Why do the Dutch COMPLAIN so much?

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  • Опубликовано: 22 май 2024
  • Who complains more? The French or the Dutch? Complaining is a national sport in the Netherlands. There's a reason for it...
    What do the Dutch complain about? Why?
    ⏰ CHAPTERS:
    00:00 Intro
    02:08 What and why do the Dutch complain?
    03:27 Cultural difference
    05:06 Culture of Pessimism
    05:35 Why you shouldn't complain?
    05:51 Why you SHOULD complain
    07:53 How to complain like the Dutch?
    08:50 Ending
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Комментарии • 440

  • @hidavidwen
    @hidavidwen  4 месяца назад +29

    What would you like to complain about? I’m still not happy about my grocery bill increasing and everything else increasing...except my salary...😆😠

    • @Marco-zt6fz
      @Marco-zt6fz 4 месяца назад +1

      Do you speak already Dutch?

    • @chrispnw2547
      @chrispnw2547 4 месяца назад +2

      What is the backstory about the art on your wall? I always admire it in your videos. Thanks as always for the great content, as one always learns something new while enjoying your sense of humor.

    • @DenUitvreter
      @DenUitvreter 4 месяца назад +2

      @@chrispnw2547 That's a Brood. Herman Brood was a late 70's Dutch rock 'n roll star who later explored his undeniable painting talent, for the fun of it but also to finance his drug habits. He cancelled his attempt to become an international rockstar by touring the USA early on in the tour because the drugs there weren't good enough to keep him going.

    • @MrOoofah
      @MrOoofah 4 месяца назад

      @@DenUitvreter
      Yep, that’s a Brood.
      He used to own a cafe in De Spui , I forget the name. It was a cafe/bar/art gallery.
      I saw him there a few times when I dropped in for drinks.

    • @DenUitvreter
      @DenUitvreter 4 месяца назад

      @@MrOoofah I was only a regular to "Schuim" for a short while but if I remember correctly that was in the Spuistraat. Seems like a Brood neighbourhood though.

  • @leendersc
    @leendersc 4 месяца назад +64

    Lived in Canada for 50+years. And I still complain like a dutch Native. Hahaha

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +4

      Hahahah I like how you're still so proud of it even after 50+ years...I guess it sticks with you forever!

    • @annebokma4637
      @annebokma4637 2 месяца назад +2

      He sure sounds happy 😂 it works. Hou vol, leer heel Canada klagen 👍

  • @MarjoleinNoyceBellingaMobiel
    @MarjoleinNoyceBellingaMobiel 4 месяца назад +34

    The better Dutch saying is "gedeelde smart is halve smart": grief/grievances shared is grief/grievances halved.

  • @budg
    @budg 4 месяца назад +68

    Utrecht Central yesterday would have been a nice place for interviews. With all NS trains cancelled, people on the platforms went mad.

    • @sharonchan1631
      @sharonchan1631 4 месяца назад +8

      The day when my train rides and on time, I consider myself super lucky 😂

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +4

      HAHA I think I would've been too annoyed myself to do interviews

    • @thijmendol8248
      @thijmendol8248 3 месяца назад +3

      ​@@sharonchan1631 yea but unfortunately that's a purely hypothetical situation :(

    • @arturobianco848
      @arturobianco848 3 месяца назад +1

      Yup i was there to be honest those major failures don't happen that often anymore. It sucks but the trains aren't that bad actually having ecperienced public transport in other country's. Ours is pretty good.

    • @antoombom9584
      @antoombom9584 3 месяца назад +1

      @@arturobianco848sure our system is pretty good, however it can be improved
      That’s why it’s good to continue to point out the bad whilst off-course appreciating how good we have it
      We are actually in the 1% richest people on earth for a reason

  • @carrstone01
    @carrstone01 4 месяца назад +66

    It's our bounden duty to complain; w/o it, nothing changes.
    And it's the inborn pessimism that keeps us happy as our lives are full of pleasant surprises when 'the worst' doesn't happen.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +4

      Yep, can be a great model so you won't get disappointed if used wisely =)

    • @MokumHVB
      @MokumHVB 3 месяца назад

      😂

  • @emeursing
    @emeursing 4 месяца назад +24

    For some complaining is expressing (maybe even celebrating) of having the freedom to point out where there is improvement possible or indeed just a form of stressrelief. (Hence the happiness)

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +2

      Haha never thought about it like that, thanks!

    • @rikavanderhofstad
      @rikavanderhofstad 3 месяца назад

      thats for sure how i use it. to just get rid of my unwanted thoughts and feelings.

  • @joostprins3381
    @joostprins3381 4 месяца назад +12

    We are born on a bike, dumped into the water to learn to swim and our first words are why we aren’t fed more by our mother…

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Hahaha...Dutch resilience

  • @daphneschuring5810
    @daphneschuring5810 4 месяца назад +21

    I still love your Brood on the wall.

    • @chrispnw2547
      @chrispnw2547 4 месяца назад +2

      Me too!

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Hahaha I'm liking it more and more too thanks!

    • @daphneschuring5810
      @daphneschuring5810 3 месяца назад

      The painting is expensive @@hidavidwen

    • @mrflappie6553
      @mrflappie6553 3 месяца назад +1

      If it's the real deal for sure, but there's a lot of Brood screenprints that are much more affordable.

  • @Riskantman
    @Riskantman 4 месяца назад +21

    But for real though, the weather was so bad today. All that wind and soft rain, disgusting. Can't wait for it to be too hot again so I can complain about that. :)

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      LOL I found myself complaining about the heat too...and because I can't sleep at night

    • @frankhooper7871
      @frankhooper7871 3 месяца назад

      UK here - almost as soon as summer is within sight, you'll start to hear "I don't mind the heat, it's the humidity!"

  • @nataschafennema8971
    @nataschafennema8971 4 месяца назад +8

    U nailed it. Completely integrated: min. 9.56😂❤

  • @zzzowie
    @zzzowie 4 месяца назад +7

    Nothing is ever perfect, and to work on improvement, a critical attitude is essential; it leads to innovation

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks, good mindset to have! #innovation

  • @moniquevandoorn8347
    @moniquevandoorn8347 4 месяца назад +11

    Once when I went on an organized holiday to Wales, our driver said when we left: o, you people will suffer on this journey. When we asked him why, he said: you are going on a trip that is so great, that there is nothing to complain about, and Dutch people always need something to complain about! This made us all laugh out loud!

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +2

      Hahaha sounds like the driver had many experiences with the Dutch, great example!

    • @moniquevandoorn8347
      @moniquevandoorn8347 3 месяца назад +3

      @@hidavidwen The driver WAS Dutch!

    • @Makro3d
      @Makro3d 3 месяца назад +3

      @@moniquevandoorn8347 he should've known that's the first thing to complain about - the bus itself.

    • @moniquevandoorn8347
      @moniquevandoorn8347 3 месяца назад +1

      @@Makro3d He also made a very good remark later on the trip. When there was a music evening in the hotel, our group entered the room, and sat down in another part, then the part where the Welsh people sat. Our driver entered the room, looked at the Welsh group, then at our group, and the Welsh group again. When we asked him to join us, he said: I am wondering which of these two groups had a contagious disease, cause I don’t want to sit down there. And then he walked away again. We thought: he is absolutely right. The next evening we just joined the other group, and we had a wonderful time together. That was a really great coach driver in every way! One of my best holidays!

    • @roelrijkens4061
      @roelrijkens4061 3 месяца назад +2

      And you found nothing to complain about????
      Impossible

  • @DidierWierdsma6335
    @DidierWierdsma6335 4 месяца назад +13

    I have a complain David which is upload more videos please LOL🤣🤣🤣 i'm kidding i do like your videos though so please take all the time you need😊
    It's always intresting to hear what foreign people say and think about my/your country now as well it's really intresting and also very entertaining as well in my honest opinion.
    As always keep up the great work David👍
    En nog een prettige dag toegewenst?😊

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Hahaha thanks for the complaint =) I appreciate this one. And also appreciate you for always adding your honest opinions too (I've learned the most from people like you).
      But yes, plan to make more videos...but a lot of things happening in life/work which I will talk about hopefully soon =)
      Fijne dag en jaar!

  • @hettykromdijk2910
    @hettykromdijk2910 3 месяца назад +1

    Het zit in onze genen.,en wie het niet aanstaat kan opzouten.

  • @jannetteberends8730
    @jannetteberends8730 4 месяца назад +18

    Your videos are food for thoughts. During the video I started to wonder how our complaining culture helped to get our bicycle friendly infrastructure. The story always started that people died in traffic. But that happened everywhere, for other countries no reason to take action. So I think the story should be that it started with people complaining about it.
    Overall our complaining is mostly not that serious though.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Thanks =) Yeah it's not serious...but fun =)

  • @lucyfrye6723
    @lucyfrye6723 3 месяца назад +2

    Is that a real Brood painting on the wall or a copy? I like it.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      I hope it is? I like it too

  • @qixxor2075
    @qixxor2075 4 месяца назад +11

    Complaining is continuously trying to improve things. It’s never good enough. This means that society is improving. Of course we won’t say that, because then we wouldn’t be improving.

    • @pcdispatch
      @pcdispatch 4 месяца назад +1

      Dutch public transport is not improving, it is the opposite.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Haha I like that definition (complaining = continuously improving things)

  • @user-uv7et6ml9c
    @user-uv7et6ml9c 3 месяца назад +1

    I do like your videos , you tell about daily stuff with a good perspective. What a genius person

  • @jaidy2403
    @jaidy2403 3 месяца назад +2

    I'm Dutch and 1.5 years ago I moved to Sweden. Since then I've really noticed how much Dutch people complain. In the Netherlands you're constantly surrounded by negativity, which is really exhausting. Nothing is ever good enough according to the Dutch. Living in the Netherlands I didn't really notice this, but now it's really obvious to me. My sister, who's been living in Japan for 8 years says the same and always feels stressed when she visits the Netherlands due to this constant stream of negativity.
    Now, I just complain about Dutch people complaining :))

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Haha someone commented that she lived in the US for 1 year and when she returned to NL, she immediately noticed all the 'complaining' and it felt like home.
      Thanks for sharing!

  • @DigiDennis74
    @DigiDennis74 3 месяца назад +2

    David, well said! (complain and compliments should go hand in hand)

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks! Haha complain and compliments, I like that

  • @duncanhorst1976
    @duncanhorst1976 3 месяца назад +3

    Wow, this is great. As a dutch expat, I lived in the US for a year. We were very happy there and people were really nice. But there was always something bugging me...and I could not put my finger on it. UNTIL WE GOT BACK. I went to a bar with some friends and the waitress came to our table, saw that we were enjoying ourselves and started enquiring sincerely about what we had been doing. Then, she started to engage in the conversation and then complained about her day and the fact she had to work. And I loved it! She was a real person, not somebody who was putting on an act 'hi I'm your tour guide for tonight' just to get a bigger tip. And I'm guessing only Dutchies would be able to appreciate this behavior. It makes you realize not everything has to be perfect and other people have crappy days too. Cheers!

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Haha yes I get you! Funny how ‘complaining’ gave you all the warm fuzzies (the culture in which you grew up in)…hilarious hahaha thanks for sharing

  • @OprechtLetterlijkBizar
    @OprechtLetterlijkBizar 4 месяца назад +3

    I’d like to complain about expats in Amsterdam who’re feeling a bit too entitled for their own good. 😆

    • @relo999
      @relo999 4 месяца назад

      I’d like to complain about -expats in- Amsterdam who -’re- feel -ing a bit- too entitled for their own good.
      *fixed.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for sharing. I'd like to complain about anyone who feels entitled in general =)

  • @augth
    @augth 3 месяца назад +1

    In France complaining is also the national sport. We complain about everything including about the fact that we complain so much.
    But that doesn’t make us particularly happy.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks for sharing, yeah I know about the French complaining culture too! And the culture of ‘debating’

  • @janmango4692
    @janmango4692 4 месяца назад +3

    "Alles is veel voor wie niet veel verwacht". From JC Bloem, "De Dapperstraat".

  • @dutchman7623
    @dutchman7623 4 месяца назад +2

    It's a National Sport! We complain when we have nothing to complain about...
    We die if we are satisfied with everything. Pure boredom...

    • @dutchman7623
      @dutchman7623 4 месяца назад +2

      It is also a stress relief, there! I said it! Now go on with it! Bye!

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Hahaha....yeah especially during winter....I'm bored...let's complain..happy again

  • @deetgeluid
    @deetgeluid 3 месяца назад +1

    If you don’t complain, things will never change.

  • @GeertMeertens
    @GeertMeertens 4 месяца назад

    Very entertaining, a joy to watch, you get better and better at this. Keep on going!

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Aw thanks!! 🙏🙏

  • @venepskeuten9206
    @venepskeuten9206 2 месяца назад +1

    Complaining is nice. Bitching about the weather feels good.

  • @smokeysky
    @smokeysky 3 месяца назад +1

    n other dutch saying: een dag niet geklaagd is een dag niet geleefd.
    (to not complain for a day means to not live for a day)

  • @matiaslauriti
    @matiaslauriti 3 месяца назад +1

    I love this country! My only complain is the fucking rain, I don't care about the weather, it is the RAIN... November rained everyday non-stop... that was fucking awful... then, I love it!

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Haha I get ya...the rain does suck...2023 was the wettest year on record

  • @johankorten2797
    @johankorten2797 3 месяца назад

    It is so true ;)

  • @abelenthoven8192
    @abelenthoven8192 3 месяца назад +1

    Loved the four seasons playing in the background

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Ahh you noticed, nice!!

  • @Bernadette-vW
    @Bernadette-vW 4 месяца назад

    Great video! Can I just say I really like the jokes and the editing! It makes it so fun to watch.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks Bernadette! Appreciate it 😄🙏

  • @profikid
    @profikid 3 месяца назад +1

    This is the main reason i left my country as a Dutch. Some old people has nothing better to do than complaining. Writing a letter to the newspaper or call police on youngsters.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Hope you are well wherever you are

    • @profikid
      @profikid 3 месяца назад

      Im doing pretty good thanks ❤ currently based in Thailand

  • @remcoasselbergs3298
    @remcoasselbergs3298 3 месяца назад +1

    😅 spot on. Great vid.

  • @Elysian_s
    @Elysian_s 4 месяца назад +3

    I really enjoyed watching this video!

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Aw thanks, I really appreciate it! 🙏

  • @johnkennes
    @johnkennes 3 месяца назад +2

    I live in NYC and people here complain more than most American's do -- it took a while to get use to it when I first got here but now I'm like a local. Maybe it comes from the NYC's Dutch heritage as New Amsterdam...

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Haha thanks John, perhaps that's true!

  • @Hensepens64
    @Hensepens64 4 месяца назад +2

    Thank you again for a very nice insight in our / mine culture.
    To be honest .. you nailed this topic on all points.
    Again, a very good insight and with a conclusion which even surprised me .. because we complain so much we are more happy 😊

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Hahaha thanks for the kind words =)

  • @barbararoll
    @barbararoll 4 месяца назад +2

    right now complaining that i have to go to work for a 12 hour night shift!!! Keep up the good work David. I enjoy virtually traveling to the Netherlands

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks! Well I hope you can take a good break after those 12 hours!

  • @user-wj3bs8dq6s
    @user-wj3bs8dq6s 3 месяца назад +1

    Because we are free and allowed to share our opinions and eventual disgust with the world around us

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks for sharing, yes!

  • @Nunan726
    @Nunan726 3 месяца назад

    great video - thanks!

  • @MokumHVB
    @MokumHVB 3 месяца назад +1

    Funny and nice video!

  • @David-um8tb
    @David-um8tb 3 месяца назад +1

    Loved the ending!

  • @jasonbills8385
    @jasonbills8385 4 месяца назад +4

    Thanks David, I appreciate the work and research you put into these videos. I am going to start embracing my inner Dutch and start complaining about the weather (although that's a little hard right now here in Costa Rica Haha)

    • @Danger12233
      @Danger12233 4 месяца назад +3

      You can always complain it's too hot :P

    • @jasonbills8385
      @jasonbills8385 4 месяца назад +2

      @@Danger12233 🤔👍

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +2

      Hahaha you're welcome Jason and thanks....ahhh I'm just imagining that sun in my face....but hey, I have a sun-lamp now for the first time ever...

    • @arturobianco848
      @arturobianco848 3 месяца назад +1

      just complaine its to perfect that you can't really enjoy it becasue of that. You ain't dutch if you can't find something to complaine about the weather.
      To be honest Dutch weather really isn't that great but it makes you very adaptable i rarely ever have a problem with thr weather somewhere else except for heat.

    • @jasonbills8385
      @jasonbills8385 3 месяца назад

      @@arturobianco848 very nice, well we are looking forward to finding out about the dutch weather soon. We will be moving there in August. 😁

  • @OsmosisHD
    @OsmosisHD 3 месяца назад +1

    Complaining works. I recently complained at a hospital that their mattresses could be used as a torture device (Being very vivid with your complains is critical)
    Did my complaining on all levels even to the management of the hospital, just because I could.
    And now nearly a year later they are looking into replacing the mattresses with something better, I saw a press release on their webpage that they are having talks with a mattress manufacturers to replace all of them in the coming years.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Wow thanks for sharing this example of how ‘complaining’ works…I guess it goes deeper…there’s a proper way to complain too (involving psychology and reasons and not just complaining and nagging)

  • @Jacques.dAnjou
    @Jacques.dAnjou 3 месяца назад +1

    I quite agree with this video, yeah not much complaints about it, so that makes it a bit iffy.. just thinking out loud 😅

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Hahaha thanks…well I welcome any future complaints and feedback :)

  • @Ramon609
    @Ramon609 4 месяца назад +4

    I was about to say that as a all natural Dutch person -4c is not that cold but then i remembered when i go outside i have 2 winter coats/jackets 1 being my coat/jacket and 2 being my body fat 😂and the way i think is that if you're cold and have to cycle through the cold then you just gotta cycle harder and faster to warm up! Its better to save as much money as possible 24/7 so its better to cycle not just because it saves you money from using public transportation but it also help you with a cardio workout! And some strength training if you decide to use a higher gear in the bicycle which makes it harder to pedal but you get faster to your destination! Efficiency! (This is just my opinion what is better if you do not agree then feel free to disagree with me i do not mind)

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Haha thanks Ramon for sharing and for the tips

    • @Ramon609
      @Ramon609 3 месяца назад

      No problemo! I've only lived 30 years in this country so i have picked up a couple things here and there 😛@@hidavidwen

    • @SenorZorros
      @SenorZorros 3 месяца назад +2

      I mean, there are always two kinds of people the ones who complain about thee weather and the ones complaining that the people complaining about the weather are complaining wrong. as a fellow well-isolated person I'm pretty sure you're going to see the inverse pattern if the temperature dares to go above 21 degrees, or as I call it: boiling hot.

    • @Ramon609
      @Ramon609 3 месяца назад +1

      Oh yea i've been in temps where it was 40c or 45c and it was easily 50c to 55c and i was dying inside.. air conditioning is not really a big thing in The Netherlands so all i have is a fan and even that started to blow warm air so that did not help.. what was worse was that it was that hot for a month or two straight hardly to without rain for weeks.. i remember looking at my clothes in disgust those days lol@@SenorZorros

  • @BoogabooTheFlea
    @BoogabooTheFlea 3 месяца назад +1

    Very nice 😊

  • @Alex10Adventures
    @Alex10Adventures 2 месяца назад +1

    Used to live in Amsterdam, this is too good 😂

  • @Flaggyt
    @Flaggyt 3 месяца назад +1

    We all complain because we are spoiled little brats who don't know how well of we are.
    Untill we are abroad, then all of a sudden The Netherlands are brilliant and the best in the world, and start complaining about the country we are in at that moment.
    We are insufferable really.

  • @mradventurer8104
    @mradventurer8104 3 месяца назад +1

    As a Dutch native I really enjoyed this video. One thing was new to me, that complaining can be used to bond and as free therapy. I never really thought about it that way. I do see negative sides too though. For example, the railways do quite a good job but few people recognize the railways (and the people working hard, doing nightshifts to get repair done etc) do quite a good job and hardly ever have I heard people say: Wow thanks NS (railways) for a good job. In other words, in the US they are very good in giving compliments to people ie praising people for doing a good job. That is lacking sometimes in the Netherlands. Similarly, being grateful for what you have is a good trait but you lose that we complaining too much. But thanks for the video, keep up the good work!

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for sharing! Yeah agree that it's a fine balance...complaining...I come from a culture where you 'bottle up' things inside...so it's been nice to be able to release thoughts/emotions...I also never thought about it like that too

    • @mradventurer8104
      @mradventurer8104 3 месяца назад

      @@hidavidwen Thanks. Yes bottling up is not good. One more example I have about Dutch poiitics. Some people only talk negatively about politicians and people who work for the government (ambtenaren). But I think we also have to recognize that a good healthcare and education system in a system which allows for entrepreneurship also happened in part thanks to generations of good statesmen and politicians. Talking negatively only about them does not do it justice. In short, I think a balance in which you can complain a little bit but also give compliments is best ;)

  • @acyclone
    @acyclone 4 месяца назад +24

    Duchy here as well… keep into account that complaining is mostly done when things are “bad” in general (like weather, public transport or cold food), but when complaining gets personal it is a totally different story. The clip at the end about us speaking broken English is just straight up a lie and people will get angry (and express that as well).

    • @steffenberr6760
      @steffenberr6760 4 месяца назад +5

      that was SUCH a bizarre video! i still dont know if she was serious

    • @pedroredondo3713
      @pedroredondo3713 4 месяца назад +3

      @@steffenberr6760 Saw it as well... I cannot imagine someone so ignorant saying what she said. Not only that small excerpt but the all video. I want to believe it was on purpose!

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +5

      Haha yeah I get ya...I thought it was a funny skit at first...but then she does a lot of vlogs so I don't know...

    • @The_oli4
      @The_oli4 3 месяца назад +1

      Yea her video was so weird. Especially the part where her English is so bad that she hired a voice over to do the video for her, the original video she uploaded was in Spanish with broken English parts.

  • @SanderBessels
    @SanderBessels 3 месяца назад +1

    As a Dutch citizen, I want to complain about the negative attitude towards people from my country. Clearly, the Germans complain even more than we do.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks Sander for the complaint

  • @thirsk3
    @thirsk3 4 месяца назад +3

    Because there is room for improvement and our competences are kept to a minimum since we have a sixes culture so we have the urge to be good at something.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Ahh yes, makes sense!

  • @claudioaliaga3293
    @claudioaliaga3293 3 месяца назад +1

    Hi David! Hahaha, I just saw your video, and I noticed that the lady you mentioned I already commented on her video a while ago....we are both Chileans 😅. I really don't understand this kind of behavior..I mean you have to be willing to adapt

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Thanks! Haha, yeah adapting is key in life. Best wishes to you!

  • @jpdj2715
    @jpdj2715 3 месяца назад

    If only the complaints had any substantive level of quality

  • @Avigadaa
    @Avigadaa 3 месяца назад +1

    Great video, David! I really liked your take on complaining as a way to point out and fix issued and as a bonding experience, as well as the conclusion that complaining is not always bad actually! As a foreigner, I really appreciate how in the Netherlands there is almost always room to complain and object AND actually to be heard. From government institutions and fines to your soup being cold, there is almost always an efficient complaint procedure and a fair solution!

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks! Yeah I come from a culture where you don't 'complain' and you just follow. I'm still more like that but learning how to give 'constructive complaints/feedback' since coming here

  • @Irsu85
    @Irsu85 3 месяца назад +1

    That graph about defensive pessimism is exactly how I take the bus to school, especially during/near rush hour. There is way too much traffic and the busses are always full during rush hour so I just avoid it and calculate all my timings in a way that avoids it, so that's why I am rarely late and when I am it's not by much

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Smart! Yeah I guess you have to learn that...knowing how unpredictable things are...I also learned my lesson at the beginning (almost missed some important meetings and didn't know other routes to get to work)

    • @Irsu85
      @Irsu85 3 месяца назад

      @@hidavidwen That's why when I started going to school in south Limburg (although the other south limburg from where you went to school), the first thing I did was looking for all the routes that I can take to get to school. I have learned from my parents that being late is a bad thing so I extremize and be an hour early, and even when there is a bus strike I can still take the train (although that route is way slower)

  • @archiebald4717
    @archiebald4717 4 месяца назад +3

    Where would we be without the Dutchies?

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks! My channel is in English because...
      1. It's my native language (as an American)...and it's the best way for me to communicate these complex topics
      2. 65% van de kijkers komt van buiten Nederland (65% of viewers are outside the Netherlands...there's a lot of people interested in learning more about the country)

    • @archiebald4717
      @archiebald4717 3 месяца назад

      @@hidavidwen It is a wonderful country with an extraordinary history. I saw quite a lot of Dutch heritage when I lived in Sri Lanka. Beautiful.

  • @Jfat69
    @Jfat69 4 месяца назад +1

    You'll never get the whole picture if you only ask people with enough money.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for sharing

  • @woutmoerman711
    @woutmoerman711 4 месяца назад +1

    We will complain significantly less next month, I promise.
    Kind regards from the Netherlands

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Hahaha in February? Well let’s see what happens. You never know…

  • @sidneyshack
    @sidneyshack 3 месяца назад +1

    Bitching is "de stoelgang van de ziel".

  • @Kaluranda
    @Kaluranda 3 месяца назад

    Yes you are fully integrated! The last part about it not raining when you want it to had my in laughing oud loud xD so true

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Hahaha I was looking through the footage and thought it was funny and interesting to include

  • @llllldrijcsujhddghjkclllllllll
    @llllldrijcsujhddghjkclllllllll 3 месяца назад

    I can't say what I think, because I prefer to be polite.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      I get what you mean...that is me too

  • @agme8045
    @agme8045 3 месяца назад

    Oh I definitely do the bonding through complaining lol, that’s basically my main way of making friends and acquaintances in school haha

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Hahaha it's definitely a good way to bond...and make friends

  • @jooproos6559
    @jooproos6559 3 месяца назад +1

    If we didnt complain,than the Netherlands wouldnt be so good as it is!Simple!!But there is ALWAYS something still to complain about!!😆

  • @leendersc
    @leendersc 3 месяца назад +1

    Well like they say " You can take a Dutchman out of The Netherlands,But never can take the Netherlands out of a Dutchman " Atleast not with me 😂

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Haha you're not the first to say this!

  • @axMf3qTI
    @axMf3qTI 4 месяца назад +1

    You know what I don't even like to complain but it's a shortcut to make small conversion.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Hahaha, you can dislike complaining but still do it =)

  • @henrysonnemann2597
    @henrysonnemann2597 3 месяца назад +1

    They forget one impotant thing!!!! Things are worse in another place on earth.😂😂😂

  • @mrflappie6553
    @mrflappie6553 3 месяца назад +1

    That tourist with her complaining video is absolutely hilarious. 'People speak English as a second language, but it's broken English.' All the while she herself doesn't speak a word of English and had someone overdub her video for the English version.🤣

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Haha yeah I think it's a troll video but who knows

  • @yvesgysel9834
    @yvesgysel9834 3 месяца назад +1

    100% true. However, it depends on where in the Netherlands. In Zeeland, people are less direct than, for example, in Amsterdam. My father is Dutch, and my mother is Flemish (North of Belgium) and Flemish people also complain, but less direct, not openly. In Amsterdam, people are very direct, so they will complain openly. So the better question is to ask, is it because of Dutch people being more direct, you notice more the complaining than for example Flemish people, cause in my experience they complain just as much, but not directly to strangers.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks for sharing…yes I’ve heard and also experienced the North being more direct than the South!

  • @JonathanvG-wj1ro
    @JonathanvG-wj1ro 4 месяца назад +1

    It's weird that weather is such a topic for complaint, as the weather and climate generally is very moderate (especially compared to many other countries).

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Hmmmm, I guess it's all relative. I really struggle with the weather here...thanks for sharing!

    • @frankhooper7871
      @frankhooper7871 3 месяца назад

      Dutch weather and English weather are similar - and both of us are known for complaining about it

  • @BasvanRitbergen
    @BasvanRitbergen 3 месяца назад +1

    We complain about the wheater so much as we, the Dutch, don't have *real* problems anymore to complain about.

  • @somedutchguy9184
    @somedutchguy9184 4 месяца назад +1

    Brilliant. There's nothing to complain about. So I would like to complain about that.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Haha thanks for the rant

  • @steffenberr6760
    @steffenberr6760 4 месяца назад +1

    haha thats quite a polite translation of kutweer

  • @Blindbrick2
    @Blindbrick2 3 месяца назад

    Many of my fellow Nederlanders just complain because they are spoiled, and don't know how lucky they are to live here.

  • @GenJouh
    @GenJouh 4 месяца назад +1

    I definitely have my hearth on my tongue as we Dutch say. I always say: I complain because I care.

  • @T.O.P.
    @T.O.P. 3 месяца назад +1

    I wanna talk to your superior: Get me the manager! 🤣🤣

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Hahaha, I’ve heard that before……

  • @PaladinfffLeeroy
    @PaladinfffLeeroy 3 месяца назад +1

    I think everybody complains but that we take it to the next level where complaining has turned into a form of comedy.
    I play Trading Card Games and there was an event where you get 5 packs of cards to make a deck with and compete with others. My packs were absolute garbage and I felt it... That feely feeling. The irresistible urge to COMPLAIN!
    But instead of just being negative I made a bit of an act out of it, full with motion and everything, slamming the cards on the table all the while complaining.
    And somehow that made it funny to other people and they now remember that moment fondly as something entertaining.
    Comedic Complaining.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Haha thanks….my friend told me her Dutch husband and friend had a boys night in…they also played games…and it was some game about complaining about whatever topic…I think they just wanted to a complaining night haha

    • @PaladinfffLeeroy
      @PaladinfffLeeroy 3 месяца назад

      @@hidavidwen Sounds like a fun night to me!

  • @wschao
    @wschao 4 месяца назад +1

    Just like the Brits

  • @kaiberus5970
    @kaiberus5970 3 месяца назад +1

    what was that video online again on youtube about the hundreds of words about the weather nvm 08:14 you have it

  • @willpotter22
    @willpotter22 4 месяца назад +2

    AT LEAST THEY HAVE TRAINS😢

  • @pimcramer2569
    @pimcramer2569 3 месяца назад

    If you don't (respectfully )say to you partner you didn't like dinner, you will get the same dish again and again

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      HAHA what a specific comment...I can assume that your dinners have gotten better over time...

  • @Komputerism
    @Komputerism 4 месяца назад +2

    Complaints about unsightly satellite dishes on apartment buildings is a vailed complaint about something beyond the dishes themselves. This is a vailed observation.

    • @relo999
      @relo999 4 месяца назад

      Oftentimes not really, unless you're projecting your own feelings onto others. Flats tend to rather mediocre looking architecture, adding a wall of satellite dishes makes it visual puke especially when they exist in otherwise good looking neighborhoods.
      Thanks to digital TV those ugly satellite towers are slowly going the way of the dinosaur.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Interesting...first I've heard of this but I can see that

  • @jessekieboom3815
    @jessekieboom3815 14 дней назад +1

    its also opposit. we will also tell you what we do like, or what does make us happy. you know exacly how we feel about things. so you wont have to guess it, or try to read our minds. because when does that work effectively?

  • @obelic71
    @obelic71 3 месяца назад +1

    I always say to foreigners that we Dutch are the only ones in the world who have NO wheater!
    is always to cold, to hot, to wett, to dry, to windy, lack of wind etc.etc.
    We are also known for HATING forced onto upon us childish rules and became Jedi masters in dodging them.
    Our neighbours see us often as the "Black sheep" ( Stubern, Anarchistic, Rebelious) sibling of the Germanic tribes family.
    That and Being the only nation that is married instead of just lives/deals with the ocean also gives us the advantage of easilier thinking out of the box.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Hah thanks for sharing!

  • @pedrolopes3542
    @pedrolopes3542 3 месяца назад +1

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😊😊😊
    The Dutch THINK they complain too much.
    Clearly you have never been to Portugal, then you will see what a constant state of completing is like. And unlike in the Netherlands, here there are real reasons to complain.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Haha yeah I was actually talking to a Portuguese guy about this who lives here. He said the Portuguese and everyone complain. But the Dutch will do it directly and openly…they will complain to superiors…to anyone…and that’s the biggest difference

  • @rikavanderhofstad
    @rikavanderhofstad 3 месяца назад +1

    what am i complaining about today (im dutch). that i ate way too much at dinner yesterday. im still struggling haha.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Haha I hope now you are better!

  • @italalamsberg5424
    @italalamsberg5424 4 месяца назад +1

    The Bank😢

  • @yunleung2631
    @yunleung2631 4 месяца назад +1

    I swear, I agree with so many dutch cultural norms it's like I was born for it.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Hahaha, you sound like you may be a Dutchie =)

    • @yunleung2631
      @yunleung2631 3 месяца назад

      @@hidavidwen Honesty. Ranting and complaining. I'm sure there could be a bit of racism or rudeness for being a foreigner, but here I come.

  • @moshemordechaivanzuiden
    @moshemordechaivanzuiden 3 месяца назад +1

    Het is een mooi land maar het zou overdekt moeten zijn.

  • @sharonchan1631
    @sharonchan1631 4 месяца назад +1

    I wish I don’t have to complain about NS anymore 🤪🤯🙈

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Hahaha, you have other things to complain about now...but ☀️☀️

  • @Cr1tical86
    @Cr1tical86 3 месяца назад

    In the Netherlands it is know that people who complain, have nothing to complain about. Once a Dutch person stops complaining, you know there is something to complain or worry about.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Thanks for sharing, haha there's something wrong if people stop complaining!

  • @steffenberr6760
    @steffenberr6760 4 месяца назад +1

    NS actually stands for no show

  • @krat5576
    @krat5576 3 месяца назад

    Complaining is like Duch team building. We all bond over our greatest frustrations.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      Haha I’ll steal
      That…Dutch teambuilding…thanks!

  • @annekebronkhorst8921
    @annekebronkhorst8921 3 месяца назад +1

    I complain about my work every day. At work. With all my colleagues who also work hard and complain even harder😂

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад

      A new strategy for teambuilding #complainingtogether =)

  • @annebokma4637
    @annebokma4637 2 месяца назад +1

    If you don't bottle up your frustrations and just let them out, you tend to be happier. We dutch just do it all the time instead of paying for a shrink once a week. 😂

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  2 месяца назад +1

      Haahah yes, smart idea!

  • @El-Rico
    @El-Rico 3 месяца назад

    Complaining is our national pastime. And if there is nothing to complain about, we'd complain about that ;)

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      Haha true, that's what I've learned

  • @arturobianco848
    @arturobianco848 3 месяца назад +1

    You know when a dutch persone is unhappy he or she stops complaining defently a very big red flagg 😁😁.

  • @thomastoadie9006
    @thomastoadie9006 4 месяца назад

    Complaining is freedom.

    • @hidavidwen
      @hidavidwen  3 месяца назад +1

      This needs to be the Dutch slogan