Hello you savages. Get a free list of my 100 favourite books - chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Avoiding Unwanted Emotions 08:20 The Balance of Being & Becoming 19:02 Using Enjoyment as Fuel 29:09 How to Know When You’re Ready to Let Go 36:35 The Power of Knowing Who You Are 50:22 Why You Shouldn’t Repress Your Emotions 1:01:57 Importance of Learning to Say No 1:07:03 Do We Expect Perfection Too Much? 1:14:54 Why Are People Struggling to Feel Feelings? 1:25:34 Tips to Integrating More Emotions 1:39:49 Differences Between Types of Mindfulness 1:44:32 Where a Negative Inner Voice Comes From 1:54:23 The Role of Improving in Self-Discovery 2:01:58 The Art of Accomplishment 2:09:26 Questions to Ask Yourself 2:15:27 Where to Find Joe
Here is a solution to problem of Necessary Causality: Quran says: “Allah:there is no deity worthy of worship except he”:The Neccessary life/consciousness,sustainer of life/consciousness.” Wire like neuronal structures that conduct electricity via ions/neurotransmitters in the CNS/PNS possess no attribute of thinking/life and yet that has “randomly” led to life. Consciousness/thinking is an innate idea(“Fitra”)that is distinct from carbon skeleton and yet the materialist scientist believes that chemistry turned into biology via “god of randomness”/”Emergent property”/”law of nature”. Limited/Imperfect Consciousness can only stem from Necessary Consciousness (Allah-one/indivisible/loving/self-sufficient Infinite Perfection)…
Here is a solution to problem of Necessary Causality: Quran says: “Allah:there is no deity worthy of worship except he”:The Neccessary life/consciousness,sustainer of life/consciousness.” Wire like neuronal structures that conduct electricity via ions/neurotransmitters in the CNS/PNS possess no attribute of thinking/life and yet that has “randomly” led to life. Consciousness/thinking is an innate idea(“Fitra”)that is distinct from carbon skeleton and yet the materialist scientist believes that chemistry turned into biology via “god of randomness”/”Emergent property”/”law of nature”. Finite/Imperfect Consciousness can only stem from Necessary Consciousness (Allah-one/indivisible/loving/self-sufficient Infinite Perfection)….
Ole Einar Bjørndalen is the Biathlon GOAT who he was talking about over 133 gold medals 74 silver medals and 44 bronze medals hes carear was from 1994-2017 the goat of Biathlon.
34:34 - 36:36 - Once you figure out you have agency and empowerment, then the move is love...What we call love without empowerment is called Codependence. "How do I make you happy so that I can feel safe? It's a fear-based action. Empowerment without love is just power and you'll never get enough of it and it can always be taken from you. Powerful and clarifying!
I love the “labeling thoughts with sounds” instead of words. I just tried it, and it makes the emotions running through my head more manageable. It gave each thought or feeling a new perspective.
I wanted to say that listening to this interview really helped with getting out of a very unhealthy mental state. I had been going through a horrible breakup, some of the worst emotional pain I've ever felt in my life. Was the closest I've ever been to suicidal. I realized how much I was avoiding things that reminded me of him and how that was actually making anxiety worse. This interview helped me so much, along with therapy, and medication.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” ― Nelson Mandela I wish you all the best on your journey!
This is my favourite CW podcast of all time. Joe’s a powerful teacher. I downloaded it so when I’m stuck on a plane (or somewhere else without WiFi) I can listen to it again and again. Each time there’s more juice to be squeezed, more shifts to learn, remember, and apply.
I spend most of my time with horses that might be trained but haven’t been tamed. My approach is to reward on the relaxation …a highly responsive horse who hasn’t been taught to let down can live its entire life in performance mode. This of course translates to the rest of us.😘
“When a parent is telling a child to stop being selfish it is because the child isn’t doing what they want them to do” absolutely blew my mind. My mom would often call me a “selfish witch” growing up- but many people in my like have told me I’m selfless and compassionate towards others, because I never want people to hurt like I did when I was a kid. I’m realising now that maybe I am not the selfish one :/
This conversation has, without a doubt, been orchestrated by the Creator of the heavens and the earth! ❤ From the bottom of my heart; thank you to every member of the teams for making this a reality! This knowledge set me free from so much self hatred, resentment, wrath, sadness and so much more. I welcome my emotions. Thank you all for being a part of the reasons as to how this episode was made manifest❤
You are very welcome. If you want to come to our September Connection Course for free just tell them about this post and they'll get you in. It'd be an honor to have someone join us who is able to be this honest.
Been tuning into this podcast for years now. So many awesome episodes full of really valuable information. This episode is full of equally valuable information BUT it also really stood out that you both were having fun and thoroughly enjoying the time spent together. I smiled and laughed so much watching this! Definitely helps the information sink in deeper for longer. Thankyou both for your time and enthusiasm 😊
I did this with loneliness. I hated being alone until I just started telling myself that I want to be alone. I convinced myself that I needed to be alone in order to feel better. Now I love my solitude!
Bizarre this came up in my feed today, because this is literally what I am thinking about today! I am suffering from anxiety and I have been trying to not be anxious and I am making myself more anxious!
This was exactly what I needed today, my inner critic is an absolute savage and it has literally never occurred to me to talk to it! I need to start doing this.
even yoga, therapy and mindfulness tools with practice cant shut the voices up when you're overly productive in a fast pace society. Fantastic episode.
This was one of my ten favorite podcasts that you've done, Chris. You both gave me quite a bit to think about, and as always, your questions were really good. Thanks.
When I finally feel acceptance, I feel free! I would love to hear that word more often! I would love to see you do a podcast on what happens when we accept things and the outcomes from doing so.
You mentioned "Enough", and I had to share a poem that I would recite to my daughter. “I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear. I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more. I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting. I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger. I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting. I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess. I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final goodbye.” - Bob Perks I live a Pius life and only earn enough. Because others need the charity that I don't deserve.
Powerful episode! It's easy to tell that he walks the talk. His vibe and expression is so refreshing and grounding. Excited to dig further into Joe Hudson's work.
I like how relaxed you were for this interview, Chris. I love all your interviews and am a huge fan. I also typically see you as guarded and I felt I saw YOU this time as you facilitated this fantastic conversation. 🙏🏻❤️
Hey yall. Loving this talk. Emotional work exists in other places! Hakomi, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and John F Barnes Myofascial Release to name a few. I wanted to mention these as they might be more accessible for folks in their local communities (in North America/ Europe). Carry on 😊
The topic around people being able to say no resonates with me thinking back on growing up with my stepfather. I will never forget my brother making a comment that my relationship with him was more advantageous than his, understanding that saying no means you can trust a person connected the dots that that might be the reason it came across that he "preferred" my relationship with him. It might just be because my brother could never say no when he would disagree with our stepfather. I was never afraid to say no or speak up when I did not agree with what he said or did. So interesting
Regarding "effort" and the desire to control. I learned a principle in martial arts ages ago about how to use force when striking: "Hard to soft, Soft to hard." Which is the notion that if you strike with your fist against a hard bony target like the face, skull, or hard joints, you're very likely to break your knuckles. But if you strike those target points with an open hand strike, you can apply a similar level of force while protecting yourself from harm. Inversely, soft targets like the abdomen are better for striking with a closed hand to transfer more force with a concentrated point of attack and the closed fist allows you to strike a bit deeper for the additional reach. This isn't a lesson about fighting, I promise. I learned to apply this principle to my life for dealing with problems or situations. Hard to soft - change the problems I can change. Do the work. Don't sit idly by and allow a problem to remain a problem when I have the power to resolve it. Soft to hard- when the problem can't be changed or there IS no solution to it, I have to change the way *I* react to it. I change myself around the problem. And I think this philosophy strikes the balance between having agency over your life, and also finding acceptance in the aspects that you are merely subject to. I think that too much force or desire to control, or too much of a laissez-faire mentality BOTH take you out of balance and lead to problems in life and in your emotional well-being. But that's just something I pieced together for me. 🤷♂️
It's awesome to see that guys are finally prioritizing feeling their feelings, but the more I hear about how challenging it is for men to feel their feelings, the more I realize how unusual of a child I was. Lol. I was pretty self-aware by age 10 and learned how to manage my emotions by my early 20's. The strategy I used was two pronged: 1) What am I feeling? 2) Why am I feeling this emotioin? It took me out of the state of "feeling the emotion" to look at myself more objecttively, and understand the root of the emotion. I'd say understanding the root of the emotion continues to be the most important thing in mastering emotions. Since emotions are merely "signals" of an issue, it's pointless to just control the signals. Putting tape over the check engine light won't make the problem go away, nor will just getting excited about the light fix the issue. The real fun begins when one seeks to bring the subconscious to the conscious stage. When done successfully, it's an amazing tool. But it's not for the faint of heart.
Hi! Just wanna share my own quote: 1. " Why compete when you know who you are and you know your worth " . 2. I don't compete I motivate 😊. I want to inspire and motivate some people who came from poor family that they can change their circumstances. From the bottom to middle if not on the super top . I like this type of talk not too deep but practical and very informative and useful.
I don't know if you read your comments Chris, but I always want to hug you whenever you mention wanting to be liked. You've really helped me, and I really want to help you. One of my super powers is being liked. So, you may have figured this out, but I'll share with you the magic recipe just in case. It's equal parts being radically authentic, completely sincere, unquestioningly honest, truly interested in the other person, not being disrespectful, and just enjoying yourself. Mix it all together, drink it down, and you'll never have to worry about being liked again. You are completely lovable and probably the only one who doesn't see it. And no, I am sure if I really knew you I'd still be saying the same thing - don't even go there.
This is such an insightful talk! Absolutely loved it, reoriented my entire worldview and general outlook on life about an hour in ❤❤❤ keep doing the great work you do, Chris!! I’ll be here to listen ❤
I really like modern wisdom series, and then I saw the title "escape the matrix" and thought "oh no he felt for the dude bro podcast shit, on the way to something something hard man. Oh dear." Then i saw the title. Dear Lord, that is some proper marketing, looking forward to the interview:D
25:00 - THIS might be exactly what will be effective for me to get myself out of ([word/words] whatever it is that I don't like/want about my life right now): Don't try to "change" or "be better"- run "experiments" toward what I DO like/want!
I don't know if you'll see this, but I hope you are able to do more podcasts on this topic of emotions and strategies that might help. Anything more in depth on nervous system dysregulation? Have you looked into that? I am not sure how well those episodes do clicks-wise, but it's just so damn interesting. Anyways, thanks as always
Those emotions we avoid becomes an addiction… self destructive since worthiness et al are the underlying need and that can only come from within taking responsibility for what one feels.
Hi Chris! I once was training into a gym in London, then a impressive guy came, we greet, afther that he told me that I look similar to an cool RUclipsr Chris Williamson... Then I checked you channel, and from then I find myself enjoying you content
The cyclist who died was Gino Mader at the Tour de Suisse, Stage 5 (not at the Giro). As always, it's not just death, it's serious injury - for instance recent winners of the Tour Chris Froome, Egan Bernal, Jonas Vingegaard have all been involved in very serious accidents which resulted in extended stays in hospital. Pro-cycling seems to be where F1 was in, say, the 1970s and 80s where safety of competitors is severely compromised, often by the organisations running the sport.
Emotions are rational. We use both thinking and feeling to inform decisions. It's like saying a bike or a horse is not rational. When both serve a purpose and you have to know what your doing for both. Dr. Caroline Leaf explains these things and other zen books on meditation. Same as the saying do you hit the horse or the cart with the whip. Or how many times do you hit the horse before it moves. All the same question
I think we see people who sacrifice other aspects of their lives to be great at something, we see something that is extraordinary in human being that they know most people are not capable of or willing to do. Be it musicians, athletes. These people spent their entire lives working on their crafts. Same with investment. If you dabble in it, you can never be as good as someone like Warren Buffett who think about this every minute of the day. This is the excellence that some people strive for and we view them with awe.
Sorry, I’m a stickler for details (it might be my ADHD) but really this guest seems to have a lot of teeth. But I was able to look past that and it was very interesting. I got into podcasts listening to Heavyweight made by Jon Goldstein and which I would recommend to everybody that likes listening to the most wholesome stories. Then with Covid I discovered the JRE and this kept me busy for a while, Chris Williamson only got on my radar not so long ago. Him being British has made me watch the episodes with other Brits at first since the UK is only a sturdy swim away from Belgium. Nevertheless I found that this young guy had many relatable questions and similar interests. I’m proud to acknowledge his podcast can make me overwin the many stupid sounding quirks my ADHD brings up as reasons not to bother me in the sense I have to switch to listening instead of looking at the screen for the first 15 minutes but it did help me a lot. Cheers to everyone who’s reading this and thinks I’m bonkers...I would argue it’s smart bonkers if you have failed to notice. 😮❤
😊I once went side saddle when a horse I was riding called Shotgun took off into the desert…when I finally fell off and hit the ground I barely escaped landing on a huge cactus…I’ve never been horse riding since! Asking myself; Should I try to face that fear someday? Maybe I could work some things out in my life through Equine Therapy 💜 Just saying
I've been to the Miraval Spa in Tucson. I went after my dad had died for some much needed self-care. I also did the equine therapy. At first I couldn't get the horse to lift it's leg but once I removed any expectations it did. I'm curious whether your horse did for you. One of the other things I did was a drum circle with Tony Redhouse. It was very cathartic. I highly recommend Miraval.
25:05 - This is SUPER interesting to me: I DON'T want "to have a dirty/stinky/inhospitable environment", so I would enjoy and easily choose TO take the trash out. FRAMING!!😂
Regarding the transformation of "passion" in a relationship into "long-term bonding" It's like Game of Thrones when the Dragon Chick is SUPER good at conquering cities, and shitty at managing them. The skills that help you conquer a city will not help you rule it. Passion in the beginning of a relationship is cultivating attraction to eachother. It's discovering what you like, what you value, how you think, act, and live. It's learning to "like" them. But that tapers off because eventually you already KNOW all that stuff. It's just... there. Then the journey becomes the maintenance phase where it's more about cooperation towards common goals, small gestures to DEMONSTRATE continued affection. Growing in trust and mutual ambition. Which can feel.... weird. When you fall out of that "new love" phase and you no longer get super turned on just from the little touching or kissing and the things that thrilled you are now just your mutual "normal", it can feel like something has been lost or fallen off. But what it really is, is that the foundation of what you're building together has been fully formed, and now you're changing gears to build something even more on top of it. And the sense of comfort and fulfillment that takes the place of passion from being with your person will never make you feel like you've lost anything. As long as you both remember to have fun and not get complacent about eachother. Comfort is NOT the same as complacency. You should always feel safe and like you have someone who will always be your one. But don't take it for granted that you "have" them. Life changes. People change. Sometimes that peace is temporary. Moreso when you forget the value of it...
Regarding being "better, worse, or special". I have an analogy for the nature of existence and our experiences and individuality. An epiphany that struck me while watching my son playing with bubbles. What are bubbles? Just soapy water mixture filled with air. All the same soapy solution. All filled with the same air. Yet there ARE individual bubbles. Each one coming into existence through their own unique size, shape, and moment. All floating and interacting, drifting and bumping through the world. And when they pop, they don't cease to exist. The air returns to the air. The soapy solution that makes its shape changes form but does not cease to exist in the world. Every bubble is simultaneously "special" with its own individuality, occupying its own space in the world, and traveling on its own unique trajectory through its life affected by the wind, its movement against other bubbles, and interactions with the environment. And yet they are ALL bubbles made of the same things, inside and out... I believe that's what we are as well. And the desire to be any more or any less than anyone else is a denial that the very aspects that make you unique and special exist in every single person. When you deny them that, you subconsciously deny it to yourself as well.
EDIT: 30:02 - I kinda hate it, but I get it. It's true. 25:38 - FKK. How do I ENJOY my body's kinesiology/neuromuscular activation patterns randomizing and being completely imbalanced at varying levels day-to-day...?😶
My Mother when I was younger tried to stop me from doing something I knew that was good for me , she was even trying to choose who will be my friend and who will not . I always did what I thought was right thing to do . I am assuming . What kind of life is it if you do not live true to yourself ?
It's been on the back on mind to go horseback riding sometime this year, but after watching this, Chris has really changed my mind to try horse meditation instead 😂
I normally dnt disagree with this podcast. Yet on this point that just being is not all you need to do to become, that is false. Just being itself, true there is no real duality between them, there is at the same time. They both exist together. You try to sit for an 1hr a day or even 15 minutes without doing anything, you will find just how difficult it can be to pay attention to yourself. Similarly, the answer to your question, how do we use this being and becoming in everything we do like being a boss or working out, the answer to that question is zen... When you can sit with you and realize for yourself what that means, you will become... And at the same time, there is nothing you need to do to become. At the same time your doing it, it is doing you... Just some things to add to the conversation
Hello you savages. Get a free list of my 100 favourite books - chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps:
00:00 Avoiding Unwanted Emotions
08:20 The Balance of Being & Becoming
19:02 Using Enjoyment as Fuel
29:09 How to Know When You’re Ready to Let Go
36:35 The Power of Knowing Who You Are
50:22 Why You Shouldn’t Repress Your Emotions
1:01:57 Importance of Learning to Say No
1:07:03 Do We Expect Perfection Too Much?
1:14:54 Why Are People Struggling to Feel Feelings?
1:25:34 Tips to Integrating More Emotions
1:39:49 Differences Between Types of Mindfulness
1:44:32 Where a Negative Inner Voice Comes From
1:54:23 The Role of Improving in Self-Discovery
2:01:58 The Art of Accomplishment
2:09:26 Questions to Ask Yourself
2:15:27 Where to Find Joe
I don’t see a link to the website he mentioned.
Here is a solution to problem of Necessary Causality: Quran says: “Allah:there is no deity worthy of worship except he”:The Neccessary life/consciousness,sustainer of life/consciousness.” Wire like neuronal structures that conduct electricity via ions/neurotransmitters in the CNS/PNS possess no attribute of thinking/life and yet that has “randomly” led to life. Consciousness/thinking is an innate idea(“Fitra”)that is distinct from carbon skeleton and yet the materialist scientist believes that chemistry turned into biology via “god of randomness”/”Emergent property”/”law of nature”. Limited/Imperfect Consciousness can only stem from Necessary Consciousness (Allah-one/indivisible/loving/self-sufficient Infinite Perfection)…
Here is a solution to problem of Necessary Causality: Quran says: “Allah:there is no deity worthy of worship except he”:The Neccessary life/consciousness,sustainer of life/consciousness.” Wire like neuronal structures that conduct electricity via ions/neurotransmitters in the CNS/PNS possess no attribute of thinking/life and yet that has “randomly” led to life. Consciousness/thinking is an innate idea(“Fitra”)that is distinct from carbon skeleton and yet the materialist scientist believes that chemistry turned into biology via “god of randomness”/”Emergent property”/”law of nature”. Finite/Imperfect Consciousness can only stem from Necessary Consciousness (Allah-one/indivisible/loving/self-sufficient Infinite Perfection)….
Ole Einar Bjørndalen is the Biathlon GOAT who he was talking about over 133 gold medals 74 silver medals and 44 bronze medals hes carear was from 1994-2017 the goat of Biathlon.
@@aspencordoba3204 I came here looking for the same thing
I totally agree with everyone’s comments. Tuning into this conversation is like finding a hidden gem. Thanks guys
Its amazing how you start straight to the point by asking good question, no time wasting introduction
The Golden algorithm 🤯
“Unspoken expectations are predetermined resentments” 🎯
34:34 - 36:36 - Once you figure out you have agency and empowerment, then the move is love...What we call love without empowerment is called Codependence. "How do I make you happy so that I can feel safe? It's a fear-based action. Empowerment without love is just power and you'll never get enough of it and it can always be taken from you.
Powerful and clarifying!
I love the “labeling thoughts with sounds” instead of words. I just tried it, and it makes the emotions running through my head more manageable. It gave each thought or feeling a new perspective.
I wanted to say that listening to this interview really helped with getting out of a very unhealthy mental state. I had been going through a horrible breakup, some of the worst emotional pain I've ever felt in my life. Was the closest I've ever been to suicidal. I realized how much I was avoiding things that reminded me of him and how that was actually making anxiety worse. This interview helped me so much, along with therapy, and medication.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
― Nelson Mandela
I wish you all the best on your journey!
This is my favourite CW podcast of all time. Joe’s a powerful teacher. I downloaded it so when I’m stuck on a plane (or somewhere else without WiFi) I can listen to it again and again. Each time there’s more juice to be squeezed, more shifts to learn, remember, and apply.
Probably the best episode...
Chris, why don't you sort all the similar episodes into a playlist. This philosophy is amazing
agreed
This will be one of the best conversations that not many will hear
I spend most of my time with horses that might be trained but haven’t been tamed. My approach is to reward on the relaxation …a highly responsive horse who hasn’t been taught to let down can live its entire life in performance mode. This of course translates to the rest of us.😘
“When a parent is telling a child to stop being selfish it is because the child isn’t doing what they want them to do”
absolutely blew my mind. My mom would often call me a “selfish witch” growing up- but many people in my like have told me I’m selfless and compassionate towards others, because I never want people to hurt like I did when I was a kid.
I’m realising now that maybe I am not the selfish one :/
This conversation has, without a doubt, been orchestrated by the Creator of the heavens and the earth! ❤
From the bottom of my heart; thank you to every member of the teams for making this a reality!
This knowledge set me free from so much self hatred, resentment, wrath, sadness and so much more.
I welcome my emotions. Thank you all for being a part of the reasons as to how this episode was made manifest❤
Thanks! That means a lot to hear.
Been really struggling for the last 2 weeks mentally, but this was just what I needed. Thanks Chris & Joe for an insightful talk!
@@boredofthisnow thank you 🙏🏽
Hang on. It will get better.
You are very welcome. If you want to come to our September Connection Course for free just tell them about this post and they'll get you in. It'd be an honor to have someone join us who is able to be this honest.
Been tuning into this podcast for years now. So many awesome episodes full of really valuable information. This episode is full of equally valuable information BUT it also really stood out that you both were having fun and thoroughly enjoying the time spent together. I smiled and laughed so much watching this! Definitely helps the information sink in deeper for longer. Thankyou both for your time and enthusiasm 😊
Some of these were real tear jerkers. Healing, in an episode.
Holy crap I needed this topic at exactly this time.
me too bro
Same here friends. Good luck and god speed
Me too. We got this though 💪
Some here 💪🏻💙
I did this with loneliness. I hated being alone until I just started telling myself that I want to be alone. I convinced myself that I needed to be alone in order to feel better.
Now I love my solitude!
Bizarre this came up in my feed today, because this is literally what I am thinking about today! I am suffering from anxiety and I have been trying to not be anxious and I am making myself more anxious!
This was exactly what I needed today, my inner critic is an absolute savage and it has literally never occurred to me to talk to it! I need to start doing this.
One of my favorite all-time episodes. I am now a huge Joe Hudson fan.
even yoga, therapy and mindfulness tools with practice cant shut the voices up when you're overly productive in a fast pace society. Fantastic episode.
This was one of my ten favorite podcasts that you've done, Chris. You both gave me quite a bit to think about, and as always, your questions were really good. Thanks.
When I finally feel acceptance, I feel free!
I would love to hear that word more often! I would love to see you do a podcast on what happens when we accept things and the outcomes from doing so.
You mentioned "Enough", and I had to share a poem that I would recite to my daughter.
“I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final goodbye.” - Bob Perks
I live a Pius life and only earn enough. Because others need the charity that I don't deserve.
Powerful episode! It's easy to tell that he walks the talk. His vibe and expression is so refreshing and grounding. Excited to dig further into Joe Hudson's work.
I like how relaxed you were for this interview, Chris. I love all your interviews and am a huge fan. I also typically see you as guarded and I felt I saw YOU this time as you facilitated this fantastic conversation. 🙏🏻❤️
Brilliant discussion, I enjoyed listening to that
Thank you Both
Thank you Gentlemen
Hey yall. Loving this talk.
Emotional work exists in other places! Hakomi, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and John F Barnes Myofascial Release to name a few. I wanted to mention these as they might be more accessible for folks in their local communities (in North America/ Europe).
Carry on 😊
This is an excellent episode, Chris! Joe Hutson is incredibly insightful. Thank you! 🙏❤
The topic around people being able to say no resonates with me thinking back on growing up with my stepfather. I will never forget my brother making a comment that my relationship with him was more advantageous than his, understanding that saying no means you can trust a person connected the dots that that might be the reason it came across that he "preferred" my relationship with him. It might just be because my brother could never say no when he would disagree with our stepfather. I was never afraid to say no or speak up when I did not agree with what he said or did. So interesting
Regarding "effort" and the desire to control.
I learned a principle in martial arts ages ago about how to use force when striking:
"Hard to soft,
Soft to hard."
Which is the notion that if you strike with your fist against a hard bony target like the face, skull, or hard joints, you're very likely to break your knuckles. But if you strike those target points with an open hand strike, you can apply a similar level of force while protecting yourself from harm.
Inversely, soft targets like the abdomen are better for striking with a closed hand to transfer more force with a concentrated point of attack and the closed fist allows you to strike a bit deeper for the additional reach.
This isn't a lesson about fighting, I promise.
I learned to apply this principle to my life for dealing with problems or situations.
Hard to soft - change the problems I can change. Do the work. Don't sit idly by and allow a problem to remain a problem when I have the power to resolve it.
Soft to hard- when the problem can't be changed or there IS no solution to it, I have to change the way *I* react to it. I change myself around the problem.
And I think this philosophy strikes the balance between having agency over your life, and also finding acceptance in the aspects that you are merely subject to.
I think that too much force or desire to control, or too much of a laissez-faire mentality BOTH take you out of balance and lead to problems in life and in your emotional well-being.
But that's just something I pieced together for me. 🤷♂️
Great insight man, really enjoyed reading this
My favorite coach. Great pick Chris!
It's awesome to see that guys are finally prioritizing feeling their feelings, but the more I hear about how challenging it is for men to feel their feelings, the more I realize how unusual of a child I was. Lol.
I was pretty self-aware by age 10 and learned how to manage my emotions by my early 20's. The strategy I used was two pronged:
1) What am I feeling?
2) Why am I feeling this emotioin?
It took me out of the state of "feeling the emotion" to look at myself more objecttively, and understand the root of the emotion. I'd say understanding the root of the emotion continues to be the most important thing in mastering emotions.
Since emotions are merely "signals" of an issue, it's pointless to just control the signals. Putting tape over the check engine light won't make the problem go away, nor will just getting excited about the light fix the issue.
The real fun begins when one seeks to bring the subconscious to the conscious stage. When done successfully, it's an amazing tool. But it's not for the faint of heart.
Such an insightful episode! Thank you for introducing me to Joe, Chris!
Hi! Just wanna share my own quote:
1. " Why compete when you know who you are and you know your worth " .
2. I don't compete I motivate 😊.
I want to inspire and motivate some people who came from poor family that they can change their circumstances. From the bottom to middle if not on the super top .
I like this type of talk not too deep but practical and very informative and useful.
Really enjoy and grow with each of your podcasts. Thanks for putting other things aside and focusing on this process. It’s worth it!
Yet again, another impactful podcast that I needed to hear. Thank you, Chris and Joe!
I don't know if you read your comments Chris, but I always want to hug you whenever you mention wanting to be liked. You've really helped me, and I really want to help you. One of my super powers is being liked. So, you may have figured this out, but I'll share with you the magic recipe just in case. It's equal parts being radically authentic, completely sincere, unquestioningly honest, truly interested in the other person, not being disrespectful, and just enjoying yourself. Mix it all together, drink it down, and you'll never have to worry about being liked again. You are completely lovable and probably the only one who doesn't see it. And no, I am sure if I really knew you I'd still be saying the same thing - don't even go there.
This is such an insightful talk! Absolutely loved it, reoriented my entire worldview and general outlook on life about an hour in ❤❤❤ keep doing the great work you do, Chris!! I’ll be here to listen ❤
Right now I am FEELING allot of gratitude for hearing this conversation ☺️🤗
Extremely fascinated by this one especially, thank you thank you thank you!!
I really like modern wisdom series, and then I saw the title "escape the matrix" and thought "oh no he felt for the dude bro podcast shit, on the way to something something hard man. Oh dear." Then i saw the title. Dear Lord, that is some proper marketing, looking forward to the interview:D
Thanks Chris & Joe. Amaizing conversation.
25:00 - THIS might be exactly what will be effective for me to get myself out of ([word/words] whatever it is that I don't like/want about my life right now): Don't try to "change" or "be better"- run "experiments" toward what I DO like/want!
I love Chris's therapy arch. This sort of stuff is beneficial to everyone, great job man!
Brilliant-would love to practice these experiments
love it when the bro science Chris kicks in :) awesome episode, thanks Chris and Joe
I don't know if you'll see this, but I hope you are able to do more podcasts on this topic of emotions and strategies that might help. Anything more in depth on nervous system dysregulation? Have you looked into that? I am not sure how well those episodes do clicks-wise, but it's just so damn interesting. Anyways, thanks as always
As I try to feel feelings. The candor. Good for you.
If you can’t say “no“ your “yes“ is meaningless.
Hits hard
Perfect Timing. Thank you
Those emotions we avoid becomes an addiction… self destructive since worthiness et al are the underlying need and that can only come from within taking responsibility for what one feels.
This was the most enjoyable since a long time
Valuable conversation❤️
Hi Chris!
I once was training into a gym in London, then a impressive guy came, we greet, afther that he told me that I look similar to an cool RUclipsr Chris Williamson... Then I checked you channel, and from then I find myself enjoying you content
This is one of the only channels I listen to in 1.0x playback speed
This was fantastic!
Very useful and practical.
The cyclist who died was Gino Mader at the Tour de Suisse, Stage 5 (not at the Giro). As always, it's not just death, it's serious injury - for instance recent winners of the Tour Chris Froome, Egan Bernal, Jonas Vingegaard have all been involved in very serious accidents which resulted in extended stays in hospital. Pro-cycling seems to be where F1 was in, say, the 1970s and 80s where safety of competitors is severely compromised, often by the organisations running the sport.
Emotions are rational. We use both thinking and feeling to inform decisions. It's like saying a bike or a horse is not rational. When both serve a purpose and you have to know what your doing for both. Dr. Caroline Leaf explains these things and other zen books on meditation. Same as the saying do you hit the horse or the cart with the whip. Or how many times do you hit the horse before it moves. All the same question
I think we see people who sacrifice other aspects of their lives to be great at something, we see something that is extraordinary in human being that they know most people are not capable of or willing to do. Be it musicians, athletes. These people spent their entire lives working on their crafts. Same with investment. If you dabble in it, you can never be as good as someone like Warren Buffett who think about this every minute of the day. This is the excellence that some people strive for and we view them with awe.
Thank you! 🙌
amazing episode, thank you
The best way to 'control' your emotions. Accept them.
Great interview and AMAZING idea for how to structure it 🥰
I'm super curiouse how interview with dr. Mindy Pelz would look like in your version 🤔
thank you ❤
You can’t change your thoughts through changing your feelings, but you can change your feelings by changing your thoughts.
Sorry, I’m a stickler for details (it might be my ADHD) but really this guest seems to have a lot of teeth. But I was able to look past that and it was very interesting. I got into podcasts listening to Heavyweight made by Jon Goldstein and which I would recommend to everybody that likes listening to the most wholesome stories. Then with Covid I discovered the JRE and this kept me busy for a while, Chris Williamson only got on my radar not so long ago. Him being British has made me watch the episodes with other Brits at first since the UK is only a sturdy swim away from Belgium. Nevertheless I found that this young guy had many relatable questions and similar interests. I’m proud to acknowledge his podcast can make me overwin the many stupid sounding quirks my ADHD brings up as reasons not to bother me in the sense I have to switch to listening instead of looking at the screen for the first 15 minutes but it did help me a lot. Cheers to everyone who’s reading this and thinks I’m bonkers...I would argue it’s smart bonkers if you have failed to notice. 😮❤
This is the most over complicated conversation of hunting for peace, love and joy.
Heal the childhood trauma and the rest will fall into place.
😊I once went side saddle when a horse I was riding called Shotgun took off into the desert…when I finally fell off and hit the ground I barely escaped landing on a huge cactus…I’ve never been horse riding since! Asking myself; Should I try to face that fear someday? Maybe I could work some things out in my life through Equine Therapy 💜 Just saying
🔥🔥🔥 episode
I love learning ways to do things but I do wonder if the tips and techniques apply to people with Adhd!
I've been to the Miraval Spa in Tucson. I went after my dad had died for some much needed self-care. I also did the equine therapy. At first I couldn't get the horse to lift it's leg but once I removed any expectations it did. I'm curious whether your horse did for you. One of the other things I did was a drum circle with Tony Redhouse. It was very cathartic. I highly recommend Miraval.
dr joe dispenza preaches this
25:05 - This is SUPER interesting to me:
I DON'T want "to have a dirty/stinky/inhospitable environment", so I would enjoy and easily choose TO take the trash out.
FRAMING!!😂
Couldn't find the link Chris was mentioning he would put in?
Hello Mr. Williamson, my name is Rounaq Shaikh and one day I'll be on your broadcast.
Oh really?
Best wishes 🤞 Ma'am!! Would enjoy watching the episode 😊!!
And I like it
You bettter be
Looks like you're using Brittany's account there Rounaq. Awful confusing.
Regarding the transformation of "passion" in a relationship into "long-term bonding"
It's like Game of Thrones when the Dragon Chick is SUPER good at conquering cities, and shitty at managing them.
The skills that help you conquer a city will not help you rule it.
Passion in the beginning of a relationship is cultivating attraction to eachother. It's discovering what you like, what you value, how you think, act, and live. It's learning to "like" them.
But that tapers off because eventually you already KNOW all that stuff. It's just... there.
Then the journey becomes the maintenance phase where it's more about cooperation towards common goals, small gestures to DEMONSTRATE continued affection. Growing in trust and mutual ambition.
Which can feel.... weird.
When you fall out of that "new love" phase and you no longer get super turned on just from the little touching or kissing and the things that thrilled you are now just your mutual "normal", it can feel like something has been lost or fallen off.
But what it really is, is that the foundation of what you're building together has been fully formed, and now you're changing gears to build something even more on top of it.
And the sense of comfort and fulfillment that takes the place of passion from being with your person will never make you feel like you've lost anything. As long as you both remember to have fun and not get complacent about eachother.
Comfort is NOT the same as complacency. You should always feel safe and like you have someone who will always be your one. But don't take it for granted that you "have" them. Life changes. People change.
Sometimes that peace is temporary. Moreso when you forget the value of it...
Hey, everyone, let's master our emotions together. I promise I will work harder.
Very inspiring talk! Where can I find the shownotes with all the links to Joes material, exercises and courses?
17:22 This made me think about Goggins like isn't his whole thing the contrary of this?
Regarding being "better, worse, or special".
I have an analogy for the nature of existence and our experiences and individuality.
An epiphany that struck me while watching my son playing with bubbles.
What are bubbles? Just soapy water mixture filled with air.
All the same soapy solution. All filled with the same air.
Yet there ARE individual bubbles. Each one coming into existence through their own unique size, shape, and moment. All floating and interacting, drifting and bumping through the world.
And when they pop, they don't cease to exist. The air returns to the air. The soapy solution that makes its shape changes form but does not cease to exist in the world.
Every bubble is simultaneously "special" with its own individuality, occupying its own space in the world, and traveling on its own unique trajectory through its life affected by the wind, its movement against other bubbles, and interactions with the environment.
And yet they are ALL bubbles made of the same things, inside and out...
I believe that's what we are as well. And the desire to be any more or any less than anyone else is a denial that the very aspects that make you unique and special exist in every single person.
When you deny them that, you subconsciously deny it to yourself as well.
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Chris you've been talking about feeling feelings a lot. You should get Teal Swan on your show.
lets go!
Crazy how that link isnt in the description
EDIT: 30:02 - I kinda hate it, but I get it. It's true.
25:38 - FKK. How do I ENJOY my body's kinesiology/neuromuscular activation patterns randomizing and being completely imbalanced at varying levels day-to-day...?😶
My Mother when I was younger tried to stop me from doing something I knew that was good for me , she was even trying to choose who will be my friend and who will not .
I always did what I thought was right thing to do .
I am assuming .
What kind of life is it if you do
not live true to yourself ?
I need help - what does the quote "whats looking out behind my eyes" really mean? I didn't get it and google is not helping
It's been on the back on mind to go horseback riding sometime this year, but after watching this, Chris has really changed my mind to try horse meditation instead 😂
spirituality is for knowing God, Source and Knowing Self. Meditation is a way towards spirituality.
Interesting concept of avoiding emotional loops by back loading parables though the subconscious to generate unclouded realization.
What is the difference between welcoming emotions and dwelling on them???
Idk why the "kids are like horses" comment made me literally laugh out loud
As a 26-year-old bipolar male, learning to control my emotions is by far one of the most difficult battles in my life.
I normally dnt disagree with this podcast. Yet on this point that just being is not all you need to do to become, that is false. Just being itself, true there is no real duality between them, there is at the same time. They both exist together. You try to sit for an 1hr a day or even 15 minutes without doing anything, you will find just how difficult it can be to pay attention to yourself. Similarly, the answer to your question, how do we use this being and becoming in everything we do like being a boss or working out, the answer to that question is zen... When you can sit with you and realize for yourself what that means, you will become... And at the same time, there is nothing you need to do to become. At the same time your doing it, it is doing you... Just some things to add to the conversation
💪💪💪
Joe💕
He has a nice smile
What’s with the weird crop/not crop background fill-in thing in Joe’s video..? :-S
cool video
What is the book that Joe Hudson wrote???