Living With Dyslexia │ Justice Mukheli

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  • Опубликовано: 22 дек 2024

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  • @tlholok.lekoro
    @tlholok.lekoro Год назад +15

    This is so painful. I’m doing my PhD in the UK and only just been diagnosed with dyslexia (waiting for ADHD assessment) and every referral I’ve had I am always asked “how come no one see it before “ and I’m just like in out South African schools, this is not a thing and as a girl is even worse because we don’t have the same symptoms that are so noticeable in boys. And now at 26, things make so much sense and yet its maddening that I had to struggle so much throughout my high school, bachelors, masters and now here.
    But I’m also glad that I discovered this early in my PhD journey because now I can find ways to made this more bearable especially as an international student 🙌🏽
    I loved this episode so much

    • @deethomas6699
      @deethomas6699 11 месяцев назад

      The fact that you made this far…🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽some of us we don’t have dyslexia but we didn’t get that far🤍 so proud of you…here are your flowers 💐 💐 💐

    • @tlholok.lekoro
      @tlholok.lekoro 11 месяцев назад

      @@deethomas6699 thank you very much 🥺

    • @litchi63
      @litchi63 2 месяца назад

      You’ve done well then if you’re doing your PhD now. Your comment comforted me. I’m realising that my daughter (13) might have dyslexia and I am having such a hard time dealing with it. I just don’t know what to do or where to start. But seeing this makes me feel like there’s hope.

    • @tlholok.lekoro
      @tlholok.lekoro 2 месяца назад

      @@litchi63 it will be hard pill to swallow but there’s also comfort in knowing that “I’m not stupid, but I might just need extra time to process certain things”. Firstly talking to a professional and seeing what options they will help. and she’s still young, it will be a bit difficult but along the way she will find ways that help her. With the ways things are now with technology, there’s so many options out there to look into and so many accommodation that schools can do. I never got the opportunity to use them and I think they would have been helpful but I still managed to find ways that helped me because I thought everyone was struggling like I did. There’s hope. It’s not the end of the world. There’s a transition period that you and your daughter are allowed to go through while you process it but that’s not the end. She will find her way and use it to the best of her abilities. 🤍🤍🤍

  • @phumlanomdebevana5998
    @phumlanomdebevana5998 Год назад +19

    He loves his brother, he just lights up when he talks about him. Such a touching and enlightening episode.

    • @nomalizobulisile1096
      @nomalizobulisile1096 2 месяца назад

      I am a mother of a child who is dyslexic, we were fortunate that we were @ the right place, space and we knew as early as Grade 1. He passed Grade 12 on record time, majoring in Maths and Physics.
      He is now completing his diploma in Plumbing. It was a very difficult journey and I am grateful for all the support we received.

  • @The_Third_Place
    @The_Third_Place Год назад +3

    my ADHD awakening was this year in uni first year. i was highly supported to perform so i was functional and did well in primary school and the learning did not need me to sit on a desk to study. i learnt through hearing and because of the adhd curiosity and fixation i have a substantial amount of knowledge that allowed me to hold down and appear intelligent and that covered up my condition. although i would get distracted so easily, be the noisiest and moved around i succeeded because for my age i acquired a vast amount of knowledge. as my academic career progressed and the naturally acquired knowledge and previous methods were not enough to succeed i struggled, i ended up being one of those kids that are so smart but academically fell off. sitting down to study was such a hard thing for me, up to this day the thought of someone sitting down to work for an hour straight baffles my mind because i can only do that medicated or when im hyperfixating, and the flipside of hyperfixation is that i focus on the thing that dont matter at that moment. so to say i freestyled all the was to uni but my grades dropped every year. uni wasnt as structured and supported so i struggled to put in the work and actually concetrate for school stuff and what did then was it triggered depression which ive always had on recurrent times and i thought was clinical but no, it was triggered depression and the loudly critical internal voice. i realised with my therapist that the depression was because of the adhd in the sense that if i underperformed my inner monologue gets so loud and critical and i really beat myself up. i remember once crying after an exam because i could finish trhe last question that contributed 30% to my exam mark, not because i couldnt understand the question or was stupid but because i cant manage time, and under pressure i get anxiety and that affects my comprehension skills and i end up reading a line 5 times j l fast forward to second semester i go see a psychiatrist and get medicated, im flabbergasted by the consistency i can now keep, though i still need extra support and improve my time conciousness my life is now way better, i can sit down and read a paper 2 days before a test whereas i could only study 8 hours before the test because 1, my sense of time is so bad and 2 im not mentally triggered to study unless i feel the pressure and thrill of working under pressure. i dont get depressed since i got medicated and im so happy with my life now. my inner monologue doesnt hate me and im so grateful of the privilege to be able to access these resources because my medication alone is R700 and because the medication is a highly monitiored stimulant i need to get a prescription every month whuch means i have to consult with a doctor and those people will bill you.

  • @LadyLebza
    @LadyLebza Год назад +18

    Justice's partner having patience when Justice reads to them is beautiful ❤❤❤

  • @luzukomkati7445
    @luzukomkati7445 Год назад +18

    As a teacher, I feel so sad and embarrassed. Just thinking about how many kids have dropped out because no one "got "them and their challenges, I am truly heartbroken. In grade 8&9 There were learners I identified as not being able to read/write in my classes and told the H.O.D but I never really made any follow-ups until I left the school. The system is so flawed and so are the parents because many of them live in denial about the realities of their kids. Even those who are aware of their kids' challenges don't wanna/can't send them to suitable schools because of stigma and costs. Schools are understaffed, you see these types of challenges but because of being overworked and no support, besides reporting there isn't much you can do.

    • @mmtn9043
      @mmtn9043 Год назад +1

      Dear, you are so correct, why government is quite about remedial schools

  • @KundaniNemadodzi
    @KundaniNemadodzi Год назад +7

    Justice is very well spoken ❤ 👏 I enjoy his interviews

  • @busisiwengobe2811
    @busisiwengobe2811 Месяц назад

    Justice, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability… so real so insightful and inspiring.

  • @litchi63
    @litchi63 2 месяца назад

    I appreciate how authentic this guy is. How he genuinely speaks about dyslexia and it being a challenge and ways to work around that challenge. Too many videos focus on making it seem like it is NOT a challenge.

  • @tshwanelopuswe7907
    @tshwanelopuswe7907 Год назад +1

    The way teachers used to be bullies & toxic . I honestly believe him, but we'll God had a plan . Glad you could spread awareness ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @phumlanomdebevana5998
    @phumlanomdebevana5998 Год назад +6

    Brain Power!!! I like how this guy took something which he could have seen as a disadvantage and an absolute stumbling block to encourage himself to make things work for himself and set himself apart 👌🙌🏾

  • @amogelangkgathole2894
    @amogelangkgathole2894 7 месяцев назад +1

    This was beautiful, what a gent!

  • @yandiswaselemela9341
    @yandiswaselemela9341 Год назад +3

    When he says he is not entitled to their understanding or accommodation. Wow. Wow.

  • @anelisamdepha4395
    @anelisamdepha4395 Год назад +2

    Yho ha.a why am I crying? Trauma is trauma that’s one thing I’m learning from this podcast and how you treat a traumatic person can define ukufa nokuphila kwabo!

  • @Mamabear_Z
    @Mamabear_Z 11 месяцев назад +1

    Finally understanding myself at 46 through Justice... Grateful to have bump into this conversation

  • @Amahle361
    @Amahle361 11 месяцев назад +1

    Oh! Wow, I am glad I bumped into this channel and then I see this episode. What an eye opener.

  • @mrmanq9517
    @mrmanq9517 Год назад +2

    Love this mans attitude...NOBODY owes you anything
    GRIND!😎

  • @ragibashonga9106
    @ragibashonga9106 Год назад +9

    What a conversation! When we speak of making the world more inclusive, we lose sight of all the variations in abilities and the extent to which people need to over-exert themselves to get by. There is so, so much to unpack in this conversation but really, I am struck by how much our childhood experiences shape who and how we become.

    • @ragibashonga9106
      @ragibashonga9106 Год назад +2

      I also love the way Justice speaks of what is conventionally thought of as disorders as a blessing. Even hearing him speak of dyslexia and 'reading shapes', I am seeing such an opportunity for understanding this differently.

  • @yandiswaselemela9341
    @yandiswaselemela9341 Год назад +3

    "I don't deserve to be here". Survivors guilt. I know that too well.

  • @missmpho.
    @missmpho. Год назад +3

    Have this guy at least twice a week. He is so handsome ❤

  • @thembekadhlula9798
    @thembekadhlula9798 Год назад +1

    This topic is so important and I think parents need to be informed about different disabilities… sometimes schools 11:49 are accommodating but at home it’s a problem… people who are differently need a supporting 9:37 circle. 10:44

  • @nthabisengmaake4122
    @nthabisengmaake4122 Год назад +4

    What a beautiful and educational episode.

  • @vikiwemakgatho1778
    @vikiwemakgatho1778 Год назад

    Oooooowwwww yes, I’m glad I watched this today. I needed to hear all this ❤

  • @SandiswaMjikwa
    @SandiswaMjikwa Год назад +4

    Wow , this interview touched me.🫡

  • @alma-nalishacele9029
    @alma-nalishacele9029 Год назад +1

    This was a powerful conversation. I needed to hear Justice's wisdom on resilience and pushing through.

  • @que_soul_sa
    @que_soul_sa Год назад +2

    i literally have no words for this episode, all i can say is that "what an episode" 🥺
    to Mukheli twin brother's 🥂❤.

  • @jeansophia2092
    @jeansophia2092 7 месяцев назад

    I shared this to my nephew everything sais here he needs to hear.

  • @mmtn9043
    @mmtn9043 Год назад

    Presenter, you are on fire, my son is going to special remedial school, how I identify that he is not copying, is amazing.

  • @ngwedimogoera8016
    @ngwedimogoera8016 Год назад +3

    Absolutely loved this episode. What an insightful and necessary conversation

  • @ntandoyenkosi5741
    @ntandoyenkosi5741 Год назад +2

    wow this was very educative! what a strong character brother Justice, keep it up.

  • @PalesaAmu
    @PalesaAmu 6 месяцев назад

    I discovered the channel recently and I've been binge watching your videos. Some of the things he said about teachers in primary school remind me of things that some teachers would say to some learners and I'm realising now that those learners could have had dyslexia but they were bullied by their teachers who should have been their safe space

  • @naledimotloung6458
    @naledimotloung6458 Год назад +2

    Resilience & willpower ❤! Loved this episode. Justice has enlightened us on so many unconscious biases. I pledge to be a better human being

  • @portiambuli7076
    @portiambuli7076 10 месяцев назад

    Beautiful conversation. Very informative and inspiring. Thank you! ❤️

  • @mandagezana9819
    @mandagezana9819 Год назад

    What a humble gent🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @Mahleamantungwa0212
    @Mahleamantungwa0212 Год назад +1

    This such a beautiful conversation, I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult.
    The struggle of childhood trauma as a “mess” kid or unstructured kid

  • @zingisamase
    @zingisamase Год назад

    I’m so touched!!🥺🥺🥺🫂🫂🫂

  • @mahaditamane8271
    @mahaditamane8271 Год назад +2

    He reminds me when i was doing grade 2,i had a bully teacher.😥😥

  • @anastasimankesemokgobu1724
    @anastasimankesemokgobu1724 Год назад

    What a masterclass, I just had a throw back, I swear some of the kids have this problem but the teachers and parents can't recognize it. Also, what a beautiful smile 😍😍

  • @selloshongwe1823
    @selloshongwe1823 Год назад

    I have a nephew with Dyslexia and Im glad you're sharing this, I'm trying to help realise he can still learn even now at 23 it's hard for him, I can see he has the desire to learn. I think you just made me realize that he needs therapy 😢😢

  • @khositectdesign4098
    @khositectdesign4098 Год назад

    This guy... I can relate on many ways . I must meet this guys

  • @nomalungelomseleku1434
    @nomalungelomseleku1434 5 месяцев назад

    Yoh this episode reminds me of 3 girls I went to primary school with and they had the same challenges. Since I learned about dyslexia, I think about them all the time...

  • @booksbytumelomoleleki
    @booksbytumelomoleleki Год назад

    Wow, I'm in awe of this guy! I used to be in a class with kids who could not read and I thought the teachers in that school were not teaching because I could read. Coming from a village school, I then thought that township schools are horrible.

  • @nonceba_nukeri
    @nonceba_nukeri Год назад

    😢😢😢 ~ their story hyoo. God help us. How I wish more teachers would see this

  • @kabelomsimango5392
    @kabelomsimango5392 Год назад

    God bless you my brother as you are wellspoken and u have a high level of understanding of what affects you and how you can contribute to helping others of the same conditions

  • @zammyzee8073
    @zammyzee8073 Год назад

    Justice epitomises self mastery! That quiet confidence that cannot be taken away from you.

  • @SimplyK94
    @SimplyK94 Год назад +3

    Such an insightful episode 🥹 I have a sibling who suffers from a learning disorder and literally suffers through what Justice went through, very sad to see

  • @Jabulan-e
    @Jabulan-e Год назад

    I watched this episode more than 3times back to back ❤️Justice must come back 😆

  • @zingisamase
    @zingisamase Год назад

    They were special kids, omg look at how amazing they are🥺😍✨♥️

  • @lerekomolefe4323
    @lerekomolefe4323 Год назад

    I was administering a training for teachers and of one them might have been living with Dyslexia ,I didn't know then about dyslexia, now it's occurring to me why she couldn't read but instead she resorted to being angry and did not want to read nor participate in group activities, I really was shook at the time because I couldn't understand how a teacher could not read and she's a foundation phase teacher that made more concerned for the learners thank you so so much for this episode it's so insightful.

  • @solomon.jiyana9510
    @solomon.jiyana9510 Год назад

    How informative...great episode

  • @yandiswaselemela9341
    @yandiswaselemela9341 Год назад +1

    He only has hardwork on his side.❤❤

  • @neokarolomaretlwaneng4964
    @neokarolomaretlwaneng4964 Год назад

    i love this guy am soo motivated

  • @wawankosi8454
    @wawankosi8454 Год назад +1

    This is incredible! I’m sooo inspired by this story.

  • @mbalithusi4644
    @mbalithusi4644 8 месяцев назад

    Shuuu Justice is top tier 👌🏾I would like to invite him one day to my future channel because he said everything that my message is about. Thank you for this interview TCC ❤

  • @nomzamomayeza8528
    @nomzamomayeza8528 Год назад

    Thanks for this information, let's try and raise our kids differently

  • @Harietos
    @Harietos Год назад

    This is such a powerful and insightful episode. We learn everyday for sure.

  • @luzukomkati7445
    @luzukomkati7445 Год назад +1

    The country I teach in right now has inclusive education. The learners with learning difficulties are identified and known, there is so much support for them. For example, for maths and other core subjects they go to their own maths class which caters for their learning styles. There are trained teachers who specifically deal with them. I wish SA had the same resources. However, for English and other less serious subjects they mix with other classmates. There is a boy with a severe case of autism, he has a "nanny", the teacher accompanies him to ALL his classes.

  • @jasminembuelo8794
    @jasminembuelo8794 Год назад

    I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation, it was inspiring, raw and so informative❤️

  • @OrtheP
    @OrtheP Год назад +1

    I loved this episode ❤.

  • @LeboLiphapang
    @LeboLiphapang Год назад +1

    I’m suffering from the same thing. damn finally I found someone who is like me

  • @nthabisengradebe765
    @nthabisengradebe765 8 месяцев назад

    Wow! ❤

  • @yandiswaselemela9341
    @yandiswaselemela9341 Год назад +2

    Or any challenge for that matter. Work hard.

  • @happym3585
    @happym3585 Год назад

    Such a wonderful episode 🙏🏻

  • @nozizwenuku8905
    @nozizwenuku8905 Год назад +2

    1. I think in our generation the resistance is from parents everyone wants an Instagram child 2. I would have done so much better if I could articulate my thoughts and not have to write them because my matric results are not who I am 3. The people who can help diagnose our children are still out of reach psychologists and occupational therapists are still expensive and at public hospitals you need to jump through fiery hoops to get an appointment. 5. Teachers aren't screened enough for my liking all of these are reasons why I homeschool my daughter.

  • @lesam965
    @lesam965 Год назад

    My cousins have a form of learning disability. Their mom is a well established accounting teacher who I think is extremely smart. However she pressured them into the traditional schooling system even after she was advised by the school in primary and family. A very well established school. She even forced difficult subjects on them. The older boy was able to persevere and managed to pass matric and get into a tertiary institution. But he did not survive. The mom did everything from extra lessons to teaching him but nothing worked. She could not accept her child situation.
    All of this resulted in my cousin resenting his mom as soon as he realiased what happened to him. Guys I remember going to my cousins house and he was always locked up in his room studying. Nna i thought motho orata dibuka and aspired to be like him kanti he had to work extra hard.
    The younger brother repeatedly failed highschool. His mom even made him repeat grades he did not do so well in but it still didnt work.
    Its sad

  • @S.P.H.E
    @S.P.H.E Год назад

    Sbonge 🙌🏾

  • @jeansophia2092
    @jeansophia2092 7 месяцев назад

    Unkutlwe kere motho o illiterate o mpolaye😢.

  • @philliplebati7627
    @philliplebati7627 Год назад

    This podcast specifically taught me a lot , What a great interview. S/o to the algorithm somara ka Subscribe’a 🫱🏾‍🫲🏼