Life Changing Secret Uncovered by DNA Test

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  • Опубликовано: 29 авг 2024
  • In this professional genealogist reacts, I watch "READING MY ANCESTRY DNA RESULTS! I BEEN LIED TO MY ENTIRE LIFE!" and "I FINALLY SPOKE TO MY DAD!!!" by ‪@aritv3833‬
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Комментарии • 113

  • @Okamikurainya
    @Okamikurainya Месяц назад +46

    Shout out to the "adoptive fathers" who were REAL parental figures.
    Can't imagine the feeling of betrayal in the cases of infidelity, and to put that aside and still step up to be there for the kid...
    Bittersweet heroes.

    • @willmitchell2553
      @willmitchell2553 Месяц назад +6

      Real Men fill in when needed 🎉🎉🎉they are DADs ***father does not always mean having the same blood.

  • @melliness123
    @melliness123 Месяц назад +33

    This is how I found out that I had a different father, it's devastating.

  • @johnlabus7359
    @johnlabus7359 Месяц назад +28

    So basically her mother slept with another man and lied to her daughter for nearly 3 decades. The fact that the mother told her daughter that she was Hispanic tells me that the mother knew who the birth father was. I feel for this young lady and the man who raised her.

    • @sabirsal
      @sabirsal Месяц назад +4

      Basically lol. I watched the whole vid and then read the comments and it felt like i'd entered the Twilight Zone, the way all the comments buried the lead. Mom slept with a dude whose name she didn't remember and then lied to her then romantic partner and "their baby" for three decades. What a horrible horrible person she is.

    • @Matty06001
      @Matty06001 Месяц назад +2

      @@sabirsalHA, that’s funny. Judgey much? And the guy gets off the hook with no nasty name calling? I’ve got YOUR number, friend. A fanatic.

    • @Ponto-zv9vf
      @Ponto-zv9vf Месяц назад

      Maybe she told her daughter that as a subtle way of telling her the birth father is Puerto Rican. The woman is in her twenties and she had a hard time coping, imagine if she was a child. As a man I would say that women in general just see men as sperm donors and the father figure as unimportant to their children.

  • @katwalker07
    @katwalker07 Месяц назад +62

    I'm a brunette with tan skin. My sister is a redhead with pale skin. Both our parents are brunettes with lighter skin. My sister always used to joke that she was the mailman's kid. (It wasn't a secret in our family that both our parents had cheated on each other before.) After Dad died in 2014, we got our Ancestry tests done. My sister was all set to find out everything. Turns out that we're 100% full siblings. She actually had me on speaker when she read her results. She started crying, saying "Daddys's Daddy". I tell everyone that if they do their DNA, it's not a game, be ready to find out the whole truth, even the sucky parts. Our youngest brother refuses to get his DNA done. He said that if he were to find out that the man he called Daddy his entire life wasn't his Dad, he doesn't know what he would do.

    • @danielm.1441
      @danielm.1441 Месяц назад +9

      Whatever the outcome of a DNA test, it doesn't make the people that raised, loved & cared for you any less of a parent.
      For you brother - yes there's the upset of a man he thought to be his father turning out not to be, but there's also hope even if that were to be true. Hope for more family, more connection, more love.

    • @jboss1073
      @jboss1073 Месяц назад +2

      Redheads with porcelain skin are not a stable and separate population - they are variations of the English people.
      Even Norwegians and Swedes can be brunettes with tan skin, e.g. Norwegian actor Nicolai Cleve Broch.

    • @Chaotic_Pixie
      @Chaotic_Pixie Месяц назад +3

      I always had similar feels being the shortest family member by a LOT since my grandfather’s aunt and the only person without blue eyes for just as many generations. I’m nearly a foot shorter than everyone, including other female relatives. Thankfully, as I’ve aged, I can see my mom in my features and my niece could be my twin in terms of our facial expressions… but I really did wonder if I was switched at birth as a kid. I’m so short because of a genetic condition that a parent MUST have… and we always thought I expressed a very mild form. Turns out, I get it from my mom and she expresses an even more mild form which is why she’s so tall (9in taller than me) but yeah. I did ancestry DNA and matched to both sides of my family which felt good. I honestly was expecting other skeletons in the closet which didn’t manifest either. I grew up with everyone telling me my dad must be part black because of his black, curly hair that naturally grows into an Afro. Nope. Fun fact… contrary to popular belief, Germans aren’t fair haired, blue eyed people for the most part… they tend to actually have very dark hair and his blue eyes come from his Scandinavian ancestry.

    • @Chaotic_Pixie
      @Chaotic_Pixie Месяц назад +3

      @@jboss1073red hair actually shows up in all genetic populations. You find it in Asian populations and African populations too, though far more rarely. I actually watched a documentary about red/orange genetics in humans & other animals. It was fascinating. In humans, hair color is not linked to melanin production, but darker hair in sunnier climates is advantageous for protecting the sensitive scalp skin & less necessary the further north you go. The body is better off putting its energies elsewhere. But unlike black to brown to blonde which is more of a color scale of intensity… red head falls outside of that. They did genetic studies on red haired individuals from Asia, Africa, mainland Europe, and the US and it was absolutely fascinating. They basically proved that red hair is a genetic fluke that randomly pops up & then can potentially be passed down but because its double recessive, you need a copy from both parents which is why its so rare in populations with darker skin.

    • @jboss1073
      @jboss1073 Месяц назад

      @@Chaotic_Pixie I agree with everything you said except that talk of "double recessive", the whole talk of genes being "recessive" is B.S. and extremely oversimplified. None of the mechanics of gene expression can be summarized in an easy-to-understand sentence.

  • @lisainman8974
    @lisainman8974 Месяц назад +23

    Been there. Found out at 28. Shatters your sense of self. I wish parents would be honest. The truth sets us all free.

  • @danielm.1441
    @danielm.1441 Месяц назад +21

    I wonder how many people have caused familial upheaval only because they haven't understood how these tests work...

  • @Sheila-G
    @Sheila-G Месяц назад +2

    Found a new cousin with my results, my uncle was not nice about it but the rest of us love our new additions very much!

  • @LindaSchreiber
    @LindaSchreiber Месяц назад +9

    I've had a lot of cool things with my own DNA, and in helping others, but the fondest memory is.
    A smallish match, say 30-40 cMs, that had my father's surname on her profile.... Well I just had to message her ;)
    Through our conversations back and forth, I learned that she was afraid her dad was not her dad. There were reasons for wondering.
    Through a lot of previous research, and a lot of work painting segments of matches, I was able to reassure her that the chunk of DNA we shared was clearly a Workman segment. And I was able to show her how her dad and I were related (distantly).
    Her dad WAS her dad. Proven. I got thank you emails from them both. Boy, that felt marvelous!

  • @terabooze-hudson4865
    @terabooze-hudson4865 Месяц назад +3

    I really feel her pain. I literally experienced this same thing last year. After 52 years, I found out that my dad was not my biological father. The feeling of betrayal is so real. Still searching for my biological father.

  • @ashleymufasa
    @ashleymufasa Месяц назад +9

    I found out my great grandpa is not who I thought he was, so I am not Italian at all. I'm almost entirely from the British isles.

  • @nerdlarge4691
    @nerdlarge4691 Месяц назад +12

    Not only does look stereotypically Puerto Rican, her accent sounds like a Puerto Rican, especially one from New York. No wonder she had suspicions …

    • @GazilionPT
      @GazilionPT Месяц назад +5

      Accent is not genetically transferred.
      But that may indicate she was raised in a majority-Puerto Rican neighbourhood, and, although her family (mother + supposed father) was not Puerto Rican, the majority of her neighbours growing up were, so she caught the accent.
      Her biological father could be a Puerto Rican that used to live in her neighbourhood (and later moved to PA), or he was a more or less casual visit to the neighbourhood (e.g. staying with some of his relatives).

    • @AlluminaOnyxia
      @AlluminaOnyxia Месяц назад +3

      ​@@GazilionPT I disagree. Our ability to make sounds has a strong phenotypical influence. From my experience, I believe that mixing has been a major influence in the way some languages (accents) have changed over time without the actual language changing. Teeth, tongue lips and even cheeks differences can change the way our words sound, significantly. Not everyone can yodel. In speaking Spanish some people roll R's in the back of their throats, while others use the front tongue or something else I can't fathom. We can mimic sounds that our voice boxes were not made for but they still perform differently when we use them.

    • @GenericUsername1388
      @GenericUsername1388 Месяц назад +1

      It's funny because she's mostly Slavic, Germanic and Celtic (Standard white American results). Says a lot how ethnic admixture doesn't have much to do with cultural upbringing

    • @kudjoeadkins-battle2502
      @kudjoeadkins-battle2502 Месяц назад +1

      @@AlluminaOnyxia that is not true. There is no such differences in human phenotypes that would affect the "accent" of a person. Most people who live in a country where yodeling is popular can "yodel".

    • @_oaktree_
      @_oaktree_ Месяц назад

      @@AlluminaOnyxia I'm sorry, but this is nonsense. (Actually I'm not at all sorry, just trying to be polite.) If what you said had any merit, no one would ever be able to develop a good accent when learning a foreign language as their second language, and no one who was born to (for example) ethnically Cameroonian parents but born and raised in France could speak French without an accent. A person's ability to speak with or without a particular accent is about nurture, not nature.

  • @o.o4566
    @o.o4566 Месяц назад +4

    I'm from the US gulf coast and one side is Native American. They used to claim Italian and give their kids Italian names to avoid residential schools and discrimination. My nearly 100% mvscoke grandmother was named Grazia and told she was Italian by her mother until she was an adult.

  • @honeyjazz4147
    @honeyjazz4147 Месяц назад +28

    She didn't know she had African ancestry I can see it in her features.

    • @-_YouMayFind_-
      @-_YouMayFind_- Месяц назад +2

      I can't really because these are not really African features XD haha there are people here that have the exact same face but no African at all.

    • @DavidWicksiam
      @DavidWicksiam Месяц назад +2

      Yep,it was apparent to me as well.

    • @kudjoeadkins-battle2502
      @kudjoeadkins-battle2502 Месяц назад +2

      @@-_YouMayFind_- from our perspective it's obvious that she has some African ancestry. Her saying she didn't have any African ancestry would illicit laughter from us. Perhaps we have different perspective than you do.

    • @lolalove39573
      @lolalove39573 Месяц назад

      I was going to say the same thing. You can see it in her eyes that she has African ancestry,

  • @pamelawolf313
    @pamelawolf313 Месяц назад +2

    My husband took the ancestry test and we found out two of his children from his first wife aren’t his. It’s been emotionally hard to handle. But they are adults and he is the only dad they’ve known. Still emotionally stressful to learn.

  • @wisper2me
    @wisper2me Месяц назад +5

    My fraternal twin is a ginger, her dna results were very different from mine, but between the two of us you can see the full picture of our known family heritage. That being said though the dna did bring a mystery and new family members. I wish my mom were still with us because I know she would adore the brother she never knew but at the same time I am glad that she didnt have to learn that the man she believed to be her father was not. People tell me that dna harms families, to which I respond that it is lies that destroy families not the dna results.

  • @DGKED-td7mf
    @DGKED-td7mf Месяц назад +5

    Oh it;'s real I found lost family and I was raised in foster care. When my son put in his results it came up new match this person is my son

  • @theotherkangaroo
    @theotherkangaroo Месяц назад +1

    Oh, my -- I cried when she did 😢 Her Dad is still her Dad.

  • @evelynmahoney3569
    @evelynmahoney3569 Месяц назад +1

    She wants to know about her bio dad, his name for starters. Does she have his smile, his laugh?
    My heart breaks for you. I know those tears only too well. A gazillion of us have gone through this. Join the crowd, my friend. Welcome aboard. Hope it's helpful and that many who share your circumstance will reach out.

  • @sheswede
    @sheswede Месяц назад +3

    I did my dna just after it was announced by ancestry. There were many of the usual suspects as matches. I had my genealogical map all going back by documentation into the tens of generations back. But there were names that matched that I wasn’t familiar with. Long story short: I discovered an “NPE” or “Not Person Expected” as my Grandfather! My mom’s dad was not her biological dad. Well, well, well! I did more research and did find the probable great grandparents and definite second greats (all through DNA matches and percentages). My suspicion is the grandfather was the result of either rape or born out of wedlock situation, who was then adopted out. He probably never even knew his own parents. And my grandmother had passed away a year before so I couldn’t ask her. Well, we all have stories!

  • @sachielangel
    @sachielangel Месяц назад +1

    My dad is and adoptee. We knew who his biological mother was. But the father was a mystery. There where 3 options a) Her first husband b) her second husband c)unknown person. DNA tests done and it was an unknown male person. We found out his name. There is a lot of back story information to give it context. In short it was sad and dramatic. But through the dna test we found half siblings, and cousins who never knew about my dad his existance. But which each passing of time and more information come to light. It is good that my dad was given up for adoption out of love of his biological mother to protect him for bad influences, no acceptance of male adult figures and physical abuse and mental abuse. She protected my dad for all of that. The unknown father was not aware he fathered my father. It was a fling a one night stand even maybe in sad circumstances for my dad his biological mother.

  • @mollyt6835
    @mollyt6835 3 дня назад

    I didn’t know that you were the only redhead in your family. So am I! My 23andme test says that I have a 6% chance of having red hair. But I’m 39, and my hair is still as red as it ever was.
    There were occasional comments about why I had the red hair, but no one else did.
    I was a little nervous getting my dna test because there was always some speculation in my mind that my dad wasn’t my father. He is my father 😅
    My husband is a redhead, and our son has red hair too.

  • @IronicleseAndSardoniclese
    @IronicleseAndSardoniclese Месяц назад +12

    My DNA told me exactly what I expected. I’m probably in the minority, WISHING I could’ve found out what she did.😂

    • @rachelann9362
      @rachelann9362 Месяц назад +2

      Seriously! We were kind of bummed when I got my results. Our grandfather was uh, let’s just say he hid a family from everyone. Divorced, but still, no one knew he had three kids. I matched perfectly with my aunt, to the half-aunts/uncles/cousins. My dad was a cheater. We had some thoughts that he may have other children, or that grandpa had more. Nope, no surprises. Well yet at least.
      Ethnicities came up exactly as expected. Zero unexpected there.

    • @jeromemckenna7102
      @jeromemckenna7102 Месяц назад +3

      My DNA test brought no major surprises. We did discover that my twin brother was an identical nor a fraternal twin (which is what my mother thought). The biggest surprise is that my Polish speaking family had Lithuanian and very little Polish ancestry. My grandmother's maiden name was Lithuanian.

    • @zigm7420
      @zigm7420 Месяц назад

      You’re not alone. I was SO disappointed to find out that my first cousins on both sides showed up as my first cousins. Parents confirmed. 😢

    • @throckwoddle
      @throckwoddle Месяц назад

      @@jeromemckenna7102 Polish-Lithuanian commonwealth for the win!

    • @throckwoddle
      @throckwoddle Месяц назад +1

      Don't fret everyone, somewhere, way back in those family trees, I guarantee you that someone cheated on someone else. The blood parent and the presumed parent just had the same ethnicity, so it doesn't show up on your ethnicity percents.

  • @TheLauren1113
    @TheLauren1113 Месяц назад +1

    I feel her pain. I found out I was donor conceived and 50% African American via Ancestry after being told my entire life I was 100% Ashkenazi Jewish. It was earth shattering.

    • @Kerrsartisticgifts
      @Kerrsartisticgifts Месяц назад

      50% African genetics, don't you have any resemblance to black people at all?

  • @crockodile85
    @crockodile85 Месяц назад

    My dad was adopted but there are a lot of connections between his adoptive father’s family and both of his biological parents. Apparently all three families all arrived during the colonial period and migrating along the Southern States around the same time.

  • @cynhanrahan4012
    @cynhanrahan4012 Месяц назад +1

    My taking GCI genetics and My Heritage, it gave me some surprises. My dad said he was black Irish, and so am I - we tan we don't freckle, we have dark brown hair and green eyes. DNA says I'm about half Irish/Scot/Brit, and about half Norwegian. My grandfather was Norwegian, and the southern Ireland has a lot of Viking/Norwegian immigration. And then there is a small amount of Iberian, and then surprise, south Asian and East asian way back when England, Portugal and Spain were out colonizing. And then South American and Carib shows up. No wonder I tan. I plan to take Ancestry and 23 and Me, and then compare them all.

  • @julilla1
    @julilla1 Месяц назад +5

    This actually sounds like it came out ok. The man who raised her always wondered, but loved her anyway and raised her as his own. Her mother spoke up and then (I assume) connected her with her biological father who seemed genuinely happy to hear from her. It's a good ending!

  • @carolynwalls6787
    @carolynwalls6787 Месяц назад +2

    Did DNA tests on both of my parents (and myself). We found out that THEY had a common ancestor several generations back. They are both from families that settled in the same county of West Virginia way back when there was no West Virginia, so not a huge surprise really given the limited population pool back in the day. But my dad just flat out refused to believe they are "related". Even if it was at their 3 or 4 greats grandparent level.
    The only other surprise was finding out my mom was 2% sub Saharan African (and I am 1%). Made me wish my uncle who was a huge racist was still alive just so I could ruin his day with the fact that someone in his ancestry had crossed the "color line" back in the day. That is my best guess anyway for how that got into the mix. It does make the idea of doing a genealogy appealing just to find out i am correct about that.

    • @kimmcfadden4679
      @kimmcfadden4679 Месяц назад +1

      There are a lot of people in America with DNA results similar to yours and they will never know about it because of secrets were held very tight to the chest especially in the south. My mom told me about a lot of taboo intermingling in the community especially with business owners from outside of the community when I was growing up. Then I reflected on my community of what I saw and didn't understand when I was little and I was like oh I can believe it... In fact there were a lot of white guys in my college that had afro like hair and that blonde and sandy. It gave me pause & wonder 🤔 if only briefly because... it's like what was I going to do with that information. It was a long ago when I was much younger. I'm black and some white people were afraid to become friends or even socialize with each other publicly. The college I went to in Tennessee was segregated a decade or two before I became a student.

    • @kimmcfadden4679
      @kimmcfadden4679 Месяц назад

      😂😂😂

  • @Chaotic_Pixie
    @Chaotic_Pixie Месяц назад

    I think this is one of the best videos you’ve reacted to. I know it didn’t show much in terms of relative matches or anything like that… but it showed a heartbreaking reality that happens more than people want to think it does. I’m glad the second little clip was included because it felt really good to see her having come to terms with it and that she looked happy. And major shout out to her Dad with a capital D. Any sperm donor can be a biological father, but it takes a real Dad to say, screw biology… I love you and I love your children and you’ll be mine forever in my heart. I would however like to have some words with her mother. She very clearly knew but never said anything and that just feels so wrong. She wronged her Dad, her bio father, and her with one big secret.

  • @garyedwardgray7549
    @garyedwardgray7549 Месяц назад

    The second video is so important. It shows the importance of knowing the truth.
    I had an issue like this… not for myself but for a cousin who I’m helping. I was warned by a mutual cousin not to even tell her the truth. I told her anyway, because she wanted to hear the answers to her questions. Now I’m trying to help her discover her paternal lineage. We know her father. That’s not a surprise. But her paternal grandfather is not who she expected. I’ve managed to narrow it down to a family. So far, though, I’ve not identified the precise individual. Still working on it.
    The truth is always best… even if the shock and surprise is negative initially.
    It’s also very helpful from a long-term genealogical record as well. For example, there are descendants living today of a Warren family who aren’t Warrens at all. They are in my family line. My last name is Gray. They are Grays. It was long suspected in family history due to some “relations”, but it was never proven. And, so, through the many generations, they were just Warrens. But genetically, they’re not. And it’s a Gray family with a lot of cool history. Robert Gray was the first American to sail around the world. Samuel Gray was the first person shot or killed at the Boston Massacre (I forget which… shot or killed… Crispus Attucks is always known for this, but one of the two was shot first, but survived a day; the other died first, as they died instantly). Edward Gray was a prominent businessman and currently has the oldest original headstone at Burial Hill in Plymouth. Most of these lines, due to their duration in Massachusetts, also have tons of connections to the Mayflower. It’s a tremendously interesting family line. And were it not for DNA, there may be thousands of “Warrens” living today who would have no way of knowing that they’re actually “Grays” (well, I suspect the vast majority still DON’T know that… but if they investigate their family roots, they’ll now finally be able to find the truth of their family).
    There can be some initial shock and sadness from some of these discoveries, but I believe that ultimately, it is almost always for the better. It’s always good to know the truth. Even if it hurts.

  • @Catsface99
    @Catsface99 Месяц назад +1

    My grandsons are 1/2 Puerto Rican, 1/4 British (Me) 1/4 Mexican (Bio grandfather). They got all that in their dna. Puerto Rican has west African and Iberian (Spain + Portuguese)

  • @stefaninafla
    @stefaninafla Месяц назад

    My results were exactly what I expected people-wise. The ethnicities were different, but not by much. I have found a lot of distant relatives on my dad's side of the family, but that was what we expected.

  • @vm1776
    @vm1776 Месяц назад

    I'd like to see more on this one. When I tested, I got 4 community groups of Pennsylvania and was like, "of course". I had hoped testing would allow me to go back further than 4 generations into my Italian ancestry but it hasn't brought me further back on the tree. Reconnecting with cousins is nice though, and maybe more will eventually test.

  • @user-wn8mg2jh1d
    @user-wn8mg2jh1d Месяц назад +1

    I found out I was more from my Dada side whereas my younger brother was more from my Moms side. I had German and French and Irish .Whereas my brother had no Irish and his German and French were way lower, where his PUERTO RICAN was higher mine was lower . I was a very high percentage Native American whereas my brother had a very low percentage our Spain and Portugal percentage were very close, and Yes we both came back as brothers. He came back a higher percentage of Black than me which is funny because I am the darkest kid in my family. he came back 3 percent and I came back 1 percent..

  • @CreoleLadisBluesLounge-kg8wu
    @CreoleLadisBluesLounge-kg8wu Месяц назад +1

    I saw this. It did prove her dad is someone else.

  • @user-ee8xz5bd7d
    @user-ee8xz5bd7d Месяц назад +1

    so I had a feeling that I had some Italian in me despite being Mexican but hey 26.6% pretty much means it’s partial Italian Italian ancestry

  • @roxyie1122
    @roxyie1122 Месяц назад

    Go through DNA matches, filter out your mama in the line, and the rest is your dad. Find cousins that are not related to your mom, and those are your cousins on your biological father's side.
    Go carefully, and use both DNA and genealogy tree to get documents to prove lineage...do as much as you can before contacting paternal cousins - you want to be sure.
    And also, before contacting anyone on your paternal side, please talk with your parents, and make sure it's what you want.
    If you are, indeed, of a different paternal line, you always have the first choice of continuing as you are, or changing your life. You choose - be wise, be safe, be happy!

  • @grahamchan6327
    @grahamchan6327 Месяц назад

    Better take seriously the commandment that says ,,
    " Thou shalt not commit adultery "....

  • @DominicanStud101
    @DominicanStud101 Месяц назад

    Last summer I found out that my maternal grandfather is NOT my mother’s father. I still haven’t told her (she might or might not know already and just never told me).

  • @cefcat5733
    @cefcat5733 Месяц назад +1

    Lovely young woman.

  • @Dr_MKUltra
    @Dr_MKUltra Месяц назад

    This is a modern phenomenon 😂 in ancient times it was accepted and tolerated

  • @mattpotter8725
    @mattpotter8725 Месяц назад +3

    Videos like this really annoy me. The reason you take the DNA test is to find out what you don't know so unless you don't know all your grandparents and where they came from it really doesn't seem to me that this is that unexpected, except for the no Southern Italy in her readings which I would have expected to see, even if in a worst case scenario it is much lower.
    The last part of this video disturbs me. Her dad is still her dad, he brought her up as one of his own, even if he knew (and he probably didn't) that she wasn't his daughter. I get that it is a shock for her but to blame her dad I find very harsh. Maybe she could blame her mum but even then if she wasn't sure who the father was then I'm not sure what telling her would have given her.

    • @mattpotter8725
      @mattpotter8725 Месяц назад

      Ok, just read back what I wrote and want to just make the point, as it didn't seem very clear, that my disappointment was that she goes through the list, like many other people with DNA ethnicity estimate videos do, and says things like where do these come from, I was lied to by my parents, or this can't possibly be true.
      I do feel for her and can completely understand her wanting to find and get to know the background of her biological father, I would too (my previous comment was written part way through the video), but I still don't see the person who brought her up as not being her "father" even if he's not her biological father. From what she said in the video it sounds as though they don't have a great relationship but I don't think suspecting what she found out was true actually being true is anything to hold against either of her parents.

  • @cefcat5733
    @cefcat5733 Месяц назад

    We 4 Siblings are all a different physical type. It never bothered us. We do see the similarities, to both Parents though. Dad did his DNA late in life, but it's in his computer and he passed away, at almost 100, this year. Does anyone know the password? This is typical, of Dad. Very funny. I can hear him laughing now. ❤

  • @Ponto-zv9vf
    @Ponto-zv9vf Месяц назад

    I am sure the father knew just based on her looks, she does look Hispanic, and some half Italian, half Northern European American would not look in anyway Hispanic. He just did the right thing and was her Dad.
    I have never been attached to my parents, so I don't get the angst. I didn't doubt my parentage, I just didn't care. I was born in a small island in the Mediterranean and Ancestry says I am 100% of that ethnicity.

  • @AndrewRoberts11
    @AndrewRoberts11 Месяц назад +1

    For a giggle, you should really redo your own video on how MyHeritage, Ancestry, FTDNA, LivingDNA, 23AndMe, ... have called your heritage, as they've all been tweaking their reference populations.

  • @alainaaugust1932
    @alainaaugust1932 Месяц назад +3

    Is it possible to definitively trace ancestry back to Charlemagne, 1200 years? What is your opinion of sites and sources that claim to trace back to him and to Alfred the great and to the Crusaders and so on. Do sites and sources that trace back so far ever have a finding: You are related to a nobody peasant from 1200 years ago? This is a serious inquiry. I’ve just learned I have a relative who may somehow be paying money for such info. and I’d like to know what to say to them if they are. Thanks.

    • @Nikke283
      @Nikke283 Месяц назад +1

      If you are of European descent, the chance is relatively high that you have some ancestor related to Charlemagne anyway.^^ But it wouldn't most likely not show in a DNA test. It's so far back...

    • @throckwoddle
      @throckwoddle Месяц назад +1

      I have no opinion on any sites tracing this. I have never gone down this road.
      If a genealogist can trace records back to an important noble or royal then you can probably find some line that will paper trace back that far. The issue is that you have no idea if a non-paternity, non-maternity, or even straight up bad record event happened.
      You won't find any records of family trees for peasants going back that far. Peasants had more important things to do, and typically wouldn't be literate or be able to afford parchment and ink even if they were. You may, may find a peasant who married into or was elevated to the nobility, but that would be extraordinarily rare, I'd think, and they certainly wouldn't be a "nobody".

    • @tinplategeektoo
      @tinplategeektoo Месяц назад +2

      "Is it possible to definitively trace ancestry back to Charlemagne," - the answer is No. The vast majority of people have zero records to definitely link them to even their own parents especially pre Civil registration of birth, deaths and marriages. Why? Because the vast majority of people were insignificant to the ruling classes so records are sparse or even non existent today. And even the ruling elite would fix their own written ancestry to prove their claims to be born rulers. Some of the biggest crimes against genealogy have been perpetrated by the ruling classes and the guilds who "researched" their ancestry. So no, it is not possible to have a truthful genealogical tree going back that far.

    • @zawarudozahandozadusto9626
      @zawarudozahandozadusto9626 Месяц назад

      ​@@tinplategeektooIt's definitely could be possible, but your probably right about a lot of people.

  • @fawnjenkins7266
    @fawnjenkins7266 Месяц назад

    I am glad things went well for her❤ She now has two dads, twice the love! How far back does DNA pick things up? The paper trail shows that my 5th great grandmother was a slave in the late 1700's early 1800's (She died before the Civil War.) What percentage would show up in my DNA?

    • @TheLauren1113
      @TheLauren1113 Месяц назад

      Not necessarily. A lot of NPEs face rejection and hurt from their families.

  • @territhompson8103
    @territhompson8103 Месяц назад +1

    I really hate this crap about dna. The person that does the job IS THE FATHER. I was adopted at birth, my mom and dad ARE Helene and Al. My birth mother is the bravest person i know though I didn’t get to meet her. I have, because of 23&, found my full siblings. I found out my sperm donor was a real bastard married to my birth mother. She did the brave thing of giving me the chance to be in a home with two loving parents instead of struggling raising 3 children with a dead beat absent sperm maker. DNA doesn’t make you anything.

  • @culturalobserver8721
    @culturalobserver8721 Месяц назад

    Wow, I could tell right away that this young woman was very Hispanic looking. For all the European she has, (Irish, eastern European, German, etc.) she looks mostly Puerto Rican, if not all! I don’t remember the percentage of her Hispanic versus her European numbers, but I assume the Puerto Rican had a pretty large percentage. What a way to find out the man who raised you is not your bio dad. 😮

  • @dianeporrier9218
    @dianeporrier9218 Месяц назад

    This video is done way before 2018 because it’s been updated since 2012 area.

  • @O-Demi
    @O-Demi Месяц назад

    I did a DNA test to find possible matches to maybe learn who my grandfather's father on my dad's side was. We have 0 information about him. Even the family name we have isn't his, but the maiden surname of my grandfather's mother. And the matches look like that person never existed. I have matches who are my 3rd, 4th, 5th cousins, etc., and nothing. Just my mom's relatives (who effing populated the whole country, it seems), and grandma's relatives on my dad's side. Mystery man remains a mystery. Is it possible that he was the only son of the family that is no longer there? I don't even know where to go from here.

    • @tinplategeektoo
      @tinplategeektoo Месяц назад

      You really need luck to find a missing person. In real terms, very few people have done a DNA test on a genealogy website. Yes, Ancestry say 18m test done but most of the these tests have a limited geographical hit (lots of Americans but what if your ancestors aren't link to North America). So you need people to have tested and there are 8 billion people worldwide so even Ancestry is a drop in the ocean. Your results are out there now and maybe in future some one from the missing line will test (assuming the line hasn't died out). Ancestry/My Heritage's make it sound so easy but they gloss over the truth in their advertisements. You need to do the paper research as far out as possible and then match your DNA match results to that tree. Then look at what is left and try to research them and hope that you can find how you link to them. Good luck.

  • @zargonfuture4046
    @zargonfuture4046 Месяц назад

    There's always wood in the woodpile💁🏿‍♂️🍽️😏

  • @gentianvandewerken929
    @gentianvandewerken929 Месяц назад

    sounds like he isn't her dad!lol

  • @Lily_of_the_Forest
    @Lily_of_the_Forest Месяц назад

    I’m so sorry

  • @TheBigdaddy64
    @TheBigdaddy64 Месяц назад

    Opps, someone has some explaining to do. Look at your connections. They might lead to your biological father's family.

  • @yp2324
    @yp2324 Месяц назад +3

    The moment I saw her I thought she’d be Puerto Rican. Her dad must be in denial about his real heritage with saying he’s Italian. I have family members like this, who deny we’re from a tribe but they’re brown haha. My results had no surprises, I got 31% Native American (Sonora and Sinaloa) , 67% European (mainly French, Scots/English, Spanish in that order), 1% subsaharan African, and 1% Jewish. This made sense considering I have one grandparent from a tribe (actually part of the tribe, spoke the language) one mestizo grandparent (Mexican, of Spanish and indigenous ancestry but not part of a tribe), one French Canadian grandparent, and one grandparent who was presumably English based off our Anglo last name (the Scottish was a little surprise). No big surprises fortunately or unfortunately 😂

    • @yp2324
      @yp2324 Месяц назад +5

      Omg I commented before finishing the entirety of the video. I did not see that twist coming, I thought this was another case of Latinos being in denial about their African and Indigenous heritage 😭

    • @GenericUsername1388
      @GenericUsername1388 Месяц назад +2

      I always find it interesting when Hispanics, especially Mexicans have high northern European results with relatively low results for Spain/Portugal. Are you from the North of Mexico by any chance?

    • @yp2324
      @yp2324 Месяц назад

      I have one parent born in Sonora, MX and one parent is white American from the New England area. My results probably wouldn’t be a great example of northern Mexican dna on that account but I definitely agree northern Mexicans tend to have more European and more Northern European results too like the French, German, Irish etc.

  • @Njoofene
    @Njoofene Месяц назад +5

    So, her mom was giving it away to the neighbourhood! The truth always has a way of rising to the top.

    • @katgill7310
      @katgill7310 Месяц назад

      Because "Dad" didn't treat her right, or he didn't satisfy her "properly" that's the "truth" misogynistic rectal orifices always leave out! If he had. she never would have strayed!!!

  • @VILMERTHERAWEGGDRINKER
    @VILMERTHERAWEGGDRINKER Месяц назад

    I got a MyHeritage dna test im allegedly 25% swedish 75% finnish and I got 86.2% Finnish 9.6% Scandinavian 4.2% Celtic can you see X and Y haplogroups with MyHeritage?

    • @AndrewRoberts11
      @AndrewRoberts11 Месяц назад

      The MyHeritage / FTDNA autosomal chip array largely ignores the X/Y Chromosomes, so there's very little resolution, and they don't report what they've polled, you have to dig into the raw data. FTDNA does sell Haplogroup tests / reports separately. Ancestry polls a few more SNP, but again doesn't report what it's found. 23AndMe and LivingDNA poll more X/Y SNP's, though still not that many, BUT they report what they've found.

    • @JoaoVentura
      @JoaoVentura Месяц назад

      @@AndrewRoberts11 That being said, the Y-DNA reported at 23andMe is so generic, that it doesn't provide much help within genealogical timeframes. It can serve to disprove people not being related in the patriarchical lines, but it's too high-level to be useful in proving closer relationships.

  • @rachelann9362
    @rachelann9362 Месяц назад +1

    For all she knows, it could have been the result of an SA or another very inappropriate relationship. While I do think her mom should have said something to her sooner, her mother may have been protecting her.

    • @willmitchell2553
      @willmitchell2553 Месяц назад +1

      There is a lot to consider. 1. How old was mom. 2. Was it consensual 3. Was it a one nite stand. Mom if honest can help her understand. O and #4 did the guy belong to someone else. ???????

  • @Matty06001
    @Matty06001 Месяц назад

    Eep, people think it’s not real? In 2024, really?

  • @marioluquin6380
    @marioluquin6380 Месяц назад

    Yes, you are Puerto Rican, your dad is not your dad. Just kidding.

  • @jaewise6198
    @jaewise6198 Месяц назад

    This is why Im afraid of doing it 😂 Ima still do it