I've tried to inculcate in my son and daughter that they should never feel "flattered" by the attention of anyone. If you're made to feel like someone "above" you is doing you some kind of favor by paying attention to you, it's time to walk away and reevaluate their motives at the very least.
I don't know if this logic tracks. When you are in love with a person, you tend to feel flattered by their attention. Especially in your young awkward years. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with the person or how they are treating you. What needs to be reevaluated mostly is probably yourself and your own perception of your self worth.
@@MugenNiFukuzatsuna The main point of my advice is that people who intentionally try to make you feel like they're doing you a favor by paying attention to you should be avoided. Not saying feeling flattered in general is bad (I remember and miss those days myself).
@@bluegreenglue6565 love bombing is classic trap to use in the early stage of relationship. I wish someone warned me about this before i entered into adulthood.
I was in a relationship and ended up bankrupt because the person I was with always lost a job and I funded his life. Frankly, I was depressed and desperate for affection and he played me. One day I realized what I was doing and ended it. The guilt and shame after were overwhelming. But I recovered and now I can see why people fall for this type of scam.
I hope you will never again have to do with that kind of person. We all get scammed one way or another in this lifetime and when that's connected to our love life, that's really tough to recover from. Take good care of you! Big hug!
It's wrong but still impressive that this guy keeps finding ways to bounce back into money and bounce around continents after prison ect. Like many conartists - if he just applied himself to something legal- he would probably be successful there too.
His victims were undone by their own greed in some ways. They thought they had landed a billionaire and so they opened their wallets (as well as probably their legs).
@@nighttrain1236 I don't think it's so much greed, but meeting someone with unique capabilities and experiences. All of these women gave Simon so much money and if that's all they were interested in they wouldn't have trusted him. I think many people are attracted to larger than Life personalities which is where the con is really successful
I think that's Simon is probably reasonably intelligent. But I'm not sure he would be very successful in the real world. It seems that his talents are very superficial or at least what he showed in the documentary. It's probably easy to take advantage of people if you have no conscience telling you not to. There are many gullible people on tinder because they all "want something good to happen" The victims all set themselves up because they had decided without realizing it that they were going to prove themselves that Simon was real because they googled them and saw his Instagram. Well it turns out that's not actually very reliable. It's easy to create a fake Instagram. Or just tell people a bunch of lies when they don't know anything about you. Simon would have been intelligence if he could have kept the scam going for more than a few months but he couldn't do that so the scam was designed to end.
@@nighttrain1236 this is true. the first gal featured in the movie (Ceceilia) committed credit card fraud against Amex to help Simons transactions thru. She is responsible for those debts.
You watched typical propaganda which always tries to portray females as victims, even when they're gold digging perpetrators. Women ave been scamming men for millenia, that's what you should be teaching your daughters about.
You didn’t mention the possibility of Simon being a psychopath. Many of his characteristics like lack of empathy, no apparent conscience, being a con man, very charming, not learning from his mistakes
Yes this!!! Him asking the victims for money when he knew they didn't have any (bc he stole it) and when they said no asked them to take it from their parents...how does he not feel guilty
Why would a 'billionaire' have to go on a dating site? Doesn't seem sensible to think that would happen. But them asking for money would be very suspicious. Billionaires wouldn't need to borrow your credit card. Of course, I'm just speculating.
@@cookie_dough_hangover I agree. Seeing the documentary explains the story he made up to get them to give him money. It involved "danger" and "panic." That said, I remember thinking, why wouldn't he be reaching out to his own family if he needed this help? That should be the red flag. But that's part of the brainwashing. By the time you're taking out the 3rd loan, you're in so deep your brain won't let you see what is so obvious to anyone else who isn't brainwashed by him.
My first question to him when he asked for help would have been "You have a wealthy father, who probably not only can give you millions to help you out, but probably has contacts all over the world who can help you - why are you asking me?" Not that i am blaming the victims - when one is conned, it is very hard to tell the wood from the trees. Thanks to these brave women for opening up and communicating with the world to help prevent him doing more harm.
@Lucas Lucas no. Confessing being abused/conned on an international platform musn't have been easy at all..! I personally wouldn't have had the guts to do it if I were in their place
Exactly!! I think what makes these con-artists so successful is being able to sniff out particularly vulnerable women and then preying on them. Perhaps there's a naivete that they all share because if that was me, the first thing I'd say is "Uhh...Isn't your father a billionaire? Why don't you maybe ask him?' The fact that these women didn't think that tells me that they're probably more scammable than not.
They are only victims of their own choices. Obviously they are all shallow superficial narcisisstic women. The attention they are getting now will not help in fixing whatever is wrong with them, quite the contrary. It is funny though...thousands, tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of men get swindled out of their own money by women and the court system...nobody bats an eye.
When I saw Cecilia went with him in his personal plane on the first date, it was just unbelievable to me that she never considered the possibility of being trafficked. Also they didn't see the fact that there were enemies after him as a warning to withdraw. Why would one go in a relation risking their basic safety?
It’s messed up how the guy only served 5 months and the women are all in a crazy amount of debt because of this dude and now he’s back out there living his best life. Justice wasn’t served in this case at all
These women get no sympathy from me. These women saw $$$ and thought they hit the jackpot with that man. Make no mistake they were gold diggers who got the table turned on them. I don't see the women as victims i see it as karma.
@@Luka9m That sounds like a you problem. Simon conned a lot of men in his life too but now sticks to women because they're easier targets. He was disowned from his family as teenager and only knows how to lie and manipulate people. Just so he can blow stolen cash on a hedonistic lifestyle. He doesn't even do anything smart with the money he gets from cons. If you're only happy because Simon conned women then that says something about you.
@@Luka9m i mean if you watched the documentary the one girl who was scammed was just friends with simon and had no romantic intentions. He made them all believe he was in a dangerous life or death situation, and used their concern over his well being to steal large amounts of money. I think this is a bit different.
I've definitely met a Tinder swindler before. After we met she literally was asking if she could maybe move in and it was only like 3 days after we first met. I still follow her on Instagram and she makes a life out of moving from guy to guy, basically anyone who will support her until I guess they or she runs out of money or gets bored. I feel like I dodged a bullet with her.
Lots of women like that out there dude. Watch it! Free meals, rent, car. Guarantee she would be bangin' some other dude while she was living there rent free. Sadly, there are many simps out there who would have taken that offer. They are as dumb and naive as Cecilia. Stay safe out there!
I have a male friend who fell for this type of swindler. He only gave his "boyfriend" about $10,000 so the guy could afford to move from across the country to be with my friend. Of course, when the guy never showed up, it became pretty obvious that there was a problem. Sadly, my friend got swindled a second time, although he figured it out much sooner and didn’t give the guy much money. I think there’s a psychological reason why people fall for these kinds of hustlers; my friend absolutely refused to see what the rest of us could see and he got very upset when several of us warned him about giving so much money to someone he barely knew.
Yep. These con artists know exactly who to target. The women in that documentary were definitely apart of “the type”. There are sheep and there are wolves and then there’s the low down dirty shepherd.
The voicemail messages he left his girlfriend who was selling his clothes had me in stitches. He was angry then begging then sweet back to angry, then fuming, apologizing
What really had me in stitches is how she ended up conning him back, but not returning his clothes or sending whatever money she supposedly got from selling them.
I didn't understand why the second girl thought he was such a 'good friend'; from what was shown in the doc it just seems like they bounced around Europe partying together, and I kinda got the impression she helped him almost out of a sense of obligation for accepting his 'generosity'. Don't accept expensive gifts/experiences from ppl you barely know!
I agree with you he guilt tripped her from all the time she felt like she was "mooching off of him" the moral of the story is stay in your lane in life.
Gold diggers, they were all gold diggers - On his f protocol face written I’m a conman , I don’t have a heart but they all fell in love . Losers gold diggers
I had a boyfriend that wanted me to take a loan so he could start a business buying and selling cars (that he had never done) for more than a year's salary. I said no and he got really pissed with me. We were together for more than five years but our relationship started going bad after that. We broke up a few months later after I found out he had several on the side girls.
@@CodyCole80 you think that’s bad I spent like £50k on my ex. He had a hard life and I wanted to help him because he kept blaming lack of funds why he wasn’t successful. He made me feel obligated to do it and I felt like I was helping him. Nope.
My ex husband did just that and left me with a 5 yr loan. He quit his job 5 months after we took it out. We then separated 3 years later due to his domestic abuse. These people are conscience less
Without wanting to victim-blame, I don’t have any respect for people who are impressed by others posing with flashy items. When I see photos of guys in front of their cars on Tinder, I always swipe left. It’s such a red flag and they just seem so boring.
I can confirm. I dated a luxury car salesman and it seemed to be his entire personality and he seemed to over compensate for other things because he was always flashing stuff.
@@alysemarie8313 Truly high-value individuals don't date randoms grom cheap sites. They use their social circle to find people on a similar level. When you're looking for a 1 in a thousand person, you can't waste your time on random people: chances are you'll NEVER get a good one. You only search where major preselection on several levels already exists. 99.5% of people can't even access these circles.
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 Well, I disagree. I knew a chief executive's son from working at a telecommunications company's corporate office. He was always swiping on Tinder. Always. He was very approachable and socialized with everyone. In fact, after a company event the group wound up all going to an arcade and it turned out his favorite bar was next door - a run down little billards bar. It depends on the person I think. He was in his 20s and didn't really like socializing in his dad's circle. If he met a girl and said "I'm rich want to go to Spain with me" it would have been 100% legit. But also he wouldn't be bringing a random girl on daddy's jet after a few hours of knowing her. Maybe the yacht. Not the jet.
There are many “Simons” in this world. They come in both male and female form. Sadly, there are also many a fool born every minute. Never say never - everybody has their Achilles heel and their weak moments - and good luck when a “Simon” out there discovers it…
You’re so right! My dumb ex met one, full-on Con, (and he married her) not together anymore she now lives with her gay bf on my Ex’s money! ha! That’s what he gets !
I think the guts of the women profiled in the Netflix series is an interesting factor, as well. On the one hand they were gullible and easily swindled. On the other hand, these three all played a part in bringing him down in spite of his scary threats and their own gullibility.
I watched a more in-depth video on this guy. He’s really good at the con. He takes his time. He didn’t just send pics of the “injured bodyguard “ he sent a video of him and the “ bodyguard “ in an ambulance with a paramedic treating the man. Also the first woman didn’t at first believe Simon could possibly be a real profile so she googled the name he gave her. It was backed up as the name of real Simon was in diamond trade , as was his father. So these women were not just idiots … he really put in the work. I’m so glad he was busted. I wish he would get more jail time. These cases are why I could NEVER trust online dating.
Why would a billionaire need a loan ? Why would a billionaire need tinder ?......Billionaires date supermodels Only naive desperate women would fall for that.
Try a relationship where everyone stays living in their own home with their own bank account. It's refreshingly simple, and if you've been burned before helps you both feel safe. Finding someone you can trust, someone with the same values is the tricky part.
It was interesting to me how he never gave up his con even when caught. This seems to be a commonality with these con artists. He told more lies to keep it going and then a story of how his enemies hired journalists for a smear campaign. It amazes me how he is able to keep the con going even now! No real repercussions and he’s back on Tinder.
My sister met him on tinder about a month ago. Now she's talking about giving him all her savings because his nephew has been aducted by drug cartels and he needs the money to pay the ransom.
The relationships definitely moved too fast but lets be real, he claimed to be a son of a billionaire. Billionaires can do what us regular people cannot.
💯 Most people seem to have no idea at all just how incredibly dangerous dating apps are in general. You truly have NO idea who you are dealing with - ever.
If a CEO of a diamond company claiming to be worth billions that you've been dating for a month asks you to take out a credit card in your name with a 2,500 dollar credit limit - that's your sign that they're not a CEO of a diamond company worth billions. He basically watched the movie Hustlers and said, yea I can do that.
Yes just like … oh I work abroad and got beat by a thug in “ Nigeria “ can you help cause I cannot pay for my hotel room . They took my wallet. That was a joke had two different pics of himself . Weird . I am a simple girl with no moola so I was off the hook easy 🤷♀️I said oh you wouldn’t be trying to scam me would you ….. oh no not me !!
“ They betray their own desperation to feel special.” Wow Dr. grande you couldn’t have said it any better, I always love your analysis, always learning so much, thank you😊🙏🏾💕
Note to self, don't give my credit cards to smooth talking guys who write second grade level romantic messages. Wait until he sends 4th grade level messages? 🤔 Thanks for another insightful video!
This obsession people have with image today is scary, and it's only been exacerbated by social media platforms like Instagram. Dr. Grande what are the long term ramifications of exposure to this kind of shallow and superficial lifestyle?? Both in terms of body image/ body dysmorphia and wealth management.
Just sat and watched 2 girls duck pouting at a gas pump taking photo after photo looking like carbon copies of every insta girl today and thought the same...what is happening with this world and why all this constantly showing off your life and look? This guy takes faking it til u make it his whole identity
Long term ramifications are that the world has become a playground for grifters capitalizing on dreams of billions of potential victims hanging out online every waking moment. It's never been easier to be a criminal. Is it really as easy as tossing a few compliments at a woman and she will give her credit card to you? It's easy to use the same grifting model every day with 3,000 potential victims. I guess all you need is a couple to dive into the delusion and you are in business.
@@mamacito1795 attention which they have not gotten from their parents. every like, every nice comment, every share, every dm is a short moment of joy, that of course never lasts long. all these people need to work on their selfvalue, selflove and selfesteem.
This video was shocking. More shocking was that the Police did so little, leaving it up to the women involved. After Simon was busted, he did little time, and is back at it somewhere else! Like Bernie Madoff, he had zero conscience about the destruction that he left in his wake.
@The Wraith I don’t think there is any law against asking someone for money.. in reality he asked for money said he would pay it back and didn’t nothing illegal about that. if I ask you for $1000 and say I’ll pay you back but don’t there is no law against that as long as there’s no contract
"Knew how to exploit shallow romantic partner selection criteria" Dr Grande's ability to take such a large concept and narrow it down the one sentence of truth, is so refreshing and validating.
@@AlphanumericCharacters It took me a long time to realise that 99 per cent of people are superficial. Once I stopped wasting my time on other people and focused it on writing RUclips comments full-time, life became interesting.
That's exactly it. I once did something similar to these superficial young ladies when I was a young man. If you choose a partner based on greed AND you fornicate with them, you'll have to pay the price.
It was how he made them feel. He convinced them that he was wealthy and could pay the money back by the way he lavishly spent (other women’s money). He made them feel wonderful, like he was their boyfriend, like they would have a future together. Unlike FB catfish scams, he flew them places and met them in person and created a fake relationship with them so they would believe him. I would like to think I wouldn’t fall for this but I find compassion is better than harsh judgment of these women. The first woman featured even had his ex telling her that he was a good person. Definitely lessons to be learned. Good for them sharing their stories and risking ridicule for the sake of other women who might fall for this type of thing too.
Satan. That`s gotta be what happened here. It`s the only thing that makes sense. Now if I can get just the right mix of very expensive illegal drugs in me there`s a slight chance of figuring out how he pulled it off. Last year I got so high on Peruvian Torch Meth that I actually understood one of Joe Bidens rants so there IS hope! And with Jabbering Joe in office drugs are EVERYWHERE again!
Someone desperate could think maybe he is just not verbally gifted. But hearing his monotone lifeless emotionless voice made me think who could ever fall for that, he was also a bad actor. II left a guy in internet for that, no verbal skills, no emotion in voice.
I was quite judgemental before watching the Netflix show - how can these girls be so naive? But private jet on the first date!? Baby's mother vouching for him!? wow this guy is a scam but on a grand scale - not even sure I would have resisted when in my 20's.
@exa She likely has a trauma bond to him. Feels perhaps that she will be the one who can help him, fix him, love him when no one else will 😕 As the daughter of a Finn, I can say that Finns themselves are very honest and trust what is said to them (I think true for Nordics overall) But this Finnish woman has layers of damage from the swindler 😔
Awesome analysis.... It is quite clear from the internet that alot of people don't understand the complexity of narcissism. The victims are being blamed. I was happy to find this video from an expert.
Most likely due to the fact the 1st Woman was actively lying to creditors which is also a crime! They were also willingly giving him balance after balance and not once questioning him as these were basically IOU's to a friend! He did scam them however they actively went along with the scam for a period of time without questioning it as they all believed he was a Billionaire. The fact he was a Billionaire and asking for help should of also been questioned. They didn't and therefore although scammed they actively gave him the money of their own free will as a friend. He had no obligation to pay them back as they lent him the money and never once thought to really question it!
All these men on here that are blaming the victims are just kidding themselves. If some gorgeous young model that appeared to be rolling in money contacted them on Tinder they would have behaved in all kinds of foolish ways.
Although I feel for the victims and I understand that when people fall in love their rational thinking can go out the window, in this case the superficiality goes both ways. In the same way that he was extremely shallow, the victims were also shallow. Their motivation to connect with him was primarily based on his “wealth”. Maybe afterwards the feelings of love surfaced but that wasn’t the initial sentiment. This case prompts us to reflect on the motivation behind forming a relationship with someone. I think physical attraction is a strong point at first, but honestly, there are situations in which a very attractive person begins talking and all of sudden their attractiveness starts to fade due to their profound immaturity. Other times, a not so attractive person starts talking and eventually their attractiveness increase due to their kindness, intelligence and other factors. Obviously everyone is different, that’s just my opinion. Excellent review as usual Dr. Grande, I hope you have a wonderful weekend.❤️
Absolutely. Unfortunately with dating sites, image is everything because that’s precisely how a profile page is constructed: images. This guy knew that and was a genius marketer. I am a somewhat skeptical person naturally so all that mushy love stuff at the outset is a huge red flag for me.
I'm wondering if you watched the Tinder Swindler...these women spent time with him (not a lot but they did meet up in person) and they witnessed and experienced expensive hotels, private jets, big parties, and being received at very posh hotels with recognition from the staff with a "Welcome back Mr. Leviev". They were not just photographs and text messages.
@@empressu7134 I meant that the brand new acquaintance (the potential girl he met on tinder) isn't wealthy. Of course Simon appears wealthy, especially to ordinary people and the experience would be awesome. Though the moment he asks you for money instead of one of his friends/family is when you should start sensing that it doesn't add up. People pretending to be rich isn't that unheard of.
I've run into these dating site scammers before. Their conversations do tend to sound disjointed, they always seem to kind and gentle - until you refuse to give them money. One had the audacity to ask me to beg my dad for money for him. The smart ones just go away when their first attempts fail.
They always call you ‘dear’ which is weird. They claim to be from UK, and English, but their written English is odd, it’s so obvious who they are, sometimes I pay along for a laugh and scam the scammer
Elizabeth Holmes - Theranos Anna Sorokin - ADF Billy McFarland - Fyre Festival Simon Leviev - Tinder Swindler All these cases showed that the perpetrator do not show any remorse over their action and believed in some sort of “fake it till you make it” mindset; except maybe for the Simon Leviev, whom basically “fake it till they cant take it”, unfortunately. Is there a comparison analysis that can be made to learn about these cases and how each of their modus operandi had lead to their success and then demise? Love your series btw!
If he tells them he's worried about his safety, why paste your "wealth" all over the internet? I guess choosing a role where business trips are the norm would help with stringing so many people along. More stress and work than its worth. I'd have a heart attack thinking something would go wrong any minute 😬 I know he's being deceitful, but I can imagine American express still holding the women liable for any funds. They could argue that they weren't prudent enough. So many people use relationships to manipulate someone into bad financial decisions. Many don't say anything because they're ashamed and so people get away with it and their fraud gets hidden. It really ruins people's lives! Yeah, they accused him for personal reasons, you took their personal funds!
You come very close to saying the women are to blame for being swindled, but not quite. Sadly, you're also spot on. People with a certain common sense and normal healthy skepticism would not have fallen for this. Getting on a private plane with a complete stranger is not normal. If he's for real, there's no hurry. These ladies were lucky not to be abducted, trafficked, or worse. $10,000 nightclub bills paid for by a stranger always come at a price. Mothers, don't let your babies grow up to be Tinderettes. Also, if I had to guess Simon's profession from his photos... I would've guessed: Busboy.
Really grateful for your summary of this case. I didn't want to take time to watch the Netflix feature (right now too into all the Spider-man films...a recently constructed archetype) but YT surfing has garnered several videos on this story. As I looked through the comments, no one mentions the Disney Love Complex aspect which is what actually stood out to me. Cecilie Fjellhoy talked about how she grew up on Disney films and to quote an article on this, "Something that struck me in the victim’s narration was how she kept talking about wanting a Disney love story, and you could see how that naivety still rimmed her eyes and coloured the lens she looked through things like love and romance. Tons of research has shown that there’s a psychosocial implication that Disney movies have on society, and women in particular in relation to romance, love and marriage. Garlen & Sandlin, 2017 highlight that Disney Princess movies manifests as an incitement to pursue an impossible ideal of romantic love, which keeps us attached to “compromised conditions of possibility” that limit female agency and obstruct social progress. While “Disney Princess tales” may appear as harmless entertainment, they include not-so-subtle instructions about how girls should interact with the world and with boys and men." I agree with several comments about how these women's values for ostentatious wealth and lifestyle had much to with their being so easily fooled (sorry ladies, but really...you have got to love Dr. Grande's assessment of Simon's command of language being on second grade level). Also, the whole ridiculous movie adventure aspect of a picture of a beaten bodyguard should have been a red flag but just added to the facade of romance and intrigue. Sorry, don't have a lot of sympathy for the victims here because, frankly, this video exposes how pathetic this Tinder Swindler really is. I don't think even P.T. Barnum would be impressed.
If he was the so called Son of a billionaire, when he started asking for money why didnt any of these Women just say ask your Dad or family for credit or protection? I just dont get it. Are people so taken in by the illusion of wealth these days?
@@20yrs_oldBlackGuy erm... 1) a Billionaires son on tinder actively advertising the fact he was a Billionaires son. 2) asking for small change for help while he claimed to be a Billionaires son. 3) asking them to pawn things to give him money. Those red flags!
I understand this could've happened to anyone but how in the world do you lend money to someone you barely know, let alone in the $100k plus, and especially someone you've met online? There were so many obvious red flags. How could you've missed them? I'm sorry but this is something a gullible person would fall for.
I don’t think this could happen to anyone. In fact Dr Grande points out most people wouldn’t fall for this. Simon targeted women that would. Shallow women. Hell they had to actually take loans.
If a man has just dated a woman and is already asking her for money, that is definitely a red flag! Don't fall for it! Anyway, why would a "billionaire" be on tinder or any other dating site for that matter? You would think that he could find a potential mate at some expensive social event!
Exactly! Truly high-value individuals don't date randos on cheap dating sites. They use their social circle to find people on a similar level. When you're looking for a 1 in a thousand person, you can't waste your time on random people: chances are you'll NEVER get one! You only search where major preselection on several levels has already occurred. 99.5% of people can't even access these circles.
The best part of the doc was when he was asking the girl for the money for the high end clothing she said she'd sell for him. Really showed his true colors and how much of a psychopath he was.
Something you said, made me sit up, one of his victims noted, "Simon was a good listener"! That would flatter a woman. But with him he was studying his prey. What a creep.
Apparently, some are even desperate to become a victim. The first woman's best friends told her via text not to get on that plane to Bulgaria, warning her of being sold into sex slavery, and she still did it.
And then because the woman came back home ok she thought "wow, he is a decent guy". Also, when his "ex" (with their baby) on the plane said "He is a wonderful man and a wonderful father." That's when she fully began to trust him. The one thing about this documentary I never understood is why the baby mama, "the body guard" Peter, and his "agent" were all part of it too? Were they getting money? Were they doing it because they loved Simon? Were they doing it because they feared him? ^this I don't know
@@specialtwice4975 no logically person of sound mind gets on a Private Jet after 1 hour of knowing them with their entire entourage around them and that person having no one they actually know with them. Her Friends pointed out the obvious... it didn't matter. This was her chance to hit the big time with a guy she had known for an hour over a coffee with. Asking his ex about him while he held her kid, she clearly already had intent on wanting to have a relationship with him. She didn't have to put any effort into the chase as he said what she already wanted to hear after one hour. I reckon the woman with the kid was told you either help me get money or you and the kid are on the street!
Dr Grande, the lady from Noreay, Cecilie already admitted that she was astounded with his presentation. When seeking a partner, it's great to know they are stable. If they the guy is wealthy, there are attributes that are taken into account why. Hard work. His parents hard work to achieve a diamond industry is an added bonus. There was sufficient evidence that he deployed that that an un-gullible person believed. the amount of time he has been operating reflects this. He was just believable. When he threatened Cecilie, she was very scared because of the way he presented himself. Indeed the way he wrote reflected a teenager, nothing profound devoid of any creativity, but the women snapped it all up. They didnt deserve to be swindled. If I won the lotto, I'd pay all their debts to scrub this horrible experience. Israel disappoints me. With the global attention on him as an Israeli, they should lock him up or extradite thim quickly.
A couple of red flags off the bat, 1. An eligible, billionaire bachelor on Tinder? At that level, you'd be looking to narrow your field of potential mates, not expand it. 2. He presented himself as a poor man's idea of a rich man. Private jet, luxury cars, designer clothes. Most wealthy people don't live that way, and if they do, they generally don't want a bunch of gold-diggers sniffing around.
Yes! Was going to request this, just watched it the other night. Nobody breaks down a psychopath/narc con like Dr. G 😄 Along with important concepts such as red flags and common sense.
@@mikelisteral7863 yep. If they were so shallow and vapid they probably would've never been swindled. That's what happens when your impressed with someone's appearance of wealth and what they can offer you.
This case blew my mind. I have had males who asked for a *loan* of a tidy sum of money during dating process, not engaged just dating. I think people perceive me to be much more needy than I am. It was always a solid NO, and a withdrawal for me slowly from the relationship. Yes Simon was a con. Interested me how women would put themselves into 100000s of debt over his security concerns. I would said go talk to your dad or a wealthy friend. I'm a poor woman you selected off Tinder. Yes I think the women were at a very vulnerable place in their lives. It's sad.
@@fons2623 I have sympathy for the 6 women it wasn't only 3 he conned. He was using his looks love bombing, moving the relationship fast, making the girls feel comfortable with he other players in the game. A wealthy man asking for use of a cc card might for some in the midst of a loving feeling relationship seem like a logical step. I however, have met con's from a very young age with money, cheating etc and learned very young not to trust a man to do as he promises. These women may have been sheltered I hope they are in a better place now.
Seeing your experience with this type of guys I fear Tinder (and other apps) are riddled with scammers like him and vulnerable/trusting people like these women. What would you say is the ratio of scammer to good person on Tinder?
Good for saying no. Any guy asking for a tidy sum of money during the dating process isn't ready to date. Sorry for the women who went through this. It's not cool. The worst part is this dude is free and making money again while dating a different model. No punishment, no karma, no nothing. It's sickening.
I really enjoyed this video. There are many shows whose purpose is to warn the lonely and the vulnerable but really are created to exploit the pain and humiliation of the victims. What I really like is that you not only analyzed the scammer but the women who were so easily taken in.. These aren’t stupid women but all logic flew out the window.
They are not stupid, but they are gold hungry. The want the nice instagram pics from fancy parties, on yachts, in private jets. THey want the lavish lifestyle and they want somebody else to pay for it. That is why all logic went out the window. Because they are really just shallow vessels who make useless shadows on the surface of the Earth.
This guy is a textbook example of psychopath! All 3 features and more!!! Criminal - hope his Karma will take care of this guy - ridiculous that he is still out there - free after what he did!!! This man is SICK!
The "rudimentary shallow partner selection criteria" of con artists seem identical to those in bachelor reality shows. I guess both have the same goal---enticing for economic gain. Thanks for the great analysis!
When someone works hard and makes it, jealousy is all around them unfortunately. It tempts staff you trust into stealing from you, it can bring out the worst in other people.
I'm sure many victims blame themselves. They are decent and kind. Their mistake is thinking they've met someone who is the same.. thanks for explaining.
I think he was still scamming his last girlfriend Ayleen when he said he was living in a hostel, eating leftover mall food and desperate. The beard was probably grown to allude the police but I don't believe the rest of the sob story. He wanted to "out con" her one last time because he knew she got him and I think that's what flipped him out the most. He was outsmarted.
What really scares me is knowing that this guy likely has military training - Imagine him serving his time in the Israeli Army?! This evil, cold, calculating bastard was armed with an automatic weapon for at least 2 years!!!!
Hi from Australia. Thank you for raising awareness. I've watched almost all of your videos. So empowering. I have had some highly intelligent and confident friends that have almost fallen for these scams. They can be very convincing.
Yes , You have empathy as did I for those lovely ladies. It’s sad that so many are lonely and meeting people on line. My Mums Aunt... (Mum is 96,) she felt terrible shame and never even visited Ireland again.
This analysis was brilliant, I recently went thru something similar as those girls...he seemed richer than me, talked a big game of "hotels.." I mean I didn't really believe it. I thought that if he truly was rich (like every other kid I know from the developing world), you don't do high school in your home country... it simply isn't done. His high school cost less than my brother's pre-school😂...and to top it all off it wasn't an intl school or British school, it was a LOCAL school. I was in Pernilla's situation, he was my friend. I paid for a lot of our life... he never paid me back unless I hounded him... unnecessary wasteman. He always told me what I needed to hear, so I think in that respect people should stop blaming victims. I heard about this story back in 2019 and didn't understand how it truly felt to be in an emotionally manipulative situation, the fear and anxiety... you can't even think straight. It was bad for me cause he was in my dorm and it got really dangerous....
Oh DR. G!!!: People never cease to amaze me.The absolute gullibility and naivety it would take for a woman of relatively excellent judgment in most areas of their llife, and intelligence with a good career path ,who holds down a career, allows herself to be drawn into a situation such as this, and give a relative 'STRANGER" hundreds of thousands of dollars when she doesn't even know him at all is just midboddliing to me! . Are they THAT desperate for love they just jump in with both feet and put total reason and logic aside? Would love to see you do a video Dr, G to discuss this aberrant behavior in women and why they continue to do it? I an mystified. Thanks buddy.
Funny that what attracted them to him was pictures of him posing with jets and sports cars. Because that’s exactly what turned me off when I was on tinder (there’s tons of guys with those photos). I rolled my eyes and thought “yuck!”. I saw them as wannabes, posers, fakes. I’ve met wealthy men on my line of work, and this isn’t something they do (take photos next to cars and jets to show to potential dates). But moreover, how much depth could I expect from a man who thinks his value is measured on things? It comes off as insecure, shallow and lacking personality. If he didn’t trust his own persona and brains were enough to charm someone, neither would I. I did meet my husband on tinder. He didn’t have any of those pictures on his profile. He doesn’t need any fancy cars nor jets. He is enough and beyond all on his own.
I just watched this documentary today, what nobody seems to mention, you can tell he obviously has no respect for women, look how his mother is living and doesn’t appear in great health, the money he’s blowing up the wall on being addicted to the rich lifestyle, just a portion of that would help his mother , she was found living in a grimy apartment! That tells you everything about him how he treats his mother! I knew a man once , hustled women in a similar way to fund his gambling addiction , the gambler had some class Simon didnt. I mean a trip in the private jet and seems to be straight to the hotel bedroom , money sure talks! All the hustle and nothing to show for it just a set of fake watches! Let’s hope the designer clothes she was flogging on eBay aren’t fake, they may have tripled in value after the Netflix documentary!
@@canileaveitblank1476 agreed. I’m sorry but these woman are shallow and deserved to be scammed. So unbelievably stupid to put yourself $250k in debt over a guy you met a couple times and aren’t even in a serious relationship with.
@@canileaveitblank1476 I felt sorry for his mother, she obviously threw him out as she could see what he was becoming, even so he could of helped his mother, instead of private jets&caviar! I’d be damn choking on all the sumptuous meals knowing how my mother was living, he could of bought her a new place to live as he was blowing money up the wall! They all got what they deserved !
Thank you. One thing that is conveniently seem to have been left out is the motivation of most of the victims who fell for his scam. They were dazzeled by the appearance of money and wealth.
It's unfortunate that there are individuals completely susceptible to this. Some people have no barometer when dealing with fake people. I imagine these women where desperate enough to fall for the lies but not desperate enough just to date a guy that is honest but makes significantly less than what Simon purposed.
I think it’s a gambling assessment. If a woman puts herself out there for a normal dude, she might have a boring, passionless domestic life with a guy that no one else reveres, but then again he might be a good husband. If she trust the guy on the yacht, she might wind up being in crushing debt forever, which is pretty normal these days, but she also might also wind up as a 1%er. The problem ends up being how to calculate the probabilities there. She probably saw it as a 50/50 shot when it was probably more like a 1/100,000 shot.
David Mamet's House of Games (1987) is intriguing. A psychiatrist falls for a charismatic con man. Despite her wealth and position, there's something missing in her life, and he taps into this. Great ending.
I think one of the reasons these women gave him their money, is because he had spent SO MUCH money on THEM! Its the perfect way of guilt tripping. Its like they felt responsible in a way to help him because they had been a part of his luxurious life and they took advantage of it in the good times. Now that he is in trouble they must pay back the debt they owe him. Plus the emotional involvement makes it seems like a good idea. I think anyone can get conned, you can't blame one person. What is surprising that he is walking free after committing so many felons. It's like the authorities don't even give a single shit. He traveled with a fake passports, that's 10 years of imprisonment!! And he got out in 5 months, this dude definitely has some connections, or he is just Satan posing as a human.
It's quite peculiar that he managed to change his name from Shimon Hayut to Simon Leviev. First, you cannot change your name to Cohen or Levi in Israel unless you can prove you belong to those clans. Second, even if he did belong to the Levi clan it's no coincidence that he picked up Leviev as his new name - there is a very well known family of Leviev Brothers in Israel who were diamond dealers and they are wanted in Israel for tax evasion and a number of other alleged crimes. They owed millions in taxes alone. He must have done it on purpose should any of his gold-digging girlfriends try to look him up. They would see $$$ in Leviev family and would imagine that the money was dirty - but that there was a lot of it!
I am not at all excusing Simon's behavior. But!-- those women contacted him at least in part because they thought he was rich--they were looking to get something from him...he used that to get something more from them...women--be smart and sincere.
@@Red1Green2Blue3 That makes no sense. Women tend to marry/date guys that make more than them. Men tend to do the opposite. Nothing is predatory about it. Even if you specifically seek out people who make less, unless they're homeless or in very bad state, there is nothing predatory. These are consenting adults.
Thank you Dr. Grande. I appreciate your analysis of Simon , his victims and their perceptions, particularly with respect to expressions of love. I wish that you would continue to delve into this a bit more. The vulnerability of Simon's victims speak volumes about our society. I don't think that the women were unintelligent or "desperate". They had a fantasy which Simon was able to exploit. Although some might think that these situations are unique, one just have to scan the various youtube channels that addresses narcissism to find the myriad of victims that are exploited by the these characters. I think that that whole Cinderella complex is still looming large in the psyche of many women and is blinding them to the princely face of evil.
Simon was able to swindle women with a “shallow dating criteria” because men lowered women’s standards to hell. If a man came into my life offering gifts, sending me kind words and was handsome??? I would be open to falling too. However, a lot of men in this modern dating world can’t even be bothered to bring flowers on the first date. The bar is in hell. And some women are really desperate for love that they don’t question if something is too good to be true. You and a lot of men in these comments fail to realize that Simon contacted these women often. He sent them flower arrangements OFTEN. He offered to move in together and was willing to pay rent. These men in the comments probably won’t even pay for the first date. And then they wonder why women won’t text them back. We want to be taken care of. We want to be cherished. A lot of us grew up reading romance novels and to naive girls, Simon looks and acts like a guy straight from our romance novels.
Typical virtue signaling. The average modern woman would rather be in an abusive relationship with a hot guy who works at McDonalds and beats her everyday than be in a relationship with an average guy with average income who treats her well, gives her flowers and respects her. Every guy who gets women knows the fastest way to turn a woman off is by treating her well and being nice to her.
@@TheOneAndOnlycE what in the redpill bs🤣🤣🤣 did u know that this guy who scammed the women sent them flowers almost everyday and told them that he loved them and wanted to start a family with them? Where did he beat her up into giving her money? Y'all are so weird; just because u view women as objects to stick ur peepee in doesn't mean women are all abuse loving idiots. With the exceptions that go through childhood trauma/abuse that taught them the wrong idea of love, a lot of women will leave a bullshit guy, either sooner or later, but I'm guessing you don't even have the social skills to get women to even like you enough to consider dating you👍 moral of the story; women are human beings too, not objects for sexual gratification.
Simon didn't spend enough time in prison for his crimes. In the documentary Simon makes it look like they were attacked and Piotor aka Peter was just doing his job but what I think is that Pete mouthed off and got beat up by bouncers or maybe he was beat one on one but if you watch the documentary in the photos Pete looks like he got his bell rung which is reflected in the look in Pete's eyes. It's sad that his one girlfriend who owed 9 creditors was paying for that night that Pete got his butt beat. I'd love to see you do an Alien Lizards podcast on this documentary. That would be tremendous!
The ambulance is harder to fake but... yeah, definitely possible. I also happen to believe that Piotr actually got his "bell rung" (😂) on some occasion for some reason, and the ambulance and paramedic were really on the job, and the swindlers decided to make lemonade out of lemons and use these video and images in their frauds afterwards.
I think you should start a profile on a dating website, say BADOO, as a female, and see how quickly it goes from "hey"to "do this for me" and what happens when you then don't comply. And observe the language and level of literacy / exchange. I think it might even shock you. You will see then why these women were so grateful to have someone who was a little attentive. Call it a social experiment.
Most men are more than a little attentive. It's just that women don't give regular guys the time of day. Most men are invisible to most women. Women are not grateful for attention. Hell, Cecilia had 1000 matches. She had attention. She wanted a lavish lifestyle supplied by a rich man. Most women are ungrateful heathens especially in today's climate. They have nothing to offer but their bodies and most are not even that good at that to be honest. They are not interested in developing qualities that would help in building up a relationship with a man. But they do want the men in their lives to have the qualities that they would like. They are hypocrites.
The best part of the movie is when the last girlfriend isnt sending him the money from his clothes she's selling and he's sending these messages ranging from rabid outrage to threats to pathetic grovelling and then he tells her he's a hostel, but not just any hostel, its a "1 star" hostel. It's hilarious. The guy has absolutely no shame. And your heart really breaks for his victims but especially for Cecilia.
It's so easy for people to criticize the victims' behavior. "They're stupid." "They lack logic." "They're greedy." You never know how far you'll go for someone you love until you're tested. Maybe the people blaming the victims have never had their true love tested. Simon convinced these women that he loved them, and his actions were consistent with the proclamation of his passion. I learned a long time ago that if someone can't do it on their own (e.g. take out a loan), there's a good reason, and I shouldn't get involved in that. Not everyone has that lesson, so let's be kinder to each other when we're dealing with some bad sh-t. P.S. I hope the women are doing better.
But they did not love him. What are you talking about? They loved the lifestyle he could provide which means they were not interested in him as a person, only what his money could bring. If to you that is love, you have a very shallow view of life and you should work on that. THese are only victims of their own world view. Narcissistic shallow women looking for lavish superficial lifestyle that somebody else will support. Who in their right mind would believe that a billionaire would ask his tinder date to give him money? YOu have to be a certain kind of stupid. This excuse that love make you do crazy things is ridiculous and quote infantilizing. We are talking about adult women, not children. Geez.
Equally interesting would be an analysis of people who think another human being deserves to be the victim of a crime, and who derive pleasure at the thought of the misery the victim is now enduring. The kind of person who would say, upon learning of the suicide of one of Rubbin Sarpong's victims that she was asking for it. The kind of person who has picked a side, and it's not the victim's.
Yes, I see almost all comments berating the women for falling for an overwhelming, love bombing, hard to process, planned con. Few are actually condemning the actual swindler 🤔
It’s easy to judge for sure . Empathy people !! This is such a huge horrible crime all over the world . People can be nasty 🤮. Type of identity theft just making the victim do it to themselves . Wow I’m glad I never grew up young in the online dating world !! I tried it but I never got interested . Just seems like fake people mostly . Same as Facebook people ( not everyone ) I like having only 3 REAL friends , that I can go have coffee with . Poor girls that slept with him . Never know where his ding dongs been. Sleeping with girls all over the country
First girl has no self esteem and he took advantage of her. She had no idea how a millionaire could be so interested in her. Second girl was just a friend, she was just a good friend who helped a friend in need IMO. Third girl dated this guy for over a year, makes no sense how she didn’t notice anything weird
This is why my newly divorced friends are adverse to Internet dating. What a shame because there are some really great guys out there. I enjoy your videos and thank you.
When you talked about this guy having pictures of himself standing next to expensive cars and standing on boats, it made me laugh because it reminded me of an episode of Friends where Joey was standing by an expensive car because people would talk to him and be sociable with him when he's by the car.
I'm a woman and I can't sympathize with these women. I see men like Simon miles away. Posing with expensive cars, standing on yatch and wearing designer clothes that probably aren't even theirs. Only shallow and stupid women fall for this trap.
Women, wtf is wrong with you? "Simon" was obviously a grifter. The woman who got on a plane to Bulgaria with him after spending 40 mins with him in a bar is a total nutter. She gave him 250K! She could have spent 30 seconds googling the man he claimed was his father, and she would have learned that "Simon" was a fraudster. The woman who sold his clothes is kinda a badass. Women, please tell me it isn't this easy to con you. These are just the women we learned about on the Netflix show. How many others have there been?
@@MarieJulie211 Playing on the desires of the target is grifting 101, and every adult ought to be savvy enough to know this., especially in this internet age. It's never been easier to be a criminal.
I've tried to inculcate in my son and daughter that they should never feel "flattered" by the attention of anyone. If you're made to feel like someone "above" you is doing you some kind of favor by paying attention to you, it's time to walk away and reevaluate their motives at the very least.
Great advice!
very smart
I don't know if this logic tracks. When you are in love with a person, you tend to feel flattered by their attention. Especially in your young awkward years. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with the person or how they are treating you. What needs to be reevaluated mostly is probably yourself and your own perception of your self worth.
@@MugenNiFukuzatsuna The main point of my advice is that people who intentionally try to make you feel like they're doing you a favor by paying attention to you should be avoided. Not saying feeling flattered in general is bad (I remember and miss those days myself).
@@bluegreenglue6565 love bombing is classic trap to use in the early stage of relationship. I wish someone warned me about this before i entered into adulthood.
I was in a relationship and ended up bankrupt because the person I was with always lost a job and I funded his life. Frankly, I was depressed and desperate for affection and he played me. One day I realized what I was doing and ended it. The guilt and shame after were overwhelming. But I recovered and now I can see why people fall for this type of scam.
Thank God you got out. No one deserves this.
Glad you were able to get on with your life. 👍
I'm very glad you took care of yourself by getting out of that situation. All of the guilt and shame belongs to him. Hugs 🤗
Yep; love is blind!
I hope you will never again have to do with that kind of person. We all get scammed one way or another in this lifetime and when that's connected to our love life, that's really tough to recover from. Take good care of you! Big hug!
It's wrong but still impressive that this guy keeps finding ways to bounce back into money and bounce around continents after prison ect. Like many conartists - if he just applied himself to something legal- he would probably be successful there too.
His victims were undone by their own greed in some ways. They thought they had landed a billionaire and so they opened their wallets (as well as probably their legs).
@@nighttrain1236 - wrong, seems like you never watched the movie. It's an EMOTIONAL con.
@@nighttrain1236 I don't think it's so much greed, but meeting someone with unique capabilities and experiences. All of these women gave Simon so much money and if that's all they were interested in they wouldn't have trusted him. I think many people are attracted to larger than Life personalities which is where the con is really successful
I think that's Simon is probably reasonably intelligent. But I'm not sure he would be very successful in the real world. It seems that his talents are very superficial or at least what he showed in the documentary. It's probably easy to take advantage of people if you have no conscience telling you not to. There are many gullible people on tinder because they all "want something good to happen"
The victims all set themselves up because they had decided without realizing it that they were going to prove themselves that Simon was real because they googled them and saw his Instagram. Well it turns out that's not actually very reliable. It's easy to create a fake Instagram. Or just tell people a bunch of lies when they don't know anything about you. Simon would have been intelligence if he could have kept the scam going for more than a few months but he couldn't do that so the scam was designed to end.
@@nighttrain1236 this is true. the first gal featured in the movie (Ceceilia) committed credit card fraud against Amex to help Simons transactions thru. She is responsible for those debts.
I watched it last night with my teenage daughters and used it as a teaching moment.
You watched typical propaganda which always tries to portray females as victims, even when they're gold digging perpetrators. Women ave been scamming men for millenia, that's what you should be teaching your daughters about.
You're an amazing mom!! As I was watching it I thought it really was a good moment for me to learn and be educated about these types of people.
You didn’t mention the possibility of Simon being a psychopath. Many of his characteristics like lack of empathy, no apparent conscience, being a con man, very charming, not learning from his mistakes
Or a narcissist..
@@sabinamuanda4357 yes, I think Dr. Grande did classify him as a narcissist.
Yes this!!! Him asking the victims for money when he knew they didn't have any (bc he stole it) and when they said no asked them to take it from their parents...how does he not feel guilty
Narcissistic sociopath perhaps
@@sabinamuanda4357 I believe him to be both
Why would a 'billionaire' have to go on a dating site? Doesn't seem sensible to think that would happen. But them asking for money would be very suspicious. Billionaires wouldn't need to borrow your credit card. Of course, I'm just speculating.
You need to see the documentary and find out why. It's crazy.
@@cookie_dough_hangover I agree. Seeing the documentary explains the story he made up to get them to give him money. It involved "danger" and "panic." That said, I remember thinking, why wouldn't he be reaching out to his own family if he needed this help? That should be the red flag. But that's part of the brainwashing. By the time you're taking out the 3rd loan, you're in so deep your brain won't let you see what is so obvious to anyone else who isn't brainwashed by him.
@@cookie_dough_hangover No way...you're a billionaire. Above a millionaire. Tese people have CONNECTIONS!
@@twincherry4958 Of course, but he's a skilled manipulator. You really need to watch it.
Yeah... but never underestimate the human passion for ignoring the obvious.
My first question to him when he asked for help would have been "You have a wealthy father, who probably not only can give you millions to help you out, but probably has contacts all over the world who can help you - why are you asking me?" Not that i am blaming the victims - when one is conned, it is very hard to tell the wood from the trees. Thanks to these brave women for opening up and communicating with the world to help prevent him doing more harm.
@Lucas Lucas no. Confessing being abused/conned on an international platform musn't have been easy at all..! I personally wouldn't have had the guts to do it if I were in their place
Exactly!! I think what makes these con-artists so successful is being able to sniff out particularly vulnerable women and then preying on them. Perhaps there's a naivete that they all share because if that was me, the first thing I'd say is "Uhh...Isn't your father a billionaire? Why don't you maybe ask him?' The fact that these women didn't think that tells me that they're probably more scammable than not.
And I'm almost sure he would have come up with an answer in the blink of an eye. And they would have believed it.
@@JStef-xv9ue exactly! They are so good at what they do, anybody can fall prey to their tricks
They are only victims of their own choices. Obviously they are all shallow superficial narcisisstic women. The attention they are getting now will not help in fixing whatever is wrong with them, quite the contrary. It is funny though...thousands, tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of men get swindled out of their own money by women and the court system...nobody bats an eye.
When I saw Cecilia went with him in his personal plane on the first date, it was just unbelievable to me that she never considered the possibility of being trafficked. Also they didn't see the fact that there were enemies after him as a warning to withdraw. Why would one go in a relation risking their basic safety?
I KNOW RIGHT.! It just a red flag for me
I was screaming seeing how excited she was to go out of the country with a man she just met. That was insane.
Why would a trafficker spend all that to get only one individual? How special can she be?
@@twentytwo3840 she isn’t. Her organs are.
Organs don’t come from rich white people from western countries.
It’s messed up how the guy only served 5 months and the women are all in a crazy amount of debt because of this dude and now he’s back out there living his best life.
Justice wasn’t served in this case at all
These women get no sympathy from me. These women saw $$$ and thought they hit the jackpot with that man. Make no mistake they were gold diggers who got the table turned on them. I don't see the women as victims i see it as karma.
@@Luka9m That sounds like a you problem. Simon conned a lot of men in his life too but now sticks to women because they're easier targets. He was disowned from his family as teenager and only knows how to lie and manipulate people. Just so he can blow stolen cash on a hedonistic lifestyle. He doesn't even do anything smart with the money he gets from cons.
If you're only happy because Simon conned women then that says something about you.
@@MrOzzification I'll comment on your last paragraph. It does say something about me it says i know female nature very well.
@@Luka9m yeah definitely assumed I want that a piece of that billions this is my investment. 🤑🤑
@@Luka9m i mean if you watched the documentary the one girl who was scammed was just friends with simon and had no romantic intentions. He made them all believe he was in a dangerous life or death situation, and used their concern over his well being to steal large amounts of money. I think this is a bit different.
I've definitely met a Tinder swindler before. After we met she literally was asking if she could maybe move in and it was only like 3 days after we first met. I still follow her on Instagram and she makes a life out of moving from guy to guy, basically anyone who will support her until I guess they or she runs out of money or gets bored. I feel like I dodged a bullet with her.
Lots of women like that out there dude. Watch it! Free meals, rent, car. Guarantee she would be bangin' some other dude while she was living there rent free. Sadly, there are many simps out there who would have taken that offer. They are as dumb and naive as Cecilia. Stay safe out there!
Why do you still follow her?
@@peekaboots01 he’s a simp
🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Share the link. I want to see how this leech of a woman looks like.
I have a male friend who fell for this type of swindler. He only gave his "boyfriend" about $10,000 so the guy could afford to move from across the country to be with my friend. Of course, when the guy never showed up, it became pretty obvious that there was a problem. Sadly, my friend got swindled a second time, although he figured it out much sooner and didn’t give the guy much money. I think there’s a psychological reason why people fall for these kinds of hustlers; my friend absolutely refused to see what the rest of us could see and he got very upset when several of us warned him about giving so much money to someone he barely knew.
Yep. These con artists know exactly who to target. The women in that documentary were definitely apart of “the type”. There are sheep and there are wolves and then there’s the low down dirty shepherd.
Probably gave him aids as well.
People in this business also share names and trade contact deals, and stories. It is likely that a person will be targeted another time.
The voicemail messages he left his girlfriend who was selling his clothes had me in stitches. He was angry then begging then sweet back to angry, then fuming, apologizing
What really had me in stitches is how she ended up conning him back, but not returning his clothes or sending whatever money she supposedly got from selling them.
He's a Sociopath.... Classic behavior
@@AiCash-mc8fb no, that’s more consistent with narcissistic rage, not sociopathy.
Psychopath
Fucking hilarious lol I couldn't breathe.
I didn't understand why the second girl thought he was such a 'good friend'; from what was shown in the doc it just seems like they bounced around Europe partying together, and I kinda got the impression she helped him almost out of a sense of obligation for accepting his 'generosity'. Don't accept expensive gifts/experiences from ppl you barely know!
I agree with you he guilt tripped her from all the time she felt like she was "mooching off of him" the moral of the story is stay in your lane in life.
Gold diggers, they were all gold diggers - On his f protocol face written I’m a conman , I don’t have a heart but they all fell in love . Losers gold diggers
I had a boyfriend that wanted me to take a loan so he could start a business buying and selling cars (that he had never done) for more than a year's salary. I said no and he got really pissed with me. We were together for more than five years but our relationship started going bad after that. We broke up a few months later after I found out he had several on the side girls.
Thank goodness you said no! You dodged a bullet.
You're a wise woman
The nerve of any man to ask a woman to take out a loan on his behalf when he hasn’t even asked for her hand in marriage, especially after 5 years. 🙄
@@CodyCole80 you think that’s bad I spent like £50k on my ex. He had a hard life and I wanted to help him because he kept blaming lack of funds why he wasn’t successful. He made me feel obligated to do it and I felt like I was helping him. Nope.
My ex husband did just that and left me with a 5 yr loan. He quit his job 5 months after we took it out. We then separated 3 years later due to his domestic abuse. These people are conscience less
Without wanting to victim-blame, I don’t have any respect for people who are impressed by others posing with flashy items. When I see photos of guys in front of their cars on Tinder, I always swipe left. It’s such a red flag and they just seem so boring.
I can confirm. I dated a luxury car salesman and it seemed to be his entire personality and he seemed to over compensate for other things because he was always flashing stuff.
Lol also most the time I assumed it's someone else's car.
It just screams insecurity
@@alysemarie8313 Truly high-value individuals don't date randoms grom cheap sites.
They use their social circle to find people on a similar level.
When you're looking for a 1 in a thousand person, you can't waste your time on random people: chances are you'll NEVER get a good one. You only search where major preselection on several levels already exists. 99.5% of people can't even access these circles.
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 Well, I disagree. I knew a chief executive's son from working at a telecommunications company's corporate office. He was always swiping on Tinder. Always. He was very approachable and socialized with everyone. In fact, after a company event the group wound up all going to an arcade and it turned out his favorite bar was next door - a run down little billards bar. It depends on the person I think. He was in his 20s and didn't really like socializing in his dad's circle. If he met a girl and said "I'm rich want to go to Spain with me" it would have been 100% legit. But also he wouldn't be bringing a random girl on daddy's jet after a few hours of knowing her. Maybe the yacht. Not the jet.
There are many “Simons” in this world. They come in both male and female form. Sadly, there are also many a fool born every minute. Never say never - everybody has their Achilles heel and their weak moments - and good luck when a “Simon” out there discovers it…
Sadly, there are more fools than Simons.
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You’re so right! My dumb ex met one, full-on Con, (and he married her) not together anymore she now lives with her gay bf on my Ex’s money! ha! That’s what he gets !
I think the guts of the women profiled in the Netflix series is an interesting factor, as well. On the one hand they were gullible and easily swindled. On the other hand, these three all played a part in bringing him down in spite of his scary threats and their own gullibility.
it was an interesting contrast!
I’m glad I’m not Simon …
A woman scorned and all that 😀
I honestly don't know how he has had a girlfriend on tinder again since being exposed, anyone should just stay clear of him
Bringing him down? He’s living lavishly at this moment
I watched a more in-depth video on this guy. He’s really good at the con. He takes his time. He didn’t just send pics of the “injured bodyguard “ he sent a video of him and the “ bodyguard “ in an ambulance with a paramedic treating the man. Also the first woman didn’t at first believe Simon could possibly be a real profile so she googled the name he gave her. It was backed up as the name of real Simon was in diamond trade , as was his father. So these women were not just idiots … he really put in the work. I’m so glad he was busted. I wish he would get more jail time. These cases are why I could NEVER trust online dating.
They’re quite slow. Why give a billionaire money?
Can you name the in depth video? Where can I watch it?
All of this was in the netflix documentary
Why would a billionaire need a loan ?
Why would a billionaire need tinder ?......Billionaires date supermodels
Only naive desperate women would fall for that.
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Are you one of those desperate naive women on tinder ?
And that’s why I’m single…….never rely on anyone and don’t get taken in by someone’s “wealth”. Good analysis Dr. Grande!
Is that really why you're single? Really?
@@k.a.5876 lol she's single because she can't get a billionaire.
Try a relationship where everyone stays living in their own home with their own bank account.
It's refreshingly simple, and if you've been burned before helps you both feel safe.
Finding someone you can trust, someone with the same values is the tricky part.
@@flowerjpotter1629 It's not tricky at all if you are led by God's laws and not your own limited cognitive capacities.🙏🏿✝📖
It was interesting to me how he never gave up his con even when caught. This seems to be a commonality with these con artists. He told more lies to keep it going and then a story of how his enemies hired journalists for a smear campaign. It amazes me how he is able to keep the con going even now! No real repercussions and he’s back on Tinder.
These corrupt people seem to have read the same personality disorder 101 playbook. Human predators.
I think tinder have banned him now. But he might have other accounts? 🤷
Probably has no other skills. Wouldn't be seen dead washing down tables in a cafeteria.
My sister met him on tinder about a month ago. Now she's talking about giving him all her savings because his nephew has been aducted by drug cartels and he needs the money to pay the ransom.
yeh just like Anna Delvey.
the whole movie was bizarre. the relationships moved way too fast. his messaging was generic or canned.
Con men gotta move fast before their mask slips I suppose 🤔
The relationships definitely moved too fast but lets be real, he claimed to be a son of a billionaire. Billionaires can do what us regular people cannot.
I guess if there's a language barrier I wouldn't be too harsh about judging his texting if his English is limited.
Ive heared some voice message he sent to Cecil... he sounds super coked up and high out of his mind
@@sagstar his texting in English seemed legit. He just kept it brief and short... so did they by the looks of it!
Society isn’t the only thing that changes with the development of technology. Crime is always right behind taking notes.
How true!
💯 Most people seem to have no idea at all just how incredibly dangerous dating apps are in general. You truly have NO idea who you are dealing with - ever.
@@goldilocks3593 it's not that different from real life. The person in front of you at the store checkout could be a serial killer, you'd never know.
Crime is part of society?
So is the law.
If a CEO of a diamond company claiming to be worth billions that you've been dating for a month asks you to take out a credit card in your name with a 2,500 dollar credit limit - that's your sign that they're not a CEO of a diamond company worth billions.
He basically watched the movie Hustlers and said, yea I can do that.
Yes just like … oh I work abroad and got beat by a thug in “ Nigeria “ can you help cause I cannot pay for my hotel room . They took my wallet. That was a joke had two different pics of himself . Weird . I am a simple girl with no moola so I was off the hook easy 🤷♀️I said oh you wouldn’t be trying to scam me would you ….. oh no not me !!
“ They betray their own desperation to feel special.” Wow Dr. grande you couldn’t have said it any better, I always love your analysis, always learning so much, thank you😊🙏🏾💕
Note to self, don't give my credit cards to smooth talking guys who write second grade level romantic messages. Wait until he sends 4th grade level messages? 🤔 Thanks for another insightful video!
@The Wraith well that depends. are u a Nigerian prince ?? 🤨
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@The Wraith 🤣🤣
@@maitreyimaitreyi1838 😂😂
note to me:
don't give money to sexy looking woman even when they are crying
This obsession people have with image today is scary, and it's only been exacerbated by social media platforms like Instagram. Dr. Grande what are the long term ramifications of exposure to this kind of shallow and superficial lifestyle?? Both in terms of body image/ body dysmorphia and wealth management.
Just sat and watched 2 girls duck pouting at a gas pump taking photo after photo looking like carbon copies of every insta girl today and thought the same...what is happening with this world and why all this constantly showing off your life and look? This guy takes faking it til u make it his whole identity
Laziness and surface! Wanting something for nothing! No character anymore!
Long term ramifications are that the world has become a playground for grifters capitalizing on dreams of billions of potential victims hanging out online every waking moment. It's never been easier to be a criminal. Is it really as easy as tossing a few compliments at a woman and she will give her credit card to you? It's easy to use the same grifting model every day with 3,000 potential victims. I guess all you need is a couple to dive into the delusion and you are in business.
People change, God doesn’t. Stay focused on eternity 🙏
@@mamacito1795 attention which they have not gotten from their parents. every like, every nice comment, every share, every dm is a short moment of joy, that of course never lasts long. all these people need to work on their selfvalue, selflove and selfesteem.
This video was shocking. More shocking was that the Police did so little, leaving it up to the
women involved. After Simon was busted, he did little time, and is back at it somewhere else!
Like Bernie Madoff, he had zero conscience about the destruction that he left in his wake.
Convincing people to give you money is not a crime. If it were many women would be incarcerated.
The elite know covid helps these criminals smh
In the big scheme of things, this guy is a petty criminal, and the officials are rightfully giving it little attention.
@The Wraith I don’t think there is any law against asking someone for money.. in reality he asked for money said he would pay it back and didn’t nothing illegal about that. if I ask you for $1000 and say I’ll pay you back but don’t there is no law against that as long as there’s no contract
@@wyguy1212 Oh please........he is a scar on the face of the earth!
I’m Tinder Swindler immune, being already maxed out on my own. No swindler draw. The best you’re going to get out of me is sparkling conversation. 😝
Lol Cheers 🥂
Lol, on a ponsi basis
They can have my sparkling water, from the toilet 🚽
Oh but he's got a fake paystub to go lie to get loans and buy more ponzi stock
@@bloochoob You'd be lucky to get used as a toilet. LOL.
he did have the money for a party life style, only it wasn’t his money ..hard not to laugh Dr Grande your dry humor is so damm good
"Knew how to exploit shallow romantic partner selection criteria"
Dr Grande's ability to take such a large concept and narrow it down the one sentence of truth, is so refreshing and validating.
@@AlphanumericCharacters It took me a long time to realise that 99 per cent of people are superficial.
Once I stopped wasting my time on other people and focused it on writing RUclips comments full-time, life became interesting.
That's exactly it. I once did something similar to these superficial young ladies when I was a young man. If you choose a partner based on greed AND you fornicate with them, you'll have to pay the price.
@@AlphanumericCharacters You don't like it, because the description fits you as a person.
@@selfesteem1942 You don't like what First Name Last wrote because it sums you up.
I remember reading his text messages too thinking: “how on earth could anyone fall for this clown?”
It was how he made them feel. He convinced them that he was wealthy and could pay the money back by the way he lavishly spent (other women’s money). He made them feel wonderful, like he was their boyfriend, like they would have a future together. Unlike FB catfish scams, he flew them places and met them in person and created a fake relationship with them so they would believe him. I would like to think I wouldn’t fall for this but I find compassion is better than harsh judgment of these women. The first woman featured even had his ex telling her that he was a good person. Definitely lessons to be learned. Good for them sharing their stories and risking ridicule for the sake of other women who might fall for this type of thing too.
I dont understand how people that stupid get money in the first place...
Satan. That`s gotta be what happened here. It`s the only thing that makes sense. Now if I can get just the right mix of very expensive illegal drugs in me there`s a slight chance of figuring out how he pulled it off. Last year I got so high on Peruvian Torch Meth that I actually understood one of Joe Bidens rants so there IS hope! And with Jabbering Joe in office drugs are EVERYWHERE again!
Someone desperate could think maybe he is just not verbally gifted. But hearing his monotone lifeless emotionless voice made me think who could ever fall for that, he was also a bad actor. II left a guy in internet for that, no verbal skills, no emotion in voice.
They didn't, they fell for his wallet
The quote ‘that he needed to reach the right people’ says it all. That’s why it’s important to cultivate and meet our own human needs.
Be your own best friend and reason, learn learn learn that...
I was quite judgemental before watching the Netflix show - how can these girls be so naive? But private jet on the first date!? Baby's mother vouching for him!? wow this guy is a scam but on a grand scale - not even sure I would have resisted when in my 20's.
Probably not. LOL
Dude is a pimp he knows the game
@exa She likely has a trauma bond to him. Feels perhaps that she will be the one who can help him, fix him, love him when no one else will 😕
As the daughter of a Finn, I can say that Finns themselves are very honest and trust what is said to them (I think true for Nordics overall) But this Finnish woman has layers of damage from the swindler 😔
@@nicolemilman1795 naw she thought it was an investment. She wanted his money, he wanted her money, he won.
@@jackmac436 Facts💯..
Like attracts like
Awesome analysis.... It is quite clear from the internet that alot of people don't understand the complexity of narcissism. The victims are being blamed. I was happy to find this video from an expert.
The thing is both parties in this are narcissists. Simon as well as these ladies. Pernilla and Cecilia are shallow entitled narcisissts.
What's notable is, the penalty for this type of crime is ALWAYS a slap on the wrist !!!
Well he did get two years in prison...
I don’t think he ever got convicted for what he did to the women. He went to prison for some other frauds.
Most likely due to the fact the 1st Woman was actively lying to creditors which is also a crime! They were also willingly giving him balance after balance and not once questioning him as these were basically IOU's to a friend!
He did scam them however they actively went along with the scam for a period of time without questioning it as they all believed he was a Billionaire. The fact he was a Billionaire and asking for help should of also been questioned. They didn't and therefore although scammed they actively gave him the money of their own free will as a friend. He had no obligation to pay them back as they lent him the money and never once thought to really question it!
The guy is a genius let’s just leave it at that. And those ladies got what they deserved I mean how stupid can you be
Most crimes are a slap on the wrist, if you're a woman.
All these men on here that are blaming the victims are just kidding themselves. If some gorgeous young model that appeared to be rolling in money contacted them on Tinder they would have behaved in all kinds of foolish ways.
Yep!
No weak naive men who suck at getting women would .When you date you always vet the person to make sure they are legit.
@Bonk she said "all these men on here blaming the victims" not " all men"
No only incel simps do that.
I would immediately think that she is a bot.
Although I feel for the victims and I understand that when people fall in love their rational thinking can go out the window, in this case the superficiality goes both ways. In the same way
that he was extremely shallow, the victims were also shallow. Their motivation to connect with him was primarily based on his “wealth”. Maybe afterwards the feelings of love surfaced but that wasn’t the initial sentiment. This case prompts us to reflect on the motivation behind forming a relationship with someone.
I think physical attraction is a strong point at first, but honestly, there are situations in which a very attractive person begins talking and all of sudden their attractiveness starts to fade due to their profound immaturity. Other times, a not so attractive person starts talking and eventually their attractiveness increase due to their kindness, intelligence and other factors. Obviously everyone is different, that’s just my opinion.
Excellent review as usual Dr. Grande, I hope you have a wonderful weekend.❤️
Absolutely. Unfortunately with dating sites, image is everything because that’s precisely how a profile page is constructed: images. This guy knew that and was a genius marketer. I am a somewhat skeptical person naturally so all that mushy love stuff at the outset is a huge red flag for me.
@@annal7364 Same, I actually find those tactics irritating.😅
Great observation🙂
If he had so much wealth, why was he always asking for money?
@@misterx4757What's a observation
I'm wondering if you watched the Tinder Swindler...these women spent time with him (not a lot but they did meet up in person) and they witnessed and experienced expensive hotels, private jets, big parties, and being received at very posh hotels with recognition from the staff with a "Welcome back Mr. Leviev". They were not just photographs and text messages.
All the more reason he wouldn't need to borrow money from a brand new acquaintance.
@@Earl_E_Burd that isn't even wealthy
@@brooklynsbaby4367 when you're not from that world, it would look absolutely fabulous when you experience it firsthand
@@Earl_E_Burd true, but they've seen how "wealthy" he is. There would have been no reason to doubt that he would pay back.
@@empressu7134 I meant that the brand new acquaintance (the potential girl he met on tinder) isn't wealthy. Of course Simon appears wealthy, especially to ordinary people and the experience would be awesome. Though the moment he asks you for money instead of one of his friends/family is when you should start sensing that it doesn't add up. People pretending to be rich isn't that unheard of.
I've run into these dating site scammers before. Their conversations do tend to sound disjointed, they always seem to kind and gentle - until you refuse to give them money. One had the audacity to ask me to beg my dad for money for him. The smart ones just go away when their first attempts fail.
pls could you lend me a fiver? My private jet needs a top-up. K thx, bye.
They always call you ‘dear’ which is weird. They claim to be from UK, and English, but their written English is odd, it’s so obvious who they are, sometimes I pay along for a laugh and scam the scammer
Elizabeth Holmes - Theranos
Anna Sorokin - ADF
Billy McFarland - Fyre Festival
Simon Leviev - Tinder Swindler
All these cases showed that the perpetrator do not show any remorse over their action and believed in some sort of “fake it till you make it” mindset; except maybe for the Simon Leviev, whom basically “fake it till they cant take it”, unfortunately. Is there a comparison analysis that can be made to learn about these cases and how each of their modus operandi had lead to their success and then demise? Love your series btw!
‘...& keeps the money 😊...’an heir to a baby-sitting fortune’
...😂😂😂 keep it coming, dear Doctor - your style is irresistible! 🙏🏻🦉🙏🏽
If he tells them he's worried about his safety, why paste your "wealth" all over the internet? I guess choosing a role where business trips are the norm would help with stringing so many people along. More stress and work than its worth. I'd have a heart attack thinking something would go wrong any minute 😬 I know he's being deceitful, but I can imagine American express still holding the women liable for any funds. They could argue that they weren't prudent enough. So many people use relationships to manipulate someone into bad financial decisions. Many don't say anything because they're ashamed and so people get away with it and their fraud gets hidden. It really ruins people's lives! Yeah, they accused him for personal reasons, you took their personal funds!
At the end of the documentary, it says that the woman are still paying off their loans.
You come very close to saying the women are to blame for being swindled, but not quite. Sadly, you're also spot on. People with a certain common sense and normal healthy skepticism would not have fallen for this. Getting on a private plane with a complete stranger is not normal. If he's for real, there's no hurry. These ladies were lucky not to be abducted, trafficked, or worse. $10,000 nightclub bills paid for by a stranger always come at a price. Mothers, don't let your babies grow up to be Tinderettes. Also, if I had to guess Simon's profession from his photos... I would've guessed: Busboy.
Really grateful for your summary of this case. I didn't want to take time to watch the Netflix feature (right now too into all the Spider-man films...a recently constructed archetype) but YT surfing has garnered several videos on this story. As I looked through the comments, no one mentions the Disney Love Complex aspect which is what actually stood out to me. Cecilie Fjellhoy talked about how she grew up on Disney films and to quote an article on this, "Something that struck me in the victim’s narration was how she kept talking about wanting a Disney love story, and you could see how that naivety still rimmed her eyes and coloured the lens she looked through things like love and romance. Tons of research has shown that there’s a psychosocial implication that Disney movies have on society, and women in particular in relation to romance, love and marriage. Garlen & Sandlin, 2017 highlight that Disney Princess movies manifests as an incitement to pursue an impossible ideal of romantic love, which keeps us attached to “compromised conditions of possibility” that limit female agency and obstruct social progress. While “Disney Princess tales” may appear as harmless entertainment, they include not-so-subtle instructions about how girls should interact with the world and with boys and men." I agree with several comments about how these women's values for ostentatious wealth and lifestyle had much to with their being so easily fooled (sorry ladies, but really...you have got to love Dr. Grande's assessment of Simon's command of language being on second grade level). Also, the whole ridiculous movie adventure aspect of a picture of a beaten bodyguard should have been a red flag but just added to the facade of romance and intrigue. Sorry, don't have a lot of sympathy for the victims here because, frankly, this video exposes how pathetic this Tinder Swindler really is. I don't think even P.T. Barnum would be impressed.
If he was the so called Son of a billionaire, when he started asking for money why didnt any of these Women just say ask your Dad or family for credit or protection? I just dont get it. Are people so taken in by the illusion of wealth these days?
He's not a psychopath though. I'm sorry man. 🤷♂️🤦♀️
And where was the son of a billionaires education?? They really weren’t using their brains, lots of red flags 🚩
@@Maria-0017 What red flags ?
It's weird
@@20yrs_oldBlackGuy erm...
1) a Billionaires son on tinder actively advertising the fact he was a Billionaires son.
2) asking for small change for help while he claimed to be a Billionaires son.
3) asking them to pawn things to give him money.
Those red flags!
I understand this could've happened to anyone but how in the world do you lend money to someone you barely know, let alone in the $100k plus, and especially someone you've met online? There were so many obvious red flags. How could you've missed them? I'm sorry but this is something a gullible person would fall for.
Well she thought she did know him because he only began to ask for money afyer 14 months. Not immediately.
Especially when they claim to have a rich dad? Why are they asking me for a loan. All kinds of red flags
@@1qstudios that was the third girl tho, the first one (Cecilia or Cicilie) was only after a month.
I don’t think this could happen to anyone. In fact Dr Grande points out most people wouldn’t fall for this. Simon targeted women that would. Shallow women. Hell they had to actually take loans.
@@1qstudios That was only one woman ...
If a man has just dated a woman and is already asking her for money, that is definitely a red flag! Don't fall for it!
Anyway, why would a "billionaire" be on tinder or any other dating site for that matter? You would think that he could find a potential mate at some expensive social event!
Those ladies are sooo gullible! Shame
G digger gonna dig
Exactly!
Truly high-value individuals don't date randos on cheap dating sites.
They use their social circle to find people on a similar level.
When you're looking for a 1 in a thousand person, you can't waste your time on random people: chances are you'll NEVER get one! You only search where major preselection on several levels has already occurred. 99.5% of people can't even access these circles.
The best part of the doc was when he was asking the girl for the money for the high end clothing she said she'd sell for him. Really showed his true colors and how much of a psychopath he was.
The fact that you actually believe this is a documentary, shows you're the true nutcase.
Something you said, made me sit up, one of his victims noted, "Simon was a good listener"! That would flatter a woman. But with him he was studying his prey. What a creep.
None of them were victims, none of them were "prey". "What a creep". Women who constantly try to portray themselves as victims, are super creeps.
There are many predators in our world... and many people desperate enough to become their victims.
Apparently, some are even desperate to become a victim. The first woman's best friends told her via text not to get on that plane to Bulgaria, warning her of being sold into sex slavery, and she still did it.
And then because the woman came back home ok she thought "wow, he is a decent guy".
Also, when his "ex" (with their baby) on the plane said "He is a wonderful man and a wonderful father."
That's when she fully began to trust him.
The one thing about this documentary I never understood is why the baby mama, "the body guard" Peter, and his "agent" were all part of it too? Were they getting money? Were they doing it because they loved Simon? Were they doing it because they feared him?
^this I don't know
@@specialtwice4975 he never had a "body guard" or "agent" that was all faked.
@@specialtwice4975 no logically person of sound mind gets on a Private Jet after 1 hour of knowing them with their entire entourage around them and that person having no one they actually know with them.
Her Friends pointed out the obvious... it didn't matter. This was her chance to hit the big time with a guy she had known for an hour over a coffee with.
Asking his ex about him while he held her kid, she clearly already had intent on wanting to have a relationship with him. She didn't have to put any effort into the chase as he said what she already wanted to hear after one hour.
I reckon the woman with the kid was told you either help me get money or you and the kid are on the street!
My Netflix "to do list" is becoming very lengthy thanks to you, Dr Grande. I am not mad about it. 😊
Yes! He picks out the plums!🍇 (as close as I could get to a plum!)
To do: delete the trash that is Netflix ✅
eb - Always improving our information sources!
Dr Grande, the lady from Noreay, Cecilie already admitted that she was astounded with his presentation. When seeking a partner, it's great to know they are stable. If they the guy is wealthy, there are attributes that are taken into account why. Hard work. His parents hard work to achieve a diamond industry is an added bonus. There was sufficient evidence that he deployed that that an un-gullible person believed. the amount of time he has been operating reflects this. He was just believable. When he threatened Cecilie, she was very scared because of the way he presented himself.
Indeed the way he wrote reflected a teenager, nothing profound devoid of any creativity, but the women snapped it all up.
They didnt deserve to be swindled. If I won the lotto, I'd pay all their debts to scrub this horrible experience.
Israel disappoints me. With the global attention on him as an Israeli, they should lock him up or extradite thim quickly.
They were Gold Diggers and got exactly what they deserved.
Disagree.
A lot of those guys are srx addicted.
But women dont "pay" for men is a sad truth.
Those women were reeled in by their own greed. Simple as that.
@@DefinitelyNotBender yes , being a shallow and superficial can backfire , and in the case the pound of flesh was taken
What I don’t get is how he can employ Cecile so American Express could have her more credit and that actually worked, how?
A couple of red flags off the bat,
1. An eligible, billionaire bachelor on Tinder? At that level, you'd be looking to narrow your field of potential mates, not expand it.
2. He presented himself as a poor man's idea of a rich man. Private jet, luxury cars, designer clothes. Most wealthy people don't live that way, and if they do, they generally don't want a bunch of gold-diggers sniffing around.
Knowing a millionaire who is a good friend of mine, they don't show off on social media. Real millionaires doesn't show their wealth.
Yes! Was going to request this, just watched it the other night. Nobody breaks down a psychopath/narc con like Dr. G 😄 Along with important concepts such as red flags and common sense.
Oxytocin is a helluva drug! 😂
funny how the gold diggers got swindled by an even bigger gold digger
Where did you watch this?
@@mikelisteral7863 yep. If they were so shallow and vapid they probably would've never been swindled. That's what happens when your impressed with someone's appearance of wealth and what they can offer you.
@@honestyisadyingvirtue feminism and tinder have turned women into idiots
This case blew my mind. I have had males who asked for a *loan* of a tidy sum of money during dating process, not engaged just dating. I think people perceive me to be much more needy than I am. It was always a solid NO, and a withdrawal for me slowly from the relationship. Yes Simon was a con. Interested me how women would put themselves into 100000s of debt over his security concerns. I would said go talk to your dad or a wealthy friend. I'm a poor woman you selected off Tinder. Yes I think the women were at a very vulnerable place in their lives. It's sad.
if u would watch the movie you would understand
@@fons2623 I have sympathy for the 6 women it wasn't only 3 he conned. He was using his looks love bombing, moving the relationship fast, making the girls feel comfortable with he other players in the game. A wealthy man asking for use of a cc card might for some in the midst of a loving feeling relationship seem like a logical step. I however, have met con's from a very young age with money, cheating etc and learned very young not to trust a man to do as he promises. These women may have been sheltered I hope they are in a better place now.
Smart on your part. As soon as a guy who’s dating you asks for money--goodbye.
Seeing your experience with this type of guys I fear Tinder (and other apps) are riddled with scammers like him and vulnerable/trusting people like these women.
What would you say is the ratio of scammer to good person on Tinder?
Good for saying no. Any guy asking for a tidy sum of money during the dating process isn't ready to date. Sorry for the women who went through this. It's not cool. The worst part is this dude is free and making money again while dating a different model. No punishment, no karma, no nothing. It's sickening.
One or two very subtle facial expressions at the very beginning of this video are pure comedic gold!🏆
Oh I love that you are covering this. Great stuff!! really is a guilty pleasure to enjoy this kind of “entertainment” lol
I really enjoyed this video. There are many shows whose purpose is to warn the lonely and the vulnerable but really are created to exploit the pain and humiliation of the victims. What I really like is that you not only analyzed the scammer but the women who were so easily taken in.. These aren’t stupid women but all logic flew out the window.
They are not stupid, but they are gold hungry. The want the nice instagram pics from fancy parties, on yachts, in private jets. THey want the lavish lifestyle and they want somebody else to pay for it. That is why all logic went out the window. Because they are really just shallow vessels who make useless shadows on the surface of the Earth.
This guy is a textbook example of psychopath! All 3 features and more!!! Criminal - hope his Karma will take care of this guy - ridiculous that he is still out there - free after what he did!!!
This man is SICK!
The "rudimentary shallow partner selection criteria" of con artists seem identical to those in bachelor reality shows. I guess both have the same goal---enticing for economic gain. Thanks for the great analysis!
TravelCrawl, Spoken like a true
narcissistic sociopath. Sad.
So true! 👏
When someone works hard and makes it, jealousy is all around them unfortunately. It tempts staff you trust into stealing from you, it can bring out the worst in other people.
@@AlphanumericCharactersi don’t agree with everything Travel Crawl said but he or she does have some points
Nailed it
I'm sure many victims blame themselves. They are decent and kind. Their mistake is thinking they've met someone who is the same.. thanks for explaining.
If there's one thing they're not it's "decent and kind".
@@eadweard. I’d call giving a man my LIFE SAVINGS pretty kind. Also, dumb.
No, they are greedy and stupid.
Wasn’t their interest in him based more on his wealth than his “decency”? They’re are plenty of decent broke guys out there.
You think they would do the same if simon was an average honest guy?
They wouldn't even swipe right on him😂
Kinda obvious...
Simon is a narcissist.
Gotta have chaos and feel like a Royal.
I think he was still scamming his last girlfriend Ayleen when he said he was living in a hostel, eating leftover mall food and desperate. The beard was probably grown to allude the police but I don't believe the rest of the sob story. He wanted to "out con" her one last time because he knew she got him and I think that's what flipped him out the most. He was outsmarted.
What really scares me is knowing that this guy likely has military training - Imagine him serving his time in the Israeli Army?! This evil, cold, calculating bastard was armed with an automatic weapon for at least 2 years!!!!
Hi from Australia. Thank you for raising awareness. I've watched almost all of your videos. So empowering. I have had some highly intelligent and confident friends that have almost fallen for these scams. They can be very convincing.
convincing to highly intelligent and confident firends?
we must have a different take up what those words mean. more like gullible and ????
highly intelligent friends almost gave money to someone they met on the internet? lol
Yes , You have empathy as did I for those lovely ladies. It’s sad that so many are lonely and meeting people on line. My Mums Aunt... (Mum is 96,) she felt terrible shame and never even visited Ireland again.
@@heleneocleary5888 "lovely ladies". Typical female narcissist defending other ones.
Dr. Grande, your voice is soothing.
Good morning Dr. Grande❣️ Thank you for the new video & thank you for starting off my weekend right!! I hope you enjoy your Saturday🥰
This analysis was brilliant, I recently went thru something similar as those girls...he seemed richer than me, talked a big game of "hotels.." I mean I didn't really believe it. I thought that if he truly was rich (like every other kid I know from the developing world), you don't do high school in your home country... it simply isn't done. His high school cost less than my brother's pre-school😂...and to top it all off it wasn't an intl school or British school, it was a LOCAL school. I was in Pernilla's situation, he was my friend. I paid for a lot of our life... he never paid me back unless I hounded him... unnecessary wasteman. He always told me what I needed to hear, so I think in that respect people should stop blaming victims. I heard about this story back in 2019 and didn't understand how it truly felt to be in an emotionally manipulative situation, the fear and anxiety... you can't even think straight. It was bad for me cause he was in my dorm and it got really dangerous....
Oh DR. G!!!: People never cease to amaze me.The absolute gullibility and naivety it would take for a woman of relatively excellent judgment in most areas of their llife, and intelligence with a good career path ,who holds down a career, allows herself to be drawn into a situation such as this, and give a relative 'STRANGER" hundreds of thousands of dollars when she doesn't even know him at all is just midboddliing to me! . Are they THAT desperate for love they just jump in with both feet and put total reason and logic aside? Would love to see you do a video Dr, G to discuss this aberrant behavior in women and why they continue to do it? I an mystified. Thanks buddy.
Thank you so much Dr. Grande. I needed a professional insight on this case.
Thank you Dr. Grande, i love your content.
Funny that what attracted them to him was pictures of him posing with jets and sports cars. Because that’s exactly what turned me off when I was on tinder (there’s tons of guys with those photos). I rolled my eyes and thought “yuck!”. I saw them as wannabes, posers, fakes. I’ve met wealthy men on my line of work, and this isn’t something they do (take photos next to cars and jets to show to potential dates).
But moreover, how much depth could I expect from a man who thinks his value is measured on things? It comes off as insecure, shallow and lacking personality. If he didn’t trust his own persona and brains were enough to charm someone, neither would I.
I did meet my husband on tinder. He didn’t have any of those pictures on his profile. He doesn’t need any fancy cars nor jets. He is enough and beyond all on his own.
I just watched this documentary today, what nobody seems to mention, you can tell he obviously has no respect for women, look how his mother is living and doesn’t appear in great health, the money he’s blowing up the wall on being addicted to the rich lifestyle, just a portion of that would help his mother , she was found living in a grimy apartment!
That tells you everything about him how he treats his mother!
I knew a man once , hustled women in a similar way to fund his gambling addiction , the gambler had some class Simon didnt.
I mean a trip in the private jet and seems to be straight to the hotel bedroom , money sure talks!
All the hustle and nothing to show for it just a set of fake watches!
Let’s hope the designer clothes she was flogging on eBay aren’t fake, they may have tripled in value after the Netflix documentary!
Every woman involved was hoping to snag a wealthy man. I’ve got no sympathy for gold diggers.
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@@canileaveitblank1476 agreed. I’m sorry but these woman are shallow and deserved to be scammed. So unbelievably stupid to put yourself $250k in debt over a guy you met a couple times and aren’t even in a serious relationship with.
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Yes I agree, they wouldn’t of gone there if they didn’t have a dime, quick to get sucked in emotionally and the bedroom!
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She couldn’t pack her case quick enough to get on the private jet 🙄
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I felt sorry for his mother, she obviously threw him out as she could see what he was becoming, even so he could of helped his mother, instead of private jets&caviar!
I’d be damn choking on all the sumptuous meals knowing how my mother was living, he could of bought her a new place to live as he was blowing money up the wall!
They all got what they deserved !
Thank you. One thing that is conveniently seem to have been left out is the motivation of most of the victims who fell for his scam. They were dazzeled by the appearance of money and wealth.
It's unfortunate that there are individuals completely susceptible to this. Some people have no barometer when dealing with fake people. I imagine these women where desperate enough to fall for the lies but not desperate enough just to date a guy that is honest but makes significantly less than what Simon purposed.
funny how the gold diggers got swindled by an even bigger gold digger
The 🌭 did these women in. This round 🌭 won. But one round soon the 🍑 will win and it's a wrap!
Exactly!
I think it’s a gambling assessment. If a woman puts herself out there for a normal dude, she might have a boring, passionless domestic life with a guy that no one else reveres, but then again he might be a good husband. If she trust the guy on the yacht, she might wind up being in crushing debt forever, which is pretty normal these days, but she also might also wind up as a 1%er. The problem ends up being how to calculate the probabilities there. She probably saw it as a 50/50 shot when it was probably more like a 1/100,000 shot.
Its like how you fell for MLM. You believe what you want to believe. And Many of us cant control the urge to follow the rabbit down the hall
"ooo look I matched with a handsome multi millionaire diamond heir! certainly can't be anything shady :D"
David Mamet's House of Games (1987) is intriguing. A psychiatrist falls for a charismatic con man. Despite her wealth and position, there's something missing in her life, and he taps into this. Great ending.
im watchn puppetmasters samething
Great Movie
Also Mamets three uses of a knife is an excellent read
I think one of the reasons these women gave him their money, is because he had spent SO MUCH money on THEM! Its the perfect way of guilt tripping. Its like they felt responsible in a way to help him because they had been a part of his luxurious life and they took advantage of it in the good times. Now that he is in trouble they must pay back the debt they owe him. Plus the emotional involvement makes it seems like a good idea. I think anyone can get conned, you can't blame one person. What is surprising that he is walking free after committing so many felons. It's like the authorities don't even give a single shit. He traveled with a fake passports, that's 10 years of imprisonment!! And he got out in 5 months, this dude definitely has some connections, or he is just Satan posing as a human.
It's quite peculiar that he managed to change his name from Shimon Hayut to Simon Leviev.
First, you cannot change your name to Cohen or Levi in Israel unless you can prove you belong to those clans.
Second, even if he did belong to the Levi clan it's no coincidence that he picked up Leviev as his new name - there is a very well known family of Leviev Brothers in Israel who were diamond dealers and they are wanted in Israel for tax evasion and a number of other alleged crimes. They owed millions in taxes alone. He must have done it on purpose should any of his gold-digging girlfriends try to look him up. They would see $$$ in Leviev family and would imagine that the money was dirty - but that there was a lot of it!
He didn’t change it legally, nothing he would show the girls would be legal, all his papers and passport would be fake.
The twelve tribes of Israel - lineage I think, however I am guessing
I am not at all excusing Simon's behavior. But!-- those women contacted him at least in part because they thought he was rich--they were looking to get something from him...he used that to get something more from them...women--be smart and sincere.
I mean, do you go looking for people poorer than yourself?
@@Red1Green2Blue3 Men do.
@@Cbd_7ohm only predatory people actively look for partners that are 'worse off than them' either economically or socially.
@@Red1Green2Blue3 That makes no sense. Women tend to marry/date guys that make more than them. Men tend to do the opposite. Nothing is predatory about it. Even if you specifically seek out people who make less, unless they're homeless or in very bad state, there is nothing predatory. These are consenting adults.
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not everybody is like you
Thank you Dr. Grande. I appreciate your analysis of Simon , his victims and their perceptions, particularly with respect to expressions of love. I wish that you would continue to delve into this a bit more. The vulnerability of Simon's victims speak volumes about our society. I don't think that the women were unintelligent or "desperate". They had a fantasy which Simon was able to exploit. Although some might think that these situations are unique, one just have to scan the various youtube channels that addresses narcissism to find the myriad of victims that are exploited by the these characters. I think that that whole Cinderella complex is still looming large in the psyche of many women and is blinding them to the princely face of evil.
I think it's safe to say that if image is everything, be careful what you get!
This is a great channel to listen to before bed. It's calming, soothing, and truly fascinating.
Simon was able to swindle women with a “shallow dating criteria” because men lowered women’s standards to hell. If a man came into my life offering gifts, sending me kind words and was handsome??? I would be open to falling too. However, a lot of men in this modern dating world can’t even be bothered to bring flowers on the first date. The bar is in hell. And some women are really desperate for love that they don’t question if something is too good to be true.
You and a lot of men in these comments fail to realize that Simon contacted these women often. He sent them flower arrangements OFTEN. He offered to move in together and was willing to pay rent.
These men in the comments probably won’t even pay for the first date. And then they wonder why women won’t text them back. We want to be taken care of. We want to be cherished. A lot of us grew up reading romance novels and to naive girls, Simon looks and acts like a guy straight from our romance novels.
Typical virtue signaling. The average modern woman would rather be in an abusive relationship with a hot guy who works at McDonalds and beats her everyday than be in a relationship with an average guy with average income who treats her well, gives her flowers and respects her. Every guy who gets women knows the fastest way to turn a woman off is by treating her well and being nice to her.
@@TheOneAndOnlycE what in the redpill bs🤣🤣🤣 did u know that this guy who scammed the women sent them flowers almost everyday and told them that he loved them and wanted to start a family with them? Where did he beat her up into giving her money? Y'all are so weird; just because u view women as objects to stick ur peepee in doesn't mean women are all abuse loving idiots. With the exceptions that go through childhood trauma/abuse that taught them the wrong idea of love, a lot of women will leave a bullshit guy, either sooner or later, but I'm guessing you don't even have the social skills to get women to even like you enough to consider dating you👍 moral of the story; women are human beings too, not objects for sexual gratification.
Men didn’t lower any standards.Women want equality and got it.
I’m glad you said the bodyguard was apparently injured in that photo; I thought he’d got a long piece of red liquorice stuck to his forehead!
There's no such thing as red liquorice.
I saw sponging on the forehead. not even a good fake job.
That’s funny . Yes red liquorice that’s been kinda soaked a bit in a glass of milk to make it slime looking
Spaghetti dipped in red food colouring 😂
Simon didn't spend enough time in prison for his crimes. In the documentary Simon makes it look like they were attacked and Piotor aka Peter was just doing his job but what I think is that Pete mouthed off and got beat up by bouncers or maybe he was beat one on one but if you watch the documentary in the photos Pete looks like he got his bell rung which is reflected in the look in Pete's eyes. It's sad that his one girlfriend who owed 9 creditors was paying for that night that Pete got his butt beat. I'd love to see you do an Alien Lizards podcast on this documentary. That would be tremendous!
Those things can all be easily faked in photos. I mean, there's an entire industry built around doing that live inside of a ring.
goldigging
The ambulance is harder to fake but... yeah, definitely possible.
I also happen to believe that Piotr actually got his "bell rung" (😂) on some occasion for some reason, and the ambulance and paramedic were really on the job,
and the swindlers decided to make lemonade out of lemons and use these video and images in their frauds afterwards.
He is chosen
You know chosen people
You keep me up to date on obscure current events. Thank you 🙏🏻
Another good video Dr. Grande!! The warning signs were always there. Most wealthy men with class are not on Tinder.
I was waiting for Dr. Grande’s input on the Tinder Swindler, and am enjoying every bit of it.
I think you should start a profile on a dating website, say BADOO, as a female, and see how quickly it goes from "hey"to "do this for me" and what happens when you then don't comply. And observe the language and level of literacy / exchange. I think it might even shock you. You will see then why these women were so grateful to have someone who was a little attentive. Call it a social experiment.
Kim, I’ve always wondered why no one has thought of creating a website to notify people of characters like this guy.
Most men are more than a little attentive. It's just that women don't give regular guys the time of day. Most men are invisible to most women. Women are not grateful for attention. Hell, Cecilia had 1000 matches. She had attention. She wanted a lavish lifestyle supplied by a rich man. Most women are ungrateful heathens especially in today's climate. They have nothing to offer but their bodies and most are not even that good at that to be honest. They are not interested in developing qualities that would help in building up a relationship with a man. But they do want the men in their lives to have the qualities that they would like. They are hypocrites.
The best part of the movie is when the last girlfriend isnt sending him the money from his clothes she's selling and he's sending these messages ranging from rabid outrage to threats to pathetic grovelling and then he tells her he's a hostel, but not just any hostel, its a "1 star" hostel. It's hilarious. The guy has absolutely no shame. And your heart really breaks for his victims but especially for Cecilia.
It's so easy for people to criticize the victims' behavior. "They're stupid." "They lack logic." "They're greedy." You never know how far you'll go for someone you love until you're tested. Maybe the people blaming the victims have never had their true love tested. Simon convinced these women that he loved them, and his actions were consistent with the proclamation of his passion. I learned a long time ago that if someone can't do it on their own (e.g. take out a loan), there's a good reason, and I shouldn't get involved in that. Not everyone has that lesson, so let's be kinder to each other when we're dealing with some bad sh-t. P.S. I hope the women are doing better.
But they did not love him. What are you talking about? They loved the lifestyle he could provide which means they were not interested in him as a person, only what his money could bring. If to you that is love, you have a very shallow view of life and you should work on that. THese are only victims of their own world view. Narcissistic shallow women looking for lavish superficial lifestyle that somebody else will support.
Who in their right mind would believe that a billionaire would ask his tinder date to give him money? YOu have to be a certain kind of stupid. This excuse that love make you do crazy things is ridiculous and quote infantilizing. We are talking about adult women, not children. Geez.
Great video. I hope you have a headstart on Bad Vegan. I would love to hear your take on that, Dr. Grande.
Equally interesting would be an analysis of people who think another human being deserves to be the victim of a crime, and who derive pleasure at the thought of the misery the victim is now enduring. The kind of person who would say, upon learning of the suicide of one of Rubbin Sarpong's victims that she was asking for it. The kind of person who has picked a side, and it's not the victim's.
Yes, I see almost all comments berating the women for falling for an overwhelming, love bombing, hard to process, planned con. Few are actually condemning the actual swindler 🤔
Misogyny is deeply rooted even in some women.
It’s easy to judge for sure . Empathy people !! This is such a huge horrible crime all over the world . People can be nasty 🤮. Type of identity theft just making the victim do it to themselves . Wow I’m glad I never grew up young in the online dating world !! I tried it but I never got interested . Just seems like fake people mostly . Same as Facebook people ( not everyone ) I like having only 3 REAL friends , that I can go have coffee with . Poor girls that slept with him . Never know where his ding dongs been. Sleeping with girls all over the country
@@tinamenon1593 I guess accountability is misogynistic.
Please do the Phillip Markoff case (Craigslist killer/medical student) A lot to analyze
First girl has no self esteem and he took advantage of her. She had no idea how a millionaire could be so interested in her. Second girl was just a friend, she was just a good friend who helped a friend in need IMO. Third girl dated this guy for over a year, makes no sense how she didn’t notice anything weird
This is why my newly divorced friends are adverse to Internet dating. What a shame because there are some really great guys out there. I enjoy your videos and thank you.
When you talked about this guy having pictures of himself standing next to expensive cars and standing on boats, it made me laugh because it reminded me of an episode of Friends where Joey was standing by an expensive car because people would talk to him and be sociable with him when he's by the car.
I'm a woman and I can't sympathize with these women. I see men like Simon miles away. Posing with expensive cars, standing on yatch and wearing designer clothes that probably aren't even theirs. Only shallow and stupid women fall for this trap.
Women, wtf is wrong with you? "Simon" was obviously a grifter. The woman who got on a plane to Bulgaria with him after spending 40 mins with him in a bar is a total nutter. She gave him 250K! She could have spent 30 seconds googling the man he claimed was his father, and she would have learned that "Simon" was a fraudster. The woman who sold his clothes is kinda a badass. Women, please tell me it isn't this easy to con you. These are just the women we learned about on the Netflix show. How many others have there been?
The women are equally to blame obviously they wanted easy money and are lucky to be alive so I say they deserve what they get. Easy come easy go
@@MarieJulie211 Playing on the desires of the target is grifting 101, and every adult ought to be savvy enough to know this., especially in this internet age. It's never been easier to be a criminal.
These are desperate women
incel alert
@@Thedizzyrocker it does read like that for sure!