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As a young woman you are taught that getting pregnant is the worst thing that can happen to you and your life will be over. We do everything we can to prevent it. I’ve spoken to loads of friends who feel terrified of getting pregnant. Then you hit 30 and suddenly the messages change. Suddenly you’re a failure as a woman if you don’t have a baby and suddenly there is a race to find a partner. I am currently 37 and pregnant and I can say that I’m really excited about being a mum, but it took me a while to decide if it’s what I wanted or what society wanted and I also find it difficult to let something happen that I’ve actively prevented for so long.
Lol, definitely relate to that. I chose I didn't want kids if it didn't happen naturally before 35. Between 30 and 40 society really judges you for not being a mother
This is so true. I want to have a child but I'm so scared. When I was young I always felt a huge relief when I got my period even though I was taking the contraceptive pill. Pregnancy was the worst thing to happen in my mind. And now I'm struggling to let go of that fear. I'm turning 38 this week and still not completely sure if I only want a child because I was raised to want one. I really hate the pressure that is put on us women - by society and our bodies.
This 🙌🫣 my mother asked me if I was pregnant, I was 14 years old and my period was late for 2 days. Of course I was terrified to get pregnant, now at 35 yo I can’t even get pregnant 🤷🏻♀️. Hope such parents are happy
It IS the worst thing that can happen to your mind and body. I have friends who suffered from 3rd degree tears, ones who had the most modelesque bodies who now have to wear adult diapers cause their bladders are gone, ones who suffer from severe post partum depression. What no one tells you is how alone you will be because 98% of men will never go 50-50 with childcare or housework, it's more like 20 or 30 from their part (if you're lucky). I know of a youtuber (Nicole Thea) who died from pregnancy. Having children is not a rite of passage and most people should not be doing it. The fact that we don't have any economic support makes the situation 1000% worse too. Overall, a nightmare.
Absolutely. If we create a society where having kids is not an inconvenience, people will have more kids. Housing and jobs. But also - every workplace should have a daycare. Every mall should have a crèche. Child benefit needs to be generous. People with kids should be given extra points for pension credits etc.
As a society we need to make children more affordable? But society doesn't dictate the state of our economic condotion or these extremely inflated prices on everything we need to use. They need to look at and consider your local state and federal 'leaders' to realize the true causes of this chronic inflation and the rest of societies ills and other resulting problems!
I had my first child at 35, second at 39 and third at 41. Never miscarried. However, when I was 21 I was told I probably will never have children because of my PCOS. Between 16 and 26 years of age I also lived a very unhealthy lifestyle with lots of partying including drugs, alcohol and nicotine. I turned things around when I was 32 when I discovered yoga & natural medicine. I practiced a low gi diet and increased exercise. I cut out toxins out of my environment and diet as much as possible. I also cut down on stress by changing my career path and took herbal medicines for my adrenals. It’s never too late to turn things around. I have three super healthy children against all odds. Good luck everyone.
My naturopath (herbalist) put me on a mix of Chaste Tree, Rhodiola, Withenia, Liquorice and Iron. There might have been others too, but I can’t remember. I also took high dose Omega 3 and started with prenatal vitamins which had the natural version of folic acid 5-MTHF not the synthetic version that most do). I also got tested for MTHFR gene mutation and found I had one of the two gene mutations. Meaning I can not process (methylate) synthetic folic acid very well and have problems to detox. 1 out of 10 women has MTHFR gene mutation and should be aware of this as it can be a reason for miscarriage. I wish she would have tapped into this as well.
I had my first 2 children at 22/25 years old. I am now pregnant with our 3rd child at 30. This pregnancy has been harder in every way. I can’t say it’s because of age but it sure feels like it. Our bodies are more suited to have children at a younger age. Forget what society says and start your family when you are ready❤
@@isabellaross1472 it's also different for every woman, I had my baby at 35, amazed by how pregnancy was easy, didn't even have most of the symptoms women usually complain about, and getting pregnant was super easy, however, from time to another I find myself wondering how many children I could have if I did it earlier, how blessing my life could be with them, then I remind myself that God always chooses the best for us, and that I had an amazing fulfilling 20s, we just can't have it all...
@@jenniferkwun7417 I had my baby at 35, amazed at how easy pregnancy was, I didn’t even have most of the symptoms most women complain about, maybe it’s genetic
What was health like throughout the years? I am 31F and worried if I delay due to career then I might have a hard time for natural birth. Does being super active and fit help with natural birth?
@@dokiee2 of course being active and fit helps with birth. Kegel exercises are recommended to pregnant women for a reason, but being overweight and inactive also increases the risk of pre-eclampsia and diabetes during pregnancy.
Steven, Thank you for having me on The Diary Of A CEO and THANK YOU for talking about reproductive health, natural fertility, and infertility. You are making change by tackling these topics, and I am proud to know you and honored to be on the show.
Egg freezing has been around since the 1980's. You stated it was not an option 10 years ago when you were Steven's age. Thankfully that's not correct. I did it decades ago. 😊
I got married at 32 and found out I had infertility a year later. We were getting ready to do IVF and I got pregnant at age 34. I didn’t think we could have anymore, but I got pregnant again when I was 37. Our 2 kids are miracle babies. Put it in God’s hands and see His miracles unfold. My niece is now struggling with infertility and I am hoping she can get a miracle baby. There are many people who struggle these days it seems like. Don’t wait or try to put off your family because you may not get your family. Definitely need to exercise and eat good food.
Got pregnant on the first try at age 36 and again at 39. I don’t drink, very active, eat well and have a low stress level. I think all those things contributed to my fertility.
@@yabomsankoh2497- Good question. I have never used birth control nor have I ever drank alcohol or used cigarettes or illegal drugs or prescribed drugs over a few days. My grandmother had six sons through her 40s. I am 41 years old now. I could probably still have a child and not have a major issue judging on the women in the family with healthy lifestyles.
Why are people surprised about the low birth rates? We live in a world where people can’t afford basic food, good dental & health care, high rental / accommodation, no maternity leave in certain countries, lower / stagnant in wages (especially for women) and more available drugs and unhealthy ultra processed food. And people act like is a surprise
@@jennyj0007 the more important part is that a single income is not enough. This should be fixed and a mother could stay at home without any financial downside.
And let's not forget also that women have choices and options now, that were not available to our G/ mother's and don't want to be tied to children. They want careers and opportunities that having children would limit. Women still bear most of the responsibility for raising kids.
I was thinking about marriage and family when I was 17. I waited and prayed for my future husband and was married at 22. I’ve had 3 kids with my husband and I’m not even 30. You can have everything, but you can’t have it all at the same time. If we wait to have children until we achieve all our life goals or until “we’re ready” we’re exchanging the best of our fertile years to have a family for those goals. If we date casually instead of dating for marriage, we are exchanging the best of our fertile years for that. If you want to have a family, value yourself and your time enough to not put up with men/women who don’t value the same. You’re worth more.
That’s right. It makes more sense to go for the physically demanding and time-dependent task (motherhood) while you are physically able and within the timeline. Then you can do the mentally demanding that will be open for you to do at any time (career) when kids are grown and you have the time and space to focus on that, with the added bonus that your life is already “resolved” in its most meaningful aspect. When you’re 35 your kids will be big enough to give you space and you’ll be young enough to join the workforce! I highly recommend looking into what career you want and start learning it and networking slowly through your motherhood years.
Freeze your eggs now!!! I met my now husband at 37. We started trying when I was 39. Had 2 miscarriages, then finally at 41 got pregnant with my son. Had him at 42. I wanted a second one. Not possible anymore. The heart ache is terrible. Freeze now! It will actually cost you less. You won't be going from one fertility clinic to another, looking for hope where no hope is to be found. At 45 they are all saying, "there is no point in using your own eggs...they are too old...you have as much of chance trying the natural way." The chances are like 1% or less. Do yourself a favour, FREEZE now!
I agree . Freeze your eggs. I didn't find healthy and respectful love with a wonderful man who I feel safe with and would have loved to have babies with. I just found this kind of love at 39, but sadly, I think it's too late for me to have babies. Please freeze your eggs if you want a biological child. I wish you ladies all the best.
Same! I'm 37 and would love to be a mom. I just can't find good husband/father material and I'm not interested in doing it without that part locked down. Having a baby is a team sport. Wouldn't want to do it alone or with someone questionable.
I got pregnant at first attempt at the age of 41 and I knew I was pregnant 2 weeks after the conception. I had my daughter just before my 42 birthday. I felt lucky.
My mum had me at this age. She was always to tired to do things wjth me as a child. You'll be 52 when your kid is 10. I'm 41 already tired with 3 under my belt.
First of all, Steven, I can't believe you are in your 20s. You asked the questions every single woman dealing with infertility will have. I was so disappointed when the conversation shifted from PCOS, but little did I know you would do a 360 and come back to the topic in a fierce and detailed way. Your questions were so precise I almost forgot you are a man. Thank you for this podcast. I have learned so much. Dr Amanda, I was diagnosed with PCOS at 15. I am now 30 years old, and of all the 15 years that I have been in and out of the DR's office, not once have I had a DR explain with so much clarity what PCOS is. This episode should really go viral because so many lives will be changed. Education is so important, and I have been educated, and so will many women. We are charged £250 for a fertility consultation in the UK, and not once do they explain things the way you have done so freely. YOU ARE BOTH INCREDIBLE! Thank you, thank you, thank you. There is hope.
I pray the Lord opens your womb one day. My sister had pcos and was told no kids and then she found out she was pregnant and a month later found out she had cancer went through surgery and then chemo. Had a beautiful baby. Then told child has autism found out to be not true. I’m not being rude but you don’t have to agree and accept the Dr.s diagnosis and what they set for your life. Jesus came to give life and more abundantly. Nothing is ever done in our timing or the way we would plan for it but with God nothing is impossible even if it takes 20+ years continue to have faith ❤
Agree, he was brilliant. How can a young man grapple with our experience so well 😅 that's sheer talent for putting yourself in someone else's position. That's beyond empathy.
I had my first child at 30…. #2 at 33, #3 at 35 and my last child at #37… i’m glad I never took the pill or any form of contraception… Exercising green smoothies, and conversations with my maker, set me in a very satisfying path… 2 boys and 2 girls later our hearts are full!
I also didn’t take contraception & got pregnant on the first try at 34. I knew I didn’t want to be a young mother & figured over a decade of those pills probably wouldn’t be great for the body.
Same here! I also never took birth control, always just tracked my cycles so I think that helped. And I’ve always used non-toxic products and no fragrances.
I have never taken the pill too at 26 now. I take contraception seriously, which is why I use the good old condoms method. Sex without a condom is a husband's privilege anyway 🤷♀️
I'm a 28 year old mum of 3. Having children young is HARD. I wish it wad feasible in our society to buy a house young and raise a family off a single income. Being a mother is the greatest gift in the world but I fully understand why people wait.
Thank you so much for this comment. However, being nearly 34 and super single and childless with a good job, I'd swap with you any day. I guess the lesson is win some lose some.
I had my first kid at 29 during the pandemic and I had the finances, a husband, a property and one year Mat leave. It was still so hard. I can’t imagine how much harder it must be for those who don’t have that.
I had my first child at 17, 6 kids by 27 years old. I was married the whole time and husband worked with zero college but got military training while earning a living. We gave up "nice" vacations for visiting family or daytrips and bought "fixer-upper" homes and did the work ourselves. Had plenty of energy being young raising a family and was still young by the time they were all grown. Lots of time left for travel and nicer things in life now while enjoying my grown kids and grandchildren. You can have it all, just have to do it in the traditional time frame of family first, then wealth/influence once you've learned some common sense by 45-55.
26 not in a relationship. I have a hard time finding men that want to start a family soon. Even the older men I meet 30-late 30’s are very hesitant to be fathers. I hope the Lord will guide me. I would love a family of my own 😭💕
@@kadiansimone9128 my age range is 27-50. I just turned 37. It’s all of them. I run into the young ones don’t want to take chance on my age if they want kids and are usually not ready any way. The older guys don’t want anymore children or don’t want any at all now that they’ve reached certain age. It’s rough but I try to keep positive and believe God wants to answer my prayers.
Ladies, please wait as long as you need to mentally, emotionally, financially to be in the position to be a parent with the accompanying responsibilities. PLEASE do not do it out of pressure or judgement and with any random person. 🙏🏼
I got pregnant naturally and had a home birth at the age of 41. Me too, like many young women out there, was stressing out that after 30 years of age my eggs practically will die, I will be old and wrinkled, I will never find a partner or a job .. But once I said to my self "oh well, that's it (I actually used a bit more uncensored expression 😊), then I started enjoying my life more and I found out that listening to my body was the best thing for me. So ladies do not loose hope and don't beat yourselves up. ❤
I’m glad it worked out for you, but you aren’t the majority….in general, older women have problems getting pregnant…younger women should not plan to be “ one of the lucky ones” like you who were able to conieve after 40…but they should plan to have kids younger .
@@scarletlady3727 sure ... I did not say to plan it ,but to listen to their body and trust it and not to lose hope or to think it's their fault only ..I was trying and wanted to have kids in my 20 s and 30s but it happened in my 40s.
Listening to this just proves my children are miracles. I did all the wrong things in my 20’s and didn’t have periods for years. Experienced unexplained infertility throughout my 30’s finally having my first son at 38. Diagnosed with endometriosis at 40 during infertility treatments. Decided that more children were not in our plans. Gave birth to my second son at 43. I knew my story was inspiring but honestly I didn’t realize how much the odds were stacked against my husband and I. 😊❤
Young women are encouraged to get in debt to pursue career, get master´s degree or doctorate before having children. When you are done getting the qualifications, you need to find a job that pays well, which in reality is barely enough for living expenses. Most people can´t be financially stable before 35 years old. We added years and years of education, you are expected to spend more years and money to get the education, once you get the education you are paid the same as someone who 20 30 years ago only got high school diploma. So you are left with two choices: career with no children or children in poverty. Great choices!
Or (and nobody tells people this) you could go get a trade apprenticeship, be done, debt-free, and working by the time you're twenty, making decent, if not great money, save for five-six years, and start having kids at 25-26. Specialized trades are so underrated and so in-demand!
@@mahlatse8605 It’s not the “facts”. The crazies running the world are putting chemicals in medicine, food and every day household products to sterilize society and now they need medical “data” to present a reason why. They’ve decided to make it about age, when families are less likely to have enough money to support children in hopes they’ll have less children. When you look back at history, women were giving birth into their early fifties and having many more children. Now women are being told they’re no good beyond 32 and having more than two children is frowned upon. It’s a disturbing narrative they’re pushing and so many are falling in line with the agenda.
THIS IS THE DUMBEST STATEMENT EVER. This is why women are being led astray by fellow women. Why do you need to put yourself at a statistical disadvantage? You are lucky enough to beat the odds. Thus, you are merely exception to the rule and not the norm.
I love this comment! The fear mongering that goes on just for this lady to profit off of people’s fears. Sometimes women despite trying really hard don’t meet the one to have kids with until 30+. We don’t have as much control as we think. God does
@@teoleno4019 retired by 40 🤣 What country do you live in? Sweeden? In Brazil retirement is only by 65 these days. Much better to spend after hours work playing with my children then to be scratching my ass doing nothing significant
My partner woth PCOS got pregnant at 36 without any real effort on our part. She was told we would have serious challenges getting pregnant. Like she stopped taking the pill and was pregnant after 2 cycles. We now have the most amazing 1.5yr old boy who gives us unbelievable happiness. It's also the most challenging thing we've ever done, but it's the best thing we've ever done and we're considering #2.
This is called an anecdotal experience good sir. It does nothing to change the statistic, if anything you're lucky and an outlier from the statistic. As someone with a partner that has PCOS (and probably endometriosis too) I hope we'll be just as lucky.
That's funny we are in exactly same position! Was told I have PCOS and will need help getting pregnant, so I went off the pill because what's the point?! Well I got pregnant in 2 months. She's also 1.5yr old and we're discussing 2nd one. My friend was also told she has PCOS and got pregnant twice immediately without issues. We are so so lucky and grateful to get this opportunity to become a mom without having to go through IVF!
@@Rev3rence I have both too and we have 3 kids the first two I had to have help with (just some hormones) and then the 3 one just out of nowhere when I was 37. Something about the age 35 kicks the body in to high gear I think.
Same here. I have PCOS and also had cancer twice, I went through chemo, radiation and a stem cell transplant. I was told I would never have children naturally and that IVF would also probably not work. However, I had no problem getting pregnant and now have two boys who are 4 and 2. There is definitely reason to have hope no matter what the doctors say!
Thank you for this podcast. As a 75 year old woman who had a child "out of wedlock" in my late teens at a time when the pill was only available to married women to use for family planning, and then had to deal with a govenment system that baby snached children of unwed mothers ( I had another son in my early 30s in a different part of my country with a different ethos and a support structure in place available to ALL mothers) instead of providing support, I would like to say to all those young women out there who are conflicted about having children - having children is a blessing whether you do it alone or with support. Yes its hard, either way, but it is a blessing. Don't wait until its too late. BTW, I did eventually find my first son.
I recommend the book American Baby by Gabrielle Glaser. It follows a woman in this situation and how they found the baby that was taken from them (the unwed mother eventually married the father and they had 3 or 4 more kids). The system did not allow them to reclaim their child after they married because the demand to adopt was so high. Lots of unethical behavior in the 1950s. It was shocking.
As a new mom of two very young children, our society is set up to be anti family and anti kids. Every single simple chore that is so trivial for a single person becomes a huge project for a family with kids. We just traveled with our kids and taking a flight is a logistical nightmare, physical exhaustion and emotional rollercoaster. Every single thing is made to make families not to travel with kids. Don’t even get me started. Teaching the young that pregnancy is the worst thing, having children will ruin your life, that one can and MUST wait until late 30s to think if they want a family… what a disaster. Disaster of a society and decline of human kind where partnership, family, marriage, teamwork is disgraced.
I agree, but listen to this. A wise man recently said that, in the past we believed things we didn't understand, and those things were good for us, but now no one believes in the old ways snd we are now forced to "understand" the old ways and not just believe them anymore. The itony is that, family was never meant to be just for vacations and fun, thsts what you're experiencing. Reality. Family was always meant be nature, to produce wealth. When we as a society look at it that way, then it will all become clear. The wealthiest people on earth have their wealth from the collective efforts of their families. And with social media nowadays, theres not much limits on how your children can generate wealth for your family. Theres billions of people that would love to see content of your beautiful children doing cute/fun/inspiring things.
@@jakstew8168 thank you, I prefer my family life to be private and myself stopped posting on my personal social accounts years ago. I think if I can teach my kids how to monetize social media in a healthy productive way… yes, they can have it. Otherwise it’s destructive in my opinion to young and immature minds.
@@lecanter it’s quite possible. Anything extreme only breaks and hurts. I embrace independence while having solid family support. It’s an old fashioned thing… coming from an old fashioned family myself.
If cost of living, childcare and housing wasn't so horrific in the west, let alone housing availability, maybe more couples would be willing to start a family younger.
Do you see what technology and feminism have done to your thinking? We seem to think about why not instead of why. Reproductive technology and bad ideas have ruined western society. It is not an economic problem - but a thinking problem. My first child was born when my wife was 24 and I was 28. Our third child was born when she was 30 and I was 36. She did the childcare, something that modern women seem to not care about. If you can't raise them maybe you should not have them. You don't need a McMansion for children.
@@MsChitterchatabsolute bullshit, its a western hate against women who have baby's late . In my cultural women still get have kids well into there 40's. Most females in my family/relatives experienced this. Its only in tne west were its looked down upon.my unless wife gave birth to 15 children, at 43 she had another child.
@@MsChitterchat my dad was born to my grandma at 52 Yoruba women are incredible fertile im so grateful!!! My mom had her last at 43 and didnt even know she was pregnant 😍🧿 as a safety net I have 40 eggs frozen I only had todo 2 cycles its genetics and GOD
I got pregnant my first month trying at 36, and after 2 months trying at 38. I'm now 39 now and due with my second son in 2 weeks. I don't know why it was so easy for me to get pregnant at this age, but I'm very thankful for it. I really wasn't ready any earlier (nor had I met the right partner earlier).
Is anyone else calling BS on the “meat is bad for fertility” part of this podcast?? I seriously doubt that…why did all Indigenous societies give pregnant mothers the organ meats, such as liver, for maternal/embryo nourishment?
Acctually indigenous people don’t eat a lot and for sure - don’t eat a lot of meat. Look around and find me - especially in USA or uk - healthy looking young woman. All are obese.
Liver is high in lots of different nutrients, but one of them is vitamin A. Having high amounts of vitamin A from sources like liver can cause birth defects.
@@rubiesandstrawberries you would have to eat kilos of liver at a time. Your body would throw up before it got there. The danger is in vit a meds such as accutane or isolated vit a supplements.
As someone with a masters in maternal and child health who used to teach sexual health, I have read a lot. But this is far and away THEEEEE BEST conversation on fertility I have ever read, listened to or seen. I love the use of the marbles to show how it all works.
Can you educated ladies help out a bit with some tips and tricks regarding getting pregnant beside the recommendations in this video? All this expensive courses available everywhere are making me mad. Thanks a lot 🙏
It depends on how early the women in your family go into menopause. If you have a family history of late menopause. Eventually with unprotected sex you will fall pregnant even in your forties. The book it starts with the egg is amazing for giving your eggs the best chance.
Generations before scared women into not having babies in their 20s and encouraged men and women not to get married in their 20s. Now those same generations are concerned about the shortage of future people.
They wanted profit, more labor, cheaper workers, throw everyone in the corporate grind wheel so they could make money for Daddy Starbucks, not for the family. Peak feminism is women working a daily 8-12 hours on stimulants/SSRIs/benzos until they burn out so they could make someone else profits. Now women aren't in the house doing childbearing and chores, they get to work like their husband's AND do childbearing and chores. Liberating.
The health optimisation is a real thing for fertility. At 34 I was surprised on the drastic impact of that!! Don’t focus so much on the fear mongering and focus on what you can do, because what you can do is very powerful for many. It’s worth a shot and you’ll feel better in yourself regardless of whether you get pregnant or not. Do it for yourself to feel good because enhanced fertility (even if beautifully imperfect) feels good.
At 32 my OB-Gyne said it's difficult for me to get pregnant because of a suspected cancerous polyp and uterine fibroids. I cried a river as I wanted to be a mother naturally but then it dawned into me all the orphaned children and told myself maybe I can adopt someday. Unexpectedly after I've gone on a Pescatarian diet & having an active lifestyle, I got pregnant and although it feels like my enlarged fibroids were like a knife piercing inside my other organs and my ex left me while pregnant, I ENDURED it because I wouldnt know if I'll still get pregnant again due to my condition. There is hope and ADOPT is the next best option. Lots of orphans needing a parents' love ❤
I agree! Not sure why people don’t want to adopt… I have two kids of my own but I’d like to adopt one day as well, it breaks my heart that children, already alive, don’t have a loving home 💔
@@JessicaSmith-mc4ms because it is very hard to adopt kids in the USA and some wait years for it. Also most people want babies not older kids and I think especially older kids need love just as much. People can also adopt embryos which I don't think many people realize that is quite possible too.
Older children may already have tremendous trauma that make it extremely difficult to bond with the adoptive parents. They may also be dealing with the psychological effects of drugs in their system at birth that now affects their brain and behavior. Not every adoptive parent is able to handle all of that, costs of the adoption aside.
Wow it seems improbable that I would get pregnant at 41. But it happened. I have a healthy baby girl of 4 months. Facts about me. Never smoke, never used birth control, have a consistent and predictable period, never have had my period go away, I am overweight but I do have healthy muscle mass. This was my 3rd pregnancy.
I'm 34yrs old African women and this is a major anxiety for me! I want to have children but am not in a relationship/married yet. I fear I might never get there. I already have irregular cycle/autoimmune issues since covid😞my peers are already parents and are doing okay in their career. I hope I can change by next yr. I wouldn't wish this stress on anyone
Don't worry, it will. Focus on your diet. Remove the sugars (that includes starchy food like rice, maize etc..), wheat, dairy, and artificial preservatives in your diet. Eat unprocessed natural food and exercise regularly. And most importantly, avoid stress it is the biggest killer. Honestly, the route of many conditions is just our diet and lifestyle. 🤞
Me too! I'm almost 36 and I have chronic fatigue and can't walk far from covid. I can relate to you. I'm not sure if I'll ever be strong enough to carry a child. I used to be a triathlete pre covid.
Do not worry. Please read my comment above. Do not allow these "experts" to put doubt or fear into your mind, because when you take care of yourself and your state of mind, your body is a wonderful machine and it will give you what you desire when you at the right state of mind not age.
Majority of these things are already part of highschool biology classes... but most people do what they want and then love to complain later when they finally do want the kids. We have known the effect of smoking and alcohol on women's reproduction for 40 years and it has been talked about a lot. Common female reaction: it's not fair, i should be free to enjoy smoking and drinking whenever, party and be promiscuous -the guest forgot to mention that some STIs can cause infertility. In summary: My body my choice. Then they go beg the doctors in their thirties or forties. Those of us who espouse continance young are party poopers and bigots who do not understand progress.
From the moment I decided I wanted a baby, I got pregnant after the first try, at 30. Everybody told me it will take a year to get pregnant, so I didn't take vitamins or quit smoking, I drank alkohol. I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant, I immediately quit smoking and never drank alkohol. My second baby I had at 34. Also first try. But I guess I am lucky. I grew up in a polluted area, my husband is obese, but I also did yoga and pilates, ate healthy foods, took vitamins, went to check ups, lowered my stress level so that I bring healthy babies into the world. We moved now to a less polluted area, because my daughter was developing asthma at 3 years old. After we moved, all her problems stopped. So environment definitely plays a role.
I am 28, single income, own a home and have two children under 3! It can be done you guys! Children are a blessing and won’t keep you from your dreams!
Love this! I had my 3 kids before age 29, was a single mom with a lower paying job, no help or child support from the dad. I bought my first house at 25 and grew my property business steadily over the years. I’m now 41 with a successful business and teenagers and I feel so lucky…. I hate this narrative that young women can’t have kids and be successful- it’s so possible!
Growing up all I wanted was a family of my own. I was always told "you'll be such a great mom", "you have such a maternal instinct". I had 2 losses when I was in my early 20s just a couple years apart. I'm 37 now and though those losses were extremely difficult I know they happened for a reason. The struggle now is will I ever be able to have kids of my own? It also creates anxiety when dating. Guys who lived their free lives up to this point and want to settle down and have a family, having the conversation of "I may not be able to have children (easily)" is so difficult. My heart goes out to anyone who has experienced loss and I celebrate with the moms who were able to conceive in their late 30s, early+ 40s. 💜
Lots of tips given in this video that will help, don't give up hope, just follow all the eating healthy and exercising tips on here etc and hope for the best if it doesn't happen then maybe it's not meant to be and then you may find a lovely child through adoption. Either way all is not lost but I wish you all the best and I pray for you to have the children you so wish for. Positive mind positive results ❤
It could happen if you inwardly "give up" on it. Life has this really strange way of not giving us what we want if all we do is keep thinking about what we want. But I understand the pain.
I wouldn't bring up that conversation until the both of you are talking about marriage. You don't know if you'll have a hard time having a child or not. The past does not predict the future. Explain the situation in such a way that he understands what's going on with your body and that there is a chance (as with ANY woman) that you may not conceive. Let him make up his mind from there.
My neighbour had 8 . The youngst were born when she was 52. Twins, heathy and you schould see how creative one of them is. Her sons still live at home. Both 25 . Mom is living and very active.
@@TsetsiStoyanovaall of my grandmas were having kids until like 45-50. The keyword is "until", getting pregnant for the first time in your forties might be a problem.
All these comments saying "I was able to have children in my late 30s, 40s or even 50's all naturally, don't give up"... They didn't listen to the Doctor or what? It's not about giving up or keep trying, it's about setting realistic family goals, understand how the body works and taking the necessary steps to make sure you have the best chances, including those ppl who don't have a partner yet. Having unrealistic hopes that a miracle will happen will not make your situation better.
Literally it might sound bad but I got annoyed with all of those comments like I wanted to see what people think of this interview and all the info that she shared not when I got pregnant at whatever late age
if they listened to the doctor they'd still be doing treatments for shit they never knew they had. there is nothing miraculous about the human body being able to reproduce. If in good health, it should be able to do it like clockwork. forget what the experts say, take ownership of your health, and watch the "miracles" happen.
No matter what age we get our child it’s a blessing. We need to stop fingerpoint at people getting a child in their young or late years. I got my 4 children age 32, 35, 38 and 42. All healthy and diagnosefree children❤
People should look at their own family history when deciding. My mom naturally stopped being able to have children at 35. So did my maternal grandmother. Same age of 35. So i would not place bets on my chances of having children well into my 30s. But if I was YOUR daughter, I wouldnt be as worried.
@@adararelgnel2695 I would never have had my 4 children at age +30 and +40 if I shaped my thoughts on the family history reg pregnancy. My mother had her last and 2nd child at age 26 and my grandmother had her 8th and last child at age 28. Thanks to research in Epigenetics + knowledge from books like: The Wisdom of Your Cells: How Your Beliefs Control Your Biology by Dr. Bruce Lipton and book: The power of your subconcious mind by Joseph Murphy is why I have been able to create my family dream together with God/universe 🙏🥰
Omg. I LOVE Dr. Natalie Crawford!!! Not only is she smart and articulate, she makes things so clear, concise, personable and fun (I.e., not boring). I am SO glad she’s expanding her reach across different platforms with her noble mission. As a doctor, she is truly one in a million.
Got my fst child at 41 after a very very long journey including IVF... it's been really tough! Now we're about to celebrate our son's 1st birthday, he's absolutely wonderful. ❤
I remember being said “you need to hurry up” when I was 34, and feeling so uncomfortable and annoyed by the comment. And now, years later, I am struggling with infertility issues. I think is very important that we start having conversations like this one, with so much respect: it creates so much awareness and the message doesn’t get lost. Amazing conversation! So many important topics discussed!!
I am 22, been infertile since 18. Never been pregnant, have had a 2 year long term partner, we never got pregnant. I have PCOS and I am told I don't ovulate. It is so heartbreaking being infertile! I pray for every infertile woman through Jesus we have our babies AMEN
I have PCOS and endometriosis. I became pregnant with my son at 25 after changing my health ( lost weight through eating a lot of fresh veggies and fruit, lean meats, whole grains, and daily exercise.) At 29 I started to exercise a lot again and became pregnant with my daughter. Don't give up hope!
Very likely you’re not infertile and should use contraception if you don’t want to get pregnancy. I would need 50 hands to count the # of stories I’ve heard of women who were told they’re “infertile”, then get pregnant… Surprise!!
I rarely comment on RUclips channels, so I apologise for all the comments I’ve left recently, but I have been so incredibly ill, and in so much pain and laid up in bed, and I have NOT stopped binge watching your channel, and all the INCREDIBLE AMAZING PHENOMENAL interviews you have done. You are an absolute A+++ interviewer, I LOVE your questions. They are so deep and so well thought out, I just cannot give you enough credit. Great job on all I’ve seen!!! This has BY FAR become my all time favourite channel to watch now, and that’s saying a LOT!!! ❤️❤️❤️🧚♀️🧚♀️🧚♀️🙏🙏🙏
Hey Kristi! No apologies necessary, we love hearing from you and truly appreciate your enthusiasm and support! Hoping you get better soon! Team DOAC ❤️❤️
Hun, Jesus can heal you of your pain and illness. ❤Jesus loves you and wants you to find Him. Sin is what separates us from Him and is what causes so many problems including health, but what He did on that cross for you washes away those sins if you believe in Him. Call out to Him for help, and in your need, He will come because He cares for you. That is what He did for me~ He saved my life from depression, suicidal thoughts, and addiction. It was instant healing! Here is my prayer for you: Lord, I thank you for your kindness and your love for her. May you have mercy on her and forgive her sins. May you pour out your Spirit on her, and may she feel your presence. I command all pain to leave her in Jesus' name! May she be made whole and restore her body to the way you meant her to have; a healthy body. I thank you, Jesus, for your goodness! I praise your name! Thank you for your mercies and your healing~ In Jesus name Amen ❤
I went to America for vacation 3 years ago. Somewhere in the South. I ate lots of chocolates and cheese macaroni. My menstruation suddenly stopped. I returned to my home country, my menstruation went back to normal. Maybe foods are so gmo and not natural anymore.
Its not the GMO, its chemical-ladden micro plastics and all the horrible forever chemicals we are in contact with endlessly that do a number to our bodies. There are even micro-plastics found in babies in the womb, drinking water, and men testicles now...
Brother, thank you so much for doing this episode! My wife and I just went through our 1-1/2 year IVF journey. Luckily we were blessed to be put in contact with an amazing doctor here in DFW and we are finally pregnant. We discovered my wife having stage 2 endometriosis, 4 failed IUI procedures, 3 egg extractions, delays and not hitting the metrics for transfer; but by the grace of God and amazing doctors we are finally pregnant. So many people are not educated on this subject and I wasn't either prior to going through it. I hope so many people watch this and get the help they need. We also have 3 more miracle embryos on ice waiting in line to be here. We can't wait to have our family and the kids God meant for us to have. Thank you!
Honest question: did you feel weird about paying an RE, who is effectively doubling as an abortionist, to get your wife pregnant? We did embryo adoption, and I always felt weird knowing that our RE wouldn't hesitate to also kill our little embryo if we wanted.
Completely unrelated to the video of the topic but I am draw so much to her style. Everything to me is so beautiful, but not too much, almost like the beauty of a delicate rose, from the pastel soothing color of her suit, to the little pop of happiness in her nail color to the calming blue in the necklace. Hopefully someone's told her. Wish I could develop such a calming, soothing, happy feeling sense of style 🤍💐
Married at 18 had 4 children with my husband and now im 26. I trust in God, not on systems or the future of the world. He provided everything we have and has given us widsom financially and spiritually. As long as you place your faith in man, you will always fail. Jesus is the way the truth and the life. The key is FAITH and OBEDIENCE.
Me too married And had my first at 18 , And now 26 with 4 children , And don’t regret it, they are a blessing, i’m glad i started having children young
I tried to get pregnant with my first baby at 27 and struggled with infertility for 2 years. We finally got pregnant at 29 and had our first child at 30. My partner and I are now 31 with a one year old and I feel so much pressure to start trying to get pregnant again even though we don’t feel ready yet. Infertility struggles are just so hard. There’s so much pressure to hurrry up and get pregnant but some of us are trying and it takes multiple years and loss along the way. 💔 Her ending remarks were so meaningful. I look at my daughter now and everyday think how lucky I am to have her
Your body has a memory. It can be easier to get pregnant the 2nd time. I have a friend who needed IVF the 1st time and got pregnant naturally the 2nd time.
You have the same exact story as me!! Gave birth at 30 with the help of an IUI on first try. Now 36 about to go through a second round of medicated IUI. Have a limit of only doing 4 and if it doesnt happen then thats okay! Im head over heels about my little girl and if its not mean to be i’ll have to come to terms.
It also took me 2 years to have my son, but when I started trying for my daughter when my son was 18 months... It only took us 3 months! Blessings to you and your family!
I learned so much watching this that I cannot believe they don't teach in school. You're both so easy on the ears -- there were absolutely no filler words...um, like, uh...very impressive. She is awesome, reminds me of Elle Woods if she had gone for an MD instead of JD ✨
Also, why are we not talking about fibroids that also impact the ability to carry a baby. A lot of women are shrugged off by their doctors when complaining about heavy menstrual cycles.
I'm a physio in Toronto... Just wanted to thank you for distributing knowledge for free and accessible for everyone. I've been referring to your podcasts for a while now when patients have questions about their health. Congrats with your growth. Looking forward to see this grow beyond your expectations.
Having a child is a dream of mine - I am turning 32 this year, I am overweight and I have a stressfull life. I am acctualy quite scared, that I will never have a child of my own. My husband and I have been trying for a few months (got married only recently) and everytime my period comes I get a shot of depression. Listening to you guys has given me some much needed perspective - Thank you
There is a fertility doctor in RUclips, called Dr Kiltz, who says nutrition has a very big Impact on fertility. I don't know what you are eating, but I think listening to him might be interesting for you. ❤ I wish for you that it works Out ❤🍀🍀🍀🍀
When you are stressed you are essentially telling your body now is not a good time for a child. I really hope you can manage it and I wish you the best.
When your eggs drop, get excited and eager rather than stressed. "This is my time!" If you're thinking positively. Eating healthy. And exercising, you can do it.
Oh my gosh I’m so grateful for this episode. This is mind blowing and such important information I can’t believe I’m a 32yo woman and I’m only just learning all of this in this level of detail. I’m really so grateful for this episode
My cousin thought the same focused on her career didn't even freeze her eggs now can't have children when she thinks she is ready. And we should also take in account that our foods are much more processed which has led to decrease in fertility in both men and women so this needs to be taken in account.
Times have changed a lot since your grandma had kids. High stress, poor food quality, and a host of other issues have a lot of relatively women infertile.
I had unexplained “infertility” for 14 years; none of my pregnancies in my 20’s or 30’s lasted beyond 7 weeks. Doctors told me my only hope was IVF but that was not the route for us. I really started working my faith and declaring Exodus 23:25-26 daily, along with aligning my heart and speech with the promise. I’m now expecting my first child and enjoying a healthy pregnancy. I’ll be 42 when he’s born. You’re meant to be a mother when your child is destined to be on earth and not a moment sooner.
Omg, does this topic specifically attracts crazy ones??? You are like exotic creatures to me - in Europe you don’t meet people like that, maybe in some catholic cults.
A friend of mine was also diagnosed with PCOS but surprisingly became pregnant at a very young age. Thank you Steven for this amazimg episode, you have great intentions to help others. You also INSPIRED my husband and I to start our own RUclips Channel to share knowledge.😊
…. This podcast came at the exact time I needed it, as I am currently experiencing a miscarriage, and I can’t thank you enough for having such a compassionate person to speak to us. 🙏🏻
Women are not waiting, men are. I wanted children throughout my 20s, the men didnt. But I met the man of my dreams at 33 and I am glad I waited. We are trying now at age 34/35. Will update when it worked but I have been observing my family in law and it is tough with children! I would love my children but I am also scared. If it doesnt work, a part of me will be relieved. We can't adopt anymore in my country all of a sudden which is also a bit of a relief because I have heard multiple bad stories. I will care for a ton of cats, chicken, heck, maybe even bees if I don't have kids. Most people can't even care for a plant let alone a child.
We are in the exact same boat . I am 33 and met my husband earlier this year in February. We are trying for a baby . I will be 34 next month . I do have PCOS though and typically don’t ovulate on my own
Pregnant at 41, miscarried, pregnant at 42, now have a healthy 4 year old boy 🤷🏻♀️ My only regret about waiting is that a 4 year old is exhausting lol definitely less energy.
I will say this I have 2 children my first was at 39 and my second was.at 45. It is possible unless you have underlining issues. I wished they stopped saying you're getting old hurry up. It can happen at anytime, just look after yourself ❤
It can't happen at anytime, a woman's fertility window is relatively short and menopause won't wait forever. Having a child at 45 is only possible for a small minority of women.
@apebass2215 As long as a woman has a period, pregnancy is a possibility. In the 1960s and 1970s, women often had their last child between ages 46 and 50. Birth control made that less common in recent times.
I started trying for kids when I was turning 30 and learned that at my age group, 1/5th of couples experience infertility (including me). Most people had no idea that they had underlying issues. Many cases of infertility are unexplained - both my husband and I are in perfect health but we just couldn't conceive naturally. I wish everyday that I had started trying for kids as soon as I got married. Yes 4/5th of couples are fine to wait until later, but it's not good advice in general as it will impact a significant part of the population who will experience infertility.
I had both my kids in my early thirties. Learned so much about boosting my fertility ahead of trying and so glad I did…stuff I never knew when I was younger…got pregnant straight away both times. I had a miscarriage when I was 19, so knowing that was possible sparked a thirst for knowledge. I knew I needed to dramatically improve my lifestyle to give my body its best chance!
What is it that you did? We’re trying for our next one soon! I take a prenatal and COQ10. Got pregnant right away with our first so hoping it happens quickly again. :)
@@SJ-ru4ejI did nutritional therapy, started cycle tracking with natural cycles/got off the pill at 26, started exercising - consistent but nothing too mad, stress management, made sure I had a healthy bmi, supplements, quit alcohol (for other reasons mainly BUT I was conscious of fertility), took folic acid…so much! Xxx
This is a great conversation. I come from a very fertile family. I was finally diagnosed with infertility due to structural issues at age 38, but the fact I had no "oops" moments gave me a big clue. My partner and I met about this age. We could have done lots of intervention. He said to me something special. He said he wanted me, and didn't want to risk my health.
I wanted to speak about AMH testing as it literally saved me. I tested it at 30 years old, and found out I had very very low ovarian reserve and I still have a chance (albeit only 3%) of having my own children. Had I not tested it at all, the chances I would be able to have children would likely be 0%. Testing is really important. If you're a woman and you're reading this get tested now. It doesn't matter if you're in your 20s. My doctor told me with my AMH I should have had children before I was 25. If I had tested earlier and known that, I would've frozen eggs. Now I am 4 IVF cycles in, and nowhere close to being finished.
@@BloodSweatandFears depends where you are. Where I am I can go to any lab and ask for this test specifically. Some other places you have to ask a doctor I think for like a prescription for it
Unexpentantly got pregnant with our first at 22 and had my first at 23. We tried again after she was close to turning two, and got pregnant again in November of last year. I’ll be due this August! The Lord provides as always. 🙏🏼 Children are blessings and gifts from the Lord. ❤️ we are very fortunate to have had been gifted our first when we least expected and were least ready for her. We were not financially ready for a baby let alone for me to stay home and take care of her and survive off one income (my husband was in the middle of finishing a difficult college degree). We turned to the Lord and he provided for us and throughly blessed us beyond compare. My mom (she’s actually my step mom but she’s more of a real mother to me than my bio mom) and dad tried for 7 years to conceive my first youngest brother. She said they tried so many things, but it was when she finally let go and put it into God’s hands that she fell pregnant. I think it’s a beautiful testimony ❤️🙏🏼
@@lisaa2104her points around the 42 minute mark are straight facts and data. Everyone here commenting on late pregnancy had for one reason or another played and won with a percentage should have shown otherwise.
Thank you so much Steven!! 😍I have been following Dr Natalie for a while now, including on her RUclips channel. I am on my own fertility journey right now and her advise is helping me so much. There is no education in schools you get a basic period talk and then have to deal with it. Women fear getting pregnant, worry about failing as a women to get pregnant and it's taken until I am 32 and ready to become a mother to understand my body and what women need to do in order to get pregnant. I'm so excited to be planning a pregnancy! This is my favourite podcast episode to date. Conversation is so important.
I had my first pregnancy at 40 without trying. Twins! It was complication free. My babies are 3 now. They're intellectually ahead of their age and are healthy.
First child at 42 naturally 1st attempt, working on second at 45 and open to another...both people need to be in shape, not stressed, eating whole food diet, and supplement with Maca through the 1st trimester to maintain progeterone levels. The male needs to be just as healthy. Aim for a fresh batch of sperm after 90 days of cleansing. Definitely no alcohol or drugs as fetal alcohol syndrome is now being linked to the father and miscarriage.
It depends on how early the women in your family go into menopause. If you have a family history of late menopause. Eventually with unprotected sex you will fall pregnant even in your forties.
i got pregnant fast with my first at 35 and my second now at 38. i have hypothyroidism and BMI by 31-32 due to first pregnancy. everyone is different, so womwn, dont feel discouraged.
Don’t think my early - mid 20’s self would’ve been mentally stable enough to raise children but now that I’ve reached 30 I’m just beginning to get a better grasp at life. This video was very well timed as I’ve been thinking about children recently and the comments are encouraging that we still have a chance. Better to know now than later when it might be too late.
If you are healthy, 30 is not late at all. The problem is that so many women and men are unhealthy and infertile, making it a snowball’s chance in hell of conceiving for many couples.
As a father ot two amazing kids and a husband of an amazing, smart ans beautiful wife, I want to point out that kids should not be the end goal of a relationship, but the natural product (and only a part of) a healthy, happy union between people. The problem i have with people obsessing about having kids is that in the process they forget that love, friendship and mutual respect come first. Once this is in place, kids will thrive in a great environment and grow up happy and loved. So take care of yourself (as a couple) first, make sure you are ok with yourself and then have kids. Kids do not mend broken relationships.
I’m so grateful I never had kids. Counting my blessings ❤ Good luck to all the women trying to get pregnant. I pray for you that it will come to fruition. ❤
Younger generations are struggling to leave their parent’s homes by the age of thirty. Lucky to leave young and usually end up right back where they started ten years later. We can’t afford ourselves, much less a child. Education and housing is unaffordable. No village to save you. Homelessness on the rise. Younger generations don’t want to commit because of the lack of security. Many abstain from life mile stones in fear of losing everything.
Young people have unrealistic expectations. New cars, college without working through high school or part-time work, want only move-in ready new homes....when only having kids is time dependent. Get married, have kids....save "the good life" and travel for your 50s+.
@@CM-sy3to No guarantee of the good life ever materializing in our 50s and beyond at this point with the job market, cost of living and a single medical emergency potentially wiping out life savings. It isn't really working out anymore even if you follow the rules; that's at least the case for a lot of people. There's no "sure shots" anymore, so people are choosing to prioritize stability over the short term.
@@CM-sy3toWe'll get no retirement money at this rate, so I'd rather go on vacations now than wait until my 50s and then get shot, mugged, nuked, or vaccinated
@@CM-sy3tonot really. I make a decent wage, around $65k a year before taxes and am working to increase it as a background note. The average price for a home is over 400k. The interest rate for a mortgage is a bit over 7% right now. Every $100k on loan this costs around $7.1k a year. So if you take a $300k loan you pay $21k a year in just interest. That interest payment is $1750 a month, plus the mortgage payment, plus insurance, plus car insurance, plus gas, plus food, plus emergency costs that pop up. That is basically my entire wage if we live very frugally. Kids take extra money as well. Have to get insurance for them, clothe them, feed them, keep them healthy, educate them, etc. I don't have a car payment and I bought my car used. I also get over 40mpg, but gas is expensive. It is extremely hard to support a family for young people with the current inflation and cost of everything. I do not eat out, I cook at home, and don't buy unnecessary goods. The current economy is simply not conducive to young people creating families even while living frugally.
I did IVF with her partner Dr. Skillern in the office before this one and she was amazing and caring. If anyone in Austin is looking for a great doctor, I recommend them. I’ve been to others and she was by the far the kindest, most knowledgeable and forward thinking. I have a 4 year old daughter now because of her.
@@labrigful no ma'am, I was a perfect 28 day cycle just had eggs that needed some extra heavy fertility drugs to get me pregnant the first time, the next 4 times, one is an angel baby, happened without any help from any doctor.
Thank you Dr Natalie Crawford. It was very comprehensive without bringing shame of fear on the table. Talking from a point of view of a woman in her twenties, I felt like you were talking directly at the audience. I needed this « compassionate human and honest » podcast. Merci beaucoup!!
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As a young woman you are taught that getting pregnant is the worst thing that can happen to you and your life will be over. We do everything we can to prevent it. I’ve spoken to loads of friends who feel terrified of getting pregnant. Then you hit 30 and suddenly the messages change. Suddenly you’re a failure as a woman if you don’t have a baby and suddenly there is a race to find a partner. I am currently 37 and pregnant and I can say that I’m really excited about being a mum, but it took me a while to decide if it’s what I wanted or what society wanted and I also find it difficult to let something happen that I’ve actively prevented for so long.
Lol, definitely relate to that. I chose I didn't want kids if it didn't happen naturally before 35. Between 30 and 40 society really judges you for not being a mother
This is so true. I want to have a child but I'm so scared. When I was young I always felt a huge relief when I got my period even though I was taking the contraceptive pill. Pregnancy was the worst thing to happen in my mind. And now I'm struggling to let go of that fear. I'm turning 38 this week and still not completely sure if I only want a child because I was raised to want one. I really hate the pressure that is put on us women - by society and our bodies.
This 🙌🫣 my mother asked me if I was pregnant, I was 14 years old and my period was late for 2 days. Of course I was terrified to get pregnant, now at 35 yo I can’t even get pregnant 🤷🏻♀️. Hope such parents are happy
OMG im a guy and I see these double standards everywhere. Honestly I symphathize with you ladies.
It IS the worst thing that can happen to your mind and body. I have friends who suffered from 3rd degree tears, ones who had the most modelesque bodies who now have to wear adult diapers cause their bladders are gone, ones who suffer from severe post partum depression. What no one tells you is how alone you will be because 98% of men will never go 50-50 with childcare or housework, it's more like 20 or 30 from their part (if you're lucky). I know of a youtuber (Nicole Thea) who died from pregnancy. Having children is not a rite of passage and most people should not be doing it. The fact that we don't have any economic support makes the situation 1000% worse too. Overall, a nightmare.
Question NOT asked: What can we do as a society to make kids for young people more feasible economically? People want kids but can't afford them
They can plan their children wisely and work to have a good paying career beforehand, in order to be prepared for your babies to arrive.
That's the key question..
Absolutely. If we create a society where having kids is not an inconvenience, people will have more kids.
Housing and jobs. But also - every workplace should have a daycare. Every mall should have a crèche. Child benefit needs to be generous. People with kids should be given extra points for pension credits etc.
As a society we need to make children more affordable? But society doesn't dictate the state of our economic condotion or these extremely inflated prices on everything we need to use. They need to look at and consider your local state and federal 'leaders' to realize the true causes of this chronic inflation and the rest of societies ills and other resulting problems!
The more developed and welathy a society is, the lower the birth rate is. It's not about money, it's about being comfortable.
I had my first child at 35, second at 39 and third at 41. Never miscarried. However, when I was 21 I was told I probably will never have children because of my PCOS. Between 16 and 26 years of age I also lived a very unhealthy lifestyle with lots of partying including drugs, alcohol and nicotine. I turned things around when I was 32 when I discovered yoga & natural medicine. I practiced a low gi diet and increased exercise. I cut out toxins out of my environment and diet as much as possible. I also cut down on stress by changing my career path and took herbal medicines for my adrenals. It’s never too late to turn things around. I have three super healthy children against all odds. Good luck everyone.
What were the herbs you took?
My naturopath (herbalist) put me on a mix of Chaste Tree, Rhodiola, Withenia, Liquorice and Iron. There might have been others too, but I can’t remember. I also took high dose Omega 3 and started with prenatal vitamins which had the natural version of folic acid 5-MTHF not the synthetic version that most do). I also got tested for MTHFR gene mutation and found I had one of the two gene mutations. Meaning I can not process (methylate) synthetic folic acid very well and have problems to detox. 1 out of 10 women has MTHFR gene mutation and should be aware of this as it can be a reason for miscarriage. I wish she would have tapped into this as well.
@@LoveforAllah100just replied to you in a new comment. Hope you can see it.
What’s a low gi diet?
Low Glycemic Index Diet to prevent blood sugar spikes as I already had a mild insulin resistance from my PCOS.
According to society, < 25 is too young to have children yet > 32 is too late, women can’t win so do whatever you want with no regrets
Let’s not listen to society
I had my first 2 children at 22/25 years old. I am now pregnant with our 3rd child at 30. This pregnancy has been harder in every way. I can’t say it’s because of age but it sure feels like it. Our bodies are more suited to have children at a younger age. Forget what society says and start your family when you are ready❤
@@isabellaross1472 it's also different for every woman, I had my baby at 35, amazed by how pregnancy was easy, didn't even have most of the symptoms women usually complain about, and getting pregnant was super easy, however, from time to another I find myself wondering how many children I could have if I did it earlier, how blessing my life could be with them, then I remind myself that God always chooses the best for us, and that I had an amazing fulfilling 20s, we just can't have it all...
@@isabellaross1472maybe also because you have to take care two children plus the pregnancy.
@@jenniferkwun7417 I had my baby at 35, amazed at how easy pregnancy was, I didn’t even have most of the symptoms most women complain about, maybe it’s genetic
I had my first child aged 34. My second 37 and my third 40.
All naturally. So DON’T GIVE UP!! ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
What was health like throughout the years? I am 31F and worried if I delay due to career then I might have a hard time for natural birth. Does being super active and fit help with natural birth?
@@dokiee2 of course being active and fit helps with birth. Kegel exercises are recommended to pregnant women for a reason, but being overweight and inactive also increases the risk of pre-eclampsia and diabetes during pregnancy.
Yep I ended up with 4 between 34-40. Now I'm worried I'll get pregnant again after 40. Birth control makes me so emotional and sick.
Agreed! I am currently 26 weeks pregnant with out first child at the age of 37. Don't give up and stay in faith is right!
Had my Son at 38 and my daughter at 44, everything was fine❤️
Steven, Thank you for having me on The Diary Of A CEO and THANK YOU for talking about reproductive health, natural fertility, and infertility. You are making change by tackling these topics, and I am proud to know you and honored to be on the show.
I'm 52 and have had my children, however I still found this episode so informative and deeply interesting
No, THANK YOU ma'am
So glad to hear your voice when I clicked. So much better then some Hollywood guru or success "expert"
Egg freezing has been around since the 1980's. You stated it was not an option 10 years ago when you were Steven's age. Thankfully that's not correct. I did it decades ago. 😊
Incredibly informative and accessible! Thank you
I got pregnant randomly at 50. l hadn't had a period for 2 years!! He's 10 now ..never say never 😊😊
Yes I’m so pleased to hear I’m 46 and I want a baby 🙈
Very rare. Don't let people think it's the norm but kudos and Thank God for your miracle. 🙏🏾.
And still you threw hos father away.
❤️❤️❤️u will fall preg
its not normal at all and even have down sides.
I got married at 32 and found out I had infertility a year later. We were getting ready to do IVF and I got pregnant at age 34. I didn’t think we could have anymore, but I got pregnant again when I was 37. Our 2 kids are miracle babies. Put it in God’s hands and see His miracles unfold.
My niece is now struggling with infertility and I am hoping she can get a miracle baby. There are many people who struggle these days it seems like. Don’t wait or try to put off your family because you may not get your family. Definitely need to exercise and eat good food.
i wish I was infertile that's a blessing to me
Ivf is man made
all babies are miracles from God, psalm 127:3
@@Tee-kc3pn Yeah I have had friends who have done IVF. I am glad I didn't have to go that route.
Had my first baby at 32 and went on to have another 5 babies after that. The last birth at age 43. Absolutely no intervention.
Wow
Thanks for that. It makes me hopeful x
Doubt it
Good for you. Not so easy for many women over 35.
@@urgentcaredrwhat’s not kind?
Got pregnant on the first try at age 36 and again at 39. I don’t drink, very active, eat well and have a low stress level. I think all those things contributed to my fertility.
Did you ever take birth control?
Definitely did.
@@yabomsankoh2497- Good question. I have never used birth control nor have I ever drank alcohol or used cigarettes or illegal drugs or prescribed drugs over a few days. My grandmother had six sons through her 40s. I am 41 years old now. I could probably still have a child and not have a major issue judging on the women in the family with healthy lifestyles.
@@kirakjear9812 It definitely helps a lot super happy for you🥰🙏👏🇩🇰
Why are people surprised about the low birth rates? We live in a world where people can’t afford basic food, good dental & health care, high rental / accommodation, no maternity leave in certain countries, lower / stagnant in wages (especially for women) and more available drugs and unhealthy ultra processed food. And people act like is a surprise
Do you know only USA is the only western country that doesn't provided guaranteed maternity leave. Very sad.
@@jennyj0007 the more important part is that a single income is not enough. This should be fixed and a mother could stay at home without any financial downside.
And let's not forget also that women have choices and options now, that were not available to our G/ mother's and don't want to be tied to children. They want careers and opportunities that having children would limit. Women still bear most of the responsibility for raising kids.
@angelanorton5975 this is the downside to selling the illusion "You can have it all" the reality is "Everything comes with a compromise"
Yeah but you have money for stupidity and going out and travel. Its excuses. Our parents had it worse and they had children
I was thinking about marriage and family when I was 17. I waited and prayed for my future husband and was married at 22. I’ve had 3 kids with my husband and I’m not even 30. You can have everything, but you can’t have it all at the same time. If we wait to have children until we achieve all our life goals or until “we’re ready” we’re exchanging the best of our fertile years to have a family for those goals. If we date casually instead of dating for marriage, we are exchanging the best of our fertile years for that. If you want to have a family, value yourself and your time enough to not put up with men/women who don’t value the same. You’re worth more.
True!
AMEN ❤
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That’s right. It makes more sense to go for the physically demanding and time-dependent task (motherhood) while you are physically able and within the timeline. Then you can do the mentally demanding that will be open for you to do at any time (career) when kids are grown and you have the time and space to focus on that, with the added bonus that your life is already “resolved” in its most meaningful aspect. When you’re 35 your kids will be big enough to give you space and you’ll be young enough to join the workforce! I highly recommend looking into what career you want and start learning it and networking slowly through your motherhood years.
love this comment
I’m 36. My issues is not being ready but rather not finding the right person to have children with
Freeze your eggs now!!! I met my now husband at 37. We started trying when I was 39. Had 2 miscarriages, then finally at 41 got pregnant with my son. Had him at 42. I wanted a second one. Not possible anymore. The heart ache is terrible. Freeze now! It will actually cost you less. You won't be going from one fertility clinic to another, looking for hope where no hope is to be found. At 45 they are all saying, "there is no point in using your own eggs...they are too old...you have as much of chance trying the natural way." The chances are like 1% or less. Do yourself a favour, FREEZE now!
I agree . Freeze your eggs. I didn't find healthy and respectful love with a wonderful man who I feel safe with and would have loved to have babies with. I just found this kind of love at 39, but sadly, I think it's too late for me to have babies. Please freeze your eggs if you want a biological child. I wish you ladies all the best.
I was looking for this comment !
Same! I'm 37 and would love to be a mom. I just can't find good husband/father material and I'm not interested in doing it without that part locked down. Having a baby is a team sport. Wouldn't want to do it alone or with someone questionable.
@@monicav6404what’s the age where women should start thinking ab freezing their eggs? As storage is expensive. I’m 30 but I know I want to have kids
I got pregnant at first attempt at the age of 41 and I knew I was pregnant 2 weeks after the conception. I had my daughter just before my 42 birthday. I felt lucky.
Hope she's not unhealthy and don't have chronic ailments like asthma, allergies, adhd, or autism.
My mum had me at this age. She was always to tired to do things wjth me as a child. You'll be 52 when your kid is 10. I'm 41 already tired with 3 under my belt.
@@cboyyerisk of down syndrome increases.
guess they should give up and not have a child at all@@jennyj0007
@@cboyyewow what sort of reply is this???
First of all, Steven, I can't believe you are in your 20s. You asked the questions every single woman dealing with infertility will have. I was so disappointed when the conversation shifted from PCOS, but little did I know you would do a 360 and come back to the topic in a fierce and detailed way. Your questions were so precise I almost forgot you are a man. Thank you for this podcast. I have learned so much. Dr Amanda, I was diagnosed with PCOS at 15. I am now 30 years old, and of all the 15 years that I have been in and out of the DR's office, not once have I had a DR explain with so much clarity what PCOS is. This episode should really go viral because so many lives will be changed. Education is so important, and I have been educated, and so will many women. We are charged £250 for a fertility consultation in the UK, and not once do they explain things the way you have done so freely. YOU ARE BOTH INCREDIBLE! Thank you, thank you, thank you. There is hope.
I pray the Lord opens your womb one day. My sister had pcos and was told no kids and then she found out she was pregnant and a month later found out she had cancer went through surgery and then chemo. Had a beautiful baby. Then told child has autism found out to be not true. I’m not being rude but you don’t have to agree and accept the Dr.s diagnosis and what they set for your life. Jesus came to give life and more abundantly. Nothing is ever done in our timing or the way we would plan for it but with God nothing is impossible even if it takes 20+ years continue to have faith ❤
Agree, he was brilliant. How can a young man grapple with our experience so well 😅 that's sheer talent for putting yourself in someone else's position. That's beyond empathy.
hes not! hes 32 i think
I had my first child at 30…. #2 at 33, #3 at 35 and my last child at #37… i’m glad I never took the pill or any form of contraception… Exercising green smoothies, and conversations with my maker, set me in a very satisfying path… 2 boys and 2 girls later our hearts are full!
I also didn’t take contraception & got pregnant on the first try at 34. I knew I didn’t want to be a young mother & figured over a decade of those pills probably wouldn’t be great for the body.
Beautiful to hear ‘our hearts are full’ ❤
Literally the same! 1st at 30 & on baby #2 currently waiting to deliver any day at 33.
Same here! I also never took birth control, always just tracked my cycles so I think that helped. And I’ve always used non-toxic products and no fragrances.
I have never taken the pill too at 26 now. I take contraception seriously, which is why I use the good old condoms method. Sex without a condom is a husband's privilege anyway 🤷♀️
I'm a 28 year old mum of 3. Having children young is HARD. I wish it wad feasible in our society to buy a house young and raise a family off a single income. Being a mother is the greatest gift in the world but I fully understand why people wait.
Thank you so much for this comment. However, being nearly 34 and super single and childless with a good job, I'd swap with you any day. I guess the lesson is win some lose some.
I had my first kid at 29 during the pandemic and I had the finances, a husband, a property and one year Mat leave. It was still so hard. I can’t imagine how much harder it must be for those who don’t have that.
I had my first child at 17, 6 kids by 27 years old. I was married the whole time and husband worked with zero college but got military training while earning a living. We gave up "nice" vacations for visiting family or daytrips and bought "fixer-upper" homes and did the work ourselves. Had plenty of energy being young raising a family and was still young by the time they were all grown. Lots of time left for travel and nicer things in life now while enjoying my grown kids and grandchildren. You can have it all, just have to do it in the traditional time frame of family first, then wealth/influence once you've learned some common sense by 45-55.
💯 my mum had me at 40. Too old to do stuff and discipline me too 😂. Didn't make the same mistake
@@CM-sy3tonot sure about 6 but if I had more energy and my body could take another c section I'd have 4 instead of 3. Also advice get off the pill!!!
26 not in a relationship. I have a hard time finding men that want to start a family soon. Even the older men I meet 30-late 30’s are very hesitant to be fathers. I hope the Lord will guide me. I would love a family of my own 😭💕
I hope you get your heart's desires
Are you Christian? Find a Christian man, most of them are eager to have kids.
You have PLENTY of time. Stay positive and keep the faith. I’m 37, I’m terrified.
Same age, exact same issue. The younger men especially in America are very immature.
@@kadiansimone9128 my age range is 27-50. I just turned 37. It’s all of them. I run into the young ones don’t want to take chance on my age if they want kids and are usually not ready any way. The older guys don’t want anymore children or don’t want any at all now that they’ve reached certain age. It’s rough but I try to keep positive and believe God wants to answer my prayers.
Ladies, please wait as long as you need to mentally, emotionally, financially to be in the position to be a parent with the accompanying responsibilities. PLEASE do not do it out of pressure or judgement and with any random person. 🙏🏼
I got pregnant naturally and had a home birth at the age of 41. Me too, like many young women out there, was stressing out that after 30 years of age my eggs practically will die, I will be old and wrinkled, I will never find a partner or a job .. But once I said to my self "oh well, that's it (I actually used a bit more uncensored expression 😊), then I started enjoying my life more and I found out that listening to my body was the best thing for me. So ladies do not loose hope and don't beat yourselves up. ❤
You are the 3-5 percenter. Most women will not get pregnant naturally at 41 with your first kid.
This!!!! ❤
Its a western backward ideology to hate on women. In my culture and family the majority are still having kids at 40+. Whats wrong with the west?
I’m glad it worked out for you, but you aren’t the majority….in general, older women have problems getting pregnant…younger women should not plan to be “ one of the lucky ones” like you who were able to conieve after 40…but they should plan to have kids younger .
@@scarletlady3727 sure ... I did not say to plan it ,but to listen to their body and trust it and not to lose hope or to think it's their fault only ..I was trying and wanted to have kids in my 20 s and 30s but it happened in my 40s.
Listening to this just proves my children are miracles. I did all the wrong things in my 20’s and didn’t have periods for years. Experienced unexplained infertility throughout my 30’s finally having my first son at 38. Diagnosed with endometriosis at 40 during infertility treatments. Decided that more children were not in our plans. Gave birth to my second son at 43. I knew my story was inspiring but honestly I didn’t realize how much the odds were stacked against my husband and I. 😊❤
Thank you for sharing your story! This gives me hope❤
Young women are encouraged to get in debt to pursue career, get master´s degree or doctorate before having children. When you are done getting the qualifications, you need to find a job that pays well, which in reality is barely enough for living expenses. Most people can´t be financially stable before 35 years old. We added years and years of education, you are expected to spend more years and money to get the education, once you get the education you are paid the same as someone who 20 30 years ago only got high school diploma. So you are left with two choices: career with no children or children in poverty. Great choices!
Or (and nobody tells people this) you could go get a trade apprenticeship, be done, debt-free, and working by the time you're twenty, making decent, if not great money, save for five-six years, and start having kids at 25-26. Specialized trades are so underrated and so in-demand!
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I grew up in poverty because of the size of my family. Poverty is not for a lifetime.
The women choose that path. Men want them at home raising babies, not working
Or have kids and then get a career after, cuz of you're at home then that's a ton of the work that you'd be paying someone else to do.
I got pregnant for the first time at 36, I'll be 37 when I deliver. Dont let these videos scare you. God is in control, not us.
I don't think it's to scare people. It's to educate because you have women out her being denial. The facts are the facts
@@mahlatse8605 It’s not the “facts”. The crazies running the world are putting chemicals in medicine, food and every day household products to sterilize society and now they need medical “data” to present a reason why. They’ve decided to make it about age, when families are less likely to have enough money to support children in hopes they’ll have less children. When you look back at history, women were giving birth into their early fifties and having many more children. Now women are being told they’re no good beyond 32 and having more than two children is frowned upon. It’s a disturbing narrative they’re pushing and so many are falling in line with the agenda.
THIS IS THE DUMBEST STATEMENT EVER. This is why women are being led astray by fellow women. Why do you need to put yourself at a statistical disadvantage? You are lucky enough to beat the odds. Thus, you are merely exception to the rule and not the norm.
AMEN, AND AMEN! GOD BLESS!
I love this comment! The fear mongering that goes on just for this lady to profit off of people’s fears. Sometimes women despite trying really hard don’t meet the one to have kids with until 30+. We don’t have as much control as we think. God does
My wife fell pregnant at 37 years, 40 years, and 42 years old. We had 1 miscarriage. This is all scary, but I thank God !
You ruined her life. She could have retired by 40, but now she is stuck playing with slime for the next 18 years.
@@teoleno4019 maybe she really wanted to have these children? can you not just be happy for people?
Fell?
@@teoleno4019 retired by 40 🤣 What country do you live in? Sweeden? In Brazil retirement is only by 65 these days. Much better to spend after hours work playing with my children then to be scratching my ass doing nothing significant
@@thehuskyoneandonly it's 67 in America for my generation
My partner woth PCOS got pregnant at 36 without any real effort on our part. She was told we would have serious challenges getting pregnant. Like she stopped taking the pill and was pregnant after 2 cycles. We now have the most amazing 1.5yr old boy who gives us unbelievable happiness. It's also the most challenging thing we've ever done, but it's the best thing we've ever done and we're considering #2.
This is called an anecdotal experience good sir. It does nothing to change the statistic, if anything you're lucky and an outlier from the statistic.
As someone with a partner that has PCOS (and probably endometriosis too) I hope we'll be just as lucky.
That's funny we are in exactly same position! Was told I have PCOS and will need help getting pregnant, so I went off the pill because what's the point?! Well I got pregnant in 2 months. She's also 1.5yr old and we're discussing 2nd one.
My friend was also told she has PCOS and got pregnant twice immediately without issues.
We are so so lucky and grateful to get this opportunity to become a mom without having to go through IVF!
@@Rev3rence I have both too and we have 3 kids the first two I had to have help with (just some hormones) and then the 3 one just out of nowhere when I was 37. Something about the age 35 kicks the body in to high gear I think.
@@krystelhardesty9960 needed some help with - hormones, what does that entail? first time I'm hearing of something like that 👀
Same here. I have PCOS and also had cancer twice, I went through chemo, radiation and a stem cell transplant. I was told I would never have children naturally and that IVF would also probably not work. However, I had no problem getting pregnant and now have two boys who are 4 and 2. There is definitely reason to have hope no matter what the doctors say!
Thank you for this podcast. As a 75 year old woman who had a child "out of wedlock" in my late teens at a time when the pill was only available to married women to use for family planning, and then had to deal with a govenment system that baby snached children of unwed mothers ( I had another son in my early 30s in a different part of my country with a different ethos and a support structure in place available to ALL mothers) instead of providing support, I would like to say to all those young women out there who are conflicted about having children - having children is a blessing whether you do it alone or with support. Yes its hard, either way, but it is a blessing. Don't wait until its too late. BTW, I did eventually find my first son.
No sex before marriage would be nice too
I am horrified you went through that I am so very sorry
I recommend the book American Baby by Gabrielle Glaser. It follows a woman in this situation and how they found the baby that was taken from them (the unwed mother eventually married the father and they had 3 or 4 more kids). The system did not allow them to reclaim their child after they married because the demand to adopt was so high. Lots of unethical behavior in the 1950s. It was shocking.
As a new mom of two very young children, our society is set up to be anti family and anti kids.
Every single simple chore that is so trivial for a single person becomes a huge project for a family with kids.
We just traveled with our kids and taking a flight is a logistical nightmare, physical exhaustion and emotional rollercoaster. Every single thing is made to make families not to travel with kids. Don’t even get me started.
Teaching the young that pregnancy is the worst thing, having children will ruin your life, that one can and MUST wait until late 30s to think if they want a family… what a disaster.
Disaster of a society and decline of human kind where partnership, family, marriage, teamwork is disgraced.
us american society makes its hard, and then creates also obsessive helicopter parenting
two sad extremes
I agree, but listen to this. A wise man recently said that, in the past we believed things we didn't understand, and those things were good for us, but now no one believes in the old ways snd we are now forced to "understand" the old ways and not just believe them anymore. The itony is that, family was never meant to be just for vacations and fun, thsts what you're experiencing. Reality. Family was always meant be nature, to produce wealth. When we as a society look at it that way, then it will all become clear. The wealthiest people on earth have their wealth from the collective efforts of their families. And with social media nowadays, theres not much limits on how your children can generate wealth for your family. Theres billions of people that would love to see content of your beautiful children doing cute/fun/inspiring things.
@@jakstew8168 thank you, I prefer my family life to be private and myself stopped posting on my personal social accounts years ago.
I think if I can teach my kids how to monetize social media in a healthy productive way… yes, they can have it.
Otherwise it’s destructive in my opinion to young and immature minds.
@@lecanter it’s quite possible. Anything extreme only breaks and hurts. I embrace independence while having solid family support. It’s an old fashioned thing… coming from an old fashioned family myself.
Yeah it’s so sad 😢
If cost of living, childcare and housing wasn't so horrific in the west, let alone housing availability, maybe more couples would be willing to start a family younger.
not just the west mate. It's everywhere.
@@jennyj0007lol 100 times worse in the East 😂
Do you see what technology and feminism have done to your thinking? We seem to think about why not instead of why. Reproductive technology and bad ideas have ruined western society. It is not an economic problem - but a thinking problem. My first child was born when my wife was 24 and I was 28. Our third child was born when she was 30 and I was 36. She did the childcare, something that modern women seem to not care about. If you can't raise them maybe you should not have them. You don't need a McMansion for children.
Feminist laws prevent women from marrying men with means.,
This is the thing and this is why they allow illegals in so easily these days
I am aware that i am blessed by having had two wonderful kids after 40 and my sister became a mom at 45 of a perfect daughter. Feel very lucky.
Yes lucky. Most women can’t conceive and have a full pregnancy after 40.
@@MsChitterchatabsolute bullshit, its a western hate against women who have baby's late . In my cultural women still get have kids well into there 40's. Most females in my family/relatives experienced this. Its only in tne west were its looked down upon.my unless wife gave birth to 15 children, at 43 she had another child.
yayayayayay I LOOOOOVE stories like this amazing omg so perfect
@@MsChitterchat my dad was born to my grandma at 52 Yoruba women are incredible fertile im so grateful!!! My mom had her last at 43 and didnt even know she was pregnant 😍🧿 as a safety net I have 40 eggs frozen I only had todo 2 cycles its genetics and GOD
@@MsChitterchatThat’s a blatant lie. Go do your damn research on it. More and more women are having kids in their 40’s dummy.
I got pregnant my first month trying at 36, and after 2 months trying at 38. I'm now 39 now and due with my second son in 2 weeks. I don't know why it was so easy for me to get pregnant at this age, but I'm very thankful for it. I really wasn't ready any earlier (nor had I met the right partner earlier).
Because women have ALWAYS been able to get pregnant in their 30's . If people were having 9 and 10 kids....women were pregnant in their 30s
@@mochamommyATX being pregnant in your forties also wasnt that rare. BUT it was a 3rd, 5th or 10th pregnancy.
Same here. Almost exact same timeline
bc it was in GODS DESIGN❤theres science and theres GOD I am so happy for you!!!!
Most people in this forum are suffering with infertility so you should be more sensitive not to sound like you’re bragging!
Is anyone else calling BS on the “meat is bad for fertility” part of this podcast?? I seriously doubt that…why did all Indigenous societies give pregnant mothers the organ meats, such as liver, for maternal/embryo nourishment?
Agreed - and I’m a vegetarian. It’s not meat, if anything it’s poor quality meat.
Women doctors, unreliable, emotional, opinionated rather than factual
Acctually indigenous people don’t eat a lot and for sure - don’t eat a lot of meat. Look around and find me - especially in USA or uk - healthy looking young woman. All are obese.
Liver is high in lots of different nutrients, but one of them is vitamin A. Having high amounts of vitamin A from sources like liver can cause birth defects.
@@rubiesandstrawberries you would have to eat kilos of liver at a time. Your body would throw up before it got there. The danger is in vit a meds such as accutane or isolated vit a supplements.
That which is delayed is not necessarily denied. Good luck to all of you ladies trying to fall pregnant ❤
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Its amazing the capacity this woman has to explain in simple words, difficult concepts.
Yes, but I found it challenging to sit through the intonation of her speech. Like everything sounds like a question???
As someone with a masters in maternal and child health who used to teach sexual health, I have read a lot. But this is far and away THEEEEE BEST conversation on fertility I have ever read, listened to or seen. I love the use of the marbles to show how it all works.
I’m 36 & on every single one of these infertility RUclips videos…. The comment section always gives me hope. Thank you ladies 🥹
Have you already found the YT channel of Marc Sklar ("FertilityTV") ?
Yes same here and I’m 35, no children and no spouse. Doesn’t look like it will happen any time in the very near future, but it does give me hope.
Can you educated ladies help out a bit with some tips and tricks regarding getting pregnant beside the recommendations in this video? All this expensive courses available everywhere are making me mad. Thanks a lot 🙏
Their lying to you. Listen to the doctor
It depends on how early the women in your family go into menopause. If you have a family history of late menopause. Eventually with unprotected sex you will fall pregnant even in your forties.
The book it starts with the egg is amazing for giving your eggs the best chance.
Generations before scared women into not having babies in their 20s and encouraged men and women not to get married in their 20s. Now those same generations are concerned about the shortage of future people.
What shortage?? World is in overpopulation I heard?
They wanted profit, more labor, cheaper workers, throw everyone in the corporate grind wheel so they could make money for Daddy Starbucks, not for the family. Peak feminism is women working a daily 8-12 hours on stimulants/SSRIs/benzos until they burn out so they could make someone else profits. Now women aren't in the house doing childbearing and chores, they get to work like their husband's AND do childbearing and chores. Liberating.
Generation* definetely not generations.
Gen x or mil’s ?
Yeah so tragic. I was called a freak for wanting kids young by Gen X.
At 31 years old, this is the best podcast i’ve ever watched/listened to.
I am thinking the same thing!
I'm 31, and thankfully, pregnant... I'm sat here thinking 'I'm glad I didn't wait longer'!
Almost 31, TTC, and this was therapeutic. I love listening to experts talk about their field.
The health optimisation is a real thing for fertility. At 34 I was surprised on the drastic impact of that!! Don’t focus so much on the fear mongering and focus on what you can do, because what you can do is very powerful for many. It’s worth a shot and you’ll feel better in yourself regardless of whether you get pregnant or not. Do it for yourself to feel good because enhanced fertility (even if beautifully imperfect) feels good.
Your response is probably because of decisions you made. Were they informed decisions?
At 32 my OB-Gyne said it's difficult for me to get pregnant because of a suspected cancerous polyp and uterine fibroids. I cried a river as I wanted to be a mother naturally but then it dawned into me all the orphaned children and told myself maybe I can adopt someday.
Unexpectedly after I've gone on a Pescatarian diet & having an active lifestyle, I got pregnant and although it feels like my enlarged fibroids were like a knife piercing inside my other organs and my ex left me while pregnant, I ENDURED it because I wouldnt know if I'll still get pregnant again due to my condition. There is hope and ADOPT is the next best option.
Lots of orphans needing a parents' love ❤
I agree! Not sure why people don’t want to adopt… I have two kids of my own but I’d like to adopt one day as well, it breaks my heart that children, already alive, don’t have a loving home 💔
@@JessicaSmith-mc4ms because it is very hard to adopt kids in the USA and some wait years for it. Also most people want babies not older kids and I think especially older kids need love just as much. People can also adopt embryos which I don't think many people realize that is quite possible too.
Older children may already have tremendous trauma that make it extremely difficult to bond with the adoptive parents. They may also be dealing with the psychological effects of drugs in their system at birth that now affects their brain and behavior. Not every adoptive parent is able to handle all of that, costs of the adoption aside.
That’s beautiful
@@michelleg7”adopting embryos” is such an ironic phrase because the adopting part implies a human and the embryo part implies just a clump of cells
Wow it seems improbable that I would get pregnant at 41. But it happened. I have a healthy baby girl of 4 months. Facts about me. Never smoke, never used birth control, have a consistent and predictable period, never have had my period go away, I am overweight but I do have healthy muscle mass. This was my 3rd pregnancy.
That’s awesome ! How’s your diet ? I am struggling at age 34 for child number 4 it’s been six years.
I'm 34yrs old African women and this is a major anxiety for me! I want to have children but am not in a relationship/married yet. I fear I might never get there. I already have irregular cycle/autoimmune issues since covid😞my peers are already parents and are doing okay in their career. I hope I can change by next yr. I wouldn't wish this stress on anyone
Whatever is written for you will not miss you ❤
Don't worry, it will. Focus on your diet. Remove the sugars (that includes starchy food like rice, maize etc..), wheat, dairy, and artificial preservatives in your diet. Eat unprocessed natural food and exercise regularly. And most importantly, avoid stress it is the biggest killer. Honestly, the route of many conditions is just our diet and lifestyle. 🤞
Me too! I'm almost 36 and I have chronic fatigue and can't walk far from covid. I can relate to you. I'm not sure if I'll ever be strong enough to carry a child.
I used to be a triathlete pre covid.
Bet u r not a vir gin though. You want traditional wYs fespite not being a feminist
Do not worry. Please read my comment above. Do not allow these "experts" to put doubt or fear into your mind, because when you take care of yourself and your state of mind, your body is a wonderful machine and it will give you what you desire when you at the right state of mind not age.
This needs to be shared with girls in high school so they can plan for their future.
AMEN
Majority of these things are already part of highschool biology classes... but most people do what they want and then love to complain later when they finally do want the kids.
We have known the effect of smoking and alcohol on women's reproduction for 40 years and it has been talked about a lot. Common female reaction: it's not fair, i should be free to enjoy smoking and drinking whenever, party and be promiscuous -the guest forgot to mention that some STIs can cause infertility.
In summary: My body my choice.
Then they go beg the doctors in their thirties or forties.
Those of us who espouse continance young are party poopers and bigots who do not understand progress.
@@lauravergot9995does high risk hpv cause infertile ?
Yep and not listen to the lies that previous generations were taught
From the moment I decided I wanted a baby, I got pregnant after the first try, at 30. Everybody told me it will take a year to get pregnant, so I didn't take vitamins or quit smoking, I drank alkohol. I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant, I immediately quit smoking and never drank alkohol. My second baby I had at 34. Also first try. But I guess I am lucky. I grew up in a polluted area, my husband is obese, but I also did yoga and pilates, ate healthy foods, took vitamins, went to check ups, lowered my stress level so that I bring healthy babies into the world. We moved now to a less polluted area, because my daughter was developing asthma at 3 years old. After we moved, all her problems stopped. So environment definitely plays a role.
I am 28, single income, own a home and have two children under 3! It can be done you guys! Children are a blessing and won’t keep you from your dreams!
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Love this! I had my 3 kids before age 29, was a single mom with a lower paying job, no help or child support from the dad. I bought my first house at 25 and grew my property business steadily over the years. I’m now 41 with a successful business and teenagers and I feel so lucky…. I hate this narrative that young women can’t have kids and be successful- it’s so possible!
Where there is a will there is always a way. Having had children myself. Finance was just an excuse to put it off
I’m 33, 5 kids, single income and own a home too. Our kids have only enriched and blessed our lives in more ways than we had ever expected.
Just curious, what is your income? I'm happy that you're able to have that blessing in your life, brother
I got pregnant at 38 and had my daughter 3 weeks before turning 39. Pregnant with my son before my daughter turned 1. Had him at 40.
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Growing up all I wanted was a family of my own. I was always told "you'll be such a great mom", "you have such a maternal instinct". I had 2 losses when I was in my early 20s just a couple years apart. I'm 37 now and though those losses were extremely difficult I know they happened for a reason. The struggle now is will I ever be able to have kids of my own? It also creates anxiety when dating. Guys who lived their free lives up to this point and want to settle down and have a family, having the conversation of "I may not be able to have children (easily)" is so difficult.
My heart goes out to anyone who has experienced loss and I celebrate with the moms who were able to conceive in their late 30s, early+ 40s. 💜
Get checked. It may be a fixable problem. Also consider egg freezing.
Lots of tips given in this video that will help, don't give up hope, just follow all the eating healthy and exercising tips on here etc and hope for the best if it doesn't happen then maybe it's not meant to be and then you may find a lovely child through adoption.
Either way all is not lost but I wish you all the best and I pray for you to have the children you so wish for. Positive mind positive results ❤
It could happen if you inwardly "give up" on it. Life has this really strange way of not giving us what we want if all we do is keep thinking about what we want. But I understand the pain.
I wouldn't bring up that conversation until the both of you are talking about marriage. You don't know if you'll have a hard time having a child or not. The past does not predict the future. Explain the situation in such a way that he understands what's going on with your body and that there is a chance (as with ANY woman) that you may not conceive. Let him make up his mind from there.
This woman has taught me more things in 2hrs than my Sex Educatuion class in school ever did.
I got pregnant first time at 39. 2 cond time at 42 and Naturally! God is great
Ya so did I. I've reported this video for disinformation 🎉
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My neighbour had 8
. The youngst were born when she was 52. Twins, heathy and you schould see how creative one of them is. Her sons still live at home. Both 25 . Mom is living and very active.
Wow, seriously? All naturally conceived?
@@TsetsiStoyanova yes
@@TsetsiStoyanovaall of my grandmas were having kids until like 45-50. The keyword is "until", getting pregnant for the first time in your forties might be a problem.
That is what I was thinking as well
All these comments saying "I was able to have children in my late 30s, 40s or even 50's all naturally, don't give up"... They didn't listen to the Doctor or what? It's not about giving up or keep trying, it's about setting realistic family goals, understand how the body works and taking the necessary steps to make sure you have the best chances, including those ppl who don't have a partner yet.
Having unrealistic hopes that a miracle will happen will not make your situation better.
Literally it might sound bad but I got annoyed with all of those comments like I wanted to see what people think of this interview and all the info that she shared not when I got pregnant at whatever late age
People, specially women, just cherrypick what they want to hear and then spit me me me me I I I I. This whole interview went over their heads.
And Also if you didnt have a healthy life didnt excersice, drugs and alcohol etc
Correct!
if they listened to the doctor they'd still be doing treatments for shit they never knew they had. there is nothing miraculous about the human body being able to reproduce. If in good health, it should be able to do it like clockwork. forget what the experts say, take ownership of your health, and watch the "miracles" happen.
No matter what age we get our child it’s a blessing. We need to stop fingerpoint at people getting a child in their young or late years. I got my 4 children age 32, 35, 38 and 42. All healthy and diagnosefree children❤
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You give me a hope!
People should look at their own family history when deciding. My mom naturally stopped being able to have children at 35. So did my maternal grandmother. Same age of 35. So i would not place bets on my chances of having children well into my 30s. But if I was YOUR daughter, I wouldnt be as worried.
@@adararelgnel2695 I would never have had my 4 children at age +30 and +40 if I shaped my thoughts on the family history reg pregnancy. My mother had her last and 2nd child at age 26 and my grandmother had her 8th and last child at age 28. Thanks to research in Epigenetics + knowledge from books like: The Wisdom of Your Cells: How Your Beliefs Control Your Biology by Dr. Bruce Lipton and book: The power of your subconcious mind by Joseph Murphy is why I have been able to create my family dream together with God/universe 🙏🥰
Omg. I LOVE Dr. Natalie Crawford!!! Not only is she smart and articulate, she makes things so clear, concise, personable and fun (I.e., not boring). I am SO glad she’s expanding her reach across different platforms with her noble mission. As a doctor, she is truly one in a million.
Got my fst child at 41 after a very very long journey including IVF... it's been really tough! Now we're about to celebrate our son's 1st birthday, he's absolutely wonderful. ❤
Did IVF produce any results or no? What did you do after to get pregnant? Going through this process right now with my girl, she’s 41 too
@@DooM_TC Yes, we got our son though IVF. We are very lucky.
@@gemmavandenberg3379 congrats! How many cycles did you have to do?
Congrats ❤
Congratulations
I remember being said “you need to hurry up” when I was 34, and feeling so uncomfortable and annoyed by the comment. And now, years later, I am struggling with infertility issues. I think is very important that we start having conversations like this one, with so much respect: it creates so much awareness and the message doesn’t get lost.
Amazing conversation! So many important topics discussed!!
I am 22, been infertile since 18. Never been pregnant, have had a 2 year long term partner, we never got pregnant. I have PCOS and I am told I don't ovulate. It is so heartbreaking being infertile! I pray for every infertile woman through Jesus we have our babies AMEN
Look at carnivore diet to reverse pcos. Too high carbs drive pcos.
I have PCOS and endometriosis. I became pregnant with my son at 25 after changing my health ( lost weight through eating a lot of fresh veggies and fruit, lean meats, whole grains, and daily exercise.)
At 29 I started to exercise a lot again and became pregnant with my daughter.
Don't give up hope!
I was diagnosed with PCOS but I have been pregnant thanks to IVF but miscarriage each time, 3 miscarriages and I gave up.
Why would you want to have children at 22? Isn’t it too early? Lots of my acquaintances managed to conceive with pcos, everything will be okay!
Very likely you’re not infertile and should use contraception if you don’t want to get pregnancy. I would need 50 hands to count the # of stories I’ve heard of women who were told they’re “infertile”, then get pregnant… Surprise!!
Don’t wait until it’s too late to understand how your body works. Knowledge is power in planning ahead.
I like how she explained simply so that someone who is not in medicine can understand what is going on in human body. 👍
I rarely comment on RUclips channels, so I apologise for all the comments I’ve left recently, but I have been so incredibly ill, and in so much pain and laid up in bed, and I have NOT stopped binge watching your channel, and all the INCREDIBLE AMAZING PHENOMENAL interviews you have done.
You are an absolute A+++ interviewer, I LOVE your questions. They are so deep and so well thought out, I just cannot give you enough credit.
Great job on all I’ve seen!!!
This has BY FAR become my all time favourite channel to watch now, and that’s saying a LOT!!! ❤️❤️❤️🧚♀️🧚♀️🧚♀️🙏🙏🙏
Hey Kristi! No apologies necessary, we love hearing from you and truly appreciate your enthusiasm and support! Hoping you get better soon! Team DOAC ❤️❤️
@@TheDiaryOfACEO God Bless you for your compassionate and incredibly kind response, I am very very touched ❤️❤️❤️🧚♀️🧚♀️🧚♀️🙏🙏🙏
@@TheDiaryOfACEO❤your channel. 
Hun, Jesus can heal you of your pain and illness. ❤Jesus loves you and wants you to find Him. Sin is what separates us from Him and is what causes so many problems including health, but what He did on that cross for you washes away those sins if you believe in Him. Call out to Him for help, and in your need, He will come because He cares for you. That is what He did for me~ He saved my life from depression, suicidal thoughts, and addiction. It was instant healing!
Here is my prayer for you:
Lord, I thank you for your kindness and your love for her. May you have mercy on her and forgive her sins. May you pour out your Spirit on her, and may she feel your presence. I command all pain to leave her in Jesus' name! May she be made whole and restore her body to the way you meant her to have; a healthy body. I thank you, Jesus, for your goodness! I praise your name! Thank you for your mercies and your healing~ In Jesus name Amen ❤
@@drawingangel2 May God Bless you right back in return 🧚♀️🧚♀️🧚♀️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
What a beautiful, wonderful person you are 💕💕💕
I went to America for vacation 3 years ago. Somewhere in the South. I ate lots of chocolates and cheese macaroni. My menstruation suddenly stopped. I returned to my home country, my menstruation went back to normal. Maybe foods are so gmo and not natural anymore.
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Apparently you did not LISTEN to what she said in this video... Stress of change of life is #1 killer for menstruation/pregnancy.
Its not the GMO, its chemical-ladden micro plastics and all the horrible forever chemicals we are in contact with endlessly that do a number to our bodies. There are even micro-plastics found in babies in the womb, drinking water, and men testicles now...
Def agree with you.
@@w8stral yeah but American food is really fake though
Brother, thank you so much for doing this episode! My wife and I just went through our 1-1/2 year IVF journey. Luckily we were blessed to be put in contact with an amazing doctor here in DFW and we are finally pregnant. We discovered my wife having stage 2 endometriosis, 4 failed IUI procedures, 3 egg extractions, delays and not hitting the metrics for transfer; but by the grace of God and amazing doctors we are finally pregnant. So many people are not educated on this subject and I wasn't either prior to going through it. I hope so many people watch this and get the help they need. We also have 3 more miracle embryos on ice waiting in line to be here. We can't wait to have our family and the kids God meant for us to have. Thank you!
Honest question: did you feel weird about paying an RE, who is effectively doubling as an abortionist, to get your wife pregnant?
We did embryo adoption, and I always felt weird knowing that our RE wouldn't hesitate to also kill our little embryo if we wanted.
Completely unrelated to the video of the topic but I am draw so much to her style. Everything to me is so beautiful, but not too much, almost like the beauty of a delicate rose, from the pastel soothing color of her suit, to the little pop of happiness in her nail color to the calming blue in the necklace. Hopefully someone's told her. Wish I could develop such a calming, soothing, happy feeling sense of style 🤍💐
And she is so knowledgeable!
She has her own youtube channel ❤
Married at 18 had 4 children with my husband and now im 26. I trust in God, not on systems or the future of the world. He provided everything we have and has given us widsom financially and spiritually. As long as you place your faith in man, you will always fail. Jesus is the way the truth and the life. The key is FAITH and OBEDIENCE.
Me too married And had my first at 18 , And now 26 with 4 children , And don’t regret it, they are a blessing, i’m glad i started having children young
I tried to get pregnant with my first baby at 27 and struggled with infertility for 2 years. We finally got pregnant at 29 and had our first child at 30. My partner and I are now 31 with a one year old and I feel so much pressure to start trying to get pregnant again even though we don’t feel ready yet. Infertility struggles are just so hard. There’s so much pressure to hurrry up and get pregnant but some of us are trying and it takes multiple years and loss along the way. 💔
Her ending remarks were so meaningful. I look at my daughter now and everyday think how lucky I am to have her
Your body has a memory. It can be easier to get pregnant the 2nd time. I have a friend who needed IVF the 1st time and got pregnant naturally the 2nd time.
You have the same exact story as me!! Gave birth at 30 with the help of an IUI on first try. Now 36 about to go through a second round of medicated IUI. Have a limit of only doing 4 and if it doesnt happen then thats okay! Im head over heels about my little girl and if its not mean to be i’ll have to come to terms.
It also took me 2 years to have my son, but when I started trying for my daughter when my son was 18 months... It only took us 3 months! Blessings to you and your family!
@@rosem5361 Good luck to you
I learned so much watching this that I cannot believe they don't teach in school. You're both so easy on the ears -- there were absolutely no filler words...um, like, uh...very impressive. She is awesome, reminds me of Elle Woods if she had gone for an MD instead of JD ✨
EXACTLY 💯 was I was thinking !
Also, why are we not talking about fibroids that also impact the ability to carry a baby. A lot of women are shrugged off by their doctors when complaining about heavy menstrual cycles.
I read an article, contraceptives have a huge impact especially if a woman uses it for a long time
Maybe because fibroids are overrepresented in those of African descent. They don't care about us.
@@ML-te6qv Yes^ Exactly what solved my issue
I'm a physio in Toronto... Just wanted to thank you for distributing knowledge for free and accessible for everyone. I've been referring to your podcasts for a while now when patients have questions about their health. Congrats with your growth. Looking forward to see this grow beyond your expectations.
Having a child is a dream of mine - I am turning 32 this year, I am overweight and I have a stressfull life. I am acctualy quite scared, that I will never have a child of my own. My husband and I have been trying for a few months (got married only recently) and everytime my period comes I get a shot of depression. Listening to you guys has given me some much needed perspective - Thank you
There is a fertility doctor in RUclips, called Dr Kiltz, who says nutrition has a very big Impact on fertility. I don't know what you are eating, but I think listening to him might be interesting for you. ❤ I wish for you that it works Out ❤🍀🍀🍀🍀
When you are stressed you are essentially telling your body now is not a good time for a child. I really hope you can manage it and I wish you the best.
When your eggs drop, get excited and eager rather than stressed. "This is my time!" If you're thinking positively. Eating healthy. And exercising, you can do it.
Read the book it starts with the egg to give your eggs the best chance
Gradually and healthy foods and also take quality nutritional supplementa
Oh my gosh I’m so grateful for this episode. This is mind blowing and such important information I can’t believe I’m a 32yo woman and I’m only just learning all of this in this level of detail. I’m really so grateful for this episode
My grandma was 47 with her last child. Never give up hope
Same here! Many of my aunts and older cousins have had kids past the age of 40.
Yep, my auntie had her first at 41 and her second at 44.
My cousin thought the same focused on her career didn't even freeze her eggs now can't have children when she thinks she is ready. And we should also take in account that our foods are much more processed which has led to decrease in fertility in both men and women so this needs to be taken in account.
Copium! Also people win the lottery.....
Times have changed a lot since your grandma had kids. High stress, poor food quality, and a host of other issues have a lot of relatively women infertile.
I had unexplained “infertility” for 14 years; none of my pregnancies in my 20’s or 30’s lasted beyond 7 weeks. Doctors told me my only hope was IVF but that was not the route for us. I really started working my faith and declaring Exodus 23:25-26 daily, along with aligning my heart and speech with the promise. I’m now expecting my first child and enjoying a healthy pregnancy. I’ll be 42 when he’s born. You’re meant to be a mother when your child is destined to be on earth and not a moment sooner.
Amen ❤ praise God
Omg, does this topic specifically attracts crazy ones??? You are like exotic creatures to me - in Europe you don’t meet people like that, maybe in some catholic cults.
A friend of mine was also diagnosed with PCOS but surprisingly became pregnant at a very young age. Thank you Steven for this amazimg episode, you have great intentions to help others. You also INSPIRED my husband and I to start our own RUclips Channel to share knowledge.😊
Oh how nice. Just subscribed to you. Keep the good work.
I was the same, and then went through secondary infertility at 25 when I wanted a second child.
@@amandarobbins2530 I hope it all went well!
…. This podcast came at the exact time I needed it, as I am currently experiencing a miscarriage, and I can’t thank you enough for having such a compassionate person to speak to us. 🙏🏻
I had two over the last two years and now I have a beautiful baby - I know it’s devastating but keep your hopes high and take care of yourself ❤️
I had my first baby at 39 years old. I feel so blessed for such an amazing gift. I’m excited to listen to this episode.
Women are not waiting, men are. I wanted children throughout my 20s, the men didnt. But I met the man of my dreams at 33 and I am glad I waited. We are trying now at age 34/35. Will update when it worked but I have been observing my family in law and it is tough with children! I would love my children but I am also scared. If it doesnt work, a part of me will be relieved. We can't adopt anymore in my country all of a sudden which is also a bit of a relief because I have heard multiple bad stories. I will care for a ton of cats, chicken, heck, maybe even bees if I don't have kids. Most people can't even care for a plant let alone a child.
Yep and men not wanting to get married or ditching their responsibilities are a huge issue for women
We are in the exact same boat . I am 33 and met my husband earlier this year in February. We are trying for a baby . I will be 34 next month . I do have PCOS though and typically don’t ovulate on my own
Pregnant at 41, miscarried, pregnant at 42, now have a healthy 4 year old boy 🤷🏻♀️
My only regret about waiting is that a 4 year old is exhausting lol definitely less energy.
I will say this I have 2 children my first was at 39 and my second was.at 45. It is possible unless you have underlining issues. I wished they stopped saying you're getting old hurry up. It can happen at anytime, just look after yourself ❤
It can't happen at anytime, a woman's fertility window is relatively short and menopause won't wait forever. Having a child at 45 is only possible for a small minority of women.
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@apebass2215 As long as a woman has a period, pregnancy is a possibility. In the 1960s and 1970s, women often had their last child between ages 46 and 50. Birth control made that less common in recent times.
Yes. Couldn't agree more.
I started trying for kids when I was turning 30 and learned that at my age group, 1/5th of couples experience infertility (including me). Most people had no idea that they had underlying issues. Many cases of infertility are unexplained - both my husband and I are in perfect health but we just couldn't conceive naturally. I wish everyday that I had started trying for kids as soon as I got married. Yes 4/5th of couples are fine to wait until later, but it's not good advice in general as it will impact a significant part of the population who will experience infertility.
I had both my kids in my early thirties. Learned so much about boosting my fertility ahead of trying and so glad I did…stuff I never knew when I was younger…got pregnant straight away both times. I had a miscarriage when I was 19, so knowing that was possible sparked a thirst for knowledge. I knew I needed to dramatically improve my lifestyle to give my body its best chance!
What is it that you did? We’re trying for our next one soon! I take a prenatal and COQ10. Got pregnant right away with our first so hoping it happens quickly again. :)
So happy for you and your family!❤ Do you mind sharing what you did? (25 looking to start a family in the next 3-5 years.
@@SJ-ru4ej Thanks for sharing this info to pass on to a niece, newlywed but haven't been able to get pregnant going 3 years!
Highly recommend the book it starts with the egg to those replying
@@SJ-ru4ejI did nutritional therapy, started cycle tracking with natural cycles/got off the pill at 26, started exercising - consistent but nothing too mad, stress management, made sure I had a healthy bmi, supplements, quit alcohol (for other reasons mainly BUT I was conscious of fertility), took folic acid…so much! Xxx
Wow, getting pregnant is truly a miracle that we should all not take for granted
This is a great conversation.
I come from a very fertile family. I was finally diagnosed with infertility due to structural issues at age 38, but the fact I had no "oops" moments gave me a big clue.
My partner and I met about this age. We could have done lots of intervention. He said to me something special. He said he wanted me, and didn't want to risk my health.
I had mine at age 37 and 39 both first try and naturally. I feel lucky and grateful 🙏
I wanted to speak about AMH testing as it literally saved me. I tested it at 30 years old, and found out I had very very low ovarian reserve and I still have a chance (albeit only 3%) of having my own children. Had I not tested it at all, the chances I would be able to have children would likely be 0%. Testing is really important. If you're a woman and you're reading this get tested now. It doesn't matter if you're in your 20s. My doctor told me with my AMH I should have had children before I was 25. If I had tested earlier and known that, I would've frozen eggs. Now I am 4 IVF cycles in, and nowhere close to being finished.
How do I get a test like this?
@@BloodSweatandFears depends where you are. Where I am I can go to any lab and ask for this test specifically. Some other places you have to ask a doctor I think for like a prescription for it
@@spicybeefsalad Thank you!
What was your AMH level? Mine was 0.11 and I am 37 y.o. I cried the whole week after I got my test result 😭😭😭
@@journalingwithmari 31 yo, amo is .38, when I first measured it, it was at .02, but I started taking vitamin D supplements and it really helped
Unexpentantly got pregnant with our first at 22 and had my first at 23. We tried again after she was close to turning two, and got pregnant again in November of last year. I’ll be due this August! The Lord provides as always. 🙏🏼 Children are blessings and gifts from the Lord. ❤️ we are very fortunate to have had been gifted our first when we least expected and were least ready for her. We were not financially ready for a baby let alone for me to stay home and take care of her and survive off one income (my husband was in the middle of finishing a difficult college degree). We turned to the Lord and he provided for us and throughly blessed us beyond compare.
My mom (she’s actually my step mom but she’s more of a real mother to me than my bio mom) and dad tried for 7 years to conceive my first youngest brother. She said they tried so many things, but it was when she finally let go and put it into God’s hands that she fell pregnant. I think it’s a beautiful testimony ❤️🙏🏼
Every woman is different. My wife is 39 and she has the amount of eggs as a 30 year old. Her fertility scores were great.
Quality is the other point, not count
@@lisaa2104her points around the 42 minute mark are straight facts and data. Everyone here commenting on late pregnancy had for one reason or another played and won with a percentage should have shown otherwise.
@@BigMrAC yes i agree 100pc, i was mentioning that quality also counts on top
Quality of the eggs is not determined by age...
@@hopalmorrgen3206 YES, it is, as she also explains
Thank you so much Steven!! 😍I have been following Dr Natalie for a while now, including on her RUclips channel. I am on my own fertility journey right now and her advise is helping me so much. There is no education in schools you get a basic period talk and then have to deal with it. Women fear getting pregnant, worry about failing as a women to get pregnant and it's taken until I am 32 and ready to become a mother to understand my body and what women need to do in order to get pregnant. I'm so excited to be planning a pregnancy! This is my favourite podcast episode to date. Conversation is so important.
This is probably the most important interview you've done to date. I am so grateful
I had my first pregnancy at 40 without trying. Twins! It was complication free. My babies are 3 now. They're intellectually ahead of their age and are healthy.
First child at 42 naturally 1st attempt, working on second at 45 and open to another...both people need to be in shape, not stressed, eating whole food diet, and supplement with Maca through the 1st trimester to maintain progeterone levels. The male needs to be just as healthy. Aim for a fresh batch of sperm after 90 days of cleansing. Definitely no alcohol or drugs as fetal alcohol syndrome is now being linked to the father and miscarriage.
It depends on how early the women in your family go into menopause. If you have a family history of late menopause. Eventually with unprotected sex you will fall pregnant even in your forties.
Every woman needs to hear this! Thank you for having her on, she is well educated on this topic ❤
i got pregnant fast with my first at 35 and my second now at 38. i have hypothyroidism and BMI by 31-32 due to first pregnancy. everyone is different, so womwn, dont feel discouraged.
Don’t think my early - mid 20’s self would’ve been mentally stable enough to raise children but now that I’ve reached 30 I’m just beginning to get a better grasp at life. This video was very well timed as I’ve been thinking about children recently and the comments are encouraging that we still have a chance. Better to know now than later when it might be too late.
If you are healthy, 30 is not late at all. The problem is that so many women and men are unhealthy and infertile, making it a snowball’s chance in hell of conceiving for many couples.
As a father ot two amazing kids and a husband of an amazing, smart ans beautiful wife, I want to point out that kids should not be the end goal of a relationship, but the natural product (and only a part of) a healthy, happy union between people. The problem i have with people obsessing about having kids is that in the process they forget that love, friendship and mutual respect come first. Once this is in place, kids will thrive in a great environment and grow up happy and loved. So take care of yourself (as a couple) first, make sure you are ok with yourself and then have kids. Kids do not mend broken relationships.
I’m so grateful I never had kids. Counting my blessings ❤ Good luck to all the women trying to get pregnant. I pray for you that it will come to fruition. ❤
A lovely lady who explained everything so well, in a compassionate way. Great interview.
Younger generations are struggling to leave their parent’s homes by the age of thirty. Lucky to leave young and usually end up right back where they started ten years later. We can’t afford ourselves, much less a child. Education and housing is unaffordable. No village to save you. Homelessness on the rise. Younger generations don’t want to commit because of the lack of security. Many abstain from life mile stones in fear of losing everything.
Young people have unrealistic expectations. New cars, college without working through high school or part-time work, want only move-in ready new homes....when only having kids is time dependent. Get married, have kids....save "the good life" and travel for your 50s+.
@@CM-sy3to No guarantee of the good life ever materializing in our 50s and beyond at this point with the job market, cost of living and a single medical emergency potentially wiping out life savings. It isn't really working out anymore even if you follow the rules; that's at least the case for a lot of people. There's no "sure shots" anymore, so people are choosing to prioritize stability over the short term.
Yeah but if you have a kid they pay for everything
@@CM-sy3toWe'll get no retirement money at this rate, so I'd rather go on vacations now than wait until my 50s and then get shot, mugged, nuked, or vaccinated
@@CM-sy3tonot really. I make a decent wage, around $65k a year before taxes and am working to increase it as a background note. The average price for a home is over 400k. The interest rate for a mortgage is a bit over 7% right now. Every $100k on loan this costs around $7.1k a year. So if you take a $300k loan you pay $21k a year in just interest. That interest payment is $1750 a month, plus the mortgage payment, plus insurance, plus car insurance, plus gas, plus food, plus emergency costs that pop up. That is basically my entire wage if we live very frugally. Kids take extra money as well. Have to get insurance for them, clothe them, feed them, keep them healthy, educate them, etc.
I don't have a car payment and I bought my car used. I also get over 40mpg, but gas is expensive. It is extremely hard to support a family for young people with the current inflation and cost of everything. I do not eat out, I cook at home, and don't buy unnecessary goods. The current economy is simply not conducive to young people creating families even while living frugally.
This was THE BEST INTERVIEW you’ve ever done. No questions asked. Keep them coming, and thank you to both of you!
Dr Natalie has a very comforting voice. Amazing guest. Fantastic, valuable, important content 👏🏽
I did IVF with her partner Dr. Skillern in the office before this one and she was amazing and caring. If anyone in Austin is looking for a great doctor, I recommend them. I’ve been to others and she was by the far the kindest, most knowledgeable and forward thinking. I have a 4 year old daughter now because of her.
Well I'm an anomaly......all 4 of my children were born after 32, after 7 years of battling infertility in my 20s.
I really pray this is my story.
Stop lying to these women
Did you have PCOS?
@@labrigful no ma'am, I was a perfect 28 day cycle just had eggs that needed some extra heavy fertility drugs to get me pregnant the first time, the next 4 times, one is an angel baby, happened without any help from any doctor.
@Mrswillia03 that's amazing. I hope my sister in law gets pregnant soon. She has had two loses, and it's been hard on her.
Thank you Dr Natalie Crawford. It was very comprehensive without bringing shame of fear on the table. Talking from a point of view of a woman in her twenties, I felt like you were talking directly at the audience. I needed this « compassionate human and honest » podcast. Merci beaucoup!!