Welcome To The AroAce Community Jaiden Animations
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- Опубликовано: 6 окт 2024
- Today I’m going to be reacting to a coming out by jaiden animation. I’ve had a couple people tell me I should react to this because she coming out as aroace and that’s kinda what I talk a lot about on this channel. First off I’d like to say congratulations on coming out jaiden and welcome to the community. I love seeing more aroace rep and content creators so that being said let’s get into it!
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"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE?!"
New favourite quote
Honestly I’m gonna start using it 😅
@@lynnsaga1397 lol
@@anvithequarsonist huh, is that what it's called? I'd wondered
@@anvithequarsonist I use the label aro ace, but I think I might relate more to cupioromantic, so while I'm gonna keep going with the lables aroace, it's cool to see someone else who feels the same (:
@@l0stb01 honesy same, haha, but also she/they, here
"In the nicest way possible... NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS" And if people respected this line 99% of prejudice in the world would be GONE and we wouldn't even need a LGBT movement
Honestly!
Right, as if most of them don't like to put it up on some banner as high as possible to let as many people as possible know about it lol
@@tubblestop414 They literally are...
It's illegal to be gay in several countries, you can't get married if you're gay in many places, and even in countries/states where all of those things are perfectly legal there are still TONS of instances of people being harrassed, bullied or even killed based solely on their sexuality.
Honestly, do you live under a rock?
@@tubblestop414 Look! It’s a *idiot✨*
@@ATMEIDAREYAIDOUBLEDAREYA Irony is strong in this one boys.
I literally had to explain my therapist that there is a difference between romanitc and sexual atrraction. I'm panro ace so when I told her I was asexual, but mentioned my girlfriend in the next sentence or so, she was really confused. So I explained that while I am sex negative, I am very capable of feeling romantic attraction.
Like, people have one night stands. All the sexual attraction, non of the romantic one. So why can't there be the opposite? All the romantic attraction, and non of the sexual one. I think she understood, so I'm calling that a win!!
That’s such a good way of explaining it too! I’ve tried explaining it to people like that too and they still get confused lol
How did a therapist not know that
@@Cowboy-Bi-bop I was gonna ask that too lol but maybe they live in countries like mine where it's not so much woke about these stuff
I'm not that old, but I also finished my primary education as a psychologist more than 15 years ago... we didn't even use the term LGTBIQ+ back then. I work in education and that's helped me to stay very updated about a lot, but unless your therapist is specialized in sexuality he/she may be out of touch with these things
@@Cowboy-Bi-bop because we are not an experts in everything. Just like a cardiologist forgets a lot about skin care, if a therapist works mainly in things like depression etc, he/she may be 15 or more years removed from the field of sexuality. I graduated as psychologist in 2007 and the term LGTBIQ+ wasn't even used back then.
As a member of the ace community and the aro spectrum, I could not be prouder of Jaiden!!! I think that an announcement from a content creator as popular as her is sooo important for the ace and aro communities, because it spreads awareness about us to her audience. So happy for you, Jaiden!!!!
It's definitely going to bring much more awareness to the communities!
Helloooo fellow arospec ace person !!
@@enbiaroace Hi there! :D
Repent of your sins and believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, believe in your heart that He has died for sins and rose from the tomb on the third day and let the Holy Spirit within you, and you shall be saved.
@@Lunar_Shadow Repent of your sins and believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, believe in your heart that He has died for sins and rose from the tomb on the third day and let the Holy Spirit within you, and you shall be saved.
Ace here! When seeing people drooling over a fairly good looking person makes me think a little.
Do they *really* just wanna hop between the sheets with them??? When you could just *COOK SOME GOOD DAMN FOOD WITH THEM and then play videogames afterwards*
Honestly lol
I don't know if im ace or not, but i really just don't care, like, if you pretty i will be just: "oh, you're pretty, that's cool" and move on, but then people feel atracted to pretty people and this really confuses me
@@Pyr0Mania2 i understand that. Hopefully you figure things out ^^
I'm an Aro but full on allosexual. And yes, I see people and think "dang I wanna get in their pants" but also if they are cool I'm like "daaaang, I wanna be best friends with them, and also get in them pants". One thing that always caused me trouble as an aro allosexual is, that most of people expect 'the sex' (even the previous and the post parts) to be this romantically bonding thing. And I'm just like: 'oh well, deed's done, lets get some cooking, or playing videogames now'. I'd literally been screamed at cuz I didnt wanna stay in bed cuddling after the thing and just wanted to go back playing videogames.
@@cabri358 ohhh that's actually interesting pov. 0w0 it sucks that you get screamed at though :/ but I would definitely see myself in that exact situation if i had a companion and would warm up to the thing. But meh. XD
I'm ace/panro and when I discovered it and came out at 30, I started talking to my aunt who was a little over 60 at the time. She had never heard of it before I told her, but after my explanation was like, wow yeah, I'm pretty sure I am too.
That was super heartbreaking to me. She had lived through a really hard first marriage most of her life, and had gotten divorced in her 50s and only recently gotten remarried. I think her second marriage is less sexual, but the first marriage was bad and very socially forced on her, and I just think of myself in that situation and her in my situation, if she had had the opportunity to discover who she was, what kind of life she might have had. IDK. Spreading the word about it is so important to me, because the social pressure to be in a relationship - romantic and sexual - is SO pervasive that you can end up with an entire life that you would have never lived if you had another option.
I’m so sorry that happened to your aunt I hope her second marriage is better than her first. And yeah it’s ridiculous how much pressure people are put under to be in a relationship. Like Jaiden said in the video there’s a certain age and after that if you don’t care or want to be in a relationship people think it’s sad. Idk I just hope talking about it more will bring the awareness that it needs and I’m so grateful to Jaiden for making that video because I really think it’ll be a lot of peoples first time hearing the word asexual.
@@lynnsaga1397 I think it has been. Her husband now is really chill and fun.
And yeah I thought Jaiden's vid was great when watching it. A lot of the aphobic response has sucked, but at least she's got a full throated defense from the community now.
Im sorry that had to happen.
Also, welcome to the ace panro community!!
Congrats to Jaiden Animations for figures out who she was. I literally screamed at my friends in excitement. when I saw this video pop up on my sub feed. 3 of them (including me) are on the aroace spectrum
Awwwww I love that! I’m so happy that someone as big as she is was able to talk about the community and bring such a positivity to it I’m so happy for her☺️
Same here! 😄
Me too
Yeah same
Same! :D
So I've known for a while that I was gay. My parents always made it abundantly clear that any sexuality is perfectly fine and no big deal whatsoever. So I never really had a coming out moment. I just eventually found what I was attracted to, put the pieces together, and just moved on. In day to day life, I don't just tell people unprompted, but if I'm asked, I never hide it. (Side note, as awesome as celebrating LGBTQ+ people is, I hope we some day get to the point where celebrating is a thing of the past because it just becomes a normal thing that's really no big deal, just like being straight is) But this video made me realize that I might also be on some kind of aromantic spectrum. I don't know for sure because I've never been in a relationship. But I just tend to find romantic tendencies to be kinda cringy and don't really develop crushes. I'd love to have a husband one day, but I think the relationship I'd want would in practice be something like a friends with benefits system. Like we're really good friends who hang out and have fun and love being close to each other, plus the intimate stuff and being married. I always lumped gay with both intimate and romantic attraction and only just now pieced together that being gay might not necessarily mean I wanna be romantically involved about anything. I dunno, just trying to figure out if I count as both aromantic and gay or just gay. Or something else, who knows.
That really sounds like you're arromantic, maybe you should check if you would be interested in a queer platonic relationship with sexual intimacy but not romantic intimacy. I wish you good luck in your self discovery ❤
What about grey or demi romantic?
@@cuentabasura1422 Would you mind explaining what that means?
@@Vohasiiv Demiromantic... Probably. I could see that being a possibility. What would grey mean?
@@matthewscorner2990 A queer platonic relationship (or qpr) is the... Lets say, the asexual/arromantic version of a typical romantic couple. You'll be with that person as long as you want, you may live together and even marry, but your bond is platonic, so you're not in love with your partner, you're life partners, in your own norms. Like best friends living together and having sex if both of you want to! Sorry if I didn't explained very well, I'm spanish so I struggle a bit, but feel free to ask more if you need to
YES. I was squealing so much when I was watching her video. it was funny to go and watch her "dating things I shouldn't" video and realize how obvious it was when her choice partner was just a space ship.
I need to watch her flirting video lol
Honestly, it feels like there's so little Aro/Ace people out there, when it's probably just that they're isolated from the community as said.
Fucking BS, you guys are lucky, i wish i didn't have to worry any of this. 😂 All the love ❤️✨
If it would be any help, go onto r/aaaaacccceeeee, it's such a fun community
It basically means all the corporations trying to exploit your animalistic emotions, have no effect on you.
Being alone is SO depressing.
Ok ok ok BUT... YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW BLOODY HAPPY I WAS WHEN I SAW JAIDEN COME OUT 🥺🖤◻️💜🖤◻️💚!!!
I was so surprised but happy at the same time
It’s amazing I love coming out stories in general but she’s doing so much for the community as well
18:40 I have that difficulty with Pride because, as an aroace, it's a little too... sexualized
Pride is cool, specifically to introduce others to their sexual orientation, romantic orientation or gender but... yeah, it's hard to involve everyone when we don't have the same answer to the same question
I went to Pride to the closed city by me one year and that was enough for me. It was overly sexualized and waaaay too crowded but I still think the community as a whole needs to do work in including aro and ace folks because we’re here too
Yeah, I agree
It's too sexualized. Yes it is about sexuality but it doesn't have to be. It can be romantic love to whomever you want. When gay marriage was legalized, a lot of elderly ppl got married to their same sex partners. They most likely no longer be sexual due to age, but there will ways be romantic feelings for their partner.
Romantic feelings are strong and lasts longer than sexual feelings.
You'd figure that if there was anyone who could just be okay with the fact that someone wasn't hetero it would be someone in the LGBT+ community. The fact that Aros and Aces are more or less excluded from the club breaks my heart. It's sad to know that ignorance and prejudices exist even in places where it really shouldn't. More power to you guys
I went to a super cute little pride celebration near me (my first pride event ever) and it was so lovely. My ace friend had a ton of fun. We got hotdogs and there was a little stage where they had a speaker you could play toons on. Then just a whole bunch of resources and stuff. They had stickers for everything from ace, genderfluid, bi, etc even a little station set up to build your own pin so you could make whatever flag you wanted out of the 50 or so bead colors they had.🥰
So I made myself a little abro pin
@@Meh_Lone_Bah
Asexual allromantic people are valid too. I think what we really need to do is stop measuring the importance of relationships by the type. My fwb is not a less important relationship to me than my qpp or my romantic partners. Nor are my friends underneath any of them in importance.
My point is when you try to build a hierarchy of relationships beyond what an individual/couple/polycule has decided for themselves you harm some part of the aro/ace comunity.
My sister sent me this video and I’m just happy she could open up about it to her viewers
Same! I had a friend of mine send it to me and I was like I need to do something to welcome her to the community ☺️
@@lynnsaga1397
really appreciate your videos.
Watching your videos help me really decide if I was aroace or not ❤️
Jaiden's video absolutely made my day when it came out! She's so awesome and I'm so happy that she is spreading more awareness for a-spec people
Same! It's one of the best coming out videos I've seen and I think it's cause it's super relatable
I LOVE that she broke down aromanticism so well! So many people go straight to explaining asexuality and lump aromantic in with it. Although, I will say that prior to her video I thought I was alloaro, but I'm starting to think I'm more in line with the asexual spectrum than I thought.
I'd have two pounds for everytime someone came out as aroace after I started to become a fan of theirs, which isn't a lot, but it's nice that it's happened twice, for reference the first pound would be due to Japanese model/actor Satsuki Nakayama talking about being aroace on his blog in 2019, (essentially privately among his fans,) and then publicly coming out as an aro ace trans man in 2021, having finally accepted that he was a man, and the second pound would be from Jaiden whom I've been a fan of for a while now, due to the Pokémon nuzlockes and such, but only recently subscribed to.
It was nice to see Jaiden open up.
It is nice that it's happened twice!
I was so excited when I saw the video and all the comments. Like the amount of awareness it has already brought is insane. It got over 5 million views in like 1 1/2 days
RIGHT! It’s gonna bring a lot more awareness which I love that she can bring it to peoples attention with her platform
no literally, like im so grateful for that, brings a lot of attention to what aroaceis and its just rlly nice to see
Newly discovered asexual 29m after watching jaidens new video. Hope to finally make sense of what was going around me my entire life from this channel and what spectrum I fall under. I feel like im between aro/ace and greysexual.
I'm so happy her video was able to help! Welcome to the community
Greysexual?
@@pikachuspartan1868 a term to describe people who identify as asexual but don't fit into the main types of asexuality. (copied from google)
@@pikachuspartan1868 it could mean they rarely feel the attraction
@@pikachuspartan1868 what they said. I only had one real crush in my life when I was 22, and 7 years later I'm still thinking about this person everyday (non sexual way) and happy in the type of relationship we are in now.
As a aro/ace person i am so happy to see my favorite RUclipsr/animator who is part of the community and i envy her for have the conference to come out to her friends like i haven’t even came out my close friends or favorite family members hopefully i can do as she did and come out and being supported
I often check recent asexual content on youtube so seeing content from larger channels I've never heard of showing up more recently it is very validating.
I was super hyped when i saw Or3o in the comment section under Jaiden's video saying she's also ace! I never knew until today and i love her for that
I discovered i was aro/ace like four months before Jaiden dropped this video and when she said to be aroace too i literally screamed YES!
A lot of these points that people bring up about being aro, ace, or aroace, or anything else resignated with me. Growing up, whenever romance was ever mentioned, it never really clicked with me and never could fathom how that feeling was possible. I never gave much thought about being in a relationship. Those feelings still are prevalent with me to this day. I also feel similarly towards sex, I just don't like the idea of me actually doing it with someone. While I understand that it is a biological phenomenon, it grosses me out. Even when I see two people kissing or if there is a potential dirty scene in a movie, game, or TV show, I feel uncomfortable and instinctively look away and cover my ears, or if I can , I fast forward. I just can't, no thank you!🤮
I don't know if that means I am ace, aro, aroace, or anything else on the spectrum, but it helps me navigate myself a lot better! Thank you Lynn, for sharing these experiences with others and congratulations to Jaiden for coming out! It is people like you who are the heroes a lot of people need!🎉
I was in my 30s before I ever heard about asexuality. I thought there was something medically wrong with me.
I'm glad that you could realize a bit more about yourself and learn you weren't broken in any way like that.
"Asexuality"
Sorry, just thought I would fix that typo.
@@KYLE1654-v7m Oops. Thank you. Stupid spell check.
@@LurkingAstronaut lol
As an aro, I can say:
-THE "WANTING TO BE CLOSE BUT NOT WANTING A RELATIONSHIP" THING
-Thinking romance is a joke (I had a bf once and kept asking if he was exaggerating his feelings)
-Being confused when people say it's real
And then I started relating to the ace things too:
-WHY DOES EVERYONE WANT TO *BLEEP* STRANGERS???
-The idea seems fine at first, but ACTUALLY?...
-I learned how to make out strategically through RUclips videos and thought about the logistics the whole dang time...
...Shucks maybe I'm ace too.
16:15 I had a friend who identified as ace in high school (and now I'm the ace one) and they mentioned how they thought people were overexagerating when they saw someone and were like, "I'd do them," and they'd just hesitantly be like, "oh yeah, me...too." And I'm totally in the same boat. I'm already hesitant about anything sexual but being attracted to a random stranger is so beyond my comprehension
Wait... they were being real??? WHAT i thought they were joking. I genuinely thought people were joking when they just looked at someone attractive and would say something like that. ( ﾟ∀ﾟ) Ive never had any crushes on people and im more confused then ever-
Literally. They are strangers, I don’t get it. I can never imagine someone saying “OMG he is so hot I wanna have sex with them” and I am ace too
on the "bad take" thing: I always feel that if someone told me they are interested in me, I tell them I don't/can't reciprocate because I'm aroace and then they basically tell me something is wrong with me, "why dont you feel those things like everybody else", oh well, then I'm sorry to tell you, even if I wasn't aroace I would not find you attractive.
closed-mindedness is not a good look. neither is being unnecessarily unkind.
I cant imagine how annoying it would be for people to tell you "oh I'm sorry you don't have these feelings." I am not Aro or Ace, but the closest thing I am able to relate to it is my Aphentasia. Basically, I have no "image" in my head. Unless it's a dream, I have literally never been able to do anything I think of. It's always just black. I have an imagination, but it's never visual.
I know it's not the same, but I am focused on the part about not having something most people do. I do not miss not seeing things in my imagination because I never could. If you never had any romantic desires, you cannot miss them. It doesn't make you sad because being sad needs a desire for something. Like now I think I am partially in this grouping. I am not Asexual, but I have literally never found people I do not know attractive. I don't understand how someone can not like someone but date them "because they are hot." How do you stand being with someone you don't like talking to? I also really don't seek out friends or anything, I am fine being alone most of the time.
I have a very low phantasia level, essentially aphantasia (my sign language professor had my class take the test for it and I was like, "oh, that's why I'm struggling with sign language" 😅). It sounds like you might relate to the label "demisexual!"
Yesss! Her video is what caused me to realise that I was aromantic and asexual, as a lot of her experiences and feelings were the exact same as mine, and after some research I knew for sure. I’m glad I found out now as a 15 year old, rather than when I was much older. I’m still jealous of the little 13 year olds who already knew their sexuality though, because before I realised I had been subconsciously forcing myself to have a crush because “well that’s just how it’s meant to happen”
Found out about a week ago (I'm 14) and glad I didn't start forcing a crush on myself (I have been asked two times who I had a crush on and when I replied nobody they asked "are you gay?")
Also yeah this video was just entirely "wait that's literally me"
Jaiden's video made me realize I was aromantic this entire time and I've felt more at peace with this knowledge and why I am the way I am for the first time. So I'm very happy I was able to come to peace with who I am and I feel more empowered because of this. I feel for anyone out there still struggling. It's hard.
Same here.
I was like 50 years old when I realized I was on the ace spectrum.. or that there was an ace spectrum. Awareness is important.
You are right. But sadly there is like for most things that do not fit the norm or at least resemble it, no awareness.
@@Never_again_against_anyone Yeah. When I tried to explain it to my friends, some of the replies I got involved me being a pervert. When I tried to explain it to my father, his response was, "To me, that makes you gay." How hard is it to understand? Clear is not a color!
@@noktelfa Being in my late 20s and living in Germany as a person with tertiary education (in fact I am studying for a second bachelor degree) makes it rather easy for me to be just accepted without constant questioning and other negativeness. My relationship with my mom who is pretty openminded is good, I never pretended anything and single matriarchy has been a thing in my family in earlier generations. Whether it was pure pragmatism or ace ancestors, I don't know. But the result is no pressure whatsoever.
Sounds nice? Sure it could be worse. But that also led me to only realize in my mid 20s that I am on the spectrum and needing another almost 4 years to realize that I am aroace to be exact. Late selfawareness due to lack of information makes lonely and there is a long way to go to change that.
AroAce is definitely a superpower
Honestly it is
Aroace type - Immune to Charm
Not needing a single ounce of romantic and/or sexual attraction or validation is truly badass! Love this video!
OH MY GOSH ME TOO! I also thought it was wanting to be best friends and if they were the opposite gender... marry them. Which ABSOLUTELY was a mistake.
When I was younger I thought you had to marry the first person you were with lol
@@lynnsaga1397 Me too! Too bad I did (briefly).
For ur point on educating kids on this im actually trying to do this at my school! Im one of the oldest in my school and i’ve become the face of LGBTQIA+ pride, i also help ppl learn what all of them r (without delving into specifics and instead watering it down) , aroace is one i love to teach bc i have a friend whos around my age whos aroace and only learnt this bc i was talking and teaching abt aroace and other parts of LGBTQIA+! :]
I was uninformed as to what aroace, was before seeing this, and now I think I am aroace. Thank you for making this video and helping me find myself
Oh my goodness I’m so happy it helped! Welcome to the aro and ace community ☺️
Honestly it still boggles my mind that elementary school kids have crushes and get into relationships. Like, what?! Romance didn't even exist as a concept for me until, like, 7th or 8th grade. Even then I was just like "oh, that exists. I don't really want to do that, but what happens happens, I guess." I didn't even realize that my peers thought differently until 9th grade.
"People in my comments especially... 'in my twenties-'"
Hello, have another commenter who was late to the party. XD
But legit, that moment in Jaiden's video where she talks about how finding the AroAce label made her feel; it still makes me tear up cause I remember that feeling of embracing the PanAce label; that big weight falling off of me....
Also experiencing aesthetic attraction to people makes figuring out if you're Ace.. SO MUCH HARDER! XDD
Congrats to everyone who finds their labels, whatever they may be. Welcome to the community.
Thank you for showing this. I have just discovered im asexual. I also didnt realise some people could look at another on the street and have sexual desires. Made me stop right in my tracks. !! ... love that there is so much awareness and explanation of the full spectrum. You can just relax into who you're supposed to be, knowing its not just you and you're not broken.
Right it was a shock the first time I heard it too. And I’m so happy there’s more awareness to both communities rn
im thankful that jaiden made a video on this. it helped me discover why i was different. i feel like more people should know about the hole LGBTq+ community:)
I really related to Jaiden's video, and what you said about people needing to have this stuff mentioned so they know it's an option. I didn't realize I was demiromantic asexual until my late 20's, but once I discovered the term "demiromantic" I thought "Holy crap, that sums up how I've felt my whole life!" I've only ever had crushes on 2 people who were close to me and much of the rest were fictional characters, because of that whole "only feeling romantic attraction toward people you have a close personal connection to" thing.
I'm glad that more people are learning though. I was basically in the LGBT community without even realizing it.
Back in 2011, I was trying to figure out what the hell I classify as and “queer” literally fits all the things that involve being Ace and Aro. No idea why LGBTQ+ people not accepting Ace/Aro keep conveniently ignoring that, unless they never bothered to look the word up like I did back then. 👀
I went through a lot of that in childhood and into adulthood years. I’ve also experienced similar scenarios both with telling people I’m Ace or a Lesbian “how do you know?” “You haven’t met the right one” “you never know” and the one people usually don’t say but show in their actions 😒 “that’s a challenge, I can fix you.” 🙄 then they get mad when you don’t do what they assigned onto you in their head.
Also anyone who can’t fathom what Ace/Aro is like are weird to me, because it’s not hard. Because we all have that person or that sex/gender, or even a type, that we’re simply NOT attracted to or may even be repulses by… but they’re into us and won’t go away, or people insist on pairing us with them.
Last time I checked many if not most of the LGBT community should know how being expected and pressured to feel attraction to a group that they’re not attracted to, or else, feels like. And how it feels to be ostracized for that 😐 or maybe I just know because I’m older than 20-25. But even then people were seemingly ignorant about it.
Even heterosexuals get forced into badly arranged pairings and crap, or forbidden to date someone for class, appearance or other reasons. It’s something you’d think everyone would understand at least a little on some level. Like the general peer pressure to pair up mentioned.
I had to remind a family member about this when him and a girl were making fun of a girl who wasn’t into sex, from what they were saying she either didn’t like how it felt and/or was repulsed by it. She could’ve been Aro, Ace, had sensory/body issues, sexual trauma, etc., all of those things came to mind as I listened to them talking and it really bothered me that they felt that was somehow an excuse to make fun of her.
So when he asked me something that was inviting me into the convo, I mentioned that regardless of any assumptions/opinions I had, that neither of us would like people putting us down for our “weird sexuality”, we know how bad it feels and really shouldn’t talk down others the same way.
Neither of them seemed to expect that reminder-bomb to drop and the topic ended there 🤣😅
Makes me wonder how many others in the community forget or ignore this.
Arg this is longer than I intended. I can go on about this forever.
Anyway 🤣 love the video! It’s on point and you say so many things that I’ve thought or tried to say, but a lot better than I could! 😂 Ace and Aro spectrums are definitely within the Q umbrella! Always has and will be! 🤍💚💜🖤🏳️🌈
A-spec people are all super valid and welcome (to me, as part of the "communtiy")! :D
I was luckly introduced to the concept of and a lot of information through a close ace friend, but outside of that, I rarely run into representation or visibiliy. :(
For the longest time i though i was *Bi* back then, but then after awhile i found out about *Asexuality.*
I thought i was Bi mostly because my girlfriend thought I was Bi so i just went along with it. Because i thought i liked both but in the end i ended up being Lesbian.
I also relate to Jaiden's crush story, because i always thought that you *needed* to have a crush with someone. So i just picked a guy and never talked to him lol.
I always thought Intimacy is always a needed in a relationship and there's something wrong with me if i didn't have Intimate feelings with a partner, so i thought I was Demisexual for a while.
Until i found out you can have a lot of *Romantic Attraction* but can also have little to no *Intimate Attraction.* I do have Intimate Attraction with my partner mostly because i want them to be happy. Not that i have anything against it. So i have to thank Jaiden for that, because now i understand my sexuality a little more.
Most of the time i don't feel validated because most of the time people just say *"Oh your still young, you'll get there eventually"* or something like *"If you never tried it, how do you know that you don't like it?"* which sometimes can just bring me down a little. But thank god, I found out about the Asexual community. If not I would still be very confused about myself.
I hate the "If you never tried it, how do you know that you don't like it?" I usually respond with, "You've probably never licked a porcupine. How do you know that you don't like it?"
"that's not gay. What the hell is that?"
OMG! I thought it was completely normal in elementary and middle school to “pick” a crush. I would also always be told that someone had a crush on me from them (i mean not trying to brag or anything 😜/lh) and i’d just be like,
“Ok… thx…”
Jaiden is by far my favorite story-time animator and this just made me like her even more. It’s like, she really didn’t have to tell us anything about this but did so she could help others. I’m really glad pretty much everyone is being supportive of her
Okay:
1, I am in love with your hair
2, God I love Jaiden, and I'm so proud of her
3, I like your computer screen. Idk why, but it caught my attention it's very mesmerizing.
this reminds me of my reaction to the first time i got asked out, in which I completely froze and just asked "why?". wonderful memories
Jesus why is that me? “Why are none of you attractive?!” I had that thought as well when I grew up. I genuinely thought that there was something wrong with me and to this day I haven’t really been out about me being ace.
I really do want to thank you and jaiden animations to help me realize that I'm asexual. I watched her video and understood more about myself and why I hated being with people, especially even considering I didn't want to do nasty things with people. You honestly helped me too! Your ace videos are literally the best and I'm so glad I have the confidence to come out as ace! Thank you for everything
It’s nice that she’s figured out what she is. I honestly can’t tell what I am…Or even if I’ve ever had an actual crush before.
How do you know if your actually feeling attracted to someone, and not just getting a false positive (for lack of better terminology)? I can tell when I think someone is physically “cute” or “pretty” looking, but I can never tell if I’m actually attracted to them. 😓 Doesn’t help that I’m terrible at meeting new people/making friends.
Something else with being ace/aro is that sometimes people will try to "test you" even though you already told them you don't like that kind of stuff
I was so happy when I watched Jaiden's video. Me and my other aroace friend were freaking out after. Jaiden is so good at explaining aromatic and asexual and her stories and reactions made me laugh cause it was so relatable. The video made me and my friend feel so validated. Massive respect to Jaiden for coming out and bringing light to our awesome community.
Listening to Jaiden it sounds really hard growing up like this. Not meaning to condemn being ace, date or don't date/other things as suits you all the same to me, just the way she describes feeling like "ok now is the time now I will have a crush" and it not happening just seems hard. Time for society to normalize being ace.
Hello. Are there any other asexuals out here who experience a lot of aesthetic attraction and because of how society is you just assumed that you had a crush on that person. Like I’m looking back on it now and I realize that I only had like one actual crush on a person. Instead I was like “oh I think this person looks nice so I must have a crush on them”. Did anyone else experience that?
Yep. I definitely experience aesthetic attraction but don't really feel the need to do anything with it and other people think I have a crush when I'm just like "Nah they just look cool"
I actually realized i was aroace a few weeks after watching Jaden's video! :)
After watching Jaiden's video, I have been questioning my own experiences. A lot of what happened to her, something similar happened to me. I related more to her video than I thought I would. Even the few 'crushes' I thought I had I don't think were even crushes. I'm not a 100% certain but I think I may be aromantic and/or asexual. (Probably both) I have been thinking of this for the last week now, and all I can say is that I am glad I have watched her video. And that I am finding other LGTBQ creators because of it.
Thank you so much for giving your perspective on this. After I watched Jaiden's video, I thought: "wow, that really interesting to learn, I wonder how other's see this video who are in these groups."
You provided that for me, thanks.
Also I liked your video in general as well, so I subscribed.
a note to @Jaiden
*THANKS For BEIN' VULNERABLE , you relatable Jellybean
now cuz of jaidens vid i am starting to think i am asexual
cuz i do alot of what she did when she was young
Im actually in a country that doesn't support LGBTQ but I've my siblings to support and be apart
I've known I was aroace since highschool, in a very strange event too. I was playing Never Have I Ever with band mates and it was my turn and in full confidence I would win that round I said, never have I ever had a crush on anyone. My band mates started at me like I was an alien and started asking me questions to determine I was being serious. One even asked if I was lesbian which confused me and I thought they were joking or something. Only after I told my sister did she explain to me about asexualism and aromanticism and it clicked on place. Atm my initial reaction was oh...ok. and I went on with my life.
But watching this video and looking back on it I'm surprised I didn't feel uncomfortable at the event as I do now. Now I could see why everyone was making such a big deal out of it and thought I was weird. I didn't really know much about ace and aros besides the dictionary definition and how it could feel isolating, but I am glad to see that there are people like me in a way. And this video definitely made me feel more confident in my orientation.
I had a similar experience in that my sibling was the one to bring up me possibly being on the asexual spectrum because I was talking about how everyone else was getting crushes or finding other people attractive and it wasn’t happening for me. I love that your sister knew what it was so she could tell you about it because it’s not that widely known.
@@lynnsaga1397 yeah she was a lot more educated then I was, actually still is cause there's a lot in the spectrum I still don't know about 😄😅, then again she had identified herself bi a few years before this so she looked into a lot of info in the LGBT community as her interest grew.
That's so badass cool. I would have been way to shy to admit that in that age. And informed family members are indeed a blessing.
I discovered that I'm aromantic because of her video
Hi! I'm an Aegoromantic and Aegosexual! Jaidens video helped a lot for me to realize what being aromantic and asexual meant and I'm so proud of her for coming out.
I used to think I had crushes on people all the time when they made me happy. I finally got to high school and got a partner. I was so confused as to why I was so uncomfortable with just...normal couple things, until her video came out and I realized what I was feeling wasn't a crush.
I get friend crushes like Jaiden does. I don't want romance or sex. I just want them to be my bestie because they have a good aura and make me smile and laugh. My ex partner and I didn't exactly end on good terms, but I'm much happier single and have accepted that. I'm not lonely. I'm just surrounded by only besties.
Even thought i'm pan i'm still able to be asexual due to recently figuring out i'm also abrosexual (basically the genderfluid of sexuality, it can change i.e from gay to bi to ace to demi etc.) and it really is a blessing to have days where you're not feeling crazy for someone in a sexual way a lot of the time. (not saying people who aren't ace are hyper sexual or sexual a lot of the time, it just feels that way for me personally as i get overwhelmed with multiple feelings at once due to being uncontrollably abro)
Love my aroace peeps! You're all valid and belong in the LGBTIA+ community like everyone else! I'm so happy for Jaiden and am happy this is teaching people more about some underrated struggles aroace people go through in life.
Just learned about a new sexuality I didn’t know abrosexual was a thing! And same I’m so happy and grateful to Jaiden for making that video it’s amazing for our community
Oh snap! I think you just helped me figure out what I actually am! I've always been aromantic, but never heard that word until like last year, and my sexuality is, very confusing. I thought I was straight, then I thought I was bi, then I was pretty sure I was straight, and then I just was like not interested in sex at all for a couple years, which was really weird. Then I realized I had to be pan when a friend came out as trans and I was like, oh, I still think you're hot, like exactly as hot as you were to me before.
Watching Jaidein video helped me come out and I’m still a teenager so I really feel bad for people who had to lived the way I lived for longer than I had to
For me I thought I would one day wake up and be attracted to people. 33 years old now and still waiting. 😬
I never felt more seen than when Jaiden posted that video. I'm ace and though I have ace friends online, I don't have any ace friends irl and it's kinda....lonely I guess? Even though im not the only one, it feels like I am and just having Jaiden come out like that just makes me feel less alone.
I recently worked out that I'm aroace, and Jaidens video describes my experience almost word for word, istg, and I was just so happy, and felt, idk, seen?? Like someone else had the almost exact same experience as me, and I can't say how happy I was with that video exists, idk, I don't rly have a point to make with this comment, just happy (:
31 when I heard the terms asexual and aromatic. I'm both, as it turns out.
This was a really nice video to watch and even somewhat relatable for me. I'm pretty sure I'm Bi (I actually think Demi but I'm too scared and confused to leave my bi box atm) but I've only had a couple of short relationships only with the opposite sex because it's hard enough to find someone interested in me and that I'm also interested in and after my last one I just lost all interest in relationships. I don't even really see people as attractive anymore and no longer feel any desire for a relationship. It's been a good amount of years that this has been the case and it absolutely wasn't like this before so now I'm just really confused about who I am. The most relatable part was pretending to be attracted to people that I'm not just cause I feel like I'm supposed to especially because I use to be and I've been catching myself on it recently. Its not even like I tell anyone I'm only lying to myself.
I kinda knew since I was a kid that I'm Aro and get a little offended when people especially family would push me or advice me to go on dates with kids from their acquaintances. I kinda pity the kids too that is being pushed to me.
However, I just discover last year that I'm AroAce Lesbian. I'm attracted to women but not in romantic way. I just like women more than man, but I respect both gender !!
Ohh, me too🌸
9:00 I think she's got a good take there even for someone attracted to a non-aro/ace person...
Just because a person has romantic/sexual attraction for someone does NOT mean those feelings need to be reciprocated by the other party.
Why's that so hard for some people to understand it's almost like the world and everyone on it doesn't revolve around them or something, smh
also YES I've never been able to figure out how to exactly put words to why I'm pro-LGBTQIA+ education, and there it is. We already go half the way there in pre-school it's called TEACHING KIDS ABOUT BASIC EMOTIONS
As someone who is aro (at least on the spectrum, idk I only love fictional characters to the romantic extent not actual people, still figuring myself out) and pansexual, I got very excited when I found out my childhood youtuber was aromantic too :D!!!
look up Aegoromantic, that kinda sounds like what you're discribing from my understanding of it.
If it wasn't for one specific friend I have, I probably would not know what Aro or Ace is (or allo, wich is where I reside). Most of a year later and Jaidens video still gives me happy vibes for bringing the knowledge out there for people that would not otherwise encounter it.
Hello! I am currently in 8th grade so I am lucky for growing up in a household where things like this are more spoken about than ignored and such. I felt I could relate to Jaiden a LOT. I mean, I am not fully aroace, I am WTF romantic(or known as Quoiromantic) and aceflux, not to mention pan. Growing up I literally could never tell if I had a crush or if I was just super good friends with someone, plus I feel like sometimes I do experience romantic attraction, I just don't feel comfortable about dating and such. So I get crushes, it's just if they confessed I didn't feel comfortable being in a relationship. So growing up I heard people saying like "oh they are so cute, I wanna go on a date with them" and I just thought like... that just happens to you???? I was never told about how my feelings were different to others, I always thought I just kept getting unlucky and couldn't find anyone interesting, but turns out I just didn't really at all. When I was told about ace stuff is when my sister came out as aroace (like on the spectrum of it), in which I was really confused when she spoke to me about it because I had never heard someone able to relate to me. so I was super happy to hear Jaidens story and know how similar our experiences are so that when I am older and maybe adopt kids I will have the ability to inform them about these things to avoid confusion.
This is amazing! Watching Jaiden describe everything I've felt was astounding. It is amazing!
For as long as I can remember, since at my age it's prime to want the thought of intimacy, I had none of that interest because I just lack the thought of intimacy and I feel like not wanting to feel intimacy. When Jaiden posted the "Being not straight" video. I watched through the thing and I come to realize I was asexual, when I came out to my friends they were happy for me and it's also because it is easier since I can be gay, or lesbian or bisexual, but I prefer staying straight. So surprise. I'm Asexual, thanks Jaiden
i grew up think “all of you guys are idiots, wait till we are teens for romance” and the summer before freshman year, i realized, i am the only one with out this attraction and am a unbiased sage for relationship advice, including friendships, because no one thought” let’s talk about our felling’s” i know this works for friendships is because for the ENTIRE FIFTH GRADE YEAR, MY BEST FRIEND HAD COMPLETELY IGNORED ME AND REFUSED TO TALK OUT THE PROBLEM THEY HAD. if you can’t tell, i hold onto grudges like someone on the show hoarders hangs onto their useless possessions.
Aroace here! I have a complicated relationship with my sexuality, and I think it is partially because I didn't hear the term until I was in my mid 20s. But I also think "complicated" is potentially the experience of a lot of just... non straight people. lol I definitely know that I have felt more confident in it since I realized that I identify with the terms, because it helped explain and validate a lot of experiences. Like Jaiden said, most of the stuff happening was subconscious, and it can be difficult to pick through memories that are decades old, but I don't think I had much angst about being aroace when I was younger. I think it was just something that I knew other people cared about, but I didn't, really. I dated pretty consistently out of high school, but I think that was mostly because I was a breathing woman working in a Gamestop, and when you are one of those, a lot of guys tend to throw themselves at you. lol I never sought out a relationship, and never felt a need to be in one, other than whatever external pressure there was to "settle down" or whatever.
I have been with my partner for almost 9 years now (second wedding anniversary tomorrow!) and me being aroace, and them not has definitely caused some hardship in our relationship, but they have never framed it as something that was my fault. And they have done things that show that they truly understand me. I don't recall ever feeling I was broken (except once when I was with my ex, and I broke a little) for not experiencing sexual or romantic desire, but I do know that there is still a little voice in my head that constantly wonders if people think I have a life worth living because I don't experience the thing that so many other people spend so much of their lives revolving around. To be clear, I don't question if my life is worth living, I just think other people might because of so much societal pressure toward that conformity. I think because I am so new to the identity, there is some imposter syndrome happening.
I will say that whenever I meet someone online that is also aroace, I get very excited. Not that it happens much, but... yeah. Also, having a friend and my partner attempting to explain romance to me and my siblings (three of us are ace) has been good for a laugh or two. I also find myself fascinated by romance in some ways. It's something I enjoy watching or reading in media, but don't experience myself.
I appreciate the confidence that identifying as aroace has given me, but I also am still working my way through the discovery stage.
I discovered I was aroace last year and it was so freeing like there wasn’t anything wrong with me! Lol I used to think crushes were just people who you through were pretty 😂
Jaiden's video made me so happy and I'm also happy other aces and aros are happy when they see it :) Jaiden really said it all!
As another ace I do have to say this video did make me super happy
I'm obsessed with that Enbee in the background.
And yeah, I'm so happy to see that these days more and more people are trying to make more identities more visible and easier to find. I didn't start discovering any of my identity (biro-ace enby) until my 20's, and I was the kind who felt broken before I discovered the ace part of myself was a thing and that I wasn't the only one. I remember one time in college a little before I discovered ace was a thing, when I was chatting with a friend of the person I was dating and they asked about sex and I just shrugged and said we have never done that, they were like (paraphrasing) "I feel sorry for my friend!" and I felt really guilty that I was "apparently" denying the person I love something so...important? special? IDK but I felt really guilted. (But they must not have minded at all because we are still together and currently engaged. They also have been understanding and supportive when I did come out as ace to them, even though they aren't ace. we worked together and found what works for us.)
we love an aroace icon
we love aroace icons here!
This is wonderful and I'm looking Jaiden's channel up ASAP.
I’m definitely going on a Jaiden Animation binge soon cause I genuinely enjoy her channel
@@lynnsaga1397 yup, she's great indeed! :D
As a member of the lgbtq+ community, I support you and jaiden. You go you two, show the world you rock and are proud of who you are
For the longest time I thought i was a horrible person because i am ARO so i was sexually Attractive to them but no romanticly so i felt like a douche for the longest time
I may not get a response from you, but I’m a new subscriber. I love jaidens videos, and as someone who is a bit of a asexual I was kinda surprised she was one; but more aroace!! She never gave the exact vibe, but I’m so happy she made this video; and the animation as usual is so good. I really liked your reaction, and your own pov’s on it. Also just cause some people may ask I’m straight, but with a asexual feel… I guess.
Awww thank you so much! I’m happy you liked the video and yes her animation is on point☺️
Thank heavens jaded posted that Jayden I mean I hate you autocorrect and for better reasons now I know that I have no attraction to anyone and from now on it'll just be me and my four cats don't ask books to use me I got to go give my cat some fish
Jaiden video made me feel better when I wasn't feeling well the day it came out (I had massive migraine). Im huge fan of her and Im proud of her. Her stories is similar to my thoughts and feeling. Even before I saw the video, I knew Im ace and I thought im was Biromantic. After the video, Im thinking im might actually be demi-biromantic. I have boyfriend and I love him romanticly (not sexually) but just him since i now him since middle school. I do have celeb/finctional "crushes" but I just want meet and maybe hug them and tell them Im a fan of them, nothing else. Im also very shy, I don't like meeting new people. I like keeping to myself, I always have. I even yelled at someone who wanted to play with me in 3rd grade and I just want to play by myself. I don't do social media (expet youtube and tik tok). I used to do facebook but got logged out and couldn't get back in so i gave up and stop using it. The other side, I do like romantic movies, and songs. I mean my favorite singer is Taylor Swift, the queen of romantic songs. I also love shipping fictional couples when it makes sense. I also have stories in my head that has a lot of romance in them, so i do know romanace and I like the idea of but I don't know if I personily feel the attration of it except when it comes to my boyfriend.
Honestly watching her video made me think I might be a little demi romantic too!
She helped me too! I just came out to a few friends recently. I'm aroace(except towards fictional characters, which is why it too so long to figure out).
This helps put a lot of things in perspective for me. So I've known I've been Asexual for awhile, but I guess I'm Aromantic as well.
Like I didn't know theirs supposed to be something more or different feeling between a romantic relationship and a platonic one. I just figured people in a relationship are like friends that also have sex. Like you go to movies with friends, you hang out with friends, other than the sex stuff whats the difference. But I guess theirs an entirely different something else that I've never felt before.
As a proud robot person I feel this is fairly appropriate for me. I've always had muted emotions and dealt with things strictly logically. When I was a teenager and hormones made me desire sex I found it more of a nuisance than anything else. My body was saying "you want this thing" and my brain was thinking "why?". I don't want kids and I guess it feels nice and all but if that's all I wanted I could do that on my own quicker and easier.
It makes me wonder then what would an aroace relationship even be like or is their even such a thing. Like what is left when you remove the romantic and sexual. would it just be friendship? Or can their still be "something more"? and what would that something more be like?
Maybe friendship with more fascination and more longterm commitment. I mean it seems to me that many allos have the tendency to not really invest enough in their friendships once they live in longterm partnerships. So if you remove the latter, you get the freedom to care more about friends without the illusion of having all you need forever.
Seeing Jaiden's video was so amazing, I have many friends who are ace, and I think it is so important to come forward. My last relationship, me and my partner were discovering things about them, they made a realization that they were aroace. I recall them telling me stories about feeling broken which always broke my heart to see them feeling that way.
Honestly questioning whether I am under the ace umbrella and just Panro, I still haven't figured it out as I've been questioning a lot about myself and slowly analyzing my past relationships. Its quite a confusing journey tbh.
It's so weird that ppl have a problem with the AroAce community cuz it's like, for the most part we just want to be left out of the " red curtained room " in the back of the video store but the other ppl in the video store are mad that we probably wont want to go in to that room in the first place.
( Written at 4;30 am, it might not make sense )
I guess I was lucky to realize/discover that I was Ace when I was like 16-17 cuz seeing Jaiden ( someone in my age range ) just discovering her "ID" in her 20s feels like she lost a lot of time of not having to worry about this in her life anymore but, I'm glad that she did discover it still young and not have been feeling the way she was for most of her life like discovering her AroAce ID in her 60s or something. I'm glad she found her self a little more and feels more confident in who she is as a person.
I just recently found out I’m aroace and looking back it makes so much sense. I’m going into eighth grade and one time in fifth grade I thought I had a crush on a kid in my class because we had the same birthday, bless younger me’s soul. Actually before 5th grade I really didn’t know about the LGBTQ+ community, I knew there were gay people and people like that but I didn’t really know about the community until a friend of mine came out to me, and, wanting to be as supportive and understanding as possible, when I got home that day I started researching about the community. I would watch tiktok comps and every time there was a sexuality or gender identification I didn’t know I’d google the meaning, and if I didn’t get it, I’d watch tiktok comps specific to that one thing. That’s how I learned about asexuality and even then it took me about three years to figure out, “Hey I might actually be aroace.” I actually feel really comfortable with these labels as well as being a trans man and I’m really happy to have found out who I am, and even if I can’t come out to my parents, me and my friends made a family of our own and will always accept each other.
i started crying because im so happy about this representation thank you so much
Honestly this is the first respectful video I've seen to jaidens video. I've seen a ton of other people reacting to the video and being very disrespectful and saying that jaiden is actually another Sexuality which is messed up.
I grew up always respecting people regardless of Sexuality, race and never cared at all cause everyone is human. If everyone respected eachother and minded their business and stopped spreading false info the world would be peaceful as heck.
A lot of people at my high school thought I was a lesbian--because apparently not dating anyone at all meant I was interested in other girls? I didn't know what to call myself but didn't really care. About 15 years later, I learned what demisexual was, and a very bright lightbulb appeared over my head.
Sorry this is off topic, but I SEE AN ENBY BEE IN THE BACKGROUND AND I LOVE IT!
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I was so happy for Jaiden when she said she was aroace! I'm not aro or ace (quite the opposite actually) but I still love hearing that someone is happy enough with themselves to come out as aroace, especially considering the community is mostly focused on gay, lesbian, or bi in terms of sexuality. The fact that people were really just fine with crapping on Jaiden for being open with her lack of sexuality is insane, but I will support her and any aroace person through and through!
Thank you for the reaction video! I'm so proud of Jaiden and I'm sure this will help many people, if not only to inform them that the aromantic and asexual spectrum exist.
I wanted to check out the videos that you've linked in the description, but it says that the videos aren't available anymore D:
Thank you for letting me know! I’ll look into why that is and change it as soon as I get home☺️
more representation is always good, jaiden's video (and this reaction) was very nice to see
(funny side note: i think we have the same loft bed. it actually almost looked like you'd recorded this in my room, if not for your different setup behind you)
Yeah this bed got me through college and honestly I might have it into my late 20's with how it's going right now lol
I am aromantic and demisexual and an autistic person so I TOTALLY understand that there is a problem with steps. Like I thought the same thing, I didn’t know that there was supposed to be actual feelings involved