How To Deal With A Cheating Spouse | Sadhguru | The Healing Waves
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- How to deal with a cheating spouse is a must watch speech by Sadhguru.
This will help you deal with relationships weather someone is cheating or not. It will help you recognize what a full life is. Sadhguru looks at how human relationships are not absolute, and are always variable, and need a lot of attention. He explains that the need for a relationship is because people are under the illusion that they are half a life that cannot be without another. You are more. You are a whole life. Watch to the end.
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If anything resonates with you please let me know in the comments below. 👇 No more illusions!
It is better to know now! I understand the mechanics and these variables are just too difficult ☹️ to pay attention to. I imagine it’s not impossible but with everything you invest something worthwhile should be coming my way. That is even in the form of dishonest truth to help me grow. Namaste 🙏
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Very true
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Yes
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing.
My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’.
Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :)
Additionally I hired a private detective Barryinvestigation@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!
😢❤ Almost same
Animals are more faithful than humans. They need to be loved unconditionally.
Lol yes they are
Animals n kids
Absolutely true❤
Absolutely strongly agreed
It's still extraction isn't it? We all are agreeing with this only because animals are faithful, so there's a condition to it right? How can we love them unconditionally, if we are loving them because they are faithful?
If you want to do what you want. Just leave you don’t have to hurt someone just exit the relationship you not happy with.
I agree 1,000,000%. Though the people doing the hurting, in many of the cases, either want to hurt someone to make themselves feel better for things that have been done to them in the past or they have been taught that it's ok to do those things by watching it being done to others with no consequences. Seems the damaged continues to damage! The ones who are not trying to heal and change sadly, many of them either don't know they're damaged or don't want to heal from it.
Unfortunately, that's out of our control.. All we are left is to accept that it is their way of response.. 😢
The most wisest and honest response to a very tragic event in life ❤
Relationships will never be absolute...so true
It is a hard realization when you are going through it. This truth is liberating for those who catch on to it.
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Married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day according to religious.
Epic lines said by Sadhguru:
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Don't say that someone has cheated on you, just say that someone has pushed you to ultimate reality from an illusionary state.
We must thank that person 🙏
Yes we must!
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Bullshit excuses.
Cheating is WRONG.
DO you REALLY want to be with somebody else? Just be honest with everybody - first of all: yourself - and GO to the person that brings you more benefits than the previous one.
@@rodica69 Just don't need to accept what all told by someone. What you feel good for you, is good for you. Let us be clear about this and make it clear to other as well. it makes life simple.
Love does't lasts forever. If a partner wants a relationship with somebody else, it's OK. AS LONG AS SHE/HE EXITS THE RELATIONSHIP AND GOES TO BE HAPPY WITH THAT SOMEBODY ELSE.
Because hiding, lying, spending the family's budget to have fun with somebody else (= stealing money), not being emotionally and physically available for the actual partner (and children, often enough) is definitively WRONG.
Yes! I feel it’s VERY WRONG! Everyone gets hurt and many times the pain will last longer than we think it does. Especially with the children and grandchildren. Thanks for commenting
So true! People can do as they please but yes exit the relationship don't stay and keep hurting people! Many do this... stay in the relationship because you're the loving, faithful and the secure one and they want to have lovers... this hurts the wife... if she happens to know and even if they didn't know (intuitively they still know)
So the best is take the highway when you see that the other does whatever... 👏👏👏👏👌👌👌🤗🤗🤗
Very true👍
Yes, yes! I just posted 3 more relating to this and they are a must watch!
My partner of the past ten years got involved with a woman he hooked up online but refused to leave me alone at the same time. He’s so greedy that he wanted to keep both of us around, like having his cake and eat it too! Therefore, I’ve encountered massive amount of lying and gas lighting and anger from him, so much that I have to walk out of his life completely. These days too many people are doing that to their spouses instead of gracefully ending a relationship while they found someone else. I can’t understand why!
Yes it takes lots of skills and attention. Emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually from both partners. Human relationship is variable but God's absolute. Thank you Sadhguru🙏
100% on all you said! 🙏
Actually the other becomes the door to the divine. My experience, it's the ending of a karma and opening of a door. One has to be 🙏 grateful.
Gratitude all the time! 🙏 Thanks for sharing
Anyone having any infidelity problem should make verification and tackle it at once. I was once full of doubts about my partner. Until I had to verify and clear it all, did my heart got some peace. So best to find out about your partner.
How?
What if u get to know your doubt was correct and your partner has made a mistake
I'll tell. Just look at all the signs. Phone.
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Then the choice is now up to you. Whatever you choose will not be easy. However, it's no ones choice but you and your partner. I would suggest starting here: ruclips.net/video/eqPKOicOLlc/видео.html
There is a part 2 to this as well. Here is a short playlist that will help:
ruclips.net/p/PLLY3hT9-3cf8dUPaIKZ0Jx7nG2bGqK7SK
I will make videos answering many of the questions asked in the comments.
I will post a video soon in reference to how to clear your doubts about your partner and get...... Infidelity verification and post the link or links here:
Very simple, if someone cannot tolarate other, just be away and live on their own. Then they are free to do what they want to do. Apply equally for all.
Yes so true
Thats a wonderful proposition .... I just wonder did you hear that some married people have children ???? Where do they belong in this solution of yours ?...
And by the way. Its not of right conduct all the times... Some repeating offenders will find excuses...
@@sudeshnam1672 absolutely true
@@nikkisimgekar8288 I just hate it when people dismiss other people's feelings... Like it can b switched on or off..
You know Nikki, every festival is painful for such families.
@@sudeshnam1672 Sadly many cheaters don’t consider that when they cheat. It hurts everyone involved especially the children and if your older grandchildren. It does cause trauma to all involved. It’s one of the worst things that can happen to a family. Some can work it out but repeating offenders…… you must leave! That situation is toxic for all and will bring many issues for the children throughout their lives. Never stay for the kids because it can only hurt them more and they will grow up with the wrong view on relationships in most cases. I posted a few videos on this in the relationship playlist. The one called “Before you cheat” talks about this and many people don’t realize how it affects their families. However sadhguru is correct, we can not control what others do. That’s just a fact of life.
Its serious subject why people r laughing
"This is complete life packed with the Creator and Creation" - Did you hear that?
"....you might have understood it was absolute when understandings were broken. " This makes me cry. Cheating is also an art that fortunately or unfortunately all humans are not masters with. The few ill-blessed are the most vulnerables and experience real hell in life. But, but its very heartening to believe how one cheats when his/her partner puts all his/her whole precious life at the former's disposal. Its crushing inside.
Yes it is. Glad you commented
Grey hair is a crown of glory.🙏✨
How about the commitment?
How about people’s Discipline off sacrifice for one another?
Yes. True love is all about respect, commitment and the discipline of sacrifice for each other. To many forget about that and do what they want to do. His words helped me remember I only have control over what I do, not anyone else. No matter how much we’d like to have our spouses on the same page of commitment as us many times some just choose to do what they want to
I agree with you. Those saying "love" doesn't last don't understand it. The truth is few people can actually live the meaning of love. When I finally found the meaning of love, I even knew in my human nature it will be very difficult for me because love goes beyond feelings and emotions. We are finding loving people very difficult these days because we are supposed to love without expecting anything in return and that's the truest form of love.
Truth is, I cannot even make this sacrifice and that is our problem these dsys
@Brenda Brown, so very true! I feel that the foundation of true love is respect and that’s what everything else stands on. I posted a video about “what is true love” and added a story to it to help others understand that commitment and the sacrifice that comes with it. I think these days it’s hard to trust because of so much lack of respect and trust for others. That may come because many people don’t respect and trust themselves enough. We have to love ourselves first before we can give it to another. That takes building and healing ourselves from the things we have had done to us and things that were said to us all our lives. I’ll post another video on this but I do have a few that may help. There about being happy and the ones about being controlled. So glad you left this comment and know you are not alone in your truth! At least you can own your truth and that’s saying a lot!!
Crazy he says that as I'm watching 3 months after my husband passes away from cancer. My husband would always tell me he would rather die than ever get divorced ❤ We fulfilled our vows better or for worse , sickness and Health. Not being authentic will cause disease in the body. Honesty is the right way to go always. 🎉😢
I don't wish any pain on anyone who cheated on my they knew not what they was doing to me. I forgive and still wish them the best
The ability to forgive and wish them the best shows a lot about who you are, the amazing soul you have. I am that way as well. The world needs more forgiveness! ❤️🙏
I wanna be like you or have the mindset of Sadhguru and spiritual gurus who are able to handle pain.. Betrayal pain is too overwhelming 😢for me 😭
This man giving lectures about cheating is irony, please google his history about his wife!!!!
Thank you Satguru for making me realize the importance of myself within me .
Appreciate you sharing this, sadhguru's wisdom always helps me!
Oh yes. This one was a refreshing view on the subject that I could relate to and very true.
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What nonsense is he talking.😂😂😂
Thank you so much for sharing Sadhguru~s wisdom with us. ♥
Your very welcome.
Everyone wants, servents, drivers, milkman, spouse, children's, and almost everyone to be loyal and honest except ourself. This is our desire to get the best and we all internally knowing what is the best. But we Always forget everyone have same feelings not just ourselves. So either everyone changes or stop expecting best.
Absolutely right! We all need to realize that none of us will ever match up to other’s expectations even though we are all perfectly made.
You are wise thats clear in your answer
Exactly right. 👏😍
Haha God the absolute relationship 😅😅😅 yea, so true for many people who can't put enough efforts and energy or alertness towards humans around them to make relationships beautiful.
One way high way the love of God.
Absolute freedom from thoughts
My husband is lucky 😊... because he found a loyal wife... I am not 🥺, because..i didn't find such loyal partner in my life😩....
Me too
Me too
@@BuddhaofBlackpool karma ...
@@anupamsaxena529 karma...
@@anupamsaxena529 karma...
I love this! The illusion is fueled by people thinking they own their partners and then reality comes, because people do what they want, they were not owned from the very onset. A partner chooses to be faithful and give you that reality that's its possible not just by virtue of dating.
People can do what they want to do but can put your life in danger by doing what they want to do. Imagine someone cheating get sexually disease in bring it to you because they do what they want.
@@jackiejeanphilippe6052 I understand 😥❤️🩹if you have found it out, excuse yourself as much as possible
Nothing in this creation is 100% perfect and straight. Expecting what's not there creates tensions and mental agony. Marriage and other customs are arranged to avoid conflicts to the minimal in the society. But remember, no civilization or education or sacred scriptures can prevent what's intrinsic in nature. After all we all are part of nature. But, being humans we try our best to stick to the 'written ethics and laws.' But, above all these only Nature is ultimate. Jai Sriram. 💐
True
Thank you again Sadghuru, I guess you can take it as a blessing. It's time you look deeper, rather than reaching and trying to fix someone else. Somebody is opening up a spiritual dimension for you. You're amazing and never cease to amaze me. Yes, I get it now. ❤
I needed to hear this ,! Thank you for an ancouraginh word
Just wanted to let you know you are not alone! Hope the rest of the relationship play list helps as well. Let me know if they do and let me know if there’s a video (subject) you would like to hear about
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Relationships are about relating and understanding. If you can't understand you can't relate.
It’s hard feeling when spouse cheat .. but if they have kids or kid , who will take care of them .. need some solutions .. no one can forget their past .. past ruin there present and future .. if you go to court .. too much hassle and money .. we need to change person from innner self. ..
Thank you for sharing this, enjoyed the laughing at the beginning :) Good points
Glad you enjoyed it!
Woooow, such a big topic, thanks for sharing
Yes it is.
Why does he laugh at people who are in pain?
"When your illusions are broken it means that life is bringing you closer to reality." ... Sadhguru
I can't forget that... Amazing!
Yes! Thanks for sharing that!
بالخطأ دخل عصفور إلى البيت
عنوة أغلقت النوافذ
و فتحت له قفص صدري
Very knowledgeable person we have to learn from guruji a lot
He does have a lot of knowledge
Thank you. SAdguru..
Humans by nature can't survive allow, they need companions. It's easier said than done to not expect or care or whatsoever in a relationship, whether it's parents, siblings or partners. We expect certain effort cos we feel we will do the same in return. Indeed it's true that we reach a deeper level of understanding and spiritual awakening when faced with painful situation, but nobody deserves to be cheated. Cheating is the lowest form of energy.
So very True! You are also right by saying, it is easier said than done. I have always taught my children, do to others what you would want done to you. Love them, forgive them, learn from them and if you must leave them, wish them the best and move on.
Many won’t do the same in return. This helps us to understand that we can’t change anyone’s choices. It’s not our fault they do what they do, like cheat. Which can help us to move on to someone who will treat us better. Cause we deserve better! Thank you so much for commenting on this Saleha!
Tit_ for_ tat.
@@nalinibisnauth8491 yes
"Relationships is not absolute",..thats what I just learn.. base on your comment..you are basically putting expecting other for your wants and needs, and in return you want to do the same for them...in other words your happiness is external.. an outside source controls your happiness when it should be internal.
@@ujayet Not exactly. If someone are together, it could be any number or in any relation, there will be expectations. denieing the fact and sidepassing dose not help any one. If someone want zero expectations, one should live alone. ( Don't spoil tother's life)
Someone is opening a spiritual dimension for you, they are making you realize how fragile it all is.
True!
It's a blessing to have realized this
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thanks for watching!
This speaks volumes
Sadhguru if you don’t have dare to say it’s right or wrong then what the fuck are you talking about?
Loved what you said...
His words helped me when I went through this.
Yes, I have woke up from my illusions. Thanks Sadhguru!
Dear Sadguru, all that you said changed my life, my perspectives . Thank you! ^-^
He helped me as well. So I wanted to share with everyone to extend the insights.
Thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching!
All relationships end; best to stay out of them.
Or for those who want a family and relationship, remember not to live in an illusionary state and understand the commitment and work that has to be put in before you do.
That will end the human race
That was such a good message
Yes it was. It gives you something to reflect on that's for sure.
It’s not okay to destroy people’s lives with your selfishness. It may happen. But they lack integrity.
This man mock’s integrity
This is so beautifull 🙏
Thank you master Sadhguru 🌱🟢
I got married 5 years ago. My husband is a calm and kind person. But unfortunately he cheated on me with one lady at his office. I found out that and he admitted his mistake and promised me it will never happen and i forgave him. We started a happy life and now I have 2 year old baby. Yesterday I happened to see a flirting message on my husband's work phone and it was the same woman. Now he is begging for forgiveness and Asking for one last chance. What should I do. Am so confused. He is a good father but not a good husband. Help me pls
I am.suffering this delima for 20 years
Same with me..I feel helpless sometimes.
Leave that stupid
That someone washing vessels in USA.. Must not be just affluent must be very important enough to call.and complain of washing vessels.... Sorry state...
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Would he say the same if his daughter's husband cheats on her? 😂
Beautiful
I do thank my ex husband he wasn't for me and have rest of my life to live in PEACE
I completely understand and resonate with that
Sadhguru thanks for making me to realize 🌺🙏🙏
This helped me understand better as well
True true true... If we forget god they are still there, they are absolute...
Yes he is
I want to be pregnant, how do I make that happen for me. I have faith, I pray, I believe but still waiting
Everything happens when and how it needs to. If it is meant for you it will happen. You are on a path that is unknown till you get there. Trust in the universe, god because it/he always has your back.
Thank you Sadhguru...
Beautiful said so true thank u Sadhgrue🙏🏾🙏🏽🙏🏾🌷
Yes true. He does has a way with words. 🙏
Sadhguru ji you are clearing cobwebs
Grey hair full of wisdom ❤❤❤
Ys
Wisdom ❤
Ultimate reality from an illusionary state 🎊
Thank you sadguru❤🎉🎉😊😊so so much
Very interesting!!!! thanks for sharing Kelly!
Thanks for watching!
Generally Healthy mentally woman will produce healthy man which, he become a healthy husband and will have healthy relationship (family)
Sadguru if he cheated one two and so... Also have to thankful to him or punish him.
I don't believe I could stay with anyone who would continue cheating. Once is enough no matter who it is. Trying after one time is hard enough. After a second time and so on we would be punishing both them and ourselves. I choose not to punish myself. Thanks for commenting and glad you are here.
Beautiful speech..transform not extracting...
As per studies women cheat much more percentage than men mainly because women need emotional connection and most men these days are so busy and ignore the partner until they look elsewhere and cheat on the husband. So never blame the person who cheat and the real culprit is the partner who does not maintain the effort to maintain the garden and wait until the weeds take over. Never blame the cheater they also have emotional feeling to be taken care. ❤️
So why do the cheaters stay with their faithful partners if their needs are not met? Lying and hiding behind their backs. It is not fair, not respectful. Those poor cheaters can meet their own needs without hiding, but openly. Talk and go where your needs are met.
@@tsvetitsvetkova1059 Why get married and spoil innocent wife life if the husband want to ignore the partners need. Ignoring and not understanding partners need is the ultimate cruelty and slavery, it's against the nature and they will never be forgiven by nature and humanity. Nelson Mandela very rightly said “When a man is denied the right to live the life he believes in, he has no choice but to become an outlaw.” His views have much substance in them. No one is born criminal; it is the circumstances that make one so
As the saying goes the grass is always greener on the other side but the reality is every marriage has to be wrked on ,nurtured by both the partners cannot keep changing partners like a pair of shoes .Marriage bed should be respected by both partners and worked on then only can it be lasting till death do us depart 🙏
So very true! It is work and on both sides. Everything you said is 200% true!!! Thank you for sharing this message! Many need to hear it. 🙏
Looking so interesting ,very open minded, funny but if you heard it cool
Thanks for watching and commenting
@9:33, lolll 😅 sadhguru,you show that there is a positive side to everything, ultimate, pranams🙏
Yes he does
Thank you. You made me see life in a different way.🙏🙏
Thank you for watching 🙏
i really wish this can be written as well in English for us to read and hear him at the same time rather than just listening to him alone, i hardly hear him.
You got it! I’ll put in the words for you. Thank you for asking
Isn't it awful how often people espouse advice on stuff such as this and right off the bat it's "she did this, well you did that. NO. Sometimes its more like this shortly after we got together
-She started getting in between my self and my relationships external to her any way she could, getting their numbers, calling my friends, intercepting my calls, not letting me talk to my friends or my family. Completely isolating me making me feel constantly unsafe and alone.
-I would catch her taking pictures of my family and friends and copying them to her conputer without permission, in fact I told her to delete them verbally and in writing. At one point I manually deleted them.
-She breaks into all my computers using screen share and other tricks that i dont fully understand.
-If I dont lock my office she will get my passwords and break into everything again, also she will scramble snd destroy my long term work.
-needless yo say whenever i mention any of this its "youre crazy youre paranoid!"
-Intercepts my mail
-came home pregnant from a trip home,
I could go on and on. Why not leave, because i cant, yet. Gottta bide my time and try to grow enough to get out
What if they ask for forgiveness and reconciliation? Whom and how to trust? Very easy to give-in specially if you have children
If the other person meticulously created the illusion that they are a person who prioritizes, integrity, loyalty, the sacredness of romantic intimacy within monogamy.
Then they live a double life, lies upon lies in layers, cheating with many people. Putting you at risk, and breaking that sacredness.
This is not doing you a favor. They are abusing you for their entertainment, pleasure and benefit.
I do not need to elaborate. Any sane being can understand this.
You don’t say to someone who is r*ped, it is good this happened to you, your illusions are broken. Thank that person who r*ped you. I was, by the same person who did the aforementioned to me as well, both were equal in the excruciating pain inflicted that lingers. These events cause damage to the physical body and brain, in the form of ptsd and related fallout.
His perception is not an enlightening way to perceive things, nor is it healthy, or true.
There is a time and a place within emotional healing, which takes time, for one to say to oneself “I was fooled, I did not see this” or “I am grateful I am who I am today, even if it means I endured much pain” there is a time to reclaim power, but the perpetrator is the predator, they are criminal.
If a partner cheats in the heat of the moment and apologizes or is remorseful, it is still painful and wrong, but then I can understand being more compassionate and accepting of change. If you’re going to cheat, leave first. I’ve you’ve cheated, own up to your mistakes.
But we also need practical solution. How to deal practically, what level of betray is enough for divorce .
Cheating is an obvious option for cheaters.
That was so......profound!
Yes it is
Thanks Sir!
Is he justifying cheating?
Wisdom ❤
Art of wisdom
Yes
This helped me so much ❤
What should one do if someone cheated more than once in short time?
Dont be with anyone whi cheats. It means he does not respect you.
U are complete within urself. Let go of others. 3D = illusion.
Gain back ur self worth and move on.
Why place children in a narcissistic siruation.
Increase ur vibes to attract the best.
Or you can stay and if you feel like cheating go ahead
He pointing out the obvious. Nothing to learn from this video.
My husband cheated on me again and again for 3 years ,every time he said he is sorry but at the end he repeat it again
Can we talk personnelly? I'm in same situation don't know what to do?
I love 😂😂 sadhguru laugh..looks like santa Claus
Just like you cheated on your wife
If wife has relationships then what !?? And she hides !!
What kind of punishment? 😂😂😂
I loved that part.
Let them gooooo,
Don't stay any longer with a person who cheating you.
Almost every time. Yes. Because they will do it again. There are very few exceptions.
Lol, you also cheat your own wife
No matter how good you are ...Men will cheat
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Great words of wisdom.
I agree! Thank you for commenting
This is the worst pain that one can give to other who loved the most. I faced this worst situation got into trauma, so many things has happened. For me I'm still breathing because of grace. If you're an Isha mediator - Then im alive one and only bcs of Devi Bhairavi. I don't want to get into that.
Apart from that I followed few others things. It might be useful for others whoever facing similar kind of issue.
Below are the important things you need to follow to minimise your suffering
1. Food - Eat only satvic food, it's very very important. Try to clean your colon often. Best is use kadukai every night.
2. Don't watch any nonsense movie like action, crime, horror, love, romance . See only comedy and animations.
3. If you're practising Yoga and Meditation it's a best medicine, jus keep doing it.
4. Travel - jus take a car or bike, jus go to greenary place.
5. Animals - If you have domestic animals or pets just spend sometime with them.
6. Workout , do exercises a lot ,not heavy lifting. Sing, dance until you become tiered.
7. Games - Go outside and play.
8. Make new friends, meet new people.
9. Talk talk talk talk to your friends, family members who listens to you.
10. Focus on your work and health.
Warning: Don't get into any addiction. You'll spoil your brain further. Jus stay away from that.
I followed these very very cautiously and came out. I still have the pain that most loved one did that to me but we can avoid suffering.
Keep in mind.. your peace of mind is important, these kind of persons are not worth for you. Cry as much as you can and Jus move away. Don't even think to talk to them, they'll take it for granted.
They betrayed bcs they didn't value you and your relationship. Without commitment and love this relationship will not work.
Definitely you'll get far far better person, you'll meet far better people.
Inner strength is important.
Yet very hell, painful