When you're in love you'll do anything. And we all know men have the talent of making women with kids or not feel vulnerable and that everything is going to be ok. Not only that but obviously if she had that many children she thought it would work out. Yall so judgemental and tone deaf in these comments 😅
Only in the black community will someone get a round of applause for having all their kids from one person. We've normalised multiple baby daddys and mamas, that we appauld normal things.
we didnt normalize that...we are more happy for her cause we know how blk men stigmatize and stereotype a woman with more than 1 or 2 children......u see how that man looked at her!!!!! we are more accepting to see a man with multiple children ...i cant see having more than one so i stopped at one ...7 children in this day and age is crazy i would not promote it
You shouldn’t try to make things work with someone on the strength of you having kids with them alone. However, why someone is popping out 7 kids by 30 in 2024 like we’re in the 1800s is beyond me.
Like how does she take care of that many kids? And how quick did she have them??? And then she has 7? I would get 2...but 7???????? I wouldn't willingly have 3 kids like how many people actually have 7 kids??? I just can't 😂😂😂😅
The person you break up with is usually not the person you end things with. You people act like people don’t change when it happens all of the time. Most people do not change for the better.
My brother married a lady with 6 kids ages 1 to 8. Best decision he ever made. He has 1 biological child before her and one with her. That family gave my brother a sense of responsibility and after that he stayed out of trouble and took care of his family. 25 years later they are still together. All their kids are grown and gone. They're living a beautiful life helping with their 5 grandkids. I know this isn't the norm, but it happens.
Also on a side note besides picking a man that will actually be invested in her kids but this woman should def be cautious if she’s dating while she has kids. There are too many stories of predators sexually assaulting and abusing their significant others kids that goes undetected until it spirals into a huge news story. Don’t let wanting to be in a relationship prevent you from having discernment and wisdom.
I currently have four kids and this is why if anything was to happen between my husband and I, I will not be getting with anyone until my kids are grown. It’ll suck being lonely, but it’s better than having one of my children hurt by someone I brought around. I don’t know if I can handle the guilt from that.
Very irresponsible for her to bring all these kids into an unstable relationship without the benefit or marriage or financial security. I think she should concentrate on her kids and wait until some of them are grown before she looks for another partner. She would have to be careful who she brought around them.
With respect, I'm worried for her children, especially daughters. Lay with who you want so long as its consenting but the overwhelming majority of people cannot support 7 kids. 7. She made some missteps (IMO) here.
I agree! Why would you allow a man to put seven children in without the security of marriage. I wish some one would have asked her why did you allow a man to put babies in you without legally committing to you?
I always tell my man I would probably be a Nun if we were to breakup because 1. I ain’t going back to paying my own rent. Imma let the cathedral convent take care of me. 2. The dating pool look like it has pee and feces in it eww 😝
Sexual Disclipline is missing in some people. Planning your family is more than possible in this day and age. Why do so many people make excuses... When you know better, you do better...
This is true. At the same time, some of these states have defunded, or closed, a lot of women's clinics. Then, they want to get rid of birth control like they did with abortion. TL;Dr it has a lot to do with where you live. I'm so happy I'm childfree in an area where I can medically stay that way😂
A woman doesn't have to be on her back 7 days a week to have 7 children. She could have had sex with her ex once a month or once every 6 months & still got pregnant 7 times. She also didn't clarify if she had twins at any point.
@@Drageisha yea, I thought about that too. I think women who are of African descent are more likely to conceive multiples than women who are not. We have three or four sets in my family. Hell yeah I'm on the pill!
I have 3 children. When my marriage ended my youngest was 4 months old. I was not trying 2 find a man at all. My oldest son turned 24 yesterday. My baby boy is 19 my daughter is 14. I've started dating now but I don't bring anyone around my kids until I feel fully sure it's ok. 7 kids and trying 2 date is 2 much
Thanks for this comments. I needed to see this. Mom of two young boys, marriage recently ended. Never did I think it would be my reality but here I am. I chose Me and my sanity, so my children can see happiness
That’s what I said, too 😂 I can see her getting attention from men but once they hear seven kids they’re out and it’s understand. That’s a huge responsibility to take on with a relationship.
@@chanmarr8118it really really is especially if a majority of them are still under a certain age. I do think she can find someone though because there are men who want big families ..... but in this time it's rare. I think if anything maybe a man who has kids, but maybe they don't cohabitate until the kids are older. It would just have to be a very kid hearted man.
This is why I ignore people when they talk about childfree women. This woman alone had enough kids for like 3 people. The human race definitely will not suffer extinction with people like her and men like the ones she dates popping out kids left and right.
Listennnn I’m tryna tell ya. My hg w/ 4 kids be tryna “girl you need a baby” me to death and I tell her all the time “girl you had enough for the both of us and I hope you done tbh” shittinnnn meeee, i don’t wanna be part of the BMC (baby mama club) lol 😂😂😂 the time I spend w/ her and her kids keeps me steadily happy on the child free campaign lmao
She might have to wait until at least 5 of them grown, and honestly she should probably not concern herself with a new relationship and just let it happen organically
Sad for her, because she wants to be loved, but it's not about her anymore. These are scary times, and I wouldn't bring a man around my children. It's unfair, but it's reality.
@@dimpelzmylesshe’s not undeserving but in reality not many men are going to want to date someone with 7 kids. I definitely wouldn’t date a man with 7 kids
7 kids! That sounds like a horror movie to me! Can you imagine all the noise. I hope she just focus on being the best mother possible and try to coparent with the father
I’m sorry but she’s gonna have to wait until that last kid is grown before she can start doing grown people things again. Almost no one is going to put up with that and if they do I’d be suspicious of them. Because as mentioned, you have some weirdos. As a Jamaican, can’t tell how many stories I’ve heard of women brining their new bf into their household with their young daughter under the same roof and stuff happened to them. Even my mom has a story like that where it was a sleep over and her friend’s father tried to make a move and she started screaming which scared him away. Invest in a vibrator and some condoms and call it a day 🤷🏾♀️
@@blossom1290 That’s what I was thinking, too. Seven kids is A LOT to keep track of by yourself. I’ve only seen big families work when both parents are very involved and a team.
Totally agree, lately on the news we're hearing a lot about stories of girls being SA by their moms boyfriends, and I worry for children whose mothers care too much about having a man by their side
Very cringe and also, why are grown people asking other grown people advice on what they are capable of doing or obtaining? Go to God or whoever your source is. Smh
The big question is WHY did she end it with the baby daddy?And if he was bad, why choose to have NOT 1 NOT 2 NOT 3 NOT 4 NOT 5 NOT 6 but *SEVEN!!* of his kids? Something ain't clicking here. What's going on?That self-esteem must be in H🔥LL!!
@yaoilover0 I believe ppl can change, but 9/10 a person shows you who u are the first time💯, I feel like she chose to ignore red flags like most ppl do and unfortunately it took her 7 times to finally get it.
@@Nbayoungguh Think about the process of having a child, from conception to birth, then think of that times 7, she probably barely had time to even look at the man. On top of that feeding, bathing, clothing, cooking, laundry, school drop offs, pick ups, doctors, after school activities, weekend activities, birthdays, friends birthdays, christenings, homework. I would be surprised if she had time to bath, let alone spot red flags.😅
Her kids having the same father doesn't mean much, when that same father isn't around to help raise her kids, aint no way in hell would I have umpteen kids with 1 dead beat 😑🤦🏽♀️
You said something right there!!! Like damn you didn't learn the first time with the first child. I got a homegirl who got 3 deadbeat daddy and. they mad at her for putting them on child support
My thing is with SEVEN kids, depending on how old they are do you even have the time and energy required for a new relationship??? A lot of single moms say “ima just focus on my kids” because that’s all they CAN do. And that’ll be with 1-2 kids this lady has SEVEN.
7 kids is just crazy, i understand some people like kids and love a huge family but if you can't afford them don't risk it, some women do not be thinking 🤦🏽♀️
@blossom1290 Listening skills are becoming obsolete these days. Did the woman say she couldn't afford her kids? If she didn't, why bring it up. Would you have asked this same question if she was white? Also, what may be crazy to you is all good for someone else. Projecting is a hell of a thing... smh.
@@kyliCatherine1 yea she might be able to afford it, but it's obvious she wants some help 7 kids like the comment above said is exhausting and cause a lot of money.
I saw a video where a man stated that even if you are married, (or in a relationship) you only should only have the amount of kids you can handle as if you were single. I agree with this. I don't know why she had 7 kids if she can't handle them by herself. She should try to work things out with the baby daddy. 🤷🏾♀️
Exactly! So we won't have another set of kids running around robbing, carjacking, and being an overall menace to society because Mommie is too busy trying to find another boyfriend. 🙄
Why isn't she focused on raising her 7 children, and healing from her previous relationship? I question the motives of men & women, that will have multiple children as if those children are somewhat a coping mechanism. Anyone that's actively raising their children knows Parenting is a full-time job, no weekends off. Does she have a co-dependency issue is what I'd ask, because she CHOSE to have all of those children their health & security comes first atp.
I do think society has placed a stigma and double standard for single moms but also I think it just comes down to the reality of most custody agreements. More women are willing to be w a man that is a deadbeat or not the primary caretaker rather than a man willing to be w a woman that is the primary caretaker of the kids. And there’s the fact that a lot of women will accept and settle for a man even if he’s the primary caretaker of his kids out of love or low self esteem where it’s rare for men to do the same
C'mon no amount of NO STIGMA can remove judgement about 7 kids It's just common sense, same will apply to a man! No woman would willingly walk into that house of madness of a man with 7 kids, lol no Sireee Unless that man is P Diddy of cause😏
My mama always told me even when you’re married never give a man a boat load of kids. That man can get up and leave at anytime and you’ll be stuck with all of those kids.
You should definitely be careful about the number of kids you have as a woman. Entering any relationship, whether you have kids or not, is about combining and sharing finances and responsibility. Expecting a man/woman to come in your life and WANTING to share the responsibility of 7 kids is crazy. Especially if they can have other romantic parnters without that kind of baggage. If she doesn't want to be involved with the father anymore, then focus on the kids and/or just accept that any relation with another man isn't going to be serious. With that being said, black men accept white women with multiple kids like all the time 😂😂
7 kids is too much of a financial responsibility to put on a man that has no dna connection with those kids, the baby’s daddy is the only one that should be responsible for that, because he has skin in the game, her best bet is to get back with the daddy, a new man has all the financial responsibility of raising those kids with non of the authority to discipline those kids, she is off limits
Yes!! All this being able to take care of you and your 7 kids. No she needs to work too and get some child support. That's not his responsibility sorry.
Don’t forget with the story with the 12 year old that once her mother arrived at the house, the father wasn’t trying to let any of the parents in the house to retrieve their children 😒😒
The lady gave good respectable advise. Its sad she had 7 kids with him, then they split up. Like she should of stopped at 2 if she was gonna leave him because she prob knew something was off at baby 3.
Sit down honey and wait until 5 of those kids are grown. How does she even have the time or energy to date? It's not her season to date. It's her season to mother those 7 children.
Let’s be honest y’all, no single person with no children, would deal with a person who has 7 children willingly. Especially if they have options or young.
@@karzymimi42 I've never said it was the rule. However, stating that no single person would do this is false. It's not absolute truth. I've known people who have done this.
@@LoveK1 No man is willingly going to sign up for all of that. My blood pressure was rising as she was telling the story. 7 kids is a lot 🤯. She has a whole daycare!
Anyways with God anything is possible and im rooting for her. One mans ‘trash’ is another ones treasure. She could meet a man that has been longing for a family but cant have one. Ppl need to go out and touch grass shes not the first woman with x amount of kids to marry someone else. These conversations are startin to get a exhausting. Wish we all put this much energy into our own lives. Prayin for this to happen for her 💕💕
Thank you! I was just about to type something similar. There’s nothing wrong with holding her accountable, but as long as she’s holding herself accountable, if she wants a “high value” man then that’s her prerogative and I wish her all the best!
@@jmcbride747 right like its clear that her and her bd were together for a veryy long time thought they were ready to build a family, they did and just like many things in life it didnt work out like they thought. They probably tried but it didnt work does that mean that she should stay alone forever. Shes a beautiful woman and im sure a great mother there could be twins and trips in the mix of those 7kids lol. Either way she deserves what she deserves and if God allows it she will have that high value man 🤗
@@Heyitschy03 in your opinion like i said shes not the first and she wont be the last. Whoever wants to ‘deal’ with 7 kids they will. Ur part of the ppl who needs to get outta ur phone and into the real world where literally everything is possible. Have a good day x
This is why you shouldn't have more than 3 kids if you can help it because a lot of relationships do not work out even in marriage and when you want to remarry taking 7 or 8 kids with you is not going to be easy. People get mad when you tell them they're having too many kids but then end up here like this lady.
and she's just 33, her life was robbed from her she did not enjoy her 20's and not enjoying her 30's either, because she didn't leave the dusty till the 7th child!
I actually think its disrespectful to tell people to work it with the father unless the reason for break up can be worked out. High value isn't just about money, why should she allow any old person around her children, she should be as selective as possible!
My friend has 6 kids from 2 different men- she got herself a great guy (from what I can tell) and the relationship is going strong- there is someone out there for everyone 🤷🏽♀️ From what I've seen, if a man wants you fr doesn't matter if you have 18kids and a peg leg- he'll do whatever he needs to do to be with you 😂
I think I'll stay child free, because the idea of being essentially trapped with that kind of burden and possibly be on my own doing it is terrifying. Women put too much trust in men to do the right thing. But I also genuinely cannot be mad at the men who don't want to deal with women like this.
7 kids!! Im not judging her cuz everyone wants love no matter your situation, but trying to find time to date when you have 7 younger kids is wild to me. We have two and it feels like there's still not enough hours in the day. If i was her, I would definitely Wait until at least some of the kids are older teenagers before trying to date again. Give yourself time to heal, and for the kids to get adjusted to the new dynamic and to also lighten the burden since teenagers are more self efficient than kids under 12. (I think someone on here said her kids range from 4-12). I hope she finds love tho.
Yeaaa we can’t even be mad at the men with this one. I wouldn’t date a man with 7 kids but nonetheless I wish her the best there maybe someone out there for her who knows.
1: She's cute! 2: She looks good for 7 kids. 3: 1 dad will give her a better outcome. 4: Im dying with 2, i can't imagine 7 😭. 5. She can get a quality man, but she may have to be open to dating a senior citizen. 6.All the best girl! You deserve love❤
I'm not a relationship doomer. She just needs realistic expectations. She could find a guy that already has kids, that doesn't want anymore. A good woman, with a good attitude that isn't entitled, could overcompensate the child "baggage".🤷♂
@@LoveK1 She could get a man pushing 40 or 50 that's got grown kids. It's on her to be a sweet, respectful and loving. She can beat a lot of these childless women if she's humble, and keeps herself in shape, and picks the right man.
First, we don't know why the couple didn't work out, was he abusive, is he dead, or in jail, what? So many potential scenarios. Second, my advice to her would be that there is hope, but using most of the kitty lady's advice, she has a huge task of carefully vetting any man she spends time with as her pickings are slim with all the children she has. Couples can survive with many children, but it takes commitment and loyalty among other things. Idk if she has time, she may want to wait until some of her kids are older before trying a new relationship as there will be less mouths to feed.
A real life Dashiki from Don't be a menace..... "where else am I gonna find a 🐈 whipped fool to take care of me and my 7 kids" - Don’t be a menace to South Central while drinking your juice in the hood (1996).
Married or single if you’re not rich having that many kids and not being rich already shows that you make bad decisions. Granted I don’t know her situation but in general.
I think she needs to chant Ciara’s prayer 7 times in the morning, noon, and night and see if that brings her a high value man who is willing to accept her and her 7 kids.
My mom dated a younger man when I was 12. She had three kids. I was the oldest out of the three. She moved that man into her home and he had no job and just ate up our food. He claimed he was a rapper but that’s it. Well when I was 15, my mom’s bf touched me when I was 15. I feel like the woman with 7 kids should not be dating when those kids are young. She should wait until most of them are older.
I don’t know why this is so controversial. She said she wants to find LOVE. She looks amazing and is very well dressed and its everyone else saying if she found a man he would “have to provide for 7 kids” like no clearly she is taking care of them just fine on her own and probably has child support, so why is everyone acting like she’s asking for a handout or financial help when she just wants a relationship? Crazy how single moms are treated like gold diggers or like a burden on society when they are actually the biggest providers
I wish ppl would stop saying she should work it out with her kids' father. Staying for kids is not always the answer. My parents getting divorced was the best thing they could have done for me and my sisters. I genuinely don't think we have enough information to only impose negative judgements upon this woman. There is very little balance in these comments. Just food for thought
I did a little research and turns out the were married. I have met a lot of married women who knew their husbands were not fit, but in their mind they believed one day their husband would “get it.” Some of these women also felt like, being pregnant was the only time that their husbands gave attention to them or “acted right,” which then creates an unhealthy cycle of bandaid babies. I don’t know her full story but I’m assuming one of these things may have been the cause that kept them together. We don’t know. I don’t have children yet so I can’t speak for her, but we also shouldn’t judge either
*Heavy on the fact that, if you have to wait until you are pregnant to be treated like royalty by him. You are a placeholder, no fault of your own but, it's time to go.*
What if the father died, or they were married & he was cheating/left her for someone else, developed a drug or gambling addiction, developed a severe mental illness, there's a lot of circumstances that can leave women as single mothers outside of their control. This clip doesn't give enough info to explain how she ended up in this situation. Many people thought they found their soulmate, but life happens and they end up as single moms. However, I agree with what most people are saying in the comments, if it was me I'd wait until the kids were grown before trying to get into another relationship.
In my opinion, she needs to focus on her kids and wait until they are out of the house and then pursue a relationship. Children require an immense amount of love, time, and attention, and that is who she should prioritize.
After hearing the many stories of little girls being SA by their moms boyfriends, I'd say women with children need to be incredibly careful when dating, preferably never bringing anyone to their home, I believe men with ill intentions target them. Just be mindful of that fact and protect your children
*Ms.Cheaper by the Dozen, needs to understand, when you become a parent before marriage, there are a lot of things you can’t do anymore. Also, emotionally there’s no way 7 kids ❤are getting what they need, dating a new person?*
She gonna have to wait until those kids are old & up out the house. Hopefully she don’t focus on trying to get a relationship rather than just raising kids
I wish her nothing but the best. She is absolutely beautiful and seems like she has the ability to communicate. I have to agree with the beautiful young lady who answered her though. If my son told me he had a woman with seven kids absolutely not and I’m sorry but no. Please I pray she can work it out with her children father or keep yourself looking good girl and yassssss get that groove back once them kids good and grown and out the house chile. 🤦🏽♀️
Did the full interview include more info? A lot of comments seem to be jumping to conclusions and there’s not a ton of context in the original content. I gotta keep it a buck, I don’t think the odds are in her favor here but I wish her the best of luck. I’m really just wondering if there’s more to the story.
Let's be real everyone is jumping to negative conclusions because she is young black woman with 7 kids. I'm sure the animosity wouldn't be the same if she was of another race. I hate to pull out that card, but the media has brainwashed everyone into thinking that black women with multiple kids has to be a promiscuous welfare recipients with multiple baby daddies. No one considered the possibility that she could've been married, divorced, widowed etc.. some of these comments are ridiculous and shameful. It's not terrible to want a lot of kids and it's not bad to want to date again. She has the right to live her life as she pleases as well as seek love as long as she is thoroughly vetting her potential suitors. Finding the right may be a bit more challenging but it can be done b/c other women have done it before. It's not impossible.
I actually don't see why the man will have to financially provide for the kids, the dad can do that, anything they do with the children, the dad can pay.
7 kids one man … equals good Christian woman lol… she gone find somebody my mom was divorced with my dad still living at home, plus size with 3 kids n kept a man lol.. mind u my dad still lived at home they was separated but he still lived at home n when I tell u my mom kept a man child🤣 some even was introduced to my dad n still didn’t care lol
I don’t care how much money a man has, a man with 7 kids will never be the man for me
Same. A man with 1 kid isn’t a man for me.
Why I’m bm number 6 🤦🏾♀️EMBARRASSING
@@maescreativespace444 a man who can convince you to be baby mama #6, needs to be selling houses
Exactly
@@callmechichi1711you better preach.
Why give the man 7 children if he was trifling?
When you're in love you'll do anything. And we all know men have the talent of making women with kids or not feel vulnerable and that everything is going to be ok. Not only that but obviously if she had that many children she thought it would work out. Yall so judgemental and tone deaf in these comments 😅
@@dimpelzmyles Ain't no man wether he in love or not would let a woman trap him with a baby, some women need to move wiser
These women think kids will change a man or make him stay and it never works 🤦🏽♀️
@@dimpelzmylesngl that excuse is on its last leg. I’m sorry. Common sense > “love”
@@4thTribeJudithand that leg has a bad knee AND ankle. That leg is limping like a mug.
Only in the black community will someone get a round of applause for having all their kids from one person. We've normalised multiple baby daddys and mamas, that we appauld normal things.
This comment should have way more likes
Exactly what I said when they clapped.
Its sad 😔
Because, it hurts too damn much with the level of distinction we operate in our community!!
we didnt normalize that...we are more happy for her cause we know how blk men stigmatize and stereotype a woman with more than 1 or 2 children......u see how that man looked at her!!!!! we are more accepting to see a man with multiple children ...i cant see having more than one so i stopped at one ...7 children in this day and age is crazy i would not promote it
You shouldn’t try to make things work with someone on the strength of you having kids with them alone. However, why someone is popping out 7 kids by 30 in 2024 like we’re in the 1800s is beyond me.
lmaoo this comment made me wheeze, fr tho its crazy. children are a blessing but goddamn wow
It’s more common than you think. A lot of times they don’t have all the kids living with them so you wouldn’t know.
I have two cousins with 8 kids. They were I think before 30 or early 30s.
Exactly i stopped at 3,my then husband wanted more. I told him have all the kids u want i just won't be their mother.
Lol
It took the 7th child to break up with him... We need the full story
😂😂😂😂
He was probably a cheater, who she should have left a long time ago.
What happen to da daddy most likely he left her
Like how does she take care of that many kids? And how quick did she have them??? And then she has 7? I would get 2...but 7???????? I wouldn't willingly have 3 kids like how many people actually have 7 kids??? I just can't 😂😂😂😅
The person you break up with is usually not the person you end things with. You people act like people don’t change when it happens all of the time. Most people do not change for the better.
My brother married a lady with 6 kids ages 1 to 8. Best decision he ever made. He has 1 biological child before her and one with her. That family gave my brother a sense of responsibility and after that he stayed out of trouble and took care of his family. 25 years later they are still together. All their kids are grown and gone. They're living a beautiful life helping with their 5 grandkids. I know this isn't the norm, but it happens.
It's definitely possible but society allows men to be so selfish. Kudos to your brother
@@mindingmybusiness6309 honestly, some people want a huge family but not in these times, things getting to expensive
@@mindingmybusiness6309 people use to want large families now they don't
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The look that man gave her. 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂 he was whaaaaaaaaa😮 ma'am I don't think so!
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Meme potential fr😂
He was like 😦😧😦😧
Also on a side note besides picking a man that will actually be invested in her kids but this woman should def be cautious if she’s dating while she has kids. There are too many stories of predators sexually assaulting and abusing their significant others kids that goes undetected until it spirals into a huge news story. Don’t let wanting to be in a relationship prevent you from having discernment and wisdom.
I currently have four kids and this is why if anything was to happen between my husband and I, I will not be getting with anyone until my kids are grown. It’ll suck being lonely, but it’s better than having one of my children hurt by someone I brought around. I don’t know if I can handle the guilt from that.
It’s a whole new group of strangers that are now around the children. Their family, friends, coworkers…
Very irresponsible for her to bring all these kids into an unstable relationship without the benefit or marriage or financial security. I think she should concentrate on her kids and wait until some of them are grown before she looks for another partner. She would have to be careful who she brought around them.
With respect, I'm worried for her children, especially daughters.
Lay with who you want so long as its consenting but the overwhelming majority of people cannot support 7 kids. 7. She made some missteps (IMO) here.
I agree! Why would you allow a man to put seven children in without the security of marriage. I wish some one would have asked her why did you allow a man to put babies in you without legally committing to you?
I agree she should just focus on healing herself and her babies at this point
Wait, did I miss something? Did she say she was never married to the father? Or are we just assuming?
@@kyliCatherine1the funny thing is I actually know her and she was married to the father. So yes people are making assumptions.
Even with no kids, it’s hard finding a good man 😂
😂😂😂🎉
True
Yes because THEY have abandoned kids
Tell me about it 😂
Bruh!!!!!!
Let them know!!!
I always tell my man I would probably be a Nun if we were to breakup because
1. I ain’t going back to paying my own rent. Imma let the cathedral convent take care of me.
2. The dating pool look like it has pee and feces in it eww 😝
Sexual Disclipline is missing in some people. Planning your family is more than possible in this day and age. Why do so many people make excuses... When you know better, you do better...
This is true. At the same time, some of these states have defunded, or closed, a lot of women's clinics. Then, they want to get rid of birth control like they did with abortion. TL;Dr it has a lot to do with where you live. I'm so happy I'm childfree in an area where I can medically stay that way😂
A woman doesn't have to be on her back 7 days a week to have 7 children. She could have had sex with her ex once a month or once every 6 months & still got pregnant 7 times. She also didn't clarify if she had twins at any point.
@@Drageisha yea, I thought about that too. I think women who are of African descent are more likely to conceive multiples than women who are not. We have three or four sets in my family. Hell yeah I'm on the pill!
Amen
@@Drageisha That's even worse because it's like they play Russian Roulette with birth control.
I have 3 children. When my marriage ended my youngest was 4 months old. I was not trying 2 find a man at all. My oldest son turned 24 yesterday. My baby boy is 19 my daughter is 14. I've started dating now but I don't bring anyone around my kids until I feel fully sure it's ok. 7 kids and trying 2 date is 2 much
Exactly! Good for you for putting your children first!
Thanks for this comments. I needed to see this. Mom of two young boys, marriage recently ended. Never did I think it would be my reality but here I am. I chose Me and my sanity, so my children can see happiness
Well that’s your backstory, we don’t know hers & everyone life is different
For you.
A lot of these modern women are selfish af. They prioritize their feelings and loneliness over their kids ‘ wellbeing
She looks soooo good after 7 kids!
That’s what I said, too 😂 I can see her getting attention from men but once they hear seven kids they’re out and it’s understand. That’s a huge responsibility to take on with a relationship.
@@chanmarr8118it really really is especially if a majority of them are still under a certain age. I do think she can find someone though because there are men who want big families ..... but in this time it's rare. I think if anything maybe a man who has kids, but maybe they don't cohabitate until the kids are older. It would just have to be a very kid hearted man.
She's 33 so she has the benefit of being young but once she hits 36, it'll start showing unless she does something consciously about it
@@MsSwanlake 3 years from now is nothing, she would still be looking good
She does!
This is why I ignore people when they talk about childfree women. This woman alone had enough kids for like 3 people. The human race definitely will not suffer extinction with people like her and men like the ones she dates popping out kids left and right.
LMFAOOOO 😭😭😭 this is too funny
AMEN
Listennnn I’m tryna tell ya. My hg w/ 4 kids be tryna “girl you need a baby” me to death and I tell her all the time “girl you had enough for the both of us and I hope you done tbh” shittinnnn meeee, i don’t wanna be part of the BMC (baby mama club) lol 😂😂😂 the time I spend w/ her and her kids keeps me steadily happy on the child free campaign lmao
@@sj5218 RIGHT FACTS!!
Valid point 😭😭😭
She might have to wait until at least 5 of them grown, and honestly she should probably not concern herself with a new relationship and just let it happen organically
That part 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This
I say wait till they all grown 🤷🏾♀️
@@1westprincessMe too!
yep, she better wait until they reach their 20s
Yeah 7 kids is wild . At that point your love life comes last . Your energy now should be on your children not looking for a replacement father.
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 take care of your kids, take care of yourself. While put more into that mix!!?!
She should heal first & go love herself.
Sad for her, because she wants to be loved, but it's not about her anymore. These are scary times, and I wouldn't bring a man around my children. It's unfair, but it's reality.
Yea she’ll be 50 or 60 once she’s done with nurturing the kids.
@@flowd7451thats her fault
@@des_4444 yep
🤦🏽♀️ Dating should not be a priority for anyone with 7 kids. It’s going to be a long, lonely journey for her.
Exactly
Nah everyone deserves love just because she has a big family means she's undeserving? Make it make sense
@@dimpelzmylesshe better find a man who as kids too then, are she could wait until those kids grown🤷🏽♀️
@@dimpelzmylesshe’s not undeserving but in reality not many men are going to want to date someone with 7 kids. I definitely wouldn’t date a man with 7 kids
Nice, assume her priorities and the rest of her life because the she asked a question 🙄
7 kids! That sounds like a horror movie to me! Can you imagine all the noise. I hope she just focus on being the best mother possible and try to coparent with the father
It’s the noise and mess for me 😢
Not horror movie😂😂😂😂
Horror for you. Some people don't mind having a large family.
Dating is hard with NO kids. Coming back to the scene with 7? Whew, good luck!
I’m like, who gon tell her?!?! Let alone find a man w/ the finances to fund 9 people (and that’s if he doesn’t have his own children as well).
Right, 7 is a lot. I’ve seen women find husbands while having 3 or 4 kids, but 7 might be too much.
I’m sorry but she’s gonna have to wait until that last kid is grown before she can start doing grown people things again. Almost no one is going to put up with that and if they do I’d be suspicious of them. Because as mentioned, you have some weirdos. As a Jamaican, can’t tell how many stories I’ve heard of women brining their new bf into their household with their young daughter under the same roof and stuff happened to them. Even my mom has a story like that where it was a sleep over and her friend’s father tried to make a move and she started screaming which scared him away. Invest in a vibrator and some condoms and call it a day 🤷🏾♀️
Why
don't forget to add the part, how rude those children is be
@@blossom1290 That’s what I was thinking, too. Seven kids is A LOT to keep track of by yourself. I’ve only seen big families work when both parents are very involved and a team.
Totally agree, lately on the news we're hearing a lot about stories of girls being SA by their moms boyfriends, and I worry for children whose mothers care too much about having a man by their side
Yes ma'am. I agree!! Just wait to date. Dating is not a priority!!
I just hate these conversations so much it’s so cringey 😬
Same 😔
Super same 🥱
Why? I’m genuinely asking 😊
Very cringe and also, why are grown people asking other grown people advice on what they are capable of doing or obtaining? Go to God or whoever your source is. Smh
Accountability sucks doesn't it
The big question is WHY did she end it with the baby daddy?And if he was bad, why choose to have
NOT 1
NOT 2
NOT 3
NOT 4
NOT 5
NOT 6
but *SEVEN!!* of his kids?
Something ain't clicking here. What's going on?That self-esteem must be in H🔥LL!!
fr, why have all those kids for the man if he ain't worth it
Maybe he was worth it, then changed. Yall can’t be this dense lol
@yaoilover0 I believe ppl can change, but 9/10 a person shows you who u are the first time💯, I feel like she chose to ignore red flags like most ppl do and unfortunately it took her 7 times to finally get it.
@@Nbayoungguh Think about the process of having a child, from conception to birth, then think of that times 7, she probably barely had time to even look at the man. On top of that feeding, bathing, clothing, cooking, laundry, school drop offs, pick ups, doctors, after school activities, weekend activities, birthdays, friends birthdays, christenings, homework. I would be surprised if she had time to bath, let alone spot red flags.😅
@@yaoilover0Child, men show us who they are in the beginning. Women choose not to see the red flags because we see “potential” or even in love. Tf.
Her kids having the same father doesn't mean much, when that same father isn't around to help raise her kids, aint no way in hell would I have umpteen kids with 1 dead beat 😑🤦🏽♀️
You said something right there!!! Like damn you didn't learn the first time with the first child. I got a homegirl who got 3 deadbeat daddy and. they mad at her for putting them on child support
My thing is with SEVEN kids, depending on how old they are do you even have the time and energy required for a new relationship??? A lot of single moms say “ima just focus on my kids” because that’s all they CAN do. And that’ll be with 1-2 kids this lady has SEVEN.
It's draining to raise children 😮💨
Maybe the dad is helping. There's no way to know.
I would tell my son to...RUN 🏃🏃🏃🏃
She was pregnant her whole 30’s!!!!
*20s, she’s only 33
Don’t care how much I’ll ever make ain’t no way in hell I would have more than 2-3 kids at most. That sounds exhausting as hell
7 kids is just crazy, i understand some people like kids and love a huge family but if you can't afford them don't risk it, some women do not be thinking 🤦🏽♀️
@@blossom1290Who said she can’t afford them?? She looks like she’s doing just fine.
@blossom1290 Listening skills are becoming obsolete these days. Did the woman say she couldn't afford her kids? If she didn't, why bring it up. Would you have asked this same question if she was white? Also, what may be crazy to you is all good for someone else. Projecting is a hell of a thing... smh.
@@kyliCatherine1 yea she might be able to afford it, but it's obvious she wants some help 7 kids like the comment above said is exhausting and cause a lot of money.
I saw a video where a man stated that even if you are married, (or in a relationship) you only should only have the amount of kids you can handle as if you were single. I agree with this. I don't know why she had 7 kids if she can't handle them by herself. She should try to work things out with the baby daddy. 🤷🏾♀️
are she could find a man with kids to🤷🏽♀️
@@blossom1290she already has too many. How would they feed like 10 kids?
ATP why are we worried about a mate? We need to make sure those children are properly equipped with the right tools to be functional in society.
Exactly! So we won't have another set of kids running around robbing, carjacking, and being an overall menace to society because Mommie is too busy trying to find another boyfriend. 🙄
@@moreanita8 what you said
I think she understands that her kid needs a father to have some type of structure. A kid needs a mother and a father and she deserves love too.
Why isn't she focused on raising her 7 children, and healing from her previous relationship? I question the motives of men & women, that will have multiple children as if those children are somewhat a coping mechanism.
Anyone that's actively raising their children knows Parenting is a full-time job, no weekends off. Does she have a co-dependency issue is what I'd ask, because she CHOSE to have all of those children their health & security comes first atp.
I do think society has placed a stigma and double standard for single moms but also I think it just comes down to the reality of most custody agreements. More women are willing to be w a man that is a deadbeat or not the primary caretaker rather than a man willing to be w a woman that is the primary caretaker of the kids. And there’s the fact that a lot of women will accept and settle for a man even if he’s the primary caretaker of his kids out of love or low self esteem where it’s rare for men to do the same
(In my humble opinion ofc, I understand everything isnt always black and white and that what I see and experience isn’t the same all around)
C'mon no amount of NO STIGMA can remove judgement about 7 kids
It's just common sense, same will apply to a man! No woman would willingly walk into that house of madness of a man with 7 kids, lol no Sireee
Unless that man is P Diddy of cause😏
She needs 2 or 3 husbands. Explore polyamory because a single man tryna do all that is really almost impossible.
My mama always told me even when you’re married never give a man a boat load of kids. That man can get up and leave at anytime and you’ll be stuck with all of those kids.
Who sits up and has 7 kids with someone just to break up 🤯
Happens all the time. People marry, have multiple kids, and things may not work out. That's life. Let's use some common sense.
You should definitely be careful about the number of kids you have as a woman. Entering any relationship, whether you have kids or not, is about combining and sharing finances and responsibility. Expecting a man/woman to come in your life and WANTING to share the responsibility of 7 kids is crazy. Especially if they can have other romantic parnters without that kind of baggage. If she doesn't want to be involved with the father anymore, then focus on the kids and/or just accept that any relation with another man isn't going to be serious.
With that being said, black men accept white women with multiple kids like all the time 😂😂
All the time!!
But that’s the preferences. We all know that different rules apply to them.
ALL THE DAMN TIME AND With multiple daddies!
7 kids is too much of a financial responsibility to put on a man that has no dna connection with those kids, the baby’s daddy is the only one that should be responsible for that, because he has skin in the game, her best bet is to get back with the daddy, a new man has all the financial responsibility of raising those kids with non of the authority to discipline those kids, she is off limits
Yes!! All this being able to take care of you and your 7 kids. No she needs to work too and get some child support. That's not his responsibility sorry.
Don’t forget with the story with the 12 year old that once her mother arrived at the house, the father wasn’t trying to let any of the parents in the house to retrieve their children 😒😒
7 Kids?! At 33?! All we can do, is wish you good luck sis... That's a lot of responsibility 😭😭😭😭
Can Reesa Teesa narrate her story on Tick Tock and RUclips, and Shonda Rymes directs it? 😂😂😂😂
Y’all play tooooo much 😂😂😂😂
She really shouldn't be looking for a man at all. She needs to be focusing on being a good mother. With seven kids who in the world has time to date?
Stay with your baby daddy. There's nothing for you on the streets. Somebody lied to you.
Dude's face on the panel had me rollin' 🤣🤣
The lady gave good respectable advise. Its sad she had 7 kids with him, then they split up. Like she should of stopped at 2 if she was gonna leave him because she prob knew something was off at baby 3.
Sit down honey and wait until 5 of those kids are grown. How does she even have the time or energy to date? It's not her season to date. It's her season to mother those 7 children.
Her season is whatever she wants it to be. It may be a struggle, but it's not impossible.
The man for her probably got 8 kids
Definitely agree we need more context but could all agree that that's a huge burden for someone to help carry
Let’s be honest y’all, no single person with no children, would deal with a person who has 7 children willingly. Especially if they have options or young.
I've known people who've done this. Different strokes for different folks.
@@sbostic08Exceptions don’t make the rule.
@@karzymimi42 I've never said it was the rule. However, stating that no single person would do this is false. It's not absolute truth. I've known people who have done this.
@janda5816 Yep, ok 👍🏽
With that many kids, you HAVE to work it out! I’m sorry 🤷🏾♀️
That’s what I’m saying! You’re in too deep and y’all need to team up and raise those kids. Keep us innocent citizens out of your sports team.
Yeah or she should be single and co parent with the kids father if she doesnt want him anymore
@@LoveK1 No man is willingly going to sign up for all of that. My blood pressure was rising as she was telling the story. 7 kids is a lot 🤯. She has a whole daycare!
@@rinabeauty7614 Exactly! The economy is rough. No man is taking that on 🧐
Anyways with God anything is possible and im rooting for her. One mans ‘trash’ is another ones treasure. She could meet a man that has been longing for a family but cant have one. Ppl need to go out and touch grass shes not the first woman with x amount of kids to marry someone else. These conversations are startin to get a exhausting. Wish we all put this much energy into our own lives. Prayin for this to happen for her 💕💕
❤❤❤❤
Thank you! I was just about to type something similar. There’s nothing wrong with holding her accountable, but as long as she’s holding herself accountable, if she wants a “high value” man then that’s her prerogative and I wish her all the best!
No one’s going to deal with 7 kids.
@@jmcbride747 right like its clear that her and her bd were together for a veryy long time thought they were ready to build a family, they did and just like many things in life it didnt work out like they thought. They probably tried but it didnt work does that mean that she should stay alone forever. Shes a beautiful woman and im sure a great mother there could be twins and trips in the mix of those 7kids lol. Either way she deserves what she deserves and if God allows it she will have that high value man 🤗
@@Heyitschy03 in your opinion like i said shes not the first and she wont be the last. Whoever wants to ‘deal’ with 7 kids they will. Ur part of the ppl who needs to get outta ur phone and into the real world where literally everything is possible. Have a good day x
No man in his right mind would walk into that dungeon of hell !
This is why you shouldn't have more than 3 kids if you can help it because a lot of relationships do not work out even in marriage and when you want to remarry taking 7 or 8 kids with you is not going to be easy. People get mad when you tell them they're having too many kids but then end up here like this lady.
Having 7 kids in this day and age is crazy, sorry. Leave that shit in 20th century 😂
and she's just 33, her life was robbed from her she did not enjoy her 20's and not enjoying her 30's either, because she didn't leave the dusty till the 7th child!
Most of that is on her , she should made better choices.
Hey Beautiful. I miss seeing you pop up in my recommendations. Hoping all is well. ❤
I actually think its disrespectful to tell people to work it with the father unless the reason for break up can be worked out.
High value isn't just about money, why should she allow any old person around her children, she should be as selective as possible!
Exactly!
Selective with who? No man of value will deal with that fuckery
@@rickymcdonald2669 Are you a high value man?
My friend has 6 kids from 2 different men- she got herself a great guy (from what I can tell) and the relationship is going strong- there is someone out there for everyone 🤷🏽♀️ From what I've seen, if a man wants you fr doesn't matter if you have 18kids and a peg leg- he'll do whatever he needs to do to be with you 😂
I wish we would stop lying and tell these women the truth.
there was a story about a black man who adopted a white woman’s six kids. They’ll do it for some people 🤷🏾♀️
I think I'll stay child free, because the idea of being essentially trapped with that kind of burden and possibly be on my own doing it is terrifying. Women put too much trust in men to do the right thing. But I also genuinely cannot be mad at the men who don't want to deal with women like this.
Ain't nobody coming into that mess of a situation. Its a wrap for you lady!
7 kids!! Im not judging her cuz everyone wants love no matter your situation, but trying to find time to date when you have 7 younger kids is wild to me. We have two and it feels like there's still not enough hours in the day. If i was her, I would definitely Wait until at least some of the kids are older teenagers before trying to date again. Give yourself time to heal, and for the kids to get adjusted to the new dynamic and to also lighten the burden since teenagers are more self efficient than kids under 12. (I think someone on here said her kids range from 4-12). I hope she finds love tho.
Yeaaa we can’t even be mad at the men with this one. I wouldn’t date a man with 7 kids but nonetheless I wish her the best there maybe someone out there for her who knows.
1: She's cute!
2: She looks good for 7 kids.
3: 1 dad will give her a better outcome.
4: Im dying with 2, i can't imagine 7 😭.
5. She can get a quality man, but she may have to be open to dating a senior citizen.
6.All the best girl! You deserve love❤
Loveeee your channel
I'm not a relationship doomer. She just needs realistic expectations. She could find a guy that already has kids, that doesn't want anymore. A good woman, with a good attitude that isn't entitled, could overcompensate the child "baggage".🤷♂
I agree.
That’s a lot of heavy “baggage”.
@@LoveK1 She could get a man pushing 40 or 50 that's got grown kids. It's on her to be a sweet, respectful and loving. She can beat a lot of these childless women if she's humble, and keeps herself in shape, and picks the right man.
First, we don't know why the couple didn't work out, was he abusive, is he dead, or in jail, what? So many potential scenarios. Second, my advice to her would be that there is hope, but using most of the kitty lady's advice, she has a huge task of carefully vetting any man she spends time with as her pickings are slim with all the children she has. Couples can survive with many children, but it takes commitment and loyalty among other things. Idk if she has time, she may want to wait until some of her kids are older before trying a new relationship as there will be less mouths to feed.
Not 2,3, 4 yr olds😩🤣
She need to be looking for a daycare 😂
Yeah. Nah that’s gone be a tough one baby girl
A real life Dashiki from Don't be a menace..... "where else am I gonna find a 🐈 whipped fool to take care of me and my 7 kids" - Don’t be a menace to South Central while drinking your juice in the hood (1996).
She didn't say they wasnt married. She could be divorced.
Married or single if you’re not rich having that many kids and not being rich already shows that you make bad decisions. Granted I don’t know her situation but in general.
I think she needs to chant Ciara’s prayer 7 times in the morning, noon, and night and see if that brings her a high value man who is willing to accept her and her 7 kids.
Right
I snorted 😂
My mom dated a younger man when I was 12. She had three kids. I was the oldest out of the three. She moved that man into her home and he had no job and just ate up our food. He claimed he was a rapper but that’s it. Well when I was 15, my mom’s bf touched me when I was 15. I feel like the woman with 7 kids should not be dating when those kids are young. She should wait until most of them are older.
*I'm sorry that happened to you and your mom wasn't there to protect you, I hope you know that wasn't your fault.*
Sorry that happened to you. I know people hated on KS but this was one of his points.
Ok ,the answer is no!
Not fair and no one sane will do that.
Where tf is the father?
MAMA ELOHOOO heyy baby it’s been so long since I commented I hope you’re well❤️❤️
I don’t know why this is so controversial. She said she wants to find LOVE. She looks amazing and is very well dressed and its everyone else saying if she found a man he would “have to provide for 7 kids” like no clearly she is taking care of them just fine on her own and probably has child support, so why is everyone acting like she’s asking for a handout or financial help when she just wants a relationship? Crazy how single moms are treated like gold diggers or like a burden on society when they are actually the biggest providers
I wish ppl would stop saying she should work it out with her kids' father. Staying for kids is not always the answer. My parents getting divorced was the best thing they could have done for me and my sisters. I genuinely don't think we have enough information to only impose negative judgements upon this woman. There is very little balance in these comments. Just food for thought
Her tax returns must be 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Their real dad should be the one paying for all those kids
I did a little research and turns out the were married. I have met a lot of married women who knew their husbands were not fit, but in their mind they believed one day their husband would “get it.” Some of these women also felt like, being pregnant was the only time that their husbands gave attention to them or “acted right,” which then creates an unhealthy cycle of bandaid babies. I don’t know her full story but I’m assuming one of these things may have been the cause that kept them together. We don’t know. I don’t have children yet so I can’t speak for her, but we also shouldn’t judge either
*Heavy on the fact that, if you have to wait until you are pregnant to be treated like royalty by him. You are a placeholder, no fault of your own but, it's time to go.*
What if the father died, or they were married & he was cheating/left her for someone else, developed a drug or gambling addiction, developed a severe mental illness, there's a lot of circumstances that can leave women as single mothers outside of their control. This clip doesn't give enough info to explain how she ended up in this situation. Many people thought they found their soulmate, but life happens and they end up as single moms. However, I agree with what most people are saying in the comments, if it was me I'd wait until the kids were grown before trying to get into another relationship.
He clearly didnt die.
7 is crazy. Y’all need money before children
Right !!!!
SEVEN KIDS!?!?!?!!? GIRL!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Yep, she's continuing the bloodline. Not mad at her.
Damn she's Cam Newton 😂😂
only way it could work is if she was friends with a man and he ended up loving the children and falling in love with her… and is rich.
She gonna be single till all them kids are grown and graduated from college. lol
In my opinion, she needs to focus on her kids and wait until they are out of the house and then pursue a relationship. Children require an immense amount of love, time, and attention, and that is who she should prioritize.
After hearing the many stories of little girls being SA by their moms boyfriends, I'd say women with children need to be incredibly careful when dating, preferably never bringing anyone to their home, I believe men with ill intentions target them. Just be mindful of that fact and protect your children
That should be common sense for every woman period, but let's remember not every man is a sexual predator.
*Ms.Cheaper by the Dozen, needs to understand, when you become a parent before marriage, there are a lot of things you can’t do anymore. Also, emotionally there’s no way 7 kids ❤are getting what they need, dating a new person?*
She gonna have to wait until those kids are old & up out the house. Hopefully she don’t focus on trying to get a relationship rather than just raising kids
I wish her nothing but the best. She is absolutely beautiful and seems like she has the ability to communicate. I have to agree with the beautiful young lady who answered her though. If my son told me he had a woman with seven kids absolutely not and I’m sorry but no. Please I pray she can work it out with her children father or keep yourself looking good girl and yassssss get that groove back once them kids good and grown and out the house chile. 🤦🏽♀️
Girl, you crack me up, facts tho.
No one asked if she is going to find a man to provide for her snd her kids. The response was weird. Lol
Did the full interview include more info? A lot of comments seem to be jumping to conclusions and there’s not a ton of context in the original content.
I gotta keep it a buck, I don’t think the odds are in her favor here but I wish her the best of luck. I’m really just wondering if there’s more to the story.
Let's be real everyone is jumping to negative conclusions because she is young black woman with 7 kids. I'm sure the animosity wouldn't be the same if she was of another race. I hate to pull out that card, but the media has brainwashed everyone into thinking that black women with multiple kids has to be a promiscuous welfare recipients with multiple baby daddies. No one considered the possibility that she could've been married, divorced, widowed etc.. some of these comments are ridiculous and shameful. It's not terrible to want a lot of kids and it's not bad to want to date again. She has the right to live her life as she pleases as well as seek love as long as she is thoroughly vetting her potential suitors. Finding the right may be a bit more challenging but it can be done b/c other women have done it before. It's not impossible.
Dismantle the patriarchy and go 4B….
Hell just go 2 or 3/4B wtf.
🎉 I'm early for Eloho muddasuckas!❤
Alicia La Morenita has spoken
@@PHlophe 😌🤩
I actually don't see why the man will have to financially provide for the kids, the dad can do that, anything they do with the children, the dad can pay.
Not True about going to Hell 😡
maybe shel left him because he is not doing his JOB!!! and his share
My son could never come to me with this, no you can’t be with a woman with 7 kids ! 🤦🏾♀️
He’d be getting fused for sure.
7 kids one man … equals good Christian woman lol… she gone find somebody my mom was divorced with my dad still living at home, plus size with 3 kids n kept a man lol.. mind u my dad still lived at home they was separated but he still lived at home n when I tell u my mom kept a man child🤣 some even was introduced to my dad n still didn’t care lol