@@TenshinhanIsKing To me it doesn't have to be God. That works for some, but not for all. She does really need some more stability, though...regardless of the source.
I was in an eight year relationship where I couldn’t make my mind up if I wanted to marry my-then girlfriend. When that relationship ended, I met my wife who I wanted to marry without hesitation. In my experience, if there is a doubt about whether you want to be with someone then there is no doubt. You should just end the relationship altogether. Save yourself and that other person a ton of time and anguish.
You men always do that shiz. Waste a woman’s time and then the next woman you automatically marry. Doubtful it had to do about hesitation, more that you were already getting the cow for free. Bet you wanted to marry your then gf ar the beginning of the relationship too once. 🙄
@@BrooklynBaby100 I was getting “the cow” for free with my wife also. You are mistaken on all accounts. If the dude you’re with has a hesitation about marriage then move on. You’ll save yourself a lot of headache and him also.
Coward. Wasted years on someone when you knew it wasn’t right. But yet here you are, still thinking about the one that got away…sounds like you made the wrong choice buddy
@brooklyn3299 Women shouldn't allow that to happen to them. She was a willing participant in the relationship. Ladies if a guy isn't thinking about marriage within a year leave. Don't waste your time with someone who won't commit to you.
The definition is always changing. You just have your own narrow view of it. It wasn't that long ago that relationships and dating weren't even a thing. For most of human history, it was basically just a father waiting until his daughter came of age and then giving her away to the guy with the best family. Arranged marriages are still extremely common in certain parts of the world. I'm sure many of them would look at your definition of a "relationship" and scoff, the same way you're doing now
@@vikingsfan2218 I would argue that an arranged marriage is not a relationship if you are not the one choosing to be with someone. That is more just a custom or tradition than it is 2 people choosing to be together.
@@Notkdenben I get what you’re saying, but, strictly speaking, the definition of a relationship doesn’t mention anything about choice. You can have relationships with people who you didn’t choose. Like a college roommate or a family member. And I would argue that proponents of arranged marriage believe that the purpose of a marriage is to unify two families with a stable, permanent bond and create an environment that’s ideal for the rearing of children. None of that has anything to do with two people deciding to get married because they fancy one another. My entire argument is that the social standard for what is considered a “valid” romantic relationship between two people is always changing. Hell, it wasn’t that long ago that a majority of the population believed that a relationship between two, consenting adults of the same sex was “immoral and wrong” and should be banned just because they couldn’t understand it. That’s where close-mindedness always leads to. In this day and age, with the existence of things like modern birth control, online dating, and social media creating temptations everywhere, coupled with the fact that we live much longer than we used to, I think the expectation that people will get together early in life and be sexually monogamous to one another forever might be a thing of the past (in certain circles). Even if you don’t agree with me, I don’t think it’s right to completely invalidate a relationship that you’re not a part of just because they decided to structure it in a way that you wouldn’t do with your own personal relationships.
@@vikingsfan2218 you said the words yourself: “A romantic relationship”. That is something that two consenting adults agree to do. You can argue that 2 participating members are willing and consenting to an arranged marriage, but they did not make the choice for their partner for themselves. I’m not referring to their families or anything, that is a totally separate relationship in and of itself. And for 2 same sex consenting people; it’s the same. If people thought it to be “immoral” it’s because that’s based on religious beliefs. If two people choose to be exclusive, that’s that. What exactly is the point in entering a relationship with someone that you do not intend to be exclusive with? What exactly is special about that? How do go about life further down the line when children do enter the picture of the father or mother has several partners? Which person is the “mother figure” and the “father figure”? What’s the point in entertaining any relationship if the end goal is “she sleeps with whoever she wants and he does the same”. Human beings are territorial creatures and while our partners are not our literal “property”, jealousy is bound to occur to some degree. If your partner is willingly choosing to participate in other romantic/sexual relationships with others, why do you think that is? They are looking for something that you cannot fulfill emotionally, physically, or otherwise. That should tell you that you are not compatible.
@@Notkdenben People who think that homosexual relationships are "immoral" aren't always rationalizing that worldview with religion. Some people believe that because two people of the same sex cannot reproduce naturally, a sexual relationship between shouldn't be tolerated, as it goes against the laws of nature. Others are just weirded out by it, plain and simple. Sometimes it has nothing to do with religion. As for your question: "What exactly is the point in entering a relationship with someone that you do not intend to be exclusive with?" Bro idk what to tell you. The reality is that there are plenty of couples out there who are in healthy, non-monogamous relationships. You don't have to like it or believe it, but that doesn't change reality. Many religious doctrines allow for their men to have multiple wives if they can shoulder the responsibility. Plenty of non-religious people practice polygamy as well. Threesomes, swinger parties, open-relationships, multiple partners, side-chicks, etc. I, personally, couldn't handle the jealousy that's bound to arise in an open relationship, but that doesn't mean I'm going to invalidate the entire concept as a whole by saying things like "[people in open relationships] are looking for something that [they] cannot fulfill emotionally, physically, or otherwise" or "[they] are not compatible". Those are some pretty strong assumptions to be making of a relationship that you're not a part of
@@Hehe-jo1zc I'll explain (no guarantee that I've understood it myself). She used to be on the fence about whether she wants a committed relationship, and had attributed her lack of commitment to guys. But then she fell head over heels for someone and realized she does want commitment to him but is afraid of being hurt if it fails. And on a sidenote, she has a (very, very common) fantasy/kink of letting her man have flings with other women, but she herself does not want to be with anyone else, and her bf has so far avoided doing other women, so they're practically monogamous.
This is old but just wanted to say for some reason this seemed like the kindest comment to me. You didn’t attack her or her philosophy- but (correctly) understood what’s wrong with her. I hope she gets to a point where she loves herself more
I think if you're a guy that's into someone, hearing "you can sleep with other ppl" isn't the great thing she thinks it is to hear. Like if you're just fooling around that's different, but if its a relationship people want to feel wanted
Through this gesture she tells him "be a player dummy, it makes me wet. I want the fear of losing you all over my body and soul. I want the anxiety of thinking i am not hot enough for you make me do my best to please you every time we are in bed. I want to be far from the best you can do when it comes to women and i am allowing to sleep around since you are too stupid to show it to me any other way". Listen to what she said. She wants a guy who everyone else want but cannot have. She said if I have a show i want it to be in HBO Max. Meaning she doesn't want her show to be just any show, but a big deal. So goes for her boyfriend. Her boyfriend shows that he is a big deal by being capable of taking advantage of this opportunity. Him sleeping around signals to Nikki that her boyfriend is a guy who is craved by other attractive women but his attitude towards them is "the best i can do is just fuck you because my heart belongs to someone else". Now if he is not able to do anything with that permission it signals that he is a loser. He is allowed to sleep around but he is too lame to get sex from anyone else.
She has a serious, eating disorder, suffers from anxiety, anorexia, and malnutrition addicted to Adderall. She’s trying to reject him before he rejects her. That makes her feel safe. She’s a real hot mess.
Right, for the longest time i felt like any girl i got with I'd be elated at the idea of her being into threesomes, not only was that dumb and juvenile, but when I finally got into a real and committed relationship i honestly couldn't be less interested in it
I did it and it was a huge mistake ..what one ex said she wouldnt mind if i slept with someone for one night ..Yer that was the end of our relationship ..She sure did care .. and she was never going to not use it against me ... Talks cheap .And Niki will say anything to get a response .. Shes running out of stuff and getting 'long in the tooth ' The porn star hype train doesnt work in your late thirties sweetheart , someone needs to tell her .. All good things must come to an end ..But I love watching her old stuff still . Pity she doesnt get paid royalties for that .. Oh well .. :)
I don’t think polyamory or open relationships ever work long term… I believe you should be free to do whatever the hell you want so long as it’s consensual (legally speaking)… But I’m not convinced they lead to long term fulfillment. And it’s sad that so many people have just given up on Love & Romance with the advent of social media & porn. Over sexualizing anything & everything.
You're making a lot of assumptions here lol. I know what I don't like about her. Same thing I don't like about all these comedians thinking they're super sage and introspective. 95% of them threw a hissy fit when COVID began because they couldn't go get their nightly ego boost at their stand-up gigs. They aren't harbingers of wisdom just because they're open with their thoughts. In reality, people like Nicki, like Marc Maron, like Doug Stanhope, just need to leave comedy for a year and take up gardening. Being obsessed with introspection does not mean they are actually taking any steps to combat the toxic traits that push people away.
@@thedominion6643 your last sentence hurt gave me so much to think about for the next couple of weeks. Wow, never thought of self awareness/reflection like that before.
there are subtle cuts in the edit during her answers, I've noticed a few uncomfortable moments that were cut off. the final result makes her sound more confident.
@@ethosterros9430 yeah, i think she is too. something is really off with her. almost like she has a drug or drinking problem or mental illness. I wouldn't trust her. she's childish
Wow she really has low self esteem when it comes to being accepting to love. She hates her self so much that she’s trained herself to be attracted to sharing the man she loves with other women. She said she’s not into sleeping with other guys while she’s in her current relationship but it’s ok and encouraged if he does. Just overall low self esteem.
She is a voyeur. That turns her on. I suspect she is into cuckolding and is not able to find a guy that is into that. Her life, her choices. But, it won't be easy for her to really find someone to share that experience with. She is into really kinky sex
@@kerryfoerster1767 and what if I saw myself in her? What if my observation of Nikki is what I see in myself? Is that being judgmental and superior or critical thinking of two kindred spirits? I think you must think before you write.
So let me get this straight: A relationship is like a sweater, “don’t stretch it out but give it back to me”? So it’s a useable goods and when you’re done with it you donate it to a thrift shop? Sounds like a relationship in this case is not regarded as sacred or valuable when comparing it to clothes shopping and trying things on. In other words, you’re replaceable as easy as buying a sweater. This is the new modern value system esteemed by celebrities who don’t esteem true value of a relationship.
I think you're romanticizing relationship too much. There will always be something selfish about it. She might have put it in a rude way, comparing partners to sweaters, but don't we all want to have a nice, comfy, warm sweater? And if the sweater becomes worn-out, small, or old-fashioned, what do we do with the sweater like that? We get rid of it. It sounds awful, but don't we all do that?
what do you mean u dont agree lol its her opinion of herself and her relationship its literally just information about another person, u disagree with her existence?
@@jukaa1012 are you disagreeing with my opinion? You're contradicting yourself to the point I cannot take you seriously. Maybe answer your own question? Yes, people can disagree with other's view of life. You are doing it right now.
She doesn’t really love him and she’s too afraid to go after what she wants. The type of guys she wants have probably hurt her in the past and now she’s lying to herself that this guy is her type.
The guys she was previously with are, more than likely, the wrong kind of guy and she doesn't recognize that she makes poor decisions when it comes to choosing a partner. The biggest problems lie with her. Being an alcoholic for so many years only impaired her judgment even further.
She's way too old to still be acting like this. This is like a college girl figuring out her love life. But in reality it's a grown woman in her late 30s
She’s all over the place and definitely doesn’t know what to do with someone she supposedly loves. Never tell a man to be with another woman. He just might find someone who is better than you.
@@mdp4022 very true very true no one said that but sometimes love can make you fight for something where you may not necessarily have to. I don’t know their relationship so you’re right , he can gladly leave.
@@soulsurfer639 I've got a new Passport in the mail. Should be here within days. I've got a new full time job I start Monday. And I'm planning my finances. Been researching all of Southeast Asia every night. I'm currently in Toronto Canada. But planning my freedom
Dude she's got serious self esteem issues. Don't cheer this on and normalize this relationship dynamic. She deserves better and it always leads to suffering. It's not healthy.
She seems happy with her relationship dynamic and shes able to openly share how she feels about it without contempt..to say she has self esteem issues is ignorant and self revealing tbh
As much as I want to agree the thing I learn as I age is that there really is no rulebook in relationships. There will never be 1 rulebook that both women & men can follow that will lead to a perfect relationship. Like they say…peoples changes… either be ready for the change or don’t imo
@@erichunter8230she suffered from severe depression, she’s done multiple interviews on the subject. I also suffer from depression and I am constantly told by PROFESSIONALS that I will have “bright ideas”, ideas that I believe will make me feel better, but they’re not. I don’t have anything against open relationships but I feel you should be in the right place for them… she says it wouldn’t hurt her but I would bet MONEY that she takes an L.
I can only imagine that she will never be able to have a truly supportive, loving, and honest relationship. And she is so attractive, smart and funny. Truly a shame.
@@srbaruchi you are correct that is what she says… She has been socially programmed to say that for sympathetic reasons. Culture plays a big part and what we believe and how we want to be perceived.
If you're avoidant, you most likely have said to family members who had a major role in your childhood: "You only accepted me or liked me when I was happy/obedient/emotionless." This one simple statement fits with ALL the core symptoms of avoidant attachment: 1. Being overly self-reliant (and in doing so, you hide your needs, emotions, problems, and acute illnesses) 2. Pushing down anger until it explodes and manufactures the boundaries you crave but can't always ask for 3. Not wanting to burden others with your problems 4. Wanting to fix your own issues to avoid looking incompetent or even getting bullied and teased 5. Numbing out emotions with self-soothing behaviors that are either totally unhealthy or pseudo-healthy (like getting addicted to working out and healthy eating) Remember ALWAYS this process is all about YOU!!! Not him. He is just a catalyst. Consider, he may be your twin flame. Look into that. After he initiated your trauma, you're now left to heal all that comes up. Major advice!!! Listen closely!!! NEVER ever CHASE HIM. He will run further and you will lose yourself more. You are the feminine. You are the divine goddess. You just, be and approve who comes along. It's a yes: you meet my requirements, or: a no, you do not. Be clear on whom you're accepting as a partner and DO NOT settle for less (or you just delay what's meant for you). Accept your struggle, anxiety, fear, sadness. Whatever comes up. It's all human, and in need of your attention. If you push it away, block it, or run from it... You will just have to deal with it later... 1) Put yourself first and foremost! 2) Fall in love with yourself. Be your own dream girl. Glow up and level up. Be the best version of yourself. 3) Rejection is redirection. Embrace the energies of miraculous possibilities. And, Any time you have a painful thought/memory/flashback/worry/belief: 1. Find the belief... 2. Write 11 DISADVANTAGES to having the belief 3. Write 11 ADVANTAGES to having belief If you can NOT find advantages then that’s EXACTLY why you're stuck!! When you finally see both sides... Your mind will STOP thinking about it 'cause it’ll be rewired. So you gotta keep at it, until you find the positive to the negative... And therefore, ultimately rewire your brain!
Grew up with him and he's absolutely my favorite person I've ever met. Chris is incredible. Known him since I was 5 yrs old. He is an inspiration. I struggle with alcohol and addiction and this dude would stay up til 4am with me sober for yrs "partying" with me. If his friends wanna party, he joins. If his friends wanna get sober, he goes to AA meetings with them as someone who's never tasted alcohol. He supports his friends 🤘
Sounds like maybe she'd like to sample what's on the other side. She gets a thrill from him sleeping with other women because maybe that's what she secretly is craving.
there is no "the one".. there is only what you put effort into (as long as the attraction is there). she's a bit damaged, self defeating. needs some internal healing so she can present for the relationship happily and calmly.
the most pure definition of stringing someone along. He's on the hook just like in HIMYM. "hey come and be with me. we cant be together...... right now"
"Hookup culture" does not exist. Less people are having sex now than ever before (in terms of recorded history). You are simply being scared by the media into a moral panic so that you are easier to control.
I love how honest she is about all of this. humans are complex. relationships are complex. sex is complex. we don't have to fit into molds or do things the way they were done before. as long as everyone is happy and safe and loved, why does it matter what that relationship looks like?
I find it hard to believe that she tells him to sleep with other women knowing that he probably won't or have difficulty doing so (since she's already a little out of his league looks wise anyway) and that sleeping with other men outside the relationship is "not her thing but maybe it will be one day." It's more plausible that she says that because she sleeps with someone/people on the side but doesn't want to tell him/admit it so it relieves some of her feelings of guilt by advocating for him to sleep with other women. Therefore, if he finds out, she'll just say well I never said you couldn't sleep with other women. "I'm basically a porn star" and I tell my bf to sleep with other women but I'm completely faithful to him. Yeah, ok.
if she is out of his league this may be part of her dread game. Challenge him to get something better to remind him that you're the best I wouldn't assume she sleeps with others just because she uses dread it could just be a part of her sexual strategy
Just going through a divorce. Listening to this. Nikki is one of my favorite comedians. Hand down. Reflecting on my personal situation I would challenge if what a person proclaims I actually how they feel. I was made to be the badguy in our situation. Turns out nothing I could have ever done would have changed it. Maybe people should honestly look at themselves in the mirror and go to town on some questions.
The thumbnail picture of this is hilarious because you read the title of why I let my boyfriend sleep with other women and then you look up and the dude is grinning all wide eyed and shit like a champ
You do understand she says this so she can also sleep around with other men. Truly disgusting this concept of "open relationships". Either your with me or you're dating the entire world. The great majority of this generation is completely lost and rotten.
I don't know why everyone hates this so much. Committed, monogamous relationships aren't the only relationship style that makes people happy.. just because its not for you doesn't mean its not ok
Nikki's ability to integrate sex and humor and her own proclivities is unparalleled! And not wanting kids does leave you with more options and less time pressure.
You guys with the negative comments don’t get it. Shess hilariously honest and having a string of conscious coming out of her mouth and yet she knows what she’s saying . We need nikki. I don’t take her words as advice but just a very interesting perspective .
a lot of these women are sharing men anyway; at lease she is dealing with the reality of relationships instead of the ideal....most of the cases of people harming others in relationships are over unmet expectations of ideals and not reality
Poor Nikki, her busy lifestyle, she admits it's not easy making time to spend with him, fear of commitment, and excuses, it was easy for her to date in her 20s. This is why I think she enjoys a project as she has gotten older and gets less attention from men. I agree with her dad, off and on again relationship is not a good fit. It will lead to nowhere!
on and off = scared to break up and move on. I myself was in that situation few times in my early days. Scared you're going to be single again and will never find love. My parents always said just break up if i feel like shit. They were always right and i was too stubborn to listen. The more you try and band aid shit and try to move on, the more it went south.
Also, I don’t believe she is the one with commitment issues. It’s a callous she’s formed to keep herself from getting hurt. She doesn’t believe a man will ever choose her. This is low self esteem. This isn’t fear of commitment.
All these closed minded & judgmental comments. Everyone is a "perfect sheep" and follow all the rules that were given to them. At least Nikki is brave enough to be honest & question boring tired traditions.
It just shows you how closed minded & judgmental the general population is. Everyone is a "perfect sheep" and follow all the rules that were given to them. At least Nikki is brave enough to be honest & question boring tired traditions.
The key to this is at 05:42 when she says she is OK with her boyfriend sleeping around but says "Does he go through with it-- No, but her could if he chose to". This sounds more like a "fantasy idea", which is why she is cool with "The Idea". I'd be curious if she felt the same way if he was actively sleeping with other women. I think people who think it's a good idea should watch the movie Fatal Attraction. Yes, it is an exaggerated Hollywood film but, at the same time there is a lot of undiagnosed mental illness out there and someone eventually feels hurt or used by the sexual interaction. People are designed to be emotional creatures.
There will Always be the chance of your partner meeting someone better. This kind of relationship just encourages your partner to leave you when they meet that person. Idk if it is that women have lost faith in men and a man's ability to commit to a relationship or what.
unless they are literally only meeting this person for a sexual encounter (like a prostitute) then the factor of 'personality' and 'being with them' is always involved. I can look up a recipe in a book to learn how to cook a new meal, I don't have to go out and try it. I know hands on experience is useful though but unless it's purely business (prostitute) and they are not friends and going out it's pretty much impossible to say they are not also being together
not to mention the risk of disease, even just passing on different strains of bacteria. Like I don't want to get an STD or new food allergy or something just because he kissed a hoe...and honestly kissing is more emotional on the emotional side of things anyway. And emotion in my book is 'being together' and without emotion how fun is it really anyway. I don't want him to bring back 'banging a whore' vibes back to our bedroom? that's not his role with me if he is not done with these experiences yet just let him go.
I think it's important to make a distinction between people who are nonmonogamous because they enjoy it vs people who do it out of fear of cheating/rejection. The former, while less stable on average - might be healthy for some people. The latter, which Nikki seems to be - sounds painful, but she needs to do what's best for her either way.
Hope they work it out, her children would be very intelligent and interesting people, with a blunt and very real view of the world. Honesty who are any of us to judge their personal relationship, if they’re happy, wgaf?
@@SmartestDumbGuy are normal monogamous relationships generally happy too - or are we just not aware because they put on a brave face and don't share? Genuine question.
Graham consistently shooting his shot with every question lol "are you still a proponent of non-monogamy?" "so what's the deal with the boyfriend" "some people close to you say you're not a good fit"
She is honest about stuff that is incredibly difficult to admit publicly. She’s mildly masochistic.
Damn, you're not kidding.
I think all good comedians are masochistic to some extent.
She’s spoken ab how she’s always felt like she’s chased after things that don’t want her…
Like that she has a serious eating disorder and is hooked on Adderall.
She's more than mildly masochistic... listen to her rogan interviews.
People need therapy.. the way she explains herself is exactly how she is describing her love life. Unorganized, chaotic and dysfunctional.
@Shon East she needs therapy. The Bible shit ain’t gone help.
@shoneast6880 god makes people narcissists
@@TenshinhanIsKing To me it doesn't have to be God. That works for some, but not for all. She does really need some more stability, though...regardless of the source.
I was in an eight year relationship where I couldn’t make my mind up if I wanted to marry my-then girlfriend. When that relationship ended, I met my wife who I wanted to marry without hesitation. In my experience, if there is a doubt about whether you want to be with someone then there is no doubt. You should just end the relationship altogether. Save yourself and that other person a ton of time and anguish.
You men always do that shiz. Waste a woman’s time and then the next woman you automatically marry. Doubtful it had to do about hesitation, more that you were already getting the cow for free. Bet you wanted to marry your then gf ar the beginning of the relationship too once. 🙄
@@BrooklynBaby100 I was getting “the cow” for free with my wife also. You are mistaken on all accounts. If the dude you’re with has a hesitation about marriage then move on. You’ll save yourself a lot of headache and him also.
Coward. Wasted years on someone when you knew it wasn’t right. But yet here you are, still thinking about the one that got away…sounds like you made the wrong choice buddy
@@BrooklynBaby100 Women also do that .I don't think it's a gender thing but rather how some people are
@brooklyn3299 Women shouldn't allow that to happen to them. She was a willing participant in the relationship. Ladies if a guy isn't thinking about marriage within a year leave. Don't waste your time with someone who won't commit to you.
Nikki is the living embodiment of a human vocal-fray
I don't think people understand what a relationship is anymore lol
The definition is always changing. You just have your own narrow view of it. It wasn't that long ago that relationships and dating weren't even a thing. For most of human history, it was basically just a father waiting until his daughter came of age and then giving her away to the guy with the best family. Arranged marriages are still extremely common in certain parts of the world. I'm sure many of them would look at your definition of a "relationship" and scoff, the same way you're doing now
@@vikingsfan2218 I would argue that an arranged marriage is not a relationship if you are not the one choosing to be with someone. That is more just a custom or tradition than it is 2 people choosing to be together.
@@Notkdenben I get what you’re saying, but, strictly speaking, the definition of a relationship doesn’t mention anything about choice. You can have relationships with people who you didn’t choose. Like a college roommate or a family member. And I would argue that proponents of arranged marriage believe that the purpose of a marriage is to unify two families with a stable, permanent bond and create an environment that’s ideal for the rearing of children. None of that has anything to do with two people deciding to get married because they fancy one another. My entire argument is that the social standard for what is considered a “valid” romantic relationship between two people is always changing. Hell, it wasn’t that long ago that a majority of the population believed that a relationship between two, consenting adults of the same sex was “immoral and wrong” and should be banned just because they couldn’t understand it. That’s where close-mindedness always leads to. In this day and age, with the existence of things like modern birth control, online dating, and social media creating temptations everywhere, coupled with the fact that we live much longer than we used to, I think the expectation that people will get together early in life and be sexually monogamous to one another forever might be a thing of the past (in certain circles). Even if you don’t agree with me, I don’t think it’s right to completely invalidate a relationship that you’re not a part of just because they decided to structure it in a way that you wouldn’t do with your own personal relationships.
@@vikingsfan2218 you said the words yourself:
“A romantic relationship”. That is something that two consenting adults agree to do. You can argue that 2 participating members are willing and consenting to an arranged marriage, but they did not make the choice for their partner for themselves. I’m not referring to their families or anything, that is a totally separate relationship in and of itself.
And for 2 same sex consenting people; it’s the same. If people thought it to be “immoral” it’s because that’s based on religious beliefs. If two people choose to be exclusive, that’s that. What exactly is the point in entering a relationship with someone that you do not intend to be exclusive with? What exactly is special about that? How do go about life further down the line when children do enter the picture of the father or mother has several partners? Which person is the “mother figure” and the “father figure”? What’s the point in entertaining any relationship if the end goal is “she sleeps with whoever she wants and he does the same”. Human beings are territorial creatures and while our partners are not our literal “property”, jealousy is bound to occur to some degree. If your partner is willingly choosing to participate in other romantic/sexual relationships with others, why do you think that is? They are looking for something that you cannot fulfill emotionally, physically, or otherwise. That should tell you that you are not compatible.
@@Notkdenben People who think that homosexual relationships are "immoral" aren't always rationalizing that worldview with religion. Some people believe that because two people of the same sex cannot reproduce naturally, a sexual relationship between shouldn't be tolerated, as it goes against the laws of nature. Others are just weirded out by it, plain and simple. Sometimes it has nothing to do with religion.
As for your question: "What exactly is the point in entering a relationship with someone that you do not intend to be exclusive with?" Bro idk what to tell you. The reality is that there are plenty of couples out there who are in healthy, non-monogamous relationships. You don't have to like it or believe it, but that doesn't change reality. Many religious doctrines allow for their men to have multiple wives if they can shoulder the responsibility. Plenty of non-religious people practice polygamy as well. Threesomes, swinger parties, open-relationships, multiple partners, side-chicks, etc. I, personally, couldn't handle the jealousy that's bound to arise in an open relationship, but that doesn't mean I'm going to invalidate the entire concept as a whole by saying things like "[people in open relationships] are looking for something that [they] cannot fulfill emotionally, physically, or otherwise" or "[they] are not compatible". Those are some pretty strong assumptions to be making of a relationship that you're not a part of
Her statements are so discombobulated that I'm left wondering what her point is. Graham, I feel for you!
Lol this is bonkers? Have you seen the Dan Bilzerian interviews?
@@basedgodstrugglin lol I have
@@Hehe-jo1zc
I'll explain (no guarantee that I've understood it myself). She used to be on the fence about whether she wants a committed relationship, and had attributed her lack of commitment to guys. But then she fell head over heels for someone and realized she does want commitment to him but is afraid of being hurt if it fails. And on a sidenote, she has a (very, very common) fantasy/kink of letting her man have flings with other women, but she herself does not want to be with anyone else, and her bf has so far avoided doing other women, so they're practically monogamous.
fear of rejection, self sabotage
This is old but just wanted to say for some reason this seemed like the kindest comment to me. You didn’t attack her or her philosophy- but (correctly) understood what’s wrong with her. I hope she gets to a point where she loves herself more
Reject unto others before they reject unto you.
I'm watching "Nikki Glaser Thinks She Would Be A Great Porn Star".
@@juileebhosale3444 There's nothing wrong with her. The problem, is you people go around projecting your worldviews and ideals onto others.
@@mikep11218totally. It's like, if you don't want to love people without possessing them, you're afraid of rejection or something.
I think if you're a guy that's into someone, hearing "you can sleep with other ppl" isn't the great thing she thinks it is to hear. Like if you're just fooling around that's different, but if its a relationship people want to feel wanted
Through this gesture she tells him "be a player dummy, it makes me wet. I want the fear of losing you all over my body and soul. I want the anxiety of thinking i am not hot enough for you make me do my best to please you every time we are in bed. I want to be far from the best you can do when it comes to women and i am allowing to sleep around since you are too stupid to show it to me any other way". Listen to what she said. She wants a guy who everyone else want but cannot have. She said if I have a show i want it to be in HBO Max. Meaning she doesn't want her show to be just any show, but a big deal. So goes for her boyfriend. Her boyfriend shows that he is a big deal by being capable of taking advantage of this opportunity. Him sleeping around signals to Nikki that her boyfriend is a guy who is craved by other attractive women but his attitude towards them is "the best i can do is just fuck you because my heart belongs to someone else". Now if he is not able to do anything with that permission it signals that he is a loser. He is allowed to sleep around but he is too lame to get sex from anyone else.
She has a serious, eating disorder, suffers from anxiety, anorexia, and malnutrition addicted to Adderall. She’s trying to reject him before he rejects her. That makes her feel safe. She’s a real hot mess.
Right, for the longest time i felt like any girl i got with I'd be elated at the idea of her being into threesomes, not only was that dumb and juvenile, but when I finally got into a real and committed relationship i honestly couldn't be less interested in it
Yeah I’d walk instantly. I’d feel totally unwanted
I did it and it was a huge mistake ..what one ex said she wouldnt mind if i slept with someone for one night ..Yer that was the end of our relationship ..She sure did care .. and she was never going to not use it against me ... Talks cheap .And Niki will say anything to get a response .. Shes running out of stuff and getting 'long in the tooth ' The porn star hype train doesnt work in your late thirties sweetheart , someone needs to tell her .. All good things must come to an end ..But I love watching her old stuff still . Pity she doesnt get paid royalties for that .. Oh well .. :)
She's got her foot on the breaks and the accelerator at the same time. Absolute train wreck.
there's a movie for this. it stars her former co-star, amy schumer, haha.
Perfect analogy
What makes you say this?
wow, perfect way of putting it.
I don’t think polyamory or open relationships ever work long term…
I believe you should be free to do whatever the hell you want so long as it’s consensual (legally speaking)…
But I’m not convinced they lead to long term fulfillment. And it’s sad that so many people have just given up on Love & Romance with the advent of social media & porn. Over sexualizing anything & everything.
She has issues. I can't imagine ever feeling relaxed and at peace being around someone like her.
Perhaps, it's all an act to a varying degree?
I agree it is that extreme, but due to that i question validity
@@dgh4918 so you think it’s possible that she’s a chaste, modest and stable virgin.
Lol foh dude. 😂
Yeah she's just like a nuts woman who happens to be famous.
A true Karen
9 years and can't commit and is admitting to not wanting him? What am I missing here?
You’re not missing anything.
Narcissism probably. Narcissistic people have commitment issues.
Just add encouraging the 9-year boyfriend to whore around. Unhappiness inevitable, dream=nightmare come true.
You're missing the term "beta bucks". Look it up
She's bat shit crazy. WOW!
Prime example of someone needing a good therapist.
You're making a lot of assumptions here lol.
I know what I don't like about her. Same thing I don't like about all these comedians thinking they're super sage and introspective. 95% of them threw a hissy fit when COVID began because they couldn't go get their nightly ego boost at their stand-up gigs. They aren't harbingers of wisdom just because they're open with their thoughts.
In reality, people like Nicki, like Marc Maron, like Doug Stanhope, just need to leave comedy for a year and take up gardening. Being obsessed with introspection does not mean they are actually taking any steps to combat the toxic traits that push people away.
@@thedominion6643 he’s making a lot of accurate assumptions. How in THE Fk can you not see the trash mentality this loser has.
@@thedominion6643 your last sentence hurt gave me so much to think about for the next couple of weeks. Wow, never thought of self awareness/reflection like that before.
You want your boytoy to sleep around?? wtf?
@@Somegirl51 who are you responding to?
She's a talking red flag. Run
there are subtle cuts in the edit during her answers, I've noticed a few uncomfortable moments that were cut off. the final result makes her sound more confident.
yea she sounds kind of nuts.
@@ethosterros9430 lol...kind of? Shes the queen of the nuthouse.
You kids that blabber about red flags etc. are huge red flags yourself.
@@ethosterros9430 yeah, i think she is too. something is really off with her. almost like she has a drug or drinking problem or mental illness. I wouldn't trust her. she's childish
Wow she really has low self esteem when it comes to being accepting to love. She hates her self so much that she’s trained herself to be attracted to sharing the man she loves with other women. She said she’s not into sleeping with other guys while she’s in her current relationship but it’s ok and encouraged if he does. Just overall low self esteem.
You summed this up so well- without being hateful or rude! That is rare in the comment section! She is so sad to me.
She is a voyeur. That turns her on. I suspect she is into cuckolding and is not able to find a guy that is into that. Her life, her choices. But, it won't be easy for her to really find someone to share that experience with. She is into really kinky sex
Your reply reveals low self-esteem. You enjoy judging people, imagining you’re superior to them. That’s sad.
@@kerryfoerster1767 You are outside of your depth here and it shows.
@@kerryfoerster1767 and what if I saw myself in her? What if my observation of Nikki is what I see in myself? Is that being judgmental and superior or critical thinking of two kindred spirits? I think you must think before you write.
This whole interview is one massive eye-roll 🙄
what did i just watch?
@baronvonnembles A whole trainwreck of crazy.
A wino crossed with a crazy cat lady.
Best comment...ever. 🤦🏾♀🤷🏾♀🙄
you just watched a boatload of garbage.
🤣🤣🤣
What did I just watch?!?
So let me get this straight: A relationship is like a sweater, “don’t stretch it out but give it back to me”? So it’s a useable goods and when you’re done with it you donate it to a thrift shop? Sounds like a relationship in this case is not regarded as sacred or valuable when comparing it to clothes shopping and trying things on. In other words, you’re replaceable as easy as buying a sweater. This is the new modern value system esteemed by celebrities who don’t esteem true value of a relationship.
Because they're not sacred lol. Monogamy has no biological integrity. It's largely just propped up by Judeo-Christian ethics.
I think you're romanticizing relationship too much.
There will always be something selfish about it.
She might have put it in a rude way, comparing partners to sweaters, but don't we all want to have a nice, comfy, warm sweater?
And if the sweater becomes worn-out, small, or old-fashioned, what do we do with the sweater like that?
We get rid of it.
It sounds awful, but don't we all do that?
@@anordinaryguy8121 to death do us part, through sickness and health. You become one person basically.
It's a transactional commodity produced by consumers, doomed from the start by their consumptive nature.
The good news is it's what they deserve.
@@anordinaryguy8121 no we don’t all do that weirdo
I appreciate the honesty. While I don't agree, I do like hearing other perspectives. It makes you think which creates growth.
what do you mean u dont agree lol its her opinion of herself and her relationship its literally just information about another person, u disagree with her existence?
@@jukaa1012 are you disagreeing with my opinion? You're contradicting yourself to the point I cannot take you seriously. Maybe answer your own question? Yes, people can disagree with other's view of life. You are doing it right now.
I should say that I found the video because she is the best "roaster" and I did a search.
She doesn’t really love him and she’s too afraid to go after what she wants.
The type of guys she wants have probably hurt her in the past and now she’s lying to herself that this guy is her type.
Very perceptive. I think you are right.
🤣🤣🤣
@@JimmyStruthers1000 love the handle
The guys she was previously with are, more than likely, the wrong kind of guy and she doesn't recognize that she makes poor decisions when it comes to choosing a partner. The biggest problems lie with her. Being an alcoholic for so many years only impaired her judgment even further.
That's why I was thinking if she ever goes to therapy and gets the help she needs, she then won't want the current boyfriend she has.
She's way too old to still be acting like this. This is like a college girl figuring out her love life. But in reality it's a grown woman in her late 30s
So many chicks in New York just like this...
@@OffTheCover That's sad. Many women lack accountability in modern society
She's figured out she prefers an open relationship!
Yes she is full of s#&t.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm Good for Her!
She’s all over the place and definitely doesn’t know what to do with someone she supposedly loves. Never tell a man to be with another woman. He just might find someone who is better than you.
Yup and who is committed . Not really fair to him if he’s ready to settle. She should unselfishly let him go.
@@mdp4022 very true very true no one said that but sometimes love can make you fight for something where you may not necessarily have to. I don’t know their relationship so you’re right , he can gladly leave.
I don't know this guy but I hope he values himself enough to find something better. Horrible levels of submission to this walking red flag of a woman.
why would you even mess with this chick. Run!
She's fun & hot!
*western chick
@@soulsurfer639her western attitude is actually becoming more and more common which is creating more passport bros
@@jasonpatrick-x1k Yup, turned me into one 🛫
@@soulsurfer639 I've got a new Passport in the mail. Should be here within days. I've got a new full time job I start Monday. And I'm planning my finances. Been researching all of Southeast Asia every night. I'm currently in Toronto Canada. But planning my freedom
After watching this I’m just like who are you trying to convince that this is okay, the interviewer or yourself?
100%
The whole clip her talking makes no fucking sense.
What she says is more entertaining than a normal interview. It really comes from brain stem to mouth.
Spinal cord thoughts
SHE IS SO IMPORTANT OUR FUTURE AND CULTURE. WE NEED MORE OPENESS - AND SHE JUST SO FUNNY AND CUTE. LOVE HER !! ❤❤😁😁
No, she just has diarrhea mouth like a lot of people do who are on Adderall nonstop every day all day and don’t eat
@@kelwinkwel please dont reproduce :)
Rectum even
@2:50 Nikki's Dad with the straight up Boomer advice. LOL!
EJ is a fucking legend
She looks a lot like her dad
Dude she's got serious self esteem issues. Don't cheer this on and normalize this relationship dynamic. She deserves better and it always leads to suffering. It's not healthy.
Nah she just understands men better than u princess
She seems happy with her relationship dynamic and shes able to openly share how she feels about it without contempt..to say she has self esteem issues is ignorant and self revealing tbh
She openly admits she has no self esteem in multiple interviews. She’s basically a door mat for men. Watch any of her old interviews on JRE.
As much as I want to agree the thing I learn as I age is that there really is no rulebook in relationships. There will never be 1 rulebook that both women & men can follow that will lead to a perfect relationship. Like they say…peoples changes… either be ready for the change or don’t imo
@@erichunter8230she suffered from severe depression, she’s done multiple interviews on the subject. I also suffer from depression and I am constantly told by PROFESSIONALS that I will have “bright ideas”, ideas that I believe will make me feel better, but they’re not. I don’t have anything against open relationships but I feel you should be in the right place for them… she says it wouldn’t hurt her but I would bet MONEY that she takes an L.
What did I just watch
I can only imagine that she will never be able to have a truly supportive, loving, and honest relationship. And she is so attractive, smart and funny. Truly a shame.
Don't let the makekup fool you. She's a 6 at best.
and also takes it in the arse, what more is there you could want
She is telling us that she DOES have a "supportive, loving, and honest relationship."
@@srbaruchi you are correct that is what she says… She has been socially programmed to say that for sympathetic reasons. Culture plays a big part and what we believe and how we want to be perceived.
Yep, seems like your typical modern women, impossible to love.
If you're avoidant, you most likely have said to family members who had a major role in your childhood: "You only accepted me or liked me when I was happy/obedient/emotionless." This one simple statement fits with ALL the core symptoms of avoidant attachment:
1. Being overly self-reliant
(and in doing so, you hide your needs, emotions, problems, and acute illnesses)
2. Pushing down anger until it explodes
and manufactures the boundaries you crave but can't always ask for
3. Not wanting to burden others with your problems
4. Wanting to fix your own issues to avoid looking incompetent or even getting bullied and teased
5. Numbing out emotions with self-soothing behaviors
that are either totally unhealthy or pseudo-healthy
(like getting addicted to working out and healthy eating)
Remember ALWAYS
this process is all about YOU!!!
Not him. He is just a catalyst.
Consider,
he may be your twin flame.
Look into that.
After he initiated your trauma,
you're now left to heal all that comes up.
Major advice!!!
Listen closely!!!
NEVER ever CHASE HIM.
He will run further and you will lose yourself more.
You are the feminine. You are the divine goddess.
You just, be and approve who comes along.
It's a yes: you meet my requirements,
or: a no, you do not.
Be clear on whom you're accepting as a partner
and DO NOT settle for less
(or you just delay what's meant for you).
Accept your struggle, anxiety, fear, sadness. Whatever comes up.
It's all human, and in need of your attention.
If you push it away, block it, or run from it...
You will just have to deal with it later...
1) Put yourself first and foremost!
2) Fall in love with yourself. Be your own dream girl.
Glow up and level up. Be the best version of yourself.
3) Rejection is redirection. Embrace the energies of miraculous possibilities.
And,
Any time you have a painful thought/memory/flashback/worry/belief:
1. Find the belief...
2. Write 11 DISADVANTAGES to having the belief
3. Write 11 ADVANTAGES to having belief
If you can NOT
find advantages
then that’s EXACTLY why you're stuck!!
When you finally see both sides...
Your mind will STOP thinking about it
'cause it’ll be rewired.
So you gotta keep at it,
until you find the positive
to the negative...
And therefore, ultimately
rewire your brain!
That is excellent advice
🙏🏼
Never ever chase
Ya that's the problem
No one is chasing anymore, and more people are alone
She was over here thirsting over Blake Griffin 😂
What a strange interview. The dark side of fame right here. If she really believes the words she is saying then no man will ever make her happy.
Narcissism in a nutshell.
Grew up with him and he's absolutely my favorite person I've ever met. Chris is incredible. Known him since I was 5 yrs old. He is an inspiration. I struggle with alcohol and addiction and this dude would stay up til 4am with me sober for yrs "partying" with me. If his friends wanna party, he joins. If his friends wanna get sober, he goes to AA meetings with them as someone who's never tasted alcohol. He supports his friends 🤘
That’s extremely, extremely rare.
I wonder how much of that was his upbringing and how much of it being just embedded in his DNA.
Hahah her dad is the bomb diggity
She is exhausting.
NaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaiNE years with this so called bf? She is very lost and seriously lacking in wisdom
😂 absolutely !!!
If she wants you to sleep with other women it’s not a relationship remember that young warrior’s
It's an open relationship!
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm The problem is she describes it as a one-sided open relationship.
Sounds like maybe she'd like to sample what's on the other side. She gets a thrill from him sleeping with other women because maybe that's what she secretly is craving.
Anyone remember than scene in Jurassic Park where Laura Dern climbs up the hill and says “Run..RUN”
All this tells me is that I still have a shot with Nikki Glaser 😤😤😤
I'm sure that would be fun...😵
Honest, and super self-aware! I applaud her! And, I also found it super relatable, except that I'm definitely not nearly as secure she is..
Take a shot every time she says "like" and you'll be dead
“There are three ways to ultimate success. The first way is to be kind. The second is to be kind. The third is to be kind,” Mr. Rogers.
there is no "the one".. there is only what you put effort into (as long as the attraction is there). she's a bit damaged, self defeating. needs some internal healing so she can present for the relationship happily and calmly.
A "bit"?
the most pure definition of stringing someone along. He's on the hook just like in HIMYM. "hey come and be with me. we cant be together...... right now"
Well done Nikki. A very honest and thought provoking interview. I hope you find sustainable happiness. Peter
she's never going to puck you
I really liked her before this interview. Her publicist should have this taken down. Ruined it for me.
I like her more.
Talk about a restless soul.
A lot of comedy is airing personal pain….and she is hilarious.
Victim of hookup culture. Promiscuity has left people detached and unable to have committed relationships.
she is banging anything that moves behind his back,put money on it
Yes!
"Hookup culture" does not exist. Less people are having sex now than ever before (in terms of recorded history).
You are simply being scared by the media into a moral panic so that you are easier to control.
😂
You can say that again!
very refreshing to see someone be so honest
She's honestly self-defeating and she's honestly fooling herself.
I think she's doing OK if she's come up with a strategy that works for her. It's better than living alone and getting zero social interaction.
I do agree with that. Being alone for long periods of time is really unhealthy. She doesn't seem healthy to me but at least she's functioning.
6 minutes of this women is about all I can handle
I couldn’t even make it through half the video
Y’all are insane
I love how honest she is about all of this. humans are complex. relationships are complex. sex is complex. we don't have to fit into molds or do things the way they were done before. as long as everyone is happy and safe and loved, why does it matter what that relationship looks like?
This woman clearly is all over the place, very vague, changing her position on things and doesn’t know what she wants.
When your partner tells you _I'm going to have to date other people for my job,_ you might want to get out of there.
I find it hard to believe that she tells him to sleep with other women knowing that he probably won't or have difficulty doing so (since she's already a little out of his league looks wise anyway) and that sleeping with other men outside the relationship is "not her thing but maybe it will be one day." It's more plausible that she says that because she sleeps with someone/people on the side but doesn't want to tell him/admit it so it relieves some of her feelings of guilt by advocating for him to sleep with other women. Therefore, if he finds out, she'll just say well I never said you couldn't sleep with other women. "I'm basically a porn star" and I tell my bf to sleep with other women but I'm completely faithful to him. Yeah, ok.
She's a 7 at best
@@goose33 I didn’t say she was a 10 but he’s not some stud himself either.
@@steez5769 true haha
That's subjective because she's a 3 in my book
if she is out of his league this may be part of her dread game. Challenge him to get something better to remind him that you're the best
I wouldn't assume she sleeps with others just because she uses dread it could just be a part of her sexual strategy
Just going through a divorce. Listening to this. Nikki is one of my favorite comedians. Hand down. Reflecting on my personal situation I would challenge if what a person proclaims I actually how they feel. I was made to be the badguy in our situation. Turns out nothing I could have ever done would have changed it. Maybe people should honestly look at themselves in the mirror and go to town on some questions.
Showing this to my gf thanks in advance
Look at the amile on his face. Lol!
imagine a woman almost turning 40, still absolutely oblivious to what she wants. a picture of modern society.
Yup, everything wrong with society, in a nutshell
The thumbnail picture of this is hilarious because you read the title of why I let my boyfriend sleep with other women and then you look up and the dude is grinning all wide eyed and shit like a champ
This woman lives in Neverland, with Peter Pan and all the Lost Boys.
She is 37 years old talking like she is 17.
My God…🤷🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️
The Dude can go find a 22 year old who can commit and acts like A lady wtf is he doing
I was thinking the same thing
damn the comments are horrible. this is what makes the relationship work, let em do it this way. boring ass conservatives in the comments.
So basically she's saying I don't want to be with you or I want to be with other people
I love how well she communicates. She's a toatal non conformist. But not merely to be contrarian. She's wonderfully honest.
B is for bananas.
Great comment. Will use.
You can't change a person, but a person can choose to evolve and grow and change. If they happen to take feedback and apply it, then so be it.
this whole time I was thinking the world is crazy, when I finally got what I wanted I looked back and realized something...it was me
You do understand she says this so she can also sleep around with other men. Truly disgusting this concept of "open relationships". Either your with me or you're dating the entire world. The great majority of this generation is completely lost and rotten.
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I don't know why everyone hates this so much. Committed, monogamous relationships aren't the only relationship style that makes people happy.. just because its not for you doesn't mean its not ok
Thank you!
I guess the point is she isn't happy though
Nikki's ability to integrate sex and humor and her own proclivities is unparalleled!
And not wanting kids does leave you with more options and less time pressure.
She just said having sex with another woman & eating that other woman’s bread she just baked me, is the same thing. My wife disagreed for some reason.
Wait what …. this is a model celebrity today LMAO 🤣
You can’t change a anyone. They choose to change or bend.
You can’t say that man ain’t happy in that thumbnail tho😂😂
This relationship will never work out lol
You guys with the negative comments don’t get it. Shess hilariously honest and having a string of conscious coming out of her mouth and yet she knows what she’s saying . We need nikki. I don’t take her words as advice but just a very interesting perspective .
a lot of these women are sharing men anyway; at lease she is dealing with the reality of relationships instead of the ideal....most of the cases of people harming others in relationships are over unmet expectations of ideals and not reality
Poor Nikki, her busy lifestyle, she admits it's not easy making time to spend with him, fear of commitment, and excuses, it was easy for her to date in her 20s. This is why I think she enjoys a project as she has gotten older and gets less attention from men. I agree with her dad, off and on again relationship is not a good fit. It will lead to nowhere!
Lmao I thought this was gonna be a skit
What a mess girl. I hope you level out sooner than later.
The energizer bunny! It keeps going and going and going!
Wait. What??
on and off = scared to break up and move on. I myself was in that situation few times in my early days. Scared you're going to be single again and will never find love. My parents always said just break up if i feel like shit. They were always right and i was too stubborn to listen. The more you try and band aid shit and try to move on, the more it went south.
👏 BE true to yourself. Best feeling ever.
Also, I don’t believe she is the one with commitment issues. It’s a callous she’s formed to keep herself from getting hurt. She doesn’t believe a man will ever choose her. This is low self esteem. This isn’t fear of commitment.
Ouch. That is seriously dysfunctional.
This is soooo awesome
All these closed minded & judgmental comments. Everyone is a "perfect sheep" and follow all the rules that were given to them. At least Nikki is brave enough to be honest & question boring tired traditions.
Wow here I was watching this going “how refreshing” and the comments are all not at all that...
Right?
It just shows you how closed minded & judgmental the general population is. Everyone is a "perfect sheep" and follow all the rules that were given to them. At least Nikki is brave enough to be honest & question boring tired traditions.
The key to this is at 05:42 when she says she is OK with her boyfriend sleeping around but says "Does he go through with it-- No, but her could if he chose to". This sounds more like a "fantasy idea", which is why she is cool with "The Idea". I'd be curious if she felt the same way if he was actively sleeping with other women. I think people who think it's a good idea should watch the movie Fatal Attraction. Yes, it is an exaggerated Hollywood film but, at the same time there is a lot of undiagnosed mental illness out there and someone eventually feels hurt or used by the sexual interaction. People are designed to be emotional creatures.
There will Always be the chance of your partner meeting someone better. This kind of relationship just encourages your partner to leave you when they meet that person. Idk if it is that women have lost faith in men and a man's ability to commit to a relationship or what.
unless they are literally only meeting this person for a sexual encounter (like a prostitute) then the factor of 'personality' and 'being with them' is always involved. I can look up a recipe in a book to learn how to cook a new meal, I don't have to go out and try it. I know hands on experience is useful though but unless it's purely business (prostitute) and they are not friends and going out it's pretty much impossible to say they are not also being together
not to mention the risk of disease, even just passing on different strains of bacteria. Like I don't want to get an STD or new food allergy or something just because he kissed a hoe...and honestly kissing is more emotional on the emotional side of things anyway. And emotion in my book is 'being together'
and without emotion how fun is it really anyway. I don't want him to bring back 'banging a whore' vibes back to our bedroom? that's not his role with me
if he is not done with these experiences yet just let him go.
Females have long been terrible decision makers when it comes to choosing a partner. All too often, they want to have their cake and eat it, too.
Some people live on their own rules but they change them as it goes ….but the number one is
I want what I can’t get 😂
Her views are distorted. She compares intimacy to a dinner and her boyfriend to a shirt.
Glad I wasn't the only one who noticed this...
I think it's important to make a distinction between people who are nonmonogamous because they enjoy it vs people who do it out of fear of cheating/rejection. The former, while less stable on average - might be healthy for some people. The latter, which Nikki seems to be - sounds painful, but she needs to do what's best for her either way.
Hope they work it out, her children would be very intelligent and interesting people, with a blunt and very real view of the world. Honesty who are any of us to judge their personal relationship, if they’re happy, wgaf?
They aren't happy. That's why the relationship keeps not working out. She said they just on and off again a month ago.
We’ll your gullible af
@@SmartestDumbGuy are normal monogamous relationships generally happy too - or are we just not aware because they put on a brave face and don't share? Genuine question.
We only change when we really love the woman
No wonder her life is so miserable
Graham consistently shooting his shot with every question lol "are you still a proponent of non-monogamy?" "so what's the deal with the boyfriend" "some people close to you say you're not a good fit"