Neediness, Insecurity & Scarcity

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  • Опубликовано: 26 окт 2024

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  • @aeremnostri3639
    @aeremnostri3639 8 лет назад +151

    Take life day by day, and be grateful for the little things. Don’t get caught up in what you can’t control. Focus on the positive.

  • @AsalciLoL
    @AsalciLoL 8 лет назад +94

    I must have watched one too many of your videos because I woke up this morning in a cold sweat after having texted a girl in my dream "Please respond to me!" What a nightmare! I immediately checked my phone to make sure I hadn't sent it for real, but instead found a message saying how she had had a great time on our first date, thanks coach!

    • @aedryk
      @aedryk 8 лет назад +57

      LOL Beta nightmares are terrifying.

    • @omartaha6901
      @omartaha6901 7 лет назад +8

      Andrew Salcido 😂😂 at least I'm
      Not the only one that's get em

  • @SILVERSPADES
    @SILVERSPADES 8 лет назад +55

    I normally don't look up to anyone, but I definitely look up to you. Every time I overthink and think about texting my girl something, I just quickly watch a few of your videos to talk myself out of it before I come off insecure or ruins something.

  • @robdog4095
    @robdog4095 2 года назад +8

    Fuck. This one gave me goosebumps. Growing up in a family with really emotionally absent parents. No hugs. Dismissing me. I've done tones and tones of inner work through therapy and self reflection. But my god its amazing how parents csn fuck you up. I never felt loved by them. Im very intuitive INFJT, and I always felt I was waking on eggshells just waiting for my mom to fly off the handle in rage and my father to act like it was totally normal defending it.

  • @renc9780
    @renc9780 8 лет назад +34

    dude, i think your channel is terrific. you offer great advice. thank you

  • @nancyreynolds1869
    @nancyreynolds1869 5 лет назад +13

    Remember the saying..Be Happy for the moment,this moment is your life,..Truth in the meaning!!..

  • @piggyskate
    @piggyskate 8 лет назад +13

    I've just turned 22 and have been seeing results from your work for a while now. Im so thankful I have information like this at my fingertips while im still young. thanks for sharing your thoughts Corey!!!!

  • @bigd3721
    @bigd3721 8 лет назад +17

    I've met a girl in high school and we clicked. It was like meeting your best friend for the first time.
    I didn't notice at the time, but she was narcissistic. She blew sunshine up my ass, and led me on.
    Thank God I've read your book ,applied it to my life. I stopped talking to her and let go of my narcissistic friend too, and my life has changed for the better!
    I'm 300+ pounds (and loosing it) and women can't stop hitting on me every time I go out.
    If I can do it so can you!

    • @bonitainthekitchen6032
      @bonitainthekitchen6032 5 лет назад +1

      I am happy for you. search for Esther Perel she is great. also for healthy eating: Spirulina, wheat grass and Moringa.

    • @drzelchivo4919
      @drzelchivo4919 3 года назад +1

      How are your doing now bro?

    • @bigd3721
      @bigd3721 3 года назад +3

      @@drzelchivo4919 man i’m doing great. i’m down 100 lbs. i moved out my parents house. my income has quintupled, have zero debt, and i live in an amazing place.

    • @drzelchivo4919
      @drzelchivo4919 3 года назад +1

      @@bigd3721 good shit brotha keep up the good work

  • @peterharper9703
    @peterharper9703 7 лет назад +18

    Was not until I found your work @ 48 to realized I have never felt love. It saddens me a little..... but there is still hope!

  • @GosiaSuchodolska
    @GosiaSuchodolska 8 лет назад +22

    So glad to have found the channel. It's like the next, higher level of all the self-development stuff I've covered by now. Yeah, I know it's for men but... Still, what quality. And it's a perfect moment for me. I was wondering what to do next, where to go or how to go deeper. Thanks.

  • @nothingbutme1150
    @nothingbutme1150 8 лет назад +40

    "Water seeks its own level" ... subconsciously we attract people into our lives that aligns with our own subconscious beliefs. For the past year i have been researching codependency and narcissistic abuse and the shit is scary what we can attract into our lives. We can't do better until we know better.

    • @tylerhatfield3238
      @tylerhatfield3238 6 лет назад +2

      But getting girls obsessed with you is fun and it makes the Sex way better lmao and it's great because when the neediness gets too much we can just go onto the next one ayy

    • @growing367
      @growing367 4 года назад +1

      @@tylerhatfield3238 lol savage

    • @spa9920
      @spa9920 2 года назад

      @@tylerhatfield3238 😈👌

  • @hmseelmann3393
    @hmseelmann3393 5 лет назад +3

    Found you 2 weeks aga. Bought the book. Read it twice. Listened about 40hrs to your videos. Only because i met someone i think there could be more. So from day one i have used your advice and start to live by it. I have avoided dating for many years and also any relationship. Was just in the stage of healing and focusing on my self. I am in Sales and things to say apply to everyday sales guy live. Thanks Corey

  • @sutats
    @sutats 8 лет назад +89

    "If you're a flake, you can go on down the road and find a bunch of other flakes to flake out with."
    lol

  • @judygoff8193
    @judygoff8193 2 года назад +1

    This is an excellent video. I am this woman, suffering from the same background and choices she made. Recognizing the past can help us change our future.

  • @floriangabriel5202
    @floriangabriel5202 8 лет назад +3

    Corey you are one of the best coaches. I bought & read your book last christmas, helped me a lot. Thank you. :)

  • @rylenhoward5491
    @rylenhoward5491 2 года назад +1

    This was the one I needed thank you for blessing me with this insight

  • @Kanjas19
    @Kanjas19 6 лет назад +5

    Right now, you and my dad are my role models and the people I look up to. Im so happy I found your channel. im slowly weeding out the toxicity in my life thanks to you. I hope you achieve everything you want to in your life.

  • @robertbelyea5767
    @robertbelyea5767 2 года назад +3

    I'm a year out from separating from my partner of 12 years. We got 2 kids.
    I recently caught up with an old friend who happens to be single as well. Things got heated very quickly.
    Then I started to catch feelz. FINALLY I've met someone who gets me. Ticks a whole lot of my boxes. So the 'love' chemicals got released into my brain en masse. I felt so overwhelmed by them. We had a date and it was awesome.
    Then she immediately went cold and distant. She messaged saying 'I had a really great time but I'm simply not ready to date or moreso past wanting to date.'
    I then crashed and panicked. How do I get back to a week ago where we're having great chats every day, sexting, and etc!?
    So I admitted to catching feelz (way too soon) and basically came off as desperate.
    Ew.
    Now that the dust has settled I'm cringing so hard at myself. On the date I held her hand and pretty much didn't let go the whole time. That must have made her so uncomfortable. Jesus...
    I came across as desperate. A stage 5 clinger. That chemical release really got to me. Made me lose all control.
    Never again.
    She's ghosted me and even though I've wanted to message her I've avoided it.
    I wish I could turn back the clock and do things differently. Take things much slower. I'll know better for next time but it just really sucks. Her attraction for me is gone and there is no getting it back.

  • @mikasaackerman8232
    @mikasaackerman8232 6 лет назад +4

    Thank you for this video. I have research to do, especially on this “scarcity mentality”

  • @eastlake93
    @eastlake93 7 лет назад +7

    My Ex stop her divorcing process because her husband started crying and "took it really hard" she had pity on him, slowed way down on communication and they are now working it out. He left her, and is the crying needy type, but she loves my alpha qualities. I don't don't get it. I know. I was wrong to talk to separated woman.

  • @hashimalmadani7941
    @hashimalmadani7941 8 лет назад +5

    Corey, the point of the relationship with the family that reflect your behaviour with other people and especially in relationships, is so damn accurate and sharp,
    people if they like it or no, they take the model of their parents relationship for the future, with its goods and bad,
    we cant figure that until we think about our choices and the people that we attract,
    it needs a lot of balls, to be aware of who we are and what mindset we are having and thinking, then start to modify in order to get better results.

    • @unrevealed5265
      @unrevealed5265 8 лет назад +2

      Right !? It's frustrating that the subpar mentality of others can lead US to struggle. Bright side? It can be changed !

    • @hashimalmadani7941
      @hashimalmadani7941 8 лет назад

      Totally agree my friend, although the majority of people, skip the part of discovering themselves, nd treat their weaknesses

  • @legacygame3
    @legacygame3 4 года назад

    This channel isn't just any advice. This channel is THE ADVICE for relationship and game.

  • @DatsyukOn94
    @DatsyukOn94 5 лет назад +2

    Thank you for explaining narcissism the correct way.

  • @lesliefiadoyor4823
    @lesliefiadoyor4823 4 года назад +2

    I could swear I watched a vid of the late Princess Diana and when she was asked why she chose the bad guy Dodi Al-Fayed over the gentle doctor she was once dating, Diana responded 'because he was one of the few guys who didn't treat me like the princess that I was....'

  • @TheBlademan-
    @TheBlademan- 5 лет назад +6

    Don’t jump into a relationship after 4 weeks of dating.

  • @eduardonoguez9840
    @eduardonoguez9840 7 лет назад +11

    i really nedded to Hear this...getting my book on saturdays from the USA!!!

  • @DooneyfromEastATL
    @DooneyfromEastATL 5 лет назад +1

    🗣shit! The story of my life! (Family passing me off) Sick to my stomach until I started watching your videos. Thank you for all that you do! I’m getting back on the right track.

  • @chargerfish1
    @chargerfish1 3 года назад +4

    I use to have quite a few girls chase me unintentionally because i was always too scared to text first because i felt like i would be bothering them 🤣

  • @BigShaud101
    @BigShaud101 8 лет назад +23

    The train is right on time

  • @jodief8371
    @jodief8371 8 лет назад +2

    EXCELLENT article Corey, well done.

  • @SpyderRae
    @SpyderRae 8 лет назад +2

    Sounds just like my sister's drop kick boyfriend. She's going through the same thing at the moment. Unfortunately her attraction level to him is in the 9 range. She's very needy and has low self esteem, she believes everything he tells her even when she's been shown proof to the contrary.

  • @berineayala4767
    @berineayala4767 5 лет назад

    I’m so glad you’re going into details Corey

  • @haulk2001
    @haulk2001 8 лет назад

    soo freaking true. big thanks for the wisdom , coach!

  • @christianvital8972
    @christianvital8972 8 лет назад

    One of the best videos I have ever watched thank you so much for your insight

  • @kafamagore_40
    @kafamagore_40 7 лет назад +4

    You are something Coach ,İ love you ...

  • @etinarcadiaego7424
    @etinarcadiaego7424 6 лет назад +3

    How can one get over a scarcity mentality when one lives in a small town with no way to meet women. My town has only 14,000 people and almost no one on various date sites and apps. I doubt I'll find anyone to dare here. Can a guy learn how to act like he's used to getting what he wants even if he isn't? or act like he has his shit together?

  • @thepostman702
    @thepostman702 8 лет назад

    I just purchased your book I definitely recommend it to everyone else much more in depth than the videos.

  • @linjoki
    @linjoki 7 лет назад

    Learning alot from you.. going through my past relationships and learning why I end up heartbroken

  • @jermainelee1060
    @jermainelee1060 4 года назад

    I like coach wayne he tells it real no sugar coating come on man im going read book 100 times im weak needy man

  • @yarpen26
    @yarpen26 8 лет назад +4

    what i don't understand is how come those guys are all so needy, desperate, forcing the girl to commit herself to the relationship... and yet they somehow form the relationship in the first place! like, wtf, i never do this "unmanly" stuff and i can hardly ever move past the second date! how do those manginas do it that even though they are so immature they still get the girl to at least have sex with them a few times and call herself his girlfriend. HOW???!!!
    fuck, dating isn't even rocket science. it's worse

  • @levijohnson3291
    @levijohnson3291 8 лет назад

    Neo is a great coach.

  • @assistanttodrramani1089
    @assistanttodrramani1089 8 лет назад +1

    Dear Corey, Thank you.

  • @Summermoon7.
    @Summermoon7. 4 года назад

    Wowww! You need a damn choir!!! Preaching the truth!!!!

  • @rafaeltapia9908
    @rafaeltapia9908 8 лет назад

    thank God for this video is was starting to fuck up .... I finished your book twice

  • @Justin-sn6yi
    @Justin-sn6yi 8 лет назад

    Great video as always coach !

    • @bigd3721
      @bigd3721 8 лет назад

      You like my picture?

  • @hankybostik7634
    @hankybostik7634 8 лет назад

    thanks coach, top notch as always son! :)

  • @happiness08
    @happiness08 8 лет назад +2

    This is really great..

  • @123lowp
    @123lowp 8 лет назад +7

    Back In Black !!

  • @weezyf4668
    @weezyf4668 3 года назад

    I wonder how Corey came to this place where he speaks like it is. I'm getting englighteneded.

  • @peterriley2022
    @peterriley2022 8 лет назад

    I am 59 years old ....never been married ....every relationship has been a disaster ....I'm done with relationships....I've resigned myself to live a pathetic lonely existence the rest of my life

    • @CoachCoreyWayne
      @CoachCoreyWayne  8 лет назад +17

      come on man

    • @aeremnostri3639
      @aeremnostri3639 8 лет назад +1

      Hey, don't give up. There is someone there that is right for you. It is never too late for love but you have to love yourself first.

    • @aeremnostri3639
      @aeremnostri3639 8 лет назад

      +vsonic86 Of course for real.

    • @aeremnostri3639
      @aeremnostri3639 8 лет назад +1

      +vsonic86 I'm not the coach here but I tell you this if you really love her and you think she still have feelings for her why not try talking to her. Think positive, what is the worst can happen to you? But if there is no chance, then move on, she might not be the one for you and there is a better one you will meet. Like I said love yourself first before you love any one. And when you do you will have another love. Have self confidence and just be yourself. How about the coach Corey's advice?

    • @Cole4737
      @Cole4737 8 лет назад

      Get to work studying this channel and reading the book. Check out some of the "how to get an ex back" videos, but most importantly master the work. Then you will have the power to get that girl back (possibly) or simply attract a lot of new women into your life once you get it all together. I personally like the second half of the equation, so there's never a scarcity or lack of ability, because even if you get that chick back by watching one or a few videos, if you don't master the work she will find a new hole in your game and expose you, just how it goes. No short cuts, master this shit, but you are in the right place, trust me.

  • @revolverbossalot6176
    @revolverbossalot6176 8 лет назад

    awesome work as always

  • @alishasguitar
    @alishasguitar 8 лет назад +3

    You look handsome in black Corey!

  • @vadim6921
    @vadim6921 8 лет назад +16

    Damn, Corey! Looking really good in that black t shirt ( no homo )

  • @mirianmercado7
    @mirianmercado7 5 лет назад

    Your awesome! Talk is cheap!!

  • @shatteredsquare
    @shatteredsquare 5 лет назад +2

    This is Nobel Peace Prize material education for the masses, society is so fucked, generation after generation of the blind leading the blind...imagine if this kind of course work were implemented in the public education system from 1st grade and throughout high school...imagine the kind of society it would produce, where people know what they are doing, and why they are doing it, and deliberate application of ones life efforts isn't an autistic anomaly, but the way everyone lives their lives...

  • @marisolfigueroa4590
    @marisolfigueroa4590 8 лет назад +5

    Hi I'm 35 been single 5 years. Had my first relationship at 24 lasted 3yrs he cheated and it was toxic. The second was for 2yrs with someone more 10yrs older than me but never wanted to take it to marriage. I've started talking to this guy three months I was friends with him first for like 8 months. I confessed liking him first and then he said let's explore this since we're both Christians we're not doing the typical making out stuff and so it's been very slow. I'm feeling insecure that he's not as into me as I'm into him. I say this because I'm used to more aggressive guys and he's more passive. I don't know if I'm expecting too much too soon. Also if I'm being paranoid bc of my past and the fact that I'm 35 and feel ready to settle down. how can I overcome this.

    • @roadtoperfection1120
      @roadtoperfection1120 7 лет назад +1

      Im sorry but the quickest way to solve it is to work out your butt and wear tight jeans and take care of your face threw eating etc. Man only care about looks and if you look good you will have enough guys to settle down💁🏽‍♂️

  • @Blckman9183
    @Blckman9183 8 лет назад

    and yet another dynamic message

  • @richardmckissick4471
    @richardmckissick4471 26 дней назад +1

    I hear a train!

  • @Matt-zg8os
    @Matt-zg8os 7 лет назад +4

    Uh. He just described me. Yikes....

  • @weezyf4668
    @weezyf4668 3 года назад +1

    What if you don't get any dates at all in first place?

  • @dedication-1970
    @dedication-1970 8 лет назад +2

    Fellow Corey waynsters. I need your help. Been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now and her birthday is coming up in a week. I want to get her an iPad mini 2 ($229.00 USD). Is that too much?

    • @dedication-1970
      @dedication-1970 8 лет назад +3

      Whats up man - yes i ended up buying it and she loved it. She uses it everyday for school and stuff so i dont regret it at all. Thanks for the reply.

    • @footballshorts4241
      @footballshorts4241 3 года назад

      Are u still together bro???

  • @legacygame3
    @legacygame3 4 года назад +3

    A woman with this book will be impossible to get with haha

  • @tedbarrett3069
    @tedbarrett3069 8 лет назад

    listen I saw a movie called Independence Day Resurrection, I liked the movie but the guy that played Jake's Copilot, even though in real life I know he's a cool guy, but I hated the part that he played in the movie, at the end of the movie Jake hugs and kisses his fiance, he sees this and turn to the girl that he likes and says maybe we should try that then give the girl a pitiful puppy dog look. then she said okay but dinner first, so in other words she felt sorry for him. that part of the movie made me want to vomit. that was true beta male Behavior. and that part spoiled the whole movie for me. that s*** would never happen in real life.

  • @shortingthetrend
    @shortingthetrend Год назад

    I know what I want now. I want a woman who will treat ME with respect, who won't steal from me, lie to me, gaslight me, I'm soooo sick of it. I need to break up with her even though she says, "I'll just live on the street in a tent under a bridge, my Daddy doesn't need me moving in" this is just a tactic to make me feel bad. She didn't feel bad when stealing my medicine on Thanksgiving and then gaslighting me "I saw you take it already" 😆 nice try.... I been keeping logs of my medicine. Goddamn I'm gonna be alone for a long time. But at least I'll be stress free.

  • @Craigjordan121
    @Craigjordan121 6 лет назад

    18:00 ouch the harsh reality behind human behavior.

  • @jowensjo34
    @jowensjo34 8 лет назад

    Corey I call this woman for the first time she told me she was at work she would call me back...she never did call me back...when do I call her again

    • @wtfisthishit
      @wtfisthishit 8 лет назад +1

      Don't call her back. Wait for her to call you. She said she would so if she forgets, don't sweat it. You shouldn't worry about someone who isn't worrying about you. Also, more importantly, read the book 10-15 times. If you read it, you would already know the answer to your question.

  • @samiyosho
    @samiyosho 7 лет назад

    awesome video

  • @KeithKalfasIAMABILITY
    @KeithKalfasIAMABILITY 8 лет назад

    you're on your game bro

  • @thunders2020
    @thunders2020 8 лет назад

    Yo coach, I haven't spoken to my gal for more than a week. It's eating me up inside, even losing interest in my job. What should I do?

    • @blahhblah6635
      @blahhblah6635 8 лет назад +2

      If she is not your girlfriend yet Date more than one girl and stop making your entire life revolve around someone else. Also you gave too little details. Why aren't you talking (argument or what?) and is she even your girlfriend or just dating? etc. Eithet way you sound waaaay too desperate you think James freaking Bond or Bradd Pitt would be this scared? Hell naw they wouldn't. Reach out after a week and read the damn book. You will continue to find yourself in this situation until you do.

    • @thunders2020
      @thunders2020 8 лет назад +1

      What? You mean I shouldn't grab my guitar and buy some roses and sing to her like what I see in the movies?!?!?!

    • @blahhblah6635
      @blahhblah6635 8 лет назад +1

      Joe Lambeer​​ Read the book. There is no sense in talking to you if you haven't taken any initiative to read it for yourself. 

  • @kikogrcevski1392
    @kikogrcevski1392 8 лет назад

    hi corey can you please give me an advice , my ex gf broke up with me 7 months ago i texted her 3 months latter she was ice cold, it was like she didnt care at all, and then at 1st april i made up a stupid joke and told her and then later that night i told her it was a joke (i didnt offend her she just got worried) and then she told me to not talk to her that she dosent want to talk to me nor be friends and then she deleted me from FB and blocked me... so its been 3-4 months since i got blocked so pls tell me should i call her? i rly rly have a feeling that she wont anwser my call and tis going to be all for nothing... is it posible that its just to late that she moved on adn that she tottaly deleted me from her life... (and yeah i know now why she was cold back then she liked that one guy i was told she was with him but he duped her after a short time so now shes alone or maybe with this other guy but i think shes alone i rly dont know tbh) so pls man tell me what should i do how can i win her back? pls tell me cause i plan on calling her to try out my luck so do i have a chance... pls i would love some tips, i will be so thankful pls man, ty. (the only problem is that we were together for just like 2 months so thats why im scared that she wont care again..)

    • @itsmyparty8785
      @itsmyparty8785 7 лет назад +1

      kiko grcevski I hope you've moved on. She's already told you and shown you that she is not interested. At this point going against her wishes will be disrespectful (which won't help you any) and creepy. She already knows you're interested. If one day she wakes up feeling the same about you...trust me she'll contact you. Don't stress it anymore. Let it go and focus on yourself.

    • @kikogrcevski1392
      @kikogrcevski1392 7 лет назад +4

      ItsMyParty 87​​​ ty, but im perfectly fine now, i mean its been a long time im having tons of fun in my life now with my friends, im currently with someone atm, time will tell what will happen cause im not sure what i rly want right now haha. But yeah. I realized that i just need to be happy and move on, ill never forget her tho and i wish her all the best, i wont hate her or anything like that cause there's no point for that. so yea if she wants to talk to me im here for her :)

    • @itsmyparty8785
      @itsmyparty8785 7 лет назад +2

      kiko grcevski that's awesome to hear! Good for you 😄👏🏽

    • @btraina85
      @btraina85 7 лет назад

      kiko grcevski Damn dog, you were bugging up back then 😂. Been there before

  • @Spaced_Invader
    @Spaced_Invader 8 лет назад +1

    im doomed... :/

  • @dalanalopez994
    @dalanalopez994 6 лет назад

    excellant!

  • @jakewarther5112
    @jakewarther5112 3 года назад

    Ha ha ha ha...."head for the fuckin' hills , check please ! ...lol

  • @lavianahampton4641
    @lavianahampton4641 8 лет назад

    What's the name of the book ??

    • @bigd3721
      @bigd3721 8 лет назад

      How to be a 3% man, winning the heart of the woman of your dreams.

  • @babyjesuslovesme1219
    @babyjesuslovesme1219 3 года назад

    My story is so similar to yours :/

  • @Caesar-nx9uv
    @Caesar-nx9uv 3 года назад

    ❤️❤️

  • @austino1114
    @austino1114 2 года назад

    This is me now

  • @michaelmwakazi5974
    @michaelmwakazi5974 8 лет назад

    True

  • @klamb3293
    @klamb3293 5 лет назад +1

    Take the train

  • @damos6207
    @damos6207 5 лет назад

    Youre a fucking legend bro

  • @serinawolf5821
    @serinawolf5821 5 лет назад +1

    Stop blaming women for insecure men ! Men look for nice women to manipulate!!!!!! It takes time for women to see how fucked up a dude is and once we do we leave !

    • @tkdblkbelt5483
      @tkdblkbelt5483 Год назад

      Insecuirty is a rejection she lost respect impossible to love the man

  • @dustin3320
    @dustin3320 3 года назад

    Drugs are bad, but community college is fine. Lol

  • @breables1293
    @breables1293 8 лет назад +1

    Narc-opath B-S

  • @MarjorieDGreen1313.
    @MarjorieDGreen1313. 8 лет назад

    SMH...