I'm 53 years old, and I have still not gotten over not having a father. The good thing is that over the last 29 years of marriage, one of the things that has kept me faithful and committed and determined to stay married is the knowledge that my kids needed me there EVERYDAY. I love my wife, but sometimes I felt like leaving, but the kids kept me around. Now they are grown, and we stuck it out, and we're still happy.
Rod Pruitt Same here brother like you my kids mean more than anything in this world and when your heart is in the right place with that you reap the benefits: Keeping your wife. When it comes down to it love of family is and always will be the most important.
I'm 30 years old now, I've never had a conversation with my father. I'm going through the same thing. I have a wife and 2 beautiful boys, I can't imagine putting them through what I've been through, the sense of loneliness, confusion and no sense of direction. I raise my kids year after year with the feeling that I'm a sailor in uncharted waters. No matter how much I try to suppress the feeling and move on, it always finds a way to creep up and I'm again having to deal with that void and feeling of emptiness. I watch videos like this and read comments such as yours to find strength and know that I'm not the only one out there. Thank you for sharing your experience Rod.
Thanks for your honestly Rod. For being a faithful, committed father for your family, even though you never had the opportunity to have that relationship with your father. May the Lord continue to give you opportunities to minister His love to others, so you help to heal and strengthen the brokenhearted in Jesus' name.
I cant get over not having a dad. I wouldve been fluent in another language if he stayed. I wouldve loved myself more I wouldve been happier with my life
I don't .my mum is the one who wouldn't try for our sake.and my Dad is the one who didn't make the effort after it happened. I don't respect either of them
@Henry 3rd person Cejudo, well said! You’re the only one who made a positive comment. Everybody in here fail to recognize that not having an earthly father in your life maybe God’s plan. Instead of talking about not having an earthly father why not give your Heavenly Father glory for being there for you and using your mother to bless you and bring you up. Having an earthly Father doesn’t make or break anyone.
ZEL DRIS Most mothers don’t like hearing that. Plus, when they raise the children they expect the child to pay back all the effort she put to raise them.
Thanks for sharing. We hope you found wisdom and courage from Jahmar's story. A father leaving his children and family is traumatic but know that there is a Heavenly Father that loves you and will never leave you.
I remember being 6 and a bunch of cops come with four cop cars and a red van to our house and take me and my sisters, who were to young to even remember their mom, and taking us and putting us with our grandparents, out mom's parents. My mom is the greatest, most loving person and the only reason they had to take us is because she took the drugs they offer you during pregnancy and they were constantly drug testing her because I was a bad child and people called childrens aid on her saying it was her fault. anyway my grandparents got rid of me because I remembered our mom, and the last thing my mom said was "make sure they remember me" ☹️😪so I kept telling them about her and they wanted to adopt them, and as I said I was a bad kid, they were just babies. so I went through shit abusive group homes and terrible foster homes, with no escape from a life no child should live. After 9 years I'm finally back with my mother, and that all left me really fucked up but things are finally starting to go kinda ok, although I still don't have a dad 😪
I remember when I was 2 or 3 years old and my mom and dad got into a big argument and they was fighting and after that that’s when my mom became a single mother. it’s hard because all these father figures my mom wanted me to have never really helped me I sometimes wonder how life woulda been with a father figure in my life
I was three when he was arrested for holding a knife to my neck and I still remember him when I was two and he would sexually abuse me...I can not even look at a boy and not think those moments again
I grew up without a dad, he looked for me and my brother 10 years later after my mom work hard in raising me, I hate him but he is my dad, I cant say i love him because i dont know him personaly. Now I am 17 and I have the face of a man who never was their when I needed a father. I just ignore the feeling and if one day I have a children i will never leave them
feeling the same. i look in the mirror and i do not know who I am looking at. which dna is this? by now it is 19 years since I had a conversation with him. I was only 9 years. I still have some damage with me when it comes to relation ships ans stuff. I have problems with leaving. idk but i just want to talk to him and have a father.
Thanks for your comment. Your destiny is determined by the decisions you make and it's good to hear that you will never leave your children (if/when you have one or two or more) ☺️. Continue to make quality decisions in your life. You may have similar looking features as your dad, but you are you and you have the opportunity to learn how to be a better person because of the unconditional love from our Heavenly Father. 🙏🏼Peace be with you!
@@maxk6199 Thanks for sharing. We pray that you would know the love of your Father in heaven. That you would receive His abounding grace in your life, in your relationships and begin to heal with forgiveness, love with abandonment and be set free from your past hurts, so that you can live an abundant life with Christ Jesus. 🙏🏼 Peace be with you!
I'm almost 23 and i'm fatherless. In a childhood every now and then i saw my father visiting our place to see my mom. That's all. He never really was interested in me. I was 10 years old, he forgot that i had a birthday, so he gave me his companys cap and a candy bag. It was almost nine years after that i saw him again. Just a lunch and bunch of money to buy my first car. No love, no caring. Just money. Money because he's a rich man. I appreciate his ''donations'' but that's not what i really want. I always wanted a good, loving father in my life. Instead of that i got rich, cold man who only cares about himself. He is still the reason i like to be with woman company instead of man. Thanks for the great video btw!
Hey Antti, I'm only 20 myself . . . Did he pass or is he coming at your mom (still)? My situations very different. Still, I'm sorry to hear of your loss . . . it would be nice if they changed. Keep climbing! Music is a great healer, I'll give you tickets to my concerts if I ever make it out there :) :)
I can feel his pain im 29 yrs old going on 30 and i never met my father. It was very difficult for me growing up with out one because at the age of 7 and up is when you need one the most. I remember back in the 5th grade kids talking about how awesome their fathers was and whenever they asked me i would lie and tell them mine was too because i was afraid i would get bullied if i told them I didn’t know who my father was. It’s just so painful that i just keep it to my self I don’t want my two other sisters or my mom know that I’m still hurt so bad in the inside. Im a truck driver and he was too as far as i know. I cry sometimes when ever im driving just thinking why me. Why it had to be me out of millions of people on earth growing up with out a father but it is what it is. My 7 month old baby girl is what motivates me to become a great father for her : )
i grew up without a dad he left me and my sister and my mom when i was a baby. i never saw him. he was never there for me when i needed him the most when i was going thru insecurities. i had a stepdad and he left to but this time left me my brother and my sister and my mom. im so glad for my mom she didnt give up💛. when i grow up i know dang well im not going to be like him im gonna be with my dang children and love them.💛
Amen brother. Like you, I grew up without a father and my mom always used to tell me "You may not have an earthly father, but you have a heavenly father" I never forgot that.
I had a conversation with my wife tonight that led to a lot of tears and emotion from the little boy in me being let out. I have a beautiful son now. He heals me by being excited see me everyday and to want me around. To all the men or boys without a father. Let your inner child be comforted by your adult self and let him cry. You’ll be ok
It sucked when I was younger especially when playing sports seeing all my friend's father's participating... My mom tried her best but she had to work. I haven't seen my father since I was 13 and it was on bad terms , and even then I rarely saw him .he only came around on 4th of July when he felt like it.. one thing that was detrimental on my life this I had two step sisters and one step brother . My father lied to them and told them that my mother didn't want him to see me which was a lie. So from the age of 13 to 33 I had a big piece of my heart missing and I was unaware of it.. but today I can thank God to say that my sisters found me now I can finally let go drugs which is a blessing because I was using that as a void in my life..
I've got two fathers. One biological and one adopted. Neither are in my life and no matter how much I strive to seek them out, they walk away. I also have One who I've never seen, but I realize He has always been with me. I realize He's the only One I need, but while I live in this life, I'll always yearn to have an earthly father. God have mercy on me...
I usually say that although I never had a father here on earth, he passed away, I know that I have a Father in heaven. He is my Father now and my shield and protector. He Provides for me and takes care of my every need. I call him Father God.
I had a father n a biological father, but I never regret that I was adopted. A pastor and an Evangelist who both died many years ago. My father died 4 years ago. Even though he gave me to be raised by someone he was still their for me. My Mon had 8 of us n I was the first.. Mommy had it rough raising the others. I still love both my parents dearly n I thank God for the decision they made. Now I am helping my siblings.. Thank u Jesus❤
This guy went to my highschool. He was very good. He played number 8. He won 5 straight championships and went undefeated in their final season. unbelievable. He is also a very nice person.
When your a 30 year old man and you still have anger, and dissonance from a neglected childhood. No father,Mom didn't care so long as welfare check kept comming.
This video is very helpful in a way because my dad's family wanted to take me from my mother so I went with my mom and only saw him once in my life and since I don't have a dad everyone at school makes fun of me so I decided to stop being friends with anyone and I stopped trusting everyone because of my whole life
This has gave me more motivation to be me. My dad has been home for 5 years but I play football to stop thinking about it, but when I go home I always have memories of us together 😭 this video has really touched my heart
My “dad” wanted me aborted but thanks to my mother I’m alive I’ve been thru the worst situations in life but I get stronger and stronger not having a father really has been hurtful thru growing up. Seeing friends cousins w there dad my dad this my dad that me being alone home w no one but my mom working 2 jobs to make it thru was hard seeing everything at a young age I understood everything but thanks to my mother I am who I am ❤️and to who so called my “dad” he missed out on a great strong successful son
I still remember, as a 7 year old kid burying my dad, i still remember that moment i wish i die and he comes back. I would do anything for having a dad. I cried....... I cried after a long time and feeling better
my father got killed when i was 9 😪 i barely got memories with him but i do miss him, i need him to show me how to be a man yk :/ i’m grateful for my mom and everything she’s done but it’s just not enough. i NEED my dad.
I most certainly fill that void. But unlike most I can't blame him. My mother by her own omission kept him out of my life. Why? Because I don't need a father. Her exact words
Been trying to connect with my brother jahmar a while now but we've lost touch. If you still chat let him know his fire team partner wants to connect! Such a wholesome and genuine person jahmar is
I never really saw my father since I was 3 or 4 . I can't really remember. At least I still have my mother and my sister . But because I grew up with two girls changed me. I became more sensible , so I was a target for everyone who wanted something. But today I feel more confident. I felt alone for a long time. I remember when my mother and me went to buy some new cloths for me and then I heard my dad calling me. I looked behind me and asked my mother what we should do (I was very young) She said "just keep walking" but he followed us and we spent some time together and then he said he'll call me on my birthday. Well he never did eventhough he had my mothers number. That definetely hurt. I started listening to rap music when I was like 11. But not that rap music with a thousand swear words in em. I started listening to rap songs with an actual meanings behind. So that gave me lots of confidence. Now I'm seeing so many people that grew up without a father too. I wish all of you good luck 🙏🏽
I know my origin, but the important thing is not who has bred you. The important thing is how you become who you are. The main thing is that you have become good, have done well in life.
My father left me, my sister and my mom when I was just 3 years old. He has never even TRIED to contact any of us and he has done NOTHING for us. But my life has been good and happy anyway. The most important thing is not the one who helped bred you, the important thing is that you have made it well in life!
I suffered verbal abuse from my quote on quote father and it ripped me up inside. He had been like this for 11 years .when I turned 10 things got worse very worse I was the black sheep he tuck drugs and partied. When we visited him I stopped seeing him and he sent me very hurtful text like your not my son he harassed my mum and treated my older brother even worse thankfully my younger brother and sister did not suffer. I am 12 now and I am dealing with a lot of issues trying to get over it. I just want other people who are going through something like this dont wait make that call tell someone.
I’m 30 and my experience is society puts more stress on me not having a father than not having a father. It’s like people want me to use it as an excuse. I became a father 6 years ago…. My father left me when I was two. Looking at my son at age 2 I couldn’t even imagine not kissing my son before work. Yet alone ditch him at that age. I realized my father never loved me nor every even knew me. I’ve become a great father and have learned true love so I thank god for my fathers weakness
I don’t know how to explain this but my father does live with me so technically he is in my life .. yes he lives with my family and I physically but was never there for me emotionally, constantly growing up I was desperate for the male partner in my life I’ve went through servers heartbreaks and damaging things in my life time but gratefully I met someone who makes me happy and helps me to forget what’s going on at home ... but it’s not the same I see my dad at home and doesn’t pay attention to me it just breaks my heart and it is something I won’t be able to overcome
I am 15 years old and well I used to have a dad but then I realized he did some stupid things and well I never ever got to see him since this gives me inspired by him now I have god by my side
It is really hard to grow up without a father btw especially when we are boys we need our fathers more than girls, the last time that i have seen my father was Jan 2008 and i was 8 years old, sadly one year later Octo 2009 my father has passed away in the ocean that time i never felt how hard it will be to lost your father but the time that i understood that i need my father was when i was 15. Any way it is just a lesson and when i become a father i never leave my children.
My Dad abused me when I was younger and only kept me for the money he got. He’d scream, yell, and hit me every time he was home, but he wasn’t home most of the time. He forced a complete stranger that I now refer to as my step mother into my life without any warning or introduction as well. She didn’t treat me like I was her kid, only her actually children did she show love and compassion to. He’d put on movies that would scare the living daylights out of me, and my stepmothers kids would take my toys and tell me they possessed them and that they were going to kill me. Every night I would have to sleep at my grandmothers house when my dad had work, and that house was the most terrifying I’d ever slept in as a child. The only thing that kept me going all those years was my sister, and she was still a kid as well. I don’t remember any good memories of me being with my dad or my mom because of those horrible experiences. And my mom did nothing to try and win me and my sister back, just because she already had my two brothers. My nana would pray and pray every night for us to come back home, and I thought me coming home was a miracle out of no where. But it turns out it was because of the one night that I will never forget. My sister tried to take her own life, and I had watched her do it because I was clueless of what was happening. She told me to immediately call my dad over once she did it, and I did. But that was what it took for us to finally go back home. I’d cry every day to school when I was with him, because I never wanted to leave my moms side when she dropped me off, and all the kids at school all thought I was weird or a crybaby. Nobody would ever talk or hang out with me, so I watched as they all would play and run around, and for some reason it kept me entertained every single day. A while back I never had the confidence to ever say no to my dad, and I would go hang out with him even if I didn’t want to, because I didn’t feel like I had a voice. An my stepmother had made fun of when I would cry to be with my mother every night, and I played it off like it was a joke, but it really hurt me to think about those miserable nights of crying myself to sleep in my sisters arms. An my dad wouldn’t care what she said or did to me, because no matter what he chose her over his own kids, and all she cared for was her kids and her kids only. Now I refuse to go anywhere with my dad. A while back he would constantly ask why I never went with him anywhere and what’s so good about my home, and I even texted him why I didn’t. I told him about how he made me feel and how my stepmom would treat me, and that he hurt me and my sister, and how me never apologized to us for it. An the only thing he responded with was “it was hard for all of us”. He never truly apologized. The only reason I still respond sometimes to a few of his texts is because at this point, I’m so tired of seeing people happy with their dads, when all I ever wanted was a good childhood and an actual father figure. I long for that, but I never gotten it. So the only reason I text him still is because deep down I’m desperate to have at least someone to call dad in my life, but I know I will never forgive him for the pain he caused me and my entire family. I refuse to involve him in my future family in any way, and I would never wish my experience with him on my worst enemy. I want to make sure that my children never go through such a terrible thing like this.
My dad left when I was 1, I’d never even knew that I was meant to have a dad until I was 6 which left me confused and I still am. I’d never seen what he looks like until I was 15 but I still have never made contact with him despite trying everyday to find him online. I am now 16 and on the other side of the world from my home land of South Africa, never met my dad and I don’t feel any connection to anyone except my grandparents. I feel emotionally blank and I have a fucked up sense of reality and humour. I have the looks and traits of my dad despite never even knowing the bastard. I’ve given up trying to find him as the damage has already been done. Thanks for reading
Internet Dad Thanks. I’ve never shared that to anyone but I wasn’t in the best position when I was typing that. I’m surprised I actually sent it through but yea
Its been seven years since my dad passed and if anything i miss him more every year especially since i think about the fact that soon i will have lived more years without my father than the years i had with him that depresses me so much because how I would have loved for him to see me get married and have kids
My dad is a immigrant and he got in trouble today with police he drinks and stuff because hes not happy with my mom and their relationship and he might get sent back to mexico i dont know what to feel i cried and begged god my mom has alot mental problems and physical and it will be hard living threw it and we'll probably move and be living poor its hurts it hurts.
Thank you I’m 15 I haven’t seen him since 3 Christmas’s ago he also had another son who I been on FaceTime with a few times he’s 4 or five. My dad is I can’t even say trying to get in my life he just texts I love you and never responds back I wanna be done with him I lose all that pain and anger
My dad left me at 2 years and soon after a year I had the bad news he was dead it hurts me till now thank God am 21 years old and I miss him so much I hate school days students come with their parents and I just attend by myself my mum hates me so much and she never bothers to attend my school graduation 😔 not even say happy birthday to me no never I have so much hanger in my heart that makes me break down so much
I grew up without a dad, only had my mother and I love my mother but I asked her one day why I didnt have a father she told me not to worry about him that he didn't deserve me, but I knew he just left becaues he didnt want me, for me that hurt me for a long time it still does when I think about it. I never new him soo how could I hate someone I didnt know. I'm 19 with my own 1yr old child, when I new I was going to have a baby I was going to be by her side becaues I know that pain that pain knowing that you're father didnt care to even get to know you.
I was abused by my stepfather and ppl who was close to me and i'm mad at my father because i don't know him he left when my mom was pregnant I don't even know his name Everyday since i was a child i prayed i said God protect my father and i said that i love him by a sign Now i'm 17 yrs old I stopped doing this because i lost hope I know it's bad since i was a little i prayed god i believed in him but now i have doubt I'm worthless
I didn’t know, I thought something was wrong with me bro.. I didn’t know how to manage anger, I carry this silent anger that I can’t really take out on anyone.. my dad claims he loves me but I didn’t even see him for 18 years until I was 19 years old... now we live under the same roof and he’s like a stranger, we never really get along .. a part of me wants to fix it and a part of me is saying fuck it. I don’t know what it’s like to be loved by my father.. can someone tell me what to do ?
I’ve never met my father before. I don’t even think he knows I exist. If only he was here with me to help me through these hard times. I don’t even feel like I have a mother. I have a Mom but she is not stable, and I’m wanting my aunt to take custody over me. Really the only parent I have is God, but I feel as if I have no parent at all. I have no father figure to look up too, no physical role model. Now that I’m 14, the age that I am finally understanding everything and processing everything I feel hurt.... But I need to remember Jesus is my father figure and role model. Even though he’s not here right now, I will meet him eventually. I have hope. That topic does hurt, but I just need to keep going, I need to stay positive and surround myself with people that are positive too. This summer I am really going to work on my relationship with Jesus, I need him. And also work on doing things that make me happy. God bless you 💕
I’m 11 right now and my dad left when I was 2 my mom says he does drugs and bad things like that and I have anger issues because of that and All the other kids brag about how they have a dad
Cj, thank you for sharing your story but your life does not have to be defined by your past. We believe God has a bright future for you, but it's important to forgive your dad and even your mom. It's not easy, but forgiveness is a continuous act of faith. Let go of your anger and all bitterness because holding these feeling will only hurt you. We are praying for your peace and for you to receive God's unconditional love. Thanks again!
Cj Summerlin hey bud, my dad did drugs too & unfortunately he was murdered during a drug deal. This happened when I was 5. So I feel your pain. I'm almost 22 now, twice your age. Make good choices and get through school, don't do drugs. You will grow up to do huge things, even without a father figure.
One of my friends said that "i hate my dad" and then i becane mad and taught her a lesson because not everyone is lucky to have dad. I told her "i would do anything to have a dad like you."
I never had a chance to meet my father,he was alcoholic and a bad man with agression problems.I`m married and we have a son but still i`m really shy and have a feeling that i need to talk someone because i don`t have any friends
If you don’t know what it’s like to have your father choose every single day to not be in your life, I think you have no idea what that does to somebody. I’ve grown up with a father who decided not to visit me or talk to me for most of my life, he lives approx 20minutes away. I made an effort once I passed my drivers test and got a car to visit him every week, I made more of an effort to see the man that Co created me in a year than he has in my entire 22 years of existence, I stopped going once I realised he doesn’t care. So for all those people that seem to get mad at ‘us’ who have fathers that we don’t visit, there are reasons for it. Blood is not always thicker than water.
I was at my friend's house, and I saw how he talk to his father, I saw that love I didn't ever got. They have just talked but for me it was something new, something I have never felt... And I don't really know why I'm doing it, I just have to tell it somebody (sorry for the English grammar mistakes)
Remember black men and men on general Most y’all mamas didn’t care about you not having a dad Most of y’all mama wanted a check or was fking the bad boy Not thinking about You!!! Facts over feelings This was a sad story
Most of the people in the comment section aren't actually "fatherless". They just have an absent father; like millions of kids in this world whose fathers are either in prison, working overseas, missing or just hiding. Appreciate what you have (a mother, a parent), no point mulling on what you "don't have". Focus on what you dream always, because it is your sad thoughts (not your circumstances) that bring negativity in your life. All the best.
You wouldn't know if you would be happier because you wouldn't have a life. One can always learn how to be happy with patience. Learn what it means how to live without a father, let it give you strength and motivation. I am myself without a father and no matter how hard it gets, one of the things it teaches me it's how much it means for me to be there for my kids in the future, and that is a powerful thing.
I have a mom and a dad who fight all the time. I saw my dad choking my mom in a headlock but my mom was always putting him on blast to her folks. She would always complain about him to people. Now that I think back about it I don't even remember him at all. I mean I remember him making me happy but he did beat my little brother up once and tied him up like a pig. He tied up my little brother with a rope from his hands to his feet and then kicked him in the back. And my mom was waving a broom stick at me telling me to "STAY AWAY!". They were coming back from a late night party from somewhere and my little brother made a mess in the house by playing with rice and the rice fell everywhere on the floor. That's why they tied him up and beat him, I was probably 7 at the time and he was probably around 4 years old. Not even legal to go to kindergarten yet.. They came home, from a party, beat him up and told me to "STAY AWAY!". I was forced to watch him beat up my little brother. Now that I think back about it I would kick his ass For this. I wish I was stronger when I was little. Because now anybody who messes with my brother's happiness I will kick his ass. It just makes me so angry!! I have trust issues and everybody plays with my feelings. They say "Oh steve, you're just overreacting. That's how it is sometimes!" or they defuse the problems at hand by saying "dam that sucks" and then they move on. LITERALLY everybody I asked for help either used me to help themselves look better or to get something else from me..! This is how psychopaths are BORN. and society pretends to wonder why people shoot schools and fucking commit suicide! They play it all off as a fucking MENTAL ILLNESS AND THEN SEND THEM BACK TO THE HOSPITAL FOR SLOW KILLING MEDICATION. And I have seen the stupid stuff that goes on around the hospitals. Nobody fucking cares who they help or don't help, why should I? Its not even a fucking question to answer anymore. When you have seen all the shit I have seen and heard. You will understand how pointless "getting help" is. All those therapists you go to? Fucking pointless! I can't talk to anybody because family is all I have and family chose to tell me to fuck off! To figure it out ALL BY MY FUCKING SELF. nobody fucking understands.
For me I just have no desire to develop a relationship with my father, he and my mom are going through a divorce. He was an alcoholic since his college days, he’s in his 50s now. He was emotionally and physically abusive mostly towards me and sometimes my older brother but I think he felt threatened by him. He tries to communicate only when it’s football Sunday because it offers him to make up some small talk about the games. I just can’t take the narcissism any longer, it’s too toxic.
Yeah man! I know all about it . . . I remember not having the brother in the house and it's so hard to be an alpha without being called "an aggressor"? That's for those of us whose siblings aren't in the house . . . we learn to let go, ... if we don't people won't love us. Sometimes we'll remember a brotherly competition and look back and just ask . . . "How long's it been!?". Music or Gym are an outlet for me because these less healthy expressions so often turn into real despair ... why? Because there's no space to be aggressive in the house (without a brother), so we have to just pray ... the anger can be managed. I might be going into the law school full force because of all of this. Please pray for that ... I'm thinking more seriously about company law then I have ever thought before ... I might be switching to a Christian school for the last year of music training before my bachelors. But suddenly out of nowhere I started to love law and no one in my family does law or knows about this. I need to learn to write first.
most the times i mention my father my mom asks me if i wanna stay with them instead...im 11 such a pain in the ass....i dont have a father i have video games though which is enough to cheer me up but it pains me seeing others enjoy a real and whole family
My worst experience is when I get the daddy,daughter dance sheets and I just started to cry...I never ment my father and I still haven't.idk his name or anything...I just found out he had been paying child support and my mom has been using it for her shoes....I sometimes wonder if I would have better life with him,my mom is in a abusive relationship and just want to run away and see him..
I have a dad he has schizophrenia and it's impossible to have a actual conversation with him because the only thing he talks about is himself and how the government is out to get him, and everything he says is negative if he does say something positive which is rare he imidiately follows up with something negative he never tought me how to be a man, how to talk to women, I had to learn all of that by myself because my own goddamn dad couldent and wouldent do it, my dad would never ask to see me, I would go to him to try to get to know him, some dads arent good.
Without Dad life is poor,miserable,full of Property,you will have ignorance of people,you can feel how rude people are,you are not going to be happy,not a normal life💔💔 I know cause I don't dad,when I was 3 my mom and dad got divorced.Actually my father was a coward and too much greedy for money that he left me and my mom.since than he didn't even though about me,My childhood ruined😢😢😢,still struggles are here.Now my dad is married to another woman and has two sons.💔💔,I don't know what happiness is.please don't judge me..thanks and be happy with what and who u have.Atleast you have parents you have shelter in this Qrull world😁😁
I'm 30 years old mom of four their dad is still in their life my mom died when I was just 14 and my dad, never was around excuse my french but I hate him because he chose drugs and alcohol over his kids and because of that and us having different mom's we are not close at all; all I wanted so badly was to have a bond with them and my dad but that never happened even though I have a family of my own I still feel lonely because wanting that bond so badly I ask myself all the time what did I do so bad that my dad doesn't want me or my brothers and sisters my faith in believing that I'm going to be ok is strong but I just can't let go because I see all my brothers and sisters are close but I'm not included it's just not fair.
What makes me more mad than anything is I searched my father one day up on Safari and I saw that he had a whole other family that he was loving and I have more siblings that he has put up for adoption but he just decided to stay with that one family I don’t know why he doesn’t love me.
I am sorry to read about your pain. I feel the pain you may be going through.I also had no dad growing up and am finding out after 40 years that my deep inner pain, anger and lifetime of bad choices stems from not having a father. I am at the start of a hard deep journey into those hidden childhood boxes of emotions and memories. I hope you and all the other fatherless people find their way. Once I have, I will be able to hopefully share with others and tell my story. For now, be strong.
For children who eighteen and fatherless. You can make a choice to have a better future. You can pick an Armed Force. There are five armed forces in the United States. You don't need money or clothes to enlisted and get promoted through the ranks. The military takes people and gives them housing and food and work. All you have to do is physically train and mentally train with the people in the military. Make sure you run at least two to three miles to prep your legs for running. Each military has a different physical test.
I am 15 and i saw my dad take his own life at 8. So i have never really had an father figure at all. I never really Talk to my stepdad because he doesn’t like me.
My dad got deported almost 2 years ago and I have a lot of memories.Anyways my youngest brother was 2 at the time now when ever someone says "dad" he looks at you and asks "dad?" I say "Yes dad." He says "No it is mom not dad!"He is almost 4 now.
by the time i turned 3 my parents had been separated.....i remained with my mom and day after day i saw her toiling to raise me...i didn't see or talk to my dad until i was 22,when i joined college,news reached my father and he rang me...he accused me of why i don't ring him and why i don't tell him about my academic endeavors, this is not what i expected ,it tore and depressed me more than ever.i struggled and finished ,when i got a job ,he sent me message through my aunt saying he is so hurt and disappointed that i don't call him for help....that he would like to know what am up to so he supports me....i see this as pretense and think he should have known that i needed help all the time not just now.to be honest am now 26 but am still confused
Hello. all these comments are from long while ago but if anyone's reading this please tell me if you have a similar situation to mine . i am adopted, ive never met either of my biological parents and my mom(adoptive), is single. so i've NEVER had a father
My father used to hide me and even stole my passport when I was 16 to smuggle an immigrant through. My mom tried so hard, she never married again, he used her, abused her. He was a rich man, but couldn't give me a cent, its like he hated me. In a few days time I'll be confronting my dad. I have lots of anger in me. We had nothing absolutely nothing. I want him to know what he put my mother and I through. I know your pain brother.
im 11, i havent seen my dad since I was 4, i was thinking of thanking my dad when i find him in a few years but no, (i still wanna find my dad), but i taught myself lots of things without him, like talking to girls (yes im a lesbian teehee), fighting and other stuff my childhood wasnt that bad, i hope hes still alive, he got arrested and idk if hes out yet
I hope you grow into a strong independent woman. You seem very intelligent from the way you presented your story. So I know you will achieve greatness with or without him. I don’t know you, but I believe in you 💙
Only people who went throught what i went through will fell me the felling of having a dead father at age of 4 doesnt even realise what death mean thinking he went meet his fleshblood again as life moves on it gets worst and i get step father who treats me like shit and i get the thinking of suicede more than 100 times in day what is life for me when im bad at school bad at sport bad at having freind cant talk to a girl for 1m straight straight up usless in life i guess world is gonna end up for me very soon gl to peolple whos having my problem but i cant take it .
I'm 12 now and my dad killed himself when I was 6 as I did know him well I mean he was a great man he was just very depressed I mean he worked in the British Army after all but that's just some of the story but tell me yours?
It impacts both the daughters and sons. My father left me when I was 3. Months. I was frustrated asking my mom " why is dad not coming " I passed 7 years getting lied to . Every single year ever month every holiday etc he promised me he was gonna come I slept in front of my door step waiting for him . Etc not one time did he come. Not one time did he atleast call me his daughter. I was just this girl he knew. He had 4 family's. And it's tough. I went through so many struggles with depression anxiety etc. Differnet mental illnesses it impacted my life . I'm scared to even fall In love because I'm scared that there gonna leave me . I ended up doing drugs to forget shit I saw my bestfriend overdose in front me and that's when I realized I need to get my shit back together. It was good for a couple years. Then I got raped. I told my dad . Guess what he said "what do you want me to do ? I dont fucking care you fucking slut opening up ur legs" . I went back to my old habits untill I was high asf then my mom calls me crying she says "I need you JR just died " . Losing my brother straighten me up . I was only 12 when all that dhit happened when I was gang banging when I was doing drugs when I was shooting guns to forget about people and shit . I was a 12 year old girl doing dumb shit because of my absent father. And to this day I hate him. But I'm proud that my momma found someone to replace him . My step dad has helped me get out of drugs.etc has made sure I'm good and my family is good etc I'm 14 year old girl . I dont drink anymore. I dont smoke hardcore shit anymore . (I only smoke weed ...) I still hang out with the same people but I'm trying to help them get out of the drugs . Because most of them dont have moms or dads. There siblings either died or social services took them. (REPLY WITH UR DISCORD IF YOU TRYNA BE FRIENDS )
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I'm 53 years old, and I have still not gotten over not having a father. The good thing is that over the last 29 years of marriage, one of the things that has kept me faithful and committed and determined to stay married is the knowledge that my kids needed me there EVERYDAY. I love my wife, but sometimes I felt like leaving, but the kids kept me around. Now they are grown, and we stuck it out, and we're still happy.
Rod Pruitt Same here brother like you my kids mean more than anything in this world and when your heart is in the right place with that you reap the benefits: Keeping your wife. When it comes down to it love of family is and always will be the most important.
I'm 30 years old now, I've never had a conversation with my father. I'm going through the same thing. I have a wife and 2 beautiful boys, I can't imagine putting them through what I've been through, the sense of loneliness, confusion and no sense of direction. I raise my kids year after year with the feeling that I'm a sailor in uncharted waters. No matter how much I try to suppress the feeling and move on, it always finds a way to creep up and I'm again having to deal with that void and feeling of emptiness. I watch videos like this and read comments such as yours to find strength and know that I'm not the only one out there. Thank you for sharing your experience Rod.
Thanks for your honestly Rod. For being a faithful, committed father for your family, even though you never had the opportunity to have that relationship with your father. May the Lord continue to give you opportunities to minister His love to others, so you help to heal and strengthen the brokenhearted in Jesus' name.
@@MajorPayne175 Thank you for sharing as well. ☺️ Grace and peace be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.
Me to I don't have a dad
I cant get over not having a dad.
I wouldve been fluent in another language if he stayed.
I wouldve loved myself more
I wouldve been happier with my life
It's alright I don't have a dad just be strong💪
Same here dude. When I hate someone I see my father thats what makes me angerier. Hope I'm not the only one.
try to use it for motivation
i always tried to ignore it but the more i thought of it it just gave me more motivation to say fuck you to him when he sees me doing great in life
This resonates so much
Just makes us appreciate our mothers even more 🙇♂️😭I love you mom
I don't .my mum is the one who wouldn't try for our sake.and my Dad is the one who didn't make the effort after it happened. I don't respect either of them
@Henry 3rd person Cejudo, well said! You’re the only one who made a positive comment. Everybody in here fail to recognize that not having an earthly father in your life maybe God’s plan. Instead of talking about not having an earthly father why not give your Heavenly Father glory for being there for you and using your mother to bless you and bring you up.
Having an earthly Father doesn’t make or break anyone.
ZEL DRIS Most mothers don’t like hearing that.
Plus, when they raise the children they expect the child to pay back all the effort she put to raise them.
I don’t have a mom either
My mom is the reason why I’m a sack of shit and can’t do nothing for my self or others I grew up like a spoiled bitch
I remember being 4 years old and seeing my Father leave. I can't Believe i still remember that moment.
Thanks for sharing. We hope you found wisdom and courage from Jahmar's story. A father leaving his children and family is traumatic but know that there is a Heavenly Father that loves you and will never leave you.
I remember being 6 and a bunch of cops come with four cop cars and a red van to our house and take me and my sisters, who were to young to even remember their mom, and taking us and putting us with our grandparents, out mom's parents. My mom is the greatest, most loving person and the only reason they had to take us is because she took the drugs they offer you during pregnancy and they were constantly drug testing her because I was a bad child and people called childrens aid on her saying it was her fault. anyway my grandparents got rid of me because I remembered our mom, and the last thing my mom said was "make sure they remember me" ☹️😪so I kept telling them about her and they wanted to adopt them, and as I said I was a bad kid, they were just babies. so I went through shit abusive group homes and terrible foster homes, with no escape from a life no child should live. After 9 years I'm finally back with my mother, and that all left me really fucked up but things are finally starting to go kinda ok, although I still don't have a dad 😪
I remember my dad leaving for the airport not knowing I wouldn't see him again
I remember when I was 2 or 3 years old and my mom and dad got into a big argument and they was fighting and after that that’s when my mom became a single mother. it’s hard because all these father figures my mom wanted me to have never really helped me I sometimes wonder how life woulda been with a father figure in my life
I was three when he was arrested for holding a knife to my neck and I still remember him when I was two and he would sexually abuse me...I can not even look at a boy and not think those moments again
I grew up without a dad, he looked for me and my brother 10 years later after my mom work hard in raising me, I hate him but he is my dad, I cant say i love him because i dont know him personaly. Now I am 17 and I have the face of a man who never was their when I needed a father. I just ignore the feeling and if one day I have a children i will never leave them
feeling the same. i look in the mirror and i do not know who I am looking at. which dna is this? by now it is 19 years since I had a conversation with him. I was only 9 years. I still have some damage with me when it comes to relation ships ans stuff. I have problems with leaving. idk but i just want to talk to him and have a father.
Thanks for your comment. Your destiny is determined by the decisions you make and it's good to hear that you will never leave your children (if/when you have one or two or more) ☺️. Continue to make quality decisions in your life. You may have similar looking features as your dad, but you are you and you have the opportunity to learn how to be a better person because of the unconditional love from our Heavenly Father. 🙏🏼Peace be with you!
@@maxk6199 Thanks for sharing. We pray that you would know the love of your Father in heaven. That you would receive His abounding grace in your life, in your relationships and begin to heal with forgiveness, love with abandonment and be set free from your past hurts, so that you can live an abundant life with Christ Jesus. 🙏🏼 Peace be with you!
My best friend doesn't speak to his dad it makes me mad cause id give anything to have a dad
A child does not get to choose who's his or her dad so many people have valid reasons of not speaking to their dad
hunter montgomery sometimes it’s better to quit. If he doesn’t see the (surely) wonderful son that God have gave him, his loss.
Jose Martinez right there reasons people act the way they do there more to being a dad then just being in the house
lake Bing true 🤷🏾♀️
I wouldn't want a dad but mabye that's cause all I know is bad men
To the people who grew up with have fathers, just know that you’re extremely lucky to have did.
I'm almost 23 and i'm fatherless. In a childhood every now and then i saw my father visiting our place to see my mom. That's all. He never really was interested in me. I was 10 years old, he forgot that i had a birthday, so he gave me his companys cap and a candy bag. It was almost nine years after that i saw him again. Just a lunch and bunch of money to buy my first car. No love, no caring. Just money. Money because he's a rich man. I appreciate his ''donations'' but that's not what i really want. I always wanted a good, loving father in my life. Instead of that i got rich, cold man who only cares about himself. He is still the reason i like to be with woman company instead of man.
Thanks for the great video btw!
I'm sorry to hear that, Antti. Best of luck in your journey.
Hey Antti, I'm only 20 myself . . . Did he pass or is he coming at your mom (still)? My situations very different. Still, I'm sorry to hear of your loss . . . it would be nice if they changed. Keep climbing! Music is a great healer, I'll give you tickets to my concerts if I ever make it out there :) :)
I can feel his pain im 29 yrs old going on 30 and i never met my father. It was very difficult for me growing up with out one because at the age of 7 and up is when you need one the most. I remember back in the 5th grade kids talking about how awesome their fathers was and whenever they asked me i would lie and tell them mine was too because i was afraid i would get bullied if i told them I didn’t know who my father was. It’s just so painful that i just keep it to my self I don’t want my two other sisters or my mom know that I’m still hurt so bad in the inside. Im a truck driver and he was too as far as i know. I cry sometimes when ever im driving just thinking why me. Why it had to be me out of millions of people on earth growing up with out a father but it is what it is. My 7 month old baby girl is what motivates me to become a great father for her : )
I love our Heavenly Father He is beyond words x
i grew up without a dad he left me and my sister and my mom when i was a baby. i never saw him. he was never there for me when i needed him the most when i was going thru insecurities. i had a stepdad and he left to but this time left me my brother and my sister and my mom. im so glad for my mom she didnt give up💛. when i grow up i know dang well im not going to be like him im gonna be with my dang children and love them.💛
@@ZZ-xi9dp I relate so well to this, it messes up your frame.
Amen brother. Like you, I grew up without a father and my mom always used to tell me "You may not have an earthly father, but you have a heavenly father" I never forgot that.
I had a conversation with my wife tonight that led to a lot of tears and emotion from the little boy in me being let out. I have a beautiful son now. He heals me by being excited see me everyday and to want me around. To all the men or boys without a father. Let your inner child be comforted by your adult self and let him cry. You’ll be ok
It sucked when I was younger especially when playing sports seeing all my friend's father's participating... My mom tried her best but she had to work. I haven't seen my father since I was 13 and it was on bad terms , and even then I rarely saw him .he only came around on 4th of July when he felt like it.. one thing that was detrimental on my life this I had two step sisters and one step brother . My father lied to them and told them that my mother didn't want him to see me which was a lie. So from the age of 13 to 33 I had a big piece of my heart missing and I was unaware of it.. but today I can thank God to say that my sisters found me now I can finally let go drugs which is a blessing because I was using that as a void in my life..
I've got two fathers. One biological and one adopted. Neither are in my life and no matter how much I strive to seek them out, they walk away. I also have One who I've never seen, but I realize He has always been with me. I realize He's the only One I need, but while I live in this life, I'll always yearn to have an earthly father. God have mercy on me...
I usually say that although I never had a father here on earth, he passed away, I know that I have a Father in heaven. He is my Father now and my shield and protector. He Provides for me and takes care of my every need. I call him Father God.
I had a father n a biological father, but I never regret that I was adopted. A pastor and an Evangelist who both died many years ago. My father died 4 years ago. Even though he gave me to be raised by someone he was still their for me. My Mon had 8 of us n I was the first.. Mommy had it rough raising the others. I still love both my parents dearly n I thank God for the decision they made. Now I am helping my siblings.. Thank u Jesus❤
My dad passed away when I was 3 or 4 years old
Iam 11 now:( I understand the pain...
At least he is watching down on u smiling everyday watching his son live his life💯and happy easter to you
@@damaribrackett1159 Heaven doesn't exist.
Wish the best for you❤
This guy went to my highschool. He was very good. He played number 8. He won 5 straight championships and went undefeated in their final season. unbelievable. He is also a very nice person.
Being hurt by your father is a deep hurt that never really goes away. The pain is eased with time, but it is always a heartbreak like no other
Thank you for the push-ups my dad passed in 2008 and my moms at 2018. So thank you for the push-ups
When your a 30 year old man and you still have anger, and dissonance from a neglected childhood. No father,Mom didn't care so long as welfare check kept comming.
This video is very helpful in a way because my dad's family wanted to take me from my mother so I went with my mom and only saw him once in my life and since I don't have a dad everyone at school makes fun of me so I decided to stop being friends with anyone and I stopped trusting everyone because of my whole life
i cried through the whole video. damn.
This has gave me more motivation to be me. My dad has been home for 5 years but I play football to stop thinking about it, but when I go home I always have memories of us together 😭 this video has really touched my heart
Thats so great to hear!! Thank you for sharing!
Kenneth Copeland Ministries Canada no problem
We are proud of this man Jahmar Speid, look out for great things to come
My dad isn’t a dad to me or my half brothers and when we go over there he just uses us to clean up his house and work.
Same with my dad
You should try to build a bond with him you’re lucky you have a dad they aren’t gonna be around forever
I know people say that not having a dad is very hard, but it’s way harder when you know you have a dad but can’t count on him for nothing
My “dad” wanted me aborted but thanks to my mother I’m alive I’ve been thru the worst situations in life but I get stronger and stronger not having a father really has been hurtful thru growing up. Seeing friends cousins w there dad my dad this my dad that me being alone home w no one but my mom working 2 jobs to make it thru was hard seeing everything at a young age I understood everything but thanks to my mother I am who I am ❤️and to who so called my “dad” he missed out on a great strong successful son
I still remember, as a 7 year old kid burying my dad, i still remember that moment i wish i die and he comes back. I would do anything for having a dad. I cried....... I cried after a long time and feeling better
my father got killed when i was 9 😪 i barely got memories with him but i do miss him, i need him to show me how to be a man yk :/ i’m grateful for my mom and everything she’s done but it’s just not enough. i NEED my dad.
I think i can never get over the fact my dad was neva in my life i have so much rage inside of me im a very quiet person
Me too bro, me too. Can't let people get to close to me.
Daryl, it's natural to feel that way. Best of luck in your journey.
I most certainly fill that void. But unlike most I can't blame him. My mother by her own omission kept him out of my life. Why? Because I don't need a father. Her exact words
Been trying to connect with my brother jahmar a while now but we've lost touch. If you still chat let him know his fire team partner wants to connect! Such a wholesome and genuine person jahmar is
I never really saw my father since I was 3 or 4 . I can't really remember. At least I still have my mother and my sister . But because I grew up with two girls changed me. I became more sensible , so I was a target for everyone who wanted something.
But today I feel more confident. I felt alone for a long time.
I remember when my mother and me went to buy some new cloths for me and then I heard my dad calling me. I looked behind me and asked my mother what we should do (I was very young)
She said "just keep walking" but he followed us and we spent some time together and then he said he'll call me on my birthday. Well he never did eventhough he had my mothers number. That definetely hurt. I started listening to rap music when I was like 11. But not that rap music with a thousand swear words in em. I started listening to rap songs with an actual meanings behind. So that gave me lots of confidence.
Now I'm seeing so many people that grew up without a father too. I wish all of you good luck 🙏🏽
I know my origin, but the important thing is not who has bred you. The important thing is how you become who you are. The main thing is that you have become good, have done well in life.
What a great attitude!
Theres not a week that goes by where i don’t think abt my father that i’ve never met and who disappeared
My father left me, my sister and my mom when I was just 3 years old. He has never even TRIED to contact any of us and he has done NOTHING for us. But my life has been good and happy anyway. The most important thing is not the one who helped bred you, the important thing is that you have made it well in life!
A Great one!!
Wish you the best❤
I suffered verbal abuse from my quote on quote father and it ripped me up inside. He had been like this for 11 years .when I turned 10 things got worse very worse I was the black sheep he tuck drugs and partied. When we visited him I stopped seeing him and he sent me very hurtful text like your not my son he harassed my mum and treated my older brother even worse thankfully my younger brother and sister did not suffer. I am 12 now and I am dealing with a lot of issues trying to get over it. I just want other people who are going through something like this dont wait make that call tell someone.
I'm so sorry to hear this... best of luck to you through all of this.
I’m 30 and my experience is society puts more stress on me not having a father than not having a father. It’s like people want me to use it as an excuse. I became a father 6 years ago…. My father left me when I was two. Looking at my son at age 2 I couldn’t even imagine not kissing my son before work. Yet alone ditch him at that age. I realized my father never loved me nor every even knew me. I’ve become a great father and have learned true love so I thank god for my fathers weakness
i remember being 14 and having to watch my dad leave . the last words i told him were “wait” haha.. 😔.
Great testimony
I don’t know how to explain this but my father does live with me so technically he is in my life .. yes he lives with my family and I physically but was never there for me emotionally, constantly growing up I was desperate for the male partner in my life I’ve went through servers heartbreaks and damaging things in my life time but gratefully I met someone who makes me happy and helps me to forget what’s going on at home ... but it’s not the same I see my dad at home and doesn’t pay attention to me it just breaks my heart and it is something I won’t be able to overcome
I feel ya I understand u
I understand completely. Your situation was my situation as well. Dad in the house, emotionally and interactively distant as all.
You can overcome this once you realize that your true father is the Father.
I am 15 years old and well I used to have a dad but then I realized he did some stupid things and well I never ever got to see him since this gives me inspired by him now I have god by my side
It is really hard to grow up without a father btw especially when we are boys we need our fathers more than girls, the last time that i have seen my father was Jan 2008 and i was 8 years old, sadly one year later Octo 2009 my father has passed away in the ocean that time i never felt how hard it will be to lost your father but the time that i understood that i need my father was when i was 15. Any way it is just a lesson and when i become a father i never leave my children.
Thank you for sharing your story, we are always here for you! 🙏
Me too I am 15. Today was Father's day I cried real Hard.🤧😭
@@Nathan_091 the only thing that we can is to pray them, i can feel it bro.
My Dad abused me when I was younger and only kept me for the money he got. He’d scream, yell, and hit me every time he was home, but he wasn’t home most of the time. He forced a complete stranger that I now refer to as my step mother into my life without any warning or introduction as well. She didn’t treat me like I was her kid, only her actually children did she show love and compassion to. He’d put on movies that would scare the living daylights out of me, and my stepmothers kids would take my toys and tell me they possessed them and that they were going to kill me. Every night I would have to sleep at my grandmothers house when my dad had work, and that house was the most terrifying I’d ever slept in as a child. The only thing that kept me going all those years was my sister, and she was still a kid as well. I don’t remember any good memories of me being with my dad or my mom because of those horrible experiences. And my mom did nothing to try and win me and my sister back, just because she already had my two brothers. My nana would pray and pray every night for us to come back home, and I thought me coming home was a miracle out of no where. But it turns out it was because of the one night that I will never forget. My sister tried to take her own life, and I had watched her do it because I was clueless of what was happening. She told me to immediately call my dad over once she did it, and I did. But that was what it took for us to finally go back home. I’d cry every day to school when I was with him, because I never wanted to leave my moms side when she dropped me off, and all the kids at school all thought I was weird or a crybaby. Nobody would ever talk or hang out with me, so I watched as they all would play and run around, and for some reason it kept me entertained every single day. A while back I never had the confidence to ever say no to my dad, and I would go hang out with him even if I didn’t want to, because I didn’t feel like I had a voice. An my stepmother had made fun of when I would cry to be with my mother every night, and I played it off like it was a joke, but it really hurt me to think about those miserable nights of crying myself to sleep in my sisters arms. An my dad wouldn’t care what she said or did to me, because no matter what he chose her over his own kids, and all she cared for was her kids and her kids only. Now I refuse to go anywhere with my dad. A while back he would constantly ask why I never went with him anywhere and what’s so good about my home, and I even texted him why I didn’t. I told him about how he made me feel and how my stepmom would treat me, and that he hurt me and my sister, and how me never apologized to us for it. An the only thing he responded with was “it was hard for all of us”. He never truly apologized. The only reason I still respond sometimes to a few of his texts is because at this point, I’m so tired of seeing people happy with their dads, when all I ever wanted was a good childhood and an actual father figure. I long for that, but I never gotten it. So the only reason I text him still is because deep down I’m desperate to have at least someone to call dad in my life, but I know I will never forgive him for the pain he caused me and my entire family. I refuse to involve him in my future family in any way, and I would never wish my experience with him on my worst enemy. I want to make sure that my children never go through such a terrible thing like this.
My dad left when I was 1, I’d never even knew that I was meant to have a dad until I was 6 which left me confused and I still am. I’d never seen what he looks like until I was 15 but I still have never made contact with him despite trying everyday to find him online. I am now 16 and on the other side of the world from my home land of South Africa, never met my dad and I don’t feel any connection to anyone except my grandparents. I feel emotionally blank and I have a fucked up sense of reality and humour. I have the looks and traits of my dad despite never even knowing the bastard. I’ve given up trying to find him as the damage has already been done. Thanks for reading
Thanks for sharing, Declan. Best of luck to you through this journey.
Internet Dad Thanks. I’ve never shared that to anyone but I wasn’t in the best position when I was typing that. I’m surprised I actually sent it through but yea
Its been seven years since my dad passed and if anything i miss him more every year especially since i think about the fact that soon i will have lived more years without my father than the years i had with him that depresses me so much because how I would have loved for him to see me get married and have kids
My dad is a immigrant and he got in trouble today with police he drinks and stuff because hes not happy with my mom and their relationship and he might get sent back to mexico i dont know what to feel i cried and begged god my mom has alot mental problems and physical and it will be hard living threw it and we'll probably move and be living poor its hurts it hurts.
I don't have a dad and I have a dream to make it to the MLB and I don't let him get in my way
I'll see you there one day pal
Thank you I’m 15 I haven’t seen him since 3 Christmas’s ago he also had another son who I been on FaceTime with a few times he’s 4 or five. My dad is I can’t even say trying to get in my life he just texts I love you and never responds back I wanna be done with him I lose all that pain and anger
My dad left me at 2 years and soon after a year I had the bad news he was dead it hurts me till now thank God am 21 years old and I miss him so much I hate school days students come with their parents and I just attend by myself my mum hates me so much and she never bothers to attend my school graduation 😔 not even say happy birthday to me no never I have so much hanger in my heart that makes me break down so much
I don’t have a dad all my friends have dads and it makes me sad
You have a heavenly father who cares deeply for you. He loves you, and is always there for you ❤️🙏
I grew up without a dad, only had my mother and I love my mother but I asked her one day why I didnt have a father she told me not to worry about him that he didn't deserve me, but I knew he just left becaues he didnt want me, for me that hurt me for a long time it still does when I think about it. I never new him soo how could I hate someone I didnt know. I'm 19 with my own 1yr old child, when I new I was going to have a baby I was going to be by her side becaues I know that pain that pain knowing that you're father didnt care to even get to know you.
be strong.
I was abused by my stepfather and ppl who was close to me and i'm mad at my father because i don't know him he left when my mom was pregnant
I don't even know his name
Everyday since i was a child i prayed i said
God protect my father and i said that i love him by a sign
Now i'm 17 yrs old
I stopped doing this because i lost hope
I know it's bad since i was a little i prayed god i believed in him but now i have doubt
I'm worthless
I didn’t know, I thought something was wrong with me bro.. I didn’t know how to manage anger, I carry this silent anger that I can’t really take out on anyone.. my dad claims he loves me but I didn’t even see him for 18 years until I was 19 years old... now we live under the same roof and he’s like a stranger, we never really get along .. a part of me wants to fix it and a part of me is saying fuck it. I don’t know what it’s like to be loved by my father.. can someone tell me what to do ?
I’ve never met my father before. I don’t even think he knows I exist. If only he was here with me to help me through these hard times. I don’t even feel like I have a mother. I have a Mom but she is not stable, and I’m wanting my aunt to take custody over me. Really the only parent I have is God, but I feel as if I have no parent at all. I have no father figure to look up too, no physical role model. Now that I’m 14, the age that I am finally understanding everything and processing everything I feel hurt....
But I need to remember Jesus is my father figure and role model. Even though he’s not here right now, I will meet him eventually. I have hope. That topic does hurt, but I just need to keep going, I need to stay positive and surround myself with people that are positive too. This summer I am really going to work on my relationship with Jesus, I need him. And also work on doing things that make me happy. God bless you 💕
Same here. Today was Father's day I cried really hard.
I’m 11 right now and my dad left when I was 2 my mom says he does drugs and bad things like that and I have anger issues because of that and All the other kids brag about how they have a dad
Cj, thank you for sharing your story but your life does not have to be defined by your past. We believe God has a bright future for you, but it's important to forgive your dad and even your mom. It's not easy, but forgiveness is a continuous act of faith. Let go of your anger and all bitterness because holding these feeling will only hurt you. We are praying for your peace and for you to receive God's unconditional love. Thanks again!
I am so sorry, I know the feeling well and it hurts badly..
Cj Summerlin hey bud, my dad did drugs too & unfortunately he was murdered during a drug deal. This happened when I was 5. So I feel your pain. I'm almost 22 now, twice your age. Make good choices and get through school, don't do drugs. You will grow up to do huge things, even without a father figure.
CJ, I'm so sorry to hear that! Come over to my channel. I created it just for kids like you.
My dad left me when I was 4
One of my friends said that "i hate my dad" and then i becane mad and taught her a lesson because not everyone is lucky to have dad. I told her "i would do anything to have a dad like you."
I never had a chance to meet my father,he was alcoholic and a bad man with agression problems.I`m married and we have a son but still i`m really shy and have a feeling that i need to talk someone because i don`t have any friends
NCarmine1 friends help us get through life’s ups and downs find friends and good ones too your life will change because of it
Hos is life going otherwise?
Have you discussed with your wife the hurt and the void you have inside?
Comments like these show how much is men need a men’s social club
If you don’t know what it’s like to have your father choose every single day to not be in your life, I think you have no idea what that does to somebody. I’ve grown up with a father who decided not to visit me or talk to me for most of my life, he lives approx 20minutes away. I made an effort once I passed my drivers test and got a car to visit him every week, I made more of an effort to see the man that Co created me in a year than he has in my entire 22 years of existence, I stopped going once I realised he doesn’t care. So for all those people that seem to get mad at ‘us’ who have fathers that we don’t visit, there are reasons for it. Blood is not always thicker than water.
I was at my friend's house, and I saw how he talk to his father, I saw that love I didn't ever got. They have just talked but for me it was something new, something I have never felt... And I don't really know why I'm doing it, I just have to tell it somebody (sorry for the English grammar mistakes)
Remember black men and men on general
Most y’all mamas didn’t care about you not having a dad
Most of y’all mama wanted a check or was fking the bad boy
Not thinking about You!!!
Facts over feelings
This was a sad story
Most of the people in the comment section aren't actually "fatherless". They just have an absent father; like millions of kids in this world whose fathers are either in prison, working overseas, missing or just hiding.
Appreciate what you have (a mother, a parent), no point mulling on what you "don't have".
Focus on what you dream always, because it is your sad thoughts (not your circumstances) that bring negativity in your life.
All the best.
I never had a father , it's sucks , I wish that if I were aborted then I'd be happier
EPIC PUPPY TECH nooo don’t say that things will get better I promise bc I can relate
@@susanasantana1220 yeah right I guess , thank you , you're really sweet.
I wish i was aborted to.
You wouldn't know if you would be happier because you wouldn't have a life. One can always learn how to be happy with patience. Learn what it means how to live without a father, let it give you strength and motivation. I am myself without a father and no matter how hard it gets, one of the things it teaches me it's how much it means for me to be there for my kids in the future, and that is a powerful thing.
Yo my n word I don’t have a dad chill out chin up bro cmon I’m 14 I have major depression but I am ok dude I pray for you man
I have a mom and a dad who fight all the time. I saw my dad choking my mom in a headlock but my mom was always putting him on blast to her folks. She would always complain about him to people. Now that I think back about it I don't even remember him at all. I mean I remember him making me happy but he did beat my little brother up once and tied him up like a pig. He tied up my little brother with a rope from his hands to his feet and then kicked him in the back. And my mom was waving a broom stick at me telling me to "STAY AWAY!". They were coming back from a late night party from somewhere and my little brother made a mess in the house by playing with rice and the rice fell everywhere on the floor. That's why they tied him up and beat him, I was probably 7 at the time and he was probably around 4 years old. Not even legal to go to kindergarten yet.. They came home, from a party, beat him up and told me to "STAY AWAY!". I was forced to watch him beat up my little brother. Now that I think back about it I would kick his ass For this. I wish I was stronger when I was little. Because now anybody who messes with my brother's happiness I will kick his ass. It just makes me so angry!! I have trust issues and everybody plays with my feelings. They say "Oh steve, you're just overreacting. That's how it is sometimes!" or they defuse the problems at hand by saying "dam that sucks" and then they move on. LITERALLY everybody I asked for help either used me to help themselves look better or to get something else from me..! This is how psychopaths are BORN. and society pretends to wonder why people shoot schools and fucking commit suicide! They play it all off as a fucking MENTAL ILLNESS AND THEN SEND THEM BACK TO THE HOSPITAL FOR SLOW KILLING MEDICATION. And I have seen the stupid stuff that goes on around the hospitals. Nobody fucking cares who they help or don't help, why should I? Its not even a fucking question to answer anymore. When you have seen all the shit I have seen and heard. You will understand how pointless "getting help" is. All those therapists you go to? Fucking pointless! I can't talk to anybody because family is all I have and family chose to tell me to fuck off! To figure it out ALL BY MY FUCKING SELF. nobody fucking understands.
It's Me, Steve I feel for you hopefully you find some friends to cop with the pain I believe in you you’ll get through it
For me I just have no desire to develop a relationship with my father, he and my mom are going through a divorce. He was an alcoholic since his college days, he’s in his 50s now. He was emotionally and physically abusive mostly towards me and sometimes my older brother but I think he felt threatened by him. He tries to communicate only when it’s football Sunday because it offers him to make up some small talk about the games. I just can’t take the narcissism any longer, it’s too toxic.
I still can t imagine he is no more it hurts me everyday....
Yeah man! I know all about it . . . I remember not having the brother in the house and it's so hard to be an alpha without being called "an aggressor"? That's for those of us whose siblings aren't in the house . . . we learn to let go, ... if we don't people won't love us. Sometimes we'll remember a brotherly competition and look back and just ask . . . "How long's it been!?". Music or Gym are an outlet for me because these less healthy expressions so often turn into real despair ... why? Because there's no space to be aggressive in the house (without a brother), so we have to just pray ... the anger can be managed. I might be going into the law school full force because of all of this. Please pray for that ... I'm thinking more seriously about company law then I have ever thought before ... I might be switching to a Christian school for the last year of music training before my bachelors. But suddenly out of nowhere I started to love law and no one in my family does law or knows about this. I need to learn to write first.
most the times i mention my father my mom asks me if i wanna stay with them instead...im 11 such a pain in the ass....i dont have a father
i have video games though which is enough to cheer me up but it pains me seeing others enjoy a real and whole family
Im just fucking crying, i wanna kms rn because i miss my dad so much and never got to know him, rip 💔
Been doing this been doing that locked up couple months , I wish I knew my father ✍️😞
Yes, I feel it.
My worst experience is when I get the daddy,daughter dance sheets and I just started to cry...I never ment my father and I still haven't.idk his name or anything...I just found out he had been paying child support and my mom has been using it for her shoes....I sometimes wonder if I would have better life with him,my mom is in a abusive relationship and just want to run away and see him..
I have a dad he has schizophrenia and it's impossible to have a actual conversation with him because the only thing he talks about is himself and how the government is out to get him, and everything he says is negative if he does say something positive which is rare he imidiately follows up with something negative he never tought me how to be a man, how to talk to women, I had to learn all of that by myself because my own goddamn dad couldent and wouldent do it, my dad would never ask to see me, I would go to him to try to get to know him, some dads arent good.
Why I'm crying ???
I'm really happy with my Mom .
Without Dad life is poor,miserable,full of
Property,you will have ignorance of people,you can feel how rude people are,you are not going to be happy,not a normal life💔💔
I know cause I don't dad,when I was 3 my mom and dad got divorced.Actually my father was a coward and too much greedy for money that he left me and my mom.since than he didn't even though about me,My childhood ruined😢😢😢,still struggles are here.Now my dad is married to another woman and has two sons.💔💔,I don't know what happiness is.please don't judge me..thanks and be happy with what and who u have.Atleast you have parents you have shelter in this Qrull world😁😁
I'm 30 years old mom of four their dad is still in their life my mom died when I was just 14 and my dad, never was around excuse my french but I hate him because he chose drugs and alcohol over his kids and because of that and us having different mom's we are not close at all; all I wanted so badly was to have a bond with them and my dad but that never happened even though I have a family of my own I still feel lonely because wanting that bond so badly I ask myself all the time what did I do so bad that my dad doesn't want me or my brothers and sisters my faith in believing that I'm going to be ok is strong but I just can't let go because I see all my brothers and sisters are close but I'm not included it's just not fair.
What makes me more mad than anything is I searched my father one day up on Safari and I saw that he had a whole other family that he was loving and I have more siblings that he has put up for adoption but he just decided to stay with that one family I don’t know why he doesn’t love me.
I am sorry to read about your pain. I feel the pain you may be going through.I also had no dad growing up and am finding out after 40 years that my deep inner pain, anger and lifetime of bad choices stems from not having a father. I am at the start of a hard deep journey into those hidden childhood boxes of emotions and memories. I hope you and all the other fatherless people find their way. Once I have, I will be able to hopefully share with others and tell my story. For now, be strong.
For children who eighteen and fatherless. You can make a choice to have a better future. You can pick an Armed Force. There are five armed forces in the United States. You don't need money or clothes to enlisted and get promoted through the ranks. The military takes people and gives them housing and food and work. All you have to do is physically train and mentally train with the people in the military. Make sure you run at least two to three miles to prep your legs for running. Each military has a different physical test.
i miss my dad. i grew up with only my mom
I can’t stop crying about not having a dad
I wish I'd be adopted to know what a family is..
I am 15 and i saw my dad take his own life at 8. So i have never really had an father figure at all. I never really Talk to my stepdad because he doesn’t like me.
You're a beautiful person. Love yourself. Love others.
I'm so sorry to hear that Mikse. I hope you can find the support you need as you continue to navigate this life.
My step-dad is cheating on my mom it really hurts me a lot I'm afraid to tell my mom and I have accepted that I will never have a father figure
Kamogelo Nkuna How do you know he is cheating on your mother?
It’s been 4 years without my dad I mostly forgot who he is
It's been 12 years..
My father has left my brother and I a few days ago
If you wanna talk, i'm here my ig is helenaa__w
My dad got deported almost 2 years ago and I have a lot of memories.Anyways my youngest brother was 2 at the time now when ever someone says "dad" he looks at you and asks "dad?" I say "Yes dad." He says "No it is mom not dad!"He is almost 4 now.
by the time i turned 3 my parents had been separated.....i remained with my mom and day after day i saw her toiling to raise me...i didn't see or talk to my dad until i was 22,when i joined college,news reached my father and he rang me...he accused me of why i don't ring him and why i don't tell him about my academic endeavors, this is not what i expected ,it tore and depressed me more than ever.i struggled and finished ,when i got a job ,he sent me message through my aunt saying he is so hurt and disappointed that i don't call him for help....that he would like to know what am up to so he supports me....i see this as pretense and think he should have known that i needed help all the time not just now.to be honest am now 26 but am still confused
Same over here
Hello. all these comments are from long while ago but if anyone's reading this please tell me if you have a similar situation to mine . i am adopted, ive never met either of my biological parents and my mom(adoptive), is single. so i've NEVER had a father
Lexxie, that must be difficult. Wishing you the best... do feel free to reach out if you need any advice.
Internet Dad thank you internet dad
LexxieFN It seems as though you’re missing having a father truly?
Mary yes
My father used to hide me and even stole my passport when I was 16 to smuggle an immigrant through. My mom tried so hard, she never married again, he used her, abused her.
He was a rich man, but couldn't give me a cent, its like he hated me.
In a few days time I'll be confronting my dad. I have lots of anger in me. We had nothing absolutely nothing. I want him to know what he put my mother and I through.
I know your pain brother.
Nice video
im 11, i havent seen my dad since I was 4, i was thinking of thanking my dad when i find him in a few years but no, (i still wanna find my dad), but i taught myself lots of things without him, like talking to girls (yes im a lesbian teehee), fighting and other stuff my childhood wasnt that bad, i hope hes still alive, he got arrested and idk if hes out yet
I hope you grow into a strong independent woman. You seem very intelligent from the way you presented your story. So I know you will achieve greatness with or without him. I don’t know you, but I believe in you 💙
I remember being 4yr and my dad died in front my eyes
I'm sorry
I have a father but he has destroyed my future. I know I might sound insensitive but it would be so much better if he had left
I miss my dad a lot...😢
Remember, you have a Father in Heaven who loves you so much. When you feel lonely reach out to him, he is there to comfort you.
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Only people who went throught what i went through will fell me the felling of having a dead father at age of 4 doesnt even realise what death mean thinking he went meet his fleshblood again as life moves on it gets worst and i get step father who treats me like shit and i get the thinking of suicede more than 100 times in day what is life for me when im bad at school bad at sport bad at having freind cant talk to a girl for 1m straight straight up usless in life i guess world is gonna end up for me very soon gl to peolple whos having my problem but i cant take it .
I'm 12 now and my dad killed himself when I was 6 as I did know him well I mean he was a great man he was just very depressed I mean he worked in the British Army after all but that's just some of the story but tell me yours?
It impacts both the daughters and sons. My father left me when I was 3. Months. I was frustrated asking my mom " why is dad not coming " I passed 7 years getting lied to . Every single year ever month every holiday etc he promised me he was gonna come I slept in front of my door step waiting for him . Etc not one time did he come. Not one time did he atleast call me his daughter. I was just this girl he knew. He had 4 family's. And it's tough. I went through so many struggles with depression anxiety etc. Differnet mental illnesses it impacted my life . I'm scared to even fall In love because I'm scared that there gonna leave me . I ended up doing drugs to forget shit I saw my bestfriend overdose in front me and that's when I realized I need to get my shit back together. It was good for a couple years. Then I got raped. I told my dad . Guess what he said "what do you want me to do ? I dont fucking care you fucking slut opening up ur legs" . I went back to my old habits untill I was high asf then my mom calls me crying she says "I need you JR just died " . Losing my brother straighten me up . I was only 12 when all that dhit happened when I was gang banging when I was doing drugs when I was shooting guns to forget about people and shit . I was a 12 year old girl doing dumb shit because of my absent father. And to this day I hate him. But I'm proud that my momma found someone to replace him . My step dad has helped me get out of drugs.etc has made sure I'm good and my family is good etc
I'm 14 year old girl . I dont drink anymore. I dont smoke hardcore shit anymore . (I only smoke weed ...) I still hang out with the same people but I'm trying to help them get out of the drugs . Because most of them dont have moms or dads. There siblings either died or social services took them.
(REPLY WITH UR DISCORD IF YOU TRYNA BE FRIENDS )
Am 14 too can we be friends
There is an old saying:”Black men have no father.”A traditional culture.
What?