Story two: just don’t change the clothes. You’re their dad too so you get a choice. If wife is that serious about it she should pick them beforehand and you dress them. If she can’t do that then the clothes don’t change - as long as the clothes are not dirty or soiled, too small or obscene and offensive then the kids can absolutely wear them.
Story 2: the clothes could be picked out the night before so there’s no confusion. But also those are his kids as well. Her going behind him to pick different clothes is ridiculous. If she’s not dressing them, then she doesn’t need to have any input.
I agree. He's their father. If he's going to be the one in charge of dressing them then she doesn't get a say in what they wear. If she wants a say she can dress them. If she doesn't have time to work and dress her children, she needs to reprioritize her responsibilities as a mother
Agreed. When the laundry is done, mom can just sort clothes into outfit choice to go to school /other and Dad could just change them into pre-chosen outfits.
Story2: why doesn’t mom lay out clothes the night before if she’s so particular about what they wear… dad was trying she was showing zero appreciation! His feelings were rightfully hurt 🤷🏼♀️
Story 9 is just sad. What kind of person does that!? My reaction is the same as yours! Good job dad for making your daughter the priority and for protecting her.
Absolutely agree. DO NOT MESS WITH GERMAN CHOCOLATE CAKE! 😂 It's my favorite. I wouldn't begrudge anyone else having something so fantastic. Op deserves to have what she likes on HER bday. My niece and I share a lot of favorite things. Intead of being mad, I'm super happy that we have things in common. The its all about me attitude is insane to me.
i'm 28 years old & i cry last year when my mom give me a small & ugly cake. Every year i'm ask what i want & i said a cake. That's the only think i ask. So yes i cry rarely, but it's a cake on my bday so...
And to say "only little kids care about cake this much" my youngest is going to be 7 this week, They don't care what cake I get, as long as there is icings / whipped cream and cherries (non-alcoholic black forest cake & cheese cake)
Story 6: What kinda mother in law will make you suffer for the rest of your life over a cake? It could've been a funny story after getting a replacement. Now MIL will just spread a false rumors about buying a melted cake to all her friends.
Story 2, as a Mom, Dad is NTA 100%, mom is ascon 1. Who cares what the kids wear? This is ridiculous. By that age my kids were dressing themselves, and never matched. Unless it is picture day, who cares????
Hi Dusty and crew, story 3 , how could she ? The wrong cake!!! She's at 1 in my book , the gas lighting puts her there, I'm grinding my teeth just thinking about this. Love to you all from the skipping fairy 🧚♂️ x
Story two I see two options: set out the clothes the night before. He could take a photo of the outfits his wife says matches and keep track of them on his phone
Yeah, that's what I get stuck on too. Plus, just because we're used to getting chewed out doesn't make it okay. I work at a store where we changed our membership system, and I got yelled at over it. a colleague checked on me, and I said I'm used to it. Her response? "That doesn't make it okay." She's worked there longer, so I do take that seriously.
For story 3, the cake, no no no. That girlfriend was wrong for that. 3 years together and they made an agreement to get each other the cake they wanted and he specifically told her “any CHEESECAKE” and then she tries to minimize his feelings? No. Red flag. Throw her away. If your partner doesn’t listen to you, respect you and care about your feelings then there’s no reason to keep dating them. That is time you could spend with someone who will make you feel respected, appreciated and valued. She should have apologized. Not tell him “only kids care about their birthday cake”. Oh really? Then why was this something they agreed to? Tell her to eat a cake she doesn’t enjoy the taste of on her birthday. The disrespect. Ascon1 girlfriend in my opinion.
Story 2: wife is definitely unappreciative. If you constantly criticize, of course the other person is going to quit trying to please you. Kids don’t need to be fashion models, if they were clean and appropriate for the weather then dad did a great job!
6:52 nope, if the wife cares that much about the appearance of her children then she needs to pick the clothes out the night before if she doesn’t have time in the morning. And what is she going to do when the kids start having their own opinions on their clothes?
Story 4; the bride is the A-hole. Excluding kids you supposedly and trying to force others to do the same and shaming them if they don’t want shows that she really just thinks of these kids as a burden and doesn’t care about anyone else’s feelings. This isn’t a safety issue, it’s a her wanting to get drunk with her friends and being jealous of their kids because they can’t usually do that because their responsible adults who aren’t trying to pawn their kids off at every opportunity. The friend is right. If her kids aren’t welcome, then she shouldn’t want to be there.
7:51 I don’t believe that OP is the a-hole he went. He talked to his wife numerous times about how it was bugging him and she still trampled on his feelings, and warned her what he would do if she kept doing it, the wife is in the wrong
Story 2: NTA. She isn’t the god of children’s clothing. She should pick out the clothes the night before. I’m sure what he’s picking is fine, and she’s being an AH in this.
This is my opinion I say no to him being an NTA but her nagging him and not doing it when she get it done it but getting a little earlier getting the clothes ready for more the day before but seriously he's been doing more than what she's getting ready to work and get it but she leaves Canada like whatever clothes the night before she's being condescending saying you don't know fashion and condescending whatever clothes and when I was going to going to school if they fit sound clean you were a bit and not if you were laying in my family you would have been spanked when you got home and this is just my opinion pieces my spirits when I was growing up
Story 2; I highly disagree with you. He’s NTA. His wife is ASCON 2. He thoughtfully picks out their kids outfits everyday and gets them dress and she criticizes him for and forced him to go put them in something else that she picks out. And her saying she appreciates him is bull. It’s an outfit. It doesn’t matter. And with little kids, colors matching is really all it needs to be. And her saying “he just needs a little help” is belittling and the complete opposite of being appreciated. If she hates those clothes so much, why did she even get them for her kids? And he’s right. If she has time to go and find them another outfit and get to work on time because she hates the outfits they’re already wearing so much, she has time to be the one to dress them to begin with. And what happened to your whole “Pain creates change” motto? His wife clearly needs to feel some pain and change how she treats her family. She did this to herself. And it didn’t hurt the kids. OP did nothing wrong. He warned her he wouldn’t be dressing them anymore and she chose not to listen. She’s the only one who sucks here. It’s kind of insane to act like he did something wrong. And I hate to say it; but if the genders were reversed here with the spouses, I think you’d fully be on OP’s side.
Story 5: NTA for wanting to break it off with the "friend"...but uh...where were these high and mighty morals when she was doing all this cheating on her husband before? You were just okay with her walking all over him? I thought you said he was nice and stuff. WTF, OP. It's not like you didn't know, just didn't care (which you actually SAID in this post). From this, it sounds like you're not the greatest friend either.
For Story 3, I'm concerned for *all* the adults who throw a hissy fit if they don't get the *exact* cake they want on their birthday. Does it really matter that much? Were you guys never told no as kids? I seriously don't get it. Out of all the things you could choose to destroy your relationships over... birthday cake? I seriously don't understand. Sometimes you don't get want you want. You will survive. It will be okay. XD I have to be honest, I wouldn't continue a relationship with a man-child like this. If you can't handle not getting what you want one time, surely you can't handle all the sacrifices and discomforts that come with a family? I tend to agree with the girlfriend. I don't think her words were constructive in context, but I don't think she's wrong.
Ahh you must be the girlfriend because the principle of the matter went way over your head. It's the lack of consideration for OP that caused the fight. It really was a simple ask and he said he wasn't picky about what kind of cheesecake it was or where it came from. It sounds like the gf got what SHE wanted to get him versus getting what he asked for. They had an agreement and the gf reneged on that. OP took the time and consideration to drive an hour to go get his gf the exact cake she wanted, so why can't she show him the same consideration? If OP hadn't gotten his gf the cake she wanted then everyone would be calling him the AH. The gf was wrong, pure and simple.
It's not about the cake. It's about refusing to do simple things, being dismissive, inconsiderate, willfully getting something that the person doesn't like, not speaking someone's love language, and not caring. Heck, would have been better if the GF just said no. It's about not tolerating people not valuing you.
Story two: just don’t change the clothes. You’re their dad too so you get a choice. If wife is that serious about it she should pick them beforehand and you dress them. If she can’t do that then the clothes don’t change - as long as the clothes are not dirty or soiled, too small or obscene and offensive then the kids can absolutely wear them.
Story 2: the clothes could be picked out the night before so there’s no confusion. But also those are his kids as well. Her going behind him to pick different clothes is ridiculous. If she’s not dressing them, then she doesn’t need to have any input.
I agree. He's their father. If he's going to be the one in charge of dressing them then she doesn't get a say in what they wear. If she wants a say she can dress them. If she doesn't have time to work and dress her children, she needs to reprioritize her responsibilities as a mother
Agreed. When the laundry is done, mom can just sort clothes into outfit choice to go to school /other and Dad could just change them into pre-chosen outfits.
Story2: why doesn’t mom lay out clothes the night before if she’s so particular about what they wear… dad was trying she was showing zero appreciation! His feelings were rightfully hurt 🤷🏼♀️
So easy to get any type of cheesecake. I bet it was at the same place as the cookie cake
"Shoulda put it in rice" sent me cackling 🤣🍚
came to say the same!
Story 9 is just sad. What kind of person does that!? My reaction is the same as yours! Good job dad for making your daughter the priority and for protecting her.
Nothing but red flags with that bint. She never loved OP or his daughter and ex MiL getting involved is the icing on the no longer wedding cake.
Absolutely agree. DO NOT MESS WITH GERMAN CHOCOLATE CAKE! 😂 It's my favorite. I wouldn't begrudge anyone else having something so fantastic. Op deserves to have what she likes on HER bday. My niece and I share a lot of favorite things. Intead of being mad, I'm super happy that we have things in common. The its all about me attitude is insane to me.
I think the sister thought OP weaponized the cake because that what the sister did for years
i'm 28 years old & i cry last year when my mom give me a small & ugly cake. Every year i'm ask what i want & i said a cake. That's the only think i ask. So yes i cry rarely, but it's a cake on my bday so...
A side piece guy is called a Sancho. 😂😂
For story 3, it makes me wonder how thr girlfriend would have reacted if OP got her a different cake than the one she wanted
And to say "only little kids care about cake this much" my youngest is going to be 7 this week, They don't care what cake I get, as long as there is icings / whipped cream and cherries (non-alcoholic black forest cake & cheese cake)
Story 6: What kinda mother in law will make you suffer for the rest of your life over a cake? It could've been a funny story after getting a replacement. Now MIL will just spread a false rumors about buying a melted cake to all her friends.
She can pick their clothes out the night before and start encouraging the children to get THEMSELVES dressed.
In terms of cake, I’d like to know what she would have say if had replied’ so I didn’t need to drive for 2 hours to get your cake then?”
Story 2, as a Mom, Dad is NTA 100%, mom is ascon 1. Who cares what the kids wear? This is ridiculous. By that age my kids were dressing themselves, and never matched. Unless it is picture day, who cares????
Hi Dusty and crew, story 3 , how could she ? The wrong cake!!! She's at 1 in my book , the gas lighting puts her there, I'm grinding my teeth just thinking about this. Love to you all from the skipping fairy 🧚♂️ x
I agree. Ascon 1 is what she deserves.
story 6 she can go back & give them a big tips $$$ to apologize.
Story 2: orrrrr the wife could just shut up and let OP be a parent too.
🖤
12:45 I would’ve dropped her cake on the floor. See if she cares about cake then 😂😂😂😂
Story two I see two options: set out the clothes the night before. He could take a photo of the outfits his wife says matches and keep track of them on his phone
This isn’t about cake: this is about 1 person controlling another through cake guilt. Not the AH: sis is
Story 6...you never know. OP could have cost someone their job...
Yeah, that's what I get stuck on too. Plus, just because we're used to getting chewed out doesn't make it okay. I work at a store where we changed our membership system, and I got yelled at over it. a colleague checked on me, and I said I'm used to it. Her response? "That doesn't make it okay." She's worked there longer, so I do take that seriously.
26:05 get her husband a girlfriend and see how she likes it 😂😂😂
For story 3, the cake, no no no. That girlfriend was wrong for that. 3 years together and they made an agreement to get each other the cake they wanted and he specifically told her “any CHEESECAKE” and then she tries to minimize his feelings? No. Red flag. Throw her away. If your partner doesn’t listen to you, respect you and care about your feelings then there’s no reason to keep dating them. That is time you could spend with someone who will make you feel respected, appreciated and valued. She should have apologized. Not tell him “only kids care about their birthday cake”. Oh really? Then why was this something they agreed to? Tell her to eat a cake she doesn’t enjoy the taste of on her birthday. The disrespect. Ascon1 girlfriend in my opinion.
Story 2: if you're going to change what he picks out for HIS children then you can do it your damn self. You just want to be a bully and in control.
Story 1: NA
Story 2: L4
Story 3: NA
Story 4: NA
Story 5: NA
Story 6: L2
Story 7: NA
Story 8: NA
Story 9: NA
So many NA's ❤
Malicious incompetence is what the husband is doing.
Why not name her husband as the +1! 😅😅😅
The wife could lay the clothes out at night
Story 6 : Ascon 2 for sure. Not evil just really stupid . Maybe go pay the company in secret
Story 2: wife is definitely unappreciative. If you constantly criticize, of course the other person is going to quit trying to please you. Kids don’t need to be fashion models, if they were clean and appropriate for the weather then dad did a great job!
Good lookin kid :)
6:52 nope, if the wife cares that much about the appearance of her children then she needs to pick the clothes out the night before if she doesn’t have time in the morning. And what is she going to do when the kids start having their own opinions on their clothes?
Story 4; the bride is the A-hole. Excluding kids you supposedly and trying to force others to do the same and shaming them if they don’t want shows that she really just thinks of these kids as a burden and doesn’t care about anyone else’s feelings. This isn’t a safety issue, it’s a her wanting to get drunk with her friends and being jealous of their kids because they can’t usually do that because their responsible adults who aren’t trying to pawn their kids off at every opportunity. The friend is right. If her kids aren’t welcome, then she shouldn’t want to be there.
7:51 I don’t believe that OP is the a-hole he went. He talked to his wife numerous times about how it was bugging him and she still trampled on his feelings, and warned her what he would do if she kept doing it, the wife is in the wrong
Story 2: NTA. She isn’t the god of children’s clothing. She should pick out the clothes the night before. I’m sure what he’s picking is fine, and she’s being an AH in this.
Ooorrr the wife could just pick out the clothes the night before or just shut the hell up. Either let him do it, or help, or do it yourself.
This is my opinion I say no to him being an NTA but her nagging him and not doing it when she get it done it but getting a little earlier getting the clothes ready for more the day before but seriously he's been doing more than what she's getting ready to work and get it but she leaves Canada like whatever clothes the night before she's being condescending saying you don't know fashion and condescending whatever clothes and when I was going to going to school if they fit sound clean you were a bit and not if you were laying in my family you would have been spanked when you got home and this is just my opinion pieces my spirits when I was growing up
Story 2; I highly disagree with you. He’s NTA. His wife is ASCON 2. He thoughtfully picks out their kids outfits everyday and gets them dress and she criticizes him for and forced him to go put them in something else that she picks out. And her saying she appreciates him is bull. It’s an outfit. It doesn’t matter. And with little kids, colors matching is really all it needs to be. And her saying “he just needs a little help” is belittling and the complete opposite of being appreciated. If she hates those clothes so much, why did she even get them for her kids? And he’s right. If she has time to go and find them another outfit and get to work on time because she hates the outfits they’re already wearing so much, she has time to be the one to dress them to begin with. And what happened to your whole “Pain creates change” motto? His wife clearly needs to feel some pain and change how she treats her family. She did this to herself. And it didn’t hurt the kids. OP did nothing wrong. He warned her he wouldn’t be dressing them anymore and she chose not to listen. She’s the only one who sucks here. It’s kind of insane to act like he did something wrong. And I hate to say it; but if the genders were reversed here with the spouses, I think you’d fully be on OP’s side.
Story 3, she's cheating on OP and her behavior - along with the disrespect of cake - proves it!
Yep
Story 5: NTA for wanting to break it off with the "friend"...but uh...where were these high and mighty morals when she was doing all this cheating on her husband before? You were just okay with her walking all over him? I thought you said he was nice and stuff. WTF, OP. It's not like you didn't know, just didn't care (which you actually SAID in this post). From this, it sounds like you're not the greatest friend either.
For Story 3, I'm concerned for *all* the adults who throw a hissy fit if they don't get the *exact* cake they want on their birthday. Does it really matter that much? Were you guys never told no as kids? I seriously don't get it.
Out of all the things you could choose to destroy your relationships over... birthday cake? I seriously don't understand. Sometimes you don't get want you want. You will survive. It will be okay. XD
I have to be honest, I wouldn't continue a relationship with a man-child like this. If you can't handle not getting what you want one time, surely you can't handle all the sacrifices and discomforts that come with a family?
I tend to agree with the girlfriend. I don't think her words were constructive in context, but I don't think she's wrong.
Ahh you must be the girlfriend because the principle of the matter went way over your head. It's the lack of consideration for OP that caused the fight. It really was a simple ask and he said he wasn't picky about what kind of cheesecake it was or where it came from. It sounds like the gf got what SHE wanted to get him versus getting what he asked for. They had an agreement and the gf reneged on that. OP took the time and consideration to drive an hour to go get his gf the exact cake she wanted, so why can't she show him the same consideration? If OP hadn't gotten his gf the cake she wanted then everyone would be calling him the AH. The gf was wrong, pure and simple.
It's not about the cake. It's about refusing to do simple things, being dismissive, inconsiderate, willfully getting something that the person doesn't like, not speaking someone's love language, and not caring. Heck, would have been better if the GF just said no. It's about not tolerating people not valuing you.
It's sad when we've reached a point that it's acceptable for adults to act like children.