10:28 As a Kid, I think I genuinely thought of women like Angels. Like they just love you unconditionally and just want to befriend you and be nice and play games with you and whatever my kid brain could imagine as fun. I think if I was to get into the unconscious machinery, it’s like “a mommy that is your age”. What does your mom do? Play with you. Be kind to you. Ask you stuff. And that’s about it. That was basically other girls to me when I had a crush on them. Or at least how I imagined they should be. Obviously they continuously surprised me since then lol Edit: oh you said as a teenager. As a teen I think I thought of them as people who were not interested in the type of fighting that men were into. I thought they were more peace loving and stuff. But I felt like for some reason they seemed to not be perceptive to abuse towards the by their friends and seemed almost asexual. It seemed like they didn’t have much going on horny wise and it almost felt like men/guys were an entity in some movie or story rather than someone they were like “damn I wanna have him”. I was the guy who had a lot of girl friends and it was a consistent set of threads until I got into those very secret girl group chats or “finstas” fake instagrams, where they would almost turn into the exact opposite but for what seemed like the most obviously cringe behavior in men, (at least to me as a guy). It all kinda just looked like being oblivious to abusive ness and I almost took it (probably due to that angelic view of girls) as them being too good to be able to register that certain types of confidence is cartoonishly performative. Yeah but at that point I had been very confused and honestly hurt many times so there was also some typical Jadedness and ‘nice guy’ story things in there. I think it was generally a painfully slow realization process for me lol
@@mynonleatherlife glad to share. Btw I kinda think “out loud” by writing about some of the things you say so you might get a few comments. I know that’s weird but don’t feel the need to respond if you don’t have anything to say. If they are an interesting read for your research than that’s great too, like this one. I just hope it doesn’t weird you out lol
@@mynonleatherlife Its a good idea, but im afraud people will do mode one hardcore instead of regular kode one. that is if they are brave enough to try it!!! I have a post of A;am here describing, recapping the 3 versions of Mode One! followed by the three other modes, 2,3 and 4. which are indirect or negative. You could repost the link before doing the challenge I will also post here an animated video of Alan on Mode 1.5
41:14 They like it, I think because it feels freeing for them actually. This dawned on me when I thought about the perspective of being born with an actually desire to be fxxked, imposed upon, etc. I realized that from that point of view, everything that the imposer impresses on to you, you mirror almost. Like if he feels insecure about it, then you feel insecure about yourself. If he thinks it’s disgusting, then you feel disgusting. So a dominant person, someone who feels no restraints or qualms with using or imposing upon you with the fullest expression of being, actually gives to you that same feeling about your own self and nature. Like it makes you feel confident in the world to have someone impose confidently upon you in a strange way. And I guess that sense of freedom, sureness about their belonging, aliveness in their world, acceptance of their nature for all its crassness and brutality, it makes a woman feel whole probably. The best man with total domination energy makes you feel useful to the expression of the universe. Like being a well used canvas of God’s/Nature’s Will is the ideal, and the next best thing is a man who takes god’s/Nature’s will as his own.
The problem I have is this, if I was to go out on a date with a woman and my mind was continually going through all the information I'm fed, so in effect I was trying to act out roles which I thought the woman is thinking I need to be, my brain would be so hopelessly scrambled to the extent I'd be in an utter mess! Why can't we just be honestly who we are and forget about all this role playing crap? I sometimes feel unconfident but no I'm not allowed to be that's unattractive. I haven't got a chiselled jaw I'm only 5 foot five if I was to take everything on board I'm told I would just give in now. You no what I'm going to be me, whatever I am and people can take me or leave me it's their choice not everyone is going to like everyone else, but I'm not going to try and pretend I'm something I'm not. How could you even keep that up, because lets face it if someone was attracted to the false image you portrayed to them you'd have to maintain the lies to keep hold of them how stressful would that be? I may be influenced by a book I've just read Brad Blanton Radical Honesty don't know if you've read it but if not I totally recommend it. Still I've learnt a lot and am still learning about the female mindset from you Victoria and I'm very grateful to you for that, stay strong and get through that covid soon! 💕
i actually have read it. It's a cool book and philosophy. I get it, and it's a powerful attitude. the only reason I'm teaching about the female gaze is u kinda do have to offer women something they like because what a guy likes or assumes she will like is gonna be radically off--for the most part cuz of the model of women they have built up in their head based half off fantasy and half off themselves and their own desires. But pls do be honest and urself. Funny thing is tho radical honestly can get to be a pretty hilarious and annoying philosophy. I joined some radical honesty groups and was really laughing at some of the arguments they constantly got into because everyone was honestly telling each other off, it was very very humorous and entertaining
@@Being_Jeffto give you the answer, yes, they are childish and care about their fantasy. You have to put up the show for them to buy a ticket. These girls are not self developed and maybe they will never be. We as men are interested in bettering ourselves. They are not that interested And maybe.the ones that are either do it wrongly (for ex. having a carrier they think it will make them happy) and the ones that get it are very rare and are already taken. Here is the lesson that I've learned over the years. Deep inside these women seem to be unhappy, they expect something external to make them happy and that's why they have these fantasies and when nothing satisfies their fantasy they don't act properly. They don't take accountability seriously and are not responsible for their own happiness, that's why they wait for the prince charming to make them happy and satisfy their fantasy. It's simple to understand, all their problems come from the fact that they don't understand themselves and are happy by themselves. When they marry they think it's their husband's job to make them happy and when this thing is not happening they behave badly. As a man you either put the show and then try to educate them, or simply leave them to their own fate and they will learn eventually, but they will be too old.
when we/i where young, yes I had a fantasy about girls, the girl was so beautiful that I considered her/them as angels - above humans, Like I was a human, flesh and blood connecting with my match which is an angel as super human, so beautiful, perfect from head to toe, and I personally didn't think about smells or any thing of physical human nature, I did primarily looked at her lips because back then kissing her was my first natural attraction. so a perfect, perfect angel angel and falling in love with lots of beautiful perfect girls was a daily thing especially when your very young and the girls are young as you, falling in love from pictures and magazines and television was also happening a lot.
13:34 I will say that I think what they mean by “options” is one of those blind spots for women too. I think that their of plenty of men who would want to sleep with a girl but just wanting to sleep with her doesn’t mean he’s actually open to opening up a genuine emotional bond and really building something. I do think the will for that slowly does drop off with age with how men see women, even if he would wine dine sex and have validation from her being open to him in his life. There will be a steadily decreasing amount of men feeling open to the desire to make the woman like his “ride or die girl”. And I don’t think a lot of women realize that men can actually turn off access to their “In Love” feelings but still act like a loving caring confident man for her while kinda giving breadcrumbs because it’s convenient to keep the girl. So that’s what those Red Pill guys are saying, not that they don’t have options of men who want to fuck around with them.
I think a summary of the male frame is that he is adaptable to circumstances and does not follow a script. Thereby he has status and demonstrates top tier behavior. In pursuit of this many men have to be open to learning and feeling unsure, so this is where the older man comes onto his own as opposed to the bad boy. Behavioral evidence such as confidence, well presented, stabile financials, non-dependence etc. are evidence of this. Great I can go back to my life now? I'm not allowed to be a puss when women are around basically.
Thanks for the insight Victoria. I grew up in a sheltered religious family in a small town and have recently moved to the city for schooling and now work. I'm finally away from my parents and developing as a person. Not to be arrogant but I think I possess the looks and attitude you describe that appeal to women (I look like a famous tiktoker allegedly who has a massive female following, I get told this all the time) but am so repressed sexually and have felt incredible shame and guilt in thinking about these topics. Additionally I went to an all boys boarding school until college so I'm not privy to the social cues and dynamics. It has led me to being abrasive with women and infantilising them to an extent, for instance it didn't occur to me that they are also driven by subconsious primal desires and have blind spots that you've eloquently explained in your older videos. Your insight into the female psyche, the female gaze and their view of masculinity and male sexuality has been enlightening. I'm slowly working my way through your catalogue now and broadening my perspective. It's truly fascinating.
That’s amazing. Trust me you’re not alone. If you’re naturally great looking you probably have the same problems as the rest of guys which u put perfectly. But if you started bad looking and looksmaxxed to appeal to girls u prob have a better clue. So glad u r finding the view helpful!! Wonderful to hear
religion has and still serves a valuable role but we have to remember the hardcore cult stuff was a form of birth control before we had condoms and pills etc. not saying modern is better than tradition but this perspective may help.
38:05 My guess at the reason you get that idea of Present-to-the-moment or Not-trying so much from guys is because I think that’s our way of actually naturally acting like the Alpha man. The in love part doesn’t matter without the Alpha part. And if they try, they show “In Love” because that is when men’s attraction feels like, at least at temporarily. The crippling weight of desire and willingness to do whatever. But being willing to do whatever is also “submissive” and not alpha. So it is literally that ‘hot-hands thing’. The ‘something’ that Johnathan does differently is probably that ‘look’, steadiness of stance, no reactive ness, but forward and intense that isn’t there when you look at a girl like she’s your dream. Presence = Intensity for Men But I imagine you picture like a zen master or something, which is also fair. Could also come off like that depending on how you do it.
A women who feels like the man is open and seeing other women makes the man more attractive because when a man is locked in or infatuated he seems desperate and she feels like she is in control which they find boring or typical. Ignoring a women by appearing busy or mysterious makes the man more attractive because he's demonstrating that his actions in life are more important than she is which women know should be a man's priority. Yeah it's lame but I dont make the rules
one mathematical thing about sexual partners is when someone said ‘the average for men is 6 whereas the average for women is 20+’ that can’t make sense cos every time a man and woman have sex that’s a tally on both sides so the mean average will be pretty much identical for heterosexual sex (not counting sex with people in different countries etc) - the median could be different cos it is unevenly distributed but probably not that different
@@mynonleatherlife that was just a guess about the median not being that different- but I imagine its a fairly similar shaped bell curve for both men and women, maybe less female virgins - idk
From your experience regardless of a woman's age, she always has someone who wants her. How about an older guy who still gets attraction from younger women Does that hold true , that they still see him as desirable? Or is he aged out at some point. I get that same over the hill feedback from guys my age who aren't getting that kind of interest and dismiss it as dillusional
I haven’t heard anyone talk about it but I’m maybe a bit under the age they might talk about it more. But I don’t think they’re too worried about it from the way I hear others talk!
apologies for that rester inpeace. u always ask such good ones I need my full mental strength and i was so under the weather tonight I didn't have enough brain power tonight to do it justice.
To answer your question about our perception of girls when we were teens, I used to find girls in my home city to fit in one of three major categories: 1. Manipulative girls who used their beauty to obtain sex and material advantages from any guy, because that happened quite often in my city and their reputation must have influenced other girls to do the same. Talking about girls between 13-18 years old. 2. Girls who are goal oriented, they get good grades, they study hard and are just nice to everyone. 3. I never found any girl like this but I always wanted to find "a mighty woman with a torch, whose flame is the imprisoned lightning, and her name, 《the mother of exiles》. Cries she with silent lips 《 Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, the wretched refuse of the teeming shore. Send these, tempest-tost to me.》" Basically someone who could help me heal physically from competitions and mentally from arguments or just stress. I find Emma Lazarus' poem to paint a pretty good picture of what I had envisioned.
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I'm 45 female in very good shape and I was hit by a 30 y.o. guy. Chemistry and sex were great. Appreciate your channel, Victoria!
I love it when women watch my channel! Thank you blue sun! I am glad to hear it was a great experience with this 30 year old!
10:28 As a Kid, I think I genuinely thought of women like Angels. Like they just love you unconditionally and just want to befriend you and be nice and play games with you and whatever my kid brain could imagine as fun.
I think if I was to get into the unconscious machinery, it’s like “a mommy that is your age”. What does your mom do? Play with you. Be kind to you. Ask you stuff. And that’s about it. That was basically other girls to me when I had a crush on them. Or at least how I imagined they should be.
Obviously they continuously surprised me since then lol
Edit: oh you said as a teenager.
As a teen I think I thought of them as people who were not interested in the type of fighting that men were into. I thought they were more peace loving and stuff. But I felt like for some reason they seemed to not be perceptive to abuse towards the by their friends and seemed almost asexual. It seemed like they didn’t have much going on horny wise and it almost felt like men/guys were an entity in some movie or story rather than someone they were like “damn I wanna have him”. I was the guy who had a lot of girl friends and it was a consistent set of threads until I got into those very secret girl group chats or “finstas” fake instagrams, where they would almost turn into the exact opposite but for what seemed like the most obviously cringe behavior in men, (at least to me as a guy). It all kinda just looked like being oblivious to abusive ness and I almost took it (probably due to that angelic view of girls) as them being too good to be able to register that certain types of confidence is cartoonishly performative.
Yeah but at that point I had been very confused and honestly hurt many times so there was also some typical Jadedness and ‘nice guy’ story things in there. I think it was generally a painfully slow realization process for me lol
Thanks for sharing that Nigel. Very helpful for me to read
@@mynonleatherlife glad to share. Btw I kinda think “out loud” by writing about some of the things you say so you might get a few comments. I know that’s weird but don’t feel the need to respond if you don’t have anything to say. If they are an interesting read for your research than that’s great too, like this one. I just hope it doesn’t weird you out lol
On the 28th of this month, it will be ARC's firstdeath anniversary! Sad!!!! Whisper in her (left) ear what you're really thinking!
😓😓I should do something in honor of him and mode one. Maybe a mode one challenge on the channel
@@mynonleatherlife What would that challenge look like? I bet people will use a Mode Ome "HARDCORE" approach instead!
why not get everyone to test it out for a day and see what happens!@@griffonwc
@@mynonleatherlife Its a good idea, but im afraud people will do mode one hardcore instead of regular kode one. that is if they are brave enough to try it!!! I have a post of A;am here describing, recapping the 3 versions of Mode One! followed by the three other modes, 2,3 and 4. which are indirect or negative. You could repost the link before doing the challenge I will also post here an animated video of Alan on Mode 1.5
ruclips.net/video/aF591NYE58k/видео.htmlsi=nQVWgbblq_BMU_4t&t=672@@mynonleatherlife
41:14 They like it, I think because it feels freeing for them actually.
This dawned on me when I thought about the perspective of being born with an actually desire to be fxxked, imposed upon, etc.
I realized that from that point of view, everything that the imposer impresses on to you, you mirror almost. Like if he feels insecure about it, then you feel insecure about yourself. If he thinks it’s disgusting, then you feel disgusting.
So a dominant person, someone who feels no restraints or qualms with using or imposing upon you with the fullest expression of being, actually gives to you that same feeling about your own self and nature. Like it makes you feel confident in the world to have someone impose confidently upon you in a strange way.
And I guess that sense of freedom, sureness about their belonging, aliveness in their world, acceptance of their nature for all its crassness and brutality, it makes a woman feel whole probably. The best man with total domination energy makes you feel useful to the expression of the universe.
Like being a well used canvas of God’s/Nature’s Will is the ideal, and the next best thing is a man who takes god’s/Nature’s will as his own.
The problem I have is this, if I was to go out on a date with a woman and my mind was continually going through all the information I'm fed, so in effect I was trying to act out roles which I thought the woman is thinking I need to be, my brain would be so hopelessly scrambled to the extent I'd be in an utter mess!
Why can't we just be honestly who we are and forget about all this role playing crap?
I sometimes feel unconfident but no I'm not allowed to be that's unattractive.
I haven't got a chiselled jaw I'm only 5 foot five if I was to take everything on board I'm told I would just give in now.
You no what I'm going to be me, whatever I am and people can take me or leave me it's their choice not everyone is going to like everyone else, but I'm not going to try and pretend I'm something I'm not.
How could you even keep that up, because lets face it if someone was attracted to the false image you portrayed to them you'd have to maintain the lies to keep hold of them how stressful would that be?
I may be influenced by a book I've just read Brad Blanton Radical Honesty don't know if you've read it but if not I totally recommend it.
Still I've learnt a lot and am still learning about the female mindset from you Victoria and I'm very grateful to you for that, stay strong and get through that covid soon! 💕
i actually have read it. It's a cool book and philosophy. I get it, and it's a powerful attitude. the only reason I'm teaching about the female gaze is u kinda do have to offer women something they like because what a guy likes or assumes she will like is gonna be radically off--for the most part cuz of the model of women they have built up in their head based half off fantasy and half off themselves and their own desires. But pls do be honest and urself. Funny thing is tho radical honestly can get to be a pretty hilarious and annoying philosophy. I joined some radical honesty groups and was really laughing at some of the arguments they constantly got into because everyone was honestly telling each other off, it was very very humorous and entertaining
@@mynonleatherlife Love your reply but only allowed to give a thumbs up!
You have to be a hunter
@@joendrsn Interesting so are you saying you've got to be dishonest with women if you want a relationship with them?
@@Being_Jeffto give you the answer, yes, they are childish and care about their fantasy. You have to put up the show for them to buy a ticket. These girls are not self developed and maybe they will never be. We as men are interested in bettering ourselves. They are not that interested And maybe.the ones that are either do it wrongly (for ex. having a carrier they think it will make them happy) and the ones that get it are very rare and are already taken. Here is the lesson that I've learned over the years. Deep inside these women seem to be unhappy, they expect something external to make them happy and that's why they have these fantasies and when nothing satisfies their fantasy they don't act properly. They don't take accountability seriously and are not responsible for their own happiness, that's why they wait for the prince charming to make them happy and satisfy their fantasy. It's simple to understand, all their problems come from the fact that they don't understand themselves and are happy by themselves. When they marry they think it's their husband's job to make them happy and when this thing is not happening they behave badly. As a man you either put the show and then try to educate them, or simply leave them to their own fate and they will learn eventually, but they will be too old.
when we/i where young, yes I had a fantasy about girls, the girl was so beautiful that I considered her/them as angels - above humans, Like I was a human, flesh and blood connecting with my match which is an angel as super human, so beautiful, perfect from head to toe, and I personally didn't think about smells or any thing of physical human nature, I did primarily looked at her lips because back then kissing her was my first natural attraction.
so a perfect, perfect angel angel and falling in love with lots of beautiful perfect girls was a daily thing especially when your very young and the girls are young as you, falling in love from pictures and magazines and television was also happening a lot.
🤯🤯🤯wow thanks a lot for sharing that mindset!
@@mynonleatherlifepuberty was hard xD
Your content is great
Thanks a lot!--apologies, the no thanks was a typo hahaha wow
Your long luscious hair just radiates so much adorable feminine energy, don't ever cut your hair Victoria! 😍
Thanks for the male gaze compliment peter🙏
13:34 I will say that I think what they mean by “options” is one of those blind spots for women too. I think that their of plenty of men who would want to sleep with a girl but just wanting to sleep with her doesn’t mean he’s actually open to opening up a genuine emotional bond and really building something.
I do think the will for that slowly does drop off with age with how men see women, even if he would wine dine sex and have validation from her being open to him in his life. There will be a steadily decreasing amount of men feeling open to the desire to make the woman like his “ride or die girl”. And I don’t think a lot of women realize that men can actually turn off access to their “In Love” feelings but still act like a loving caring confident man for her while kinda giving breadcrumbs because it’s convenient to keep the girl.
So that’s what those Red Pill guys are saying, not that they don’t have options of men who want to fuck around with them.
I think a summary of the male frame is that he is adaptable to circumstances and does not follow a script. Thereby he has status and demonstrates top tier behavior. In pursuit of this many men have to be open to learning and feeling unsure, so this is where the older man comes onto his own as opposed to the bad boy. Behavioral evidence such as confidence, well presented, stabile financials, non-dependence etc. are evidence of this. Great I can go back to my life now? I'm not allowed to be a puss when women are around basically.
Thanks for the insight Victoria. I grew up in a sheltered religious family in a small town and have recently moved to the city for schooling and now work. I'm finally away from my parents and developing as a person. Not to be arrogant but I think I possess the looks and attitude you describe that appeal to women (I look like a famous tiktoker allegedly who has a massive female following, I get told this all the time) but am so repressed sexually and have felt incredible shame and guilt in thinking about these topics.
Additionally I went to an all boys boarding school until college so I'm not privy to the social cues and dynamics. It has led me to being abrasive with women and infantilising them to an extent, for instance it didn't occur to me that they are also driven by subconsious primal desires and have blind spots that you've eloquently explained in your older videos. Your insight into the female psyche, the female gaze and their view of masculinity and male sexuality has been enlightening. I'm slowly working my way through your catalogue now and broadening my perspective. It's truly fascinating.
That’s amazing. Trust me you’re not alone. If you’re naturally great looking you probably have the same problems as the rest of guys which u put perfectly. But if you started bad looking and looksmaxxed to appeal to girls u prob have a better clue. So glad u r finding the view helpful!! Wonderful to hear
religion has and still serves a valuable role but we have to remember the hardcore cult stuff was a form of birth control before we had condoms and pills etc. not saying modern is better than tradition but this perspective may help.
We should by this woman a new camera so she does not need to film herself with a potato.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
38:05 My guess at the reason you get that idea of Present-to-the-moment or Not-trying so much from guys is because I think that’s our way of actually naturally acting like the Alpha man. The in love part doesn’t matter without the Alpha part. And if they try, they show “In Love” because that is when men’s attraction feels like, at least at temporarily. The crippling weight of desire and willingness to do whatever. But being willing to do whatever is also “submissive” and not alpha.
So it is literally that ‘hot-hands thing’. The ‘something’ that Johnathan does differently is probably that ‘look’, steadiness of stance, no reactive ness, but forward and intense that isn’t there when you look at a girl like she’s your dream.
Presence = Intensity for Men
But I imagine you picture like a zen master or something, which is also fair. Could also come off like that depending on how you do it.
Love u V
It seems that the thing that attracts women the most is humour. Do you think humour is learnable? If so, how can one learn it?
If only these live streams were saved, edited and uploaded as 10 minute videos. Very difficult to sit through almost 2hrs of information 😔
A five year old can't pay attention for 1 hour 40 minutes. Neither can the average randy male!
try tiktok
@@mynonleatherlife Funny!
Listen to her videos in the background when you're gaming. Problem solved
@@lazygam3r183I’m doing this while spinning out over and over doing time attack in assetto corsa
@@lazygam3r183or working if you can.
I love your content. Did you leave RUclips? I'd love to pick your brain on a lot of stuff you should make like an advice discord.
I do lives still now but the last one I took down
@@mynonleatherlife I have my bell set to always notify! New sub here
You mentioned avoidant traits as masculine. How can avoidance be masculine?
A women who feels like the man is open and seeing other women makes the man more attractive because when a man is locked in or infatuated he seems desperate and she feels like she is in control which they find boring or typical. Ignoring a women by appearing busy or mysterious makes the man more attractive because he's demonstrating that his actions in life are more important than she is which women know should be a man's priority.
Yeah it's lame but I dont make the rules
one mathematical thing about sexual partners is when someone said ‘the average for men is 6 whereas the average for women is 20+’ that can’t make sense cos every time a man and woman have sex that’s a tally on both sides so the mean average will be pretty much identical for heterosexual sex (not counting sex with people in different countries etc) - the median could be different cos it is unevenly distributed but probably not that different
Great point. Why do u assume the median is probably not that different tho. Couldn’t it be very different?
Not true. A few guys are getting way more women. Women will share the players.
he's saying the average would have to be equal but the median could be what you're saying@@NB-yu4lj
@@mynonleatherlife that was just a guess about the median not being that different- but I imagine its a fairly similar shaped bell curve for both men and women, maybe less female virgins - idk
@@dogsboneprototype7278 no, because women have way easier access to sexual partners than men , and women will share the players.
From your experience regardless of a woman's age, she always has someone who wants her. How about an older guy who still gets attraction from younger women Does that hold true , that they still see him as desirable? Or is he aged out at some point. I get that same over the hill feedback from guys my age who aren't getting that kind of interest and dismiss it as dillusional
Women won’t see u as aged out but they might see u a guy as looks-Ed out if u know what I mean or bad grooming-Ed out
I haven’t heard anyone talk about it but I’m maybe a bit under the age they might talk about it more. But I don’t think they’re too worried about it from the way I hear others talk!
why did you ignore my question about creepiness? any problem?
apologies for that rester inpeace. u always ask such good ones I need my full mental strength and i was so under the weather tonight I didn't have enough brain power tonight to do it justice.
@@mynonleatherlife No issues. I'd ask you next live. Take Care!
@@mynonleatherlife I figured that's the reason why you probably didn't answer my question this past weekend. Hope you get well soon🙏🏽
Yes sorry about that some questions were too deep lol but def required some energy and thought
u can always email it and i might answer if I have time@@Ko.is.pure.rap7
Hii what is your name
Women are kind of shy. Generolly speaking.
when it comes to sex yeh
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To answer your question about our perception of girls when we were teens, I used to find girls in my home city to fit in one of three major categories:
1. Manipulative girls who used their beauty to obtain sex and material advantages from any guy, because that happened quite often in my city and their reputation must have influenced other girls to do the same. Talking about girls between 13-18 years old.
2. Girls who are goal oriented, they get good grades, they study hard and are just nice to everyone.
3. I never found any girl like this but I always wanted to find "a mighty woman with a torch, whose flame is the imprisoned lightning, and her name, 《the mother of exiles》. Cries she with silent lips 《 Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, the wretched refuse of the teeming shore. Send these, tempest-tost to me.》" Basically someone who could help me heal physically from competitions and mentally from arguments or just stress. I find Emma Lazarus' poem to paint a pretty good picture of what I had envisioned.