as an autistic lesbian teen, im always worried abt this stuff, ive only been in one relationship but we were young and only kissed like twice lmao, so im so scared of anything and everything, this video lowkey made me feel better, it gives me hope abt the possibility of me having a future relationship
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for doing videos like this and being comfortable enough to talk about stuff like this! It's so informative and comforting to hear advice from people who are more experienced, especially when addressing different stigmas vs the reality of the situation. It's also really nice and heartwarming to specifically hear it from a couple who clearly love each other and know their way around a healthy relationship.
the CUTEST couple ever. i freaking love you both and congrats on your new song! and by the way, i have been on the edge of my seat waiting on a new safespace episode! 🤍
@@__your_girl_abby___ It’s ok and i do get it now what you really weren’t doing , and yeah it is a nice thing to say about them. But um I was really trying to help you to improve yourself , just by saying something so it won’t ever hurt your feelings at all. But that one line that you said “ The Cutest Couple Ever “ , well um that really is an impossible thing to be. Cuz there’s no one out there that really is as that. But we all do try to be as that but secretly we all , just can’t ever do that or to be as that. But we all really are The Cutest People Ever just as we all are as we are. You definitely can say just that one line that I’ve said , but I really don’t mind if you take the credit for that. So please do restart your comment by saying “ We all are The Cutest People that we all are. “
Another thing that might help with autistic overstimulation if it’s smell or taste is something like Lorals latex underwear. They block scent and taste but the wearer can still feel everything. And it might not even be that yall need them every time, maybe just in the beginning or whenever the giver is feeling more keyed up. I’m also autistic and this is something I plan to have in my toolbox to try to hack my sensory barriers 😊 but the advice of checking the other stimuli and trying it in the shower are also great advice!
The most important thing I learned was actually from a quote from my favorite tv show, love Victor. It has always kinda stuck with me. “Your a woman and you know what you like so start there are check in with her” - Mia Brooks.
I'm a teen who isn't out as lesbian yet, but this video was so good for any future relationships and educating me on how s3x works between same sex couples (nobody talks about that in schools) and showing me it's not a dirty thing, it's natural, same as not wanting s3x. It's really good that you're giving advice on how to make s3x (and other things) better in relationships with just simple communication. You're such a wholesome couple. ❤ Love you, thank you for teaching me new things.
You are such a beautiful couple. Love how close and opened you are not just with each other but the world. I’m so jealous. This is what I’d love to find.
I already know how to stop overthinking. To do just that is by not overthinking anything , but you just don’t do it at all but you just start all over on a newer slate. But it’s like starting all over again , but its like that you just don’t know anything but you just live in the moment and relearn everything all over again but you just don’t ever overthink anything.
Your track “Sex Ed” is really catchy! (I’m saying it here since you have comments turned off on your band’s RUclips page.) It’s great to hear you doing music again, because you and Lavren really complement each other in that respect, she with her production skills and you with your voice. Hope to hear more!
First off y’all are the cutest couple ever love you both 💕. Second thank you for the advice I sent this to my partner cause I feel it could help our sex life a bunch. We need more queer sex ed love the representation 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
For the person with the partner who has sensory overload: if the problem is the texture or the wetness, you also have pieces of fabric specifically made for going down safely, you should still feel it the same pleasure, so it might be a good alternative!
Picking your identity over them. Adult love is not unconditional. If you feel uncomfortable being your authentic self with someone, then they’re not your person.
I stumbled across this video randomly but I’m very glad I watched!!!! Lots of helpful tips & overall I feel so validated. Also when you were talking about the big bathtub and stared at each other like 👀 it made me think of my gf and I because we’re so goofy like that lol
i learned a lot from this video, thank you! my gf and i had to stop having sex because we didn’t build our relationship very well around it and we didn’t have the best mindsets and could have communicated better. thank you for sharing this sort of thing, i think this will be helpful if/when we get back into it.
P.S. I have little idea what the name (Hemmies) means, but since you asked, I’ll venture it’s not referring to car engines but is perhaps a literary reference to Ernest Hemingway?? Keara has stated that she loves to read, and Hemingway was not only gay himself, but he included non-heteronormative characters in his stories at a time when most authors wouldn’t risk it. Anyway, that’s probably not it but that’s all I can manage from my limited parasocial knowledge of you two haha.
Somebody please do pause this video at 2:10 and make that as a Painting of them both , but please do mail it to them so they will have something to put on their walls. Cuz this really grabs at their essences of them both. Cuz this really screams out look at us both , or as for something else that’s there. Cuz I’m really really seeing something there that really screams.
Excellent advices !!! I totally agree with you both 😊 (as a lesbian, it's pretty obvious but ... 😅) You're such a cute couple 💞 kisses from France ! 🇨🇵
To add more to the question about giving pleasure without touching genitals (12:44): there are a lot of sex toys that could work for that situation, like vibrators or even textured pads that you can strap somewhere and the others person ride it
hi! if it’s okay to ask, what is this game called? is it an actual game that was made, or something that you all made yourself? thanks so much! :) love that idea!
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as an autistic lesbian teen, im always worried abt this stuff, ive only been in one relationship but we were young and only kissed like twice lmao, so im so scared of anything and everything, this video lowkey made me feel better, it gives me hope abt the possibility of me having a future relationship
As a queer person it is so important to have representation and education, thanks a lot !! You're so cute you both ✧◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧
Thanks for watching!🥰
moments like this 9:19 (where lauren asks for consent to talk about that game) is what shows that u do what u preach! love that and love u
consent is sexy 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@KearaGraves it really is!!
Was wondering what it would like to see you both kiss with a windbreaker jacket
it’s so reliving to finally see people comfortably talking about this stuff, thank you sm!!
we’re so happy to help normalize it❤
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for doing videos like this and being comfortable enough to talk about stuff like this! It's so informative and comforting to hear advice from people who are more experienced, especially when addressing different stigmas vs the reality of the situation. It's also really nice and heartwarming to specifically hear it from a couple who clearly love each other and know their way around a healthy relationship.
I’m sooo glad our insights could help ease your mind💛 thanks for watching!!!
the CUTEST couple ever. i freaking love you both and congrats on your new song! and by the way, i have been on the edge of my seat waiting on a new safespace episode! 🤍
No one is The Cutest couple ever , cuz whoever already has a mate , then everyone is the Cutest couple or is the Cutest person ever.
@@Designer239 oh, i wasn't trying to offend anyone. i was just being nice.
@@__your_girl_abby___
It’s ok and i do get it now what you really weren’t doing , and yeah it is a nice thing to say about them.
But um I was really trying to help you to improve yourself , just by saying something so it won’t ever hurt your feelings at all.
But that one line that you said “ The Cutest Couple Ever “ , well um that really is an impossible thing to be.
Cuz there’s no one out there that really is as that.
But we all do try to be as that but secretly we all , just can’t ever do that or to be as that.
But we all really are The Cutest People Ever just as we all are as we are.
You definitely can say just that one line that I’ve said , but I really don’t mind if you take the credit for that.
So please do restart your comment by saying “ We all are The Cutest People that we all are. “
WE ❤ YOU!!! And omg it’s been chaotic but once my studio is set up, I have sooo much to fill you in on on Safe Space!
@@KearaGraves
Great that I’m looking forward to seeing that
Another thing that might help with autistic overstimulation if it’s smell or taste is something like Lorals latex underwear. They block scent and taste but the wearer can still feel everything. And it might not even be that yall need them every time, maybe just in the beginning or whenever the giver is feeling more keyed up. I’m also autistic and this is something I plan to have in my toolbox to try to hack my sensory barriers 😊 but the advice of checking the other stimuli and trying it in the shower are also great advice!
You should look into sliquid lube, has a light enough taste (of choice) but still able to appreciate her/your taste/scent.
School needs better Sex education. If you’re so lucky to have had sex ed, probably you haven’t had queer sex ed. only cis and hetero
They mainly just go over the reproduction parts and nothing else. They just teach us the science.
The most important thing I learned was actually from a quote from my favorite tv show, love Victor. It has always kinda stuck with me. “Your a woman and you know what you like so start there are check in with her” - Mia Brooks.
I'm a teen who isn't out as lesbian yet, but this video was so good for any future relationships and educating me on how s3x works between same sex couples (nobody talks about that in schools) and showing me it's not a dirty thing, it's natural, same as not wanting s3x. It's really good that you're giving advice on how to make s3x (and other things) better in relationships with just simple communication. You're such a wholesome couple. ❤ Love you, thank you for teaching me new things.
You are such a beautiful couple. Love how close and opened you are not just with each other but the world. I’m so jealous. This is what I’d love to find.
I already know how to stop overthinking.
To do just that is by not overthinking anything , but you just don’t do it at all but you just start all over on a newer slate.
But it’s like starting all over again , but its like that you just don’t know anything but you just live in the moment and relearn everything all over again but you just don’t ever overthink anything.
Your track “Sex Ed” is really catchy! (I’m saying it here since you have comments turned off on your band’s RUclips page.) It’s great to hear you doing music again, because you and Lavren really complement each other in that respect, she with her production skills and you with your voice. Hope to hear more!
Thank you!🙏🏼 Glad you like the track! More where that came from coming soon…
First off y’all are the cutest couple ever love you both 💕. Second thank you for the advice I sent this to my partner cause I feel it could help our sex life a bunch. We need more queer sex ed love the representation 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
awww thanks for sharing it❤ hope it helps!!! xo
For the person with the partner who has sensory overload: if the problem is the texture or the wetness, you also have pieces of fabric specifically made for going down safely, you should still feel it the same pleasure, so it might be a good alternative!
Thank you for this as a queer teen this takes the stress off ❤❤
aww i’m sooo happy it relieved some stress for you!🥰
This is a serious and humbling question. What is more important? Loving someone unconditionally or picking your identity over them?
Picking your identity over them. Adult love is not unconditional. If you feel uncomfortable being your authentic self with someone, then they’re not your person.
both of you spoke so beautifully and thoughtfully on this episode. thank you for this 🩷
The way you talk to each other is so sweet ❤️ Love y’alls relationship sm :)
loved the video, just commenting because i love you guys so much and seeing you have such a healthy and communicative dynamic is truly inspiring. xoxo
AHHH FIRST VIDEO IN THE NEW PLACE!!! thank you so much for making this video! y’all give the best advice that truly helps 🥺♥️
This was very helpful but can I just say 15:13
I KEEP REPEATING IT BC ITS SO HILARIOUS 😭😭
I needed this video, especially the reassurance about fluctuations in how much couples have sex. Tysm
So happy I found this channel
AWWWW🥰🥰🥰 So happy you’re here!
I stumbled across this video randomly but I’m very glad I watched!!!! Lots of helpful tips & overall I feel so validated. Also when you were talking about the big bathtub and stared at each other like 👀 it made me think of my gf and I because we’re so goofy like that lol
Heyyy omg glad you found my page & thanks for the feedback!!💕🤗
Fabulous convo thank you both so much!! ✨
I’m a bi girl and this is great advice even for hetero relationships, thank you!
i’m glad it helped!❤ thx for watching🥰
I legit wanna cuddle Lauren this whole video. THAT JACKET IS SO FLUFFY
i learned a lot from this video, thank you! my gf and i had to stop having sex because we didn’t build our relationship very well around it and we didn’t have the best mindsets and could have communicated better. thank you for sharing this sort of thing, i think this will be helpful if/when we get back into it.
P.S. I have little idea what the name (Hemmies) means, but since you asked, I’ll venture it’s not referring to car engines but is perhaps a literary reference to Ernest Hemingway?? Keara has stated that she loves to read, and Hemingway was not only gay himself, but he included non-heteronormative characters in his stories at a time when most authors wouldn’t risk it. Anyway, that’s probably not it but that’s all I can manage from my limited parasocial knowledge of you two haha.
Somebody please do pause this video at 2:10 and make that as a Painting of them both , but please do mail it to them so they will have something to put on their walls.
Cuz this really grabs at their essences of them both.
Cuz this really screams out look at us both , or as for something else that’s there.
Cuz I’m really really seeing something there that really screams.
What are Lauren's pronouns? Sexuality and gender identity? Or how long have you dated, got together and married. Or how long you've been married?
PART 2 PLEASE🙏
about comparing the body my godddddddd i struggle so hard with it
love her laughter, sounds a bit like a dolphin
I love the Charlotte and Willa stories!! 😍🌹
THEY’RE SO HOT 😍
Thank u guys for this video I totally love it 🤍🏳️🌈
Excellent advices !!! I totally agree with you both 😊 (as a lesbian, it's pretty obvious but ... 😅)
You're such a cute couple 💞 kisses from France ! 🇨🇵
I love intelligent couples ❤
ty for answering my question 😭 distance SUCKS
What’s the name of the card game??
You guys are my icon...
Awwwww
Thank you Thank you thank you for this series🥹💜💜💜
Cover of day after day?
the way i missed ask queera
MY PARENTS I MISSED YA'LL SO BADLY :,)
To add more to the question about giving pleasure without touching genitals (12:44): there are a lot of sex toys that could work for that situation, like vibrators or even textured pads that you can strap somewhere and the others person ride it
hi! if it’s okay to ask, what is this game called? is it an actual game that was made, or something that you all made yourself? thanks so much! :) love that idea!
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Hemmies… must be hemisphere 🧐
you may be onto something there… 🤨
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second 😅
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It means hemroids
Will those two lesbians even be together in twenty years probably not.
Get your heads checked pls
I'm sure they have as much as they want dw ❤️❤️
Can't get over the fact that Loren looks like Harry Potter 😂❤
i was a MASSIVE harry potter fan when i was younger… i’ve always wanted to date someone that looked like him….. let’s just say i manifested it 💁🏻♀️
@@KearaGraves mission accomplished....now where can I find my Billie Eillish look a like