This is why you ask GOD for your spouse and this would not be an issue!!! There is no excuse for leaving your family to wolves. No man leaves his family to fend for themselves. (1 Timothy 5:8). And I am not talking about financial support only!
This is why moms are the MVP’s, they don’t get to walk away and wouldn’t dare even in their brokenness. I’m not a mommy BUT I just want tot thank y’all for never leaving us. THANK YALL❤️💯
Don't know why this comment made me soo emotional, but it just reminded me when my sister and l were 10 and 8 and my mum had a chance to travel abroad for her job promotion and she turned it down all because in her words she said my children are still young , many years have passed and l know our mum is someone we can always count on...
Thanks for sharing where you are at. Both lovely parents. Yes I can see where your husband is breaking. You need a family member or church organisation to step in to help over this bumpy period. So sorry for you both. Instead of disrespectful. Just to understand and share helpful opinions. God bless you all and give you solution. ❤
I both understand and don't simultaneously... Like who gets to decide to leave their family. But if it works for you and the rest of the family, that's all that matters. One thing for certain, two things for sure... This too shall pass! ❤I am a recent subscriber, cans don't really have the right to comment. I also don't have the back history or have seen too many earlier videos. It just seemed his presence was important for baby girl Mikko to thrive. I could be wrong tho. Hopefully, Chris will find himself and you all can make it work. Mental health is a real thing. I believe they are accepting those individuals back who wouldn't test. I thought I saw it on a news show. Bless you all❤
you'll be fine I remember my mom telling my dad I have kids to raise I don't have time for your personal madness & foolishness & kept it moving!!!! love ya mom 💕
You mom is such a W!!!!!!!!!!! Like I wish all moms were like this my mom was not. I love her down but we’d be closer if she had this mindset. Ur mom is amazing ❤❤❤
I’m retired military with two autistic children and I looked up to the fact that Chris stayed. Maybe God put COVID here so you can get out and focus on Mikko because that’s hard to do on active duty. Leaving is easy imo staying and supporting Precious. Mikko , and the twins are the priority.
Leaving just because you think you need your life is selfish....you both got on the both, Chris find a way to get love back...and stay. What about Precious? Her whole life is in this boat. If she wants to get her life too, what happens to Mikko? She is tired too. Very selfish, running away from responsibilities.
While I don’t think everything needs to be shared online, this post caught my eye. Despite the title, it remained unclear whether he was leaving the relationship or just the channel. I don’t know this couple personally, but it was uncomfortable to watch. She seemed to make excuses for him, and it saddens me that women often end up bearing the burden in situations like this due to their nurturing instincts. It's frustrating that in rare occasions where women have left, they face backlash, while men don’t encounter the same scrutiny. Fathers often receive praise for basic parenting tasks, while mothers go unrecognized for their consistent efforts, and always forced to prioritize everyone else's needs. I also hear women criticized for wanting to wait for a man who is done “finding himself” before marriage. Some argue that it’s unrealistic since personal growth is ongoing, and I agree to some extent. If men (like in this video) claim they need to leave to "find themselves," I wonder: 1. Why can’t that search happen alongside their partner? 2. What if both partners have epiphanies at the same time? Who cares for the children then? Ultimately, it seems he became complacent (his words), and that’s the real issue. In discussing how he learned to "do better," he pointed out her selflessness and willingness to be uncomfortable in order to improve the situation. Isn’t that what life is all about-making the most of what we have? We can't just check out when things get tough. That said, I sincerely hope she finds the strength to raise her children, that those around her support her, and that she doesn't crumble under her responsibilities.
Took the words right out of my head. He should be "finding" himself WITH his partner. Which leads me to believe that he just wants out, but doesn't want to look like the bad guy. I'm with you on praying she has a good support system so she doesn't crumble under the pressure of her responsibility. Ultimately, I think she will be better off because she already has three kids to raise, she doesn't need a selfish, tantrum throwing fourth.
@@charlotteoladiran3095This was tough to watch. Girl let him go. He is selfish. What about you needing a break? Stop making excuses for him! In the end you have three beautiful children to raise.
Very well said! Now they just made a response video to the comments trying to clear things up that he’s not leaving the marriage, he’s just going to rejoin the military. SMH, that is not how they presented things and the video didn’t have to be that long just for that to be the ultimate message they wanting to get across. They didn’t even have to go that deep into details lol! Ppl switch careers all the time while having a family. Their delivery is what confused people. They definitely click baited folks but, that’s what RUclipsrs do. I can’t stand when people try to play on words. Just get to the point, be direct and keep it moving. Good luck to them, keep the channel about baby girl.
Precious, when people wanna go, #let them go. See how how God will open more blessings for you and the kids. You, mikko and the twins will be fine. Let God lead the way. And precious stop defending him when you know his acts or words are not right. Peace and love. ❤
I agree. He seems to not have empathy. He needs to grow-up ...I mean you already in fatherhood and challenging behaviors of children is challenging. Don't call it "passion" the intent is the intent of his communicating with you.
My daughter is autistic and non-verbal as well. You are a wonderful woman and mother! You ain't new to this, you're true to this! You are the best mother to all three of your children! 💜💯💪🏿
Ma’am you are better than me! I would not have even allowed him to do this video. Why are you making excuses for him? Why are you speaking about his crushed dreams as if yours don’t matter too? This is rid! Stop making excuses for these deadbeats.
Boy bye!!! You need to figure it out and stay with your family instead of RUNNING AWAY like a punk. Miko did not ask to come in this world, that BEAUTIFUL BABY is HERE. PRECIOUS please stop giving him this leway, you and the babies are BETTER than this. When your babies become SUCCESSFUL and FAMOUS he will realize what he turned his back on. BEAUTIFUL Lady God has His arms ALL AROUND YOU AND THOSE BABIES❤
Hello Family, per the complete video, Chris is not leaving! Realistically, we must give people a certain level of grace & mercy to figure out life sometimes why working through the many mental obstacles & challenges of this journey. Wishing this beautiful family only the BEST!!!
Thank you for this message. I kept scrolling because I could not believe that all these people did not watch the video to the end or they did not understand the video.
I think these vids of them are difficult for me to watch because I am single and I work with children with disabilities. I am aware of the support that a mother needs with her child that has different abilities. I real see that I don't have the ability to listen to this man excuses. I am hard on him because most men leave. I loved the vid where they filmed them washing her hair and bathing her. They did it together. OK, I got it! My parents separated when I was young. This is why I don't like when the family is apart. Just realizing I am triggered. I will be more aware of my emotions before I watch these vids.
Very selfish & emotionally abusive. What do you mean you stay 3 days without talking to your wife and punishing your kids by being absent or absent minded.. He is playing games while Precious is still dishing up for him? I'd kick that tray of food. You can't serve and still accept disrespect... No.
Unfortunately, this is the case with parents of multiples and children with disabilities. Divorce usually happens. Prayers for this family. Mom needs support with 3 children. This is a challenging situation. My heart breaks for this family. 😢
There's a lot of talk from Chris and it all seems to be me me me me me me me and I I I I I I I I. Has he taken into consideration how Mkko is going to feel with this drastic change of not having her dad in the picture here he is choosing to leave the family and thinks by leaving he will achieve that. I've heard Chris talk before he is in my opinion mean and inconsiderate even when discussing Mikko. I feel his decision here is going to seal his unhappiness even further down the road. He sounds like a man that wants another relationship. This one is too hard for him and he should go. Precious is a great mother and she deserves happiness and she will certainly be happy with Chris out of the picture he's a burden to the family. God bless you precious and family you be fine God has his hands all over you and those kids.
Precious will sit and wait...he has her on a string. He will come back and forth, FOREVER...and she will let him...she will not divorce him because she think he will change....theme for life...until he re-marry.
@@km-uh2rs it’s a copout. He just needs to get away from the family and that’s his ticket. I work in law enforcement and assure you that the military does not want this type of man. He won’t last unless he’s willing to do the dirtiest work. I don’t know if you can tell through RUclips, but I can, Chris has soft hands.
Precious, I had four school aged kids when their dad chose to leave. When he left, within less than a minute, I went from “omg, what am I going to do now” to “no time for that, I’m going to raise these kids!” 20 something years later and by the grace of God, I purchased a house, went back to school and advanced my career to a CSFA. Today, I have a loving relationship with my kids and he is still where he was when he made his choice, but now trying to mansplain to his adult kids, “well, what had happened was.” You will be just fine Sistah! Your new three fold cord is you, your kids and God!! What better support do you need?!?
I don’t know why he seems so nonchalant. He seems relieved. It’s ticking me off. Sometimes you gotta keep your family together despite your feelings. Of course, you need to take of your mental health but this is the JOB he signed up for. He’s not a temp. This is a permanent position, unlike the military. Romantic love is important but the love of the family he helped you create, should come first. I know that I’m a stranger but this is disappointing. I hope you get the support, you and your beautiful babies deserve.
Very well said. I have a hard time commenting on personal, vulnerable situations like this even when they chose to put it out to the world because they’re real people at the end of the day. But this fills me with annoyance & disappointment..
Leaving the military is extremely tough. I retired after 20 years during COVID and it was extremely difficult. It still is. It takes time for veterans to adjust to civilian life. However, this man’s excuse as to why he made his decision is inexcusable. Marriage is work. Being a parent is work. Such a sad example and I pray you all find healing during this time. I know firsthand how traumatizing divorce/separation is. It’s tough on everyone involved, especially the children. Sending healing and peace to your family. May GOD guide your steps.
I'm praying for ya'll so sincerely. God please place your hands over this family and continue to protect them and guide them. In Jesus name amen 💙🩵💙🩵💙🩵
I hate commenting and I don’t care that much about what’s going on people’s lives but I’m sorry he wasn’t fooling me from jump. I saw it coming. Im praying for u and them babies.
You noticed he said we are keeping the channel and she's the one that's putting in the work. When things are difficult and a person is not there for you spouse or not get them out of your life without turning back.
Time with the kids should be divided into two. 50/50. Both parents have to have equal time with the children. One parent cannot just leave because they want to follow their dreams. Blessings to you both. ❤
As a parent you gotta be last according to your children. "Unfulfilled"? So what about your wife and kids? Im sure she lost her hopes and dreams....you say you going to the military?? So you just gone leave your family?
That's a very real loss being in the Army and then losing it. That's traumatic, and therapy is needed to process that loss. Your entire life goals changed with no control. The household dynamics changed without even the situation with Mikko. It's important to acknowledge your feelings without listening to people's opinions. Marriage is work, and both of you should be commended for your willingness to address and work on it. I pray for you all.
@@Growinggracefully843 well in life shyt happens, that doesn't mean you leave and distance yourself from your family. Family is there to support! So no matter what changes in your life your family is constant, so long as you make them your priority! What message does this send to the children. Life took an unexpected turn so I ran? He's selfish, he's been checked out, it was always more than he was willing to deal with. He wants to free, that's it that's all.
As someone who comes from a military family and witnessed firsthand so many of my uncles loosing themselves in PTSD (because the military is so good to US folks🙄, not to mention the residual trauma of the Vietnam war and the Gulf war) , I definitely feel like there is a lot not being said on Chris’ end and personally I would rather him be vulnerable in sharing his feelings than to try to escape in a bottle or with a needle. It may not be articulated in the same manner as Precious so it comes out sounding like a cop-out, but it’s probably because men aren’t allowed grace to feel, let alone express their feelings or uncertainty. And adding the military in that, where they strip YOU down and force you to be “one” like the Borg, of COURSE it’s going to be jarring when you leave that. Who the hell are you even when you’ve been “7 of 9” for so long??
@@fromlissawithlove@fromlissawithlove @CaliMisfit1921, I suffer from PTSD every day, and it is a battle that I don't always win. As a partner and parent, you give so much of yourself, but a part of you still deserves fulfillment. If not, what is it all for? Are parents only here for the kids? If you lose yourself, you have nothing to give, and being home with resentment is just like being away working. Working also provides benefits so that his wife can get needed help in the home. If the two made this decision together, I think no one else matters because we are spectators; they live it. I'm sure they talked way more than they shared with us, and I don't see Precious as a pushover by any means. I think they both love their family, and it shows. He was in the military when this all started, so it's not like he just decided to enlist to get away.
My ex abandoned my autistic daughter 11 years ago. I raised her by myself. I was done with Chris when he said he "wasn't gonna kiss Mikko's ass." Loving your special needs child has nothing to do with kissing anyone's ass. Piss poor attitude and choice of words.👎🏾
Wow! I feel people definitely jumped to conclusions before listening to the entire video. I'm praying everyone finds peace, and I wish this couple nothing but the best outcome. Looking forward to hearing positive good news.
No, call a spade a spade. He is selfish. He wants out. He is not satisfied. He is ok with breaking up a family; a home; what about the children and being an example to the children? I know it takes two to tango, but no excuses. Marriage is real and it is for better or for worse. Endurance. This is something clearly he lacks as a man. The army is another excuse to foster his selfish ways. She works very hard and to leave her is just wrong. I said it. They need only GODLY counsel. Divorce is not God’s way. He hates putting away; Malachi 2:16.
I couldn't have said it better!!! I hate a runner, when things get tough they run. I would be very upset if we had a special needs child and you want to leave to find yourself!!! There's no coming bk from that for me we would be DONE DONE!!!!
Listen, a lot was said without saying too much. I try my best not to speak on things that other families are going thru because it’s so easy to judge a moment or whatever you all present to the world but… I pray for your family. I know it can be difficult for those who have served to come back and be integrated again within their own family. It’s nothing wrong with wanting to fulfill your own desires but just don’t allow it to be at the expense of your own family. I didn’t hear that Chris was leaving or they were getting divorced… I heard he is actively trying to get back into the Army and they are gonna take time to work on getting back to themselves and still keep their followers in the loop. Idk it’s brave and scary sharing your personal life to the world, I commend you both for sharing your truth as you still are working thru things. Best of luck and God bless!
Honey, listen to me: If he can walk away, let him go. No one who can walk away is supposed to be there. And honey, listen to me very carefully, if he walks away, he can never come back. Do not open that door. Let him stay gone. You move forward. It sucks being a single mom, I'm widowed with one and that's hard but you can do this. You will be worn out by the time your kids are grown but you can do this. You don't have to explain. You have to do what's best for your kids. I've given this example a couple of times now. Walking with somebody requires walking in the same direction and at the roughly the same pace. You can't do that if one is walking one way and one the other way or two dramatically different speeds, you end up spinning around each other. And it's ok to agree you've reached a point where you no longer walk together. And go your separate ways.
I, too, refused the covid vaccine and was released from my job of 29 years. I'm not going to lie but it was one of the hardest things I went through because like Chris said, I also lost a big part of my identity and when people weren't looking And especially at night, I would cry and I went through A lot of emotional stuff. But at the end of the day My job is not The biggest part of who I am so I found another job and I have been Building up my esteem and whatnot but I'm not angry anymore because it was a choice that I made. But I did all of this And it's over two years now and I did it without breaking up my family And I'm just not really sure how A man can just leave a family he helped create to go and find himself. That finding himself should have happened before he procreated And rebuilding yourself can happen While staying in the marriage by seeking therapy. To me, it's an easy way out to leave Everybody else behind to deal with the Fallout while you go put yourself together. Precious, I Wish the best for you And I hope things work out well for you and that you find someone who is willing To put in the hard work to support you and your family.
@@sandyruther2745 He is leaving his family. He's using his need to find himself through reenlistment as a way to escape his family responsibilities and hardships. ...
@@sandyruther2745 That will teach me to listen to the whole video. To be honest, I didn't really see him on social media anymore. Thank you, I'm glad I was wrong!
I was engaged to someone became pregnant and our son was born prematurely with cerebral palsy. 6months later my kidneys failed 😢 I understood that this was a whole lot to take on so when he started changing I made excuses. Finally he left us and I just told him I will get over it with time however please don’t leave your son without a dad. I could barely make baby bottles n care for our child but he became a ghost. It really is sad. My son is almost 17 now 🙏🏾🙏🏾 with a great head one his shoulders however a big hole in his heart because he wants his dad😢😢😢😢 I can only do my best and will continue to do so. I pray he continues to support her and the children. It’s not fair that parents are able to run from serious responsibilities. No one suffers as much as the child😢😢
God will bless you with the right man, I'm an Army veteran as well. This is not it, I'm disappointed in your husband. SMH, for better or worse, I go to mental health to figure things out but not abandon family.
Yeah, it seems like a deeper issue. Praying for them. I'm going through it too, so this is triggering bc I'm sensitive to men that abandon their posts, so I hope I'm not projecting my own feelings. Just feels like it's obvious there's a deeper issue. When they figure it I pray they're in a place where they have something left to salvage healthy connections. 😪🙏🏾🕊️💔
So you can tell in this comment section the majority of people didn’t watch the video and only looked at the title. Chris made a decision that affected him as a man. He wants to continue his dream of being in the army. He’s not leaving his family.
Shame on you, Chris, especially when marriage is figuring it out together. Trying to rationalize what's going on should never be a cope out for the family. Chris, get a job or go to school to help move the family forward and give yourself a reason to stand tall in being a man. Pray for direction before destroying your family.
Statistically, women leave their families way more often than men. Men will leave their happiness for their family, a woman will leave her family for her happiness.
Precious im glad that I watched the entire video..some of these comments are from ppl who didn't watch the whole video. I love how you both communicate throughout everything, whether it's difficult or not.
I don't agree with all the comments, however, also, I feel some of them because, I am Precious. I have twins, son is on the spectrum and daughter with learning disabilities. Their Dad, whom is still in their lives, I feel lives freely while I am with them at least 80% of the time and have made sacrifice after sacrifice....it's a tough call...also, he's giving the same vibes my abusive ex gave me...and he kinda looks like him too. That's where I'm picking up on the narcissitic traits, however, I don't know these people so I'm not gonna tell other people how to live their lives and this new age, people are too quick to talk to strangers like they know them that well to feel so strong
Sadly, when some men have special needs children or sick spouses, they take the "easy" way out - saying they need to find themselves & bounce. It's not about you. it's about the child! Perhaps you should have given more thought to how you'd feel after you got booted out of the military!!
Totally agree. Poor excuse for a husband and a father. His ignorance is astounding. Ignorant about the vaccine, gave up your career cuz you couldn’t take one little vaccine. Do the research and support your child. Everything isn’t about you. As a parent, you need to step up.
@@doingme2today388I admittedly may be wrong, but if the Army was THAT important to him, he would’ve gotten the shot years ago & never gotten to this point in the first place.
I didn’t like how he keep saying HIS!!!. When you are married it’s WE. Now we do have to remember in relationships that we can’t forget ourselves but he is coming across SELFISH. As a mom we don’t get to be selfish.. And we as mother’s don’t get to walk away and be TRIED.. And cry about our crushed DREAMS… WHAT THE HECK!!!
Chris thank you for your honesty, what a beautiful and healthy place to stand in. It takes courage to be so open and honest on this platform. I believe we have to give ourselves permission to wrestle with the complexity of life and how to manage everything that comes at us and everyone doesn’t process and handle life’s ups and downs the same. There’s no handbook for life we are all learning as we go. But where others see the negative. I see love, commitment and personal growth. A healthy you and Precious is the best gift you can give your family, friends and love one. I’m praying for you and your family. The same is for you Precious keep digging and learning about yourself so you can live in authenticity. That really is the gift. It’s only TRUTH that makes you free. I NEVER post comments EVER, but I admire you guys braver to be so open ❤You’re healthy than you think don’t let anyone tell you different!
I'm sorry but this was such a HARD WATCH. Between Chris' blatant selfishness and Precious making excuses for him it's appalling. You both need to take a long look in the mirror. Precious I wish you all the love, but it starts within. Stand up girl, he's making a punk, dusty move. And he thinks taking care of his child is kissing her arse... my god.
I’m so glad I watched the entire video and thank you for your vulnerability. God bless you on your journey to go back into the military which will be how you provide for your family. I’m praying that you all will continue to work on your relationship and your family.
leaving your family is soft i dont care what you are going through.. you FAMILY needs you there not away.. and dont give me the i will do everything i can stuff... EVERY SECOND OF EVEY DAY PERIOD.......... Grandfather of a autistic boy whos dad did the same not a man in my eyes.....
Second this. My mom is shit, but my dad fought with everything he had to stay in our lives. I was an autistic traumatized kid who was not easy to deal with but he stayed and fought and cared for me and loved me unconditionally and now I’m a functional happy adult.
I agree with you on this. Another thing I didn’t like about this video was his wife’s justification for his behavior. He just doesn’t want to deal with the hard things in life, especially dealing with Mikko.
Thanks Chris for opening yourself. Other men might relate to this. Precious you are incredible in this journey. You both are an inspiration for others. I really hope you can get your Army career back. As an Air Force Veteran I completely understand this loss. Your channel help those going through the autism journey.
Thank you for your service! As a daughter of Air Force veterans I empathize with Chis just as much as I do with Precious. Both are experiencing themselves in their transition season and for Chris it’s harder because the military removes the “I” in you in order for you to assimilate into the “we”. When you leave that, especially in the way Chris did not taking the jab, I can imagine how jarring that is-to have to rediscover yourself amid all the roles that you already carry in your household.
Screw him! My son’s father did the same crap as most of these coward men do when their child is Autistic. Look it up. The statiere disgusting! They get to leave and live their life and we are left alone raising the child. God will deal with the bum fathers.
Very true sister , my cousin girl is in the same situation, is reasing his Autistic girl in the same stage like Miko alone whit my aunty 😢😢😢, i pray in every day for them to God give them power 😢 . Is sow much pain in my hearth to see my nephew like this . Be strong, God bless you!. ❤
You’d be shocked at how often this happens, even to wealthy families. One that quickly comes to mind is Toni Braxton” and her ex- husband Kerri, separated then divorced because of their son Denim that was diagnosed with autism” they also have a son named Diesel. Even though he was still helping financially, she’s was left to take care of her children.
I occasionally watch the channel, so I don't know the entire story. But from what I've seen, your words seem totally on point. It's hard enough raising one child by yourself, but 3 with some limitations is another level. Although the older kids seem to be self-care, they still need the guidance of both parents...It does seem like a totally cowardly act.
I am a military spouse. My husband was a soldier. I seen a lot of comments saying that Chris is wrong and the family deserves better. For those of you who have never experienced military life. It's a different ball of wax. Not just for the soldier but the family as well. When a soldier goes through basic training. They are literally retrained to the person that the military needs them to be. The person that they were is changed forever. So I hear and understand Chris when his says that he feels incomplete or not enough being out of the military. Or, when they spoke about now spending too much time together. Because when you are in the service, each person as their own roll to play. When Chris was forced to leave something he loved, and which also gave him a sense of purpose. He was lost, I am so proud of the way both of you decided to stay and work not only on yourselves but on your family as well. I am glad that Chris is getting the chance to become the person/soldier, husband, and father. That he can look at in the mirror and be proud of. As for Precious, I am so proud of your grace, and steadfastness as a wife and mother. When I found out that my middle son had Autism, it took the breath out of me.. In the beginning, there were many times that I felt guilty. Wondering about what others would think of me. Once, I was able to sit with myself and realized that it wasn't about me. I was able to pour all my love and resources in helping my son be the best version of himself.. i am sending prayers to the both of you and your family. On this new chapter in your life. ❤
PLEASE READ!!!!! Experienced Autism Dads and moms need to talk to Inexperienced Autism Dads and Moms. HE need to connect with other Autism Dads men need to recharge, refocus and help them transition with his family not away from them. Men need therapy too life is changes and it's hard we need HEALTY COMMUNITY
Hello Precious and Chris, I appreciate how honest and vulnerable you were willing to be in this situation. I hope you realize that you’re setting a good example for married couples out there. The fact that you are so supportive of each other, and recognizing each other’s needs is something that a lot of people in relationships should aspire to do.
Single grandma of a 5 year old Autistic girl here. Chris your FAMILY needs you. I have been divorced from my ex huspand for almost 20 years. We had to put our differences to the side, our personal lives to the side to relocate, become roomates to raise our shared special needs grandchild. He still sometimes gets on my last nerve BUT! He is an AWSOME grandad to our baby!! YOU CREATED THIS FAMILY.....stay there and lead it sir!!!
What’s most important is the coming together. Real black women especially, endure the hard life from so many fronts. Precious, hold the fort of family all you can girl! Pray and strengthen your faith in GOD’s help till resolve! Chris, keep working on you and yours! Family is everything at the end of the day! 💯
No separation is an easy or a joyous situation. I am so sorry your family is in this season and transition. I hope and pray for the entire family's well-being. Precious you, can and WILL.💕
I am married so I’m not quick to speak on other peoples marriages… with that being said I heard a lot of him and his life and what he wants but what about your wife.. I appreciate how gracious she is towards him. The love is real but it just feels a little selfish and self centered
To be fair, they want people to comment on their marriage. Otherwise, the would not have made and posted this video; they would not have left the comments section open. They make a living off the comments-engagements- that people make.
I'm sooooo rooting for you I can't wait for you to be the best version of yourself from this! You already seem to be handling things extremely well. You don't have to be so strong but thank God you are, your kids have a wonderful mama
The way I’m understanding the video is that he’s not leaving his family, but he’s going back into the military. If that helps him and it makes him a better husband and father more power to him and them as a family.
Chris and Precious, I can only imagine the difficulty in sharing these hard moments with us. Stay strong, trusting God along the journey. We appreciate your courage.
Should have taken the vaccine if you didn't have a REAL plan. The military was a way to provide your family with medical coverage as well and your family needed that. Now he talking about his life and his dreams and aspirations and so not considering the dreams and aspirations of his wife and his wife. This guy is selfish. These were selfish acts. I saw a story about a couple where the father did this same thing but instead the wife told him he could leave but he had to take the kids with him. Everyone got so upset with her because for some reason men can have their dreams and just leave but women must always stay and give up rhetoric to raise the children. This woman want having that. Now i get it. These weak men always walk away leaving their wives to do everything. She is being so understanding and empathetic to him. He use to getting his way. HE IS SELFISH!
Agreed! That understanding/compromising role gets tired after while though. She will see eventually if she hasn’t already. To a degree I understand the pain that comes with abandoning something that once gave you fuel. But to pursue a career that provides respite from a demanding family is not the move of a loving husband in my opinion. It’s selfish.
Amen!!! And I’m sure she encouraged that crap with him too thinking she was being holistic 🙄 black folk don’t get the luxury to play like that he should have never abandoned the post
Why is it so hard for others to understand and except their decision? I personally wouldn't want someone to be unhappy in the relationship. They are adults and they are sharing their journey and doing what's best for them. Is it better for two people to stay together unhappy or do what's best for them?
All the comments made it look as though he was going to leave his family behind. He's just going back to his job. Crisis averted! 🤣May the Lord God in heaven continue to bless their union.
@@sarenahchatman9405 Did you watch the whole thing? The title is misleading on purpose, they gotta get views lol He's leaving social media/IG content stuff. They talk about how he was gone while he was in the military, so once he's enlisted again, he'll probably be gone again.
I debated on whether I should post this,...🙁 When they say through sickness and health, its for the man. They stick around when there is a benefit for them. When benefits start slowing, they are ready to jump ship. If the new opportunity isn't as shiny as it seems, they go back down to safety to the previous step. He was in because this made him look humane and noble. When you look noble, it opens doors to other opportunities and people.
When men have children that are gifted. It's always easier for them to leave and not the mother. Fellas they need you 10 toes down with children especially when you have gifted children. I digress I pray that the good Lord continue to bless you, husband and children in Jesus. name.
Precious you and your children are going to be fine, Dad you’re copping out. Mom GOD Above has something way better planned for you and the babies GOD BLESS YOU AND THE CHILDREN KEEP YOUR FOCUS ON GOD ANS WATCH! ❤❤❤❤
No excuse to him ? WOW you are so much better than him. I pray God brings someone into you and your children’s life that will support you and who you and your daughter are! God bless you mama 🙏🏾
Only thing with the advice of being info someone else into her life is God forbids remarrying or now it would be considered adultery in God’s eyes. It doesn’t matter what we want. God set the laws and we must adhere to His way. Mark 10:11-12
😢you can't be youreself anymore???? This is all what he can say??? Did hi ever look at her life 24h from 24 taking care of Miko??? What?????? I have a cousin is in the same situation , is raising my nephew togheter whit my aunty his mom , end the father now is having a perfect life, whit girlfriend 😢 .Is a lot of pain for me to see my cousin in this situation end how ex-husband is sow happy whit the new life . 😢 God bless you beautiful girl end i will pray for you end Miko. ❤❤❤
I’m confused by some of the comments below maybe they didn’t rly watch the vid and just went on the title. Thank you for sharing your journey and the most personal aspects of your relationship and your family. Marriage is not for the faint hearted. Just remember that marriage is about relinquishing your individual rights wants needs etc and submitting to each other so you can become one and act as one for the betterment of your children and your family. Marriage is all about growing into a better person for those around you. As a man Chris needs to find that path that is going to allow him to be a provider and protector of his family. The military shudn’t be a way of escape so he can figure out himself which is kinda what I heard a little. I’ve been married 25yrs and yes you are individuals but you are one. Support each other in the things you each want to do as long as you’re not escaping your role as a husband and father. You can’t be a part-time husband or father. Don’t place yourself in a situation where you will be tempted even more to distance yourself from those roles. Wishing you all the best! ❤
So happy, you both are giving each other grace and working together to keep your beautiful family unit strong. Blessings and don't put ego (edging God out) first ❤
Precious, I am sorry ouch. You're the backbone of your family, and God will completely bless this mess Chris is creating and keep it in your favor. This is selfishness, and Mikko will be affected😢. This is a bad decision he won't find happiness by leaving to find it. I 🙏 he changes his mind and keeps his family intact.
You can tell by the comments people did NOT WATCH the entire video. Marriage is not easy, kudos to you both for being open about these type of struggles. Every marriage goes through hard times.
No, everyone understood he’s going to the military. Leaving her to raise kids alone while he follows his dreams. They aren’t hard up for the money. It’s not about contributing but rather “finding himself”. And that’s selfish behavior.
I have a sister with a son with autism. I see how the dad can leave because of how he feel or what he has chosen to do. This leaves all the responsibility on my sister for needing a babysitter and still having to get things done. For my nephew with autism and two other children that they have together. Stay strong and keep trusting God, he will make a way out of no way.
Military family here. I have been following you for a few years. We have 2 on the spectrum. My son shares the same birthday and birth year as Mikko. My husband was deployed when my son was diagnosed and I had a newborn and a 12 year old. Me and my husband have different views of Autism as well. I'm more excepting. I believe my husband is on the spectrum but he refuses to believe it. I've never wanted to be a SAHM and my husband is moving along in his career. I've lost who I am. It's hard and we are still struggling there. You will get there just keep pushing.
@saydesirelove2967: This is the BEST COMMENT/ADVISE GIVEN!!! I've been sitting here with my JAW to the floor! I CAN'T BELIEVE what some people are saying! WoW! There's NO WAY you respect a person, OR their partner, when you call them OUT OF THEIR NAME, or INSIST on speaking TO YOU, as though you're some inept victim in need of THEIR "counsel."
I believe the comments are for Precious to not let this man walk all over her. We think Precious is naive about men and would let Chris run game on her.
men are. it held accountable in society and within their families. So escaping is easy. You give them an inch and they take a mile. We all know how the story ends, so yes they’re giving him a hard time for a reason.
Precious, peace in the house is so important. Children see and hear what's going on. Pray about it and make plans and keep it moving. People's feelings when they want go. You can't change people. God got you and your children.❤🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
People you all are listening to this couple? You all need to watch the whole video 😂They are Not Breaking up. The man is leaving Social media to go back to the military 😅
@zelajocelyn2069 I watched more than halfway and I never heard anything about leaving social media or going back to the Army. They probably should have led with that because my comment was off track but I saw some really wild ones out here. Doing it the way they did is called click bait.
@@eponymous2684her titles is always clickbait and I went through what they are talking about a disconnect in my relationship while raising an autistic child a new mother at that but he didn’t leave I had to put him out anyway I say that to say it’s single mothers out here raising their autistic children alone so of course we want to find people we can relate to, this long video just to say he’s leaving social media to go back to the army which is cool I get it but be authentic I’m not mad at her hustle though mad at myself for falling for click bait 😂😂
Marriage is hard, and life can be challenging. I am praying for your family and hope you find the best path forward. Don't feel guilty for keeping the private things private. Love the channel. Blessings.
This sounds like how real marriages work. Nothing is perfect. I think the military will be good for Chris and he will be able to take care of his family like most men do in the military who have families. Why are people bashing people for their truths and so judgmental? Nobody has a fairytale and they’re working together to keep their marriage and what works for them. They didn’t have to say anything to us. We love y’all. We got to get y’all to the million subscribers now. ❤❤❤❤
He stop going to Military because of Covid and what happened later it was a slap in the face they weren’t forcing those shots on people and they were able to go back into the service. What’s the issue with him going back into the military? It doesn’t mean he’s gonna be gone forever. Sheesh he’s trying to provide for his family. He never wanted to leave the military and now he has a chance to go back. A lot of families have this choice. He needs his benefits too no jobs out here paying anything. He would be in the military still so why make this something it’s not? They’re working to keep their family together.
The great part is you two are able to TALK about your life to one another that's a major piece of being in a relationship with anyone. I understand your perspective God put us here for our journeys and journeys have twist n turn good n bad ....thanks for sharing...... ❤️💪🏽🙏🏽
@@tesler.6240 I hope they don’t. There are so many people worth their time energy and commitment. People who will be there for them no matter what. Let this “father”in vain hit the road.
How selfish!!! Weak Ass!!! Precious you are so strong. I know you need a break too!!! God's Got you and your babies. Chris, I hope you decide to man-up and stick things out with your family. Don't run away!!!
If Chris let God lead him everything will fall into place. God is the fulfillment . If you let him be the head of your life everything will fall into place for your wife and children, because this is how he has ordained it. Is looking at the things of the world that makes a person feel unfulfilled. God is the way, the truth and the life.
How do you know this decision is not guided? Religious people can seem so judgy sometimes. Just because a family makes a decision that does not meet the expectations of others, does not mean the decision is wrong.
These comments are crazy. Did they watch a different video than I watched. He's literally going back to work. Folks criticizing it being all about Chris' "me me me attitude", when the video is literally about Chris going back to the army and what led to that decision. I'm Autistic myself so I take things literally without reading into what I interpret someone is saying. Reading these comments its obvious folks have not listened to what is actually being said, but instead twisted a conversation about going back to work and why, into a conversation about their own useless exes who left their child(ren) because they were autistic. Mind blowing. If you read the title it says, "Chris is leaving...". It doesn't say Chris is leaving. This literally tells you there's more to the story then he's leaving. By watching and listening you find out that the continuation of that sentence is, "to try to go back into the Army." Knowing the full title is, "Chris is leaving to try to go back into the Army," people respond with, "coward men," "running away," "deadbeats," "punk," "selfish," and "maybe he's bisexual." Seriously wtf is wrong with you people? You people really think these things about fathers of autistic children who are in the military? Or is it just fathers of autistic children who have a hard time coping when they get kicked out of the military and want to try to get back in? Or is it all fathers in the military and not just fathers of autistic children?
He is full of shit! Precious you are a strong tower within yourself. I can see straight through him. He just don't want to be there. Your family is not about him. It's about the children and you.
I love how open and honest you guys are and hope nothing but the best for you two… I do want to say that Chris, whatever you’re seeking may not even exist. Once you go to the military, you may still feel unfulfilled. Reason being is because happiness truly comes from within. I know that may sound cliche but it’s true. You have to find joy & fulfillment in the little things. Find different hobbies, travel, have more family/bonding time with your wife and kids. I wish that you could seek fulfillment while remaining under the same roof as your family because your wife and kids deserves your presence, but I do understand that you all will do what you feel is best. If you go to the military, I hope you come back mentally stronger than ever. Your wife and kids deserves the best version of you. You have an AMAZING wife!
Hi I dont' comment often but I felt a need to say this. I understand that nothing is perfect and daily things change. Hearing this I feel he's being selfish and was selfish in the decision(s) he has made that truly affect the ENTIRE family, now he gets to step away. The family deserves better and I don't think this has been thought through entirely. Women lose themselves every day and keep it together him saying that he LOST himself is SELFISH at the expense of the family. Best to them going forward but I don't think leaving is the solution.
I watch from time to time and I know firsthand how holding down the fort feels as a mom of 4 with a spouse that worked/was constantly busy. Now that my kids are grown, they basically have a close relationship with me and not their dad. I say this to say, as Chris gets older and wants that love and support from the kids it may not be there. His decision to go find himself can result in him being even more lost and confused later. Mom’s are the real superheroes in life! I’ll keep all moms in my prayers but especially this mom👏🏽
Wow. You deserve better girl. All the things Chris is having issues with is a part of married and adult life.Bye Chris - don't let the door hit you on the way out. Precious, you have a network of online friends and family. We are here for you. ❤ 😊🤗
I'm sorry that you and your beautiful little angel are going to be without your husband 😢😢. It's not right because he's a father and your husband and your family comes first. When you get married you have to stick through it together no matter what happens. A family that prays together stays together. The Lord will help you through this situation 🙏🙌🙏🙏
Smh, he’s sitting there nodding his head in agreement completely checked out. This is sad. It seems the life and responsibility that comes with living in the civilian world and being present in the day to day challenges of family hood is overwhelming him. He feels his place is in the military and not with his family. He’s okay with being the part time or holiday Dad which puts more on mom. Been there did that! It’s hard sir but, it’s LIFE and this is the family you created. You’ve now changed the trajectory of your family over your own selfishness! Please rethink and go to God in all things and seek his guidance if a believer. You will get through this Momma, just stop making excuses for him please
We dont know the full story. This move could very well be financial too. Military offers stability and security especially for Mikko. I will say nomatter how far he has to go such a deployment dont divorce and stick together. Vows say for better or worse. Having special needs kids is tough but as they develop itll get better and i can tell mikko gone flourish. If you both are happy then go for it. not all couples can share careers. Military can be his thing and social media can be yours. Continue to stick together and support each other through this and prayers that God will strengthen your family. ❤
The fact that you two can sit together and talk about it is amazing. Fathers get overwhelmed too. As a mom with a severely autistic child (teen now); I get it. It is better you both take care of yourselves too sometimes so you don't lose yourself. Keep supporting eachother and I hope you two grow old together. You are wonderful parents. Don't be hard on yourself (as hard as it can be sometimes).
Wow….I love how the man just gets to leave. Insane
This is why you ask GOD for your spouse and this would not be an issue!!! There is no excuse for leaving your family to wolves. No man leaves his family to fend for themselves. (1 Timothy 5:8). And I am not talking about financial support only!
@@sundaytaybron1213 What a weird comment.
So he will leave, make another family, and go on with his life..
@@esands7821 I said what I said, now deal with it and move on. God Bless You all!
It's true. How come the men can just always walk away. And use women are left to be the single parents. He's selfish and a pos.
This is why moms are the MVP’s, they don’t get to walk away and wouldn’t dare even in their brokenness. I’m not a mommy BUT I just want tot thank y’all for never leaving us. THANK YALL❤️💯
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Exactly! No excuses for him.
Don't know why this comment made me soo emotional, but it just reminded me when my sister and l were 10 and 8 and my mum had a chance to travel abroad for her job promotion and she turned it down all because in her words she said my children are still young , many years have passed and l know our mum is someone we can always count on...
@@ariseshine08 Sounds like an incredible selfless woman💫❤️
@@jossyj1 Absolutely!
Wooooooow…What about her life… She needs a break too. She don’t deserve this..
He's selfish 😒 Me my and I
@@jonettaboyd3139 Not once did he focus on her or the kids.
She will be better without him. She needs to use the court system and be certain she gets her well deserved money
She has the world on her shoulders, and he's is complaining about dealing with anything.
Right!!!🤪@@angel_existential
What a cop out!😢
Precious... you, Mikko and the twins deserve a lot more.
Peace ✌🏽
this guy!!!
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Amen!
Thanks for sharing where you are at.
Both lovely parents.
Yes I can see where your husband is breaking. You need a family member or church organisation to step in to help over this bumpy period.
So sorry for you both. Instead of disrespectful. Just to understand and share helpful opinions.
God bless you all and give you solution. ❤
I both understand and don't simultaneously... Like who gets to decide to leave their family. But if it works for you and the rest of the family, that's all that matters. One thing for certain, two things for sure... This too shall pass! ❤I am a recent subscriber, cans don't really have the right to comment. I also don't have the back history or have seen too many earlier videos. It just seemed his presence was important for baby girl Mikko to thrive. I could be wrong tho. Hopefully, Chris will find himself and you all can make it work. Mental health is a real thing. I believe they are accepting those individuals back who wouldn't test. I thought I saw it on a news show. Bless you all❤
you'll be fine I remember my mom telling my dad I have kids to raise I don't have time for your personal madness & foolishness & kept it moving!!!! love ya mom 💕
I love this ❤
EXACTLY
You mom is such a W!!!!!!!!!!! Like I wish all moms were like this my mom was not. I love her down but we’d be closer if she had this mindset. Ur mom is amazing ❤❤❤
She will be more than fine with over 400k subs she is paid
I love your mom too! She was a verb and kept it moving!
Ok Sir ..so be a Soldier!! And stand up for your family..nothing stays the same ever!! Man up!!
I’m retired military with two autistic children and I looked up to the fact that Chris stayed. Maybe God put COVID here so you can get out and focus on Mikko because that’s hard to do on active duty. Leaving is easy imo staying and supporting Precious. Mikko , and the twins are the priority.
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Maybe I need another perspective but why do you respect the fact that he stayed for his own child? That’s his duty??
Leaving just because you think you need your life is selfish....you both got on the both, Chris find a way to get love back...and stay. What about Precious? Her whole life is in this boat. If she wants to get her life too, what happens to Mikko? She is tired too. Very selfish, running away from responsibilities.
Moms always suffer these stuff and the men just walk off. Smh
While I don’t think everything needs to be shared online, this post caught my eye. Despite the title, it remained unclear whether he was leaving the relationship or just the channel.
I don’t know this couple personally, but it was uncomfortable to watch. She seemed to make excuses for him, and it saddens me that women often end up bearing the burden in situations like this due to their nurturing instincts. It's frustrating that in rare occasions where women have left, they face backlash, while men don’t encounter the same scrutiny. Fathers often receive praise for basic parenting tasks, while mothers go unrecognized for their consistent efforts, and always forced to prioritize everyone else's needs.
I also hear women criticized for wanting to wait for a man who is done “finding himself” before marriage. Some argue that it’s unrealistic since personal growth is ongoing, and I agree to some extent. If men (like in this video) claim they need to leave to "find themselves," I wonder:
1. Why can’t that search happen alongside their partner?
2. What if both partners have epiphanies at the same time? Who cares for the children then?
Ultimately, it seems he became complacent (his words), and that’s the real issue. In discussing how he learned to "do better," he pointed out her selflessness and willingness to be uncomfortable in order to improve the situation. Isn’t that what life is all about-making the most of what we have? We can't just check out when things get tough.
That said, I sincerely hope she finds the strength to raise her children, that those around her support her, and that she doesn't crumble under her responsibilities.
Well said!! I gotta get out of these comments because this is all too familiar. I HAD a quitter. 🥴
this needs to be pinned by youtube themselves lol
Took the words right out of my head. He should be "finding" himself WITH his partner. Which leads me to believe that he just wants out, but doesn't want to look like the bad guy. I'm with you on praying she has a good support system so she doesn't crumble under the pressure of her responsibility. Ultimately, I think she will be better off because she already has three kids to raise, she doesn't need a selfish, tantrum throwing fourth.
@@charlotteoladiran3095This was tough to watch. Girl let him go. He is selfish. What about you needing a break? Stop making excuses for him! In the end you have three beautiful children to raise.
Very well said! Now they just made a response video to the comments trying to clear things up that he’s not leaving the marriage, he’s just going to rejoin the military. SMH, that is not how they presented things and the video didn’t have to be that long just for that to be the ultimate message they wanting to get across. They didn’t even have to go that deep into details lol! Ppl switch careers all the time while having a family. Their delivery is what confused people. They definitely click baited folks but, that’s what RUclipsrs do. I can’t stand when people try to play on words. Just get to the point, be direct and keep it moving. Good luck to them, keep the channel about baby girl.
Precious, when people wanna go, #let them go. See how how God will open more blessings for you and the kids. You, mikko and the twins will be fine. Let God lead the way. And precious stop defending him when you know his acts or words are not right. Peace and love. ❤
Amen!
I agree. He seems to not have empathy. He needs to grow-up ...I mean you already in fatherhood and challenging behaviors of children is challenging. Don't call it "passion" the intent is the intent of his communicating with you.
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Exactly! He has come through for me and my son. HalleluYAH!
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My daughter is autistic and non-verbal as well. You are a wonderful woman and mother! You ain't new to this, you're true to this! You are the best mother to all three of your children! 💜💯💪🏿
Ma’am you are better than me! I would not have even allowed him to do this video. Why are you making excuses for him? Why are you speaking about his crushed dreams as if yours don’t matter too? This is rid! Stop making excuses for these deadbeats.
My thoughts exactly!
For real though. She is being WAYYY too nice. Cause he can’t be himself… blah blah blah… now she bears the weight.
They are trying to put on this "United Front" but the reality is Chris is a Coward ! He probably got a Snow bunny close somewhere.
She’s letting him expose himself I think lol. Honestly he just burried himself with his own words😭
@@SoulKhepriAgreed
Talk about the “gentle life.” Times get tough and the “man of the house” abandons his family because he’s so delicate.
Boy bye!!! You need to figure it out and stay with your family instead of RUNNING AWAY like a punk. Miko did not ask to come in this world, that BEAUTIFUL BABY is HERE. PRECIOUS please stop giving him this leway, you and the babies are BETTER than this. When your babies become SUCCESSFUL and FAMOUS he will realize what he turned his back on. BEAUTIFUL Lady God has His arms ALL AROUND YOU AND THOSE BABIES❤
"Boy bye!!!" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 👍🏽
True. But I’m glad he’s leaving instead of staying and potentially being terrible to the family due to his resentment.
Amen I totally agree
She is giving him grace. God will give her grace, mercy, protection, forgiveness and deliverance. 🙏
That boy bye was personal😂😂
Hello Family, per the complete video, Chris is not leaving! Realistically, we must give people a certain level of grace & mercy to figure out life sometimes why working through the many mental obstacles & challenges of this journey. Wishing this beautiful family only the BEST!!!
It was upsetting initially 😢
Thank you for this message. I kept scrolling because I could not believe that all these people did not watch the video to the end or they did not understand the video.
I think these vids of them are difficult for me to watch because I am single and I work with children with disabilities. I am aware of the support that a mother needs with her child that has different abilities. I real see that I don't have the ability to listen to this man excuses. I am hard on him because most men leave. I loved the vid where they filmed them washing her hair and bathing her. They did it together. OK, I got it! My parents separated when I was young. This is why I don't like when the family is apart. Just realizing I am triggered. I will be more aware of my emotions before I watch these vids.
He needs to do better. I am so sorry you’re with such a selfish man.
Very selfish & emotionally abusive. What do you mean you stay 3 days without talking to your wife and punishing your kids by being absent or absent minded.. He is playing games while Precious is still dishing up for him? I'd kick that tray of food.
You can't serve and still accept disrespect... No.
Exactly. Then society blames the women for being a single mother. Very selfish of him.
He should be selfish she’s not selfish enough
I agree
She's handling a lot by herself
His conversation was all me and my!
Me myself and I. Pitiful. I am so surprised by his selfish attitude. She deserves better.
Unfortunately, this is the case with parents of multiples and children with disabilities. Divorce usually happens. Prayers for this family. Mom needs support with 3 children. This is a challenging situation. My heart breaks for this family. 😢
There's a lot of talk from Chris and it all seems to be me me me me me me me and I I I I I I I I. Has he taken into consideration how Mkko is going to feel with this drastic change of not having her dad in the picture here he is choosing to leave the family and thinks by leaving he will achieve that. I've heard Chris talk before he is in my opinion mean and inconsiderate even when discussing Mikko. I feel his decision here is going to seal his unhappiness even further down the road. He sounds like a man that wants another relationship. This one is too hard for him and he should go. Precious is a great mother and she deserves happiness and she will certainly be happy with Chris out of the picture he's a burden to the family. God bless you precious and family you be fine God has his hands all over you and those kids.
Yup
Yes. Sister you called it. Selfishness is evident
Precious will sit and wait...he has her on a string.
He will come back and forth, FOREVER...and she will let him...she will not divorce him because she think he will change....theme for life...until he re-marry.
He is rejoining the military not divorcing
@@km-uh2rs it’s a copout. He just needs to get away from the family and that’s his ticket. I work in law enforcement and assure you that the military does not want this type of man. He won’t last unless he’s willing to do the dirtiest work. I don’t know if you can tell through RUclips, but I can, Chris has soft hands.
Precious, I had four school aged kids when their dad chose to leave. When he left, within less than a minute, I went from “omg, what am I going to do now” to “no time for that, I’m going to raise these kids!” 20 something years later and by the grace of God, I purchased a house, went back to school and advanced my career to a CSFA. Today, I have a loving relationship with my kids and he is still where he was when he made his choice, but now trying to mansplain to his adult kids, “well, what had happened was.” You will be just fine Sistah! Your new three fold cord is you, your kids and God!! What better support do you need?!?
I don’t know why he seems so nonchalant. He seems relieved. It’s ticking me off. Sometimes you gotta keep your family together despite your feelings. Of course, you need to take of your mental health but this is the JOB he signed up for. He’s not a temp. This is a permanent position, unlike the military. Romantic love is important but the love of the family
he helped you create, should come first. I know that I’m a stranger but this is disappointing. I hope you get the support, you and your beautiful babies deserve.
Very well said. I have a hard time commenting on personal, vulnerable situations like this even when they chose to put it out to the world because they’re real people at the end of the day. But this fills me with annoyance & disappointment..
That's the blind selfishness
@nikyeaberry6430💯👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 without a shadow of a doubt 4REAL,your comment is everything!!!!
U hit the nail right on the head.
Very relived! I can’t blame him she’s way too jumpy for me… then he lost that career like that yeah he needs a reset
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Leaving the military is extremely tough. I retired after 20 years during COVID and it was extremely difficult. It still is. It takes time for veterans to adjust to civilian life. However, this man’s excuse as to why he made his decision is inexcusable. Marriage is work. Being a parent is work. Such a sad example and I pray you all find healing during this time. I know firsthand how traumatizing divorce/separation is. It’s tough on everyone involved, especially the children. Sending healing and peace to your family. May GOD guide your steps.
I'm praying for ya'll so sincerely. God please place your hands over this family and continue to protect them and guide them. In Jesus name amen 💙🩵💙🩵💙🩵
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And let no harm come to them in the middle of the Night.
Amen!! So many prayers ❤
Amen 🙏
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I'm speechless... my words will not be kind, so I shall say NOTHING.
I feel like you and I don't know why this hurted my feelings but it really did!
I hate commenting and I don’t care that much about what’s going on people’s lives but I’m sorry he wasn’t fooling me from jump. I saw it coming. Im praying for u and them babies.
I was saying the same thing when I first started watching they channel,he was never interested or act like he really cared
Not shocked at all
She deserves every blessing that is coming her way.. he dead wrong 😭😭😤😤😤💔 I’m angry.
You noticed he said we are keeping the channel and she's the one that's putting in the work. When things are difficult and a person is not there for you spouse or not get them out of your life without turning back.
Bruh been checked out. There may have been a chance if it was just Mikko but he didn't seem too bonded with the twins. Which is a red flag.
Time with the kids should be divided into two. 50/50. Both parents have to have equal time with the children. One parent cannot just leave because they want to follow their dreams. Blessings to you both. ❤
Precious and Mikko deserve way, way better.
As a parent you gotta be last according to your children. "Unfulfilled"? So what about your wife and kids? Im sure she lost her hopes and dreams....you say you going to the military?? So you just gone leave your family?
All the children and mom deserve better.
And so do the twins!
Wait, what bout the twins & 1 of them is also autistic. I think they're left out cuz of him.
What about the other two, y’all all selfish thinking 🤔
That's a very real loss being in the Army and then losing it. That's traumatic, and therapy is needed to process that loss. Your entire life goals changed with no control. The household dynamics changed without even the situation with Mikko. It's important to acknowledge your feelings without listening to people's opinions. Marriage is work, and both of you should be commended for your willingness to address and work on it. I pray for you all.
It really is. I went from 9 years in the Army with plans to retire to being out suddenly. Your whole life is uprooted and it is traumatic
@@Growinggracefully843 well in life shyt happens, that doesn't mean you leave and distance yourself from your family. Family is there to support! So no matter what changes in your life your family is constant, so long as you make them your priority! What message does this send to the children. Life took an unexpected turn so I ran? He's selfish, he's been checked out, it was always more than he was willing to deal with. He wants to free, that's it that's all.
He made a choice to not take the Covid shot so he knew what he was doing !!
As someone who comes from a military family and witnessed firsthand so many of my uncles loosing themselves in PTSD (because the military is so good to US folks🙄, not to mention the residual trauma of the Vietnam war and the Gulf war) , I definitely feel like there is a lot not being said on Chris’ end and personally I would rather him be vulnerable in sharing his feelings than to try to escape in a bottle or with a needle.
It may not be articulated in the same manner as Precious so it comes out sounding like a cop-out, but it’s probably because men aren’t allowed grace to feel, let alone express their feelings or uncertainty. And adding the military in that, where they strip YOU down and force you to be “one” like the Borg, of COURSE it’s going to be jarring when you leave that. Who the hell are you even when you’ve been “7 of 9” for so long??
@@fromlissawithlove@fromlissawithlove @CaliMisfit1921, I suffer from PTSD every day, and it is a battle that I don't always win. As a partner and parent, you give so much of yourself, but a part of you still deserves fulfillment. If not, what is it all for? Are parents only here for the kids? If you lose yourself, you have nothing to give, and being home with resentment is just like being away working. Working also provides benefits so that his wife can get needed help in the home. If the two made this decision together, I think no one else matters because we are spectators; they live it. I'm sure they talked way more than they shared with us, and I don't see Precious as a pushover by any means. I think they both love their family, and it shows. He was in the military when this all started, so it's not like he just decided to enlist to get away.
My ex abandoned my autistic daughter 11 years ago. I raised her by myself.
I was done with Chris when he said he "wasn't gonna kiss Mikko's ass." Loving your special needs child has nothing to do with kissing anyone's ass. Piss poor attitude and choice of words.👎🏾
Jesus he actually said that? Screw him
Lawd bless…he said that…. Yeah miss me with that that’s a jerk thing to say
Oh wow 😮
Omg he said that in what video?
He's a jerk.
Wow! I feel people definitely jumped to conclusions before listening to the entire video. I'm praying everyone finds peace, and I wish this couple nothing but the best outcome. Looking forward to hearing positive good news.
Right! I don’t think some of these people listened to the entire video before they started writing their comments.
I feel the same way. I didn’t get the impression he was leaving, but returning to the service.
No, call a spade a spade. He is selfish. He wants out. He is not satisfied. He is ok with breaking up a family; a home; what about the children and being an example to the children? I know it takes two to tango, but no excuses. Marriage is real and it is for better or for worse. Endurance. This is something clearly he lacks as a man. The army is another excuse to foster his selfish ways. She works very hard and to leave her is just wrong. I said it. They need only GODLY counsel. Divorce is not God’s way. He hates putting away; Malachi 2:16.
Most of what he is saying starts with me,my,I very very selfish
..yep!
I couldn't have said it better!!! I hate a runner, when things get tough they run. I would be very upset if we had a special needs child and you want to leave to find yourself!!! There's no coming bk from that for me we would be DONE DONE!!!!
Listen, a lot was said without saying too much. I try my best not to speak on things that other families are going thru because it’s so easy to judge a moment or whatever you all present to the world but… I pray for your family. I know it can be difficult for those who have served to come back and be integrated again within their own family. It’s nothing wrong with wanting to fulfill your own desires but just don’t allow it to be at the expense of your own family. I didn’t hear that Chris was leaving or they were getting divorced… I heard he is actively trying to get back into the Army and they are gonna take time to work on getting back to themselves and still keep their followers in the loop. Idk it’s brave and scary sharing your personal life to the world, I commend you both for sharing your truth as you still are working thru things. Best of luck and God bless!
That is so true, God bless them!
Honey, listen to me: If he can walk away, let him go. No one who can walk away is supposed to be there. And honey, listen to me very carefully, if he walks away, he can never come back. Do not open that door. Let him stay gone. You move forward. It sucks being a single mom, I'm widowed with one and that's hard but you can do this. You will be worn out by the time your kids are grown but you can do this.
You don't have to explain. You have to do what's best for your kids. I've given this example a couple of times now. Walking with somebody requires walking in the same direction and at the roughly the same pace. You can't do that if one is walking one way and one the other way or two dramatically different speeds, you end up spinning around each other. And it's ok to agree you've reached a point where you no longer walk together. And go your separate ways.
FACTS❤
When did he say he was leaving her and their family?
@@LammasDeluge He wants his life back. He's decided to go find it elsewhere.
Chris, Precious,
I'm 𝘀𝗼 𝘀𝗼𝗿𝗿𝘆. Sending you all the love and healing vibes I can muster. ❤️🩹
I, too, refused the covid vaccine and was released from my job of 29 years. I'm not going to lie but it was one of the hardest things I went through because like Chris said, I also lost a big part of my identity and when people weren't looking And especially at night, I would cry and I went through A lot of emotional stuff. But at the end of the day My job is not The biggest part of who I am so I found another job and I have been Building up my esteem and whatnot but I'm not angry anymore because it was a choice that I made. But I did all of this And it's over two years now and I did it without breaking up my family And I'm just not really sure how A man can just leave a family he helped create to go and find himself. That finding himself should have happened before he procreated And rebuilding yourself can happen While staying in the marriage by seeking therapy. To me, it's an easy way out to leave Everybody else behind to deal with the Fallout while you go put yourself together. Precious, I Wish the best for you And I hope things work out well for you and that you find someone who is willing To put in the hard work to support you and your family.
He didn't say he was leaving the family. He's leaving social media and trying to reenlist in the Army.
Yesssss. I hope that a wiser MAN sits this COWARD down and gives him some needed loving advice
@@sandyruther2745
He is leaving his family.
He's using his need to find himself through reenlistment as a way to escape his family responsibilities and hardships. ...
@@sandyruther2745 That will teach me to listen to the whole video. To be honest, I didn't really see him on social media anymore. Thank you, I'm glad I was wrong!
I feel like in years to come more and more of us will speak out about the isolating experience of refusing the mandatory vaccine
I was engaged to someone became pregnant and our son was born prematurely with cerebral palsy. 6months later my kidneys failed 😢 I understood that this was a whole lot to take on so when he started changing I made excuses. Finally he left us and I just told him I will get over it with time however please don’t leave your son without a dad. I could barely make baby bottles n care for our child but he became a ghost. It really is sad. My son is almost 17 now 🙏🏾🙏🏾 with a great head one his shoulders however a big hole in his heart because he wants his dad😢😢😢😢 I can only do my best and will continue to do so. I pray he continues to support her and the children. It’s not fair that parents are able to run from serious responsibilities. No one suffers as much as the child😢😢
God will bless you with the right man, I'm an Army veteran as well. This is not it, I'm disappointed in your husband. SMH, for better or worse, I go to mental health to figure things out but not abandon family.
You are so noble❤❤❤❤ your family is blessed to have you!
Amen!! 🙏🏽
I don’t enjoy the military connection/excuse here either. He’s not military material.
Exactly 💯
Yeah, it seems like a deeper issue. Praying for them. I'm going through it too, so this is triggering bc I'm sensitive to men that abandon their posts, so I hope I'm not projecting my own feelings. Just feels like it's obvious there's a deeper issue. When they figure it I pray they're in a place where they have something left to salvage healthy connections. 😪🙏🏾🕊️💔
So you can tell in this comment section the majority of people didn’t watch the video and only looked at the title. Chris made a decision that affected him as a man. He wants to continue his dream of being in the army. He’s not leaving his family.
Some Women are always left trying to whole their families down when the men taps out 🤦🏽♀️
*hold
And then get bashed "they couldn't keep a man"
Shame on you, Chris, especially when marriage is figuring it out together. Trying to rationalize what's going on should never be a cope out for the family. Chris, get a job or go to school to help move the family forward and give yourself a reason to stand tall in being a man. Pray for direction before destroying your family.
Statistically, women leave their families way more often than men. Men will leave their happiness for their family, a woman will leave her family for her happiness.
So unfair for him to disconnect from all of his responsibilities That totally sucks
Precious im glad that I watched the entire video..some of these comments are from ppl who didn't watch the whole video. I love how you both communicate throughout everything, whether it's difficult or not.
Ok, because I thought I missed something 🤔.
Lord, help them to work it out according to your word. In the name of Jesus. Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾 🙏🏾
I don't agree with all the comments, however, also, I feel some of them because, I am Precious. I have twins, son is on the spectrum and daughter with learning disabilities. Their Dad, whom is still in their lives, I feel lives freely while I am with them at least 80% of the time and have made sacrifice after sacrifice....it's a tough call...also, he's giving the same vibes my abusive ex gave me...and he kinda looks like him too. That's where I'm picking up on the narcissitic traits, however, I don't know these people so I'm not gonna tell other people how to live their lives and this new age, people are too quick to talk to strangers like they know them that well to feel so strong
Selfish dude! Awww
Life isn't fun and turning out the way u wanted! Run weak, selfish man run!
He's definitely checked out of the marriage and fatherhood! Hopefully I'm wrong...
Sadly, when some men have special needs children or sick spouses, they take the "easy" way out - saying they need to find themselves & bounce. It's not about you. it's about the child! Perhaps you should have given more thought to how you'd feel after you got booted out of the military!!
Totally agree. Poor excuse for a husband and a father. His ignorance is astounding. Ignorant about the vaccine, gave up your career cuz you couldn’t take one little vaccine. Do the research and support your child. Everything isn’t about you. As a parent, you need to step up.
@@doingme2today388I admittedly may be wrong, but if the Army was THAT important to him, he would’ve gotten the shot years ago & never gotten to this point in the first place.
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I didn’t like how he keep saying HIS!!!. When you are married it’s WE. Now we do have to remember in relationships that we can’t forget ourselves but he is coming across SELFISH.
As a mom we don’t get to be selfish.. And we as mother’s don’t get to walk away and be TRIED.. And cry about our crushed DREAMS… WHAT THE HECK!!!
I smell a hint of narcissism.. praying for you and your family beautiful! This is going to make you stronger 💖🥺🫶🏽💖💖💖
More neurodivergent on his part. He needs structure and routine. He can't handle change and transition.
He can't communicate appropriately...
Yep..reeks.
Exactly! No one gets all the attention when a narcissist has to have it all! They reject all who get all the attention, love!
This makes me sick! Years from now when things have gotten better, he will regret his discussion to live. But he will never say it!
He can’t even look her in the eyes 😢
Chris thank you for your honesty, what a beautiful and healthy place to stand in. It takes courage to be so open and honest on this platform. I believe we have to give ourselves permission to wrestle with the complexity of life and how to manage everything that comes at us and everyone doesn’t process and handle life’s ups and downs the same. There’s no handbook for life we are all learning as we go. But where others see the negative. I see love, commitment and personal growth. A healthy you and Precious is the best gift you can give your family, friends and love one. I’m praying for you and your family. The same is for you Precious keep digging and learning about yourself so you can live in authenticity. That really is the gift. It’s only TRUTH that makes you free. I NEVER post comments EVER, but I admire you guys braver to be so open ❤You’re healthy than you think don’t let anyone tell you different!
I'm sorry but this was such a HARD WATCH. Between Chris' blatant selfishness and Precious making excuses for him it's appalling. You both need to take a long look in the mirror. Precious I wish you all the love, but it starts within. Stand up girl, he's making a punk, dusty move. And he thinks taking care of his child is kissing her arse... my god.
I saw someone else say he made that comment. What video was that?? That’s wild..
Perfect example of gaslighting and a trauma Bond
@@AnnaMari.555I wanna know myself
I think he's gay & looking for a way out. I saw from the beginning his ways & felt that this might happen one day.
Imo, he's gay...
I’m so glad I watched the entire video and thank you for your vulnerability. God bless you on your journey to go back into the military which will be how you provide for your family. I’m praying that you all will continue to work on your relationship and your family.
leaving your family is soft i dont care what you are going through.. you FAMILY needs you there not away.. and dont give me the i will do everything i can stuff... EVERY SECOND OF EVEY DAY PERIOD.......... Grandfather of a autistic boy whos dad did the same not a man in my eyes.....
It's better he go if he doesn't want to be there. He will do more harm than good if he stays.
The World is getting more dangerous and he leaves his wife and children out here to fend for themselves.
Second this. My mom is shit, but my dad fought with everything he had to stay in our lives. I was an autistic traumatized kid who was not easy to deal with but he stayed and fought and cared for me and loved me unconditionally and now I’m a functional happy adult.
Well said!!
I agree with you on this. Another thing I didn’t like about this video was his wife’s justification for his behavior. He just doesn’t want to deal with the hard things in life, especially dealing with Mikko.
Thanks Chris for opening yourself. Other men might relate to this. Precious you are incredible in this journey. You both are an inspiration for others. I really hope you can get your Army career back. As an Air Force Veteran I completely understand this loss. Your channel help those going through the autism journey.
Thank you for your service! As a daughter of Air Force veterans I empathize with Chis just as much as I do with Precious. Both are experiencing themselves in their transition season and for Chris it’s harder because the military removes the “I” in you in order for you to assimilate into the “we”. When you leave that, especially in the way Chris did not taking the jab, I can imagine how jarring that is-to have to rediscover yourself amid all the roles that you already carry in your household.
Wow….I can’t even form words of what to say. This is just wow.
Why the shock?
Fight for your family. Trust God to lead, direct and protect.
Screw him! My son’s father did the same crap as most of these coward men do when their child is Autistic. Look it up. The statiere disgusting! They get to leave and live their life and we are left alone raising the child. God will deal with the bum fathers.
Very true sister , my cousin girl is in the same situation, is reasing his Autistic girl in the same stage like Miko alone whit my aunty 😢😢😢, i pray in every day for them to God give them power 😢 . Is sow much pain in my hearth to see my nephew like this . Be strong, God bless you!. ❤
I hear a whole lot of "me, me, my, my"where the "we" and "our"..????? My daughter is 4 and autistic.. And her father is the same way! Selfish.
You’d be shocked at how often this happens, even to wealthy families. One that quickly comes to mind is Toni Braxton” and her ex- husband Kerri, separated then divorced because of their son Denim that was diagnosed with autism” they also have a son named Diesel. Even though he was still helping financially, she’s was left to take care of her children.
Amen
I occasionally watch the channel, so I don't know the entire story. But from what I've seen, your words seem totally on point. It's hard enough raising one child by yourself, but 3 with some limitations is another level. Although the older kids seem to be self-care, they still need the guidance of both parents...It does seem like a totally cowardly act.
I am a military spouse. My husband was a soldier. I seen a lot of comments saying that Chris is wrong and the family deserves better. For those of you who have never experienced military life. It's a different ball of wax. Not just for the soldier but the family as well. When a soldier goes through basic training. They are literally retrained to the person that the military needs them to be. The person that they were is changed forever. So I hear and understand Chris when his says that he feels incomplete or not enough being out of the military. Or, when they spoke about now spending too much time together. Because when you are in the service, each person as their own roll to play. When Chris was forced to leave something he loved, and which also gave him a sense of purpose. He was lost, I am so proud of the way both of you decided to stay and work not only on yourselves but on your family as well. I am glad that Chris is getting the chance to become the person/soldier, husband, and father. That he can look at in the mirror and be proud of. As for Precious, I am so proud of your grace, and steadfastness as a wife and mother. When I found out that my middle son had Autism, it took the breath out of me.. In the beginning, there were many times that I felt guilty. Wondering about what others would think of me. Once, I was able to sit with myself and realized that it wasn't about me. I was able to pour all my love and resources in helping my son be the best version of himself.. i am sending prayers to the both of you and your family. On this new chapter in your life. ❤
That is selfish not only is he not thinking of your feelings he’s not thinking of your little girl
Mikko loves her dad so much.She needs him around all the kids do❤
PLEASE READ!!!!! Experienced Autism Dads and moms need to talk to Inexperienced Autism Dads and Moms. HE need to connect with other Autism Dads men need to recharge, refocus and help them transition with his family not away from them. Men need therapy too life is changes and it's hard we need HEALTY COMMUNITY
Agreed, I don’t think going back to the army is going to fix everything. When he returns he may still have those same problems.
@@alomajackman6229 they are EXTREMELY inexperienced with autism this is a fact
It's hard for Dad's to find support, especially Black and Brown father's. I see hardly any groups for them.😢
Hello Precious and Chris, I appreciate how honest and vulnerable you were willing to be in this situation. I hope you realize that you’re setting a good example for married couples out there. The fact that you are so supportive of each other, and recognizing each other’s needs is something that a lot of people in relationships should aspire to do.
Single grandma of a 5 year old Autistic girl here. Chris your FAMILY needs you. I have been divorced from my ex huspand for almost 20 years. We had to put our differences to the side, our personal lives to the side to relocate, become roomates to raise our shared special needs grandchild. He still sometimes gets on my last nerve BUT! He is an AWSOME grandad to our baby!!
YOU CREATED THIS FAMILY.....stay there and lead it sir!!!
@@naijawife1891 I’m sending you and your ex so much love!!! Y’all are awesome!!! Selfesss people 😍😍😍 you deserve everything.
I love this.
You’re both amazing. Well done x
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
You guys are awesome ❤❤❤
What’s most important is the coming together. Real black women especially, endure the hard life from so many fronts. Precious, hold the fort of family all you can girl! Pray and strengthen your faith in GOD’s help till resolve! Chris, keep working on you and yours! Family is everything at the end of the day! 💯
No separation is an easy or a joyous situation. I am so sorry your family is in this season and transition. I hope and pray for the entire family's well-being. Precious you, can and WILL.💕
Maybe he should have taken the Vaccine. When you have a family with great government benefits .. bad choice
I am married so I’m not quick to speak on other peoples marriages… with that being said I heard a lot of him and his life and what he wants but what about your wife.. I appreciate how gracious she is towards him. The love is real but it just feels a little selfish and self centered
To be fair, they want people to comment on their marriage. Otherwise, the would not have made and posted this video; they would not have left the comments section open. They make a living off the comments-engagements- that people make.
I'm sooooo rooting for you I can't wait for you to be the best version of yourself from this! You already seem to be handling things extremely well. You don't have to be so strong but thank God you are, your kids have a wonderful mama
The way I’m understanding the video is that he’s not leaving his family, but he’s going back into the military. If that helps him and it makes him a better husband and father more power to him and them as a family.
Right! They are telling the reasons / situations that lead to their decision. ❤❤
You better STAY with your family! They need you, and ain't NOTHING in this World better than your family you already have.
Easy for you to say from the outside looking in.
Boy, bye!
The trash will be lining up for him! Smh….. & he will definitely look back at how precious his family is!
He will get what's coming to him
What did I miss? What happened?
Chris and Precious, I can only imagine the difficulty in sharing these hard moments with us. Stay strong, trusting God along the journey. We appreciate your courage.
Should have taken the vaccine if you didn't have a REAL plan. The military was a way to provide your family with medical coverage as well and your family needed that. Now he talking about his life and his dreams and aspirations and so not considering the dreams and aspirations of his wife and his wife. This guy is selfish. These were selfish acts. I saw a story about a couple where the father did this same thing but instead the wife told him he could leave but he had to take the kids with him. Everyone got so upset with her because for some reason men can have their dreams and just leave but women must always stay and give up rhetoric to raise the children. This woman want having that. Now i get it. These weak men always walk away leaving their wives to do everything. She is being so understanding and empathetic to him. He use to getting his way. HE IS SELFISH!
Agreed! That understanding/compromising role gets tired after while though. She will see eventually if she hasn’t already. To a degree I understand the pain that comes with abandoning something that once gave you fuel. But to pursue a career that provides respite from a demanding family is not the move of a loving husband in my opinion. It’s selfish.
Amen!!! And I’m sure she encouraged that crap with him too thinking she was being holistic 🙄 black folk don’t get the luxury to play like that he should have never abandoned the post
Why is it so hard for others to understand and except their decision? I personally wouldn't want someone to be unhappy in the relationship. They are adults and they are sharing their journey and doing what's best for them. Is it better for two people to stay together unhappy or do what's best for them?
All the comments made it look as though he was going to leave his family behind. He's just going back to his job. Crisis averted! 🤣May the Lord God in heaven continue to bless their union.
THANK YOU! I thought I was the only one who actually watched the video! Chris is taking care of his family and following his heart.
People are going OFF for no reason at all 😂
Well the video says Chris is leaving I’m confused as well 🤷♀️
I watched the entire video and I didn’t hear him say he was leaving. Did I miss something? I thought he was trying to go back into the military.
@@sarenahchatman9405 Did you watch the whole thing? The title is misleading on purpose, they gotta get views lol He's leaving social media/IG content stuff. They talk about how he was gone while he was in the military, so once he's enlisted again, he'll probably be gone again.
I debated on whether I should post this,...🙁 When they say through sickness and health, its for the man. They stick around when there is a benefit for them. When benefits start slowing, they are ready to jump ship. If the new opportunity isn't as shiny as it seems, they go back down to safety to the previous step. He was in because this made him look humane and noble. When you look noble, it opens doors to other opportunities and people.
When men have children that are gifted. It's always easier for them to leave and not the mother. Fellas they need you 10 toes down with children especially when you have gifted children. I digress I pray that the good Lord continue to bless you, husband and children in Jesus. name.
Precious you and your children are going to be fine, Dad you’re copping out. Mom GOD Above has something way better planned for you and the babies GOD BLESS YOU AND THE CHILDREN KEEP YOUR FOCUS ON GOD ANS WATCH! ❤❤❤❤
No excuse to him ? WOW you are so much better than him. I pray God brings someone into you and your children’s life that will support you and who you and your daughter are! God bless you mama 🙏🏾
Only thing with the advice of being info someone else into her life is God forbids remarrying or now it would be considered adultery in God’s eyes. It doesn’t matter what we want. God set the laws and we must adhere to His way. Mark 10:11-12
😢you can't be youreself anymore???? This is all what he can say??? Did hi ever look at her life 24h from 24 taking care of Miko??? What?????? I have a cousin is in the same situation , is raising my nephew togheter whit my aunty his mom , end the father now is having a perfect life, whit girlfriend 😢 .Is a lot of pain for me to see my cousin in this situation end how ex-husband is sow happy whit the new life . 😢 God bless you beautiful girl end i will pray for you end Miko. ❤❤❤
He is checked out. My opinion. He may even be seeing someone. You might as well move on.
I’m confused by some of the comments below maybe they didn’t rly watch the vid and just went on the title. Thank you for sharing your journey and the most personal aspects of your relationship and your family. Marriage is not for the faint hearted. Just remember that marriage is about relinquishing your individual rights wants needs etc and submitting to each other so you can become one and act as one for the betterment of your children and your family. Marriage is all about growing into a better person for those around you. As a man Chris needs to find that path that is going to allow him to be a provider and protector of his family. The military shudn’t be a way of escape so he can figure out himself which is kinda what I heard a little. I’ve been married 25yrs and yes you are individuals but you are one. Support each other in the things you each want to do as long as you’re not escaping your role as a husband and father. You can’t be a part-time husband or father. Don’t place yourself in a situation where you will be tempted even more to distance yourself from those roles. Wishing you all the best! ❤
Through the video he is saying he doesn't want those roles full time.
definitely using it to escape.
So happy, you both are giving each other grace and working together to keep your beautiful family unit strong. Blessings and don't put ego (edging God out) first ❤
Precious, I am sorry ouch. You're the backbone of your family, and God will completely bless this mess Chris is creating and keep it in your favor. This is selfishness, and Mikko will be affected😢. This is a bad decision he won't find happiness by leaving to find it. I 🙏 he changes his mind and keeps his family intact.
I feel like Mikko will take it the hardest.
@@tanieshadavis8740
This would be difficult to process for a neurotypical 4 year old so imagine what Mikko will experience.
@@HisbeautifulTruth-nl1ch agreed. She’s not yet at the stage where she can actually express that. At least not verbally.
You can tell by the comments people did NOT WATCH the entire video.
Marriage is not easy, kudos to you both for being open about these type of struggles. Every marriage goes through hard times.
I thought it was me... What I understood was that he was going back to work.. Back In the Military.. Did I miss something?
@@SharonRV4 you got it right. Everybody else is jumping to the wrong conclusion.🤦🏾♀️
Yeah they definitely do not watch the video.....
No, everyone understood he’s going to the military. Leaving her to raise kids alone while he follows his dreams. They aren’t hard up for the money. It’s not about contributing but rather “finding himself”. And that’s selfish behavior.
I have a sister with a son with autism. I see how the dad can leave because of how he feel or what he has chosen to do. This leaves all the responsibility on my sister for needing a babysitter and still having to get things done. For my nephew with autism and two other children that they have together. Stay strong and keep trusting God, he will make a way out of no way.
Military family here. I have been following you for a few years. We have 2 on the spectrum. My son shares the same birthday and birth year as Mikko. My husband was deployed when my son was diagnosed and I had a newborn and a 12 year old. Me and my husband have different views of Autism as well. I'm more excepting. I believe my husband is on the spectrum but he refuses to believe it. I've never wanted to be a SAHM and my husband is moving along in his career. I've lost who I am. It's hard and we are still struggling there. You will get there just keep pushing.
The comments are so cruel. Damn this is exactly why a lot of folks don’t say anything. Give people grace. You’d want someone to do the same ..
@saydesirelove2967: This is the BEST COMMENT/ADVISE GIVEN!!! I've been sitting here with my JAW to the floor! I CAN'T BELIEVE what some people are saying! WoW! There's NO WAY you respect a person, OR their partner, when you call them OUT OF THEIR NAME, or INSIST on speaking TO YOU, as though you're some inept victim in need of THEIR "counsel."
I’m so proud of her and I’m trynna hold my anger. I’m very proud of her she is a strong girl fr smh
I believe the comments are for Precious to not let this man walk all over her. We think Precious is naive about men and would let Chris run game on her.
men are. it held accountable in society and within their families. So escaping is easy. You give them an inch and they take a mile. We all know how the story ends, so yes they’re giving him a hard time for a reason.
@@SoulKhepriholding in your anger? Did you listen at all to the video?
Try seperate bedrooms if you need space, that helps a lot of couples.
He doesn’t want the responsibility. Separate bedrooms won’t help.
@@marriejames01 😩🙏🏽
Precious, peace in the house is so important. Children see and hear what's going on. Pray about it and make plans and keep it moving. People's feelings when they want
go. You can't change people. God got you and your children.❤🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
People you all are listening to this couple? You all need to watch the whole video 😂They are Not Breaking up.
The man is leaving Social media to go back to the military 😅
@zelajocelyn2069 I watched more than halfway and I never heard anything about leaving social media or going back to the Army. They probably should have led with that because my comment was off track but I saw some really wild ones out here. Doing it the way they did is called click bait.
@@eponymous2684her titles is always clickbait and I went through what they are talking about a disconnect in my relationship while raising an autistic child a new mother at that but he didn’t leave I had to put him out anyway I say that to say it’s single mothers out here raising their autistic children alone so of course we want to find people we can relate to, this long video just to say he’s leaving social media to go back to the army which is cool I get it but be authentic I’m not mad at her hustle though mad at myself for falling for click bait 😂😂
he must be talking to somebody else that the vibe I’m getting just being real
Me too. I felt that a long time ago.
@@nyshaemccauley 💯
Probably another male
@@nyshaemccauley Yea I said a Snowbunny.
@@GoddessY1968 low key felt that too just didn’t want to open up a can of worms
Marriage is hard, and life can be challenging. I am praying for your family and hope you find the best path forward. Don't feel guilty for keeping the private things private. Love the channel. Blessings.
This sounds like how real marriages work. Nothing is perfect. I think the military will be good for Chris and he will be able to take care of his family like most men do in the military who have families. Why are people bashing people for their truths and so judgmental? Nobody has a fairytale and they’re working together to keep their marriage and what works for them. They didn’t have to say anything to us. We love y’all. We got to get y’all to the million subscribers now. ❤❤❤❤
He stop going to Military because of Covid and what happened later it was a slap in the face they weren’t forcing those shots on people and they were able to go back into the service. What’s the issue with him going back into the military? It doesn’t mean he’s gonna be gone forever. Sheesh he’s trying to provide for his family. He never wanted to leave the military and now he has a chance to go back. A lot of families have this choice. He needs his benefits too no jobs out here paying anything. He would be in the military still so why make this something it’s not? They’re working to keep their family together.
The great part is you two are able to TALK about your life to one another that's a major piece of being in a relationship with anyone. I understand your perspective God put us here for our journeys and journeys have twist n turn good n bad ....thanks for sharing...... ❤️💪🏽🙏🏽
Very selfish young man. At times like this you run to your family, not away from them. Very sad. Hope the other two children can forgive you.
@@tesler.6240 I hope they don’t. There are so many people worth their time energy and commitment. People who will be there for them no matter what. Let this “father”in vain hit the road.
How selfish!!! Weak Ass!!! Precious you are so strong. I know you need a break too!!! God's Got you and your babies. Chris, I hope you decide to man-up and stick things out with your family. Don't run away!!!
If Chris let God lead him everything will fall into place. God is the fulfillment . If you let him be the head of your life everything will fall into place for your wife and children, because this is how he has ordained it. Is looking at the things of the world that makes a person feel unfulfilled. God is the way, the truth and the life.
Amen.
Amen
Amen!
I was looking for a comment like this
How do you know this decision is not guided? Religious people can seem so judgy sometimes. Just because a family makes a decision that does not meet the expectations of others, does not mean the decision is wrong.
Just the opening, I’m flabbergasted. Sir…you don’t deserve the family you have.
Men scare me…
I don't blame you. They either check out or crash out smh.
Me too.
They get upset, they disconnect. The family still needs them emotionally, but they be gone.
These comments are crazy. Did they watch a different video than I watched. He's literally going back to work. Folks criticizing it being all about Chris' "me me me attitude", when the video is literally about Chris going back to the army and what led to that decision. I'm Autistic myself so I take things literally without reading into what I interpret someone is saying. Reading these comments its obvious folks have not listened to what is actually being said, but instead twisted a conversation about going back to work and why, into a conversation about their own useless exes who left their child(ren) because they were autistic. Mind blowing. If you read the title it says, "Chris is leaving...". It doesn't say Chris is leaving. This literally tells you there's more to the story then he's leaving. By watching and listening you find out that the continuation of that sentence is, "to try to go back into the Army." Knowing the full title is, "Chris is leaving to try to go back into the Army," people respond with, "coward men," "running away," "deadbeats," "punk," "selfish," and "maybe he's bisexual." Seriously wtf is wrong with you people? You people really think these things about fathers of autistic children who are in the military? Or is it just fathers of autistic children who have a hard time coping when they get kicked out of the military and want to try to get back in? Or is it all fathers in the military and not just fathers of autistic children?
He is full of shit! Precious you are a strong tower within yourself. I can see straight through him. He just don't want to be there. Your family is not about him. It's about the children and you.
Yassssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss I Concur
I love how open and honest you guys are and hope nothing but the best for you two… I do want to say that Chris, whatever you’re seeking may not even exist. Once you go to the military, you may still feel unfulfilled. Reason being is because happiness truly comes from within. I know that may sound cliche but it’s true. You have to find joy & fulfillment in the little things. Find different hobbies, travel, have more family/bonding time with your wife and kids. I wish that you could seek fulfillment while remaining under the same roof as your family because your wife and kids deserves your presence, but I do understand that you all will do what you feel is best. If you go to the military, I hope you come back mentally stronger than ever. Your wife and kids deserves the best version of you. You have an AMAZING wife!
Hi I dont' comment often but I felt a need to say this. I understand that nothing is perfect and daily things change. Hearing this I feel he's being selfish and was selfish in the decision(s) he has made that truly affect the ENTIRE family, now he gets to step away. The family deserves better and I don't think this has been thought through entirely. Women lose themselves every day and keep it together him saying that he LOST himself is SELFISH at the expense of the family. Best to them going forward but I don't think leaving is the solution.
I watch from time to time and I know firsthand how holding down the fort feels as a mom of 4 with a spouse that worked/was constantly busy. Now that my kids are grown, they basically have a close relationship with me and not their dad. I say this to say, as Chris gets older and wants that love and support from the kids it may not be there. His decision to go find himself can result in him being even more lost and confused later. Mom’s are the real superheroes in life! I’ll keep all moms in my prayers but especially this mom👏🏽
So ur about 2 leave her with 3 kids...tht r basically "special needs"?🙄 Naw bruh....find something else 2 do?🙄 Hey Mikko!🥰
And TWINS no less
I could cry knowing this wife and children are out here in this bad World without a father's protection...
@@evonnereed9268 he's not needed! Bye Chris - Ppl in general give Males (not Men) too much credit! IMO
She also said she's autistic herself. He seems low on the spectrum as well! And gay.
@@TamikoLee-g6d I know but still a single mom household has become the norm, the word "family" no longer include father... # Same Black Man.
Wow. You deserve better girl. All the things Chris is having issues with is a part of married and adult life.Bye Chris - don't let the door hit you on the way out. Precious, you have a network of online friends and family. We are here for you. ❤ 😊🤗
I'm sorry that you and your beautiful little angel are going to be without your husband 😢😢. It's not right because he's a father and your husband and your family comes first. When you get married you have to stick through it together no matter what happens. A family that prays together stays together. The Lord will help you through this situation 🙏🙌🙏🙏
Smh, he’s sitting there nodding his head in agreement completely checked out. This is sad. It seems the life and responsibility that comes with living in the civilian world and being present in the day to day challenges of family hood is overwhelming him. He feels his place is in the military and not with his family. He’s okay with being the part time or holiday Dad which puts more on mom. Been there did that! It’s hard sir but, it’s LIFE and this is the family you created. You’ve now changed the trajectory of your family over your own selfishness! Please rethink and go to God in all things and seek his guidance if a believer. You will get through this Momma, just stop making excuses for him please
We dont know the full story. This move could very well be financial too. Military offers stability and security especially for Mikko. I will say nomatter how far he has to go such a deployment dont divorce and stick together. Vows say for better or worse. Having special needs kids is tough but as they develop itll get better and i can tell mikko gone flourish. If you both are happy then go for it. not all couples can share careers. Military can be his thing and social media can be yours. Continue to stick together and support each other through this and prayers that God will strengthen your family. ❤
The fact that you two can sit together and talk about it is amazing. Fathers get overwhelmed too. As a mom with a severely autistic child (teen now); I get it. It is better you both take care of yourselves too sometimes so you don't lose yourself. Keep supporting eachother and I hope you two grow old together. You are wonderful parents. Don't be hard on yourself (as hard as it can be sometimes).