I partially agree with your take. I have been married for 26 years and we have been together for 34 years. In the last 12 years she hasn't initiate sex. I have do the work around the house. I keep the kitchen clean, wash clothes, and keep the front of the house clean. I even sweep and mop the floors so that she doesn't have to worry about any of those things. She may initiate sex once every two or three months. If I don't initiate sex we don't have it. This is no longer working for me. I am on the verge of saying the heck with it. We have talked about this on several occasions and I am tired of talking about it. At this point I'd rather be by myself.
Sadly this is a common thing with African women. It's because they were raised to fear sex and intimacy and made to believe sex equals pregnancy. If she happens to be religious the situation 8s worsened. It gets even worse if she is materialistic. You either have to decide if you love her enough to stay with her otherwise its not likely going to get better if you stay with her. This is one of the main reasons africsn men are polygamous. The girl child 8s raised to fear sex which leads to a likely bad sex experience in future life.
I am in the same boat as you. I have been married for well over 20 yrs and my wife does not initiate sex no matter what. It does get tiring. She will have sex if I push for it but that defeats the purpose of love making. Apart from the sex, she's a great wife and mother to our kids and an excellent home keeper. Therefore, leaving my wife has never crossed my mind. But the process of sex / love making is increasingly becoming a chore.
Well In all of these I'm 26 and still single. I believe everything depends on how it starts because someone like me I will asked almost all the questions including these one that sounds silly but serious like these topic now, I can't be doing these alone. And if you even check women enjoy sex more than we men💯 so pls what's that talk to me
If she loves you - she cannot help herself from initiate and crave intimacy with you.. If she does not - she does not love you. It really is that simple!
1 Corinthians 11:8-9 € For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
This tips are super helpful. I appreciate your efforts here. As many men know in a marriage there is never really genuine desire from the woman. Typically a woman will initiate and be open to intimacy until your married. Then it becomes transactional. If the man continues to do his part to provide and protect, there will be occasional intimacy. If he does more work around the home in addition to his traditionally male tasks. He will increase his chances for more intimacy. It's much like a point system. The more you do, the more points. Do something wrong and points are deducted. It will be a mans sole responsibility to be romantic and creating the emotional connection women desire to be intimate. Men must remember that they weren't her first choice. In her past there was a man that did nothing for her and got her best sexually. That's just the facts. At some point you will find yourself doing all the work and always trying to figure out the best way to have her agree to intimacy. I've always felt women enjoyed this attention and emotional connection way more than the actual sex. I suggest continuing with the romance and non sexual touch. Building that emotional connection. But not initiating anything more than that. Get in the gym or find some physical hobby that helps with the sexual frustration and stress relief. Last and foremost. The Vagina is undefeated in the history of civilization. Wars started and Kingdoms lost. So pick your battles with caution.
Very well Said figured this out when i was around 21,Being with an older women Made me Understand alot about women.. And in my Experience i Can 1000% agree with you.. Excellent vid My dear... Keep the content coming.. 😉
This is great advice. And worth applying in a committed relationship. But if your partner is closed off emotionally, it's a waste of time and effort and a builder of resentment.
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female ex-partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
simple, by other women wanting you, you not wanting her as much. then she will see you as higher value, hypergamy is satisfied and now she dont want to lose you, then she WILL initiate it.... that simple. So point, ALWAYS KEEP YOUR VALUE HIGHER THAN HERS.
Wow Jessica! I've been watching your videos since 2021, and this particular one is your Masterpiece in my opinion. Your outfit is simply sophisticated yet comfortable. And your delivery is yet again OUTSTANDING 🎇🔥🔥🔥
Sorry but all I hear here is more demands on men to make the EFFORT yet again, and here to accommodate women and nothing for women to meet men even halfway. Help with the housework? It’s like asking her to help me with my engineering project… why all this mystery and eggshell tippytoeing when success can be attained with both sexes respecting each other, and entering into a relationship with compassionate best intentions?
Yooo. I was listening in the background while doing something, and I said dang she still talking. I had to turn it off, she was talking way too much. I'll just take care of myself.
I would love it if women could reciprocate and just take the initiative if they want to! Spontaneous sex sex can be gorgeous! Thank you Jessica for your helpful advice!❤❤
Thank you, beautiful sis, i have learned a lot of useful information here...going to share this vid with the wifey...keep with the helpful info, men need to hear this!
Jessica thanks for this beautiful insightful video. ❤️ am blessed to be following you lady,honestly speaking I have learnt alot from your daily uploads that cuts across all spheres of our lives 🙏.
Thank you Jessica OS this topic means soo much to me 🙏🏽 God bless you for all of this❤ by the way i know you in accra long time like 20 years ago 😅 Awesome Channel ❤
The sad part is i dont hear any accountability on the woman end. It always seems one-sided. I've always heard women mature faster than men, but common sense does not. If a man has to learn all this for sex. Honestly, she dont want you. Move on.
Good video Queen - Your knowledge is a masterpiece - Your video awakes the soul and Mind - The women i have encountered since age 18 was completely different then this video - the ladies was straight they wanted sext first - To the guys run from these ladies -
This was enlightening. I have never had this problem. In fact, i get asked a lot, 'why don't i initiate sex'. I finally understand the main reason why. I don't suffer from blue balls, so they feel comfortable cuddling and stuff, which mostly leads to action. Thanks for this.
Thanks For fascinating and detailed video Jessica,I really enjoyed it and loved the vid-clip of the Woman being aggressive😄made me smile,keep up the good work,I looked on map about Ghana other day x
As a man, I've always felt as though I'm coming off as 'Creepy' if I'm the one initiating sex (even in a relationship). Plus, on those Rare occasions when a Woman has initiated it, it was a HUGE Turn on for me. I sometimes worry thou that this comes off as being very UN Masculine, and therefore a turn off for Her.
@@MarieN8959If you've not been treated/loved right in a whole month then what are you doing in that relationship?? Let's be honest here, the man(especially African man) puts up with alot of sexless times in relationships on the pretext of 'not in the mood'
But yet they ask for monogamy smh my ex was like this until I started getting it from other women then she started initiating cause the key thing to get their attention is not giving a fu&k!! You can skip the video cause that will get their attention more
@jessicaos How Can I initiate a big Kiss on your both cheeks for sharing and unveiling these truths to us, men.Thank you for the Honesty.I love the way you treat men and women's topics impartially. U R a big Icon in that field !
This video must be for men, who don't have to work, and provide and protect etc....Man stuff, if I have to put all that work into a relationship to get pleaser. Why even be in one to begin with. I rather have one nighters than go through all that foolishness, the only people who require that much attention are my kids.
Fellas who've been married 20+ you can cook clean go on dates flirt compliment drop hints be romantic stay fit and everything else... none of that is going to work. There is only one sure way... and that's when another man is showing her interest. If another man tells your wife he likes the heel on her shoe, she'll want you more than when you do all that other crap.
1 Corinthians 11:8 € For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. 9 € Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
Awesome Jessica! Your explanation of male and female differences, was on point. Loving Men! Get off the hook 🪝sexual affection! Because they focus on emotional connection. Not sex
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Yeah but
I partially agree with your take. I have been married for 26 years and we have been together for 34 years. In the last 12 years she hasn't initiate sex. I have do the work around the house. I keep the kitchen clean, wash clothes, and keep the front of the house clean. I even sweep and mop the floors so that she doesn't have to worry about any of those things. She may initiate sex once every two or three months. If I don't initiate sex we don't have it. This is no longer working for me. I am on the verge of saying the heck with it. We have talked about this on several occasions and I am tired of talking about it. At this point I'd rather be by myself.
Sadly this is a common thing with African women. It's because they were raised to fear sex and intimacy and made to believe sex equals pregnancy. If she happens to be religious the situation 8s worsened. It gets even worse if she is materialistic.
You either have to decide if you love her enough to stay with her otherwise its not likely going to get better if you stay with her. This is one of the main reasons africsn men are polygamous. The girl child 8s raised to fear sex which leads to a likely bad sex experience in future life.
I am in the same boat as you. I have been married for well over 20 yrs and my wife does not initiate sex no matter what. It does get tiring. She will have sex if I push for it but that defeats the purpose of love making. Apart from the sex, she's a great wife and mother to our kids and an excellent home keeper. Therefore, leaving my wife has never crossed my mind. But the process of sex / love making is increasingly becoming a chore.
@@youngbloodmovies no be small chore😂😂
Well In all of these I'm 26 and still single. I believe everything depends on how it starts because someone like me I will asked almost all the questions including these one that sounds silly but serious like these topic now, I can't be doing these alone. And if you even check women enjoy sex more than we men💯 so pls what's that talk to me
Sorry bruv
I have always held the belief that if she doesn't initiate sex ever then she is not into you/ doesn't find you attractive or your sex game is wack.
Mainly she just doesn't love you because girls hold on to their favorite shoes that they can't even fit anyone.
''how to get her to'' hell nah, she can leave right through the door. I'm not begging for kitty, that's humiliation.
Women like complicating everything, I mean I chose you over others should be reasonable enough for you to know that I like / love you 🙄💁🏾♂️
It's because of hypergamy
😂😂😂facts
Very much agree
If she loves you - she cannot help herself from initiate and crave intimacy with you.. If she does not - she does not love you. It really is that simple!
Correct also if you treat her right and love her right , she will feel comfortable to initiate
Nonsense. She eill sleep with you if she's sexually attracted to you NOT IF SHE LOVES YOU. SHE CAN LOVE YOU BUT FEEL NOTHING WHEN IT COMES TO SEX
@@chumadoshi6987 That you do not know the difference between love and sex - is not something you do have to advertise here.
That's true
@@MarieN8959 not necessarily
1 Corinthians 11:8-9 € For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
its important that your woman agrees that your bodies belong to each other, to be used for each others satisfaction as much as desired
This was really helpful.. I used to date a girl like that and I was bored as hell I stopped texting her eventually 😂
You're most welcome
Off course you did 😂 It was boring
This tips are super helpful. I appreciate your efforts here. As many men know in a marriage there is never really genuine desire from the woman. Typically a woman will initiate and be open to intimacy until your married. Then it becomes transactional. If the man continues to do his part to provide and protect, there will be occasional intimacy. If he does more work around the home in addition to his traditionally male tasks. He will increase his chances for more intimacy. It's much like a point system. The more you do, the more points. Do something wrong and points are deducted. It will be a mans sole responsibility to be romantic and creating the emotional connection women desire to be intimate. Men must remember that they weren't her first choice. In her past there was a man that did nothing for her and got her best sexually. That's just the facts. At some point you will find yourself doing all the work and always trying to figure out the best way to have her agree to intimacy. I've always felt women enjoyed this attention and emotional connection way more than the actual sex. I suggest continuing with the romance and non sexual touch. Building that emotional connection. But not initiating anything more than that. Get in the gym or find some physical hobby that helps with the sexual frustration and stress relief. Last and foremost. The Vagina is undefeated in the history of civilization. Wars started and Kingdoms lost. So pick your battles with caution.
well no ones gonna tell you but you are very correct.
Very well Said figured this out when i was around 21,Being with an older women Made me Understand alot about women.. And in my Experience i Can 1000% agree with you.. Excellent vid My dear... Keep the content coming.. 😉
This is great advice. And worth applying in a committed relationship. But if your partner is closed off emotionally, it's a waste of time and effort and a builder of resentment.
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female ex-partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
simple, by other women wanting you, you not wanting her as much. then she will see you as higher value, hypergamy is satisfied and now she dont want to lose you, then she WILL initiate it.... that simple. So point, ALWAYS KEEP YOUR VALUE HIGHER THAN HERS.
That was right on point ❤
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I'm ready to receive God's Abundance! Amen!
Wow Jessica! I've been watching your videos since 2021, and this particular one is your Masterpiece in my opinion. Your outfit is simply sophisticated yet comfortable. And your delivery is yet again OUTSTANDING 🎇🔥🔥🔥
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@@lawrencebore7767 You think so🤔
This was very insightful information
Thanks
Only works on women who want you in return, other than that, its time wasting.
I love this
Sorry but all I hear here is more demands on men to make the EFFORT yet again, and here to accommodate women and nothing for women to meet men even halfway. Help with the housework? It’s like asking her to help me with my engineering project… why all this mystery and eggshell tippytoeing when success can be attained with both sexes respecting each other, and entering into a relationship with compassionate best intentions?
I agree, she wants a simp
It's a woman's viewpoint
Its a viewpoint that will hurt women in the end as well.
Jessica, your vids are so insightful. Very helpful and informative! Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Jessica, I subscribe to social media videos or comment. But you are the only lady I trust here. I mean your information.
I enjoy listening to your voice! Very much appreciated! I really enjoyed this video!! Thank you
I was thinking that I love her voice…
All this just for some cookie?! Naaaah fam!
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@@edisonanthonio132 😆
I can confirm this is 💯 percent correct from my experience.
Too much work. Not worth it.
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Yooo. I was listening in the background while doing something, and I said dang she still talking. I had to turn it off, she was talking way too much. I'll just take care of myself.
@@theworldviewers3586 16 seconds into this video, read this and immediately agreed
I agree, but you'll find the one that's worth the extra bs.
ALWAYS on point 🤏, thanks for always being there, sending you ❤️ from Nigeria.
You're the best!
@@JessicaOS Thank you for the compliment ma'am 🙏, it's means a lot to me and please keep up the good work that you're doing.
Very informative. I always learn a lot from your videos.
Glad to hear it!
I thoroughl enjoy our videos because they are so informative. Added to that, one can listen to your voice all day and not get bored
So nice of you to say. I appreciate you 🫶🏾🫶🏾
I would love it if women could reciprocate and just take the initiative if they want to! Spontaneous sex sex can be gorgeous! Thank you Jessica for your helpful advice!❤❤
I Love your video it’s educative ❤
This was so insightful and giving it from a woman's perspective
So much helpful info presentered with style and simplicity. Thanks Jess😊
And congrats if you're married🎉
As soon as you have side chic problem solved😂
Thank you, beautiful sis, i have learned a lot of useful information here...going to share this vid with the wifey...keep with the helpful info, men need to hear this!
PS love how you communicate its very palatable and easy to digest the information
Glad it was helpful!
You're the best jess,your word motivated me alot 😊
Amazing contents, first time watching yiur video and I'm already subscribing ❤
I simply just love u Jessica for u always really got us gents' back🤗😊
Connoisseur of voice sounds 😊❤
Jessie you are my spec of a woman, quite intelligent on the subject
Jessica thanks for this beautiful insightful video. ❤️ am blessed to be following you lady,honestly speaking I have learnt alot from your daily uploads that cuts across all spheres of our lives 🙏.
You are so welcome!
Very helpful tips! You’re so right about these touching points
Glad you think so!
I totally agree with you on this
You know you're very intelligent; this was quite insightful and awesome. Well said and points delivered. Thank you
Insightful
This is power packed..👏
glad you think so
That was really helpful Jess. Thanks for the educational advice.
Glad it was helpful!
Hi Jessica. You are a master in these topics and deliver the content with such grace. Thanks!
Wow, thank you!
Thanks this is really helpful
Glad it helped
Thank you Jessica OS this topic means soo much to me 🙏🏽 God bless you for all of this❤ by the way i know you in accra long time like 20 years ago 😅 Awesome Channel ❤
The sad part is i dont hear any accountability on the woman end. It always seems one-sided. I've always heard women mature faster than men, but common sense does not. If a man has to learn all this for sex. Honestly, she dont want you. Move on.
This was not only HELPFUL, it was MIND BLOWING N BREATH TAKING! Thanks 🙏🏿 lil SiSTAR! You are WONDERFUL 🙏🏿💪🏿💯🍌🍉🍇🥥🍍🥗🍷❤️
You are so welcome
Likewise for a man!!!!!! A man needs as much love/respect/attention etc....
My new teacher 😁😁
Good video Queen - Your knowledge is a masterpiece - Your video awakes the soul and Mind - The women i have encountered since age 18 was completely different then this video - the ladies was straight they wanted sext first - To the guys run from these ladies -
Thank you Jessica❤️❤️
this video came at the right time
This was enlightening. I have never had this problem. In fact, i get asked a lot, 'why don't i initiate sex'. I finally understand the main reason why. I don't suffer from blue balls, so they feel comfortable cuddling and stuff, which mostly leads to action. Thanks for this.
Thanks Jessy ❤much love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤️ 💙
Sending love right back
This is so helpful to watch. Thanks so much for the insights.
You are so welcome!
Thank you big sis❤...
Welcome 😊
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@JessicaOS >>> Great video...👍
It's been a long time I watched your video my adorable Jessie but I'm back now
Please don't leave me so long again
Pure Science.
💙 great insight
Thanks For fascinating and detailed video Jessica,I really enjoyed it and loved the vid-clip of the Woman being aggressive😄made me smile,keep up the good work,I looked on map about Ghana other day x
Yeah! You should come visit! 🫶🏾
I like your presentation skills and the quality of your points!
Glad you like them!
As a man, I've always felt as though I'm coming off as 'Creepy' if I'm the one initiating sex (even in a relationship). Plus, on those Rare occasions when a Woman has initiated it, it was a HUGE Turn on for me. I sometimes worry thou that this comes off as being very UN Masculine, and therefore a turn off for Her.
Women, general go by there feelings its whatever she feels at the time 💫
Always good stuff
Love it
Glad you enjoyed it
This woman is a GOAT
Your right. I don't know what I'm doing wrong
Beautiful teaching and inspiring but however All these work differently depending on how and where people grow up and culture and many more beliefs.
Great video still trying to find a woman who wants to hold my hand let alone anything else ☹️
.. don't lose hope
She never does initiate spoke to her countless times but still
You're phenomenal
Thank you
They're always not in the mood 😏
Because you don't put them in the mood by loving them the night way and treating them well 😂
@@MarieN8959If you've not been treated/loved right in a whole month then what are you doing in that relationship??
Let's be honest here, the man(especially African man) puts up with alot of sexless times in relationships on the pretext of 'not in the mood'
Omo these is really painful sometimes everytime it the guy as if there don't want it and will never open up to say babe I want you or something
Happy wife happy life school says it is her responsibility
Clarity of points, I give that to you
Awesome tips here, thanks Jess!
You're so welcome!
That's true
But yet they ask for monogamy smh my ex was like this until I started getting it from other women then she started initiating cause the key thing to get their attention is not giving a fu&k!! You can skip the video cause that will get their attention more
@jessicaos How Can I initiate a big Kiss on your both cheeks for sharing and unveiling these truths to us, men.Thank you for the Honesty.I love the way you treat men and women's topics impartially.
U R a big Icon in that field !
Appreciate your feedback
Yea my girl told me about the last part the house hold stuff so you are most definitely right about that and everything else 💯‼️
U bet
How about women who can have sex on the first day of meeting them or in less than 3 days?
This video must be for men, who don't have to work, and provide and protect etc....Man stuff, if I have to put all that work into a relationship to get pleaser. Why even be in one to begin with. I rather have one nighters than go through all that foolishness, the only people who require that much attention are my kids.
Good one
Fellas who've been married 20+ you can cook clean go on dates flirt compliment drop hints be romantic stay fit and everything else... none of that is going to work. There is only one sure way... and that's when another man is showing her interest. If another man tells your wife he likes the heel on her shoe, she'll want you more than when you do all that other crap.
Great
We have to pursue & preform, woman just lay back & enjoy.
Endless excuses
Believe it or not
Perfect
So... basically women Don't like sex... Got it!
1 Corinthians 11:8 € For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. 9 € Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
Thank you, outstanding content as always. Greetings from New York
Glad you enjoyed it
Indeed
Awesome Jessica! Your explanation of male and female differences, was on point. Loving Men! Get off the hook 🪝sexual affection! Because they focus on emotional connection. Not sex
You Forgot One Thing And That One ThinG Being ONE OF NaTURAL FACTS