thank you santi for answering my question. This video covers pretty much everything I wanted to know. It's really hard for me to hide my thoughts and feelings and just go with what everyone else doing, i like to be extremely honest and not talk bs. so I think living like you santi is more suitable for me Your channel helps me a lot, keep up the good work 👍
Elad man, Im glad to hear that! well, whatever I shared in the video is a tip of ice berg. If you see anything, leave me a question again! thanks for watching!
i don't know but my japanese bf is always very direct like santi 🤣 i had some pimples on my face recently because of the mask, and i felt quite insecure and hope he will not ask. but my bf pointed at my face and asked what happen. 😅 but i prefer my bf to be direct with me and not tell me things to make me happy. for example, he always say, "Lily chan, kawaii ne!" of course i always love it when he says i am super kawaii but i dont know if it's always true.
I'm loving this kind of content. I'm learning there's slight similarity between the Filipino and Japanese cultures with regards to when to be honest or when not to. Also in a group of friends when one tries to make himself stand out, he will hear remarks from his peers like "ikaw na", "ediwow", "may nanalo na", "pabibo", "jollibee" or anything like that to let you know that you're trying to stand out. So it's important to be keep in mind the concept of "pakikisama" meaning being able to adapt, adjust and compromise for the collective harmony.
It's so interesting!! Even the last example, asking your friend "do you want me to use 本音 or 建前" has a 建前 answer😂 In my country Spain for example we don't really have good opinion of people that lie to that extent because it's too much energy to try to understand the hidden meaning, you know, we are lazy. But it's true that there are some circumstances where you have to use it (work, for example) I like your life-style, 本音 as a way of living! I believe that it is possible that you and 本音-type people, can find good friends, even in Japan! Anyways good video, waiting for the next🎉
Thank you. This was extremely interesting. It's also interesting that different cultures can have these same practices, but they don't have the same nomenclature, the same rules, or are necessarily as formalized. Santi, may I ask why your hypothetical girlfriend is always named "Lisa"? 🤨🤷🏻♀️🤍
😄 i was waiting if santi will do zoom again last night as i prepared a little something something to ask if ever i get lucky enough to get in...that is the first question: 1. Who is this famous Lisa who keeps poppin on every situational example in every Santi's video? Who is this mysterious Lisa? 😅😄😄😸
@@japaneseman Ah, Santi san. Thank you so much for telling me this! I know many counties have that name, but had no idea Japan also does. You just taught me one more thing. Thanks.🤗
Hone and Tatemae like many things, is not just a Japanese thing. Humans in general have constantly shift between socially appropriate speech and honest speech. I think the dress and Harajuku examples would be the same in America.
Okay, so, I’m autistic, and so in Australia, I struggled with our equivalent of 本音 and 建前, but I actually think it’s easier to 空気読む in Japan than Australia, and it’s easier to tell when people are using 建前. There are things I just don’t talk about with my Japanese friends (like being autistic) but day to day, I think 本音建前 works better here than Aus. Obviously, I’d prefer people to be more direct, but sometimes, 建前 is very helpful.
Hi! I just wanted to ask if Japanese people are similar to French people if we talk about languages? Because stereotypically when you go to France and try to speak English people will be replying in French (even if they know Eng) because they think that when you come to their country you h a v e t o speak French. Is it the same when a foreigner goes to Japan? Are Japanese people “language strict”?
@TT thank you! 🙏🏻 And also i agree, it’s sad that French people don’t bother trying. I mean I said it is a stereotype but as far as I know it is unfortunately really near truth :/
If you don't mind me adding my opinion, from what little I know just watching videos on RUclips about Japan, some Japanese want to try to communicate in English for practice. I think it varies widely especially between big cities vs countryside. However there is a lot of English on signs and things so Japanese people are used to seeing it everywhere. I'm curious to know if in France, are there signs/instructions written in English alongside French? At any rate I think it's good to at least make an effort to speak the language of the country you are in. It's good manners. 👍
Do the Japanese have the equivalent of Eskimos? Eskimo 1 to Eskimo 2 about Eskimo 3: Eskimo 1: "Do you Trust Eskimo 3, my good friend Eskimo 2?" Eskimo 2: "I like Eskimo 3, but would I go Seal-Fishing with Eskimo 3? Probably not." Eskimo 1: "Ah, I see... Hey I'm hungry my good life long friend Eskimo 2: Let's go Seal-Fishing!"
In some situations, you'd have to tiptoe around people's sensitivities. Personally, if i'm asked about my opinion about something and i want to be honest for the benefit of the other person , i try to phrase my opinion as politely as i can muster😌
Hello i just discovered ur channel. I find it helpful and guide for my LDR w a Jboy. Can i ask if civil servants in japan really busy even on wkends? He said he is a volunteer firefighter. He is 37.
The same thing exists in Germany as well ... It's called "Gruppenzwang". Literally it means group pressure. Woe betide you having another opinion than the majority 🙈😆
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thank you santi for answering my question.
This video covers pretty much everything
I wanted to know.
It's really hard for me to hide my thoughts and feelings and just go with what everyone else doing, i like to be extremely honest and not talk bs.
so I think living like you santi is more suitable for me
Your channel helps me a lot, keep up the good work 👍
Elad man, Im glad to hear that! well, whatever I shared in the video is a tip of ice berg. If you see anything, leave me a question again! thanks for watching!
@@japaneseman no problem man I appreciate your help👌
@Elad 5, I loved your question, could you spell these two concepts? Hiragana or romanji doesn't matter haha
@@cloudsmiles1 Honne and tatemae
@@elad5889 Thank you!! 😇
i don't know but my japanese bf is always very direct like santi 🤣 i had some pimples on my face recently because of the mask, and i felt quite insecure and hope he will not ask. but my bf pointed at my face and asked what happen. 😅 but i prefer my bf to be direct with me and not tell me things to make me happy. for example, he always say, "Lily chan, kawaii ne!" of course i always love it when he says i am super kawaii but i dont know if it's always true.
The examples are very useful 👍🏽
thanks Hana san :)
Thank you Santi-san, Your content is great. 👍
I'm loving this kind of content. I'm learning there's slight similarity between the Filipino and Japanese cultures with regards to when to be honest or when not to. Also in a group of friends when one tries to make himself stand out, he will hear remarks from his peers like "ikaw na", "ediwow", "may nanalo na", "pabibo", "jollibee" or anything like that to let you know that you're trying to stand out. So it's important to be keep in mind the concept of "pakikisama" meaning being able to adapt, adjust and compromise for the collective harmony.
It's so interesting!! Even the last example, asking your friend "do you want me to use 本音 or 建前" has a 建前 answer😂 In my country Spain for example we don't really have good opinion of people that lie to that extent because it's too much energy to try to understand the hidden meaning, you know, we are lazy.
But it's true that there are some circumstances where you have to use it (work, for example)
I like your life-style, 本音 as a way of living!
I believe that it is possible that you and 本音-type people, can find good friends, even in Japan!
Anyways good video, waiting for the next🎉
Gracias Hat señor! :))
@@japaneseman señorita* 🤣👌🏼 buen español!
Thank you. This was extremely interesting. It's also interesting that different cultures can have these same practices, but they don't have the same nomenclature, the same rules, or are necessarily as formalized. Santi, may I ask why your hypothetical girlfriend is always named "Lisa"? 🤨🤷🏻♀️🤍
😄 i was waiting if santi will do zoom again last night as i prepared a little something something to ask if ever i get lucky enough to get in...that is the first question:
1. Who is this famous Lisa who keeps poppin on every situational example in every Santi's video? Who is this mysterious Lisa? 😅😄😄😸
Haha I've noticed that too Lisa & Tanaka san
Jules san, thank you for your comment as always and the reason why I use Lisa is because it can be Japanese name and Western name :)
@@japaneseman Ah, Santi san. Thank you so much for telling me this! I know many counties have that name, but had no idea Japan also does. You just taught me one more thing. Thanks.🤗
whoaa santi san,nice chair :)
You noticed lol yeah, the old one made noise and also the cushion was flatten. so Ive got a gaming chair! yeah!
@@japaneseman hahahaa yup I once got distracted on the noise too 😂..keep making great content after this🔥💥,love from Kuala Lumpur,Malaysia 🇲🇾😀
Lol. I noticed too.
Hone and Tatemae like many things, is not just a Japanese thing. Humans in general have constantly shift between socially appropriate speech and honest speech. I think the dress and Harajuku examples would be the same in America.
Santi-san spitting FACTS. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Santi i always listening to your blog.. i leaned a lot from. BTW u have big eyes, hehe
Okay, so, I’m autistic, and so in Australia, I struggled with our equivalent of 本音 and 建前, but I actually think it’s easier to 空気読む in Japan than Australia, and it’s easier to tell when people are using 建前. There are things I just don’t talk about with my Japanese friends (like being autistic) but day to day, I think 本音建前 works better here than Aus. Obviously, I’d prefer people to be more direct, but sometimes, 建前 is very helpful.
Hi! I just wanted to ask if Japanese people are similar to French people if we talk about languages? Because stereotypically when you go to France and try to speak English people will be replying in French (even if they know Eng) because they think that when you come to their country you h a v e t o speak French. Is it the same when a foreigner goes to Japan? Are Japanese people “language strict”?
@TT thank you! 🙏🏻 And also i agree, it’s sad that French people don’t bother trying. I mean I said it is a stereotype but as far as I know it is unfortunately really near truth :/
If you don't mind me adding my opinion, from what little I know just watching videos on RUclips about Japan, some Japanese want to try to communicate in English for practice. I think it varies widely especially between big cities vs countryside. However there is a lot of English on signs and things so Japanese people are used to seeing it everywhere. I'm curious to know if in France, are there signs/instructions written in English alongside French? At any rate I think it's good to at least make an effort to speak the language of the country you are in. It's good manners. 👍
Do the Japanese have the equivalent of Eskimos?
Eskimo 1 to Eskimo 2 about Eskimo 3:
Eskimo 1: "Do you Trust Eskimo 3, my good friend Eskimo 2?"
Eskimo 2: "I like Eskimo 3, but would I go Seal-Fishing with Eskimo 3? Probably not."
Eskimo 1: "Ah, I see... Hey I'm hungry my good life long friend Eskimo 2: Let's go Seal-Fishing!"
Santi i am no longer フリーランサー. 😣 I got a job I couldn’t refuse. I’m not sure how I feel. I think I sold my soul for a good price.
In some situations, you'd have to tiptoe around people's sensitivities. Personally, if i'm asked about my opinion about something and i want to be honest for the benefit of the other person , i try to phrase my opinion as politely as i can muster😌
Very interesting topic!! Santi, could you spell these two concepts? Hiragana or romanji doesn't matter haha
Hello i just discovered ur channel. I find it helpful and guide for my LDR w a Jboy. Can i ask if civil servants in japan really busy even on wkends? He said he is a volunteer firefighter. He is 37.
The same thing exists in Germany as well ... It's called "Gruppenzwang". Literally it means group pressure.
Woe betide you having another opinion than the majority 🙈😆
Ayyy santi
Santi! why don't talk about Women Equility in japan as today we celebrated the IWD. Greetings
SANTI!!! WE'RE ON THE SAME PAGE...NO FRIENDS, BUT CAN'T STAND "TATEMAE"!!
So the girl knows you’re lying?