The person whose spouse cheat can't sleep peacefully. It's not wise to give another chance. Because cheating is not a mistake it's a choice. You should not trust again who are proved cheaters once. Trust is earned its not like a switch to turn on or off.
Bhai, pehla baar ka gunha to Allah bhi maaf karte hai to phir hum kiya cheez hai.. maaf karne se aap ki shaksiyat aur badi hoti hai samne wale ki nazar me..
Cheating is a choice . Once a cheater will always be a cheater . Loyalty is something which does exist rarely in our society . May Allah bless a loyal soulmate .
@@kanwalnaz8075 if he's is possessive he won't give any other chance if he does he won't be able to trust you again , Secondly if you are a Muslim keep on repenting and ask for forgiveness in front of the listener, Would suggest you to move on and Don't loose your self respect if he doesn't give ---the second chance. May Allah show you the righteous path.
I know better the pain of being cheated when u blindly trust and love your spouse .....I think I would never come out of this trauma ...I am silently suffering with the trauma
Easier said than done. Unless u have urself gone through it, u cannot lecture or advice people. The emotional toll it takes and the trust thats broken does not make it easy to trust again
That's is ridiculous and misleading !! I forgave my husband 3times !! The 1st time he changed alot and valued me and cried and held me close, and was really understanding towards me ! But dnt be blinded it was just his way to blind me with love agen because 3months later wen I was heavily pregnant I find out he has gone back to his ways !! Stop trying to justify a cheating man ! Once a cheat always a cheat !! SIMPLE...if he loves you he wud never hurt you in the 1st place, yes he may value temporarily but then he wud go through a love bombing phase but soon then gets bored and cheat its in there nature!! A good man would worship the ground you walk on, FIND A MAN THAT LOVES YOU MORE THAN YOU LOVE HIM, moral of the story .
It’s not only about cheating, some partner gonna cheat on you but you Will still be nice with you, but some people while they cheat on your they will treat you like a crap they will become rude they will push you on edge so you can leave them .
My husband is cheating on me on and off but he's nice to me always he cares about me all the time he said this is nothing but I just can't tolerate these things I'm hurt
@@kiransaleem656 if "its nothing" then tell him to simply stop it kiunke uski zaat ko kya farq paray ga agar wo stop kr de no?. That excuse he gives is covert emotional abuse. So sorry to hear about your situation... may God help you heal.
My sister has gone through a Same situation but unfortunately she has done opposite of what u have suggested* 🤦🏻♀️ You are not only a brilliant coach but a person will Good heart ♥️ Thank you for sharing your knowledge*
@daudabbasi1989never do something to yourself and destroy your Akhira because of someone else’s fault. Ask Allah for strength and to guide you on right path. Women are not weak. Allah created us very strong but we just have to find that ourselves. ❤
@daudabbasi1989went through the same thing except she had 5 kids lol. I tried to fix it for the sake of my kids but never succeeded and now filed for divorce
My husband also cheated me many times I use to be disturbed cried lots depressed many told me to leave him .ours was love marriage somehow I couldn't do that although I tried ,my life was so much depending on him emotionally but then I got a good mentor she said to me it's his karma u do good and good will come back to u law of universe think positive keep on saying to universe he love me n is loyal to me and that magic will happen...I am doing that now ,but believe me my inner strength has grown and now I guess it doesn't matter if he is loyal or not but I m loyal to him that what matters for me.take Gods path he will guide us give us the strength to overcome this pain n u will be peaceful...thank universe
Your words are absolute right for me. My husband cheated, it hurt me so much. I am unable to forgive him for any reason. But I cannot leave him, I have truly invested my whole life for this marriage, children and family. Hatred and humiliation will not serve any purpose. I still love him from my heart. That’s my character Leaving him is not my task, but can I face the life without him, that’s the task. In spite of infidelity he has many reasons I can hold on. But hating him I can’t make my whole life miserable. I love my life and want to live it.
Give 100 likes to her for what she said. Unfortunately, we get so emotional with the cheating part that we don’t realise what could the other picture be. That’s the time to fight for your possession and don’t let anybody else the chance to get what you have by leaving it. Ultimately things will be in your favour
@Homemaker377 Ma'am seems like either you've cheated on your partner and hence her words brought you peace and justification, that inspite of being a cheater you should be valued and fought for OR you're one of those woman just like this orator, who're addicted to toxic masculinity and are trauma bonded to this pain of cheating or aren't self reliant and independent to stand on her feet and leave a cheating partner who's earning you bread!💯
Aapki hr bat sy agree krti hon. 2 years ago I have seen this video but I couldn't understand its crux but now going through the same pain. Your every point is valid and practical. Lots of love and prayers. I am your true admirer.
What do you do if the cheating partner shows no remorse , or even enjoys your pain ? What to do? Can’t leave him. I act as if I have moved on. Normalized everything. Keeping a blind eye to his still on going affairs. Staying in the marriage due to financial reasons. And the fact that I have been married for 27 years. Can’t even show my pain. Don’t know how to keep myself happy . After keeping his parda for 27 years kids found out too. At least my sons are very supportive and a great source of comfort. It still hurts though. He has too much pride. He will never show his love , and his affairs give him energy and happiness and are like his addiction. But he won’t marry anyone else. Chalo. Also then, everyone In the community also treats me like a stupid since everyone could tell about him and I was the only naive one. Now I feel like an idiot too.
@@maviishtiaq6146 I have never seen anyone changing. Not my husband nor anyone else. The best for you is to just stop expecting that he will change. Just do whatever you can to keep yourself happy and don’t think too much. Don’t let yourself be hurt. He is not important. You are.
Same mine and 26 years of marriage, came to know infidelity 2 years back and going to school and soon be on my feet, Will say bye to him. We are separated since then. It does not that right after this happen you can decide on stay or leave. Once you are able to decide a lot more already happened. My partner is covert narcissist and understand him well enough to leave and live in peace.
This is exactly my story. Word to word, it's all the same. 27 years of marriage, sons, infidelity that I just discovered 4 years ago. A feeling of disconnect with him right from the beginning. A covert narcissist to the core. My life is in ruins. Men never ever realize their mistakes. They carry on with their actions thinking that its their right to do so. The wife and the children suffer tremendously and endlessly. It's my belief that with such men, the torture ends when either of the spouses die.
There is no remorse no consequences. It happens over and over again and again.. there is no mistake. It’s a choice and men Enjoy cheating and hurting their wives. The get an ego boost with an affair and more ego boost by seeing the wives in pain.
@@MyPhone-jm8wn I can understand your pain. Please turn to Allah for strength. Your husband is stupid for not knowing your value. Once you will get over this emotional Turmoil you will be stronger than before trust me. I am. Talking from experience. Turn to God for support. Never think about suicide. You are very valuable. Your stupid husband doesn’t deserve your love, or respect. Don’t waste your life or tears for a third class man like him. I used to think the same. But alhamdulillah I did not do something like this and now I am thankful I didn’t. Wipe your tears. Stay strong and it’s your husband who has lost you. Then these men in their old age complain that their wives don’t respect or care for them .
It has been 2 years since we are married I have 1 and half year old child I caught him cheating through checking him online then he ended up giving my ID to his gf (without knowing I'm his wife) she was like stop messaging him he is my BF ..I said I'm his wife and he is also a father to a child , she gave me her number and told me on call that she had no idea ..he was trapping her the same way he did to me in university for marriage..if I were to call off the engagement due to family issues he would threaten me to kill himself..I want to leave him but I'm pressured because of family and society
@@MyPhone-jm8wn leave him alone. No need to do his investigation. Once a cheater always a cheater. Be strong. Wipe your tears. Please understand he will not stop . Even after 25 years he will be the same. Now think about yourself. If you want to leave him them thuda marain and leave him. No need to worry about anything like society or something. And if he wants to kill himself then he can gladly do that. Shauq farmain. Now if you don’t want to leave for any financial traps then ignore him. Forget about him and keep yourself happy. Do whatever makes you happy. Job, make up, cloths, parties Quran class anything. and that’s all . Put your heart in your child and your friends and social work and only also use your husband. God has made you for much bigger things than this one lousy man. He doesn’t deserve your attention. Don’t do any badtameezee, do all your farz and detach. . Decision is yours . Suicide is not a choice. Don’t ever think about it. Just make your heart strong and realize that there is no such thing as love. Don’t fall in love and use him like he uses you. If you want love then love Allah and Rasool and ask for their love. You are very young but you will understand with time. May Allah make it better for you. Lots of love .
May Allah swt bless you forever amin sumamin I am suffering from the same pain your advice guided me rightly still I want guidance to come out from depression
Standard protocol hai ma'am but kuch aise bhi man hote hai jo cheating saamne aane k baad bhi aapse hi ulta misbhave kerte hai 2 din theek uske fir vase hi
When someone cheat, this is very tough to accept and the person refuse for se very long time and you discover he or she is cheating, even if you forgive because of children, but when i will sleep with her, i will always think that she will do it by obligation and not because she want you!
Cheating can destroy a partner as badly from which he can never recover specially if the victim is male and cheating can never be hide oneday it will open
I really appreciate from this inspiration I will definitely attemp this method recently my husband starts cheats me from last few days and am very sad thanku Soo much
How can we be over hurt or pain of cheating? Sometimes it is not easy to decide to leave or stay in the marriage for so many other reasons like children, society etc.
Most sensible advice. Cheating is wrong but there are steps that lead to it and often the wife does play a role as it is two people in the marriage. People are human, they lose their path nd mostly the communication has broken down far earlier then tbe cheating took place.
I caught him cheating on me many times. But kabhi uski izzat kharab ni ki or bas yhi galti ho gyi mujse .to usko lga me to kuch ker ni skti na kuch bigad skti uska isliye usne fir wahi kaam suru ker diya but is bar usne sab jagah muje bi badnam krna suru kr diya He killed me Kutte kabhi nahi sudherte kitna bi maan samman do rahenge to kutte hi ..
Same Maine bhi yahi galti ki thi une moka diya sudhrneka our apne parents ko bhi kuch nahi bataya unki izzat kharab na ho isliye lekin unhone fir se mere sat dhoka Kiya me andar se bahut tut gayi hu
When a man cheats he is not emotionally in love with other women but when a woman cheats she is emotionally involved and that destroys the marriage more seriously. What do you say?
bull. Islamically dekha jae toh zina , sexual relationship, is wayyyyy worse than just having feelings for someone else. Other than that. Why is emotional cheating worse>> it honestly depends on the person. If my partner, god forbid, cheats i would be equally hurt whether it is sexual or emotional. This statement is just used by men to justify their cheating
@Ammara He/She didn't compare sexual cheating with just having feelings for someone. He/She compared sexual cheating with sexual cheating along feelings. The later is obviously worse when feelings are involved in cheating. That means the cheater stopped loving you.
Maam plz discuss this topic how a person can ignore loved ones very toxic criticism... Plz provide techniques i have been following all ur techniques alhumdulillah very fruitful but to everyone it takes time u need to absorb ur soul into it..stay blessed
Please share your views on habitual cheater jis ko bas bahar moun marnay ki adat ho. Aik dafa pakray janay k baad, mafi kasmon k baad phir say wohi kaam karna shuru karde or victim ko gaslighting karay
Hi Maam, what if the person is cheating on you again and again. Even than the wife shud silent and not discuss this with family since this is in early years of marriage. Please help
My husband is cheating on me since the last 8 years and he is in a relationship with a muslim widower who has one adult boy and the other a child of 12 years. I know everything. But I don't want to leave him as I have a daughter of 11 years old. I have lost my 8 valuable years of my life . Whenever he is at home I feel good but I cannot forget what he has done and doing to me.
If a spouse cheated and forcefully ask for forgiveness, abusive behavior starts and makes the other spouse feel that he/she is responsible for whatever happened. Never accepts his mistakes. Then what??? And then when you ask for divorce starts love bombing on one side but keep blaming on the other side.
Ok what if the husband is a good person, good to you and your children but is a womanizer and continues to cheat over years and years without any guilt. Whenever confronted, he forces his wife to break the marriage saying I am like this, bear it or leave... how to deal with such situation? When you can't leave and even can't bear it??? It kills you deep down with every breath you take...
Alhamdulillah ma shaa Allah I have such a nice husband loves me extremely and close to our beautiful deen Islam ye sb deen se doori ha agr waqiye deen ki.smjh hoti hm.musalmano ko to is rishte ka taqaddus smjhte aur ahmiyat smjhte agr sachi muhabbat ho to asa nhi hota kbhi aur agr na bhi ho to bhi khoof e Khuda ki vja se aur Quran se sahi meaning me jorne ki.vja se insan ase nhi krta kunke vo apne husband ya apni wife ke ilava har mard ya aurat ko apne lye namehram aur haram smjhta ha aur behn bhai jesa rutba deta ha
Cheating Men dont really dont care Person who wants to stay loyal will find one reason enough to stay loyal Nd one who wants to cheat will find millions reasons where there are none
This is practically wrong advice -: 😆😆😆😆 Husband do not have humble heart they didn't think much about their wife , that's the reason they cheat. Wife usually hide everything from their family for their prestige but later on husband think she is foolish poor girl. So ladies leave Sare kacche chatte khol do Sab kuch btao zaleel krke fek do Kyuki ye wahi shauhar hote hai jo dosre aurto ko tumare kamiya bata ke khush krte hai.. don't think about them .
mam i got cheated and everyone on family and friend circle know this..i am very heart broken and dont know what to do.. i have two kids.. i want to stay in this marriege but outside people always giving taunts..and i am not able to bear them
Agar 17 saal se mustaqil cheat karta rahe maam phir kia karen, mey ne 16 saal chopaya but sub kuch mgr end mey mje ye sila mila k mian ne aik aur shadi bhi kar li,,, r mey ab pshcho, hogaee hon , medicine pr hon. 2 times suicide ki koshish ki hai. Totally famil distroy hochuki hai, bache toper se 0 hochukey hain. Koi nae samjhta kitna nuqsaan horaha hai. Mje achanak depression k dorey parte hain. Os waqt kuch smj nas aati . Madinice b asar nae karti, bht hyper hojati hon. 😢😢😢😢
Facing the same right now.. Actually he is the one who confessed... And want to avoid her forever.. But she is not ready to move on.. And he is seeking help frm me.. He was always nice to me and our children..and treated me like his queen.. He is saying that he got trapped and couldn't come out frm that as he was afraid of facing the situation.. Like she threaten him wth suicide attempt or filing a police case.. He is ready to wait untill i change my mind and forgive him.. Bt what would i do if he cheat again.. Actually i love him a lot and can't live wthout him..😢😢
I just came to know about you and your videos just a couple of weeks ago and have watched a few of them, they all are phenomenal and I'm sure they would create a positive affect on most people. You use English words and phrases quite often in the videos which makes it difficult rather impossible for many in our society to understand your valuable disquisition, considering this I suggest you to please avoid using English words particularly in videos regarding matrimonial relationship and issues. Appreciative
@@anumkhan286 Khudko pehle pyar Karo.Hum sarey zindagi nikal dete hain pyar pane ke liye kisi aur ke liys jo hume deserve nahi karta. Financially independent bano aur phir usko choro.Waise bhi rehkar toh har roz woh darr main rehna hota hain.Zindagi kabhi nahi rukta aur nahi rukegi.Log battein karenge aur karte karte chup ho jayenge tum apne bare mein socho sirf.Bless you.
What she is saying doesn’t make sense! It is sky fell on you and how come someone close like children will not know. You will cry and feel helpless. Once you stable already so much happen, and to decide or leave is a case to case, no one can tell all do this trick and will work. Her statement is misleading.
The person whose spouse cheat can't sleep peacefully. It's not wise to give another chance. Because cheating is not a mistake it's a choice. You should not trust again who are proved cheaters once. Trust is earned its not like a switch to turn on or off.
Bhai, pehla baar ka gunha to Allah bhi maaf karte hai to phir hum kiya cheez hai.. maaf karne se aap ki shaksiyat aur badi hoti hai samne wale ki nazar me..
Bilkul sahi kaha apne. Cheating is a CHOICE. ghalti se cheating ki he nahi ja sakti. Tamam hosh o hawash k sath insan steps le raha hota hai.
Great words😢
@Kashan Pervaiz true
I am totally agree with you
Cheating is a choice . Once a cheater will always be a cheater . Loyalty is something which does exist rarely in our society . May Allah bless a loyal soulmate .
But is there a way to gain his trust again ? Is there a way to save my relationship
@@kanwalnaz8075 if he's is possessive he won't give any other chance if he does he won't be able to trust you again ,
Secondly if you are a Muslim keep on repenting and ask for forgiveness in front of the listener,
Would suggest you to move on and Don't loose your self respect if he doesn't give ---the second chance.
May Allah show you the righteous path.
Yes cheating is by choice it's not a mistake
Cheating cannot be acceptable at all !
I know better the pain of being cheated when u blindly trust and love your spouse .....I think I would never come out of this trauma ...I am silently suffering with the trauma
What happen with you
Easier said than done. Unless u have urself gone through it, u cannot lecture or advice people. The emotional toll it takes and the trust thats broken does not make it easy to trust again
True, it's a trust that has shaken badly. How can I trust him back he is a good lier.
Maybe she did
Absolutely
Love from India. This is one of the best advices I've heard on this topic!
That's is ridiculous and misleading !! I forgave my husband 3times !!
The 1st time he changed alot and valued me and cried and held me close, and was really understanding towards me ! But dnt be blinded it was just his way to blind me with love agen because 3months later wen I was heavily pregnant I find out he has gone back to his ways !! Stop trying to justify a cheating man ! Once a cheat always a cheat !! SIMPLE...if he loves you he wud never hurt you in the 1st place, yes he may value temporarily but then he wud go through a love bombing phase but soon then gets bored and cheat its in there nature!! A good man would worship the ground you walk on, FIND A MAN THAT LOVES YOU MORE THAN YOU LOVE HIM, moral of the story .
Did u leave him?
Hlo i want a advice
@@kishorkiran3921 what advice
Did you leave him?
R u together now
It’s not only about cheating, some partner gonna cheat on you but you Will still be nice with you, but some people while they cheat on your they will treat you like a crap they will become rude they will push you on edge so you can leave them .
Exactly
My husband is cheating on me on and off but he's nice to me always he cares about me all the time he said this is nothing but I just can't tolerate these things I'm hurt
@@kiransaleem656 if "its nothing" then tell him to simply stop it kiunke uski zaat ko kya farq paray ga agar wo stop kr de no?. That excuse he gives is covert emotional abuse. So sorry to hear about your situation... may God help you heal.
Iam in the same situation. As per him IT'S JUST A HARMLESS FUN.
Is it worth ?
No need to watch the video, I tell you how to deal with a cheater. LEAVE HIM FOREVER, HE DOESN'T LOVE OR WANT YOU. #TRUTH
True because if there is no trust there is nothing behind
Most absurd video ever seen
My sister has gone through a Same situation but unfortunately she has done opposite of what u have suggested* 🤦🏻♀️
You are not only a brilliant coach but a person will Good heart ♥️
Thank you for sharing your knowledge*
اور میرا یہی خیال ہے کہ شادی ہمیشہ ماں باپ کی مرضی سے کرنی چاہیے اور انسان کو خود بھی نیک ہونا چاہئے تھا کہ اللہ اس کو نیک بیوی دے
@daudabbasi1989never do something to yourself and destroy your Akhira because of someone else’s fault. Ask Allah for strength and to guide you on right path. Women are not weak. Allah created us very strong but we just have to find that ourselves. ❤
@daudabbasi1989went through the same thing except she had 5 kids lol. I tried to fix it for the sake of my kids but never succeeded and now filed for divorce
My husband also cheated me many times I use to be disturbed cried lots depressed many told me to leave him .ours was love marriage somehow I couldn't do that although I tried ,my life was so much depending on him emotionally but then I got a good mentor she said to me it's his karma u do good and good will come back to u law of universe think positive keep on saying to universe he love me n is loyal to me and that magic will happen...I am doing that now ,but believe me my inner strength has grown and now I guess it doesn't matter if he is loyal or not but I m loyal to him that what matters for me.take Gods path he will guide us give us the strength to overcome this pain n u will be peaceful...thank universe
@@babynyra9089 plz guide more
When a person cheats his wife
The whole family suffers not only the wife
It’s not easy at all to forgive him
Hi😊😅
Loyalty is very expensive everyone can't afford it
Nothing works for some people because it is an addiction.
Cheaters should be punished severely by God ..
such a wise person sharing her wisdom..... applause
Hi😊
Best advice ever.....right now im already appliying this method and im enjoying .....
Hi😅
Your words are absolute right for me. My husband cheated, it hurt me so much. I am unable to forgive him for any reason. But I cannot leave him, I have truly invested my whole life for this marriage, children and family. Hatred and humiliation will not serve any purpose. I still love him from my heart. That’s my character Leaving him is not my task, but can I face the life without him, that’s the task. In spite of infidelity he has many reasons I can hold on. But hating him I can’t make my whole life miserable.
I love my life and want to live it.
Give 100 likes to her for what she said. Unfortunately, we get so emotional with the cheating part that we don’t realise what could the other picture be. That’s the time to fight for your possession and don’t let anybody else the chance to get what you have by leaving it. Ultimately things will be in your favour
I am facing this situation these days. I am about to leave his house
@Homemaker377 Ma'am seems like either you've cheated on your partner and hence her words brought you peace and justification, that inspite of being a cheater you should be valued and fought for OR you're one of those woman just like this orator, who're addicted to toxic masculinity and are trauma bonded to this pain of cheating or aren't self reliant and independent to stand on her feet and leave a cheating partner who's earning you bread!💯
Aapki hr bat sy agree krti hon. 2 years ago I have seen this video but I couldn't understand its crux but now going through the same pain. Your every point is valid and practical. Lots of love and prayers. I am your true admirer.
Can you explain your situation more ¿
Be patient it will get better isA ❤
What do you do if the cheating partner shows no remorse , or even enjoys your pain ? What to do? Can’t leave him. I act as if I have moved on. Normalized everything. Keeping a blind eye to his still on going affairs. Staying in the marriage due to financial reasons. And the fact that I have been married for 27 years. Can’t even show my pain. Don’t know how to keep myself happy . After keeping his parda for 27 years kids found out too. At least my sons are very supportive and a great source of comfort. It still hurts though. He has too much pride. He will never show his love , and his affairs give him energy and happiness and are like his addiction. But he won’t marry anyone else. Chalo. Also then, everyone In the community also treats me like a stupid since everyone could tell about him and I was the only naive one. Now I feel like an idiot too.
Same is like my husband we are married n it’s been almost 7 years n mjhy b lgta k meri zindagi aisy he nikal jaye gi
@@maviishtiaq6146 I have never seen anyone changing. Not my husband nor anyone else. The best for you is to just stop expecting that he will change. Just do whatever you can to keep yourself happy and don’t think too much. Don’t let yourself be hurt. He is not important. You are.
Same mine and 26 years of marriage, came to know infidelity 2 years back and going to school and soon be on my feet, Will say bye to him. We are separated since then. It does not that right after this happen you can decide on stay or leave. Once you are able to decide a lot more already happened. My partner is covert narcissist and understand him well enough to leave and live in peace.
Same
This is exactly my story. Word to word, it's all the same. 27 years of marriage, sons, infidelity that I just discovered 4 years ago. A feeling of disconnect with him right from the beginning. A covert narcissist to the core. My life is in ruins. Men never ever realize their mistakes. They carry on with their actions thinking that its their right to do so. The wife and the children suffer tremendously and endlessly. It's my belief that with such men, the torture ends when either of the spouses die.
so informative I just couldn’t stop watching your videos* love it ❤️
There is no remorse no consequences. It happens over and over again and again.. there is no mistake. It’s a choice and men Enjoy cheating and hurting their wives. The get an ego boost with an affair and more ego boost by seeing the wives in pain.
Madam kindly enquire on girls, u will find the ratio Is much more higher that boys in terms of cheating her partner..it it current scenario and data
That's so true ..I caught him cheating recently it's so painful..I feel like committing suicide
@@MyPhone-jm8wn I can understand your pain. Please turn to Allah for strength. Your husband is stupid for not knowing your value. Once you will get over this emotional Turmoil you will be stronger than before trust me. I am. Talking from experience. Turn to God for support. Never think about suicide. You are very valuable. Your stupid husband doesn’t deserve your love, or respect. Don’t waste your life or tears for a third class man like him. I used to think the same. But alhamdulillah I did not do something like this and now I am thankful I didn’t. Wipe your tears. Stay strong and it’s your husband who has lost you. Then these men in their old age complain that their wives don’t respect or care for them .
It has been 2 years since we are married I have 1 and half year old child I caught him cheating through checking him online then he ended up giving my ID to his gf (without knowing I'm his wife) she was like stop messaging him he is my BF ..I said I'm his wife and he is also a father to a child , she gave me her number and told me on call that she had no idea ..he was trapping her the same way he did to me in university for marriage..if I were to call off the engagement due to family issues he would threaten me to kill himself..I want to leave him but I'm pressured because of family and society
@@MyPhone-jm8wn leave him alone. No need to do his investigation. Once a cheater always a cheater. Be strong. Wipe your tears. Please understand he will not stop . Even after 25 years he will be the same.
Now think about yourself. If you want to leave him them thuda marain and leave him. No need to worry about anything like society or something. And if he wants to kill himself then he can gladly do that. Shauq farmain.
Now if you don’t want to leave for any financial traps then ignore him. Forget about him and keep yourself happy. Do whatever makes you happy. Job, make up, cloths, parties Quran class anything. and that’s all . Put your heart in your child and your friends and social work and only also use your husband. God has made you for much bigger things than this one lousy man. He doesn’t deserve your attention. Don’t do any badtameezee, do all your farz and detach. . Decision is yours . Suicide is not a choice. Don’t ever think about it. Just make your heart strong and realize that there is no such thing as love. Don’t fall in love and use him like he uses you. If you want love then love Allah and Rasool and ask for their love. You are very young but you will understand with time. May Allah make it better for you. Lots of love .
Wonderful and practical explanation..thank u so much ❤❤❤
May Allah swt bless you forever amin sumamin I am suffering from the same pain your advice guided me rightly still I want guidance to come out from depression
What about men who brags openly and proudly about. Their affairs.
Exactly
Shee ho jaty ha ayse log
U are truly right sister❤ thanks for your valuable advice...
no matter what she is speaking sense as there is no definate answer
I really like to hear your wisdom in this video. You said so well.
Hi😊
Ma'am you are brilliant...aap in actual Allah ko razi kr rahi h
Just love your talks mam, keep uploading ♥️
Standard protocol hai ma'am but kuch aise bhi man hote hai jo cheating saamne aane k baad bhi aapse hi ulta misbhave kerte hai 2 din theek uske fir vase hi
Speaker is saying rightly.
When someone cheat, this is very tough to accept and the person refuse for se very long time and you discover he or she is cheating, even if you forgive because of children, but when i will sleep with her, i will always think that she will do it by obligation and not because she want you!
I had never see n listen a wonderful women like u....m also a woman n hv same views like u...u told me how great i m
Thank you so much Mam for your precious advice before watching this video I am very confused now I am clear what I have to do now for my family
Cheating can destroy a partner as badly from which he can never recover specially if the victim is male and cheating can never be hide oneday it will open
You are righttt.we should give one chance atleast.Allah also gives 3 chances to his creation
I really appreciate from this inspiration I will definitely attemp this method recently my husband starts cheats me from last few days and am very sad thanku Soo much
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hatss-OFF !!!! Golden words!
Great words of great heart Lady.
How can we be over hurt or pain of cheating? Sometimes it is not easy to decide to leave or stay in the marriage for so many other reasons like children, society etc.
Right
Same situation here
Same
Lovely advice, JazkiAllah khair ❤
Mam plz counsel on this kind of issues like... How to stop controlling over partner and how to give space to them.🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thanks form the bottom of my heart..❤️❤️ love from 🇮🇳
Most sensible advice. Cheating is wrong but there are steps that lead to it and often the wife does play a role as it is two people in the marriage. People are human, they lose their path nd mostly the communication has broken down far earlier then tbe cheating took place.
So practical and helpful❤
Zabardast aap ki baton se bohot himmat milti h .
I caught him cheating on me many times. But kabhi uski izzat kharab ni ki or bas yhi galti ho gyi mujse .to usko lga me to kuch ker ni skti na kuch bigad skti uska isliye usne fir wahi kaam suru ker diya but is bar usne sab jagah muje bi badnam krna suru kr diya
He killed me
Kutte kabhi nahi sudherte kitna bi maan samman do rahenge to kutte hi ..
Same Maine bhi yahi galti ki thi une moka diya sudhrneka our apne parents ko bhi kuch nahi bataya unki izzat kharab na ho isliye lekin unhone fir se mere sat dhoka Kiya me andar se bahut tut gayi hu
Bilkul sahi... kutta hi rahega
When a man cheats he is not emotionally in love with other women but when a woman cheats she is emotionally involved and that destroys the marriage more seriously. What do you say?
bull. Islamically dekha jae toh zina , sexual relationship, is wayyyyy worse than just having feelings for someone else. Other than that. Why is emotional cheating worse>> it honestly depends on the person. If my partner, god forbid, cheats i would be equally hurt whether it is sexual or emotional. This statement is just used by men to justify their cheating
@Ammara He/She didn't compare sexual cheating with just having feelings for someone. He/She compared sexual cheating with sexual cheating along feelings. The later is obviously worse when feelings are involved in cheating. That means the cheater stopped loving you.
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Excellent advice❤️🌼
I am shocked to hear you misguiding people like that.
That’s why a wife cheating is more devastating
But a cheating Husband deserves a cheating wife,
What you think ???
She is right.
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Superb explanation ❤❤❤
What if he repeatedly cheats, beg for forgiveness, show the extreme love n again the damn affairs??
Exactly. Is situation main aurat ko gaslight kar k jataya jata hy tum overthink kar rahi ho. Going through the same situation.
Yeah, he is taking everything lightly. Do not understand your love
What if the person cheats again??? I'd love to hear her thoughts.
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Maam plz discuss this topic how a person can ignore loved ones very toxic criticism... Plz provide techniques i have been following all ur techniques alhumdulillah very fruitful but to everyone it takes time u need to absorb ur soul into it..stay blessed
Please share your views on habitual cheater jis ko bas bahar moun marnay ki adat ho. Aik dafa pakray janay k baad, mafi kasmon k baad phir say wohi kaam karna shuru karde or victim ko gaslighting karay
Be loyal be rare
I think it is a very good advice
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Hi Maam, what if the person is cheating on you again and again. Even than the wife shud silent and not discuss this with family since this is in early years of marriage. Please help
i also have this same Question
I can't believe that you just said that
My husband is cheating on me since the last 8 years and he is in a relationship with a muslim widower who has one adult boy and the other a child of 12 years. I know everything. But I don't want to leave him as I have a daughter of 11 years old. I have lost my 8 valuable years of my life . Whenever he is at home I feel good but I cannot forget what he has done and doing to me.
Awesome Points.
sir me ise issue se guzar rahe hn me is shocked se bahar h nikal nahe pa rahe me kiya keroon y pain mujhe kha geya h
My husband cheated on me. Can i give a complaint against them legally?
Yes
Perfect really impressive
If a spouse cheated and forcefully ask for forgiveness, abusive behavior starts and makes the other spouse feel that he/she is responsible for whatever happened. Never accepts his mistakes. Then what??? And then when you ask for divorce starts love bombing on one side but keep blaming on the other side.
Iam in this same position he cheated but blaming me for that and not accepting his fault and not letting me to live my life. I don't know what to do
Ok what if the husband is a good person, good to you and your children but is a womanizer and continues to cheat over years and years without any guilt. Whenever confronted, he forces his wife to break the marriage saying I am like this, bear it or leave... how to deal with such situation? When you can't leave and even can't bear it??? It kills you deep down with every breath you take...
Seems like someone is talking about me
it is actually soo painful .. It feels like all the doors are closed and you stuck so badly
talking about me yrr
Same situation. Life is hell
Very nice solution
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What to do with a partner who betrayed 4 times?
Super sis
Alhamdulillah ma shaa Allah I have such a nice husband loves me extremely and close to our beautiful deen Islam ye sb deen se doori ha agr waqiye deen ki.smjh hoti hm.musalmano ko to is rishte ka taqaddus smjhte aur ahmiyat smjhte agr sachi muhabbat ho to asa nhi hota kbhi aur agr na bhi ho to bhi khoof e Khuda ki vja se aur Quran se sahi meaning me jorne ki.vja se insan ase nhi krta kunke vo apne husband ya apni wife ke ilava har mard ya aurat ko apne lye namehram aur haram smjhta ha aur behn bhai jesa rutba deta ha
Thank you Very much maam
great listning to u always
Cheating Men dont really dont care
Person who wants to stay loyal will find one reason enough to stay loyal
Nd one who wants to cheat will find millions reasons where there are none
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This is practically wrong advice -: 😆😆😆😆
Husband do not have humble heart they didn't think much about their wife , that's the reason they cheat.
Wife usually hide everything from their family for their prestige but later on husband think she is foolish poor girl. So ladies leave
Sare kacche chatte khol do
Sab kuch btao zaleel krke fek do
Kyuki ye wahi shauhar hote hai jo dosre aurto ko tumare kamiya bata ke khush krte hai.. don't think about them .
love you such a nice person and positive thinker you are .one can keep himself the only difference is of gender. i would ask if it happen to husband
murd ko fariq nahe perta , hum chup to ho jate hen bacho ke lye ,per ander se mur gai hon , living like zinda lash ...any advised on it
I have one question. He said tm mere wife ho tumara wahi status rahega koi aaye koi jaye iska tension kyu lete ho.What I can do mam
Unfortunately apny gunah ko jaiz bnany ki bath hai
How can i contact you,i m in same situation and want to come out of it.
mam i got cheated and everyone on family and friend circle know this..i am very heart broken and dont know what to do.. i have two kids.. i want to stay in this marriege but outside people always giving taunts..and i am not able to bear them
I want your mail ID I want to discuss your problem
Agar 17 saal se mustaqil cheat karta rahe maam phir kia karen, mey ne 16 saal chopaya but sub kuch mgr end mey mje ye sila mila k mian ne aik aur shadi bhi kar li,,, r mey ab pshcho, hogaee hon , medicine pr hon. 2 times suicide ki koshish ki hai. Totally famil distroy hochuki hai, bache toper se 0 hochukey hain. Koi nae samjhta kitna nuqsaan horaha hai. Mje achanak depression k dorey parte hain. Os waqt kuch smj nas aati . Madinice b asar nae karti, bht hyper hojati hon. 😢😢😢😢
Very right. Very right
What if the husband is habitual of cheating again & again? like decade ... not even ashamed
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Facing the same right now.. Actually he is the one who confessed... And want to avoid her forever.. But she is not ready to move on.. And he is seeking help frm me.. He was always nice to me and our children..and treated me like his queen.. He is saying that he got trapped and couldn't come out frm that as he was afraid of facing the situation.. Like she threaten him wth suicide attempt or filing a police case.. He is ready to wait untill i change my mind and forgive him.. Bt what would i do if he cheat again.. Actually i love him a lot and can't live wthout him..😢😢
Since you can't live without a cheater , so you are at the same level as him and don't complain about his cheating!
Highly impossible to get a loyal partner....in this fake world...love is just a toy for cheters...God and parents are the only genuine ones.....
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Tq I too got solution for my problems
im suffer 😭 from same situation
Ms.Saeed please comment on these thoughts
I just came to know about you and your videos just a couple of weeks ago and have watched a few of them, they all are phenomenal and I'm sure they would create a positive affect on most people.
You use English words and phrases quite often in the videos which makes it difficult rather impossible for many in our society to understand your valuable disquisition, considering this I suggest you to please avoid using English words particularly in videos regarding matrimonial relationship and issues.
Appreciative
Very true
I think if woman work on their sense of possession then they can deal with the pain of replacment or adultry
How plz help
@@anumkhan286 koi bhi apki malkiyat ni hta is dunya mi
@@anumkhan286 Khudko pehle pyar Karo.Hum sarey zindagi nikal dete hain pyar pane ke liye kisi aur ke liys jo hume deserve nahi karta. Financially independent bano aur phir usko choro.Waise bhi rehkar toh har roz woh darr main rehna hota hain.Zindagi kabhi nahi rukta aur nahi rukegi.Log battein karenge aur karte karte chup ho jayenge tum apne bare mein socho sirf.Bless you.
Baat tou aapne sahi Kahi magar bohat mushkil hota he bilkul asaan nahi
Thank you mam
Hope so ki apka baate mere life me aasar kare
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شوہر کو روم میں ذلیل کرنا بھی کوئی حل نہیں ۔ایک ہی حل ہے سمجھداری سے کام لے، ورنہ شادی کا ستیاناس ھونا ہی ھونا ہے💯فیصد
Wow so nice
What she is saying doesn’t make sense! It is sky fell on you and how come someone close like children will not know. You will cry and feel helpless. Once you stable already so much happen, and to decide or leave is a case to case, no one can tell all do this trick and will work. Her statement is misleading.
1:12 How foolish LOL. I was done here, realised it wasn't worth listening to her any ahead
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Ap plz Urdu ma b bat Kia kry apki baty bhot achi hoti hain