men i know also have similar problem. Wallahi ulama/dai betray us. Either they blind or maybe don't care with muslim men problem
@@nak.lanang once your sister gets married, then you don’t have to support her anymore. Moreover, It is more important for you to get married than your sister to finish university. Why is she going to school if she can’t work? Maybe your family members need to lower their lifestyle if your good salary takes that big of a chunk out that you can’t afford your own wife and family.
@@nak.lanang "Im that guy. Came from poor family and get better education by schoolarship from gov cause im driven and smart." I happy for you bro may Allah bless you more, keep slayin my muslim bro.
great video I actually said yes to a guy who proposed to me because he is so masculine and religious at the same time I think women who want feminine men are masculine themselves
No one actually wants feminine men - they just want me who will spend time and share in their own interests. The real problem is there has been a complete degradation of communication and language. So understanding between individuals is at a all time low - many women grew up in less than acceptable circumstances so healthy relationships and interactions were not modeled for them. If it was easy to know what we needed to do in these regards Allah would not have sent the book with such explicit details for every facet of life. These things need to be taught. Further women are more susceptible to social contagion and trauma sharing/boding. The story of one bad relationship rolls around and now all the women are petrified it can happen to them. The bad stories only increasing leads to confirmation that these things do happen and they should be worried. Women are acting out of genuine even if it is irrational fear. This is also learned behavior.
Can you define masculine? You mean how he looks like maybe doesn’t smile all the time and tough or the way he talks or what exactly? Is being nice considered weakness? Like saying please and thank you all the time and checking how was your day etc… is that considered weakness?
@@GNW-so4yk no not necessarily that he doesn't smile and he's not nice but he knows what his goals are, and he works hard to achieve them + he's been serious about the marriage from the first second and he doesn't hesitate and at the same time he's not led by his sexual desires, because men who are, are more likely to say yes to anything you ask for just to make you fall for them. masculinity is easy to define if you follow the example of the prophets and the sahaba
@@GNW-so4yk People and especially other men say part of masculinity is being strong and for that you should be physically fit I mean it would increase the amount of people being attracted to you. In my opinion, being nice isn’t a weakness. And being polite by saying Thanku isn’t. What is weakness is not having goals or being ambitious for something. People also say masculinity is about how you act, so to act masculine. I think you should be able to lead, decision maker, confidence is very important and yeah this is just what I think.
This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Born a masculine man, and that will never change. I don't put up with much. Never let your wife see you cry, sad, or look weak. In the toughest times, let your Primal nature come out. Stand tall and leave footprints on the ground when you walk. Be gentle with her, but always show her your strength, physically and mentally, and always be decisive in your answers. With all that said, she/they will follow.
@@spaccino6932 Safiyyah, daughter of abdul muttalib and sister of Hamzah (radhiyallahu anhu), the famous companion and uncle of the prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam). So she was his (sallallahu alayhi wa sallams) aunt too.
44:35 brother spoke late but added an imp point. Imagine u praying to Allah to bestow u with a rightful partner, but will Allah throw in a mohsinah at the hands of a layman like you? We need to first bring ourselves into a realistic position before taking up responsibility of another being!
Very informative podcast ma shaa allah this was very needed for everyone and had insights and angles that not many people approach may Allah bless you all Ameen
Remember guys the only purpose you were created is to worship Allah. Never keep the women as your main focus. Pray to Allah and make more and dua for a righteous partner and Inshallah Allah swt will not disappoint you. ❤
Remember the purpose! You spoke right brother!!! I sometimes think about this. “Guide us to the straight path”. Like what does Allah mean by that? We humans have emotions, we have desires wich led us away from our priorities and purpose. We are not on earth to just have fun! We as a man do have a purpose! Praise Allah! And ofcourse “ibadah” is also in working to provide, be a family man, follow the sunnah etc. But our purpose should always be Allah! ❤
Wrong. Brothers should make dua for a woman who is balanced in all respects and complements him. Not just 'righteous' which is just code for a militant hijabi. Just because a woman wears hijab, doesn't mean she will be a high value and desirable woman. The harsh reality is that most hijabis are fat, ugly and self entitled. A sensible man would never marry that sort of woman. Also, different men have different preferences. The very strict religious types don't care if she's fat and ugly. They only want a hijabi who is very traditional and strict. Whilst other men don't want to marry an ugly, fat hijabi. They want an attractive, young woman who is in good shape, likes working out, eating healthy, has a fun personality. But at same time wears headscarf and prays 5x daily.
I'm a she I swear nowadays when wedding videos come on my feed very strange the man is crying and the bride is dancing shouting laughing swinging etc It's kind of what you said about men.
@AlphaMaleLifestyleAMLso she should say ugly? Attraction is very important in marriage . So you are saying a good looking man can’t be manly or are you just insecure about your looks?
11:26 This can also be an argument for the rainbow people and their argument. I don't know what it is called for women, but for men, it is called autogynephilia. Men who fantasise themselves as the opposite gender. This could be the reason sisters fantasise about being masculine, maybe because of a lack of masculinity.
The Prophet ﷺ prohibited celibacy (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1082). As Muslims, we should not aim to be celibate. Sure there exceptions of scholars who never got married, but exceptions don’t disapprove the rule.
@@alromaani you’re right all it proves is that every time you people follow Ibn Taymiyyah’s moronic teachings you’re actually following the teachings of a deviant who committed Kufr
I agree with Sheikh. Just wanted to add if you choose to go down that route then you must not be engaged in illicit activities. If you find that you fail, you must get married.
In a typical family structure, the wife is obliged to do the larger share of the housework by the necessities of a functional household. Both extremes are not correct a) the husband doing nothing at all and b) an obligation for the husband to do half of the housework. Similary, the wife shouldn't be working as much as the husband, especially where they have young children who would be neglected. It's better if the husband works more hours to make ends meet in most cases and if the wife works, it should be around her commitments to her family. In the same way the rest of the husbands activities are around his work, which is his major commitment to his family.
Yes, the man is meant to be the breadwinner if he can, and the woman is usually assigned childcare and housework, but that doesn't mean the wife is a maid and the father is still a father. I'm pretty sure prophets helped out in their homes and give their children attention.
Wstern women can’t be considered women. The hijabis in the west today forget they’re only the first gen of western raised Muslim women. They do not come from this world same as their parents who from back but are unfortunately raised and bought up here.
assalamualikum warahmathullahi wabarakatuhu i am a young muslim men willing to get in to dawa need your bible because it will help me a lot i think if someone deserves it more than me give to him or her inshaallah
I think there is a big misconception. Being a man is not about displaying authority nor about being sensitive, but it is rather about getting the job done by being aware and having the right balance between the two, in all aspects of life including seeking a halal relationship, leading and making it flourish. Unfortunately, people often suppose that women liking bad boys as being a good thing while it isn't. It's actually more damaging than anything else. The matter of the fact is bad boys get attention from women because they seek and work on triggering lust in them. They get attention because unfortunately most women nowadays are being exposed to these shaytans and more so because they make the mistake of lusting over a non-mahram man. It is the exact same way for men in regards to bad women who do not dress modestly and/or who work on actively triggering lust in non-mahrams. Muslims are too able to go and trigger that lust in other people, but they refrain from doing so for the sake of Allah ; and that is purer and better for them and everyone else. That being said, a muslim should take a good care of himself and seek to please his wife. There are things which one can work on before finding a good partner in life but there are other things that are better to delay until marriage instead of learning them through haram means. I would always refrain from using such a wrong and confusion kafir vocabulary like "bad boy" which is misleading and which our fitrah rejects. I rather refer myself to the best of examples which is our beloved prophet Mohammad, peace be upon him, and to the companions, scholars and people of knowledge. As he, pbuh, said : "Shyness is from faith" ; and shyness is not something you would attribute to bad boy, while in fact it is a good shield that protects us from the haram and evil ways. Muslims should reject this damaging narative of bad boy, and rather focus on the right way of life and get their information from the right sources i.e. Qur'an and Sunnah. And Allah knows best.
Not good women who knows her Deen and tries her best to live it, we love to have a GOOD MAN.....GOOD MANNERS, CONDUCT, MODEST AND SIMPLY A GOOD MUSLIM. YES WHO CAN CARE LOOK AFTER HIS WOMEN & FAMILY ETC. MANY MEN ARE CONFUSED THEMSELVES WHAT WOMEN WANT, SO TO ARE WOMEN
Being a woman, I can say that it's not "bad boys" that women want. They want men who demonstrate courage, confidence and independence. A man is expected to protect & support you & your children. A man who's not willing to fight for what he believes isn't protecting or supporting anyone.
Some women, especially the younger ones like "bad boys" because they have some of the certain aspects you mentioned i.e. confidence, independence, etc. When these women have nothing to compare the leftest soyboys with due to the absence of a manly man who'll protect you, this is a natural thing.
I feel the claim of "just do it" doesn't always work, I jave epilepsy and am not able to leave the house alone and dropped out of university due to my disability (I'm currently trying to get back to university after years, I'm 26) I ask my parents to help me figure out how to find a wife every few days, they reject it with the claim it will just happen and claims that I need a wife if they want me to have something positive to tell a girl's parents, I ask them to just try but they won't, I'm not allowed to get a licence either, last time I tried making a muslim marriage site account I ended up closing it tge next day because I ended up spending $300 in a single day in desperation
Have trust in Allah. I'm 24, basically broke, but moving out now, because my family are kuffaar and starting to work on myself. Got a new better paying job a couple months ago and starting to work on my personal business. I live in a country where there are only 10k or so Muslims, but I have trust in Allah that He does good for me whenever I'm ready.
May Allah make it easy for you brother. I will pray for you specifically. Look for someone yourself. Inshallah your epilepsy will get controlled and its OK to them get a licence.
So where do Sisters find men like you all? I am an older women who was divorced due to unfaithfulness on his side and more. I want to marry as I am happiest with a partner I can support. I work full time because I have to - I am not a demanding woman - but honestly I do not see older men who are not single. Widowed etc. who are looking for a companion. SO where do I look? Not finding any of these traits locally - as I am guessing they are looking for the younger women. I enjoyed watching and listening to you all. Thank you!
Sometimes, you see young and older women leave the masculine guy for what we would call the Mr. Nice Guy. So it's kind of like "Allah knows best" how to figure out what's in a woman's head. Lol
I have been very stupid. I had sex outside of permanent marriage. 😢 I am a single mother and a widow.. My husband died a few months ago. I am a Muslim lady. Then I met an Indian man that I fell in love with. I want a serious Permanent relationship with him. But when he ask him he refuses to talk about it. 😢When I ask him if he is married or if he is divorced and has children, he also refuses to answer the question. What should I do now? He says he has not been completely honest with me. I know that Indian men are often forced to get married in an arranged marriage that they don't want. 😢 My heart is breaking apart and I am crying. Because I wanna follow God. I don't want have to have sex outside of marriage anymore. And what should I do if I turn out to be pregnant? I am afraid. 😢. This man says he loves me.. He hugged me. Kissed me. And our contact was not only sexual. Even the 2 children I already have love him. I want to marry him and I love him a lot. I want him to meet my parents. But this situation all seems very awkward. He is having sex with me, while he knows that I am not on the pill and that I could get pregnant. And if I do get pregnant, I will not abort my child. I will take care of it. I am really in love with this Indian man. I see myself getting married to him and sharing my life with him. That is how much I love him. I feel scared. I wanna be loved my him forever. I wanna be married permanently to him. And I wanna be his loving and loyal wife for a lifetime. But he seems annoyed when I talk about this. I want him. I love him. I need him. I cannot live without him. Should I take a morning after pill? How do I deal with this situation? I have Autism which makes me more vulnerable than other people.. But I do know what my heart wants. My heart wants to marry him. My heart wants to be with him forever. My hearts wants a family and 1 Child with him. I truly love him. Please give me some good advice. I really don't wanna lose him. But at the same time I will never abort my baby if I get pregnant. I want to marry this man for a lifetime. I want him to meet my parents. I also want to meet his family in India. I really deeply love this man and I wanna be forever with him. 😢❤😢 Please give me some good advice what I should do. I cannot use birth control.. It is unnatural and goes against God's commandments and creation. Sex was made to be between husband and wife. In a marriage. And to have children. 😢 Lord please forgive me......I feel ashamed of what I did. And I repented before God. What should I do? Please no judgement. I already feel bad enough. Give me some loving advice. 😢
Subhanallah sister. Don't admit your sins in public, first of all. Second of all, this man is not worth losing your afterlife! Get a grip! There's nothing you truly "need" except for Allah. I've been in love with a woman before and I know what it feels like to be in your situation but trust me when I say that this kind of mentality will RUIN your life and your afterlife. Repent to Allah and cut all contact with this man! You're a mother of two children! Get yourself out of this hole and save yourself and your children from the Hellfire before it's too late. If this man was good for you he'd save you from Hell and get you closer to Allah. If this man was worth anything he wouldn't drag you into a major sin knowing you're a widow with two children. Do not continue with this man, lest he destroy you and your children. ESPECIALLY if he's a regular kafir who doesn't pray and doesn't believe in Allah. May Allah guide you, strengthen you and make you and your children among the righteous. Ameen.
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته I can barely get through this conversation. 'Man up' is the key? Who is best as our example, but Muhammad, صلى الله عليه وسلم. I felt this conversation was demeaning to women, our sisters, and frankly extremely cavalier and colloquial. Not to mention overwhelmingly opinionated. At 20:30 of the conversation where br. Uthman speaks about..."if she can cook and clean..." br. Romani tries and fails to follow through with correcting him. Then a reference to the opinion of those who disagree were "Never married themselves... ha ha ha". Wow Bra, if you're going to site Shaeikh Al Islam, give the proof. Man-Up
The only one message that fits all is the COLLECTIVE BODY OF ISLAMIC KNOWLEDGE IN AAALLL OF IS MANIFESTATIONS We must acquire all of this based upon culture free 3Aqeedah, culture free adab, ackhlaq, adab, diqh haakathaa WALLAAHUL MUSTA3AAAN
Islam didn't come to eradicate all cultures, only the ills in society, any culture not contradictory to Quran & sunnah== Islam is ok to maintain, this is Sunnah of our Nahi sas😍. I agree with your sentiment. Islam must be our foundation, and reference point always.
Why do men find 304s attractive, even good men? Sexual attraction doesn’t depend on how good or bad a person is. Evil men can be attractive, so can evil women. Matter of fact, it’s the toxic narcissists who happen to be the most attractive. And I’m talking about both genders.
It might sound ironic, but sometimes men know more about female psychology than women know it themselves. We simply see things most women don’t. And we know how gullible most women can be. This isn’t to belittle them, but I’m only saying this because women will fall for any man they find attractive, even if he’s a criminal. You see a charming handsome man, but we see a psychopathic monster. That’s why women having a wali is super important, and why she cannot marry a man without her wali’s approval.
Hated all the adverts. Please put them at the end or beginning. All the breaks in between the discussions is irritating. Id may the younger brother in the jeans and tshirt. Let a girl know 😊
Brothers need to understand that ' sensitive " has many !earnings and levels and not all should be avoided like plague by Muslims (m). Look to sunnah, our beloved Prophet dad was Strong where needed , a leader of family and later society, and still he was not an INSENSITIVE man! He cried in his wife's arms and sort her comfort upon first revelation, and was Still a strong man in all areas he was needed to be. I Prophet was knew about the different characters and sensitivities of his wives, and how to deal with them/ how to interact with the! Accordingly. That is a real understanding of a sensitive man, not one who simply displays soft nature and cries about everything a woman would. Understand the finer nuances in what is a Man in Islam. Don't confuse insensitive characteristics, is doesn't have any regarD for feelings of pthers/ his righteous wife for e.g. And thinks he is being a " strong man". Best example is always out BELOVED Prophet sas😍 One of the things I really like in him was and in my potential husband is Gentleness, while being strong Man leading where he aught to. SubhanAllah nothing more attractive than a balance in a man who knows His Deen and in character. I'm sure aa!e with women balance. There's a general masculine - feminine trait dominance but Allah SWT in His Wisdom also have us some characteristics as individuals which !at be different to that Joel's or usual case. E.g. some men are naturally more affectionate than others and yet they are Strong man Protecting physically where they need to be. That's fine and coca versa. Certain traits may vary in prominence as per Allah's Design. It's not to take anything away from what the Knowledgeable Reapectted shaken Othman has said or any other be here. I agree with their main points. Society is lost confused and needs to go back to Sunnah and men in general need to man up so to say and women need to relearn too of needed how to be the women in Islam and sunnah. May Allah Enable us all to find righteous spouse who are good for us in Sunnah and akhirah. Ameen😍
Entertaining talk, was very disappointed in the way this person spoke about Imam Nawawi. Blew my mind how casually a giant in the religion was dismissed in a callous way and no one objected.
@@kinanisam4345 I want the creators of the video to see my comment and maybe address it with the responsible party. My comment is not directed towards people like you.
So? Maybe they make more dua for the people in Gaza than you do? Allah will not change the condition of the people if they don’t change themselves!!! Normal life goes on.. how sad it is.
None of the men on the panel are masculine. If you're grifting off of "dawah" and online courses you are not masculine, you're a grifter making money from men who are looking for purpose. A masculine man does not concern himself with what is "masculine" outwardly, he does what is needed for him. He works hard labour and provides for his family, he simply is. He does not buff himself up at the gym and speak about masculinity.
Jaahil sheikh uthman doesnt earn anything from da'wah. How much havr you given???? He has multiple degrees and high paying job. Most of thr viewrs of these content are youg men. Dont get offended and mind your speech
Lol somewhat agree. Most of them talk not all. Not saying they don't have good intent but this stuff comes across as so cringe and try hard. All about gym, keeping fit, clothing, schedule lol...what about real things like DIY, tyre change, fixing this fixing that. Involving yourself in communities.
Sheikh uthman is. He was a killer in his hayday he even stood up to a dude with a knife when he didn't need to he came out from his car and went charging towards him ended up stabbed but fought him off dude went running. Maybe not smart but if that's not masculine I don't what is. Majority of muslim men like those in the panel are weak and wouldn't ever fight back or don't even know how to. Islam teaches men to be fearless but muslim men aren't they're too pious and soft. Thr only muslim men who have fighting spirit are probably black reverts but not cause theyre muslim they're just naturally good foot soldiers
@@ozhoneybadgerfixing a tyre, fixing this, that?......just pay someone else to do it I am the top G, i have the moneies!!! In every currency!! That's what women love, a rich successful man, a man with his own house, car amd biz. She will definitely marry him but never marry and work with him to obtain all that🤷🏾♂️ only once he has gone through all the hard work, will she accept his proposal.
You guys need to learn American history. In the 1950s and 1960s, Blacks, non-whites and non-Christians were segreagted, excluded and discriminated. Women were oppressed in the 1950s and 1960s. Sandra Day O'Connor, the first woman supreme court judge, could not get a job as an attorney in 1952, even after graduating from college and law school. BTW, who is supporting the widows with children at the refugee camps in Jordan and Turkey? Also, after the war in Gaza, who is going to provide financial support to the Palestinian widows? In the refugee camps, young gilrs are being exploited through marriage by so called "religious" Muslim men. These so called "good" Muslim men would divorce the young wives after a few months of marriage.
Sadly today when a man what to marry today and works part time in super market on low wages. The woman say come bk when you earn hundreds thousand a year. Majority of men are not rich end off
Yesh, that's disappointing. Means so hurting. I can feel you brother. But Everyone has theirs own preferences. I'll recommend you to get married a woman who looks upon your religiousness, character Even you become rich. But I guess this is hard to get find this type of woman right,if you are in West. 😅
Why not work full-time my brither, that way basic expenses will be met or so..? There still would be plenty of time to do other things out of working hours e.g. In UK ( 35 hours ex lunch is full-time p/ week. You may increase your chance of MARRIAGE...?
Brother many women will accepts you, but do not be lazy or despair in searching for her after dua. Also, strive to seek a halal livelihood, but a low salary or even poverty does not prevent marriage.
Here comes clueless fellow.. What the h*ll are they supposed to do???? Protest and damage property in west , raise slogans .. Get over your emotions dude.. We should do things with hikmah
Even Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Companions رضي الله عنهم waited for many years till they had some military strength before facing enemy in battle. Nowadays , we've weakest State of Ummah. It will take time. Such matters aren't handled overnight.
@@Muwahid999 Who cares about what females think? Do you think the Sahabah were discussing if women were attracted by bad boys when they were fighting the enemies? You're a clown 🤡
@@Othman1992on زمن كثر فيه الفتن وكثر فيه الباطل ولست من ناس الدين ياخد دين من مشايح العصر الحديث ليس قصدي الاهانه فهدا دين لناس كافه بس زمن الان خطير و ادا أردت كسب دين فلنرجع الي سلف صالح سواء عربي أو أعجمي
@@وفاءبكرا-س7ب المسلم العامي الذي لا يستطيع التمييز نعم يأخذ من مشايخه الموثوقين. أما الذي عنده علم بطريقة السلف يعرف كيف يميز الثقة من غير الثقة هذا يسمع لكل الناس ويفلتر.
@@Othman1992on زمن أصبح اغلب مشائخ لهم اجنده مش واضحه اللي تلقاه متقي بعد فتره تنصدم فيه فتجده يخدم اجند حاكم او اجنده غربيه ما دمر شعوبنا إلا تأثير غرب علينا فأصبح دين متماشي مع اجند غرب باسم العولمه فأغلب مشايخنا مناهضين للغرب جميعهم في سجون والله مستعان
Title itself is so cringe. Very lazy and very much red Pil content ish. I get it helps with the algorithm but still. Ugh, disappointing but yeah, do you I guess
Hi. My friend american chinese asian female christian non muslim. 48 years . little bit chubby. never able to have a baby . Ovary problem. Divorcee. No kids. Have own house. Car. Good salary in american company. Meet a 24 years old arab man palestinian live in west bank close to bethlehem. Online. Just online. That guy is a muslim. Young handsome slim. Work multiple non skill hard labor. Herd lambs. He say he fall in love with this american citizen women. He said he willing to convert to Christianity as long he can get sponsor by marriage. All of her friends warning her that this guy only need green card. Selling love. And she buying it. What do you think.? Thank you for all positive and negative comments in advance.
Yes, all women are like this, even the good pious ones. I don’t really blame them. This is merely how Allah created women, this is His system so we have to play the game of life by His rules, whether a person likes it or not. Being a “nice” guy isn’t going to earn you respect from women. Actually, the types of guys most likely to attract women are the ones who don’t chase women in the first place. They’re the ones who work on themselves and their ambitions in life. This is what is sometimes meant as being the “bad boy”. So in summary: never chase women. Instead, be the guy whom women would chase.
@@emily6195 “Not all women” sure lol. Even the Sahaabiyat (RA) were not above the flaws of female nature. Are you better than the Mothers of the believers?
@@fardeenmahmud8866 Khadijah the best woman of this ummah loved the prophet SAW even though he showed weakness he cried even though he wasn’t a feminine man he still was human and he showed it. She also supported the prophet SAW financially during his prophethood and didn’t leave him during hard times. I would say she did a pretty good job overcoming her female nature. Not every woman is the same and if course we are not better than Khadijah
@@emily6195 Are you Khadijah (RA)? Would you do the same for your husband if he showed emotion? I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t. No woman today would, regardless of how pious she is.
Some men these days (muslim or not) make bread winning look as the most stressful activity ever. Chill, most jobs these days are just 9 to 5 shifts inside cubicles talking on the phone. It is not like you are all risking your lives fire fighting or policing the criminals out there. Times have changed A LOT mind you. To tell a woman these days to stay at home, obey her husband clean and cook is just disrespectful and condescending. Not all women want a domestic life, though a good chunk does. Some are driven, ambitious. Some do not really have the choice but to go out there and work. Not all men are responsible people willing and capable of running the household financially. The ideal household organisation these men talk about simply does not exist. It's about time people started addressing the reality as it is instead of some unattainable ideals. Some men abuse their wives/daughters. Some men are stingy. Some men are evil. Some men are just coward and would storm out of the house first in case of fire not even looking back, to coin just a few examples cited in the video. Ps1; Sheikh, your disdainful comment about that ''masculine'' woman who happens to be a Hydjabi was not only wrong, but full of Kibr. I pray Allah that on judgement day you get asked this. Ps2; Sheikh, check a more accurate definition of femininity and masculinity. One of the companions of the Prophet PBUH and the husband of two of his daughters was known to be very sensitive, easily weeping at the sight of injustice, beauty and acts of kindness. A man who cries is not less of a man in Islam. Ps 3; I suggest you all speak a bit more cautiously! I read Sunnah multiple times, and not even once as far as I can remember did the Prophet PBUH speak with such condescendence towards his Ahl el bayt (his women). Ya akhi, he used to sew his own clothes. Role distribution is not something explicitly addressed in the Quran nor Sunnah. It is left to the understanding of the society, the way it is structured, inherited traditions, time evolution etc. You cannot just sweep everything under the rug of ''women are commanded to obey their husbands'', it is just too easy. In other words, it is intelligence laziness. Almohim, Peace be upon you all. Ps
I know you influenced by feminìsm. Feminism is noting but Cancer of society. And what Sheikh says about 'masculine' hijabi woman, absolutely correct. You haven't studied any Islamic school or not saying from any scholars interpretations. You made your own interpretation about Islam and role of women in Islam. Very very very shameful for you when you say obeying husband is disrespectful. Any religious Muslim men would not like to marry you because of your nonsense mentality. Our Prophet commended women to OBEY THEIRS husband. A good religious women would have four things - 1) prays 2) fast 3) protect her chastity 4) obeys her husband. *According to scholars the best work for women is house chores. She wouldn't be asked how much she earns but how she has served her husband in the day of judgement. *** Women aren't allowed to work without her father permission ( if she is unmarried) and husband's permission (if she is married). "Men are inchârge of women" ( 4:34) *** Please Gain knowledge of Quran and Hadiths According scholars interpretation not from yours. *** as well as when you say obey husband is outed nowadays, you left Islam. As you rejected the word of Prophet ( pbuh). As if anyone reject one single verse from Quran and Hadiths, it's équàl to rejecting whole Quran and Hadiths. *Every good religious Muslim women would obey and follow her husband's instruction.
Typical example of someone with western liberal secular values instilled in their brain trying to join them with Quran and Sunnah values because they were born Muslim. This lost identity. De-programming is hard for sure but doable IF you realize the problem. Peace.
Typical example of someone with western liberal secular values instilled in their brain trying to join them with Quran and Sunnah values because they were born Muslim. Lost identity. De-programming is hard for sure but doable IF you realize the problem. Peace.
Typical example of someone with western liberal values instilled in their brain trying to join them with Quran and Sunnah values because they were born Muslim. This lost identity. De-programming is hard for sure but doable IF you realize the problem. Peace.
Perfect example of someone with western liberal secular values instilled in their brain trying to join them with Quran and Sunnah values because they were born Muslim. This lost identity is a result of western colonization and normalization for decades. De-programming is hard for sure but doable IF you realize the problem. Peace.
Women like men who are firm and authoritative. That doesn’t necessarily mean bad boys. Maybe broken and mentally unstable women do but for normal women, they prefer men who can lead.
Women dont like bad boys, confused women do. Women like a man who knows what he wants and can lead and has a vision for his life which includes family. Women who lack maturity and are confused for whatever reason see certain traits in the 'bad boy' that speak masculine but more often than not he lacks what it takes to be the man who should provide, protect and preside over a family.
Jazak Allah khair for Sheikh Uthman talking about the realities of women. Alhamdulillah he mentioned the role the sahabiyaat played. Some brothers are insecure that a woman can protect herself or her family when indeed she is an asset if she can do so and doesn’t need to be 'manly' to do it. That kind of skill requires that a woman has training to be able to step up if necessary. Someone can have training but in a real life situation flop because they lack the mindset to be able to step up.
I believe that the hijab and not compromising it aids a sister in having the do or die mindset when it comes to self defence. She will do whatever necessary to protect her chastity especially in a mans absence. The example that Sheikh Uthmam gave shows the reality that men wont always be around to protect us.
The unfortunate reality is that most people of both gender lack maturity at the start of searching for a spouse. As a result they unconsciously prioritise traits that are not vital. We know both genders mature and look for better as they age, but the reality that most people can see with their won eyes every days is the younger men chase hot women and younger women chase bad boys and most people get married whist they have this mentality.
Most Muslim men have been brainwashed and raised (by Muslim women) to be blue pilled, beta orbiter simps.
@@zakirchoudhury9206- you don't know what you are talking about. You are making sweeping statements but you don't know anything about female nature, hypergamy, solipsism, monkey branching, the wall, etc. You don't know what qualities makes an alpha or sigma male.
Niqabi diaries - but what qualities do Muslim women bring to the table?.
Afterall, Muslim women are no different from western women. You all want a high value man.
dont sugarcoat things they even lose feeling for a good masculine guy women are childish creatures they are attracted to this kiddish behaviour
SubhanAllah the story of the guy taking his shahada with Uthman after the plane almost crashed is crazy may Allah bless you guys
Ameen
It’s not that you have to be rich to get married but you have to have drive and purpose. You can’t be broke and have no plan to support your family.
Im that guy. Came from poor family and get better education by schoolarship from gov cause im driven and smart. I told you bro, isn't as simple as you think
I have proper job with good salary and yet still cant get women who want to be my wife. You know why?? I still have parent and lil sister who must i finansially support to. Why?? Yess because ulama still put burden responsibilities of providing family on men even thoo nowadays women has equal right to a man
My parent have some loan from bank to finance my elder sister education (thanks to feminism), yet after graduation and get (also) proper job. She don't contribute anything to family financial matter, i mean at least pay her own educational debt tf
But me who don't burden my parent with any debt must contribute to provide my family financialy
And i am not alone fyi. Most men i know also have similar problem. Wallahi ulama/dai betray us. Either they blind or maybe don't care with muslim men problem
@@nak.lanang once your sister gets married, then you don’t have to support her anymore. Moreover, It is more important for you to get married than your sister to finish university. Why is she going to school if she can’t work?
Maybe your family members need to lower their lifestyle if your good salary takes that big of a chunk out that you can’t afford your own wife and family.
@@nak.lanang "Im that guy. Came from poor family and get better education by schoolarship from gov cause im driven and smart."
I happy for you bro may Allah bless you more, keep slayin my muslim bro.
@@nak.lanang deep and such an important point. worth addressing in a video
Drive and purpose- just another way of saying he’s working hard to get more money 😂
The real men and real women are in palistiane
I want to marry a Palestinian man of possible from the BLESSED land😍 or any other good Muslim who embodies Learning of our Deen.💔🍉🇵🇸😍
In.sha.Allah..
Life doesn't always then put to be what we hoped, Alhamdulillah in all circumstance💔🍉🇵🇸
Mashallah didn’t expect this Collab
Alhamdulilah
It is a bs collabaration. These monkeys dont know what they are talking about.
I watch you guys all the time. I learn a lot from watching. May Allah continue to bless yall for what you do for the ummah.
great video I actually said yes to a guy who proposed to me because he is so masculine and religious at the same time I think women who want feminine men are masculine themselves
After marriage you will find out he's taliban. That is why arrange marriages are steaming pile of dog sh1t.
No one actually wants feminine men - they just want me who will spend time and share in their own interests. The real problem is there has been a complete degradation of communication and language. So understanding between individuals is at a all time low - many women grew up in less than acceptable circumstances so healthy relationships and interactions were not modeled for them. If it was easy to know what we needed to do in these regards Allah would not have sent the book with such explicit details for every facet of life. These things need to be taught.
Further women are more susceptible to social contagion and trauma sharing/boding. The story of one bad relationship rolls around and now all the women are petrified it can happen to them. The bad stories only increasing leads to confirmation that these things do happen and they should be worried. Women are acting out of genuine even if it is irrational fear. This is also learned behavior.
Can you define masculine?
You mean how he looks like maybe doesn’t smile all the time and tough or the way he talks or what exactly?
Is being nice considered weakness? Like saying please and thank you all the time and checking how was your day etc… is that considered weakness?
@@GNW-so4yk no not necessarily that he doesn't smile and he's not nice but he knows what his goals are, and he works hard to achieve them + he's been serious about the marriage from the first second and he doesn't hesitate and at the same time he's not led by his sexual desires, because men who are, are more likely to say yes to anything you ask for just to make you fall for them. masculinity is easy to define if you follow the example of the prophets and the sahaba
@@GNW-so4yk People and especially other men say part of masculinity is being strong and for that you should be physically fit I mean it would increase the amount of people being attracted to you. In my opinion, being nice isn’t a weakness. And being polite by saying Thanku isn’t. What is weakness is not having goals or being ambitious for something. People also say masculinity is about how you act, so to act masculine. I think you should be able to lead, decision maker, confidence is very important and yeah this is just what I think.
This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?
Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.
@@user-bo9vf3py2w be careful bro these spiritual healers probably do black magic and shirk is involved. Please stay away from these sorts of things.
Give it time bro... u will be fine eventually and wen u do make sure u are a better person
all the best
SCAM!
Man this whole video has been super motivating but I know it won’t last for long so discipline is the way to go
Most definitely!
Born a masculine man, and that will never change. I don't put up with much. Never let your wife see you cry, sad, or look weak. In the toughest times, let your Primal nature come out. Stand tall and leave footprints on the ground when you walk. Be gentle with her, but always show her your strength, physically and mentally, and always be decisive in your answers. With all that said, she/they will follow.
Real masculine doesn’t have to say this on comments. Take on one idf if you are man
@@alanshearer3682 its for educating others. common sense
I don't t think ur masculine at all brother ehy u jave ro try to sound masculine in a comment section? Don't talk it be it
@Trilliman707
Big talk from someone who doesn't know nothing about me. But thanks to Allah I gonna let that slide. 🔫
@mr219811 what u gonna do dhoot me,
This discussion is so educative, I have learn a lot.
The story of the female companion who defended against the spy, my father named me after her :)))
Can you tell me what is she called?
@@spaccino6932 Safiyyah, daughter of abdul muttalib and sister of Hamzah (radhiyallahu anhu), the famous companion and uncle of the prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam). So she was his (sallallahu alayhi wa sallams) aunt too.
May Allah reward you brothers for this...Ameen. 💯
Ameen
May Allah increase you in beneficial knowledge to benefit others and honour you ya shaykh.
Jazakallahu khayran
I’d appreciate it if you fellas made a trip to Austin, TX some day. Keep spreading the word.
MashaAllah, the rijal giving solid advice 💪🏽
Alhumdullilah 😊 May Allah bless u brothers for these reminders 😊😊
ma shaa Allah , great podcast. May Allah bless y'all
A podcast with good humour! Good lessons for young youth 👍
44:35 brother spoke late but added an imp point. Imagine u praying to Allah to bestow u with a rightful partner, but will Allah throw in a mohsinah at the hands of a layman like you? We need to first bring ourselves into a realistic position before taking up responsibility of another being!
51:19 "One more before this" Hahaha, May Allah S.W.T. reward Sheikh Uthman
Very informative podcast ma shaa allah this was very needed for everyone and had insights and angles that not many people approach may Allah bless you all Ameen
Remember guys the only purpose you were created is to worship Allah. Never keep the women as your main focus. Pray to Allah and make more and dua for a righteous partner and Inshallah Allah swt will not disappoint you. ❤
Remember the purpose! You spoke right brother!!! I sometimes think about this. “Guide us to the straight path”. Like what does Allah mean by that? We humans have emotions, we have desires wich led us away from our priorities and purpose. We are not on earth to just have fun! We as a man do have a purpose! Praise Allah! And ofcourse “ibadah” is also in working to provide, be a family man, follow the sunnah etc. But our purpose should always be Allah! ❤
Wrong. Brothers should make dua for a woman who is balanced in all respects and complements him. Not just 'righteous' which is just code for a militant hijabi. Just because a woman wears hijab, doesn't mean she will be a high value and desirable woman.
The harsh reality is that most hijabis are fat, ugly and self entitled. A sensible man would never marry that sort of woman.
Also, different men have different preferences. The very strict religious types don't care if she's fat and ugly. They only want a hijabi who is very traditional and strict.
Whilst other men don't want to marry an ugly, fat hijabi. They want an attractive, young woman who is in good shape, likes working out, eating healthy, has a fun personality. But at same time wears headscarf and prays 5x daily.
Alhamdulilah Allah swt is the best of providers
راااااائع وحكيم .لا تفرط في التفكير في الاشياء لانه يضعف العزيمة
وفقكم الله
DONT FORGET YOUR DAILY DHIKR
I'm a she I swear nowadays when wedding videos come on my feed very strange the man is crying and the bride is dancing shouting laughing swinging etc It's kind of what you said about men.
True it all started with getting on your knee and ring bs muslims are slowly adopting western culture 😂
Four legend here
بعد هذه المحاضرة الرائعة ساعود لاقرا السيرة النبوية من جديد ان شاءالله
يوجد شرح لكتاب الفصول في سيرة الرسول (صلى الله عليه وسلم) للشيخ عبدالرزاق البدر هنا في اليوتيوب ، شرح كتاب سيرة مفيد جدا
10:36 astaghfirullah! felt it in my spine waaaaaaaaaaa! audhubillah!
Lot of men lost me trying to be bad boys !!!! They had me till they were good ! I hate disrespectful people
But why were you attracted to them initially. Because they were exciting and preferred them over the boring nice guys
@@truthseeker-nv6nyBingo!! 💯💯 That part!!
The best man is the god fearing man
He is right over thinking is no good
ما شاء الله، حفظكم الله.
I honestly want to get married to a manly righteous handsome man. It’s so hard to find this 😭😭😭😭😭
Ma ShaAllah.Now be the type of woman such a brother would want
@@shahbazkhan-ek7hp Such men especially like chastity and piety.
@AlphaMaleLifestyleAMLso she should say ugly?
Attraction is very important in marriage . So you are saying a good looking man can’t be manly or are you just insecure about your looks?
Keep making duah and ask Allah for whatever you want
May الله give you more than what you want ameen
such a nice beautiful manly conversation ❤❤❤❤
Convey message of Islam to all people of the world and to everyone who will come also convey message of Islam to all world leaders...........
11:26
This can also be an argument for the rainbow people and their argument. I don't know what it is called for women, but for men, it is called autogynephilia. Men who fantasise themselves as the opposite gender. This could be the reason sisters fantasise about being masculine, maybe because of a lack of masculinity.
baraka Allah fikom
@25:22 dont connect too many dots... 😅 Shaykh may Allah bless you
Very disappointed you forgot to plug Sheikh Uthman's socials in your bio
What if we prefer to stay single and not to marry ?
My dear, clear up your mind first
The Prophet ﷺ prohibited celibacy (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1082). As Muslims, we should not aim to be celibate. Sure there exceptions of scholars who never got married, but exceptions don’t disapprove the rule.
@@Omer1996E.C what does that mean?
@@alromaani you’re right all it proves is that every time you people follow Ibn Taymiyyah’s moronic teachings you’re actually following the teachings of a deviant who committed Kufr
I agree with Sheikh. Just wanted to add if you choose to go down that route then you must not be engaged in illicit activities. If you find that you fail, you must get married.
Assalamualikum ustadh is there anyway I can meet up with you?? I am coming from overseas. Jazaakallah khairan
In a typical family structure, the wife is obliged to do the larger share of the housework by the necessities of a functional household. Both extremes are not correct a) the husband doing nothing at all and b) an obligation for the husband to do half of the housework. Similary, the wife shouldn't be working as much as the husband, especially where they have young children who would be neglected. It's better if the husband works more hours to make ends meet in most cases and if the wife works, it should be around her commitments to her family. In the same way the rest of the husbands activities are around his work, which is his major commitment to his family.
Yes, the man is meant to be the breadwinner if he can, and the woman is usually assigned childcare and housework, but that doesn't mean the wife is a maid and the father is still a father.
I'm pretty sure prophets helped out in their homes and give their children attention.
Salam alaykum Brothers and sisters. 😊 I want the book pleas im in Germany and have many Christian here
jazakallah khair
Anybody coudl send me the link of the free guide in the minute 14:00
SAME REASON MEN LIKE WESTERN BAD GIRLS
No, even western men are done with the bs of western women
You mean the simps who let women walk all over them?
Wstern women can’t be considered women. The hijabis in the west today forget they’re only the first gen of western raised Muslim women. They do not come from this world same as their parents who from back but are unfortunately raised and bought up here.
assalamualikum warahmathullahi wabarakatuhu
i am a young muslim men willing to get in to dawa need your bible because it will help me a lot i think if someone deserves it more than me give to him or her inshaallah
Befor we get in to Dawah we have to study well our religion
Apply to Islamic University of Madinah
☝🏻♥️ May Allah bless you all 🌺 ☝🏻
I think there is a big misconception. Being a man is not about displaying authority nor about being sensitive, but it is rather about getting the job done by being aware and having the right balance between the two, in all aspects of life including seeking a halal relationship, leading and making it flourish.
Unfortunately, people often suppose that women liking bad boys as being a good thing while it isn't. It's actually more damaging than anything else. The matter of the fact is bad boys get attention from women because they seek and work on triggering lust in them. They get attention because unfortunately most women nowadays are being exposed to these shaytans and more so because they make the mistake of lusting over a non-mahram man. It is the exact same way for men in regards to bad women who do not dress modestly and/or who work on actively triggering lust in non-mahrams. Muslims are too able to go and trigger that lust in other people, but they refrain from doing so for the sake of Allah ; and that is purer and better for them and everyone else. That being said, a muslim should take a good care of himself and seek to please his wife. There are things which one can work on before finding a good partner in life but there are other things that are better to delay until marriage instead of learning them through haram means.
I would always refrain from using such a wrong and confusion kafir vocabulary like "bad boy" which is misleading and which our fitrah rejects. I rather refer myself to the best of examples which is our beloved prophet Mohammad, peace be upon him, and to the companions, scholars and people of knowledge. As he, pbuh, said : "Shyness is from faith" ; and shyness is not something you would attribute to bad boy, while in fact it is a good shield that protects us from the haram and evil ways. Muslims should reject this damaging narative of bad boy, and rather focus on the right way of life and get their information from the right sources i.e. Qur'an and Sunnah.
And Allah knows best.
Not good women who knows her Deen and tries her best to live it, we love to have a GOOD MAN.....GOOD MANNERS, CONDUCT, MODEST AND SIMPLY A GOOD MUSLIM. YES WHO CAN CARE LOOK AFTER HIS WOMEN & FAMILY ETC. MANY MEN ARE CONFUSED THEMSELVES WHAT WOMEN WANT, SO TO ARE WOMEN
Too
We don’t trust your words. We only trust your actions. Actions speak louder than words.
He says he can’t be scared of guys with nail polish, he hasn’t met itachi
Being a woman, I can say that it's not "bad boys" that women want. They want men who demonstrate courage, confidence and independence. A man is expected to protect & support you & your children. A man who's not willing to fight for what he believes isn't protecting or supporting anyone.
Some women, especially the younger ones like "bad boys" because they have some of the certain aspects you mentioned i.e. confidence, independence, etc. When these women have nothing to compare the leftest soyboys with due to the absence of a manly man who'll protect you, this is a natural thing.
Perfectly explained! They want strong and resilient men who can lead.
I feel the claim of "just do it" doesn't always work, I jave epilepsy and am not able to leave the house alone and dropped out of university due to my disability (I'm currently trying to get back to university after years, I'm 26) I ask my parents to help me figure out how to find a wife every few days, they reject it with the claim it will just happen and claims that I need a wife if they want me to have something positive to tell a girl's parents, I ask them to just try but they won't, I'm not allowed to get a licence either, last time I tried making a muslim marriage site account I ended up closing it tge next day because I ended up spending $300 in a single day in desperation
Have trust in Allah. I'm 24, basically broke, but moving out now, because my family are kuffaar and starting to work on myself. Got a new better paying job a couple months ago and starting to work on my personal business. I live in a country where there are only 10k or so Muslims, but I have trust in Allah that He does good for me whenever I'm ready.
May Allah make it easy for you brother. I will pray for you specifically. Look for someone yourself. Inshallah your epilepsy will get controlled and its OK to them get a licence.
A good muslim girl will not be attracted to a bad boy . Never
Nah man I saw of of the Muslim girls playing around with bad boys
So where do Sisters find men like you all? I am an older women who was divorced due to unfaithfulness on his side and more. I want to marry as I am happiest with a partner I can support. I work full time because I have to - I am not a demanding woman - but honestly I do not see older men who are not single. Widowed etc. who are looking for a companion. SO where do I look? Not finding any of these traits locally - as I am guessing they are looking for the younger women. I enjoyed watching and listening to you all. Thank you!
If your from Seattle theirs a brother I know who connect Muslim people together
@@ondefense7586 Thanks but I am on east coast - and a Sister in my local Masjid has inside knowledge - lol - and will be helping soon :) MashaAllah!
Hey there Gabriel. I can't access to your course. It just won't load. Your website I mean
the interruptions ruin the podcast
Alhamdulillah
Sometimes, you see young and older women leave the masculine guy for what we would call the Mr. Nice Guy. So it's kind of like "Allah knows best" how to figure out what's in a woman's head. Lol
toxic masculinity
Some women like feminine men. We’re not all the same
Not all masculine looking guys are good men, and not all nice guys are bad men.
birth control is known to cause that weird interest in feminine men
@@user-sh9pl1sx2m Please define "toxic masculinity" and tell me where it is in the Quran and Sunnah. Thanks.
SubhanAllah
MashaAllah
Beneficial reminder.
I have been very stupid. I had sex outside of permanent marriage. 😢 I am a single mother and a widow.. My husband died a few months ago. I am a Muslim lady. Then I met an Indian man that I fell in love with. I want a serious Permanent relationship with him. But when he ask him he refuses to talk about it. 😢When I ask him if he is married or if he is divorced and has children, he also refuses to answer the question. What should I do now? He says he has not been completely honest with me. I know that Indian men are often forced to get married in an arranged marriage that they don't want. 😢 My heart is breaking apart and I am crying. Because I wanna follow God. I don't want have to have sex outside of marriage anymore. And what should I do if I turn out to be pregnant? I am afraid. 😢. This man says he loves me.. He hugged me. Kissed me. And our contact was not only sexual. Even the 2 children I already have love him. I want to marry him and I love him a lot. I want him to meet my parents. But this situation all seems very awkward. He is having sex with me, while he knows that I am not on the pill and that I could get pregnant. And if I do get pregnant, I will not abort my child. I will take care of it. I am really in love with this Indian man. I see myself getting married to him and sharing my life with him. That is how much I love him. I feel scared. I wanna be loved my him forever. I wanna be married permanently to him. And I wanna be his loving and loyal wife for a lifetime. But he seems annoyed when I talk about this. I want him. I love him. I need him. I cannot live without him. Should I take a morning after pill? How do I deal with this situation? I have Autism which makes me more vulnerable than other people.. But I do know what my heart wants. My heart wants to marry him. My heart wants to be with him forever. My hearts wants a family and 1 Child with him. I truly love him. Please give me some good advice. I really don't wanna lose him. But at the same time I will never abort my baby if I get pregnant. I want to marry this man for a lifetime. I want him to meet my parents. I also want to meet his family in India. I really deeply love this man and I wanna be forever with him. 😢❤😢 Please give me some good advice what I should do. I cannot use birth control.. It is unnatural and goes against God's commandments and creation. Sex was made to be between husband and wife. In a marriage. And to have children. 😢 Lord please forgive me......I feel ashamed of what I did. And I repented before God. What should I do? Please no judgement. I already feel bad enough. Give me some loving advice. 😢
Subhanallah sister. Don't admit your sins in public, first of all. Second of all, this man is not worth losing your afterlife! Get a grip! There's nothing you truly "need" except for Allah. I've been in love with a woman before and I know what it feels like to be in your situation but trust me when I say that this kind of mentality will RUIN your life and your afterlife. Repent to Allah and cut all contact with this man! You're a mother of two children! Get yourself out of this hole and save yourself and your children from the Hellfire before it's too late. If this man was good for you he'd save you from Hell and get you closer to Allah. If this man was worth anything he wouldn't drag you into a major sin knowing you're a widow with two children. Do not continue with this man, lest he destroy you and your children. ESPECIALLY if he's a regular kafir who doesn't pray and doesn't believe in Allah.
May Allah guide you, strengthen you and make you and your children among the righteous. Ameen.
We should not reveal our historic sins even for purpose of dawah. U can use a 3rd party example instead
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
I can barely get through this conversation. 'Man up' is the key? Who is best as our example, but Muhammad, صلى الله عليه وسلم.
I felt this conversation was demeaning to women, our sisters, and frankly extremely cavalier and colloquial. Not to mention overwhelmingly opinionated. At 20:30 of the conversation where br. Uthman speaks about..."if she can cook and clean..." br. Romani tries and fails to follow through with correcting him. Then a reference to the opinion of those who disagree were "Never married themselves... ha ha ha".
Wow
Bra, if you're going to site Shaeikh Al Islam, give the proof.
Man-Up
There is a vudio in your ads .
The only one message that fits all is the COLLECTIVE BODY OF ISLAMIC KNOWLEDGE IN AAALLL OF IS MANIFESTATIONS
We must acquire all of this based upon culture free 3Aqeedah, culture free adab, ackhlaq, adab, diqh haakathaa
WALLAAHUL MUSTA3AAAN
Islam didn't come to eradicate all cultures, only the ills in society, any culture not contradictory to Quran & sunnah== Islam is ok to maintain, this is Sunnah of our Nahi sas😍.
I agree with your sentiment.
Islam must be our foundation, and reference point always.
Come to Seattle and let these guys at the masjid know
الحمد لله على نعمة الزوج الصالح
"why do women like bad boys, even good women" i laughed loudly 😂
Why ?
Why do men find 304s attractive, even good men?
Sexual attraction doesn’t depend on how good or bad a person is. Evil men can be attractive, so can evil women.
Matter of fact, it’s the toxic narcissists who happen to be the most attractive. And I’m talking about both genders.
It might sound ironic, but sometimes men know more about female psychology than women know it themselves.
We simply see things most women don’t. And we know how gullible most women can be. This isn’t to belittle them, but I’m only saying this because women will fall for any man they find attractive, even if he’s a criminal.
You see a charming handsome man, but we see a psychopathic monster.
That’s why women having a wali is super important, and why she cannot marry a man without her wali’s approval.
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Asaalamu alaykum sheykh, what about a khutbah in Romania?
Hated all the adverts. Please put them at the end or beginning. All the breaks in between the discussions is irritating.
Id may the younger brother in the jeans and tshirt. Let a girl know 😊
Brothers need to understand that ' sensitive " has many !earnings and levels and not all should be avoided like plague by Muslims (m). Look to sunnah, our beloved Prophet dad was Strong where needed , a leader of family and later society, and still he was not an INSENSITIVE man! He cried in his wife's arms and sort her comfort upon first revelation, and was Still a strong man in all areas he was needed to be. I
Prophet was knew about the different characters and sensitivities of his wives, and how to deal with them/ how to interact with the! Accordingly. That is a real understanding of a sensitive man, not one who simply displays soft nature and cries about everything a woman would.
Understand the finer nuances in what is a Man in Islam.
Don't confuse insensitive characteristics, is doesn't have any regarD for feelings of pthers/ his righteous wife for e.g. And thinks he is being a " strong man".
Best example is always out BELOVED Prophet sas😍
One of the things I really like in him was and in my potential husband is Gentleness, while being strong Man leading where he aught to. SubhanAllah nothing more attractive than a balance in a man who knows His Deen and in character.
I'm sure aa!e with women balance.
There's a general masculine - feminine trait dominance but Allah SWT in His Wisdom also have us some characteristics as individuals which !at be different to that Joel's or usual case. E.g. some men are naturally more affectionate than others and yet they are Strong man Protecting physically where they need to be. That's fine and coca versa. Certain traits may vary in prominence as per Allah's Design.
It's not to take anything away from what the Knowledgeable Reapectted shaken Othman has said or any other be here. I agree with their main points.
Society is lost confused and needs to go back to Sunnah and men in general need to man up so to say and women need to relearn too of needed how to be the women in Islam and sunnah.
May Allah Enable us all to find righteous spouse who are good for us in Sunnah and akhirah. Ameen😍
Entertaining talk, was very disappointed in the way this person spoke about Imam Nawawi. Blew my mind how casually a giant in the religion was dismissed in a callous way and no one objected.
What did they say? Could you provide a time stamp?
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I don’t want to single out just one moment to feed drama. Watch the entire video, there is some benefit in there.
@@sammu Then don't comment if you don't wanna feed drama and don't even wanna provide time stamp, what is even wrong with you?!
@@kinanisam4345
I want the creators of the video to see my comment and maybe address it with the responsible party. My comment is not directed towards people like you.
@@kinanisam434520:50 I don’t think they wanted to be disrespectful, but he seems to have a point and disagree on the matter.
ما شاء الله
This is a very low testosterone conversation
Our brothers and sisters in gaza suffring and this is what are you talking about
Go there yourself and fight if you have the balls
Our brothers and sisters in Gaza suffering and you listen to them?
So? Maybe they make more dua for the people in Gaza than you do? Allah will not change the condition of the people if they don’t change themselves!!! Normal life goes on.. how sad it is.
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Too many adverts/snippets added. Sorry guys, I need to give a dislike for constructive feedback.
None of the men on the panel are masculine. If you're grifting off of "dawah" and online courses you are not masculine, you're a grifter making money from men who are looking for purpose. A masculine man does not concern himself with what is "masculine" outwardly, he does what is needed for him. He works hard labour and provides for his family, he simply is. He does not buff himself up at the gym and speak about masculinity.
Jaahil sheikh uthman doesnt earn anything from da'wah. How much havr you given???? He has multiple degrees and high paying job. Most of thr viewrs of these content are youg men. Dont get offended and mind your speech
Say what is feminine
Lol somewhat agree. Most of them talk not all. Not saying they don't have good intent but this stuff comes across as so cringe and try hard.
All about gym, keeping fit, clothing, schedule lol...what about real things like DIY, tyre change, fixing this fixing that. Involving yourself in communities.
Sheikh uthman is. He was a killer in his hayday he even stood up to a dude with a knife when he didn't need to he came out from his car and went charging towards him ended up stabbed but fought him off dude went running. Maybe not smart but if that's not masculine I don't what is. Majority of muslim men like those in the panel are weak and wouldn't ever fight back or don't even know how to. Islam teaches men to be fearless but muslim men aren't they're too pious and soft. Thr only muslim men who have fighting spirit are probably black reverts but not cause theyre muslim they're just naturally good foot soldiers
@@ozhoneybadgerfixing a tyre, fixing this, that?......just pay someone else to do it
I am the top G, i have the moneies!!! In every currency!! That's what women love, a rich successful man, a man with his own house, car amd biz.
She will definitely marry him but never marry and work with him to obtain all that🤷🏾♂️ only once he has gone through all the hard work, will she accept his proposal.
You guys need to learn American history. In the 1950s and 1960s, Blacks, non-whites and non-Christians were segreagted, excluded and discriminated. Women were oppressed in the 1950s and 1960s. Sandra Day O'Connor, the first woman supreme court judge, could not get a job as an attorney in 1952, even after graduating from college and law school. BTW, who is supporting the widows with children at the refugee camps in Jordan and Turkey? Also, after the war in Gaza, who is going to provide financial support to the Palestinian widows? In the refugee camps, young gilrs are being exploited through marriage by so called "religious" Muslim men. These so called "good" Muslim men would divorce the young wives after a few months of marriage.
American history doesn’t begin in the 20th century. Let’s remember that.
3 bad boys at the table. i wonder if Romaani have a bigger shirt..
@@najmikrisnawan189 I think looser clothing is more in line with the sunnah
Khrash prashshh dura dabao ❤
Sadly today when a man what to marry today and works part time in super market on low wages. The woman say come bk when you earn hundreds thousand a year. Majority of men are not rich end off
Yesh, that's disappointing. Means so hurting. I can feel you brother. But Everyone has theirs own preferences. I'll recommend you to get married a woman who looks upon your religiousness, character Even you become rich. But I guess this is hard to get find this type of woman right,if you are in West. 😅
Why not work full-time my brither, that way basic expenses will be met or so..? There still would be plenty of time to do other things out of working hours e.g. In UK ( 35 hours ex lunch is full-time p/ week. You may increase your chance of MARRIAGE...?
@@kbb8962 women are not interested in basic anymore.
@@humptydumty4975 visit afganistan or Yemen once.
Brother many women will accepts you, but do not be lazy or despair in searching for her after dua. Also, strive to seek a halal livelihood, but a low salary or even poverty does not prevent marriage.
not afraid of a black belt? i hope he was joking
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They try f🅰️g you up
You guys are talking about females while the Mujahidins are fighting in the tunnels... shameful
Here comes clueless fellow..
What the h*ll are they supposed to do???? Protest and damage property in west , raise slogans ..
Get over your emotions dude..
We should do things with hikmah
What they're discussing is one of most crucial matters in Ummah today (especially west).. it's about family unit..
Even Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Companions رضي الله عنهم waited for many years till they had some military strength before facing enemy in battle.
Nowadays , we've weakest State of Ummah. It will take time. Such matters aren't handled overnight.
@@Muwahid999 Who cares about what females think? Do you think the Sahabah were discussing if women were attracted by bad boys when they were fighting the enemies? You're a clown 🤡
@@freman75 You are 100 percent right. This is sad.
Khureshi pagan allah bless u all
اخد علوم ديني من مشائخ عرب موثوق فيهم فنحن عرب كان لنا سلف صالح حتي لو ضاعه بوصله فثوابت ثابته
دعوها فإنها منتة. لا فرق بين عربي ولا أعجمي إلا بالتقوى.
@@Othman1992on زمن كثر فيه الفتن وكثر فيه الباطل ولست من ناس الدين ياخد دين من مشايح العصر الحديث ليس قصدي الاهانه فهدا دين لناس كافه بس زمن الان خطير و ادا أردت كسب دين فلنرجع الي سلف صالح سواء عربي أو أعجمي
@@وفاءبكرا-س7ب المسلم العامي الذي لا يستطيع التمييز نعم يأخذ من مشايخه الموثوقين. أما الذي عنده علم بطريقة السلف يعرف كيف يميز الثقة من غير الثقة هذا يسمع لكل الناس ويفلتر.
@@Othman1992on زمن أصبح اغلب مشائخ لهم اجنده مش واضحه اللي تلقاه متقي بعد فتره تنصدم فيه فتجده يخدم اجند حاكم او اجنده غربيه ما دمر شعوبنا إلا تأثير غرب علينا فأصبح دين متماشي مع اجند غرب باسم العولمه فأغلب مشايخنا مناهضين للغرب جميعهم في سجون والله مستعان
Title itself is so cringe. Very lazy and very much red Pil content ish. I get it helps with the algorithm but still. Ugh, disappointing but yeah, do you I guess
Hi. My friend american chinese asian female christian non muslim. 48 years .
little bit chubby. never able to have a baby . Ovary problem. Divorcee. No kids. Have own house. Car. Good salary in american company.
Meet a 24 years old arab man palestinian live in west bank close to bethlehem.
Online. Just online.
That guy is a muslim. Young handsome slim. Work multiple non skill hard labor. Herd lambs. He say he fall in love with this american citizen women. He said he willing to convert to Christianity as long he can get sponsor by marriage.
All of her friends warning her that this guy only need green card. Selling love. And she buying it.
What do you think.? Thank you for all positive and negative comments in advance.
Wake up😂
Is a sin 8n Islam to greet life threatening situations asbif they were nothing and my reasons is this I knee with Allah I would make it!
Knew
Shaykh came to malaysia?
Very funny not every women okay
Yes, all women are like this, even the good pious ones.
I don’t really blame them. This is merely how Allah created women, this is His system so we have to play the game of life by His rules, whether a person likes it or not.
Being a “nice” guy isn’t going to earn you respect from women.
Actually, the types of guys most likely to attract women are the ones who don’t chase women in the first place. They’re the ones who work on themselves and their ambitions in life. This is what is sometimes meant as being the “bad boy”.
So in summary: never chase women. Instead, be the guy whom women would chase.
@@fardeenmahmud8866no we’re not all like this. Some women like feminine men. Some of us want to be the breadwinner. We love providing for our man
@@emily6195 “Not all women” sure lol.
Even the Sahaabiyat (RA) were not above the flaws of female nature. Are you better than the Mothers of the believers?
@@fardeenmahmud8866 Khadijah the best woman of this ummah loved the prophet SAW even though he showed weakness he cried even though he wasn’t a feminine man he still was human and he showed it. She also supported the prophet SAW financially during his prophethood and didn’t leave him during hard times. I would say she did a pretty good job overcoming her female nature. Not every woman is the same and if course we are not better than Khadijah
@@emily6195 Are you Khadijah (RA)? Would you do the same for your husband if he showed emotion? I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t. No woman today would, regardless of how pious she is.
Some men these days (muslim or not) make bread winning look as the most stressful activity ever. Chill, most jobs these days are just 9 to 5 shifts inside cubicles talking on the phone. It is not like you are all risking your lives fire fighting or policing the criminals out there. Times have changed A LOT mind you. To tell a woman these days to stay at home, obey her husband clean and cook is just disrespectful and condescending. Not all women want a domestic life, though a good chunk does. Some are driven, ambitious. Some do not really have the choice but to go out there and work. Not all men are responsible people willing and capable of running the household financially. The ideal household organisation these men talk about simply does not exist. It's about time people started addressing the reality as it is instead of some unattainable ideals. Some men abuse their wives/daughters. Some men are stingy. Some men are evil. Some men are just coward and would storm out of the house first in case of fire not even looking back, to coin just a few examples cited in the video.
Ps1; Sheikh, your disdainful comment about that ''masculine'' woman who happens to be a Hydjabi was not only wrong, but full of Kibr. I pray Allah that on judgement day you get asked this.
Ps2; Sheikh, check a more accurate definition of femininity and masculinity. One of the companions of the Prophet PBUH and the husband of two of his daughters was known to be very sensitive, easily weeping at the sight of injustice, beauty and acts of kindness. A man who cries is not less of a man in Islam.
Ps 3; I suggest you all speak a bit more cautiously! I read Sunnah multiple times, and not even once as far as I can remember did the Prophet PBUH speak with such condescendence towards his Ahl el bayt (his women). Ya akhi, he used to sew his own clothes. Role distribution is not something explicitly addressed in the Quran nor Sunnah. It is left to the understanding of the society, the way it is structured, inherited traditions, time evolution etc. You cannot just sweep everything under the rug of ''women are commanded to obey their husbands'', it is just too easy. In other words, it is intelligence laziness.
Almohim, Peace be upon you all.
Ps
I know you influenced by feminìsm. Feminism is noting but Cancer of society. And what Sheikh says about 'masculine' hijabi woman, absolutely correct. You haven't studied any Islamic school or not saying from any scholars interpretations. You made your own interpretation about Islam and role of women in Islam. Very very very shameful for you when you say obeying husband is disrespectful. Any religious Muslim men would not like to marry you because of your nonsense mentality. Our Prophet commended women to OBEY THEIRS husband. A good religious women would have four things - 1) prays 2) fast 3) protect her chastity 4) obeys her husband.
*According to scholars the best work for women is house chores. She wouldn't be asked how much she earns but how she has served her husband in the day of judgement.
*** Women aren't allowed to work without her father permission ( if she is unmarried) and husband's permission (if she is married).
"Men are inchârge of women" ( 4:34)
*** Please Gain knowledge of Quran and Hadiths According scholars interpretation not from yours.
*** as well as when you say obey husband is outed nowadays, you left Islam. As you rejected the word of Prophet ( pbuh). As if anyone reject one single verse from Quran and Hadiths, it's équàl to rejecting whole Quran and Hadiths.
*Every good religious Muslim women would obey and follow her husband's instruction.
Typical example of someone with western liberal secular values instilled in their brain trying to join them with Quran and Sunnah values because they were born Muslim. This lost identity. De-programming is hard for sure but doable IF you realize the problem. Peace.
Typical example of someone with western liberal secular values instilled in their brain trying to join them with Quran and Sunnah values because they were born Muslim. Lost identity. De-programming is hard for sure but doable IF you realize the problem. Peace.
Typical example of someone with western liberal values instilled in their brain trying to join them with Quran and Sunnah values because they were born Muslim. This lost identity. De-programming is hard for sure but doable IF you realize the problem. Peace.
Perfect example of someone with western liberal secular values instilled in their brain trying to join them with Quran and Sunnah values because they were born Muslim. This lost identity is a result of western colonization and normalization for decades. De-programming is hard for sure but doable IF you realize the problem. Peace.