@@Rachelle-cl6mn She said she was bold and honest. We can only take her at her word. She can't provide context bc she's ignorant of the subject. She certainly isn't fearful based on her self-description. And not taking accountability is not based on gender.
@@Rachelle-cl6mn Why are black women "masculine" though? Can it possibly be because we have to do everything? Having to perform all the roles with no help, no breaks doesn't allow for "soft" & "feminine" characteristics.
Because that’s where the money is, don’t you get it? There’s a major marketing scheme to piss off black women. The more attention you give them the more there ratings go up= more revenue for them! I’m surprised y’all still haven’t caught on to that after all these years!
I’m shocked that even the hosts were cringing as she spewed her BS😅 Anyway, hope black women continue to drink our water, and elevate in 2024 and beyond. The toxics and preferences can continue with their podcasts.
@@thickthickly he did but for most of the clip him and everyone else looked visibly uncomfortable like “are you sure you want to say that”. They knew there would be backlash the other guy tried to throw her a bone when he asked why she thinks they are that way maybe to get her to dive deeper. She was too slow to catch on
I don’t care if alot of black men don’t prefer black women. JUST LEAVE US ALONE ! Also before anyone claims I’m anti black men, I’m with a black man but I understand that most black men don’t prefer black women especially dark skin black women.
It's all ways controversial whenever black woman withdraw their support of dusty's. However, it is socially acceptable for them to show their hate towards us go figure.
That statement isn't anti-Black, the only pushback I'll give if you see that way,is that racial preferences don't make sense unless you are talking about your own group. To have a racial preference for groups not your own implies a person has an aberrant understanding of race and race relationships.
Most of the counterpoints that suggest most black men are with black women are disingenuous too cause they knowingly withhold the colorism within those statistics. In India and other select parts of south asia, the caste system plays this exact same role. 15% of those in India are part of the top of the system, yet close to 100% of Indians who go abroad and just generally in the media are representative of that 15%. Take Kamala Harris and Vivek Ramaswamy for example. Colorism is why during the slave trade in the united states, ls women (&men) often did less physically demanding labour conpared to their ds peers.
As a “soft” bw it doesn’t matter what you are. Just be yourself and continue to go through life not caring🤷🏽♀️. Me “not winning” is not stopping my growth success, and romance life. They can have the single motherhood statics etc. Dig themselves in a hole.
Notice the space she's in and it tells you exactly why she felt the need unprompted to bring up black women, the guys think this is a commentary on black women when it's really yet another example of black men giving non-black women the space to feel comfortable in their disrespect.
You know how some people just LOOK slow? Yeah, she’s one of them folk. I don’t believe the compliments she gave. She just wanted to say what she said without backlash. Stand 10 toes down if you’re so bold enough to say what you said.
Define “winning”? “Winning” is peace, “winning” is navigating your way through life without anxiety, without trauma, without drama. “Winning” is being free to create as you see fit and not having to drag a lower minded individual through life or having to coax an un-evolved human to try to meet you at your level. That’s winning. Being “chosen” by a group of men who devalues a specific group of women does not mean you’re winning. Honey, you are losing 💀😂 Many preferences (if it doesn’t apply, let it fly) think that they are winning when they are just punching bags painted gold. When they bust it open, it looks just like everybody else’s.
*If black women weren’t winning 🏆, why are we the topic of conversation? At the end of the day, we set the tone & decide what’s in & everyone pretends like we didn’t give them the script to read off.*
It’s a marketing scheme! Yes, what you said is true but there is money in trying to piss off black women! The more you engage and react to their podcasts/ lives the more revenue it brings to their businesses, just stop responding and they will slowly stop making you the target.
I actually don’t even think she thinks that we have the best bodies or faces, I think that she said that to be able to slide that comment in there 😅 it’s backhanded. So please don’t eat that up ladies, she was being nasty all the way around. I’m not even going to waste any time on responding because I know what this is. They won’t get me in 2024. “YOU CANNOT TRICK ME!” 😂
I mean, when I look back at music videos from the 90s, or vintage photos from the 20s-50s...black women had beautiful figures. So, she may not be lying about that part.
@@brittneywitherspoon8530 Oh black women definitely reign supreme over here but I’m not giving miss girl that much credit. When people want to be nasty they try and dress it up. The “compliment” distracts you so that you miss the insult.
Whether she was lying about that or not, personally I know bw are gorgeous. Other women are literally going through procedures to get the look we naturally have. Plus we age better then most 🤷🏾♀️👸🏿
Thanks for bringing up Courtney Clenney. Her boyfriend was being abused and beaten up by a porn star but he was trashing black women. See how he never criticized white women and never put them in a box as aggressive despite being abused by a white woman.
Alright, so let us all start being "soft" and watch how much people are gonna be pissed cause we won't be muling for their asses anymore. Watch them beg us to be "strong" again 😂
Chile they be mad ok 😂. What you're not going to mule for me in this relationship. You're not going to chase me and destroy your peace for me. Nope! They mad asf 😂
BW are always minding their business and not bothering anybody and yet our names are always in somebody’s mouth. A lot of people are obsessed with BW but I can understand why because we are dope and we are the blueprint! Also, shout out to Cyn G because these preferences do get the same BM!
@@candyxoxI heard it a was a very pressed pc woman who was jealous of our Cyn and took her down. I wonder why bw haven't found out who she is, and got her fired like they do bw..bw find out everything else🤔.
Do y’all not understand this is a marketing strategy? There is money in trying to piss off and get a reaction out of black women because society knows that we are easily triggered! The more you react and respond to there podcasts, the more revenue for them!
So anyway…Eloho I am really excited because I’m working my first salaried high paying position in my career. I look forward to continuing to elevate this year and I look forward to marrying my man soon. The rest of yall continue to have a beautiful evening. Continue to turn the pot by showing up with love for God, then YOU, and after everyone else…grow your own brand, and dare to be audacious. With love, Another Black woman
@Coco-uk9tv I don't think so, we tend to have fewer problems with weight than white people, if we use the stats around the globe. The UK and the US are the only countries seeing an exponential rise in obesity within our group.
Yep that's why we don't look for external validation in a world that took us from our thrones as god (with force) and threw us to the bottom of society's anti black patriarchal system. We validate ourselves and educate ourselves, check out the book, great cosmic mother, and search for the sybils from Africa to learn more
And anytime I see someone try to explain how a women being masculine it’s usually because she pays her own bills, has her own career, loud……🤔liiiike things never add up & it never will. Had a dude ask me if I was submissive & soft type, I asked him to explain what submissive is & he said “if I ask who’s in control what you gonna say?” Like that’s literally all it boils down too is if a man can control every aspect of a women’s life & if she doesn’t comply by it then she’s “masculine”. Blocked him immediately after letting him know no one owns me & leading & controlling are two different things 🤦🏽♀️
Lol 😂… men are tripping out here. A man once told me I needed to be nicer to him. I asked him when was I ever mean… he gave me an example of when I disagreed with something he said 😂. Gurl I busted out laughing. So I have to agree with everything he says or I’m not nice. I should just say yes master and nod at everything he does 😂😂😂. I told him he got the wrong girl. My mama didn’t raise no dummy.
No, leadership involves control. He doesn't even need to ask if you're soft and submissive, because y'all gaslight and deflect on that question. All he needed to ask is do you love and respect your father?
Black women are soft and even more so when in the company of those they can trust, feel vulnerable, feel loved, appreciated, and wanted. The problem is many black men cannot provide this not just to black women but many women period. I pray my beautiful Queens find fulfilling love from someone that loves and appreciates them regardless of the color.
Oh yeah, I live in Maryland. Yes, there are many black men that provide and have beautiful families in Maryland, but it's not the majority and you know it. The amount in Maryland is less than 1% of what we are talking about in regard to our entire country. @@djholidaytv414
@@djholidaytv414 That's your problem. You think money is the be all and end all. It doesn't matter where you live, rich or poor neighborhood, if you only focused on money and your character ain't right, you are no good. You could have as much money as Trump and have 20 houses, if you come home and act a fool with your woman, disrespecting her, not valuing her or her contributions to the relationship, ignoring her, shouting at her, embarrassing her, treating her like she is nothing because you only value money and she doesn't earn as much as you, then you are doing nothing of any significance for the actual relationship to ensure you are both happy together. So what if your house is in a posh place, ghettos have happy couples, it's worse that you have one less thing to worry about as a couple and don't put that extra energy into making each other happy
Us black women don't look at life as a competition, we look at life as a journey bettering ourselves along the way, much love, peace, and respect to my black sisters all over the world. 💕
Blk women keep doing what’s best for you, keep getting those degrees, creating those businesses, having generational wealth, living a soft luxurious lifestyle, travel, date, don’t date, write books, live amongst the moon and the stars
This is a weird question to me. Do people outside of hetero relationships _not_ seek validation from those they’re attracted to/want to romantically pair with?
@@EchoJ don’t listen to these people “61% of bisexual women and 44% of lesbian women surveyed in 2013 reported some type of intimate partner violence (IPV) compared to 35% of straight women.” They should clean their own backyards first before talking on others🥂
Always been. Didn’t white women get our natural hair banned in many places? I remember at one point they hated our lips, curves, and natural shapes. Now they’re doing anything they possibly can to look like us.
my wife and I work out in the park and you should see the way white women look at her 😂. overflowing jealousy and the white men try hard not to stare at her. Yall are queens keep that crown high
Yes, I literally can't go out with my black husband without a white woman dripping in envy as if I stole what belongs to HER. And they're extra baffled because I rock my afro, as they believe they're the standard of beauty. I can't make this up.
@@LiveEventsTV_ everything she’s talking about alludes to an assumption about black men and my comments were based directly on said assumption….which the person who made this video spoke about.
I struggle to comprehend this ideology that associates a person's character or personality with their skin complexion. As a black woman, I empathize with the challenges many of us face due to societal norms. It's disheartening that some individuals, despite our diverse actions, perpetuate preferences based solely on skin color. Our actions define us, not our skin tone. My skin's primary function is to safeguard my organs, not dictate my character or the choices I make as an individual. Those aspects are shaped by my actions, values, and experiences. The "soft life" isn't for everyone, regardless of race or color-be it black, white, Asian, or any hue. It seems like this idea isn't original to her; I'm quite certain she heard it from a black man and is repeating it.
me being “soft” was the worse mistake i ever made. not sticking up for myself, being more vulnerable, taking advice from other people on the direction of my life and listening and allowing other peoples opinions to penetrate my mind literally put me in the worse state of my life. Just turned 23 and im trying my best to develop strength back up by myself but its hard but i will get through it sooner than later. NOBODY will save us we need to save ourselves.
What’s crazy is a lot of these preferences try to act like black women and stereotype that “black sass” (ie: the hand claps, eye rolling, etc.) Like you said it’s “cute” when they do it but we’re expected to be docile and meek in demeanor?! I never want to be like someone I feel I have to keep critiquing. The obsession is real. Like please leave us and everything about us alone.
I’m almost jumped through this phone hearing this trick! Black women have not been afforded a SOFT life so there’s that! We are not hard or angry we are freaking tired so yes you will get the stern attitude because the real world is not kind to us so we have to fight and go through life with our head held high in the midst of it all!
The fact that these people can’t get traction until they talk about Black women…. Yes, we are winning. Tobi played himself but he deserves justice. That poor excuse of a human he called his girlfriend deserves to be behind bars forever!
And it’s up to his family to petition the US justice system to secure those things for him. To each her own, but imo BW (the original social justice warrior) should be engaged in that battle at the same level that Mr. Obumseli engaged with us during his life. 😌
When women of other races are masculine, men dont see them as a threat because they dont see them as powerful. For Blk women, the saying goes "those who dont like you, know your power!"
I Do Believe That(We) BW can Be More Softer! Once we’re Allowed to strive and thrive In A Softer Environment. 🤷🏽♀️ It’s 2024 I have Nothing Left for Bm and their significant others! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Kudos to Them💅🏾
To be soft, you need to be able to rest in your femininity. You need strong male role models, protection, resources and safe spaces, to allow that to happen.
BW we just need to stop giving our energy to these conversations. This shit ain't new!!! Watch how powerful Idgf is and keep them out the hive.... No access! Bw protect our own protect our peace and energy.... no access no response no energy.
The fact she really thought she ate in that interview. 🙄 sadly this is how alot of non black women feel about us black women especially the ones who date/marry to black men. Notice the black men didn't drag her but if it was a black woman saying that about non black women those black men would have dragged her to no end on that interview.
I'm just here minding my business, working and school. And every time I come online someone has something negative to say about me and my fellow beautiful black sisters. It is honestly fucking exhausting.
We would be winning if we had better control over how we are Perceived in society and hold men accountable when they bash us when they turn their backs on us.
Listen, bm have tried to tarnish our image because they want the world to think we are the issue and to try to get the spot light off their behavior. The only thing we can do is just keep being who we are, mind our business, separate from bm, and let the world see who the problem is. I think that's the only thing we can control. Some will like us, others won't, and we can do absolutely nothing about it.
I'm just tired of people thinking black women give a damn what they think. I don't bother anyone and just trying to live my life. I wish they would do the same. These preferences get treated horribly by black men, but I guess they'd rather not talk about that. Let me mind my single business 💅
I'm trying to figure out how she can say black women should be a little soft.... When black women are getting killed, sex trafficking and getting kidnapped, plus drugged. Still being soft and kind and still up dying 🕊🕊❤🕊🕊
I've heard others say that before. However she's not going into depth as to why we're perceived rough. There are so many nuances to this. One of them involves the fact that bw have been through what many others haven't for generations.
It’s also insulting because she acts like there’s only ONE type of black woman. I like Japanese “kawaii” things, I wear a lot of pink, and I love dresses. I’m quiet and introverted and mind my own business. Most of us are just regular ass black woman. We’re not all crack whores out fighting in the streets or something.
Preferences understand that Black men will utilize nonsensical comparisons to put down Black women in the name of elevating non Black women. They may or may not be cognizant to it, but they're aware of the spoken and unspoken rhetoric (e.g., the gentleman who died at the hands of his preference). It's used as a dog whistle to signal that they're "submissive, soft, fit" whatever the tropes these days. That's why she was confused, yet double downed, when she was met with silence and a single follow up question, but was not checked, corrected, put in her place, or told to keep the back handed compliment. Those podcasts have specific and particular women sitting on couches with them for a reason. To go in the first place shows where and how she thinks. If you're a non Black woman and want to tell a Black man to pick you, the easy route is to participate in the attack on Black women.
I literally thank God I am 100% black! I wouldn’t want it any other way even though it’s hard at times. Us black women are beautiful, smart, creative, hard working and I love us!
We are The Most High, Yahweh's Original woman,...It's BIBLICALLY and SCIENTIFICALLY proven that a dark skinned African woman is the mother of all ethnicities,..it's SCIENTIFICALLY proven That Black women are the ONLY women who possess the Eve gene,...Yes,..Human existence started with us. So we won EONs ago!! ...and let me tell ANYBODY,..i too wouldn't trade being a Black woman for NOTHINGGG on Planet Earth!! Shalom!!
@@ghost99100our attitudes hasn’t stopped anything. Bw are doing good in the black community and compared to other races with home ownership, degrees, and so on.
I would love to help young women be more lady like. When you grow up in a bad neighborhood they don’t even realize it. Us American Blk women have been thru a lot generational. The media also harms our growth as Blk women
Not trying to argue, but what exactly is being more “lady like” and who does being, “lady like” benefit? We never hear people ask males to be more “gentleman like”.
@@so.many.obstacles well where I’m from 14 year olds are fighting , yelling , stealing , twerking in house shoes in the street. Being more lady like is a benefit in society because you can have a positive conversation and able to be in different crowds .
She can’t articulate her thoughts because they’re not her thoughts 💭
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Facts 😂
@@Rachelle-cl6mn She said she was bold and honest. We can only take her at her word. She can't provide context bc she's ignorant of the subject. She certainly isn't fearful based on her self-description. And not taking accountability is not based on gender.
Oop..
@@Rachelle-cl6mn Why are black women "masculine" though? Can it possibly be because we have to do everything? Having to perform all the roles with no help, no breaks doesn't allow for "soft" & "feminine" characteristics.
How can you say black women need to be softer but you can’t explain what “soft” is? The elevator doesn’t go to the top floor
that’s what im saying lol
Because to her 4C and dark skin isn’t soft.
@@Strawberrynovacane that's it, that's all
you know what she means though
@@Strawberrynovacane‼️
Why Do People Feel The Need To Constantly Bring Up Black Woman, We Really Out Here Minding The Business That Pays Us.
Because theyre obsessed hunny ❤
Because that’s where the money is, don’t you get it? There’s a major marketing scheme to piss off black women. The more attention you give them the more there ratings go up= more revenue for them! I’m surprised y’all still haven’t caught on to that after all these years!
It shows our power babes. We on their mind while we mind our business. Let us stay winning ❤
Because we won't ignore them when they do 🤷🏾♀️
@@theodorafynGetting mentioned by losers isn't winning. When I'm on vacation and see women that look like me thats winning.
The way black women can simply just mind their own business and have these preferences PRESSED is crazy.
WORD💯
And that’s why black women ARE winning 🥇 🏆
they’re really obsessed with us 😂😭
We are pressure! Pressure makes diamonds
RIGHT???!!!!!!
I’m shocked that even the hosts were cringing as she spewed her BS😅 Anyway, hope black women continue to drink our water, and elevate in 2024 and beyond. The toxics and preferences can continue with their podcasts.
No they weren't. That man literally said he agreed with her.
@@thickthickly he did but for most of the clip him and everyone else looked visibly uncomfortable like “are you sure you want to say that”. They knew there would be backlash the other guy tried to throw her a bone when he asked why she thinks they are that way maybe to get her to dive deeper. She was too slow to catch on
Yes, just continue to hydrate because after leaving Mexico 🇲🇽 month, my skin looks amazing.
They should have asked her to leave or tell her culture isn’t always soft either
@@acestarone They really are and they’re known to be the spicy hot Latinas with somehow there seen a softer the Erica Mena Cardi B OK
If she was really “soft” she’d be confident enough to not talk down on other women in the first place
lol ppl miss the part where confident or decent ppl don’t feel the need or even find it appropriate to demean or speak negatively on people
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Big Facts! She's clearly insecure
Exactly. Once she saw their mannerisms were validating her...she felt comfy, " im just honest, sorry." ....smh
Fr women who *are in their feminine energy won’t let other women be bashed gratuitously or to make them feel more important.
Yea she was giving mannish. And I don’t think anyone is winning unless you own the car you drive and own the home you live in 🤷🏾♀️
I don’t care if alot of black men don’t prefer black women. JUST LEAVE US ALONE ! Also before anyone claims I’m anti black men, I’m with a black man but I understand that most black men don’t prefer black women especially dark skin black women.
It's all ways controversial whenever black woman withdraw their support of dusty's. However, it is socially acceptable for them to show their hate towards us go figure.
That statement isn't anti-Black, the only pushback I'll give if you see that way,is that racial preferences don't make sense unless you are talking about your own group.
To have a racial preference for groups not your own implies a person has an aberrant understanding of race and race relationships.
Stats say otherwise but ok…
@@niagambino1714I can’t tell
Most of the counterpoints that suggest most black men are with black women are disingenuous too cause they knowingly withhold the colorism within those statistics. In India and other select parts of south asia, the caste system plays this exact same role. 15% of those in India are part of the top of the system, yet close to 100% of Indians who go abroad and just generally in the media are representative of that 15%. Take Kamala Harris and Vivek Ramaswamy for example. Colorism is why during the slave trade in the united states, ls women (&men) often did less physically demanding labour conpared to their ds peers.
Truth is I'm tired!!!!! The Black Women Collective said we do not care!!!!!🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣
Say it louder for those in the back lol
Facts. I'm trying to figure out why ppl love to discuss black women so much. It's giving "envious on the low".
@@sigmasiren7 They want to be us.
@@sigmasiren7 They want to be us.
As a “soft” bw it doesn’t matter what you are. Just be yourself and continue to go through life not caring🤷🏽♀️. Me “not winning” is not stopping my growth success, and romance life. They can have the single motherhood statics etc. Dig themselves in a hole.
Notice the space she's in and it tells you exactly why she felt the need unprompted to bring up black women, the guys think this is a commentary on black women when it's really yet another example of black men giving non-black women the space to feel comfortable in their disrespect.
Exactly! The bm brought her on there to throw shade to 'humble' bw. Well the coming election is going to humble a lot of these broke dudes!
@_01140_that light skin woman is definitely mixed
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Say it again
Absolutely
People be saying the wildest things with complete confidence 💀
Cus theres never any consequences.
Yeah, like BW
Ignorance is bliss🤣🤣
@@KtotheGyou look goofy in that pic
@@thebadkids2320 You mad?
You know how some people just LOOK slow? Yeah, she’s one of them folk. I don’t believe the compliments she gave. She just wanted to say what she said without backlash. Stand 10 toes down if you’re so bold enough to say what you said.
My grandma used to say ppl looked slow🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Byyyeeeeee 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
100%
Define “winning”? “Winning” is peace, “winning” is navigating your way through life without anxiety, without trauma, without drama. “Winning” is being free to create as you see fit and not having to drag a lower minded individual through life or having to coax an un-evolved human to try to meet you at your level. That’s winning. Being “chosen” by a group of men who devalues a specific group of women does not mean you’re winning. Honey, you are losing 💀😂 Many preferences (if it doesn’t apply, let it fly) think that they are winning when they are just punching bags painted gold. When they bust it open, it looks just like everybody else’s.
Why did I read your comment with a Maya Angelou voice? 😂
Yep exactly 👍
When the bag bursts, it's *Dust* 💨💨
This needs to be pinned 👏🏽💯
You cooked with this comment , nothing but facts 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🖤
Everything she says means nothing. Especially the fact shes on a podcast bro couch. Black women are FOREVER WINNING 👸🏽👸🏾👸🏿
Astronomically
That first sentence is so powerful. I really need to adopt that mentally when people like her open their mouths. Thank you sis!!!
@@FIREcrochethairstyles👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Always 💁🏾♀️
@@hsny76h4l9 To what? You want to have a conversation be more specific.
Even we influence the gay community…
*If black women weren’t winning 🏆, why are we the topic of conversation? At the end of the day, we set the tone & decide what’s in & everyone pretends like we didn’t give them the script to read off.*
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It’s a marketing scheme! Yes, what you said is true but there is money in trying to piss off black women! The more you engage and react to their podcasts/ lives the more revenue it brings to their businesses, just stop responding and they will slowly stop making you the target.
Yup right on the money
@@localobarez980Thank you. The truth is Black Women cannot shut up, that's the problem.
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I actually don’t even think she thinks that we have the best bodies or faces, I think that she said that to be able to slide that comment in there 😅 it’s backhanded. So please don’t eat that up ladies, she was being nasty all the way around. I’m not even going to waste any time on responding because I know what this is. They won’t get me in 2024. “YOU CANNOT TRICK ME!” 😂
I agree and that little chuckle 😒
I literally just wrote that. She was trying to be funny with that fake compliment
I mean, when I look back at music videos from the 90s, or vintage photos from the 20s-50s...black women had beautiful figures. So, she may not be lying about that part.
@@brittneywitherspoon8530 Oh black women definitely reign supreme over here but I’m not giving miss girl that much credit. When people want to be nasty they try and dress it up. The “compliment” distracts you so that you miss the insult.
Whether she was lying about that or not, personally I know bw are gorgeous. Other women are literally going through procedures to get the look we naturally have. Plus we age better then most 🤷🏾♀️👸🏿
Can people leave us Black women alone ? We don't care
They never going to stop their obsessed
Lord
WE REALLY DGAF
That's actually the problem. They don't let us live.
Complete cap
Grandfather always said, “if people aren’t talking about you, you ain’t not doing something right.” ☺️
"If you ain't got no hatazs, you ain't poppin' " 💃🏾 🎶 😂
Girl my biggest hater is the devil if people was hating I would not see it@@sigmasiren7
🤣😭 Keep them mad.
She generalizes. There are many "tough" non-blk women.
Exactly
It's tough women in other races too It's wild to me that people think only black women are masculine!!
Yep! And they never want to talk about the Asian ones who have the myth of being the most submissive.
@@LoveK1Jenny Mai
Tough and tough looking
I... what prize are we supposed to be fighting for again?
That's what I wanna know. Ppl who compete for nothing are competing for self-esteem.
There's no prize to be had in Blackity Blackistan...
Crumbs… trash… STRUGGLE
@@nameunknown1519 🤣
That's the question!
Black women literally existing: 👸🏿
Everyone else: 🤬👹🗣😡👿‼
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Facts!!
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Best comment
delusional
Thanks for bringing up Courtney Clenney.
Her boyfriend was being abused and beaten up by a porn star but he was trashing black women.
See how he never criticized white women and never put them in a box as aggressive despite being abused by a white woman.
Lol some of these ninjas are a joke.
Exactly! And how about the long list of the original Karens who have had BM hung, maimed, and sent to prison. They are delusional. Smh.
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White is seen as “perfect” no matter what in the eyes of black men
And we have yet to hear an update on this case, I bet she’s going to get off east like they always do, not a black woman’s problem🤷♀️
There's a viral video rn of a Black male and non Black female living in a storage unit. 😐 If that's what Black women will win, they can keep it.
I so badly wanted that to be satire but alas
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I saw that. I laughed my ass off. That’s the soft lifestyle I guess 😂
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We would be the wining race if we let go of what doesn’t want us and truly live and enjoy life
Best comment.
It is a freedom unheard of should one choose to take such measures.
Yes🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
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Hi fellow black women, love who loves you. We don’t need to listen to this foolishness.
The way everyone attacks black women is sad. Like leave us alone!!!
It really is sad. The things that some black men say about us… and their mothers are black too but they don’t care.
It’s because they want to be us so bad.
Girl they can't and I want to know why
Stop resenting the law of attraction
@@belle3055The things you say about BM and your dads are black
Alright, so let us all start being "soft" and watch how much people are gonna be pissed cause we won't be muling for their asses anymore. Watch them beg us to be "strong" again 😂
Totally agree, this is my experience now that I’m softer
Right!
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That shouldn't deter us from being softer! 😄
Chile they be mad ok 😂. What you're not going to mule for me in this relationship. You're not going to chase me and destroy your peace for me. Nope! They mad asf 😂
And of course, there isn't any black women on the podcast to dispute any talking points. We live in their heads rent free 💅🏾
Gurl with maids and a monthly allowance😂
RENT FREEEEEEE
Even if there were they would try to deflect and manipulate. Convincing these fools otherwise is a waste of time.
Refuting the truth just makes you in denial and it's sad sight to see
@@KtotheG Which truth? The truth is there were no black women on there to dispute these so called 'truths'.
BW are always minding their business and not bothering anybody and yet our names are always in somebody’s mouth. A lot of people are obsessed with BW but I can understand why because we are dope and we are the blueprint! Also, shout out to Cyn G because these preferences do get the same BM!
This !!!
I miss Cyn on RUclips but I do follow her on patreon
@@candyxoxI heard it a was a very pressed pc woman who was jealous of our Cyn and took her down. I wonder why bw haven't found out who she is, and got her fired like they do bw..bw find out everything else🤔.
Do y’all not understand this is a marketing strategy? There is money in trying to piss off and get a reaction out of black women because society knows that we are easily triggered! The more you react and respond to there podcasts, the more revenue for them!
@@CCLL-ok5onthe revolution will not be televised
So anyway…Eloho I am really excited because I’m working my first salaried high paying position in my career. I look forward to continuing to elevate this year and I look forward to marrying my man soon. The rest of yall continue to have a beautiful evening. Continue to turn the pot by showing up with love for God, then YOU, and after everyone else…grow your own brand, and dare to be audacious.
With love,
Another Black woman
Go girl ❤ you winning
Congrats sis!!! Proud of you and happy for you!🎉❤
Congratulations 🎊 I wish you the best this year and beyond ❤
Yes! Beautiful! I love seeing my sisters excel. THIS is winning. ❤
Yes Sis! So proud of you! You are definitely winning. Keep going!!!!!❤❤❤
Bless her heart. Let her get a BM and find out how we got so “hard”
Lol.....
lol 🥲🫶🏾
Facts!
This!!
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Black women are winning, first we are God's daughters. Second, we age the best and third.. we're burning the cape! Stay lovey ladies
Yes. Bw dominate and build system. We win because we are matriarchal! I love you sis.
I love this moment we are gods manifestion peridot only the bw can recreate (other races) it's time people started accepting that
@Coco-uk9tv I don't think so, we tend to have fewer problems with weight than white people, if we use the stats around the globe. The UK and the US are the only countries seeing an exponential rise in obesity within our group.
Amen!!!!! Speak on it!!!
@@Coco-uk9tvummm you can’t like every black woman is overweight/obese. Every race is overweight/obese in this country. Sooooo next!!!!!!…..
Okay girl, you stay over there with your softness and winning the same BM
I just feel like no matter what we do as black women we’ll always be demeaned and criticized .
And we can’t let it affect how we view ourselves, that’s how we stay winning
Yep that's why we don't look for external validation in a world that took us from our thrones as god (with force) and threw us to the bottom of society's anti black patriarchal system. We validate ourselves and educate ourselves, check out the book, great cosmic mother, and search for the sybils from Africa to learn more
It's seems like everyone is obsessed with us black women. Here in this world
@@ReviewwattpadbokLook very much so
@@theodorafyn amen !
And anytime I see someone try to explain how a women being masculine it’s usually because she pays her own bills, has her own career, loud……🤔liiiike things never add up & it never will.
Had a dude ask me if I was submissive & soft type, I asked him to explain what submissive is & he said “if I ask who’s in control what you gonna say?” Like that’s literally all it boils down too is if a man can control every aspect of a women’s life & if she doesn’t comply by it then she’s “masculine”. Blocked him immediately after letting him know no one owns me & leading & controlling are two different things 🤦🏽♀️
Lol 😂… men are tripping out here. A man once told me I needed to be nicer to him. I asked him when was I ever mean… he gave me an example of when I disagreed with something he said 😂. Gurl I busted out laughing. So I have to agree with everything he says or I’m not nice. I should just say yes master and nod at everything he does 😂😂😂.
I told him he got the wrong girl. My mama didn’t raise no dummy.
@@djholidaytv414It ain't a slave of a slave that's for sure🤪
No, leadership involves control. He doesn't even need to ask if you're soft and submissive, because y'all gaslight and deflect on that question. All he needed to ask is do you love and respect your father?
@@KtotheGWhat does loving and respecting your father have to do with being controlled by your partner?
Black women are soft and even more so when in the company of those they can trust, feel vulnerable, feel loved, appreciated, and wanted. The problem is many black men cannot provide this not just to black women but many women period. I pray my beautiful Queens find fulfilling love from someone that loves and appreciates them regardless of the color.
The whole world sees how "our male counterparts " behave and it is embarrassing to share anything in common with those... things
Oh yeah, I live in Maryland. Yes, there are many black men that provide and have beautiful families in Maryland, but it's not the majority and you know it. The amount in Maryland is less than 1% of what we are talking about in regard to our entire country. @@djholidaytv414
@@djholidaytv414
That's your problem. You think money is the be all and end all. It doesn't matter where you live, rich or poor neighborhood, if you only focused on money and your character ain't right, you are no good. You could have as much money as Trump and have 20 houses, if you come home and act a fool with your woman, disrespecting her, not valuing her or her contributions to the relationship, ignoring her, shouting at her, embarrassing her, treating her like she is nothing because you only value money and she doesn't earn as much as you, then you are doing nothing of any significance for the actual relationship to ensure you are both happy together. So what if your house is in a posh place, ghettos have happy couples, it's worse that you have one less thing to worry about as a couple and don't put that extra energy into making each other happy
@@djholidaytv414Sir, every state ain't Maryland and every bm living in Maryland ain't a rich man. The dust is global.
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Us black women don't look at life as a competition, we look at life as a journey bettering ourselves along the way, much love, peace, and respect to my black sisters all over the world. 💕
💯!!! They are in a competition. We just show up lol
This👍👏👏
@kinky.hair.academy3641 A competition they never will win
@@malikawilson7071Without even breaking a nail.
We are the winning race
The Blueprint to be exact 😊
@@invisiblerevolution youmapangpang
The way we literally live rent free in everyone’s heads!!!🥴🤦🏾♀️
Blk women keep doing what’s best for you, keep getting those degrees, creating those businesses, having generational wealth, living a soft luxurious lifestyle, travel, date, don’t date, write books, live amongst the moon and the stars
@@TheMPExperienceprobably because a lot of blk wmn have made too many mistakes & have too many kids.
@@TheMPExperiencethis statement is anti black.
@@TheMPExperiencethis isn’t true. Every black woman I know is middle to upper middle class. Change your location and get out of that STRUGGLE mindset.
@@sinceresinclairAnd struggle love with bandits. Choose you from now on.
At one point they were saying we get too many degrees and saying education didn’t mean anything. Definitely a lot of jealousy towards bw
Why does being in a heterosexual relationship inherently equate to “winning”?
It means being chosen/picked. And that is seen as a status symbol
This is a weird question to me.
Do people outside of hetero relationships _not_ seek validation from those they’re attracted to/want to romantically pair with?
@@EchoJno we don’t, we get that from ourselves, you know within 😂
@@Lisette121😭😭😭
@@EchoJ don’t listen to these people “61% of bisexual women and 44% of lesbian women surveyed in 2013 reported some type of intimate partner violence (IPV) compared to 35% of straight women.” They should clean their own backyards first before talking on others🥂
So there's a competition we didn't know😂😂😂😂😂😂
That part!! Smh
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Always is 😂😂
Always been. Didn’t white women get our natural hair banned in many places? I remember at one point they hated our lips, curves, and natural shapes. Now they’re doing anything they possibly can to look like us.
Lord how I rolled my eyes at the title
Like....seriously? For real? Ugh
@@airenlorraine I rolled my eyes so hard, I damn near gave myself a migraine.
😂@@sicksadworld6221 🤦🏾♀
Still waiting for black women to start paying attention & dating out. Because don’t get it twisted she 100% got that message from a BM. * As stated
They won't let us get a full axx month into the year, without mentioning BW. 😂
Not 5 whole minutes 😂😂😂
Right??? We are only on day 17 of the new year 🤣🤣
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my wife and I work out in the park and you should see the way white women look at her 😂. overflowing jealousy and the white men try hard not to stare at her. Yall are queens keep that crown high
I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. It happens on a reg. basis
Good for you and your wife staying active together 👏🏾
Yes, I literally can't go out with my black husband without a white woman dripping in envy as if I stole what belongs to HER. And they're extra baffled because I rock my afro, as they believe they're the standard of beauty. I can't make this up.
HEAVY ON “Y’ALL GET THE SAME BLACK MEN”. So like you’re saying what are we winning ? The men that hate us ?!?! Lmao chiiiiiiiile
BM MARRY BW MOST ///WE Don't Need to
@@MojoeHartyou notice your comment didn't get any likes even though it's common sense? This is why black women stay losing
She said nothing about black men but y’all hate BM so much just to make it about downing BM…🤦🏽♂️
@@LiveEventsTV_ everything she’s talking about alludes to an assumption about black men and my comments were based directly on said assumption….which the person who made this video spoke about.
BM On the PANEL @@LiveEventsTV_
I struggle to comprehend this ideology that associates a person's character or personality with their skin complexion. As a black woman, I empathize with the challenges many of us face due to societal norms. It's disheartening that some individuals, despite our diverse actions, perpetuate preferences based solely on skin color. Our actions define us, not our skin tone. My skin's primary function is to safeguard my organs, not dictate my character or the choices I make as an individual. Those aspects are shaped by my actions, values, and experiences.
The "soft life" isn't for everyone, regardless of race or color-be it black, white, Asian, or any hue. It seems like this idea isn't original to her; I'm quite certain she heard it from a black man and is repeating it.
She said black women are winning, but then says we are not winning…. 🤣🤣🤣 Sit down girl.
Here we go with these type of podcasts 🤦🏾♀️
People can’t keep us out there mouths
BW are always winning because we aren’t soft
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The sense is not making sense 😤
@@yellej3314 it’s really giving projecting
me being “soft” was the worse mistake i ever made. not sticking up for myself, being more vulnerable, taking advice from other people on the direction of my life and listening and allowing other peoples opinions to penetrate my mind literally put me in the worse state of my life. Just turned 23 and im trying my best to develop strength back up by myself but its hard but i will get through it sooner than later.
NOBODY will save us we need to save ourselves.
Truth
What’s crazy is a lot of these preferences try to act like black women and stereotype that “black sass” (ie: the hand claps, eye rolling, etc.) Like you said it’s “cute” when they do it but we’re expected to be docile and meek in demeanor?! I never want to be like someone I feel I have to keep critiquing. The obsession is real. Like please leave us and everything about us alone.
This!!
And that’s exactlyyy what I was thinking every time the girl in the video kept saying “yo” 🙄😂
I’m almost jumped through this phone hearing this trick! Black women have not been afforded a SOFT life so there’s that! We are not hard or angry we are freaking tired so yes you will get the stern attitude because the real world is not kind to us so we have to fight and go through life with our head held high in the midst of it all!
Talk that talk sis!!
Black women may not be soft but our men are!! 🥴🙊
Yea cuz you saw how none of them stopped her. But it’s clear bm told her this
@@MsJonesssswhere's the proof black men told her that? Or is this a coping statement?
Black men are soft? And yet they are more sort after than their women according to the numbers.
The fact that these people can’t get traction until they talk about Black women…. Yes, we are winning. Tobi played himself but he deserves justice. That poor excuse of a human he called his girlfriend deserves to be behind bars forever!
Not my business chile
And it’s up to his family to petition the US justice system to secure those things for him.
To each her own, but imo BW (the original social justice warrior) should be engaged in that battle at the same level that Mr. Obumseli engaged with us during his life. 😌
If they let her off, they'll be more black men lined up to be w/ her....they don't care.
Lord it’s pathetic 😂
He should've chose better...
Eloho, that "Why Oh Whyyyyyy"! my anthem this year!!
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Not the spicy Latina saying we need to be softer !!!
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Spicy means they have a zest or flair for life.
Girl…if they are prize then I’m good
They steady bringing us up for attention and profit.
Side note your vocals is popping sis ❤
The jealousy is jealous-ing for literally no real.
Nobody:
Everybody: black women need to stop wearing weaves, makeup, nails, eyelashes, having bad attitudes
BW: 👁️👁️🙄🙄😒😒
said by women and men being w women doing and wearing the same thing😃
I was about to leave the same comment.@@anonymous92388
Yet laying up with a woman that gets botox, lip filler, wears pounds of makeup to hide those fast aging wrinkles, and tans darker than they should
She thinks she did something here. Lol and I’m Latina. Black women are already winning.
Least married, least desired, etc How are they winning? 🤔
😭crazy how my two latino exes said they don’t date Latinas cuz they are too crazy and rough lmao.
Or they are only soft to the dusties?
Those Latinas can get VERY aggressive. I’ve seen it.
my latino ex told me the same thing yet he was crazy too lol
If not taking BS and not letting people (mainly MEN) walk all over me means I'm not soft then I'LL BE THAT
Yes girl!!
Preferences really be preferencing out here. I hope they realize they ain’t the prize they think that they are. But go awf sis.
When women of other races are masculine, men dont see them as a threat because they dont see them as powerful. For Blk women, the saying goes "those who dont like you, know your power!"
We are the most talked about race and gender!!!! WHY?!?! And what the fuck are they actually winning?!?!
I Do Believe That(We) BW can Be More Softer!
Once we’re Allowed to strive and thrive In A Softer Environment. 🤷🏽♀️
It’s 2024 I have Nothing Left for Bm and their significant others!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Kudos to Them💅🏾
BW won’t be softer until they let go of struggle love.
@@Dataisthetruththat would be the safer environment she’s speaking of. Struggle love is a stressful environment.
@@LoveK1 yeah for sure. Just repeating the point so I can understand it. It’s a quirk of mine.
@@invisiblerevolution They won't like that.
@@LoveK1 No struggle love is going after the wrong men on purpose.
To be soft, you need to be able to rest in your femininity. You need strong male role models, protection, resources and safe spaces, to allow that to happen.
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We live rent free in their mind!
It’s the men and society
I think it depends on what you think is winning. My proximity to a man is not how I measure success. Men are not the prize.
BW we just need to stop giving our energy to these conversations. This shit ain't new!!! Watch how powerful Idgf is and keep them out the hive.... No access! Bw protect our own protect our peace and energy.... no access no response no energy.
True.
Exactly
The audacity
The fact she really thought she ate in that interview. 🙄 sadly this is how alot of non black women feel about us black women especially the ones who date/marry to black men. Notice the black men didn't drag her but if it was a black woman saying that about non black women those black men would have dragged her to no end on that interview.
They’re really obsessed with us omg
I'm just here minding my business, working and school. And every time I come online someone has something negative to say about me and my fellow beautiful black sisters. It is honestly fucking exhausting.
I really wish folks would leave us alone! Leave black women alone dang, we just be over here minding our business 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️.
Amazon, Best Buy and WalMart need to pause on the microphone restocks. We're tired.
I agree! 😂😂😂
Can we all just sarcastically thank her for her profound guidance and never speak of it again? 🙏🏾😂
We would be winning if we had better control over how we are Perceived in society and hold men accountable when they bash us when they turn their backs on us.
Listen, bm have tried to tarnish our image because they want the world to think we are the issue and to try to get the spot light off their behavior. The only thing we can do is just keep being who we are, mind our business, separate from bm, and let the world see who the problem is. I think that's the only thing we can control. Some will like us, others won't, and we can do absolutely nothing about it.
Sadly no one can control prejudice people
Other women have a communities that support them and we don’t. That’s why we’re not soft as a collective.
She’s saying that because she’s repeating what BM are saying. “BW are too dominant” “BW are too independent”
As if self sufficiency is an insult smh. 😕
I'm just tired of people thinking black women give a damn what they think. I don't bother anyone and just trying to live my life. I wish they would do the same. These preferences get treated horribly by black men, but I guess they'd rather not talk about that. Let me mind my single business 💅
Listen 💅
I'm trying to figure out how she can say black women should be a little soft.... When black women are getting killed, sex trafficking and getting kidnapped, plus drugged. Still being soft and kind and still up dying 🕊🕊❤🕊🕊
Everyone is obsessed with black women 😂
If there is no protection how can anyone be soft
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Can we talk about how Eloho hit that note in the beginning? Lemme find out you can singgg ! 😍
I've heard others say that before. However she's not going into depth as to why we're perceived rough. There are so many nuances to this. One of them involves the fact that bw have been through what many others haven't for generations.
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It’s also insulting because she acts like there’s only ONE type of black woman. I like Japanese “kawaii” things, I wear a lot of pink, and I love dresses. I’m quiet and introverted and mind my own business. Most of us are just regular ass black woman. We’re not all crack whores out fighting in the streets or something.
@Maki-00 exactly! Bw never get to be individuals. It shows you how many see us. 1 dimensional, it's almost like an animalistic way.
@@Maki-00 I think ppl just need an excuse for their envy.
But we aren’t competing ma’am? Especially not to be pumped and dumped like the “winners”🤣🤭
*Bw left the chat years ago* 🤨 2024 and yet still brings it up. Please, leave us BW alone.
Preferences understand that Black men will utilize nonsensical comparisons to put down Black women in the name of elevating non Black women. They may or may not be cognizant to it, but they're aware of the spoken and unspoken rhetoric (e.g., the gentleman who died at the hands of his preference). It's used as a dog whistle to signal that they're "submissive, soft, fit" whatever the tropes these days. That's why she was confused, yet double downed, when she was met with silence and a single follow up question, but was not checked, corrected, put in her place, or told to keep the back handed compliment. Those podcasts have specific and particular women sitting on couches with them for a reason. To go in the first place shows where and how she thinks. If you're a non Black woman and want to tell a Black man to pick you, the easy route is to participate in the attack on Black women.
Asian women with attitudes= lil dragons
JEANIE MAI 😂
Lil dragons and helicopter moms. They are never called aggressive or hard.
@@TheMPExperience no they aren’t. The world does not see them as aggressive.
@@TheMPExperienceAsian women are seen as the most innocent, submissive and feminine, with white women coming second, and Latina women third
I literally thank God I am 100% black! I wouldn’t want it any other way even though it’s hard at times. Us black women are beautiful, smart, creative, hard working and I love us!
We are The Most High, Yahweh's Original woman,...It's BIBLICALLY and SCIENTIFICALLY proven that a dark skinned African woman is the mother of all ethnicities,..it's SCIENTIFICALLY proven That Black women are the ONLY women who possess the Eve gene,...Yes,..Human existence started with us.
So we won EONs ago!!
...and let me tell ANYBODY,..i too wouldn't trade being a Black woman for NOTHINGGG on Planet Earth!!
Shalom!!
Yep!! That’s what I tell my daughters right in front of them! 🤗
I'm stuck in confused on how the most educated demographic in the US is losing?!? Like make it makes sense
FR ?like??
@@ghost99100our attitudes hasn’t stopped anything. Bw are doing good in the black community and compared to other races with home ownership, degrees, and so on.
Least married, least desired, voted the most unattractive woman, etc
@@KingJancelotsame for black males
May Toby continue to rest in preference.
Rest in snow 🙏🏾❄️☃️
You ain't gotta do him like that 😭😭😭
😂❤❗️🤣☠️
Answer: systemic yt supremacy
- next question 🤔
Yes we would be winning.. if we allowed abuse , disrespect, and nonsense and BS . YESS !! Everyone would love us 😍😍😍😍😍😍
lol... What are these women winning? Single parenthood, bad roommates, doing wife duties with NO RING 😂
I'll take the “L”
Winning what tho? A black man? 😂🤔 I’m so glad I’m a black dark skin women 🩷
I would love to help young women be more lady like. When you grow up in a bad neighborhood they don’t even realize it. Us American Blk women have been thru a lot generational. The media also harms our growth as Blk women
Not trying to argue, but what exactly is being more “lady like” and who does being, “lady like” benefit? We never hear people ask males to be more “gentleman like”.
@TheMPExperience where is a proof of that?
@@TheMPExperienceYet the femicide rate is at an all-time high.
@@so.many.obstacles well where I’m from 14 year olds are fighting , yelling , stealing , twerking in house shoes in the street. Being more lady like is a benefit in society because you can have a positive conversation and able to be in different crowds .
@@Valley__Do you have a channel?